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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Say Goodbye To Relationship Regrets | August 27, 2025
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- Male announcer: from the pulpit of the first baptist church of
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- Dallas, texas, this is "pathway to victory" with dr.
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- Robert jeffress.
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- Dr. robert jeffress: hi, i'm robert jeffress, and welcome
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- Again to "pathway to victory."
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- Few topics are more personal than the issue of forgiveness.
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- We've all felt the sting of being wronged by another person,
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- And we all know the struggle of letting go of resentment.
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- Today, i'm going to refute four fallacies about forgiveness that
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- Keep us from moving on past an offense, and then i'll share
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- Three principles to help you exercise
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- True biblical forgiveness.
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- My message is titled "say goodbye to relationship regrets"
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- On today's edition of "pathway to victory."
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- ♪♪♪
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- Announcer: god doesn't want you to carry around the weight of
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- Sins he's already forgiven.
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- In his bestselling book, "say goodbye to regret," dr. robert
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- Jeffress helps you live beyond the would-haves, could-haves,
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- And should-haves to embrace the future god has planned for you.
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- You can't undo the past, but there's plenty you can do to
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- Reshape tomorrow and eternity.
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- Discover the biblical secrets for regret-free living when you
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- Request the book, "say goodbye to regret."
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- Thank you for giving generously to "pathway to victory."
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- Jeffress: i partnered with the barna research group, and we did
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- A national survey on the subject of forgiveness among
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- American christians.
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- And in our survey, we found that most christians have an
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- Unbiblical understanding of forgiveness.
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- They don't understand what it is.
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- And there are four fallacies that keep many christians as
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- Prisoners of regrets over the hurts of others.
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- Let me mention those four myths about forgiveness, four
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- Fallacies about forgiveness, that may truly be keeping you
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- From forgiving that person in your life who needs to
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- Be forgiven.
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- Fallacy number one, forgiveness must be earned.
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- "you just can't let that offender off the hook,"
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- We think.
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- "why, that's not right!
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- You can't let him go unpunished.
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- It's not right for you.
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- It's really not right for him.
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- He has to earn forgiveness."
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- But here's the problem.
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- There are really two problems with that idea of thinking your
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- Offender can earn your forgiveness.
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- First of all, earning forgiveness is really impossible
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- When you think about it.
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- Remember what jesus said in the sermon on the mount?
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- You've heard it say, "an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth,
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- But i say to you, don't resist the one who does evil," and
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- So forth.
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- You know, we think of that as a barbaric rule, an eye for an
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- Eye, a tooth for a tooth.
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- But really it was a law.
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- We call it lex talionis, the law of retribution, that was given
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- To keep order in society.
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- In other words, the punishment should not be any greater than
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- A crime.
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- It shouldn't be a life for an eye.
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- It's an eye for an eye.
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- In other words, you measure the punishment.
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- But here's the problem.
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- Gandhi pointed out the problem with an eye for an eye and a
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- Tooth for a tooth is that eventually everybody turns out
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- Blind and toothless.
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- There's got to be a better way.
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- And in the end, when you've lost your tooth, you've still lost
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- Your tooth.
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- You lose your eye, you've lost your eye.
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- It's really impossible to earn forgiveness.
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- For example, what could somebody pay back to you to make up for a
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- Child killed by a drunk driver?
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- How could anybody repay you for a marriage that is torn apart
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- By adultery?
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- How do you repay for a reputation that has been lost
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- Through slander?
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- Once it's lost, it's lost.
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- What do you do about that?
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- It's impossible to earn forgiveness.
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- Secondly, and this is key, earning forgiveness really binds
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- You to your offender.
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- It makes you a partner with your offender when you're waiting on
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- Them to do something before you free yourself from the prison
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- Of regrets.
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- I remember reading about a man named kevin tunell.
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- In 1982, he was convicted of drunk driving that resulted in
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- The death of an 18-year-old girl.
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- The family wanted $1.5 million to be paid for restitution.
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- They didn't get that.
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- Instead, they got $936.
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- But this is what the court ordered.
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- They ordered that kevin tunell would pay that debt $1 at
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- A time.
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- Every week on friday, the day of the girl's death, he was
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- Required to send the family a check for $1, and he had to do
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- That for 936 weeks.
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- The punishment was obvious.
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- The court wanted kevin to remember every week what he had
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- Done to extinguish the life of this girl.
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- But here's the problem.
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- He mailed the check, but the family was forced every week to
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- Open the mailbox and remember what had happened to
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- Their daughter.
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- And after 936 weeks after the payment was made, they still
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- Didn't have their daughter back.
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- You see, when you require your offender to do something, you
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- Are making yourself a prisoner to them.
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- You remember--maybe you've been to those old-fashioned picnics
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- Before and remember the--for the games, they sometimes have the
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- Three-legged races, and you would have your leg bound to a
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- Partner, and y'all would hobble down to the finish
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- Line together.
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- You'd try to go as fast as you could, but you couldn't do it.
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- And if you ever had a thought like i did, i would think how
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- Can i get loose from this jerk so i can get further and faster?
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- But you see, three-legged races don't allow for solo contenders.
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- You have to have a partner.
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- You can travel no farther or faster than he's able to.
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- It's the same way when you require that your offender ask
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- For forgiveness or earn your forgiveness.
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- You are making yourself emotionally bound to that
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- Other person.
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- You can travel no farther or faster in life than they're
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- Willing to go.
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- But forgiveness is the process by which we separate ourself
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- From our offender.
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- We say, "what you did was wrong."
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- If we don't say it out loud, we say it in our hearts, "you
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- Did wrong.
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- You deserve to suffer for what you did, but i'm gonna let god
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- Deal with you.
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- I'm gonna be free of you so i can get on with my life."
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- That's what forgiveness does.
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- Earning forgiveness binds you to your offender.
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- There's a second mistake that many people have about their
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- Thinking of forgiveness.
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- They think that forgiveness is a one-time act.
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- We think that we can forgive a person once for all and never
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- Have to deal with it again.
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- But did you know that outside of becoming a christian, there
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- Really are no one-time decisions about anything that's important
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- In life?
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- I mean, somebody decides they're going to quit smoking.
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- But if you've ever had that experience, you know, you can
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- Make that decision.
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- You may be successful in it.
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- But that decision doesn't quench your desire for nicotine.
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- It's something you battle with for weeks, for months, perhaps
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- For the rest of your life.
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- Do you remember the late corrie ten boom, who wrote the book,
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- "the hiding place"?
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- She writes about having difficulty continuing to
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- Remember what a nazi soldier had done to her in the concentration
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- Camp at ravensbruck, how he had mistreated corrie and her
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- Sister, betsy.
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- And for several weeks, she struggled because she couldn't
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- Forget this, and she was afraid that it meant she had not
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- Forgiven the soldier.
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- She writes, "god's help came to me in the form of a kindly
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- Lutheran pastor, to whom i confessed my failure after two
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- Sleepless weeks.
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- He said, ‘up in that church tower,' and he pointed to the
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- Church tower, ‘is a bell, which is run by a sexton pulling on
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- The rope.
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- The bell keeps on ringing, even after the sexton has let go of
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- The rope.
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- First ding, then dong, slower and slower, until there's a
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- Final dong, and it finally stops.
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- I believe the same things are true of forgiveness.
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- When we forgive, we take our hand off the rope.
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- But if we've been tugging at our grievances for a long time, we
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- Shouldn't be surprised if the old angry thoughts keep coming
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- For a while.
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- They're just the ding-dongs of the old bell slowing down.'"
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- And so, corrie said, "it proved to be true.
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- There were a few more midnight reverberations, a couple of
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- Dings when the subject came up in my conversations, but they
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- Came less and less often, and at last, they stopped altogether.
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- And so i discovered another secret of forgiveness.
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- We can trust god, not only above our emotions, but also above
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- Our thoughts."
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- Isn't that great?
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- Maybe those ding-dongs will stop in your life.
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- Maybe they will never stop, but don't miss the point.
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- Forgiveness is a continual decision.
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- That's why, when peter said, "lord, how many times shall
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- We forgive?
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- Seven times?"
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- Jesus actually said, "no, 70 times 7."
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- Forgiveness is not a one-time act.
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- A third mistake people make and they're thinking about
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- Forgiveness is that forgiveness is synonymous
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- With forgetting.
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- It is synonymous with forgetting.
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- We talk about forgive and forget, as if they're the
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- Same thing.
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- People think, "if i haven't forgotten, then i
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- Haven't forgiven."
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- But the two are not the same.
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- Remember this, forgetting is a
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- Biological function.
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- The reason we forget more and more things, where we put the
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- Keys and so forth, is our brain grows older and older, and
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- Things don't fire on all the cylinders like they ought to.
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- Forgetting is a biological function.
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- Forgiveness is a spiritual function.
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- But we shouldn't think that we've got the ability to forget.
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- We can't forget, and sometimes, when we equate forgiveness with
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- Forgetting, we think if we can just dismiss something, play
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- Like it never happened, that's the same as forgiving.
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- It's not.
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- In fact, trying to prematurely dismiss or forgive--or forget
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- Those things done to us can actually short-circuit and
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- Shortcut the forgiveness process.
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- Let me illustrate what i mean for you by that, how just
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- Dismissing something can actually be a hindrance in truly
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- Forgiving another person.
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- Two years after amy and i were married, in 1979, we decided to
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- Buy our first house out in garland, texas.
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- You remember what interest rates were like in 1979?
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- The interest rates were 13% on a mortgage, and they would head to
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- Eventually 18% in 1981, but they were 13%.
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- And so our real estate agent said, "you know, if you've got a
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- Family member or somebody who cares about you, maybe you could
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- Get a second mortgage at a lower rate."
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- And so i asked my grandfather if he would give us a second
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- Mortgage, and he said, "yes, and i'll make you a bargain deal,
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- 9% interest."
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- And that was a great thing back when interest rates were
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- 13%, 9%.
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- So we signed a note with him, and we started making our
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- Payments every month, and we made those payments for eight
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- Years, and one day, he said, "robert, you don't need to send
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- Me any more money.
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- I'll just forgive the note."
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- Well, he died a few years later, and amy and i decided to sell
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- The house.
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- One big problem, we found out there was not a clear title to
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- The house.
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- We couldn't convey it to the buyer.
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- Why?
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- Because even though my grandfather had great
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- Intentions, he had in his mind forgiven the note, he didn't go
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- Through the proper procedure to have a clear title on
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- Our property.
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- And that's why i say just simply dismissing something may cause
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- You to short circuit the actual steps you need to go through in
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- Forgiving another person.
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- Forgiveness is a process.
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- What kind of steps are you talking about?
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- Well, first of all, i put it on your outline, you have to admit
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- That you've been wrong.
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- If you're gonna forgive somebody, you, first of all,
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- Have to acknowledge that they have wronged you.
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- Secondly, you have to acknowledge that your offender
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- Owes you for his transgression.
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- You need to calculate what it is that somebody owes you.
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- I tell people who are trying to forgive, "don't only admit that
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- You've been wrong.
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- Calculate the cost."
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- Maybe that other person deserves a divorce.
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- Maybe they deserve imprisonment.
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- Maybe they even deserve the death penalty, but you can't
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- Forgive a debt until you calculate what that debt is.
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- And then thirdly, forgiveness is the decision to release your
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- Offender of his debt to you.
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- If you don't go through this process, then you'll never reap
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- The benefits of truly forgiving another person.
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- We'll see a great biblical illustration of that in just
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- A moment.
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- A fourth fallacy people have about forgiveness is the belief
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- That forgiveness requires reunion.
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- In other words, if a wife is being physically abused by her
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- Husband, but she is required to forgive him, that means she has
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- To go back and live under the same roof as he does and subject
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- Herself to that same punishment.
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- If you forgive a cheating mate, that means you have to
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- Just overlook any future infidelities
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- In your relationship.
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- If you decide to hire back an employee who has
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- Embezzled money from you, if you forgive them that means you
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- Have to keep them employed even if they show
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- No restitution whatsoever.
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- None of those things is true.
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- You can forgive somebody without being reunited with them.
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- In fact, one reason some of you right now are having a hard time
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- Forgiving somebody is because you're confusing
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- Forgiveness with reunion.
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- You think you're going to be forced to go back
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- In a relationship with them.
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- There's a difference between forgiveness and reunion.
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- I believe these four fallacies about forgiveness keep many
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- People from forgiving.
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- You know who illustrates probably better than anyone in
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- The old testament those principles of forgiveness is
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- That character, joseph.
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- Now we've did a long study on joseph.
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- I'm not gonna rehash the story.
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- Just remember the basics.
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- He was one of the 12 sons of jacob.
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- He was the favorite son.
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- Because of that, his brothers were jealous.
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- They threw him into a pit to have him sold as a slave.
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- They left him for being dead, but god used that great betrayal
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- To put joseph exactly where god wanted him to be, in egypt, as
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- Pharaoh's right-hand man.
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- And because of joseph's prominence, he was able to
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- Devise that plan to save not just egypt but the entire world
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- From the famine by setting aside part of the grain for the time
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- Of famine, and it was a famine that would cause joseph's
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- Brothers, who had forgotten about him, to have to come to
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- Egypt to buy the grain.
- 00:16:15.030 --> 00:16:16.398
- Little did they know they would be making their appeal to the
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- Very brother whom they thought they had killed.
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- And we've got this remarkable scene in genesis 50.
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- The brothers were there.
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- Joseph reveals himself to his brothers.
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- They're scared to death.
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- "joseph said to them, ‘do not be afraid, for am i not in
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- God's place?
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- As for you, you meant evil against me, but god meant it for
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- Good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve
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- Many people alive.
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- So therefore, do not be afraid; i will provide for you and your
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- Little ones.'"
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- Notice the three steps of genuine forgiveness
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- That joseph illustrates.
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- First of all, genuine forgiveness admits you have
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- Been wronged.
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- Joseph didn't say to his brothers, "oh brothers, let's
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- Just forget what happened to you and what you did to me.
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- You must have just been having a bad day.
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- We'll forgive and forget."
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- No, he's very honest with them.
- 00:17:13.622 --> 00:17:15.124
- He said, "you meant it for evil.
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- What you did was wrong."
- 00:17:18.427 --> 00:17:21.330
- Remember this, you cannot forgive people you're not
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- Willing to blame.
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- You have to blame people before you can forgive them.
- 00:17:26.468 --> 00:17:29.805
- You don't have to sugarcoat anything.
- 00:17:29.805 --> 00:17:32.074
- Joseph's brother said, "you meant it for evil."
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- Genuine forgiveness admits you have been wronged.
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- Secondly, genuine forgiveness acknowledges a debt is owed.
- 00:17:38.113 --> 00:17:43.352
- When joseph said, "do not be afraid," he was basically
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- Saying, "you have every right to be afraid.
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- I'm the big cheese now here in egypt.
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- I could have you executed if i wanted to.
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- You have every right to be afraid."
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- Genuine forgiveness acknowledges a debt is owed.
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- Again, you have to calculate what that other person deserves
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- Before you release them of those consequences.
- 00:18:04.406 --> 00:18:07.209
- And thirdly, genuine forgiveness releases your offender of
- 00:18:07.209 --> 00:18:12.014
- Their debt.
- 00:18:12.014 --> 00:18:13.615
- It releases them of your debt.
- 00:18:13.615 --> 00:18:15.083
- When joseph said, "you don't need to be afraid.
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- I'm not going to kill you, but instead i'm going to give you
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- What you don't deserve, the choicest land of egypt, the land
- 00:18:21.323 --> 00:18:24.726
- Of goshen," he was demonstrating that he had released them of
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- Their debt.
- 00:18:28.597 --> 00:18:29.932
- Now, when you forgive somebody, you release them of your right
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- To hurt them for hurting you.
- 00:18:34.403 --> 00:18:36.171
- Doesn't mean you give up your desire for justice.
- 00:18:36.171 --> 00:18:38.807
- God, the government, somebody else may want to deal with them,
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- But you're surrendering your right to seek vengeance
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- Against them.
- 00:18:45.180 --> 00:18:46.648
- You know, this is such a remarkable story.
- 00:18:46.648 --> 00:18:49.818
- I've often wondered how did joseph conjure up
- 00:18:49.818 --> 00:18:56.391
- That forgiveness?
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- I think part of it's telling in what joseph said in his
- 00:18:58.493 --> 00:19:02.197
- First conversation with his brothers in genesis 45, he said,
- 00:19:02.197 --> 00:19:07.269
- "do not be grieved or angry with yourselves because you sold me
- 00:19:07.269 --> 00:19:10.839
- Here, for god sent me before you to preserve life.
- 00:19:10.839 --> 00:19:13.942
- God sent me before you to preserve for you a remnant in
- 00:19:13.942 --> 00:19:17.412
- The earth, and to keep you alive by a great deliverance.
- 00:19:17.412 --> 00:19:20.682
- Now, for, it was not you who sent me here, but god," hear
- 00:19:20.682 --> 00:19:24.553
- That over and over again, you did this but god but god but
- 00:19:24.553 --> 00:19:27.623
- God, “it was not you who sent me here, but god; and he has made
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- Me a father to pharaoh and lord of all of his household, and
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- Ruler over all the land of egypt.”
- 00:19:34.863 --> 00:19:38.667
- Joseph was able to see the hand of god in these offenses.
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- Joseph believed in a god who was bigger than the ones who had
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- Hurt him.
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- And ladies and gentlemen, you will never be able to forgive,
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- Truly forgive, until you come to the conclusion that god is
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- Bigger than your offender.
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- God can take the worst things that have happened to you and
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- Use them for his good and his glory.
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- That's the key to forgiveness.
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- I think part of that was joseph was able to see how god was able
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- To work through those injustices.
- 00:20:13.869 --> 00:20:16.004
- Little did he know how that would ultimately play out.
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- I mean, we're still feeling the reverberations of his decision
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- To forgive.
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- I mean, think about it.
- 00:20:25.080 --> 00:20:26.415
- If he hadn't forgiven his brothers and said, "no, you
- 00:20:26.415 --> 00:20:28.617
- Can't have any grain," what would have happened?
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- The brothers would have starved to death.
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- If the brothers had starved to death, they were the nucleus of
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- The nation of israel.
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- If there had been no grain, there would have been
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- No brothers.
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- If there'd been no brothers, there had been no israel.
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- If there were no israel, there would be no messiah.
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- If there was no messiah who had to come from israel, there would
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- Have been no salvation, and you and i today would be dead in our
- 00:20:49.104 --> 00:20:52.474
- Trespasses and sins.
- 00:20:52.474 --> 00:20:54.810
- We are saved today, when you think about it, because of one
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- Man's choice to forgive.
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- I think that was his main motivation, but i think there's
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- Another secret to it.
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- It's found in genesis 45:2, "when he first saw the
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- Brothers,” the bible said, “he wept so loudly that the
- 00:21:11.560 --> 00:21:14.996
- Egyptians heard it, and the household of pharaoh heard of it
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- As well."
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- Joseph knew what it was like to be a prisoner.
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- He had been unfairly in prison for the rape of potiphar's wife.
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- He knew the exhilaration that came from being freed finally
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- From that prison, but he was still a prisoner of hurt.
- 00:21:32.447 --> 00:21:37.719
- I think of bitterness as the years unfolded, as he thought
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- About his brothers and what they had done to him, and tired of
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- That bitterness, tired of those regrets, he made that decision
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- To forgive.
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- Are you ready to be freed from that prison of regrets?
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- Are you tired of being shackled to that person who hurt you
- 00:21:59.274 --> 00:22:03.011
- Maybe many years ago?
- 00:22:03.011 --> 00:22:06.214
- Forgiveness is the key that will set you free to live the life
- 00:22:06.214 --> 00:22:11.153
- God has planned for you.
- 00:22:11.153 --> 00:22:13.989
- Lewis smedes says it best when he says, "when we forgive, we
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- Set the prisoner free, and the prisoner we set free is us."
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- Jeffress: let's allow that question to linger
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- In our minds for a moment.
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- Are you ready to be freed from the prison of regrets?
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- I certainly hope so.
- 00:22:39.147 --> 00:22:41.283
- Well, every time i watch the news or read the latest
- 00:22:41.283 --> 00:22:44.119
- Headlines, i'm reminded that our nation and world are spinning
- 00:22:44.119 --> 00:22:47.756
- Out of control, or so it seems.
- 00:22:47.756 --> 00:22:50.759
- People have lost their confidence in human leadership,
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- And they're becoming distracted by every whim of this world.
- 00:22:54.362 --> 00:22:58.567
- But here's the good news, jesus christ is still in control.
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