Joyce Meyer - Healing the Wounds of Rejection (Part 1)

September 8, 2025 | 29:29

Rejection is something nearly everyone has dealt with at some point in life. Today, Joyce and Ginger discuss this very important subject as well as ways to heal and move forward with peace and purpose.

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Joyce Meyer: Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer - Healing the Wounds of Rejection (Part 1) | September 8, 2025
  • >> joyce: "they hurt me
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  • >> joyce: "they hurt me or rejected me because i'm bad,
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  • >> joyce: "they hurt me or rejected me because i'm bad, because i wasn't good enough."
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  • Or rejected me because i'm bad, because i wasn't good enough." and that's just not true.
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  • Because i wasn't good enough." and that's just not true. and when you study god's word,
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  • And that's just not true. and when you study god's word, you find that out.
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  • >> joyce: i do what i do
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  • >> joyce: i do what i do because i've seen god's power
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  • >> joyce: i do what i do because i've seen god's power transform my own life,
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  • Because i've seen god's power transform my own life, and he will do it for you.
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  • Transform my own life, and he will do it for you. the key to everything
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  • And he will do it for you. the key to everything is found in god's word.
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  • The key to everything is found in god's word. i'm joyce meyer,
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  • Is found in god's word. i'm joyce meyer, and i believe that god can
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  • I'm joyce meyer, and i believe that god can heal you everywhere you hurt.
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  • >> joyce: welcome to
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  • >> joyce: welcome to "enjoying everyday life."
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  • >> joyce: welcome to "enjoying everyday life." we have a special
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  • "enjoying everyday life." we have a special program for you today.
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  • We have a special program for you today. ginger is joining me to discuss
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  • Program for you today. ginger is joining me to discuss an issue we all deal with,
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  • Ginger is joining me to discuss an issue we all deal with, and that's rejection.
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  • >> ginger: absolutely.
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  • >> ginger: absolutely. there's no one that gets
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  • >> ginger: absolutely. there's no one that gets out of this life without
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  • There's no one that gets out of this life without experiencing some rejection.
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  • Out of this life without experiencing some rejection. >> joyce: from some
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  • Experiencing some rejection. >> joyce: from some from somewhere.
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  • >> joyce: from some from somewhere. >> ginger: exactly, and from
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  • From somewhere. >> ginger: exactly, and from so many different places.
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  • >> ginger: exactly, and from so many different places. but we all receive it maybe
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  • So many different places. but we all receive it maybe a little bit differently.
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  • But we all receive it maybe a little bit differently. but at some point,
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  • A little bit differently. but at some point, it's gonna hurt.
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  • But at some point, it's gonna hurt. >> joyce: part of it depends
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  • It's gonna hurt. >> joyce: part of it depends on your personality,
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  • >> joyce: part of it depends on your personality, how you take it.
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  • On your personality, how you take it. >> ginger: yes.
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  • How you take it. >> ginger: yes. >> joyce: and i think part
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  • >> ginger: yes. >> joyce: and i think part of it depends on who it comes
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  • >> joyce: and i think part of it depends on who it comes from, and how much you care
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  • Of it depends on who it comes from, and how much you care about them, or how much you
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  • From, and how much you care about them, or how much you want them to care about you.
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  • About them, or how much you want them to care about you. >> ginger: yeah.
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  • Want them to care about you. >> ginger: yeah. and what i learned through
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  • >> ginger: yeah. and what i learned through rejection that i faced is that
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  • And what i learned through rejection that i faced is that it impacted my life in ways
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  • Rejection that i faced is that it impacted my life in ways that i didn't see coming,
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  • It impacted my life in ways that i didn't see coming, in ways that i didn't realize
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  • That i didn't see coming, in ways that i didn't realize that i was responding
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  • In ways that i didn't realize that i was responding in certain ways because
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  • That i was responding in certain ways because of the rejection that i faced.
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  • In certain ways because of the rejection that i faced. i learned so much through it,
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  • Of the rejection that i faced. i learned so much through it, and that's why for you
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  • I learned so much through it, and that's why for you and i to team up and talk
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  • And that's why for you and i to team up and talk about this topic was
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  • And i to team up and talk about this topic was so special to me to be able
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  • About this topic was so special to me to be able to share what we've
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  • So special to me to be able to share what we've learned with others.
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  • To share what we've learned with others. >> joyce: well, you know,
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  • Learned with others. >> joyce: well, you know, of course, i had the rejection
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  • In my childhood from
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  • In my childhood from my parents and sexual
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  • In my childhood from my parents and sexual abuse and the abandonment.
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  • My parents and sexual abuse and the abandonment. but it kinda follows you
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  • Abuse and the abandonment. but it kinda follows you through life until you
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  • But it kinda follows you through life until you learn to not let it bother you.
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  • Through life until you learn to not let it bother you. and i think then our enemy,
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  • Learn to not let it bother you. and i think then our enemy, the devil, finds somebody
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  • And i think then our enemy, the devil, finds somebody else to pick on.
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  • The devil, finds somebody else to pick on. or you get secure enough
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  • Else to pick on. or you get secure enough in who you are in christ,
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  • Or you get secure enough in who you are in christ, that you don't even notice
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  • In who you are in christ, that you don't even notice it if people are rejecting you.
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  • That you don't even notice it if people are rejecting you. >> ginger: right.
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  • It if people are rejecting you. >> ginger: right. and there are ways to help
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  • >> ginger: right. and there are ways to help facilitate the healing that
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  • And there are ways to help facilitate the healing that god wants to bring us,
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  • Facilitate the healing that god wants to bring us, and to learn how to handle
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  • God wants to bring us, and to learn how to handle rejection better.
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  • And to learn how to handle rejection better. >> joyce: that's exactly right.
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  • Rejection better. >> joyce: that's exactly right. ginger and i are gonna look
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  • >> joyce: that's exactly right. ginger and i are gonna look at rejection from a few
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  • Ginger and i are gonna look at rejection from a few different perspectives.
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  • At rejection from a few different perspectives. let's begin by looking
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  • Different perspectives. let's begin by looking at the roots of rejection.
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  • >> joyce: when we have bad
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  • >> joyce: when we have bad behavior that we can't control,
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  • >> joyce: when we have bad behavior that we can't control, when we have emotions
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  • Behavior that we can't control, when we have emotions that are out of control,
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  • When we have emotions that are out of control, there's always a root somewhere.
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  • That are out of control, there's always a root somewhere. we hear people say a lot,
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  • There's always a root somewhere. we hear people say a lot, "well, we just need to get
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  • We hear people say a lot, "well, we just need to get to the bottom of this."
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  • "well, we just need to get to the bottom of this." have you ever had a problem
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  • To the bottom of this." have you ever had a problem with somebody repeatedly,
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  • And over and over,
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  • And over and over, and you've said that,
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  • And over and over, and you've said that, "we just need to get
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  • And you've said that, "we just need to get to the bottom of this"?
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  • "we just need to get to the bottom of this"? well, what you're really saying
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  • To the bottom of this"? well, what you're really saying is "there's more to this than
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  • Well, what you're really saying is "there's more to this than what's appearing on the surface,
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  • Is "there's more to this than what's appearing on the surface, and we need to get down to what
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  • What's appearing on the surface, and we need to get down to what the real problem is here."
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  • And we need to get down to what the real problem is here." i'll give you one example.
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  • The real problem is here." i'll give you one example. for years and years
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  • I'll give you one example. for years and years in my marriage,
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  • For years and years in my marriage, i just felt like that dave
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  • In my marriage, i just felt like that dave and i could not talk about
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  • I just felt like that dave and i could not talk about anything and not argue.
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  • And i could not talk about anything and not argue. and so, i would always say,
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  • Anything and not argue. and so, i would always say, which just infuriated him,
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  • And so, i would always say, which just infuriated him, "we just can't talk
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  • Which just infuriated him, "we just can't talk about anything."
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  • "we just can't talk about anything." [chuckling]
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  • About anything." [chuckling] and finally, he said one day,
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  • [chuckling] and finally, he said one day, "you know, joyce, we don't talk.
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  • And finally, he said one day, "you know, joyce, we don't talk. you talk and you
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  • "you know, joyce, we don't talk. you talk and you want me to listen."
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  • You talk and you want me to listen." >> [audience laughing]
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  • Want me to listen." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: well, the bible
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  • >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: well, the bible says that god will guide
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  • >> joyce: well, the bible says that god will guide us into all truth.
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  • Says that god will guide us into all truth. and that can sound so lovely.
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  • Us into all truth. and that can sound so lovely. but let me tell you something.
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  • And that can sound so lovely. but let me tell you something. it's not gonna help you to know
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  • But let me tell you something. it's not gonna help you to know the truth about somebody else.
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  • It's not gonna help you to know the truth about somebody else. he wants to reveal truth
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  • The truth about somebody else. he wants to reveal truth to you about you.
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  • He wants to reveal truth to you about you. we would get into
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  • To you about you. we would get into these big arguments,
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  • We would get into these big arguments, and i would get so confused.
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  • These big arguments, and i would get so confused. i mean, i would think,
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  • And i would get so confused. i mean, i would think, "i don't even know what
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  • I mean, i would think, "i don't even know what we're talking about anymore.
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  • "i don't even know what we're talking about anymore. it was a simple thing.
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  • We're talking about anymore. it was a simple thing. how did we get from
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  • It was a simple thing. how did we get from there to here?"
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  • How did we get from there to here?" and then i would yell,
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  • There to here?" and then i would yell, "i can't talk to you.
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  • And then i would yell, "i can't talk to you. we can't talk about anything."
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  • "i can't talk to you. we can't talk about anything." does anybody recognize that?
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  • We can't talk about anything." does anybody recognize that? okay, i'm about to help you.
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  • Does anybody recognize that? okay, i'm about to help you. >> [audience laughing]
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  • Okay, i'm about to help you. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: the essence of what
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  • >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: the essence of what the problem was, was i had
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  • >> joyce: the essence of what the problem was, was i had a root of rejection in my soul
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  • The problem was, was i had a root of rejection in my soul from the way i was raised.
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  • A root of rejection in my soul from the way i was raised. and until that root was dealt
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  • From the way i was raised. and until that root was dealt with, the fruit in my life
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  • And until that root was dealt with, the fruit in my life was never gonna change.
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  • With, the fruit in my life was never gonna change. so, when you are
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  • Was never gonna change. so, when you are a rejection-based person
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  • So, when you are a rejection-based person or you're afraid of rejection,
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  • A rejection-based person or you're afraid of rejection, if everybody doesn't agree
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  • Or you're afraid of rejection, if everybody doesn't agree with you, you feel rejected.
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  • If everybody doesn't agree with you, you feel rejected. and so, if dave and i were
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  • With you, you feel rejected. and so, if dave and i were trying to have a conversation,
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  • And so, if dave and i were trying to have a conversation, if he didn't agree with me,
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  • Trying to have a conversation, if he didn't agree with me, then i didn't know how
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  • If he didn't agree with me, then i didn't know how to separate who i was,
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  • Then i didn't know how to separate who i was, from my opinion.
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  • And so, i had to learn that
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  • And so, i had to learn that just because he disagreed
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  • And so, i had to learn that just because he disagreed with my opinion, didn't mean
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  • Just because he disagreed with my opinion, didn't mean he was rejecting me.
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  • With my opinion, didn't mean he was rejecting me. he could reject my opinion
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  • He was rejecting me. he could reject my opinion and still love me.
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  • He could reject my opinion and still love me. and that was such
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  • And still love me. and that was such a major thing to me.
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  • And that was such a major thing to me. so maybe you need
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  • A major thing to me. so maybe you need to think about that.
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  • So maybe you need to think about that. if you can't seem to talk
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  • To think about that. if you can't seem to talk to people or a certain person
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  • If you can't seem to talk to people or a certain person without blowing up in anger
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  • To people or a certain person without blowing up in anger all the time, then ask god
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  • Without blowing up in anger all the time, then ask god to help you get to the root
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  • All the time, then ask god to help you get to the root of it, and maybe ask god,
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  • To help you get to the root of it, and maybe ask god, "do i have--?"
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  • Of it, and maybe ask god, "do i have--?" you know,
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  • "do i have--?" you know, "how do i feel when somebody
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  • You know, "how do i feel when somebody disagrees with me?
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  • "how do i feel when somebody disagrees with me? do i feel insulted?
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  • Do i feel like they
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  • Do i feel like they think i'm stupid?
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  • Do i feel like they think i'm stupid? do i feel like they
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  • Think i'm stupid? do i feel like they don't respect me?
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  • Do i feel like they don't respect me? do i feel like i'm being
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  • Don't respect me? do i feel like i'm being rejected?"
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  • Do i feel like i'm being rejected?" and learn how to be
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  • Rejected?" and learn how to be a person in christ who
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  • And learn how to be a person in christ who is loved and valued,
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  • A person in christ who is loved and valued, and separate that from
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  • Is loved and valued, and separate that from what you think,
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  • And separate that from what you think, and what you do,
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  • What you think, and what you do, and all those other
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  • And what you do, and all those other more exterior things.
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  • And all those other more exterior things. does anybody in the building
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  • More exterior things. does anybody in the building think that maybe you're still
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  • Does anybody in the building think that maybe you're still dealing with a little root
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  • Think that maybe you're still dealing with a little root of rejection in your life?
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  • >> joyce: well,
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  • >> joyce: well, ginger and i both have
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  • >> joyce: well, ginger and i both have experience with rejection.
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  • Ginger and i both have experience with rejection. we've hurt a lot.
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  • Experience with rejection. we've hurt a lot. we've had a lot of healing.
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  • We've hurt a lot. we've had a lot of healing. we've learned a lot.
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  • We've had a lot of healing. we've learned a lot. and we have experienced
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  • We've learned a lot. and we have experienced god's amazing power.
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  • And we have experienced god's amazing power. we believe god wants
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  • God's amazing power. we believe god wants the same for you.
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  • We believe god wants the same for you. >> ginger: you know,
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  • The same for you. >> ginger: you know, when we talk about this topic,
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  • >> ginger: you know, when we talk about this topic, i think it's such
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  • When we talk about this topic, i think it's such a personal topic.
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  • I think it's such a personal topic. you know, rejection is one
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  • A personal topic. you know, rejection is one of those things, first of all,
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  • You know, rejection is one of those things, first of all, that we all do receive
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  • Of those things, first of all, that we all do receive differently, we handle
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  • That we all do receive differently, we handle it differently.
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  • Differently, we handle it differently. but, you know,
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  • It differently. but, you know, that pain is pain.
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  • But, you know, that pain is pain. and the reason that i think
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  • That pain is pain. and the reason that i think it's so personal is we don't
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  • And the reason that i think it's so personal is we don't always even wanna talk about it,
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  • It's so personal is we don't always even wanna talk about it, because we're embarrassed
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  • Always even wanna talk about it, because we're embarrassed that we're rejected
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  • Because we're embarrassed that we're rejected or that we feel rejected.
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  • That we're rejected or that we feel rejected. and it makes us feel
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  • Or that we feel rejected. and it makes us feel weaker and more rejected.
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  • And it makes us feel weaker and more rejected. and it can kind
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  • Weaker and more rejected. and it can kind of tumble you along.
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  • And it can kind of tumble you along. so, finding those roots that
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  • Of tumble you along. so, finding those roots that you were just talking about
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  • So, finding those roots that you were just talking about and dealing with those
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  • You were just talking about and dealing with those are hugely important.
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  • And dealing with those are hugely important. >> joyce: well, i think i had
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  • Are hugely important. >> joyce: well, i think i had behaviors in my adult life,
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  • >> joyce: well, i think i had behaviors in my adult life, that i had no idea were
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  • Behaviors in my adult life, that i had no idea were coming from the root
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  • That i had no idea were coming from the root of rejection that got
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  • Coming from the root of rejection that got started in my childhood.
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  • Of rejection that got started in my childhood. and i think sometimes when
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  • Started in my childhood. and i think sometimes when people expect rejection,
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  • And i think sometimes when people expect rejection, they behave in ways
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  • People expect rejection, they behave in ways that actually cause
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  • They behave in ways that actually cause people to reject them.
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  • That actually cause people to reject them. and i had numbers of people
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  • People to reject them. and i had numbers of people at different times would say,
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  • And i had numbers of people at different times would say, "you know, when i first met you,
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  • At different times would say, "you know, when i first met you, i just really didn't like you."
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  • "you know, when i first met you, i just really didn't like you." "thank you, but--" you know.
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  • I just really didn't like you." "thank you, but--" you know. but it was the way that i acted.
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  • "thank you, but--" you know. but it was the way that i acted. i was always a little
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  • But it was the way that i acted. i was always a little bit defensive, you know,
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  • I was always a little bit defensive, you know, because i never--
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  • Bit defensive, you know, because i never-- i just--i'd had so much of that
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  • Because i never-- i just--i'd had so much of that in my childhood that i just
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  • I just--i'd had so much of that in my childhood that i just got to where i expected it.
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  • In my childhood that i just got to where i expected it. >> ginger: and that's
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  • Got to where i expected it. >> ginger: and that's so painful, so hurtful.
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  • >> ginger: and that's so painful, so hurtful. my story's quite different,
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  • So painful, so hurtful. my story's quite different, but there are so many
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  • My story's quite different, but there are so many similarities.
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  • But there are so many similarities. because i think the best way
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  • Similarities. because i think the best way to explain it is, had built up
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  • Because i think the best way to explain it is, had built up a wall of pride around myself,
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  • To explain it is, had built up a wall of pride around myself, so that rejection
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  • A wall of pride around myself, so that rejection was not a problem.
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  • So that rejection was not a problem. i didn't care what people
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  • Was not a problem. i didn't care what people thought that much,
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  • I didn't care what people thought that much, until i faced such a strong
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  • Thought that much, until i faced such a strong rejection from someone
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  • Until i faced such a strong rejection from someone so important to me,
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  • Rejection from someone so important to me, that i could not live
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  • So important to me, that i could not live that way anymore.
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  • That i could not live that way anymore. and that's when i had
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  • That way anymore. and that's when i had to really dig in and say,
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  • And that's when i had to really dig in and say, "okay, god, you know, i give up.
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  • To really dig in and say, "okay, god, you know, i give up. this pride isn't working.
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  • "okay, god, you know, i give up. this pride isn't working. you can't fight
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  • This pride isn't working. you can't fight rejection with pride.
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  • You can't fight rejection with pride. what do i need to do?"
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  • Rejection with pride. what do i need to do?" and that's when all those
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  • What do i need to do?" and that's when all those scriptures that, you know,
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  • And that's when all those scriptures that, you know, jesus has been rejected,
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  • Scriptures that, you know, jesus has been rejected, but he will never reject me.
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  • Jesus has been rejected, but he will never reject me. he understands it,
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  • But he will never reject me. he understands it, but he'll never reject me.
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  • He understands it, but he'll never reject me. and just how loved i am.
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  • But he'll never reject me. and just how loved i am. and the healing for all of us
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  • And just how loved i am. and the healing for all of us comes from the same place.
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  • And the healing for all of us comes from the same place. but we need it in
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  • Comes from the same place. but we need it in different ways.
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  • But we need it in different ways. >> joyce: we do, and we see
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  • Different ways. >> joyce: we do, and we see it at different times in our
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  • >> joyce: we do, and we see it at different times in our life in different ways.
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  • It at different times in our life in different ways. and even just being open to,
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  • Life in different ways. and even just being open to, "do i have any roots
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  • And even just being open to, "do i have any roots of rejection in my life?"
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  • "do i have any roots of rejection in my life?" i think a lot of times people
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  • Of rejection in my life?" i think a lot of times people don't even consider that,
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  • I think a lot of times people don't even consider that, you know, because maybe
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  • Don't even consider that, you know, because maybe it's something that
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  • You know, because maybe it's something that happened to them that
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  • It's something that happened to them that they kind of buried.
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  • Happened to them that they kind of buried. you know,
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  • They kind of buried. you know, we like to bury our stuff.
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  • You know, we like to bury our stuff. >> ginger: we sure do.
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  • We like to bury our stuff. >> ginger: we sure do. >> joyce: they say it's our
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  • >> ginger: we sure do. >> joyce: they say it's our secrets that make us sick.
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  • >> joyce: they say it's our secrets that make us sick. so, a lot of times people
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  • Secrets that make us sick. so, a lot of times people have bad behaviors,
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  • So, a lot of times people have bad behaviors, and it's connected to things
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  • Have bad behaviors, and it's connected to things that they just haven't
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  • And it's connected to things that they just haven't dealt with,
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  • That they just haven't dealt with, because they don't even
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  • Dealt with, because they don't even know that's what they need.
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  • Because they don't even know that's what they need. >> ginger: right.
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  • Know that's what they need. >> ginger: right. >> joyce: but god's word
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  • >> ginger: right. >> joyce: but god's word reveals a lot of things.
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  • >> joyce: but god's word reveals a lot of things. it heals a lot of things.
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  • Reveals a lot of things. it heals a lot of things. but it reveals a lot
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  • It heals a lot of things. but it reveals a lot of things first.
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  • But it reveals a lot of things first. >> ginger: and what i learned
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  • Of things first. >> ginger: and what i learned is when those secrets come out,
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  • >> ginger: and what i learned is when those secrets come out, those secrets that are
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  • Is when those secrets come out, those secrets that are destroying our lives
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  • Those secrets that are destroying our lives and making us sick,
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  • Destroying our lives and making us sick, that's really hard too,
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  • And making us sick, that's really hard too, because then you're
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  • That's really hard too, because then you're dealing with this revelation.
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  • Because then you're dealing with this revelation. and so those secrets
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  • Dealing with this revelation. and so those secrets are hard to deal with.
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  • And so those secrets are hard to deal with. but wow, now that i've had
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  • Are hard to deal with. but wow, now that i've had the chance to come through
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  • But wow, now that i've had the chance to come through it with christ, to deal with
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  • The chance to come through it with christ, to deal with the rejection and to get
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  • It with christ, to deal with the rejection and to get that sickness out in the open,
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  • The rejection and to get that sickness out in the open, i'm so grateful for that.
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  • That sickness out in the open, i'm so grateful for that. i wouldn't go back
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  • I'm so grateful for that. i wouldn't go back and do it for anything.
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  • I wouldn't go back and do it for anything. and i think that's what
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  • And do it for anything. and i think that's what we all need to figure out is,
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  • And i think that's what we all need to figure out is, "okay, god,
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  • We all need to figure out is, "okay, god, what do i need to see?
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  • "okay, god, what do i need to see? what do you wanna tell me?
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  • What do i need to see? what do you wanna tell me? how do i handle
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  • What do you wanna tell me? how do i handle this differently?
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  • How do i handle this differently? what roots do i need to pull?"
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  • This differently? what roots do i need to pull?" >> joyce: well, rejection comes
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  • What roots do i need to pull?" >> joyce: well, rejection comes from many different angles,
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  • >> joyce: well, rejection comes from many different angles, people, and circumstances.
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  • From many different angles, people, and circumstances. ginger shared some of her story
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  • People, and circumstances. ginger shared some of her story of rejection at a conference
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  • Ginger shared some of her story of rejection at a conference a little while back.
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  • >> ginger: there are so many
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  • >> ginger: there are so many things that can sink
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  • >> ginger: there are so many things that can sink into our spirit and make
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  • Things that can sink into our spirit and make us feel rejected.
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  • Into our spirit and make us feel rejected. and i had one, in particular,
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  • Us feel rejected. and i had one, in particular, that was very large for me.
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  • And i had one, in particular, that was very large for me. my husband and i now have
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  • That was very large for me. my husband and i now have been married 37 years.
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  • My husband and i now have been married 37 years. >> [audience applauding]
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  • Been married 37 years. >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and we're
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  • >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and we're very blessed.
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  • >> ginger: and we're very blessed. we have two grown daughters.
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  • Two grandchildren,
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  • Two grandchildren, we're just very blessed.
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  • Two grandchildren, we're just very blessed. but there was a time,
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  • We're just very blessed. but there was a time, several years after
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  • But there was a time, several years after our marriage,
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  • Several years after our marriage, when our daughters were little,
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  • Our marriage, when our daughters were little, and i started just sensing
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  • When our daughters were little, and i started just sensing something was not right.
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  • And i started just sensing something was not right. and my husband was not--
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  • Something was not right. and my husband was not-- he just was not
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  • And my husband was not-- he just was not acting like himself.
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  • He just was not acting like himself. and he was easily angered.
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  • Acting like himself. and he was easily angered. and he had a short fuse.
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  • And he was easily angered. and he had a short fuse. and it just is not like
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  • And he had a short fuse. and it just is not like my husband, tim, at all.
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  • And it just is not like my husband, tim, at all. and one day, the secret
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  • My husband, tim, at all. and one day, the secret came out, and i found
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  • And one day, the secret came out, and i found out that my husband had
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  • Came out, and i found out that my husband had an addiction to pornography.
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  • Out that my husband had an addiction to pornography. now, we've heard this,
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  • An addiction to pornography. now, we've heard this, but it's so true that
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  • Now, we've heard this, but it's so true that secrets make you sick.
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  • But it's so true that secrets make you sick. if you have a secret
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  • Secrets make you sick. if you have a secret in your life,
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  • If you have a secret in your life, it may take years,
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  • In your life, it may take years, but there may be a time,
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  • It may take years, but there may be a time, and this is what was
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  • But there may be a time, and this is what was happening with tim,
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  • And this is what was happening with tim, because he was dealing
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  • Happening with tim, because he was dealing with this from the time
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  • Because he was dealing with this from the time he was very, very young.
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  • With this from the time he was very, very young. and the shame,
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  • He was very, very young. and the shame, and the guilt, and the lies,
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  • And the shame, and the guilt, and the lies, it all began impacting him.
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  • And the guilt, and the lies, it all began impacting him. how he saw himself,
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  • It all began impacting him. how he saw himself, he felt rejected.
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  • How he saw himself, he felt rejected. it began impacting
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  • He felt rejected. it began impacting the way he treated us.
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  • It began impacting the way he treated us. i felt rejected.
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  • The way he treated us. i felt rejected. so, when that secret came out,
  • 00:11:09.692 --> 00:11:12.128
  • I felt rejected. so, when that secret came out, my life just exploded,
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  • So, when that secret came out, my life just exploded, to be honest.
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  • My life just exploded, to be honest. i felt so confused, so lied to.
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  • To be honest. i felt so confused, so lied to. "does that mean everything
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  • I felt so confused, so lied to. "does that mean everything that we've based this
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  • "does that mean everything that we've based this relationship on,
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  • That we've based this relationship on, our family on,
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  • Relationship on, our family on, was a lie all along?"
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  • Our family on, was a lie all along?" i felt like--
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  • Was a lie all along?" i felt like-- this is what
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  • I felt like-- this is what rejection feels like.
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  • This is what rejection feels like. "it's like the evidence
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  • Rejection feels like. "it's like the evidence of all those lies that satan
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  • "it's like the evidence of all those lies that satan has been whispering
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  • Of all those lies that satan has been whispering in your ear for so long,
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  • Has been whispering in your ear for so long, it's the evidence that
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  • In your ear for so long, it's the evidence that all those things were true.
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  • It's the evidence that all those things were true. that "i'm not enough."
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  • All those things were true. that "i'm not enough." that "i wasn't what he needed."
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  • That "i'm not enough." that "i wasn't what he needed." that "i could never be what our
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  • That "i wasn't what he needed." that "i could never be what our family needed, what he needed.
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  • That "i could never be what our family needed, what he needed. our family was no longer
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  • Family needed, what he needed. our family was no longer going to be the same."
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  • Our family was no longer going to be the same." and i was so rejected
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  • Going to be the same." and i was so rejected and so hurt, that i didn't
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  • And i was so rejected and so hurt, that i didn't even know how to deal with it.
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  • And so hurt, that i didn't even know how to deal with it. and the first thing i did
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  • Even know how to deal with it. and the first thing i did was i got very indignant,
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  • And the first thing i did was i got very indignant, very prideful.
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  • Was i got very indignant, very prideful. "i am not the woman who's
  • 00:12:09.718 --> 00:12:10.753
  • Very prideful. "i am not the woman who's gonna put up with this stuff.
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  • "i am not the woman who's gonna put up with this stuff. i'm a strong woman,"
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  • Gonna put up with this stuff. i'm a strong woman," and i'll tell you
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  • I'm a strong woman," and i'll tell you that hit my pride.
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  • And i'll tell you that hit my pride. and it hit every area of my life
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  • That hit my pride. and it hit every area of my life of who i thought i was.
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  • And it hit every area of my life of who i thought i was. and i had to learn how to deal
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  • Of who i thought i was. and i had to learn how to deal with this incredible rejection.
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  • And i had to learn how to deal with this incredible rejection. so, long story short for our
  • 00:12:31.774 --> 00:12:34.310
  • With this incredible rejection. so, long story short for our marriage, we did a lot of work,
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  • So, long story short for our marriage, we did a lot of work, a lot of hard work.
  • 00:12:37.546 --> 00:12:39.081
  • Marriage, we did a lot of work, a lot of hard work. and i didn't know what
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  • A lot of hard work. and i didn't know what was going to happen.
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  • And i didn't know what was going to happen. and tim had to deal with
  • 00:12:42.451 --> 00:12:44.620
  • Was going to happen. and tim had to deal with the root of his issue.
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  • And tim had to deal with the root of his issue. and i had to deal with
  • 00:12:46.856 --> 00:12:47.990
  • The root of his issue. and i had to deal with my own rejection.
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  • And i had to deal with my own rejection. and so we did that
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  • My own rejection. and so we did that individually and together,
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  • And so we did that individually and together, and god has healed
  • 00:12:51.827 --> 00:12:52.795
  • Individually and together, and god has healed and restored our marriage
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  • And god has healed and restored our marriage and our relationship.
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  • And restored our marriage and our relationship. >> [audience applauding]
  • 00:12:55.931 --> 00:12:56.665
  • And our relationship. >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and we're so grateful
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  • >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and we're so grateful and so thankful that god
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  • >> ginger: and we're so grateful and so thankful that god worked us through that.
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  • And so thankful that god worked us through that. and i wanna talk
  • 00:13:02.571 --> 00:13:03.239
  • Worked us through that. and i wanna talk to you about this.
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  • And i wanna talk to you about this. i want you to think about
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  • To you about this. i want you to think about rejection differently.
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  • I want you to think about rejection differently. i want you to think about
  • 00:13:06.308 --> 00:13:08.010
  • Rejection differently. i want you to think about rejecting rejection.
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  • I want you to think about rejecting rejection. because you have a choice.
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  • Rejecting rejection. because you have a choice. you can take it in,
  • 00:13:13.983 --> 00:13:15.050
  • Because you have a choice. you can take it in, and you can say,
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  • You can take it in, and you can say, "yes, it's true,
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  • And you can say, "yes, it's true, i'm none of those things
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  • "yes, it's true, i'm none of those things that i need to be."
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  • I'm none of those things that i need to be." or you can say, "no, rejection,
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  • That i need to be." or you can say, "no, rejection, i'm not taking that.
  • 00:13:23.826 --> 00:13:24.860
  • Or you can say, "no, rejection, i'm not taking that. i'm not taking what you're
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  • I'm not taking that. i'm not taking what you're saying about me because
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  • I'm not taking what you're saying about me because i know who i am in jesus."
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  • Saying about me because i know who i am in jesus." that's the key.
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  • I know who i am in jesus." that's the key. >> [audience applauding]
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  • That's the key. >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and that's
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  • >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and that's what i had to do.
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  • >> ginger: and that's what i had to do. it's not about rejecting
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  • What i had to do. it's not about rejecting the source of rejection.
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  • That's really important.
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  • That's really important. it's not about rejecting
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  • That's really important. it's not about rejecting the person who's rejecting you.
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  • It's not about rejecting the person who's rejecting you. it's about rejecting what
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  • The person who's rejecting you. it's about rejecting what satan is doing through
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  • It's about rejecting what satan is doing through that attack on your life.
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  • Satan is doing through that attack on your life. and sometimes, yes,
  • 00:13:53.923 --> 00:13:54.990
  • That attack on your life. and sometimes, yes, that relationship,
  • 00:13:55.057 --> 00:13:56.926
  • And sometimes, yes, that relationship, you might not have that
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  • That relationship, you might not have that relationship anymore.
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  • You might not have that relationship anymore. sometimes that relationship
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  • Relationship anymore. sometimes that relationship is not going to be restored.
  • 00:14:00.930 --> 00:14:03.499
  • Sometimes that relationship is not going to be restored. perhaps it's someone in your
  • 00:14:03.565 --> 00:14:05.301
  • Is not going to be restored. perhaps it's someone in your life who you need to cut
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  • Perhaps it's someone in your life who you need to cut off because it's not
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  • Life who you need to cut off because it's not a safe relationship,
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  • Off because it's not a safe relationship, or because god is doing
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  • Something different
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  • Something different in your life.
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  • Something different in your life. have you ever thought of this?
  • 00:14:14.576 --> 00:14:15.878
  • In your life. have you ever thought of this? perhaps god is using that
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  • Have you ever thought of this? perhaps god is using that rejection to take you
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  • Perhaps god is using that rejection to take you where he needs you.
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  • Rejection to take you where he needs you. >> [audience applauding]
  • 00:14:20.983 --> 00:14:22.418
  • Where he needs you. >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: to take you where
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  • >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: to take you where he can use you, to put you
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  • >> ginger: to take you where he can use you, to put you with the right people.
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  • He can use you, to put you with the right people. god will use good
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  • With the right people. god will use good where satan means evil.
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  • God will use good where satan means evil. reject the rejection,
  • 00:14:31.193 --> 00:14:33.295
  • Where satan means evil. reject the rejection, but don't reject the people.
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  • Reject the rejection, but don't reject the people. that's a huge, huge factor.
  • 00:14:35.731 --> 00:14:39.168
  • But don't reject the people. that's a huge, huge factor. so, it comes down to this.
  • 00:14:39.234 --> 00:14:40.836
  • That's a huge, huge factor. so, it comes down to this. there's a promise that jesus
  • 00:14:40.903 --> 00:14:42.538
  • So, it comes down to this. there's a promise that jesus made in john chapter 6.
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  • There's a promise that jesus made in john chapter 6. and this is what you must
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  • Made in john chapter 6. and this is what you must hold on to for dear life,
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  • And this is what you must hold on to for dear life, when it hurts like you
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  • Hold on to for dear life, when it hurts like you just cannot even believe,
  • 00:14:52.081 --> 00:14:53.816
  • When it hurts like you just cannot even believe, because that's how
  • 00:14:53.882 --> 00:14:54.683
  • Just cannot even believe, because that's how rejection feels.
  • 00:14:54.750 --> 00:14:56.418
  • In john chapter 6, jesus said,
  • 00:14:56.952 --> 00:14:59.421
  • In john chapter 6, jesus said, those who come to me,
  • 00:14:59.488 --> 00:15:01.490
  • In john chapter 6, jesus said, those who come to me, i will never deny.
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  • Those who come to me, i will never deny. "i will never reject
  • 00:15:04.593 --> 00:15:07.296
  • I will never deny. "i will never reject those who come to me."
  • 00:15:07.363 --> 00:15:08.430
  • "i will never reject those who come to me." jesus, when you turn to him,
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  • Will never hide
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  • Will never hide anything from you.
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  • Will never hide anything from you. there will never be any secrets.
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  • Anything from you. there will never be any secrets. there will never be a turning
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  • There will never be any secrets. there will never be a turning away or rejection,
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  • There will never be a turning away or rejection, a "you're not good enough."
  • 00:15:20.275 --> 00:15:22.378
  • Away or rejection, a "you're not good enough." jesus will say,
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  • A "you're not good enough." jesus will say, "i love you completely,
  • 00:15:23.178 --> 00:15:24.313
  • Jesus will say, "i love you completely, exactly like you are.
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  • "i love you completely, exactly like you are. now, let's go somewhere
  • 00:15:26.682 --> 00:15:27.750
  • Exactly like you are. now, let's go somewhere and do some great
  • 00:15:27.816 --> 00:15:28.717
  • Now, let's go somewhere and do some great things together."
  • 00:15:28.784 --> 00:15:30.352
  • And do some great things together." because that's what jesus
  • 00:15:30.419 --> 00:15:31.587
  • Things together." because that's what jesus wants for all of us.
  • 00:15:31.653 --> 00:15:33.088
  • Because that's what jesus wants for all of us. but we have to let that sink in.
  • 00:15:33.155 --> 00:15:35.190
  • Wants for all of us. but we have to let that sink in. fight the root of rejection
  • 00:15:35.257 --> 00:15:37.960
  • But we have to let that sink in. fight the root of rejection with the love of jesus.
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  • Fight the root of rejection with the love of jesus. that is your tool.
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  • With the love of jesus. that is your tool. that's how you battle.
  • 00:15:41.930 --> 00:15:44.099
  • That is your tool. that's how you battle. >> [audience applauding]
  • 00:15:44.166 --> 00:15:45.601
  • That's how you battle. >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and you have
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  • >> [audience applauding] >> ginger: and you have to pull out those roots
  • 00:15:46.435 --> 00:15:47.536
  • >> ginger: and you have to pull out those roots before they get deep,
  • 00:15:47.603 --> 00:15:48.504
  • To pull out those roots before they get deep, because it's much harder
  • 00:15:48.570 --> 00:15:50.139
  • Before they get deep, because it's much harder when they take a real hold,
  • 00:15:50.205 --> 00:15:51.540
  • Because it's much harder when they take a real hold, and they just intertwine
  • 00:15:51.607 --> 00:15:52.674
  • When they take a real hold, and they just intertwine themselves around your heart.
  • 00:15:52.741 --> 00:15:55.811
  • And they just intertwine themselves around your heart. i want to encourage
  • 00:15:55.878 --> 00:15:56.678
  • Themselves around your heart. i want to encourage you right now,
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  • I want to encourage you right now, if you've got walls around
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  • You right now, if you've got walls around your heart because of rejection,
  • 00:15:59.648 --> 00:16:05.087
  • If you've got walls around your heart because of rejection, jesus wants to break through
  • 00:16:05.154 --> 00:16:07.456
  • Your heart because of rejection, jesus wants to break through those walls that you built
  • 00:16:07.523 --> 00:16:08.891
  • Jesus wants to break through those walls that you built up for protection that you
  • 00:16:08.957 --> 00:16:10.592
  • Those walls that you built up for protection that you don't need from him.
  • 00:16:10.659 --> 00:16:13.228
  • Up for protection that you don't need from him. he wants to love you
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  • Don't need from him. he wants to love you in a way that will change
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  • He wants to love you in a way that will change everything for you.
  • 00:16:17.433 --> 00:16:18.967
  • In a way that will change everything for you. and yes, people are
  • 00:16:19.034 --> 00:16:20.436
  • Everything for you. and yes, people are gonna let you down.
  • 00:16:20.502 --> 00:16:22.271
  • And yes, people are gonna let you down. they're gonna hurt you.
  • 00:16:22.337 --> 00:16:25.841
  • Gonna let you down. they're gonna hurt you. but that doesn't mean
  • 00:16:25.908 --> 00:16:27.009
  • They're gonna hurt you. but that doesn't mean that you are not valuable.
  • 00:16:27.076 --> 00:16:29.244
  • >> joyce: well,
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  • >> joyce: well, ginger, we've all gone
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  • >> joyce: well, ginger, we've all gone through rejection.
  • 00:16:33.148 --> 00:16:34.116
  • Ginger, we've all gone through rejection. >> ginger: we sure have.
  • 00:16:34.183 --> 00:16:35.150
  • Through rejection. >> ginger: we sure have. >> joyce: and you just told
  • 00:16:35.217 --> 00:16:36.018
  • >> ginger: we sure have. >> joyce: and you just told a story that i'm sure was--
  • 00:16:36.085 --> 00:16:37.152
  • >> joyce: and you just told a story that i'm sure was-- sounds like a story to us,
  • 00:16:37.219 --> 00:16:38.387
  • A story that i'm sure was-- sounds like a story to us, but you lived through it,
  • 00:16:38.454 --> 00:16:39.455
  • Sounds like a story to us, but you lived through it, and i know it was very, very
  • 00:16:39.521 --> 00:16:40.556
  • But you lived through it, and i know it was very, very hard for you and very painful.
  • 00:16:40.622 --> 00:16:42.591
  • And i know it was very, very hard for you and very painful. but you did come through it,
  • 00:16:42.658 --> 00:16:44.126
  • Hard for you and very painful. but you did come through it, and your marriage
  • 00:16:44.193 --> 00:16:44.827
  • But you did come through it, and your marriage is solid--probably even more
  • 00:16:44.893 --> 00:16:46.862
  • And your marriage is solid--probably even more solid than it has ever been.
  • 00:16:46.929 --> 00:16:48.430
  • Is solid--probably even more solid than it has ever been. >> ginger: celebrating
  • 00:16:48.497 --> 00:16:49.064
  • Solid than it has ever been. >> ginger: celebrating our 40th anniversary.
  • 00:16:49.131 --> 00:16:50.299
  • >> ginger: celebrating our 40th anniversary. so, this has been, you know,
  • 00:16:50.365 --> 00:16:52.367
  • Our 40th anniversary. so, this has been, you know, several years ago
  • 00:16:52.434 --> 00:16:53.902
  • So, this has been, you know, several years ago that all this happened.
  • 00:16:53.969 --> 00:16:54.736
  • Several years ago that all this happened. and in sharing it,
  • 00:16:54.803 --> 00:16:56.438
  • That all this happened. and in sharing it, i have heard from so many
  • 00:16:56.505 --> 00:16:58.073
  • And in sharing it, i have heard from so many women who have experienced
  • 00:16:58.140 --> 00:17:00.709
  • I have heard from so many women who have experienced this heartbreak and,
  • 00:17:00.776 --> 00:17:01.910
  • Women who have experienced this heartbreak and, you know, it doesn't always
  • 00:17:01.977 --> 00:17:05.147
  • This heartbreak and, you know, it doesn't always go that way for their marriage.
  • 00:17:05.214 --> 00:17:06.682
  • You know, it doesn't always go that way for their marriage. so, the rejection either way,
  • 00:17:06.748 --> 00:17:08.550
  • Go that way for their marriage. so, the rejection either way, you know, when it happens,
  • 00:17:08.617 --> 00:17:09.451
  • So, the rejection either way, you know, when it happens, is so strong.
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  • And then you think
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  • And then you think of all the people whose
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  • And then you think of all the people whose spouses walked out on them,
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  • Of all the people whose spouses walked out on them, decided to be with someone else,
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  • Spouses walked out on them, decided to be with someone else, or people who've been
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  • Decided to be with someone else, or people who've been through abuse like you have,
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  • Or people who've been through abuse like you have, or just to have had a great
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  • Through abuse like you have, or just to have had a great friend betray them,
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  • Or just to have had a great friend betray them, there are so many areas
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  • Friend betray them, there are so many areas of rejection that really
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  • There are so many areas of rejection that really kind of rips at your soul.
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  • Of rejection that really kind of rips at your soul. >> joyce: something that
  • 00:17:31.306 --> 00:17:31.874
  • Kind of rips at your soul. >> joyce: something that i discovered, and it's a little
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  • >> joyce: something that i discovered, and it's a little bit of a story that i probably
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  • I discovered, and it's a little bit of a story that i probably won't try to tell all of here,
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  • Bit of a story that i probably won't try to tell all of here, but i believe that when god
  • 00:17:36.411 --> 00:17:39.281
  • Won't try to tell all of here, but i believe that when god calls us to do something,
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  • But i believe that when god calls us to do something, that he promotes us in degrees.
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  • Calls us to do something, that he promotes us in degrees. like, i taught home bible
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  • That he promotes us in degrees. like, i taught home bible studies for five years,
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  • Like, i taught home bible studies for five years, and then i had
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  • Studies for five years, and then i had a spiritual promotion,
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  • And then i had a spiritual promotion, and i went to work at a church,
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  • A spiritual promotion, and i went to work at a church, and i worked there
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  • And i went to work at a church, and i worked there for five years.
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  • And i worked there for five years. well, i got to teach a lot
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  • For five years. well, i got to teach a lot more at the church than i did
  • 00:17:55.063 --> 00:17:56.098
  • Well, i got to teach a lot more at the church than i did in my little home bible studies.
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  • More at the church than i did in my little home bible studies. and then when god was asking
  • 00:17:58.000 --> 00:17:59.935
  • In my little home bible studies. and then when god was asking me to leave that job and take
  • 00:18:00.002 --> 00:18:03.272
  • And then when god was asking me to leave that job and take the ministry and go north,
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  • Me to leave that job and take the ministry and go north, south, east, and west,
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  • The ministry and go north, south, east, and west, each one of those times
  • 00:18:05.607 --> 00:18:06.808
  • South, east, and west, each one of those times i experienced a major
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  • Each one of those times i experienced a major rejection from people
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  • I experienced a major rejection from people around me that loved me.
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  • Rejection from people around me that loved me. >> ginger: yeah, why do you
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  • Around me that loved me. >> ginger: yeah, why do you think that is?
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  • >> ginger: yeah, why do you think that is? >> joyce: well, i just think
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  • Think that is? >> joyce: well, i just think it's the enemy trying to get
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  • >> joyce: well, i just think it's the enemy trying to get you to lose your focus
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  • It's the enemy trying to get you to lose your focus on what god wants you to do.
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  • You to lose your focus on what god wants you to do. because, you know,
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  • On what god wants you to do. because, you know, when you have a call
  • 00:18:20.889 --> 00:18:21.723
  • Because, you know, when you have a call on your life and you're
  • 00:18:21.790 --> 00:18:22.491
  • When you have a call on your life and you're doing something for god,
  • 00:18:22.558 --> 00:18:23.892
  • It's sometimes an uphill,
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  • It's sometimes an uphill, you know, climb.
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  • It's sometimes an uphill, you know, climb. and you need to be focused.
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  • You know, climb. and you need to be focused. you need to stay
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  • And you need to be focused. you need to stay in the word yourself.
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  • You need to stay in the word yourself. you need to stay strong.
  • 00:18:30.766 --> 00:18:32.134
  • In the word yourself. you need to stay strong. and if you've got
  • 00:18:32.201 --> 00:18:32.901
  • You need to stay strong. and if you've got all these hurts coming
  • 00:18:32.968 --> 00:18:35.003
  • And if you've got all these hurts coming at you at the same time,
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  • All these hurts coming at you at the same time, it makes it difficult.
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  • At you at the same time, it makes it difficult. and i believe that rejection
  • 00:18:38.473 --> 00:18:39.775
  • It makes it difficult. and i believe that rejection is one of the things that
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  • And i believe that rejection is one of the things that satan uses to keep people
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  • Is one of the things that satan uses to keep people self-focused, on how bad
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  • Satan uses to keep people self-focused, on how bad they're hurting and what
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  • Self-focused, on how bad they're hurting and what everybody's done to them,
  • 00:18:46.582 --> 00:18:48.150
  • They're hurting and what everybody's done to them, instead of being able
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  • Everybody's done to them, instead of being able to keep their mind
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  • Instead of being able to keep their mind on god's will for them
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  • To keep their mind on god's will for them and walk in love with people.
  • 00:18:53.755 --> 00:18:55.724
  • On god's will for them and walk in love with people. >> ginger: yeah, oh, that's
  • 00:18:55.791 --> 00:18:56.558
  • And walk in love with people. >> ginger: yeah, oh, that's such an excellent point.
  • 00:18:56.625 --> 00:18:57.893
  • >> ginger: yeah, oh, that's such an excellent point. and when you started
  • 00:18:57.960 --> 00:18:59.261
  • Such an excellent point. and when you started talking about the two
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  • And when you started talking about the two of us collaborating
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  • Talking about the two of us collaborating and working together
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  • Of us collaborating and working together on a book about this topic,
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  • And working together on a book about this topic, i remember you saying that
  • 00:19:04.766 --> 00:19:06.602
  • On a book about this topic, i remember you saying that you feel it's so timely,
  • 00:19:06.668 --> 00:19:09.137
  • I remember you saying that you feel it's so timely, that now is the time that
  • 00:19:09.204 --> 00:19:10.706
  • You feel it's so timely, that now is the time that people need to fight back
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  • That now is the time that people need to fight back against the lies of satan.
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  • People need to fight back against the lies of satan. and do something like put
  • 00:19:13.442 --> 00:19:14.610
  • Against the lies of satan. and do something like put a stake in the ground and say,
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  • And do something like put a stake in the ground and say, "i'm not gonna live in this
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  • A stake in the ground and say, "i'm not gonna live in this rejection anymore."
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  • "i'm not gonna live in this rejection anymore." and so, what you're saying
  • 00:19:20.082 --> 00:19:21.817
  • Rejection anymore." and so, what you're saying is so important, and to be able
  • 00:19:21.883 --> 00:19:23.785
  • And so, what you're saying is so important, and to be able to share our stories
  • 00:19:23.852 --> 00:19:25.554
  • Is so important, and to be able to share our stories and so many others.
  • 00:19:25.621 --> 00:19:26.588
  • To share our stories and so many others. there are other stories
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  • And so many others. there are other stories of so many people who
  • 00:19:27.689 --> 00:19:29.958
  • There are other stories of so many people who have dealt with this.
  • 00:19:30.025 --> 00:19:31.159
  • Of so many people who have dealt with this. and it reaches into so many
  • 00:19:31.226 --> 00:19:32.894
  • Have dealt with this. and it reaches into so many areas of our lives.
  • 00:19:32.961 --> 00:19:34.129
  • And it reaches into so many areas of our lives. it has tentacles that go into,
  • 00:19:34.196 --> 00:19:35.330
  • Areas of our lives. it has tentacles that go into, of course,
  • 00:19:35.397 --> 00:19:36.365
  • It has tentacles that go into, of course, how we feel about ourself,
  • 00:19:36.431 --> 00:19:37.432
  • Of course, how we feel about ourself, but how we relate
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  • How we feel about ourself, but how we relate to other people.
  • 00:19:38.700 --> 00:19:39.401
  • But how we relate to other people. our confidence,
  • 00:19:39.468 --> 00:19:40.469
  • To other people. our confidence, our courage, perfectionism,
  • 00:19:40.535 --> 00:19:43.272
  • Our confidence, our courage, perfectionism, all those different ways
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  • Our courage, perfectionism, all those different ways that we try to fight against it.
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  • All those different ways that we try to fight against it. when if we can really learn
  • 00:19:46.675 --> 00:19:49.745
  • That we try to fight against it. when if we can really learn what the word says,
  • 00:19:49.811 --> 00:19:52.347
  • When if we can really learn what the word says, it makes a huge difference.
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  • What the word says, it makes a huge difference. >> joyce: and god's word
  • 00:19:53.815 --> 00:19:54.483
  • It makes a huge difference. >> joyce: and god's word is the only thing that
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  • >> joyce: and god's word is the only thing that will set you free.
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  • Is the only thing that will set you free. >> ginger: it is, it is.
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  • Will set you free. >> ginger: it is, it is. >> joyce: the thing that i try
  • 00:19:56.952 --> 00:19:57.919
  • >> ginger: it is, it is. >> joyce: the thing that i try to explain to people about
  • 00:19:57.986 --> 00:19:58.820
  • >> joyce: the thing that i try to explain to people about the word is, it's not just
  • 00:19:58.887 --> 00:20:02.224
  • To explain to people about the word is, it's not just black words on white paper.
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  • The word is, it's not just black words on white paper. >> ginger: yeah.
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  • Black words on white paper. >> ginger: yeah. >> joyce: the bible says that
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  • >> ginger: yeah. >> joyce: the bible says that there's power in the word.
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  • >> joyce: the bible says that there's power in the word. self-fulfilling power,
  • 00:20:09.398 --> 00:20:11.767
  • There's power in the word. self-fulfilling power, i read in a translation
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  • Self-fulfilling power, i read in a translation the other day.
  • 00:20:13.101 --> 00:20:13.869
  • I read in a translation the other day. and it's--
  • 00:20:13.935 --> 00:20:14.603
  • The other day. and it's-- so, the word,
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  • And it's-- so, the word, as you believe it,
  • 00:20:17.372 --> 00:20:18.707
  • So, the word, as you believe it, that's all god's asking you
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  • As you believe it, that's all god's asking you to do, is believe his promises,
  • 00:20:19.841 --> 00:20:23.278
  • That's all god's asking you to do, is believe his promises, it's self-fulfilling.
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  • To do, is believe his promises, it's self-fulfilling. it will do what it says
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  • It's self-fulfilling. it will do what it says it will do, as long as you
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  • It will do what it says it will do, as long as you continue to believe it.
  • 00:20:27.115 --> 00:20:28.884
  • And there are so many promises,
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  • And there are so many promises, i think of isaiah 61,
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  • And there are so many promises, i think of isaiah 61, he'll give you,
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  • I think of isaiah 61, he'll give you, "beauty for ashes,
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  • He'll give you, "beauty for ashes, and the oil of joy
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  • "beauty for ashes, and the oil of joy for mourning."
  • 00:20:34.423 --> 00:20:35.691
  • And the oil of joy for mourning." and then in isaiah 61:7,
  • 00:20:35.757 --> 00:20:38.927
  • For mourning." and then in isaiah 61:7, it says that he'll give you
  • 00:20:38.994 --> 00:20:39.828
  • And then in isaiah 61:7, it says that he'll give you a double, "twofold recompense,"
  • 00:20:39.895 --> 00:20:41.863
  • It says that he'll give you a double, "twofold recompense," or reward for your former pain.
  • 00:20:41.930 --> 00:20:44.766
  • A double, "twofold recompense," or reward for your former pain. and so, it's always best to make
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  • A decision that you're gonna
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  • A decision that you're gonna do whatever you need to do,
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  • A decision that you're gonna do whatever you need to do, to go through
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  • Do whatever you need to do, to go through to healing with god,
  • 00:20:51.273 --> 00:20:53.275
  • To go through to healing with god, than to try to avoid
  • 00:20:53.342 --> 00:20:56.445
  • To healing with god, than to try to avoid that pain of healing.
  • 00:20:56.511 --> 00:20:59.715
  • Than to try to avoid that pain of healing. because in going through that,
  • 00:20:59.781 --> 00:21:01.550
  • That pain of healing. because in going through that, you have to be willing to bring
  • 00:21:01.616 --> 00:21:03.285
  • Because in going through that, you have to be willing to bring things out in the open
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  • You have to be willing to bring things out in the open between you and god,
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  • Things out in the open between you and god, maybe to someone else,
  • 00:21:05.821 --> 00:21:06.788
  • Between you and god, maybe to someone else, but that you haven't
  • 00:21:06.855 --> 00:21:08.557
  • Maybe to someone else, but that you haven't really been willing to tell.
  • 00:21:08.623 --> 00:21:10.559
  • But that you haven't really been willing to tell. i think sometimes to say,
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  • Really been willing to tell. i think sometimes to say, "i'm hurting from rejection,"
  • 00:21:11.993 --> 00:21:13.195
  • I think sometimes to say, "i'm hurting from rejection," makes us feel weak.
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  • "i'm hurting from rejection," makes us feel weak. >> ginger: it does, yeah.
  • 00:21:14.162 --> 00:21:14.863
  • Makes us feel weak. >> ginger: it does, yeah. >> joyce: and so, we don't
  • 00:21:14.930 --> 00:21:16.298
  • >> ginger: it does, yeah. >> joyce: and so, we don't wanna say that.
  • 00:21:16.365 --> 00:21:17.299
  • >> joyce: and so, we don't wanna say that. we wanna act like
  • 00:21:17.366 --> 00:21:17.933
  • Wanna say that. we wanna act like we've got it all together.
  • 00:21:17.999 --> 00:21:19.000
  • We wanna act like we've got it all together. and you know,
  • 00:21:19.067 --> 00:21:20.335
  • We've got it all together. and you know, "well, you didn't hurt me."
  • 00:21:20.402 --> 00:21:21.370
  • And you know, "well, you didn't hurt me." and so--
  • 00:21:21.436 --> 00:21:22.904
  • "well, you didn't hurt me." and so-- >> ginger: yeah, it's like
  • 00:21:22.971 --> 00:21:24.039
  • And so-- >> ginger: yeah, it's like "you can't break up with me,
  • 00:21:24.106 --> 00:21:25.707
  • >> ginger: yeah, it's like "you can't break up with me, i'm breaking up with you."
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  • "you can't break up with me, i'm breaking up with you." you know, it's those
  • 00:21:27.008 --> 00:21:27.609
  • I'm breaking up with you." you know, it's those kinds of statements.
  • 00:21:27.676 --> 00:21:28.910
  • You know, it's those kinds of statements. >> joyce: it's like when
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  • Kinds of statements. >> joyce: it's like when i left home at 18,
  • 00:21:29.745 --> 00:21:31.947
  • >> joyce: it's like when i left home at 18, after being sexually abused
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  • I left home at 18, after being sexually abused by my dad for probably
  • 00:21:33.281 --> 00:21:35.150
  • After being sexually abused by my dad for probably 15 of those years, 14 or 15,
  • 00:21:35.217 --> 00:21:38.487
  • By my dad for probably 15 of those years, 14 or 15, i left with this attitude.
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  • 15 of those years, 14 or 15, i left with this attitude. "i do not need anybody.
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  • I left with this attitude. "i do not need anybody. i will never depend on anybody.
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  • "i do not need anybody. i will never depend on anybody. i will take care of myself,
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  • I will never depend on anybody. i will take care of myself, and i don't need you."
  • 00:21:48.597 --> 00:21:50.265
  • I will take care of myself, and i don't need you." >> ginger: and i can relate
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  • And i don't need you." >> ginger: and i can relate to that from a completely
  • 00:21:51.500 --> 00:21:52.534
  • >> ginger: and i can relate to that from a completely different perspective,
  • 00:21:52.601 --> 00:21:53.435
  • To that from a completely different perspective, but those same thoughts, yes.
  • 00:21:53.502 --> 00:21:56.104
  • Different perspective, but those same thoughts, yes. >> joyce: "and i'll never
  • 00:21:56.171 --> 00:21:56.905
  • But those same thoughts, yes. >> joyce: "and i'll never trust anybody again,
  • 00:21:56.972 --> 00:21:58.106
  • >> joyce: "and i'll never trust anybody again, especially not a man."
  • 00:21:58.173 --> 00:21:59.241
  • Trust anybody again, especially not a man." and of course, none of that
  • 00:21:59.307 --> 00:22:00.242
  • Especially not a man." and of course, none of that works in real life, because
  • 00:22:00.308 --> 00:22:01.843
  • And of course, none of that works in real life, because ultimately you have to deal with
  • 00:22:01.910 --> 00:22:05.347
  • Works in real life, because ultimately you have to deal with those issues and situations.
  • 00:22:05.414 --> 00:22:06.982
  • Ultimately you have to deal with those issues and situations. but if you deal with
  • 00:22:07.048 --> 00:22:07.983
  • Those issues and situations. but if you deal with them with a wounded soul,
  • 00:22:08.049 --> 00:22:10.252
  • But if you deal with them with a wounded soul, then you'll end up wounding
  • 00:22:10.318 --> 00:22:11.420
  • Them with a wounded soul, then you'll end up wounding and hurting other people.
  • 00:22:11.486 --> 00:22:13.121
  • >> ginger: yeah, the bible
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  • >> ginger: yeah, the bible says that, "he heals
  • 00:22:14.356 --> 00:22:15.557
  • >> ginger: yeah, the bible says that, "he heals the brokenhearted,
  • 00:22:15.624 --> 00:22:16.291
  • Says that, "he heals the brokenhearted, he binds up their wounds."
  • 00:22:16.358 --> 00:22:18.293
  • The brokenhearted, he binds up their wounds." and i think with rejection,
  • 00:22:18.360 --> 00:22:19.694
  • Sometimes we think,
  • 00:22:19.761 --> 00:22:20.629
  • Sometimes we think, "this is just who i am now."
  • 00:22:20.695 --> 00:22:23.331
  • Sometimes we think, "this is just who i am now." and god does not want
  • 00:22:23.398 --> 00:22:25.300
  • "this is just who i am now." and god does not want us to live like that.
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  • And god does not want us to live like that. >> joyce: you know,
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  • Us to live like that. >> joyce: you know, i've been coming across a lot
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  • >> joyce: you know, i've been coming across a lot of situations lately, talking
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  • I've been coming across a lot of situations lately, talking to people, reading books
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  • Of situations lately, talking to people, reading books about spousal abuse,
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  • To people, reading books about spousal abuse, and that's rejection.
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  • About spousal abuse, and that's rejection. >> ginger: absolutely.
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  • And that's rejection. >> ginger: absolutely. >> joyce: but a person--
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  • >> ginger: absolutely. >> joyce: but a person-- you know, most women
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  • >> joyce: but a person-- you know, most women that stay with a husband
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  • You know, most women that stay with a husband who's beating them,
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  • That stay with a husband who's beating them, they always somehow
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  • Who's beating them, they always somehow or another, blame themselves.
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  • They always somehow or another, blame themselves. "well, if i was better,
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  • Or another, blame themselves. "well, if i was better, or he only did it because
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  • "well, if i was better, or he only did it because i didn't do this and i didn't
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  • Or he only did it because i didn't do this and i didn't do that."
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  • I didn't do this and i didn't do that." and that's exactly what
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  • Do that." and that's exactly what the enemy wants us to do.
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  • And that's exactly what the enemy wants us to do. he wants us--
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  • The enemy wants us to do. he wants us-- to make us think that
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  • He wants us-- to make us think that "they hurt me or rejected
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  • To make us think that "they hurt me or rejected me because i'm bad.
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  • "they hurt me or rejected me because i'm bad. because i wasn't good enough."
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  • Me because i'm bad. because i wasn't good enough." and that's just not true.
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  • Because i wasn't good enough." and that's just not true. and when you study god's word,
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  • And that's just not true. and when you study god's word, you find that out.
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  • And when you study god's word, you find that out. well, rejection hurts.
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  • You find that out. well, rejection hurts. but remember,
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  • Well, rejection hurts. but remember, we can be healed
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  • But remember, we can be healed and overcome it with
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  • We can be healed and overcome it with the love of christ in our life.
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  • And overcome it with the love of christ in our life. we remind ourselves
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  • The love of christ in our life. we remind ourselves of who god says we are,
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  • We remind ourselves of who god says we are, and learn to handle
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  • Of who god says we are, and learn to handle rejection differently
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  • And learn to handle rejection differently when it comes our way.
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  • Rejection differently when it comes our way. god loves you very much,
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  • When it comes our way. god loves you very much, and so do we.
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  • God loves you very much, and so do we. and we hope that you will
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  • And so do we. and we hope that you will receive all the healing that
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  • And we hope that you will receive all the healing that you need from every hurt
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  • Receive all the healing that you need from every hurt and pain that you've ever had.
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  • >> announcer: we are created
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  • >> announcer: we are created for community and acceptance.
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  • For community and acceptance. it's the way god made us.
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  • It's the way god made us. but what happens
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  • But what happens when we are rejected?
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  • >> joyce: well, rejection
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  • >> joyce: well, rejection is definitely painful.
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  • Is definitely painful. it's something we've all endured
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  • It's something we've all endured in one way or another.
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  • >> ginger: our experiences
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  • >> ginger: our experiences may be different,
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  • May be different, but the damage is very real.
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  • But the damage is very real. whether it comes from
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  • Whether it comes from a stranger, a friend,
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  • A stranger, a friend, or someone we love,
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  • Or someone we love, rejection leaves us feeling
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  • Rejection leaves us feeling unwanted and wounded.
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  • Unwanted and wounded. >> joyce: we both know how
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  • >> joyce: we both know how devastating rejection can be.
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  • Devastating rejection can be. the good news is healing
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  • The good news is healing is possible.
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  • Is possible. that's why i invited
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  • That's why i invited ginger to write
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  • Ginger to write a very important
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  • A very important book with me,
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  • Book with me, "healing the wounds
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  • "healing the wounds of rejection."
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  • Of rejection." i believe now is the time
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  • I believe now is the time to overcome those
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  • To overcome those wounds and embrace
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  • Wounds and embrace our true identity in christ.
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  • Our true identity in christ. >> announcer: we would
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  • >> announcer: we would like to send you a copy
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  • Like to send you a copy of "healing the wounds
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  • Of "healing the wounds of rejection."
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  • Of rejection." it's available to you
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  • It's available to you right now for your
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  • Right now for your gift of any amount.
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  • And today,
  • 00:24:31.192 --> 00:24:31.993
  • And today, when you donate...
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  • When you donate... or more,
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  • Or more, you'll not only
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  • You'll not only receive the "healing wounds
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  • Receive the "healing wounds of rejection" book,
  • 00:24:35.130 --> 00:24:35.964
  • Of rejection" book, but also the beautiful,
  • 00:24:36.031 --> 00:24:37.232
  • But also the beautiful, guided journal with study
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  • Guided journal with study questions and thoughtful
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  • Questions and thoughtful prompts to help
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  • Prompts to help facilitate your healing.
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  • >> male: i still felt like
  • 00:24:44.105 --> 00:24:44.940
  • >> male: i still felt like an outsider wherever i went.
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  • An outsider wherever i went. >> female 1: not feeling
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  • >> female 1: not feeling like i belong anywhere.
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  • Like i belong anywhere. >> female 2: it's satan's
  • 00:24:49.210 --> 00:24:49.878
  • >> female 2: it's satan's lies to say that
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  • Lies to say that "you're not wanted."
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  • "you're not wanted." >> male: and it was through
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  • >> male: and it was through the word of god.
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  • The word of god. >> female 1: the more
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  • >> female 1: the more i read his word,
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  • I read his word, the closer i became to him.
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  • The closer i became to him. >> female 2: god says,
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  • >> female 2: god says, "i am adopted."
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  • "i am adopted." >> female 1: that does not
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  • >> female 1: that does not mean that i have to continue
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  • Mean that i have to continue living that way every day.
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  • Living that way every day. >> female 2: "i'm chosen,
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  • >> female 2: "i'm chosen, i'm accepted, i'm redeemed."
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  • I'm accepted, i'm redeemed." >> female 1: and he is
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  • >> female 1: and he is transforming me
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  • Transforming me into his son,
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  • Into his son, jesus' image, daily.
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  • >> ginger: we want to share
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  • >> ginger: we want to share truths from god's word
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  • Truths from god's word that have helped us find
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  • That have helped us find strength and wholeness.
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  • Strength and wholeness. >> joyce: you can find freedom
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  • >> joyce: you can find freedom from the pain and move
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  • From the pain and move forward with confidence.
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  • Forward with confidence. >> announcer: "healing
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  • >> announcer: "healing the wounds of rejection"
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  • The wounds of rejection" is available to you
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  • Is available to you for any amount.
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  • For any amount. learn how to handle rejection
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  • Learn how to handle rejection differently than you ever
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  • Differently than you ever have before and experience
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  • Have before and experience the healing god
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  • The healing god longs to bring you.
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  • Longs to bring you. and remember,
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  • And remember, you'll not only receive
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  • You'll not only receive joyce and ginger's book
  • 00:25:32.787 --> 00:25:33.555
  • Joyce and ginger's book when you give,
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  • When you give, but your gift allows
  • 00:25:34.456 --> 00:25:35.757
  • But your gift allows us to continue to share
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  • Us to continue to share the love of christ
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  • The love of christ around the world through
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  • Around the world through our hand of hope outreaches.
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  • Joyce and ginger's book,
  • 00:25:41.329 --> 00:25:41.963
  • Joyce and ginger's book, "healing the wounds
  • 00:25:42.030 --> 00:25:43.164
  • "healing the wounds of rejection," is available
  • 00:25:43.231 --> 00:25:44.766
  • Of rejection," is available to you for any amount.
  • 00:25:44.833 --> 00:25:46.034
  • To you for any amount. and remember,
  • 00:25:46.101 --> 00:25:47.135
  • And remember, when you donate...
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  • When you donate... or more,
  • 00:25:48.803 --> 00:25:49.337
  • Or more, you'll not only receive
  • 00:25:49.404 --> 00:25:50.472
  • You'll not only receive the "healing wounds
  • 00:25:50.538 --> 00:25:51.406
  • The "healing wounds of rejection" book,
  • 00:25:51.473 --> 00:25:52.374
  • Of rejection" book, but also the guided journal
  • 00:25:52.440 --> 00:25:53.742
  • But also the guided journal to help your healing.
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  • >> announcer: it's your
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  • >> announcer: it's your opportunity to unplug
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  • Opportunity to unplug and discover what
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  • And discover what it means to be fully his.
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  • It means to be fully his. >> joyce: and we need to know
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  • >> joyce: and we need to know who our real enemy is,
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  • Who our real enemy is, and by the way,
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  • And by the way, if you're really full-on
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  • If you're really full-on walking with god,
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  • Walking with god, you don't have to be afraid
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  • You don't have to be afraid of the devil at all.
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  • Of the devil at all. >> [audience cheering]
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  • >> [audience cheering] >> announcer: come together
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  • >> announcer: come together with thousands who are
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  • With thousands who are ready to worship,
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  • Ready to worship, learn, laugh,
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  • Learn, laugh, and lean in.
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  • And lean in. >> cece: god calls
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  • >> cece: god calls us to holiness
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  • Us to holiness because he loves us.
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  • Because he loves us. y'all, it's beautiful.
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  • Y'all, it's beautiful. >> announcer: and go home,
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  • >> announcer: and go home, equipped for all
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  • Equipped for all of life's battles.
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  • Of life's battles. >> lysa: he's not trying
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  • >> lysa: he's not trying to hide from us.
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  • To hide from us. he's waiting to be seen by us.
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