Kayla Stoecklein - Rebuilding Beautiful

October 25, 2022 | 215 | 27:29

A pastor's wife who lost her lost her husband to suicide shares moments from her healing journey.

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Life Today with James Robison | Kayla Stoecklein - Rebuilding Beautiful | October 25, 2022
  • Coming up on life today,
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  • Kayla stoecklein became a widow
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  • When her pastor/husband died by suicide.
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  • >> and after we moved, i had this moment
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  • Where i was standing in my living room
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  • And i said these words out loud.
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  • I said, "i chose this."
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  • And it was this powerful moment
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  • Because when andrew died,
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  • It felt like life just happened to me.
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  • It was at this moment that i realized for the first time,
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  • I chose healing.
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  • I chose to rebuild my life.
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  • James: i'm glad to get
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  • James: i'm glad to get to come into your home.
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  • James: i'm glad to get to come into your home. please just focus
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  • To come into your home. please just focus your attention here.
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  • Please just focus your attention here. i'm james.
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  • Your attention here. i'm james. this is betty,
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  • I'm james. this is betty, and she's beautiful.
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  • We have a beautiful guest
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  • We have a beautiful guest and she has a book titled
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  • We have a beautiful guest and she has a book titled rebuilding beautiful .
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  • And she has a book titled rebuilding beautiful . and although she is beautiful,
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  • Rebuilding beautiful . and although she is beautiful, you're going to find out
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  • And although she is beautiful, you're going to find out the beautiful
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  • You're going to find out the beautiful she is talking about.
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  • The beautiful she is talking about. if you could only see yourself
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  • She is talking about. if you could only see yourself the way god sees you
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  • If you could only see yourself the way god sees you and the potential
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  • The way god sees you and the potential for magnificence and beauty
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  • And the potential for magnificence and beauty beyond anything
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  • For magnificence and beauty beyond anything you had ever dreamed of.
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  • Beyond anything you had ever dreamed of. i think that's what kayla
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  • You had ever dreamed of. i think that's what kayla wants to help with.
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  • I think that's what kayla wants to help with. imagine losing
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  • Wants to help with. imagine losing your pastor/husband
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  • Imagine losing your pastor/husband to suicide.
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  • Your pastor/husband to suicide. that's a rough start.
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  • To suicide. that's a rough start. how do you rebuild beautiful?
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  • That's a rough start. how do you rebuild beautiful? well, kayla stocklean?
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  • How do you rebuild beautiful? well, kayla stocklean? kayla: stek-line.
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  • Well, kayla stocklean? kayla: stek-line. james: stek-line?
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  • Kayla: stek-line. james: stek-line? kayla: uh-huh.
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  • James: stek-line? kayla: uh-huh. james: i have to help people
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  • Kayla: uh-huh. james: i have to help people know how to say "robison."
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  • James: i have to help people know how to say "robison." they say, robinson,
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  • Know how to say "robison." they say, robinson, robe-son, robertson
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  • They say, robinson, robe-son, robertson but hardly ever robison.
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  • Robe-son, robertson but hardly ever robison. so you and i know
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  • But hardly ever robison. so you and i know what it is to help.
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  • So you and i know what it is to help. say it again.
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  • What it is to help. say it again. kayla: stek-line.
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  • Say it again. kayla: stek-line. james: that's interesting.
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  • Kayla: stek-line. james: that's interesting. kayla: you move
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  • James: that's interesting. kayla: you move some of those vowels around.
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  • Kayla: you move some of those vowels around. james: yeah,
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  • Some of those vowels around. james: yeah, just looking at that,
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  • James: yeah, just looking at that, what heritage or background?
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  • Just looking at that, what heritage or background? kayla: i think it's german.
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  • What heritage or background? kayla: i think it's german. james: i was going
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  • Kayla: i think it's german. james: i was going to guess that.
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  • James: i was going to guess that. kayla, what happened
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  • To guess that. kayla, what happened when your husband --
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  • Kayla, what happened when your husband -- for you to find him
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  • Kayla: so a little over
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  • Kayla: so a little over four years ago,
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  • Four years ago, i was living my dream life.
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  • I was living my dream life. i really truly had everything
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  • And more.
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  • And more. married to my dream guy,
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  • And more. married to my dream guy, we're leading a thriving
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  • Married to my dream guy, we're leading a thriving and growing ministry
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  • We're leading a thriving and growing ministry in southern california
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  • And growing ministry in southern california at a church
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  • In southern california at a church called inland hills church.
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  • At a church called inland hills church. life isn't easy
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  • Called inland hills church. life isn't easy but it is beautiful
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  • Life isn't easy but it is beautiful and meaningful
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  • But it is beautiful and meaningful and full of purpose.
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  • And meaningful and full of purpose. and then in 2017,
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  • And full of purpose. and then in 2017, he got sick.
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  • And then in 2017, he got sick. i really believe he burned out
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  • He got sick. i really believe he burned out after many years
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  • I really believe he burned out after many years of running fast
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  • After many years of running fast and running hard
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  • Of running fast and running hard and taking over a church
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  • And running hard and taking over a church at a very young age
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  • And taking over a church at a very young age and watching his dad die.
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  • At a very young age and watching his dad die. we had been through a lot.
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  • And watching his dad die. we had been through a lot. so it all kind of
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  • We had been through a lot. so it all kind of caught up with him
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  • So it all kind of caught up with him and he started having
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  • Caught up with him and he started having these panic attacks,
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  • And he started having these panic attacks, and these panic attacks
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  • These panic attacks, and these panic attacks led to a depression diagnosis
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  • And these panic attacks led to a depression diagnosis in the spring of 2018.
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  • Led to a depression diagnosis in the spring of 2018. we were doing everything
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  • In the spring of 2018. we were doing everything we knew to do to support him
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  • We were doing everything we knew to do to support him and help him.
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  • We knew to do to support him and help him. he was seeing a therapist,
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  • And help him. he was seeing a therapist, seeing a psychiatrist,
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  • He was seeing a therapist, seeing a psychiatrist, taking medication,
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  • Seeing a psychiatrist, taking medication, taking time off work,
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  • Taking medication, taking time off work, on a sabbatical,
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  • Taking time off work, on a sabbatical, and spending time
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  • On a sabbatical, and spending time with mentors.
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  • And spending time with mentors. you name it,
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  • With mentors. you name it, we were trying it,
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  • You name it, we were trying it, and we thought
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  • We were trying it, and we thought he was getting better.
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  • And we thought he was getting better. so he was released
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  • He was getting better. so he was released to go back to work
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  • So he was released to go back to work in the fall of 2018,
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  • To go back to work in the fall of 2018, august of 2018,
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  • In the fall of 2018, august of 2018, and hit the ground running.
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  • August of 2018, and hit the ground running. gave two powerful messages
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  • And hit the ground running. gave two powerful messages on mental health;
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  • Gave two powerful messages on mental health; talked about depression,
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  • On mental health; talked about depression, talked about suicide,
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  • Talked about depression, talked about suicide, gave out
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  • Talked about suicide, gave out the suicide hotline number,
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  • Gave out the suicide hotline number, and quoted stats
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  • The suicide hotline number, and quoted stats from the nami website.
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  • And quoted stats from the nami website. like out of anybody
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  • From the nami website. like out of anybody he would have known
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  • Like out of anybody he would have known where to go for help.
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  • He would have known where to go for help. and then headed
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  • Where to go for help. and then headed into the third weekend,
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  • And then headed into the third weekend, had a really bad day
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  • Into the third weekend, had a really bad day at the office.
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  • Had a really bad day at the office. we all know what it is like
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  • At the office. we all know what it is like to have a really bad day
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  • We all know what it is like to have a really bad day at work, and his mind
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  • To have a really bad day at work, and his mind was still very fragile,
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  • At work, and his mind was still very fragile, much more fragile
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  • Was still very fragile, much more fragile than i think he realized
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  • Much more fragile than i think he realized and i think we realized
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  • Than i think he realized and i think we realized as well.
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  • And i think we realized as well. and so the following day
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  • As well. and so the following day while we were away from him
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  • And so the following day while we were away from him trying to make
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  • While we were away from him trying to make the arrangements and check
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  • Trying to make the arrangements and check all the boxes, we knew
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  • The arrangements and check all the boxes, we knew that he needed more help
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  • All the boxes, we knew that he needed more help so trying to get
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  • That he needed more help so trying to get a guest speaker for sunday,
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  • So trying to get a guest speaker for sunday, and tried to maybe
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  • A guest speaker for sunday, and tried to maybe find an inpatient place
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  • And tried to maybe find an inpatient place for him to go.
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  • Find an inpatient place for him to go. while we were away from him
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  • For him to go. while we were away from him for just a little bit,
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  • While we were away from him for just a little bit, he attempted suicide.
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  • For just a little bit, he attempted suicide. and it was
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  • He attempted suicide. and it was an absolute blind side;
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  • And it was an absolute blind side; the worst moment of my life
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  • An absolute blind side; the worst moment of my life finding out that
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  • The worst moment of my life finding out that that happened.
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  • Finding out that that happened. and so he was rushed
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  • That happened. and so he was rushed to the hospital
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  • And so he was rushed to the hospital and they ran a bunch of tests
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  • To the hospital and they ran a bunch of tests and delivered
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  • And they ran a bunch of tests and delivered the most horrific news
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  • And delivered the most horrific news that there was nothing
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  • The most horrific news that there was nothing they could do to save him.
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  • That there was nothing they could do to save him. so on august 25th, 2018,
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  • They could do to save him. so on august 25th, 2018, he took his last breath.
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  • So on august 25th, 2018, he took his last breath. and with that,
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  • He took his last breath. and with that, i took my first in this life
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  • And with that, i took my first in this life that i never saw coming
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  • I took my first in this life that i never saw coming as a widow at 29 years old
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  • That i never saw coming as a widow at 29 years old with three little boys
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  • As a widow at 29 years old with three little boys who were two, four, and five.
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  • James: oh god!
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  • James: oh god! first of all, i want to say
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  • First of all, i want to say thank you for your grace
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  • Thank you for your grace that kayla can sit here,
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  • That kayla can sit here, and my heart breaks.
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  • When i was so exhausted
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  • When i was so exhausted and burned out
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  • When i was so exhausted and burned out in my mid-30s
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  • And burned out in my mid-30s that i didn't want to live.
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  • In my mid-30s that i didn't want to live. and i told the whole world.
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  • That i didn't want to live. and i told the whole world. a lot of people said
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  • And i told the whole world. a lot of people said you tell too much
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  • A lot of people said you tell too much but i told where i was.
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  • You tell too much but i told where i was. and prayer
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  • But i told where i was. and prayer and god's delivering power
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  • And prayer and god's delivering power did for me what didn't happen
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  • And god's delivering power did for me what didn't happen for kayla's wonderful husband.
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  • Did for me what didn't happen for kayla's wonderful husband. now i want you to take us
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  • For kayla's wonderful husband. now i want you to take us on the journey
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  • Now i want you to take us on the journey of rebuilding beautiful .
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  • On the journey of rebuilding beautiful . tell us what you're learning,
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  • Of rebuilding beautiful . tell us what you're learning, what you've learned
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  • Tell us what you're learning, what you've learned that would inspire the book,
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  • What you've learned that would inspire the book, and what you want people
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  • That would inspire the book, and what you want people to hear not only from you now
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  • And what you want people to hear not only from you now but when they read the book
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  • To hear not only from you now but when they read the book which i pray you will.
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  • But when they read the book which i pray you will. kayla: so those two words
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  • Which i pray you will. kayla: so those two words rebuilding beautiful
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  • Kayla: so those two words rebuilding beautiful were born in this conversation
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  • Rebuilding beautiful were born in this conversation that i had
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  • I was sitting
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  • I was sitting on my front porch,
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  • On my front porch, on my front porch swing,
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  • On my front porch swing, and i was talking to her
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  • And i was talking to her on the phone.
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  • On the phone. i was explaining to her
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  • I was explaining to her how i had this beautiful life.
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  • I could have ever asked for
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  • I could have ever asked for and more, and it is like
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  • I could have ever asked for and more, and it is like that entire life died
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  • And more, and it is like that entire life died with andrew.
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  • That entire life died with andrew. and i was handed
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  • With andrew. and i was handed this brand-new life
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  • And i was handed this brand-new life i never saw coming,
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  • This brand-new life i never saw coming, and i so deeply wanted
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  • I never saw coming, and i so deeply wanted to believe
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  • And i so deeply wanted to believe that this new life,
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  • To believe that this new life, even though it looked
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  • That this new life, even though it looked vastly different than before,
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  • Even though it looked vastly different than before, could still be beautiful too.
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  • Vastly different than before, could still be beautiful too. i said the words out loud.
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  • Could still be beautiful too. i said the words out loud. i said, "it's as if
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  • I said the words out loud. i said, "it's as if i'm rebuilding beautiful ."
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  • I said, "it's as if i'm rebuilding beautiful ." and when those two words
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  • I'm rebuilding beautiful ." and when those two words came flowing out of my mouth
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  • And when those two words came flowing out of my mouth i knew they were
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  • Came flowing out of my mouth i knew they were so much bigger than me.
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  • I knew they were so much bigger than me. i knew they carried
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  • So much bigger than me. i knew they carried a powerful message of hope,
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  • And i knew they were going
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  • And i knew they were going to stick around for a while.
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  • Fear gone wild
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  • Fear gone wild i was asking god what's next.
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  • I was asking god what's next. and i kept hearing
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  • Rebuilding beautiful .
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  • Rebuilding beautiful . the person that i thought of
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  • Rebuilding beautiful . the person that i thought of as i was writing this book
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  • The person that i thought of as i was writing this book was the person like me
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  • As i was writing this book was the person like me that's in this life,
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  • Was the person like me that's in this life, in this life
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  • That's in this life, in this life that you never saw coming.
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  • In this life that you never saw coming. maybe the suicide happened,
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  • That you never saw coming. maybe the suicide happened, maybe the loss happened,
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  • Maybe the suicide happened, maybe the loss happened, maybe the divorce happened,
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  • Maybe the loss happened, maybe the divorce happened, maybe it was the death
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  • Maybe the divorce happened, maybe it was the death of a loved one,
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  • Maybe it was the death of a loved one, maybe it was the death
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  • Of a loved one, maybe it was the death of a dream,
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  • Maybe it was the death of a dream, maybe 2020 happened and
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  • Of a dream, maybe 2020 happened and you had this beautiful dream
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  • Maybe 2020 happened and you had this beautiful dream and you thought you knew
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  • You had this beautiful dream and you thought you knew how life was going to go
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  • And you thought you knew how life was going to go and then it came crashing down
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  • How life was going to go and then it came crashing down with the pandemic.
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  • And then it came crashing down with the pandemic. i think there are so many
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  • With the pandemic. i think there are so many transitional seasons of life
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  • I think there are so many transitional seasons of life that we find ourselves in
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  • Transitional seasons of life that we find ourselves in where we look to the future
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  • That we find ourselves in where we look to the future and we have no idea
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  • Where we look to the future and we have no idea what it's going to look like.
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  • And we have no idea what it's going to look like. so that's the person
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  • What it's going to look like. so that's the person i was thinking of
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  • So that's the person i was thinking of when i wrote this book.
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  • I was thinking of when i wrote this book. and like,
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  • When i wrote this book. and like, what have i gone through
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  • And like, what have i gone through and what are the lessons
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  • What have i gone through and what are the lessons i've learned?
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  • And what are the lessons i've learned? it's been four years
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  • I've learned? it's been four years since my husband passed away.
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  • It's been four years since my husband passed away. what are these lessons
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  • Since my husband passed away. what are these lessons that i've learned?
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  • What are these lessons that i've learned? so i broke down the process
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  • That i've learned? so i broke down the process into five processes
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  • So i broke down the process into five processes and the five processes
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  • Into five processes and the five processes are embrace, heal,
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  • And the five processes are embrace, heal, explore, dream, and live.
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  • Are embrace, heal, explore, dream, and live. james: all right.
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  • Explore, dream, and live. james: all right. i want to pause one moment.
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  • James: all right. i want to pause one moment. i just want to say this
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  • I want to pause one moment. i just want to say this to you.
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  • I just want to say this to you. we're here for you.
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  • To you. we're here for you. you know that
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  • We're here for you. you know that we're always going to ask you
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  • You know that we're always going to ask you to put loving arms around
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  • We're always going to ask you to put loving arms around those who feel unnoticed,
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  • To put loving arms around those who feel unnoticed, overlooked --
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  • Those who feel unnoticed, overlooked -- truly the least of these.
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  • Overlooked -- truly the least of these. you know that.
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  • Truly the least of these. you know that. but you need to understand
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  • You know that. but you need to understand that you are just
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  • But you need to understand that you are just as important to us
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  • That you are just as important to us as those people we're helping.
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  • As important to us as those people we're helping. and we couldn't help them,
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  • As those people we're helping. and we couldn't help them, we could only weep over them
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  • And we couldn't help them, we could only weep over them if you didn't enable us
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  • We could only weep over them if you didn't enable us to help them.
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  • If you didn't enable us to help them. what i want you to know is
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  • To help them. what i want you to know is that kayla is here for you.
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  • What i want you to know is that kayla is here for you. i don't know
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  • That kayla is here for you. i don't know what it is that broke.
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  • I don't know what it is that broke. i don't know it is that came
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  • What it is that broke. i don't know it is that came in devastating damaging effect
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  • I don't know it is that came in devastating damaging effect but we're here
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  • In devastating damaging effect but we're here and she's here to help you.
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  • But we're here and she's here to help you. and i believe you may want
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  • And she's here to help you. and i believe you may want to get this book.
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  • And i believe you may want to get this book. but i want you to hear her
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  • To get this book. but i want you to hear her and we're going to let her
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  • But i want you to hear her and we're going to let her expound on some of these.
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  • And we're going to let her expound on some of these. betty,
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  • Expound on some of these. betty, what are you hearing already
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  • Betty, what are you hearing already because you can see the beauty
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  • What are you hearing already because you can see the beauty that is beyond
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  • Because you can see the beauty that is beyond physical skin deep?
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  • That is beyond physical skin deep? there is a radiance
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  • Physical skin deep? there is a radiance about kayla.
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  • There is a radiance about kayla. betty: well, you see
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  • About kayla. betty: well, you see the amazing work of god
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  • Betty: well, you see the amazing work of god in your life.
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  • The amazing work of god in your life. and it doesn't always, to me
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  • In your life. and it doesn't always, to me it's come quickly for you,
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  • And it doesn't always, to me it's come quickly for you, four years.
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  • It's come quickly for you, four years. it's still fresh.
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  • Four years. it's still fresh. we lost a daughter
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  • Leaving three children behind,
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  • Leaving three children behind, and it's not something
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  • And it's not something that you just
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  • That you just snap your fingers
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  • Snap your fingers and it's different.
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  • And it's different. i mean it's different
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  • It is not well;
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  • It is not well; that hurt lingers
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  • It is not well; that hurt lingers for quite a while.
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  • That hurt lingers for quite a while. but it's also a process
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  • For quite a while. but it's also a process where god says
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  • But it's also a process where god says let me take you somewhere
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  • Where god says let me take you somewhere you've never been before;
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  • Let me take you somewhere you've never been before; that's me walking
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  • You've never been before; that's me walking right with you through this.
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  • That's me walking right with you through this. you don't get over it
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  • Right with you through this. you don't get over it but god walks through it
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  • You don't get over it but god walks through it with us.
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  • But god walks through it with us. i feel like
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  • With us. i feel like there are so many people,
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  • I feel like there are so many people, especially with everything
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  • There are so many people, especially with everything that's been going on
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  • Especially with everything that's been going on with the pandemic,
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  • That's been going on with the pandemic, with all the confusion
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  • With the pandemic, with all the confusion and all the things
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  • With all the confusion and all the things that are happening
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  • And all the things that are happening in our world today,
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  • That are happening in our world today, there is a lot
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  • In our world today, there is a lot of hopelessness.
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  • There is a lot of hopelessness. i think what you're sharing
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  • Of hopelessness. i think what you're sharing can bring great hope
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  • I think what you're sharing can bring great hope to those that are down
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  • Can bring great hope to those that are down in the valley right now
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  • To those that are down in the valley right now and who need some hope
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  • In the valley right now and who need some hope to reach up
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  • And who need some hope to reach up and grab hold of god.
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  • To reach up and grab hold of god. james: that's really
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  • And grab hold of god. james: that's really why we're here.
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  • James: that's really why we're here. so you need to understand,
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  • Why we're here. so you need to understand, we wish you were right here,
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  • So you need to understand, we wish you were right here, and we would try to get
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  • We wish you were right here, and we would try to get god's arms around you.
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  • And we would try to get god's arms around you. of those five points,
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  • God's arms around you. of those five points, take one or two of them
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  • Of those five points, take one or two of them and develop them a little bit
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  • Kayla: so i think
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  • Kayla: so i think the first step
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  • The first step for anybody that wants
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  • For anybody that wants to rebuild a beautiful life,
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  • To rebuild a beautiful life, that has this big pain
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  • That has this big pain and they're wondering,
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  • I'm stuck in this valley,
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  • I'm stuck in this valley, i'm stuck in my grief.
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  • I'm stuck in this valley, i'm stuck in my grief. i feel overwhelmed,
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  • I'm stuck in my grief. i feel overwhelmed, i don't want to pull back
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  • I feel overwhelmed, i don't want to pull back the covers and step back
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  • I don't want to pull back the covers and step back into my life again tomorrow.
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  • The covers and step back into my life again tomorrow. i've had those moments
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  • Into my life again tomorrow. i've had those moments where i didn't want
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  • I've had those moments where i didn't want to pull back the covers
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  • Where i didn't want to pull back the covers and live another day.
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  • To pull back the covers and live another day. it felt overwhelming to think
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  • And live another day. it felt overwhelming to think about living another day
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  • It felt overwhelming to think about living another day with the pain
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  • About living another day with the pain that i'd been handed.
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  • With the pain that i'd been handed. so the very first step
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  • That i'd been handed. so the very first step is to embrace
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  • So the very first step is to embrace and that is stepping
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  • Is to embrace and that is stepping towards our pain with courage.
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  • And that is stepping towards our pain with courage. it is making the decision
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  • Towards our pain with courage. it is making the decision to heal.
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  • It is making the decision to heal. it is going to therapy.
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  • To heal. it is going to therapy. it is sitting with community.
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  • It is going to therapy. it is sitting with community. i think
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  • It is sitting with community. i think one of the greatest ways
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  • I think one of the greatest ways we can embrace our pain
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  • One of the greatest ways we can embrace our pain and heal our pain
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  • We can embrace our pain and heal our pain is to share it.
  • 00:10:08.064 --> 00:10:09.065
  • And heal our pain is to share it. and when our pain
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  • Is to share it. and when our pain is truly shared,
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  • And when our pain is truly shared, it can be shared and lifted.
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  • Is truly shared, it can be shared and lifted. i've had friends
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  • It can be shared and lifted. i've had friends that have been able
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  • I've had friends that have been able to sit alongside me
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  • That have been able to sit alongside me and sit with me
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  • To sit alongside me and sit with me and truly share in my pain.
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  • And sit with me and truly share in my pain. i had a girlfriend
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  • And truly share in my pain. i had a girlfriend at the very beginning
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  • I had a girlfriend at the very beginning after andrew passed away,
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  • At the very beginning after andrew passed away, and i had just gotten done
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  • After andrew passed away, and i had just gotten done putting the boys to bed
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  • And i had just gotten done putting the boys to bed and i came out
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  • Putting the boys to bed and i came out to the living room
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  • And i came out to the living room and i totally collapsed.
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  • To the living room and i totally collapsed. i fell on the floor
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  • And i totally collapsed. i fell on the floor and i was weeping.
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  • I fell on the floor and i was weeping. all she did
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  • And i was weeping. all she did was come over to me
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  • All she did was come over to me and lay on top of me
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  • Was come over to me and lay on top of me and weep with me.
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  • And lay on top of me and weep with me. i think so often
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  • And weep with me. i think so often for those of us
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  • I think so often for those of us who have friends that
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  • For those of us who have friends that are going through
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  • Who have friends that are going through a difficult time,
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  • Are going through a difficult time, or a loved one that is going
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  • A difficult time, or a loved one that is going through a difficult time,
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  • Or a loved one that is going through a difficult time, we don't know what to do.
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  • Through a difficult time, we don't know what to do. we feel like we have to
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  • We don't know what to do. we feel like we have to show up with an agenda.
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  • We feel like we have to show up with an agenda. we feel like
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  • Show up with an agenda. we feel like we have to show up with all
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  • We feel like we have to show up with all the right words to say.
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  • We have to show up with all the right words to say. and it's like, oh, my gosh,
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  • The right words to say. and it's like, oh, my gosh, your presence is enough.
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  • And it's like, oh, my gosh, your presence is enough. in that moment with my friend,
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  • Your presence is enough. in that moment with my friend, all i needed was her presence
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  • In that moment with my friend, all i needed was her presence and her presence spoke more
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  • All i needed was her presence and her presence spoke more than any words
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  • And her presence spoke more than any words she could ever say.
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  • Than any words she could ever say. so embracing our pain,
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  • She could ever say. so embracing our pain, embracing community,
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  • So embracing our pain, embracing community, and then embracing healing.
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  • Embracing community, and then embracing healing. the next step is healing.
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  • And then embracing healing. the next step is healing. it's going to therapy,
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  • The next step is healing. it's going to therapy, it is sharing our pain.
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  • It's going to therapy, it is sharing our pain. it is choosing to look ahead.
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  • It is sharing our pain. it is choosing to look ahead. it is choosing to ask god,
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  • It is choosing to look ahead. it is choosing to ask god, what are the dreams
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  • It is choosing to ask god, what are the dreams that you're planning
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  • What are the dreams that you're planning in my heart?
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  • That you're planning in my heart? what's the vision
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  • That you have for my life?
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  • That you have for my life? what's the vision
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  • That you have for my life? what's the vision that you have
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  • God, what do you have
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  • God, what do you have for me here?
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  • For me here? okay. i've embraced my pain,
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  • Okay. i've embraced my pain, i've healed my pain,
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  • From here?
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  • From here? for me, a lot of that has been
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  • From here? for me, a lot of that has been just being willing
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  • For me, a lot of that has been just being willing to show up and try.
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  • Just being willing to show up and try. i'd never written
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  • To show up and try. i'd never written a book before
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  • I'd never written a book before and now i've written two.
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  • A book before and now i've written two. in my journey too,
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  • And now i've written two. in my journey too, we've recently moved
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  • In my journey too, we've recently moved a couple of years ago.
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  • We've recently moved a couple of years ago. we bought
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  • A couple of years ago. we bought this fixer-upper house
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  • We bought this fixer-upper house and so a big part of this
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  • This fixer-upper house and so a big part of this rebuilding beautiful journey
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  • And so a big part of this rebuilding beautiful journey has been fixing up our house.
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  • Rebuilding beautiful journey has been fixing up our house. and it's been
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  • Has been fixing up our house. and it's been handing my boys hammers
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  • And it's been handing my boys hammers and we've torn out walls,
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  • Handing my boys hammers and we've torn out walls, we tore out a bathroom,
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  • And we've torn out walls, we tore out a bathroom, we tore out the kitchen,
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  • We tore out a bathroom, we tore out the kitchen, we ripped up the floors.
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  • We tore out the kitchen, we ripped up the floors. and it is like
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  • We ripped up the floors. and it is like in those moments
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  • And it is like in those moments when i'm sitting
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  • In those moments when i'm sitting in those spaces
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  • When i'm sitting in those spaces and i'm looking
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  • In those spaces and i'm looking at the two-by-fours around me
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  • And i'm looking at the two-by-fours around me and i'm sitting
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  • At the two-by-fours around me and i'm sitting on the plywood floor,
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  • And i'm sitting on the plywood floor, this is what i'm doing.
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  • On the plywood floor, this is what i'm doing. not only
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  • This is what i'm doing. not only am i rebuilding my home
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  • Not only am i rebuilding my home but i'm rebuilding my life.
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  • Am i rebuilding my home but i'm rebuilding my life. and it takes a stripping down.
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  • But i'm rebuilding my life. and it takes a stripping down. god strips us down.
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  • And it takes a stripping down. god strips us down. he strips us away
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  • God strips us down. he strips us away from all the things
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  • He strips us away from all the things that we think that we need
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  • From all the things that we think that we need and it is like oh, my gosh,
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  • That we think that we need and it is like oh, my gosh, all i need is him.
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  • And it is like oh, my gosh, all i need is him. all i need is him.
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  • All i need is him. all i need is him. and going through
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  • All i need is him. and going through what i've been through
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  • And going through what i've been through has been that realization too
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  • What i've been through has been that realization too of like i couldn't have gone
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  • Has been that realization too of like i couldn't have gone through this without god.
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  • Of like i couldn't have gone through this without god. i couldn't have gone
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  • Through this without god. i couldn't have gone through this without my faith.
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  • I couldn't have gone through this without my faith. and andrew's death
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  • Through this without my faith. and andrew's death has expanded
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  • And andrew's death has expanded my relationship with god.
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  • Has expanded my relationship with god. it's expanded me.
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  • My relationship with god. it's expanded me. it's given me eyes
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  • It's expanded me. it's given me eyes to see his love
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  • It's given me eyes to see his love and his hand in everything
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  • To see his love and his hand in everything in so many ways
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  • James: i want to get
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  • James: i want to get all of you just lean in here.
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  • All of you just lean in here. when i talk to men,
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  • When i talk to men, and you said it so well,
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  • She came and wept with you.
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  • She came and wept with you. jesus, through paul,
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  • She came and wept with you. jesus, through paul, told us we rejoice
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  • Jesus, through paul, told us we rejoice with those who rejoice.
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  • Told us we rejoice with those who rejoice. be sure you can do that.
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  • With those who rejoice. be sure you can do that. don't covet what anybody has,
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  • Be sure you can do that. don't covet what anybody has, rejoice with them.
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  • Don't covet what anybody has, rejoice with them. pray that it doesn't become
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  • Rejoice with them. pray that it doesn't become an idol and a distraction
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  • Pray that it doesn't become an idol and a distraction but a blessing.
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  • An idol and a distraction but a blessing. but also,
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  • But a blessing. but also, you weep with those who weep.
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  • But also, you weep with those who weep. she needed that.
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  • You weep with those who weep. she needed that. when betty and i lost
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  • She needed that. when betty and i lost our daughter
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  • When betty and i lost our daughter we knew a lot of people
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  • Our daughter we knew a lot of people were praying for us.
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  • We knew a lot of people were praying for us. we knew there were people
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  • Were praying for us. we knew there were people who wept with us.
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  • We knew there were people who wept with us. we didn't need somebody coming
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  • Who wept with us. we didn't need somebody coming and giving us a sermon.
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  • We didn't need somebody coming and giving us a sermon. so i tell men,
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  • And giving us a sermon. so i tell men, we most often need
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  • So i tell men, we most often need a shoulder to lean on,
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  • We most often need a shoulder to lean on, they don't need a sermon.
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  • A shoulder to lean on, they don't need a sermon. ask god to make you
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  • They don't need a sermon. ask god to make you a shoulder to lean on.
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  • Ask god to make you a shoulder to lean on. so let me say to all of you,
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  • A shoulder to lean on. so let me say to all of you, here's a shoulder.
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  • So let me say to all of you, here's a shoulder. lean in.
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  • Here's a shoulder. lean in. we're all here
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  • Do you see
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  • Do you see that prayer line there?
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  • That prayer line there? it is an 800-number,
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  • It is an 800-number, it's paid for by love.
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  • It's paid for by love. we will pray
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  • We will pray with over 1.000 people today.
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  • With over 1.000 people today. we may pray with 2.000.
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  • We may pray with 2.000. do you know
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  • Do you know why they're calling?
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  • Why they're calling? there might be 50,
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  • There might be 50, 75 of them call and say,
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  • 75 of them call and say, we want to set
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  • We want to set the trafficked free.
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  • The trafficked free. but the majority are calling
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  • But the majority are calling to say i need a shoulder.
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  • To say i need a shoulder. i need arms.
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  • I need arms. let me tell you
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  • Let me tell you whose arms you need,
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  • Whose arms you need, god's arms.
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  • God's arms. while you're asking god
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  • While you're asking god to get his arms around you
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  • To get his arms around you and lean in on his shoulder,
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  • And lean in on his shoulder, what you're doing now,
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  • What you're doing now, when you may call,
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  • When you may call, you'll find a shoulder
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  • You'll find a shoulder to lean on,
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  • To lean on, somebody to love you
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  • Somebody to love you and pray with you.
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  • And pray with you. remember that phone call
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  • Remember that phone call is paid for by love.
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  • Is paid for by love. see all of our support base
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  • See all of our support base is the love of god expressed
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  • Is the love of god expressed so we get his arms
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  • So we get his arms around the world
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  • Around the world he gave his son to redeem.
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  • He gave his son to redeem. that's what we're doing.
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  • That's what we're doing. so please know that.
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  • So please know that. father,
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  • Father, there are so many right now
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  • There are so many right now that are hurting big time.
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  • That are hurting big time. and they heard,
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  • And they heard, and they need this rebuilding,
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  • And they need this rebuilding, and i know some are saying,
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  • And i know some are saying, i can't afford a therapist.
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  • I can't afford a therapist. lord, help them
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  • Lord, help them find a shoulder.
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  • Find a shoulder. and they got one with
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  • And they got one with a phone number right there,
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  • A phone number right there, they're going to find
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  • They're going to find somebody cares
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  • Somebody cares because we care, we love them.
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  • Because we care, we love them. and lord, i'm asking you
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  • And lord, i'm asking you to start healing,
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  • To start healing, in jesus' name.
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  • Four or five minutes
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  • Four or five minutes something else in the book
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  • Four or five minutes something else in the book that you think
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  • Something else in the book that you think is critically important
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  • That you think is critically important that they're going to hear
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  • Is critically important that they're going to hear in those five points.
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  • That they're going to hear in those five points. but share another point
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  • Would be meaningful
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  • Would be meaningful to our viewers today.
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  • To our viewers today. kayla: so there was a moment
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  • Kayla: so there was a moment on my rebuilding journey,
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  • On my rebuilding journey, and it was after
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  • And it was after i had chosen to move.
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  • I had chosen to move. really, the choice to move
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  • For me and my boys
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  • For me and my boys because the community
  • 00:15:12.768 --> 00:15:13.902
  • For me and my boys because the community that we lived in before
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  • Because the community that we lived in before the church was everything.
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  • That we lived in before the church was everything. everybody knew who we were
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  • The church was everything. everybody knew who we were and everybody knew our story
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  • Everybody knew who we were and everybody knew our story so if we would have
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  • And everybody knew our story so if we would have stayed there our story
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  • So if we would have stayed there our story would have been told for us
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  • Stayed there our story would have been told for us for the rest
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  • Would have been told for us for the rest of my boys' upbringing
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  • For the rest of my boys' upbringing and the rest of my life
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  • Of my boys' upbringing and the rest of my life as well.
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  • And the rest of my life as well. so we chose to move just
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  • As well. so we chose to move just an hour towards the coast
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  • So we chose to move just an hour towards the coast and really,
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  • An hour towards the coast and really, it was taking back
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  • And really, it was taking back the power of our story.
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  • It was taking back the power of our story. it was taking back the power
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  • The power of our story. it was taking back the power of my story for myself
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  • It was taking back the power of my story for myself and my boys and for them
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  • Of my story for myself and my boys and for them to be able to tell their story
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  • And my boys and for them to be able to tell their story on their own terms,
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  • To be able to tell their story on their own terms, when they want to,
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  • On their own terms, when they want to, who they want to,
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  • When they want to, who they want to, how they want to.
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  • Who they want to, how they want to. after we moved,
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  • How they want to. after we moved, i had this moment
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  • After we moved, i had this moment where i was standing
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  • I had this moment where i was standing in my living room,
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  • Where i was standing in my living room, we had put up
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  • In my living room, we had put up the christmas decorations,
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  • We had put up the christmas decorations, the fire was roaring
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  • The christmas decorations, the fire was roaring in the fireplace,
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  • The fire was roaring in the fireplace, i had put the boys to bed,
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  • In the fireplace, i had put the boys to bed, i had just cleaned
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  • I had put the boys to bed, i had just cleaned everything up
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  • I had just cleaned everything up and i said these words
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  • Everything up and i said these words out loud.
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  • And i said these words out loud. i said, "i chose this."
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  • Out loud. i said, "i chose this." and it was
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  • I said, "i chose this." and it was this powerful moment
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  • And it was this powerful moment because when andrew died
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  • This powerful moment because when andrew died it felt like
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  • Because when andrew died it felt like life just happened to me.
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  • It felt like life just happened to me. and it was at this moment
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  • Life just happened to me. and it was at this moment where i realized
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  • And it was at this moment where i realized for the first time,
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  • Where i realized for the first time, i chose healing.
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  • For the first time, i chose healing. i chose to rebuild my life.
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  • I chose healing. i chose to rebuild my life. i chose to rewrite our story.
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  • I chose to rebuild my life. i chose to rewrite our story. i chose to take back
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  • I chose to rewrite our story. i chose to take back the power of our story.
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  • I chose to take back the power of our story. and it brought me to tears.
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  • The power of our story. and it brought me to tears. i said it out loud
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  • And it brought me to tears. i said it out loud and it brought me to tears.
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  • I said it out loud and it brought me to tears. and i was crying
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  • And it brought me to tears. and i was crying in my living room
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  • And i was crying in my living room like oh my gosh!
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  • In my living room like oh my gosh! i could have stayed.
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  • Like oh my gosh! i could have stayed. i could have stayed camped out
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  • I could have stayed. i could have stayed camped out in the cemetery
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  • I could have stayed camped out in the cemetery is how i describe it.
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  • In the cemetery is how i describe it. i could have stayed camped out
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  • Is how i describe it. i could have stayed camped out in the cemetery.
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  • I could have stayed camped out in the cemetery. i could have stayed trapped
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  • In the cemetery. i could have stayed trapped in the victim mentality
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  • I could have stayed trapped in the victim mentality but instead, i chose healing.
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  • In the victim mentality but instead, i chose healing. so i just want to say
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  • But instead, i chose healing. so i just want to say for anybody that's listening,
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  • So i just want to say for anybody that's listening, healing is there for you
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  • For anybody that's listening, healing is there for you and it is a choice to choose
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  • Healing is there for you and it is a choice to choose to rebuild your life.
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  • And it is a choice to choose to rebuild your life. it is a choice
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  • To rebuild your life. it is a choice to embrace your pain
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  • It is a choice to embrace your pain and move forward
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  • To embrace your pain and move forward with your pain.
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  • And move forward with your pain. and it doesn't diminish
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  • With your pain. and it doesn't diminish your pain.
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  • And it doesn't diminish your pain. your pain moves forward
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  • Your pain. your pain moves forward with you,
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  • Your pain moves forward with you, and if you let it,
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  • With you, and if you let it, your pain can be
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  • And if you let it, your pain can be one of the greatest teachers
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  • Your pain can be one of the greatest teachers in your life.
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  • One of the greatest teachers in your life. i know my pain has been
  • 00:16:56.105 --> 00:16:57.306
  • In your life. i know my pain has been one of the greatest teachers
  • 00:16:57.372 --> 00:16:58.907
  • I know my pain has been one of the greatest teachers of my life.
  • 00:16:58.974 --> 00:17:00.175
  • One of the greatest teachers of my life. it's given me eyes
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  • Of my life. it's given me eyes to see people
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  • It's given me eyes to see people and have empathy for people
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  • To see people and have empathy for people and have compassion for people
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  • And have empathy for people and have compassion for people in ways that i would
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  • And have compassion for people in ways that i would have never known before.
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  • In ways that i would have never known before. james: i know
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  • Have never known before. james: i know you can see the glory
  • 00:17:11.153 --> 00:17:12.287
  • James: i know you can see the glory and grace of god
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  • You can see the glory and grace of god all over kayla.
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  • And grace of god all over kayla. it is just there;
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  • All over kayla. it is just there; sitting here with you,
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  • It is just there; sitting here with you, you can just see it.
  • 00:17:16.859 --> 00:17:18.060
  • Sitting here with you, you can just see it. it's in the book.
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  • You can just see it. it's in the book. she's gifted.
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  • It's in the book. she's gifted. and she's sharing the gift
  • 00:17:20.562 --> 00:17:21.797
  • She's gifted. and she's sharing the gift with you.
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  • And she's sharing the gift with you. i hope you'll go online
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  • With you. i hope you'll go online and get the book.
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  • I hope you'll go online and get the book. we'll send it to you
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  • And get the book. we'll send it to you if you'd help us rescue
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  • We'll send it to you if you'd help us rescue a child from sex trafficking.
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  • If you'd help us rescue a child from sex trafficking. betty, we're just going
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  • A child from sex trafficking. betty, we're just going to pray together now
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  • Betty, we're just going to pray together now for god to heal
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  • To pray together now for god to heal every broken heart.
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  • For god to heal every broken heart. start this healing process,
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  • Every broken heart. start this healing process, lord, god that you've done
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  • Start this healing process, lord, god that you've done in us when we lost
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  • Lord, god that you've done in us when we lost our beautiful daughter.
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  • In us when we lost our beautiful daughter. lord, there is so much pain.
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  • Our beautiful daughter. lord, there is so much pain. we want you to start
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  • Lord, there is so much pain. we want you to start this process,
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  • We want you to start this process, miraculously, but now,
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  • This process, miraculously, but now, in jesus' name.
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  • Let me just remind you,
  • 00:17:52.628 --> 00:17:56.331
  • Let me just remind you, the phone number there,
  • 00:17:56.398 --> 00:17:57.933
  • Let me just remind you, the phone number there, that's a prayer line
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  • The phone number there, that's a prayer line paid for by love.
  • 00:17:59.268 --> 00:18:00.903
  • That's a prayer line paid for by love. many times you will connect
  • 00:18:00.969 --> 00:18:02.271
  • Paid for by love. many times you will connect with somebody
  • 00:18:02.337 --> 00:18:03.539
  • Many times you will connect with somebody who's experienced
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  • With somebody who's experienced the same thing you have.
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  • Who's experienced the same thing you have. you're going to talk
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  • The same thing you have. you're going to talk to somebody who will agree
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  • You're going to talk to somebody who will agree with you and pray with you,
  • 00:18:08.210 --> 00:18:09.444
  • To somebody who will agree with you and pray with you, and you ask god to show you
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  • With you and pray with you, and you ask god to show you a shoulder you can lean on.
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  • And you ask god to show you a shoulder you can lean on. god, i pray
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  • A shoulder you can lean on. god, i pray you'll raise up shoulders,
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  • God, i pray you'll raise up shoulders, maybe a neighbor,
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  • You'll raise up shoulders, maybe a neighbor, somebody at church,
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  • Maybe a neighbor, somebody at church, i pray they will find
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  • Then, lord, i pray everybody
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  • Then, lord, i pray everybody listening will become
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  • Listening will become a shoulder for someone
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  • A shoulder for someone to lean on; in jesus' name.
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  • To lean on; in jesus' name. i want you to know
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  • How much we love you
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  • How much we love you it's an understatement.
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  • How much we love you it's an understatement. we can't -- i'm supposed
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  • It's an understatement. we can't -- i'm supposed to be a pretty effective
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  • We can't -- i'm supposed to be a pretty effective communicator.
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  • To be a pretty effective communicator. i can't put enough power
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  • Communicator. i can't put enough power behind that statement.
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  • I can't put enough power behind that statement. you literally, now please
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  • Behind that statement. you literally, now please hear what i'm saying,
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  • You literally, now please hear what i'm saying, you put god's loving arms
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  • Hear what i'm saying, you put god's loving arms around people
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  • You put god's loving arms around people who thought nobody
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  • Around people who thought nobody even knew they existed
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  • Who thought nobody even knew they existed and if they did know
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  • Even knew they existed and if they did know they existed
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  • And if they did know they existed could care less.
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  • They existed could care less. all of a sudden
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  • Could care less. all of a sudden they've seen god's love.
  • 00:18:55.557 --> 00:18:56.558
  • All of a sudden they've seen god's love. that is what
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  • They've seen god's love. that is what betty and i took
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  • That is what betty and i took to the mission fields.
  • 00:18:58.760 --> 00:18:59.761
  • Betty and i took to the mission fields. but even more than that,
  • 00:18:59.828 --> 00:19:00.929
  • To the mission fields. but even more than that, that's what we found
  • 00:19:00.996 --> 00:19:01.997
  • But even more than that, that's what we found on the mission fields
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  • That's what we found on the mission fields where people
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  • On the mission fields where people had left their homes,
  • 00:19:04.199 --> 00:19:05.200
  • Where people had left their homes, their country,
  • 00:19:05.267 --> 00:19:06.268
  • Had left their homes, their country, taken their children, betty,
  • 00:19:06.335 --> 00:19:07.336
  • Their country, taken their children, betty, and moved into
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  • Taken their children, betty, and moved into the very pit of hell,
  • 00:19:08.470 --> 00:19:09.972
  • And moved into the very pit of hell, in many instances,
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  • The very pit of hell, in many instances, it was just indescribable,
  • 00:19:11.106 --> 00:19:12.474
  • In many instances, it was just indescribable, with their children
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  • It was just indescribable, with their children teaching and doing homeschool
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  • With their children teaching and doing homeschool where there were
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  • Teaching and doing homeschool where there were no schools for these kids.
  • 00:19:16.445 --> 00:19:18.113
  • Where there were no schools for these kids. that's one of the things
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  • No schools for these kids. that's one of the things we've been able to do.
  • 00:19:19.414 --> 00:19:20.482
  • That's one of the things we've been able to do. we've helped start schools
  • 00:19:20.549 --> 00:19:21.583
  • We've been able to do. we've helped start schools where kids
  • 00:19:21.650 --> 00:19:22.651
  • We've helped start schools where kids get their health back.
  • 00:19:22.718 --> 00:19:23.819
  • Where kids get their health back. but here's the thing,
  • 00:19:23.885 --> 00:19:25.087
  • Get their health back. but here's the thing, you've become a miracle
  • 00:19:25.153 --> 00:19:26.455
  • But here's the thing, you've become a miracle in the lives of so many.
  • 00:19:26.521 --> 00:19:28.423
  • You've become a miracle in the lives of so many. what you're about to see
  • 00:19:28.490 --> 00:19:30.659
  • In the lives of so many. what you're about to see was birthed by a viewer
  • 00:19:30.726 --> 00:19:32.294
  • What you're about to see was birthed by a viewer who came and said,
  • 00:19:32.361 --> 00:19:33.328
  • What's happening?"
  • 00:19:34.696 --> 00:19:35.664
  • What's happening?" and they showed us video.
  • 00:19:35.731 --> 00:19:36.932
  • And they showed us video. this is happening
  • 00:19:36.999 --> 00:19:38.000
  • This is happening all over the world
  • 00:19:38.066 --> 00:19:39.067
  • All over the world and we can do something
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  • And we can do something about it.
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  • About it. so we showed it to you
  • 00:19:41.270 --> 00:19:42.337
  • So we showed it to you thinking we would never
  • 00:19:42.404 --> 00:19:43.405
  • Thinking we would never show you again.
  • 00:19:43.472 --> 00:19:44.473
  • Show you again. we didn't think our viewers
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  • That referred
  • 00:19:46.675 --> 00:19:47.676
  • That referred to that kind of ugly.
  • 00:19:47.743 --> 00:19:48.744
  • That referred to that kind of ugly. but you insisted
  • 00:19:48.810 --> 00:19:49.811
  • To that kind of ugly. but you insisted and you said we're going
  • 00:19:49.878 --> 00:19:50.879
  • But you insisted and you said we're going to do something about it.
  • 00:19:50.946 --> 00:19:51.913
  • And you said we're going to do something about it. and right now
  • 00:19:51.980 --> 00:19:53.015
  • To do something about it. and right now we've got an opportunity
  • 00:19:53.081 --> 00:19:54.082
  • And right now we've got an opportunity to rescue more children
  • 00:19:54.149 --> 00:19:55.117
  • We've got an opportunity to rescue more children perhaps than ever.
  • 00:19:55.183 --> 00:19:56.151
  • To rescue more children perhaps than ever. i'm asking you right now,
  • 00:19:56.218 --> 00:19:57.219
  • Perhaps than ever. i'm asking you right now, betty, i'm praying
  • 00:19:57.286 --> 00:19:58.220
  • I'm asking you right now, betty, i'm praying for the greatest outpouring
  • 00:19:58.287 --> 00:19:59.254
  • Betty, i'm praying for the greatest outpouring we've ever seen.
  • 00:19:59.321 --> 00:20:00.656
  • For the greatest outpouring we've ever seen. that you would go and say,
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  • We've ever seen. that you would go and say, we're going to rescue them.
  • 00:20:01.890 --> 00:20:03.558
  • That you would go and say, we're going to rescue them. $128, think about this,
  • 00:20:03.625 --> 00:20:06.094
  • We're going to rescue them. $128, think about this, will rescue a child.
  • 00:20:06.161 --> 00:20:07.362
  • $128, think about this, will rescue a child. we've got a matching gift
  • 00:20:07.429 --> 00:20:08.797
  • Will rescue a child. we've got a matching gift to double it
  • 00:20:08.864 --> 00:20:09.998
  • We've got a matching gift to double it to where it rescues two;
  • 00:20:10.065 --> 00:20:11.266
  • To double it to where it rescues two; $1280 will rescue ten, now 20!
  • 00:20:11.333 --> 00:20:14.102
  • To where it rescues two; $1280 will rescue ten, now 20! betty, would you please
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  • To do everything they can?
  • 00:20:18.273 --> 00:20:19.574
  • To do everything they can? betty: i pray that you will
  • 00:20:19.641 --> 00:20:20.742
  • Betty: i pray that you will listen to the heart of god
  • 00:20:20.809 --> 00:20:21.943
  • Listen to the heart of god right now because i feel like
  • 00:20:22.010 --> 00:20:23.011
  • Right now because i feel like he is saying
  • 00:20:23.078 --> 00:20:24.112
  • He is saying this is an opportunity,
  • 00:20:24.179 --> 00:20:25.247
  • This is an opportunity, this is a way
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  • This is a way and you can make a difference
  • 00:20:26.381 --> 00:20:27.382
  • And you can make a difference in a child's life.
  • 00:20:27.449 --> 00:20:28.517
  • In a child's life. please help us
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  • Please help us make a difference
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  • Make a difference with these precious children.
  • 00:20:30.919 --> 00:20:32.521
  • With these precious children. they don't have a choice,
  • 00:20:32.587 --> 00:20:33.722
  • They don't have a choice, they're taken,
  • 00:20:33.789 --> 00:20:34.756
  • They're taken, they're entrapped
  • 00:20:34.823 --> 00:20:36.358
  • They're entrapped and they're captured
  • 00:20:36.425 --> 00:20:37.893
  • And they're captured and they have no hope
  • 00:20:37.959 --> 00:20:39.428
  • And they have no hope unless we reach out
  • 00:20:39.494 --> 00:20:40.929
  • Unless we reach out and say, we're here,
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  • And say, we're here, god's here,
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  • James: we can do it for many.
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  • James: we can do it for many. father, i pray
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  • James: we can do it for many. father, i pray everyone watching, god,
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  • Father, i pray everyone watching, god, i pray as many as can
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  • Everyone watching, god, i pray as many as can will give $128
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  • I pray as many as can will give $128 but know that anything
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  • Will give $128 but know that anything they can do will be doubled,
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  • But know that anything they can do will be doubled, it will be matched.
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  • They can do will be doubled, it will be matched. god, please magnify your love
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  • It will be matched. god, please magnify your love through our viewers;
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  • God, please magnify your love through our viewers; in jesus' name.
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  • Through our viewers; in jesus' name. we have special gifts
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  • In jesus' name. we have special gifts to send you to say thank you
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  • We have special gifts to send you to say thank you because we always
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  • To send you to say thank you because we always want to bless you.
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  • Because we always want to bless you. you're blessing
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  • Want to bless you. you're blessing so many miraculously,
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  • You're blessing so many miraculously, you're becoming their miracle.
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  • So many miraculously, you're becoming their miracle. i want you
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  • You're becoming their miracle. i want you to get your bank card,
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  • I want you to get your bank card, use it like a check,
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  • To get your bank card, use it like a check, or write a check
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  • Use it like a check, or write a check and make it to life .
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  • Or write a check and make it to life . dial that number where many
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  • And make it to life . dial that number where many are calling for prayer.
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  • Dial that number where many are calling for prayer. if you get a busy,
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  • Are calling for prayer. if you get a busy, you say, i'm going to call
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  • If you get a busy, you say, i'm going to call until i get through.
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  • You say, i'm going to call until i get through. or go online
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  • Until i get through. or go online and you make the gift
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  • Or go online and you make the gift god put on your heart knowing
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  • And you make the gift god put on your heart knowing it is going to be matched
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  • God put on your heart knowing it is going to be matched and it is going
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  • It is going to be matched and it is going to be a miracle --
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  • And it is going to be a miracle -- perhaps a miracle for many.
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  • To be a miracle -- perhaps a miracle for many. thank you so much.
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  • Innocent children and young people
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  • Longing to be loved and cared for
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  • And restore young lives and give them a future.
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  • With your gift today,
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  • We'll send you i hear his whisper .
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  • Each entry in this beautiful 365-day devotional
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  • Will encourage you with words of comfort, joy, and love
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  • As you encounter god's heart
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  • And hear his gentle voice.
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  • Shares compelling stories and beautiful images
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  • Revealing how we can be the image of christ
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  • To a watching world.
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  • Finally, please consider a gift of $1280
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  • Which will now help save 20 children.
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  • "let the children come."
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  • James: i hope you feel
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  • James: i hope you feel like you've put your arms
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  • James: i hope you feel like you've put your arms around that little girl.
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  • Like you've put your arms around that little girl. sheila, you did a great job,
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  • Around that little girl. sheila, you did a great job, so anointed.
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  • Sheila, you did a great job, so anointed. and you did a great job
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  • So anointed. and you did a great job if you reached out
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  • And you did a great job if you reached out and touched a little one.
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  • If you reached out and touched a little one. by the way,
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  • And touched a little one. by the way, if you couldn't give
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  • By the way, if you couldn't give and you pray, god, please!
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  • If you couldn't give and you pray, god, please! god's hearing your prayers.
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  • And you pray, god, please! god's hearing your prayers. i hope
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  • God's hearing your prayers. i hope you'll rebuild beautiful.
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  • I hope you'll rebuild beautiful. we can help
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  • You'll rebuild beautiful. we can help a lot of little children
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  • We can help a lot of little children like that little girl
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  • A lot of little children like that little girl rebuild beautiful.
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  • Like that little girl rebuild beautiful. if you'd like
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  • Rebuild beautiful. if you'd like to have this book,
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  • If you'd like to have this book, you can get it online
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  • To have this book, you can get it online or in the bookstores,
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  • You can get it online or in the bookstores, or we'll send it to you
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  • Or in the bookstores, or we'll send it to you if you'll just touch
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  • Or we'll send it to you if you'll just touch some of those little children
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  • If you'll just touch some of those little children with the love of god.
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  • Some of those little children with the love of god. thank you. thank you!
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  • With the love of god. thank you. thank you! if people wanted
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  • Thank you. thank you! if people wanted to contact you
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  • If people wanted to contact you to come and speak
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  • Where would they go online
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  • Where would they go online to find you?
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  • Where would they go online to find you? kayla: kaylastoecklein.com
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  • To find you? kayla: kaylastoecklein.com is the best place.
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  • Kayla: kaylastoecklein.com is the best place. james: do you go and speak
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  • Is the best place. james: do you go and speak if you get invitations
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  • James: do you go and speak if you get invitations to the right places?
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  • If you get invitations to the right places? kayla: i do. yes! thank you.
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  • To the right places? kayla: i do. yes! thank you. james: there you go.
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  • Kayla: i do. yes! thank you. james: there you go. thank you so much
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  • For watching.
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  • For watching. thanks for sharing life today ,
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  • For watching. thanks for sharing life today , not just watching it.
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  • ♪ one day i took a walk down with myself ♪
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  • ♪ good lord, mercy me ♪
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  • ♪ so i took a plunge in the river ♪
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  • ♪ god made me shiny, new and clean ♪
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  • ♪ the blood red stream now daily sweeps ♪
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  • ♪ my guilt and grime away ♪
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  • ♪ carries my sin to the bottom of the sea ♪
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  • ♪ far as east from west each day ♪
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  • ♪ thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
  • 00:24:39.834 --> 00:24:44.973
  • ♪ well, that river rushes mighty fast ♪
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  • ♪ enough to take my breath away ♪
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  • ♪ but growing in the middle is an old rugged cross ♪
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  • ♪ i hang to while i bathe ♪
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  • ♪ sometimes i get splinters that dig in my skin deep ♪
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  • ♪ but the gains were with all my pain ♪
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  • ♪ onto the river tree i cling ♪
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  • ♪ thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ oh, i'm hooked on that ol' river ♪
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  • ♪ i'm there at the crack of dawn ♪
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  • ♪ i took a fancy to starting each day ♪
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  • ♪ like the first day i was born ♪
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  • ♪ oh, yeah! yeah! ♪
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  • ♪ yeah! ♪
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  • ♪ wooo ♪
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  • ♪ i don't get as smelly as i used to ♪
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  • ♪ pieces of the tree live under my skin ♪
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  • ♪ reminding me of what i used to be ♪
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  • ♪ i don't want to get so dirty again ♪
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  • ♪ i'm addicted to that river ♪
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  • ♪ towards the branch in the middle i dive ♪
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  • ♪ my soul loves clean more than i love my high ♪
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  • ♪ and i want to live there until i die ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ whoa! thank you, jesus ♪
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  • ♪ oh yeah yeah! ♪
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  • >> i had to begin to study
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  • How to celebrate other people's success
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  • Instead of feeling threatened by it.
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  • Nona jones is killing comparison!
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