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Robert Jeffress - The Seventh Commandment - Keep Marriage Holy (Part 2)

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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - The Seventh Commandment - Keep Marriage Holy (Part 2) | June 15, 2026

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From the pulpit
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Of the first baptist church of dallas, texas,
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This is "pathway to victory" with dr. robert jeffress.
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Hi, i'm robert jeffress
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And welcome again to "pathway to victory."
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Most of us can imagine the devastating risk
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And consequences that come with committing adultery.
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Yet despite these warning signs,
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Men and women continue to step outside the limits
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Of their marriage covenant.
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Today we're going to discover what we can do
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To resist the temptation of adultery.
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My message is titled
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"the seventh commandment: keep marriage holy."
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On today's edition of "pathway to victory,"
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When we commit adultery,
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We're also sinning against our sexual partner.
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We're forcing them to become an accomplice
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To every crime we just talked about.
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They're sinning against themselves, against their god,
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And against their mate if they're married.
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It starts with mental adultery.
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Then there is physical adultery.
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And finally, james says in verse 15, there is death.
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When sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.
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What does he mean, "death"?
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Well, there's a general sense
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In which all sin ends up in physical death.
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The reason we die is because we've inherited the sin virus.
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But i think he's talking about something more here.
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Sin destroys everything important to us,
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And i can see from my own experience as a pastor
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How adultery can destroy a marriage.
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It destroys a family. it destroys a career.
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It destroys a reputation. it can destroy your ministry.
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It destroys everything that is valuable to us.
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And that's why there's so many warnings about adultery.
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Solomon, why he focused on this,
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He experienced the effects of adultery
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With his dad, king david,
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And the heartache it brought to david.
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He experienced it in his own life as well.
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Just listen to some of these warnings.
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Proverbs 6:25-26: do not desire her beauty in your heart,
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Nor let her capture you with her eyelids.
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For on account of a harlot,
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One is reduced to a loaf of bread.
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And an adulteress hunts for the precious life.
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If you ever talk to anybody
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Having to pay alimony or child support,
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Or having to divide their household,
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They'll tell you what it means
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To be reduced to a loaf of bread.
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Proverbs 6:27-29: can a man take fire
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To his bosom and his clothes not be burned?
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This is something you can't play around with.
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Can a man walk on hot coals and his feet not be scorched?
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So is the one who goes into his neighbor's wife.
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Whoever touches her will not go unpunished.
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Or here's one that's just as blunt as you can get.
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Proverbs 6:32-33:
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The one who commits adultery has no sense.
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He who would destroy himself does it,
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Disgraces his lot, and his shame will never be wiped away.
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One more warning and a note of hope.
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Ecclesiastes 7:26:
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I discovered more bitter than death is the adulterous woman
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Whose heart is snared and whose hands are chained,
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But one who is pleasing to god will escape from her,
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But the sinner will be captured by her.
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If you're a believer, adultery isn't inevitable.
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There is a way to escape from that sin,
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But you have to be intentional to do so.
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How do you avoid the devastating sin of adultery?
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Solomon said the key is proverbs 4:23.
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He wrote: watch over your heart with all diligence,
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For out of your heart flow the issues, the springs of life.
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You have to understand, in the hebrew mind,
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The heart was not the center of emotion.
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You know, today we think of hearts, valentine's day,
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It's a feeling that you have,
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But that wasn't the way the hebrews thought of it.
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So the hebrews, the seed of emotion wasn't the heart,
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But the bowels, the intestines.
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That's where you felt things deeply.
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The heart was the center of thought. it was the mind.
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That's why proverbs says, "as a man thinks in his," what?
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Heart.
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That's what we think with our heart.
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So is he.
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So when solomon says, "watch over your heart,"
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He's not just talking about your affections,
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He's talking about your mind.
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That's where it all starts.
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I want to suggest today there are five sentries,
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Five soldiers that you ought to employ to guard your heart,
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Your mind, to protect you from adultery.
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First of all, your eyes.
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Make a covenant with your eyes.
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You remember in our series "18 minutes with jesus,"
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I said that adultery in the bed
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Begins with adultery in the head.
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But it really goes back farther than that.
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It actually begins not in the mind, it begins with the eyes.
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Matthew 5:28: jesus said, "i say to you that everyone
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Who looks at a woman with lust for her
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Has already committed adultery with her in his heart."
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It's not just looking at another person,
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It's gazing at another person, staring at another person,
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Thinking about them,
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Performing a mental undressing of the other person,
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An imagined seduction and intercourse.
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That's what it means to lust after another person.
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And do that long enough and often enough,
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It's going to result in a physical act of adultery.
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And that's why job said in job 31:1:
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I made a covenant with my eyes
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Not to look lustfully to women.
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Begin with a simple agreement he had.
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I am not going to look lustfully at another person.
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He's not saying he's not going to glance at another woman.
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You can't not do that.
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But you can refuse to gaze
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And involve in those lustful thoughts.
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And by the way,
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The person doesn't have to be there in person.
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You can lust after somebody in your imagination.
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You can lust after somebody
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After looking at pornography or a movie or television.
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He said, "i'm not going to allow my eyes
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To look continually at another woman."
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The second sentry, guard, to place it your mind
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Is to avoid compromising company.
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Avoid compromising company.
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Remember 1 corinthians 15:33:
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Do not be deceived, bad company corrupts good morals.
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Remember that, bad company corrupts good morals.
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Do you remember my illustration of that?
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I got it from somebody else, but it's a great illustration.
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If it's raining outside,
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You decide to go out and work in your flower bed,
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And you put some white gloves on, what's going to happen?
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Your white gloves are going to get muddy, right?
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Never in a thousand years
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Will the mud become more glovey.
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It doesn't work that way.
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The mud doesn't become glovey, but the glove becomes muddy.
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It's the same way with hanging around sinners.
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They rub off on you.
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Especially immoral people,
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People who are engaged in adultery or fornication,
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People who talk about it, people who joke about it.
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I think that's what paul has in mind.
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Bad company corrupts good morals.
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But may i extend that to say,
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Bad company for you
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May be somebody who's just a temptation to you.
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There's something about them that attracts you to them.
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It may be somebody at work,
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And you look for every excuse you can
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To go by that person's cubicle and talk with 'em,
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Or go to their office and so forth.
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If that's true for you, need to find another path
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To the coffee room or the copying room.
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Maybe it's somebody who lives in your neighborhood
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And you figure it out when it is they get home
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Or when they're working out in the yard,
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And you time your arrival
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And drive slowly by to get a look at them.
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Find another way home to your house from work.
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Don't go the same path.
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We need to avoid compromising situations.
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Thirdly, be accountable for your time.
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That's another guard you can place
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Around your mind, your heart.
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Proverbs 16:27 in the living bible says:
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Idle hands are the devil's workshop.
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Idle lips are his mouthpiece.
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You know the problem with spare time?
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It gives you time to listen to temptations
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And maybe even succumb to temptations.
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And by the way, that is why retirement
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Can be so dangerous for people.
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Suddenly they find all of this free time on their hands
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That they're not accountable for.
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And they engage with people
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They shouldn't be engaging with on social media,
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They're rekindling relationships with people they shouldn't,
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And pretty soon they give in to immorality.
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By the way, if you think i'm making that up,
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Just look at what happened to david.
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2 samuel 11, it says:
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David was at the height of his power, he's king of israel,
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But instead of going out to fight with his men,
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He decided, "i'm too high up the chain
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To do that any longer.
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I'm going to enjoy some rest and recreation, some leisure.
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I'm going to kind of retire on the job," so to speak.
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And so while his men were out fighting,
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What was david doing?
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He was in his room looking across the way
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And seeing bathsheba bathing on the rooftop.
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He exchanged one night of pleasure for a lifetime of misery
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Because of that one night, that one mistake.
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He endured a dead son, a disloyal son,
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And a divided kingdom, all because of that mistake.
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Make sure you are accountable for your time.
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Guard your heart by watching your time.
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Number four, here's another guard
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Solomon says to put around your heart:
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Have a fresh desire for your mate.
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Let me change that word, have, to cultivate.
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Cultivate a fresh desire for your mate.
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Now, let me say a word to those of you who are married.
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It's true for everybody,
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But this is for those of you who are married.
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Everybody has a desire
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For sexual stimulation and fulfillment.
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Everybody desires that. god made us that way.
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But for those who are married, you have a choice
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Of where you find that stimulation and fulfillment.
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You can either find it inside the marriage
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That god has given you or outside the marriage.
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Your body really doesn't care where you find it.
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We just had that drive.
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But you decide where you're going to fulfill it.
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The word of god says, why not fulfill that desire for sex
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Inside the safety,
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The security of the marriage relationship?
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Listen to what solomon writes in proverbs 5:15-20:
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Drink water from your own cistern
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And fresh water from your own well.
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Should your springs be dispersed abroad,
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Streams of water in the streets,
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Let them be yours alone and not for strangers with you.
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Let your fountain be blessed
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And rejoice in the life of your youth
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As a loving hind and a graceful doe.
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Let her breast satisfy you at all times.
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Be exhilarated always with her love.
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For why should you, my son,
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Be exhilarated with an adulteress
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And embrace the bosom of a foreigner?
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Now, that's a word for all of us. that's god's wisdom.
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Think about your mate.
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There is something that drew you to that man or woman
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And caused you to marry them.
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Remind yourself of what that was,
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Rekindle whatever that was,
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And enjoy sexual stimulation and fulfillment
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The way god said to best do it.
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And that is in the marriage relationship.
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Number five, what guard can you place
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Around your heart and your mind?
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Develop a healthy fear of god.
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That's foundational, a fear of god.
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Proverbs 16:6 says:
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By the fear of the lord, one keeps away from evil.
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A fear of god is the best reason i know to say no to sin.
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Now by fear, solomon isn't talking about cowering
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And being frightened like a child is,
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But it does mean to have a healthy respect for god,
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A respect for god, an awareness of god
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In everything that you do,
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Because he has better surveillance equipment
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Than any government does.
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He watches our every step, our every action.
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And if that were not enough,
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He's able to do something that government can't do.
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He can judge. he can see our own motivations.
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Proverbs 21:2 says: god knows every motive.
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Proverbs 5:21 says: for the ways of a man
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Are before the eyes of the lord,
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And he watches all of his paths.
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I've memorized that verse.
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I think about it often.
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My ways are before god. he is watching them.
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And not only is he watching what i do,
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He's evaluating why i'm doing it.
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Proverbs 21:2 says: the lord weighs the hearts.
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Hebrews 4:12 says: god's word is able
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To judge the intentions of a person's heart.
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Never forget, god is always watching,
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He's always weighing,
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And he's always evaluating our every action.
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That's why we should cease from sin.
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Now, we've talked about the meaning of adultery,
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The progression of adultery, the avoidance of adultery.
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Let me talk finally about the aftermath of adultery.
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I realize i'm talking to many in this room,
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Many watching this broadcast,
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Your lives have been touched by adultery.
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Is there any hope for a marriage
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That has been attacked by adultery?
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Let me say, first of all, a word to the guilty.
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For those of you who are guilty of perpetrating adultery
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And introducing it into your family,
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Is there any hope for you?
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The good news is yes.
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God forgives all of our sin if we're willing to ask.
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Remember colossians 2:13-14:
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Having forgiven us of all our transgressions.
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God doesn't just forgive little sins.
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He forgives the big sins. he forgives all of our sins.
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And what did he do with our transgressions?
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He canceled out the certificate of debt.
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Remember that? the listing of all of our offenses.
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He canceled our certificate of debt
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Consisting of decrees against us, which were hostile to us.
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He took it out of the way. having done what?
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Having nailed it to the cross of jesus christ.
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When jesus said, "tetelestai," paid in full,
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He included your sin of adultery.
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Now, don't forget, with forgiveness comes a responsibility.
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Jesus said in john 8:11,
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To the woman caught in adultery,
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He said, "neither do i condemn you."
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But what? "go and sin no more."
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Yes, you can be forgiven.
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Let me say a word secondly to the innocent.
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Maybe i'm talking to somebody here
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Who's been a victim of adultery,
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Your mate has betrayed you, a parent has betrayed you.
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What is your responsibility?
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I know this is not popular.
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I know it goes against political correctness
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In our victim-focused age in which we live.
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There's not anything wrong with that.
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We ought to be compassionate to victims.
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But when we talk about victims,
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People are offended if you say the victim
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Has a responsibility too.
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But if you're the victim of sexual sin,
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You do have a responsibility and obligation.
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Forgiveness is not an option for a christian.
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It's an obligation.
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Christians are obligated
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To forgive those who sin against them.
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Ephesians 4:32 says: be kind to one another,
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Tenderhearted, forgiving one another
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Just as god in christ has forgiven you.
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Jesus said in matthew 6:
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If you forgive others, my heavenly father will forgive you.
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If you do not forgive others,
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Neither will my heavenly father forgive you.
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That's pretty clear, isn't it?
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We have a responsibility to forgive,
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Given the great sin that god has forgiven us of.
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But hear this, if you're screaming inside,
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"no, no, no, no, no."
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Remember there's a difference
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Between forgiveness and reconciliation.
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When i forgive somebody, what i do is i give up my right
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To hurt them for hurting me.
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I say, "god, you take it. you settle the score.
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I want to be free to get on with my own life."
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When we refuse to forgive,
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We hurt ourselves much more
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Than we hurt the one who hurt us.
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We're the ones holding that bitterness
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That destroys our life.
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We can forgive somebody
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Whether they ask for the forgiveness or not,
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But it's impossible to be reconciled with somebody
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Who doesn't repent and change.
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Do you see what i'm saying?
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Forgiveness depends upon me; reconciliation depends upon us.
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Forgiveness has no strings attached to it.
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Reconciliation has many strings attached to it.
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Jesus was very clear in matthew 5:32, in matthew 19:9,
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That if you have a mate who has committed adultery,
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Especially hard-hearted, unrepentant adultery,
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You have the option of divorcing.
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Jesus gave that exception for divorce,
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Except in the case of adultery.
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But even though you've got the option to divorce,
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There's not a command to divorce.
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And if you have a mate who is truly repentant of their sin,
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They're willing to change,
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They're willing to go to biblical counseling,
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Then reconciliation is always the preferred outcome.
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Not only for your sake and your mate's sake,
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But for the sake of your children and grandchildren.
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But remember, it's conditional
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Whether the reconciliation can happen.
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Forgiveness has no strings attached;
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Reconciliation has many strings attached.
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Is it possible for a marriage to survive adultery?
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The good news is yes.
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One biblical writer says,
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"marriages torpedoed by affairs need not sink.
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They can be towed into dry dock, repaired and refitted,
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And once refitted, they will sail farther
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And faster than at any previous time."
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And that's the power of god.
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Romans 8:28 says, god is able to cause all things
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To work together for good to those who love him,
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To those who are called according to his purpose.
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♪ music ♪
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The consequences of adultery are undeniably devastating.
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But if two people are sincere and willing,
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God can mend any relationship.
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The brighter our light can shine.
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Most of us grew up seeing the ten commandments posted
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In our schools and courthouses.
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So why don't we seem
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To follow those ten commandments anymore?
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In "the 10," dr. robert jeffress shows us
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These ancient truths were not given to us
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To take away our freedom,
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They were given to enhance our happiness
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And to invite us into a deeper love relationship with god.
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In a culture where moral confusion reigns,
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Where what's right is wrong and what's wrong is right,
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We desperately need to get back to the basics of morality.
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And that's exactly what the ten commandments help us do.
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"the 10" by dr. robert jeffress.
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♪ music ♪
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I know i'm speaking to someone
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Who's been deeply hurt by the sin of adultery.
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Whichever side you're on, the perpetrator or the victim,
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There is a way forward.
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Well, in recent years,
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We've seen an unprecedented rise in theft in our nation,
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But stealing is more than a civil matter,
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It's a moral failure called out in god's ten commandments.
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Stay tuned for a preview
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Of what's coming up next in our series, "the 10."
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Why does god talk about not stealing?
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There's a basic assumption here
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That, frankly, is under attack today in our country,
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And it's the assumption that people have a right,
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Not just a right,
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But a responsibility to acquire personal property.
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Set your dvr and join us next time for the message,
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"the eighth commandment: respect the property of others,"
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Here on "pathway to victory."
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Robert Jeffress - The Seventh Commandment - Keep Marriage Holy (Part 2)

June 15, 2026 | 27:29

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