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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Moving From Grief To Acceptance | July 24, 2025
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- [narrator] from the pulpit
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- Of the first baptist church of dallas, texas,
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- This is "pathway to victory," with dr. robert jeffress.
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- Hi, i'm robert jeffress
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- And welcome again to "pathway to victory."
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- No one is exempt from grief.
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- It doesn't matter how much money you have
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- Or the level of fame you attain
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- Or the kind of medical attention you receive,
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- It's impossible to escape
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- The inevitable seasons of sadness and sorrow.
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- So today, i'm going to show you what the bible says
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- About overcoming painful moments of loss and loneliness.
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- My message is titled, moving from grief to acceptance
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- On today's edition of "pathway to victory."
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- [narrator] sometimes, our emotions are like mountains
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- That stand in our way.
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- Obstacles like doubt, bitterness, or fear
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- Keep us from enjoying a peaceful life of courage.
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- In his book, "invincible, conquering the mountains
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- That separate you from the blessed life."
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- Dr. robert jeffress helps you overcome barriers
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- Like guilt, loneliness, lust, grief, anxiety, and more.
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- Discover how to conquer the mountains that hold you back.
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- Request your hardcover copy of "invincible,"
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- When you give a generous gift to "pathway to victory."
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- "a young new york assemblyman, surrounded by well wishers
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- And flashing a toothy grin, stood on the floor of the house
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- And reread the telegram that had just arrived.
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- His wife had given birth to their first child
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- The night before.
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- He was overjoyed, but before leaving for home,
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- He had a few more bills to guide through the legislature.
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- A few hours later, a second telegram arrived.
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- Still smiling, he began to read it.
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- The sparkle in his eyes suddenly disappeared.
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- His face turned grave. he must hurry home.
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- His mother and wife were both dying in the same house.
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- He ran to the station and jumped on the first train
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- To new york city. arriving at grand central station
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- At 10:30 that evening.
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- He ran through the fog covered streets
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- To his home on west 57th street.
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- His house was dark,
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- A single gaslight flickered on the third floor.
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- Rushing upstairs, he found his wife semi-comatose.
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- Taking her in his arms
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- And listening to her labored breathing,
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- He pleaded with god to spare his wife's life.
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- At two in the morning, a message came from downstairs.
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- If he wanted to see his mother one last time,
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- He needed to so now.
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- An hour later, his mother died from typhoid fever.
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- Gazing into the lifeless face of his beloved mother,
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- He said to his brother, 'this house is cursed.'
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- Heartbroken, he trudged back upstairs into his bedroom
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- Where his wife laid between life and death.
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- She held on for 12 more hours,
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- Finally succumbing to bright's disease
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- At two in the afternoon.
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- That evening, february the 14th, 1884,
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- Valentine's day, he opened his diary,
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- Scrawled a large x on the page and wrote beneath it,
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- 'the light has gone out of my life.'
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- On the day dedicated to the celebration of life,
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- Theodore roosevelt mourned the loved ones he lost.
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- Though he would go on to heroics
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- In the spanish american war,
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- Serve as governor of new york, as vice president,
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- And then president of the united states,
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- Remarry, and father five additional children,
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- Theodore roosevelt never fully recovered
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- From the losses he suffered on that valentine's day."
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- All of us are going to suffer some kind of loss
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- And experience the accompanying grief.
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- How do we keep grief from overshadowing
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- Every other aspect of our life?
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- Well, today as we continue our series invincible,
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- I thought it would be a good day
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- To talk about a common experience we all have,
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- Losing a loved one, and discover the road
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- That leads from grief to acceptance.
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- The fact is every one of us is going to die
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- Unless we're a part of the rapture.
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- Every one of us, rapture or no rapture,
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- Is going to experience the death and the sorrow
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- That comes from losing a loved one.
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- Let me mention four stages of grieving
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- That the bible mentions specifically.
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- First of all, shock.
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- Shock, when we learn of the death of a loved one,
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- Whether that death was anticipated or not,
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- It carries with it a sense of shock,
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- Altering our reality.
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- Eventually, that initial shock gives way
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- To despondency.
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- Another word for despondency is apathy.
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- Some people talk about the laziness of grief.
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- That's despondency.
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- There's a third stage and that's regression.
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- There comes a point when somebody who is grieving,
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- Although they seem like they're making progress
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- Through the tunnel, it sounds like
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- They're growing backwards.
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- They regress.
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- They start to become angry.
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- And then finally, a fourth stage is adaptation.
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- The time when a gets to a new normal.
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- Notice i didn't say they start feeling normal.
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- People who are grieving, they asked me,
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- "pastor, how long will it take
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- Until i start to feel normal again?"
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- My answer is "forever, you'll never feel normal again."
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- That's like asking an amputee,
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- When will you stop missing that limb you lost?
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- Well, never.
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- Never.
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- It's the same way when you lose a loved one,
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- But there is a new level of normalcy
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- That you will experience.
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- The psalmist described it in psalm 30:5,
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- "weeping may last for the night,
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- But a shout of joy comes in the morning."
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- If you have your bibles, turn to john 11
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- Because here we see a great case study
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- In moving from grief to acceptance.
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- And the story is a familiar one.
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- John 11, beginning with verse 1, john writes,
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- "now, a certain man would sick lazarus of bethany,
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- The village of mary and her sister martha.
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- It was mary who anointed the lord with ointment
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- And wiped his feet with her hair,
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- Whose brother lazarus was sick."
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- Jesus loved in a special way mary, martha, and lazarus.
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- Did you know jesus has favorites,
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- Has people he enjoyed being with more than other people,
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- Just like you do and i do.
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- He loved this family.
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- He hung out with them in bethany as often as he was able to,
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- And that's why it was only natural when lazarus,
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- The brother, became sick,
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- "that the sisters would send word to him, verse 3 saying,
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- 'lord, behold, he whom you love is sick.'"
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- Your good friend lazarus is sick.
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- Lord, we knew you'd want to know about it
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- Since you like him so much
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- And we knew you'd want to come and heal him.
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- They thought jesus would get there as quickly as possible.
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- They sent word. a day passed, no response.
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- Lazarus died. they buried him.
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- The second day passed, the third day passed,
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- The fourth day passed, and finally jesus came,
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- Too late to do any good,
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- Or at least that's what the sisters thought.
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- And when martha saw jesus, she gave him a piece of her mind.
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- She couldn't afford to lose. look at what happened.
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- He was confronted by martha who said in verse 21,
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- "lord, if you had just been here,
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- My brother would not have died."
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- Don't sugarcoat this. she was angry at jesus.
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- By the way, did you know god's big enough
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- To handle your anger?
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- Don't worry that you're going to hurt god in some way
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- If you express your true feelings to him.
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- He's big enough to handle your anger.
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- Nothing wrong with telling god how you feel,
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- But even in his anger, in her anger,
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- Her faith in christ wasn't eclipsed at all.
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- In verse 22 she said,
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- "'but even now i know that whatever you ask of god,
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- God will give you.'
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- Jesus said to her, 'your brother will rise again.'
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- Martha responded, 'i know that he will rise again
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- And the resurrection on the last day.'"
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- I know that resurrection is coming,
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- But i need help from you now.
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- And so, they took jesus and he stood before the set occur
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- Where lazarus was buried
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- And the shortest verse in the bible, verse 35,
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- "jesus wept."
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- If grieving, weeping over the loss of a loved one
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- Is sinful, if it's an act
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- Of a lack of faith,
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- Then jesus is sinful and he can't be our savior,
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- But grieving isn't sinful.
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- It doesn't show a lack of faith.
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- Grieving is a natural response to loss.
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- Even jesus who knew in a few moments
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- He was going to raise lazarus from the dead,
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- "jesus wept."
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- Now i want to switch audiences for a moment.
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- You know, i've been talking
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- About those of you who are grieving,
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- But i want to talk to those of you who want to help somebody
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- Who is grieving.
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- Do you know that is our calling by the way.
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- The apostle peter says, "we are a royal priesthood."
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- The church is filled with all kind of priests.
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- You're a priest. i'm a priest.
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- We're all priests.
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- Our job, our ministry is to represent god to other people.
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- God's plan for caring for the body of christ
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- Was not just to have the paid professional staff members
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- Do it.
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- We're to all care for other christians who are hurting.
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- In 2 corinthians 1:4, paul writes,
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- "god comforts us in all of our affliction
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- So that we can comfort those who are in any affliction
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- With the comfort by which we ourselves are comforted."
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- God wants you to know how to minister
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- To others who are grieving.
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- How do you do that?
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- Let me give you real quickly
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- What i call the abcs of comforting those who are grieving.
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- The a stands for act genuine.
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- Sometimes, we're hesitant to reach out to people
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- Who are hurting 'cause we say,
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- "i just don't know what to say.
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- I don't want to say the wrong thing."
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- Don't worry about that. don't worry about your words.
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- Just be honest.
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- If you were shocked to hear of the death, tell the person,
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- I was so shocked to hear this.
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- If you don't know what to say,
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- Confess that you really don't know what to say.
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- If you want to hug them, do that,
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- Or if you want to say nothing, do that.
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- But just act genuine.
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- Secondly, the b stands for be quiet.
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- You know, we christians love to talk a lot.
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- We think there's healing in talking.
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- If we just talk and say the right words,
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- We can instantly heal the grief
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- That a person is experiencing.
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- Sometimes, we worry about what to say.
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- Don't worry about what to say.
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- Sometimes, the best thing to say is nothing.
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- See comfort by being supportive.
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- Remember, it's you, not your words
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- That a grieving person needs.
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- Hadden robinson tells the story of a little girl
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- Whose best friend or playmate died.
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- One day, the little girl told her parents
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- That she had comforted the grieving mother.
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- The father was surprised.
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- He said, "well, what did you say to her?"
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- "nothing," the little girl said,
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- "i just crawled up into her lap and cried with her."
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- That's what we need sometimes,
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- Somebody who will comfort us by being supportive.
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- And then, d stands for do something practical.
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- If you want to minister to somebody who's grieving,
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- Do something practical.
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- Sometimes, the best thing you can do
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- For somebody who's grieving is the dishes.
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- Don't ask them, by the way,
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- "is there something we can do to help you?"
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- A person who is grieving is in too much of a fog many times
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- To be able to think clearly.
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- Don't ask, just do it.
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- If there's a meal to be delivered, deliver it.
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- If there's a lawn that needs cutting, cut the lawn.
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- If kids need to be picked up, pick them up.
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- For those of you who are grieving though today
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- Or will be at some point in the future,
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- I want to talk in these final moments
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- About the road that leads from grief
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- To acceptance.
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- Now, i'll be honest with you,
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- To just spit out five principles
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- For moving from grief to acceptance sounds almost robotic,
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- But i do want to share some things with you
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- From god's word that i've discovered
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- After 40 years of pastoring may bring some help
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- To those of you who are grieving or will in the future.
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- And i summarized it in this acrostic that spells out grief,
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- G-r-i-e-f, grief.
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- I want to be sure i spelled that correctly.
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- (congregation laughing)
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- The g stands for give voice to your emotions.
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- If you're grieving, don't be the stoic.
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- Give voice to your emotions.
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- You may feel like you're in a deep pit of despair.
- 00:14:17.313 --> 00:14:20.950
- Some people respond to that pit in one of two ways.
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- Some people respond with indifference.
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- They just decide they don't want to feel anything.
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- They'll go through the rest of their life semi-comatose.
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- That's one extreme.
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- Other people are feeling despair so acutely
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- That they check out of life in a different way,
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- The ultimate way through suicide.
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- That is never the answer.
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- Remember, suicide is a permanent solution
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- To a temporary problem.
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- There is no more unloving, hateful thing you could do
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- For those you love than to take your own life.
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- How do you avoid either extreme?
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- Psalm 120:1 declares,
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- "in my trouble, i cried to the lord, and he answered me."
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- Cry out to the lord. give voice to your emotions.
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- God said, "i will answer you not immediately sometimes,
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- But ultimately."
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- The r stands for remember simple truths and practices.
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- When you're grieving, go back to the basics.
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- Remember simple truths and practices.
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- I remember reading a couple years ago
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- About an actress who was walking up the red carpet
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- To the oscar ceremony and she fainted unexpectedly.
- 00:15:38.460 --> 00:15:42.331
- The paramedics surrounded her. they asked her what happened.
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- She said, "i forgot to breathe."
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- Sometimes when you're in a stressful situation,
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- You forget the basics.
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- What are the basics for christians?
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- Number one, pray.
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- Pray when you're grieving.
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- If you don't know what to pray,
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- Just read the psalms and make them your prayer to god.
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- Pray.
- 00:16:04.086 --> 00:16:05.521
- The second p stands for praise.
- 00:16:05.521 --> 00:16:08.957
- You know, in psalm 13:1, the psalmist said,
- 00:16:08.957 --> 00:16:11.093
- "lord, how long will you hide your face from me?"
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- But in verse 6, the psalms turned to praising god
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- For the good things he had done for them.
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- Think of some things you can praise god for,
- 00:16:20.002 --> 00:16:23.072
- And then promises, claim the promises of god
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- When you're grieving.
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- John 11:25, "i am the resurrection in the life.
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- He who believes in me, though he were dead,
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- Yet shall he live again,"
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- Or 2 corinthians 5:8,
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- "we are of good courage, i say,
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- And rather to be absent from the body
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- And to be at home with the lord."
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- Remember your simple truths and practices.
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- The i in grief stands for involve others in your grief.
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- Please listen to this.
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- There's only one person who thinks
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- You need to take time off when you're grieving from church,
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- Who thinks you need to isolate yourself.
- 00:17:01.443 --> 00:17:04.113
- The only person who believes that is satan.
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- He wants to destroy you
- 00:17:07.516 --> 00:17:09.218
- And he knows if he can isolate you
- 00:17:09.218 --> 00:17:11.053
- From the care and concern of other christians,
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- He can attack you and he can destroy you.
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- If ever there is a time we need other people,
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- It's when we're grieving.
- 00:17:19.261 --> 00:17:21.063
- Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says,
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- "two are better than one
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- Because they have a good return for their labor.
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- For if either of them falls,
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- The one will lift up his companion.
- 00:17:29.438 --> 00:17:31.640
- But woe to the one who falls
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- When there is not another to lift him up."
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- There's encouragement that comes church when we're together,
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- Worshiping together.
- 00:17:40.249 --> 00:17:42.084
- But not only that, the body of christ,
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- First baptist church of dallas has some ways
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- To help you as you through the grieving process.
- 00:17:46.788 --> 00:17:51.426
- Involve other people in your grief.
- 00:17:51.426 --> 00:17:53.328
- Don't try to go through that dark tunnel by yourself.
- 00:17:53.328 --> 00:17:57.599
- The e in grief stands for eat, dress, and sleep.
- 00:17:57.599 --> 00:18:02.004
- I say that because we are physical beings.
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- We have to care for ourself physically
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- During the grieving process.
- 00:18:07.042 --> 00:18:09.211
- You know, don't sit around in your bathrobe and your pajamas
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- For weeks and months at a time.
- 00:18:13.348 --> 00:18:15.517
- You need a routine.
- 00:18:15.517 --> 00:18:16.885
- You need to sleep and yes, you need to eat as well.
- 00:18:16.885 --> 00:18:20.622
- And i know what you're thinking.
- 00:18:20.622 --> 00:18:21.657
- You're thinking,
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- "where in the bible does it say i need to eat?"
- 00:18:22.958 --> 00:18:25.827
- I'm so glad you asked.
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- It's in acts 27.
- 00:18:27.262 --> 00:18:30.432
- Remember paul was on that ship going from jerusalem to rome?
- 00:18:30.432 --> 00:18:34.269
- He was a prisoner and that ship was battered by a storm
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- For two weeks and the people were so terrified,
- 00:18:38.307 --> 00:18:41.677
- They forgot to eat.
- 00:18:41.677 --> 00:18:43.111
- And notice the word of encouragement in acts 27:33,
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- Paul said to the group, "'today is the 14th day
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- That you have been constantly watching
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- And going without eating, having taken nothing.
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- Therefore, i encourage you to take some food.'
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- He then took bread, gave thanks, broke it, and ate,
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- As did everyone on board.
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- And they were," what?
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- "encouraged."
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- If you're grieving, take some food, take some nourishment.
- 00:19:12.841 --> 00:19:17.613
- Some of you're going to take this verse
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- That i didn't know i was grieving, but i am.
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- I'm going to eat today and enjoy a big meal.
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- That's okay. that's biblical.
- 00:19:24.419 --> 00:19:26.588
- God created us as physical as well as spiritual beings.
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- F in grief, and this is so important, forgive others.
- 00:19:30.926 --> 00:19:35.864
- You know, hurting people hurt people.
- 00:19:36.698 --> 00:19:40.235
- The natural reaction if you're grieving
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- Is try to make somebody else as miserable as you are,
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- To lash out against them.
- 00:19:46.842 --> 00:19:49.511
- That's why many times
- 00:19:49.511 --> 00:19:50.879
- Those who are going through the grief process
- 00:19:50.879 --> 00:19:53.949
- Want to blame a doctor, or a drunk driver,
- 00:19:53.949 --> 00:19:56.685
- Or a negligent family member,
- 00:19:56.685 --> 00:19:58.920
- Or a church that's unresponsive
- 00:19:58.920 --> 00:20:01.490
- And they stall the grieving process and the healing process.
- 00:20:01.490 --> 00:20:05.661
- Now, listen to this, hebrews 12:15 says,
- 00:20:05.661 --> 00:20:09.164
- "see to it that no one of you comes short
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- Of the grace of god; that no root of bitterness
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- Springing up causes trouble,
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- And by it many be defiled."
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- Listen to me.
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- When you go through a heartache in your life,
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- When you lose a loved one,
- 00:20:28.450 --> 00:20:29.985
- When somebody hurts you, when you go through heartache,
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- When god gives you an extra measure of his grace
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- To get you through, that hurt, that disappointment.
- 00:20:36.892 --> 00:20:41.797
- You get an extra measure of god's grace.
- 00:20:41.797 --> 00:20:44.833
- But when you choose to be bitter and angry towards somebody,
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- That bitterness neutralizes the healing power
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- Of god's grace.
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- It's making a choice
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- That completely stalls the healing process.
- 00:20:57.813 --> 00:21:00.315
- That's why the writer says,
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- "don't come short of the grace of god
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- And allow bitterness to take root in your heart."
- 00:21:05.120 --> 00:21:08.023
- Choosing to forgive somebody, who may have a responsibility,
- 00:21:08.023 --> 00:21:11.793
- They may have acted wrongly in the loss of your loved one,
- 00:21:11.793 --> 00:21:14.696
- But having that root of bitterness will hurt you
- 00:21:14.696 --> 00:21:18.633
- Much more than it does the one who wronged you.
- 00:21:18.633 --> 00:21:21.570
- Make the choice to forgive
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- When it comes to conquering the mountain of grief
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- And moving from grief to acceptance,
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- I think we all should remember what a friend of mine
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- Wrote some years ago.
- 00:21:33.915 --> 00:21:36.017
- He said, "god's answer to grief
- 00:21:36.017 --> 00:21:39.254
- Is not a philosophy but a person.
- 00:21:39.254 --> 00:21:43.158
- Not something but someone. not a word, but the word.
- 00:21:43.158 --> 00:21:48.430
- Not a myth, but the messiah.
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- Not commentary, but the cross.
- 00:21:50.799 --> 00:21:53.368
- Not human reason, but divine resurrection.
- 00:21:53.368 --> 00:21:57.272
- God's answer to grief is jesus."
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- ♪ music ♪
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- No one makes it through life
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- Without experiencing loss and pain.
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- But when grief does come, we can walk the biblical path
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- That leads to acceptance.
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- Now, in closing today, i want to say a word of thanks
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- To those of you who give so faithfully
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- To "pathway to victory."
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- Your generosity is helping people all across the world.
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- Many in fact are learning to conquer mountains,
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- Including the mountain of grief,
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- Because of your faithfulness.
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- For example, i recently received this heartwarming note
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- That read, "pastor jeffress, my mother died recently,
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- And that experience has affected me greatly.
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- Your truthful teaching helped my mom and me
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- Face her death this past year with peace
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- Regarding her salvation and her graduation
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- To be with the lord."
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- Well, thank you for taking the time to tell us your story.
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- This is truly what "pathway to victory," is all about.
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- That when you give to "pathway to victory,"
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- This person's thank you note belongs to you as well.
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- God is using your generosity to reach men and women
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- For christ.
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- Thank you for helping us as we pierce the darkness
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- With the light of god's word.
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- Now, stay right there.
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- I'll be back with more "pathway to victory,"
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- In just a moment.
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- Jesus told us that if we have faith
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- As tiny as a mustard seed, we can move mountains.
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- But what does that promise really mean?
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- [narrator] in his book, "invincible,"
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- Dr. robert jeffress helps you conquer the mountains
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- That separate you from the blessed life.
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- [robert jeffress] all of us
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- Are going to face mountains in life,
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- But those obstacles don't have to stop us in our tracks
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- Because with god on our side, we are invincible.
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- [narrator] in the pages of "invincible,"
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- From fear to courage, and much more.
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- Life's up and downs can be overwhelming,
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- But in the eyes of the mountain mover,
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- Every mountain you face is a mole hill
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- And god is ready to take you to the other side of blessing.
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- Nothing will prevent your conquering mountains
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- In your life any more than doubt.
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- We've got this secret fear that our doubts
- 00:24:38.667 --> 00:24:41.536
- Are bigger than god's answers.
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- Don't worry about that.
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- God is big enough to handle your questions.
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- [narrator] your generosity today will help us
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- Spread the message of victory and hope.
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- The light of christ into the dark corners
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- Of our country and world.
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- ♪ music ♪
- 00:24:59.454 --> 00:25:01.156
- Taking your first step down the road to acceptance
- 00:25:01.156 --> 00:25:04.159
- Isn't easy, especially if you felt overcome by grief
- 00:25:04.159 --> 00:25:08.396
- For a long time.
- 00:25:08.396 --> 00:25:09.998
- But with each step you take,
- 00:25:09.998 --> 00:25:12.233
- The road becomes a little easier.
- 00:25:12.233 --> 00:25:14.936
- And i truly believe that these five biblical principles
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- Can help you move from grief to acceptance.
- 00:25:18.340 --> 00:25:23.011
- Well, as a pastor, for more than 40 years,
- 00:25:23.011 --> 00:25:25.347
- I've witnessed firsthand the destructive power of lust.
- 00:25:25.347 --> 00:25:29.884
- I've seen how it destroys the lives of individuals,
- 00:25:29.884 --> 00:25:33.555
- Of families, of entire churches.
- 00:25:33.555 --> 00:25:36.691
- So next time, i'm going to talk
- 00:25:36.691 --> 00:25:38.460
- About how to move from lust to purity.
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- Stay tuned for a preview of what's coming up next
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- In our series invincible here on "pathway to victory."
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- Today, we're in the last message in this series
- 00:25:50.872 --> 00:25:53.274
- And we're going to talk about the issue of lust.
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- And i'm hesitant to talk about conquering lust,
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- Because the fact is we can't once and for all,
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- Conquer the problem of lust,
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- But lust can once and for all conquer us
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- If we're not careful.
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- [narrator] set your dvr and join us next time
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- For the message, moving from lust to purity
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- Here on "pathway to victory."
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- ♪ music ♪
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- Step away from your daily routine and immerse yourself
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- In god's masterpiece
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- On the "pathway to victory," cruise to alaska,
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- June 13 through 20, 2026.
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- From the majestic glaciers to soaring eagles.
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- These moments in god's creation will deepen your faith
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- We'll explore god's word together
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- Against the backdrop of his most impressive handiwork.
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- I promise you'll return home
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- With memories that will last a lifetime
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- And a heart renewed by god's presence.
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- [narrator] to book your spot
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