Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen - Build Yourself Up

July 10, 2026 | 27:29

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Joel Osteen | Joel Osteen - Build Yourself Up | July 10, 2026

Joel: god bless you. it's
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Joel: god bless you. it's great to be with you today. i
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Great to be with you today. i hope you'll stay connected
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Hope you'll stay connected with us during the week,
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With us during the week, through our daily podcast,
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Through our daily podcast, our youtube channel, social
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Our youtube channel, social media. and you can come visit
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Media. and you can come visit us in person. we'd love to
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Us in person. we'd love to have you be a part of one of
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Have you be a part of one of our services.
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Our services. i like to start with
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I like to start with something funny. i heard
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Something funny. i heard about this little girl. she
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About this little girl. she was sitting on her
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Was sitting on her grandfather's lap, and she
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Grandfather's lap, and she noticed how wrinkled his face
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Noticed how wrinkled his face was. as she contemplated the
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Was. as she contemplated the difference between his and
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Difference between his and hers, she said, “granddaddy,
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Hers, she said, “granddaddy, did god make you?” he kind of
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Did god make you?” he kind of laughed and said, “yes honey,
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Laughed and said, “yes honey, he made me a long time ago.”
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He made me a long time ago.” she then asked, “did god make
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She then asked, “did god make me?” he said, “yes, he made
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Me?” he said, “yes, he made you just a little while ago.”
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You just a little while ago.” she thought about it a minute
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She thought about it a minute and said, “granddaddy, god's
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And said, “granddaddy, god's getting better, isn't he?”
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Getting better, isn't he?” (laughter)
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(laughter) all right ya'll, say it like
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All right ya'll, say it like you mean it. this is my
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You mean it. this is my bible. i am what it says i
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Bible. i am what it says i am. i have what it says i
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Am. i have what it says i have. i can do what it says i
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Have. i can do what it says i can do. today, i will be
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Can do. today, i will be taught the word of god. i
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Taught the word of god. i boldly confess: my mind is
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Boldly confess: my mind is alert. my heart is receptive.
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Alert. my heart is receptive. i will never be the same in
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I will never be the same in jesus' name. god bless you.
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Jesus' name. god bless you. i want to talk to you about
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I want to talk to you about building yourself up. it's
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Building yourself up. it's good to have people that
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Good to have people that cheer us on and speak faith
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Cheer us on and speak faith into our life. a spouse that
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Into our life. a spouse that compliments us, a neighbor
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Compliments us, a neighbor with an uplifting word, a
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With an uplifting word, a friend that's always there to
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Friend that's always there to encourage. it's healthy when
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Encourage. it's healthy when you have people who make you
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You have people who make you feel valued and appreciated.
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Feel valued and appreciated. but it becomes unhealthy if
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But it becomes unhealthy if you start depending on them
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You start depending on them to keep you cheered up. if
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To keep you cheered up. if they don't compliment you,
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They don't compliment you, you don't feel good about who
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You don't feel good about who you are. if they're not there
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You are. if they're not there to encourage you, you don't
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To encourage you, you don't have the passion. if that
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Have the passion. if that coworker doesn't tell you you
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Coworker doesn't tell you you did good on the project,
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Did good on the project, you're down, thinking you're
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You're down, thinking you're not enough. we can become
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Not enough. we can become addicted to approval,
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Addicted to approval, addicted to compliments to
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Addicted to compliments to where we base our value, our
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Where we base our value, our worth on what people are
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Worth on what people are telling us. it's kind of like
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Telling us. it's kind of like a drug, we need them to feel
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A drug, we need them to feel good about who we are. but
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Good about who we are. but god didn't create you to be
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God didn't create you to be dependent on someone else to
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Dependent on someone else to keep you fixed. he uses
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Keep you fixed. he uses people in those ways, but at
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People in those ways, but at some point, he's going to
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Some point, he's going to pull them back. he's not
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Pull them back. he's not going to let them keep giving
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Going to let them keep giving you that, otherwise you would
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You that, otherwise you would get stuck.
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Get stuck. the problem with relying on
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The problem with relying on people is people can let you
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People is people can let you down. people can be busy,
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Down. people can be busy, they're not there when you
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They're not there when you need them. people have their
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Need them. people have their own issues, raising their
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Own issues, raising their children, struggling with
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Children, struggling with their marriage. if you're
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Their marriage. if you're counting on them to call you
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Counting on them to call you each morning and prop you up.
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Each morning and prop you up. tell you how good you look at
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Tell you how good you look at work, encourage you in every
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Work, encourage you in every difficulty. that's a
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Difficulty. that's a codependent relationship. you
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Codependent relationship. you need them to feel good about
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Need them to feel good about who you are. here's a key, if
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Who you are. here's a key, if nobody is complimenting you,
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Nobody is complimenting you, you need to learn to
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You need to learn to compliment yourself. if
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Compliment yourself. if nobody told you that you look
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Nobody told you that you look good today, why don't you
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Good today, why don't you look in the mirror and say,
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Look in the mirror and say, “wow you look good. you're a
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“wow you look good. you're a masterpiece, one of a kind, a
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Masterpiece, one of a kind, a prized possession.” if nobody
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Prized possession.” if nobody made you feel special, your
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Made you feel special, your friend didn't call, that
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Friend didn't call, that neighbor didn't come over.
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Neighbor didn't come over. good news, you can make
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Good news, you can make yourself feel special. “i am
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Yourself feel special. “i am a child of the most high.
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A child of the most high. i've been handpicked by the
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I've been handpicked by the creator of the universe. i
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Creator of the universe. i have royal blood flowing
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Have royal blood flowing through my veins.”
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Through my veins.” quit putting how you feel
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Quit putting how you feel about yourself, your mood,
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About yourself, your mood, your value in someone else's
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Your value in someone else's hands. the scripture says,
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Hands. the scripture says, “build yourself up.” don't
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“build yourself up.” don't rely on other people to
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Rely on other people to affirm, to approve, to
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Affirm, to approve, to validate. approve yourself,
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Validate. approve yourself, “i'm made in the image of
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“i'm made in the image of almighty god. i'm approved.
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Almighty god. i'm approved. i'm worthy. i'm valuable.”
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I'm worthy. i'm valuable.” when you're trying to get
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When you're trying to get your approval, your
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Your approval, your validation from other people,
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Validation from other people, you're at their mercy. if
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You're at their mercy. if they're having a bad day,
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They're having a bad day, they're upset, mad at their
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They're upset, mad at their spouse, you're not going to
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Spouse, you're not going to get what you were hoping for.
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Get what you were hoping for. but when you learn to build
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But when you learn to build yourself up, what they give
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Yourself up, what they give or don't give doesn't affect
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Or don't give doesn't affect you. you're already built up.
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You. you're already built up. you already know who you are.
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You already know who you are. you don't need other people
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You don't need other people to keep you fixed, you
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To keep you fixed, you encouraged yourself. you
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Encouraged yourself. you complimented yourself. you
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Complimented yourself. you approved yourself. this is a
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Approved yourself. this is a powerful way to live. nobody
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Powerful way to live. nobody else is controlling your
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Else is controlling your mood, your self-worth, you've
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Mood, your self-worth, you've taken control.
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Taken control. every morning before you
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Every morning before you leave the house, you need to
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Leave the house, you need to build yourself up. don't go
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Build yourself up. don't go out hoping to get encouraged,
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Out hoping to get encouraged, hoping someone makes you feel
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Hoping someone makes you feel good. “maybe my coworker will
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Good. “maybe my coworker will compliment me, make me feel
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Compliment me, make me feel valuable.” they don't control
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Valuable.” they don't control your value. don't give them
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Your value. don't give them that power. if you're trying
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That power. if you're trying to get those things from
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To get those things from people, you're going to live
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People, you're going to live on a roller coaster. one day
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On a roller coaster. one day people will love you and the
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People will love you and the next day they're talking
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Next day they're talking behind your back. one day
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Behind your back. one day your friend is full of
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Your friend is full of compliments, the next day
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Compliments, the next day they're full of a lot of
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They're full of a lot of other stuff. one day your
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Other stuff. one day your spouse is so encouraging,
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Spouse is so encouraging, uplifting, the next day she's
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Uplifting, the next day she's dealing with pms. that means
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Dealing with pms. that means ‘pretty mean sister'.
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‘pretty mean sister'. (laughter)
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(laughter) when you build yourself up,
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When you build yourself up, you're not moved by the
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You're not moved by the negative chatter. you're not
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Negative chatter. you're not bitter over who didn't give
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Bitter over who didn't give you credit. you're not
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You credit. you're not frustrated because people
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Frustrated because people didn't approve you. you've
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Didn't approve you. you've already approved yourself.
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Already approved yourself. nobody said anything good
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Nobody said anything good about all your hard work.
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About all your hard work. that's okay. you already
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That's okay. you already complimented yourself. nobody
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Complimented yourself. nobody clapped for your excellent
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Clapped for your excellent presentation. the ones that
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Presentation. the ones that should have been so
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Should have been so encouraging, happy for you,
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Encouraging, happy for you, they got jealous. they found
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They got jealous. they found fault. that's alright. you
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Fault. that's alright. you already clapped for yourself.
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Already clapped for yourself. they didn't celebrate you,
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They didn't celebrate you, but you celebrated yourself.
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But you celebrated yourself. “father, thank you for
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“father, thank you for helping me to shine. thank
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Helping me to shine. thank you for my gifts, my talents,
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You for my gifts, my talents, causing me to excel.” you're
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Causing me to excel.” you're not dependent on what others
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Not dependent on what others do to feel good about who you
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Do to feel good about who you are.
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Are. every time i walk off this
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Every time i walk off this platform, finish another
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Platform, finish another message, i say, “joel you did
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Message, i say, “joel you did good today. that was
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Good today. that was excellent.” i don't mean that
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Excellent.” i don't mean that arrogantly, but i've learned
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Arrogantly, but i've learned to celebrate myself. it may
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To celebrate myself. it may not have been as good as what
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Not have been as good as what someone else could do. there
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Someone else could do. there are ministers more skilled,
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Are ministers more skilled, more experienced, but i did
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More experienced, but i did the best of my ability. it's
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The best of my ability. it's healthy to clap for yourself.
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Healthy to clap for yourself. to celebrate what you've
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To celebrate what you've done. you're not bragging on
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Done. you're not bragging on you, you're bragging on the
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You, you're bragging on the gifts, the talents, the
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Gifts, the talents, the abilities that god has given
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Abilities that god has given you. some people, no matter
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You. some people, no matter what they do, it's never
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What they do, it's never enough. there's always a
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Enough. there's always a nagging voice telling them,
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Nagging voice telling them, “they should have done
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“they should have done better.” they live with this
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Better.” they live with this inner critic, constantly
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Inner critic, constantly putting them down, pointing
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Putting them down, pointing out their faults, magnifying
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Out their faults, magnifying the negative. “you gave a
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The negative. “you gave a good message joel, but it was
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Good message joel, but it was kind of slow at times. you
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Kind of slow at times. you worked out four times this
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Worked out four times this week, but you really should
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Week, but you really should have done five. you look
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Have done five. you look alright today, but not like
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Alright today, but not like you used to look.” do
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You used to look.” do yourself a favor, tune out
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Yourself a favor, tune out that inner critic.
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That inner critic. you have enough people on the
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You have enough people on the outside trying to push you
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Outside trying to push you down, limit your potential,
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Down, limit your potential, lessen your value. you don't
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Lessen your value. you don't need one on the inside.
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Need one on the inside. nobody should be more for you
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Nobody should be more for you than you. that's not being
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Than you. that's not being selfish. that's being
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Selfish. that's being responsible with the gift god
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Responsible with the gift god has given you. learn to
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Has given you. learn to celebrate yourself. you clap
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Celebrate yourself. you clap for others. when was the last
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For others. when was the last time you clapped for
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Time you clapped for yourself? you compliment your
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Yourself? you compliment your friends. when was the last
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Friends. when was the last time you complimented
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Time you complimented yourself? you brag on your
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Yourself? you brag on your coworker, “that was
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Coworker, “that was excellent. you did great.”
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Excellent. you did great.” when was the last time you
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When was the last time you bragged on you, told
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Bragged on you, told yourself, “you did great.”
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Yourself, “you did great.” it's healthy to clap for you.
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It's healthy to clap for you. the more you applaud
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The more you applaud yourself, the less dependent
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Yourself, the less dependent you are on other people's
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You are on other people's applause. if you approve
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Applause. if you approve yourself, you're not going to
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Yourself, you're not going to be needy for other people's
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Be needy for other people's approval. if you are free
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Approval. if you are free with your compliments to
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With your compliments to yourself, then you won't be
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Yourself, then you won't be insecure trying to play up to
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Insecure trying to play up to people to win their
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People to win their compliments, get them to
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Compliments, get them to validate you, tell you that
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Validate you, tell you that you're good. you won't need
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You're good. you won't need that. you've already built
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That. you've already built yourself up with who god says
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Yourself up with who god says you are. you already know
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You are. you already know you're valuable. you're
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You're valuable. you're worthy. you're talented,
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Worthy. you're talented, attractive. you're
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Attractive. you're exceptional. it's nice when
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Exceptional. it's nice when people reaffirm that, but
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People reaffirm that, but you're not dependent on it to
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You're not dependent on it to feel good about who you are.
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Feel good about who you are. you know who you are.
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You know who you are. one time i was talking to a
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One time i was talking to a man after the service. he was
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Man after the service. he was very nice, but he said,
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Very nice, but he said, “joel, i just didn't
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“joel, i just didn't understand that one point you
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Understand that one point you made in your message. it
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Made in your message. it didn't make sense to me.” if
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Didn't make sense to me.” if i would have heard that the
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I would have heard that the first couple of years i had
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First couple of years i had been ministering, i would
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Been ministering, i would have been depressed for two
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Have been depressed for two months. gone home defeated,
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Months. gone home defeated, feeling inadequate. but i've
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Feeling inadequate. but i've learned what i'm telling you.
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Learned what i'm telling you. i didn't need his applause, i
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I didn't need his applause, i had already clapped for
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Had already clapped for myself. i wasn't basing my
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Myself. i wasn't basing my joy, my worth, my confidence
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Joy, my worth, my confidence on what he did or didn't give
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On what he did or didn't give me. i had already built
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Me. i had already built myself up. yes, i'm always
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Myself up. yes, i'm always open for suggestions. there
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Open for suggestions. there are things i can do better,
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Are things i can do better, but you're never going to
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But you're never going to please everyone. no matter
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Please everyone. no matter how good you do, someone is
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How good you do, someone is going to find fault, try to
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Going to find fault, try to discredit or not give their
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Discredit or not give their approval. i love what jesus
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Approval. i love what jesus said, “your approval or
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Said, “your approval or disapproval means nothing to
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Disapproval means nothing to me.” he wasn't being
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Me.” he wasn't being disrespectful, he was simply
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Disrespectful, he was simply saying, “i know who i am, and
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Saying, “i know who i am, and i know where i get my value.”
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I know where i get my value.” that's the place we need to
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That's the place we need to get to. we don't have to have
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Get to. we don't have to have people's approval to feel
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People's approval to feel good about who we are. sure,
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Good about who we are. sure, there will be those that
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There will be those that disapprove, but that doesn't
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Disapprove, but that doesn't faze us. we don't get
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Faze us. we don't get defensive and try to
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Defensive and try to straighten them out. we don't
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Straighten them out. we don't get discouraged and go around
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Get discouraged and go around feeling less than. we keep
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Feeling less than. we keep our shoulders back. we know
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Our shoulders back. we know who we are. they didn't
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Who we are. they didn't approve us, but we've
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Approve us, but we've approved ourselves. they
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Approved ourselves. they didn't compliment us, but we
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Didn't compliment us, but we complimented ourself.
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Complimented ourself. when that man told me that he
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When that man told me that he didn't understand my point, i
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Didn't understand my point, i thought to myself, i didn't
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Thought to myself, i didn't say it, but i thought, “i
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Say it, but i thought, “i can't help it, if there's
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Can't help it, if there's something wrong with you.” i
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Something wrong with you.” i didn't take it personally. i
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Didn't take it personally. i didn't let it ruin my day.
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Didn't let it ruin my day. when you're built up on the
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When you're built up on the inside, that's going to
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Inside, that's going to protect you from what comes
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Protect you from what comes on the outside. the first
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On the outside. the first thing i do every morning,
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Thing i do every morning, after i thank god for what
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After i thank god for what he's done, is i remind myself
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He's done, is i remind myself who i am. “lord, i thank you
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Who i am. “lord, i thank you that you chose me before i
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That you chose me before i could choose you. that i am a
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Could choose you. that i am a person of destiny, redeemed,
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Person of destiny, redeemed, and forgiven. you've made me
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And forgiven. you've made me worthy. you've approved me,
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Worthy. you've approved me, accepted me. you've crowned
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Accepted me. you've crowned me with favor. you've planned
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Me with favor. you've planned out my days for good.” i
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Out my days for good.” i never leave the house without
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Never leave the house without building myself up. that way
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Building myself up. that way i'm not waiting for someone
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I'm not waiting for someone else to build me up. hoping
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Else to build me up. hoping that my spouse says something
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That my spouse says something to cheer me up. hoping my
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To cheer me up. hoping my coworker claps for me, so
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Coworker claps for me, so i'll feel valuable. hoping my
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I'll feel valuable. hoping my friend compliments me, so
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Friend compliments me, so i'll be secure. no quit
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I'll be secure. no quit depending on people. that's
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Depending on people. that's no way to live. that's
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No way to live. that's putting your self-worth, your
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Putting your self-worth, your mood, into their hands. put
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Mood, into their hands. put it in god's hands. go to him
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It in god's hands. go to him to get your value, your
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To get your value, your approval.
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Approval. the scripture says, “out of
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The scripture says, “out of your belly shall flow rivers
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Your belly shall flow rivers of living water.” we're
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Of living water.” we're looking to others to keep us
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Looking to others to keep us filled up. keep me
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Filled up. keep me encouraged. keep me secure.
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Encouraged. keep me secure. keep me feeling valuable.
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Keep me feeling valuable. here's a key, nobody can give
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Here's a key, nobody can give you everything you need.
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You everything you need. nobody can keep you fixed.
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Nobody can keep you fixed. your spouse, your friends,
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Your spouse, your friends, your boss, they can love you
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Your boss, they can love you more than anything, be
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More than anything, be totally for you, but only god
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Totally for you, but only god can give you what you need.
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Can give you what you need. he'll use people, but people
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He'll use people, but people are limited. if you're
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Are limited. if you're depending on a person, it's
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Depending on a person, it's not only going to frustrate
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Not only going to frustrate you, but it's a lot of
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You, but it's a lot of pressure on them. when they
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Pressure on them. when they take that weight of thinking,
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Take that weight of thinking, “i've got to call, encourage,
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“i've got to call, encourage, be there, cheer up, approve.
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Be there, cheer up, approve. i can't let them down.”
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I can't let them down.” that's a load they can't
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That's a load they can't carry. you're trying to get
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Carry. you're trying to get from them, what only god can
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From them, what only god can give. the sooner you start
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Give. the sooner you start building yourself up, the
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Building yourself up, the better off it's going to be
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Better off it's going to be for you and the others in
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For you and the others in your life. you weren't
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Your life. you weren't created to live relying on
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Created to live relying on someone else, basing your
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Someone else, basing your worth on who approves you.
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Worth on who approves you. approve yourself. turn off
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Approve yourself. turn off that inner critic that's
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That inner critic that's always putting you down.
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Always putting you down. you're supposed to feel good
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You're supposed to feel good about who you are. i know you
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About who you are. i know you have flaws, areas you need to
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Have flaws, areas you need to improve in. so do i. but you
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Improve in. so do i. but you don't have to wait till your
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Don't have to wait till your perfect to feel worthy and
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Perfect to feel worthy and approved.
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Approved. in the book of genesis, the
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In the book of genesis, the earth was without form and
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Earth was without form and void. god said let there be
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Void. god said let there be light, and light came. god
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Saw the light and said, “that
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Saw the light and said, “that was good.” he stopped and
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Was good.” he stopped and clapped for himself. i did
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Clapped for himself. i did good. what's interesting is
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Good. what's interesting is there were no planets, no
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There were no planets, no oceans, no animals, no
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Oceans, no animals, no people. he wasn't finished.
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People. he wasn't finished. there were still a lot of
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There were still a lot of things that needed to be
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Things that needed to be done, but he didn't wait till
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Done, but he didn't wait till it was all complete, he
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It was all complete, he celebrated along the way. on
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Celebrated along the way. on the second day, god separated
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The second day, god separated the waters from the sky. he
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The waters from the sky. he still hadn't made any fish,
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Still hadn't made any fish, still no mountain ranges,
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Still no mountain ranges, still no sunsets. but at the
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Still no sunsets. but at the end of the day, god said,
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End of the day, god said, “that was good.” he stopped
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“that was good.” he stopped and applauded, complimented
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And applauded, complimented himself. same thing, after
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Himself. same thing, after day three, day four, day
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Day three, day four, day five. even though it wasn't
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Five. even though it wasn't finished, he said it was good.
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Finished, he said it was good. the truth is none of us are
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The truth is none of us are finished products. god is
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Finished products. god is still working on us. even
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Still working on us. even though we have things we need
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Though we have things we need to improve in, you shouldn't
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To improve in, you shouldn't feel unworthy, going around
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Feel unworthy, going around down on yourself, trying to
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Down on yourself, trying to get people to approve you.
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Get people to approve you. god has already approved you.
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God has already approved you. he's already accepted you.
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He's already accepted you. why don't you start believing
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Why don't you start believing that you're worthy, that
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That you're worthy, that you're valuable. have you
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You're valuable. have you ever clapped for yourself, or
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Ever clapped for yourself, or are you too focused on your
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Are you too focused on your weaknesses, how you don't
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Weaknesses, how you don't measure up and you're not as
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Measure up and you're not as talented as that coworker.
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Talented as that coworker. the enemy would love for you
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The enemy would love for you to feel unworthy when in fact
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To feel unworthy when in fact you're a masterpiece. the
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You're a masterpiece. the creator of the universe
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Creator of the universe applauded for you. why are
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Applauded for you. why are you depending on people to
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You depending on people to tell you that you're good?
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Tell you that you're good? you're talented. you're
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You're talented. you're attractive. you're trying to
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Attractive. you're trying to get from them what god has
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Get from them what god has already given you. why don't
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Already given you. why don't you start building yourself
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You start building yourself up, declaring who god says
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Up, declaring who god says you are.
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You are. if you're relying on people
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If you're relying on people for this, it's going to limit
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For this, it's going to limit you. if you're basing your
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You. if you're basing your joy, your attitude, your
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Joy, your attitude, your self-worth on who compliments
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Self-worth on who compliments you, who claps for you, who
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You, who claps for you, who thinks you're attractive. can
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Thinks you're attractive. can i tell you; you don't need
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I tell you; you don't need their applause. you can clap
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Their applause. you can clap for yourself. you don't need
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For yourself. you don't need their compliments. you can
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Their compliments. you can compliment yourself. out of
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Compliment yourself. out of your belly shall flow rivers
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Your belly shall flow rivers of living water. some people
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Of living water. some people that river is stopped up.
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That river is stopped up. they've lived their whole
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They've lived their whole life trying to gain approval,
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Life trying to gain approval, earn their value, convince
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Earn their value, convince people to clap for them. they
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People to clap for them. they live frustrated, letting
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Live frustrated, letting people manipulate them, down
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People manipulate them, down on themselves because they're
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On themselves because they're not getting the applause.
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Not getting the applause. today can be a turning point.
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Today can be a turning point. quit looking to people and
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Quit looking to people and start going to god. nobody is
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Start going to god. nobody is complimenting you, learn to
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Complimenting you, learn to compliment yourself. nobody
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Compliment yourself. nobody buying you flowers, buy
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Buying you flowers, buy yourself some flowers. nobody
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Yourself some flowers. nobody taking you to dinner, take
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Taking you to dinner, take yourself to dinner.
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Yourself to dinner. i know a young woman, when
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I know a young woman, when she was in junior high, she
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She was in junior high, she didn't have a lot of friends.
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Didn't have a lot of friends. she had just moved to this
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She had just moved to this new school. most of the
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New school. most of the students had grown up
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Students had grown up together and been friends for
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Together and been friends for years. she couldn't seem to
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Years. she couldn't seem to break in and really connect
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Break in and really connect with anyone. during
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With anyone. during valentine's week, the school
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Valentine's week, the school had a tradition where you
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Had a tradition where you could send another student a
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Could send another student a carnation. they were just
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Carnation. they were just twenty-five cents. they would
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Twenty-five cents. they would be delivered during homeroom
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Be delivered during homeroom on valentine's day in front
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On valentine's day in front of the whole class. she knew
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Of the whole class. she knew she wasn't going to receive
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She wasn't going to receive any, because she didn't know
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Any, because she didn't know anybody. she was dreading
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Anybody. she was dreading that day, knowing she was
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That day, knowing she was going feel left out and
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Going feel left out and embarrassed by it all. then
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Embarrassed by it all. then she came up with an idea. she
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She came up with an idea. she decided to send herself some
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Decided to send herself some flowers. she took five
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Flowers. she took five dollars and went down to the
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Dollars and went down to the office, got twenty different
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Office, got twenty different forms so nobody would know it
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Forms so nobody would know it was the same person. on
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Was the same person. on valentine's day, most of the
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Valentine's day, most of the girls got four or five
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Girls got four or five carnations, the real popular
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Carnations, the real popular girl got seven, but this
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Girl got seven, but this young lady had every other
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Young lady had every other carnation delivered to her.
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Carnation delivered to her. people were thinking, “who is
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People were thinking, “who is this girl? she has so many
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This girl? she has so many friends.” they asked, “who's
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Friends.” they asked, “who's this one from.” she smiled
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This one from.” she smiled and said, “from someone that
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And said, “from someone that really thinks i'm special.”
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Really thinks i'm special.” you celebrate others, do you
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You celebrate others, do you ever celebrate yourself?
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Ever celebrate yourself? you're good to your friends.
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You're good to your friends. you encourage them. you build
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You encourage them. you build them up. do you ever build
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Them up. do you ever build yourself up? it's not selfish
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Yourself up? it's not selfish to be good to you. the more
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To be good to you. the more you applaud yourself, the
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You applaud yourself, the less dependent you are on
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Less dependent you are on other people's applause, and
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Other people's applause, and the more secure you're going
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The more secure you're going to be.
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To be. i have a pastor friend in
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I have a pastor friend in another state that used to
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Another state that used to call me every sunday
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Call me every sunday afternoon. he would speak at
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Afternoon. he would speak at his two services in the
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His two services in the morning, then come home and
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Morning, then come home and watch the replay of my
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Watch the replay of my message online. he's always
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Message online. he's always so encouraging, uplifting. he
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So encouraging, uplifting. he would tell me how good i did
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Would tell me how good i did and how impactful it was and
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And how impactful it was and “i really liked this point,”
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“i really liked this point,” and on and on. you would
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And on and on. you would think i was the greatest
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Think i was the greatest pastor ever. that was his
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Pastor ever. that was his personality. his whole nature
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Personality. his whole nature was to build people up. but
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Was to build people up. but he told me later, he would
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He told me later, he would drive home every sunday from
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Drive home every sunday from his church thinking about how
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His church thinking about how he didn't do good. “that was
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He didn't do good. “that was too long. that wasn't clear.
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Too long. that wasn't clear. i forgot to say this.” he
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I forgot to say this.” he said, “i never left my church
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Said, “i never left my church one time feeling good about
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One time feeling good about myself. i always went home
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Myself. i always went home disappointed.” he knew how to
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Disappointed.” he knew how to compliment others, but he
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Compliment others, but he didn't know how to compliment
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Didn't know how to compliment himself. he clapped for me
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Himself. he clapped for me all the time. he was my
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All the time. he was my biggest cheerleader. but he
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Biggest cheerleader. but he never clapped for himself. he
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Never clapped for himself. he was great at building me up,
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Was great at building me up, making me feel valuable, well
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Making me feel valuable, well able, but he never built
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Able, but he never built himself up. he listened to
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Himself up. he listened to that inner critic always
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That inner critic always finding fault, pushing him
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Finding fault, pushing him down.
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Down. don't go your whole life
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Don't go your whole life being good to others, but
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Being good to others, but never being good to you.
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Never being good to you. encouraging them, but not
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Encouraging them, but not encouraging you. thinking
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Encouraging you. thinking highly of your friends, but
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Highly of your friends, but not thinking highly of you.
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Not thinking highly of you. it's good to applaud others,
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It's good to applaud others, but you have to learn to clap
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But you have to learn to clap for yourself. they may be
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For yourself. they may be more successful, have more
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More successful, have more talent, more looks, but you
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Talent, more looks, but you have something they don't
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Have something they don't have. you are unique. you are
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Have. you are unique. you are one of a kind. don't discount
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One of a kind. don't discount who you are. god didn't make
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Who you are. god didn't make anything second class,
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Anything second class, subpar. he calls you a
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Subpar. he calls you a masterpiece. when he created
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Masterpiece. when he created the solar system, he said
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The solar system, he said that was good. the mountain
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That was good. the mountain ranges, good. the oceans,
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Ranges, good. the oceans, good. but when he breathed
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Good. but when he breathed life into you, he said that
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Life into you, he said that was very good. put your
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Was very good. put your shoulders back. hold your
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Shoulders back. hold your head up high. when you clap
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Head up high. when you clap for yourself, you're clapping
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For yourself, you're clapping for your creator. when you
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For your creator. when you compliment yourself, you're
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Compliment yourself, you're complimenting the god who
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Complimenting the god who made you. when you build
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Made you. when you build yourself up, you're saying,
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Yourself up, you're saying, “god, i thank you for who i
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“god, i thank you for who i am. blessed, strong talented,
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Am. blessed, strong talented, worthy, victorious.” that's
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Worthy, victorious.” that's giving praise to god.
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Giving praise to god. several years later, i was
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Several years later, i was with this same pastor friend.
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With this same pastor friend. i had just finished an
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I had just finished an interview on a national
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Interview on a national network. it was live, a real
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Network. it was live, a real big deal. he came with me. we
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Big deal. he came with me. we got in the car afterwards. it
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Got in the car afterwards. it was me, victoria, him and one
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Was me, victoria, him and one other close friend. i looked
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Other close friend. i looked at them and said, “wow y'all,
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At them and said, “wow y'all, i did really good. i don't
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I did really good. i don't think i could have done any
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Think i could have done any better.” i wasn't bragging, i
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Better.” i wasn't bragging, i was just grateful that i had
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Was just grateful that i had done well. i didn't think
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Done well. i didn't think anything about saying that.
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Anything about saying that. he told me later that moment
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He told me later that moment changed his life. he had
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Changed his life. he had never once said to himself
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Never once said to himself that he had done good. he'd
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That he had done good. he'd grown up with a negative
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Grown up with a negative recording playing in his
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Recording playing in his mind. when he heard me being
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Mind. when he heard me being positive toward myself, a
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Positive toward myself, a stronghold was broken in his
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Stronghold was broken in his thinking. he started
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Thinking. he started applauding himself, approving
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Applauding himself, approving himself, encouraging himself.
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Himself, encouraging himself. you have enough people in
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You have enough people in life against you, don't be
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Life against you, don't be against yourself. you need to
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Against yourself. you need to be for you. you won't reach
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Be for you. you won't reach your destiny letting that
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Your destiny letting that inner critic always put you
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Inner critic always put you down. that causes you to feel
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Down. that causes you to feel inferior and insecure, where
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Inferior and insecure, where you're trying to get approval
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You're trying to get approval and applause from those
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And applause from those around you, depending on them
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Around you, depending on them to keep you fixed. you can
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To keep you fixed. you can fix yourself. every morning,
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Fix yourself. every morning, remind yourself who god says
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Remind yourself who god says you are. don't rely on other
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You are. don't rely on other people. build yourself up.
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People. build yourself up. when i first started
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When i first started ministering, i was very
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Ministering, i was very insecure and intimidated. i
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Insecure and intimidated. i had been behind the scenes
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Had been behind the scenes for many years. i liked it
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For many years. i liked it there. i was comfortable, but
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There. i was comfortable, but now i was out front. i was
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Now i was out front. i was very unsure of myself that i
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Very unsure of myself that i lived off of people's
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Lived off of people's compliments. after the
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Compliments. after the service, people would tell
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Service, people would tell me, “joel that was so good
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Me, “joel that was so good today. i really enjoyed it.”
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Today. i really enjoyed it.” those words helped give me
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Those words helped give me the strength and the
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The strength and the confidence to keep going.
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Confidence to keep going. when i'd get up to minister,
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When i'd get up to minister, that first year, people would
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That first year, people would cheer and cheer. they were so
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Cheer and cheer. they were so loyal to my parents, they
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Loyal to my parents, they wanted me to succeed so
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Wanted me to succeed so badly, they poured all their
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Badly, they poured all their encouragement and support
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Encouragement and support into me. i could have talked
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Into me. i could have talked about moses defeating
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About moses defeating goliath. david parting the
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Goliath. david parting the red sea, got it backwards.
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Red sea, got it backwards. they still would have
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They still would have cheered. god knew that i need
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Cheered. god knew that i need that external applause, that
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That external applause, that outside validation and
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Outside validation and approval to keep moving
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Approval to keep moving forward. god will make sure
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Forward. god will make sure that you have what you need
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That you have what you need for every stage of your
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For every stage of your journey. there are times you
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Journey. there are times you need others speaking into
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Need others speaking into your life, encouraging,
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Your life, encouraging, helping you to stay built up.
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Helping you to stay built up. but at some point, god is
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But at some point, god is going to remove that, so it
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Going to remove that, so it doesn't become a crutch. to
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Doesn't become a crutch. to where you rely on others to
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Where you rely on others to keep you encouraged. you
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Keep you encouraged. you depend on your friends to
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Depend on your friends to keep you cheered up, your
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Keep you cheered up, your family to keep you feeling
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Family to keep you feeling valuable. that's temporary
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Valuable. that's temporary provision. but like a mother
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Provision. but like a mother weans a baby off the bottle,
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Weans a baby off the bottle, god is going to wean you off
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God is going to wean you off the external approval, the
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The external approval, the external applause. you have
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External applause. you have to learn to get that from the
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To learn to get that from the inside. out of your belly
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Inside. out of your belly shall flow rivers of living
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Shall flow rivers of living water. instead of depending
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Water. instead of depending on others you become
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On others you become self-sufficient. that's what
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Self-sufficient. that's what paul said in philippians, “i
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Paul said in philippians, “i am self-sufficient in
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Am self-sufficient in christ's sufficiency.” when
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Christ's sufficiency.” when you go to god, you're not
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You go to god, you're not dependent on others.
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Dependent on others. the first few years, every
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The first few years, every time i finished my message
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Time i finished my message and walked off the platform,
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And walked off the platform, victoria would say, “joel,
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Victoria would say, “joel, that was amazing today. you
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That was amazing today. you did so good.” she would
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Did so good.” she would always compliment me and make
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Always compliment me and make me feel so encouraged. i
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Me feel so encouraged. i looked forward to it. i knew
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Looked forward to it. i knew like clockwork, victoria will
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Like clockwork, victoria will have this kind, uplifting
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Have this kind, uplifting word. i didn't realize,
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Word. i didn't realize, that's where i was getting my
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That's where i was getting my validation, my approval, from
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Validation, my approval, from people telling me i did good.
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People telling me i did good. one day, i walked off the
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One day, i walked off the platform and victoria didn't
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Platform and victoria didn't say a word. i waited and
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Say a word. i waited and waited and waited. she
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Waited and waited. she started asking me about
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Started asking me about something else. i answered
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Something else. i answered real quickly, then kind of
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Real quickly, then kind of hinted about the message,
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Hinted about the message, trying to pull a compliment
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Trying to pull a compliment out. unfortunately, she
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Out. unfortunately, she didn't get the hint. she
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Didn't get the hint. she turned and went the other
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Turned and went the other way. i thought,” maybe she's
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Way. i thought,” maybe she's just preoccupied, has
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Just preoccupied, has something else on her mind.”
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Something else on her mind.” i went to the lobby at the
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I went to the lobby at the old church, shook hands with
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Old church, shook hands with several hundred visitors. not
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Several hundred visitors. not one of them said anything
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One of them said anything about my message. usually
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About my message. usually every other one, just being
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Every other one, just being courteous, “joel, that was so
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Courteous, “joel, that was so good.” the funny thing is i
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Good.” the funny thing is i knew it was a good message. i
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Knew it was a good message. i was confident. but i was
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Was confident. but i was waiting for someone else to
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Waiting for someone else to tell me. i needed outside
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Tell me. i needed outside approval to feel good about
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Approval to feel good about it.
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It. i left the church that day
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I left the church that day feeling so discouraged. i got
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Feeling so discouraged. i got home. our dog can hear the
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Home. our dog can hear the garage door going up. she's
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Garage door going up. she's always at the back door,
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Always at the back door, jumping up on me, so happy to
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Jumping up on me, so happy to see me. that's one thing i
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See me. that's one thing i can count on. i opened the
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Can count on. i opened the door, and the dog was over
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Door, and the dog was over laying in her bed. she didn't
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Laying in her bed. she didn't even get up. she turned her
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Even get up. she turned her head to look at me for like
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Head to look at me for like two seconds, then turned and
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Two seconds, then turned and looked away, like she was
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Looked away, like she was saying, “oh it's just you.”
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Saying, “oh it's just you.” rolled over and went back to
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Rolled over and went back to sleep. god will use your dog
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Sleep. god will use your dog to work on you.
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To work on you. what was happening? god was
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What was happening? god was weaning me off having to have
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Weaning me off having to have compliments and approval and
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Compliments and approval and validation from the outside.
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Validation from the outside. yes, there may be seasons
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Yes, there may be seasons where you're getting that,
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Where you're getting that, but don't be surprised if god
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But don't be surprised if god pulls it back. you can't
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Pulls it back. you can't reach your highest potential
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Reach your highest potential depending on others. it's
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Depending on others. it's great when people compliment
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Great when people compliment you, but it's even more
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You, but it's even more powerful when you can
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Powerful when you can compliment yourself. it's
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Compliment yourself. it's nice when they applaud, they
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Nice when they applaud, they approve, they validate, the
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Approve, they validate, the problem is you can't depend
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Problem is you can't depend on people. if they're keeping
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On people. if they're keeping you fixed, that's temporary.
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You fixed, that's temporary. god didn't create you to have
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God didn't create you to have to rely on someone else for
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To rely on someone else for your self-worth, your
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Your self-worth, your approval, or even your
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Approval, or even your encouragement. i love to
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Encouragement. i love to encourage, but at some point,
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Encourage, but at some point, you have to learn to
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You have to learn to encourage yourself. you can't
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Encourage yourself. you can't find me on television. your
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Find me on television. your cousin is not there. your
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Cousin is not there. your neighbor that you can always
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Neighbor that you can always count on is not available.
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Count on is not available. take it as a compliment. god
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Take it as a compliment. god is growing you up. he's
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Is growing you up. he's getting you ready for higher
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Getting you ready for higher levels. the less you depend
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Levels. the less you depend on other people the more
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On other people the more mature you are. my challenge
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Mature you are. my challenge today, start building
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Today, start building yourself up. nobody is
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Yourself up. nobody is clapping, start clapping for
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Clapping, start clapping for yourself. no one is approving
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Yourself. no one is approving you, approve yourself. you
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You, approve yourself. you don't have to go to people,
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Don't have to go to people, go to your heavenly father,
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Go to your heavenly father, the god who created you. if
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The god who created you. if you'll do this, i believe and
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You'll do this, i believe and declare, chains of
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Declare, chains of insecurity, low self-esteem,
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Insecurity, low self-esteem, unworthiness are being broken
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Unworthiness are being broken right now. god is breathing
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Right now. god is breathing strength, value, freedom,
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Strength, value, freedom, healing. you're about to rise
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Healing. you're about to rise higher, accomplish dreams,
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Higher, accomplish dreams, and reach new levels of your
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And reach new levels of your destiny, in jesus' name. if
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Destiny, in jesus' name. if you receive it, can you say
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You receive it, can you say amen? (applause)
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Amen? (applause) i'd like to give you an
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I'd like to give you an opportunity to make jesus the
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Opportunity to make jesus the lord of your life. would you
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Lord of your life. would you pray with me? just say, “lord
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Pray with me? just say, “lord jesus, i repent of my sins.
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Jesus, i repent of my sins. come into my heart. i make
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Come into my heart. i make you my lord and savior.” if
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You my lord and savior.” if you prayed that simple
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You prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got
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Prayer, we believe you got born again. we'd love to send
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Born again. we'd love to send you some free information on
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You some free information on your new walk with the lord.
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Your new walk with the lord. you can text the number on
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You can text the number on the screen or go to the
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The screen or go to the website. but i hope you'll
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Website. but i hope you'll get into a good bible-based
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Get into a good bible-based church and keep god first
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Church and keep god first place.
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Some of us have been
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Some of us have been carrying the same weight
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Carrying the same weight for years:
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For years: mistakes, regrets,
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Mistakes, regrets, what people said.
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What people said. what if you were never meant to
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What if you were never meant to carry any of it?
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Carry any of it? it's easy
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It's easy in life to wear labels.
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In life to wear labels. mistakes we've made
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Mistakes we've made and what people have said.
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And what people have said. disappointments we face.
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Disappointments we face. those labels can diminish
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Those labels can diminish our sense of value
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Our sense of value and cause us to forget
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And cause us to forget who we really are.
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Who we really are. i have a new book called
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It'll help you see yourself
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You see yourself the way god sees you:
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The way god sees you: valuable, talented, worthy,
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Valuable, talented, worthy, a masterpiece.
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A masterpiece. you've been fearfully
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You've been fearfully and wonderfully made.
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You were not made by your hardest season.
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Victoria and i pray for you and your family every day,
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You and your family every day, believing
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Joel Osteen - Build Yourself Up

July 10, 2026 | 27:29

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