Joyce Meyer - Approval Addiction (Part 1)

May 11, 2026 | 27:29

Bible teacher Joyce Meyer shares timeless scriptural principles to show us how we can embrace the best God has for us each and every day of our lives.

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Joyce Meyer: Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer - Approval Addiction (Part 1) | May 11, 2026

>> joyce: the reason why
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>> joyce: the reason why we hate rejection or disapproval
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>> joyce: the reason why we hate rejection or disapproval so much is because god has
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We hate rejection or disapproval so much is because god has created us for acceptance.
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So much is because god has created us for acceptance. you're never gonna
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Created us for acceptance. you're never gonna like feeling rejection.
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You're never gonna like feeling rejection. it's painful.
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Like feeling rejection. it's painful. it's actually painful
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It's painful. it's actually painful in your soul.
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>> joyce: i'm joyce meyer,
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>> joyce: i'm joyce meyer, and i believe that god can
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>> joyce: i'm joyce meyer, and i believe that god can heal everywhere you hurt.
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>> joyce: our goal is to send
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>> joyce: our goal is to send you out of here
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>> joyce: our goal is to send you out of here this weekend free.
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You out of here this weekend free. free, free, free.
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This weekend free. free, free, free. free from what people think,
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Free, free, free. free from what people think, free from what they say,
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Free from what people think, free from what they say, free to follow your heart,
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Free from what they say, free to follow your heart, free to follow the leadership
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Free to follow your heart, free to follow the leadership of the holy spirit and not
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Free to follow the leadership of the holy spirit and not to always be worrying
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Of the holy spirit and not to always be worrying and be concerned about what
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To always be worrying and be concerned about what other people think of you.
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And be concerned about what other people think of you. amen?
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Other people think of you. amen? >> [audience applauding]
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Amen? >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: both of my daughters
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: both of my daughters are here this weekend.
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>> joyce: both of my daughters are here this weekend. and the younger one, sandra,
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Are here this weekend. and the younger one, sandra, she had some pretty intense
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And the younger one, sandra, she had some pretty intense issues with insecurity
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She had some pretty intense issues with insecurity and always overly concerned
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Issues with insecurity and always overly concerned about how she looked.
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And always overly concerned about how she looked. and god has really worked
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About how she looked. and god has really worked in her life and set her free.
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And god has really worked in her life and set her free. and she said something
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In her life and set her free. and she said something interesting tonight.
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And she said something interesting tonight. she said, "you know,
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I didn't really like the way
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I didn't really like the way my hair turned out today,
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I didn't really like the way my hair turned out today, but i said, 'oh, well,
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My hair turned out today, but i said, 'oh, well, people aren't looking
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But i said, 'oh, well, people aren't looking at me anyway.'"
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People aren't looking at me anyway.'" >> [audience laughing]
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At me anyway.'" >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and that was
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and that was one of the things that
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>> joyce: and that was one of the things that helped her was just to,
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One of the things that helped her was just to, you know--
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Helped her was just to, you know-- if you're always
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You know-- if you're always concerned about--
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If you're always concerned about-- overly concerned
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Concerned about-- overly concerned about how you look,
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Overly concerned about how you look, people probably
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About how you look, people probably aren't looking at you.
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People probably aren't looking at you. >> [audience laughing]
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Aren't looking at you. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: so, you know,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: so, you know, if you have a hair out of place,
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>> joyce: so, you know, if you have a hair out of place, it's not gonna be the end
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If you have a hair out of place, it's not gonna be the end of the world.
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It's not gonna be the end of the world. you'll make it.
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Of the world. you'll make it. amen?
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You'll make it. amen? i'll tell you two stories
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Amen? i'll tell you two stories about rejection.
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I'll tell you two stories about rejection. there was a woman who used
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About rejection. there was a woman who used to come to my meetings when
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There was a woman who used to come to my meetings when i had weekly meetings
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To come to my meetings when i had weekly meetings in my hometown, st. louis,
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I had weekly meetings in my hometown, st. louis, and this has been many,
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In my hometown, st. louis, and this has been many, many years ago.
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And this has been many, many years ago. and she tells someone that
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Many years ago. and she tells someone that her feelings were hurt
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And she tells someone that her feelings were hurt because i never spoke to her.
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Her feelings were hurt because i never spoke to her. and i thought, "well,
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Because i never spoke to her. and i thought, "well, i don't remember seeing her."
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And i thought, "well, i don't remember seeing her." and so,
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I don't remember seeing her." and so, i don't wanna hurt people.
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And so, i don't wanna hurt people. and so, i said to the lord,
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I don't wanna hurt people. and so, i said to the lord, i said, "why didn't i see her?
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And so, i said to the lord, i said, "why didn't i see her? i don't wanna hurt
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I said, "why didn't i see her? i don't wanna hurt her feelings."
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I don't wanna hurt her feelings." and he said,
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Her feelings." and he said, "i hid her from you because
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And he said, "i hid her from you because she was trying to get from you
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"i hid her from you because she was trying to get from you what i want her to get from me."
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She was trying to get from you what i want her to get from me." >> [audience applauding]
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What i want her to get from me." >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: and see, sometimes--
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: and see, sometimes-- and i'm sure there's people here
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>> joyce: and see, sometimes-- and i'm sure there's people here having a problem with this.
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And i'm sure there's people here having a problem with this. i had a problem with it.
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Having a problem with this. i had a problem with it. i tried to get approval from
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I had a problem with it. i tried to get approval from many different kinds of people.
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I tried to get approval from many different kinds of people. and god would put
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Many different kinds of people. and god would put his foot in it every time
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And god would put his foot in it every time because he didn't want
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His foot in it every time because he didn't want me to get it from them.
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Because he didn't want me to get it from them. he wanted me to get it from him.
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Me to get it from them. he wanted me to get it from him. and sometimes,
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He wanted me to get it from him. and sometimes, when people reject you,
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And sometimes, when people reject you, as nona jones says,
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When people reject you, as nona jones says, it can be a gift.
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As nona jones says, it can be a gift. you know why?
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It can be a gift. you know why? because, i mean, there's people
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You know why? because, i mean, there's people that if they wouldn't
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Because, i mean, there's people that if they wouldn't have rejected me,
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That if they wouldn't have rejected me, i would have taken
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Have rejected me, i would have taken them to the next level
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I would have taken them to the next level of my ministry with me.
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Them to the next level of my ministry with me. and when they showed
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Of my ministry with me. and when they showed their true colors,
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And when they showed their true colors, it would have caused a lot more
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Their true colors, it would have caused a lot more problem on this level than
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It would have caused a lot more problem on this level than it did on this level down here.
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Problem on this level than it did on this level down here. sure, we all want
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It did on this level down here. sure, we all want everybody to like us,
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Sure, we all want everybody to like us, but statistics tell us that
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Everybody to like us, but statistics tell us that 10% of people won't like
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But statistics tell us that 10% of people won't like you no matter what you do.
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10% of people won't like you no matter what you do. so, you just might
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You no matter what you do. so, you just might as well be you.
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So, you just might as well be you. everybody else
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As well be you. everybody else is already taken,
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Everybody else is already taken, so you might as well be you.
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Is already taken, so you might as well be you. amen?
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So you might as well be you. amen? >> [audience laughing]
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Amen? >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: how many of you have
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: how many of you have ever tried to be somebody else
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>> joyce: how many of you have ever tried to be somebody else or be like somebody else?
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Ever tried to be somebody else or be like somebody else? you know, pray like they prayed,
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Or be like somebody else? you know, pray like they prayed, read like they read,
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You know, pray like they prayed, read like they read, read the bible through
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Read like they read, read the bible through every year because
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Read the bible through every year because that's what they do.
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Every year because that's what they do. man, i've tried and tried
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That's what they do. man, i've tried and tried and tried, and now i'm free.
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Man, i've tried and tried and tried, and now i'm free. i'm just me
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And tried, and now i'm free. i'm just me and i'm happy with it.
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I'm just me and i'm happy with it. and i'm trying to set a few
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And i'm happy with it. and i'm trying to set a few other people free too.
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And i'm trying to set a few other people free too. so, i thought that was
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Other people free too. so, i thought that was interesting that god
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So, i thought that was interesting that god actually hid her from
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Interesting that god actually hid her from me because he didn't want
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Actually hid her from me because he didn't want her to get from me what
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Me because he didn't want her to get from me what he wanted to give her.
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Her to get from me what he wanted to give her. he wanted to give her
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He wanted to give her. he wanted to give her real confidence that
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He wanted to give her real confidence that no person can give you.
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Real confidence that no person can give you. and then, a different situation.
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No person can give you. and then, a different situation. i was out on the golf course
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And then, a different situation. i was out on the golf course with dave one time, long,
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I was out on the golf course with dave one time, long, lots and lots of years ago.
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With dave one time, long, lots and lots of years ago. by the way,
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Lots and lots of years ago. by the way, i don't know if i told you--
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By the way, i don't know if i told you-- this group this, but, you know,
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I don't know if i told you-- this group this, but, you know, dave quit playing
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This group this, but, you know, dave quit playing golf this year...
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Dave quit playing golf this year... >> audience: oooh.
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Golf this year... >> audience: oooh. >> joyce: for two days.
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>> audience: oooh. >> joyce: for two days. >> [audience laughing]
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>> joyce: he doesn't play quite
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>> joyce: he doesn't play quite as good as he used to and,
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>> joyce: he doesn't play quite as good as he used to and, you know,
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As good as he used to and, you know, gets a little stiff and this
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You know, gets a little stiff and this and that and something else.
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Gets a little stiff and this and that and something else. and the slow was real--
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And that and something else. and the slow was real-- the play was real slow that day.
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And the slow was real-- the play was real slow that day. and he was--
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The play was real slow that day. and he was-- it was cart path only golf.
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And he was-- it was cart path only golf. and that means you can't
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It was cart path only golf. and that means you can't take your golf cart
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And that means you can't take your golf cart out into the green.
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Take your golf cart out into the green. so, he has to do a lot
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Out into the green. so, he has to do a lot more walking.
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So, he has to do a lot more walking. and also he didn't--
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More walking. and also he didn't-- just wasn't playing very good.
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And also he didn't-- just wasn't playing very good. so, he comes home and he leans
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Just wasn't playing very good. so, he comes home and he leans on the doorway that walked
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So, he comes home and he leans on the doorway that walked in from the garage and he said,
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On the doorway that walked in from the garage and he said, "well, i've just
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In from the garage and he said, "well, i've just played my last 18."
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That's 18 holes of golf,
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That's 18 holes of golf, you know.
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That's 18 holes of golf, you know. and i believed him because
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You know. and i believed him because i had never ever heard
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And i believed him because i had never ever heard anything remotely like
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I had never ever heard anything remotely like that come out of his mouth.
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Anything remotely like that come out of his mouth. and i said, "why?"
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That come out of his mouth. and i said, "why?" he said, "i just don't play
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And i said, "why?" he said, "i just don't play any good anymore.
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He said, "i just don't play any good anymore. and i'm just the type
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Any good anymore. and i'm just the type if i can't play good,
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And i'm just the type if i can't play good, i'd just soon not play.
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If i can't play good, i'd just soon not play. i'll just go to the range
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I'd just soon not play. i'll just go to the range and hit balls.
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I'll just go to the range and hit balls. i enjoy that."
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And hit balls. i enjoy that." and, you know?
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I enjoy that." and, you know? i went, "well."
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And, you know? i went, "well." two days went by
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I went, "well." two days went by and he said, "well, you know..."
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Two days went by and he said, "well, you know..." >> [audience laughing]
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And he said, "well, you know..." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i might play just
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i might play just every once in a while."
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>> joyce: i might play just every once in a while." i said, "oh."
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Every once in a while." i said, "oh." two days later,
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I said, "oh." two days later, he's planning a week golf trip
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Two days later, he's planning a week golf trip with four of his buddies.
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He's planning a week golf trip with four of his buddies. >> [audience laughing]
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With four of his buddies. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce to dave: don't act
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce to dave: don't act like i'm not telling the truth.
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>> joyce to dave: don't act like i'm not telling the truth. >> [audience laughing]
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Like i'm not telling the truth. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce to dave: you know,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce to dave: you know, that i'm telling truth.
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>> joyce to dave: you know, that i'm telling truth. no, i'm extremely telling
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That i'm telling truth. no, i'm extremely telling the truth is right.
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No, i'm extremely telling the truth is right. >> [audience laughing]
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The truth is right. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: so, i just wanted
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: so, i just wanted to let you know before
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>> joyce: so, i just wanted to let you know before i tell this golf story that
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To let you know before i tell this golf story that he quit for two days.
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I tell this golf story that he quit for two days. we were playing golf--
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He quit for two days. we were playing golf-- he was playing golf one day,
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We were playing golf-- he was playing golf one day, and i was riding
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He was playing golf one day, and i was riding on the cart with him,
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And i was riding on the cart with him, and he wasn't playing good.
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On the cart with him, and he wasn't playing good. >> joyce to dave: i don't even
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And he wasn't playing good. >> joyce to dave: i don't even know if you remember this.
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>> joyce to dave: i don't even know if you remember this. >> joyce: and back then--
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Know if you remember this. >> joyce: and back then-- he behaves a little better now,
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>> joyce: and back then-- he behaves a little better now, but back then,
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He behaves a little better now, but back then, when he wasn't playing good,
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But back then, when he wasn't playing good, he didn't behave just real well.
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When he wasn't playing good, he didn't behave just real well. and so, i put my arm on his back
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He didn't behave just real well. and so, i put my arm on his back and i patted him on the back,
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And so, i put my arm on his back and i patted him on the back, you know, and he took
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And i patted him on the back, you know, and he took my hand and moved it.
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You know, and he took my hand and moved it. he said, "don't do that."
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My hand and moved it. he said, "don't do that." >> [audience laughing]
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He said, "don't do that." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i felt so devastated
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i felt so devastated and so rejected.
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>> joyce: i felt so devastated and so rejected. and i thought,
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And so rejected. and i thought, "how mean can you be?
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And i thought, "how mean can you be? i am just trying to love you
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"how mean can you be? i am just trying to love you and show you some compassion.
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I am just trying to love you and show you some compassion. and you are just--
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And show you some compassion. and you are just-- you don't need anything.
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And you are just-- you don't need anything. so, you don't need--"
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You don't need anything. so, you don't need--" [mumbling]
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So, you don't need--" [mumbling] you know,
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[mumbling] you know, you know how we go on.
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You know, you know how we go on. so, he never apologized.
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You know how we go on. so, he never apologized. of course,
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So, he never apologized. of course, men usually don't, but...
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Of course, men usually don't, but... >> [audience laughing]
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Men usually don't, but... >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he never apologized.
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he never apologized. [chuckling]
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>> joyce: he never apologized. [chuckling] they don't think
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[chuckling] they don't think they did anything.
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They don't think they did anything. that's why they don't apologize.
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They did anything. that's why they don't apologize. and so, i'm praying
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That's why they don't apologize. and so, i'm praying about this situation.
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And so, i'm praying about this situation. it's like, "god,
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About this situation. it's like, "god, why did he do that?
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It's like, "god, why did he do that? i was just trying to help him."
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Why did he do that? i was just trying to help him." he said, "you were trying
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I was just trying to help him." he said, "you were trying to give him what you would
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He said, "you were trying to give him what you would need in that situation,
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To give him what you would need in that situation, and that's not what he needed."
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Need in that situation, and that's not what he needed." see, for a man,
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And that's not what he needed." see, for a man, he doesn't wanna be,
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See, for a man, he doesn't wanna be, "sweetie, little baby,
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He doesn't wanna be, "sweetie, little baby, you're gonna be fine."
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"sweetie, little baby, you're gonna be fine." >> [audience laughing]
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>> joyce: it would have been
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>> joyce: it would have been better if i would have said,
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>> joyce: it would have been better if i would have said, "hey, you're a great golfer
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Better if i would have said, "hey, you're a great golfer and you'll come back from this."
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"hey, you're a great golfer and you'll come back from this." or maybe it would have
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And you'll come back from this." or maybe it would have been better if i would
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Or maybe it would have been better if i would have said nothing.
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Been better if i would have said nothing. i know a lot of times
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Have said nothing. i know a lot of times it would have been better
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I know a lot of times it would have been better if i would have said nothing.
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It would have been better if i would have said nothing. >> [audience laughing]
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If i would have said nothing. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: how many of you know,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: how many of you know, a lot of times it'd be better
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>> joyce: how many of you know, a lot of times it'd be better if you said nothing.
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A lot of times it'd be better if you said nothing. >> [audience agreeing]
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If you said nothing. >> [audience agreeing] >> joyce: and so,
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>> [audience agreeing] >> joyce: and so, in that particular instance,
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I was feeling rejected.
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I was feeling rejected. he didn't--
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I was feeling rejected. he didn't-- he wasn't trying to reject me.
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He didn't-- he wasn't trying to reject me. but, you know,
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He wasn't trying to reject me. but, you know, we often do try to give
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But, you know, we often do try to give other people what we need.
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We often do try to give other people what we need. and even when it comes
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Other people what we need. and even when it comes to giving gifts,
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And even when it comes to giving gifts, it's amazing how many times you
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To giving gifts, it's amazing how many times you give people something you like,
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It's amazing how many times you give people something you like, but they're like,
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Give people something you like, but they're like, "why did you give me that?"
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But they're like, "why did you give me that?" >> [audience laughing]
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"why did you give me that?" >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: how many of you
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: how many of you get gifts that are just
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>> joyce: how many of you get gifts that are just not you at all?
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Get gifts that are just not you at all? okay, see?
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Not you at all? okay, see? a person--
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Okay, see? a person-- you can really learn to just
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A person-- you can really learn to just take a little extra measure
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You can really learn to just take a little extra measure of love and find out what
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Take a little extra measure of love and find out what the person likes, listen to 'em,
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Of love and find out what the person likes, listen to 'em, or ask somebody that
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The person likes, listen to 'em, or ask somebody that knows them so they
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Or ask somebody that knows them so they can actually enjoy it.
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Knows them so they can actually enjoy it. so, before we start
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Can actually enjoy it. so, before we start giving people things
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So, before we start giving people things like a pat on the back even,
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Giving people things like a pat on the back even, make sure it's what they need.
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Like a pat on the back even, make sure it's what they need. some personalities really
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Make sure it's what they need. some personalities really would not like that at all,
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Some personalities really would not like that at all, and others would.
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Would not like that at all, and others would. i wanna talk to you tonight
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And others would. i wanna talk to you tonight about approval addiction.
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I wanna talk to you tonight about approval addiction. people who have been rejected,
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About approval addiction. people who have been rejected, people that are insecure,
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People who have been rejected, people that are insecure, but especially people
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People that are insecure, but especially people that are still living
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But especially people that are still living and walking around
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That are still living and walking around with the pain of rejection,
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And walking around with the pain of rejection, they're always seeking approval.
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With the pain of rejection, they're always seeking approval. they want--
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They're always seeking approval. they want-- if they get a new hairstyle,
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They want-- if they get a new hairstyle, they want everybody
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If they get a new hairstyle, they want everybody that looks at them to smile
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They want everybody that looks at them to smile in approval of that hairstyle.
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That looks at them to smile in approval of that hairstyle. you get an outfit,
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In approval of that hairstyle. you get an outfit, you want everybody to like it.
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You get an outfit, you want everybody to like it. not--
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You want everybody to like it. not-- [sarcastic tone]
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Not-- [sarcastic tone] "where'd you get that?"
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[sarcastic tone] "where'd you get that?" >> [audience laughing]
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"where'd you get that?" >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i got so many
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i got so many compliments tonight
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>> joyce: i got so many compliments tonight on my red suit.
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Compliments tonight on my red suit. i feel so good.
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On my red suit. i feel so good. everybody approved
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I feel so good. everybody approved of my red suit.
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Everybody approved of my red suit. >> [audience applauding]
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Of my red suit. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: the reason why we hate
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: the reason why we hate rejection or disapproval
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>> joyce: the reason why we hate rejection or disapproval so much is because god has
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Rejection or disapproval so much is because god has created us for acceptance.
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So much is because god has created us for acceptance. you're never gonna
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Created us for acceptance. you're never gonna like feeling rejection.
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You're never gonna like feeling rejection. it's painful.
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Like feeling rejection. it's painful. it's actually painful
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It's painful. it's actually painful in your soul.
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It's actually painful in your soul. and if you get
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In your soul. and if you get a major rejection,
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And if you get a major rejection, like the breakup of a marriage,
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A major rejection, like the breakup of a marriage, a spouse cheating on you,
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Like the breakup of a marriage, a spouse cheating on you, parents abusing you,
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A spouse cheating on you, parents abusing you, there are so many people
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Parents abusing you, there are so many people in the world that are
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There are so many people in the world that are hurting from past things
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In the world that are hurting from past things that have happened to them,
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Hurting from past things that have happened to them, and you can find a place
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That have happened to them, and you can find a place in christ where you can
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And you can find a place in christ where you can let go of all of those things
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In christ where you can let go of all of those things and be a brand-new
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Let go of all of those things and be a brand-new creature and start--
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And be a brand-new creature and start-- you can start all over,
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Creature and start-- you can start all over, brand new every
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You can start all over, brand new every day if you want to.
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Brand new every day if you want to. if things didn't go so good
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Day if you want to. if things didn't go so good this morning, you can start
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If things didn't go so good this morning, you can start right now having a good day.
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This morning, you can start right now having a good day. you don't have to drag
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Right now having a good day. you don't have to drag around all of yesterday's
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You don't have to drag around all of yesterday's and last year's
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Around all of yesterday's and last year's and 10 years ago's
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And last year's and 10 years ago's pains with you.
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And 10 years ago's pains with you. but let me tell you,
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Pains with you. but let me tell you, rejection,
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But let me tell you, rejection, real severe rejection,
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Rejection, real severe rejection, does something to you
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Real severe rejection, does something to you and you can't--
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Does something to you and you can't-- we try to hide it.
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And you can't-- we try to hide it. we try to pretend
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We try to hide it. we try to pretend like it doesn't exist.
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We try to pretend like it doesn't exist. we try to pretend like we're
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Like it doesn't exist. we try to pretend like we're tough and it doesn't bother us.
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We try to pretend like we're tough and it doesn't bother us. but the best thing
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Tough and it doesn't bother us. but the best thing to do is get with god
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But the best thing to do is get with god and get it taken care of,
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To do is get with god and get it taken care of, because he will
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And get it taken care of, because he will never reject you.
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Because he will never reject you. and if you're still hurting
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Never reject you. and if you're still hurting from the wounds of rejection,
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And if you're still hurting from the wounds of rejection, we want you to find
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From the wounds of rejection, we want you to find your place of healing,
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We want you to find your place of healing, at least to begin,
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Your place of healing, at least to begin, here this weekend.
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At least to begin, here this weekend. so, i actually was
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Here this weekend. so, i actually was addicted to approval.
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So, i actually was addicted to approval. there's a lot of things
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Addicted to approval. there's a lot of things you can get addicted to.
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There's a lot of things you can get addicted to. i was addicted to reasoning.
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You can get addicted to. i was addicted to reasoning. i could not settle down
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I was addicted to reasoning. i could not settle down unless i thought i had
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I could not settle down unless i thought i had everything figured out.
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Unless i thought i had everything figured out. just couldn't--
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Everything figured out. just couldn't-- "i thought i had everything
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Just couldn't-- "i thought i had everything figured out, you know,
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"i thought i had everything figured out, you know, and sure enough god'll
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Figured out, you know, and sure enough god'll do something totally
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And sure enough god'll do something totally different than what i thought.
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I read this statement lately
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I read this statement lately and i really liked it:
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I read this statement lately and i really liked it: that faith is reason
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And i really liked it: that faith is reason at rest before god.
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That faith is reason at rest before god. isn't that lovely?
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At rest before god. isn't that lovely? true faith is just--
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Isn't that lovely? true faith is just-- "i need all these answers.
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True faith is just-- "i need all these answers. i don't have 'em,
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"i need all these answers. i don't have 'em, but i'm just gonna rest
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I don't have 'em, but i'm just gonna rest and let you show
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But i'm just gonna rest and let you show me what i need to know."
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And let you show me what i need to know." trying to figure things
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Me what i need to know." trying to figure things out just wears you out
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Trying to figure things out just wears you out and steals your peace.
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Out just wears you out and steals your peace. keeps you up at night.
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And steals your peace. keeps you up at night. and approval addiction
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Keeps you up at night. and approval addiction is the same way.
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And approval addiction is the same way. all you can do really is be you.
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Is the same way. all you can do really is be you. now, that doesn't mean that
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All you can do really is be you. now, that doesn't mean that we don't need to change or--
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Now, that doesn't mean that we don't need to change or-- you know,
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We don't need to change or-- you know, i love what
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You know, i love what the apostle paul said--
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I love what the apostle paul said-- "to the jew, i'm a jew.
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The apostle paul said-- "to the jew, i'm a jew. to the greek, i'm a greek.
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"to the jew, i'm a jew. to the greek, i'm a greek. whatever it takes to win them."
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To the greek, i'm a greek. whatever it takes to win them." and so, paul was saying
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Whatever it takes to win them." and so, paul was saying that he was adaptable
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And so, paul was saying that he was adaptable and adjustable to other people.
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That he was adaptable and adjustable to other people. and i think that we're showing
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Love when we bother to know
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Love when we bother to know somebody well enough to know,
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Love when we bother to know somebody well enough to know, "well, they wouldn't like that,
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Somebody well enough to know, "well, they wouldn't like that, or they would like this."
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"well, they wouldn't like that, or they would like this." but that takes time to get
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Or they would like this." but that takes time to get to know a person that way.
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But that takes time to get to know a person that way. and so, there's always
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To know a person that way. and so, there's always gonna be people that
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And so, there's always gonna be people that are not gonna like you,
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Gonna be people that are not gonna like you, but god is always
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Are not gonna like you, but god is always going to love you.
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But god is always going to love you. god always not only loves you,
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Going to love you. god always not only loves you, but he likes you.
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God always not only loves you, but he likes you. amen?
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But he likes you. amen? >> [audience applauding]
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Amen? >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: how many
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: how many of you like yourself?
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>> joyce: how many of you like yourself? >> [soft applauding]
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>> joyce: how many of you
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>> joyce: how many of you don't like yourself?
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>> joyce: how many of you don't like yourself? don't start out with
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Don't like yourself? don't start out with the weekend lying.
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Don't start out with the weekend lying. >> [audience laughing]
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>> joyce: one person
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>> joyce: one person put her hand up,
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>> joyce: one person put her hand up, said she didn't like herself.
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Put her hand up, said she didn't like herself. >> [audience laughing]
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Said she didn't like herself. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i know it's hard
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i know it's hard to admit, isn't it?
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>> joyce: i know it's hard to admit, isn't it? but, you know,
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To admit, isn't it? but, you know, that was my biggest problem.
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I didn't like myself because
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I didn't like myself because of the way i'd been treated.
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I didn't like myself because of the way i'd been treated. i had let somebody else make
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Of the way i'd been treated. i had let somebody else make me feel like i was a bad person.
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I had let somebody else make me feel like i was a bad person. so, i didn't like myself.
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Me feel like i was a bad person. so, i didn't like myself. and when you don't
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So, i didn't like myself. and when you don't like yourself,
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And when you don't like yourself, nothing is gonna
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Like yourself, nothing is gonna go good after that.
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Nothing is gonna go good after that. i would go to church and hear
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Go good after that. i would go to church and hear these sermons about love.
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I would go to church and hear these sermons about love. and i'd try to go home
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These sermons about love. and i'd try to go home and love people and just end
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And i'd try to go home and love people and just end up acting like an idiot.
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And love people and just end up acting like an idiot. and i'm like, "god,
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Up acting like an idiot. and i'm like, "god, why can't i do this?"
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And i'm like, "god, why can't i do this?" he said, "well, you don't
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Why can't i do this?" he said, "well, you don't love yourself, so you don't
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He said, "well, you don't love yourself, so you don't have anything to give away."
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See, you can't love other people
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See, you can't love other people if you don't love yourself.
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See, you can't love other people if you don't love yourself. you cannot give away what
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If you don't love yourself. you cannot give away what you don't have to give away.
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You cannot give away what you don't have to give away. same way with mercy.
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You don't have to give away. same way with mercy. if you won't receive
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Same way with mercy. if you won't receive mercy yourself,
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If you won't receive mercy yourself, then you don't have
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Mercy yourself, then you don't have any mercy to give away.
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Then you don't have any mercy to give away. and so, i was literally
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Any mercy to give away. and so, i was literally addicted to approval.
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And so, i was literally addicted to approval. and what i mean by that is,
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Addicted to approval. and what i mean by that is, if somebody didn't
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And what i mean by that is, if somebody didn't approve of me,
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If somebody didn't approve of me, i guess i'll call it the dance
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Approve of me, i guess i'll call it the dance i did with the devil.
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I guess i'll call it the dance i did with the devil. i don't know what
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I did with the devil. i don't know what else to call it.
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I don't know what else to call it. it started in my childhood
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Else to call it. it started in my childhood when my father would
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It started in my childhood when my father would disapprove of something.
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When my father would disapprove of something. and, you know,
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Disapprove of something. and, you know, he sexually abused
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And, you know, he sexually abused me for about 15 years.
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He sexually abused me for about 15 years. and so, i was very
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Me for about 15 years. and so, i was very petrified of him,
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And so, i was very petrified of him, so afraid of him.
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Petrified of him, so afraid of him. and if he showed any
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So afraid of him. and if he showed any kind of disapproval,
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And if he showed any kind of disapproval, i just went into this--
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Kind of disapproval, i just went into this-- i call it a dance.
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I just went into this-- i call it a dance. i wasn't dancing,
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I call it a dance. i wasn't dancing, but it was like i would
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I wasn't dancing, but it was like i would do everything in my power
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But it was like i would do everything in my power to try to make
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Do everything in my power to try to make him be okay again.
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To try to make him be okay again. i took all the responsibility
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Him be okay again. i took all the responsibility of his bad behavior.
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I took all the responsibility of his bad behavior. anybody know what
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Of his bad behavior. anybody know what i'm talking about?
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Anybody know what i'm talking about? you take the responsibility
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I'm talking about? you take the responsibility for their bad behavior,
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You take the responsibility for their bad behavior, so then you forget
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For their bad behavior, so then you forget all about your life.
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So then you forget all about your life. and you spend your life
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All about your life. and you spend your life trying to make them happy.
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And you spend your life trying to make them happy. and you know what?
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Trying to make them happy. and you know what? i was a person that had many,
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And you know what? i was a person that had many, many problems in my soul
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I was a person that had many, many problems in my soul from the way i had grown up.
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Many problems in my soul from the way i had grown up. and dave and i only had five
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From the way i had grown up. and dave and i only had five dates and got married.
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And dave and i only had five dates and got married. and it's a good thing.
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Dates and got married. and it's a good thing. 'cause if he would have been
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And it's a good thing. 'cause if he would have been around me too much longer,
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'cause if he would have been around me too much longer, he might have figured
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Around me too much longer, he might have figured out what he was getting...
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He might have figured out what he was getting... >> [audience laughing]
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Out what he was getting... >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and been afraid
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and been afraid to take it on.
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>> joyce: and been afraid to take it on. he actually prayed that
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To take it on. he actually prayed that god would give him a wife.
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He actually prayed that god would give him a wife. and he said, "make it somebody
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God would give him a wife. and he said, "make it somebody that needs help."
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And he said, "make it somebody that needs help." >> [audience laughing]
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That needs help." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: now, some of you that
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: now, some of you that are wanting to get married
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>> joyce: now, some of you that are wanting to get married and you haven't,
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Are wanting to get married and you haven't, maybe you need
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And you haven't, maybe you need to pray that prayer.
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Maybe you need to pray that prayer. >> [audience laughing]
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To pray that prayer. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: instead of praying
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: instead of praying for mr. tall, dark,
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>> joyce: instead of praying for mr. tall, dark, and handsome,
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For mr. tall, dark, and handsome, that's a spiritual giant,
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And handsome, that's a spiritual giant, you know,
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That's a spiritual giant, you know, "give me somebody i can help."
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You know, "give me somebody i can help." well, he got his
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"give me somebody i can help." well, he got his prayer answered,
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Well, he got his prayer answered, i can tell you that.
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Prayer answered, i can tell you that. and after about three weeks,
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I can tell you that. and after about three weeks, he looked at me and said,
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And after about three weeks, he looked at me and said, "what's wrong with you?"
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He looked at me and said, "what's wrong with you?" >> [audience laughing]
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"what's wrong with you?" >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: well,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: well, i didn't know anything
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>> joyce: well, i didn't know anything was wrong with me.
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I didn't know anything was wrong with me. i thought there was something
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Was wrong with me. i thought there was something wrong with everybody else.
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I thought there was something wrong with everybody else. see, that's the thing.
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Wrong with everybody else. see, that's the thing. people that are
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See, that's the thing. people that are wounded in their soul,
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People that are wounded in their soul, you hide behind excuses.
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Wounded in their soul, you hide behind excuses. you cover it up with
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You hide behind excuses. you cover it up with phony personality.
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You cover it up with phony personality. i acted so tough,
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Phony personality. i acted so tough, and i didn't need anybody,
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I acted so tough, and i didn't need anybody, and i was bleeding
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And i didn't need anybody, and i was bleeding to death inside.
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And i was bleeding to death inside. and so, i was unhappy a lot.
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To death inside. and so, i was unhappy a lot. and dave was always happy.
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And so, i was unhappy a lot. and dave was always happy. he's always happy.
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And dave was always happy. he's always happy. every morning he's happy.
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He's always happy. every morning he's happy. "good morning!
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Every morning he's happy. "good morning! how are you?"
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"good morning! how are you?" i'm like...
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How are you?" i'm like... ask me in 10 minutes.
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I'm like... ask me in 10 minutes. >> [audience laughing]
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Ask me in 10 minutes. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: well, maybe
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: well, maybe after coffee; ask me.
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>> joyce: well, maybe after coffee; ask me. i'm just not one of those jump
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After coffee; ask me. i'm just not one of those jump out of bed chirpy little people.
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I'm just not one of those jump out of bed chirpy little people. i have to have some caffeine
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Out of bed chirpy little people. i have to have some caffeine and god before i do people,
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I have to have some caffeine and god before i do people, amen?
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And god before i do people, amen? >> [audience applauding]
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>> joyce: how many
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>> joyce: how many of you need caffeine
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>> joyce: how many of you need caffeine and god before you do people?
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Of you need caffeine and god before you do people? all right.
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And god before you do people? all right. >> [audience cheering]
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All right. >> [audience cheering] >> joyce: and i remember
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>> [audience cheering] >> joyce: and i remember when dave came to me,
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>> joyce: and i remember when dave came to me, and some of you may
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When dave came to me, and some of you may have to do this, too.
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And some of you may have to do this, too. he came to me and he said,
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Have to do this, too. he came to me and he said, "okay, i've done everything
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He came to me and he said, "okay, i've done everything that i possibly know
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"okay, i've done everything that i possibly know to do to make you happy,
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That i possibly know to do to make you happy, and you just aren't
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To do to make you happy, and you just aren't gonna be happy.
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And you just aren't gonna be happy. so, guess what?
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Gonna be happy. so, guess what? i'm not gonna try to make
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So, guess what? i'm not gonna try to make you happy anymore."
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I'm not gonna try to make you happy anymore." i was so mad.
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You happy anymore." i was so mad. >> [audience laughing]
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I was so mad. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but i'll tell
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but i'll tell you the truth.
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That's one of the best
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That's one of the best things he did for me.
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That's one of the best things he did for me. see, you're not really
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Things he did for me. see, you're not really helping a person
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See, you're not really helping a person if they're misbehaving,
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Helping a person if they're misbehaving, and you're doing this
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If they're misbehaving, and you're doing this dance all the time,
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And you're doing this dance all the time, trying to keep them happy while
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Dance all the time, trying to keep them happy while you're miserable, yourself.
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Trying to keep them happy while you're miserable, yourself. now, some of you are
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You're miserable, yourself. now, some of you are shaking your head.
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Now, some of you are shaking your head. you know exactly
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Shaking your head. you know exactly what i'm talking about.
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You know exactly what i'm talking about. some of you that have
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What i'm talking about. some of you that have never experienced this,
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Some of you that have never experienced this, you're kind of like,
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Never experienced this, you're kind of like, "well, this is over my head."
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You're kind of like, "well, this is over my head." but, you know, we'll get around
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"well, this is over my head." but, you know, we'll get around to something for you eventually.
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But, you know, we'll get around to something for you eventually. >> [audience laughing]
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To something for you eventually. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and he wouldn't.
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: and he wouldn't. he wouldn't let
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>> joyce: and he wouldn't. he wouldn't let me make him unhappy.
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He wouldn't let me make him unhappy. he would just be happy.
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Me make him unhappy. he would just be happy. and it would just--
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He would just be happy. and it would just-- >> joyce to dave: what are
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And it would just-- >> joyce to dave: what are you doing?
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>> joyce to dave: what are you doing? >> dave to joyce: i'm getting
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You doing? >> dave to joyce: i'm getting this thing; gonna trip over it.
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>> dave to joyce: i'm getting this thing; gonna trip over it. >> joyce to dave: oh,
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This thing; gonna trip over it. >> joyce to dave: oh, you're so kind.
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>> joyce to dave: oh, you're so kind. you're always saving my life.
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You're so kind. you're always saving my life. i don't know, it's somebody's,
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You're always saving my life. i don't know, it's somebody's, something that they left here.
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I don't know, it's somebody's, something that they left here. >> [joyce clapping for dave]
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Something that they left here. >> [joyce clapping for dave] >> [audience applauding]
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>> [joyce clapping for dave] >> [audience applauding] >> joyce to dave: we approve
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce to dave: we approve of you.
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>> joyce to dave: we approve of you. >> [audience laughing]
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Of you. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: you know what?
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: you know what? if anybody was rejecting dave,
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>> joyce: you know what? if anybody was rejecting dave, he wouldn't even know it.
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If anybody was rejecting dave, he wouldn't even know it. >> [audience laughing]
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He wouldn't even know it. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he wouldn't.
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he wouldn't. he wouldn't know it.
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>> joyce: he wouldn't. he wouldn't know it. and if he did, he wouldn't care.
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He wouldn't know it. and if he did, he wouldn't care. i've said sometime,
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And if he did, he wouldn't care. i've said sometime, you know, "well, they--
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I've said sometime, you know, "well, they-- you know, that person really
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You know, "well, they-- you know, that person really didn't treat you too good."
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You know, that person really didn't treat you too good." and he's like,
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Didn't treat you too good." and he's like, "well, that's their problem,
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And he's like, "well, that's their problem, not mine.
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"well, that's their problem, not mine. that's between them and god.
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Not mine. that's between them and god. i'm just gonna be me."
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That's between them and god. i'm just gonna be me." see, that's what god
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I'm just gonna be me." see, that's what god is wanting us to get to.
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See, that's what god is wanting us to get to. "you do what you're gonna
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Is wanting us to get to. "you do what you're gonna do because i'm not gonna
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"you do what you're gonna do because i'm not gonna change you anyway."
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Do because i'm not gonna change you anyway." how many of you know you don't--
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Change you anyway." how many of you know you don't-- you can't change people.
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How many of you know you don't-- you can't change people. the more you try,
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You can't change people. the more you try, the more frustrated you get.
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The more you try, the more frustrated you get. oh, you might harp enough
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The more frustrated you get. oh, you might harp enough that they'll change their
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Oh, you might harp enough that they'll change their behavior for a little while,
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That they'll change their behavior for a little while, but unless the heart
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Behavior for a little while, but unless the heart has changed,
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But unless the heart has changed, it's like whack a mole;
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Has changed, it's like whack a mole; it comes out somewhere else.
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It's like whack a mole; it comes out somewhere else. you know, you beat one
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It comes out somewhere else. you know, you beat one thing down, it pops up here.
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You know, you beat one thing down, it pops up here. beat that down,
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Thing down, it pops up here. beat that down, it pops up somewhere else.
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Beat that down, it pops up somewhere else. >> [audience laughing]
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It pops up somewhere else. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: amen?
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: amen? and you just end up exhausted
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>> joyce: amen? and you just end up exhausted all the time and frustrated.
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And you just end up exhausted all the time and frustrated. because, "i'm trying so hard.
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All the time and frustrated. because, "i'm trying so hard. god, i'm trying hard.
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Because, "i'm trying so hard. god, i'm trying hard. i'm doing everything i know
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God, i'm trying hard. i'm doing everything i know to do and nothing's working."
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I'm doing everything i know to do and nothing's working." but dave's just--was him,
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To do and nothing's working." but dave's just--was him, happy him.
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But dave's just--was him, happy him. and finally i thought,
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Happy him. and finally i thought, "well, this is stupid.
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And finally i thought, "well, this is stupid. i'm unhappy all the time."
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"well, this is stupid. i'm unhappy all the time." and i don't know why,
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I'm unhappy all the time." and i don't know why, but unhappy people like to make
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And i don't know why, but unhappy people like to make other people unhappy.
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But unhappy people like to make other people unhappy. they do.
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Other people unhappy. they do. they don't--
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They do. they don't-- my dad was like that.
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They don't-- my dad was like that. he was so unhappy.
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My dad was like that. he was so unhappy. and i remember when
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He was so unhappy. and i remember when i was a child getting
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And i remember when i was a child getting in trouble for laughing.
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I was a child getting in trouble for laughing. "what the blankety-blank-blank
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In trouble for laughing. "what the blankety-blank-blank are you laughing about?"
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"what the blankety-blank-blank are you laughing about?" he was just miserable,
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Are you laughing about?" he was just miserable, and he wanted to make
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He was just miserable, and he wanted to make everybody else miserable.
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And he wanted to make everybody else miserable. and he managed pretty good.
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Everybody else miserable. and he managed pretty good. he destroyed my brother's life
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And he managed pretty good. he destroyed my brother's life and my mother's life.
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He destroyed my brother's life and my mother's life. but ha ha ha, i beat him.
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And my mother's life. but ha ha ha, i beat him. >> [audience cheering]
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But ha ha ha, i beat him. >> [audience cheering] >> joyce: and before it was
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>> [audience cheering] >> joyce: and before it was all said and done,
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>> joyce: and before it was all said and done, i baptized him.
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All said and done, i baptized him. >> [audience applauding]
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I baptized him. >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: took 86 years,
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: took 86 years, but we finally got him
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>> joyce: took 86 years, but we finally got him straightened out.
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But we finally got him straightened out. but oh gosh, i remember--
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Straightened out. but oh gosh, i remember-- when your happiness
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But oh gosh, i remember-- when your happiness is codependent on somebody
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When your happiness is codependent on somebody else's happiness,
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Is codependent on somebody else's happiness, you gotta deal with it.
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Else's happiness, you gotta deal with it. and i'll tell you, if you've let
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You gotta deal with it. and i'll tell you, if you've let somebody walk all over you
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And i'll tell you, if you've let somebody walk all over you for a long period of time,
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Somebody walk all over you for a long period of time, it is not gonna be fun
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For a long period of time, it is not gonna be fun when you decide
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It is not gonna be fun when you decide to change your mind.
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When you decide to change your mind. they are gonna throw fits.
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To change your mind. they are gonna throw fits. believe me, i did.
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They are gonna throw fits. believe me, i did. but nothing moved dave;
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Believe me, i did. but nothing moved dave; he was like the rock.
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But nothing moved dave; he was like the rock. he was just happy
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He was like the rock. he was just happy and playing with the kids.
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He was just happy and playing with the kids. and i'd be somewhere
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And playing with the kids. and i'd be somewhere in the corner feeling
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And i'd be somewhere in the corner feeling sorry for myself,
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In the corner feeling sorry for myself, having a pity party.
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Sorry for myself, having a pity party. man, i could throw some fits.
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Having a pity party. man, i could throw some fits. any of you good--
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Man, i could throw some fits. any of you good-- i don't wanna say "are good"
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Any of you good-- i don't wanna say "are good" at throwing fits.
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I don't wanna say "are good" at throwing fits. you're not still good at it.
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At throwing fits. you're not still good at it. if you are,
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You're not still good at it. if you are, we'll have to spank you.
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If you are, we'll have to spank you. >> [audience laughing]
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>> joyce: ephesians 1:6 says
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>> joyce: ephesians 1:6 says that "we are made acceptable
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>> joyce: ephesians 1:6 says that "we are made acceptable in the beloved."
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That "we are made acceptable in the beloved." so, as far as whether
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In the beloved." so, as far as whether god accepts you or not,
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The first thing you have to get
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The first thing you have to get straight is god accepts you.
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The first thing you have to get straight is god accepts you. with all your messes,
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Straight is god accepts you. with all your messes, he accepts you.
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With all your messes, he accepts you. when he has a party,
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He accepts you. when he has a party, it's a come as you are party.
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When he has a party, it's a come as you are party. you do not have to get fixed
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It's a come as you are party. you do not have to get fixed up before you come to jesus.
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You do not have to get fixed up before you come to jesus. you come to him so you
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Up before you come to jesus. you come to him so you can get fixed up.
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You come to him so you can get fixed up. amen?
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Can get fixed up. amen? >> [audience applauding]
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Amen? >> [audience applauding] >> joyce: god accepts you.
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>> [audience applauding] >> joyce: god accepts you. and if you think that everybody
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>> joyce: god accepts you. and if you think that everybody in this room knows that,
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And if you think that everybody in this room knows that, you're sadly mistaken.
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In this room knows that, you're sadly mistaken. i don't think there's very
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You're sadly mistaken. i don't think there's very many christians that really,
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I don't think there's very many christians that really, really, truly know
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Many christians that really, really, truly know who they are in christ.
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Really, truly know who they are in christ. if we did, we'd act a lot
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Who they are in christ. if we did, we'd act a lot different than what we do.
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If we did, we'd act a lot different than what we do. like prayer, for example.
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Different than what we do. like prayer, for example. there's a lot of different
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Like prayer, for example. there's a lot of different definitions of prayer: to beg,
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There's a lot of different definitions of prayer: to beg, to call for, to ask.
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Definitions of prayer: to beg, to call for, to ask. but one definition of prayer
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To call for, to ask. but one definition of prayer says to make a demand
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But one definition of prayer says to make a demand on what's already yours.
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Says to make a demand on what's already yours. wow.
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On what's already yours. wow. but you can't--
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Wow. but you can't-- you gotta come
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But you can't-- you gotta come boldly to the throne.
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You gotta come boldly to the throne. you know, if i go into
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Boldly to the throne. you know, if i go into the bank to cash a check,
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You know, if i go into the bank to cash a check, i don't beg for my money.
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The bank to cash a check, i don't beg for my money. i just put the check down.
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I don't beg for my money. i just put the check down. i expect them to cash
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I just put the check down. i expect them to cash it because it's mine.
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I expect them to cash it because it's mine. and you need to know
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It because it's mine. and you need to know what's yours in christ
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And you need to know what's yours in christ and begin to act like who
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What's yours in christ and begin to act like who god has made you to be.
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And begin to act like who god has made you to be. amen?
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God has made you to be. amen? in christ.
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Amen? in christ. in christ.
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In christ. in christ. everybody say, "in christ."
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In christ. everybody say, "in christ." >> audience: in christ.
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Everybody say, "in christ." >> audience: in christ. >> joyce: see, we're nothing
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>> audience: in christ. >> joyce: see, we're nothing in ourselves, but in christ.
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>> joyce: see, we're nothing in ourselves, but in christ. oh, my gosh.
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In ourselves, but in christ. oh, my gosh. whoo.
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Oh, my gosh. whoo. it is unbelievable
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Whoo. it is unbelievable what we are in christ.
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>> announcer: it starts
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>> announcer: it starts with an email.
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With an email. frustrating.
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Frustrating. fingers ready to respond.
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Fingers ready to respond. >> joyce: we gotta be careful
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>> joyce: we gotta be careful about our words.
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About our words. >> [keyboard clicking]
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>> announcer: sometimes a few
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>> announcer: sometimes a few words can do real damage.
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Words can do real damage. >> joyce: we can choose
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>> joyce: we can choose how we respond to it.
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How we respond to it. >> announcer: face to face,
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>> announcer: face to face, patience is hardest.
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Patience is hardest. >> joyce: we have
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>> joyce: we have to be especially careful
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To be especially careful how we talk when
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How we talk when we're under pressure.
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We're under pressure. >> announcer: that's what
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>> announcer: that's what wisdom looks like in real life.
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>> joyce: you've
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>> joyce: you've heard, "sticks
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Heard, "sticks and stones may
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And stones may break my bones,
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Break my bones, but words will
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But words will never hurt me."
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Never hurt me." well, the truth is,
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Well, the truth is, words do hurt.
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Words do hurt. they can wound,
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They can wound, discourage,
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Discourage, and work against
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And work against our goals.
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Our goals. that's why i wrote
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That's why i wrote "words of wisdom" to help
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"words of wisdom" to help us pause and consider
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Us pause and consider the impact of our words.
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The impact of our words. let "words of wisdom"
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Let "words of wisdom" guide you every day.
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>> male 1: joyce
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>> male 1: joyce has said
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Has said numerous times
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Numerous times that her mouth
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That her mouth would get her
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Would get her in trouble.
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In trouble. my mouth has
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My mouth has gotten me
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Gotten me in trouble.
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In trouble. just wind me up
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Just wind me up and i'll talk.
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And i'll talk. >> female 1: there are
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>> female 1: there are some things that maybe
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Some things that maybe you shouldn't say.
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You shouldn't say. >> female 2: i did
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>> female 2: i did not realize
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Not realize how much of a problem
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How much of a problem i had with my mouth,
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I had with my mouth, how much negative
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How much negative things i was saying.
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Things i was saying. >> female 1: so, it taught me
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>> female 1: so, it taught me to keep some things to myself
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To keep some things to myself and just pray about it.
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And just pray about it. >> female 2: it was
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>> female 2: it was a hard step
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A hard step to do, but really
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To do, but really turned my life around.
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Turned my life around. it's so much
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It's so much better now.
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Joyce Meyer - Approval Addiction (Part 1)

May 11, 2026 | 27:29

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