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Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You Feel Loved? | The Love Language That Matters Most

January 16, 2026 | S1 E2 | 26:59

Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You Feel Loved? | The Love Language That Matters Most
In this long-awaited follow-up, Dr. Chapman and Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott take the world-changing concept of the 5 Love Languages® one step further. They reveal why love often gets lost in translation—and how learning to speak the right dialect at the right time is the key to deeper connection.
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| Gary Chapman and Les & Leslie Parrott: How Do You Feel Loved? | The Love Language That Matters Most | January 16, 2026
  • Oh my goodness.
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  • I've known about love languages for several years.
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  • I've known about love languages for 20 years, i think.
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  • I don't remember when the book first came out, but i was young.
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  • I've known about love languages for a long time.
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  • It's been around forever,
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  • And when it became really popular,
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  • Everybody was reading it and talking about it.
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  • We were just talking about this and how it's kind of evolved
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  • From the beginning of our marriage until now,
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  • I think right now.
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  • Quality time is definitely at the top
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  • Of my my list and probably physical touch a little bit.
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  • I have two main love languages physical touch and words
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  • Of encouragement.
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  • Know my wife's love language that she vocalizes
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  • Is physical touch.
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  • My love language is acts of service, and my love
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  • Languages are words of affirmation and physical touch.
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  • So i think i'm learning that she needs hugs and i need to just
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  • Oh, hey, let me give you a hug.
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  • You sitting on the couch watching tv,
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  • She wants her feet to be touched. a rug.
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  • I have surprised people with hugs before because i squeeze
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  • A hug very firmly.
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  • I almost probably show more acts of service for him than i do.
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  • Words of affirmation or physical touch.
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  • So i need to be better about that.
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  • I think that we are doing well and can always use improvement.
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  • It's about progress, not perfection.
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  • I would say.
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  • I'd say 75%.
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  • I could use a lot more hugs. that's what.
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  • That's what that means. but you know, i'm not expecting.
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  • But you know,
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  • I'm very encouraged by what has happened
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  • Out of the original five love language book.
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  • It's all over the world, over 50 translations
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  • And over 20 million copies sold.
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  • Obviously that is very rewarding to me
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  • To know that we've touched that many people's lives.
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  • But i do believe that a lot of people have read the book,
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  • And for one reason or another, they've missed a lot of issues.
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  • And that's why this book, the love language that matters most,
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  • Is going to be really important. among those things,
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  • We're going to share the dialects of these languages
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  • Because it's not just the language, it's
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  • Also the specific dialect of that language.
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  • One of the things people have asked me is,
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  • How does this interface with our personality?
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  • How your personality affects how and when you speak
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  • The five love languages of another person.
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  • So i think this book is going to add an awful lot to those
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  • Who already read the original book.
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  • They're going to find this one extremely helpful.
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  • On this episode of
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  • The love language that matters most
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  • Is going to be, i think, the funnest one.
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  • Okay.
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  • And because it's yours, i can go, okay,
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  • I'm just saying i'm just saying
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  • This is just going to be fun, okay?
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  • I don't need to go in any more detail than that.
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  • Especially to you. it's going to be fun.
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  • Is basically physical touch.
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  • Yeah.
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  • Doctor chapman, break this down.
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  • Because we're going into dialects of physical touch.
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  • Apparently, you can do it right and wrong.
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  • What say you, sir?
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  • Well, we've long understood the power of physical touch.
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  • That's why we pick up babies.
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  • Hold them.
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  • Kiss them and cuddle them
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  • Long before they understand the meaning of the word love.
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  • They feel love by physical touch.
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  • So this is not only a language for a child,
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  • But it's also language for some adults.
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  • All of us need physical touch.
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  • I should say affirming physical touch,
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  • Because physical abuse obviously is the opposite of this.
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  • And so
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  • But for some people, it's physical touch is their primary
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  • Love language.
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  • But again, they're different.
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  • What we're calling dialects that is different ways
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  • To touch people in affirming way.
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  • You know, one of the simplest ways to give a high five.
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  • You can do that for anybody.
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  • But for some people that that's very meaningful to them.
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  • Right here buddy. yeah.
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  • Yeah.
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  • Okay. that was awkward.
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  • Yeah.
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  • Instead of just talking to them, you give them a high five.
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  • I mean, that feels good to them, you know?
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  • So, and what we discovered, there's,
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  • There's a number of different dialects in terms of speaking,
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  • Physical touch.
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  • And you can share some of those as we go along here.
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  • But there's a lot of them.
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  • We're diving into the love language of physical touch.
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  • There are numerous types of physical touch.
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  • However, we've found that there are seven dialects
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  • Within physical touch to help
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  • You understand and express this love language.
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  • There's affectionate touch like cuddling, holding hands,
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  • Restorative touch, a foot massage or squeezing shoulders.
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  • Comforting touch like holding hands during a difficult time.
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  • Romantic touch stroking hair or kissing.
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  • Playful touch like a tickle war or play fighting.
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  • Protective touch
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  • Like safeguarding your loved one from harm
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  • And expressive touch.
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  • This underscores
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  • A message beyond words like a gentle touch to the cheek.
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  • When you learn which of these seven touches
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  • Mean the most to your loved one, physical touch becomes
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  • More than a gesture.
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  • It becomes a language of the heart.
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  • But understanding what those dialects are
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  • And which one or 2 or 3 is most meaningful to them,
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  • It's going to help you be effective, because otherwise
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  • You can touch them in a way they don't want to be touched.
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  • That's that's not that's not their dialect.
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  • And so learning how to do it effectively.
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  • And that's what this book's all about,
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  • Is helping people effectively meet the other person's
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  • Emotional need for love.
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  • We met at college.
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  • Luke didn't know that i existed for a while,
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  • But i was obsessed with him for a little while.
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  • I had been a single mom of two for 13 years.
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  • I had been a single dad for 13 years.
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  • We met at biola university, and that was about 54 years ago.
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  • I was 19 and she was 17.
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  • I saw this guy and i said, oh, i would like to
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  • Go with that guy.
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  • He looks kind of fun.
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  • He had big bushy hair and a big mustache.
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  • You know that this is the early 70s.
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  • Okay, i had a short conversation.
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  • We talked.
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  • We had all these mutual friends
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  • Come up to us, and i realized that
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  • Maybe we were one degree of separation. yeah.
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  • My first marriage started in 1999 and ended in 2007.
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  • My first marriage started in 99 and ended in 2007.
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  • Then we met eight years ago.
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  • Nine years ago
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  • When we got married, we blended a family, had five teenagers.
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  • What's so
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  • Interesting is my love language changed.
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  • Originally i was a quality time person taking this test
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  • And realizing, oh wow, physical touch is very important to me.
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  • That was pretty surprising.
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  • We hadn't looked at it for a while and without looking
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  • You said yours was touch and mine affirmation just.
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  • And we took the whole thing again.
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  • And guess what? it was?
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  • I think it's what it is
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  • For me because i don't value
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  • Touch as much.
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  • It's made me more conscious of of karen and what,
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  • What her needs are.
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  • The physical touch for me
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  • Is just an active way of showing her love.
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  • You know, i playfully call her mom sometimes, or whatever.
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  • I mean, that's obviously not her role in my life, but
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  • It's my love language. physical touch can be
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  • So many different things, right?
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  • But the comforting touch, again, for me is a way to say,
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  • I'm with you.
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  • I'm experiencing so many emotions
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  • And so many things are happening in my head and in my heart.
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  • But when luke is able to hold my hand
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  • To give me, you know, a tight hug, he's physically showing.
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  • There may be a lot happening.
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  • But like, i'm here, i'm your foundation.
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  • It takes me back to just the part of my life
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  • Where i most felt loved, i think.
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  • And when she replicates that,
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  • It's just i could stay in it all day.
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  • Yeah.
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  • There's a premium assessment
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  • That we designed to go along with this book.
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  • And,
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  • You can do either one of them independent,
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  • But they're kind of work hand in hand.
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  • And, speaking of hand in hand physical touch, let's
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  • See what i did there.
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  • Layers.
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  • Yeah. that's right.
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  • So there's seven different kind of dialects
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  • When it comes to touch.
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  • Let me just mention some of them comforting touch.
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  • Now we all want comforting touch.
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  • But some people really groove on that.
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  • Right. playful touch.
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  • You know, that might be tickling or poking.
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  • We were at a speaking engagement in nashville together
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  • Not very long ago, and one woman said,
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  • That's my physical touch, is my love language.
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  • I'm all about that.
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  • And her husband mistakenly thought that meant playful touch
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  • For her.
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  • That was the very last dialect, you know.
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  • Don't tickle me. so he was doing it wrong? yeah.
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  • It was.
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  • His heart was in the right place.
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  • Yeah, but he wasn't filling up her love tank.
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  • You know what i mean?
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  • Okay. protective touch.
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  • That's a really important one.
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  • In fact, a little while ago, we were in downtown seattle.
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  • It was late at night.
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  • We'd had dinner with some folks, and we were walking
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  • Back to our place, and, i just said, hey, get over here.
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  • And, i just saw some stuff up ahead.
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  • And she goes, i feel so loved when you do that.
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  • That really makes me feel protected.
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  • Right?
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  • That█s protective touch, restorative touch.
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  • I know that's your number one dialect.
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  • According to your report. and this is your love.
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  • Are you making that up? now, are you just.
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  • Are you for real? this one exactly?
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  • Restorative.
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  • This is not your report, but restorative touch is,
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  • You want me to get your report out?
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  • I█ll believe you i guess.
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  • But i thought you were making that up.
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  • No, it really is. all right.
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  • And so that means... i'm listening...
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  • Laurie needs to get really adept at speaking your love language.
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  • Physical touch,
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  • Which is yours, with that dialect of restorative touch.
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  • And that means, talk a little bit about it.
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  • I don█t know that means to you in particular, but it could mean
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  • You know, it's a foot massage after you walked ten miles
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  • That day
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  • Touching your shoulders, just kind of a back rub or whatever.
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  • It is a gentle thing.
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  • It's anything that kind of gets me to like, kind of.
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  • It just restores me.
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  • Yes. rejuvenating. yeah.
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  • There's expressive touch, you know, there's romantic touch.
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  • And then there is affectionate touch.
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  • So we highlight what all those are in
  • 00:11:12.294 --> 00:11:15.264
  • This as well as in the book.
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  • I will tell you, this physical touch is something it's
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  • Not our primary love language either one of us.
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  • But boy is it important because we learned a lesson
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  • About the value of touch.
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  • 24 years ago.
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  • How old is john?
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  • Yeah.
  • 00:11:32.214 --> 00:11:33.082
  • No, actually, 27 years ago. what?
  • 00:11:33.082 --> 00:11:36.185
  • Yes, 27.
  • 00:11:36.185 --> 00:11:38.521
  • He's in graduate school, and, but he was born a micro preemie.
  • 00:11:38.521 --> 00:11:42.691
  • That's right. and, tell that story about. yeah.
  • 00:11:42.691 --> 00:11:45.327
  • And as gary said,
  • 00:11:45.327 --> 00:11:46.462
  • Because one of the things, you know, he wasn't growing,
  • 00:11:46.462 --> 00:11:49.298
  • He wasn't thriving a pound and a half, faced multiple
  • 00:11:49.298 --> 00:11:52.668
  • Surgeries, a micro preemie, really struggling.
  • 00:11:52.668 --> 00:11:56.372
  • And they taught us something.
  • 00:11:56.372 --> 00:11:58.674
  • It's called kangaroo care.
  • 00:11:58.674 --> 00:12:00.776
  • And it has to do
  • 00:12:00.776 --> 00:12:01.911
  • With taking those little infants that are so frail,
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  • But having them receive that human touch
  • 00:12:05.714 --> 00:12:08.784
  • Because they're on tubes and, you know, and isolates,
  • 00:12:08.784 --> 00:12:12.888
  • They call them isolates trying to keep them alive,
  • 00:12:12.888 --> 00:12:16.792
  • But they can't grow and function without the power of human.
  • 00:12:16.792 --> 00:12:20.729
  • This little guy was so small.
  • 00:12:20.729 --> 00:12:22.464
  • He was a pound, little over a pound.
  • 00:12:22.464 --> 00:12:24.633
  • And a nurse said, if he survives,
  • 00:12:24.633 --> 00:12:26.335
  • You're going to want a mile marker.
  • 00:12:26.335 --> 00:12:28.003
  • She had me take off this wedding band
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  • And slip it over his entire hand,
  • 00:12:30.206 --> 00:12:32.741
  • Say up to his shoulder when he was about a month old
  • 00:12:32.741 --> 00:12:35.845
  • And they didn't think he'd make it.
  • 00:12:35.845 --> 00:12:37.479
  • Well, like i said, he's 27 years.
  • 00:12:37.479 --> 00:12:40.082
  • Yes, like you said in graduate school.
  • 00:12:40.082 --> 00:12:42.284
  • Yes. days.
  • 00:12:42.284 --> 00:12:43.319
  • But part of his restoration was kangaroo care.
  • 00:12:43.319 --> 00:12:47.323
  • And i remember we couldn't do it
  • 00:12:47.323 --> 00:12:48.691
  • For an extended period of time.
  • 00:12:48.691 --> 00:12:50.426
  • But to rest him on my chest
  • 00:12:50.426 --> 00:12:52.027
  • In the hospital and lean back on that.
  • 00:12:52.027 --> 00:12:54.496
  • And so touch is so valuable.
  • 00:12:54.496 --> 00:12:56.999
  • It's like a
  • 00:12:56.999 --> 00:12:58.200
  • There's like it's i've heard poets talk about touch it█s like
  • 00:12:58.200 --> 00:13:01.470
  • A leaf of, a blade of grass, and we're just so sensitive
  • 00:13:01.470 --> 00:13:05.441
  • To touch.
  • 00:13:05.441 --> 00:13:06.508
  • But some people's love tank is really filled up.
  • 00:13:06.508 --> 00:13:09.445
  • Do you find that people that speak this love language
  • 00:13:09.445 --> 00:13:12.815
  • Really struggle to kind of get the right kind of touch?
  • 00:13:12.815 --> 00:13:16.151
  • Is that why this has become so valuable
  • 00:13:16.151 --> 00:13:18.520
  • When it comes to the assessment, getting their dialect?
  • 00:13:18.520 --> 00:13:20.956
  • Yeah, i think that's often the case
  • 00:13:20.956 --> 00:13:22.658
  • Because typically we would touch
  • 00:13:22.658 --> 00:13:24.460
  • Someone the way we feel comfortable,
  • 00:13:24.460 --> 00:13:26.395
  • Right, and being touched. right.
  • 00:13:26.395 --> 00:13:28.063
  • And but it may be a totally different dialect for them.
  • 00:13:28.063 --> 00:13:31.200
  • Yeah.
  • 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:31.834
  • And so they're learning it
  • 00:13:31.834 --> 00:13:33.035
  • And that's what they're going to get in the assessment.
  • 00:13:33.035 --> 00:13:34.803
  • They're going to learn what the what their right dialect is.
  • 00:13:34.803 --> 00:13:38.307
  • Then it may
  • 00:13:38.641 --> 00:13:40.676
  • You may have to
  • 00:13:40.676 --> 00:13:41.844
  • Think and work a little harder because it may not come
  • 00:13:41.844 --> 00:13:44.780
  • Natural for you. right. that's okay.
  • 00:13:44.780 --> 00:13:46.515
  • You know, if it's we're trying to minister to them.
  • 00:13:46.515 --> 00:13:49.285
  • Right.
  • 00:13:49.285 --> 00:13:50.486
  • And if we have an attitude of love, then we're willing to
  • 00:13:50.486 --> 00:13:52.888
  • Try something different.
  • 00:13:52.888 --> 00:13:54.123
  • That's not necessarily natural to us
  • 00:13:54.123 --> 00:13:56.725
  • Because we know it's going to really communicate.
  • 00:13:56.725 --> 00:13:58.594
  • Have you ever thought about how you're restoring his spirit
  • 00:13:58.594 --> 00:14:02.064
  • When you have that physical touch with him?
  • 00:14:02.064 --> 00:14:03.799
  • Yes, yes.
  • 00:14:03.799 --> 00:14:07.436
  • Oh, okay.
  • 00:14:07.736 --> 00:14:08.470
  • I'll take it.
  • 00:14:08.470 --> 00:14:10.372
  • Just yeah.
  • 00:14:10.372 --> 00:14:11.640
  • Man to of his mind. oh, okay. yeah.
  • 00:14:11.640 --> 00:14:14.543
  • And also here's another thing on my mind
  • 00:14:14.543 --> 00:14:16.512
  • Romantic touch would really go a long way.
  • 00:14:16.512 --> 00:14:20.082
  • Feels like you█re on the right track here.
  • 00:14:20.082 --> 00:14:22.318
  • Yeah. well,
  • 00:14:22.318 --> 00:14:24.954
  • You know.
  • 00:14:24.954 --> 00:14:25.955
  • Yeah, i think a lot of romance might go well.
  • 00:14:25.955 --> 00:14:30.693
  • Thank you.
  • 00:14:30.993 --> 00:14:32.828
  • Okay.
  • 00:14:32.828 --> 00:14:33.796
  • Thank you for the counsel. yeah.
  • 00:14:33.796 --> 00:14:35.364
  • The, the nuance inside of this category is brand new to me.
  • 00:14:35.364 --> 00:14:40.336
  • When i started engaging in this
  • 00:14:40.336 --> 00:14:44.840
  • Love language that matters most.
  • 00:14:44.840 --> 00:14:46.575
  • And i understand that it's a general term, that it's
  • 00:14:46.575 --> 00:14:49.812
  • The it applies to the person in front of you who,
  • 00:14:49.812 --> 00:14:52.915
  • If you're dealing with a sibling or a or a kids or,
  • 00:14:52.915 --> 00:14:56.785
  • You know, a parent or something, i, specifically a spouse,
  • 00:14:56.785 --> 00:15:01.490
  • Your wife, it it it ultimately matters.
  • 00:15:01.490 --> 00:15:05.260
  • But i never knew
  • 00:15:05.260 --> 00:15:07.429
  • There were these dialects there, and it never crossed my mind.
  • 00:15:07.429 --> 00:15:12.301
  • And this one is actually the most complex. it feels like.
  • 00:15:12.301 --> 00:15:15.204
  • Yeah.
  • 00:15:15.204 --> 00:15:16.038
  • Can you read the categories again?
  • 00:15:16.038 --> 00:15:18.474
  • Because. yeah. who would have thunk that?
  • 00:15:18.474 --> 00:15:21.377
  • It was, you know, touch is touch, right?
  • 00:15:21.377 --> 00:15:24.079
  • Right.
  • 00:15:24.079 --> 00:15:24.613
  • You know, you were,
  • 00:15:24.613 --> 00:15:25.514
  • You know, dumb me and you would think
  • 00:15:25.514 --> 00:15:27.583
  • If it's your love language, you'd like all of them.
  • 00:15:27.583 --> 00:15:29.418
  • Sure, but not necessarily the case.
  • 00:15:29.418 --> 00:15:31.053
  • Hey, what are they again?
  • 00:15:31.053 --> 00:15:31.987
  • And by the way, that's why we sometimes say
  • 00:15:31.987 --> 00:15:33.389
  • This is much as a discussion starter as it is a diagnostic.
  • 00:15:33.389 --> 00:15:37.726
  • Use it to have a conversation.
  • 00:15:37.726 --> 00:15:39.495
  • But, comforting touch, playful touch,
  • 00:15:39.495 --> 00:15:42.498
  • Protective touch, restorative touch.
  • 00:15:42.498 --> 00:15:45.567
  • Affectionate touch.
  • 00:15:45.567 --> 00:15:47.302
  • Romantic touch.
  • 00:15:47.302 --> 00:15:48.504
  • That's a really important one.
  • 00:15:48.504 --> 00:15:51.373
  • I think it's one of the most important for you.
  • 00:15:51.373 --> 00:15:53.909
  • And then expressive touch.
  • 00:15:53.909 --> 00:15:56.078
  • Got it. yeah, yeah.
  • 00:15:56.078 --> 00:16:01.283
  • My main way
  • 00:16:01.583 --> 00:16:04.053
  • Of showing physical touch is just kind of
  • 00:16:04.053 --> 00:16:06.522
  • Like a hair stroke,
  • 00:16:06.522 --> 00:16:07.589
  • You know, we█re watching a show or hanging out.
  • 00:16:07.589 --> 00:16:09.892
  • It just goes to there. the hands on healing touch.
  • 00:16:09.892 --> 00:16:14.430
  • It's very nurturing, you know, i can tell, like,
  • 00:16:14.430 --> 00:16:16.932
  • If i'm rubbing his scalp, he'll like, purr.
  • 00:16:16.932 --> 00:16:20.436
  • Yeah. i mean, there's all types of.
  • 00:16:20.436 --> 00:16:22.104
  • Yeah, there's all types of, physical touch, you know,
  • 00:16:22.104 --> 00:16:24.640
  • There's like playful, which isn't really,
  • 00:16:24.640 --> 00:16:26.141
  • Like, necessarily our thing. physical touch for me
  • 00:16:26.141 --> 00:16:29.278
  • Is a way to say, i see you, i see who you are.
  • 00:16:29.278 --> 00:16:33.115
  • I love who you are.
  • 00:16:33.115 --> 00:16:34.383
  • And that makes me want to reach out
  • 00:16:34.383 --> 00:16:37.286
  • And connect with you, like in a physical way.
  • 00:16:37.286 --> 00:16:40.255
  • It's a way to say, i'm thinking of you.
  • 00:16:40.255 --> 00:16:42.191
  • I love you without any words.
  • 00:16:42.191 --> 00:16:44.393
  • But we've always been hand holders.
  • 00:16:44.393 --> 00:16:46.261
  • Always, you know. we always hold hands.
  • 00:16:46.261 --> 00:16:48.630
  • And of course, at our age as grandparents,
  • 00:16:48.630 --> 00:16:51.433
  • When you hold hands, you walk.
  • 00:16:51.433 --> 00:16:52.868
  • You get this kind of a comment.
  • 00:16:52.868 --> 00:16:53.936
  • Oh, what a cute couple you are. right.
  • 00:16:53.936 --> 00:16:56.171
  • But it it seems like most.
  • 00:16:56.171 --> 00:16:58.273
  • Then we start watching other couples.
  • 00:16:58.273 --> 00:16:59.775
  • You don't see as many
  • 00:16:59.775 --> 00:17:01.076
  • Holding hands,
  • 00:17:01.076 --> 00:17:01.944
  • But that's something we've always done
  • 00:17:01.944 --> 00:17:02.911
  • Since our college days and have continued that.
  • 00:17:02.911 --> 00:17:05.514
  • So that's probably
  • 00:17:05.514 --> 00:17:07.015
  • Because it was my lead, because i needed to touch him.
  • 00:17:07.015 --> 00:17:09.785
  • Of course, i don't mind.
  • 00:17:09.785 --> 00:17:11.854
  • It's very nice.
  • 00:17:11.854 --> 00:17:12.821
  • So but
  • 00:17:12.821 --> 00:17:13.956
  • It takes being intentional sometimes for me,
  • 00:17:13.956 --> 00:17:17.493
  • Physical touch is actually on the lower end of the scale.
  • 00:17:17.493 --> 00:17:21.096
  • Not that i don't love it, but it's not my primary
  • 00:17:21.096 --> 00:17:25.267
  • Form of feeling love and communication from you.
  • 00:17:25.267 --> 00:17:29.805
  • Learning to ask him for that in a moment.
  • 00:17:29.805 --> 00:17:32.641
  • When i'm stressed to go,
  • 00:17:32.641 --> 00:17:34.076
  • I just need i need a big hug right now.
  • 00:17:34.076 --> 00:17:36.745
  • And him giving that to me and going,
  • 00:17:36.745 --> 00:17:38.947
  • Okay, i can get back to what i was doing.
  • 00:17:39.848 --> 00:17:42.618
  • I'm going to be okay.
  • 00:17:42.618 --> 00:17:43.552
  • It does indicate
  • 00:17:43.552 --> 00:17:45.320
  • Being present with that person
  • 00:17:45.320 --> 00:17:46.855
  • That you actually are putting your hand there.
  • 00:17:46.855 --> 00:17:48.690
  • That can be, even after
  • 00:17:48.690 --> 00:17:50.492
  • 50 years, extremely comforting and assuring.
  • 00:17:50.492 --> 00:17:54.463
  • You know, this is a relationship that we have.
  • 00:17:54.463 --> 00:17:56.665
  • And it's it's pretty special.
  • 00:17:56.665 --> 00:17:58.133
  • It's always been a very important part of us.
  • 00:17:58.133 --> 00:18:00.235
  • And our our communication really is kind of through touch,
  • 00:18:00.235 --> 00:18:03.972
  • The love language that matters most.
  • 00:18:03.972 --> 00:18:08.076
  • Okay, i have a question just on all the love languages,
  • 00:18:08.076 --> 00:18:11.513
  • If your language, if i have words of affirmation,
  • 00:18:11.513 --> 00:18:16.351
  • He does not need words of affirmation.
  • 00:18:16.351 --> 00:18:19.221
  • I don't think, much.
  • 00:18:19.221 --> 00:18:23.125
  • So they don't necessarily speak their own love language.
  • 00:18:23.125 --> 00:18:27.329
  • Is that true?
  • 00:18:27.696 --> 00:18:29.298
  • Well, no. is that on all of them?
  • 00:18:29.298 --> 00:18:31.800
  • Not just physically?
  • 00:18:31.800 --> 00:18:32.701
  • Oh, yeah.
  • 00:18:32.701 --> 00:18:33.602
  • Not saying that, but it's fairly, normal
  • 00:18:33.602 --> 00:18:36.805
  • That the language we speak
  • 00:18:36.805 --> 00:18:39.208
  • Most freely is the one we want to receive.
  • 00:18:39.208 --> 00:18:42.277
  • But that's not always true.
  • 00:18:42.277 --> 00:18:43.779
  • I'm just saying that's true for a large number of people.
  • 00:18:43.779 --> 00:18:46.615
  • But there are other people for which that is not true.
  • 00:18:46.615 --> 00:18:50.085
  • About 75% of the people, the one they speak
  • 00:18:50.085 --> 00:18:53.155
  • Most naturally is the one they want to receive.
  • 00:18:53.155 --> 00:18:54.990
  • The other 25%
  • 00:18:54.990 --> 00:18:56.592
  • Speak that language, most likely because they were taught
  • 00:18:56.592 --> 00:18:59.528
  • As a child.
  • 00:18:59.528 --> 00:19:00.262
  • This is the way you show love.
  • 00:19:00.262 --> 00:19:01.530
  • Okay, so if the father said to
  • 00:19:01.530 --> 00:19:03.031
  • The son, always give the lady gifts.
  • 00:19:03.031 --> 00:19:04.766
  • Yeah, he's giving gifts.
  • 00:19:04.766 --> 00:19:05.968
  • He's giving gifts,
  • 00:19:05.968 --> 00:19:06.935
  • But not because he wants to receive them.
  • 00:19:06.935 --> 00:19:08.537
  • He's give them because his dad told him that's the
  • 00:19:08.537 --> 00:19:10.706
  • That's the way you express love.
  • 00:19:10.706 --> 00:19:20.115
  • It is.
  • 00:19:20.349 --> 00:19:22.985
  • It is.
  • 00:19:23.218 --> 00:19:27.923
  • Well, it's interesting because it.
  • 00:19:28.690 --> 00:19:30.959
  • I still love it.
  • 00:19:30.959 --> 00:19:32.361
  • And that's the thing about the love languages
  • 00:19:32.361 --> 00:19:35.030
  • Is it doesn't mean that we don't love all of those things.
  • 00:19:35.030 --> 00:19:38.433
  • Of course, i love to feel
  • 00:19:38.433 --> 00:19:40.369
  • Physical touch from you, and i love like to be close.
  • 00:19:40.369 --> 00:19:44.006
  • And, you know, for him to, stroke my hair
  • 00:19:44.006 --> 00:19:47.876
  • Or give me a massage or things like that, like i
  • 00:19:47.876 --> 00:19:50.912
  • The first thing in the morning, he comes and gives me a kiss.
  • 00:19:50.912 --> 00:19:54.616
  • That's i, i need that to start my day so i don't want it to do.
  • 00:19:54.616 --> 00:19:59.154
  • I don't want it to seem like i don't love that.
  • 00:19:59.154 --> 00:20:02.291
  • It's more i think, you know, when i look
  • 00:20:02.291 --> 00:20:05.694
  • At the rankings of how and i again,
  • 00:20:05.694 --> 00:20:08.263
  • I think this probably goes back to my childhood,
  • 00:20:08.263 --> 00:20:11.600
  • Is i had a lot of physical touch from my mom.
  • 00:20:11.600 --> 00:20:14.970
  • You know, in particular, but it was the other things
  • 00:20:14.970 --> 00:20:18.006
  • That i lacked.
  • 00:20:18.006 --> 00:20:19.174
  • And i think sometimes you can trace those things back
  • 00:20:19.174 --> 00:20:21.143
  • To the things that you didn't have.
  • 00:20:21.143 --> 00:20:23.078
  • So, you know, for me, knowing that
  • 00:20:23.078 --> 00:20:26.581
  • I like those things, i still want to do those for him.
  • 00:20:26.581 --> 00:20:30.485
  • But knowing that physical touch is number one.
  • 00:20:30.485 --> 00:20:33.955
  • I mean, i think i could probably like, do more.
  • 00:20:33.955 --> 00:20:37.359
  • You know, sometimes
  • 00:20:37.826 --> 00:20:40.195
  • It just requires you to say, okay, it's not always for you.
  • 00:20:40.195 --> 00:20:44.366
  • It's for him
  • 00:20:44.366 --> 00:20:46.268
  • (kiss)
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  • I'm telling you, like even in the middle of the night,
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  • I'll be thinking or praying about something
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  • And i'll say, stan, can you just pray for me?
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  • And he'll
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  • Groggily, in the middle of the night, put his hand on me
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  • And just start praying for whatever i was having
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  • Anxiety about, or nervousness or thinking about the day next
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  • About what's going to happen.
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  • So was always his prayer.
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  • Language to me, has always been putting his hand on me
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  • During prayer.
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  • I think for most men,
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  • You know,
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  • The sexual touch
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  • Is what they think of when they think of touch.
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  • And i think for most women it's like, yeah, that's fine,
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  • But it's really just be with me and be present.
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  • So the connection that we feel is, is always with,
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  • You know, walking through a crowd with,
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  • You know, his hands on my back and helping me through
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  • And obviously
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  • Holding hands, like we said, but touch is the connection
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  • That i think indicates part of our relationship.
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  • Paying attention to the person
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  • And being present with the person with eye
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  • Contact is very key to a relationship for me.
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  • I have to learn that i need to respond with that,
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  • And even quite honestly, taking the premium assessment
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  • Motivates me in a whole new way
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  • That i need to be more intentional about that,
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  • How much it means to her and to have something
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  • That gives you an insight into not just your personality,
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  • But also
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  • The people that you care about, i think makes us so much better
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  • In terms of our impact and witness to the world.
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  • Final thoughts on
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  • Physical touch.
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  • Yeah, well, i just feel like i want to talk
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  • About romantic touch one more time and,
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  • So just keep in mind we all need touch, right?
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  • It's a universal love language to touch your loved one, right?
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  • That conveys something that conveys comfort.
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  • But just make sure
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  • If it's their love language, their primary love language,
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  • That you're speaking their dialect. right.
  • 00:24:15.377 --> 00:24:17.512
  • And that's what we outlined in the book
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  • As well as in the assessment.
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  • Yeah.
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  • And i love your question because you're reminding us that
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  • We speak some languages fluently and other
  • 00:24:24.786 --> 00:24:28.256
  • Things are foreign languages to us.
  • 00:24:28.256 --> 00:24:31.793
  • And whether or not it's our own love language, we're fluent in,
  • 00:24:31.793 --> 00:24:35.163
  • Sometimes our spouse might be it might be a foreign
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  • Love language. they have to learn.
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  • Think about a marriage where that you've married someone
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  • And that's their primary love language,
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  • And you didn't really learn that language growing up.
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  • There wasn't a lot of physical touch in our home.
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  • Yeah, you got to really
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  • Exert some effort to make that physical touch.
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  • We're done with this episode.
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  • Love language that matters most.
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  • I need a hug, les. do ya? yeah.
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  • Want this back in your pocket? is that what you█re asking for?
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  • I think the reason the original book made such an impact
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  • Is that almost all of us agree that the deepest emotional need
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  • We have on the human level is the need to feel loved
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  • By the significant people in our lives.
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  • You would most like to love you is your spouse.
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