Mike Signorelli - Why Men Stop Trying In Marriage (And How To Get Him Back)

January 20, 2026 | 24:34

Pastor Mike Signorelli brings bold, Bible-based teaching to help believers walk faithfully in today’s often compromised world

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| Mike Signorelli - Why Men Stop Trying In Marriage (And How To Get Him Back) | January 20, 2026

How many people claim
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To get saved, but their cravings never change.
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You can scroll on your phone
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For four hours, but you can't spend four minutes in prayer.
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Something's gotta change because you say, if it was about me,
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I would keep scrolling.
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But it's about this density, so let me eat the scroll.
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Come on, somebody.
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Oh, oh.
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All right.
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Welcome to our living room in new york city.
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My name is mike senior ali.
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And this is my beautiful wife, julie.
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And we are in our fourth and final installation
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Of what men and women really want.
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You made it.
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And if you're binge watching all the way through, you're a real one.
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And you just pat yourself on the back.
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So what men really want is purpose and partnership.
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That's what we're going to be talking about.
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And what women really want is what faithfulness and commitment.
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Yeah.
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So women really want faithfulness.
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They want commitment.
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But men, they really need purpose and partnership.
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Okay. so we're going to talk about that.
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And okay we're going to just jump right in.
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By the way we're loving all the comments in the comment section.
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Julie and i have been taking some time
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To like go back and read them and talk to you guys in the comments.
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Come on, you need more of this in your life. yes.
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Well, let's talk about commitment.
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So men, men know they need purpose.
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And one of the things about dating is that a dating gives a man a sense of purpose.
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Because it's like the conquer thing. right.
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It activates this guy to get to know her.
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Then you got to dater then you got to engage.
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Then you got to. yeah.
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There's like all these like levels like a video game.
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It is.
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Yeah exactly.
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The video gamification i knew i had i had the men at video game.
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Right.
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So and that's, that's a real phenomenon
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Because it's like, oh, i think she likes me.
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Will she give me a chance?
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Can i kiss her?
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Can i hold her? can i touch her? how far can i take it?
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Can i marry her?
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And it goes in phases and stages.
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And a lot of guys, they shut down in the marriage
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Because that part of them is no longer active.
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So men need purpose, right? right.
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And it's sometimes when a man feels like their purpose is dwindling
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Or diminishing or gone, they're like, you know what?
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What does it really matter?
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She's never happy.
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You know, nothing i do.
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And what they'll do is they'll shift their focus to an alternative purpose.
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And that's why you see men, they start getting into hobbies.
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Oh, i got a i'm actually working on a car.
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Okay. you know, it's like.
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Because what happens is they're so wired for purpose
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That if they feel like, well, listen, my previous purpose
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Was this relationship, but now it feels purposeless.
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I'm just going to move on and i'll reallocate this energy towards
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Other purposes.
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Makes a lot of sense because men have a lot of hobby groups, you know,
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Like another one with a hobby, but like, no, no, no, i know what you're saying.
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It's just like, innate in you.
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It is.
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But is it a hobby?
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Or is it misdirected purpose?
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Well let me let me say this.
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Did the hobby replace your your relationship.
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Like because every man i believe needs one or more hobbies.
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Oh yeah. i think they're very important.
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Yes. you know it's like i got a lot of hobbies actually.
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Yeah.
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But it's, it's healthy in the fact that it doesn't replace purpose.
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Right. and so a lot of men struggle for, for that.
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But then women they need faithfulness.
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And so sometimes what i just try to do is try to make the distinction
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Between purpose and faithfulness.
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Because sometimes in a man's attempt to find purpose, he becomes unfaithful.
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Because it's like i switch now i'm going to go here
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Because i feel like what does it matter anyway.
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You know this relationship ended or they get comfortable
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And they're like yeah you know what.
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Like i don't need to advance this marriage.
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Like i'm on cruise control. so i'm going to go find purpose someone.
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So a man can become unfaithful in his attempt
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To find purpose in the wrong place. right.
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And then.
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But a woman really needs faithfulness.
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And i explain it to me.
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Well, i mean, i think women
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And i know this isn't the case for all women because somebody in the chat
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Is going to say what about blah blah blah blah blah.
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But i would say most women who are not.
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You know, who there isn't something wrong with them
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Are wired for commitment.
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Like, we are hard wired when we have babies.
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That's why it's it's so, instinctual.
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It's so instinctual.
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And that's why there's something like there's a red flag when a mother doesn't
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Have the connection with their baby, because that's what, like, usual natural.
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Right?
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And so when it comes to, i know that there are people out there
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That not biblical, that believe, you know, that they don't have to have monogamy.
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They're not wired for that. well, guess what?
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You are wired for that.
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That is, even science will tell you that that the most fulfilled relationships
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Are monogamous, heterosexual couples who are committed to each other.
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So, we are hard wired, hard wired for it at a biological level.
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We just are.
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And scripturally, we are taught.
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You know, when you're a woman coming up in the faith.
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And for those of you who didn't grow up in church,
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You know, like, i don't know, but like, as a woman growing up
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In the faith in the church, you know, you're taught, you get married
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And you live your whole life with this person.
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And so that is like
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In my subconscious, right?
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So when it comes to commitment, i used to get so offended
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When i felt like things were like vying for your for your commitment.
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Like your time.
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Like you had a, you know, a band.
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And how much time was he spending?
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Because i want you to be committed to me and nothing else.
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You know, that's the unhealthy, toxic part of me.
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You know, you're admitting that. i'm admitting it.
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I remember when you were with your band.
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If i felt like band, we had a detached garage at the time.
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And if i felt like band rehearsal was going too long.
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Do you remember me doing this?
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There was a power switch in the house, and i would just shut the door
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Off to the garage.
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Yeah.
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That's all.
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Oh, no. that was very toxic.
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Granted, you had your own toxic tendencies, but
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I felt like if there was anything that was threatening
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Our commitment that i just wanted to chop it off.
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Whether it was healthy, unhealthy doesn't matter.
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Not every man is addicted to video games.
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So some women, every time they pick up,
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You know, a video game controller, they're just going crazy.
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Well, okay.
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Is it the fact that they're doing something other than you
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Or are you, you know, jealous?
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There's a lot to be determined.
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So i think when it comes to commitment, if we feel like.
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Because i think the obvious thing is fidelity, like, obviously
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We want you to be committed, but, the more non-obvious thing
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Are the things that vie for your time commitment.
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Yeah. i don't know if that. does that make sense?
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Yeah. absolutely.
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Because it's like you,
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If you feel what you're saying is that sometimes women, if they feel like
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Anything, is to the detriment of that faithfulness.
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Right.
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So sometimes they can't in their own mind, they can't make amends of like,
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In other words, like, they you can't put it all together
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And say it's possible
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That he still loves me and he's faithful to me,
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But he also has these other things in his life.
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You're right.
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I mean, there are some unhealthy marriages where they only have each other.
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No, you know what i mean?
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Like, that's not healthy either, because i think
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That there's something to be said about, like having a separate life.
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Actually makes the together time more healthy.
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You know what i mean?
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So it's like it's beneficial for me to go do this and explore this and see this.
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Then when we do come together.
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There's some there's it's exciting, you know, because there are some couples
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That it's like they actually lose their individuality
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For the sake of the marriage.
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When i think that faithfulness doesn't necessarily mean like, exclusivity.
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In terms of my time, you know, because there's some people
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That they become one dimensional and it's like, you go to work,
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You come home, go to sleep, go to work, come home, go to sleep.
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And then, ironically, the, man
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That does that can become less attractive to a woman.
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You know what i mean?
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Because it's like they've lost their edge.
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And so it's like i think there's a dynamic to this
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Where a healthy man
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Is not like always home.
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Right.
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I mean like it's like are you going to the gym.
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Do you go golf.
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Do you have male friends where occasionally you go out
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Shooting with them.
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You know doing different.
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Like,
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Yeah there's something about you and like, obviously you can spend too much time
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On those things. like.
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Yeah, we're talking about healthy,
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Like, rhythms of rest.
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Yeah.
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Like ecclesiastes three.
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There's a time for everything.
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Sure.
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Now, there's been seasons where i think i went too far, like,
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Absolutely in the band thing, where it was like,
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I obsessed over the music and i just wanted to be an artist.
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Right.
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But then there's also been times where i've gone too far in the work,
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And this is like a more recent oh yeah, which we're at.
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We're in a sabbath year right now where we're, like, peeling back.
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I got my travel down to the minimums.
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You know, we're we're in it.
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We're trying to work that out.
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And i like that you work.
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You use the word rhythm,
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Not season or, you know, because it's like a healthy rhythm.
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Like six days of work, one day of sabbath.
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That's how god demonstrated it was more work than sabbath.
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Some people have six days of rest.
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One day of work.
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If you're near one of our campuses, i want to give you
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A personal invitation to check out v1 church.
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There's no way i can describe the atmosphere of revival in the experience.
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If you've never driven up or driven in, you know,
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Let me just tell you it's a powerful atmosphere
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And a bunch of people who really love the lord and want to get to know you.
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So let us know when you're coming and i'll see you at v1 church.
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You know what i mean?
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Like if you added it all up.
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And maybe that convicted somebody.
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Now for me what's funny is you were toxic.
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You did shut off the garage.
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Oh yeah.
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But then i counterbalance the other direction.
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And i hit a stretch of building for our family building.
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Legacy to where i, how i knew i was getting unbalances like
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You would come home with a hockey stick for me.
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You know, like you were trying to jump start my high roller blades.
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Like whatever i can get like you're steering.
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It's like let's do this. yeah.
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And that was actually a sign to me, you know, that like
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You know, hey, i just bought you a fishing pole, like, please.
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Yeah. do something other than work.
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It was funny because in 2024, it was the year of people
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Giving you gifts, hoping you would get a hobby.
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Which is funny.
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You have hobbies, you have music, you have different things.
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You would do poetry.
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There's a lot of things that are hobbies that people don't see.
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So, you know, and nontraditional hobbies like art and different things
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That, you know, you're you're an artist, if you will.
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But it was funny because, like last year, someone gifted you a playstation,
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Someone gifted you or whatever, i don't know.
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I don't know, i've played that thing a dozen times the last year,
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But every time i do it, it's literally like once or twice a month.
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I literally go, man, i feel, i feel better.
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I was in, you know, like and i makes me so happy seeing you do it.
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But that's how it should be.
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You know, if your wife is like, oh my god, she's playing video games again.
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It's like, you might want to examine your commitment to her.
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Yeah.
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You know, you might want to examine, like,
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If things are imbalanced versus, like, you know,
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Every time you pick up a controller, our kids are like, yay!
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He's doing.
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Yeah, that's actually funny.
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Like, yeah, they celebrate it.
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Yes we do.
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We do it. we do it every day.
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And then yeah, you know, we we got you golf clubs and we're like putting it
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On your calendar to make you do it. yeah.
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So it's like you don't want to be i think you've had seasons
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Being too far in each direction, but,
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You know, when you were in too far in the direction of spending too much
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Time, it's i felt like our commitment to each other was threatened.
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Like it felt like any other hobby was threatened either way.
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Right. because you could be here, right?
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Or your hobby can both threaten your faithfulness. yes.
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Yes. definitely. so.
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And yeah, that's a really that's a really good point.
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And i think for men, more men, they need purpose and partnership. yes.
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So i remember going back to the time where, you know, i was making music
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All day and night.
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Yeah, i felt like i needed partnership, like, i would you to come to the shows
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And you would never want to go. yeah.
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And i'm like, but i'm playing the biggest venues in chicago
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And you know, and sometimes that would put resentment in my heart because,
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You know, it was like, well, all these other people are coming.
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And my wife, you know, doesn't want to come.
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So men need partnership.
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And then even with the ministry it's like, you know there's times
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Where you know i'm like, man i need my wife to rock with me.
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I it's like i need a partner.
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And so i think one of the things i would encourage the women to do
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Is think of yourself
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Like the way you're thinking about how i could be faithful, but you.
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But you should also be thinking about how you can be a partner.
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Yeah.
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So, like, if you're man fish is, can you fish with them?
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If you're man golfs, can you go like you always want to ride.
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You want to drive the car?
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Yeah. yeah.
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You know, but you only can do like nine holes.
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You can't do eight. i can only do for.
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Yeah, because i'm on your attention span and you're like, i can't be on my phone.
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I want to eat the snack some day.
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But it's like, can you be a partner?
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Because i think a lot of men, deep down inside, if they were being honest,
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They view their wife as like this, as a partner and like,
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You know, an accessory like this is my, you know, she's here with me, like,
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She's on my arm and we're going through life together.
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And then when it feels like they're a,
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An enemy or an
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Opposition versus a partner, that's where there's,
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You know, so it's like, enter his world, even if it's not your world.
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Yeah.
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You know, and i think that that to me is something that would encourage,
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Like the women like think about his hobby and act like you care about it.
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Right. that and that'll blow his mind.
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Well, it's like, what do you friends do when you're friends?
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You like my for?
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I want to go shopping.
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I want to go to lunch. i want to go to brunch.
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We like the same things we do the same things together.
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That's part of the bonding.
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But when it comes to our spouses, like, oh, yeah, you're going hunting.
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Good luck.
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Like, no, what if you got the fatigues on?
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I don't know what hunting language is. i live in new york city.
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I have no idea.
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But what are camo you get?
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You get the stuff on. put your. yeah.
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And and just sit there and go go for it.
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Because you would do that for your friends.
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You know how much more your spouse.
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And then i think a
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Lot about like, but we partner and work together.
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I don't look at it as your career.
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You know, i look at it as this is what, what
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What helps our family and so i'm all in.
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So, like, for example, today you had an appointment
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And we had a guest coming.
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And so instead of just letting you feel the full weight of it,
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I jumped in and was like, we're doing this.
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And we were cleaning the yard.
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We were getting the house ready.
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We were ordering food, and it was like, yeah, it was your thing.
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It was your commitment.
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But because we're a family, i was like partnered with you in that.
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And you didn't feel alone when you came home.
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Everything was ready to go.
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We were ready to rock and so that's what we did.
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Yeah.
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Hey, mike. signa rally here in the studio.
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We're getting ready to jump back into the sermon,
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But just very briefly, i wanted to let you know
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That i have a resource called the breakers mobile app,
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So we partnered.
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Yeah.
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And here's what i want to like close on just to encourage everybody.
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So i really believe that what marriage is, is two people trying to out
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Serve each other.
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So like i'm, i'm trying to i'll serve you.
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You're trying to serve me like to be honest with you i don't care about nails.
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But i've gone to the nail salon with you and i am their favorite.
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Yeah i of you, i tip them really well.
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And you know, they're trying to massage my neck
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And all this weird stuff because they're like, we love this guy.
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And but but the thing is, like, that's your world.
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I matter of fact, i feel awkward.
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You are there.
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In fact, they like like at the nail salon.
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They try to give you this, like 22nd, like massage at the end, like.
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And you are so uncomfortable, you're like, please don't.
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Yeah.
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For the times that i've gone to you, gone with you to,
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You know, the shopping little.
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Yeah you know and you know i hate it but you hinder you
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And there's something about that.
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Like i'm entering your space, i'm entering your world.
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I'm caring about what you care about.
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I love that.
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And so, you know, as we come to a close, i.
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My prayer is that as we have bared our souls, we've laughed hysterically.
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We've cried.
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We've told you some of our weirdest stories.
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Yes, we've gotten interrupted with our dog.
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Let me let me know this right now in the comment section.
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If you would like us to, to continue this podcast,
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Like if this is something like, you know what,
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I want you guys to keep doing this segment,
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Then maybe we would be gracious enough to try to find some time.
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We'll consider it to consider investing in your marriage and in your relationships.
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Let us know in the comment section.
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If you guys don't want it
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And you're like, no, these four episodes were cool,
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We'll just i'll go on and do another stuff.
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But if you're like, no, did this really help my marriage or this
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Help me prepare for marriage or it help me heal from a marriage
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Before the next marriage, then we'll keep going.
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I think we can make some more time for this, and we'll keep doing it.
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But you guys got to let us know and tap the subscribe button.
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And here's the thing.
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Don't let your men men,
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Do not let your pursuit of purpose
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Cause you to become unfaithful and then women
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Don't let your need for faithfulness actually cause you to not be a partner.
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Come on. set that good?
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I'm just trying to help.
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Yeah. you're trying to do good.
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Yeah. no, no.
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Yeah. come on. no, no.
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Well, we're live in the knows.
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We're living it.
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And i think sometimes we put so much emphasis on these cleverly
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Crafted sermon ads and all this stuff, and there's a place for that.
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I mean, i prepare,
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I spend about 20 or 30 hours a week on the sermons that i preach on sunday
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Because there's thousands of people that need that fresh manna.
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They need the meat of the word.
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And, i take that very seriously.
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And that's why millions of people cumulatively listen
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To the sermons on sunday, and we feast on it all week across
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All of our locations and, you know, but for this format.
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I felt like the greatest value we could bring is like if you were able
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And a lot of times it's like, oh, i wish that you could help us.
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You know, we get that message by the hundreds
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In my inbox, my ministry inbox.
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It's literally couples.
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If you could just have one meeting with my husband, one meeting with me.
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And so i was like, let's do for let's do for you're invited to my living room.
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This is all this stuff.
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We would literally say, this is what we would say.
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We wouldn't have a literally.
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And that's why we did this and we'll keep going.
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Yeah. marriage refreshers, all that.
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So let's go.
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Thank you for letting me be your husband, dixon.
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Being married to me.
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Yeah.
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Thanks for staying with me through the toxic era.
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You were my first subscriber. i was ever.
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And thank you for,
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Well, sort of letting me learn and figure it out in front of you.
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Yeah.
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And to everybody watching right now, you know, thank you for letting us,
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Figure this out.
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I mean, we're we're far from perfect,
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But we're we haven't try and we're.
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Yeah. i mean, love god.
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Love your spouse.
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You know preach average. yeah.
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Because when you try to preach real, actual, you end up in heresies.
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Right.
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So preach average, preach the word of god and never give up.
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And those are the hardest things to do.
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Yeah.
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There's many people who stay loving their spouse, but stop loving god.
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There's many people who love god, love their spouse,
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But then they get off into these wild heresies where they,
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Because of the itching of their ears, they crave.
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How weird can we get good with preaching?
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Average. yeah.
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It's like, hey, can you just feast on the word every day and not get such
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An exotic diet that you end up on heresies and then or that last?
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There's many people love god, love their wife,
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They stay faithful to the scriptures, but then they give up.
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And so it's like my impartation to every single one of you
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Watching right now is those four things.
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There's four episodes.
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And there's
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Four things that we want to impart in you love god.
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Love your spouse.
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Love the word of god and never give up.
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So i want to, i want to pray over each and every one of you right now,
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Prayer of reconciliation and healing and restoration.
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Father, i pray right now for each and everyone watching,
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Lord, that you would divinely and sovereignly heal them.
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God, i believe in the.
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I don't believe in coincidences.
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I believe in divine confirmations.
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And the stories that we're told, the lessons that were learned
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Were all divinely deposited into the legacy of their family.
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And i pray that children and grandchildren and great great
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Grandchildren are all going to be connected to their. yes.
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And, father, i thank you that what you put together let no man separate.
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Father, i pray for the unity in their marriage.
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And i thank you, lord, that as they continue to grow together,
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Lord, that you will refresh those who refreshed each other.
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And father, we thank you.
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In jesus name. amen.
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All right, y'all, that's it. that's a wrap.
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We'll see you in the next one.
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Mike Signorelli - Why Men Stop Trying In Marriage (And How To Get Him Back)

January 20, 2026 | 24:34

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