5 Minutes with Jesus is a daily devotional series for people in the midst of real life, whether facing anxiety, grief, questions of purpose, or simply needing encouragement and connection. Hosted by Sheila Walsh, each five-minute episode offers Biblical truth, honest reflections on faith and emotions, and closes with a moment of prayer.
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| Sheila Walsh: The Weight of Shame | 5 Minutes With Jesus | May 21, 2026
- Jesus came to destroy.
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- Shamed hold on our lives.
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- He who knew no shame took on our shame.
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- So that we can be free.
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- As david wrote in psalm 34.
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- I pray to the lord.
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- And he answered me.
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- He freed me from all my fears.
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- Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy.
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- No shadow of shame will darken their faces.
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- If you hear
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- The word shame, what comes to your mind?
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- It took me a long time to begin to understand that the shame
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- I've carried since i was a child was less to do with anything
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- I've actually done, and all to do with who i believed i was.
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- Well, think about it.
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- If you think you've done something wrong,
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- You can try and make it right.
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- But if you believe you are something wrong,
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- What do you do with that?
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- Here are some
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- Of the very powerful messages that shame tells us.
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- Number one.
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- Shame includes an enduring negative self-image.
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- No matter how many wonderful things
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- Are happening in your life, none of it means anything to you
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- Because of how you feel about yourself inside.
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- Number two.
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- Shame is highly performance conscious.
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- You always feel your own.
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- You're so anxious to please and to be needed that
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- You measure your worth by what you can produce,
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- As if that will give you value in the eyes of others
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- And yourself. number three.
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- Shame makes you unaware of personal boundaries.
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- You're not sure who you are as separate from someone else.
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- You're not sure where you end and others begin.
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- You find it virtually impossible to stand up for yourself
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- And say no.
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- It's easier to allow others
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- To make decisions and choose for you.
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- You even reveal inappropriate personal details of your life
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- To people you've only recently met.
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- In an attempt to feel connected to someone.
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- Number four.
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- Shame festers in people who are wounded
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- Underneath the surface of your life.
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- There's a wound that's never healed.
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- You nurse it and maintain it because you believe
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- It gives you identity.
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- Number five.
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- Shame is accompanied by a pervading tiredness.
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- There's no place for joy and shame.
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- This means you're always tired and weighed down by life
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- And burdens. simply overwhelm you.
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- Number six.
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- Shame has a built in radar system tuned
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- To keeping everyone happy and at peace.
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- A sense of shame makes you overly responsible.
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- You make it your job to ensure everything is running
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- Smoothly and everyone else is happy.
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- Number seven.
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- Shame makes you ignore your own needs like a martyr,
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- Because shame tells you that you are no good.
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- You seek to balance the scales
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- By ignoring your own legitimate needs.
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- Attempts to please the peace.
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- Others are always more important than listening to
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- And caring for yourself.
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- Number eight.
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- Shame tends towards addictive behavior
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- Which can manifest itself in over involvement in work
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- Or in ministry.
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- You're so ashamed of yourself that you work harder and longer,
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- And a desperate search for that elusive peace.
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- I have to say, i believe this is a huge issue in the church.
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- Number nine.
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- Shame has no concept of normal.
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- If you've grown up with unhealthy behavior
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- In your family, you perceive that to be the norm.
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- You lacked perspective to know what normal should look like.
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- For example, if you grew up with someone
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- Yelling in your face that became familiar to you,
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- You don't realize it is unhealthy behavior.
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- You do not have to live with
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- Number ten.
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- Shame makes it difficult to trust others.
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- You tend to be very guarded around others,
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- Wondering what their agenda is for your life.
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- It's hard to let anyone in because you're sure that person
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- Will not like what he or she sees.
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- This behavior can honestly border on paranoia.
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- Number 11.
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- Shame makes you possessive in relationships.
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- Out of a feeling of unworthiness and fear of abandonment,
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- You cling to the people in your life,
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- Afraid that if they leave,
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- No one will be there to take their place.
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- Finally 12.
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- Shame has a high need for control.
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- Life is scary to shame based person.
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- The only bearable way to survive is to maintain control.
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- Jesus came to destroy.
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- Shamed hold on our lives.
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- He who knew no shame took on our shame.
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- So that we can be free.
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- As david wrote in psalm 34.
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- I pray to the lord.
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- And he answered me.
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- He freed me from all my fears.
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- Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy.
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- No shadow of shame will darken their faces.
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- Let's pray.
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- Lord jesus, i want to thank you
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- That you were willing on the cross to become shame,
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- To take our shame on yourself so that we could be free.
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- And lord, i pray for anyone right now who connected with
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- Any of those different points that yeah, that's me.
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- I pray, holy spirit, you would help us
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- Bring unhealthy shame to you
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- And that we could receive your grace to live in a way
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- Where we know to make our yes, yes and our no no
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- And that they don't require further explanation.
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- You said to your servant paul that it's for freedom.
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- We've been set free.
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- I pray that you'll help us to do that in jesus name.
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- Amen.
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