Joyce Meyer - Self-Control

October 17, 2025 | 29:29

Why is self-control so crucial for your spiritual growth? Today, Joyce wraps up this teaching on the fruit of the Spirit and reveals how this powerful fruit of the Spirit unlocks lasting peace, strength, and victory in your daily life.

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Joyce Meyer: Enjoying Everyday Life | Joyce Meyer - Self-Control | October 17, 2025

>> joyce: what's in us
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>> joyce: what's in us will come out of us.
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>> joyce: what's in us will come out of us. so we have to start
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Will come out of us. so we have to start by controlling what's
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So we have to start by controlling what's in us with god's help.
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>> joyce: i do what
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>> joyce: i do what i do because i've seen god's
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>> joyce: i do what i do because i've seen god's power transform my own life,
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I do because i've seen god's power transform my own life, and he will do it for you.
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Power transform my own life, and he will do it for you. the key to everything
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And he will do it for you. the key to everything is found in god's word.
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The key to everything is found in god's word. i'm joyce meyer,
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Is found in god's word. i'm joyce meyer, and i believe that god can heal
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I'm joyce meyer, and i believe that god can heal you everywhere you hurt.
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>> joyce: thank you
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>> joyce: thank you for joining me today on,
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>> joyce: thank you for joining me today on, "enjoying everyday life."
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For joining me today on, "enjoying everyday life." we care about you,
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"enjoying everyday life." we care about you, we pray for you,
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We care about you, we pray for you, and i hope you pray for us too,
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We pray for you, and i hope you pray for us too, because i need all the prayer
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And i hope you pray for us too, because i need all the prayer help that i can get.
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Because i need all the prayer help that i can get. today i'm gonna talk about--
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Help that i can get. today i'm gonna talk about-- still talking about
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Today i'm gonna talk about-- still talking about the fruit of the spirit.
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Still talking about the fruit of the spirit. this will be the last one.
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Just saved the best
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Just saved the best for the last.
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Just saved the best for the last. the fruit of self-control.
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For the last. the fruit of self-control. >> [audience laughing]
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The fruit of self-control. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: now, they didn't
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: now, they didn't moan this time, because
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>> joyce: now, they didn't moan this time, because i already told--i already told
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Them before what i was
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Them before what i was gonna teach on.
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Them before what i was gonna teach on. but the first time i said it,
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Gonna teach on. but the first time i said it, they went, "augh!"
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But the first time i said it, they went, "augh!" well, you know, anytime you
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They went, "augh!" well, you know, anytime you mention self-control,
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Well, you know, anytime you mention self-control, i mean, it is kind of funny.
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Mention self-control, i mean, it is kind of funny. it's like everybody like,
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I mean, it is kind of funny. it's like everybody like, "augh!"
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It's like everybody like, "augh!" we don't like anything that's
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"augh!" we don't like anything that's hard or anything that hurts.
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We don't like anything that's hard or anything that hurts. but the first thing i want
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Hard or anything that hurts. but the first thing i want you to remember is that
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But the first thing i want you to remember is that self-control is not your enemy.
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You to remember is that self-control is not your enemy. it is your friend.
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Self-control is not your enemy. it is your friend. god has given us the ability--
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It is your friend. god has given us the ability-- god has given us the ability
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God has given us the ability-- god has given us the ability to control ourselves.
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God has given us the ability to control ourselves. we don't have others control.
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To control ourselves. we don't have others control. we have self-control.
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Galatians 5:22-23 tells us what
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Galatians 5:22-23 tells us what the fruit of the spirit is.
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Galatians 5:22-23 tells us what the fruit of the spirit is. "fruit of the spirit is love,
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The fruit of the spirit is. "fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness,
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"fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
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Joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control."
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Goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control." the fruit of the spirit is very
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Gentleness, and self-control." the fruit of the spirit is very important because it's not
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Having a bumper sticker
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Having a bumper sticker on our car, that's gonna
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Having a bumper sticker on our car, that's gonna impress the lost world.
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On our car, that's gonna impress the lost world. it's not wearing a cross
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Impress the lost world. it's not wearing a cross around our neck.
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It's not wearing a cross around our neck. it's not taking your bible
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Around our neck. it's not taking your bible to work to impress everybody.
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It's not taking your bible to work to impress everybody. it's how we act,
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To work to impress everybody. it's how we act, it's how we behave.
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And i believe more strongly
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And i believe more strongly all the time that, you know,
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And i believe more strongly all the time that, you know, people who love god,
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All the time that, you know, people who love god, they want to--they wanna share
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People who love god, they want to--they wanna share the gospel with somebody
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They want to--they wanna share the gospel with somebody because they wanna see
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The gospel with somebody because they wanna see other people saved.
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Because they wanna see other people saved. but so often, if you try
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Other people saved. but so often, if you try to preach to somebody who's
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But so often, if you try to preach to somebody who's already kind of made their
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To preach to somebody who's already kind of made their mind up, they don't want
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Already kind of made their mind up, they don't want anything to do with it,
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Mind up, they don't want anything to do with it, you'll never get
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Anything to do with it, you'll never get a breakthrough with them.
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You'll never get a breakthrough with them. but if you are just, if you're
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A breakthrough with them. but if you are just, if you're kind and nice and helpful,
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You know, the world is not
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You know, the world is not used to anybody helping ‘em.
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You know, the world is not used to anybody helping ‘em. it's like, "oh, no, no, no, no."
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Used to anybody helping ‘em. it's like, "oh, no, no, no, no." and so it's important that we
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It's like, "oh, no, no, no, no." and so it's important that we learn how to control ourselves.
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And so it's important that we learn how to control ourselves. and when you feel like getting
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Learn how to control ourselves. and when you feel like getting angry and telling somebody off,
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And when you feel like getting angry and telling somebody off, that you can control yourself
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Angry and telling somebody off, that you can control yourself and go ahead and behave
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That you can control yourself and go ahead and behave like jesus would.
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Matthew 12:33 says, "make a tree
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Matthew 12:33 says, "make a tree good and its fruit will be good,
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Matthew 12:33 says, "make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit
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Good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree
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Or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit."
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Will be bad, for a tree is recognized by its fruit." one of the first things that
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We need to ask god to help
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We need to ask god to help us with is to control
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We need to ask god to help us with is to control our thoughts.
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Us with is to control our thoughts. because all of our actions
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Our thoughts. because all of our actions come out of thoughts.
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Because all of our actions come out of thoughts. and boy, the devil can slip
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Come out of thoughts. and boy, the devil can slip those thoughts in there.
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And boy, the devil can slip those thoughts in there. and sometimes you can just--
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Those thoughts in there. and sometimes you can just-- i find myself sitting
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And sometimes you can just-- i find myself sitting and thinking for three, four,
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I find myself sitting and thinking for three, four, maybe five minutes about
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And thinking for three, four, maybe five minutes about something that i've got
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Maybe five minutes about something that i've got no business thinking about.
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Something that i've got no business thinking about. and then it's like,
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No business thinking about. and then it's like, "nope, get out of there."
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And then it's like, "nope, get out of there." keep that in mind.
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"nope, get out of there." keep that in mind. the first area where you
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Keep that in mind. the first area where you wanna use self-control--
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The first area where you wanna use self-control-- and pray about it, don't just
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Wanna use self-control-- and pray about it, don't just try to do these things.
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And pray about it, don't just try to do these things. pray about it and ask
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Try to do these things. pray about it and ask for god's help.
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Pray about it and ask for god's help. we can't do these things
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For god's help. we can't do these things on our own.
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We can't do these things on our own. we need divine help.
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We need god's strength,
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We need god's strength, but he will give it to us.
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We need god's strength, but he will give it to us. we can do all things through
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But he will give it to us. we can do all things through christ, who is our strength.
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We can do all things through christ, who is our strength. anything he wants us to do,
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We can do.
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We can do. and anything that he tells
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We can do. and anything that he tells us to do, we can do.
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And anything that he tells us to do, we can do. we can't use the excuse,
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Us to do, we can do. we can't use the excuse, "it's just too hard.
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We can't use the excuse, "it's just too hard. it's just too hard."
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"it's just too hard. it's just too hard." well, it might be hard,
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It's just too hard." well, it might be hard, but it's not too hard because
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Well, it might be hard, but it's not too hard because god will give us the grace.
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But it's not too hard because god will give us the grace. and usually the things that
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God will give us the grace. and usually the things that are gonna help you the most
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And usually the things that are gonna help you the most are the things that the devil
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Are gonna help you the most are the things that the devil will try to make the hardest,
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Are the things that the devil will try to make the hardest, so you just won't do it.
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Will try to make the hardest, so you just won't do it. and we just got finished
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So you just won't do it. and we just got finished talking about humility
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And we just got finished talking about humility in part of this series.
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Talking about humility in part of this series. and yes, it's challenging
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In part of this series. and yes, it's challenging to humble yourself under
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And yes, it's challenging to humble yourself under somebody who is maybe not
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To humble yourself under somebody who is maybe not treating you good or to be meek.
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Somebody who is maybe not treating you good or to be meek. but like we said, meekness
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Treating you good or to be meek. but like we said, meekness is not weakness,
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But like we said, meekness is not weakness, it's strength under control.
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Is not weakness, it's strength under control. i could tell you off,
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It's strength under control. i could tell you off, but i don't have to,
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I could tell you off, but i don't have to, because i have self-control.
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But i don't have to, because i have self-control. i could shut you out of my life
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Because i have self-control. i could shut you out of my life and never let you back in again
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I could shut you out of my life and never let you back in again because you hurt me.
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And never let you back in again because you hurt me. but i don't have
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Because you hurt me. but i don't have to act that way.
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I can act like jesus.
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I can act like jesus. 1 corinthians 2:16 says,
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I can act like jesus. 1 corinthians 2:16 says, "we have the mind of christ,"
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1 corinthians 2:16 says, "we have the mind of christ," so, we need
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"we have the mind of christ," so, we need to be thinking with it.
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I find, and i know you do too.
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I find, and i know you do too. the more positively that
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I find, and i know you do too. the more positively that i think, and the more
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The more positively that i think, and the more lovely my thoughts are,
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I think, and the more lovely my thoughts are, the happier i am.
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Lovely my thoughts are, the happier i am. and i find that getting
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The happier i am. and i find that getting started early in the morning
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And i find that getting started early in the morning is the best way to have
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Started early in the morning is the best way to have the whole day go right.
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Is the best way to have the whole day go right. don't lay in bed half awake
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The whole day go right. don't lay in bed half awake and half asleep, and let
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Don't lay in bed half awake and half asleep, and let the devil use your mind
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And half asleep, and let the devil use your mind as a garbage dump before
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The devil use your mind as a garbage dump before you ever get out of bed.
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As a garbage dump before you ever get out of bed. you know, he loves to start
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You ever get out of bed. you know, he loves to start reminding you in the morning
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You know, he loves to start reminding you in the morning of everything you did
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Reminding you in the morning of everything you did wrong yesterday.
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Of everything you did wrong yesterday. that's when you have to say,
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Wrong yesterday. that's when you have to say, "guilt and condemnation,
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That's when you have to say, "guilt and condemnation, you're not welcome here.
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"guilt and condemnation, you're not welcome here. get out!"
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If a tree is good,
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If a tree is good, its fruit will be good.
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If a tree is good, its fruit will be good. so what's in us will
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Come out of us.
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Come out of us. so we have to start
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Come out of us. so we have to start by controlling what's
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So we have to start by controlling what's in us with god's help.
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By controlling what's in us with god's help. what is self-control?
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In us with god's help. what is self-control? self-control is a fruit
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What is self-control? self-control is a fruit of the spirit that we are
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Self-control is a fruit of the spirit that we are to develop, and choose
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Of the spirit that we are to develop, and choose to operate in.
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To develop, and choose to operate in. we develop it by exercising it.
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To operate in. we develop it by exercising it. that means every time you
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We develop it by exercising it. that means every time you manage to operate in
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That means every time you manage to operate in self-control, you get just
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Manage to operate in self-control, you get just a little tiny bit stronger.
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Self-control, you get just a little tiny bit stronger. god gives us self-control
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A little tiny bit stronger. god gives us self-control so that we can discipline
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God gives us self-control so that we can discipline ourselves.
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So that we can discipline ourselves. unless we discipline ourselves,
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Ourselves. unless we discipline ourselves, we will never have the things
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Unless we discipline ourselves, we will never have the things we say we want.
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We will never have the things we say we want. self-control helps us make
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We say we want. self-control helps us make ourselves do what we should do,
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Self-control helps us make ourselves do what we should do, so we can have what we say
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Ourselves do what we should do, so we can have what we say we want, and be all we say
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So we can have what we say we want, and be all we say we wanna be.
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We want, and be all we say we wanna be. so god has given us that
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We wanna be. so god has given us that fruit of self-control
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So god has given us that fruit of self-control so we can say, “yes,” to him
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Fruit of self-control so we can say, “yes,” to him and “no,” to the devil.
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So we can say, “yes,” to him and “no,” to the devil. so we can think good thoughts
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And “no,” to the devil. so we can think good thoughts and not bad thoughts.
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Believe it or not, you can
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Believe it or not, you can even control your mouth.
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Believe it or not, you can even control your mouth. "no man can tame the tongue."
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From god with that one.
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From god with that one. but the better your
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Your words will be.
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Your words will be. self-control is the art
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Your words will be. self-control is the art of controlling oneself.
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Self-control is the art of controlling oneself. it is impossible to show
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Of controlling oneself. it is impossible to show forth the other eight fruit
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It is impossible to show forth the other eight fruit of the spirit unless you
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Forth the other eight fruit of the spirit unless you develop self-control.
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Now, you know, some people
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Now, you know, some people say, "well, i just don't have
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Now, you know, some people say, "well, i just don't have any self-control."
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Say, "well, i just don't have any self-control." well, that's not true.
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Any self-control." well, that's not true. god has given us all
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Well, that's not true. god has given us all these fruit.
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God has given us all these fruit. we have them.
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These fruit. we have them. we have the seed of this
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We have them. we have the seed of this fruit in our spirit.
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We have the seed of this fruit in our spirit. now, we work with
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Fruit in our spirit. now, we work with the holy spirit to develop
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Now, we work with the holy spirit to develop these things until they come
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The holy spirit to develop these things until they come to full fruition, and they can
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These things until they come to full fruition, and they can be seen by everybody else.
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To full fruition, and they can be seen by everybody else. don't ever groan when somebody
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Be seen by everybody else. don't ever groan when somebody talks to you about self-control.
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Don't ever groan when somebody talks to you about self-control. say, "thank god i have
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Talks to you about self-control. say, "thank god i have self-control."
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Say, "thank god i have self-control." how can we be kind to somebody
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Self-control." how can we be kind to somebody on a day when you just don't
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How can we be kind to somebody on a day when you just don't feel good, and you're
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On a day when you just don't feel good, and you're in a bad mood, and you
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Feel good, and you're in a bad mood, and you want to be left alone?
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In a bad mood, and you want to be left alone? how many of you know the days
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Want to be left alone? how many of you know the days that you want to be left alone,
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How many of you know the days that you want to be left alone, are the days that everybody's
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That you want to be left alone, are the days that everybody's gonna bug you.
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Are the days that everybody's gonna bug you. >> [audience laughing]
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Gonna bug you. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: amen?
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: amen? sometimes my phone rings
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>> joyce: amen? sometimes my phone rings again and i think...
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Sometimes my phone rings again and i think... but then i think, "well,
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Again and i think... but then i think, "well, i'm glad somebody needs me."
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But then i think, "well, i'm glad somebody needs me." amen?
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I'm glad somebody needs me." amen? how can we remain peaceful
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Amen? how can we remain peaceful in trials, unless we exercise
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How can we remain peaceful in trials, unless we exercise self-control?
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In trials, unless we exercise self-control? how can we exercise patience
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Self-control? how can we exercise patience when we're frustrated, unless
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How can we exercise patience when we're frustrated, unless we exercise self-control?
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When we're frustrated, unless we exercise self-control? how can we exercise humility
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We exercise self-control? how can we exercise humility when we're corrected, unless
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How can we exercise humility when we're corrected, unless we operate in self-control?
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When we're corrected, unless we operate in self-control? please notice i'm using
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We operate in self-control? please notice i'm using the term exercise.
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Please notice i'm using the term exercise. we all know very well
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The term exercise. we all know very well how we feel.
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We all know very well how we feel. feel--everybody say, "feel."
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How we feel. feel--everybody say, "feel." how we feel about exercise.
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Feel--everybody say, "feel." how we feel about exercise. but self-control is the art
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How we feel about exercise. but self-control is the art of not living by how you feel,
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But self-control is the art of not living by how you feel, but living by the will of god
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Of not living by how you feel, but living by the will of god and what the word says.
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Now, i'm gonna say that again,
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Now, i'm gonna say that again, just in case you missed it.
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Just in case you missed it. self-control is the art of not
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Self-control is the art of not living by how you feel,
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Living by how you feel, but doing what the word says
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But doing what the word says no matter how you feel.
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No matter how you feel. if you're gonna live by your
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If you're gonna live by your feelings, then you might
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And just mark across
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And just mark across your life “failure”.
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And just mark across your life “failure”. we cannot not have any
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Your life “failure”. we cannot not have any self-control and expect
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We cannot not have any self-control and expect to be a success in anything.
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Self-control and expect to be a success in anything. self-control defined
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To be a success in anything. self-control defined is to be strong in a thing.
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Self-control defined is to be strong in a thing. temperance.
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Is to be strong in a thing. temperance. temperance and appetite,
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Temperance. temperance and appetite, or appetites.
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Temperance and appetite, or appetites. you know, we have appetites
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Or appetites. you know, we have appetites for more than just food.
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You know, we have appetites for more than just food. you can have an appetite
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For more than just food. you can have an appetite for power.
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You can have an appetite for power. you can have an appetite
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For power. you can have an appetite for money.
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You can have an appetite for money. you know, we have more
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For money. you know, we have more appetites than just food.
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You know, we have more appetites than just food. it means moderation.
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Appetites than just food. it means moderation. self-control does not mean
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It means moderation. self-control does not mean that you can never do anything.
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Self-control does not mean that you can never do anything. it means that you
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That you can never do anything. it means that you do it in moderation.
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It means that you do it in moderation. it's not that you can
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Do it in moderation. it's not that you can never have dessert
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It's not that you can never have dessert and maintain a good weight.
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Never have dessert and maintain a good weight. but you cannot have it every
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And maintain a good weight. but you cannot have it every day, and maintain a good weight.
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But you cannot have it every day, and maintain a good weight. it's not what we do once that
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Day, and maintain a good weight. it's not what we do once that becomes a problem in our life,
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It's not what we do once that becomes a problem in our life, it's what we do over and over
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Becomes a problem in our life, it's what we do over and over and over again.
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It's what we do over and over and over again. what does the bible have
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And over again. what does the bible have to say about self-control?
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What does the bible have to say about self-control? well, there's a good example.
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To say about self-control? well, there's a good example. in acts 24, paul was teaching
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Well, there's a good example. in acts 24, paul was teaching a man named felix about
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In acts 24, paul was teaching a man named felix about righteousness, self-control
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A man named felix about righteousness, self-control and judgment.
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And i love this.
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And i love this. as paul talked about
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And i love this. as paul talked about righteousness, self-control,
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As paul talked about righteousness, self-control, and the judgment to come,
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Righteousness, self-control, and the judgment to come, felix was afraid and said,
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And the judgment to come, felix was afraid and said, "that's enough for now!
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Felix was afraid and said, "that's enough for now! you may leave.
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"that's enough for now! you may leave. when i find it more convenient,
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You may leave. when i find it more convenient, i will send for you."
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When i find it more convenient, i will send for you." >> [audience laughing]
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I will send for you." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: don't you think
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That's hilarious?
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That's hilarious? >> [audience laughing]
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That's hilarious? >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: soon as he--soon as,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: soon as he--soon as, you know, we love the "god
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>> joyce: soon as he--soon as, you know, we love the "god wants to bless you" sermons.
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You know, we love the "god wants to bless you" sermons. and "everything you lay your
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Wants to bless you" sermons. and "everything you lay your hand to is gonna prosper.
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And "everything you lay your hand to is gonna prosper. you're gonna succeed.
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Hand to is gonna prosper. you're gonna succeed. all you have to do is pray
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You're gonna succeed. all you have to do is pray and god will answer
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All you have to do is pray and god will answer your prayers."
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And god will answer your prayers." now let's talk about
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Your prayers." now let's talk about self-control.
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Now let's talk about self-control. "aah, go away.
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Self-control. "aah, go away. we'll talk about that
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"aah, go away. we'll talk about that another time."
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We'll talk about that another time." how hard do you think
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Another time." how hard do you think it would be to sell a book
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How hard do you think it would be to sell a book on self-control?
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It would be to sell a book on self-control? wouldn't work.
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On self-control? wouldn't work. the books that i would
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Wouldn't work. the books that i would love to write,
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The books that i would love to write, i probably couldn't sell.
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Love to write, i probably couldn't sell. you try selling a book
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I probably couldn't sell. you try selling a book on patience.
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You try selling a book on patience. but i like that stuff.
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On patience. but i like that stuff. i love to just do the hard
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But i like that stuff. i love to just do the hard stuff and get it over with.
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I love to just do the hard stuff and get it over with. it's not gonna hurt any less
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Stuff and get it over with. it's not gonna hurt any less if you put it off until later,
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It's not gonna hurt any less if you put it off until later, amen?
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Felix became alarmed,
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Felix became alarmed, and he told paul to go away
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Felix became alarmed, and he told paul to go away and come back at a more
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And he told paul to go away and come back at a more convenient time.
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And come back at a more convenient time. we tell god that too, don't we?
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Convenient time. we tell god that too, don't we? i'm just, i mean, i've said
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We tell god that too, don't we? i'm just, i mean, i've said to the lord, "no, not that.
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I'm just, i mean, i've said to the lord, "no, not that. i'm not ready for that yet.
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To the lord, "no, not that. i'm not ready for that yet. bring that one around again
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I'm not ready for that yet. bring that one around again in a couple of years, but i'm
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Not ready for that just yet."
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Not ready for that just yet." well, if god brings something
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Not ready for that just yet." well, if god brings something to you and you know that
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Well, if god brings something to you and you know that he wants you to deal with it,
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To you and you know that he wants you to deal with it, then it is the right time.
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He wants you to deal with it, then it is the right time. god's time is always
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Then it is the right time. god's time is always the right time.
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God's time is always the right time. leaders must be self-controlled
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The right time. leaders must be self-controlled and temperate, willing
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Leaders must be self-controlled and temperate, willing to suffer if need be.
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1 timothy 3:1-5:
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1 timothy 3:1-5: "here is a trustworthy saying:
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1 timothy 3:1-5: "here is a trustworthy saying: whoever aspires to be an
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"here is a trustworthy saying: whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task.
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Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. now, the overseer
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Overseer desires a noble task. now, the overseer is to be above reproach,
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Now, the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate,
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Is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable,
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Faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,
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Self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness,
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Hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle,
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Not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome,
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Not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.
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Not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. he must manage his own family
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Not a lover of money. he must manage his own family well and see that his children
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He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must
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Well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy
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Obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.
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Do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (for if anyone does not know
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Of full respect. (for if anyone does not know how to manage his own family,
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(for if anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care
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How to manage his own family, how can he take care of god's church?)"
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How can he take care of god's church?)" that gives us some good
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Of god's church?)" that gives us some good understanding about some
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That gives us some good understanding about some of the things that we see,
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Understanding about some of the things that we see, even in our churches.
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Of the things that we see, even in our churches. it's like, if we can't manage
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Even in our churches. it's like, if we can't manage ourself, then how are we gonna
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It's like, if we can't manage ourself, then how are we gonna manage anybody else?
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Ourself, then how are we gonna manage anybody else? so we need to do the best that
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Manage anybody else? so we need to do the best that we can to walk in this fruit
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So we need to do the best that we can to walk in this fruit of the spirit, and to represent
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We can to walk in this fruit of the spirit, and to represent jesus in the way that
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Of the spirit, and to represent jesus in the way that he should be represented.
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Jesus in the way that he should be represented. leadership is a big commitment.
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But see, you cannot just
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But see, you cannot just commit yourself to leadership.
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But see, you cannot just commit yourself to leadership. you must commit yourself
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Commit yourself to leadership. you must commit yourself to the lifestyle of a leader.
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You must commit yourself to the lifestyle of a leader. did you get that?
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To the lifestyle of a leader. did you get that? i've even had people tell me,
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Did you get that? i've even had people tell me, "i wouldn't wanna do what
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I've even had people tell me, "i wouldn't wanna do what you're doing because i wouldn't
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"i wouldn't wanna do what you're doing because i wouldn't wanna have to live the life
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You're doing because i wouldn't wanna have to live the life that you have to live in order
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Wanna have to live the life that you have to live in order to be able to do it."
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That you have to live in order to be able to do it." kind of sad really, but that's
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To be able to do it." kind of sad really, but that's basically somebody saying,
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Kind of sad really, but that's basically somebody saying, "i know god would like to take
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Basically somebody saying, "i know god would like to take me further, but i don't wanna
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"i know god would like to take me further, but i don't wanna have to live that way."
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Me further, but i don't wanna have to live that way." you know, obviously being
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Have to live that way." you know, obviously being on television, a lot of people
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You know, obviously being on television, a lot of people know me and recognize me,
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On television, a lot of people know me and recognize me, and so this can't be fake
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Know me and recognize me, and so this can't be fake and phony.
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And so this can't be fake and phony. one time we had done
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And phony. one time we had done a conference, it was at life
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One time we had done a conference, it was at life christian center when i was
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A conference, it was at life christian center when i was just first starting to travel
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Christian center when i was just first starting to travel and do a few things.
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And we had, had an all day
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And we had, had an all day saturday thing and we were
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And we had, had an all day saturday thing and we were going to go to a restaurant
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Saturday thing and we were going to go to a restaurant afterwards with about
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Going to go to a restaurant afterwards with about 12 people and eat.
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Afterwards with about 12 people and eat. and we called the restaurant
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12 people and eat. and we called the restaurant to get a reservation,
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And we called the restaurant to get a reservation, and when we got there--
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To get a reservation, and when we got there-- they gave us one.
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And when we got there-- they gave us one. when we got there they said,
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They gave us one. when we got there they said, "oh, we don't take
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When we got there they said, "oh, we don't take reservations."
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"oh, we don't take reservations." we said, "well, you took ours."
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Reservations." we said, "well, you took ours." "well, there's
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We said, "well, you took ours." "well, there's a 45 minute wait."
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"well, there's a 45 minute wait." okay, we're here,
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A 45 minute wait." okay, we're here, we might as well stay.
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Okay, we're here, we might as well stay. so, we finally got a table
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We might as well stay. so, we finally got a table and it was a big long table,
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So, we finally got a table and it was a big long table, 12 people sitting around.
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That was back in the days when,
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That was back in the days when, you know, people really got
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That was back in the days when, you know, people really got dressed up to go to church.
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You know, people really got dressed up to go to church. and dave had on his nice three
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Dressed up to go to church. and dave had on his nice three piece suit and his tie and just
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And dave had on his nice three piece suit and his tie and just looked all great.
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Piece suit and his tie and just looked all great. and so we gave the waitress
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Looked all great. and so we gave the waitress our drink orders, and she
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And so we gave the waitress our drink orders, and she went and was carrying this,
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Our drink orders, and she went and was carrying this, i mean, this thing that was
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Went and was carrying this, i mean, this thing that was probably this big, it was all
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I mean, this thing that was probably this big, it was all full of drinks.
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Probably this big, it was all full of drinks. and she got behind dave
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Full of drinks. and she got behind dave and didn't have enough room
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And she got behind dave and didn't have enough room between the pole and his chair,
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And didn't have enough room between the pole and his chair, and she dumped them on him.
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Between the pole and his chair, and she dumped them on him. and he was so lovely.
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And she dumped them on him. and he was so lovely. i mean, he said,
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And he was so lovely. i mean, he said, "don't worry about it."
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I mean, he said, "don't worry about it." he even went and got the manager
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"don't worry about it." he even went and got the manager and said, "now, i don't want her
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He even went and got the manager and said, "now, i don't want her to get in trouble for this.
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And said, "now, i don't want her to get in trouble for this. it's not her fault.
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To get in trouble for this. it's not her fault. it's too crowded in here.
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It's not her fault. it's too crowded in here. this was a big table."
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It's too crowded in here. this was a big table." and so she went and got more
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This was a big table." and so she went and got more drinks and brought them
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And so she went and got more drinks and brought them back and you could tell
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Drinks and brought them back and you could tell she'd been crying.
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Back and you could tell she'd been crying. she successfully got the drinks
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She'd been crying. she successfully got the drinks on the table, and then she kind
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She successfully got the drinks on the table, and then she kind of leaned across the table
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On the table, and then she kind of leaned across the table and she said, "i was so nervous
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Of leaned across the table and she said, "i was so nervous because i've been watching
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And she said, "i was so nervous because i've been watching you on television..."
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Because i've been watching you on television..." >> audience: awe...
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You on television..." >> audience: awe... >> joyce: and i thought,
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>> audience: awe... >> joyce: and i thought, “oh, thank god!”
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>> joyce: and i thought, “oh, thank god!” >> [audience laughing]
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“oh, thank god!” >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i did!
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i did! i thought, "oh, thank god
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>> [audience laughing]
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: i remember i was
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I would maybe have a tendency
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I would maybe have a tendency to say, "well...!"
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I would maybe have a tendency to say, "well...!" >> [audience laughing]
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To say, "well...!" >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: "the love of christ
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: "the love of christ compels..."
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>> joyce: "the love of christ compels..." or another word for that,
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Compels..." or another word for that, controls us.
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Or another word for that, controls us. i love that.
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Controls us. i love that. and i believe that.
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I love that. and i believe that. i believe the more you
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And i believe that. i believe the more you fall in love with jesus,
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I believe the more you fall in love with jesus, the more you're willing
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Fall in love with jesus, the more you're willing to do the hard things.
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The more you're willing to do the hard things. because you do it for him,
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To do the hard things. because you do it for him, you're not doing it for
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Because you do it for him, you're not doing it for yourself, but you do it for him.
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2 corinthians 5:14,
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2 corinthians 5:14, "for christ's love compels us,
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2 corinthians 5:14, "for christ's love compels us, because we are convinced
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"for christ's love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all,
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Because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died."
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That one died for all, and therefore all died." in other words, we will
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Have to die to self if we're
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Have to die to self if we're gonna live the life that
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Have to die to self if we're gonna live the life that jesus wants us to live.
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Gonna live the life that jesus wants us to live. and it will hurt
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Jesus wants us to live. and it will hurt in the beginning,
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And it will hurt in the beginning, but honestly and truly,
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In the beginning, but honestly and truly, bad things in us can die.
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But honestly and truly, bad things in us can die. you can kill anything
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Bad things in us can die. you can kill anything by just not feeding it.
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You can kill anything by just not feeding it. and so every time you're
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By just not feeding it. and so every time you're tempted to do the wrong thing,
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And so every time you're tempted to do the wrong thing, or let's say, you know,
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Tempted to do the wrong thing, or let's say, you know, i had a difficult time
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Or let's say, you know, i had a difficult time keeping my mouth shut.
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I had a difficult time keeping my mouth shut. when dave and i would
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Keeping my mouth shut. when dave and i would be in an argument, i always
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When dave and i would be in an argument, i always had to have the last word,
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Be in an argument, i always had to have the last word, gotta have the last word.
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Had to have the last word, gotta have the last word. and so, i started trying so hard
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Gotta have the last word. and so, i started trying so hard to get that under control.
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And so, i started trying so hard to get that under control. and it was so hard
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To get that under control. and it was so hard in the beginning.
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And it was so hard in the beginning. but gradually, little by little
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In the beginning. but gradually, little by little by little, i got to the point
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But gradually, little by little by little, i got to the point where it doesn't hurt
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By little, i got to the point where it doesn't hurt so much anymore.
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Where it doesn't hurt so much anymore. and i still get tested,
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So much anymore. and i still get tested, because believe it or not,
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And i still get tested, because believe it or not, he's not perfect...
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Because believe it or not, he's not perfect... >> [audience laughing]
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He's not perfect... >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but almost, i mean,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: but almost, i mean, just a little--just a little
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>> joyce: but almost, i mean, just a little--just a little squinch left there.
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Just a little--just a little squinch left there. he has hearing aids
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Squinch left there. he has hearing aids and he won't wear them.
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He has hearing aids and he won't wear them. he wore them today.
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And he won't wear them. he wore them today. i said, "when do you decide
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He wore them today. i said, "when do you decide to wear them?"
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I said, "when do you decide to wear them?" he said, "well, i'm just wearing
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To wear them?" he said, "well, i'm just wearing them so i can hear you today."
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He said, "well, i'm just wearing them so i can hear you today." >> [audience laughing]
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Them so i can hear you today." >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: so, in other words,
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: so, in other words, he doesn't wear them at home,
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>> joyce: so, in other words, he doesn't wear them at home, cause he don't wanna hear me.
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He doesn't wear them at home, cause he don't wanna hear me. >> [audience laughing]
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Cause he don't wanna hear me. >> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he said, "i have
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>> [audience laughing] >> joyce: he said, "i have selective hearing."
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>> joyce: he said, "i have selective hearing." the more you love jesus,
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Selective hearing." the more you love jesus, the more you'll be willing
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The more you love jesus, the more you'll be willing to obey him.
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The more you'll be willing to obey him. amen?
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The amplified says "for the love
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The amplified says "for the love of christ controls and urges
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The amplified says "for the love of christ controls and urges and impels us, because we are
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Of christ controls and urges and impels us, because we are of the opinion and conviction
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And impels us, because we are of the opinion and conviction that [if] one died for all,
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Of the opinion and conviction that [if] one died for all, then all died."
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That [if] one died for all, then all died." and you know, i do many things,
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Then all died." and you know, i do many things, and i'm sure you do too,
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And you know, i do many things, and i'm sure you do too, for the love of god,
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And i'm sure you do too, for the love of god, that you might not do,
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For the love of god, that you might not do, for anybody else.
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That you might not do, for anybody else. that's why if you're battling
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For anybody else. that's why if you're battling with something, instead
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That's why if you're battling with something, instead of trying real hard to change
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With something, instead of trying real hard to change yourself, just spend more time
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Of trying real hard to change yourself, just spend more time with god, love on him more,
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Yourself, just spend more time with god, love on him more, and let him love you more.
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With god, love on him more, and let him love you more. and the more you love him,
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And let him love you more. and the more you love him, the more you're gonna want
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And the more you love him, the more you're gonna want to do what he wants you to do.
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I love this.
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I love this. job said--he said he was full
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I love this. job said--he said he was full of words to the point of feeling
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Job said--he said he was full of words to the point of feeling like he was gonna burst open.
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Of words to the point of feeling like he was gonna burst open. but he also said, "the spirit
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Like he was gonna burst open. but he also said, "the spirit within me constrains me."
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But he also said, "the spirit within me constrains me." i love that.
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He wanted to say something
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He wanted to say something so bad that he thought
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He wanted to say something so bad that he thought he was gonna burst,
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So bad that he thought he was gonna burst, but the holy spirit in him,
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He was gonna burst, but the holy spirit in him, the spirit of self-control,
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But the holy spirit in him, the spirit of self-control, kept him from doing
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The spirit of self-control, kept him from doing the wrong thing.
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Kept him from doing the wrong thing. everybody say,
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The wrong thing. everybody say, "self-control is my friend."
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Proverbs 1:15, "my son, do not
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Proverbs 1:15, "my son, do not walk in the way with them;
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Proverbs 1:15, "my son, do not walk in the way with them; restrain your foot
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Walk in the way with them; restrain your foot from their path."
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Restrain your foot from their path." you know, if all your friends
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Are going to a movie that you
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Are going to a movie that you know you really shouldn't
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Are going to a movie that you know you really shouldn't go see, just tell them
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Know you really shouldn't go see, just tell them you don't wanna go.
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Go see, just tell them you don't wanna go. you know, there's a lot
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You don't wanna go. you know, there's a lot of things that everybody
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You know, there's a lot of things that everybody you know may do, and doesn't
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Of things that everybody you know may do, and doesn't bother them at all.
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You know may do, and doesn't bother them at all. but if you don't feel it's right
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Bother them at all. but if you don't feel it's right for you, then you need
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But if you don't feel it's right for you, then you need to do what you feel is right.
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For you, then you need to do what you feel is right. and then you need to not judge
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To do what you feel is right. and then you need to not judge them, because maybe they don't
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And then you need to not judge them, because maybe they don't feel that it's wrong for them.
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Them, because maybe they don't feel that it's wrong for them. but if you feel it's not right
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Feel that it's wrong for them. but if you feel it's not right for you, then you
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But if you feel it's not right for you, then you should not do it .
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For you, then you should not do it . and don't use the excuse,
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Should not do it . and don't use the excuse, "well, they do it,
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And don't use the excuse, "well, they do it, and they do it, and they do it."
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"well, they do it, and they do it, and they do it." i tried that one time and god
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And they do it, and they do it." i tried that one time and god said, "well you're not gonna--
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I tried that one time and god said, "well you're not gonna-- you're not accountable
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Said, "well you're not gonna-- you're not accountable for anybody but you.
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You're not accountable for anybody but you. so you don't worry about what
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For anybody but you. so you don't worry about what they're doing, you just
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So you don't worry about what they're doing, you just do what i'm telling you to."
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"in a multitude of words
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"in a multitude of words transgression is not lacking,
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"in a multitude of words transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains
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Transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is prudent."
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But he who restrains his lips is prudent." and one last one,
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Proverbs 19:11, "good sense
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Proverbs 19:11, "good sense makes a man restrain his anger,
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Proverbs 19:11, "good sense makes a man restrain his anger, but it is his glory to overlook
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Makes a man restrain his anger, but it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense."
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But it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense." god, we ask you
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To help us develop
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To help us develop the fruit of self-control
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To help us develop the fruit of self-control that you've placed in us.
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The fruit of self-control that you've placed in us. help us be able to say
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That you've placed in us. help us be able to say no to things that we know
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Help us be able to say no to things that we know are wrong, not get legalistic
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No to things that we know are wrong, not get legalistic and begin to think we can't
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Are wrong, not get legalistic and begin to think we can't do anything, but to do all
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And begin to think we can't do anything, but to do all things in moderation.
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Do anything, but to do all things in moderation. thank you lord, in jesus' name,
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Things in moderation. thank you lord, in jesus' name, amen.
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Thank you lord, in jesus' name, amen. well, thank you.
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Amen. well, thank you. >> [audience applauding]
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>> announcer: fruit takes time.
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>> announcer: fruit takes time. it grows through care
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It grows through care and connection.
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And connection. like the branch clings
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Like the branch clings to the vine for life,
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To the vine for life, we too, must stay
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We too, must stay attached to the vine.
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Attached to the vine. cut off, growth fades,
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Cut off, growth fades, and the fruit never comes.
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And the fruit never comes. >> joyce: in john 15,
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>> joyce: in john 15, jesus speaks clearly:
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Jesus speaks clearly: "i am the vine,
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"i am the vine, you are the branches.
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You are the branches.
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If you remain in me
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If you remain in me and i in you,
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And i in you, you will bear much fruit."
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You will bear much fruit." that fruit is the fruit
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That fruit is the fruit of the spirit: love, joy, peace,
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Of the spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness,
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Patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,
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Faithfulness, gentleness,
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Gentleness, and self-control.
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And self-control. when we receive jesus,
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When we receive jesus, we receive the fruit
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We receive the fruit of the spirit.
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Of the spirit. and those qualities take root
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And those qualities take root like seeds as we water them
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Like seeds as we water them with the word and live them out;
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With the word and live them out; they grow stronger.
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They grow stronger. in my book, "fruit of the spirit
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In my book, "fruit of the spirit scriptures," you'll find
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Scriptures," you'll find practical ways to grow
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Practical ways to grow through encouragement,
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Through encouragement, powerful scriptures,
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Powerful scriptures, and prayer starters.
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And prayer starters. >> announcer: joyce's book
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>> announcer: joyce's book "fruit of the spirit
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"fruit of the spirit scriptures" is available
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Scriptures" is available to you right now,
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To you right now, for your gift of...
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For your gift of... or more.
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And when you give...
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And when you give... or more,
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Or more, you'll receive joyce's book,
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You'll receive joyce's book, plus 10 hours
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Plus 10 hours of her teachings
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Of her teachings on the fruit
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On the fruit of the spirit
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Of the spirit as a digital download
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As a digital download or on 10 cds,
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Or on 10 cds, your choice.
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Your choice. call us today at...
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To get your book, and start developing
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And start developing the fruit of the spirit
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The fruit of the spirit in your life today.
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In your life today. >> joyce: i tried
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>> joyce: i tried for many years
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For many years to make the fruit
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To make the fruit of the spirit
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Of the spirit grow in me,
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Grow in me, and it actually caused
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And it actually caused me to fail more
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Me to fail more often than not.
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Often than not. and when i allowed
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And when i allowed god to help me
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God to help me instead of trying
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Instead of trying to force it myself,
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To force it myself, then, and only then,
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Then, and only then, did i begin to make
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Did i begin to make real progress.
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Real progress. my prayer
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My prayer is that this book
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Is that this book of scriptures
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Of scriptures will help you
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Will help you the same way that
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The same way that god's word has
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God's word has impacted my life.
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Impacted my life. and remember,
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And remember, your financial gift will
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Your financial gift will help make a difference
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Help make a difference all around the world,
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All around the world, reaching the lost,
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Reaching the lost, feeding the hungry,
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Feeding the hungry, and helping women
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And helping women and girls find freedom.
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And girls find freedom. so, please do your best.
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So, please do your best. >> announcer: your
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>> announcer: your donation of...
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Donation of... or more for
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Or more for joyce's book,
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Joyce's book, "fruit of the spirit
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"fruit of the spirit scriptures"
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Scriptures" can help you
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Can help you exercise and grow
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Exercise and grow the fruit
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The fruit of the spirit within you.
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Of the spirit within you. and when you give...
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And when you give... or more,
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Or more, you'll receive joyce's book
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You'll receive joyce's book plus 10 hours of her teachings
00:25:14.736 --> 00:25:16.705
Plus 10 hours of her teachings on the fruit of the spirit
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On the fruit of the spirit as a digital download
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As a digital download or on 10 cds,
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Or on 10 cds, your choice.
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Your choice. call us today at...
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Call us today at... or visit us online at:
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Or visit us online at: joycemeyer.org
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Joycemeyer.org to get your book.
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To get your book. and in time
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And in time you'll see it:
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You'll see it: fruit that
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Fruit that changes everything.
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>> ginger: we certainly hope
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>> ginger: we certainly hope you have enjoyed this week
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>> ginger: we certainly hope you have enjoyed this week as we completed the often
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You have enjoyed this week as we completed the often sweet but sometimes
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As we completed the often sweet but sometimes challenging aspects
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Sweet but sometimes challenging aspects of the fruit of the spirit.
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Challenging aspects of the fruit of the spirit. joyce just makes it so practical
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Of the fruit of the spirit. joyce just makes it so practical and so easy to understand it.
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Joyce just makes it so practical and so easy to understand it. and now, it's time for you
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And so easy to understand it. and now, it's time for you to live it out.
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And now, it's time for you to live it out. these fruits are meant
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To live it out. these fruits are meant to be lived, practiced
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These fruits are meant to be lived, practiced and shared and we can
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To be lived, practiced and shared and we can only do it as we are led
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And shared and we can only do it as we are led by god's spirit.
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Only do it as we are led by god's spirit. so ask him to keep your
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By god's spirit. so ask him to keep your roots deep, your growth
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So ask him to keep your roots deep, your growth steady, and your heart
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Roots deep, your growth steady, and your heart close to him.
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Steady, and your heart close to him. we love you and we will
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Close to him. we love you and we will see you next week.
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We love you and we will see you next week. bye bye.
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>> joyce: well, rejection
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>> joyce: well, rejection is definitely painful.
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Is definitely painful. it's something we've all
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It's something we've all endured in one way or another.
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Endured in one way or another. >> ginger: our experiences
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>> ginger: our experiences may be different,
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May be different, but the damage is very real.
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But the damage is very real. whether it comes from
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Whether it comes from a stranger, a friend,
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A stranger, a friend, or someone we love,
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Or someone we love, rejection leaves us feeling
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Rejection leaves us feeling unwanted and wounded.
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Unwanted and wounded. >> joyce: we both know how
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>> joyce: we both know how devastating rejection can be.
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Devastating rejection can be. the good news is
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The good news is healing is possible.
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Healing is possible. >> ginger: m-hmm.
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>> ginger: m-hmm. >> joyce: that's why i invited
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>> joyce: that's why i invited ginger to write
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Ginger to write a very important
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A very important book with me,
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Book with me, "healing the wounds
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"healing the wounds of rejection."
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Of rejection." i believe now is the time
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I believe now is the time to overcome those
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To overcome those wounds and embrace
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Wounds and embrace our true identity in christ.
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Our true identity in christ. >> ginger: you may not
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>> ginger: you may not even realize the effects
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Even realize the effects of rejection on your life.
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Of rejection on your life. i know i didn't for a time.
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I know i didn't for a time. but you don't have
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But you don't have to remain stuck
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To remain stuck in the past or let what
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In the past or let what others have done
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Others have done define your worth.
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Define your worth. >> joyce: in our book,
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>> joyce: in our book, we share the truths that
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We share the truths that have helped both of us,
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And the things that
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And the things that we went through.
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We went through. >> ginger: and together,
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>> ginger: and together, we can all move
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We can all move forward with strength
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Forward with strength and confidence.
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And confidence. >> announcer: "healing
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>> announcer: "healing the wounds of rejection"
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The wounds of rejection" by joyce meyer
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By joyce meyer and ginger stache.
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And ginger stache. request your copy today.
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>> announcer: we hope you
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>> announcer: we hope you enjoyed today's program.
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Enjoyed today's program.
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We are so grateful
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We are so grateful to our joyce meyer
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To our joyce meyer ministries partners
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Ministries partners who make this
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Who make this and all we do possible,
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And all we do possible, including sharing
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Including sharing god's word
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God's word and offering help
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And offering help to people in need
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To people in need all over the world.
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Joyce Meyer - Self-Control

October 17, 2025 | 29:29

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