Joyce Meyer - Love

October 7, 2025 | 29:29

Is love just a feeling or something more? Today, Joyce begins a series on the fruit of the Spirt and shares how God’s love can heal your heart, change your relationships, and flow through you to others.

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Joyce Meyer: Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer - Love | October 7, 2025

>> joyce: if you're hard
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>> joyce: if you're hard to get along with,
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>> joyce: if you're hard to get along with, you should admit it.
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To get along with, you should admit it. admit it to yourself,
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You should admit it. admit it to yourself, admit it to god
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Admit it to yourself, admit it to god and ask god to help
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Admit it to god and ask god to help you start changing
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And ask god to help you start changing and stop blaming the way
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You start changing and stop blaming the way you are on everybody else.
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>> joyce: i do what i do
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>> joyce: i do what i do because i've seen god's power
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>> joyce: i do what i do because i've seen god's power transform my own life,
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Because i've seen god's power transform my own life, and he will do it for you.
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Transform my own life, and he will do it for you. the key to everything
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And he will do it for you. the key to everything is found in god's word.
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The key to everything is found in god's word. i'm joyce meyer
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Is found in god's word. i'm joyce meyer and i believe that god can heal
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I'm joyce meyer and i believe that god can heal you everywhere you hurt.
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>> joyce: well, thank you
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>> joyce: well, thank you for joining me today
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>> joyce: well, thank you for joining me today on "enjoying everyday life."
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For joining me today on "enjoying everyday life." and i'm gonna start
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On "enjoying everyday life." and i'm gonna start a series today on
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And i'm gonna start a series today on the fruit of the spirit.
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A series today on the fruit of the spirit. and i believe that it's very,
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The fruit of the spirit. and i believe that it's very, very important, i think.
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And i believe that it's very, very important, i think. the fruit of the spirit
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Very important, i think. the fruit of the spirit is one of the ways that
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The fruit of the spirit is one of the ways that people in the world can
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Is one of the ways that people in the world can tell that we belong to jesus,
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People in the world can tell that we belong to jesus, that we believe in him,
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Tell that we belong to jesus, that we believe in him, is by showing his
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That we believe in him, is by showing his character through
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Is by showing his character through that fruit of the spirit.
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Character through that fruit of the spirit. "you will know
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That fruit of the spirit. "you will know them by their fruit."
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"you will know them by their fruit." and so, in the bible,
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Them by their fruit." and so, in the bible, in 1 corinthians 12,
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And so, in the bible, in 1 corinthians 12, paul has been talking
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In 1 corinthians 12, paul has been talking to the people about the gifts
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Paul has been talking to the people about the gifts of the spirit and he tells
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To the people about the gifts of the spirit and he tells them to crave these
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Of the spirit and he tells them to crave these gifts and pursue them
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Them to crave these gifts and pursue them and go after them.
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Gifts and pursue them and go after them. but in chapter 12, verse 31,
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And go after them. but in chapter 12, verse 31, he says, "but still i will show
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But in chapter 12, verse 31, he says, "but still i will show you a more excellent way,"
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He says, "but still i will show you a more excellent way," and that is "love".
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You a more excellent way," and that is "love". love is the greatest
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And that is "love". love is the greatest thing in the world.
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Love is the greatest thing in the world. it's the best thing to pursue.
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Thing in the world. it's the best thing to pursue. it's the best thing to study:
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It's the best thing to pursue. it's the best thing to study: god's love for you.
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It's the best thing to study: god's love for you. you should love yourself
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God's love for you. you should love yourself by receiving the love
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You should love yourself by receiving the love that god gives you.
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By receiving the love that god gives you. not in a selfish,
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That god gives you. not in a selfish, self-centered way,
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Not in a selfish, self-centered way, but you should just love
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Self-centered way, but you should just love the you that god created.
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But you should just love the you that god created. he took special care to create
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The you that god created. he took special care to create you carefully and intricately
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He took special care to create you carefully and intricately with his own hand
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You carefully and intricately with his own hand in your mother's womb.
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With his own hand in your mother's womb. and he says, "you are
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In your mother's womb. and he says, "you are fearfully and wonderfully
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And he says, "you are fearfully and wonderfully made" and you should
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Fearfully and wonderfully made" and you should appreciate that.
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Made" and you should appreciate that. and don't think bad thoughts
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Appreciate that. and don't think bad thoughts about yourself and don't say
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And don't think bad thoughts about yourself and don't say bad things about yourself.
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Say what god says about you.
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Say what god says about you. and then we should
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Say what god says about you. and then we should love other people.
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And then we should love other people. so, we have a lot
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Love other people. so, we have a lot of love going on here,
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So, we have a lot of love going on here, a lot of different directions.
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Of love going on here, a lot of different directions. god loves us, we love him,
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A lot of different directions. god loves us, we love him, we love ourselves,
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God loves us, we love him, we love ourselves, we let the love of god flow
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We love ourselves, we let the love of god flow through us to other people.
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Then in philippians 1:9,
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Then in philippians 1:9, paul says,
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Then in philippians 1:9, paul says, "and this is my prayer:
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Paul says, "and this is my prayer: that your love might abound
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"and this is my prayer: that your love might abound more and more in knowledge
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That your love might abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight."
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More and more in knowledge and depth of insight." so, i guess it's easy to say
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We never know enough about love.
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We never know enough about love. and i seriously, really wonder,
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We never know enough about love. and i seriously, really wonder, how many of you watching today,
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And i seriously, really wonder, how many of you watching today, how much time do you
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How many of you watching today, how much time do you spend studying love?
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How much time do you spend studying love? how many books have
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Spend studying love? how many books have you read on love?
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How many books have you read on love? see, we always tend
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You read on love? see, we always tend to go for things that are gonna
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See, we always tend to go for things that are gonna get us something right away.
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To go for things that are gonna get us something right away. but god intends
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Get us something right away. but god intends us to be full of love
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But god intends us to be full of love and to let love flow through us.
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And jesus said, "one new
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And jesus said, "one new commandment i give unto you:
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And jesus said, "one new commandment i give unto you: that you love one another.
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Commandment i give unto you: that you love one another. just as i have loved you.
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That you love one another. just as i have loved you. by this shall all [men]
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Just as i have loved you. by this shall all [men] know that you are my disciples."
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By this shall all [men] know that you are my disciples." pay attention to that.
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Know that you are my disciples." pay attention to that. by what?
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Pay attention to that. by what? by this love,
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By what? by this love, "the love of god that
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By this love, "the love of god that is shed abroad in your
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"the love of god that is shed abroad in your heart by the holy ghost."
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Is shed abroad in your heart by the holy ghost." letting that love flow
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Heart by the holy ghost." letting that love flow through you to other
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Letting that love flow through you to other people is the only way that
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Through you to other people is the only way that they're gonna know jesus.
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People is the only way that they're gonna know jesus. so, we should always
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They're gonna know jesus. so, we should always want to know more
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So, we should always want to know more and more about love.
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Want to know more and more about love. i believe that people who
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And more about love. i believe that people who walk in love are also people
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I believe that people who walk in love are also people who walk in excellence.
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Walk in love are also people who walk in excellence. and it has become very,
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Who walk in excellence. and it has become very, very, very important
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And it has become very, very, very important to me that i walk in love.
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Very, very important to me that i walk in love. now let me tell you that
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To me that i walk in love. now let me tell you that love is not a feeling.
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Now let me tell you that love is not a feeling. we're not talking about
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Love is not a feeling. we're not talking about a romantic kind of love.
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We're not talking about a romantic kind of love. we're not even talking about
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A romantic kind of love. we're not even talking about a friendship kind of love,
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We're not even talking about a friendship kind of love, although those are important.
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A friendship kind of love, although those are important. but we're talking about agape,
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Although those are important. but we're talking about agape, the love that god has,
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But we're talking about agape, the love that god has, the kind of love
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The love that god has, the kind of love that he loves with.
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The kind of love that he loves with. and it's an unconditional love.
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Come on, think about it.
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Come on, think about it. who do you know
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Come on, think about it. who do you know that you've thought,
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Who do you know that you've thought, "well, i love you, but..."
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That you've thought, "well, i love you, but..." and by that you mean,
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"well, i love you, but..." and by that you mean, "i love you, but i don't
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And by that you mean, "i love you, but i don't like this thing about you."
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"i love you, but i don't like this thing about you." well, i can tell you that
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Like this thing about you." well, i can tell you that god never says about you,
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Well, i can tell you that god never says about you, "i love you, but--"
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God never says about you, "i love you, but--" he loves you.
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"i love you, but--" he loves you. and he always believes
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He loves you. and he always believes the best in you.
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And he always believes the best in you. and he believes that even
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The best in you. and he believes that even though you may have flaws
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And he believes that even though you may have flaws and faults, that they're
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Though you may have flaws and faults, that they're improving all the time.
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And faults, that they're improving all the time. and he sees the end
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Improving all the time. and he sees the end from the beginning.
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And he sees the end from the beginning. god has filled us full
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From the beginning. god has filled us full of good things.
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God has filled us full of good things. love is not a feeling.
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Of good things. love is not a feeling. it is seen in how
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Love is not a feeling. it is seen in how we treat people.
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And that's why the bible even
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And that's why the bible even tells us to love our enemies.
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And that's why the bible even tells us to love our enemies. because you might not
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Tells us to love our enemies. because you might not have good gooey feelings
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Because you might not have good gooey feelings toward your enemies,
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Have good gooey feelings toward your enemies, but you can love them.
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Toward your enemies, but you can love them. what does he tell us to do?
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But you can love them. what does he tell us to do? "pray for them.
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What does he tell us to do? "pray for them. bless,
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"pray for them. bless, and do not curse them."
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Bless, and do not curse them." and the word "bless" in this
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And do not curse them." and the word "bless" in this instance means to say good
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And the word "bless" in this instance means to say good things about them,
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Instance means to say good things about them, don't say bad things about them.
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Things about them, don't say bad things about them. in other words,
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Don't say bad things about them. in other words, when somebody's hurt
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In other words, when somebody's hurt us or done us wrong, we don't
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When somebody's hurt us or done us wrong, we don't really need to go tell other
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Us or done us wrong, we don't really need to go tell other people what they did to us,
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Really need to go tell other people what they did to us, nor should we wish them ill.
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People what they did to us, nor should we wish them ill. the bible says that if somebody
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Nor should we wish them ill. the bible says that if somebody has hurt us and we rejoice when
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The bible says that if somebody has hurt us and we rejoice when something bad happens to them,
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Has hurt us and we rejoice when something bad happens to them, that we're actually
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Something bad happens to them, that we're actually worse than they are.
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We pray for our enemies.
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We pray for our enemies. we pray for them to be blessed.
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We pray for our enemies. we pray for them to be blessed. and i know the thought is,
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We pray for them to be blessed. and i know the thought is, "well, i don't want
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And i know the thought is, "well, i don't want my enemies to be blessed."
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"well, i don't want my enemies to be blessed." well, you know,
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My enemies to be blessed." well, you know, god's not gonna--
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Well, you know, god's not gonna-- it's not talking about
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God's not gonna-- it's not talking about god blessing them with
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It's not talking about god blessing them with a new car or a new house.
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God blessing them with a new car or a new house. it's talking about god
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A new car or a new house. it's talking about god blessing them.
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It's talking about god blessing them. first of all, the thing that
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Blessing them. first of all, the thing that he may bless them with first,
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First of all, the thing that he may bless them with first, is truth.
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He may bless them with first, is truth. you know, some people act bad,
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Is truth. you know, some people act bad, but they don't even know
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You know, some people act bad, but they don't even know that they act bad.
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But they don't even know that they act bad. i know because i was
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That they act bad. i know because i was abused in my childhood.
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I know because i was abused in my childhood. i had a pretty harsh,
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Abused in my childhood. i had a pretty harsh, rough exterior.
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I had a pretty harsh, rough exterior. i came across in a harsh way,
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Rough exterior. i came across in a harsh way, but i didn't even really
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I came across in a harsh way, but i didn't even really know that i was doing it.
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But i didn't even really know that i was doing it. and i know, many times,
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Know that i was doing it. and i know, many times, i would hurt people's feelings,
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And i know, many times, i would hurt people's feelings, but i didn't--
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I would hurt people's feelings, but i didn't-- i didn't wanna hurt
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But i didn't-- i didn't wanna hurt their feelings.
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I didn't wanna hurt their feelings. it wasn't what
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Their feelings. it wasn't what i was trying to do.
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It wasn't what i was trying to do. it was just that the love of god
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I was trying to do. it was just that the love of god that was in me couldn't get
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It was just that the love of god that was in me couldn't get out of me in the right way
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That was in me couldn't get out of me in the right way because my pipes were all
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Out of me in the right way because my pipes were all clogged up with unforgiveness
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Because my pipes were all clogged up with unforgiveness and bitterness and things
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Clogged up with unforgiveness and bitterness and things left over from my past.
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And bitterness and things left over from my past. and maybe some of you need
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Left over from my past. and maybe some of you need some spiritual drano.
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And maybe some of you need some spiritual drano. maybe your pipes
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Some spiritual drano. maybe your pipes are clogged up too,
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Maybe your pipes are clogged up too, with some stuff that
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Are clogged up too, with some stuff that needs to be cleaned out.
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With some stuff that needs to be cleaned out. but see, i may not have good
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Needs to be cleaned out. but see, i may not have good feelings toward my enemies,
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But see, i may not have good feelings toward my enemies, but i can treat them right.
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Feelings toward my enemies, but i can treat them right. my mother and my father
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But i can treat them right. my mother and my father both were involved
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My mother and my father both were involved in the abuse in my life.
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Both were involved in the abuse in my life. my father sexually abused me,
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In the abuse in my life. my father sexually abused me, and my mother let him do it.
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My father sexually abused me, and my mother let him do it. she knew he was doing it,
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And my mother let him do it. she knew he was doing it, but she told me later she said,
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She knew he was doing it, but she told me later she said, "i couldn't face the scandal."
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But she told me later she said, "i couldn't face the scandal." she said, "i'm sorry for what
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"i couldn't face the scandal." she said, "i'm sorry for what i let your father do to you.
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She said, "i'm sorry for what i let your father do to you. i couldn't face the scandal,"
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I let your father do to you. i couldn't face the scandal," which is pretty--
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I couldn't face the scandal," which is pretty-- pretty bad, really, for a mother
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Which is pretty-- pretty bad, really, for a mother not to protect her child.
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Pretty bad, really, for a mother not to protect her child. and so, i didn't have
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Not to protect her child. and so, i didn't have any loving feelings
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And so, i didn't have any loving feelings toward either one of them.
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Any loving feelings toward either one of them. but the time came when they
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Toward either one of them. but the time came when they were elderly and needed
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But the time came when they were elderly and needed to be taken care of.
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Were elderly and needed to be taken care of. and god put it on my heart
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To be taken care of. and god put it on my heart that i was the one to do it.
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And god put it on my heart that i was the one to do it. well, i didn't wanna do that.
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That i was the one to do it. well, i didn't wanna do that. i didn't have any feeling
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Well, i didn't wanna do that. i didn't have any feeling at all that i wanted to do that.
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I didn't have any feeling at all that i wanted to do that. but i knew it was
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At all that i wanted to do that. but i knew it was the right thing to do.
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But i knew it was the right thing to do. and so, i did it.
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The right thing to do. and so, i did it. i didn't do it resenting it.
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And so, i did it. i didn't do it resenting it. i didn't do it hating it.
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I didn't do it resenting it. i didn't do it hating it. i did it because
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I didn't do it hating it. i did it because of my love for god.
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I did it because of my love for god. and i wanna tell you that if you
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Of my love for god. and i wanna tell you that if you have somebody in your life that
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And i wanna tell you that if you have somebody in your life that you consider to be an enemy,
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Have somebody in your life that you consider to be an enemy, you can start
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You consider to be an enemy, you can start treating them better.
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You can start treating them better. you can pray for them;
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Treating them better. you can pray for them; you can treat them better.
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You can pray for them; you can treat them better. and if they need help,
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You can treat them better. and if they need help, you can even help them.
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The bible says,
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The bible says, "if your enemy is thirsty,
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The bible says, "if your enemy is thirsty, give him something to drink.
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"if your enemy is thirsty, give him something to drink. if he's hungry,
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Give him something to drink. if he's hungry, give him something to eat."
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If he's hungry, give him something to eat." if he has a need in his life,
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Give him something to eat." if he has a need in his life, and you can help provide that
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If he has a need in his life, and you can help provide that need, you should help him.
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And you can help provide that need, you should help him. you see, when somebody knows
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Need, you should help him. you see, when somebody knows that they've done us wrong,
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You see, when somebody knows that they've done us wrong, like my father, he knew what
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That they've done us wrong, like my father, he knew what he did to me was wrong.
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Like my father, he knew what he did to me was wrong. and it took a while,
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He did to me was wrong. and it took a while, but showing him that kind
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And it took a while, but showing him that kind of love eventually brought
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But showing him that kind of love eventually brought him to receive christ.
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Of love eventually brought him to receive christ. and so, it was worth that little
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Him to receive christ. and so, it was worth that little bit of sacrifice on my part
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And so, it was worth that little bit of sacrifice on my part to know that now he is spending
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Bit of sacrifice on my part to know that now he is spending eternity with the lord.
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To know that now he is spending eternity with the lord. love is how we treat people.
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Eternity with the lord. love is how we treat people. if we're mediocre,
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Love is how we treat people. if we're mediocre, we'll treat people
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If we're mediocre, we'll treat people with a lack of respect.
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We'll treat people with a lack of respect. if we're excellent,
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With a lack of respect. if we're excellent, we will treat people
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Excellently.
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Excellently. give people compliments,
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Excellently. give people compliments, encourage 'em, build 'em up.
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Give people compliments, encourage 'em, build 'em up. all of these are ways
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Encourage 'em, build 'em up. all of these are ways that we can treat people.
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All of these are ways that we can treat people. have a goal to make everybody
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That we can treat people. have a goal to make everybody that you come near feel
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Have a goal to make everybody that you come near feel better when you've parted ways.
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That you come near feel better when you've parted ways. i heard it said that
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Better when you've parted ways. i heard it said that "when you're with people,
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I heard it said that "when you're with people, they may not remember everything
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"when you're with people, they may not remember everything you said, but they will remember
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They may not remember everything you said, but they will remember how you made them feel."
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You said, but they will remember how you made them feel." to me, it's great,
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How you made them feel." to me, it's great, that we have the ability
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To me, it's great, that we have the ability to make somebody feel good.
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That we have the ability to make somebody feel good. there's so many people
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To make somebody feel good. there's so many people in the world that are
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There's so many people in the world that are depressed and discouraged,
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In the world that are depressed and discouraged, and they're maybe being
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Depressed and discouraged, and they're maybe being mistreated, or they've got
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And they're maybe being mistreated, or they've got all kinds of problems,
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Mistreated, or they've got all kinds of problems, financial problems, different
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All kinds of problems, financial problems, different things weighing them down.
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Financial problems, different things weighing them down. and we can just by giving
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Things weighing them down. and we can just by giving a compliment or saying
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And we can just by giving a compliment or saying something kind to them
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A compliment or saying something kind to them or doing something kind for
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Something kind to them or doing something kind for them can make them feel better.
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Or doing something kind for them can make them feel better. you have the ability
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Them can make them feel better. you have the ability to make people feel better.
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You have the ability to make people feel better. so, make sure you don't
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To make people feel better. so, make sure you don't add to them feeling worse,
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So, make sure you don't add to them feeling worse, because we can also do that.
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Ephesians 3:16, i really
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Ephesians 3:16, i really like this scripture.
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Ephesians 3:16, i really like this scripture. "may he grant you out
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Like this scripture. "may he grant you out of the rich treasury of his
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"may he grant you out of the rich treasury of his glory to be strengthened
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Of the rich treasury of his glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty
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Glory to be strengthened and reinforced with mighty power in the inner man
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And reinforced with mighty power in the inner man by the [holy] spirit
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Power in the inner man by the [holy] spirit [himself indwelling
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By the [holy] spirit [himself indwelling your innermost being
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[himself indwelling your innermost being and personality]."
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Your innermost being and personality]." now, that's the amplified
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And personality]." now, that's the amplified translation.
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Well, what's your personality?
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Well, what's your personality? webster's dictionary says:
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Well, what's your personality? webster's dictionary says: "it's that which makes
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Webster's dictionary says: "it's that which makes you a distinct individual
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"it's that which makes you a distinct individual or the thing that constitutes
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You a distinct individual or the thing that constitutes individuality, the totality
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Or the thing that constitutes individuality, the totality of qualities and traits,
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Individuality, the totality of qualities and traits, such as character and behavior,
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Of qualities and traits, such as character and behavior, that are peculiar
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Such as character and behavior, that are peculiar to an individual."
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That are peculiar to an individual." now, you know,
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To an individual." now, you know, people's personalities is what
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Now, you know, people's personalities is what we run into all the time.
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People's personalities is what we run into all the time. just as an example,
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We run into all the time. just as an example, i have four grown children,
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Just as an example, i have four grown children, and all four of them have
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I have four grown children, and all four of them have a different personality.
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And all four of them have a different personality. now, some of them kinda
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A different personality. now, some of them kinda have the same blends,
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Now, some of them kinda have the same blends, but there's something
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Have the same blends, but there's something different and unique
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But there's something different and unique about each one of them.
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Different and unique about each one of them. and so, usually we want
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About each one of them. and so, usually we want the other person to change
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And so, usually we want the other person to change to do what we want them to do,
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The other person to change to do what we want them to do, so we're comfortable.
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The bible actually tells
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The bible actually tells us in romans 12 that we are
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The bible actually tells us in romans 12 that we are to adapt and "adjust
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Us in romans 12 that we are to adapt and "adjust ourself to other people."
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To adapt and "adjust ourself to other people." wow.
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Ourself to other people." wow. and paul said, "to the jew,
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Wow. and paul said, "to the jew, i'm a jew, to the greek,
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And paul said, "to the jew, i'm a jew, to the greek, i'm a greek.
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I'm a jew, to the greek, i'm a greek. whatever it takes to win them."
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I'm a greek. whatever it takes to win them." so, he was always adjusting
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Whatever it takes to win them." so, he was always adjusting himself to other people.
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I think that's what
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I think that's what god wants us to do.
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I think that's what god wants us to do. so, i adjust to my different
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God wants us to do. so, i adjust to my different children.
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So, i adjust to my different children. i try to meet them where
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Children. i try to meet them where they're at instead of trying
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I try to meet them where they're at instead of trying to make them all be the way
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They're at instead of trying to make them all be the way i would like them
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To make them all be the way i would like them to be or do things
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I would like them to be or do things the way i would like it done.
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To be or do things the way i would like it done. and another thing i don't do,
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The way i would like it done. and another thing i don't do, is i don't try to give my grown
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And another thing i don't do, is i don't try to give my grown children too much advice.
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Is i don't try to give my grown children too much advice. if you do that,
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Children too much advice. if you do that, you're gonna end up with
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If you do that, you're gonna end up with children that are not
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You're gonna end up with children that are not gonna like you very much.
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Our personalities are
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Our personalities are a combination of our
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Our personalities are a combination of our god-given temperament
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A combination of our god-given temperament and things that happen
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God-given temperament and things that happen to us usually in the earlier
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And things that happen to us usually in the earlier years of our life.
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To us usually in the earlier years of our life. often the personality
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Years of our life. often the personality or the soul needs healing.
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Often the personality or the soul needs healing. see, i needed
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Or the soul needs healing. see, i needed healing in my soul.
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See, i needed healing in my soul. i had wounds
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Healing in my soul. i had wounds and bruises in my soul.
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I had wounds and bruises in my soul. and the bible says that
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And bruises in my soul. and the bible says that "he restores our soul."
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And the bible says that "he restores our soul." in psalm 23, it says
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"he restores our soul." in psalm 23, it says "he restores our soul."
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In psalm 23, it says "he restores our soul." well, what is your soul?
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Well, your soul is your mind,
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Well, your soul is your mind, your will, and your emotions.
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Well, your soul is your mind, your will, and your emotions. you see, i couldn't really
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Your will, and your emotions. you see, i couldn't really treat people right because
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You see, i couldn't really treat people right because my mind was all messed up.
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Treat people right because my mind was all messed up. and especially regarding people.
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My mind was all messed up. and especially regarding people. i didn't trust people.
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And especially regarding people. i didn't trust people. i was always afraid that
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I didn't trust people. i was always afraid that they would reject me,
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I was always afraid that they would reject me, so i would reject them first
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They would reject me, so i would reject them first before they got a chance to.
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So i would reject them first before they got a chance to. i wouldn't open up my life
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Before they got a chance to. i wouldn't open up my life and let anybody be really
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I wouldn't open up my life and let anybody be really close to me.
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And let anybody be really close to me. i had not only been
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Close to me. i had not only been hurt by my dad,
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I had not only been hurt by my dad, but i married the first
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Hurt by my dad, but i married the first guy that came along,
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But i married the first guy that came along, and he mistreated me
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Guy that came along, and he mistreated me and ran around with other women.
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And he mistreated me and ran around with other women. and so, i had hurt
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And ran around with other women. and so, i had hurt piled on top of hurt.
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And so, i had hurt piled on top of hurt. and then i met dave,
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Piled on top of hurt. and then i met dave, and dave was wonderful,
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And then i met dave, and dave was wonderful, but i didn't know how
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And dave was wonderful, but i didn't know how to receive the love
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But i didn't know how to receive the love that he tried to give
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To receive the love that he tried to give me because i was always
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That he tried to give me because i was always afraid that i was gonna get
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Me because i was always afraid that i was gonna get hurt if i trusted anybody.
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Afraid that i was gonna get hurt if i trusted anybody. well, god healed me,
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Hurt if i trusted anybody. well, god healed me, and i got over it,
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Well, god healed me, and i got over it, thankfully, because
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And i got over it, thankfully, because we've been married 58 years
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Thankfully, because we've been married 58 years now, and i wouldn't want
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We've been married 58 years now, and i wouldn't want anybody else, no matter
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Now, and i wouldn't want anybody else, no matter who they were.
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Anybody else, no matter who they were. but we went through some
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Who they were. but we went through some rougher times in the beginning,
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But we went through some rougher times in the beginning, and it's a good thing that
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Rougher times in the beginning, and it's a good thing that he was a committed christian,
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And it's a good thing that he was a committed christian, or he probably would
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He was a committed christian, or he probably would have never stayed with
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Or he probably would have never stayed with me because i was pretty
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Have never stayed with me because i was pretty hard to get along with
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Me because i was pretty hard to get along with in the early days.
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Hard to get along with in the early days. and you know what?
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In the early days. and you know what? if you're hard
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And you know what? if you're hard to get along with,
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If you're hard to get along with, you should admit it.
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To get along with, you should admit it. admit it to yourself,
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You should admit it. admit it to yourself, admit it to god,
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Admit it to yourself, admit it to god, and ask god to help you
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Admit it to god, and ask god to help you start changing and stop
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And ask god to help you start changing and stop blaming the way you are
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Start changing and stop blaming the way you are on everybody else, or you don't
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Blaming the way you are on everybody else, or you don't even want to mistreat people
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On everybody else, or you don't even want to mistreat people and then just say, "well,
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Even want to mistreat people and then just say, "well, that's just my personality."
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And then just say, "well, that's just my personality." we can't make excuses for
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That's just my personality." we can't make excuses for doing things the wrong way.
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"the love of god has been
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"the love of god has been shed abroad in our hearts
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"the love of god has been shed abroad in our hearts by the holy ghost," romans 5:5.
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Shed abroad in our hearts by the holy ghost," romans 5:5. and in 1 corinthians 13,
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By the holy ghost," romans 5:5. and in 1 corinthians 13, the bible really tells
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And in 1 corinthians 13, the bible really tells us that no matter what
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The bible really tells us that no matter what we can do or have,
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Us that no matter what we can do or have, if we don't love,
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We can do or have, if we don't love, we're nothing and a nobody.
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If we don't love, we're nothing and a nobody. if every married couple read
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We're nothing and a nobody. if every married couple read 1 corinthians 13:1-8 together
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If every married couple read 1 corinthians 13:1-8 together every morning, we probably
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1 corinthians 13:1-8 together every morning, we probably wouldn't have too many divorces.
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Every morning, we probably wouldn't have too many divorces. 1 corinthians 13: "if i speak
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Wouldn't have too many divorces. 1 corinthians 13: "if i speak in the tongues of men or angels,
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1 corinthians 13: "if i speak in the tongues of men or angels, but don't have love,
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In the tongues of men or angels, but don't have love, i'm only a resounding gong
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But don't have love, i'm only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal,"
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I'm only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal," in other words, a big noise.
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Or a clanging cymbal," in other words, a big noise. "if i have the gift of prophecy
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In other words, a big noise. "if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries
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"if i have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge,
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And can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can
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And all knowledge, and if i have a faith that can move mountains but don't love,
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And if i have a faith that can move mountains but don't love, i am nothing.
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Move mountains but don't love, i am nothing. if i give all that i possess
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I am nothing. if i give all that i possess to the poor and give over
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If i give all that i possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship,
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To the poor and give over my body to hardship, that i might boast,
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My body to hardship, that i might boast, but do not have love,
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That i might boast, but do not have love, i gain nothing."
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But do not have love, i gain nothing." you see, when we give,
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I gain nothing." you see, when we give, we're not giving if we're doing
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You see, when we give, we're not giving if we're doing it to get something for ourself.
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We're not giving if we're doing it to get something for ourself. if you're doing it to be admired
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It to get something for ourself. if you're doing it to be admired or to be seen or to be noticed
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If you're doing it to be admired or to be seen or to be noticed or to impress god or
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Or to be seen or to be noticed or to impress god or whatever it is, we need
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Or to impress god or whatever it is, we need to give out of pure hearts
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Whatever it is, we need to give out of pure hearts just because we want
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To give out of pure hearts just because we want to do two things,
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Just because we want to do two things, obey god and be a blessing
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To do two things, obey god and be a blessing to somebody else.
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Obey god and be a blessing to somebody else. i love to give because i love
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To somebody else. i love to give because i love to make people happy.
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I love to give because i love to make people happy. i love to maybe,
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To make people happy. i love to maybe, hear somebody say that
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I love to maybe, hear somebody say that they'd like to have something,
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Hear somebody say that they'd like to have something, but they can't afford it,
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They'd like to have something, but they can't afford it, and then go out
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But they can't afford it, and then go out and provide that for them.
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And then go out and provide that for them. and those are things that
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And provide that for them. and those are things that you don't have to pray about.
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And those are things that you don't have to pray about. somebody came to me recently
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You don't have to pray about. somebody came to me recently and they knew of somebody
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Somebody came to me recently and they knew of somebody who had extremely bad teeth
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And they knew of somebody who had extremely bad teeth and needed to have all those
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Pulled, and a new set of false
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Pulled, and a new set of false teeth, couldn't afford it.
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Pulled, and a new set of false teeth, couldn't afford it. and the person said to me,
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Teeth, couldn't afford it. and the person said to me, "my husband and i were
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And the person said to me, "my husband and i were wondering if you'd be willing
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"my husband and i were wondering if you'd be willing to split the cost with us."
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Wondering if you'd be willing to split the cost with us." you know, i didn't have
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To split the cost with us." you know, i didn't have to pray about that.
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You know, i didn't have to pray about that. i just said,
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To pray about that. i just said, "yes, i'll do that."
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I just said, "yes, i'll do that." now, if i didn't have the money,
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"yes, i'll do that." now, if i didn't have the money, i couldn't have done it.
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Now, if i didn't have the money, i couldn't have done it. you can't, maybe,
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I couldn't have done it. you can't, maybe, always do things that
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You can't, maybe, always do things that people would like you to do.
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Always do things that people would like you to do. but i used to pray about things,
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People would like you to do. but i used to pray about things, you know, "god, please help
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But i used to pray about things, you know, "god, please help so and so," you know,
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You know, "god, please help so and so," you know, there would have been a time
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So and so," you know, there would have been a time when i would have said,
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There would have been a time when i would have said, "well, i'll pray for them,
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When i would have said, "well, i'll pray for them, that god will provide
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"well, i'll pray for them, that god will provide the money."
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That god will provide the money." and one time the lord spoke
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The money." and one time the lord spoke to my heart and said, "stop
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And one time the lord spoke to my heart and said, "stop asking me to do things that
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To my heart and said, "stop asking me to do things that you could easily do yourself,
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Asking me to do things that you could easily do yourself, but just don't wanna
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You could easily do yourself, but just don't wanna make the sacrifice."
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But just don't wanna make the sacrifice." whoo!
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Make the sacrifice." whoo! that was like a little
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Whoo! that was like a little spiritual spanking.
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That was like a little spiritual spanking. and you know, it's true.
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Spiritual spanking. and you know, it's true. there's so many times when
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And you know, it's true. there's so many times when we've got what it takes
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There's so many times when we've got what it takes to meet the need,
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We've got what it takes to meet the need, but we just don't wanna
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To meet the need, but we just don't wanna let go of our stuff.
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But we just don't wanna let go of our stuff. we want god to touch
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Let go of our stuff. we want god to touch somebody else's heart to do it.
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We want god to touch somebody else's heart to do it. so, don't think that every
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Somebody else's heart to do it. so, don't think that every time you wanna do something
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So, don't think that every time you wanna do something good for somebody,
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Time you wanna do something good for somebody, you've gotta have some
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Good for somebody, you've gotta have some kind of a special word from
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You've gotta have some kind of a special word from god before you go do it.
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Kind of a special word from god before you go do it. god delights in us when
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God before you go do it. god delights in us when we show love to other people.
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"love is patient, love is kind.
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"love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy,
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"love is patient, love is kind. it does not envy, it does not boast,
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It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
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It does not boast, it is not proud. it does not dishonor others,
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It is not proud. it does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,"
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It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking," or selfish.
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It is not self-seeking," or selfish. "it is not easily angered,
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Or selfish. "it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs."
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"it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." i remember dave saying
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It keeps no record of wrongs." i remember dave saying to me one time--
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We'd get in an argument
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We'd get in an argument about something,
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We'd get in an argument about something, and i'd start bringing
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About something, and i'd start bringing up all this stuff from the past.
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And i'd start bringing up all this stuff from the past. and he said, "where do you
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Up all this stuff from the past. and he said, "where do you keep all that stuff?"
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And he said, "where do you keep all that stuff?" because when it was
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Keep all that stuff?" because when it was over for him, it was over.
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Because when it was over for him, it was over. he didn't continue to keep
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Over for him, it was over. he didn't continue to keep it somewhere so he could
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He didn't continue to keep it somewhere so he could throw it up to me the next
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It somewhere so he could throw it up to me the next time we had an argument.
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Throw it up to me the next time we had an argument. but i hung onto things,
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Time we had an argument. but i hung onto things, so i really hadn't forgiven.
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Because "god forgives our sins,
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Because "god forgives our sins, he forgets them,
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Because "god forgives our sins, he forgets them, and he moves them as far
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He forgets them, and he moves them as far as the east is from the west."
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And he moves them as far as the east is from the west." and we need to do that, too.
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As the east is from the west." and we need to do that, too. "love does not delight in evil
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And we need to do that, too. "love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth.
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"love does not delight in evil but rejoices with truth. it always protects,
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But rejoices with truth. it always protects, always trusts, always hopes,
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It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
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Always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." and i love what the amplified
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Always perseveres." and i love what the amplified says, "love always believes
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And i love what the amplified says, "love always believes the best of every person."
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Says, "love always believes the best of every person." and you know what?
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The best of every person." and you know what? i can't tell you how
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And you know what? i can't tell you how much that helped me.
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I can't tell you how much that helped me. i really got ahold of that,
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Much that helped me. i really got ahold of that, three or four years ago.
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I really got ahold of that, three or four years ago. always believe the best
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Three or four years ago. always believe the best of every person.
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Always believe the best of every person. and it can just make you
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Of every person. and it can just make you happy when you believe
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And it can just make you happy when you believe the best of every person.
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Happy when you believe the best of every person. you say, "well,
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The best of every person. you say, "well, what if i believe the best
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You say, "well, what if i believe the best and they really didn't have
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What if i believe the best and they really didn't have the best intention in mind?"
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And they really didn't have the best intention in mind?" well, at least you're happy.
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The best intention in mind?" well, at least you're happy. i'd rather believe the best
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Well, at least you're happy. i'd rather believe the best and be wrong than believe
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I'd rather believe the best and be wrong than believe the worst and be right.
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And be wrong than believe the worst and be right. "god is love."
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The worst and be right. "god is love." it's not something he does,
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"god is love." it's not something he does, it's who he is.
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It's not something he does, it's who he is. and 1 john has a lot
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It's who he is. and 1 john has a lot of information in it about love.
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And 1 john has a lot of information in it about love. and here's one thing
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Of information in it about love. and here's one thing that it says.
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And here's one thing that it says. "no one has ever seen god;
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That it says. "no one has ever seen god; but if we love one another,
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"no one has ever seen god; but if we love one another, god lives in us, and his love
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But if we love one another, god lives in us, and his love is made complete in us."
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God lives in us, and his love is made complete in us." so, when we're showing love
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Is made complete in us." so, when we're showing love or someone showing love to us,
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So, when we're showing love or someone showing love to us, the bible says god is there.
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Or someone showing love to us, the bible says god is there. god abides.
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The bible says god is there. god abides. we can't love without god being
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God abides. we can't love without god being involved because he is love.
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We can't love without god being involved because he is love. so, if you wanna enjoy
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Involved because he is love. so, if you wanna enjoy the presence of god more than
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So, if you wanna enjoy the presence of god more than what you do, just love people
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The presence of god more than what you do, just love people more and more and more.
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What you do, just love people more and more and more. and the bible says
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More and more and more. and the bible says to "put on love," which means
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And the bible says to "put on love," which means you have to do it on purpose.
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To "put on love," which means you have to do it on purpose. i don't get up every day
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You have to do it on purpose. i don't get up every day feeling like i wanna give
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My life away to somebody else.
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My life away to somebody else. but if i just think about
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My life away to somebody else. but if i just think about myself all day, i end up just
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But if i just think about myself all day, i end up just having a miserable day.
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Myself all day, i end up just having a miserable day. but if i will think about
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Having a miserable day. but if i will think about somebody else and what
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But if i will think about somebody else and what i can do for them,
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Somebody else and what i can do for them, it makes me happy.
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I can do for them, it makes me happy. even if i have to give up some
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It makes me happy. even if i have to give up some material thing to do it,
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Even if i have to give up some material thing to do it, it makes me happy.
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Material thing to do it, it makes me happy. and isn't joy what we all want?
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1 john 3:17, "if anyone has
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1 john 3:17, "if anyone has material possessions and sees
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1 john 3:17, "if anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need
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Material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them--"
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A brother or sister in need but has no pity on them--" one translation says,
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But has no pity on them--" one translation says, "and closes their heart
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One translation says, "and closes their heart of compassion."
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"and closes their heart of compassion." "how can the love
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Of compassion." "how can the love of god be in that person?"
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"how can the love of god be in that person?" see, we do have a heart
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Of compassion because
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Of compassion because we have god's heart in us.
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Of compassion because we have god's heart in us. he has put his spirit in us.
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We have god's heart in us. he has put his spirit in us. and so, you might see
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He has put his spirit in us. and so, you might see a need and initially think,
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And so, you might see a need and initially think, "i need to help that person."
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A need and initially think, "i need to help that person." but then maybe, your mind
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"i need to help that person." but then maybe, your mind kicks in, your carnal mind,
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But then maybe, your mind kicks in, your carnal mind, and you start thinking
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Kicks in, your carnal mind, and you start thinking about what it's gonna
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And you start thinking about what it's gonna cost you and how much
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About what it's gonna cost you and how much effort it's gonna take.
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Cost you and how much effort it's gonna take. and you know, sometimes,
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Effort it's gonna take. and you know, sometimes, if you're not careful,
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And you know, sometimes, if you're not careful, you can talk yourself right out
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If you're not careful, you can talk yourself right out of it so quick that you hardly
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You can talk yourself right out of it so quick that you hardly even remember that maybe god
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Of it so quick that you hardly even remember that maybe god was putting it on your heart
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Even remember that maybe god was putting it on your heart to do something about it.
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Was putting it on your heart to do something about it. operating in love is a choice.
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To do something about it. operating in love is a choice. it's not a feeling.
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Operating in love is a choice. it's not a feeling. receive god's love,
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It's not a feeling. receive god's love, love yourself in a balanced way,
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Receive god's love, love yourself in a balanced way, and let that love
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Love yourself in a balanced way, and let that love flow to other people.
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1 john 4:16 is so good.
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1 john 4:16 is so good. it says, "and we know
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1 john 4:16 is so good. it says, "and we know (understand, recognize,
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It says, "and we know (understand, recognize, and are conscious of,
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(understand, recognize, and are conscious of, by observation
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And are conscious of, by observation and by experience)
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By observation and by experience) and believe and (adhere to
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And by experience) and believe and (adhere to and put faith in and rely on)
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And believe and (adhere to and put faith in and rely on) the love that god has for us."
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And put faith in and rely on) the love that god has for us." now, he says, "observe
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The love of god.
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The love of god. be conscious and aware of it."
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The love of god. be conscious and aware of it." do you know how many times,
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Be conscious and aware of it." do you know how many times, every day, god shows you
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Do you know how many times, every day, god shows you love in some special way,
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Every day, god shows you love in some special way, and we don't even notice it?
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Love in some special way, and we don't even notice it? so, i purposely try
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And we don't even notice it? so, i purposely try to catch god loving me.
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So, i purposely try to catch god loving me. and when i--
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To catch god loving me. and when i-- when he does
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And when i-- when he does something special for me,
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When he does something special for me, even if it's something little,
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Something special for me, even if it's something little, i write it down in my journal.
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Even if it's something little, i write it down in my journal. and then i go back sometimes
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I write it down in my journal. and then i go back sometimes and read those journals
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And then i go back sometimes and read those journals and it encourages
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And read those journals and it encourages me all over again.
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And it encourages me all over again. and you know something?
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Me all over again. and you know something? god doesn't love you
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And you know something? god doesn't love you because he has to.
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God doesn't love you because he has to. he doesn't love you
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Because he has to. he doesn't love you because you deserve it.
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Ephesians 1:4 says,
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Ephesians 1:4 says, "for he chose us in him before
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Ephesians 1:4 says, "for he chose us in him before the creation of the world
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"for he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless
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The creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight, in love,"
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God loves us not
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God loves us not because we deserve it,
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God loves us not because we deserve it, but because he wants to.
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Because we deserve it, but because he wants to. he is love.
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But because he wants to. he is love. and love must be pouring
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He is love. and love must be pouring itself out.
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And love must be pouring itself out. why did god create us?
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Itself out. why did god create us? oh, we'll usually hear,
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Why did god create us? oh, we'll usually hear, "well, he wanted somebody
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Oh, we'll usually hear, "well, he wanted somebody to fellowship with," or,
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"well, he wanted somebody to fellowship with," or, "he wanted somebody
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To fellowship with," or, "he wanted somebody to love him."
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"he wanted somebody to love him." no, he wanted somebody to love.
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To love him." no, he wanted somebody to love. if i, were you, i would remind
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No, he wanted somebody to love. if i, were you, i would remind myself at least five or six
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If i, were you, i would remind myself at least five or six times every day, "god loves me.
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Myself at least five or six times every day, "god loves me. he loves me, and i'm special.
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Times every day, "god loves me. he loves me, and i'm special. he created me with
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He loves me, and i'm special. he created me with his own hand."
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He created me with his own hand." and "god, i ask you to let
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His own hand." and "god, i ask you to let the love that you gave me flow
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And "god, i ask you to let the love that you gave me flow through me to other people."
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The love that you gave me flow through me to other people." faith works by love.
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Through me to other people." faith works by love. we talk a lot about faith,
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Faith works by love. we talk a lot about faith, and faith is important because
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We talk a lot about faith, and faith is important because when we pray, we pray in faith.
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And faith is important because when we pray, we pray in faith. or our prayers
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When we pray, we pray in faith. or our prayers won't get answered.
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But in mark 11, the bible says,
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But in mark 11, the bible says, "when you pray and you ask
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But in mark 11, the bible says, "when you pray and you ask for something, if you have
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"when you pray and you ask for something, if you have anything against anyone,
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For something, if you have anything against anyone, you have to (leave it,
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Anything against anyone, you have to (leave it, let it go) and drop it,
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You have to (leave it, let it go) and drop it, or your prayer will
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Let it go) and drop it, or your prayer will not be answered."
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Or your prayer will not be answered." god will not answer
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Not be answered." god will not answer your prayers.
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So, i want you to just
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So, i want you to just do yourself a favor today.
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So, i want you to just do yourself a favor today. and if you have anything
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Do yourself a favor today. and if you have anything against anyone,
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And if you have anything against anyone, if you're harboring any kind
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Against anyone, if you're harboring any kind of unforgiveness in your heart,
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If you're harboring any kind of unforgiveness in your heart, if you're mad at somebody,
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Of unforgiveness in your heart, if you're mad at somebody, if you're angry with somebody,
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If you're mad at somebody, if you're angry with somebody, and i know with
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If you're angry with somebody, and i know with all the people watching today,
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And i know with all the people watching today, there surely are those that
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All the people watching today, there surely are those that are angry with somebody.
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There surely are those that are angry with somebody. you're holding a grudge
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Are angry with somebody. you're holding a grudge against them and you're like,
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You're holding a grudge against them and you're like, "well, joyce, you don't
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Against them and you're like, "well, joyce, you don't know what they did to me."
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"well, joyce, you don't know what they did to me." well, no, i don't know.
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Know what they did to me." well, no, i don't know. but i do know that god has given
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Well, no, i don't know. but i do know that god has given you the ability to forgive them
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But i do know that god has given you the ability to forgive them and to love them.
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You the ability to forgive them and to love them. and that might be just the thing
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And to love them. and that might be just the thing that's needed to change them.
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And that might be just the thing that's needed to change them. thank you for being
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That's needed to change them. thank you for being with us today.
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Thank you for being with us today. we love you.
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With us today. we love you. we really do care about you,
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We love you. we really do care about you, and i want the word of god
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We really do care about you, and i want the word of god to be life-changing for you.
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>> announcer: fruit takes time.
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>> announcer: fruit takes time. it grows through care
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It grows through care and connection.
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And connection. like the branch clings
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Like the branch clings to the vine for life,
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To the vine for life, we too, must stay
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We too, must stay attached to the vine.
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Attached to the vine. cut off, growth fades,
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Cut off, growth fades, and the fruit never comes.
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And the fruit never comes. >> joyce: in john 15,
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>> joyce: in john 15, jesus speaks clearly:
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Jesus speaks clearly: "i am the vine,
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"i am the vine, you are the branches.
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If you remain in me
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If you remain in me and i in you,
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And i in you, you will bear much fruit."
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You will bear much fruit." that fruit is the fruit
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That fruit is the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace,
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Of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
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Patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
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Faithfulness, gentleness,
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Gentleness, and self-control.
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And self-control. when we receive jesus,
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When we receive jesus, we receive the fruit
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We receive the fruit of the spirit.
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Of the spirit. and those qualities take root
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And those qualities take root like seeds as we water them
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Like seeds as we water them with the word and live them out;
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With the word and live them out; they grow stronger.
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They grow stronger. in my book, "fruit of the spirit
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In my book, "fruit of the spirit scriptures," you'll find
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Practical ways to grow through encouragement,
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Through encouragement, powerful scriptures,
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Powerful scriptures, and prayer starters.
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In your life today. >> joyce: i tried
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>> joyce: i tried for many years
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For many years to make the fruit
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To make the fruit of the spirit
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Of the spirit grow in me,
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Grow in me, and it actually caused
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And it actually caused me to fail more
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Me to fail more often than not.
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Often than not. and when i allowed
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And when i allowed god to help me
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God to help me instead of trying
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Instead of trying to force it myself,
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To force it myself, then, and only then,
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Then, and only then, did i begin to make
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Did i begin to make real progress.
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Real progress. my prayer
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My prayer is that this book
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Is that this book of scriptures
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Of scriptures will help you
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Will help you the same way that
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The same way that god's word has
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God's word has impacted my life.
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Impacted my life. and remember,
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Exercise and grow the fruit
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The fruit of the spirit within you.
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Of the spirit within you. and when you give...
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And when you give... or more,
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Or more, you'll receive joyce's book
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You'll receive joyce's book plus 10 hours of her teachings
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Plus 10 hours of her teachings on the fruit of the spirit
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On the fruit of the spirit as a digital download
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As a digital download or on 10 cds,
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Or on 10 cds, your choice.
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Your choice. call us today at...
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Call us today at... or visit us online at:
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Or visit us online at: joycemeyer.org
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Joycemeyer.org to get your book.
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To get your book. and in time
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And in time you'll see it:
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You'll see it: fruit that
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Fruit that changes everything.
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>> joyce: well, rejection
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>> joyce: well, rejection is definitely painful.
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Is definitely painful. it's something we've all
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It's something we've all endured in one way or another.
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Endured in one way or another. >> ginger: our experiences
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>> ginger: our experiences may be different,
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May be different, but the damage is very real.
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But the damage is very real. whether it comes from
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Whether it comes from a stranger, a friend,
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A stranger, a friend, or someone we love,
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Or someone we love, rejection leaves us feeling
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Rejection leaves us feeling unwanted and wounded.
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Unwanted and wounded. >> joyce: we both know how
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>> joyce: we both know how devastating rejection can be.
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Devastating rejection can be. the good news is
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The good news is healing is possible.
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Healing is possible. >> ginger: m-hmm.
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>> ginger: m-hmm. >> joyce: that's why i invited
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>> joyce: that's why i invited ginger to write
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Ginger to write a very important
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A very important book with me,
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Book with me, "healing the wounds
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"healing the wounds of rejection."
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Of rejection." i believe now is the time
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I believe now is the time to overcome those
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To overcome those wounds and embrace
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Wounds and embrace our true identity in christ.
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Our true identity in christ. >> ginger: you may not
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>> ginger: you may not even realize the effects
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Even realize the effects of rejection on your life.
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Of rejection on your life. i know i didn't for a time.
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I know i didn't for a time. but you don't have
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But you don't have to remain stuck
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To remain stuck in the past or let what
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In the past or let what others have done
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Others have done define your worth.
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Define your worth. >> joyce: in our book,
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>> joyce: in our book, we share the truths that
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We share the truths that have helped both of us,
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And the things that
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And the things that we went through.
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We went through. >> ginger: and together,
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>> ginger: and together, we can all move
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We can all move forward with strength
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Forward with strength and confidence.
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And confidence. >> announcer: "healing
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>> announcer: "healing the wounds of rejection"
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The wounds of rejection" by joyce meyer
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By joyce meyer and ginger stache,
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And ginger stache, request your copy today.
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>> announcer: we hope you
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>> announcer: we hope you enjoyed today's program.
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Enjoyed today's program. we are so grateful
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We are so grateful to our joyce meyer
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To our joyce meyer ministries partners
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Ministries partners who make this
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Who make this and all we do possible,
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And all we do possible, including sharing
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Including sharing god's word
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God's word and offering help
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And offering help to people in need
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To people in need all over the world.
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October 7, 2025 | 29:29

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