Mike Signorelli - What Men and Women Really Want

December 10, 2025 | 45:43

Pastor Mike Signorelli brings bold, Bible-based teaching to help believers walk faithfully in today’s often compromised world

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| Mike Signorelli - What Men and Women Really Want | December 10, 2025

How many people claim
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To get saved, but their cravings never change.
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You can scroll on your phone
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For four hours, but you can't spend four minutes in prayer.
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Something's gotta change because you say.
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If it was about me, i would keep scrolling.
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But it's about this density, so let me destroy.
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Oh, come on, somebody.
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Oh, oh oh.
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Okay, so let's look at the text together.
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Look at genesis chapter two, verse 24.
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And i'm going to do an intro here.
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And then we're going to flow through some of the lesson in genesis chapter two.
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So we're going back to the beginning.
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How many of you know that relationships have the greatest capacity to hurt,
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But they also have the greatest potential to heal?
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What hurts you most could heal you most.
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If you were hurt by a man, you could be healed by a man.
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If you were forsaken by a friend.
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You can be restored by a friend.
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Whatever hurts you most has potential to heal you most.
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The first adam fell.
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What did they call jesus christ when he showed up?
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The second adam. right. because.
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Because the thing that hurt the most has the potential to heal the most.
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So the first adam fail, fail.
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I'm doing this for our west virginia contingent watching online.
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The first adam fail, and the second adam came back and said, i cannot fail.
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Does this make sense?
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Okay, so when we look at marriage, we have to go back to the origin.
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So in genesis chapter two, verse 24, i'm going to read it.
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It says, therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast.
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Everybody say, hold fast.
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Hold fast to his wife.
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Some of you are holding your phone
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More than you hold your wife, and that's your problem.
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The bible says they will hold fast to his wife.
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If you.
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If you're holding your phone more than you're holding your wife. you.
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That's why you got problems. okay?
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That one was free.
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Share this with a friend.
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And it says.
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And they shall become one flesh.
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Somebody say one flesh.
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And the man and his wife were both naked, and they were not ashamed.
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So i want to briefly do this.
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But god transformed eve.
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From whose body?
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Okay, good.
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All of the other creation was created by two other means.
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One was by word and the other was by dirt.
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Word and dirt.
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So god spoke into creation.
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And then from the dirt, he formed adam.
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Eve was distinctly created a different way, which is from adam.
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Eve was created from adam.
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Where was she taken from?
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Okay. from the side.
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The rib. right.
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Lesson number one.
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God did not take eve from the skull bone
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So that she would lead over him.
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Oh, come on.
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God did not take her from
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The foot bone so that she would be under him.
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God took her from the side so that they would be partners
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And they would be equals. are y'all with me?
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Okay, so let's go a little bit deeper in the scriptures.
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Now let's look at genesis chapter two verse 18,
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Because this will give you a revelation of what i just said.
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Go back now to verse 18.
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And then the lord said to him, it is not good.
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Somebody say, it's not good that the man should be alone.
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I will make him a helper.
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Somebody say helper fit for him.
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So god is walking with adam in the garden. so.
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And but he still says you're alone.
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It's possible to have god in the garden
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And still feel alone because you don't have your wife.
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And so there's a part of you that can only be fulfilled
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This way, not just this way.
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Does that make sense?
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And most of us do not have the gift of singleness.
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And you know how i know? because you're nasty.
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Okay, let's keep going.
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Oh, you're with me.
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Welcome back. welcome back.
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So let's define a loan.
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It's possible to have god.
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Now this is going to get played.
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And the heresy hunters are going to make videos
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According to scripture.
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It's possible to have god and still feel alone.
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And for everybody who says god is enough,
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For how long?
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Because adam had god and he was going.
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He was going through the process of fulfilling his purpose in his destiny
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By naming the creation, because god brought purpose to him.
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But there was a duration of time before he started to awaken to the realization
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That he was alone, even with god and with purpose.
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So singleness is a duration of time.
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And then what will happen
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Is you will start to say, wow, i didn't feel like this before.
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What?
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That what that is, is the desire inside of you pointing towards another
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Purpose, which is marriage.
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And let me just say, we need to get married.
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We don't need people dating for years and years and years.
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We don't need people blaming the economics
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On why they move in together and fornicate and have sex together.
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Because when you stand before a righteous and holy god,
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He doesn't care how high your rent was on long island.
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He just knows you're a fornicator.
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And that's why you can't enter the kingdom.
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And by the way, for those of you like, i don't like this pastor.
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You know what i just quoted in ghetto speech was the bible.
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And so you have a problem with god, not with me.
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I'm just the messenger.
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And by the way, as a dad of two daughters.
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Oh, i just felt a little bit of rage.
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I had to, like i had to say, lord help me.
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How dare you?
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And this is why i say this
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Like i've people excuse sin.
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And we blur the lines that god has clearly marked.
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We take the fence post and we take it.
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And we move that fence post.
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And we create a boundary that he has not created.
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It's fornication.
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And by the way, for those of you asking, well, what can we do that counts?
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If you have to ask, you already know i'm talking sexually.
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I'm dating. we're committed.
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What can we do that counts?
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If you have to ask, you already know.
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How dare you?
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Are you.
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Are y'all still with me? why is it so quiet?
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It was like i drove out for this during a blizzard.
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How dare you!
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Listen, i'm trying to help you.
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Because marriage is a covenant and the world teaches commitment.
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But the bible teaches covenant.
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And i want us to be covenantal people.
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And so if you're homie, if you don't have intentions to marry her,
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Then you need to break up with her
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So she can find a man while you're still going to be a boy. oh.
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Selah.
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Genesis chapter two, verse 18.
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Eve was not made from adam's head, not made from her feet.
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His feet made from her side of his side.
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And this symbolizes like an equal, his partner.
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And and the word partner there is it basically means a helper
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Corresponding to him.
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And it's very, very important to understand that.
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Now let's we're going to do old testament, new testament
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Because the bible talks to itself and it references itself.
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And this is going to help you in galatians chapter three verse 28.
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It says there is neither jew nor greek.
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There is neither slave nor free.
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There is neither male or female.
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For you all are one in christ jesus.
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So the sin entered the earth and created division.
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But then when christ came the second adam, he restored that unity that you see.
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And i believe it will even be represented in your marriage,
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Because how many of you know that we're different by design?
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I'm so thankful that julie's not like me, i used to.
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I used to think that us not being like each other is why our marriage didn't
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Work.
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But us not being like each other is why it was really going to work.
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But you have to honor and acknowledge what you don't understand.
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You have to honor and acknowledge what you wouldn't choose.
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Does this make any sense to you?
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So partnership is only possible if you release your preferences.
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Partnership is only possible if you release your preferences
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Because your preferences are blocking your partnership.
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And it's in our differences that we come together
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And we have true unity and we have a true marriage.
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So julie chooses things that i wouldn't choose.
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Julie chooses to go to the the beach
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And to lay down and to read a book and get a tan.
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And to me, that is one step away from dying.
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I'm like, this is what dead people do.
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They lay in the same position and don't move.
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So if you're like, do you want to go to the pool
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And do you want to lay down and not move for hours?
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I think i'm going to do that for a long time when i'm dead.
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Does this make sense?
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But but the thing is for me, how frenetic i am.
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And guess what?
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I know, i can't believe i'm admitting this in front of a live audience.
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But sometimes the best thing for me is to lay down at the pool.
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But then julie.
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And this is the classic phrase in the signal home.
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You got to get up, julie, because i'm the one who's like, come on, get up.
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We got to do this. we got to do that.
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So julie needs my drive, and i need julie's ability to rest.
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So we watch.
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If we compete with each other, i burn out.
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But she never burns.
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We are different by design.
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Eve is not like adam.
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Adam's not like he's right.
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So what happens is, god creates them to complement each other.
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Which is a side note, because you see how homosexuality is
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A perversion of god's design.
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Because difference differences can't procreate.
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I mean, i'm sorry, similarities can't procreate, only differences.
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So there is no multiplication without difference.
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I don't know how i feel about this church.
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Nobody gets me.
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What you actually just said is at this church, people are different than you,
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Which is the evidence you should be here because they're going to grow you in ways
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You wouldn't grow yourself.
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We mulched.
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There's multiplication where there's difference,
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Where there's sameness, you're sterile.
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So it's like, i don't know about this church.
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They're a different race. yeah.
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But if we come together, you can teach me something.
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And i can teach you something.
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And we're better together.
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You know what i'm saying?
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You know what i like about vh1 church is we're a food court.
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We have all the cultures.
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You know what i'm saying?
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We got all that.
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If you want your chicken without seasoning, you go over to julie's
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Restaurant.
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And some people who want that,
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Can't imagine who.
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She's got a line over there for it.
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We're dead.
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We were like, what's white people?
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God's. i'm like, you don't want to know.
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You don't want to know.
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But do you feel me?
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I'm not talking about chicken anymore.
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I'm talking about differences.
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If you're near one of our campuses, i want to give you
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A personal invitation to check out v1 church.
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There's no way i can describe the atmosphere of revival in the experience.
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If you've never driven up or driven in, you know,
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Let me just tell you it's a powerful atmosphere
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And a bunch of people who really love the lord and want to get to know you.
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So let us know when you're coming and i'll see you at v1 church.
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Now let me finish this portion, because i'm going to be quick
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So we can get ready for the super bowl. but.
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You all ask, as you know,
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Genesis chapter two, verse 21,
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Adam was put into a deep sleep.
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And so god puts adam into a deep sleep
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And then while he's asleep, opens his side
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And then extracts the rib to make eve.
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Are y'all with me?
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When jesus was on the cross,
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What did they do with the spear?
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Where did they pierce him?
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What happened afterwards?
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And then what happened?
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He died.
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It was almost like a sleep.
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And then what was birthed out of that sleep?
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The bride of christ, the second adam's eve.
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Are you seeing the parallels?
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So the first adam goes to sleep, and out of his side comes eve.
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The second adam dies, and then out of his side comes his bride, which is you.
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And then you are to help him in the mission
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To preach the gospel to the entire earth.
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Come on, i'm telling you, you are a helper to him.
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This i got chills all over me.
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We are the bride of christ.
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Y'all, y'all with me?
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Isn't that a powerful revelation?
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What does ribbs do?
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Ribs protect the heart and lungs.
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What is the heart and lungs?
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Blood and breath.
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Come on.
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Let it simmer.
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Ribs protect the heart and lungs.
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And what does the heart and lungs do?
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Blood and breath.
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It's the breath of god.
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And it's the blood of jesus.
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And so we are the body of christ.
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We are his bride.
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And i am here to protect his voice.
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And i am here to ensure that the blood gets pumped throughout the entire body.
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We are a church that preaches the blood.
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We are a church that pleads the blood.
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We are a church that believes that the blood is not lost its power,
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And the ribs protect the heart that pumps the blood.
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The blood of jesus is still flowing.
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We are the church that when we worship
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The breath of god, is coming out through us through the holy spirit.
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And he's still creating through his breath.
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He's still prophesying through his breath.
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He's still praying through his.
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But i have a high priest who prays for me.
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We're a church of breath and we're a church of blood.
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We're a bride who protects the blood and the breath.
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Is there anybody who can testify to the blood and the breath?
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Hallelujah.
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Okay, i'm done
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With that section, but i want to now read it like this.
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Ephesians chapter five, verse 25.
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Husbands, love your wives as
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Christ
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Loved the church and gave himself up for her,
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That he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of the word,
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And with the word, so that he might present the church
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To himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle, or any such thing.
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Now i'm going to end with this.
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One of the most unavoidable conversations
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When you talk about marriage is the five love languages.
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And i was like, i'm not preaching the five long love languages.
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That's corny.
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I'm better than that.
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I'm a theologian, though. i'm not. i'm not waste.
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But you know what?
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I saw something because i said, lord,
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I want to parallel the the body of christ with the bride of christ,
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The body of adam with the bride, his bride, eve, who came from his body.
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And then i was like, wow, the five love languages.
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Jesus loved us with all five.
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And so it's not.
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Husbands, love your wives with these five love languages wives.
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It's.
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Let's look at the example of how christ perfectly did each one.
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And then you'll know how to do this within your own relationships.
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So i got rebuked and i'm going to hand it down.
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So and stop sharing that meme with me of the of the stick.
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The guy in the costume beating the people.
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Have you seen this?
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There's a viral me where it's like i went to church to be encouraged today.
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And then it says, here's the encouragement.
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And it's like, this got me.
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And i keep getting tagged in that.
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And i promise i'm nice.
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So gary, doctor gary chapman had the five
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Love languages and i'm going to parallel these.
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And then this is the last and final portion of the sermon.
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So let's do number one, two, three, four and five in a row.
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And i'm going to give you the biblical context.
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And by the way, i'm a typical male
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Who resists these kinds of teaching.
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And my wife will tell you the story about how i would sweat through
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All of our marriage counseling.
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And, you know, last night, can i just tell him myself before i do this?
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Because i feel like i need to confess my sin one to another?
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So last night,
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Well, i took my wife on a date, and i,
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You know, i try to be extra good in this month,
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So i could be more authoritative when i preach.
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That's a joke.
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So last night
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I said to my wife, i said, julie, how could i support you more?
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And she goes, what did you say?
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I said, how can i support you more?
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And she said, what did you say?
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And i said, how can i better support you?
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And she was like, i don't think you've ever asked me that question.
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I was like, i know i'm growing. and then she
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I kid you not, this is a real thing that happened last night.
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And so all of a sudden, she tells me like four things.
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And the first thing she tells me immediately, i'm like, why did i do that?
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Here's how i do it.
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Then the second thing i already do that. here's how i do it.
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We got there and she starts laughing.
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She's like, i want to give you an a for an effort,
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But you just
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Explained your way out of all of them and you still don't get it.
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But i love you and you're doing better.
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So that was a real conversation last night.
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And she was like, but you know what?
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The fact that you asked, that's a good start.
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Maybe we'll have another breakthrough next week.
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So sometimes when i'm doing these things just to be transparent
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With you, you might think that i'm presenting myself as an expert.
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I'm presenting myself as a player in the game
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Like i'm on the court, i'm playing the game.
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I'm getting fouled. i'm getting elbowed in the face.
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We're doing this thing
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Together, and i'm failing my way through a 20 year marriage right now.
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But i haven't given up. amen.
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So here's the one.
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So number one is words of affirmation.
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I love you.
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I appreciate you words of affirmation.
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Some of you knew i didn't even say that to you.
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And you still liked it because you're wired for it.
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Words of affirmation.
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Now, the thing about the the the five love languages
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Is if somebody is wired for words of affirmation and you do
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Another one of them, it's almost like it's worthless effort.
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So let me show you.
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So the next one is acts of service.
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I'll do this for you. acts of service.
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So if if somebody is wired to receive love through acts of service,
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And you give them words of affirmation, it's to them.
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It's as if you've done nothing.
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And how i figured that out is because i assume that my wife
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Would feel so loved that i paid all of our bills.
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I wanted to put bows on the refrigerator
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In a bow, on the couch i bought, in a bow on the tv, on a bed.
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Look at this. look how loved you are.
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But she doesn't receive it.
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As a matter of fact, you know how i know
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That there's been seasons in our life where we've been blessed financially.
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And there's been seasons where we've cast it all out for ministry and had nothing.
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Where we one time our apartment, our bedroom was in the kitchen.
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Just to give you an idea, and i promise you, my wife,
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There was no difference in our relationship.
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The way julie's wired and she's built like a missionary status
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Where it's like she does not care whether you
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She lives in a mansion or she her our beds in the kitchen.
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The way she treated me has always been the same in terms of the way she has.
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But if i buy her a mansion, which we don't have.
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But if i buy her a mansion and and, assume she feels more love,
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But don't give her words of affirmation, our relationship will get
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Worse in a bigger house.
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Does this make any sense to y'all?
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So it's like, it's a weird thing because i can't love julie
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The way i want to love her.
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I have to love julie.
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The way she receives love.
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And i promise you, jesus knows that about you.
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And what makes your relationship with jesus so important?
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Is jesus loves you the way you receive love.
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And i'm going to show you that in scripture.
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So number three is receiving gifts.
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I thought of you and got this for you.
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So that's like receiving gifts.
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I thought of you and i got this for you.
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The next one is quality time.
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Let's be together.
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Quality. we. i need to spend quality time.
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So julie is.
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She loves words of affirmation.
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Now, for a lot of men, we give words of information, not words of affirmation.
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Come on.
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You know your wife doesn't care about all the science behind it.
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Just say, tell her she looks amazing.
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You know, we give words of information, not affirmation.
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But then the receiving gifts is really important.
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Quality time is really important.
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I took my wife on a date this week and it was so funny because she has.
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That's a value for her.
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So she's like, oh, i just i feel so good.
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I love this, i love that, and it was just that time.
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So if i don't take find some time to take her out
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And i don't give her those two things, i have to win in those things.
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If i don't give my wife gifts, she's fine.
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If i don't do acts of service, she's fine.
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But if i neglect those two things, my relationship is going to diminish.
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Okay, so that's my situation.
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And then the last one is physical touch.
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Let me hold you.
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Let me caress you.
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Physical touch is not always sexual touch.
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So there's a lot of research on this.
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But essentially husbands tend to think of love as providing.
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And wives tend to think of it in terms of, auditory.
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Now, of course, this is not specific to everybody, but the research says
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It biases towards those things, which is how i tried to preach it today.
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But let me just break this last portion down right now.
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And if you want to, if the band wants to come up
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Or maybe just bree or somebody on keys or whatever,
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This is not a tremendously long message because i'm sowing a lot of seeds
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Right now.
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So let's look at
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Colossians chapter three, verse 14, and you could put this in your notes.
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And above all these
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Somebody says, all somebody say above all, okay.
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So this is giving you a priority above all these put on love
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Which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
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Somebody say perfect harmony.
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So above all these prioritize love.
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And then if you do that, it binds everything together in perfect harmony.
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So for those of you who are no takers, and i'll make this available online
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So you can actually get these notes, i know it's a lot.
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I'm going to go through the five love languages now as jesus
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Did each one of them.
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And my mind was blown because i was like, i'm not here to preach marriage.
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I'm here to preach jesus.
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And if you understand jesus,
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As you increase in your understanding of jesus,
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You will increase in your understanding of marriage.
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Does this make sense?
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Because there's people who think they know marriage, but by who's standard,
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The american 21st century standard or by christ standard, right?
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So we have to understand jesus.
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And so number one is words of affirmation.
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Hey, join me for the trip of a lifetime.
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As we travel, retracing the apostle paul steps.
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Yes, right there where scripture was first written, right there
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Where the early church was born.
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We're going to go from side to side. i'm going to be teaching.
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We're going to get to meet.
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We're going to share some incredible meals together.
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You're going to get to meet other people from around the world.
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And this is an exclusive trip, okay.
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Which means you've got to act now while there are still seats available.
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So scan the qr code, tap the link and get your seat. now.
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You are not going to regret it.
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I can't wait to see you on this.
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Retracing the apostle paul greece tour.
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Come on land and sea.
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It doesn't get any better than that.
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I'll see you there.
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Some of you might be thinking, well, jesus, never
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A firm gave me words of affirmation.
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I'm supposed to affirm jesus, but some of you have not let
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Jesus love you, and this is going to be your next level breakthrough.
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Because in matthew chapter five verse 14, he said, you are the light of the world.
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He affirmed, you are the light of the world.
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So he gave words of affirmation, so you might feel like i'm nothing.
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I'm a nobody, i'm worthless.
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Why would jesus want to be married to me?
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Let's go to a room.
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Why would he want me to be his bride?
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I cuss too much, i smoke too much, i drink too much.
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I get caught in the lust and perversion.
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I don't read my bible.
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It's already february and i'm 18 days behind on my daily growth journal
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And i've already screwed up.
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Why would he want to be married to me?
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And he gives you words of affirmation.
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He says you are the light of the world.
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It's like this
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Battered woman in a relationship who's like, why would you want my body?
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Why would you want me?
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Why would you love me?
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And a loving husband with the words?
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Because that is the body that bore our children.
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And your body is beautiful. beautiful to me.
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Every scar, every inch of it, every bit of it.
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Your mind i love you.
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Don't you dare disrespect. we're one flesh.
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And you begin through words of affirmation to repair that relationship.
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And you say the opposite of what they think.
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I think you're going to leave me.
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I think that you don't want me.
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I think that i'm not enough.
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But jesus said, in the midst of all that you are the light of the world.
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He was loving his bride with words of affirmation,
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Acts of service.
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Well, no.
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No, we're supposed to.
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Okay, i'm getting to a root here.
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Some of you don't know how to be married to jesus,
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Because it's only a one way street, and you have not allowed him
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To be a good groom to you.
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And that's why i'm doing this.
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Well, i got to go to the church and.
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Oh, i gotta get ready.
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Oh, i've got to go work for the coffee i got.
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Oh, i got to play the bass. oh, i got to do this.
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I got to prove to him i got up. no no, no. yeah.
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There's a part for all that.
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But if you're striving in that, you don't understand that he also
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Wants to love you.
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Acts of service.
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In john chapter 13, verse five, jesus
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Washed the disciples feet.
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Have you ever okay, what i love about washing feet
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Is you have to be seated for it to happen.
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Bass player sit down.
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Some of you are like the i sat down in ministry i have.
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I used to preach now don't preach.
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I sat down in ministry.
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I used to play the musician, the music.
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Now i don't play.
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I know you haven't been sat down for inactivity.
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You've been sat down so that your groom can wash your feet.
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He you're.
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He's putting you in that posture so that you can learn how to be serve.
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Because once you let him wash your feet,
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You will know what it feels like to sit other people down and serve them.
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And how can you give a love that you have refused to receive?
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I know this is good for somebody.
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Because when you're standing and you're playing the bass,
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When you're standing and making coffee, when you're standing and greeting
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At the front door, you're serving, but you're not being served.
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That's why we say serve one.
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Serve one.
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Sit one.
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I don't want anybody serving multiple services.
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Serve one, sit one. why?
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Because you wash people's feet.
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One service and you get yours.
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Wash the next.
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Some of y'all don't know how to be married.
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That's why.
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That's why the church is so dysfunctional, you know?
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Oh, come on,
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I feel a vh1 classic in the making.
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This is needed.
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Is this needed?
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Okay, let's pick up the pace.
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Receiving gifts.
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But i'm supposed to give god my money?
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I'm supposed to give god?
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I supposed to go to honduras and serve in a missions team?
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I'm supposed to give god my gifting to video at it.
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I'm supposed to give.
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Yeah, but hold on, john chapter three, verse 16.
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For god so loved that he gave.
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And as a matter of fact, he gave so lavishly will never be able to repay him
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Back.
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He gave his life.
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And so it's like my video.
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It trivializes whatever i give him.
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So are we in a competition?
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No, we're simply responding.
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I can't believe that pastor asked me to give my money.
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I can't believe that god gave his only begotten son.
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It's like it trivializes it.
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That church only wants my money.
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No, no, no, jesus gave everything.
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It's it's it's incomparable.
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If we if if i gave everything i have, it would be like
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A granular piece of sand in an entire ocean.
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It would be so incalculably small.
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It would feel infantile in comparison to the grandeur of his love.
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Are y'all with me? yes. so he gays.
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That's why
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Salvation is a gift, not a reward.
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And if you don't understand marriage,
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You'll try to earn a reward.
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Hey, by the way, sex is not a reward
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For being a good spouse.
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Hello.
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Sex is not a reward for being a good for.
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Oh, my husband was good this week.
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I'll sleep with him.
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Oh, you didn't do the dishes. you didn't do this.
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You were mean.
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I'm going to withhold from.
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You know we don't have or vice versa.
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We don't withhold from each other because we're one flesh.
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And this is what the scriptures say.
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It's we've got to understand this.
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And what happens is in relationships, we're making people earn our affection,
00:31:37.816 --> 00:31:42.154
Earn our attention, earn our love, and not realizing that we're engaging with god.
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The same way.
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Oh come on,
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Or when you've been bad towards him, you think he's treating you
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The way you treat your spouse?
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No, no, it's a reward,
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Not a gift.
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I mean, i'm sorry, it's a gift, not a reward.
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It says this,
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Quality time.
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Mark chapter three, verse 14.
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You could write this down in your notes.
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Mark chapter three, verse 14.
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He walked with his disciples daily.
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Quality time.
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Come over here, john.
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Jesus.
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Can i put my head on your chest?
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I'm feeling anxious.
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Yeah. come over here, my beloved.
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Put your head on my chest.
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Thomas, come over here.
00:32:40.546 --> 00:32:42.481
Let's walk. jesus, i'm struggling.
00:32:42.481 --> 00:32:44.683
I. i doubt so much this thing doesn't make sense in my intellect.
00:32:44.683 --> 00:32:50.022
That's okay. let's walk together.
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Quality time.
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After jesus resurrection, he was in a glorified body.
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And he revealed himself to thomas.
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And he was spending quality time. think about it.
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He's the resurrected king and he didn't show himself to thousands.
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He showed himself to one and said, let's spend time together and thomas is like,
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I want to believe it's you, but this is crazy.
00:33:11.877 --> 00:33:14.013
I watched you die there.
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I want to, and he's like, thomas, it's me and you right now.
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Look at me. i understand your fears.
00:33:19.018 --> 00:33:21.353
I understand your concerns, i don't, i don't i'm not mad at you for all.
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Come on.
00:33:25.657 --> 00:33:27.026
I'm not going to fight you.
00:33:27.026 --> 00:33:28.861
It's. it's okay to confront me.
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Think about the relationship between resurrected jesus and thomas.
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Think about it.
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He's confronting him, saying, i, i want to believe this is real, but this is crazy.
00:33:38.537 --> 00:33:41.707
Did you just walk through a wall?
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And jesus is like, just put your just touch,
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Come a little closer.
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You know how close you have to be to touch somebody's side.
00:33:51.683 --> 00:33:54.987
You could smell them
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Quality time.
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But in a lot of marriage relationships, when you confront
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It causes conflict.
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And conflict can actually create
00:34:06.865 --> 00:34:09.535
Greater intimacy or greater division.
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So when thomas was confronting resurrected
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Jesus, jesus could have been on the defensive.
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What do you mean, thomas?
00:34:17.810 --> 00:34:19.611
I told you i was going to come back from the dead. what do you mean?
00:34:19.611 --> 00:34:21.914
It's not me?
00:34:21.914 --> 00:34:23.315
Dude, i just i was just i literally conquered death.
00:34:23.315 --> 00:34:25.617
I was in grave for you.
00:34:25.617 --> 00:34:27.019
And you're going to disrespect me like that's a
00:34:27.019 --> 00:34:29.221
That's a toxic marriage conversation.
00:34:29.221 --> 00:34:31.790
But jesus says, come a little closer.
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Touch, feel, experience.
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What about in a marriage relationship
00:34:40.365 --> 00:34:41.967
When we get confronted instead of that producing conflict
00:34:41.967 --> 00:34:45.737
That makes division, it produces greater intimacy.
00:34:45.737 --> 00:34:49.775
Oh, you think i'm going to leave you?
00:34:50.576 --> 00:34:51.844
I'll never leave you nor forsake you.
00:34:51.844 --> 00:34:54.613
I'll be with you until the come a little closer.
00:34:54.613 --> 00:34:57.950
Oh, you think i'm going to be mad at you because you doubt?
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Come a little closer.
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See? there's something.
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Are y'all getting this revelation with me?
00:35:04.089 --> 00:35:06.325
Last but not least,
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And i've already preached it.
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Matthew, chapter eight, verse three.
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Physical touch.
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Physical touch.
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He healed by his touch. men,
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Men, you can heal by your touch.
00:35:22.875 --> 00:35:26.211
Women you can heal by your touch.
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I had to learn gentleness.
00:35:30.749 --> 00:35:32.918
I did not know gentleness.
00:35:32.918 --> 00:35:34.586
It's a fruit of the spirit. my.
00:35:34.586 --> 00:35:37.222
I grew many other fruit.
00:35:37.222 --> 00:35:38.724
But the fruit that i never grew is gentleness.
00:35:38.724 --> 00:35:42.027
And i had to go through a process
00:35:42.761 --> 00:35:44.263
Of how to guide, put my
00:35:44.763 --> 00:35:46.565
Hand on the small of my wife's back and lead her through the door.
00:35:46.565 --> 00:35:51.503
I had to go on dates and say, julie,
00:35:52.304 --> 00:35:53.839
If you'll pause in front of that door, i'll open it for you,
00:35:53.839 --> 00:35:56.875
Because i noticed that julie would always grab the door and open it for herself.
00:35:58.410 --> 00:36:00.579
And i had to tell her, if you pause in front of that door, i'll open it for you.
00:36:02.181 --> 00:36:03.649
And i would open the door and just gently guide her.
00:36:03.649 --> 00:36:06.485
And i feel like the lord wants me to tell many of you
00:36:06.485 --> 00:36:08.820
I'm speaking to the bride of christ.
00:36:08.820 --> 00:36:10.455
If you pause in front of the door, i'll open it for you.
00:36:10.455 --> 00:36:17.563
Because what happens was julie had opened doors
00:36:18.497 --> 00:36:21.200
For herself for 19 years before i met her.
00:36:21.200 --> 00:36:24.903
So when a real man showed up, she didn't even know how to let me lead.
00:36:26.338 --> 00:36:28.774
And i'm talking to even some of the husbands right now.
00:36:29.875 --> 00:36:32.144
When your heavenly father shows up in your life,
00:36:32.144 --> 00:36:34.513
You don't know how to let him lead you because you're used to doing it yourself.
00:36:34.513 --> 00:36:38.183
If you pause in front of the door, he'll open it for you.
00:36:39.318 --> 00:36:41.820
Is this helping anybody?
00:36:42.321 --> 00:36:43.822
Would you all stand to your feet with me?
00:36:43.822 --> 00:37:03.442
Can i tell you the truth?
00:37:04.009 --> 00:37:07.346
These conversations that we're having this month shouldn't.
00:37:08.513 --> 00:37:11.750
Should it just happen in a church?
00:37:12.517 --> 00:37:14.353
They should have happened in your childhood home.
00:37:14.353 --> 00:37:17.756
Now, it probably didn't happen, just like it didn't happen in mine.
00:37:19.057 --> 00:37:21.693
But these conversations are not church conversations exclusively,
00:37:23.028 --> 00:37:26.231
But they are supposed to be conversations at home.
00:37:27.266 --> 00:37:29.101
But we have gone so far.
00:37:29.101 --> 00:37:31.436
We have walked so far in the wrong direction for thousands of years
00:37:31.436 --> 00:37:35.173
That it's not that normal.
00:37:35.741 --> 00:37:36.775
According to god, is not normal.
00:37:36.775 --> 00:37:39.144
And so what i, what julie and i are doing is we're trying
00:37:39.144 --> 00:37:42.681
To give you 20 years of crucial conversations and a months
00:37:42.681 --> 00:37:46.785
We years and years of paid counseling out of our own money to sit with people.
00:37:48.287 --> 00:37:52.090
And we're taking all that wisdom.
00:37:52.758 --> 00:37:54.326
We're trying to get it to you to infuse it into your life.
00:37:54.326 --> 00:37:56.762
And i really believe that whether you're single or married, this month
00:37:56.762 --> 00:38:00.565
Will be a major deposit in your life and you'll never be the same.
00:38:00.565 --> 00:38:04.403
But there's a lot of emotions that are going to be stirred up
00:38:05.604 --> 00:38:08.340
Over the next couple of weeks.
00:38:08.974 --> 00:38:10.175
A lot of feelings, a lot of thoughts.
00:38:10.175 --> 00:38:12.110
Sometimes when you're squeezing the wound and the past comes out
00:38:12.110 --> 00:38:15.981
And you have to drain it before you sow it up,
00:38:15.981 --> 00:38:18.950
And so you might find yourself like,
00:38:18.950 --> 00:38:20.819
I don't know, i feel conflicted in these services.
00:38:20.819 --> 00:38:23.188
I don't know if i want to cry or if i want to yell.
00:38:23.188 --> 00:38:25.757
I get angry, i get, i get upset, i don't know what i'm feeling.
00:38:25.757 --> 00:38:29.461
I want to speak to that and narrate this to you.
00:38:29.461 --> 00:38:31.697
I'm speaking to your being right now.
00:38:31.697 --> 00:38:35.033
It's because there's divorce in your in your bloodline.
00:38:36.134 --> 00:38:38.937
There's there's infidelity, adultery, it's all in there.
00:38:38.937 --> 00:38:43.842
And some of you, you're
00:38:43.842 --> 00:38:45.377
The very first ones who will sit under godly, righteous teaching
00:38:45.377 --> 00:38:48.780
And say it may run in my family, but this has got to be where it runs out.
00:38:50.148 --> 00:38:53.118
I may have gotten divorced, but he's a god
00:38:53.985 --> 00:38:55.987
Of second chances and third chances and fourth chances.
00:38:55.987 --> 00:38:59.291
I may have fallen into adultery.
00:38:59.925 --> 00:39:01.760
I may have already messed up, but he's a god of second chances.
00:39:01.760 --> 00:39:05.397
Third chances. he's a god that draws us back.
00:39:05.397 --> 00:39:08.066
And i may have yelled at my wife today, yesterday,
00:39:08.066 --> 00:39:10.969
I may have yelled at my husband. i may have already messed it up.
00:39:10.969 --> 00:39:13.872
But god is saying, come try again because you're being discipled in this way.
00:39:13.872 --> 00:39:19.111
So just how many of you, by a show of hands, are willing
00:39:20.212 --> 00:39:22.047
To continue this journey with me throughout this month?
00:39:22.047 --> 00:39:24.783
Who wants to be discipled?
00:39:24.783 --> 00:39:26.518
Who wants to be mentored in marriage?
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Praise god!
00:39:28.587 --> 00:39:29.521
So i want to pray for you.
00:39:29.521 --> 00:39:30.922
Let's leave our hands up across every location right now.
00:39:30.922 --> 00:39:33.725
And i just because
00:39:34.159 --> 00:39:35.994
I feel the holiness of god, i feel the righteousness of god right now.
00:39:35.994 --> 00:39:39.097
And so right now, with every hand lifted from the front to the back,
00:39:40.465 --> 00:39:43.001
I just i want to tell you that that before you go and be
00:39:44.102 --> 00:39:47.172
Who god has called you to be, you must experience his love
00:39:47.172 --> 00:39:51.309
And allow him to serve you with words of affirmation
00:39:52.344 --> 00:39:54.379
And allow him to serve you with acts of service and allow you
00:39:55.580 --> 00:39:57.482
To serve him, to serve you with gifts and allow him to lavish you.
00:39:57.482 --> 00:40:01.319
So right now, just over the next several moments, as as you hear
00:40:01.319 --> 00:40:04.890
The sound of this piano, i believe this is prophetic piano playing.
00:40:04.890 --> 00:40:09.361
So i want to just turn up the piano for a moment,
00:40:10.362 --> 00:40:12.197
And i what the lord is going to begin to just supernaturally encounter
00:40:12.197 --> 00:40:15.967
You in miami on long island, here in brooklyn, indiana.
00:40:15.967 --> 00:40:20.405
Right now you are an encounter with your groom, with your come on, jesus
00:40:21.807 --> 00:40:25.544
Christ himself through the holy spirit, just touching and affirming.
00:40:26.878 --> 00:40:30.882
And i pray over this church from the top of your head
00:40:31.983 --> 00:40:33.685
To the soles of your very feet, that that orphan spirit
00:40:33.685 --> 00:40:37.556
Would be broken off of you in the name of jesus.
00:40:37.556 --> 00:40:40.859
I speak to every root of rejection right now,
00:40:41.793 --> 00:40:44.463
And i command it out in the name of jesus.
00:40:45.363 --> 00:40:47.732
I sever every ungodly soul, tie from inappropriate relationships
00:40:48.967 --> 00:40:52.637
Of the past that have caused you to go back to the fantasies
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That have caused you to go back to the wandering in your own mind.
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Every spirit of condemnation, every stronghold of guilt and shame.
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I pull it down in the name of jesus over every single
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One of my congregants, and those who love the sound of my voice.
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I speak to the stronghold of condemnation that says, you'll never be good enough.
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And i say, stronghold, come down.
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We take into captivity every thought that is erected itself
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Up against the word of god right now.
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Every single thought of inner inadequacy, every single demonic
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Lie of the enemy that you're too old, that you're not good enough.
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I bind it in the name of jesus and cast it down in the name of jesus.
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I hear the lord saying, i have forgiven you.
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And as far as the east is from the west, i have separated you from your sin.
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And i remember no more jesus mighty name, who?
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When the
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Prodigal son came home, he got a ring and a robe.
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And the ring represents covenant.
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And i saw a vision of the lord releasing rings.
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And the lord says, when you allow me to put the ring on your finger,
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See, there's some.
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It's like some of you like you, you still you're having encounter
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With the father because he wants to put the ring on your finger first.
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And i'm talking to even the sons.
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We think about buying a ring so we could get married,
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But the lord's like, i've already paid for this with my life and son.
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Let me put the ring on you.
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Daughter, let me put the ring on you.
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Last thing.
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Because i know there's a lot of tears in the room right now.
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Over the next two weeks, the lord says that he is about to purge.
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The word he gave me for you is purge, purge,
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Purge, purge, purge you of rejection.
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Purge you.
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The lord says you've taken out a root, but not the root,
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And i'm taking out the root, and i will purge.
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Purge, says the lord. purge.
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Over the next two weeks, there's a 14 day purge that's happening.
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Purging, purging, purging.
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And he's removing the reproach of egypt.
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He's removing the stench of sin, purging, purging
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And the purging as a part of a preparation.
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Let him do the work, because the thing the lord told me to say is,
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This is forever.
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This is forever.
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Hahaha.
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I felt that release strong.
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This every, every day.
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Everything in your life has felt temporary.
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But i heard the lord say this is forever.
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This is forever here.
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This is forever and father, we release the eternal
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That they would step fully into the spiritual realm
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In dimensions of the spirit that they have not known god,
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That they would step out of the temporary and they would
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See this is forever.
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It's a relationship that has no end.
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You lose nothing.
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I really want to thank you for supporting this ministry.
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Pray about what god would have you do.
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We don't tell people what to give, what we do love to talk about
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Is the amazing, life saving projects that we do around the united states
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And around the world.
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Whether it's distributing the gospel
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In non-christian nations, even underground church networks,
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Or providing disaster relief to areas most affected around the united states,
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Many lives are being changed because of your generosity.
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Your.
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Mike Signorelli - What Men and Women Really Want

December 10, 2025 | 45:43

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