Pastor Mike Signorelli brings bold, Bible-based teaching to help believers walk faithfully in today’s often compromised world
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| Mike Signorelli - Family Matters (Part 2) | February 24, 2026
- How many people claim
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- To get saved, but their cravings never change.
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- You can scroll on your phone
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- For four hours, but you can't spend four minutes in prayer.
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- Something's gotta change because you say.
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- If it was about me, i would keep scrolling.
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- But it's about this density, so let me destroy.
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- Oh, come on, somebody.
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- Oh, 000.
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- Come here babe.
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- Come on. look at this outfit.
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- Like a rhinestone cowboy.
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- Look,
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- She's wearing my pants.
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- That's all right. so.
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- But here's the thing.
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- What we learned in our marriage was that i wasn't evil.
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- I was wise in some areas, and i was a fool.
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- That was being given an opportunity to become wise.
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- And every correction could become
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- A connection.
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- And every argument
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- Could become another level of intimacy.
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- Amen. okay.
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- Okay,
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- So let's look at the evil.
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- Now that we've gotten that out of the way, the evil.
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- How do you know somebody is evil?
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- They intend harm.
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- The third category in proverbs, which is basically the rest of the
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- Scripture, points to what's called the scoffer, the wicked,
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- The one who plots evil.
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- This is not just someone who's immature like i was in other seasons.
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- This some.
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- This is someone who is willing to harm somebody who's willing to lie.
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- Somebody who's willing to destroy.
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- This is the abusive spouse, the manipulative relative
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- Who lies and turns people against you in your own family.
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- The person who seems to enjoy when you're in pain,
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- And the predator who uses guilt and even religion to trap you.
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- Oh yeah, we're calling it all out.
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- Jesus talked about wolves in sheep's clothing.
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- What does that mean?
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- Well, if you're a sheep and a family of sheep,
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- Then they have to put on your dna to actually.
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- Oh, come on.
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- They'll look just like you.
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- But they're the ones who abuse you.
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- And jesus was talking about this.
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- They sometimes even look religious.
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- They might know bible verses, but they devour people.
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- Scripture never tells you to let wolves keep eating you
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- In the name of forgiveness.
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- Forgiveness does not give them license to keep hurting you.
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- So what's the strategy with this evil behavior with people who are acting evil?
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- The biblical response is distance protection.
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- And involving the right authorities when needed.
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- I know it's quiet.
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- Sometimes love looks like a restraining order.
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- But i must say it again.
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- Sometimes love looks like you are getting a restraining order.
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- Sometimes love looks like you will not be alone with my children ever.
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- Statistically, the abuse is going to happen by somebody they know.
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- So you got to audit the relationship.
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- Are you wise?
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- Are you a fool or are you evil? and you.
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- And for you will never be alone with my child.
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- And that's what love looks like.
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- Sometimes love looks like i'm going to let the courts handle this one now.
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- Sometimes love looks like no contact.
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- Yeah, right.
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- You are not god's sacrifice
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- To keep an abusive family member comfortable.
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- Now hear me clearly.
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- This sermon is not licensed to label anyone who annoys you as evil.
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- So you can cut them off and.
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- Oh, i'm just going to i'm going to feel holy now because they annoy me.
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- No, no.
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- This category is for patterns of abuse, manipulation, deceit and harm.
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- And if you suspect that you're here, you should not try to discern this alone.
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- You need wise counsel.
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- You need pastors, christian counselors, mentors, and in some cases,
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- You even need to bring in law enforcement to help you discern what to do next.
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- So there's three types of people wise.
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- They listen and change.
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- Foolish.
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- They refuse to learn and they repeat.
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- So we know that we know that well.
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- But then evil, they actually intend you harm.
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- And here's the key.
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- Love is not treating them all the same.
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- Love is doing what is truly best in god's eyes.
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- Even when it's hard, even when it doesn't
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- Look nice on the surface.
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- So let's zoom in on jesus for a moment.
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- Jesus grew up in a real family.
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- He had a real mother who was not perfect.
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- He had real siblings who were not perfect, and he learned obedience.
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- He lived under his parents roof.
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- He had rules in that house and jesus was not anti-family on the cross.
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- Literally, he still cared for his own mother, making
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- Sure that john would look after her on the cross.
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- That's honor honoring his mother while he's dying.
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- But jesus also refused to let his own earthly
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- Family pull him away from his father's will.
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- So in mark chapter three, his family comes to take him away.
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- And they think that he's out of his mind.
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- And people tell him, hey, your mother and your brothers are outside.
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- They're looking for you.
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- And jesus says, whoever does the will of god is my brother and sister and mother.
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- And mark chapter three, verse 35.
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- So he's not rejecting mary.
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- He's redefining what family is.
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- So when your family's like,
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- I can't believe you go to that cult vh1 church, i don't know.
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- I'm only there for a couple hours once a week,
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- Just about the same amount of time that you spend at outback steakhouse.
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- Or the same amount of time that you spend watching your football game every day.
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- And that doesn't make the nfl a cult or that restaurant a call.
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- But i will tell you this i'm not rejecting you.
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- I'm redefining family.
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- And my family isn't just the ones with my hair color and my skin color.
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- My family are those that do the will of the father.
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- I'm not rejecting you.
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- I redefine family, and i'm spending some time with my whole family.
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- Just like i spend time with you.
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- Family is not just who shares our dna.
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- Family is who shares our father's will.
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- And that means loyalty to god's will.
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- Actually, now comes before loyalty to family patterns.
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- In romans chapter 12, verse 18, it says, if possible,
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- So far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
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- Listen to this carefully.
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- It doesn't say you are responsible to make everybody at peace with you.
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- Yeah.
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- You are. okay.
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- Let me help my codependent friends.
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- It's not your responsibility
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- To make everybody at peace.
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- It's your responsibility to be the peacemaker.
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- But they have to choose what they do after that moment.
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- You cannot control your dad's repentance.
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- You cannot control your sister's maturity.
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- You cannot control your ex's behavior.
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- Come on, the pope. how can.
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- You can
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- Control your choices, your boundaries,
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- Your responses, your access and your tone with the wise.
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- Peace usually comes through honest conversations
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- And a little bit of grace with the foolish.
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- Peace often requires clear limits and lower expectations.
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- With the evil, the only possible peace may be through
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- Protection and through distance.
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- You're going to find some people claiming to be my family on the internet.
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- Don't believe them?
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- My family's the one who does the will of my father.
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- There's going to be some people that tell some family stories.
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- Don't believe in my family's story.
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- Is abraham, isaac and jacob. jesus.
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- I got a different family heritage, a different family story.
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- And some of you have been taught well, good christians.
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- They never say no, especially to family.
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- But that's not scripture.
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- That's manipulation. wearing a bible verse.
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- God is not asking you to sacrifice your sanity.
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- He's not asking you to sacrifice your safety.
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- He not of you, not of your children to keep some kind of dysfunctional family.
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- It's not comfortable.
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- You might be thinking, okay, what am i going to do now?
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- What do i actually do with all of this?
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- Let's talk about three simple steps.
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- Clarity
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- One. boundary and community.
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- In a moment, we're going to pray
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- Some of these questions together because i know how heavy this is.
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- You can even whisper them in your heart if you're sitting next to them right now.
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- Holy spirit, show me.
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- Come on. let's do this together.
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- Who is wise in my family?
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- Holy spirit, show me who is wise in my family.
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- Who listens? who apologizes?
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- Who's trying to grow?
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- How can i invest more time and more of my energy into the wise people in my family?
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- Holy spirit,
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- Show me who's acting foolish right now.
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- Who? who always has an excuse,
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- Who makes me feel crazy because every conversation
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- Circles back to me being too sensitive.
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- Holy spirit, where do i need to stop over explaining?
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- Man, i feel the anointing so strong right now.
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- Before i finish this prayer, i have to say something.
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- I hesitated to say this.
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- Family is god's design
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- And god is our father,
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- Who created a father named adam.
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- And then adam was a woman who became a wife,
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- And then she became a mother who then had children.
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- And the very first generation of those children, cain and abel.
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- There was dysfunction, but before that there was dysfunction.
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- If you're near one of our campuses, i want to give you
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- A personal invitation to check out v1 church.
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- There's no way i can describe the atmosphere of revival in the experience.
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- If you've never driven up or driven in, you know,
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- Let me just tell you it's a powerful atmosphere
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- And a bunch of people who really love the lord and want to get to know you.
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- So let us know when you're coming and i'll see you at v1 church.
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- So satan absolutely hates family, and he hates
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- When family operates in complete and total unity with god's will.
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- And so here's a thing you need, and i don't care.
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- I'm probably going to get a lot of hate for what i'm about to say,
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- But a healthy family looks like a mom and a dad
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- With a heavenly father
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- And children that are being raised in the faith.
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- Now, i didn't have that
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- Growing up, and i still turned out all right
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- Because when my biological father walked in, my spiritual father walked in.
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- When he walked out, my heavenly father walked in.
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- But according to paul, according to james,
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- According to the new testament writers,
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- Having a relationship with god is not the only thing.
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- But god also gives us leaders
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- And leaders in
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- The local church serve as a father.
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- And it's paul said to me, may taste,
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- Imitate me, follow me as i follow christ.
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- And the word there is me may taste in greek it means do an impression of jesus.
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- As you see visibly my impression of jesus.
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- That's all it is.
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- So if there's anything good or redeemable you've ever seen about mike
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- Seeking a rally, it's just me doing a impression of jesus, right?
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- Just like a michael jackson impersonator.
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- You put on the michael jackson wig, you put on the michael jackson outfit,
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- And you know it's not michael jackson,
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- But you're like, man, that's a good impression.
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- I'm not jesus.
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- But every year of my journey with jesus
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- Is me getting better at my impression.
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- Me matters.
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- So guess what?
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- I do believe in spiritual fathers.
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- I don't care, there's a lot of haters online.
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- All the spiritual father is is somebody just like paul.
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- Paul says you have many teachers, but you only have one
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- Father and it's me, a father in the faith.
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- And of course, we have a heavenly father.
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- You need a church with a pastor, not a perfect pastor,
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- But a wise pastor who's saying, follow me as i follow jesus.
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- And the
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- Reason why i got so choked up trying to lead you in that prayer is because
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- I have a lot of scars on my back in the spirit,
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- And i've learned a lot about family.
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- I've walked one of my daughters through her teen years.
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- I'm walking my second daughter
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- Through her child childhood now into her, a young young adult.
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- She's coming into that puberty time.
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- Pray for me.
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- And i'm trying to give you what i learned the hard way,
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- Because what fathers are supposed to do is accelerate you and what what cost.
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- Julian, i years and marriage counseling.
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- I'll give it to you for free every sunday.
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- What took me years and years through fighting and wrestling with
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- With my own child.
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- I'll give it to you in a in a sermon on a sunday.
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- And this is god's intention.
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- The church is a family.
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- It's not a perfect family.
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- But the reason why there's so much division in churches
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- Is because there's divisions in our biological family,
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- And we don't have wisdom in our biological family,
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- Which means we come into church without that wisdom for our spiritual family.
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- So if you would open up your heart to me through this season
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- And allow me to help you with your family,
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- I also want to ask that you would become a family through the spirit.
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- That's what this is.
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- It's not just online viewership.
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- It's you're coming into the living room
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- To have a family,
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- And it would be one of the greatest privileges of my life
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- To serve as a spiritual father to you and to your children,
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- And to lead you in the things that i know and the things i don't know.
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- We're going to find out together over this next couple of weeks. so
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- Ask the holy spirit now, is there anyone acting evil towards me or my children?
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- Anyone who lies, manipulates, threatens, or consistently harms.
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- Who do i need to help to
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- Create distance from for safety and sanity?
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- But holy spirit,
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- Who do i get closer to
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- And who do i get farther away from?
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- So don't don't rush to slap labels on people.
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- Come on, church.
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- Ask god to show you the patterns.
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- Not not one bad day.
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- Not one slip up, but the patterns.
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- Because sometimes he'll surprise you.
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- The person that you assume was evil may just be immature,
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- May just be foolish, and they're still open to god.
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- Someone you thought was just difficult might in reality be deeply unsafe,
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- And you need to ask for true discernment.
- 00:15:40.359 --> 00:15:42.728
- So choose one boundary, not ten.
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- When people hear a message like this, the temptation
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- Is to go home and blow up your whole family system overnight.
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- I'm confronting everybody.
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- I'm cutting everybody off. no no, no.
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- By tuesday, you're going to be overwhelmed.
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- And so right now in this message,
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- We're not trying to fix your entire family tree.
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- We're trying to choose one wise next step.
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- This might look like what with with a wise person.
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- Hey, can we sit down this week i want to spend more time with you.
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- I want to talk honestly. i want to communicate.
- 00:16:14.793 --> 00:16:16.562
- I really want us to keep growing together with with one foolish person.
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- Hey, i love you, but.
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- But i'm not going to argue about this over text anymore.
- 00:16:21.633 --> 00:16:24.636
- And we're not going to have chatgpt wars anymore
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- If this conversation turns disrespectful.
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- I'm telling you now, i'm going to step away
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- With someone acting evil.
- 00:16:33.912 --> 00:16:35.314
- This is where you get counsel. this week.
- 00:16:35.314 --> 00:16:37.616
- You get support this week, and from now on i'm going to limit contact.
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- I'm not doing this to punish you.
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- I'm doing this to protect what god has entrusted to me
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- With my children, with my job, with this home.
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- And i don't have to scream.
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- I don't have to even justify.
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- I don't have to explain.
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- I don't have to convince.
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- I just i'm going to be clear and i'm going to be consistent.
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- So everybody ask yourself, what is one boundary
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- That i can set this week that aligns with wisdom and honors god?
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- You know
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- You are not
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- Meant to untangle this family trauma alone.
- 00:17:11.550 --> 00:17:14.653
- Some of you do need a good christian counselor.
- 00:17:15.654 --> 00:17:17.689
- Some of you need a small group.
- 00:17:17.689 --> 00:17:20.192
- And i'm just so overwhelmed.
- 00:17:20.192 --> 00:17:21.560
- I'm. i'm fighting tears today.
- 00:17:21.560 --> 00:17:24.196
- You guys don't understand. i'm not.
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- I don't care what our small groups line up is.
- 00:17:25.497 --> 00:17:28.801
- I just know when you read acts chapter two, verse 42,
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- They met in homes, around tables as well as meeting together.
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- And so there's there's healing that happens around tables.
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- This is why satan destroys the family.
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- Because your family is supposed to heal together at the table.
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- But that's where the brokenness happens.
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- So what what do we need to do?
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- We need a sign up for a small group, sign up for a fly crew, and god
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- Will exchange a broken table, a table full of pain and sorrow,
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- With a table full of unity in the local church.
- 00:17:58.197 --> 00:18:00.466
- And you may never have that healthy theo, that healthy uncle.
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- You may never have that health, the healthy,
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- But in the spirit you can't do the local church
- 00:18:07.106 --> 00:18:09.408
- When when a guy that's your uncle's age comes and puts his arm around
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- You and squeeze you and say, hey, keep going.
- 00:18:12.911 --> 00:18:14.980
- God loves you and you don't give up.
- 00:18:14.980 --> 00:18:17.483
- And you may not have a biological uncle, but you can have a spiritual uncle.
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- You may not have a biological father, but you can have
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- A spiritual father when you tune in and you allow me to talk to you.
- 00:18:24.556 --> 00:18:27.960
- And this is our our time together every week.
- 00:18:27.960 --> 00:18:30.729
- You may not have a spiritual grandmother, but when sandra anderson
- 00:18:30.729 --> 00:18:35.634
- Comes alongside of you and gives you a hug and says, hey, don't give up.
- 00:18:35.634 --> 00:18:39.938
- I see you, gen z, and the tears come down.
- 00:18:40.839 --> 00:18:42.808
- You, your grandmother in the natural might be toxic, but the lord's giving you
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- Grandmothers when you come and you join that flight crew.
- 00:18:46.311 --> 00:18:49.548
- This isn't a church program.
- 00:18:50.149 --> 00:18:51.383
- This is heaven's plan for you to heal.
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- And this is how he's always done it.
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- For 2000 years.
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- So we're going to do something.
- 00:19:01.026 --> 00:19:04.363
- I want to talk to two groups of people as i close.
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- First, the ones who are thinking, this is exactly what i've lived,
- 00:19:09.735 --> 00:19:12.304
- But i've never had words for it until this sermon.
- 00:19:13.305 --> 00:19:15.574
- You feel like this sermon has given language to your story.
- 00:19:16.775 --> 00:19:19.077
- It's like fresh, fresh oxygen that you've been breathing.
- 00:19:19.077 --> 00:19:22.381
- You feel relief. i'm not crazy.
- 00:19:22.381 --> 00:19:24.683
- I'm not selfish.
- 00:19:24.683 --> 00:19:25.951
- And i'm not a bad christian for being tired.
- 00:19:25.951 --> 00:19:29.354
- If that's you, man, the anointing is so strong right now.
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- He's showing you that
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- Wisdom is not rebellion against your family,
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- That boundaries are not betrayal against your family.
- 00:19:40.199 --> 00:19:42.568
- But then there's there's second, a second group.
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- And i know this in brooklyn, in the different campuses right now,
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- And watching at home online, you feel terrified by this sermon.
- 00:19:50.842 --> 00:19:53.946
- Because if this is true, it means that you gotta stop pretending now.
- 00:19:53.946 --> 00:19:58.150
- You can't unsee what you've
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- Seen now through the scriptures, and you know something has to change.
- 00:20:00.485 --> 00:20:04.289
- You know you have to have the conversation.
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- You have to place the boundary.
- 00:20:06.391 --> 00:20:08.060
- You have to separate, maybe bringing something into the light.
- 00:20:08.060 --> 00:20:11.763
- Now that that's been in the dark for years.
- 00:20:12.631 --> 00:20:14.199
- But i want to say that god sees how complicated this is.
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- He knows that that there's this loyalty that wants to pull you back.
- 00:20:18.704 --> 00:20:21.440
- He he knows that you're worrying right now.
- 00:20:22.307 --> 00:20:23.408
- What is my family gonna think?
- 00:20:23.408 --> 00:20:25.043
- What are they going to say about me?
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- What if i'm even wrong about this diagnosis?
- 00:20:27.212 --> 00:20:29.748
- But he's not shaming you.
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- He's gently calling you to freedom.
- 00:20:32.517 --> 00:20:35.187
- So here's what we're going to do.
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- Some of you have been trying to be the savior of your family.
- 00:20:37.222 --> 00:20:40.525
- That job is taken.
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- Hey, join me for the trip of
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- A lifetime as we travel, retracing the apostle paul's steps.
- 00:20:45.464 --> 00:20:50.102
- Yes, right there where scripture was first written.
- 00:20:50.102 --> 00:20:53.805
- Right there where the early church was born.
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- We're going to go from site to site. i'm going to be teaching.
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- We're going to get to meet.
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- We're going to share some incredible meals together.
- 00:21:00.679 --> 00:21:03.048
- You're going to get to meet other people from around the world.
- 00:21:03.048 --> 00:21:05.784
- And this is an exclusive trip, okay.
- 00:21:05.784 --> 00:21:08.253
- Which means you've got to act now while there are still seats available.
- 00:21:08.253 --> 00:21:12.491
- So scan the qr code, tap the link, and get your seat.
- 00:21:13.525 --> 00:21:16.862
- Now. you are not going to regret it.
- 00:21:17.629 --> 00:21:18.597
- I can't wait to see you on this.
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- Retracing the apostle paul greece tour.
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- Come on land and sea.
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- It doesn't get any better than that. i'll see you there.
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- Your first step might not be a boundary with them.
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- It might be surrender to him.
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- If that's you, i'm going to lead
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- You in a simple prayer.
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- Would you all close your eyes?
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- This is the first prayer that we're going to pray.
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- If you've never surrendered completely to jesus
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- And you're thinking about this family situation
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- And you just been going to church,
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- Maybe you're watching online right now, and you saw me on television
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- And you're like, i want to check this dude out.
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- I want to see what his church is about.
- 00:22:00.572 --> 00:22:02.074
- But you've never accepted jesus and fully surrendered.
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- You just kind of been going through the motions.
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- Maybe you're here in one of our auditoriums around the country
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- And you're like, man, i need to surrender to him before i talk to them.
- 00:22:12.284 --> 00:22:15.354
- Would you just lift up your hand and say, that's me, mike, that's me.
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- Just lift up your hand. come on.
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- I see your hands here in the auditorium online right now.
- 00:22:19.958 --> 00:22:22.894
- Just put a hand emoji or just say, that's me in the chat.
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- I want us to pray this together.
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- Pray this with me.
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- Even if you have to whisper it.
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- Jesus, i surrender my family to you.
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- I'm not their savior.
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- I'm not responsible for their choices.
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- Show me what is mine to carry
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- And what i need to pull back on.
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- Give me wisdom.
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- Give me courage.
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- Give me peace.
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- I give you my whole life right now.
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- In jesus name, amen.
- 00:22:54.960 --> 00:22:58.230
- Now, there's a lot of hands just in this auditorium for decisions for jesus.
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- But if you sense that god's asking you to take another step right now
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- And to have a hard conversation, to set a boundary, to ask for help,
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- To go get into a small group, to go to a pastor, a christian counselor,
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- To talk to a family member, to set a boundary.
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- I'm going to ask that you respond across all vh1 church campuses
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- And everybody online,
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- And even if you're in your living room, i want you to do this.
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- I want you to just physically stand up right now if you're like,
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- I need to, i there's some things i need to deal with this this year.
- 00:23:29.528 --> 00:23:32.497
- I want you to go ahead and take a stand.
- 00:23:32.497 --> 00:23:34.032
- Just stand up right where you're at right now. if that's you.
- 00:23:34.032 --> 00:23:37.436
- And i'm gonna give you a moment to be bold,
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- You're just simply saying, lord, i'm going to move with wisdom
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- That you've given me today.
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- Come on.
- 00:23:45.977 --> 00:23:47.412
- There's many people just taking a stand right now.
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- Even here on long island in new york.
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- Wow. in every family,
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- There has to be somebody who says.
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- I wish that my dad would have taken this stand.
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- I wish that my mom, my grandma, my grandpa.
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- I wish somebody in my bloodline would have done this
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- Because maybe i would have had a healthier family.
- 00:24:08.200 --> 00:24:10.469
- But the truth is, we inherit a lot of toxicity
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- And somebody has got to stand up and say, lord,
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- It's going to be hard, but it's going to end with me.
- 00:24:18.643 --> 00:24:20.745
- If you are still seated right now, can you and you're close to
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- Somebody who's took a stand, can you just lay your hand on them?
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- Maybe they're back on their arm.
- 00:24:27.085 --> 00:24:29.321
- It just as a way of telling them, i'm here for you.
- 00:24:29.321 --> 00:24:37.696
- So they know they're not alone.
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- God sees your fear.
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- God sees your loyalty.
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- God sees how deeply you love your family.
- 00:24:47.205 --> 00:24:50.442
- He's not condemning you.
- 00:24:50.942 --> 00:24:53.512
- He's equipping you.
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- Come on.
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- We're about to pray right now.
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- Heavenly father, i pray for each and every one of them
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- That you would give them the power of the holy spirit to set boundaries
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- That you would give them a humility
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- To admit maybe where they've been foolish, where they need to grow.
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- Lord, that you would protect them from anyone that's acting evil,
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- That has the intent to destroy them, because we know that no weapon
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- Formed against them will prosper, and every tongue that rises against them
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- You will silence it.
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- And, father, i thank you that today is a boundary line and a marker,
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- And that their home is going to reflect the wisdom of proverbs,
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- The courage of jesus and the peace of the holy spirit.
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- In jesus mighty name.
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- All around the world we say it together.
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- Amen. amen.
- 00:25:44.963 --> 00:25:46.498
- Now, as a church, let's all stand with with them right now.
- 00:25:46.498 --> 00:25:51.202
- And i want us to sing this out before the lord.
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- And i want us to sing in advance saying, god, i know that what you started.
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- He who began a good work in me will see it through until completion.
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- Everybody watching online.
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- I want you to share this sermon with as many family members as possible.
- 00:26:06.017 --> 00:26:10.522
- Everybody in the auditorium.
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- Everybody watching all around the world right now.
- 00:26:12.657 --> 00:26:15.060
- I want us to lift up this song in triumph.
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- Speak up.
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- Because before the end of 2025.
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- Mark my word.
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- How we end this year.
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- It's how we begin the next.
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- And god is going to wrap some things up that he's taught in our family.
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- And many will be safe.
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- Come on.
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- Lift your hands towards heaven with me and let's worship the king one more time.
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- Come on.
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- I really want to thank you for supporting this ministry.
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- Pray about what god would have you do.
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- We don't tell people what to give.
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- What we do love to talk about is the amazing, life saving projects
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- That we do around the united states and around the world.
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- Whether it's distributing the gospel
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- In non-christian nations, even underground church networks,
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- Or providing disaster relief to areas most affected around the united states.
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- Many lives are being changed because of your generosity.
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- Your.
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