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Joel Osteen - Approval Addiction

January 12, 2026 | 29:55

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Joel Osteen | Joel Osteen - Approval Addiction | January 12, 2026

>joel: god bless you.
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>joel: god bless you. it's great to be with you
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It's great to be with you today. i hope you'll stay
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Today. i hope you'll stay connected with us during
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Connected with us during the week, through our
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The week, through our daily podcast, our youtube
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Daily podcast, our youtube channel, social media.
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Channel, social media. and you can come visit
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And you can come visit us in person. we'd love
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Us in person. we'd love to have you be a part of
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To have you be a part of one of our services.
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One of our services. i like to start with
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I like to start with something funny.
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Something funny. i heard about this mother.
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I heard about this mother. she was cooking breakfast
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She was cooking breakfast for her two young boys;
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For her two young boys; ryan was 5 and kevin was 3.
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Ryan was 5 and kevin was 3. they began to argue over
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They began to argue over who should get the first
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Who should get the first pancake. she saw this as
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Pancake. she saw this as an opportunity to teach
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An opportunity to teach them a lesson. she said,
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Them a lesson. she said, “boys, boys, if jesus were
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“boys, boys, if jesus were here, he would say, ‘let
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Here, he would say, ‘let my brother have the
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My brother have the first pancake.'” ryan
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First pancake.'” ryan turned to his younger
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Turned to his younger brother and said, “okay
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Brother and said, “okay kevin, you be jesus.”
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Kevin, you be jesus.” say it like you mean it.
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Say it like you mean it. this is my bible.
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This is my bible. i am what it says i am.
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I am what it says i am. i have what it says i
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I have what it says i have. i can do what it
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Have. i can do what it says i can do.
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Says i can do. today, i will be taught
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Today, i will be taught the word of god.
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The word of god. i boldly confess: my mind
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I boldly confess: my mind is alert. my heart is
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Is alert. my heart is receptive. i will never
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Be the same in jesus'
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Be the same in jesus' name. god bless you.
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Name. god bless you. i want to talk to you today
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I want to talk to you today about approval addiction.
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About approval addiction. too many people make
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Too many people make decisions based on what
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Decisions based on what other people will think
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Other people will think about them. they run
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About them. they run everything through a
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Everything through a filter, “how is this going
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Filter, “how is this going to make me look?
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To make me look? how will my friends, my
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How will my friends, my coworkers perceive me?
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Coworkers perceive me? will they be impressed,
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Will they be impressed, will they applaud, or will
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Will they applaud, or will they look down on me, will
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They look down on me, will they think less?” instead
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They think less?” instead of being confident in who
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Of being confident in who god made them to be, they
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God made them to be, they let the opinion of others
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Let the opinion of others determine what they do.
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Determine what they do. they don't realize they're
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They don't realize they're addicted to approval.
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Addicted to approval. psychologists call this
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Psychologists call this fopo.
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Fopo. f-o-p-o.
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F-o-p-o. fear of other people's
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Fear of other people's opinion.
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Opinion. yes, we all want approval,
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Yes, we all want approval, we all want to be liked but
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We all want to be liked but you can't become dependent
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You can't become dependent on what other people think
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On what other people think about you.
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About you. everyone is not going to
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Everyone is not going to understand you, everyone
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Understand you, everyone won't celebrate you.
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Won't celebrate you. there will be seasons when
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There will be seasons when people are for you, giving
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People are for you, giving you approval, then times
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You approval, then times when they're not.
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When they're not. if you have that filter, “i
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If you have that filter, “i have to keep pleasing them,
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Have to keep pleasing them, i need them to approve me
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I need them to approve me to feel good about myself,”
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To feel good about myself,” then you're letting them be
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Then you're letting them be in charge of who you are.
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In charge of who you are. your destiny is not
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Your destiny is not predicated on other
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Predicated on other people's opinion of you.
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People's opinion of you. when god laid out your
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When god laid out your plan, he didn't have a
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Plan, he didn't have a committee.
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Committee. he didn't form a group
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He didn't form a group chat, call twelve of your
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Chat, call twelve of your friends, and say, “let's
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Friends, and say, “let's get together and decide who
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Get together and decide who they're going to be.” by
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They're going to be.” by himself, he called you,
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Himself, he called you, equipped you, gave you
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Equipped you, gave you favor.
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Favor. if you live trying to
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If you live trying to please people, gain their
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Please people, gain their approval, keep everyone
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Approval, keep everyone happy, you're going to be
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Happy, you're going to be frustrated.
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Frustrated. that's going to wear you
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That's going to wear you out.
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Out. you have to break free from
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You have to break free from what people think about you.
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What people think about you. you don't have to have
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You don't have to have their approval; you have
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Their approval; you have almighty god's approval.
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Almighty god's approval. don't live to please
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Don't live to please people, live to please god.
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People, live to please god. he's the one that holds
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He's the one that holds your destiny.
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Your destiny. promotion doesn't come from
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Promotion doesn't come from people; it comes from the
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People; it comes from the lord. how much time and
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Lord. how much time and energy are you spending
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Energy are you spending trying to get approval,
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Trying to get approval, trying to be well liked,
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Trying to be well liked, trying to keep this friend
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Trying to keep this friend impressed, stay in this
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Impressed, stay in this coworker's favor?
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Coworker's favor? take the pressure off.
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Take the pressure off. you can't follow what god
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You can't follow what god put in your heart if you're
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Put in your heart if you're always trying to play up to
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Always trying to play up to people.
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People. “what will they think?
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“what will they think? what if they don't
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What if they don't approve?” a much better
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Approve?” a much better question is, what will god
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Question is, what will god think?
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Think? the apostle paul had all
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The apostle paul had all kinds of opinions about
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Kinds of opinions about him. at one time he was the
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Him. at one time he was the biggest enemy of the
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Biggest enemy of the church, then he became a
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Church, then he became a believer.
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Believer. some people loved him,
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Some people loved him, others were skeptical.
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Others were skeptical. despite all this
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Despite all this opposition, he wrote almost
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Opposition, he wrote almost half of the new testament,
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Half of the new testament, impacted the world in an
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Impacted the world in an amazing way.
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Amazing way. he gives us a secret of how
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He gives us a secret of how he handled the pressure,
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He handled the pressure, how he dealt with all the
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How he dealt with all the opinions.
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Opinions. he said in 1 corinthians 4,
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He said in 1 corinthians 4, “it matters very little to
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“it matters very little to me what you or anyone else
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Me what you or anyone else thinks.
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Thinks. i have been faithful.” paul
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I have been faithful.” paul was saying, “i'm not
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Was saying, “i'm not looking to you for approval.
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Looking to you for approval. i'm not basing my decisions
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I'm not basing my decisions on what you think, whether
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On what you think, whether you like me or don't.
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You like me or don't. that doesn't change who i
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That doesn't change who i am.” he wasn't trying to
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Am.” he wasn't trying to please everyone, he was
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Please everyone, he was trying to please an
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Trying to please an audience of one, the one
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Audience of one, the one who called him, the one who
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Who called him, the one who gave him breath to breathe.
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Gave him breath to breathe. he went on to say in the
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He went on to say in the next verse, “my conscience
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Next verse, “my conscience is clear.” he was saying,
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Is clear.” he was saying, “i've done what god put in
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“i've done what god put in my heart. to the best of my
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My heart. to the best of my ability, i've pursued the
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Ability, i've pursued the dreams and goals he's
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Dreams and goals he's placed in me.” some people
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Placed in me.” some people didn't understand, some
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Didn't understand, some didn't approve, but he
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Didn't approve, but he wasn't ruled by their
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Wasn't ruled by their opinions.
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Opinions. he wasn't insecure to where
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He wasn't insecure to where he needed people to
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He needed people to validate him. he didn't
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Validate him. he didn't have to fit into their mold.
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Have to fit into their mold. if he was addicted to
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If he was addicted to approval, we wouldn't have
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Approval, we wouldn't have half of the new testament.
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Half of the new testament. don't miss your greatness
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Don't miss your greatness because you're dependent on
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Because you're dependent on people approving you.
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People approving you. don't shrink back and let
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Don't shrink back and let your dreams die stillborn
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Your dreams die stillborn because you're worried
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Because you're worried about what they may think,
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About what they may think, what they may say; they may
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What they may say; they may not accept you.
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Not accept you. no, that's an addiction
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No, that's an addiction that needs to be broken.
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That needs to be broken. you have to like paul, be
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You have to like paul, be bold, have that attitude,
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Bold, have that attitude, “it matters very little
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“it matters very little what people think, what
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What people think, what they say.
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They say. i don't need their approval
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I don't need their approval to do what god's called me
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To do what god's called me to do.” if you're getting
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To do.” if you're getting your approval from people,
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Your approval from people, you're letting them control
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You're letting them control you.
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You. i'm not talking about never
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I'm not talking about never taking advice, not
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Taking advice, not listening to counsel.
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Listening to counsel. i'm saying don't let their
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I'm saying don't let their opinion become more
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Opinion become more important than what god put
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Important than what god put in your heart. if you can
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In your heart. if you can say like paul, “my
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Say like paul, “my conscience is clear.
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Conscience is clear. god, i've searched my
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God, i've searched my heart, to the best of my
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Heart, to the best of my ability i believe this is
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Ability i believe this is something you want me to do.
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Something you want me to do. that this is a part of my
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That this is a part of my destiny.” then you don't
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Destiny.” then you don't need twelve people to
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Need twelve people to confirm it.
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Confirm it. you don't need all your
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You don't need all your family to cheer you on,
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Family to cheer you on, your friends and coworkers
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Your friends and coworkers to approve.
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To approve. you may not get that.
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You may not get that. sometimes god will cause
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Sometimes god will cause people to withhold their
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People to withhold their approval.
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Approval. it's a test. are you going
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It's a test. are you going let their lack of approval,
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Let their lack of approval, their opinion, keep you
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Their opinion, keep you from becoming who you were
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From becoming who you were created to be?
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Created to be? when my father went to be
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When my father went to be with the lord, i stepped up
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With the lord, i stepped up to pastor the church, i was
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To pastor the church, i was insecure, i didn't feel
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Insecure, i didn't feel qualified.
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Qualified. i was trying to figure
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I was trying to figure everything out.
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Everything out. who i was going to be, how
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Who i was going to be, how i was going to lead, what
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I was going to lead, what direction the church was
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Direction the church was going to go.
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Going to go. there were a lot of
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There were a lot of different opinions.
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Different opinions. my personality is to want
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My personality is to want to please people.
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To please people. i'm kind, i'll do anything
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I'm kind, i'll do anything for you, that can be good,
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For you, that can be good, but it also can be a
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But it also can be a weakness.
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Weakness. there were all these
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There were all these different opinions.
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Different opinions. i found myself tempted to
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I found myself tempted to make decisions based on
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Make decisions based on what people would think.
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What people would think. there was this man that had
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There was this man that had been on staff with us here
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Been on staff with us here at the church, for many
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At the church, for many years, a good friend of my
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Years, a good friend of my father.
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Father. i had known him since i was
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I had known him since i was a little boy, always liked
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A little boy, always liked him. one day he called and
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Him. one day he called and started telling me
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Started telling me everything i needed to do.
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Everything i needed to do. how to minister, how to run
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How to minister, how to run the church, we should do
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The church, we should do more of this and less of
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More of this and less of that.
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That. he was very opinionated,
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He was very opinionated, very strong.
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Very strong. he said, “if you don't do
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He said, “if you don't do these things, joel, it's
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These things, joel, it's all going to go down.”
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All going to go down.” there's a fine line between
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There's a fine line between advice and manipulation.
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Advice and manipulation. i'm always open for new
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I'm always open for new ideas; the problem was
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Ideas; the problem was nothing he was telling me
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Nothing he was telling me bore witness with my spirit.
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Bore witness with my spirit. it was just the opposite of
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It was just the opposite of what i was feeling.
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What i was feeling. what i've learned is you
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What i've learned is you can hear god's voice for
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Can hear god's voice for your life more than anyone
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Your life more than anyone else.
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Else. god is not going to speak
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God is not going to speak to someone else about your
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To someone else about your destiny and not tell you.
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Destiny and not tell you. other people may confirm it.
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Other people may confirm it. they may encourage you but
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They may encourage you but if it doesn't agree with
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If it doesn't agree with your spirit, then you need
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Your spirit, then you need to dismiss it.
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To dismiss it. don't let other people
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Don't let other people squeeze you into their mold.
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Squeeze you into their mold. i looked up to this man.
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I looked up to this man. he's like a father figure
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He's like a father figure to me.
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To me. i thought, “if i don't do
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I thought, “if i don't do what he wants, then he's
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What he wants, then he's not going to approve me.
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Not going to approve me. he may not support me.
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He may not support me. he may tell others, try to
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He may tell others, try to stir up trouble.” all these
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Stir up trouble.” all these reasons said, “joel, you
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Reasons said, “joel, you need his approval.
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Need his approval. you better take his
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You better take his opinion, don't rock the
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Opinion, don't rock the boat.” these are tests we
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Boat.” these are tests we have to pass.
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Have to pass. “am i going to please
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“am i going to please people or am i going to
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People or am i going to please god?” i was afraid
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Please god?” i was afraid of what he would think,
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Of what he would think, afraid he may be offended,
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Afraid he may be offended, afraid he might not like me.
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Afraid he might not like me. the scripture says,
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The scripture says, “fearing people is a
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“fearing people is a dangerous trap.” it doesn't
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Dangerous trap.” it doesn't say a bad trap, it doesn't
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Say a bad trap, it doesn't say it's unhealthy.
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Say it's unhealthy. it uses the word dangerous.
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It uses the word dangerous. it's because if you fear
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It's because if you fear people, you can miss your
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People, you can miss your destiny.
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Destiny. if you let the opinion of
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If you let the opinion of others, “what will they
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Others, “what will they think, what if they don't
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Think, what if they don't approve me?” if you let
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Approve me?” if you let that hold you back, then
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That hold you back, then you can miss who you were
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You can miss who you were created to be.
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Created to be. something rose up in me, a
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Something rose up in me, a holy boldness.
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Holy boldness. i was respectful, i was
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I was respectful, i was kind, but i was very strong.
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Kind, but i was very strong. i said in effect, “thanks
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I said in effect, “thanks but no thanks.
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But no thanks. i'm not following your
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I'm not following your plan; i'm going to follow
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Plan; i'm going to follow what god put in my heart.”
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What god put in my heart.” sometimes you have to go
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Sometimes you have to go alone.
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Alone. you have to do it without
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You have to do it without the approval of those that
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The approval of those that you thought would be for
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You thought would be for you.
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You. other people may not see
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Other people may not see what god put in you.
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What god put in you. they can't feel what you
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They can't feel what you feel.
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Feel. he wasn't happy.
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He wasn't happy. he told me how it wasn't
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He told me how it wasn't going to work out and how i
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Going to work out and how i was missing it.
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Was missing it. he ended up leaving the
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He ended up leaving the church.
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Church. i was so thrilled, i mean
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I was so thrilled, i mean disappointed.
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Disappointed. but i learned i didn't have
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But i learned i didn't have to have his approval.
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To have his approval. you and god are a majority.
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You and god are a majority. he didn't approve me, but
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He didn't approve me, but almighty god shined down
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Almighty god shined down his favor.
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His favor. here's my point: had i
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Here's my point: had i listened to that man and
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Listened to that man and let the fear of people
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Let the fear of people determine my decisions, had
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Determine my decisions, had i let the opinion of others
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I let the opinion of others dictate my life, i wouldn't
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Dictate my life, i wouldn't be here today.
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Be here today. we put too much emphasis on
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We put too much emphasis on people's approval.
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People's approval. but people didn't call you.
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But people didn't call you. people didn't crown you
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People didn't crown you with favor.
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With favor. people didn't know you
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People didn't know you before you were formed in
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Before you were formed in your mother's womb.
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Your mother's womb. the most high god did.
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The most high god did. quit worrying about their
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Quit worrying about their opinions and get your
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Opinions and get your approval from him.
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Approval from him. in the scripture, god told
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In the scripture, god told jeremiah that before he was
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Jeremiah that before he was born, he had set jeremiah
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Born, he had set jeremiah apart and called him to
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Apart and called him to speak to nations.
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Speak to nations. that he would be a prophet,
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That he would be a prophet, that he would impact the
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That he would impact the culture.
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Culture. jeremiah was a teenager, he
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Jeremiah was a teenager, he felt unqualified, but god
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Felt unqualified, but god told him he would give him
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Told him he would give him the words to speak,
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The words to speak, wherever he went, his hand
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Wherever he went, his hand of favor would be on him.
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Of favor would be on him. after god spoke all these
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After god spoke all these incredible things, told him
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Incredible things, told him how he would be a history
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How he would be a history maker, god finished by
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Maker, god finished by saying one last thing.
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Saying one last thing. he said, “jeremiah, don't
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He said, “jeremiah, don't be afraid of the people.”
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Be afraid of the people.” god knew that people
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God knew that people wouldn't understand him,
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Wouldn't understand him, that friends may not agree.
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That friends may not agree. he was saying, “don't let
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He was saying, “don't let the opinion of others hold
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The opinion of others hold you back.
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You back. don't let what they think,
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Don't let what they think, what they say keep you from
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What they say keep you from fulfilling your purpose.”
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Fulfilling your purpose.” god is saying that to us,
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God is saying that to us, don't fear the people.
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Don't fear the people. if they don't approve you,
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If they don't approve you, that's not going to stop
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That's not going to stop your purpose.
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Your purpose. what will stop you is if
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What will stop you is if you let their opinion
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You let their opinion become more important than
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Become more important than what god has put in your
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What god has put in your heart.
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Heart. my parents went out and
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My parents went out and started lakewood on
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Started lakewood on mother's day in 1959.
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Mother's day in 1959. instead of a beautiful new
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Instead of a beautiful new auditorium, they had this
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Auditorium, they had this old rundown feedstore.
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Old rundown feedstore. it had holes in the floor,
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It had holes in the floor, dirty, and smelly.
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Dirty, and smelly. they cleaned it up and put
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They cleaned it up and put some wood chairs in it.
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Some wood chairs in it. one of my father's good
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One of my father's good friends came by and said,
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Friends came by and said, “john, what in the world
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“john, what in the world are you doing out here
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Are you doing out here pastoring this little
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Pastoring this little church.” he couldn't
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Church.” he couldn't understand it.
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Understand it. some people made fun of my
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Some people made fun of my father, laughed.
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Father, laughed. these are tests that we
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These are tests that we have to pass.
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Have to pass. are we going to depend on
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Are we going to depend on people's approval to do
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People's approval to do what god's put in our heart?
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What god's put in our heart? are we going to let their
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Are we going to let their opinions, “what will they
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Opinions, “what will they think, how will i be seen,
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Think, how will i be seen, what if they look down on
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What if they look down on me?” are we going to let
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Me?” are we going to let that determine who we
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That determine who we become.
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Become. it's dangerous to fear the
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It's dangerous to fear the people.
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People. on the way to your destiny,
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On the way to your destiny, there will be people that
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There will be people that don't celebrate you.
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Don't celebrate you. you don't get the support,
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You don't get the support, the encouragement.
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The encouragement. it's just between you and
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It's just between you and god.
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God. that's where you have to
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That's where you have to set your face like a flint
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Set your face like a flint and say, “god, i'm not
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And say, “god, i'm not living to please people.
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Living to please people. i'm living to please you.”
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I'm living to please you.” people loved my father back
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People loved my father back then as long as he was in
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Then as long as he was in their mold.
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Their mold. as long as he stayed who he
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As long as he stayed who he was.
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Was. but when he stepped into a
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But when he stepped into a new level, that's when
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New level, that's when certain people didn't like
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Certain people didn't like it, the opposition, the
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It, the opposition, the critics came.
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Critics came. when god takes you higher,
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When god takes you higher, don't be surprised if you
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Don't be surprised if you don't get approval from
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Don't get approval from some of your friends, some
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Some of your friends, some of your family.
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Of your family. they'll tell you, “you've
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They'll tell you, “you've changed.
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Changed. you're not who you used to
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You're not who you used to be.” they want to keep you
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Be.” they want to keep you in that same box, but where
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In that same box, but where god is taking you it's
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God is taking you it's somewhere that you've never
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Somewhere that you've never been.
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Been. the fact is all of your
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The fact is all of your friends can't handle where
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Friends can't handle where you're going.
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You're going. all of your relatives can't
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All of your relatives can't handle the favor and
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Handle the favor and influence.
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Influence. but it's tempting to let
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But it's tempting to let their disapproval, their
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Their disapproval, their negative comments, their
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Negative comments, their doubt, to cause you to get
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Doubt, to cause you to get stuck, think, “man, if they
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Stuck, think, “man, if they would only support me, if
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Would only support me, if they would just change
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They would just change their mind, if they would
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Their mind, if they would just be for me.” you don't
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Just be for me.” you don't need their approval.
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Need their approval. when they tell you, “you've
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When they tell you, “you've changed.
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Changed. you're not who you used to
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You're not who you used to be.” tell them, “you're
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Be.” tell them, “you're right.
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Right. i'm growing.
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I'm growing. i'm stepping into new
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I'm stepping into new levels.
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Levels. my gifts are coming out in
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My gifts are coming out in new ways.” it's not a bad
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New ways.” it's not a bad thing to change, but some
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Thing to change, but some people can't handle it.
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People can't handle it. if you're depending on
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If you're depending on them, it will keep you from
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Them, it will keep you from moving forward.
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Moving forward. those critics told my
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Those critics told my father that lakewood
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Father that lakewood wouldn't last, that he was
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Wouldn't last, that he was making a big mistake.
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Making a big mistake. but here we are sixty-four
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But here we are sixty-four years later, still going
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Years later, still going strong.
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Strong. here's what i'm saying: god
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Here's what i'm saying: god knows what he's doing.
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Knows what he's doing. he knows where he's taking
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He knows where he's taking you.
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You. i think about if my father
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I think about if my father would have been addicted to
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Would have been addicted to approval, he'd never rocked
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Approval, he'd never rocked the boat.
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The boat. he would have stayed there
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He would have stayed there and let people's opinions
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And let people's opinions control him. my sister lisa
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Control him. my sister lisa wouldn't be healed.
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Wouldn't be healed. i wouldn't be up here.
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I wouldn't be up here. he would have never seen
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He would have never seen the fullness of his destiny.
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The fullness of his destiny. sometimes we're so
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Sometimes we're so concerned about what people
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Concerned about what people think.
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Think. “what will they say, will
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“what will they say, will they have a good opinion of
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They have a good opinion of me.” we're spending all
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Me.” we're spending all this time and energy trying
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This time and energy trying to perform for people, win
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To perform for people, win them over, make a good
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Them over, make a good impression, hopefully
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Impression, hopefully they'll validate us.” we're
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They'll validate us.” we're getting our approval from
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Getting our approval from the wrong place.
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The wrong place. it was never meant to come
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It was never meant to come from people, but from god.
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From people, but from god. when you're secure in who
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When you're secure in who he made you to be, you know
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He made you to be, you know you're valuable, talented,
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You're valuable, talented, attractive, a masterpiece,
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Attractive, a masterpiece, then you don't have to have
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Then you don't have to have all the outside validation.
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We're living in a day
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We're living in a day where people can express
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Where people can express their opinion easier than
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Their opinion easier than ever. not just in person,
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Ever. not just in person, but now on social media.
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But now on social media. you have “friends” on
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You have “friends” on facebook, you have
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Facebook, you have followers on instagram,
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Followers on instagram, twitter, tiktok.
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Twitter, tiktok. some people you've never
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Some people you've never met, living a thousand
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Met, living a thousand miles away, yet they have
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Miles away, yet they have an opinion on what you
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An opinion on what you wear, what you believe, how
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Wear, what you believe, how you raise your children,
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You raise your children, what you had for dinner
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What you had for dinner last night.
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Last night. they've never talked to
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They've never talked to you, never got to know who
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You, never got to know who you are, never sat down and
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You are, never sat down and had lunch.
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Had lunch. why are you worrying about
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Why are you worrying about what they think?
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What they think? why are you trying to
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Why are you trying to impress them?
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Impress them? giving time and energy
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Giving time and energy responding to their
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Responding to their comments, trying to explain
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Comments, trying to explain what you meant.
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What you meant. some people are determined
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Some people are determined to misunderstand you.
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To misunderstand you. their comment is not really
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Their comment is not really about you; it shows what's
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About you; it shows what's in them. they have issues
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In them. they have issues they haven't dealt with.
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They haven't dealt with. they're angry, they're
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They're angry, they're upset, they don't like
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Themselves.
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Themselves. don't be surprised if they
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Don't be surprised if they find fault with you.
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Find fault with you. no offense, but they're not
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No offense, but they're not going where you're going.
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Going where you're going. if you try to please
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If you try to please everyone, win their
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Everyone, win their approval, you'll not only
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Approval, you'll not only miss the new levels that
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Miss the new levels that belong to you, but you'll
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Belong to you, but you'll miss the joy, the peace,
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Miss the joy, the peace, the victory of this day.
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The victory of this day. the problem with living for
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The problem with living for approval is we can lose who
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Approval is we can lose who we really are.
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We really are. we're so busy trying to be
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We're so busy trying to be what everyone else wants us
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What everyone else wants us to be.
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To be. that's when life gets
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That's when life gets confusing.
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Confusing. you have to do like paul
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You have to do like paul and search your own heart.
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And search your own heart. when your conscience is
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When your conscience is clear, when you know where
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Clear, when you know where god is leading you, follow
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God is leading you, follow that still small voice.
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That still small voice. don't get distracted trying
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Don't get distracted trying to get everyone on board.
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To get everyone on board. it's a lot of pressure to
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It's a lot of pressure to live trying to please
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Live trying to please people, convince them to be
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People, convince them to be for you, so you can pursue
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For you, so you can pursue what's in your heart.
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What's in your heart. after high school, i went
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After high school, i went off to college.
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Off to college. i always knew i wanted to
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I always knew i wanted to come back to the church and
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Come back to the church and work here and start a
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Work here and start a television ministry.
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Television ministry. from the time i was a
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From the time i was a little boy, like ten years
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Little boy, like ten years old, i loved cameras,
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Old, i loved cameras, editing and lighting.
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Editing and lighting. i used to run the cameras
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I used to run the cameras as a teenager during the
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As a teenager during the services.
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Services. i would come down on the
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I would come down on the weekends and play with all
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Weekends and play with all the equipment.
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The equipment. i studied television
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I studied television production in college.
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Production in college. but after that first year,
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But after that first year, i felt very strongly that i
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I felt very strongly that i was supposed to come back
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Was supposed to come back and get started.
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And get started. i'm all for education.
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I'm all for education. my brother paul's a
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My brother paul's a surgeon, he went to college
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Surgeon, he went to college for forty-seven years.
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For forty-seven years. all my sisters have their
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All my sisters have their degrees.
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Degrees. i have friends that
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I have friends that graduated summa cum laud.
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Graduated summa cum laud. i finished that first year
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I finished that first year and thought, “lawd, have
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And thought, “lawd, have mercy.” i knew this was the
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Mercy.” i knew this was the time god was leading me,
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Time god was leading me, but i wondered what people
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But i wondered what people would think.
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Would think. “would they look down on
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“would they look down on me, what if they think i
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Me, what if they think i wasn't able to finish
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Wasn't able to finish college, what if they
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College, what if they discount me?” there was
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Discount me?” there was this struggle in my mind.
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This struggle in my mind. i finally told my father;
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I finally told my father; he was all for it.
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He was all for it. he said, “joel, just follow
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He said, “joel, just follow what god put in your
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What god put in your heart.” my mother, not so
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Heart.” my mother, not so much.
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Much. she took prayer and fasting.
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She took prayer and fasting. god's plan for your life
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God's plan for your life may be different than
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May be different than others in your family.
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Others in your family. it may be out of the
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It may be out of the ordinary, not a traditional
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Ordinary, not a traditional approach.
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Approach. only you can hear that
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Only you can hear that voice.
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Voice. there'll be that temptation
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There'll be that temptation to stay in the box.
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To stay in the box. people aren't going to
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People aren't going to approve.
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Approve. just do what everyone else
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Just do what everyone else is doing.
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Is doing. no, you have to be bold.
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No, you have to be bold. step into who god has made
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Step into who god has made you to be.
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You to be. when you do the right doors
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When you do the right doors will open.
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Will open. you'll discover talent, and
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You'll discover talent, and ability that you didn't
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Ability that you didn't know you had.
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Know you had. don't let the fear of what
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Don't let the fear of what people will think, keep you
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People will think, keep you from your greatness.
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From your greatness. in 2 samuel chapter 6,
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In 2 samuel chapter 6, david and his men had just
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David and his men had just recovered the ark of the
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Recovered the ark of the covenant.
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Covenant. that represented where god
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That represented where god lived.
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Lived. it had been stolen and now
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It had been stolen and now some twenty years later it
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Some twenty years later it was being returned.
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Was being returned. the priests were carrying
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The priests were carrying it into jerusalem. there
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It into jerusalem. there was this huge celebration,
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Was this huge celebration, shouts of joy, trumpets
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Shouts of joy, trumpets blowing, crashing symbols.
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Blowing, crashing symbols. this was a day they had
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This was a day they had dreamed about.
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Dreamed about. david was wearing a long
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David was wearing a long priestly robe.
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Priestly robe. he was so excited, he
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He was so excited, he danced with all of his
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Danced with all of his might.
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Might. here he was this
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Here he was this distinguished leader, but
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Distinguished leader, but he didn't hold back.
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He didn't hold back. he was out there
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He was out there celebrating the goodness of
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Celebrating the goodness of god.
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God. his wife, michal, this was
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His wife, michal, this was king saul's daughter, was
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King saul's daughter, was watching from an upstairs
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Watching from an upstairs window.
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Window. she saw him dancing and
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She saw him dancing and leaping.
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Leaping. at times his robe would
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At times his robe would open up, you could see his
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Open up, you could see his legs.
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Legs. the scripture says, “she
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The scripture says, “she was filled with contempt,
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Was filled with contempt, and she despised what david
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And she despised what david was doing.” when david came
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Was doing.” when david came home, she let him have it.
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Home, she let him have it. she said, “how glorious the
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She said, “how glorious the king of israel looked
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King of israel looked today, out their dancing
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Today, out their dancing like a fool, letting the
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Like a fool, letting the young women see your legs.”
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Young women see your legs.” david said, “listen michal,
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David said, “listen michal, i wasn't dancing unto you,
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I wasn't dancing unto you, i was dancing unto god.
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I was dancing unto god. i'm willing to act like a
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I'm willing to act like a fool to show my
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Fool to show my gratefulness for what he's
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Gratefulness for what he's done.” david was saying
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Done.” david was saying respectfully, “what you
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Respectfully, “what you think of me is not going to
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Think of me is not going to keep me from being who i
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Keep me from being who i am. your disapproval is not
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Am. your disapproval is not going to stop me from
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Going to stop me from fulfilling my purpose.”
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Fulfilling my purpose.” david wasn't controlled by
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David wasn't controlled by other people's opinions.
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Other people's opinions. he didn't worry about what
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He didn't worry about what people thought.
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People thought. we all have some michal's
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We all have some michal's in our life.
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In our life. you're honoring god, you're
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You're honoring god, you're being your best, and
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Being your best, and they're finding fault.
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They're finding fault. they're looking down on you.
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They're looking down on you. “why don't you come party
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“why don't you come party with us anymore?
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With us anymore? why do you go to church
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Why do you go to church every week?
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Every week? why do you stay faithful in
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Why do you stay faithful in your marriage?
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Your marriage? come on lighten up a little
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Come on lighten up a little bit.” no, be a david.
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Bit.” no, be a david. have the attitude, “i don't
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Have the attitude, “i don't need your approval.
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Need your approval. i'm not making decisions
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I'm not making decisions based on your opinion of me.
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Based on your opinion of me. i'm going to keep god first
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I'm going to keep god first place.
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Place. i'm going live with
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I'm going live with integrity.
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Integrity. i'm going to take the high
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I'm going to take the high road.
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Road. i'm going to do the right
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I'm going to do the right thing when it's hard.”
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Thing when it's hard.” don't let people talk you
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Don't let people talk you into compromising, lowering
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Into compromising, lowering your standards.
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Your standards. they may not approve you,
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They may not approve you, but god approves you.
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But god approves you. he's the one that matters.
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He's the one that matters. there was another leader
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There was another leader named king saul.
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Named king saul. he was the first king of
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He was the first king of israel.
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Israel. in 1 samuel 15, god told
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In 1 samuel 15, god told him to completely destroy
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Him to completely destroy the amalekites, to not
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The amalekites, to not spare any of them, the
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Spare any of them, the people, the livestock, not
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People, the livestock, not take any of their
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Take any of their possessions.
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Possessions. saul went out and defeated
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Saul went out and defeated the enemy, but he spared
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The enemy, but he spared the king and he kept the
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The king and he kept the best sheep and the best
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Best sheep and the best cattle.
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Cattle. gathered up some of the
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Gathered up some of the spoils.
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Spoils. the next morning samuel
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The next morning samuel went to saul and said, “why
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Went to saul and said, “why didn't you do what god told
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Didn't you do what god told you to do?” saul said, “i
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Did.
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Did. i wiped them out.” samuel
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I wiped them out.” samuel said, “then why do i see
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Said, “then why do i see those sheep, why do i hear
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Those sheep, why do i hear those cows?” saul said, “oh
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Those cows?” saul said, “oh samuel, that's nothing.
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Samuel, that's nothing. we kept those animals so we
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We kept those animals so we can sacrifice them to the
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Can sacrifice them to the lord. we kept a little bit
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Lord. we kept a little bit of the plunder.” samuel
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Of the plunder.” samuel said, “saul, god would
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Said, “saul, god would rather have your obedience
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Rather have your obedience than your sacrifices.” saul
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Than your sacrifices.” saul ran out of excuses.
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Ran out of excuses. he finally got honest and
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He finally got honest and told the real reason that
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Told the real reason that he didn't do it.
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He didn't do it. he said in verse 24, “i
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He said in verse 24, “i disobeyed because i was
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Disobeyed because i was afraid of the people, i did
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Afraid of the people, i did what they demanded.” one
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What they demanded.” one reason saul lost the
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Reason saul lost the kingdom was he was addicted
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Kingdom was he was addicted to approval.
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To approval. he based his decisions on
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He based his decisions on other people's opinions,
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Other people's opinions, what they would think about
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What they would think about him.
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Him. the scripture says in verse
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The scripture says in verse 10, “the lord said to
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10, “the lord said to samuel, i am sorry that i
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Samuel, i am sorry that i made saul king.” that's one
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Made saul king.” that's one of the saddest scriptures
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Of the saddest scriptures in the bible.
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In the bible. it's the only place where i
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It's the only place where i can find where god says,
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Can find where god says, “i'm sorry i gave them my
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“i'm sorry i gave them my blessing.
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Blessing. i'm sorry i showed them my
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I'm sorry i showed them my favor.” what did saul do
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Favor.” what did saul do that was so bad?
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That was so bad? he didn't deny jesus like
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He didn't deny jesus like peter did.
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Peter did. he didn't betray jesus like
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He didn't betray jesus like judas.
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Judas. he didn't mock him like the
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He didn't mock him like the soldiers.
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Soldiers. what made god sorry was
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What made god sorry was saul let other people's
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Saul let other people's opinions keep him from
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Opinions keep him from obeying.
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Obeying. he lived for the approval
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He lived for the approval of people rather than the
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Of people rather than the approval of god.
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Approval of god. look at the difference
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Look at the difference between saul and david.
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Between saul and david. david danced with all of
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David danced with all of his might.
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His might. he didn't care what other
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He didn't care what other people thought.
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People thought. but saul said, “i'm afraid
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But saul said, “i'm afraid of the people.
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Of the people. i need their approval.”
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I need their approval.” david went on to become the
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David went on to become the greatest king that ever
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Greatest king that ever lived.
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Lived. saul had the throne taken
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Saul had the throne taken away from him.
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Away from him. is fear of other people's
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Is fear of other people's opinions holding you back?
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Opinions holding you back? are you sacrificing who you
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Are you sacrificing who you are because you're addicted
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Are because you're addicted to approval, worried about
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To approval, worried about what everyone thinks?
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What everyone thinks? this is your day to be free.
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This is your day to be free. god is doing a new thing.
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God is doing a new thing. where he's about to take
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Where he's about to take you is going to take
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You is going to take boldness, courage to break
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Boldness, courage to break out of the mold.
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Out of the mold. everyone is not going to
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Everyone is not going to understand.
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Understand. some people won't give you
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Some people won't give you their approval.
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Their approval. that's okay.
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That's okay. you're not a saul, you're a
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You're not a saul, you're a david.
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David. you're not living to please
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You're not living to please people; you're living to
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People; you're living to please god.
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Please god. because you're getting your
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Because you're getting your approval from him, i
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Approval from him, i believe and declare, you're
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Believe and declare, you're going to step into new
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Going to step into new levels of favor.
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Levels of favor. new doors are opening.
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New doors are opening. like david, you're going
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Like david, you're going rise higher, accomplish
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Rise higher, accomplish dreams and reach the
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Dreams and reach the fullness of your destiny,
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Fullness of your destiny, in jesus' name.
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In jesus' name. if you receive it, can you
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If you receive it, can you say amen?
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It's a new year.
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It's a new year. time to see the impossible
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Time to see the impossible become possible.
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Become possible. it's a new year.
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It's a new year. life's setbacks are about
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Life's setbacks are about to become god's setups
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To become god's setups for new opportunity.
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For new opportunity. it's a new year.
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It's a new year. cherished dreams
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Cherished dreams will become unexpected reality.
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Will become unexpected reality. the start of the new year
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The start of the new year is the perfect time
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Is the perfect time to reset your focus,
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To reset your focus, release disappointments
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Release disappointments of the past,
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Of the past, and get ready for
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And get ready for the new things
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The new things god has in store.
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Every january,
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Every january, we create
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We create a new 365-day
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A new 365-day devotional calendar.
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Devotional calendar. i'd love to send it to you.
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I'd love to send it to you. each day is filled
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Each day is filled with inspiration,
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With inspiration, scripture, and uplifting
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Scripture, and uplifting declarations
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Declarations to fuel your faith.
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To fuel your faith. when you begin the day thanking
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When you begin the day thanking god for what he's done,
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God for what he's done, speaking victory
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Speaking victory over your future,
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Over your future, you're positioning yourself
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You're positioning yourself for a blessed,
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For a blessed, favor-filled year.
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Favor-filled year. amazing things happen
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Amazing things happen when you keep god first place.
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When you keep god first place. as our way of saying thank you
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As our way of saying thank you for your gift of any amount
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For your gift of any amount this first month of the year,
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This first month of the year, we would like to send you
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A copy
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Aof our brand new 365-day, 2026
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Aof our brand new 365-day, 2026 devotional calendar.
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Devotional calendar. do you want to overcome
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Do you want to overcome your most pressing
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Your most pressing challenges in 2026?
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Challenges in 2026? do you want to see your life
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Do you want to see your life take off in new directions
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Take off in new directions of influence,
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Of influence, favor and provision
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Favor and provision in the year ahead?
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In the year ahead? with this daily encouragement,
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With this daily encouragement, you'll not only smile
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You'll not only smile at your day,
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At your day, you'll be reminded
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You'll be reminded that god is smiling
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That god is smiling on your entire life.
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On your entire life. each day
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Each day will be a fresh new day.
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Will be a fresh new day. turn discouragement
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Turn discouragement to encouragement.
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To encouragement. frustration to fulfillment.
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Frustration to fulfillment. anxiety to overcoming.
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Anxiety to overcoming. using this devotional calendar
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Using this devotional calendar is as easy as one, two, three.
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Is as easy as one, two, three. one: wake up with an expectancy
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One: wake up with an expectancy in your heart.
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In your heart. two: reflect
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Two: reflect on the daily scripture verse
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On the daily scripture verse and devotional from joel.
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And devotional from joel. three:
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Three: capture the lord's
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Capture the lord's promises to you
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Promises to you on journaling lines
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On journaling lines for writing and reflection.
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For writing and reflection. 2026 is going to be
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2026 is going to be one of your best years ever.
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One of your best years ever. we're going to help you
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We're going to help you stay in faith
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So you can see
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The goodness of god
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The goodness of god in new ways.
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In new ways. victoria and i pray for
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Victoria and i pray for you and your family every day
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You and your family every day and we want to
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And we want to thank you for your prayer
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Thank you for your prayer and support.
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And support. your generosity is impacting
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Your generosity is impacting lives around the world.
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Lives around the world. a special
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A special thank you to our champion
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Thank you to our champion of hope partners
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Of hope partners for your monthly gifts.
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For your monthly gifts. if you're not a partner,
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If you're not a partner, i hope you'll consider
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I hope you'll consider becoming one.
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Becoming one. remember,
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Remember, you can watch the services
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Listen live on sirius xm as well.
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Xm as well. but until we meet again,
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But until we meet again, may the lord bless
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May the lord bless you and keep you.
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You and keep you. request your copy of the 2026
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You're in, god wants to speak into each
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God wants to speak into each and every moment.
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Scripture, and reflect on its truth,
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On its truth, one verse at a time.
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One verse at a time. as you engage with his word,
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As you engage with his word, you'll discover fresh strength,
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You'll discover fresh strength, deeper peace,
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Joel Osteen - Approval Addiction

January 12, 2026 | 29:55

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