Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen - Stop Counting On People

July 27, 2025 | 29:0

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Joel Osteen | Joel Osteen - Stop Counting On People | July 27, 2025

Joel: god bless you. it's
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Joel: god bless you. it's great to be with you today.
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Great to be with you today. i hope you'll stay connected
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I hope you'll stay connected with us during the week,
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With us during the week, through our daily podcast,
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Through our daily podcast, our youtube channel, social
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Our youtube channel, social media. and you can come visit
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Media. and you can come visit us in person. we'd love to
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Us in person. we'd love to have you be a part of one
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Have you be a part of one of our services.
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I like to start with
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I like to start with something funny. somebody
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Something funny. somebody sent me this funny thought.
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Sent me this funny thought. i kind of liked it. here's how
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I kind of liked it. here's how it goes. in the beginning,
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It goes. in the beginning, god created the earth and
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God created the earth and rested. then god created man
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Rested. then god created man and rested. next god created
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And rested. next god created women. since then, neither
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Women. since then, neither god nor man has rested.
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God nor man has rested. (laughter) a lady asked my
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(laughter) a lady asked my father one time, she said,
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Father one time, she said, “where would you men be
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“where would you men be without us women?” my father
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Without us women?” my father smiled and said, “in the
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Smiled and said, “in the garden of eden.” (laughter)
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Garden of eden.” (laughter) say it like you mean it. this
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Say it like you mean it. this is my bible. i am what it
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Is my bible. i am what it says i am. i have what it
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Says i am. i have what it says i have. i can do what it
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Says i have. i can do what it says i can do. today, i will
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Says i can do. today, i will be taught the word of god. i
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Be taught the word of god. i boldly confess: my mind is
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Boldly confess: my mind is alert. my heart is receptive.
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Alert. my heart is receptive. i will never be the same in
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I will never be the same in jesus' name. god bless you.
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Jesus' name. god bless you. i want to talk to you today
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I want to talk to you today about not counting on people.
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About not counting on people. sometimes we're getting our
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Sometimes we're getting our worth and value from how
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Worth and value from how people treat us. if they're
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People treat us. if they're kind, compliment us, invite
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Kind, compliment us, invite us to their event,
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Us to their event, acknowledge our gifts, then
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Acknowledge our gifts, then we'll feel good about
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We'll feel good about ourselves. we have their
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Ourselves. we have their approval, their validation.
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Approval, their validation. it's great when people are
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It's great when people are for us and make us feel
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For us and make us feel valuable. but the problem
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Valuable. but the problem with counting on people is
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With counting on people is people can change. people can
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People can change. people can get busy. people can become
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Get busy. people can become jealous. people can be
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Jealous. people can be discouraged. they can't keep
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Discouraged. they can't keep you cheered up; they have
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You cheered up; they have their own issues. they never
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Their own issues. they never compliment themselves;
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Compliment themselves; they're probably not going to
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They're probably not going to compliment you. instead of
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Compliment you. instead of looking to people, you have
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Looking to people, you have to go to god. no matter how
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To go to god. no matter how much someone loves you, how
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Much someone loves you, how much they want the best for
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Much they want the best for you, they can't give you
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You, they can't give you everything you need. they
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Everything you need. they can't always be there to
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Can't always be there to cheer you up, and keep you
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Cheer you up, and keep you encouraged, feeling
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Encouraged, feeling confident. let them off the
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Confident. let them off the hook. that's a lot of
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Hook. that's a lot of pressure for someone to know
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Pressure for someone to know they have to keep you fixed.
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They have to keep you fixed. they have to compliment you
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They have to compliment you three times a day, and tell
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Three times a day, and tell you how great you are, how
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You how great you are, how you're going to make it. they
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You're going to make it. they want the best for you, but at
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Want the best for you, but at some point, they'll let you
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Some point, they'll let you down. they're human. god
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Down. they're human. god never designed us to get that
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Never designed us to get that all from people, but from him.
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All from people, but from him. yes, he'll use people, but
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Yes, he'll use people, but don't be surprised when he
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Don't be surprised when he pulls that back and you don't
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Pulls that back and you don't get from them what you used
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Get from them what you used to. he's teaching you to
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To. he's teaching you to depend on him and not their
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Depend on him and not their approval, their compliments,
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Approval, their compliments, their encouragement. because
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Their encouragement. because that's temporary. that's
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That's temporary. that's dependent on what's going on
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Dependent on what's going on in their life. sometimes the
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In their life. sometimes the acceptance, the approval
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Acceptance, the approval we're longing for from
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We're longing for from people, they don't have it to
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People, they don't have it to give. nobody gave it to them.
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Give. nobody gave it to them. the way you want them to love
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The way you want them to love you, respect you, make you
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You, respect you, make you feel important, they never
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Feel important, they never saw that growing up. nobody
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Saw that growing up. nobody put that in them. are you
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Put that in them. are you trying to get something from
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Trying to get something from someone that they don't have
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Someone that they don't have to give. trying to convince
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To give. trying to convince that coworker to acknowledge
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That coworker to acknowledge just one time that you're
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Just one time that you're talented, that you have good
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Talented, that you have good ideas. or that family member
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Ideas. or that family member to accept you, include you,
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To accept you, include you, make you feel welcome. no
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Make you feel welcome. no matter what you do, it's like
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Matter what you do, it's like you're secondary, not good
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You're secondary, not good enough. no, stop counting on
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Enough. no, stop counting on people to give you something
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People to give you something that they don't have. they
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That they don't have. they love you. sure, they're a
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Love you. sure, they're a good person. if they had it,
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Good person. if they had it, they would give it. try a
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They would give it. try a different approach. “god, i
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Different approach. “god, i know you accept me. you
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Know you accept me. you approve me. you call me a
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Approve me. you call me a masterpiece. you said i can
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Masterpiece. you said i can do all things through
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Do all things through christ.” get your approval
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Christ.” get your approval from almighty god.
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From almighty god. sometimes we're trying to get
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Sometimes we're trying to get something from a person
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Something from a person that's never going to give
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That's never going to give it. not because they can't
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It. not because they can't give it, but they don't want
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Give it, but they don't want to. they're never going to be
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To. they're never going to be for us, never show us
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For us, never show us respect, never acknowledge
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Respect, never acknowledge our gifts. that's okay.
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Our gifts. that's okay. everyone is not supposed to
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Everyone is not supposed to be for you. if you don't
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Be for you. if you don't realize this, you'll get
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Realize this, you'll get stuck trying to change
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Stuck trying to change people's mind. thinking,
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People's mind. thinking, “i've got to win them over,
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“i've got to win them over, and prove that i'm a good
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And prove that i'm a good person, convince them that
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Person, convince them that they're wrong about me.” all
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They're wrong about me.” all that's going to do is
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That's going to do is frustrate you, cause you to
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Frustrate you, cause you to live stressed. you have to
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Live stressed. you have to let it go and move forward.
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Let it go and move forward. you don't need their
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You don't need their approval. “joel, they don't
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Approval. “joel, they don't respect me.” you don't need
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Respect me.” you don't need their respect. “they don't
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Their respect. “they don't acknowledge my gifts.” you
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Acknowledge my gifts.” you don't need their
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Don't need their acknowledgment. you know what
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Acknowledgment. you know what they are? a distraction. the
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They are? a distraction. the enemy would love for you to
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Enemy would love for you to waste your time trying to
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Waste your time trying to change something that you
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Change something that you can't change. living stressed
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Can't change. living stressed over someone that doesn't
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Over someone that doesn't really matter. they cannot
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Really matter. they cannot stop your destiny. them not
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Stop your destiny. them not being for you doesn't lessen
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Being for you doesn't lessen your value. not recognizing
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Your value. not recognizing your talent, downplaying your
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Your talent, downplaying your accomplishments, treating you
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Accomplishments, treating you like you're inferior. that
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Like you're inferior. that doesn't change the fact that
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Doesn't change the fact that you're a masterpiece. that
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You're a masterpiece. that you have seeds of greatness,
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You have seeds of greatness, that you're wearing a crown
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That you're wearing a crown of favor. why are you wasting
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Of favor. why are you wasting time trying to get something
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Time trying to get something from someone that they're
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From someone that they're never going to give.
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Never going to give. jesus told his disciples,
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Jesus told his disciples, when you go into a city and
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When you go into a city and they don't accept your
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They don't accept your message, they don't welcome
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Message, they don't welcome you. he didn't say, “stay
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You. he didn't say, “stay there and try to convince
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There and try to convince them to change. tell them how
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Them to change. tell them how good you are and how sincere,
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Good you are and how sincere, prove your talent.” no, he
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Prove your talent.” no, he said, “shake the dust off
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Said, “shake the dust off your feet and move on.” he
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Your feet and move on.” he was saying, don't waste
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Was saying, don't waste another minute trying to
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Another minute trying to convince people to like you,
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Convince people to like you, respect you, include you,
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Respect you, include you, come see you. we spend too
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Come see you. we spend too much time trying to win
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Much time trying to win people over that are never
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People over that are never going to be for us. trying to
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Going to be for us. trying to get something that they're
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Get something that they're never going to give. this can
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Never going to give. this can be difficult especially when
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Be difficult especially when it's people close to us. we
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It's people close to us. we long for approval from our
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Long for approval from our relatives and the people we
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Relatives and the people we look up to.
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Think about david. his father
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Think about david. his father didn't really believe in him.
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Didn't really believe in him. he discounted him, left him
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He discounted him, left him out in the shepherds fields
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Out in the shepherds fields when samuel came to anoint
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When samuel came to anoint one of the sons as the next
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One of the sons as the next king. he thought, “david?
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It's not him, he's too small,
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It's not him, he's too small, too young, he's not as
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Too young, he's not as talented as his brothers.”
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Talented as his brothers.” david could have lived
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David could have lived bitter, upset, trying to
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Bitter, upset, trying to convince his father to change
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Convince his father to change his mind. he shook it off and
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His mind. he shook it off and moved forward. when he took
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Moved forward. when he took lunch to his brothers. they
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Lunch to his brothers. they were in the army in another
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Were in the army in another city. he was being kind,
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City. he was being kind, doing them a favor. the
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Doing them a favor. the oldest brother, eliab,
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Oldest brother, eliab, belittled him. in front of
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Belittled him. in front of the other soldiers, he said,
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The other soldiers, he said, “david what are you doing
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“david what are you doing here? and what did you do
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Here? and what did you do with those few sheep you're
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With those few sheep you're supposed to be taking care
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Supposed to be taking care of?” he tried to make david
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Of?” he tried to make david feel small, insignificant.
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Feel small, insignificant. you would think his brother
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You would think his brother would say, “david, thanks for
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Would say, “david, thanks for coming this far. thanks for
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Coming this far. thanks for being so kind and generous.”
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Being so kind and generous.” but people may not give you
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But people may not give you what you deserve. sometimes
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What you deserve. sometimes they don't have it. it's just
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They don't have it. it's just not in them. other times
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Not in them. other times they're jealous, competitive
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They're jealous, competitive or they're bitter from things
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Or they're bitter from things that have nothing to do with
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That have nothing to do with you. it's easy to try to
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You. it's easy to try to defend and prove, win over
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Defend and prove, win over because we want people's
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Because we want people's approval. but what if you
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Approval. but what if you knew they were never going to
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Knew they were never going to give it. if you became
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Give it. if you became superman; you were the
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Superman; you were the greatest, kindest, most
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Greatest, kindest, most loving, talented person ever,
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Loving, talented person ever, yet they're still going to
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Yet they're still going to discredit, dismiss and
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Discredit, dismiss and downplay who you are. it's
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Downplay who you are. it's much better to do what jesus
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Much better to do what jesus said, shake the dust off and
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Said, shake the dust off and move on. be kind. be
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Move on. be kind. be respectful, but don't try to
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Respectful, but don't try to win their approval. you don't
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Win their approval. you don't need it. they're a
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Need it. they're a distraction.
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When that brother
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When that brother disrespected david, the
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Disrespected david, the scripture says, “david turned
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Scripture says, “david turned and walked away.” his
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And walked away.” his attitude was, “i don't need
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Attitude was, “i don't need your respect. you don't have
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Your respect. you don't have to believe in me. you don't
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Control my destiny.” had
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Control my destiny.” had david tried to change eliab's
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David tried to change eliab's mind, and convince him that
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Mind, and convince him that he was good, and talented,
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He was good, and talented, and “i'm not what you think,”
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And “i'm not what you think,” he would have been so
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He would have been so distracted, arguing, trying
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Distracted, arguing, trying to win him over, that he
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To win him over, that he wouldn't have heard goliath
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Wouldn't have heard goliath up on the mountain. don't
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Up on the mountain. don't miss your assignment trying
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Miss your assignment trying to convince people to be for
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To convince people to be for you that are never going to
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You that are never going to be for you. fighting battles
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Be for you. fighting battles that don't matter. shake the
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That don't matter. shake the dust off and move forward.
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Dust off and move forward. when my father went to be
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When my father went to be with the lord and i stepped
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With the lord and i stepped up to pastor the church,
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Up to pastor the church, there was a man that had been
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There was a man that had been close to our family and had
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Close to our family and had been here for many years. he
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Been here for many years. he called and told me how happy
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Called and told me how happy he was for me. then he went
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He was for me. then he went on to tell me how to run the
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On to tell me how to run the church, how to lead the
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Church, how to lead the staff, who to hire, what i
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Staff, who to hire, what i should speak on, the changes
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Should speak on, the changes i should make. he was very
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I should make. he was very opinionated and very strong.
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Opinionated and very strong. i was very insecure and very
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I was very insecure and very quiet. but something on the
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Quiet. but something on the inside rose up like a lion. i
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Inside rose up like a lion. i didn't say anything to him,
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Didn't say anything to him, but i thought, “you are not
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But i thought, “you are not going to squeeze me into your
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Going to squeeze me into your mold. i may look weak, but
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Mold. i may look weak, but you have another thing
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Coming.” he was for me as
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Coming.” he was for me as long as i was doing what he
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Long as i was doing what he wanted. he gave me his
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Wanted. he gave me his approval, as long as i was in
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Approval, as long as i was in his box. the problem was, i
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His box. the problem was, i didn't like anything he told
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Didn't like anything he told me. it didn't bear witness in
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Me. it didn't bear witness in my spirit. i had to decide am
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My spirit. i had to decide am i going to do what god's
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I going to do what god's called me to do or am i going
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Called me to do or am i going to try to please this man,
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To try to please this man, and stay in his good grace? i
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And stay in his good grace? i knew if i did what god put in
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Knew if i did what god put in my heart, he'd get upset.
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My heart, he'd get upset. he'd be offended. he'd look
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Down on me. but the scripture
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Down on me. but the scripture says, “it is better to please
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Says, “it is better to please god than to please people.”
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God than to please people.” when we come to the end of
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When we come to the end of life, we're not going to
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Life, we're not going to stand before people, we're
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Stand before people, we're going to stand before god.
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Going to stand before god. i didn't take his advice. i
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I didn't take his advice. i went the way i felt in my
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Went the way i felt in my heart. he was upset. but i've
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Heart. he was upset. but i've learned, if you try to keep
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Learned, if you try to keep everyone else happy, you're
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Everyone else happy, you're going to be unhappy. to
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Going to be unhappy. to fulfill your assignment,
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Fulfill your assignment, there will be people that
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There will be people that don't approve, don't accept,
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Don't approve, don't accept, misunderstand. you can't
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Misunderstand. you can't worry about all that. i knew
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Worry about all that. i knew he was never going to give me
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He was never going to give me his approval. he was never
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His approval. he was never going to be for me. but
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Going to be for me. but that's okay. i didn't need
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That's okay. i didn't need his approval. i didn't need
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His approval. i didn't need him to cheer me on. if i had
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Him to cheer me on. if i had done it his way, here's what
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Done it his way, here's what i know, it would have never
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I know, it would have never been enough. take the
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Been enough. take the pressure off. you don't need
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Pressure off. you don't need people's applause. do what
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People's applause. do what god put in your heart, and
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God put in your heart, and you'll hear his applause.
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You'll hear his applause. he's the one that matters.
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He's the one that matters. promotion doesn't come from
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Promotion doesn't come from people; it comes from god.
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People; it comes from god. the funny thing, all credit
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The funny thing, all credit to god, but the church grew.
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To god, but the church grew. we moved here into the compaq
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We moved here into the compaq center. i've had books and
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Center. i've had books and media go out all over. he's
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Media go out all over. he's never once acknowledged it.
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Never once acknowledged it. he's never said, “joel, i'm
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He's never said, “joel, i'm so proud of you. it's amazing
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So proud of you. it's amazing what god has done.” my point
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What god has done.” my point is, he was never really for
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Is, he was never really for me, he was for manipulating
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Me, he was for manipulating me. controlling me. “if you
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Me. controlling me. “if you don't do what i want, i'm not
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Don't do what i want, i'm not going to give you my
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Going to give you my approval, i'm not going to
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Approval, i'm not going to respect you.” do yourself a
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Respect you.” do yourself a favor, shake that dust off
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Favor, shake that dust off and move on. quit worrying
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And move on. quit worrying about if you're going to fall
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About if you're going to fall out of someone's good grace.
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Out of someone's good grace. trying to get something that
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Trying to get something that they're never going to give.
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They're never going to give. if they do give it, it's
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If they do give it, it's going to be conditional. “as
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Going to be conditional. “as long as you stay in my box,
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Long as you stay in my box, then i'll approve you.” you
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Then i'll approve you.” you don't need them. they're a
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Don't need them. they're a distraction. if you're not
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Distraction. if you're not aware, you'll waste time and
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Aware, you'll waste time and energy trying to win them
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Energy trying to win them over. letting people
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Over. letting people manipulate you. being
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Manipulate you. being frustrated. life is too short
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Frustrated. life is too short to live that way. you have a
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To live that way. you have a destiny to fulfill.
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There was a man in the
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There was a man in the scripture named haman. he was
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Scripture named haman. he was a high-ranking official in
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A high-ranking official in the persian empire, the
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The persian empire, the right-hand man of king
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Right-hand man of king xerxes. he had this prominent
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Xerxes. he had this prominent position, working daily with
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Position, working daily with the king. when he walked out
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Of the palace, people would
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Of the palace, people would bow down to show their
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Bow down to show their respect. that was their
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Respect. that was their tradition. but there was a
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Tradition. but there was a jewish man named mordecai,
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Jewish man named mordecai, that wouldn't bow down. he
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That wouldn't bow down. he would only bow to jehovah.
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Everywhere haman went, people
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Everywhere haman went, people would show their respect.
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Would show their respect. walking down the street,
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Walking down the street, going to a restaurant, in the
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Going to a restaurant, in the city square, people were
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City square, people were constantly acknowledging
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Constantly acknowledging haman, showing him honor. you
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Haman, showing him honor. you would think he wouldn't worry
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Would think he wouldn't worry about mordecai, not give him
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About mordecai, not give him the time of day. one person
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The time of day. one person won't bow. big deal, hundreds
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Won't bow. big deal, hundreds of others do. but verse 5
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Of others do. but verse 5 says, “when haman saw that
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Says, “when haman saw that mordecai would not kneel down
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Or pay him honor, he was
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Or pay him honor, he was filled with rage.” he was
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Filled with rage.” he was furious. not because someone
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Furious. not because someone tried to harm his child,
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Tried to harm his child, steal his funds, take his
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Steal his funds, take his position. all because, one
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Position. all because, one man wouldn't show respect. he
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Man wouldn't show respect. he was so angry, so offended,
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Was so angry, so offended, verse 6 says, “he decided it
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Verse 6 says, “he decided it was not enough to just get
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Was not enough to just get rid of mordecai alone, but he
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Rid of mordecai alone, but he was going to annihilate all
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Was going to annihilate all the jewish people.” he was so
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The jewish people.” he was so consumed trying to get
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Consumed trying to get something from mordecai, that
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Something from mordecai, that mordecai was never going to
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Mordecai was never going to give, that he got distracted.
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Give, that he got distracted. he lost his focus. now he's
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He lost his focus. now he's not just upset with mordecai,
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Not just upset with mordecai, he's going to try to wipe out
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He's going to try to wipe out tens of thousands of people,
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Tens of thousands of people, because one man won't show
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Because one man won't show him respect. when you look at
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Him respect. when you look at it from the big picture, it's
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It from the big picture, it's almost comical. you're going
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Almost comical. you're going to upend your whole life,
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To upend your whole life, take these drastic measures,
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Take these drastic measures, because one man has offended
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Because one man has offended you, one person won't approve
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You, one person won't approve you, won't celebrate your
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You, won't celebrate your position.
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Position. the fact is mordecai not
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The fact is mordecai not bowing down wouldn't have
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Bowing down wouldn't have stopped haman's destiny. he
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Stopped haman's destiny. he could have ignored it.
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Could have ignored it. thought, “i don't need his
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Thought, “i don't need his respect. he doesn't control
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Respect. he doesn't control my purpose.” but it was a
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My purpose.” but it was a trick to get him off course,
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Trick to get him off course, engaged in a battle that
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Engaged in a battle that didn't matter. trying to get
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Didn't matter. trying to get something from someone that
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Something from someone that they were never going to
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They were never going to give. how many of us are
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Give. how many of us are doing like haman? so focused
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Doing like haman? so focused on what someone won't give
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On what someone won't give us. “joel, they won't approve
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Us. “joel, they won't approve me. they won't show me
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Me. they won't show me respect, they won't
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Respect, they won't compliment me, they don't
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Compliment me, they don't invite me to their gathering,
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Invite me to their gathering, they don't recognize my
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They don't recognize my talent.” we can get so set on
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Talent.” we can get so set on changing them, fixing them,
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Changing them, fixing them, proving to them, that we get
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Proving to them, that we get distracted and miss our
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Distracted and miss our assignment. you don't need
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Assignment. you don't need their respect. you don't need
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Their respect. you don't need them to be for you.
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Them to be for you. it may be someone close to
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It may be someone close to you, a relative, a coworker,
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You, a relative, a coworker, that should compliment you,
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That should compliment you, should be grateful, show you
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Should be grateful, show you respect. you deserve it. you
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Respect. you deserve it. you have the position. you've
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Have the position. you've been good to them, but you
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Been good to them, but you can't make people give you
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Can't make people give you something. make them like
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Something. make them like you. make them be for you.
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You. make them be for you. that's a test. are you going
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That's a test. are you going to get distracted, trying to
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To get distracted, trying to get something that they're
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Get something that they're never going to give. live
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Never going to give. live upset. trying to pay them
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Upset. trying to pay them back, change their mind. do
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Back, change their mind. do like david, turn and walk
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Like david, turn and walk away. don't pay it any
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Away. don't pay it any attention. if you needed
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Attention. if you needed their respect, their
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Their respect, their validation, their support,
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Validation, their support, you would have it. god is not
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You would have it. god is not going to withhold any good
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Going to withhold any good thing you need. if they're
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Thing you need. if they're withholding it, they can't
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Withholding it, they can't stand against god. the right
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Stand against god. the right attitude is, “i don't need
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Attitude is, “i don't need it. yes, i wish i had it. but
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It. yes, i wish i had it. but god i'm not depending on what
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God i'm not depending on what people give or don't give, my
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People give or don't give, my trust is in you. i get my
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Trust is in you. i get my value, my worth, my
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Value, my worth, my encouragement from you.”
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Encouragement from you.” queen esther was a jew. she
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Queen esther was a jew. she heard of haman's plot to
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Heard of haman's plot to destroy her people. she asked
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Destroy her people. she asked the king if he would have
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The king if he would have dinner with her and haman.
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Dinner with her and haman. she was going to tell him
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She was going to tell him about this plot. haman was so
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About this plot. haman was so happy. he was being honored
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Happy. he was being honored by the king. verse 10 says,
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By the king. verse 10 says, “he gathered his friends in
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“he gathered his friends in his home and bragged about
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His home and bragged about his wealth and the honors the
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His wealth and the honors the king had given him and how
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King had given him and how he'd been promoted over the
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He'd been promoted over the other leaders. how queen
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Other leaders. how queen esther had invited him to a
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Esther had invited him to a private banquet with just her
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Private banquet with just her and the king.” he was so
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And the king.” he was so excited and feeling good
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Excited and feeling good about himself. then he said,
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About himself. then he said, the next verse
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The next verse “but all this is meaningless
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“but all this is meaningless to me, as long as i see
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To me, as long as i see mordecai sitting there at
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Mordecai sitting there at that palace gate.” he had all
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That palace gate.” he had all these great things going for
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These great things going for him, position, influence,
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Him, position, influence, friends, honor, but one man
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Friends, honor, but one man wouldn't show him respect.
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Wouldn't show him respect. one man wouldn't give him
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One man wouldn't give him what he wanted. instead of
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What he wanted. instead of letting it go, shaking the
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Letting it go, shaking the dust off, he stayed focused
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Dust off, he stayed focused on it. he thought, “i've got
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On it. he thought, “i've got to fix mordecai if it's the
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To fix mordecai if it's the last thing i do.” you know,
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Last thing i do.” you know, it was the last thing he did.
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It was the last thing he did. he lost his life trying to
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He lost his life trying to get something from someone
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Get something from someone that they were never going to
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That they were never going to give.
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Give. i realize this was the plan
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I realize this was the plan of god to save the jews. but
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Of god to save the jews. but look at the principle. when
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Look at the principle. when you get so focused on trying
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You get so focused on trying to get something from someone
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To get something from someone that doesn't want to give it,
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That doesn't want to give it, or perhaps they don't have it
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Or perhaps they don't have it to give, then you'll get
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To give, then you'll get distracted. trying to prove,
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Distracted. trying to prove, and convince, and pay back.
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And convince, and pay back. do yourself a favor. if you
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Do yourself a favor. if you don't get it, shake it off.
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Don't get it, shake it off. you don't need it. quit
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You don't need it. quit counting on people to give
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Counting on people to give you what only god can give.
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You what only god can give. go to him for your approval,
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Go to him for your approval, your validation, your worth.
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Your validation, your worth. i can promise you there will
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I can promise you there will always be someone that
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Always be someone that doesn't give you what you
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Doesn't give you what you want, what you deserve, what
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Want, what you deserve, what they should. these are tests.
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They should. these are tests. we can get offended like
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We can get offended like haman. get distracted and try
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Haman. get distracted and try to win them over, change
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To win them over, change their mind. or we can do like
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Their mind. or we can do like david and turn and walk away.
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A friend of mine grew up in a
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A friend of mine grew up in a single parent home. at five
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Single parent home. at five years old, his father walked
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Years old, his father walked out of his life and wouldn't
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Out of his life and wouldn't have anything to do with the
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Have anything to do with the family or him. as a child he
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Family or him. as a child he longed to see his father,
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Longed for the approval, but
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Longed for the approval, but the dad wouldn't return his
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The dad wouldn't return his mother's calls. as a
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Mother's calls. as a teenager, he would send
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Teenager, he would send letters to his father,
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Letters to his father, father's day cards, birthdays
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Father's day cards, birthdays cards. hoping for some kind
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Cards. hoping for some kind of reply, but nothing. the
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Of reply, but nothing. the psalmist said, “god will be a
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Psalmist said, “god will be a father to the fatherless.”
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Father to the fatherless.” sometimes people don't give
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Sometimes people don't give us what they should. children
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Us what they should. children should have love, acceptance,
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Should have love, acceptance, approval from their parents,
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Approval from their parents, but life can happen. people
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But life can happen. people aren't around. or they never
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Aren't around. or they never got it as a child, and they
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Got it as a child, and they don't know how to give it.
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This young man never gott.
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This young man never gott. offended, didn't grow up
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Offended, didn't grow up bitter, trying to prove to
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Bitter, trying to prove to people he was okay. his
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People he was okay. his mother was always reminding
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Mother was always reminding him how he was made in the
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Him how he was made in the image of god, that he was a
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Image of god, that he was a masterpiece, approved and
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Masterpiece, approved and accepted by his heavenly
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Accepted by his heavenly father. at thirty years old,
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Father. at thirty years old, his father reached out and
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His father reached out and said he wanted to see him. my
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Said he wanted to see him. my friend took his two little
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Friend took his two little girls, flew to a different
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Girls, flew to a different city, and showed up at the
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House. the wife opened the
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House. the wife opened the door, and said, “i'm so
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Door, and said, “i'm so sorry, your dad has changed
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Sorry, your dad has changed his mind. he doesn't want to
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His mind. he doesn't want to see you after all.” you can
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See you after all.” you can imagine how heartbreaking and
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Imagine how heartbreaking and discouraging. finally got his
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Discouraging. finally got his hopes up, going to get
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Hopes up, going to get approval from his father, but
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Approval from his father, but it never happened.
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It never happened. some people, it's not that
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Some people, it's not that they don't want to, they just
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They don't want to, they just don't have it to give. he
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Learned that his father had
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Learned that his father had been abandoned as a child.
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Been abandoned as a child. there were all these wounds
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There were all these wounds and hurts that he had never
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And hurts that he had never dealt with. the amazing thing
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Dealt with. the amazing thing is my friend is one of the
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Is my friend is one of the most happy, kind, generous,
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Most happy, kind, generous, talented people that you will
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Ever meet. his children are
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Ever meet. his children are now grown and successful. you
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Now grown and successful. you would never know that he
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Would never know that he didn't have a great
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Didn't have a great upbringing. it's because, he
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Upbringing. it's because, he learned to go to god and not
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Learned to go to god and not to people. get your value,
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To people. get your value, your worth, your approval
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Your worth, your approval from your heavenly father. if
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From your heavenly father. if you're trying to get it from
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You're trying to get it from people, you can be
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People, you can be disappointed. people can let
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Disappointed. people can let you down, people have issues,
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You down, people have issues, things they didn't get. it's
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Things they didn't get. it's easy to find fault, “why
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Easy to find fault, “why wasn't i raised in a better
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Wasn't i raised in a better environment, why won't my
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Environment, why won't my spouse encourage me more, why
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Spouse encourage me more, why won't my friend acknowledge
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Won't my friend acknowledge my accomplishments? why don't
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My accomplishments? why don't they give me credit?” it's
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They give me credit?” it's almost like, “they owe me
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Almost like, “they owe me something. i'm expecting you
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Something. i'm expecting you to give me this.” a better
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To give me this.” a better way to live is, “nobody owes
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Way to live is, “nobody owes me anything. my heavenly
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Me anything. my heavenly father takes care of me.” if
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Father takes care of me.” if not, we're dependent on
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Not, we're dependent on people to keep us happy. our
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People to keep us happy. our spouse to cheer us up. our
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Spouse to cheer us up. our friend to make us feel
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Friend to make us feel valued. “this coworker needs
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Valued. “this coworker needs to show me respect, so i'll
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To show me respect, so i'll feel good about myself.” let
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Feel good about myself.” let them off the hook. quit going
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Them off the hook. quit going to people and start going to
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To people and start going to god.
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God. in 2 timothy 4, the apostle
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In 2 timothy 4, the apostle paul was talking about
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Paul was talking about opposition and things that
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Opposition and things that had come against him. he said
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Had come against him. he said in verse 10, “demus has
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In verse 10, “demus has forsaken me and gone to
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Forsaken me and gone to another city.” someone he was
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Another city.” someone he was counting on, left him. verse
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Counting on, left him. verse 14, “alexander the
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14, “alexander the coppersmith did me great
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Coppersmith did me great wrong, but the lord will
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Wrong, but the lord will repay him.” verse 16, “at my
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Repay him.” verse 16, “at my trial, no one came to support
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Trial, no one came to support me. everyone deserted me, but
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Me. everyone deserted me, but the lord stood by my side and
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The lord stood by my side and gave me strength. the lord
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Gave me strength. the lord will rescue me from every
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Will rescue me from every attack. the lord will bring
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Attack. the lord will bring me safely through.” look at
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Me safely through.” look at all the times people let him
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All the times people let him down, walked away, weren't
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Down, walked away, weren't loyal. he could have been
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Loyal. he could have been bitter, “why did this
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Bitter, “why did this happen?” trying to pay them
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Happen?” trying to pay them back. but every time someone
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Back. but every time someone did him wrong, he said, “the
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Did him wrong, he said, “the lord will help me. the lord
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Lord will help me. the lord will pay me back. the lord
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Will pay me back. the lord will rescue me. the lord will
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Will rescue me. the lord will bring me safely through.” he
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Bring me safely through.” he wasn't depending on people;
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Wasn't depending on people; he was depending on god. if
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He was depending on god. if he was counting on people, he
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He was counting on people, he would have been discouraged
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Would have been discouraged and given up. demus left him,
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And given up. demus left him, his main man. he had been
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His main man. he had been good to demus, he'd mentored
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Good to demus, he'd mentored him, but he abandoned paul
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Him, but he abandoned paul and went to another city. at
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His trial, no one came to
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His trial, no one came to support him. his whole staff,
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Support him. his whole staff, friends, followers, people he
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Friends, followers, people he had been good to, “sorry,
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Had been good to, “sorry, paul, you're on your own.”
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There will be these times
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There will be these times that people can't give you
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That people can't give you what you need. they're good
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What you need. they're good people, but they're busy.
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People, but they're busy. they're tired. when you need
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They're tired. when you need them, they can't make it.
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Them, they can't make it. don't get bitter. don't try
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Don't get bitter. don't try to make them feel guilty,
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To make them feel guilty, “look at all i've done for
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“look at all i've done for you.” if they can't give you
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You.” if they can't give you what you're looking for, the
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What you're looking for, the support, the encouragement,
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Support, the encouragement, the validation, you don't
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The validation, you don't need it from them. as you
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Need it from them. as you mature, as you grow, god will
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Mature, as you grow, god will wean you off of what you used
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Wean you off of what you used to have. like a mother takes
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To have. like a mother takes away a bottle, so the baby
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Away a bottle, so the baby can grow and eat real food,
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Can grow and eat real food, god will take away what a
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God will take away what a person is giving you, so you
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Person is giving you, so you won't be dependent on them.
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Won't be dependent on them. you don't need a crutch. you
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You don't need a crutch. you don't need someone to always
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Don't need someone to always keep you fixed, cheered up
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Keep you fixed, cheered up and motivated. that's good
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And motivated. that's good for a season, but you have to
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For a season, but you have to learn to get that from god
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Learn to get that from god and not people. because one
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And not people. because one of your people may be a
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Of your people may be a demus. you thought i was
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Demus. you thought i was going to say a demon; a
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Going to say a demon; a demus. maybe that too.
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Demus. maybe that too. (laughter) demus left when
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(laughter) demus left when you really needed him. or a
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Peter. he said jesus, “i'll
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Peter. he said jesus, “i'll always be with you. you can
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Always be with you. you can count on me.” but when the
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Count on me.” but when the soldiers showed up, he denied
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Soldiers showed up, he denied that he knew jesus. or a king
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That he knew jesus. or a king saul. he invited david to the
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Saul. he invited david to the palace. he was all for him,
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Palace. he was all for him, until david started getting
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Until david started getting more attention, more favor.
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More attention, more favor. he killed a giant. now saul
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He killed a giant. now saul was throwing spears, jealous,
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Was throwing spears, jealous, trying to take david out.
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Trying to take david out. that's why you can't count on
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That's why you can't count on people. they can change. it's
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Great when they give you the
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Great when they give you the support, the love, the
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Support, the love, the compliments. sure, god will
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Compliments. sure, god will have people that are there
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Have people that are there for you, loyal, kind,
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For you, loyal, kind, amazing. but sometimes god
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Amazing. but sometimes god pulls them back. you have to
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Pulls them back. you have to recognize what's happening.
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Recognize what's happening. you're growing up. god's
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You're growing up. god's getting you prepared to go to
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Getting you prepared to go to new levels. where you're
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New levels. where you're going, you can't depend on
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Going, you can't depend on people. it's between you and
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People. it's between you and god.
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God. in 2 samuel, david told his
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In 2 samuel, david told his staff that he wanted to take
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Staff that he wanted to take a census and see how many
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A census and see how many people they had. but god told
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People they had. but god told david specifically to not
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David specifically to not count the people. one of the
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Count the people. one of the commanders said, “david, we
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Commanders said, “david, we can't take a census. you know
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Can't take a census. you know god instructed us not to do
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God instructed us not to do it.” but david insisted, and
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It.” but david insisted, and they ended up doing it. it's
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They ended up doing it. it's interesting that god didn't
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Interesting that god didn't want them to count. god
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Want them to count. god counted the people when he
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Counted the people when he fed the five thousand with
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Fed the five thousand with five loaves and two fish. he
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Five loaves and two fish. he had them sit in groups of
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Had them sit in groups of fifty. god counted gideon's
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Fifty. god counted gideon's men, said “you got too many”.
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Men, said “you got too many”. the scripture says god counts
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The scripture says god counts the number of hair on our
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The number of hair on our head. it wasn't so much that
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Head. it wasn't so much that god didn't want david to
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God didn't want david to count the people, he didn't
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Count the people, he didn't want david to count on the
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Want david to count on the people. he didn't want him to
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People. he didn't want him to rely on the numbers, and on,
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Rely on the numbers, and on, “do they like me? do they
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“do they like me? do they respect me? are they for me?”
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Respect me? are they for me?” don't count on that, because
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Don't count on that, because sooner or later, a demus will
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Sooner or later, a demus will show up, a saul, a mordecai,
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Show up, a saul, a mordecai, that won't give you what you
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That won't give you what you want. if you're counting on
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Want. if you're counting on people, you'll get distracted
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People, you'll get distracted trying to win them over,
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Trying to win them over, discouraged because they
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Discouraged because they won't do what you want.
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Won't do what you want. are you trying to get
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Are you trying to get something from someone that's
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Something from someone that's never going to give it. like
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Never going to give it. like haman, frustrating yourself,
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Haman, frustrating yourself, trying to convince this
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Trying to convince this person to like you, respect
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Person to like you, respect you, approve you. take the
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You, approve you. take the pressure off. you don't need
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Pressure off. you don't need their approval. don't lose
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Their approval. don't lose your focus, trying to get
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Your focus, trying to get from them what god can give.
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From them what god can give. they don't have to be for
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They don't have to be for you. their disrespect will
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You. their disrespect will not keep you from slaying
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Not keep you from slaying giants, from taking thrones,
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Giants, from taking thrones, from setting new standards.
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From setting new standards. they don't control your
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They don't control your destiny. quit counting on the
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Destiny. quit counting on the people and go to god. if
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People and go to god. if you'll do this, i believe and
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You'll do this, i believe and declare, god is going to
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Declare, god is going to strengthen you, favor you,
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Strengthen you, favor you, fight your battles and you
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Fight your battles and you will rise higher, accomplish
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Will rise higher, accomplish dreams and become all you
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Dreams and become all you were created to be, in jesus'
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Were created to be, in jesus' name. if you receive it, can
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Name. if you receive it, can you say amen? (applause)
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Sometimes in life,
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Sometimes in life, people don't choose us.
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People don't choose us. we've all felt overlooked
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We've all felt overlooked and like we're not good enough.
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And like we're not good enough. it's easy to live inferior,
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It's easy to live inferior, thinking we don't measure up.
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Thinking we don't measure up. people may have left you out.
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People may have left you out. the good news is
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The good news is god has chosen you.
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God has chosen you. he's the one that matters.
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And in my new book, chosen:
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And in my new book, chosen: your life is marked
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Your life is marked for distinction,
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For distinction, you'll discover,
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You'll discover, before you were born,
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Before you were born, god not only knew you,
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God not only knew you, but he handpicked you
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But he handpicked you and placed
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And placed a calling on your life.
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A calling on your life. you are equipped and empowered
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You are equipped and empowered to fulfill your destiny.
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To fulfill your destiny. when you understand
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When you understand that you're chosen,
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That you're chosen, fear and doubt can't stay,
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Fear and doubt can't stay, you'll live
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You'll live with the boldness
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With the boldness to step into the greatness
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To step into the greatness god put in you.
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God put in you. i'd love to send you
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I'd love to send you my new book, chosen,
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By almighty god. victoria and i want you to know
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Victoria and i want you to know how much we love you.
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How much we love you. we pray for
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We pray for you and your family every day.
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You and your family every day. and thanks so much
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And thanks so much for your prayer and support.
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For your prayer and support. your generosity
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Your generosity is helping people
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Is helping people all over the world.
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All over the world. and a special thank you
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And a special thank you to our champion
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To our champion of hope partners
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For your monthly gifts. if you're not a partner,
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If you're not a partner, i hope you'll consider
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Remember, you can watch the services
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Encouraged and inspired. until we see
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Until we see you next time,
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You next time, may the lord bless you
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Joel Osteen - Stop Counting On People

July 27, 2025 | 29:0

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