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Robert Jeffress - Success Without Succession Is Failure - Secret #2 (Part 1)

July 9, 2026 | 27:29

Robert Jeffress - Success Without Succession Is Failure - Secret #2 (Part 1)
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Dr. Robert Jeffress | Robert Jeffress - Success Without Succession Is Failure - Secret #2 (Part 1) | July 9, 2026
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  • Dr. robert jeffress: hi, i'm robert jeffress and welcome
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  • Again to "pathway to victory."
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  • Without a doubt, king solomon was the wealthiest
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  • And wisest man to ever live.
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  • And gratefully we have an entire book filled with his timeless
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  • Wisdom about successful living.
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  • Today we're going to discover that we can't achieve long-term
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  • Success without mentoring and training up the next generation.
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  • You see, most people think that the finish line comes at the end
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  • Of his life when really it extends far beyond that.
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  • My message is titled, 'success without succession is failure.'
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  • As we continue studying 'the solomon secrets' here
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  • On "pathway to victory."
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  • Area of life, and the wisdom to get there is found in his word.
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  • In "the solomon's secrets," dr. robert jeffress draws on the
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  • Bring you ten life-changing principles from proverbs.
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  • Jeffress: the key to experiencing success in every
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  • Part of your life is wisdom.
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  • As someone who said that wisdom is the skill to live your life
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  • According to god's plan, according to his pattern.
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  • And the book of proverbs is really a depository of wisdom
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  • That guarantees success in every part of your life.
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  • And that's why we're studying over these 10 weeks solomon's
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  • Book of proverbs.
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  • We're looking specifically at ten keys to experiencing
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  • Extraordinary success in life.
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  • Now, the reason it's so important to get this skill
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  • Called wisdom that solomon says is more valuable than silver or
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  • Gold, the reason wisdom is important, is because god's
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  • Wisdom is often opposite of man's wisdom.
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  • And that's why i called these secrets i called them 'the
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  • Solomon secrets' ten pieces of uncommon sense.
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  • They go against the grain of conventional wisdom.
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  • Last time we looked at the first of solomon's secrets
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  • For success.
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  • Man's wisdom says, "if you wanna succeed in life,
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  • Avoid failure at all cost."
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  • No, god's wisdom says, "if you wanna succeed more in life,
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  • Fail more in life."
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  • And that goes against our wisdom.
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  • But you see, god says, "the more times you try something, yes,
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  • The more times you'll fail, but also the more times
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  • You will succeed."
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  • Well, today we're going to look at a second solomon secret for
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  • Success that's especially appropriate today.
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  • Man's wisdom says, "our influence in this world ends the
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  • Moment that we die."
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  • No, god's wisdom says, "our greatest influence on this world
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  • Continues after we die, in the children and the grandchildren
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  • We leave behind."
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  • The fact is all of us are going to die.
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  • Have you come to grips with that fact?
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  • You are going to die.
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  • And that's why it is so critical that we prepare those who follow
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  • Us to live life successfully.
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  • You know, a company ceo who does not prepare a successor for his
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  • Business, is ensuring the demise of that business in a future
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  • Generation.
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  • In the same way those of us as parents need to realize that
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  • Soon we're gonna be off life stage, and it's important that
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  • We give our children and our grandchildren the keys they need
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  • To live successfully in this life, as well as the life
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  • To come.
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  • And that's why the second solomon secret we're going to
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  • Look at today, success without succession is failure.
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  • Actually that truth comes from god's word itself.
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  • If you have your bibles, turn to proverbs chapter 22, and what i
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  • Would like to do is, i would like to take that word success
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  • And use it as an acrostic for seven keys of being a successful
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  • Mom or dad.
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  • If you wanna be a successful parent and grandparent, mark
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  • These seven steps down.
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  • The first "s" in the word "success" stands for this,
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  • Successful parents see their children as a gift from god.
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  • A successful parent, is one who sees his children as a gift
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  • From god.
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  • Now let's all be honest, being a parent can be frustrating at
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  • Times, amen.
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  • I think about the story of the mother of eight who was talking
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  • To a neighbor one morning and she said, "it got so wild and
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  • Loud around our house today, i finally said, the next person
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  • Who screams is gonna have his mouth washed out with soap."
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  • Then the mom said to her friend, "you know what?
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  • I can still taste the stuff in my mouth."
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  • A successful parent is one who doesn't see his child as an
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  • Irritant or an inconvenience, but instead sees his child as an
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  • Inheritance, a gift from god.
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  • In psalm 127 verse 3, the psalmist said, "behold, children
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  • Are a gift of the lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward."
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  • That word "gift" in hebrew is a word that literally means
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  • Inheritance.
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  • Children are an inheritance from god.
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  • In fact, that word inheritance is the same hebrew word, that
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  • Was used to describe the promised land that god gave to
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  • Israel.
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  • And that truth has three implications.
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  • The fact that children are god's gift to us, that means first of
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  • All, children are gifts of real value.
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  • Just like that piece of real estate in the middle east had
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  • Great value to the israelites, so our children
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  • Have great value to us.
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  • Secondly, children are gifts for which we will one day
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  • Be held accountable.
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  • You understand that parents?
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  • Your children are gifts for which one day, you will be held
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  • Accountable by god.
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  • 2 corinthians 5:10 reminds us that, "for we must all appear
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  • Before the judgment seat of christ, so that each one of us
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  • May be recommended for his deeds in the body, according to what
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  • He has done, whether good or bad."
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  • The fact is, those of us who are christians, are gonna be judged
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  • One day.
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  • It's a different judgment, but it's a very real judgment.
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  • It's the judgment seat of christ and at that judgment, we are
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  • Gonna be evaluated, not condemned, but evaluated by god
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  • According to what we've done with the time, the money, the
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  • Opportunities god has entrusted to us, and i believe parents,
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  • Grandparents, a part of that judgment will be what we've done
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  • With the children, the grandchildren god has entrusted
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  • To us as well.
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  • As we stand before that judgment seat of christ, i think god is
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  • Gonna ask us, did we impart to our children the skills
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  • They needed to live life successfully?
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  • Did we convince them that there are at least two people in the
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  • World who loved them unconditionally?
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  • Did we teach them not only by our word but by our example,
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  • That the most important thing in life is following
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  • And serving jesus christ?
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  • Our children are gifts for which we will one day be held
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  • Accountable and thirdly, our children are temporary gifts.
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  • One of the saddest things i ever have to do as a pastor, is to
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  • Participate to preside at the funeral service of a child
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  • Or a teenager.
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  • Rose kennedy said one time, "it is unnatural for parents
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  • To bury their children."
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  • It's one of the saddest things i ever do, and whenever a parent
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  • Loses a child, i've seen that they seem to be overwhelmed
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  • By two emotions, the first emotion is shock.
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  • They can't believe the child's gone, they can't believe that
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  • They will never look on his or her face again,
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  • At least in this life.
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  • But suddenly that shock eventually gives way to regret,
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  • Great regret over time they could've spent with the child
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  • That they didn't spend with the child.
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  • Even if your child isn't taken from you prematurely in death,
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  • They're soon gonna be leaving you, you understand that,
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  • Don't you?
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  • You only have your children for a short amount of time until
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  • They leave, go off to school, go on to pursue their own interest
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  • And build their own families.
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  • Author tim hansel claims that if you're 35 years old and live to
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  • Be 70, that means you only have 500 days left to live after you
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  • Subtract the time you spend eating, sleeping, and working.
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  • Hansel says, "when i put my life into that context, it helps me
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  • Realize that i'm a father for so short a time, i dare not take it
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  • For granted."
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  • To be a successful parent, first of all, you need to see your
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  • Children as gifts from the lord.
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  • Secondly, successful parents, the "u" stands for understand,
  • 00:10:47.670 --> 00:10:53.209
  • Accept and develop their child's bent.
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  • Understand, accept, and develop their child's bent.
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  • A successful parent is one who understands how unique his or
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  • Her child is and seeks to develop that uniqueness
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  • And maximize it.
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  • Our friend, dr. james dobson says, "each child is
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  • Hand-stitched by the lord, not mass manufactured
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  • In some sweat shop."
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  • Their personality is cut from a unique bolt of cloth.
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  • Like snowflakes and pink fingerprints,
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  • No two children are alike.
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  • Solomon understood that truth.
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  • Look at proverbs 22 verse 6, this is one of the most familiar
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  • Verses about parenting in all of the bible.
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  • Most of us can say it by heart, and yet most people don't have a
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  • Clue what it really means and have actually misapplied it,
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  • And caused themselves unnecessary guilt as parents.
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  • You know what proverbs 22:6 says, "train up a child in the
  • 00:11:49.298 --> 00:11:52.635
  • Way he should go and when he is old,
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  • He will not depart from it."
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  • Do you know how most people interpret that verse?
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  • They think it means, if you instill godly values in your
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  • Child and even if your child rebels against you or god,
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  • They will return to a right relationship with god.
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  • "train up a child in the way he should go
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  • And he will not depart from it."
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  • The only problem with that application is,
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  • We all know it's not true.
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  • I mean, we all can point to instances in other people's
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  • Families, perhaps in our family.
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  • Where a child went to church all the time, they had godly values
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  • Instilled in them, they rebelled against those values and they
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  • Never returned to the faith.
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  • Parents are disillusioned by that.
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  • "god, could you not keep your promise in proverb 22:6,
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  • What happened?
  • 00:12:46.455 --> 00:12:48.691
  • Well, the fact is, that is a complete misapplication
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  • Of proverbs 22 verse 6.
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  • Proverbs 22:6 is not talking about instilling the right
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  • Values in your children so that they don't depart
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  • When they get older from them.
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  • The key to understanding this verse correctly, is
  • 00:13:02.972 --> 00:13:05.574
  • Understanding that phrase, "in the way he should go," that's
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  • Not talking about the moral or spiritual direction.
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  • That phrase in the way he should go is a hebrew phrase, that
  • 00:13:13.015 --> 00:13:16.218
  • Could be translated, "according to his natural bent."
  • 00:13:16.218 --> 00:13:20.656
  • That is, train your child according to his natural
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  • Inclinations because even when he is an old person, he will
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  • Still follow those inclinations.
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  • It's talking about your child's uniqueness.
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  • What solomon is saying is this, "if your child is more cerebral
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  • Than athletic, it doesn't matter how many sports activities your
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  • Child is enrolled in, he will always veer toward the academic
  • 00:13:43.712 --> 00:13:47.516
  • Rather than the athletic.
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  • If your child is born as a leader, they'll be a leader on
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  • The third grade playground, just like they will be when they're
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  • An adult.
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  • They'll have that inclination toward leadership.
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  • If your child is inclined toward music, he or she will always
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  • Have that draw, that inclination that will draw them to the piano
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  • Bench.
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  • Train up a child in the way he should go because when he's old
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  • He's not going to depart from it.
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  • My father was an accordion player, and when i was five
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  • Years old, i went to my dad and i said, dad, can i start playing
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  • The accordion like you did?
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  • I wanted to be like my dad.
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  • And so he said, "okay."
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  • And he enrolled me in lessons and i took lessons for 20 years,
  • 00:14:32.528 --> 00:14:35.331
  • I played the accordion when i was a child and a teenager and
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  • Through college i made my money in high school and college
  • 00:14:39.768 --> 00:14:42.771
  • Playing at weddings and bar mitzvahs and other places i care
  • 00:14:42.771 --> 00:14:45.274
  • Not to mention, but that's how i made my money.
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  • By the way you know, people ask me all
  • 00:14:50.579 --> 00:14:51.914
  • The time, they say, "how is it?
  • 00:14:51.914 --> 00:14:53.782
  • You go on national television, these people yell at you, and
  • 00:14:53.782 --> 00:14:56.485
  • Scream at you, and it doesn't seem to bother you or people
  • 00:14:56.485 --> 00:14:59.822
  • Write these horrible things about you in the newspaper and
  • 00:14:59.822 --> 00:15:01.824
  • It doesn't seem to face you."
  • 00:15:01.824 --> 00:15:03.359
  • Let me tell you something, when you grow up playing the
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  • Accordion, you learn not to care what anybody thinks about you.
  • 00:15:06.061 --> 00:15:10.499
  • Man it's great training for the ministry?
  • 00:15:11.533 --> 00:15:16.438
  • Well, that was my bent, that was my inclination.
  • 00:15:16.438 --> 00:15:20.109
  • So you know, when my girls were growing up, no, i didn't make
  • 00:15:20.109 --> 00:15:23.879
  • Them take accordion lessons, but i thought, well, surely they
  • 00:15:23.879 --> 00:15:27.349
  • Would be interested in music so we enrolled julia and dorothy in
  • 00:15:27.349 --> 00:15:30.452
  • Piano lessons and you know, dorothy enjoyed 'em a little
  • 00:15:30.452 --> 00:15:33.422
  • More than julia did, and julia tried for a while, but you know,
  • 00:15:33.422 --> 00:15:37.559
  • It was just world war iii around our house trying to get our
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  • Girls to practice and to keep their assignments.
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  • You know what the happiest day in our house was if you'd ask
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  • Our girls?
  • 00:15:45.300 --> 00:15:46.935
  • It was the day i allowed them to quit taking piano lessons.
  • 00:15:46.935 --> 00:15:50.706
  • The fact is, they had their own interests.
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  • Dorothy, in acting, julia in athletic pursuits.
  • 00:15:52.975 --> 00:15:56.478
  • You know, you hear a lot today, especially these last couple
  • 00:15:56.478 --> 00:15:59.081
  • Years about tiger moms.
  • 00:15:59.081 --> 00:16:01.417
  • You know, tiger moms, these moms who are almost militant about
  • 00:16:01.417 --> 00:16:05.621
  • Training their children and getting them into the right
  • 00:16:05.621 --> 00:16:08.557
  • Lessons and insisting on excellence.
  • 00:16:08.557 --> 00:16:10.859
  • Being a tiger mom is great as long as you're helping your
  • 00:16:10.859 --> 00:16:16.098
  • Child develop their interest and not your interest.
  • 00:16:16.098 --> 00:16:20.102
  • As long as you're not trying to live your life through them.
  • 00:16:20.102 --> 00:16:23.972
  • What solomon is saying, understand your children.
  • 00:16:23.972 --> 00:16:27.309
  • Train them according to their natural inclination.
  • 00:16:27.309 --> 00:16:30.879
  • Do you know, by the way, your child's unique bent?
  • 00:16:30.879 --> 00:16:33.549
  • I wish i had time to center on this, but dr. john maxwell lists
  • 00:16:33.549 --> 00:16:37.553
  • Ten questions that every parent or grandparents should be able
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  • To answer about his child.
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  • Number one, what gives my child joy?
  • 00:16:43.125 --> 00:16:46.462
  • Who is my child's hero?
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  • Third, what does my child fear the most?
  • 00:16:49.264 --> 00:16:52.201
  • Fourth, what activities give my child energy?
  • 00:16:52.201 --> 00:16:55.904
  • Five, what activities wear my child out?
  • 00:16:55.904 --> 00:16:59.575
  • Number six.
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  • If my child got to choose this year's vacation, where would
  • 00:17:01.009 --> 00:17:03.712
  • They want to go?
  • 00:17:03.712 --> 00:17:05.681
  • Number seven, if my child could pick one activity for me to do
  • 00:17:05.681 --> 00:17:08.817
  • With him, what would it be?
  • 00:17:08.817 --> 00:17:10.752
  • Number eight, what kind of music does my child like?
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  • Number nine, other than going to school or sleeping,
  • 00:17:14.223 --> 00:17:16.925
  • What does my child spend most time doing each week?
  • 00:17:16.925 --> 00:17:19.995
  • Number 10, what does my child want to be when he
  • 00:17:19.995 --> 00:17:22.464
  • Or she grows up?
  • 00:17:22.464 --> 00:17:23.899
  • Could you answer those questions about your child?
  • 00:17:23.899 --> 00:17:26.735
  • Shakespeare once said, "it is a wise parent
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  • Who knows his child."
  • 00:17:29.972 --> 00:17:32.107
  • Solomon said, "it is a successful parent who knows,
  • 00:17:32.107 --> 00:17:35.978
  • Understands, develops and maximizes
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  • His child's unique bent."
  • 00:17:40.249 --> 00:17:44.253
  • Number three, successful parents the "c" stands for commit to
  • 00:17:44.253 --> 00:17:49.091
  • Lead their children to christ.
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  • Successful parents, number three, commit to lead their
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  • Children to christ.
  • 00:17:55.063 --> 00:17:58.167
  • A visitor was at the state of english poet samuel taylor
  • 00:17:58.167 --> 00:18:02.671
  • Coleridge, and they got into an argument and this visitor said
  • 00:18:02.671 --> 00:18:06.008
  • To coleridge, "i don't think parents ought to interfere with
  • 00:18:06.008 --> 00:18:08.911
  • Their kids' spiritual development, i don't think
  • 00:18:08.911 --> 00:18:11.613
  • Parents ought to religiously indoctrinate their children,
  • 00:18:11.613 --> 00:18:15.517
  • Instead, they ought to let them grow however they wanna grow
  • 00:18:15.517 --> 00:18:18.187
  • Without any interference from them."
  • 00:18:18.187 --> 00:18:20.856
  • Coleridge didn't say anything in response instead, he invited his
  • 00:18:20.856 --> 00:18:23.892
  • Visitor to come out back to look at the garden he had prepared.
  • 00:18:23.892 --> 00:18:27.596
  • And when they got to the so-called garden, the visitor
  • 00:18:27.596 --> 00:18:30.165
  • Pointed at it and said, "that's not a garden, that's just a
  • 00:18:30.165 --> 00:18:32.501
  • Patch of weeds."
  • 00:18:32.501 --> 00:18:34.836
  • Coleridge said, "well, it used to be a garden, but then i
  • 00:18:34.836 --> 00:18:38.440
  • Decided to let it grow however it wanted to grow without any
  • 00:18:38.440 --> 00:18:42.644
  • Interference from me."
  • 00:18:42.644 --> 00:18:45.414
  • The fact is, our responsibility as a parent is to teach
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  • Our children.
  • 00:18:48.483 --> 00:18:50.719
  • It is to allow them to come to faith in jesus christ.
  • 00:18:50.719 --> 00:18:54.890
  • And we see that in solomon's words as well in proverbs
  • 00:18:54.890 --> 00:18:57.359
  • Chapter 4, solomon encourages his children to follow the same
  • 00:18:57.359 --> 00:19:01.797
  • Spiritual teaching he had received from his father david.
  • 00:19:01.797 --> 00:19:06.535
  • It wasn't passive, it was very intentional.
  • 00:19:06.535 --> 00:19:09.838
  • In proverbs 4 verses 3 to 4, solomon said, "when i was a son
  • 00:19:09.838 --> 00:19:13.075
  • To my father, tender and the only son in the sight of my
  • 00:19:13.075 --> 00:19:16.311
  • Mother, then he taught me and said to me, 'let your heart hold
  • 00:19:16.311 --> 00:19:20.249
  • Fast my words; keep my commandments and live.'"
  • 00:19:20.249 --> 00:19:26.355
  • Solomon said, "i learned invaluable spiritual truth
  • 00:19:26.355 --> 00:19:30.559
  • From both my mother and my father."
  • 00:19:30.559 --> 00:19:33.895
  • And you remember who his father was.
  • 00:19:33.895 --> 00:19:36.298
  • Solomon's father was king david.
  • 00:19:36.298 --> 00:19:39.167
  • King david had a phd from the university of hard knocks.
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  • There're many things he taught his son, but you remember who
  • 00:19:43.472 --> 00:19:47.175
  • Solomon's mother was, woman named bathsheba.
  • 00:19:47.175 --> 00:19:52.948
  • Wasn't the first child bathsheba had that child died, but
  • 00:19:52.948 --> 00:19:56.118
  • Eventually solomon was the product of david and bathsheba.
  • 00:19:56.118 --> 00:20:02.190
  • Imagine what a scandal that must have been.
  • 00:20:02.190 --> 00:20:05.227
  • Remember david had engaged in this adulterous relationship
  • 00:20:05.227 --> 00:20:08.330
  • With bathsheba, had her husband at that time uriah killed.
  • 00:20:08.330 --> 00:20:12.968
  • It was the kingdom scandal of the day.
  • 00:20:12.968 --> 00:20:16.371
  • And yet david after refusing to confess that failure, finally
  • 00:20:16.371 --> 00:20:21.410
  • Came to a point of repentance and found god's forgiveness.
  • 00:20:21.410 --> 00:20:26.181
  • And i believe of all of the lessons that david taught his
  • 00:20:26.181 --> 00:20:29.351
  • Son solomon, the most important lesson was this, when you fail,
  • 00:20:29.351 --> 00:20:36.425
  • God is willing to forgive, if you're willing to ask.
  • 00:20:36.425 --> 00:20:41.163
  • He taught his son where to go to experience god's forgiveness
  • 00:20:41.163 --> 00:20:44.366
  • In his life.
  • 00:20:44.366 --> 00:20:45.834
  • In psalm 32 verses 1 and 2, david said, "how blessed,"
  • 00:20:45.834 --> 00:20:48.837
  • How happy, "is he whose transgression is forgiven,
  • 00:20:48.837 --> 00:20:52.107
  • Whose sin is covered!
  • 00:20:52.107 --> 00:20:53.642
  • How blessed is the man to whom the lord does not," count or,
  • 00:20:53.642 --> 00:20:57.045
  • "impute iniquity and in whose spirit there is no deceit."
  • 00:20:57.045 --> 00:21:02.751
  • Mom, dad, grandmother, grandfather, do your children
  • 00:21:02.751 --> 00:21:06.988
  • Know how to experience god's forgiveness?
  • 00:21:06.988 --> 00:21:11.026
  • Do you recognize the fact that that child you look across the
  • 00:21:11.026 --> 00:21:15.097
  • Breakfast table at every morning, do you realize that
  • 00:21:15.097 --> 00:21:17.933
  • Unless something happens in that child's life and he comes
  • 00:21:17.933 --> 00:21:21.370
  • To faith in christ, that he is headed for an eternity of
  • 00:21:21.370 --> 00:21:24.706
  • Separation from god?
  • 00:21:24.706 --> 00:21:26.908
  • The most important task we have as parents, is leading our
  • 00:21:26.908 --> 00:21:30.345
  • Children to faith in christ.
  • 00:21:30.345 --> 00:21:32.381
  • Successful parents commit to leading their children
  • 00:21:32.381 --> 00:21:35.917
  • To faith in christ.
  • 00:21:35.917 --> 00:21:37.486
  • You say, "well, how do we do that?"
  • 00:21:37.486 --> 00:21:39.388
  • Let me give you three practical ideas for leading your child
  • 00:21:39.388 --> 00:21:42.524
  • To christ.
  • 00:21:42.524 --> 00:21:43.859
  • Number one, pray for your children's salvation regularly.
  • 00:21:43.859 --> 00:21:48.063
  • Pray for your children, pray for your grandchildren that they
  • 00:21:48.063 --> 00:21:50.465
  • Would come to faith in christ.
  • 00:21:50.465 --> 00:21:52.367
  • We find a great example of that in the old testament story
  • 00:21:52.367 --> 00:21:54.603
  • Of hannah.
  • 00:21:54.603 --> 00:21:56.104
  • Remember, hannah had been barren for many years, she prayed that
  • 00:21:56.104 --> 00:21:59.374
  • God would give her a child and god answered that prayer, but
  • 00:21:59.374 --> 00:22:03.078
  • Hannah didn't quit praying for her new son samuel at that
  • 00:22:03.078 --> 00:22:05.881
  • Point, she kept praying that god would do something magnificent
  • 00:22:05.881 --> 00:22:09.785
  • With him, and specifically that god would reveal himself to
  • 00:22:09.785 --> 00:22:14.089
  • Samuel her son.
  • 00:22:14.089 --> 00:22:16.158
  • In 1 samuel 3 verse 21 we find that god answered that prayer,
  • 00:22:16.158 --> 00:22:19.995
  • He revealed himself to samuel at a young age.
  • 00:22:19.995 --> 00:22:23.932
  • And that leads to the second step, be open to your child's
  • 00:22:23.932 --> 00:22:28.236
  • Salvation.
  • 00:22:28.236 --> 00:22:30.105
  • Be open to your child's salvation at an early age.
  • 00:22:30.105 --> 00:22:36.278
  • Once i was talking to very well known, bible teacher, many of
  • 00:22:36.278 --> 00:22:42.651
  • You hear him on the radio every day, and i asked him the
  • 00:22:42.651 --> 00:22:46.488
  • Question, i said, how much do you think a child has to
  • 00:22:46.488 --> 00:22:49.257
  • Understand in order to be saved?
  • 00:22:49.257 --> 00:22:53.428
  • And he looked at me with a blank look and he said, "well, robert,
  • 00:22:53.428 --> 00:22:57.866
  • Salvation is an adult decision."
  • 00:22:57.866 --> 00:23:02.938
  • It's an adult decision.
  • 00:23:02.938 --> 00:23:04.973
  • What are you talking about children?
  • 00:23:04.973 --> 00:23:06.541
  • No, this is something for adults."
  • 00:23:06.541 --> 00:23:08.243
  • Unfortunately, there are many christian parents who have
  • 00:23:08.243 --> 00:23:11.279
  • Bought into that concept.
  • 00:23:11.279 --> 00:23:13.415
  • In just a few minutes, we're gonna have an invitation time
  • 00:23:13.415 --> 00:23:15.517
  • Perhaps you've had this experience.
  • 00:23:15.517 --> 00:23:17.352
  • Your child, your grandchild at the invitation time says, "i
  • 00:23:17.352 --> 00:23:20.655
  • Wanna come forward, i wanna trust in christ as my savior, i
  • 00:23:20.655 --> 00:23:23.658
  • Wanna be a christian," and you say, "oh no, you're too young to
  • 00:23:23.658 --> 00:23:27.963
  • Do that."
  • 00:23:27.963 --> 00:23:29.297
  • See, we've bought into this idea, this false idea that
  • 00:23:29.297 --> 00:23:32.767
  • Children need to be like adults before they can be saved.
  • 00:23:32.767 --> 00:23:36.738
  • Just the opposite.
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  • Jeffress: as parents, we long to see our children develop a
  • 00:23:42.978 --> 00:23:46.314
  • Meaningful relationship with jesus christ and it begins by
  • 00:23:46.314 --> 00:23:50.385
  • Modeling our faith at home.
  • 00:23:50.385 --> 00:23:53.321
  • My late seminary professor, dr. howard hendricks, used to say,
  • 00:23:53.321 --> 00:23:57.359
  • "we cannot impart that which we do not possess."
  • 00:23:57.359 --> 00:24:02.163
  • As we conclude today, let me give a special word of thanks to
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  • Our pathway partners.
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  • Announcer: all around us, people are struggling in their
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  • Jeffress: solomon had more wealth and opportunity than
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  • And he discovered that real success only comes when you
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  • With "pathway to victory."
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  • Your generosity puts god's word in front of people at the exact
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  • Moment they need it most, bringing life-changing hope of
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  • The gospel to a world that's searching for truth.
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  • Together, we're piercing the darkness
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  • With the light of god's word.
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  • Jeffress: i'm certain that there is no shortage of
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  • Parenting books in your local bookstore, but the greatest
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  • Parenting advice of all comes from our heavenly father.
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  • And god's timeless wisdom is what we find here
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  • In the book of proverbs.
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  • Raising a child may look a lot different now than it did in
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  • Solomon's day, but at its core, the principles
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  • Remain the very same.
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  • Make plans to join us again next time, when we finish up this
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  • Acrostic for success that we began on today's program.
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  • Stay tuned for a preview of what's coming up next on
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  • "pathway to victory."
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  • Jeffress: it takes time, to communicate spiritual truth to
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  • Your children, to lead them to faith in christ, to understand,
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  • Develop, and maximize through your child's bed it takes time.
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  • It takes a quality of time but it also takes
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  • A quantity of time.
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  • Unfortunately, many parents today aren't spending time
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  • With their children.
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  • Announcer: set your dvr and join us next time for part two
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  • Of the message, "success without succession is failure,"
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  • Here on "pathway to victory."
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