Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen - Taming The Tongue

August 21, 2025 | S25 E233 | 30:0

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Joel Osteen | Joel Osteen - Taming The Tongue | August 21, 2025

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[music] >> joel osteen: well, god
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>> joel osteen: well, god bless you.
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Bless you. it's a joy to come
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It's a joy to come into your homes,
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Into your homes, and if you're ever in our area,
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And if you're ever in our area, please stop by and be a part of
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Please stop by and be a part of one of our services.
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One of our services. i promise ya we'll make ya
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I promise ya we'll make ya feel right at home.
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Feel right at home. i like to start
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I like to start with somethin' funny,
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With somethin' funny, and i heard about
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And i heard about this wealthy man.
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This wealthy man. he was known
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For bein' eccentric.
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For bein' eccentric. he was havin' a big party
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He was havin' a big party at his house.
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At his house. in his backyard,
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In his backyard, he had this huge swimmin' pool
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He had this huge swimmin' pool filled with sharks
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Filled with sharks and alligators.
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And alligators. he announced to his guests,
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He announced to his guests, "anyone that will swim
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"anyone that will swim across my pool,
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Across my pool, i'll give ya anything you want."
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I'll give ya anything you want." in a few minutes,
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In a few minutes, there was a big splash.
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There was a big splash. this man was in there,
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This man was in there, goin' 90 to nothin',
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Goin' 90 to nothin', dodgin' alligators,
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Dodgin' alligators, maneuverin' around the sharks,
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Maneuverin' around the sharks, made it to the other side,
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Made it to the other side, just in the nick of time.
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Just in the nick of time. got out as quickly
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Got out as quickly as he could,
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As he could, and the wealthy man said,
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And the wealthy man said, "wow, you're the bravest person
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"wow, you're the bravest person i've ever met.
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I've ever met. i can't believe it.
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I can't believe it. now, what would you like
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Now, what would you like for me to give you?"
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For me to give you?" the man said,
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The man said, "what i want more than anything
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"what i want more than anything else is the name of the person
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Else is the name of the person that just pushed me in."
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That just pushed me in." say it like ya mean it:
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Say it like ya mean it: "this is my bible.
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"this is my bible. i am what it says i am.
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I am what it says i am. i have what it says i have.
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I have what it says i have. i can do what it says i can do.
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I can do what it says i can do. today, i will be taught
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Today, i will be taught the word of god.
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The word of god. i boldly confess:
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I boldly confess: my mind is alert,
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My mind is alert, my heart is receptive.
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My heart is receptive. i will never be the same,
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I will never be the same, in jesus' name."
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In jesus' name." god bless you.
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I wanna talk to you today about
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I wanna talk to you today about taming your tongue.
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Taming your tongue. one of the main reasons people
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One of the main reasons people get stuck in life is because
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They haven't learned how to
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They haven't learned how to control their mouth.
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Control their mouth. they say hurtful things.
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They say hurtful things. they put people down.
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They put people down. they argue.
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They argue. they gossip.
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They gossip. they don't realize their tongue
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They don't realize their tongue is keeping them
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Is keeping them from rising higher.
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From rising higher. god won't promote you if you
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God won't promote you if you don't have the character to
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Don't have the character to back it up,
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Back it up, and you don't have
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And you don't have to be perfect,
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To be perfect, but we shouldn't be where we
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But we shouldn't be where we were 5 years ago.
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Were 5 years ago. we should be improving.
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We should be improving. pay attention to
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Pay attention to what you're saying.
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What you're saying. sometimes we've done it so long,
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Sometimes we've done it so long, we don't realize
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We don't realize we've become harsh,
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We've become harsh, condescending, sarcastic,
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Condescending, sarcastic, sayin' things just to
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Sayin' things just to please our flesh.
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Please our flesh. and paul said in ephesians 4,
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"let no unwholesome talk come
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"let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouth,
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Out of your mouth, only that which is beneficial to
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Only that which is beneficial to the progress of others."
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The progress of others." before you say somethin',
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You need to ask,
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You need to ask, "is this going to be beneficial
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"is this going to be beneficial to someone?
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To someone? is it going to build them up or
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Is it going to build them up or tear them down?
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Tear them down? is this comment going to make
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Is this comment going to make my spouse feel better
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My spouse feel better about themselves,
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About themselves, or is it just going to
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Or is it just going to feed my ego?"
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Feed my ego?" some people,
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Some people, the only thing that's
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The only thing that's holdin' them back from
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Holdin' them back from a healthy marriage,
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A healthy marriage, from good relationships,
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From good relationships, from a promotion,
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From a promotion, is their mouth.
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Is their mouth. they're talented.
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They're talented. they're skillful,
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They're skillful, but they pop off.
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But they pop off. they're sarcastic.
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They're sarcastic. they stir up strife.
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They stir up strife. you can't say
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You can't say everything you feel.
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Everything you feel. your emotions will get ya
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Your emotions will get ya into trouble.
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Into trouble. and when somebody gets on your
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Nerves and you feel irritated,
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Nerves and you feel irritated, annoyed, instead of poppin' off
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Annoyed, instead of poppin' off and sayin' things that you know
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And sayin' things that you know you're going to regret later,
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You're going to regret later, you need to step back,
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Take a deep breath,
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Take a deep breath, pause for 30 seconds.
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Pause for 30 seconds. think about what
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Think about what you're going to say.
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You're going to say. don't speak out
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Don't speak out of your emotions,
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Of your emotions, let your tongue run wild.
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Let your tongue run wild. that's the easy way out.
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That's the easy way out. you have to be disciplined and
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You have to be disciplined and tame your tongue.
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Tame your tongue. the scripture says,
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The scripture says, "be quick to listen
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"be quick to listen and slow to speak."
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And slow to speak." if you'll pause for a moment,
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If you'll pause for a moment, let your emotions calm down,
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Let your emotions calm down, you'll realize some things are
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You'll realize some things are better left unsaid.
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Better left unsaid. you don't have to
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You don't have to win every argument.
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Win every argument. you don't have to comment
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You don't have to comment on every situation.
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On every situation. you don't have to straighten
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You don't have to straighten everyone out.
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Everyone out. you may know they're wrong
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You may know they're wrong and you're right,
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And you're right, but you have to ask yourself,
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But you have to ask yourself, "is this worth starting
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"is this worth starting world war iii over?"
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World war iii over?" just bite your tongue
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Just bite your tongue and walk away.
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And walk away. see, taming the tongue
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See, taming the tongue starts at home.
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Starts at home. husbands, make sure
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Husbands, make sure you're treating your wife
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You're treating your wife with respect and honor.
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With respect and honor. if you're sayin' hurtful,
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If you're sayin' hurtful, demeaning things,
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Demeaning things, pushin' her down, really,
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Pushin' her down, really, you're pushin' yourself down.
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You're pushin' yourself down. you're not just hurting her.
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You're not just hurting her. you're hurting you.
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You're hurting you. the scripture says your prayers
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The scripture says your prayers won't be answered if you're not
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Won't be answered if you're not treating your wife right.
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Treating your wife right. you won't reach your destiny.
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You won't reach your destiny. you won't accomplish your goals
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You won't accomplish your goals if you're always cutting her up.
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I read a study that said one of
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I read a study that said one of the main reasons women fall into
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The main reasons women fall into depression is because
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Depression is because they don't have the blessing
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They don't have the blessing from their husband.
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From their husband. they don't feel valued
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They don't feel valued and appreciated.
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Now, i know men that
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Now, i know men that treat strangers better than
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Treat strangers better than they treat their own spouse.
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They treat their own spouse. they're kind and
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They're kind and gracious to coworkers,
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Gracious to coworkers, but they're sarcastic,
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But they're sarcastic, condescending to their
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Own family.
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Own family. and jesus said in matthew we
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And jesus said in matthew we will give an account for every
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Will give an account for every idle word that we've spoken.
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Idle word that we've spoken. "idle word" means "negative,
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"idle word" means "negative, condescending, hurtful" words.
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Condescending, hurtful" words. and when we come to the
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And when we come to the end of life,
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End of life, god is going to ask,
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God is going to ask, "what did you do with that
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"what did you do with that spouse i gave you?
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Spouse i gave you? did you help them grow to become
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Did you help them grow to become more confident?
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More confident? did you challenge them to reach
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Did you challenge them to reach to the next level?"
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To the next level?" if your spouse is not better
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If your spouse is not better than before you met them,
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Than before you met them, you need to step it up a notch.
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You need to step it up a notch. check up on what you're sayin'.
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Check up on what you're sayin'. are you speakin' the blessing?
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Are you speakin' the blessing? every time you tell your wife,
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Every time you tell your wife, "you're beautiful," she shines
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"you're beautiful," she shines a little bit brighter.
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A little bit brighter. every time you say,
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Every time you say, "i love you.
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"i love you. i'm so glad you're mine,"
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I'm so glad you're mine," not only is your marriage
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Not only is your marriage getting stronger,
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Getting stronger, but she's getting stronger.
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But she's getting stronger. when you tell your children,
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When you tell your children, "i'm proud of you.
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"i'm proud of you. you're gonna do great
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You're gonna do great things in life,"
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Things in life," those are not just kind words.
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Those are not just kind words. those are seeds that will move
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Those are seeds that will move them toward their purpose.
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Them toward their purpose. and if you had to give an
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And if you had to give an account now for your spouse,
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Account now for your spouse, your children,
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Your children, your friends,
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Your friends, are they better today than
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Are they better today than they were 5 years ago?
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They were 5 years ago? are they stronger, happier,
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Are they stronger, happier, more fulfilled,
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More fulfilled, more successful?
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More successful? if not, you need to
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If not, you need to make some changes.
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Make some changes. god gave them to you.
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God gave them to you. he's expecting you to give them
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He's expecting you to give them back better.
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Back better. after bein' married to victoria,
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After bein' married to victoria, goin' on 30 years now,
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I would hate to have to tell ya
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I would hate to have to tell ya that--ya'll should clap better
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That--ya'll should clap better than that.
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Than that. me, havin' to put up with her
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Me, havin' to put up with her for 30 years?
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But after bein' married to her,
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But after bein' married to her, goin' on 30 years,
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Goin' on 30 years, i would hate to have to tell ya
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I would hate to have to tell ya she's not as happy
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She's not as happy as before we met.
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As before we met. she's not as confident,
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She's not as confident, not as secure,
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Not as secure, not as fulfilled.
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Not as fulfilled. the problem is that wouldn't
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The problem is that wouldn't be her fault.
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Be her fault. it would be my fault.
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It would be my fault. as her husband,
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As her husband, as her covering,
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As her covering, it's my responsibility to keep
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It's my responsibility to keep her encouraged,
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Her encouraged, to keep her strong,
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To keep her strong, to keep her fulfilled,
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To keep her fulfilled, to keep her passionate
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To keep her passionate about life.
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The scripture says the wife is a
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The scripture says the wife is a reflection of the
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Reflection of the husband's glory.
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Husband's glory. if your wife is not shining,
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If your wife is not shining, if you're harsh,
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If you're harsh, condemning, sarcastic,
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Condemning, sarcastic, it's not only
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It's not only makin' her look bad,
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Makin' her look bad, it's makin' you look bad.
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It's makin' you look bad. and for some people,
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When they have
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When they have to give an account,
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To give an account, it'll be a sad day.
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It'll be a sad day. god will look at their spouse,
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God will look at their spouse, their children,
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Their children, their friends,
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Their friends, and all he'll see is wounds cut
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And all he'll see is wounds cut up from sarcasm,
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Up from sarcasm, cut up from disrespect,
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Cut up from disrespect, cut up from
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Cut up from condescending remarks.
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Condescending remarks. don't let that be you.
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Don't let that be you. use your words to bless people.
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Use your words to bless people. use your words to build them up
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Use your words to build them up and make them feel better
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And make them feel better about themselves.
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About themselves. in relationships,
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In relationships, we all have conflicts,
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We all have conflicts, things that we don't like.
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Things that we don't like. i'm not sayin' you should never
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I'm not sayin' you should never have a disagreement,
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Have a disagreement, no tension, no stress.
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No tension, no stress. i'm sayin',
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I'm sayin', in the heat of the moment,
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In the heat of the moment, step back and
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Step back and don't make hurtful comments.
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Don't make hurtful comments. that damages relationships.
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That damages relationships. "well, joel,
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If my spouse wouldn't
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If my spouse wouldn't push my buttons,
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Push my buttons, then i wouldn't say things
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Then i wouldn't say things i know i shouldn't."
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I know i shouldn't." "if my kids would just
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"if my kids would just straighten up,"
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Straighten up," "if these coworkers wouldn't
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"if these coworkers wouldn't get on my nerves,
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Get on my nerves, then i wouldn't
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Then i wouldn't be so disrespectful."
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Be so disrespectful." these are tests that
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We have to pass.
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We have to pass. the people in your life are
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The people in your life are never going to be perfect.
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Never going to be perfect. you have to learn to
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You have to learn to tame your tongue.
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Tame your tongue. that means you don't say
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That means you don't say everything you feel.
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Everything you feel. you may think it,
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You may think it, but you're disciplined enough
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But you're disciplined enough to zip it up.
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To zip it up. maybe your boss is rude to you,
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Maybe your boss is rude to you, and you're about to
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And you're about to let him have it,
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Let him have it, tell him what you think.
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Tell him what you think. here's the problem.
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Here's the problem. he's the boss,
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He's the boss, and you're not.
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And you're not. after you speak out
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After you speak out of your emotions,
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Of your emotions, after you give him a piece of
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After you give him a piece of your mind,
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Your mind, you'll be on a high for
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You'll be on a high for about 10 minutes,
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About 10 minutes, feeling good,
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Feeling good, giving high fives.
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Giving high fives. then you'll realize,
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Then you'll realize, "he still has his job,
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"he still has his job, and i don't."
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And i don't." it's much better to
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Tame your tongue.
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Tame your tongue. then you won't have
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Then you won't have to live in regrets, thinkin',
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To live in regrets, thinkin', "oh, man, why did i say that?
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"oh, man, why did i say that? what was i thinking?"
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What was i thinking?" love makes allowances for
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People's weaknesses.
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People's weaknesses. love overlooks a wrong
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Love overlooks a wrong that was done to it.
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That was done to it. you have to rise above these
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You have to rise above these petty things that are pullin'
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Petty things that are pullin' you apart.
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You apart. give people room to have a bad
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Give people room to have a bad day every once in a while.
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Day every once in a while. if they're rude,
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If they're rude, don't sink down to that level.
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Don't sink down to that level. be an eagle and rise above it.
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Be an eagle and rise above it. life is too short
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Life is too short to live at odds, contentious,
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To live at odds, contentious, arguin' about things
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Arguin' about things that don't matter.
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That don't matter. some people have to have the
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Some people have to have the last word in every argument.
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Last word in every argument. they're so hardheaded,
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They're so hardheaded, they'll argue for 27 days just
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They'll argue for 27 days just to have that final word.
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To have that final word. let it go.
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Let it go. you have a destiny to fulfill.
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You have a destiny to fulfill. you have an assignment
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You have an assignment to accomplish.
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To accomplish. those are distractions tryin' to
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Those are distractions tryin' to pull you off course.
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Pull you off course. don't waste your valuable time
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Don't waste your valuable time and energy on somethin' that's
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And energy on somethin' that's not movin' you towards
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Not movin' you towards your purpose.
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Your purpose. and if you argue long enough,
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And if you argue long enough, you'll end up sayin' somethin'
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You'll end up sayin' somethin' you'll regret later.
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You'll regret later. a 10-minute argument can set a
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A 10-minute argument can set a relationship back 10 years.
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Relationship back 10 years. ya have to learn to walk away.
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Ya have to learn to walk away. you're not going to accomplish
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You're not going to accomplish anything positive in a heated,
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Anything positive in a heated, disrespectful situation.
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Disrespectful situation. let them have the last word,
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Let them have the last word, and you keep your peace.
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And you keep your peace. you keep your joy.
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"well, joel, that made
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"well, joel, that made me look weak."
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Me look weak." it's just the opposite.
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The strongest person is the one
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The strongest person is the one that humbles themself
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That humbles themself and steps away.
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And steps away. the scripture says
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The scripture says you'll overcome evil with good.
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You'll overcome evil with good. you don't overcome disrespect
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You don't overcome disrespect with more disrespect,
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With more disrespect, insults with more insults,
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Insults with more insults, shouting with more shouting.
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Shouting with more shouting. the way ya do it is by takin'
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The way ya do it is by takin' the high road,
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The high road, by bein' the bigger person by
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By bein' the bigger person by stayin' respectful.
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Stayin' respectful. proverbs says,
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Proverbs says, "avoiding a fight is a mark
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"avoiding a fight is a mark of honor."
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Of honor." it doesn't say it's a mark of
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It doesn't say it's a mark of honor to win the fight,
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Honor to win the fight, to get the last word,
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To get the last word, to put the person down.
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To put the person down. the honorable thing to do
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The honorable thing to do is not start the fight
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Is not start the fight in the first place.
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In the first place. in the scripture,
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When david was a teenager,
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His father sent him out to take
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His father sent him out to take lunch to his brothers.
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Lunch to his brothers. they were in the army
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They were in the army on the frontlines
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On the frontlines where it was exciting.
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Where it was exciting. david was stuck in the
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David was stuck in the shepherds' fields,
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Takin' care
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Takin' care of his father's sheep.
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Of his father's sheep. and when david's oldest brother,
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And when david's oldest brother, eliab, saw david,
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Eliab, saw david, he said in front of everyone,
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He said in front of everyone, "david, what are you doin' here?
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"david, what are you doin' here? and with whom have you left
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And with whom have you left these few sheep?"
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Eliab was condescending,
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Eliab was condescending, sarcastic, trying to
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Sarcastic, trying to pick a fight with david.
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Pick a fight with david. some people will make it their
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Some people will make it their agenda in life to try to bait
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Agenda in life to try to bait you into conflict.
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You into conflict. they see the favor on your life.
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They see the favor on your life. they know you're going to do
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They know you're going to do great things.
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Great things. instead of bein' happy for ya,
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Instead of bein' happy for ya, knowin' that god has a destiny
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Knowin' that god has a destiny for them as well,
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For them as well, they'll be jealous and try to
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They'll be jealous and try to draw you into conflict.
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Draw you into conflict. don't take that bait.
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Don't take that bait. david felt like tellin' his
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Brother off.
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Brother off. his emotions said,
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His emotions said, "let him have it."
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"let him have it." i'm sure he had his speech
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I'm sure he had his speech all lined up: "eliab, you think
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All lined up: "eliab, you think you're hot stuff.
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You're hot stuff. you're nothin'.
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You're nothin'. god anointed me to be king.
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God anointed me to be king. you're just jealous.
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You're just jealous. you're gonna end up servin' me."
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You're gonna end up servin' me." he could've lit into him,
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He could've lit into him, but david understood
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But david understood this principle.
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This principle. he didn't get in there
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He didn't get in there and fight.
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And fight. he didn't curse his brother.
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He didn't curse his brother. he didn't try to have
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He didn't try to have the last word.
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The last word. he kept his mouth closed,
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He kept his mouth closed, turned, and walked away.
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Turned, and walked away. no wonder david took the throne.
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No wonder david took the throne. no wonder god entrusted him
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No wonder god entrusted him to do great things.
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To do great things. he had the character to back up
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He had the character to back up the anointing on his life.
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The anointing on his life. and god can give you
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And god can give you a great anointing.
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A great anointing. he can have a big future in
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He can have a big future in store for you,
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Store for you, but if you don't develop
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But if you don't develop your character,
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Your character, you won't step into all
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You won't step into all that he has.
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That he has. and taming the tongue is a major
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And taming the tongue is a major factor in reaching our destiny
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Factor in reaching our destiny because our mouth,
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Because our mouth, more than about
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More than about just anything else,
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Just anything else, gets us into trouble.
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Gets us into trouble. you can't use your
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You can't use your words as a sword,
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Words as a sword, cutting people up,
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Cutting people up, bein' disrespectful,
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Bein' disrespectful, sarcastic, and expect to reach
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Sarcastic, and expect to reach the fullness of your destiny.
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The fullness of your destiny. now, i wonder how much higher
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Now, i wonder how much higher we would go if we would do like
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We would go if we would do like david and not have to have
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David and not have to have the last word,
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The last word, not have to be right,
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Not have to be right, not cause some big scene.
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Not cause some big scene. instead, we just keep
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Instead, we just keep quietly honoring god,
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Quietly honoring god, takin' the high road,
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Takin' the high road, stayin' respectful.
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Stayin' respectful. you do that,
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You do that, and god will fight your battles.
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And god will fight your battles. that's putting yourself in
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That's putting yourself in position for promotion.
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Position for promotion. david faced a lot of opposition
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David faced a lot of opposition in his life.
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He had plenty of opportunities
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He had plenty of opportunities to get upset and lose his cool
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To get upset and lose his cool and tell people off,
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But he prayed an interesting
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But he prayed an interesting prayer in psalm 141.
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Prayer in psalm 141. he didn't ask god to
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He didn't ask god to defeat his enemies.
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Defeat his enemies. he didn't ask him to remove all
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He didn't ask him to remove all of his challenges.
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Of his challenges. he said, "god, take control
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He said, "god, take control of what i say.
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Of what i say. keep my lips sealed."
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Keep my lips sealed." he was saying, "god,
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He was saying, "god, i have a lot of people comin'
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I have a lot of people comin' against me,
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Against me, and i know i'm gon' be tempted
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And i know i'm gon' be tempted to be rude, to be sarcastic,
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To be rude, to be sarcastic, to be argumentative.
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To be argumentative. so, god,
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So, god, i'm askin' you in advance,
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Help me to keep it zipped up."
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Help me to keep it zipped up." what a great prayer.
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What a great prayer. every mornin' when we wake up,
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Every mornin' when we wake up, "god, help me to not
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"god, help me to not say things that are going to
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Say things that are going to get me into trouble.
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Get me into trouble. help me to not be disrespectful,
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Help me to not be disrespectful, argumentative, condescending.
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Argumentative, condescending. lord, help me to
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Lord, help me to keep my lips sealed."
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This is especially important
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This is especially important when we're in stressful times:
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When we're in stressful times: the traffic is bad,
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The traffic is bad, or you're dealing with a
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Or you're dealing with a difficult coworker.
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Difficult coworker. when you are in these
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When you are in these pressured situations,
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Pressured situations, when you know you're gonna be
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When you know you're gonna be tempted to say things
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Tempted to say things that you shouldn't,
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That you shouldn't, you need to decide ahead of time
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You need to decide ahead of time that you're goin' to watch your
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That you're goin' to watch your words carefully.
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All through the day,
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All through the day, like david,
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Like david, "god, help me
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"god, help me to keep my lips sealed."
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To keep my lips sealed." this is what jesus did.
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This is what jesus did. toward the end of his life,
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Toward the end of his life, he knew he was comin' into one
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He knew he was comin' into one of his most difficult seasons.
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Of his most difficult seasons. he knew he would be betrayed,
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He knew he would be betrayed, sold for 30 pieces of silver.
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He knew that he would be
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He knew that he would be arrested, mistreated, crucified.
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Arrested, mistreated, crucified. he said to his disciples
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In john 14,
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In john 14, "i'm not going to be talking
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"i'm not going to be talking with you much anymore
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With you much anymore because my hour has come."
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Because my hour has come." he was smart enough to realize
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He was smart enough to realize that he was going to be under
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That he was going to be under incredible pressure,
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Incredible pressure, so he let them know,
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So he let them know, "i've already made up my mind
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"i've already made up my mind i'm not going to be
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I'm not going to be talkin' a lot."
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He was sayin', in effect,
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He was sayin', in effect, "i've already decided
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"i've already decided i'm not going to complain
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I'm not going to complain when i'm betrayed.
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When i'm betrayed. i'm not gonna be rude to judas.
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I'm not gonna be rude to judas. i'm not gonna argue
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I'm not gonna argue with the soldiers.
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With the soldiers. i'm not gonna be condescending
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I'm not gonna be condescending to my accusers.
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To my accusers. i'm going to be careful
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I'm going to be careful with my words."
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With my words." and when you know you're going
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And when you know you're going to be under pressure,
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To be under pressure, a stressful situation at work,
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A stressful situation at work, before you leave the house,
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Before you leave the house, you need to decide,
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You need to decide, "i'm not going to say everything
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"i'm not going to say everything i feel today.
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I feel today. i'm going to be extra careful."
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I'm going to be extra careful." when you're going to be
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When you're going to be discussing a sensitive issue
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Discussing a sensitive issue with your spouse,
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With your spouse, decide ahead of time,
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Decide ahead of time, "i'm not gonna lose my cool.
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"i'm not gonna lose my cool. i'm not gonna open the door
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I'm not gonna open the door to strife, to arguing."
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To strife, to arguing." if jesus, the son of god,
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If jesus, the son of god, who has all power,
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Who has all power, said, "i'm not gonna be
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Said, "i'm not gonna be talkin' much in this
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Talkin' much in this pressured situation,"
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Pressured situation," how much more should we be
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How much more should we be careful what we say when we're
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Careful what we say when we're under pressure?
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And it's easy to make excuses:
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And it's easy to make excuses: "well, joel, i was rude to them
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"well, joel, i was rude to them 'cause they were rude to me."
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'cause they were rude to me." "well, i said some things
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"well, i said some things i know i shouldn't have,
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I know i shouldn't have, but it's 'cause i was under a
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But it's 'cause i was under a lot of stress."
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No, you have the grace to be
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No, you have the grace to be where you are and not be rude,
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Where you are and not be rude, not complain,
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Not complain, not say hurtful things.
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Not say hurtful things. you can either feed the flesh
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You can either feed the flesh and say what you feel,
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And say what you feel, or you can feed your spirit
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Or you can feed your spirit and keep your mouth closed.
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And keep your mouth closed. the problem is,
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The problem is, if you keep feeding the flesh
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If you keep feeding the flesh and sayin' everything you want,
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And sayin' everything you want, you won't grow up.
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You won't grow up. you will stay a baby.
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You will stay a baby. and the scripture says even
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And the scripture says even though you're an heir,
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Though you're an heir, even though god has an
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Even though god has an incredible inheritance that
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Incredible inheritance that belongs to you:
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Belongs to you: joy, peace, favor, promotion,
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Joy, peace, favor, promotion, abundance--as long as you
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Abundance--as long as you stay a baby,
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Stay a baby, that inheritance will
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That inheritance will not be released.
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Not be released. and taming the tongue is not
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And taming the tongue is not just about being disciplined.
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Just about being disciplined. it's about growin' up.
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It's about growin' up. it's about seein'
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It's about seein' the inheritance that has
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The inheritance that has your name on it,
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Your name on it, released in your life.
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And i know people,
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And i know people, they're 47 years old,
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They're 47 years old, but they're still a baby.
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But they're still a baby. they haven't learned to control
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They haven't learned to control their mouth.
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Their mouth. and sometimes it's not big
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And sometimes it's not big things that keep us
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Things that keep us from god's best.
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From god's best. it's small things.
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In the big picture,
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In the big picture, it's a small thing to not argue
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It's a small thing to not argue with a spouse.
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With a spouse. it's a small thing to not be
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It's a small thing to not be sarcastic, put people down.
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Sarcastic, put people down. god's not askin' us to give away
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God's not askin' us to give away our belongings,
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Our belongings, to move to a difficult place.
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To move to a difficult place. he's simply askin' us to
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He's simply askin' us to tame our tongues,
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Tame our tongues, to use our words to bless and
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To use our words to bless and not curse,
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Not curse, to use them to build people up
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To use them to build people up and not tear them down.
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And not tear them down. this is one of the reasons the
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This is one of the reasons the israelites didn't make it
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Israelites didn't make it into the promised land.
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Into the promised land. god brought them out of slavery,
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God brought them out of slavery, and they were headed to the land
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And they were headed to the land flowin' with milk and honey,
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Flowin' with milk and honey, but along the way
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But along the way when they came under pressure,
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When they came under pressure, instead of taming their tongue,
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Instead of taming their tongue, they started complaining,
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They started complaining, criticizing moses.
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Criticizing moses. "moses, why did you bring us
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"moses, why did you bring us out here in the desert to die?"
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It was an 11-day journey
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It was an 11-day journey to the promised land,
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To the promised land, but because of their
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But because of their negative words,
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Negative words, they went around the same
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They went around the same mountain for 40 years and never
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Mountain for 40 years and never did make it in.
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Did make it in. if you can't say somethin'
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If you can't say somethin' beneficial that's gonna edify,
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Beneficial that's gonna edify, build up,
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Build up, do yourself a favor
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Do yourself a favor and zip it up.
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And zip it up. it's not only affecting the
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It's not only affecting the other person that's keeping you
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Other person that's keeping you from your destiny.
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From your destiny. and god will put us in
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And god will put us in situations to test us.
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Situations to test us. if we're harsh,
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If we're harsh, critical, complaining,
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Critical, complaining, condescending, we have to
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Condescending, we have to take the test again.
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Take the test again. we have to go around
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We have to go around the same mountain.
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The same mountain. don't do like they did and go
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Don't do like they did and go around that mountain
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Around that mountain for the next 40 years.
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For the next 40 years. next time you're tempted to say
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Next time you're tempted to say somethin' that you shouldn't,
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Somethin' that you shouldn't, pause for a moment.
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Pause for a moment. under your breath,
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"god, help me to
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"god, help me to control my mouth.
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Control my mouth. help me to keep my lips sealed."
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Help me to keep my lips sealed." if you'll be slow to speak
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If you'll be slow to speak and ask god to help you,
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And ask god to help you, you'll start passin'
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You'll start passin' these tests.
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And as you grow up,
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And as you grow up, god will release more of the
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God will release more of the inheritance that belongs to you.
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Inheritance that belongs to you. you will see more of his favor.
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You will see more of his favor. but the point here is you can't
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But the point here is you can't be critical and make it into
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Be critical and make it into your promise land.
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You can't be disrespectful to
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You can't be disrespectful to moses, to the boss,
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Moses, to the boss, to your spouse,
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To your spouse, and become all you were
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And become all you were created to be.
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Created to be. that's why proverbs says,
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That's why proverbs says, "life and death are in the power
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"life and death are in the power of the tongue."
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Of the tongue." are ya speakin' life
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Are ya speakin' life over your future,
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Over your future, or are you speakin' death?
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One time,
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One time, moses' sister, miriam,
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Moses' sister, miriam, didn't like who moses
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Didn't like who moses was about marry.
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This young lady didn't meet
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This young lady didn't meet miriam's approval.
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Miriam's approval. she was an ethiopian girl,
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She was an ethiopian girl, came from a
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Came from a different nationality.
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Different nationality. miriam started talkin' bad about
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Miriam started talkin' bad about moses, stirrin' up trouble,
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Moses, stirrin' up trouble, sowin' discord.
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Sowin' discord. it's interesting.
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It's interesting. the scripture says
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The scripture says that god heard miriam
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That god heard miriam bein' disrespectful.
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Bein' disrespectful. he heard her hurtful,
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He heard her hurtful, critical words,
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Critical words, and all of the sudden,
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And all of the sudden, miriam was stricken
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Miriam was stricken with leprosy.
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With leprosy. her skin became
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Her skin became as white as snow.
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As white as snow. leprosy was contagious.
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Leprosy was contagious. she immediately had to
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She immediately had to leave the camp.
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And it will help us to have the
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And it will help us to have the right perspective when we
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Right perspective when we remember that god hears
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Remember that god hears what we say.
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What we say. he hears when we bless people
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He hears when we bless people and when we curse them.
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And when we curse them. he hears when we encourage,
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He hears when we encourage, compliment, push them forward,
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Compliment, push them forward, and when we're harsh
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And when we're harsh and disrespectful.
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And disrespectful. isaiah said we will
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Eat the fruit of our words.
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Eat the fruit of our words. this means,
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This means, if you sow disrespect,
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If you sow disrespect, you'll reap disrespect.
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You'll reap disrespect. if you sow discord,
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If you sow discord, sarcasm, judgment,
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Sarcasm, judgment, you'll reap those things.
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You'll reap those things. but when you sow
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But when you sow kindness, compliments,
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Kindness, compliments, encouragement, mercy,
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Encouragement, mercy, then people are going
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Then people are going to be good to you.
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Our son jonathan had a birthday
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Our son jonathan had a birthday last week,
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Last week, and he was away at college.
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And he was away at college. and i sent him a text early
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And i sent him a text early that morning,
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That morning, wishing him a happy birthday
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Wishing him a happy birthday and tellin' him how proud
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And tellin' him how proud i am of him.
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I am of him. i went to my office to start
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I went to my office to start preparing my message
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Preparing my message for this weekend,
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For this weekend, and i went over notes for a
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And i went over notes for a couple of hours but couldn't
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Couple of hours but couldn't seem to get any clear direction
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Seem to get any clear direction about what to share on.
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About what to share on. usually somethin' would
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Usually somethin' would jump out at me,
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But nothin' seemed inspiring.
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But nothin' seemed inspiring. it felt kind of dull.
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It felt kind of dull. and then when i came
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And then when i came across these notes of
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Across these notes of taming the tongue,
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Taming the tongue, i knew that's what i was
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I knew that's what i was supposed to share.
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Supposed to share. about 10 minutes later,
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About 10 minutes later, jonathan sent me a text back,
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Jonathan sent me a text back, and said, "thanks, dad.
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And said, "thanks, dad. you're the best dad
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You're the best dad in all the world," and said
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In all the world," and said a few more kind things about me
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A few more kind things about me and ended by sayin',
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"i wanna be just like you."
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"i wanna be just like you." and it's amazing how those few
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And it's amazing how those few sentences breathed new life
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Sentences breathed new life into my spirit.
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Into my spirit. i felt a lifting,
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I felt a lifting, a new strength,
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A new strength, a new joy.
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A new joy. i went from bein' stuck,
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I went from bein' stuck, "this is hard.
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"this is hard. nothin' is comin'," to bein'
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Nothin' is comin'," to bein' excited, passionate.
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Excited, passionate. ideas started flowin',
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Ideas started flowin', creativity, all sparked
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Creativity, all sparked from a few kind words.
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From a few kind words. james said,
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"the tongue is like a fire."
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"the tongue is like a fire." one spark can set a
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One spark can set a whole forest on fire.
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Whole forest on fire. one word can start
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One word can start a major problem.
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One word can start
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One word can start a major blessing.
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A major blessing. i'm askin' you to start
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I'm askin' you to start some good fires.
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Ignite people's dreams.
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Ignite people's dreams. ignite their hopes.
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Ignite their hopes. ignite their passions.
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Ignite their passions. your words have the ability to
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Your words have the ability to put people on their feet,
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Put people on their feet, to breathe new life
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To breathe new life into their spirit.
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Into their spirit. be a healer.
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Be a healer. be an encourager.
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Be an encourager. be a lifter.
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Be a lifter. and when you're tempted to say
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And when you're tempted to say things--and we all are--to be
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Things--and we all are--to be condescending, sarcastic,
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Condescending, sarcastic, argumentative, be disciplined
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Argumentative, be disciplined enough to zip it up.
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Enough to zip it up. put that sword down.
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Put that sword down. don't go through life cutting
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Don't go through life cutting people up with hurtful words.
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People up with hurtful words. go through life building people
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Go through life building people up with encouraging words.
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Up with encouraging words. if you'll do this,
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If you'll do this, i believe and declare, because
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You're taming your tongue,
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You're taming your tongue, you will enjoy your life more.
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You will enjoy your life more. you will have
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You will have better relationships,
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Better relationships, and you will receive
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And you will receive your inheritance and
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Your inheritance and become everything god's created
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Become everything god's created you to be.
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You to be. in jesus' name,
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In jesus' name, if you receive it,
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If you receive it, can you say, "amen" today!
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>> joel: and we never like to
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>> joel: and we never like to close our broadcast without
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Giving you an opportunity to
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Giving you an opportunity to make jesus the lord
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Make jesus the lord of your life.
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Of your life. would you pray with me?
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Just say,
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Just say, "lord jesus,
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"lord jesus, i repent of my sins.
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I repent of my sins. come into my heart.
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Come into my heart. i make ya my lord and savior."
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I make ya my lord and savior." friends, if you prayed that
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Friends, if you prayed that simple prayer,
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Simple prayer, we believe you got born again.
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We believe you got born again. get in a good
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Get in a good bible-based church.
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Bible-based church. keep god in first place.
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Keep god in first place. he's gonna take ya places
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He's gonna take ya places that you've never dreamed.
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It's easy to get stuck
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It's easy to get stuck in life
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In life because of fear
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Because of fear and lack of confidence,
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And lack of confidence, or we've been
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Or we've been through disappointments.
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Through disappointments. but i'm excited
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But i'm excited about victoria's new book,
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What's holding you back and step into new levels
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My heart for this book
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My heart for this book is that you will discover
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Is that you will discover the courage,
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The courage, the gifts, and the faith
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The gifts, and the faith that god has put in you
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That god has put in you so that you can see
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So that you can see your dreams come to pass.
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Your dreams come to pass. it's not too late.
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It's not too late. the obstacles are not too big.
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The obstacles are not too big. the grace of god equips
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The grace of god equips you to go beyond
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You to go beyond your comfort zone
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Your comfort zone and overcome
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What looks impossible. you are stronger than you think.
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You are stronger than you think. you are not alone.
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It enables you to take the next step
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To take the next step so you can become
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So you can become all you were created to be.
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All you were created to be. victoria and i are so grateful
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Victoria and i are so grateful to spend this time with you.
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Joel Osteen - Taming The Tongue

August 21, 2025 | S25 E233 | 30:0

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