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Robert Jeffress - Say Goodbye To Sexual Regrets (Part 1)

September 1, 2025 | S E | 29:0

Robert Jeffress - Say Goodbye To Sexual Regrets (Part 1)
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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Say Goodbye To Sexual Regrets (Part 1) | September 1, 2025
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Male announcer: from the pulpit of the first baptist church of
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  • Dallas, texas, this is "pathway to victory"
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  • With dr. robert jeffress.
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  • Dr. robert jeffress: hi, i'm robert jeffress, and welcome
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  • Again to "pathway to victory."
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  • Few blunders create so much regret and devastation as
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  • Sexual sin.
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  • An intimate moment between two people when shared outside of
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  • God's boundaries of marriage can destroy relationships
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  • And futures.
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  • Is there any hope of moving on from such a monumental mistake?
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  • I'm going to show you how to say goodbye to sexual regrets on
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  • Today's edition of "pathway to victory."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Announcer: god doesn't want you to carry around the weight of
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  • Sins he's already forgiven.
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  • In his bestselling book, "say goodbye to regret," dr. robert
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  • Jeffress helps you live beyond the would-haves, could-haves,
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  • And should-haves to embrace the future god has planned for you.
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  • You can't undo the past, but there's plenty you can do to
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  • Reshape tomorrow and eternity.
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  • Discover the biblical secrets for regret-free living when you
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  • Request the book, "say goodbye to regret."
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  • Thank you for giving generously to "pathway to victory."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Jeffress: "dear dr. jeffress, three years ago, i got
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  • Involved with a woman at work.
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  • My wife never knew what was going on, but i was crushed with
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  • Such unbearable guilt that i voluntarily ended the affair.
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  • I confessed my sin to god and felt like he forgave me.
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  • But that didn't seem to be enough.
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  • I felt like i needed to tell my wife what i had done and seek
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  • Her forgiveness as well.
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  • That was two years ago and she still has not been able to
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  • Forgive me or god for allowing the affair to happen in the
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  • First place.
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  • I know that god has forgiven me.
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  • But my question is this, why hasn't god erased the
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  • Consequences of my sin?
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  • God's forgiveness doesn't seem to mean much if my wife and i
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  • Are doomed to feeling this unbearable regret for the rest
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  • Of our lives."
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  • Perhaps you can identify with this man.
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  • Perhaps in your past, there is an act of sexual immorality that
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  • Resulted in some very unwanted circumstances, the breakup of a
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  • Relationship, an unwanted pregnancy, a sexually
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  • Transmitted disease.
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  • And even though you've asked god and you believe you've received
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  • From god forgiveness for that mistake,
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  • The consequences keep going on and on.
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  • Every time you think about that mistake, you wanna kick yourself
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  • Mentally, but your anger towards yourself is tempered by your
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  • Anger toward god.
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  • If god really forgives us, completely forgives us, why
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  • Doesn't he make the painful consequences go away?
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  • That's what we're going to talk about today as we look at what
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  • The bible says about saying goodbye to sexual regrets.
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  • You know, in my experience as a pastor, i have found that
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  • Regrets about immorality tend to rank among the top regrets that
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  • People have.
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  • Why is that?
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  • Let's talk about the 'why' of sexual regrets for just
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  • A moment.
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  • You know, one of the downsides of preaching for many years and
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  • Writing books is that people can go back and find what you've
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  • Said in the past.
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  • And some of the things i have said in the past, i wish i could
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  • Retrieve, but they live forever on videotape or on the
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  • Printed page.
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  • One of the things i would change that i used to say all of the
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  • Time is this, i used to say, god doesn't grade sin.
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  • All sin is the same in god's eyes.
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  • Well, there's a technical sense in which that's true.
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  • Any sin, no matter how small we think it is, is enough to
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  • Separate us from god.
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  • It's not true that all sins have the same consequences.
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  • Some sins have more consequences than others.
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  • For example, we know from our study of the sermon on the mount
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  • That if you hate somebody in your heart, jesus says that's
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  • The same thing as murder, but nobody's ever fried in the
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  • Electric chair for anger.
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  • That's never gotten somebody convicted and executed.
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  • We know from jesus teaching that lust, lusting after somebody is
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  • The same as committing adultery in your heart.
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  • But nobody's ever gotten pregnant from a sexual fantasy.
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  • So there are different consequences.
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  • All sin is not the same, and it's certainly true that sexual
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  • Sin is not the same as any other kind of sin.
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  • Listen to what paul says in 1 corinthians 6, 15 through 19.
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  • Look at this carefully.
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  • "do you not know that your bodies are members of christ?
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  • Shall i then take away the members of christ and make them
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  • Members of a prostitute?
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  • May it never be!"
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  • Now this word prostitute doesn't mean somebody who stands on the
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  • Street corner selling sexual favors.
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  • That is a prostitute but it's a word that means somebody loose
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  • In their morals.
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  • Verse 16, "or do you not know that the one who joins himself
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  • To a prostitute is one body with her?
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  • For god says, 'the two shall become one flesh.'
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  • But the one who joins himself to the the lord is one spirit
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  • With him.
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  • Flee immorality.
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  • Every other sin that a man commits outside the body, but
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  • The immoral man sins against his own body.
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  • Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy
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  • Spirit who is in--whom you have from god, and that you are not
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  • Your own?"
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  • You know, critics of christianity say, "you
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  • Christians, you're just so hung up about sex.
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  • Why do you make a big deal about sex?
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  • I mean, sex is a physiological action.
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  • It's no different than eating food or taking a drink of water
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  • Or going to sleep.
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  • It's just a function of the body.
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  • Why make a big deal about sex?"
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  • Well, sex is more than just a physiological function.
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  • There are now physical consequences of immorality.
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  • It is something that is doomed to consequences if you dabble
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  • In immorality, unwanted pregnancies, sexually
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  • Transmitted diseases are some of the things that we experience
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  • And can experience if we disobey god in this area of sexuality.
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  • For example, in romans 1:27, paul is writing about what
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  • Happens to people who reject the knowledge of the true god and
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  • Create their own god in their mind.
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  • And he talks about the spiral that leads them further
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  • Away from god.
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  • And one of the things in that downward spiral is sexual
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  • Immorality and he centers on one kind of
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  • Immorality, homosexuality.
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  • Listen to what he says in romans 1:27, "in the same way, also the
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  • Men, abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned
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  • In their desire toward one another, men with men committing
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  • Indecent acts and receiving in their own persons, their own
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  • Bodies, the due penalty of their error."
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  • Some people, and maybe rightly so, talk about sexually
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  • Transmitted disease being in paul's mind here.
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  • They receive a penalty in their own body for engaging in
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  • Immorality.
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  • And certainly there are a number of diseases that are
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  • Specifically prevalent among homosexual behavior because as
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  • Paul says in this chapter, it is unnatural.
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  • Literally, it goes against nature, but it's not just
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  • Homosexuality, it is premarital sex.
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  • It is adultery that are also condemned.
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  • Now, i know some people say, "well, that was back in
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  • Paul's day.
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  • But we're so smart today, we can prevent those kind of physical
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  • Consequences of immorality.
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  • Just use a condom."
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  • Well, i did some research this week, a little internet search
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  • To find out the statistics about condoms.
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  • Did you know condoms fail 18% of the time?
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  • Now, just imagine you went out to dfw airport, you're about to
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  • Get on board a plane and the ticket agent said on
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  • The intercom,
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  • "now before you board, you should know that there's an 18%
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  • Chance this plane is gonna crash today."
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  • How likely would you be to get on the plane?
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  • Probably not very likely.
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  • Listen, there is no safe sex when it comes to god.
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  • You cannot safely sin against god without consequences.
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  • One of those consequences may be the physical consequences, but
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  • That's not all.
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  • There are emotional consequences of immorality that leave regrets
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  • In our heart.
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  • Let me tell you my observance of more than 40 years of being
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  • A pastor.
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  • When people, single people are involved in a romance and that
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  • Romance goes south and they break up, sure, it's painful but
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  • They get over it.
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  • Eventually, some get over it quickly.
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  • But if you had introduced sex as a part of that relationship,
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  • Premarital sex, or if it's an adulterous situation that has
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  • Extramarital sex as a part of it, when you end that kind of
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  • Relationship with somebody, it causes all kind of pain, both in
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  • Their life and in your life.
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  • I've seen cases and you have too when two people involved in
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  • An illicit sexual affair, one person calls it off, the other
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  • Turns into a stalker, or engages in revenge porn, or resorts to
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  • Violence, sometimes even murder.
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  • Why do those emotions run so hot?
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  • Because sex is not just the joining of two bodies together.
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  • It's the joining together of a person in
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  • Body, soul, and spirit.
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  • And god said that about marriage in genesis 2:24, "so then they
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  • Are no longer two but one flesh.
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  • What god has joined together, let no man tear apart."
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  • And there is emotional pain that is associated with
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  • Sexual immorality.
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  • Finally, there are spiritual consequences of
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  • Sexual immorality.
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  • That's why it's different than any other kind of sin.
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  • Look at what paul says in 1 corinthians 6:19, "or do you not
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  • Know that your body is the temple of the holy spirit who is
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  • In you, whom you have from god, and that you're not your own?"
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  • When you are a christian, you have the holy spirit of god
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  • Dwelling within you.
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  • And when you sin, any kind of sin, you're asking the holy
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  • Spirit to join in that sin as well.
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  • That's why ephesians 5 says, "do not grieve the holy spirit
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  • Of god."
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  • But when you're involved in sexual sin, now this is gonna be
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  • Blasphemous to some of you, but just think about it.
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  • When you join yourself to another person, you're inviting
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  • The holy spirit of god to participate in that act of
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  • Immorality as well.
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  • You say, "well, that's impossible.
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  • The holy spirit of god can't sin.
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  • If he's in you, he can't sin."
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  • Well, where does he go, then?
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  • Does he abandon you?
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  • No, that's heresy to say that the holy spirit abandoned
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  • Somebody who's been baptized with the spirit of god.
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  • Where does he go
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  • If you're involved in sexual immorality?
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  • Listen to james 1, verse 15.
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  • He's writing to christians, by the way, he says,
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  • "when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin, and when sin
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  • Is accomplished, it brings forth death."
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  • The result of sin, especially sexual sin for a christian,
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  • Is death.
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  • That word thanatos means separation.
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  • What kind of separation is he talking about, physical death?
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  • Physical death is the separation of our spirit from our body.
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  • Do we die the moment we sin?
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  • Thankfully not, or we'd all be 6 feet under this morning.
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  • He's not talking about physical death.
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  • Well, then is he talking about spiritual death?
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  • Spiritual death is the separation of our spirit
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  • From god.
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  • Well, not if we are in christ jesus, we don't have to worry
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  • About eternal separation.
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  • What kind of death is he talking about?
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  • I believe when a christian engages in continual,
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  • Unrepentant sin, he goes into a deathlike kind of existence,
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  • Where there is a separation in some spiritual sense between
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  • That person and god.
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  • I think it's a separation jesus experienced on the cross, when
  • 00:13:30.398 --> 00:13:33.935
  • He voluntarily took on our sins.
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  • He experienced the abandonment by god.
  • 00:13:36.771 --> 00:13:40.241
  • Remember what he said, "my god, my god, why have you," what,
  • 00:13:40.241 --> 00:13:44.512
  • "forsaken me?"
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  • James is saying in some sense, when you're involved in sin,
  • 00:13:47.248 --> 00:13:50.919
  • Especially immorality and it's unrepentant sin, you are
  • 00:13:50.919 --> 00:13:56.090
  • Separated from god.
  • 00:13:56.090 --> 00:13:58.493
  • When sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.
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  • No, all sex is not like all other sin.
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  • There's a special consequence of sin, both physically,
  • 00:14:06.868 --> 00:14:11.439
  • Emotionally, and spiritually, especially sexual sin.
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  • We've got a great illustration of that straight from the bible.
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  • In 2 samuel, chapter 11, the story of king david,
  • 00:14:18.079 --> 00:14:22.550
  • Remember david's story?
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  • He was at the zenith of his power as king.
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  • He had just recovered the ark of the covenant.
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  • He had captured or defeated the northern kingdom.
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  • Jerusalem was the new capital.
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  • It had never gotten any better than what david
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  • Was experiencing.
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  • And yet at that high point, that's when temptation came.
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  • One night when he should have been out fighting with his men,
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  • He was taking some time off.
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  • He was just resting, when he looked out his window and
  • 00:14:47.308 --> 00:14:51.913
  • Noticed a beautiful woman bathing on the rooftop of
  • 00:14:51.913 --> 00:14:56.784
  • Her house.
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  • Her name was bathsheba, and you know the rest of the story.
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  • He ordered her to come over to his place.
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  • They engaged in immorality, she conceived a child, david tried
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  • To cover it up by having her husband killed.
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  • And the bible says eventually david sought and received the
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  • Forgiveness of god.
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  • But for those six to twelve months he tried to hide his sin,
  • 00:15:19.407 --> 00:15:23.544
  • He experienced physical, emotional, and spiritual
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  • Consequences of his sin.
  • 00:15:27.715 --> 00:15:29.984
  • For example, he talks about the physical consequences.
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  • It was as a result of his sin that his child, bathsheba's
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  • Child was born dead, died shortly after he was born.
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  • Not only that, they experienced the rebellion of a kingdom, a
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  • Divided nation.
  • 00:15:50.772 --> 00:15:52.273
  • All of those things were physical consequences of
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  • David's sin.
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  • And interestingly, he continued to experience those consequences
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  • After he was forgiven by god.
  • 00:16:01.549 --> 00:16:05.553
  • Not only that, there were emotional consequences for
  • 00:16:05.553 --> 00:16:08.556
  • His sin.
  • 00:16:08.556 --> 00:16:09.924
  • Listen to what he writes in psalm 32, verses 3 and 4, "when
  • 00:16:09.924 --> 00:16:14.062
  • I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away
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  • Through my groaning all day long.
  • 00:16:17.432 --> 00:16:19.934
  • For day and night your hand was heavy upon me;
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  • And my vitality was drained away as
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  • With the fever heat of the summer."
  • 00:16:26.641 --> 00:16:29.010
  • We know all about the fever heat of the summer, don't we?
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  • Isn't it just draining to even walk outside to open the door?
  • 00:16:32.847 --> 00:16:36.717
  • It just saps the energy out of you.
  • 00:16:36.717 --> 00:16:39.620
  • What david is talking about, the emotional vitality that god
  • 00:16:39.620 --> 00:16:44.892
  • Sapped out of him the moment he refused to confess his sin.
  • 00:16:44.892 --> 00:16:50.998
  • You see, worry drains us physically and emotionally.
  • 00:16:50.998 --> 00:16:57.038
  • If you're involved in sexual immorality, like david was,
  • 00:16:57.038 --> 00:17:00.641
  • You're always worried that somebody's gonna find out, or
  • 00:17:00.641 --> 00:17:04.078
  • Somebody's gonna read the text message, or somebody's gonna
  • 00:17:04.078 --> 00:17:07.281
  • Overhear a conversation.
  • 00:17:07.281 --> 00:17:09.884
  • You're afraid that if your deed is found out, you might get
  • 00:17:09.884 --> 00:17:13.721
  • Expelled from school or you might get fired from your job.
  • 00:17:13.721 --> 00:17:17.758
  • It's worry, worry, worry.
  • 00:17:17.758 --> 00:17:19.627
  • That's exactly what david experienced when he tried to
  • 00:17:19.627 --> 00:17:22.897
  • Cover over his sin.
  • 00:17:22.897 --> 00:17:24.432
  • Those were the emotional consequences, but there were
  • 00:17:24.432 --> 00:17:27.702
  • Spiritual consequences as well.
  • 00:17:27.702 --> 00:17:30.538
  • He said during that time that he didn't confess his sin,
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  • He said, "god, your heavy hand was upon me."
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  • There are some of you here, some of you watching on television,
  • 00:17:39.780 --> 00:17:43.184
  • You're feeling the heavy hand of god.
  • 00:17:43.184 --> 00:17:46.954
  • You're engaged in sin and you've covered over it instead of
  • 00:17:46.954 --> 00:17:50.992
  • Confessing it.
  • 00:17:50.992 --> 00:17:52.493
  • And you feel like the sword of damocles is hanging over
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  • Your head.
  • 00:17:55.296 --> 00:17:56.697
  • You just have this sense that god is not gonna let you get
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  • Away with this,
  • 00:18:00.434 --> 00:18:01.802
  • That discipline, punishment is coming.
  • 00:18:01.802 --> 00:18:05.039
  • And so every ache and pain you feel, every sickness you
  • 00:18:05.039 --> 00:18:08.843
  • Experience, every upheaval in your family, every financial
  • 00:18:08.843 --> 00:18:12.813
  • Setback you experience, you're thinking, is this god
  • 00:18:12.813 --> 00:18:16.651
  • Disciplining me?
  • 00:18:16.651 --> 00:18:18.486
  • That's what it means to feel the heavy hand of god.
  • 00:18:18.486 --> 00:18:22.790
  • Now, david ultimately found god's forgiveness, but
  • 00:18:22.790 --> 00:18:26.661
  • Forgiveness did not erase these painful consequences.
  • 00:18:26.661 --> 00:18:31.232
  • Why is it that god allows us to experience his grace, but that
  • 00:18:31.232 --> 00:18:36.037
  • Grace doesn't erase the consequences?
  • 00:18:36.037 --> 00:18:39.874
  • Chuck swindall has a great word about the difference between
  • 00:18:39.874 --> 00:18:43.311
  • Grace and consequences.
  • 00:18:43.311 --> 00:18:46.180
  • He writes, "grace means that god in forgiving you does not
  • 00:18:46.180 --> 00:18:50.918
  • Kill you.
  • 00:18:50.918 --> 00:18:52.320
  • Grace means that god in forgiving you gives you the
  • 00:18:52.320 --> 00:18:55.289
  • Strength to endure the consequences.
  • 00:18:55.289 --> 00:18:58.859
  • Grace frees us so that we can obey our lord.
  • 00:18:58.859 --> 00:19:02.396
  • It does not mean sin's consequences are
  • 00:19:02.396 --> 00:19:05.466
  • Automatically removed.
  • 00:19:05.466 --> 00:19:07.535
  • If i sin and in the process of sinning break my arm, when i
  • 00:19:07.535 --> 00:19:12.306
  • Find forgiveness from sin, i still have to deal with the
  • 00:19:12.306 --> 00:19:16.611
  • Broken bone."
  • 00:19:16.611 --> 00:19:19.247
  • There are some of you right now who have great regret over a
  • 00:19:19.247 --> 00:19:23.651
  • Sexual mistake you've made.
  • 00:19:23.651 --> 00:19:25.553
  • And you're wondering how can i deal with that?
  • 00:19:25.553 --> 00:19:28.689
  • Is my life gonna be miserable from here on out?
  • 00:19:28.689 --> 00:19:31.559
  • No, it doesn't have to be.
  • 00:19:31.559 --> 00:19:33.661
  • But many of you are here at this stage in your life, and you're
  • 00:19:33.661 --> 00:19:36.831
  • Wondering, how can i prevent regrets about sexuality in
  • 00:19:36.831 --> 00:19:42.603
  • The future?
  • 00:19:42.603 --> 00:19:43.971
  • And we're gonna talk about both of those.
  • 00:19:43.971 --> 00:19:46.374
  • First of all, if you are guilty of sexual immorality, number
  • 00:19:46.374 --> 00:19:51.646
  • One, acknowledge your need for god's forgiveness, acknowledge
  • 00:19:51.646 --> 00:19:57.084
  • Your need for god's forgiveness.
  • 00:19:57.084 --> 00:19:58.853
  • Now, most of us, many people, view god as some kind of
  • 00:19:58.853 --> 00:20:05.192
  • Heavenly banker.
  • 00:20:05.192 --> 00:20:07.561
  • And we view our relationship with god as a heavenly
  • 00:20:07.561 --> 00:20:11.299
  • Checking account.
  • 00:20:11.299 --> 00:20:12.667
  • I'll guarantee you nine out of ten
  • 00:20:12.667 --> 00:20:14.001
  • People think of god this way.
  • 00:20:14.001 --> 00:20:16.203
  • They think of their relationship as a checking account.
  • 00:20:16.203 --> 00:20:18.806
  • You know how a checking account works.
  • 00:20:18.806 --> 00:20:20.641
  • You're continually dealing with credits and debits, you're
  • 00:20:20.641 --> 00:20:25.479
  • Making deposits and you're making withdrawals.
  • 00:20:25.479 --> 00:20:28.883
  • And so we assume our relationship with god is the
  • 00:20:28.883 --> 00:20:31.519
  • Same way.
  • 00:20:31.519 --> 00:20:32.920
  • You know, we're making deposits in our heavenly bank account.
  • 00:20:32.920 --> 00:20:36.590
  • If we help an old lady across the street, that's
  • 00:20:36.590 --> 00:20:38.859
  • $1 that gets credited to our account.
  • 00:20:38.859 --> 00:20:42.163
  • If we give to the united way, we get $5 for given to the united
  • 00:20:42.163 --> 00:20:47.435
  • Way in heaven.
  • 00:20:47.435 --> 00:20:48.769
  • If we teach a sunday school class, we get $10 for teaching
  • 00:20:48.769 --> 00:20:53.574
  • That sunday school class.
  • 00:20:53.574 --> 00:20:54.909
  • We're making deposits in our heavenly bank account.
  • 00:20:54.909 --> 00:20:57.712
  • Unfortunately, we're also making debits, withdrawals.
  • 00:20:57.712 --> 00:21:02.516
  • You know, you honk your horn in anger on the tollway,
  • 00:21:02.516 --> 00:21:05.252
  • Somebody's trying to cut you off, that cost you a dollar.
  • 00:21:05.252 --> 00:21:08.756
  • You get mad at your mate and say something you shouldn't say,
  • 00:21:08.756 --> 00:21:11.659
  • That's $5.
  • 00:21:11.659 --> 00:21:13.561
  • You have an affair with another person, that's $100,000.
  • 00:21:13.561 --> 00:21:18.632
  • And most people think what they need to do is just make sure the
  • 00:21:18.632 --> 00:21:22.069
  • Credits exceed the debits.
  • 00:21:22.069 --> 00:21:24.638
  • That you have more deposits than withdrawals, and when you die,
  • 00:21:24.638 --> 00:21:28.175
  • If you're in the plus column, you get to go to heaven.
  • 00:21:28.175 --> 00:21:31.212
  • If the good you have outweighs the bad, you get to go
  • 00:21:31.212 --> 00:21:34.048
  • To heaven.
  • 00:21:34.048 --> 00:21:35.416
  • That's not how it works.
  • 00:21:35.416 --> 00:21:36.751
  • Here's the flaw with thinking that way, there's nothing of
  • 00:21:36.751 --> 00:21:40.821
  • Value we can deposit into our heavenly bank account.
  • 00:21:40.821 --> 00:21:45.926
  • We have nothing to deposit.
  • 00:21:45.926 --> 00:21:47.695
  • Our so called money is nothing more than monopoly money.
  • 00:21:47.695 --> 00:21:51.232
  • It's fake.
  • 00:21:51.232 --> 00:21:52.566
  • It's worthless.
  • 00:21:52.566 --> 00:21:53.934
  • Isaiah, the prophet said it this way in isaiah 64, verse 6, the
  • 00:21:53.934 --> 00:21:57.838
  • Best we can do, our righteousness is like a filthy
  • 00:21:57.838 --> 00:22:01.609
  • Rag in god's eyes.
  • 00:22:01.609 --> 00:22:04.645
  • Now, that's bad news.
  • 00:22:04.645 --> 00:22:06.180
  • Here's the worst news.
  • 00:22:06.180 --> 00:22:07.615
  • We can't make any credits in our heavenly bank account, but we
  • 00:22:07.615 --> 00:22:10.951
  • Make debits all the time.
  • 00:22:10.951 --> 00:22:13.287
  • Every hour of every day, every wrong thought we have, every
  • 00:22:13.287 --> 00:22:17.291
  • Wrong attitude we have, every wrong action we commit, all of
  • 00:22:17.291 --> 00:22:23.030
  • Those things keep adding to our sin debt.
  • 00:22:23.030 --> 00:22:26.400
  • We go further and further in the hole with god every day
  • 00:22:26.400 --> 00:22:30.304
  • That we live.
  • 00:22:30.304 --> 00:22:32.506
  • Jeffress: there's still much more i want to say about sexual
  • 00:22:36.677 --> 00:22:39.480
  • Regret, so please make sure to join us again next time for part
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  • Two of this message.
  • 00:22:43.517 --> 00:22:45.052
  • Now, in the moments we have left today, i want to share
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  • An encouraging note i received from one of our fellow viewers.
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  • Her name is cindy.
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  • She wrote, "i was saved as a young girl, but strayed
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  • For years.
  • 00:22:56.897 --> 00:22:58.232
  • I renewed my faith four years ago.
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  • Your books and your messages have helped me so much, and i
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  • Want my friends and family to have the peace of christ
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  • As well.
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  • I know i can count on you and 'pathway to victory!'"
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  • And as a result, real lives are being transformed through the
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  • Regrets from your past and preventing regrets in
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  • Jeffress: regret is one of life's most painful and
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  • Is regret.
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  • Regrets are not the problem in and of themselves, they are an
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  • Indicator of a problem that needs to be dealt with.
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  • Jeffress: historically, maybe the church has been too careful
  • 00:25:07.561 --> 00:25:10.531
  • In addressing sexual regrets.
  • 00:25:10.531 --> 00:25:13.033
  • It's an uncomfortable subject to say the least, but in a world
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  • That's so misguided by godless opinions, i'm convinced that god
  • 00:25:16.870 --> 00:25:21.542
  • Doesn't want me to be silent.
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  • So thank you for allowing me to talk about this
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  • Highly personal topic.
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  • And i hope you'll join me again next time when i continue to
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  • Outline practical ways to avoid the temptation of sexual sin.
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  • Here's a preview of what's coming up next
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  • On "pathway to victory."
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  • Jeffress: sex doesn't begin in the bedroom, it begins in
  • 00:25:42.229 --> 00:25:45.366
  • The mind.
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  • It's emotional bonding with people that leads to a physical
  • 00:25:46.700 --> 00:25:50.304
  • Bonding with people.
  • 00:25:50.304 --> 00:25:51.639
  • And so, if you're married, save your deepest emotions, your
  • 00:25:51.639 --> 00:25:57.878
  • Happiness, your disappointments, your fears, for that other
  • 00:25:57.878 --> 00:26:01.982
  • Person, your mate, not anybody else.
  • 00:26:01.982 --> 00:26:04.585
  • Proverbs 4:23 says, "watch over your heart with all diligence
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  • For from it flows the springs of life."
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  • Announcer: set your dvr and join us next time for part two of the
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