Rachel Faulkner Brown - Growing Through Grief

August 26, 2025 | S25 E214 | 29:14

The author of “Widow’s Might” reveals the source of comfort and hope through the loss of two husbands at an early age.

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Life Today with James Robison | Rachel Faulkner Brown - Growing Through Grief | August 26, 2025

Widowed at an early age, rachel experienced
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A roller coaster of emotions
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Never dreaming it could happen again.
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>> i thought i've got the card.
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I mean, i've got the suffering card, right?
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I think for me, i was like, well, i'm going to get
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The pass for the rest of my life,
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And that is not the gospel.
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"in this world, you will have trouble."
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I think for me, i just thought,
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I've already had my trouble, i won't have any more.
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>> right. surely god won't give me
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Something like that again.
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♪
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Tammy: hello, everybody.
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Tammy: hello, everybody. welcome to life today.
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Tammy: hello, everybody. welcome to life today. i'm tammy trent, and
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Welcome to life today. i'm tammy trent, and i'm so glad you're here.
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I'm tammy trent, and i'm so glad you're here. it's going to be a great day.
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I'm so glad you're here. it's going to be a great day. but, you know, maybe today
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It's going to be a great day. but, you know, maybe today you're holding something
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But, you know, maybe today you're holding something heavy.
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You're holding something heavy. maybe you've been hit by loss
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That took your breath away.
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That took your breath away. or you love someone
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That took your breath away. or you love someone who's walking through
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Or you love someone who's walking through the deep ache of grief.
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Who's walking through the deep ache of grief. you're showing up.
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The deep ache of grief. you're showing up. you're doing your best
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You're showing up. you're doing your best to keep going.
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You're doing your best to keep going. but underneath it all,
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To keep going. but underneath it all, you wonder how healing
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But underneath it all, you wonder how healing could ever reach this deep.
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You wonder how healing could ever reach this deep. that's where you are.
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Could ever reach this deep. that's where you are. i want to remind you
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That's where you are. i want to remind you that jesus sees you.
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I want to remind you that jesus sees you. he sees the tears
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That jesus sees you. he sees the tears you've carried in the quiet.
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He sees the tears you've carried in the quiet. the moment you said, i can't
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You've carried in the quiet. the moment you said, i can't believe this is my life.
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The moment you said, i can't believe this is my life. and the prayers
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Believe this is my life. and the prayers you've whispered
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And the prayers you've whispered with no words left.
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You've whispered with no words left. he's not just near,
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With no words left. he's not just near, he's working even in
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He's not just near, he's working even in the waiting, even when
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He's working even in the waiting, even when it doesn't make sense.
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The waiting, even when it doesn't make sense. because grief touches
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It doesn't make sense. because grief touches all of us eventually.
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Because grief touches all of us eventually. and today's conversation
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All of us eventually. and today's conversation is for anyone who has ever
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And today's conversation is for anyone who has ever loved deeply and lost,
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Is for anyone who has ever loved deeply and lost, or longed to know how to
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Loved deeply and lost, or longed to know how to show up for someone who has.
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Or longed to know how to show up for someone who has. it's about faith
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Show up for someone who has. it's about faith in the sorrow,
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It's about faith in the sorrow, strength in the unknown,
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In the sorrow, strength in the unknown, and the beauty of being met
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Strength in the unknown, and the beauty of being met by a god who restores.
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And the beauty of being met by a god who restores. rachel falkner brown
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By a god who restores. rachel falkner brown is my guest today.
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Rachel falkner brown is my guest today. she's someone who has lived
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Is my guest today. she's someone who has lived through the unimaginable
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She's someone who has lived through the unimaginable not just once but twice.
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Through the unimaginable not just once but twice. she's here to share from
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Not just once but twice. she's here to share from her heart in her brand-new
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She's here to share from her heart in her brand-new devotional, widow's might .
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Her heart in her brand-new devotional, widow's might . so whether you're a widow
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Devotional, widow's might . so whether you're a widow or someone simply looking
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So whether you're a widow or someone simply looking for strength in a hard season,
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Or someone simply looking for strength in a hard season, i believe this message
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For strength in a hard season, i believe this message is going to bring comfort,
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I believe this message is going to bring comfort, connection, and real hope
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Is going to bring comfort, connection, and real hope for your journey.
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Connection, and real hope for your journey. so welcome, rachel faulkner
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For your journey. so welcome, rachel faulkner brown, all the names.
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So welcome, rachel faulkner brown, all the names. i've got them all in there.
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Brown, all the names. i've got them all in there. i'm so glad you're here.
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I've got them all in there. i'm so glad you're here. rachel: oh, my gosh,
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I'm so glad you're here. rachel: oh, my gosh, it's such an honor!
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Rachel: oh, my gosh, it's such an honor! truly! truly!
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It's such an honor! truly! truly! tammy: i've known your name
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Truly! truly! tammy: i've known your name for a long time.
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Tammy: i've known your name for a long time. we talked about that earlier,
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For a long time. we talked about that earlier, kind of running in
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But, the first question
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But, the first question out of the box for me,
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Out of the box for me, or the first statement
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Or the first statement i should say is,
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I should say is, is the realization that
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We both became widowed
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We both became widowed within five, six days
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We both became widowed within five, six days of each other in 2001.
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Within five, six days of each other in 2001. so we have walked out
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Of each other in 2001. so we have walked out a journey that many have
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So we have walked out a journey that many have walked out, that gosh,
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A journey that many have walked out, that gosh, rachel, through the years
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Walked out, that gosh, rachel, through the years of my own loss, i've gotten
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Rachel, through the years of my own loss, i've gotten hundreds of emails
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Of my own loss, i've gotten hundreds of emails as i've talked and spoken
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Hundreds of emails as i've talked and spoken at women's conferences,
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As i've talked and spoken at women's conferences, done the interviews,
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At women's conferences, done the interviews, done the books, whatever,
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Done the interviews, done the books, whatever, i'll get tons of emails
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Done the books, whatever, i'll get tons of emails from people that will say,
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I'll get tons of emails from people that will say, i saw you speak at
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From people that will say, i saw you speak at women of faith 15 years ago,
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I saw you speak at women of faith 15 years ago, and i just lost my husband
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Women of faith 15 years ago, and i just lost my husband but it took me back
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And i just lost my husband but it took me back to that conversation.
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But it took me back to that conversation. so i hope that today
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To that conversation. so i hope that today will be the same.
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So i hope that today will be the same. that it's not a setup
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Will be the same. that it's not a setup for loss, but i think
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That it's not a setup for loss, but i think giving people tools
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For loss, but i think giving people tools and the understanding,
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Giving people tools and the understanding, or someone that's walking
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And the understanding, or someone that's walking through it right now
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Or someone that's walking through it right now that feels really stuck
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Through it right now that feels really stuck and hopeless.
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Your story started.
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Your story started. rachel: well, in 2001,
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Rachel: well, in 2001, where you and i both were,
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Where you and i both were, i mean, it was just
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We had been
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We had been college sweethearts.
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We had been college sweethearts. todd and i had been together
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College sweethearts. todd and i had been together almost eight years,
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Todd and i had been together almost eight years, and he went to play a game
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Almost eight years, and he went to play a game of pickup basketball
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And he went to play a game of pickup basketball after church.
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Of pickup basketball after church. we truly like that day,
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After church. we truly like that day, we had gone to eat barbecue,
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We truly like that day, we had gone to eat barbecue, we had started talking
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We had gone to eat barbecue, we had started talking about having our family, and,
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We had started talking about having our family, and, you know, three hours later,
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About having our family, and, you know, three hours later, i get the phone call
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You know, three hours later, i get the phone call from a friend and she says,
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I get the phone call from a friend and she says, rachel, todd's been hurt.
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From a friend and she says, rachel, todd's been hurt. and i'm like, okay,
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Rachel, todd's been hurt. and i'm like, okay, i'll be right there.
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And i'm like, okay, i'll be right there. he probably twisted his ankle.
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I'll be right there. he probably twisted his ankle. you know, he was playing
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He probably twisted his ankle. you know, he was playing basketball, normal stuff.
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You know, he was playing basketball, normal stuff. and i get there and,
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Basketball, normal stuff. and i get there and, you know, our doctor friend
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And i get there and, you know, our doctor friend who was there was doing cpr
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You know, our doctor friend who was there was doing cpr and i was like, this is not
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Who was there was doing cpr and i was like, this is not -- this is not a broken ankle.
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And i was like, this is not -- this is not a broken ankle. this is not, you know,
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-- this is not a broken ankle. this is not, you know, anything like that.
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This is not, you know, anything like that. and i went to the e.r.,
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Anything like that. and i went to the e.r., tammy, and, like --
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And i went to the e.r., tammy, and, like -- we drove down there
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Tammy, and, like -- we drove down there and there he was.
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We drove down there and there he was. i went back and they came in
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And there he was. i went back and they came in and said, "mrs. foust,
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I went back and they came in and said, "mrs. foust, we did everything we could."
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And said, "mrs. foust, we did everything we could." and i thought,
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We did everything we could." and i thought, i heard that on shows.
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And i thought, i heard that on shows. not like this isn't
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I heard that on shows. not like this isn't happening to me.
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Not like this isn't happening to me. 27-year-old picture-of-health
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Happening to me. 27-year-old picture-of-health men do not die.
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27-year-old picture-of-health men do not die. so this was just so shocking
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Men do not die. so this was just so shocking because of who todd was
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So this was just so shocking because of who todd was and because, you know,
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Because of who todd was and because, you know, we were planning our future
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And because, you know, we were planning our future that morning.
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We were planning our future that morning. so i think the shock of loss,
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That morning. so i think the shock of loss, the way both of us lost,
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So i think the shock of loss, the way both of us lost, it makes it --
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The way both of us lost, it makes it -- it's so discombobulating.
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Out of nowhere, i think,
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Out of nowhere, i think, you've often said like,
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You've often said like, i don't know which is worse,
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I don't know which is worse, which is better, but
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Which is better, but there's something that happens
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There's something that happens when it happens like that.
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When it happens like that. i didn't get to say goodbye
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I didn't get to say goodbye to trent.
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For a dive, and i thought,
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For a dive, and i thought, he'll be back in 15 minutes,
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For a dive, and i thought, he'll be back in 15 minutes, and he never came back.
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He'll be back in 15 minutes, and he never came back. like i didn't get
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And he never came back. like i didn't get to say goodbye.
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Like i didn't get to say goodbye. it's just gone. it's final.
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To say goodbye. it's just gone. it's final. it's done with.
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It's just gone. it's final. it's done with. and then becomes the healing.
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It's done with. and then becomes the healing. so you got that news.
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And then becomes the healing. so you got that news. so what did you do?
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So you got that news. so what did you do? how did the healing begin
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So what did you do? how did the healing begin for you?
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How did the healing begin for you? rachel: yeah, it's so --
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For you? rachel: yeah, it's so -- i didn't know
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Rachel: yeah, it's so -- i didn't know what i was doing.
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I didn't know what i was doing. i did what i knew to do,
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What i was doing. i did what i knew to do, and that was really worship.
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I did what i knew to do, and that was really worship. and i would sit in my floor
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And that was really worship. and i would sit in my floor and i would listen
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And i would sit in my floor and i would listen to fernando ortega's
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And i would listen to fernando ortega's "give me jesus."
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To fernando ortega's "give me jesus." i don't know if you remember
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"give me jesus." i don't know if you remember that song.
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I don't know if you remember that song. so anne graham lotz had
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That song. so anne graham lotz had the book, give me jesus.
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So anne graham lotz had the book, give me jesus. in the back it had a cd
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The book, give me jesus. in the back it had a cd and she did like a spoken word
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In the back it had a cd and she did like a spoken word and fernando would sing,
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And she did like a spoken word and fernando would sing, and i would wail.
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And fernando would sing, and i would wail. i would wail in my room
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And i would wail. i would wail in my room just listening to that cd.
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I would wail in my room just listening to that cd. i would sing at
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Just listening to that cd. i would sing at the top of my lungs.
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I would sing at the top of my lungs. i would command my soul
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The top of my lungs. i would command my soul because i knew it was the
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I would command my soul because i knew it was the only place i felt better.
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Because i knew it was the only place i felt better. nobody was going to therapy.
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Only place i felt better. nobody was going to therapy. i don't know about you,
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Nobody was going to therapy. i don't know about you, but i mean, i didn't go
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I don't know about you, but i mean, i didn't go to therapy for 11 years.
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But i mean, i didn't go to therapy for 11 years. i was just -- i woke up
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To therapy for 11 years. i was just -- i woke up kind of fine, i didn't really
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I was just -- i woke up kind of fine, i didn't really struggle with depression.
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Kind of fine, i didn't really struggle with depression. but for me, i knew that
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Struggle with depression. but for me, i knew that was the only place
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But for me, i knew that was the only place that felt safe.
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Was the only place that felt safe. tammy: has it always been
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That felt safe. tammy: has it always been a safe place for you?
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Tammy: has it always been a safe place for you? you were always like, were
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A safe place for you? you were always like, were you quick to go to worship?
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You were always like, were you quick to go to worship? rachel: absolutely!
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You quick to go to worship? rachel: absolutely! i think for me, you're either
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Rachel: absolutely! i think for me, you're either a word person
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I think for me, you're either a word person or you're a worship person
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A word person or you're a worship person a lot of times,
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Or you're a worship person a lot of times, and i was a worship person.
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A lot of times, and i was a worship person. i mean, i'm both, but
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And i was a worship person. i mean, i'm both, but my number one is in the dark,
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I mean, i'm both, but my number one is in the dark, that's what i do.
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My number one is in the dark, that's what i do. i had a song after blair died.
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That's what i do. i had a song after blair died. i had a song after todd died.
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I had a song after blair died. i had a song after todd died. it was just, i think for me,
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I had a song after todd died. it was just, i think for me, it was so comforting.
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It was just, i think for me, it was so comforting. worship is comfort.
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It was so comforting. worship is comfort. tammy: so you just said
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Worship is comfort. tammy: so you just said something there.
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Tammy: so you just said something there. you said after blair died.
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Something there. you said after blair died. so we just talked about todd.
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You said after blair died. so we just talked about todd. so now you're saying
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So we just talked about todd. so now you're saying this happened a second time?
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So now you're saying this happened a second time? can you transition in from
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This happened a second time? can you transition in from as you are healing from todd,
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Can you transition in from as you are healing from todd, as a young, in your mid-20s,
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As you are healing from todd, as a young, in your mid-20s, you meet another love,
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As a young, in your mid-20s, you meet another love, get married and think
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You meet another love, get married and think this can't happen twice.
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Get married and think this can't happen twice. i'm sure --
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This can't happen twice. i'm sure -- rachel: i said it out loud.
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I'm sure -- rachel: i said it out loud. tammy: so were you ever
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Rachel: i said it out loud. tammy: so were you ever fearful of like
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Tammy: so were you ever fearful of like it could happen again?
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Fearful of like it could happen again? or now i'm afraid of death?
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It could happen again? or now i'm afraid of death? did you ever have to deal
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Or now i'm afraid of death? did you ever have to deal with fear because of
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Did you ever have to deal with fear because of your first loss?
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I thought i've got the card.
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I thought i've got the card. i mean, i have got
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I mean, i have got the suffering card, right?
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The suffering card, right? i mean, i have done
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I mean, i have done the hardest thing.
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The hardest thing. the number one stressor
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And i was like, jesus,
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And i was like, jesus, i have paid the price.
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And i was like, jesus, i have paid the price. i think for me, i was like,
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I have paid the price. i think for me, i was like, well, i'm gonna get the pass
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I think for me, i was like, well, i'm gonna get the pass for the rest of my life.
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Well, i'm gonna get the pass for the rest of my life. and that is not the gospel.
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For the rest of my life. and that is not the gospel. in this world
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And that is not the gospel. in this world you will have trouble.
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In this world you will have trouble. and i think for me, i just
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You will have trouble. and i think for me, i just thought, i've already
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And i think for me, i just thought, i've already had my trouble.
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Thought, i've already had my trouble. i won't have any more.
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Had my trouble. i won't have any more. tammy: surely, god won't
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I won't have any more. tammy: surely, god won't give me something
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Tammy: surely, god won't give me something like that again.
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Give me something like that again. rachel: oh, yeah!
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Like that again. rachel: oh, yeah! i think at the end of
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Rachel: oh, yeah! i think at the end of the day, i knew whatever came
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I think at the end of the day, i knew whatever came my way, i could handle it.
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The day, i knew whatever came my way, i could handle it. but i've already done
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My way, i could handle it. but i've already done the worst thing, so that
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But i've already done the worst thing, so that will never happen again.
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The worst thing, so that will never happen again. and joked with blair that
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Will never happen again. and joked with blair that that would never happen.
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And joked with blair that that would never happen. tammy: yes! well, okay.
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That would never happen. tammy: yes! well, okay. so tell me about that.
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Tammy: yes! well, okay. so tell me about that. what happened?
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So tell me about that. what happened? like how long in-between
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What happened? like how long in-between from your first loss
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Like how long in-between from your first loss did you have to walk that out
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From your first loss did you have to walk that out by yourself?
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Did you have to walk that out by yourself? how many years?
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By yourself? how many years? rachel: yes, it was
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How many years? rachel: yes, it was two years in-between.
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Rachel: yes, it was two years in-between. i was 23,
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Two years in-between. i was 23, and i remarried again at 25.
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I was 23, and i remarried again at 25. i was still just --
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And i remarried again at 25. i was still just -- most people hadn't even
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I was still just -- most people hadn't even married the first time
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Most people hadn't even married the first time by the time i got married
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Married the first time by the time i got married the second time.
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By the time i got married the second time. blair was ten years older,
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The second time. blair was ten years older, so he was 35.
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Blair was ten years older, so he was 35. loved the lord.
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So he was 35. loved the lord. was a fighter pilot
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Loved the lord. was a fighter pilot in the air force.
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Was a fighter pilot in the air force. he wore a flight suit.
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In the air force. he wore a flight suit. i mean, come on!
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He wore a flight suit. i mean, come on! tammy: dreamy -- top gun!
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I mean, come on! tammy: dreamy -- top gun! rachel: i can't say that
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Tammy: dreamy -- top gun! rachel: i can't say that didn't have a big part in it.
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Rachel: i can't say that didn't have a big part in it. he really loved the lord,
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Didn't have a big part in it. he really loved the lord, and i was just like,
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He really loved the lord, and i was just like, you need a wife.
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And i was just like, you need a wife. his in-laws were friends
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You need a wife. his in-laws were friends with my in-laws.
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His in-laws were friends with my in-laws. it was really perfect.
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With my in-laws. it was really perfect. it was kind of meant to be.
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It was really perfect. it was kind of meant to be. and so, we married and
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It was kind of meant to be. and so, we married and had just a beautiful life.
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And so, we married and had just a beautiful life. lived in new orleans.
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Had just a beautiful life. lived in new orleans. he flew the a-10, which
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Lived in new orleans. he flew the a-10, which is the really dangerous jet,
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He flew the a-10, which is the really dangerous jet, and he loved it, and i was
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Is the really dangerous jet, and he loved it, and i was selling pharmaceuticals.
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And he loved it, and i was selling pharmaceuticals. and we were living
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Selling pharmaceuticals. and we were living our best life just thinking,
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And we were living our best life just thinking, serving in our church and
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Our best life just thinking, serving in our church and planning our family, again.
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Serving in our church and planning our family, again. i missed out on that
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Planning our family, again. i missed out on that the first time so i was
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I missed out on that the first time so i was like, all right, let's go.
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The first time so i was like, all right, let's go. tammy: okay.
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Like, all right, let's go. tammy: okay. so you had children
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Tammy: okay. so you had children with blair?
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So you had children with blair? rachel: yeah. two.
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With blair? rachel: yeah. two. two children.
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Rachel: yeah. two. two children. he came home from afghanistan.
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Two children. he came home from afghanistan. we had our first baby, and
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He came home from afghanistan. we had our first baby, and then our second little girl,
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We had our first baby, and then our second little girl, we got blown out
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Then our second little girl, we got blown out by hurricane katrina
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We got blown out by hurricane katrina and we ended up
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By hurricane katrina and we ended up in columbus, mississippi.
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So tell me spiritually,
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So tell me spiritually, where were you?
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Where were you? where were you and blair,
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Where were you and blair, maybe even
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Before he went to heaven.
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Before he went to heaven. where were you?
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Before he went to heaven. where were you? were you in a good spot?
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Where were you? were you in a good spot? were you in a great place
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Were you in a good spot? were you in a great place together?
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Were you in a great place together? like, what did life
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Together? like, what did life really look like for you?
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Like, what did life really look like for you? you're carrying
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Really look like for you? you're carrying the loss of one.
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You're carrying the loss of one. did you feel like
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The loss of one. did you feel like you were totally over that?
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Did you feel like you were totally over that? and todd moving into --
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You were totally over that? and todd moving into -- what? what was that?
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And todd moving into -- what? what was that? paint a picture for us.
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What? what was that? paint a picture for us. rachel: well, the answer
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Paint a picture for us. rachel: well, the answer is yes and no.
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Rachel: well, the answer is yes and no. so spiritually for me
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Is yes and no. so spiritually for me personally, in november
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So spiritually for me personally, in november of 2007, i had this
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Personally, in november of 2007, i had this really interesting encounter
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Of 2007, i had this really interesting encounter in my car.
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Really interesting encounter in my car. i was in columbus,
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In my car. i was in columbus, mississippi, and i felt
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I was in columbus, mississippi, and i felt like the lord called my name.
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Mississippi, and i felt like the lord called my name. he invited me into
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Like the lord called my name. he invited me into this relationship that --
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He invited me into this relationship that -- the only way i could
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This relationship that -- the only way i could describe it was he was
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The only way i could describe it was he was inviting me to be --
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Describe it was he was inviting me to be -- he wanted to be my husband,
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Inviting me to be -- he wanted to be my husband, which is so freaky.
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He wanted to be my husband, which is so freaky. i was like, okay, how do you
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Which is so freaky. i was like, okay, how do you explain that to someone?
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I was like, okay, how do you explain that to someone? but it was like, i want
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Explain that to someone? but it was like, i want something more with you
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But it was like, i want something more with you than we have right now.
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Something more with you than we have right now. i called a friend.
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Than we have right now. i called a friend. i called my friend tina,
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I called a friend. i called my friend tina, and i said, "this just
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I called my friend tina, and i said, "this just happened in my car."
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And i said, "this just happened in my car." i didn't know anything
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Happened in my car." i didn't know anything about the manifest presence.
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I didn't know anything about the manifest presence. i didn't know people who
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About the manifest presence. i didn't know people who had encounters with god.
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I didn't know people who had encounters with god. i didn't know that language.
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Had encounters with god. i didn't know that language. and so i'm like, how do i put
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I didn't know that language. and so i'm like, how do i put words around this thing
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And so i'm like, how do i put words around this thing that just happened to me?
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Words around this thing that just happened to me? because i feel like
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That just happened to me? because i feel like god's like inviting me.
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Because i feel like god's like inviting me. this was november 2007.
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God's like inviting me. this was november 2007. blair goes, he ends up
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This was november 2007. blair goes, he ends up meeting with this mentor,
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Blair goes, he ends up meeting with this mentor, and that mentor says,
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Meeting with this mentor, and that mentor says, i will meet with you
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And that mentor says, i will meet with you if you read the hebrews
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I will meet with you if you read the hebrews hall of faith in hebrews.
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If you read the hebrews hall of faith in hebrews. and if you say, yes,
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Hall of faith in hebrews. and if you say, yes, that i will -- i will even
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And if you say, yes, that i will -- i will even surrender my job as a pilot
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That i will -- i will even surrender my job as a pilot for the cause of the gospel.
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Surrender my job as a pilot for the cause of the gospel. and blair came home
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For the cause of the gospel. and blair came home and he said, "hey, rachel.
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And blair came home and he said, "hey, rachel. this is what this mentor said.
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And he said, "hey, rachel. this is what this mentor said. i won't meet with you
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This is what this mentor said. i won't meet with you unless that happens.
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I won't meet with you unless that happens. and i've got to
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Unless that happens. and i've got to really think about it."
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And i've got to really think about it." and i'm like, well,
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Really think about it." and i'm like, well, that's our insurance,
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And i'm like, well, that's our insurance, that's your livelihood.
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That's our insurance, that's your livelihood. i'm like the naysayer.
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That's your livelihood. i'm like the naysayer. i'm like, oh, come on,
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I'm like the naysayer. i'm like, oh, come on, jesus isn't asking us
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I'm like, oh, come on, jesus isn't asking us to give up the pilot job.
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Jesus isn't asking us to give up the pilot job. and at the end of the day,
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To give up the pilot job. and at the end of the day, blair's like, i'm going
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And at the end of the day, blair's like, i'm going to meet with him.
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Blair's like, i'm going to meet with him. and he died a week later.
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To meet with him. and he died a week later. tammy: he died a week later.
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And he died a week later. tammy: he died a week later. so the surrender happened
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Tammy: he died a week later. so the surrender happened in his life,
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So the surrender happened in his life, you're saying a week later.
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In his life, you're saying a week later. he's like, i surrender all.
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You're saying a week later. he's like, i surrender all. i give my whole life,
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He's like, i surrender all. i give my whole life, everything i have to jesus.
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I give my whole life, everything i have to jesus. whatever he wants is his.
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Everything i have to jesus. whatever he wants is his. i surrender it all.
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Whatever he wants is his. i surrender it all. and one week later.
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I surrender it all. and one week later. how did you reconcile that?
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Think was what happened
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Think was what happened in november had something
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In november had something to do with this.
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To do with this. like, there is no doubt --
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Like, there is no doubt -- oh, i've got chills.
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The lord was preparing me.
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The lord was preparing me. i don't know how to say it
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The lord was preparing me. i don't know how to say it any other way, but
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I don't know how to say it any other way, but there was something more.
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Any other way, but there was something more. i really thought it was
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There was something more. i really thought it was about blair's funeral.
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I really thought it was about blair's funeral. i thought, oh, his funeral,
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About blair's funeral. i thought, oh, his funeral, all these people are going
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I thought, oh, his funeral, all these people are going to come to know jesus
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All these people are going to come to know jesus at his funeral.
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To come to know jesus at his funeral. i could have never known
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At his funeral. i could have never known that it was so much bigger
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I could have never known that it was so much bigger than just a one-day event --
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That it was so much bigger than just a one-day event -- your life, my life.
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Than just a one-day event -- your life, my life. i mean, god was writing
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Your life, my life. i mean, god was writing a story that i could have
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I mean, god was writing a story that i could have never imagined, and honestly,
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A story that i could have never imagined, and honestly, probably didn't want to,
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Never imagined, and honestly, probably didn't want to, let's be honest,
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Probably didn't want to, let's be honest, in the moment.
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Let's be honest, in the moment. i mean, i just wanted god
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In the moment. i mean, i just wanted god to be glorified at his funeral
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I mean, i just wanted god to be glorified at his funeral and my kids to be okay.
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To be glorified at his funeral and my kids to be okay. i mean, let's be honest.
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And my kids to be okay. i mean, let's be honest. and he was doing something
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I mean, let's be honest. and he was doing something so much more.
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And he was doing something so much more. but i know that i know,
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So much more. but i know that i know, that i know that his funeral
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But i know that i know, that i know that his funeral would not have been,
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That i know that his funeral would not have been, and honestly, my life would
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Would not have been, and honestly, my life would not have been what
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And honestly, my life would not have been what it was without that surrender
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Not have been what it was without that surrender and without that encounter
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It was without that surrender and without that encounter in november.
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And without that encounter in november. because it just cracked
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In november. because it just cracked the door open that
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Because it just cracked the door open that there was more to god.
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All these encounters
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All these encounters are life-changing.
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Are life-changing. they're almost unexplainable
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They're almost unexplainable sometimes.
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Sometimes. but you just, you know,
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But you just, you know, you know that you know
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You know that you know that it's god.
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That's also watching
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That's also watching that feels like i've never
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That's also watching that feels like i've never had that encounter with god.
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That feels like i've never had that encounter with god. i've never had that.
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Had that encounter with god. i've never had that. i want it.
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I've never had that. i want it. i don't even know
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I want it. i don't even know what it looks like.
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I don't even know what it looks like. maybe it's not for me.
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What it looks like. maybe it's not for me. how does somebody find
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Maybe it's not for me. how does somebody find an encounter with god?
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How does somebody find an encounter with god? do you just say, okay, god,
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An encounter with god? do you just say, okay, god, i surrender.
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Do you just say, okay, god, i surrender. i'm open to an encounter.
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I surrender. i'm open to an encounter. how do you know
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I'm open to an encounter. how do you know it's an encounter from god?
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How do you know it's an encounter from god? how did you know?
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It's an encounter from god? how did you know? but what would you say
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How did you know? but what would you say to someone that just feels
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But what would you say to someone that just feels like i'm ready for that?
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To someone that just feels like i'm ready for that? i just don't know
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Like i'm ready for that? i just don't know how to get there.
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I just don't know how to get there. rachel: it's as easy
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How to get there. rachel: it's as easy as sitting with quiet space,
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Rachel: it's as easy as sitting with quiet space, eyes closed, asking jesus to
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As sitting with quiet space, eyes closed, asking jesus to bring up a joy-filled memory
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Eyes closed, asking jesus to bring up a joy-filled memory and see it, smell it,
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Bring up a joy-filled memory and see it, smell it, taste it, feel it, hear it,
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And see it, smell it, taste it, feel it, hear it, go through all your senses,
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Taste it, feel it, hear it, go through all your senses, and then invite jesus
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Go through all your senses, and then invite jesus into that memory.
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And then invite jesus into that memory. that's an encounter,
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Into that memory. that's an encounter, and it changes everything.
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That's an encounter, and it changes everything. i mean, everything changes
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And it changes everything. i mean, everything changes when you know, the definition
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I mean, everything changes when you know, the definition of trauma is feeling alone,
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When you know, the definition of trauma is feeling alone, right, in your pain.
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Of trauma is feeling alone, right, in your pain. and that is what most people
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Right, in your pain. and that is what most people that go through life
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And that is what most people that go through life feel alone in their pain,
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That go through life feel alone in their pain, and jesus comes in
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Feel alone in their pain, and jesus comes in and changes it.
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And jesus comes in and changes it. changes the script.
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And changes it. changes the script. tammy: i love that.
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Changes the script. tammy: i love that. i remember hearing you say
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Tammy: i love that. i remember hearing you say that in an interview.
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I remember hearing you say that in an interview. for a widow as myself,
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That in an interview. for a widow as myself, i thought, that is so good!
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For a widow as myself, i thought, that is so good! it also helps me on days
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I thought, that is so good! it also helps me on days when i feel, just a little
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It also helps me on days when i feel, just a little stuck in the moment and
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When i feel, just a little stuck in the moment and i'm missing, and i'm just,
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Stuck in the moment and i'm missing, and i'm just, maybe grief or just whatever
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I'm missing, and i'm just, maybe grief or just whatever still kind of just punches me.
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Maybe grief or just whatever still kind of just punches me. my loss, still after
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Still kind of just punches me. my loss, still after all these years, will,
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My loss, still after all these years, will, sometimes, i'm sitting at
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All these years, will, sometimes, i'm sitting at the top of my stairs
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Sometimes, i'm sitting at the top of my stairs and i'm just.
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The top of my stairs and i'm just. rachel: yeah. sad.
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And i'm just. rachel: yeah. sad. absolutely.
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Rachel: yeah. sad. absolutely. tammy: i'm -- just missing
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Absolutely. tammy: i'm -- just missing something so great.
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Tammy: i'm -- just missing something so great. and i think it reminds me
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Something so great. and i think it reminds me that even for any of us
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And i think it reminds me that even for any of us that feel the same kind of
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That even for any of us that feel the same kind of pain and loneliness,
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That feel the same kind of pain and loneliness, of just missing somebody
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Pain and loneliness, of just missing somebody knowing where you are,
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Of just missing somebody knowing where you are, i think it brings you back
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Knowing where you are, i think it brings you back in those moments.
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I think it brings you back in those moments. instead of sitting at
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In those moments. instead of sitting at the top of my steps
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Instead of sitting at the top of my steps and sitting in it for too long
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The top of my steps and sitting in it for too long because there's danger,
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And sitting in it for too long because there's danger, i think, in sitting in it
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Because there's danger, i think, in sitting in it for too long, i give myself
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I think, in sitting in it for too long, i give myself permission to be in it,
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For too long, i give myself permission to be in it, to feel, to experience
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Permission to be in it, to feel, to experience that encounter with god.
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To feel, to experience that encounter with god. i think that's the key --
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That encounter with god. i think that's the key -- allow yourself to feel.
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I think that's the key -- allow yourself to feel. be in it and expect
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Allow yourself to feel. be in it and expect an experience, an encounter
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Be in it and expect an experience, an encounter with god.
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An experience, an encounter with god. when you close your eyes
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With god. when you close your eyes and you do go, you think
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When you close your eyes and you do go, you think on something lovely,
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And you do go, you think on something lovely, something that brings you joy,
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On something lovely, something that brings you joy, something that'll
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Something that brings you joy, something that'll make you laugh.
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Something that'll make you laugh. you think of a memory.
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Make you laugh. you think of a memory. i love that tool.
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You think of a memory. i love that tool. it's a practical tool.
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I love that tool. it's a practical tool. because i think also,
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It's a practical tool. because i think also, if we go back and we also
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Because i think also, if we go back and we also realize what god --
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If we go back and we also realize what god -- and we remember what
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Realize what god -- and we remember what god has pulled us through,
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And we remember what god has pulled us through, what he's done in our life,
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God has pulled us through, what he's done in our life, exactly what he's done,
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What he's done in our life, exactly what he's done, everything he's given us,
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Exactly what he's done, everything he's given us, the joy, the hope, i think
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Everything he's given us, the joy, the hope, i think we're reminded of that.
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The joy, the hope, i think we're reminded of that. then we believe he will
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We're reminded of that. then we believe he will do it again then.
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Then we believe he will do it again then. i can expect more than this
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Do it again then. i can expect more than this because of who god says he is
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I can expect more than this because of who god says he is in my life, my identity,
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Because of who god says he is in my life, my identity, and what he wants to do.
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In my life, my identity, and what he wants to do. amen!
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And what he wants to do. amen! and that's what you've done.
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Amen! and that's what you've done. that's what i love about --
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I love this, that pain
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I love this, that pain is a superpower.
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Is a superpower. how can pain be a superpower?
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How can pain be a superpower? because people feel like,
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Because people feel like, uh-huh!
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Uh-huh! that is not my superpower
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That is not my superpower because it hurts so much.
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Because it hurts so much. rachel: well, i remember
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Rachel: well, i remember being in israel in 2019
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Being in israel in 2019 and i will never forget
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And i will never forget the bus driver saying,
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The bus driver saying, the crops only grow
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The crops only grow in the valley.
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In the valley. i thought, oh my goodness!
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The fruit is grown,
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The fruit is grown, the fruit of our lives
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The fruit is grown, the fruit of our lives is grown in the valley.
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The fruit of our lives is grown in the valley. it's not on the mountain.
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Is grown in the valley. it's not on the mountain. on the mountain, you get
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It's not on the mountain. on the mountain, you get to look out and see
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On the mountain, you get to look out and see what god has done.
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To look out and see what god has done. yes, it's beautiful,
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What god has done. yes, it's beautiful, but you don't learn
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Yes, it's beautiful, but you don't learn on the mountain.
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But you don't learn on the mountain. you learn in the valley.
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On the mountain. you learn in the valley. i think for me,
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You learn in the valley. i think for me, i've told my kids this
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I think for me, i've told my kids this their whole life, i'm like,
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I've told my kids this their whole life, i'm like, your pain will be
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Their whole life, i'm like, your pain will be your superpower because
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Your pain will be your superpower because you know things that
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Your superpower because you know things that other children do not know.
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You know things that other children do not know. i hate that every day,
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Other children do not know. i hate that every day, tammy, i hate it.
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I hate that every day, tammy, i hate it. i loathe it.
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Tammy, i hate it. i loathe it. and at the same time,
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I loathe it. and at the same time, it's made them, it's made me,
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And at the same time, it's made them, it's made me, it's made you,
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It's made them, it's made me, it's made you, it's made everybody listening,
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It's made you, it's made everybody listening, i hate to say it,
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It's made everybody listening, i hate to say it, but you don't learn
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I hate to say it, but you don't learn in the good times,
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But you don't learn in the good times, you learn in the pain.
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In the good times, you learn in the pain. you can either
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You learn in the pain. you can either let it defeat you
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You can either let it defeat you or you can let it
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Let it defeat you or you can let it empower you.
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Or you can let it empower you. there's two choices.
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Empower you. there's two choices. tammy: there's always
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There's two choices. tammy: there's always two choices, i think.
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Tammy: there's always two choices, i think. don't you think?
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Two choices, i think. don't you think? what do you think is
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Don't you think? what do you think is the most important moment
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What do you think is the most important moment or piece of recovery
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The most important moment or piece of recovery from grief?
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Or piece of recovery from grief? rachel: wow!
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From grief? rachel: wow! that's a great question.
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Rachel: wow! that's a great question. i think the moment is when
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That's a great question. i think the moment is when you hit rock bottom,
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I think the moment is when you hit rock bottom, what you decide to do
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You hit rock bottom, what you decide to do in that place.
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What you decide to do in that place. because you can stay there
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In that place. because you can stay there or you can ask for help.
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Because you can stay there or you can ask for help. and i believe more than
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Or you can ask for help. and i believe more than anything else, because
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And i believe more than anything else, because i've seen it time and time
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Anything else, because i've seen it time and time again in our groups across
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I've seen it time and time again in our groups across the country, but you cannot
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Again in our groups across the country, but you cannot heal outside of community.
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The country, but you cannot heal outside of community. you cannot heal outside
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That's with a therapist.
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That's with a therapist. i believe it's more than
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I believe it's more than just a therapist.
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Just a therapist. i believe there's so much more
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I believe there's so much more than just talking behind
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Than just talking behind a closed door to someone
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A closed door to someone who knows how to talk to you.
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Confess your sins
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Confess your sins one to another
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Confess your sins one to another so that you might be healed.
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One to another so that you might be healed. not that grief is a sin
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So that you might be healed. not that grief is a sin by any means, but
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Not that grief is a sin by any means, but that confession, jesus did
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By any means, but that confession, jesus did the work, but we have a part
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That confession, jesus did the work, but we have a part in it, right?
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The work, but we have a part in it, right? in that confessing,
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In it, right? in that confessing, i'm struggling.
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In that confessing, i'm struggling. i'm struggling.
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I'm struggling. i'm struggling. i need help, it like,
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I'm struggling. i need help, it like, literally unlocks
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I need help, it like, literally unlocks your whole life.
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Literally unlocks your whole life. tammy: totally.
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Your whole life. tammy: totally. i think you said it there,
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Tammy: totally. i think you said it there, community.
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I think you said it there, community. the opposite of community
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Community. the opposite of community would be isolation.
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The opposite of community would be isolation. we cannot isolate.
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Would be isolation. we cannot isolate. so, if you're watching today,
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We cannot isolate. so, if you're watching today, i pray -- i pray that
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So, if you're watching today, i pray -- i pray that there was something
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I pray -- i pray that there was something in this quick amount of time
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There was something in this quick amount of time that we spoke about grief
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In this quick amount of time that we spoke about grief and about loss that
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That we spoke about grief and about loss that there was a takeaway for you.
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And about loss that there was a takeaway for you. maybe it's just that sitting
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There was a takeaway for you. maybe it's just that sitting at the top of your steps
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Maybe it's just that sitting at the top of your steps today and asking god to have
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At the top of your steps today and asking god to have an encounter with him.
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Today and asking god to have an encounter with him. just do something
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An encounter with him. just do something in my heart today, jesus.
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Just do something in my heart today, jesus. like, stir something.
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In my heart today, jesus. like, stir something. i don't want to be stuck here.
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Like, stir something. i don't want to be stuck here. i don't want to carry this.
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I don't want to be stuck here. i don't want to carry this. or i'm always living
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I don't want to carry this. or i'm always living in fear of loss.
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Or i'm always living in fear of loss. i think god wants to do
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In fear of loss. i think god wants to do a work in your life today.
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I think god wants to do a work in your life today. i pray that this has been
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A work in your life today. i pray that this has been a blessing to you.
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I pray that this has been a blessing to you. but don't isolate,
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A blessing to you. but don't isolate, find community, whatever
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But don't isolate, find community, whatever that looks like for you.
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Find community, whatever that looks like for you. but just keep moving.
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That looks like for you. but just keep moving. just keep moving.
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But just keep moving. just keep moving. set yourself up for success.
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Just keep moving. set yourself up for success. set that alarm every day
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Set yourself up for success. set that alarm every day and wake up and put your feet
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Set that alarm every day and wake up and put your feet on the ground,
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And wake up and put your feet on the ground, and say, i did it!
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On the ground, and say, i did it! i got through another day.
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And say, i did it! i got through another day. i'm here.
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I got through another day. i'm here. what do we do now
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I'm here. what do we do now with this day, jesus?
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What do we do now with this day, jesus? with this day,
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With this day, jesus? with this day, with this moment?
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With this day, with this moment? god has got great plans
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With this moment? god has got great plans for you and a great purpose
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God has got great plans for you and a great purpose for your life.
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For you and a great purpose for your life. this is not the end
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For your life. this is not the end of your story.
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This is not the end of your story. so start, living.
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Of your story. so start, living. start living big.
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So start, living. start living big. and i'm telling you right now,
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There's some incredible
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Children that i got to meet
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In central america
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Not too long ago,
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And we were really living.
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We were having the best time
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Together because i got to go
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Over there with life outreach
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And i got to give them
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Some christmas shoes.
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It's one of my favorite
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Outreaches we do
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Here at life today .
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Why? it's because
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There's so much joy
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That's wrapped in the gift
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Of a brand-new pair of shoes,
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Especially when i get
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To sit down and personally
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Put them on the feet of
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These precious children
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All around the world.
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And another highlight for me
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Is always praying
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With the families.
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They had so many needs
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When i was there.
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Just so many, so many asking,
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And can you help?
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Just being in those spaces,
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Just wanting to pray
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With them.
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Yet, they were so grateful.
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We simply just showed up
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And gave everything we could
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To lighten their load.
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We have to do whatever
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It takes, because this is
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A simple need that doesn't
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Cost much to meet, but
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It could cost so much
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If we don't.
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It could cost a child
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Their health or even worse,
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Their lives.
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So here's what that would
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Look like right now
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If you can help.
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To manufacture
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And deliver the shoes,
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It costs $3.60 a pair.
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That means your gift today
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Of $36 will help provide
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Ten children with their
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Very first pair of shoes,
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$72 will provide 20,
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And $180 will help us secure
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And ship christmas shoes
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For 50 children just in time
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For the holidays.
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And on top of that,
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We're also seeking to provide
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Much needed cleft lip
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And cleft palate surgeries
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For children around the world.
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So would you consider
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Giving $500 to help provide
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A child with a corrective
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Surgery and give them
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A brand-new smile?
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If that's you, and
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I believe it is, come on,
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We can do this together.
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Go online or call today
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With your gift.
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Because every day
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Without shoes is a day
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That a child is at risk.
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Let's make this christmas
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Unforgettable by spreading
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The love of jesus one pair
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Of shoes and one beautiful
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Smile at a time.
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Poverty is a killer, and because of it,
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Children needlessly suffer
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Not only from lack of food and clean water,
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But also from a lack of things we take for granted,
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Such as a healthy smile
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Or a protective pair of shoes.
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Far too many children living in extreme poverty
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Have never owned a pair of shoes.
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And while that may seem minor,
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Walking with bare feet puts them at risk
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Of painful infections, injury, and life-threatening diseases.
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But this christmas, you can bring hope and healing.
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Your gift today will help provide new shoes
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For 150,000 children in time for the holidays.
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And for some children, a beautiful new smile.
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Your gift of $36 will help provide shoes for ten children,
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$72 will help provide for 20,
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$180 will help provide shoes for 50,
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And a gift of $500 will help provide a cleft surgery,
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Restoring a child's smile forever.
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As a thank you for your gift of support,
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Be sure to request the beautifully crafted
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Yellow crystal shoe ornament,
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A treasure to display each christmas.
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With your gift of $100 or more,
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You may request this keepsake set featuring
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Four of life's colorful crystal shoe ornaments.
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Finally, please consider a gift of $1,000 or more
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To help provide over 275 pairs of shoes
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Or two children with corrective smile surgeries,
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And you may request the beautiful bronze sculpture, "lion of judah."
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Please call, write, or make your gift online today.
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Tammy: i hope you're going
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Tammy: i hope you're going online and giving the
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Tammy: i hope you're going online and giving the best gift that you can give.
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Online and giving the best gift that you can give. you must know it will make
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Best gift that you can give. you must know it will make an eternal impact on the lives
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You must know it will make an eternal impact on the lives of so many right now today.
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An eternal impact on the lives of so many right now today. rachel, i have truly,
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Of so many right now today. rachel, i have truly, truly loved my time with you.
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It's been a long time
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It's been a long time coming for us girls
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It's been a long time coming for us girls to just sit down.
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Coming for us girls to just sit down. i'm already crying again,
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To just sit down. i'm already crying again, but just to have a really
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I'm already crying again, but just to have a really good conversation;
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But just to have a really good conversation; it went really, really fast.
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Good conversation; it went really, really fast. but we've been through it,
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It went really, really fast. but we've been through it, and god is going to take us
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But we've been through it, and god is going to take us a long way still, because
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And god is going to take us a long way still, because we've got a lot still
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A long way still, because we've got a lot still to talk about.
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We've got a lot still to talk about. and you have incredible
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To talk about. and you have incredible ministries that you're doing.
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And you have incredible ministries that you're doing. tell us where people
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Ministries that you're doing. tell us where people can find you.
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Rachel: neveralonewidows.com
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Rachel: neveralonewidows.com is where they can connect
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Rachel: neveralonewidows.com is where they can connect in groups for community.
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Is where they can connect in groups for community. come to our conference.
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In groups for community. come to our conference. come to retreats.
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Come to our conference. come to retreats. and then through the book,
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Come to retreats. and then through the book, obviously, you can find
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And then through the book, obviously, you can find the book there
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Obviously, you can find the book there or on amazon.com.
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The book there or on amazon.com. tammy: make sure to go pick up
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A copy of widow's might .
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A copy of widow's might . it will bless you so much.
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A copy of widow's might . it will bless you so much. thank you so much
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It will bless you so much. thank you so much for being here.
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Thank you so much for being here. i love you, i appreciate you.
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For being here. i love you, i appreciate you. i love you,
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I love you, i appreciate you. i love you, and i appreciate you guys.
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I love you, and i appreciate you guys. thank you for watching.
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And i appreciate you guys. thank you for watching. we'll see you next time
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Thank you for watching. we'll see you next time on life today .
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♪ there's torn-up pages in this book ♪
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♪ words that tell me i'm no good ♪
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♪ chapters that defined me for so long ♪
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♪ but the hands of grace and endless love ♪
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♪ dusted off and picked me up ♪
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♪ told my heart that hope is never gone ♪
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♪ god is in this story ♪
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♪ god is in the details ♪
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♪ even in the broken parts ♪
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♪ he holds my heart ♪
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♪ he never fails ♪
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♪ when i'm at my weakest ♪
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♪ i will trust in jesus ♪
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♪ always in the highs and lows ♪
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♪ the one who goes before me ♪
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♪ god is in this story ♪
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♪ so if the storm you're walking through ♪
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♪ feels like it's too much ♪
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♪ and you wonder if he even cares at all ♪
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♪ hold on tight to what you know ♪
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♪ he promised he won't let you go ♪
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♪ your song of healing's written in his scars ♪
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♪ god is in this story ♪
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♪ god is in the details ♪
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♪ even in the broken parts ♪
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♪ he holds my heart ♪
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♪ he never fails ♪
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♪ when i'm at my weakest ♪
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♪ i will trust in jesus ♪
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♪ always in the highs and lows ♪
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♪ the one who goes before me ♪
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♪ god is in this story ♪
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♪ if it reads like addiction ♪
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♪ if it reads like disease ♪
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♪ he's the one who frees the prisoner ♪
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♪ he's the healer of all things ♪
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♪ if it reads like depression ♪
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♪ if it reads broken home ♪
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♪ he's the one who holds your sorrow ♪
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♪ he won't leave you here alone ♪
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♪ god is in this story ♪
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♪ god is in the details ♪
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♪ even in the broken parts ♪
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♪ he holds my heart ♪
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♪ he never fails ♪
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♪ when i'm at my weakest ♪
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♪ i will trust in jesus ♪
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♪ always in the highs and lows ♪
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♪ the one who goes before me ♪
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♪ always in the highs and lows ♪
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♪ the one who goes before me ♪
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♪ god is in this story ♪
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♪ god is in my story ♪
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>> so responding to stress, i believe is one of the ways
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That god helps build character in us.
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Dr. charles stone blends brain science
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And biblical truth. tomorrow!
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Rachel Faulkner Brown - Growing Through Grief

August 26, 2025 | S25 E214 | 29:14

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