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Better Together: Empowered to Thrive | Praise

May 7, 2026 | 55:29

It’s a Better Together takeover on Praise as fan-favorites Laurie Crouch, Sheila Walsh, Holly Wagner, Jada Edwards, and Dr. Donna Pisani share Biblical insight on how to thrive and leave a spiritual legacy that impacts generations.

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Praise | Better Together: Empowered to Thrive | Praise | May 7, 2026

The impact that you can have.
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Yeah.
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As a grandmother, as an auntie, as the neighbor,
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As the teacher.
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Whatever god
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Has you doing right now, you can be of such influence
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To everyone in your community and in your surroundings,
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And that you can make a difference in somebody's
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Life.
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Hi, everybody.
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Welcome to the better together praise program.
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I know, i don't know, we're trying to save
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Say first the girls are taking over.
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Haha.
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Oh we're so glad that you're here. this space right here.
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This is your space. that's right.
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This is your your chairs that we have never done this before.
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We've never done better together in front of an audience.
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And so i am so grateful that you have come to be a part.
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So thank you. give yourselves a hand.
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And to all of you joining us tonight.
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First of all, happy mother's day to an important job.
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It's a big job.
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And you know what?
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Shout out to all the aunties.
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Come on and experience a mother's.
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Because their mothers would all die
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Without the village, right?
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So it takes a team. that's right.
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We're going to get into all that. yeah.
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Better together is something that came together.
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Jeez. we talked about it for a long time.
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Holly was.
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We had a lot of conversations, you and me.
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We did.
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And it morphed through a whole lot of ideas.
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It was something that my mother, my mother
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In law, my sweet mother in law, jan crouch, told me one day.
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It was actually the last thing that she said to me.
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And she looked at me and she said,
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We wake up to joseph prince and joel osteen with
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Hope and grace every morning
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And she said, it's time for you to do something for the women.
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And we had the evening together.
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And next thing i saw her in a in a hospital bed
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And she never said another word to me.
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So that was kind of a mandate.
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And my husband, my sweet husband,
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Matthew, who's normally here, here with me.
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Not on better together though
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We don█t allow men
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Okay? not better together.
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But, boy, we appreciate the man that watch.
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I'm better together.
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We have 40% men.
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Wow. wild.
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Ten of our audience.
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That nice.
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We have a big announcement
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That, we've been just kind of waiting.
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It's kind of been a new thing for all of us
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That we've been rattling around in our brains.
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But we've got an announcement that august 8th,
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We are going to spend the day together with better together,
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And we want you all to come. yeah. right here.
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All day long.
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But with, beautiful conversations.
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It's our first event right here at the plex, here
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In fort worth.
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And, we're so excited for that.
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So every time i travel around
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The country, and you probably know this, too,
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I'll hear people say, gosh, i wish i could be part of that.
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So that's why laura came up with this dream.
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Let's have a whole day together.
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And we all get together and learn from one another.
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And i think it's going to be wonderful.
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You actually might get tired of us that day.
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We're going to give you the chance,
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But we're excited about it.
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We want you to take out your phones
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And they've got these,
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Like this new thing that people give you.
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Qr codes that are up on the screens.
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And you'll be the first to know all the latest updates
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And the first in line to get your tickets,
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When they go on sale for august 8th. yep.
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Lady freeman faith year each.
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So we've got so many good friends come in. yeah.
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And christy mcclelland is going to come.
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She's amazing. yeah, i see it.
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It's on the screen right now for you at home. yeah.
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So we want you to come and join us.
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We're going to just have a great time.
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But you know what i love about this and i love about tonight,
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Is that you've already talked
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About your darling mother in law.
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Yes. jan. yeah.
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And what we want to talk about tonight on the show
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Is the impact that we as women get to have on the people
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In our lives. yes.
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Because i have to tell you,
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Or every single time i'm on better together,
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I learn something from true.
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And i love the fact that you choose some of us that are older
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And some that you're all old up here.
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So day she's the baby okay i am not.
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Yeah you are.
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Well you like it.
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I'm going to have different experiences
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And i love that i think i, i think about naomi.
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Here's naomi. she's a widow.
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She has no sons.
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Her sons have died.
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She's got a daughter in laws.
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And the way that she tells them
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Go, you know, and she even kind of get sarcastic with them
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And she says,
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You know, what, do you think i'm going to have more sons
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And you're going to wait for in marriage.
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You go back to your people, right?
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Go back to your thing, you know, try to have a life.
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And and i love that ruth
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Just does not.
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There's something about naomi that she wants to hang on to.
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Yeah.
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And she doesn't want to go back.
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She wants to go with naomi,
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And she says, your people will become my people,
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And your god will become my god.
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Huge.
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And to know that influence does not need a platform.
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It's not influence, does not need a microphone.
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Influence is right there at home.
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And look what naomi did with ruth.
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She paved the way for ruth to change history.
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She's in the lineage of jesus.
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And i think that's so important for all of us to know.
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Is that for you to have influence in the world
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And for you to thrive, those aren't one, just big,
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You know, boy, i put on a perfect thing tonight
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With better together. that was great. that was success.
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No being thriving.
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And those are special everyday moments.
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Yeah, those are everyday moments of faithfulness in your life.
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That's what thriving in your life is.
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Is being faithful in the mundane the impact that you can have?
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Yeah.
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As a grandmother, as an auntie,
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As as the neighbor,
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As the teacher, as the
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Whatever you do, haircutting, whatever you
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Whatever god
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Has you doing right now, you can be of such influence
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To everyone in your community and in your surroundings
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And the little lives that we can touch.
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And yeah, it's just a very special thing
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That you can make a difference in somebody's life.
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And so tonight we're going to be talking about
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How to thrive in our lives.
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And, i think it's so important
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We're kind of the old women teaching the young women
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I, i liked tight like titus taught us to do.
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And that's kind of what better together even started with.
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It was just kind of like, okay, i'm not a speaker,
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But i've got a lot of big mouth friends and a lot of
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And you're there and you have a lot of
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Wonderful things to say, and we are full on,
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But i've got beautiful friends, and they they are ministers.
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They're moms, they're grandparents.
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And so i love them dearly.
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And we have beautiful, beautiful times on the set
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That sits right over there in this beautiful studio.
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I like that you brought up that titus, to.
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Right.
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Because basically my paraphrase is the an older woman.
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Yeah.
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Your job is the younger.
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And and here's the thing.
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It's like, it doesn't matter
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How old you are, there's always somebody younger.
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Yeah, right.
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So if you're in here
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And then you're in your 20s, you're an old woman
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To someone because there is a 12 year old.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Who's looking to you to figure out how to navigate some things.
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And, you know, if you're in here and you're 40, you're ancient.
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Yeah. right.
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Because there's a new mom, right?
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And she doesn't have to do anything.
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Or there's somebody struggling with infertility.
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She needs to know what.
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And if you're in your head, you're 60.
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You're really old and that's easy.
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And please help us navigate menopause.
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Come on.
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By god, we need help.
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Unleash the secrets.
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That's right, i learned leash this is something.
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So that's the point, right?
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At any given time,
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Where are the older and where the younger?
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And i think i've realized that the job, like when you're
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When you're in
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And in my life, there's women that speak into my life.
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You know, one of them went to be
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With jesus, you know, this week.
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And then there's no one that there's women i'm speaking into.
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Yeah. right.
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And so when i'm in the younger woman mode,
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When i'm looking to her, my job is to, you know, shut up.
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Yeah.
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Right.
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Is to and lead and and learn.
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And then when i'm the old woman,
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My job is to share my life and be honest about it.
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Not and not try to sugarcoat things or.
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But it's to tell the truth.
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Yeah, right.
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Because they're things i've gone through that will help. yeah.
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So somebody else doesn't have to go through it.
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And so like, there's some of you in here
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And maybe you're a single mom
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And you've managed to raise kids to adulthood, like, yes.
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Yeah.
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But what i know is there's
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Probably another young single mom in your circle
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That needs to know what you know and how you did it.
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Or maybe you overcame abuse or rejection.
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There's someone who needs to know what you know.
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So i just feel like some of our job. right as well too. yeah.
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Because i think sometimes we
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We think that means i need to be a teacher.
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And that's not what i'm saying.
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It's a life on life experience. yes.
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And i think when you walk with the lord,
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Even when you stumble and fall, you're surprised
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How much you actually know when someone wants to come
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And just understand how to walk with the lord.
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Even if you're sharing mistakes
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Or things that
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That where you failed
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And not not always made the right choice,
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They're still learning to be here from there.
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And so i think
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It's more about transparency than it is about teaching. yes.
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It's not let me get a lesson in some points together.
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It is like, come and see my life.
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Yeah.
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See the things that are still chaotic.
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See the things that the lord has brought me through.
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See the things that are still in process.
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Because i think one of the
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Things we struggle with
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Is really being open about what's in process.
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Yes, even in christianity, we just we come and we're like,
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We want a testimony service is like, i was a mess.
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I was a wreck.
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The lord delivered me. now i'm called into ministry.
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You're like, wait, what?
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Where's the in-between? you know? yeah.
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And so inviting people into that
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In between,
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Even if you're still figuring out
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And it's crazy and it's crazy about how we have to
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Actually walk through the things that we talk about
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Every day. yes.
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I mean, we are living, breathing.
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Yeah.
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Examples and and talk it out right here on this set.
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I think one of the things that stops us
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Sometimes from sharing is that we feel like thriving
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Means perfection.
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Yeah.
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And perfection is not what god's looking for.
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He's just looking for obedience.
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And so your life is going to be a mess.
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There's not one person in her who's life
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How many anybody in her not walk through something hard,
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Right? all of us.
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I just want to talk to you right.
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But you, you, jesus, jesus christ is here, right?
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Yeah.
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But even he walked through hard places.
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And so i think
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What stops us from thinking that we're thriving
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Is thinking that it has to be perfect,
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But you can be thriving in the middle of your mess, right?
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Yeah. that god uses that space. absolutely.
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That's the process.
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Yeah. the thing that shuts us up, though, is shame.
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Shame comes in and compare and makes
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You feel like you have to compare yourself.
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Your mess is worse than somebody else's mess.
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Like, if only i could do it better.
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And so then we stop sharing who we are with the power of this.
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What i've loved about these conversations, lori,
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Is that we are all sharing our mess.
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Not one of us up here
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Has had a perfect and jesus is the hero of every story.
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That's exactly.
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That's what i love. yeah, absolutely love that.
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I was reading this morning in second timothy,
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The bible and stuff, you know, and again, yes, it's
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Nice to know you haven't just memorized the whole thing.
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Yeah.
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This is one of my number one life survival test.
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If you haven't dug your bible out in a while.
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Yeah, i do, because honestly, it is life.
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I read this, this is paul writing to timothy,
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And he says, i long to see you so i may be filled with joy.
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I'm reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived
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In your grandmother lois, and then your mother, eunice.
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Yeah. like that. when i took the original.
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What does it mean, lived in.
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It doesn't mean, like he just pop the pop tin
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Every now and again and spent time with the lord.
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It was like they lived in the presence of the lord.
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And that was the legacy that they passed on.
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And, i mean, i was brought up by a single mom.
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You know, my dad died by suicide when i was five,
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And my mum had three children under seven.
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And but what i remember isn't what we didn't have.
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What i remember is the simple faith that she did have.
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You know, she would read to us
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That god has promised to be a father to the fatherless
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And husband to the widow, and and i saw that lift to my eyes.
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Yeah.
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It's interesting that scripture that you just read is like
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It mentions
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I was eunice and lois, and so then it
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It's like faith travel generation.
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Yeah. yeah. right. could travel generations.
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It just and it did it without social media.
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Right. amazing. right.
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Somehow managed to travel generations.
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And i just think what
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To your point, it's like that ordinary moment
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That you remember whether it was watching your mom
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Pray it's that stays with you today.
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Oh yeah.
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And it was an ordinary thing, right? is ordinary.
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Yeah, yeah.
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There.
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This, for one year, i was homeschooling
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My daughter,
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And that's all i could handle because i
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Wanted her to get educated, so.
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And i wasn't gonna be able to do it longer than a year.
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And so he taught all you knew to all.
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I wanted her to travel with me.
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And so we were doing that.
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And,
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She had watched there was this movie
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That came up a really long time ago,
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That every wednesday in this movie was i have day.
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And so for that year we were homeschooling for her.
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Every wednesday was going to be ihop day.
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Right.
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So we go to ihop and we're sitting there.
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She was probably, you know, fifth grade.
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So things are stuff.
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So we're going and she so we have our breakfast.
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And then i thought, you know what, i'm just going to do this.
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As i said, paris,
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I want you to pick somebody in this restaurant
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And we're going to buy their breakfast.
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And so she was like, took it seriously.
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So she perused the whole restaurant.
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She walked up and down. she comes back to me.
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Now, my daughter is enamored with old people.
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And so if there was any sort of walker
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Or wheelchair or cane by the table,
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She was picking that table, which was made
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It really cheap for me because it's ihop senior.
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Perfect.
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And and yeah, yeah.
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So the waitress came over and i said, paris,
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Tell them which table we're going to buy their breakfast.
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And so she told the lady and she goes, now should i go
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Tell them i go, no, yeah, we're just going to walk.
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So then we did that for the whole year.
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We just bought somebody molly.
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And then there was one time when she,
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She picked a table of police officers
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And they were not senior citizens.
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They eat a lot and they ate a lot.
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And then she comes over and in a loud whisper,
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She goes, my i take them so you don't get tickets
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Anymore.
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It did. it actually.
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Did it work?
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Yeah. okay, fine.
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But i feel like.
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So that was just some little thing
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I was doing to bond with her every day.
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Yeah, i love this thing.
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And then i fast forward
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In her life and then, you know, then she's moving to uganda
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And building orphanages and giving everything she owns.
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So generosity became like a part of her.
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And it wasn't i didn't strategize that.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I didn't say, i'm going to teach generosity. yeah.
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So i mean, i'm just i'm just trying
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To change lives in uganda, right? yeah.
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Right. right, right.
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Yeah. i just think it was i have to.
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Yeah. right. right.
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So i just think those are
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Some of the moments that we have
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And we don't know in that moment.
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So i feel like just living our life actually
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Affects more than we're aware of.
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Yeah. day and heaven misses nothing.
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No. that's the thing that blows me away.
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Because sometimes we look
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At people on platforms and thinking, oh, well,
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I could see that god is using them.
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Heaven misses nothing, right?
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The kingdom of god is so different from
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If you look at social media,
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We're always comparing ourselves to one another or somebody.
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And these filters people put on their faces,
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And then you meet them in real life like,
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Oh my gosh, you've had a hard week. know
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This surgery. yes.
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Yeah. somebody not tell me what you say.
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It's purging.
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Purging what you do and what you look like right now.
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The lord is not.
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Please, just for the lord as well.
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I'm saying tell the truth so that we know that it's age
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Is what we should all be looking at.
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Yeah. so just listen. don't you?
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Oh. back to my point.
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If i had one,
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There's something about the fact that heaven is nothing.
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Yeah, yeah.
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You know, some of you are washing
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The same clothes every day.
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Some of you're doing things and nobody seems to notice.
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But one of the things i love and part of the kingdom of god
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Is that he misses absolutely nothing.
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Yeah,
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That we do for him, you know, and you can't put your identity
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Into, you know, being being a mom isn't right.
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You're.
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Well, i don't want to say it's not your calling.
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It's not. do you want to role.
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You are.
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It's a role you have because of your calling, right. so.
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So that never changes being a mom. but.
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But my children aren't my identity.
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That's right. yes.
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What i do for a living is not my identity.
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So it's not really what you know.
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We're asking what matters
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Most into thriving and and having a wonderful life.
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That's not even the question.
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Yeah. the question is, who am i anchored to?
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Yes.
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Who am who?
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What what matters most to me?
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And today i've just been kind of
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Thinking about the fruit of the spirit
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And everything that as as women and people walking the earth,
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We need love, joy, peace, longsuffering, goodness,
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Faith, meekness, and temperance. we need you.
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And so king james, right? i jasper,
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I was torn.
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I know that i hate those i like all those self-control.
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Yeah, right.
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So wrong.
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So, yeah, you know, oh all that.
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But the only way we get that is if we're abiding in the vine.
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Because without abiding,
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The vine bears no fruit, right.
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Unless we abide.
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And so who are we anchored to?
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What are we anchored to
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In our lives when we're going through things?
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A lot of us are caretaking for our family, for our parents.
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Who's doing that right now?
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I'm doing that right now.
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As well as gaining grandbabies.
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But the the change in lives and and being just
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Yeah, you know, your your life can change tomorrow.
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Yeah.
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You know but man if you're anchored
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In the word of god, if i know who i am in christ
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And everything that i need, my love, my joy, my peace,
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My comfort, my strength, my provision comes from god.
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Yeah.
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Then you're not shaken and you can go through those things.
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But the legacy
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That we get to leave is through those mundane, everyday things.
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Someone pray? yeah.
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Watching what you do under pressure.
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That's huge. what you just said.
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It's like, i think
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That what you just said, i think our kids and people
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And the people in our circle, they watch what we do
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Under pressure. absolutely.
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I feel like that says more than what we do on a good day.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, right.
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It's like you're watching us when everything's flowing
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And that's what you're saturated with, right?
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So if i put a sponge in some kind of liquid
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When pressure is applied, that's what's going to come out.
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It's whatever it's been soaking in.
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And so i think too often to we live with this destination
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Addiction is what
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Psychologists call it now is that we're waiting to live life
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Until we get there.
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And once i get there, then everything will be good.
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But you can't get there until you walk through here, right?
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Because what you gain here is this weightiness.
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You build muscles in the heart
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Like some of the heart places i walk through.
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I didn't have any control over.
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Some of them were my own stupidity,
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But at the end of the day, i wouldn't change one of them.
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Some of them i might.
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But at the end of the day, what the wisdom.
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Now you get to call it wisdom this way.
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Just like that was good,
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Because i think even failure, fear, all of that is formation.
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That's part of us becoming more like christ.
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And then it makes me
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Hungry for him because nothing else satisfies.
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This is my oxygen.
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Absolutely.
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The bible says that
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The word of god is inspired, breathed into his essence.
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It's like i'm
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Hooking up to an oxygen tank every day
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So that when pressure is applied,
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Then what comes out is this.
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Because it's super easy right now to be distracted.
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Destination addiction also comes from distraction.
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Yeah.
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So you can be on your phone
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How you know, you can be on your phone
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And not realize you've been on your phone for an hour
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And you have gone down? listen to me.
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If you are looking for somebody background, just ask a woman.
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In three seconds.
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She's gone all the way down.
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It's a triangular trail like this is
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Linkedin is their facebook.
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Yeah, they're all myspace. yeah.
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Oh my gosh, that thing
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You know i know their uncles, uncles, sisters, brother.
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Talk about ruth and naomi. i know they're way back.
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Way back. yeah.
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Because we can get caught up in the distraction.
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And then we've lost sight of why we're having a hard time.
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It's because we haven't hooked up to the oxygen.
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There's so much wisdom up here.
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Like from the left. oh,
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I am curious, like, in the
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Day to day when it feels either overwhelming.
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Sometimes life is underwhelming.
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You're just like, i'm done with it.
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I what does that practically look like for you ladies?
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Like, how do i re anchor?
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Because sometimes the language can feel lofty,
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And i don't know what to do in that moment.
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What do i actually do?
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So what does that okay. this morning.
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So when i wake up this morning, for some reason i feel anxious.
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And i'm not usually an anxious person.
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I don't usually struggle with anxiety,
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But i just felt really anxious and overwhelmed.
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And so i have a habit of reading the psalms out loud every day.
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And i was in psalm 61 where it says, for
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My heart is overwhelmed.
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Lead me to the rock that is high up and so cool.
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And i mean, i literally stood at my balcony and i read that
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Psalm out loud 2 or 3 times over myself because it's like,
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That's where i'm at right now. my heart feels overwhelmed.
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Yeah, lead me to the rock that is higher than i.
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Yeah, yeah,
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There's something about your ears
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Hearing what your eyes are reading.
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Yeah. so powerful, so good.
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I say the same thing.
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You know there is no shortcut.
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No, there's no shortcut out of stuff.
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I think a lot of times when we feel weak
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And we feel overwhelmed, don't brush that off.
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Yeah.
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That's when you say, god, you said you are strength.
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Yeah. in my weakness. yeah.
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So show yourself strong in my on my behalf right now.
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That's where god comes in, you know, and can do something
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In your life.
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And, and paul even said,
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I boast in my weakness because god is made.
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God has made star and all glory goes to god.
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I think we can brush off those moments.
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I think, you know, and kind of move.
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Yeah, that's to get back to that, i guess.
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Yeah, that's good is not good.
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But i think if you just pause in those moments
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And just say, god, what are you saying to me?
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You know, what?
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Can i get in to still yourself?
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To steal yourself?
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Take that blink to sit still.
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Yeah, yeah.
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There's something about the presence of the lord
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That changed.
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That's what was there for me this morning.
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It was like, you know what?
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I used to think i wanted answers.
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No, what i was was this presence.
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Yeah.
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Because his presence is so much greater than i could get.
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Yeah. and i love that you read it out loud there.
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Yeah. that's where faith comes right here hearing this word.
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Yeah.
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You know, one of the annoying chapters in the bible, right?
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Is. oh. which one? yeah.
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So, so, but, you know, proverbs 31.
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Right.
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And so i remember
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Being so irritated with that chapter
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Because i felt like it was a blueprint that was inaccessible.
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Yeah. just how in the world, right.
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It could be.
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But then when you
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Break it down and kind of study it a little bit, it becomes
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It becomes reasonable, becomes who we're supposed to be.
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And and then she's close
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With strength and dignity and can smile at the future,
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Laughs and laughs at the future ones.
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Laughs. and i love that that and that.
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I guess when i think about the verse
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Like, she's close, she she closed herself.
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Yeah. she called with strength and dignity.
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And one of the original meanings of that word
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Dignity is majesty.
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It's identity. it's who she is.
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And so i think for us, good holly is to remember who we are.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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So we are a daughter of the king.
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Yeah. before i'm a wife.
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Before i'm a mother. before i'm a pastor.
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Before i'm a teacher
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I am a loved beyond measure daughter of the.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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And that's why i can smile at the future.
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Yeah, yeah.
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We were talking the other day. i'm better together.
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And i said i will always, forever be cliff or daughter.
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Nothing can change that. yeah.
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So we are daughters of a living god
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That is living and breathing on the inside of us.
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The holy spirit. yeah.
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Jesus said, it's
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Better for me to go because i'm sending
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In the holy spirit that can indwell you.
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The same spirit
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That raised him from the dead live as you think about that.
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Just for a second, man. yeah.
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That is that's powerful.
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And that will never leave me as a dot.
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I am a daughter and nothing.
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No situation, no circumstance,
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Nothing in your life is going to change.
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Yeah. who? your daddy.
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Yeah. that's right. oh.
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We have this generation
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Of young women who have lost sight of that.
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Yeah. you know whose overwhelming.
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I remember a moment reading proverbs 31.
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You know it was just kind of beat into you
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If you were a church girl growing up.
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And then one day the lord was like,
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You know, she's not doing all that in one day.
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You just getting up that early.
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Take a breath, jada.
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Okay. so i was like, oh no, i got to go to the field.
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I need to make some material.
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I need state. yeah, right.
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Just chill out.
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Right though,
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Because it can be almost like the fruit of the spirit.
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It can feel like a checklist. yeah, yeah.
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And it's not. he's like it's it's a guideline.
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He's like, look, are your hands productive?
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Are you serving your family?
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Are you supporting what i'm asking you to do?
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And so there's broader principles there.
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I think that we miss.
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And even your point about daughter, she
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I think that is a struggle. yes.
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It's it it's
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Because if
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You've not been
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And i talk about this a lot
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Because it keeps showing up in scripture.
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If you have not been fathered, well, yeah, yeah.
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Or you have not reconciled whatever gap you experienced
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In your fathering, you're good. you were.
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It is hard for the lord to come in and say, sit down,
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Stop it.
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Because everything you've never had discipline with love.
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You don't know what that looks like.
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You had an overaggressive father,
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An absent father or performing father.
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Whatever it was, if he was human, he wasn't perfect.
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And so dealing with that,
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It doesn't even feel like it connects
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To why the dishes in the saint made me feel overwhelmed.
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Yeah, or why that next phone call
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Made me feel like this is it.
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I didn't feel like it connected.
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If you said long enough and let let god as father
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Come and ministered to me, and that
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There has been a shift for me because i, i had,
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It was easier for me to connect to god as problem solver
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And rescue were like those things that were like,
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I need to knock these things out, lord, come along.
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Only you can do it my way.
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Do i got minis?
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I know you just need to be father and just sit down like
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Let me love you so good.
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And it feels awkward if you don't really know
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How to sit in it.
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And then you overcompensate.
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You're like, this is awkward. i'm going to be busy again
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Because that's comfortable, right? you know what i'm saying?
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And so i think that's one of those unspoken
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Things like, we want to get daughters.
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You know what it means to sit and be fathered by god.
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So, jada, what did that how did you practice that
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Girl being quiet that's already speak
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To that.
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He was like, be quiet.
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I was like, that had to be you, lord is.
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I don't ever tell myself to be quiet.
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I love that, but i remember i remember a moment
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And it just makes me emotional thinking about it.
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And it was a random day where it was just one more thing
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That was going to send me over the edge.
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I was like, if i trip over one more shoe,
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Or if one more person gives me an excuse for something
00:29:13.775 --> 00:29:17.245
That needed to get done or whatever,
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And it's like you just feel some days like
00:29:19.247 --> 00:29:20.949
Everybody is
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It's right, you know, and i was in the middle
00:29:21.983 --> 00:29:24.652
Of cooking dinner.
00:29:24.652 --> 00:29:25.854
I remember, and the lord was like, you need to go sit down,
00:29:25.854 --> 00:29:28.656
You know, sit down.
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And so i had to turn off the stove safety first. and,
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I did
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This, and i went and sat down, and i was at the table with
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My kids. is supposed to be a dining table.
00:29:38.733 --> 00:29:40.735
Allegedly.
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It's been turned into a crafting table day,
00:29:41.669 --> 00:29:43.838
You know, homework two.
00:29:43.838 --> 00:29:44.973
I'm in the thick of it.
00:29:44.973 --> 00:29:45.874
So, you know, we'll decorate in 2035.
00:29:45.874 --> 00:29:48.676
It's up.
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But he told me to sit down.
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So i just remember sitting at the table
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And, like, my families walk around me
00:29:53.781 --> 00:29:55.283
Like, some not righteous, not dinners have cooked.
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I'm like.
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And she's quiet. she's quiet.
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Give me a minute.
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And i just sat there
00:30:03.157 --> 00:30:04.459
And it wasn't anything deep and no worship song came to mind.
00:30:04.459 --> 00:30:08.263
No particular scripture came, but it was the presence.
00:30:08.263 --> 00:30:10.732
Yeah. he was like, you're doing too much
00:30:10.732 --> 00:30:13.868
And a lot of what you're doing.
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I didn't tell you. it is. yeah, yeah.
00:30:15.670 --> 00:30:17.639
Like you put this on your own list. yeah.
00:30:17.639 --> 00:30:19.674
Go ahead. and it was just a moment. yeah.
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I mean i would not eat.
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So it was a good night. so.
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But i just needed to sit.
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And for me, if busyness is your thing,
00:30:28.316 --> 00:30:30.985
That that's a struggle.
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It's still a struggle.
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I don't know that i'm better and i'm more aware
00:30:33.221 --> 00:30:35.790
Of what's missing.
00:30:35.790 --> 00:30:36.691
But to steal. yeah, yeah.
00:30:36.691 --> 00:30:38.693
And god is like, you don't have to do anything
00:30:38.693 --> 00:30:40.361
For me to love you. that's right.
00:30:40.361 --> 00:30:41.829
If dinner is horrible, if there is stuff in the scene.
00:30:41.829 --> 00:30:44.565
Yeah. if the house is still mess.
00:30:44.565 --> 00:30:46.000
If your kids demand. if they fail this class.
00:30:46.000 --> 00:30:48.336
You know my loved in change, right?
00:30:48.336 --> 00:30:50.004
Because you start to equate your professor, right?
00:30:50.004 --> 00:30:52.407
Right. and so it's just i'm a mess.
00:30:52.407 --> 00:30:54.876
All right? you know, but so good job.
00:30:54.876 --> 00:30:56.844
Yeah. that's what it was. sounds like. oh, yeah.
00:30:56.844 --> 00:31:00.715
So i had i didn't need it.
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Yeah.
00:31:03.651 --> 00:31:04.452
I was asking because i had a similar,
00:31:04.452 --> 00:31:05.920
I had a great dad, but he didn't he wasn't tender or loving
00:31:05.920 --> 00:31:09.724
And so i was constantly working to try to get his approval,
00:31:09.724 --> 00:31:13.795
Which then transferred into my relationship with god.
00:31:13.795 --> 00:31:16.898
And it wasn't until i was in the midst
00:31:16.898 --> 00:31:18.967
Of a very deep, deep betrayal, hurt, pain.
00:31:18.967 --> 00:31:22.537
And you could physically feel the pain in my heart.
00:31:22.537 --> 00:31:25.340
And i was just kind of angry at god,
00:31:25.340 --> 00:31:27.041
But didn't even realize i was angry at god.
00:31:27.041 --> 00:31:28.476
And i'd been in ministry for years,
00:31:28.476 --> 00:31:29.877
But didn't even realize i've been harboring all of that.
00:31:29.877 --> 00:31:31.980
And god spoke to me and he said, stop
00:31:31.980 --> 00:31:33.948
Fighting for the things i've already paid for it.
00:31:33.948 --> 00:31:36.250
Oh, he says, start.
00:31:36.250 --> 00:31:37.618
Start sitting in what i've already done for you.
00:31:37.618 --> 00:31:40.421
Yeah, stop fighting for it. so good.
00:31:40.421 --> 00:31:42.991
And it was that moment of having to sit in his presence.
00:31:42.991 --> 00:31:45.860
Yeah, yeah. and not have to fix it.
00:31:45.860 --> 00:31:48.563
That changed changed it for me.
00:31:48.563 --> 00:31:50.498
So i do think a lot of our inability to be still.
00:31:50.498 --> 00:31:54.936
Yeah.
00:31:54.936 --> 00:31:55.903
As women because we are performance value is
00:31:55.903 --> 00:31:58.906
Based on what we can do.
00:31:58.906 --> 00:32:00.775
And there's a lot of that.
00:32:00.775 --> 00:32:01.542
When you look at psalm 46
00:32:01.542 --> 00:32:03.011
Verse ten, that was one of the first ones
00:32:03.011 --> 00:32:04.445
I learned be still and know that i am god.
00:32:04.445 --> 00:32:07.148
And i used to as a teenager, i would sit, i'd got my bedroom
00:32:07.148 --> 00:32:09.751
And sit and think, okay, lord, here i am from you still.
00:32:09.751 --> 00:32:12.453
And i'm knowing and knowing you were god and yet still.
00:32:12.453 --> 00:32:16.424
And it made no sense to me.
00:32:16.424 --> 00:32:18.226
Yeah.
00:32:18.226 --> 00:32:19.127
To like, worked out what the hebrew root
00:32:19.127 --> 00:32:20.428
And the hebrew root of be still is.
00:32:20.428 --> 00:32:22.663
Let go and surrender. yeah.
00:32:22.663 --> 00:32:24.799
You know,
00:32:24.799 --> 00:32:25.833
You're trying to do all your self, your white
00:32:25.833 --> 00:32:26.768
Knuckling it through your life. no.
00:32:26.768 --> 00:32:29.270
Be quiet, be still. surrender.
00:32:29.270 --> 00:32:31.639
Because the interesting thing is psalm 46 is a war psalm.
00:32:31.639 --> 00:32:34.675
It's not a take a candle into your room and sing kumbaya
00:32:34.675 --> 00:32:38.413
Psalm.
00:32:38.413 --> 00:32:39.380
It's there in the middle of the worst time
00:32:39.380 --> 00:32:42.016
Israel's ever been in.
00:32:42.016 --> 00:32:43.418
And god says, let go in.
00:32:43.418 --> 00:32:45.386
You know, beautiful.
00:32:45.386 --> 00:32:47.455
That's like that when it says that we can come boldly
00:32:47.455 --> 00:32:51.025
Into the throne room. so why?
00:32:51.025 --> 00:32:53.327
Because we're his daughter.
00:32:53.928 --> 00:32:55.229
Yeah, that's where i belong. yeah, yeah.
00:32:55.229 --> 00:32:57.665
Like i belong in the throne room. yeah.
00:32:57.665 --> 00:33:00.068
So that's where.
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Yeah.
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To get to that place
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Where i don't feel like i have to earn the right night.
00:33:03.137 --> 00:33:06.974
Yeah, i remember life magazine did a photo.
00:33:06.974 --> 00:33:09.444
Do you remember the photo they did of,
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John f kennedy when he was president
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And his son was under the desk, and it was like,
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You know,
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This is this place
00:33:17.718 --> 00:33:18.619
That's like so of off of the oval office
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And there's his little boy under the desk
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With his car playing with his car.
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Yeah.
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And i think that's how
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I learned something
00:33:25.827 --> 00:33:27.095
The other day that has really had an impact on my own life.
00:33:27.095 --> 00:33:30.731
I used to wonder why,
00:33:30.731 --> 00:33:32.033
When the final plague was coming on egypt, and god
00:33:32.033 --> 00:33:35.770
Told moses, telling people to sacrifice a lamb,
00:33:35.770 --> 00:33:38.773
Dip the hyssop branch and put it on the doorpost.
00:33:38.773 --> 00:33:41.676
I used to think
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If that was me, i would want to be honking big x
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Right in the middle of my door.
00:33:45.713 --> 00:33:47.115
You know, that's what they took to see
00:33:47.115 --> 00:33:49.250
Till i realized that they had adopted
00:33:49.250 --> 00:33:50.785
Some of the habits of egypt,
00:33:50.785 --> 00:33:52.253
Where your name
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Would be engraved in the doorpost of your life
00:33:53.454 --> 00:33:56.057
Because egyptians believed in the afterlife.
00:33:56.057 --> 00:33:57.892
But your name mattered.
00:33:57.892 --> 00:33:58.926
And what what they were saying that night was no,
00:33:58.926 --> 00:34:01.529
Cover your name, blood, because your name is never going
00:34:01.529 --> 00:34:05.066
To save you. wow.
00:34:05.066 --> 00:34:06.234
And i think, you know, time that i used to spend
00:34:06.234 --> 00:34:08.536
Trying to be perfect as opposed to him pursuing him.
00:34:08.536 --> 00:34:11.339
Who it's perfect because some covered.
00:34:11.339 --> 00:34:13.274
Yeah. so. yeah.
00:34:13.274 --> 00:34:14.709
So we can rest. yeah. yeah.
00:34:14.709 --> 00:34:16.811
I think the resting you know, i think so
00:34:16.811 --> 00:34:20.248
Many of us lived with clenched fists. yes.
00:34:20.248 --> 00:34:23.251
You know, just nervous, anxious, holding on.
00:34:23.251 --> 00:34:28.656
And the bible says cast all your cares on me.
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Yes. to to my yoke.
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Take my yoke because it's easy and it's light.
00:34:37.231 --> 00:34:40.401
And so casting our cares is that living open
00:34:40.401 --> 00:34:44.038
Handedly saying i don't hold on to anything.
00:34:44.038 --> 00:34:47.675
Nothing is lost in the kingdom of god.
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Everything that i need already belongs to me
00:34:50.645 --> 00:34:53.781
As a daughter of god.
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So when i feel like i'm lacking, i'm really not.
00:34:56.784 --> 00:35:01.422
And so all of those things that we go through,
00:35:01.422 --> 00:35:04.825
I think that push us over the edge or over,
00:35:04.825 --> 00:35:09.463
I think we're supposed to be
00:35:09.463 --> 00:35:11.032
Being pushed
00:35:11.032 --> 00:35:12.166
Into the presence of god, being pushed towards god.
00:35:12.166 --> 00:35:15.503
I think he's always baiting our passion.
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Yeah.
00:35:18.739 --> 00:35:19.974
He's always allowing things to happen to bait our passion
00:35:19.974 --> 00:35:24.679
For more of him because and i say this
00:35:24.679 --> 00:35:28.716
And it's it, it sounds real i think probably trivial
00:35:28.716 --> 00:35:32.787
To people sometimes.
00:35:33.221 --> 00:35:34.522
But i, i'm always saying kind of
00:35:34.522 --> 00:35:36.390
And i don't like to even hardly say it out loud.
00:35:36.390 --> 00:35:39.193
I kind of the harder it is, the better it is.
00:35:40.161 --> 00:35:42.730
Yeah.
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I have this one seminary professor who said that.
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He said he said, you will.
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We experience,
00:35:48.469 --> 00:35:51.806
The presence of god in two ways
00:35:51.806 --> 00:35:55.142
With extreme good and suffering.
00:35:55.142 --> 00:35:58.746
And most of us, it's it's.
00:35:58.746 --> 00:36:01.849
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:36:01.849 --> 00:36:03.384
The hard things we got the hard.
00:36:03.384 --> 00:36:05.886
And those are the moments you feel closest to the lord.
00:36:05.886 --> 00:36:07.788
Like if i say,
00:36:07.788 --> 00:36:09.123
When did you have your great moment with the lord?
00:36:09.123 --> 00:36:11.726
How many was it a mountaintop experience.
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How many was it? a valley is the valley.
00:36:13.728 --> 00:36:15.997
Yeah. i mean, first of all, we're just better in the valley.
00:36:15.997 --> 00:36:18.766
We pray more, we fast and we read in all the bible stories.
00:36:18.766 --> 00:36:22.303
We always the church we serve and we listen.
00:36:22.303 --> 00:36:25.706
We do everything with the lord. all translations.
00:36:25.706 --> 00:36:28.042
You know, we you. it is be it.
00:36:28.042 --> 00:36:31.178
Lord, i'm just going to tarry all night.
00:36:31.178 --> 00:36:33.114
Valley.
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Yeah, but you think about it will bring you close.
00:36:34.282 --> 00:36:36.484
Fruit doesn't grow on mountaintops.
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It does not valley.
00:36:37.918 --> 00:36:38.953
It does. valleys. it does.
00:36:38.953 --> 00:36:41.555
I mean, i would like to fast forward
00:36:41.555 --> 00:36:43.224
Fruit, like, just take the the fruit,
00:36:43.224 --> 00:36:45.393
But is the truth of it.
00:36:45.393 --> 00:36:46.627
And i think, you know, for as women,
00:36:46.627 --> 00:36:49.797
Yes mothers but also as women, i think there's something,
00:36:49.797 --> 00:36:54.602
Something internal societal culture, i don't know.
00:36:54.602 --> 00:36:57.038
But this idea of like i'm the hub in it
00:36:57.038 --> 00:37:01.242
All, you never leave that role, right?
00:37:01.242 --> 00:37:04.645
Even i know women who are not married and don't have children.
00:37:04.645 --> 00:37:07.748
It doesn't matter.
00:37:07.748 --> 00:37:08.949
Still shows up in their career like they always feel like
00:37:08.949 --> 00:37:11.552
I have to hold all the gear i need to manage your emotions
00:37:11.552 --> 00:37:14.355
Need to make sure you're okay.
00:37:14.355 --> 00:37:15.690
There's something in us that i think was meant for good.
00:37:15.690 --> 00:37:19.226
Yeah. yes.
00:37:19.226 --> 00:37:19.894
That has just gotten distorted
00:37:19.894 --> 00:37:21.495
Where we're like, we just need to manage
00:37:21.495 --> 00:37:22.763
Everybody's feelings and our things. yeah.
00:37:22.763 --> 00:37:25.566
And it is. yeah. it can be a never ending.
00:37:25.566 --> 00:37:28.302
Can we forget that jesus is the savior?
00:37:28.302 --> 00:37:31.105
We're just a support staff.
00:37:31.105 --> 00:37:32.406
Yeah, yeah, i know in my mind.
00:37:32.406 --> 00:37:34.542
Yeah i know from my quiet time. right. yeah.
00:37:34.542 --> 00:37:37.378
Living that out moment to moment.
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Yeah.
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Well, i have a phd in control.
00:37:40.181 --> 00:37:43.918
She also has another beauty.
00:37:44.485 --> 00:37:46.187
I don't have a doctorate.
00:37:46.187 --> 00:37:48.856
No, but big difference.
00:37:48.856 --> 00:37:51.292
But but in control.
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I've been to school for that because i like managing.
00:37:53.094 --> 00:37:56.397
I like everything, i feel like if i can control it,
00:37:56.397 --> 00:37:59.900
Then it'll go smoothly and i can forget.
00:37:59.900 --> 00:38:03.671
It doesn't usually happen that way.
00:38:04.472 --> 00:38:06.941
And time and time again
00:38:06.941 --> 00:38:08.242
I feel like i have to being at all.
00:38:08.242 --> 00:38:09.577
And so i think it's important to remember that
00:38:09.577 --> 00:38:12.680
Even though we're gripping and grasping for things.
00:38:12.680 --> 00:38:16.083
That the only way we can do that is because he is already
00:38:16.083 --> 00:38:20.087
Gripping us and embracing us.
00:38:20.087 --> 00:38:22.823
And so i think that takes the performance out of it.
00:38:22.823 --> 00:38:24.859
And he never, ever, ever lets go of his embrace of me.
00:38:24.859 --> 00:38:28.629
Never.
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He's in constant stress
00:38:29.663 --> 00:38:30.931
And anxiety out of trying to be in control of it. yes.
00:38:30.931 --> 00:38:34.702
And one of the greatest
00:38:34.702 --> 00:38:36.036
Words i learned is that no is a complete sentence.
00:38:36.036 --> 00:38:39.039
Yes, yes. oh, god. no.
00:38:39.039 --> 00:38:41.742
Yeah, yeah. just leave it to yourself.
00:38:41.742 --> 00:38:44.245
No, because we're like, i can do it, i can do. yes.
00:38:44.245 --> 00:38:47.348
That's right.
00:38:47.348 --> 00:38:48.215
Just, you know, even with our kids,
00:38:48.215 --> 00:38:50.484
They're working on the things sometimes just christian women.
00:38:50.484 --> 00:38:52.887
Yeah. we we want to be a great example to everybody else.
00:38:52.887 --> 00:38:55.656
But under our own roofs,
00:38:55.656 --> 00:38:57.625
Our kids wonder, well, you know, where do i fit in?
00:38:57.625 --> 00:39:00.461
I remember a woman in our neighborhood knocking on my door
00:39:00.461 --> 00:39:02.663
And asking if i would host a bible study in my house,
00:39:02.663 --> 00:39:05.499
And i said, sure, i'd love to.
00:39:05.499 --> 00:39:06.767
And they said, we've we've arranged to do it on tuesday.
00:39:06.767 --> 00:39:08.836
And i said, actually, i can't do tuesday.
00:39:08.836 --> 00:39:10.871
She said, well, why not?
00:39:10.871 --> 00:39:12.106
I said, because that's the night i play basketball with my son.
00:39:12.106 --> 00:39:15.776
But she said, she looked at me.
00:39:15.776 --> 00:39:17.278
She said,
00:39:17.278 --> 00:39:18.245
Are you telling me that it's more important
00:39:18.245 --> 00:39:20.214
To play basketball with your son than to host a bible study?
00:39:20.214 --> 00:39:23.284
Said, yes, ma'am.
00:39:23.284 --> 00:39:24.618
That's exactly what i'm telling you.
00:39:24.618 --> 00:39:26.353
Not in some smart way. yes. yeah,
00:39:26.353 --> 00:39:30.591
But just
00:39:30.825 --> 00:39:31.725
In this way of our kids need to know.
00:39:31.725 --> 00:39:34.261
Yeah. yes, yes.
00:39:34.261 --> 00:39:35.563
Our know is so good and that they matter.
00:39:35.563 --> 00:39:37.898
Yeah.
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First of all, i'm just trying to picture play fast
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Five foot nothing.
00:39:41.068 --> 00:39:41.936
You five.
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But hey, we can play she had her heels on
00:39:42.937 --> 00:39:45.139
We can play two.
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I lowered the basket.
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Yeah, yeah, i wasn't ready.
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Yes, well, if you've just tuned in, you have joined
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We█re talking about,
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How god empowers us to thrive in your life.
00:40:12.867 --> 00:40:16.103
Touches so many,
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So many more than what we actually realize.
00:40:18.772 --> 00:40:21.475
So every day someone's watching us.
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Right.
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No matter where you go, no matter what you do,
00:40:24.678 --> 00:40:26.814
There's eyeballs watching you to see, to to learn.
00:40:26.814 --> 00:40:31.952
You know i was watching my grandbaby yesterday.
00:40:31.952 --> 00:40:34.889
Shy and cody is daddy.
00:40:34.889 --> 00:40:36.924
My son was out and we've had some storms here
00:40:36.924 --> 00:40:40.794
In dallas and so leaves in these little things off the trigger
00:40:40.794 --> 00:40:43.898
Just everywhere.
00:40:43.898 --> 00:40:45.032
And so cody comes out with the blower and he's blowing.
00:40:45.032 --> 00:40:49.136
And here's my little almost naked grandbaby
00:40:49.136 --> 00:40:52.406
With the diaper on just following him
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And then stopping and watching in the car.
00:40:55.976 --> 00:40:58.479
He's a year old.
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And then cody would turn this way
00:41:00.114 --> 00:41:01.615
And she would be right behind him rocking.
00:41:01.615 --> 00:41:04.084
And then he would just stop and just
00:41:04.084 --> 00:41:06.220
Look at what he was doing,
00:41:06.220 --> 00:41:07.388
And then just look up at him, you know?
00:41:07.388 --> 00:41:08.889
And i'm thinking, man,
00:41:08.889 --> 00:41:10.324
These children are just watching every single move we make.
00:41:10.324 --> 00:41:15.362
And we've been talking about thriving and legacy.
00:41:15.362 --> 00:41:18.465
What we're leaving.
00:41:18.465 --> 00:41:19.466
And it's a mandate, to teach the younger,
00:41:19.466 --> 00:41:23.837
You know, it tells them, don't be drunks and be faithful.
00:41:23.837 --> 00:41:27.908
Be be good.
00:41:28.242 --> 00:41:29.743
The the women you know, to to know how to love to
00:41:29.743 --> 00:41:34.114
To love, to lead a house, a household and to train.
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And that's the only way
00:41:38.619 --> 00:41:40.421
That people learn that that girls learn
00:41:40.421 --> 00:41:43.157
That that people learn is by watching others and what they.
00:41:43.157 --> 00:41:46.961
And so we're an example of what to do or what not to do.
00:41:46.961 --> 00:41:51.465
But that's true, right?
00:41:51.465 --> 00:41:52.900
There are some things that i loved about my daddy
00:41:52.900 --> 00:41:55.769
And some things that i had to get the victory over
00:41:55.769 --> 00:41:59.573
Because of my daddy. yeah.
00:41:59.573 --> 00:42:00.774
You know, and so some things god uses.
00:42:00.774 --> 00:42:04.211
And i want you to know this god uses every person, right?
00:42:04.211 --> 00:42:11.118
Yeah.
00:42:11.352 --> 00:42:12.219
It's good because we belong to him.
00:42:12.219 --> 00:42:14.555
Everybody belongs to the lord.
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The earth is the lord's and the fullness thereof.
00:42:16.991 --> 00:42:19.593
And everyone, yeah, everyone that dwells there in.
00:42:19.593 --> 00:42:24.431
So we're all we can say. a tool
00:42:24.431 --> 00:42:28.669
In the hand of the lord.
00:42:29.169 --> 00:42:30.270
For good or bad.
00:42:30.270 --> 00:42:31.805
Yeah.
00:42:31.805 --> 00:42:32.673
It's like, jeremiah 3121, donna notes.
00:42:32.673 --> 00:42:35.376
This has kind of been one of my the scriptures. for me.
00:42:35.376 --> 00:42:37.711
It's it says set up road signs, put up guideposts, mark.
00:42:37.711 --> 00:42:42.149
Well, the path by which you came. wow.
00:42:42.149 --> 00:42:44.985
So i feel like we have this
00:42:44.985 --> 00:42:46.320
Responsibility to mark the path by which we came.
00:42:46.320 --> 00:42:50.257
And we have a choice about how to do it right.
00:42:50.257 --> 00:42:52.893
And so if we've experienced
00:42:52.893 --> 00:42:55.663
Hurt, i mean, i've navigated cancer and betrayal and,
00:42:55.663 --> 00:42:59.833
You know, identity, all of the things.
00:42:59.833 --> 00:43:02.102
And i can mark that with anger and bitterness and cynicism,
00:43:02.102 --> 00:43:06.240
Which was a real temptation. yeah.
00:43:06.240 --> 00:43:08.075
You know, for a long time.
00:43:08.075 --> 00:43:09.076
And you can mark it with all of that or.
00:43:09.076 --> 00:43:11.712
Yeah, you can mark it with faith and hope and trust in god
00:43:11.712 --> 00:43:15.549
Or even like if you experience favor.
00:43:15.549 --> 00:43:19.286
Yeah. right.
00:43:19.286 --> 00:43:20.454
Sometimes god actually gives us a platform or a voice
00:43:20.454 --> 00:43:24.158
Or whether it's a big one
00:43:24.158 --> 00:43:25.426
Or little ones that we've experienced favor
00:43:25.426 --> 00:43:27.061
And we get to choose how we mark the trail with favor.
00:43:27.061 --> 00:43:29.697
Do we become arrogant?
00:43:29.697 --> 00:43:32.066
I think it's all about us.
00:43:32.066 --> 00:43:33.367
Or do we hold the door open so a generation can come through?
00:43:33.367 --> 00:43:36.103
It's like we get a choice.
00:43:36.103 --> 00:43:37.771
Yeah. and a lot of times it's both.
00:43:37.771 --> 00:43:39.940
Yeah.
00:43:39.940 --> 00:43:40.641
It's almost start out with that.
00:43:40.641 --> 00:43:42.876
I mean, i walked a little bit of that with you.
00:43:42.876 --> 00:43:45.446
Yeah.
00:43:45.446 --> 00:43:46.547
And, and even matt and i just going through stuff,
00:43:46.547 --> 00:43:49.516
You know, and, and then you think one day.
00:43:49.516 --> 00:43:51.685
Oh, i bet
00:43:51.685 --> 00:43:52.820
Our friends are just so sick of us talking about this.
00:43:52.820 --> 00:43:55.522
Right.
00:43:55.522 --> 00:43:56.724
And it's time for us to shut up now talk about shut up,
00:43:56.724 --> 00:43:59.993
You know, to sit down and shut up about that
00:43:59.993 --> 00:44:02.496
And not speak about this anymore.
00:44:02.496 --> 00:44:04.398
And then that's when you start overcoming them.
00:44:04.398 --> 00:44:07.534
That's when you start saying this has kept me bound to long.
00:44:07.534 --> 00:44:11.772
And my children are watching this.
00:44:12.539 --> 00:44:15.142
My children are hearing.
00:44:15.142 --> 00:44:16.577
And so it's time to stop and it's time
00:44:16.577 --> 00:44:19.880
To rethink because
00:44:19.880 --> 00:44:23.784
Because god will take everything and turn it for your good.
00:44:23.784 --> 00:44:26.920
Yeah, yeah. all that crud. yeah.
00:44:26.920 --> 00:44:29.890
All the stuff,
00:44:29.890 --> 00:44:31.191
All the things that you have felt that were against you.
00:44:31.191 --> 00:44:34.795
God will take the good, the bad and the ugly
00:44:34.795 --> 00:44:38.532
And turn it for your good somehow, some way.
00:44:38.532 --> 00:44:42.102
That is a promise from god. yeah.
00:44:42.102 --> 00:44:44.671
And so when we think about thriving in those daily,
00:44:44.671 --> 00:44:50.244
Those daily decisions, those daily actions
00:44:50.244 --> 00:44:54.381
Of doing the right thing.
00:44:54.381 --> 00:44:56.750
Yeah, saying the right thing, thinking the right thing.
00:44:56.750 --> 00:45:01.755
And sometimes i like i said, sometimes it's both,
00:45:01.755 --> 00:45:05.225
Sometimes it can
00:45:05.225 --> 00:45:06.593
Kick our bottoms for a minute and, you know, stuff that we
00:45:06.593 --> 00:45:09.863
Go through.
00:45:09.863 --> 00:45:10.731
But when you sit
00:45:10.731 --> 00:45:12.332
And you listen, you, you get in god's presence.
00:45:12.332 --> 00:45:14.568
Yeah.
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Change in a moment of god's presence.
00:45:15.435 --> 00:45:17.738
Yeah. that can change your life.
00:45:17.738 --> 00:45:19.640
That can change your mind. that can change your heart.
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Yeah.
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You know is so real.
00:45:23.076 --> 00:45:24.745
And so so for you when you believe
00:45:24.745 --> 00:45:28.615
And when you truly believe
00:45:28.615 --> 00:45:29.950
In the sovereignty and goodness of god,
00:45:29.950 --> 00:45:31.718
You can let other people off the hook.
00:45:31.718 --> 00:45:33.287
Yeah.
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Because if you believe that god is in control.
00:45:34.321 --> 00:45:37.124
Yeah. because other than that you're blaming everybody.
00:45:37.124 --> 00:45:39.259
But it's like,
00:45:39.259 --> 00:45:39.993
Genesis 50
00:45:39.993 --> 00:45:40.928
Where joseph said to his brothers,
00:45:40.928 --> 00:45:42.296
Yeah, i know you intended this for evil.
00:45:42.296 --> 00:45:44.198
He didn't say, i'm sure it was a mistake.
00:45:44.198 --> 00:45:46.233
Yeah.
00:45:46.233 --> 00:45:47.367
He said, no, i know you intend this, but god, yeah.
00:45:47.367 --> 00:45:50.170
And when you get that, when you really believe
00:45:50.170 --> 00:45:52.105
Down as a deep as a marrow in your bones,
00:45:52.105 --> 00:45:54.308
That god's good and god is in control. yeah.
00:45:54.308 --> 00:45:56.677
And sometimes he allows things that we don't understand.
00:45:56.677 --> 00:45:59.379
Yeah, but he has promised that he will bring good from it.
00:45:59.379 --> 00:46:02.216
You know,
00:46:02.216 --> 00:46:03.116
Dennis said to me, a couple years ago,
00:46:03.116 --> 00:46:04.985
I was having a hard time with somebody.
00:46:04.985 --> 00:46:06.653
I'm sure none of you have ever had a hard time with anybody.
00:46:06.653 --> 00:46:09.256
Nope. and, nope.
00:46:09.256 --> 00:46:10.524
Never.
00:46:10.524 --> 00:46:11.658
And dennis said to me, why are you letting what you say
00:46:11.658 --> 00:46:13.760
People have a hard time with that.
00:46:13.760 --> 00:46:15.262
I like, i know, i just own it.
00:46:15.262 --> 00:46:17.531
I had a woman who was a leadership say to me,
00:46:17.531 --> 00:46:19.733
You are my sandpaper.
00:46:19.733 --> 00:46:21.401
I was like, oh my god, i said it to your face.
00:46:21.401 --> 00:46:24.004
You're welcome.
00:46:24.004 --> 00:46:25.172
Yes, yes, yes, that's another story for another time.
00:46:25.172 --> 00:46:28.308
Anyways, i said it as this person,
00:46:29.042 --> 00:46:31.278
I just can't get past it.
00:46:31.278 --> 00:46:32.846
And dennis said, why are you allowing their behavior
00:46:32.846 --> 00:46:35.215
To block your view of god?
00:46:35.215 --> 00:46:36.617
Well and i thought that was so powerful.
00:46:36.617 --> 00:46:39.353
Yeah.
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And he said,
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Why don't you find the things that you're grateful for
00:46:40.854 --> 00:46:42.756
And start writing them down?
00:46:42.756 --> 00:46:44.658
And so that gratitude,
00:46:44.658 --> 00:46:46.426
Yeah, began and so when you how are you?
00:46:46.426 --> 00:46:48.462
I love that scripture you shared about marking the trail.
00:46:48.462 --> 00:46:50.831
Well, sometimes you can look back and
00:46:50.831 --> 00:46:52.566
I'm like, well, that was painful and that was painful.
00:46:52.566 --> 00:46:54.268
But i think you mark the trail with gratitude.
00:46:54.268 --> 00:46:56.069
Yeah. like what?
00:46:56.069 --> 00:46:57.471
What did god do?
00:46:57.471 --> 00:46:58.572
Where was god? what didn't happen?
00:46:58.572 --> 00:47:01.008
I think all of us are going to get to heaven.
00:47:01.008 --> 00:47:02.342
Be super shocked of all the things god held back.
00:47:02.342 --> 00:47:04.945
Yeah, that we were protected from in the process.
00:47:04.945 --> 00:47:07.981
Yeah, yeah.
00:47:07.981 --> 00:47:08.982
But if and i was, reading something recently
00:47:08.982 --> 00:47:10.817
That i don't think there's any young mom or any mom
00:47:10.817 --> 00:47:13.553
Who needs necessarily correction right now.
00:47:13.553 --> 00:47:16.256
Yeah, maybe they do,
00:47:16.256 --> 00:47:17.524
But probably what they need more than that is encouragement.
00:47:17.524 --> 00:47:19.793
And thank you.
00:47:19.793 --> 00:47:21.295
Thank you.
00:47:21.295 --> 00:47:22.596
Even though you don't feel like you're doing such a great job,
00:47:22.596 --> 00:47:24.364
Let's find some things that you're grateful for right now.
00:47:24.364 --> 00:47:26.366
Gratefulness is a superpower that we i don't know,
00:47:26.366 --> 00:47:30.137
I started doing that in the airport
00:47:30.137 --> 00:47:32.005
Like young parents telling them, good job, good job.
00:47:32.005 --> 00:47:35.542
Yeah, yeah, kids are running around.
00:47:35.542 --> 00:47:37.210
I mean, on an airplane, it's just chaos.
00:47:37.210 --> 00:47:39.112
And i just go, you're doing such a good job, sam,
00:47:39.112 --> 00:47:41.348
Because, and, you know, you don't get seeds
00:47:41.348 --> 00:47:44.184
If you start an airplane. you're very good. yeah.
00:47:44.184 --> 00:47:47.955
Because on the airplane, that's not my first thought.
00:47:48.956 --> 00:47:50.724
That's.
00:47:50.724 --> 00:47:51.525
Yeah, but wasn't my first thought.
00:47:51.525 --> 00:47:53.994
It was my second.
00:47:54.428 --> 00:47:55.595
I was i was like, in the nick.
00:47:55.595 --> 00:47:57.464
Yeah. i'm.
00:47:57.464 --> 00:47:59.666
Oh, lord, help me hold my witness.
00:47:59.666 --> 00:48:04.805
I love a real.
00:48:05.172 --> 00:48:06.406
I think it's so good for women to also know that no matter
00:48:06.406 --> 00:48:10.577
What you're walking through, you're not alone. yeah.
00:48:10.577 --> 00:48:13.213
You're not the only one that have walked through those days.
00:48:13.213 --> 00:48:16.683
I was talking to audrey, my daughter, in love,
00:48:16.683 --> 00:48:18.518
On the way here, and i said, audrey, i said,
00:48:18.518 --> 00:48:21.955
What would be the most important thing that you could
00:48:21.955 --> 00:48:25.125
That you could hear?
00:48:25.125 --> 00:48:25.926
And she goes,
00:48:25.926 --> 00:48:27.327
Probably just that other people have gone through.
00:48:27.327 --> 00:48:30.030
So those lonely days, you know, sometimes
00:48:30.030 --> 00:48:32.432
I remember as a young mother, i was home with a baby.
00:48:32.432 --> 00:48:35.635
You know, and by myself.
00:48:35.635 --> 00:48:37.871
And matt was at work and the whole family was down
00:48:37.871 --> 00:48:39.906
At work except me and the baby, you know,
00:48:39.906 --> 00:48:41.675
And i know some of those times can get a little lonely,
00:48:41.675 --> 00:48:44.644
You know, sometimes we feel a little weepy, you know, and.
00:48:44.644 --> 00:48:49.016
And you just feel so alone that you're walking through things
00:48:49.016 --> 00:48:53.420
That nobody else is walk through.
00:48:53.420 --> 00:48:55.255
And i want you to know that there are others
00:48:55.255 --> 00:48:57.090
That have walked through it.
00:48:57.090 --> 00:48:58.625
There's so many voices on better together that everyone has.
00:48:58.625 --> 00:49:02.529
Yeah, yeah, these stories and i love the word testimony.
00:49:02.529 --> 00:49:06.566
Yeah, the word testimony says god wants to do it again.
00:49:06.566 --> 00:49:10.337
Yeah.
00:49:10.337 --> 00:49:11.004
So if god has delivered me.
00:49:11.004 --> 00:49:13.907
Yeah.
00:49:13.907 --> 00:49:14.941
From the things that i have walked in my life,
00:49:14.941 --> 00:49:18.245
I can give my testimony of the faithfulness of god.
00:49:18.245 --> 00:49:22.215
And that means he wants to do it for you, too.
00:49:22.215 --> 00:49:24.451
Yeah, right.
00:49:24.451 --> 00:49:25.585
God wants to be a healer to your broken heart.
00:49:25.585 --> 00:49:29.156
Yeah.
00:49:29.156 --> 00:49:30.090
God wants to, to change your your ashes
00:49:30.090 --> 00:49:34.327
And give you beauty
00:49:34.327 --> 00:49:36.029
Testimony sometimes is not just the front of the church
00:49:36.029 --> 00:49:39.766
Or posting on social at a distance.
00:49:39.766 --> 00:49:41.468
Sometimes testimonies how close my eyes right?
00:49:41.468 --> 00:49:43.737
Come into my life like let's do life together.
00:49:43.737 --> 00:49:46.673
And i think a lot of times women struggle with friendship.
00:49:46.673 --> 00:49:48.575
I really think they're so good.
00:49:48.575 --> 00:49:49.943
I think they really struggle with other women.
00:49:49.943 --> 00:49:52.345
Yeah, just just making friends.
00:49:52.345 --> 00:49:54.514
Deep friendship, meaningful friendship.
00:49:54.514 --> 00:49:56.016
Because i think just being
00:49:56.016 --> 00:49:57.684
In someone else's life deals with some of that loneliness.
00:49:57.684 --> 00:50:01.488
Or it's just me, you know, talk to our singles sometimes
00:50:01.488 --> 00:50:04.524
At church, our unmarried men and women, and i joke with them.
00:50:04.524 --> 00:50:07.594
I told the married people, i'm like,
00:50:07.594 --> 00:50:08.829
If y'all were honest, single people would be content, right?
00:50:08.829 --> 00:50:13.800
Yeah.
00:50:14.034 --> 00:50:15.535
If you all have painted facebook, instagram picture
00:50:15.535 --> 00:50:19.473
And now i'm trying to remind people like that
00:50:19.473 --> 00:50:21.475
When people are celebrating anniversaries,
00:50:21.475 --> 00:50:23.110
I can guarantee some things that have come
00:50:23.110 --> 00:50:25.045
With ten years or 25 years or 15 years.
00:50:25.045 --> 00:50:27.347
There's been some probably near-death experiences.
00:50:27.347 --> 00:50:29.883
So some near homicide.
00:50:29.883 --> 00:50:31.585
Murder. yeah, i know some hurts.
00:50:31.585 --> 00:50:34.054
We stayed together.
00:50:34.054 --> 00:50:35.188
I packed my bag, then i unpacked it.
00:50:35.188 --> 00:50:37.124
We almost made it.
00:50:37.124 --> 00:50:38.358
You didn't know
00:50:38.358 --> 00:50:39.192
Because we were smiling on sunday,
00:50:39.192 --> 00:50:40.260
But we were almost dying on saturday night, you know?
00:50:40.260 --> 00:50:42.062
So this comes with the territory.
00:50:42.062 --> 00:50:44.064
So that transparency, you know, and so is just
00:50:44.064 --> 00:50:48.001
Without saying, it's like, come in my house, it's chaos.
00:50:48.001 --> 00:50:51.204
See that we have no christians.
00:50:51.204 --> 00:50:52.439
We've got milk and bread and about to eat dinner.
00:50:52.439 --> 00:50:54.307
And so that it makes you feel like, oh, it's not just me.
00:50:54.307 --> 00:50:57.878
And so when when people start doing real life together,
00:50:57.878 --> 00:51:01.648
You start going, oh, we're all in the criminal.
00:51:01.648 --> 00:51:04.117
Yeah, no matter what season you're in.
00:51:04.117 --> 00:51:05.619
And so, man, i think friendship and and up close testimony.
00:51:05.619 --> 00:51:10.323
Yeah. you know, i'm walking the path with somebody.
00:51:10.323 --> 00:51:12.626
Yeah.
00:51:12.626 --> 00:51:13.627
It's like thriving isn't having it all the way.
00:51:13.627 --> 00:51:14.861
Whether it's knowing where to run when it all falls apart.
00:51:14.861 --> 00:51:17.097
Where are you anchorage, alaska.
00:51:17.097 --> 00:51:18.999
What ice cream flavor?
00:51:18.999 --> 00:51:20.200
Well, i heard what i saw, lord.
00:51:20.200 --> 00:51:22.702
And, who are you connected to?
00:51:22.702 --> 00:51:25.372
You know, and what ship has your anchor?
00:51:25.372 --> 00:51:30.076
And that's
00:51:30.377 --> 00:51:31.478
Why the better together community is huge for us.
00:51:31.478 --> 00:51:34.281
We just want you all to know you are not alone.
00:51:34.281 --> 00:51:36.983
Yeah. whatever you're walking through, you are not alone.
00:51:36.983 --> 00:51:39.853
And i love the fact that we all know romans 828, but
00:51:39.853 --> 00:51:42.656
I love romans 826 and 27,
00:51:42.656 --> 00:51:45.926
Where it talks about those days where you can't say one prayer.
00:51:45.926 --> 00:51:48.361
Yeah, you just and says the holy spirit intercedes.
00:51:48.361 --> 00:51:52.499
Yeah.
00:51:52.732 --> 00:51:53.300
Isn't that amazing? yes.
00:51:53.300 --> 00:51:54.534
And he understands the will of god.
00:51:54.534 --> 00:51:56.636
So this is the first time we've done this and i've loved it.
00:51:56.636 --> 00:51:59.906
But we just love to pray over you.
00:51:59.906 --> 00:52:02.809
Yeah, yeah.
00:52:02.809 --> 00:52:04.444
And can i just ask just our audience in the studio here.
00:52:04.444 --> 00:52:07.847
If you come in here tonight
00:52:08.448 --> 00:52:10.650
And you're carrying a heavy load as a burden,
00:52:10.650 --> 00:52:13.587
Maybe nobody else knows about, would you just
00:52:13.587 --> 00:52:16.890
Would you feel comfortable with standing where you are?
00:52:16.890 --> 00:52:19.326
And when you pray over you, whatever you need
00:52:19.326 --> 00:52:22.996
The lord regard to your needs. you.
00:52:22.996 --> 00:52:31.471
Thank you. jesus.
00:52:31.905 --> 00:52:32.739
If there's someone to this,
00:52:32.739 --> 00:52:33.940
What we do at our church, if there's someone next to you
00:52:33.940 --> 00:52:35.475
Standing, if you just lay a hand on him like a little.
00:52:35.475 --> 00:52:38.111
Yeah, yeah, yeah. uniform.
00:52:38.111 --> 00:52:40.447
Thank you. jesus. let's pray.
00:52:40.447 --> 00:52:42.515
Thank you for. here we are.
00:52:42.515 --> 00:52:44.050
Your girls.
00:52:44.050 --> 00:52:44.951
Lord, we love you.
00:52:44.951 --> 00:52:47.754
And we're so overwhelmed by the fact that you know
00:52:47.754 --> 00:52:49.990
Us so well. you know our story.
00:52:49.990 --> 00:52:52.993
You know every single page
00:52:52.993 --> 00:52:55.195
And the pages that make sense to us
00:52:55.195 --> 00:52:57.163
Are the pages that made no sense.
00:52:57.163 --> 00:52:59.532
Let's thank you, lord, that when you are on the cross
00:52:59.532 --> 00:53:02.502
And you said it is finished, and you said bill paid
00:53:02.502 --> 00:53:06.473
In full, yes.
00:53:06.473 --> 00:53:07.974
And now we just get the joy of being loved by you.
00:53:07.974 --> 00:53:11.411
But lord, we want to pray for our sisters
00:53:11.411 --> 00:53:13.179
Who might be struggling tonight,
00:53:13.179 --> 00:53:15.081
Have got something on their heart that feels so heavy.
00:53:15.081 --> 00:53:17.417
And you said, come unto me, all
00:53:17.417 --> 00:53:20.420
Who are weary and heavy laden, i will give you rest.
00:53:20.420 --> 00:53:24.524
So lord, right now we choose to lay our burdens at your feet.
00:53:24.524 --> 00:53:28.094
Thank you,
00:53:28.395 --> 00:53:29.596
Lord, that you will put aside us, and you will carry us.
00:53:29.596 --> 00:53:32.899
And we just pray for anybody watching.
00:53:32.899 --> 00:53:35.235
Lord, whether they're watching this a later time or not.
00:53:35.235 --> 00:53:38.104
But you knew that would be the moment.
00:53:38.104 --> 00:53:40.507
They needed to know that you see them
00:53:40.507 --> 00:53:43.009
And you love them and they are not alone. yes.
00:53:43.009 --> 00:53:45.912
And we thank you in the powerful name of jesus,
00:53:45.912 --> 00:53:49.215
Jesus, amen, amen, amen.
00:53:49.716 --> 00:53:57.324
Thank you.
00:53:57.624 --> 00:53:58.725
Thank you for being here.
00:53:58.725 --> 00:53:59.893
Thank you for watching tonight.
00:53:59.893 --> 00:54:02.128
You can watch better together.
00:54:02.128 --> 00:54:03.930
Every weekday. right here on tbn.
00:54:03.930 --> 00:54:07.233
You can watch it on tbn inspire
00:54:07.233 --> 00:54:09.836
You can go to our all of our social media.
00:54:09.836 --> 00:54:13.273
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We have the best team in the world,
00:54:14.140 --> 00:54:16.476
The better together team.
00:54:16.476 --> 00:54:17.610
And just a shout out to all of you who have supported
00:54:17.610 --> 00:54:21.147
Us, who have been there, who have
00:54:21.147 --> 00:54:24.217
Caught us on the street and said something sweet.
00:54:24.217 --> 00:54:26.786
We love you. we thank you for that.
00:54:26.786 --> 00:54:28.855
Thank you for your support.
00:54:28.855 --> 00:54:30.123
Thank you for your love. thank you for coming tonight.
00:54:30.123 --> 00:54:32.459
We love you. we'll see you later. yeah.
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Better Together: Empowered to Thrive | Praise

May 7, 2026 | 55:29

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