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Tim Dunn: Hope That Carries You Through | Praise

November 12, 2025 | 55:28

Embracing the power of reframing perspectives, Tim Dunn shares insights from his free Yellow Balloons devotional, promoting a life of faith and transformation. Through the lens of servant leadership, Tim explains the art of setting aside personal narratives to build shared understanding, offering a pathway to unity and growth in relationships. With wisdom belying his age, Tim's journey exemplifies the transformative impact of choosing truth, faith, and love in every aspect of life.

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Praise | Tim Dunn: Hope That Carries You Through | Praise | November 12, 2025

Coming up tonight on praise...
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Faith means i will choose to act on what you're telling me,
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That that's actually in my best interest.
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Jesus said, if you will not take up your cross and follow
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Me, you can't be my disciple.
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Now that's the same thing as a professor saying, if you won't
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Come to my class and do my
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Homework, you can't be my students.
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We can't learn the lessons jesus has to teach us if we
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Won't do what he asks us to do.
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Okay, we are in dallas, texas, and the weirdest thing has
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Happened today.
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We have a west texas guy with us, tim dunn.
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Tim, um, we've known each other for a while now, and we got
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Together, uh, largely because i'm a fan of a book that you
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Have contributed to, which is, uh, called yellow balloons.
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This is a daily devotional.
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Okay. i get it every weekday into my phone.
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I oftentimes forward them to you or comment on them.
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Yellow balloon devotional okay, that's what we're doing.
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But we actually got to know each other because of just
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Plain old business.
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Yeah. um, we were building a studio and you're kind of-- if
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You're in west texas, you either are in the tumbleweed
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Business or you're in the oil business.
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And so, tim, you're in the oil business.
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Uh, you're kind of doing a lot of that stuff, but help me kind
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Of introduce the subject.
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Okay. so today our viewers,
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I think, are going to hear the word perspective or true
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Perspective quite a bit. that's right.
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There's a term you use called reframing that i love.
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Jesus did it a lot. yeah.
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Okay. so you do business.
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You're a christian guy. you're in a lot of stuff.
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And uh, but you you take some
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Of your time to do this book, okay?
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Some of your time is involved in this.
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And we love this. and i love this devotional.
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I do it every weekday.
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What are we actually talking about today?
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Help me. help me explain it.
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Well, first let me just say everybody can get a free email
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Of this devotional by
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Just going to yellowballoons.net.
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Got it.
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Okay. you can think of a big bouquet of balloons in a net.
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Yellowballoons.net
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And just go and sign up for free.
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This is a free resource we give to people
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Because the power that this, this idea has had in our lives.
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And it's the idea that we get to choose a perspective.
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Okay. there's really only three things that you control as a
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Human who you trust, what you
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Do, and the perspective you choose.
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That's really it.
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And whether you choose a perspective that's true or not
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Has immense implications on how your life goes.
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And most of us, i would say, me included, are kind of oblivious
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That we're even choosing a perspective, much less spending
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Time and effort to choose one deliberately and intentionally
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And making sure it's true.
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But if you'll think about it, a lot of the bible is admonishing
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Us to choose perspectives that are true, and that's a big part
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Of the spiritual walk.
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So what this is, is a daily reminder that, hey, you know
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What you control today?
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What you think. your perspective.
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You know what you ought to do? choose one that's true.
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And your life will go better.
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Yeah, because that's actually transforming your life.
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Yes. it's transformation. so what i--
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Think of romans 12.
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Yeah, be transformed by
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The renewing of your mind,
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Which is choosing perspective perspectives that are true
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Instead of perspectives that are false.
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Okay. past, present.
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Future. comment on that,
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Because we sometimes frame or we choose a
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Perspective on past, present, future
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That's wrong. well, i would say sometimes
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Is most of the time. left to ourselves,
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Left to ourselves without, transforming power of the
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Spirit and without choosing to follow the spirit, what we will
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Do is we will try to control the past with regret.
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Mhm. we'll try to punish people by bitterness.
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Okay. how's that going for you?
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Right? it doesn't work.
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It's not real.
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It's an imaginary control. we can't control
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The past with regret. doesn't keep us from trying.
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We try to control the present with future.
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The galatians five would call it like fits of rage.
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Mm. man, i yell at that tv and that referee, he's going to
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Change his mind. you know, it never works.
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Okay, so that's not real either.
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But it doesn't keep us from trying.
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And then the big one is, i think we'll try to control the
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Future with anxiety, with worry
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Because we know if we'll get
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Enough ulcers, it'll change the future.
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Right. mhm. that doesn't work either.
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So you can't control the past with regret.
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You can't control the present with
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Anger. and you can't control the future with anxiety.
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But you can
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Control who you trust, and you can control how you look at
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Things, your perspective, your mental models, the framing that
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You have in your own mind about what's real and what isn't real,
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About what's true and what isn't true about how things are.
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And you can control what you do, the actions you take, and
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The actions you take, even
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Though you can't control the future,
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The bible promises that the actions you take now are making
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Huge impact on the future
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Even though god's in control of the future. that's one of the
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Great mysteries of the bible.
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I've heard it said, someone wise long ago said, when you're
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Born, you look like your mama and your daddy.
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When you're old, you look like your choices.
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And so ultimately, one of the things that-- business,
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A business meeting brought us together.
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That's how we met. right.
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Then we found that we had more things in common.
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Then i started getting to know you because of your yellow
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Balloons devotional that i get.
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Give us-- before we get into really the meat of our
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Conversation, which is a framing,
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And i want you to explain what that is and how this helps
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People frame their life and perspective.
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If you're going to choose a perspective, why don't you
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Choose a true one? okay, right.
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But this is born somewhat out of a very unique story in your
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Own personal life.
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Give us the background to this devotional.
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The name of the devotional-- and i have a book also.
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You can get a free copy on yellowballoons.net as well
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That goes through, uh, the how to choose a true perspective in
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The valleys of life, the plains
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Of life, and the mountains of life.
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The valley is, interestingly enough, the valleys are
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Actually kind of the easiest place because they force you to
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Choose a perspective. wow.
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The plains of life, the everyday monotony,
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You know, of life, we say monotony,
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It's actually not.
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It's every day's packed with opportunity, but you
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Get numb to it.
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And so when you start choosing a perspective that
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This is the same old thing, you're actually getting lulled
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Into complacency about incredible opportunities in
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Front of you all the time.
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Instead of saying, this is the day the lord has made.
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Let us rejoice and be glad.
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This is i've got one more day i get to live and i
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Get to make good choices.
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And this is shaping eternity.
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That's the true perspective.
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The one that lulls us is, well, i've got to go to work again
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Today, and it's going to be the same as all the other days.
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Uh, and then the the mountains of life are actually
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The greatest trial, i think.
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Uh, surviving success is something that very few
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People can do i would say.
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My goodness.
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So that's what yellow balloons is about, the book.
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The devotional is about choosing a perspective
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That's true every day.
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So their companions in that respect.
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But the name came from our granddaughter, mariah.
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So we have six children and 20 grandchildren.
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And our little mariah, um, we lost to, uh, tragic death.
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Just she was in her crib and
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Died, and there's no medical explanation.
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Our best guess is that she had a fever induced seizure.
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She had been starting to have
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Those, and just her heart stopped.
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Uh, my, uh, daughter-- they were actually living in our
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House at the time, so this was very, very, uh,
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You know, personal to us.
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Uh, they'd been there for about six months because they were
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Remodeling the house, and so they were just living with us
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Till they got that done.
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There were just a couple of weeks from from moving out of
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Our house into their own.
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And, uh, little mariah, she was 20 months old, and her
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Heart just stopped. they got to her.
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They got her breathing again.
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But we found out later that when infant's heart stops,
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About 90% of the time, they can't restart it.
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It's different with adults, so obviously that was an
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Incredible tragedy.
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Um, you know, losing any loved one is, is tragic.
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But, you know, that was that was-- the hole's always there.
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Well, her favorite color was yellow.
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And so we released yellow
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Balloons at her memorial service.
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We do it every year for her going home day, we call it,
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And we take pictures and everybody releases a balloon.
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And we-- because we don't want to forget.
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Yeah. we don't want to forget mariah.
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So that's where the name comes from.
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So somewhat out of staying connected to that heartache
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Comes this choice you've made to help others.
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Well, so one of the big things that we learned in
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The aftermath, was how to grieve. one of the
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First things i did
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I grabbed our pastor and i said, i understand that when
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This happens, you know, a lot of times people get divorced.
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And he said, well, here's the deal.
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Um, when you hurt, you tend to want to stop hurting.
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And so the way it works is today, i'm grieving
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And you feel fine. you don't want to hurt.
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So you move away a step, and tomorrow you're grieving.
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And i feel fine,
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And so i move away a step.
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And pretty soon you just fall apart.
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He said the answer is to step into the grief.
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If you're grieving, i'll grieve with you.
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And you should think of it like an investment in the
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Relationships you still have. wow.
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And you'll you'll hurt more and heal faster.
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And so for me, that was like,
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Okay, that makes a ton of sense.
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And that's what i did.
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Every time i saw somebody in our town, you know, i knew i
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Was going to have to talk about it.
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Didn't want to, but i just thought to myself, this is an
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Investment in this person. hmm.
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And so that was a perspective.
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And so when you have tragedy
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Happen, you have to choose a perspective.
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It's imposed upon you.
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Uh, and you can choose one that
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Leads to life, which is connection,
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Connection with others,
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Connection with your design, connection with god.
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That's the biblical definition of life.
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Or it can lead to death, which is disconnection.
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Disconnection from your design,
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Disconnection from other people.
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What did that look like, though, when you did encounter
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That, when you didn't want to
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Talk about with reframing the morning?
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Well, i was just reframing it in my mind that
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I'm investing in you.
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You ask about this.
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I'm now investing in you.
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And that gave me the i would say, um, motivation to say i
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Still have this relationship.
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I'll invest in this relationship.
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Got it. okay.
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You know, the tendency, laurie and i, um, lost a grandson.
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Given birth,
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Had a heartbeat for a short period of time,
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Was born in israel at hadassah hospital.
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Wow. and, uh, didn't make it.
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And what happens is, when people want to kind of-- an
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Invisible bubble goes around you, and people don't
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Really want to,
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Let's say, interfere in this thing.
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And there's a sense of isolation that comes just
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Naturally and nobody knows what to do properly.
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You know, let's say and but what you're talking about is
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Reframing even a grief situation and invest into
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The life of somebody
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Because they're still here.
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They're still here. and that's honoring mariah.
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And it's also helping me heal.
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It's kind of like exercise.
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Some people enjoy exercise.
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I don't.
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It hurts, you know, it's painful.
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She loves it. not.
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Yeah. my wife is that way.
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She actually likes it. i don't.
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I'm joking. she hates it.
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Oh, she hates it with you.
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My wife really likes it.
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But, um, not me.
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I just want it to be over with.
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But i wanted my body to keep working.
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Sure, sure.
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So i do as an investment.
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And a lot of things in life are that way.
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You do it because it's--
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It's good for you.
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Yeah. that's right.
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Yeah. and then of course,
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Afterward i'm really glad i did it.
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And that's the way this, this grieving thing was.
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Hurt deeper. heal faster.
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Yeah. hurt faster, heal faster
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I think would be, uh, the way i might say it.
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And so that's what i learned out of that.
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But i also, um,
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It gave me a framework to try to explain what i had been
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Coming to understand.
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You know, how you learn something intuitively.
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And then many times it takes a long time before you can
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Actually articulate what it is you've learned.
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And it took me a long time to, to be able to say
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These, you know, the three things that you can control
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And that you can choose a perspective.
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But then once, i'm able to say that as a, um, something
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Very intentional, you see it everywhere. take galatians 5,
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It was for freedom that christ set you free.
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Well, freedom to do what?
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Well, freedom is i get to make my own choices.
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If you're not free, somebody else makes choices for you.
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Mhm.
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Well, it's for freedom, that christ set you free.
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Next line, only do not use your freedom as an opportunity
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For the flesh but in love serve one another.
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Because then you fulfill the law, which is love your
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Neighbor as yourself.
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But if you go to the flesh, you should watch out because you're
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Going to get biting and
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Devouring, maybe consuming one another.
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Well, okay, there you go.
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I can walk in the spirit,
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Sow into other people and i get connection.
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I can exploit, extract and i get biting and devouring.
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Guess what? they'll try to exploit and extract back.
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Right. and that's two ways to live.
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And it's just all through the scripture that way.
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You probably missed your calling.
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You should have been a pastor.
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But the problem is you're a good businessman.
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So i'm going to leave you safely in the business world
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And let you just come teach and
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Do some things every once in a while. okay.
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Well, so let me just challenge that.
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The word pastor comes from the latin word for shepherd.
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Shepherd. okay.
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Everybody's a shepherd. there you go.
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Some people shepherd the church. yeah.
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Got it.
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But everybody shepherds something.
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Yeah, yeah.
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And if you're a business leader, you're a shepherd
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Of that company.
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So you are going to be accountable to god for
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How you shepherd it.
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You shepherd
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Tumbleweeds and the oil that are underneath the tumbleweeds,
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That's what--
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So, uh, crown quest is your company.
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Uh, you you are in the paper every once in a while,
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Tim. i don't know if you ever know that.
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Occasionally you end up in a newspaper, and i usually am the
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One that snaps it and sends it to him and says, you're famous.
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Um, but you have been at
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The at pretty high levels in business.
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Okay. um, the oil business is a big piece of what you do.
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You're really in investment.
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And by the way, in just the first few minutes of our
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Program, you said the word investment a lot.
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So your natural tendency to be a pastor inside
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Of the vocation of what you are, which is a businessman,
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Is super interesting.
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You've danced around it.
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You've given us some of the things, but start with a
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Little bit of a lesson
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Because when i understood how good you were at this, i asked
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You to do a seminar to the tbn staff.
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You agreed to that.
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We probably had 150 people
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Uh, you know, on a big, giant zoom thing.
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And you walked us through this framing, and you, you've
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Touched on it on our own personal choices.
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But there's a way to frame big things.
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There's a way to frame a lot of things.
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Why don't you explain what i mean by framing and then kind
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Of move on and let's get into some of the deeper waters that
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We want to jump into.
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So framing is how an issue is framed.
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You know, you frame a picture, it presents the picture right?
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The frame, black frame,
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Gold frame, presents the picture in a different way.
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And so this is how you present an issue.
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And generally speaking, um, i like to say the bible is
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Mainly about politics. really?
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That's a provocative statement, right?
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But if you'll think about it, what is politics?
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It's people engaging with one another in some kind
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Of organized way. okay.
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So that's simple.
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That's reframing.
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Reframing.
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So that is reframing.
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That is reframing, the word.
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We usually think of politics in a negative light.
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But that's because of the flesh and the fall.
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We interact with one another in an organized manner,
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Counterproductively too often. screaming at each other.
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But a big part of what the christian walk is supposed to
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Be is redeeming our interactions with each other
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Where we're being mutually beneficial, which
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Paul calls love.
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Right? and so, uh, so that's what framing is.
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And any argument that you have in politics, whether it's
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An argument with yourself, you know, with the voices inside
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Your head or in your mind, or whether it's an argument with
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Your family members or whether it's a political argument or
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Whether it's a spiritual argument, they'll always be won
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And lost by who wins the framing.
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So let me just, let me just
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Explain with an example. please.
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Okay. so the very first, um, spiritual battle that you see
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Between satan and god, in this case, god's, um, people is
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In the garden. okay, okay.
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It's a framing battle.
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Okay. so the way god framed it to adam and eve is,
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You want life or death?
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I like to always boil something down to what is the fundamental
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Binary choice that we're making here?
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Choose good or evil. yeah.
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Choose good or evil.
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The yes or no, you want human trafficking?
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Okay. no.
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Choose. choose.
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Right? well, if i can frame an issue as,
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Do you want human trafficking or not?
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I can tell you i'm going to win. mhm.
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But if the same issue is framed as
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Something completely different, then
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Whoever wins that framing is going to win.
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How that works.
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So god says you want life.
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Then just do whatever you want to
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Except one thing.
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Don't eat of this tree of knowledge of good and evil.
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And the day you do that, you'll die.
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Okay, so then satan comes along through the serpent and he
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Says, uh, the way you always engage a framing battle is you
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Never adopt the other person's framing.
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You always delegitimize it and raise an alternative framing.
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So satan starts the first thing he says-- you remember
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What he says? he said, did he really say?
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Did god really say?
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Okay, so he's delegitimizing.
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Did god really say that?
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And now let's-- well he's--
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He said he was going to die. well, you're not going to die.
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He just knows--
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And now i'm going to reparaphrase this.
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Okay. he just knows that if you eat of this, you're going to
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Have all this knowledge to make better choices.
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Don't you want to make good choices?
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Wow. he wants you to make good choices.
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Don't you want to make good choices?
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Don't you want to--
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You can be like him and have all this knowledge.
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And then you can make great choices like he does.
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Don't you want to do that? mm.
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Oh, yeah, i guess i do want to do that.
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Yeah.
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Well, so he framed the death as life and life as death.
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He flipped it. flipped it.
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When they were already that.
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What's that?
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They were already
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Made in his image and communing with god.
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That's right.
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Yeah, but he said there's something better.
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Yeah. wow.
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There's something better.
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Well, so that battle is going on inside of
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Every one of us every day.
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That is the battle.
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Are we going to trust that what god says is for our best
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Interest, or are we going to find our own way? by the way,
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Those three things that we imagine we're controlling the
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Past with regret and the
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Present with anger and the future with--
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That's a little mini illusion that we can
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Have our own way.
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It's our own little mini tree of knowledge.
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Wow.
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We're just pretending that we're in control of
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Something that we're not.
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Okay, so then i'll flip forward to, uh,
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Jesus. okay, i'll give you another example of framing.
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So the pharisees--
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I think it says the scribes and the priests.
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This is luke 20, the scribes and the priests, uh, say, we
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Got to get rid of this guy, okay.
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And so they, they, they do all this again, what we would call
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In modern politics, uh, opposition research.
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You see, once you start seeing the bible through these eyes,
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Not nothing much changes over human history.
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Wow. just the speed of change
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Maybe. wow.
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And they come up with this framing.
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Okay. and their goal, it says in the text is that
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They may, may turn him over to the governor.
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Okay. now, what that means is they want him crucified because
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They had the power to do everything else themselves.
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So they're looking for something to get him crucified.
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So they have somebody stand up in the campaign.
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I'm now going to paraphrase or recast what he said.
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Analogize. analogize.
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So he says, hey, jesus, we're all friends here.
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This is totally safe.
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You're completely safe.
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Totally among friends here.
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Should we pay taxes to rome?
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Now, what he actually says is we know you speak the truth,
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Blah blah, blah, but i think that butter-up is there to get
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His guard down because they want him to say no, we should
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Not pay taxes to rome because
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That's what everybody wanted to hear.
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Now think about that framing,
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Should we pay taxes to rome or not?
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If he engages with that in any way at all, he loses.
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If he says no,
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He goes to the governor to be
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Crucified as an insurrectionist.
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Right? because he's a popular
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Figure saying you shouldn't pay taxes.
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They got him.
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If he says yes, he loses the people.
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The only reason they weren't killing him is because of his
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Popularity with the people.
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They wanted him to say no, but at least if he says yes, they
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After time can get him.
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Yeah. okay.
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And great framing is that way in politics.
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No matter what you say, i'm going to win.
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Mhm.
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And it says jesus perceived their craftiness.
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Wow. what does that mean?
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It means he saw through their framing and was better at it
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Than they were. mhm.
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That's what that means.
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He perceived their craftiness.
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That greek word is [speaks greek].
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And [speaks greek] is the same word.
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It says that, uh, that the
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Serpent deceived eve by his craftiness.
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Wow.
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So jesus says, be wise as a serpent, he's
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Saying, know how to frame things.
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Be able to do this, this skill, to be able to frame things in a
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Way that you can beat people that have evil intent, but you
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Don't have evil intent.
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Be innocent as doves. mm.
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So jesus perceived their craftiness, and he starts off
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By delegitimizing.
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He says, why do you test me?
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That's not a legitimate question.
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Mhm.
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And then he does something very interesting.
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He says show me a coin
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Whose picture is on it?
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Now, i love this because if you if you fast forward to earlier
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In the chapter, he's having this engagement with the
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Pharisees over john the baptist.
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They come and say, well, whose
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Authority do you do all this by?
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And he says, well, let me ask you a question.
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Uh, whose authority was john the baptist?
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So they go huddle and they say, well, if we say
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If we say he's a prophet, then he's going to say, well, then
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Why didn't you believe him?
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Yeah. and if we say he's a just a man, the people of stone us.
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So, see, they're having a framing.
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They're having a framing consultation.
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Mhm.
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And so they come back and say we don't know.
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And he said well, then i'm not going to answer your question.
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Okay. so now he says whose picture is on this.
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He's going to make them answer a question.
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There it is.
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Because if they say we don't know again, then they're idiots.
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Right. that's right.
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They say caesar and then he says, well, then render unto
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Caesar what caesar's, and unto god what's god's.
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And i think the deeper framing-- and the deeper the framing is,
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The more powerful it is. if it's presumed and it's driving
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Everything, it's like an iceberg, you know?
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And, um, he said-- i think what he's saying is, can you tell
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The difference between the kingdom of god
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And the kingdom of man?
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And really, the answer was no. they couldn't.
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Wow. and you can tell that because like in john 11 it
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Says-- you know, i think it's one of the funniest things in
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The bible, even though it's tragic.
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Jesus had just raised lazarus from the dead, and the high
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Priest and the pharisees all get together and they say, if
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He keeps doing stuff like this,
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Everybody's going to believe him.
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Like, you think? he's raising people from the dead.
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Maybe you should reconsider, you know, is this--
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Hello? is this thought entering your mind?
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But it didn't even.
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And they say we've got to stop him
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That we can preserve our place and our nation.
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Wow.
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Okay. so they couldn't tell the difference between the kingdom
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Of god and-- when the kingdom of god slapped them in the face.
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Wow. lazarus is raised from the dead.
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Yeah. they can't see it.
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So i think i think that was the
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Deeper framing that he hit them with.
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And then it says they were so amazed that they just gave up
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With framing wars.
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Okay. they got to try something else.
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I love that.
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That's how good jesus was at framing things and why we need
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To be good at this, both internally for our own thoughts
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As well as with others.
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I'm remembering back when you were teaching framing and your
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Discussion to our staff, that you that you basically have a
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Immediate plan, kind of a little bit longer plan and then
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The ultimate plan that you start reshaping things in our
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Culture that turn into policy, that then move on and actually
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Have long lasting-- kind of explain the longer plan to
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Winning a individual framing war.
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Well let's see.
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Let's take um-- we see tragically, what's happening
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Now is women are being degraded, okay.
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Like they don't even they don't exist.
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They don't matter.
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Um, that's what's happening in our culture. boys should--
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You know, they're the same as boys.
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So there's nothing special about women, which is what's
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Being claimed, which is, you know,
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Tragic. it's ridiculous.
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You can choose what you are.
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Yeah. and, um, you know, so that's happening.
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Well, where did that start?
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That started with a framing of women are being suppressed and
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They need to be able to, to uh, uh, take their own way.
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Now, if i ask you, the framing,
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Should women be able to make their own choices,
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You would say, of course they should.
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Mhm. well, that's the way that framing was.
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And so it was a
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Brilliant framing that they started.
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But then what they did is
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Attach a lot of other stuff to it.
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Mhm. and so what you do is you take good framing and then you
00:30:04.692 --> 00:30:07.562
Attach to it whatever it is you're trying to elevate.
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So they attach to women should
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Be able to make choices for themselves,
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They attached, well,
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Then they shouldn't be married
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Because they should be free and they should, uh, not, uh, have
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Children so they can be free.
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And then they should, uh, you know--
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You go down that track and pretty soon there's
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No such thing as a woman anymore in the culture.
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Right? and i think what was actually happening-- i can't
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Prove this, but i think what was actually happening is there
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Was a desire to restore the alpha male culture.
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Most of human history has been the alpha male culture, where
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A few men get the women, and the beta males are the army.
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If you'll just go back in history, that's
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Kind of the norm. and the women are property
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And the men who are that way, um, you know, like it that way.
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And they want to be honored for having a harem of women.
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And, you know, it's sick
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And it's tragic, but it's common.
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And i think, i think there was a desire to reinstitute that.
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And you kind of kind of see that.
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You can see that bubbling.
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Christianity came in and disrupted that historical,
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Um, that historical, um, uh, pattern.
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Norm. in an enormous way.
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Yeah. the historical norm, because now it became one man,
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One wife, one family.
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And the woman is somebody to be cherished and nurtured and
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Loved like christ loved the church.
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And the man is to be respected and lifted up.
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Like, you know, abraham was was was honored by sarah.
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And now you have two become one.
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And that disrupted that, that, uh, that historical norm.
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And so if you want to disrupt again and get back to the
00:31:58.973 --> 00:32:03.111
Historical norm, then you have to undermine women as
00:32:03.111 --> 00:32:08.483
Being, uh, an elevated, uh, you know, being in an elevated
00:32:08.483 --> 00:32:13.554
Status and--
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As one with a man.
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As one with a man, uh, and as as one with god like you.
00:32:16.657 --> 00:32:22.397
You, the woman, are showing the
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Man how to be the bride of christ.
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So be a good example, right?
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That's a lofty thing.
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Well, uh, if you want
00:32:31.005 --> 00:32:32.507
To unravel that, you start--
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You have to start with framing people would agree with, which
00:32:34.575 --> 00:32:37.311
Is don't you think women should be able to make choices for
00:32:37.311 --> 00:32:39.947
Themselves and then start attaching policies to it?
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So that's how that game works.
00:32:43.217 --> 00:32:46.320
The marxists, by the way, are awesome at this.
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Wow. they're incredible at it.
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And, uh, we're not as good at it.
00:32:50.958 --> 00:32:54.328
But we should be the experts because we have the bible and
00:32:54.328 --> 00:32:57.432
It shows us how this works.
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And jesus did it pretty well.
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He was the best ever. yeah.
00:33:01.169 --> 00:33:03.104
So what you're kind of hearing, how did your.
00:33:03.104 --> 00:33:10.078
I'm just going to make up a term here, your life message of
00:33:10.078 --> 00:33:14.082
Reframing and all of this,
00:33:14.082 --> 00:33:15.883
How does it affect what comes daily uh, or every week day
00:33:15.883 --> 00:33:22.123
To my inbox?
00:33:22.123 --> 00:33:24.559
And how does this help you kind of get an understanding?
00:33:24.559 --> 00:33:29.197
I want to say one other thing.
00:33:29.197 --> 00:33:30.731
I'm holding, uh, the devotional here.
00:33:30.731 --> 00:33:35.303
And this, this not only is this book free, uh, but the
00:33:35.303 --> 00:33:39.674
Devotional is free.
00:33:39.674 --> 00:33:41.075
You're a businessman.
00:33:41.075 --> 00:33:42.043
And you're doing this to help people.
00:33:42.043 --> 00:33:46.047
This isn't some kind of--
00:33:46.047 --> 00:33:47.782
The daily email is just something you sign up for.
00:33:47.782 --> 00:33:50.084
It's free if you get it.
00:33:50.084 --> 00:33:51.953
Well, there's a number of perspectives in there
00:33:51.953 --> 00:33:54.856
That show up on a consistent basis.
00:33:54.856 --> 00:33:57.925
And so one of them is, um, this is the only life you get to
00:33:57.925 --> 00:34:02.230
Know by faith. hmm.
00:34:02.230 --> 00:34:04.232
Okay. that's a perspective.
00:34:04.232 --> 00:34:06.167
So you can ask the question like, why did god--
00:34:06.167 --> 00:34:10.538
So there's a five-part series on job in the devotional, 4
00:34:10.538 --> 00:34:17.011
Or 5 and-- something like that.
00:34:17.011 --> 00:34:19.380
And in job, you know, he goes through this horrific time and
00:34:19.380 --> 00:34:23.017
You can ask yourself, i asked myself, why?
00:34:23.017 --> 00:34:26.254
Why? he tells you he's a favorite guy.
00:34:26.254 --> 00:34:29.423
He's bragging on him to satan and all this stuff.
00:34:29.423 --> 00:34:32.193
Why? why would you do this?
00:34:32.193 --> 00:34:34.395
At the end of that trial, job says, well, now i realize who
00:34:34.395 --> 00:34:38.933
You really are.
00:34:38.933 --> 00:34:40.401
Okay. that's great.
00:34:40.401 --> 00:34:42.203
Uh, john 17:3, jesus says, this is eternal life, that
00:34:42.203 --> 00:34:46.741
They may know you and jesus whom you sent.
00:34:46.741 --> 00:34:49.944
So knowing god is a huge thing, but why does it have to be this
00:34:49.944 --> 00:34:53.781
Way through all this difficulty?
00:34:53.781 --> 00:34:55.283
Why not just wait till you get to heaven and go to, you know,
00:34:55.283 --> 00:34:57.919
Knowing god 101?
00:34:57.919 --> 00:34:59.554
And so i struggled with that for a long time.
00:34:59.554 --> 00:35:01.889
And then i came across ephesians 3:10.
00:35:01.889 --> 00:35:05.026
Okay. so ephesians 3:10 says, the manifold wisdom of god is
00:35:05.026 --> 00:35:09.263
Revealed by the church to-- you
00:35:09.263 --> 00:35:13.501
Remember who? the manifold wisdom of god is revealed
00:35:13.501 --> 00:35:16.370
By the church to
00:35:16.370 --> 00:35:19.173
The principalities and powers in the heavenly places.
00:35:19.173 --> 00:35:22.810
So the principalities and powers in the heavenly places
00:35:22.810 --> 00:35:25.713
Have been there.
00:35:25.713 --> 00:35:26.714
They've been to knowing god 101 many times.
00:35:26.714 --> 00:35:30.184
They've heard him teach about himself.
00:35:30.184 --> 00:35:31.819
And who are they looking at to
00:35:31.819 --> 00:35:33.621
Understand his many- faceted wisdom?
00:35:33.621 --> 00:35:37.024
Us. what can we do that they can't do?
00:35:37.024 --> 00:35:40.828
Know by faith.
00:35:40.828 --> 00:35:42.830
What will we not be able to do in the next life?
00:35:42.830 --> 00:35:46.534
Know by faith.
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This is it. this is your own--
00:35:48.035 --> 00:35:49.704
I think one of the reasons there will be weeping
00:35:49.704 --> 00:35:52.006
And gnashing of teeth in that parable,
00:35:52.006 --> 00:35:54.675
It's the sons of the kingdom, weeping and gnashing of teeth
00:35:54.675 --> 00:35:58.646
In the outer darkness, which means they got left out of the
00:35:58.646 --> 00:36:01.249
Honor banquet. in that matthew 8 parable, jesus is
00:36:01.249 --> 00:36:06.420
Saying at the table with abraham, isaac, and jacob will
00:36:06.420 --> 00:36:09.724
Be many from east and west.
00:36:09.724 --> 00:36:11.158
The gentiles are going to be at the table because of faith like
00:36:11.158 --> 00:36:14.795
This centurion that he just said, i've never seen anybody
00:36:14.795 --> 00:36:18.366
In israel with faith like that.
00:36:18.366 --> 00:36:20.001
Faith will be honored, but there will be sons of the
00:36:20.001 --> 00:36:22.803
Kingdom that don't even get invited
00:36:22.803 --> 00:36:25.006
Is what he's saying.
00:36:25.006 --> 00:36:26.140
Okay, i think the reason why that they'll be weeping,
00:36:26.140 --> 00:36:30.077
Sadness, gnashing of teeth, anger, i think, would be mad at
00:36:30.077 --> 00:36:32.747
Ourselves because we had an opportunity to know by faith
00:36:32.747 --> 00:36:36.183
And we didn't take advantage of it.
00:36:36.183 --> 00:36:37.652
This is it.
00:36:37.652 --> 00:36:39.020
So that's one of many perspectives that
00:36:39.020 --> 00:36:40.821
You'll see as a --
00:36:40.821 --> 00:36:42.256
I want to make sure i understood what you said.
00:36:42.256 --> 00:36:44.292
The wailing and gnashing of teeth will be that we didn't
00:36:44.292 --> 00:36:48.396
Step out on faith and do something that we felt like--
00:36:48.396 --> 00:36:52.667
Is that-- no, no.
00:36:52.667 --> 00:36:54.201
I think just-- say it again.
00:36:54.201 --> 00:36:55.836
We didn't believe god. we didn't just-- we believed.
00:36:55.836 --> 00:36:57.938
We believed we could control the past with regret and the
00:36:57.938 --> 00:37:00.074
Future with anxiety.
00:37:00.074 --> 00:37:01.075
We believed that, um,
00:37:01.075 --> 00:37:03.611
Well, i know the bible says to forgive this person, but
00:37:03.611 --> 00:37:07.348
He's not forgivable.
00:37:07.348 --> 00:37:08.716
Mhm. um, you know--
00:37:08.716 --> 00:37:10.751
Jesus actually--
00:37:10.751 --> 00:37:11.786
We didn't do what jesus actually told us to do.
00:37:11.786 --> 00:37:14.155
By faith.
00:37:14.155 --> 00:37:15.289
Faith, faith means, i think what you're telling me--
00:37:15.289 --> 00:37:18.426
I will choose to act on what you're telling me, that that's
00:37:18.426 --> 00:37:22.163
Actually in my best interest, instead of the way i feel,
00:37:22.163 --> 00:37:25.366
Instead of the what the world's telling me.
00:37:25.366 --> 00:37:28.069
That's what faith is. wow.
00:37:28.069 --> 00:37:29.737
Jesus said, if you will not take up your cross and
00:37:29.737 --> 00:37:33.174
Follow me, you can't be my disciple.
00:37:33.174 --> 00:37:36.010
Now that's the same thing as a professor saying, if you won't
00:37:36.010 --> 00:37:38.746
Come to my class and do my
00:37:38.746 --> 00:37:40.281
Homework, you can't be my student.
00:37:40.281 --> 00:37:42.183
Right.
00:37:42.183 --> 00:37:43.351
Okay. we can't learn the lessons jesus has to teach us
00:37:43.351 --> 00:37:47.922
If we won't do what he asks us to do.
00:37:47.922 --> 00:37:50.691
Come on, brother dunn.
00:37:50.691 --> 00:37:53.561
And believe at the time
00:37:53.561 --> 00:37:57.131
It's for our best interest.
00:37:57.131 --> 00:38:00.301
Look, the bible says, love your neighbor as yourself.
00:37:59.133 --> 00:38:04.772
So which means it's built in
00:38:04.772 --> 00:38:07.842
To follow your own self-interest.
00:38:07.842 --> 00:38:10.344
Everybody always does what they
00:38:10.344 --> 00:38:11.879
Perceive to be in their self-interest.
00:38:11.879 --> 00:38:13.981
The question is, are you going to believe what's true about
00:38:13.981 --> 00:38:18.152
What's in your self-interest?
00:38:18.152 --> 00:38:20.955
What's life that god says is life, or are you going to
00:38:20.955 --> 00:38:24.892
Believe what the world says?
00:38:24.892 --> 00:38:25.893
And what does god say life is?
00:38:25.893 --> 00:38:27.795
Lay down yourself.
00:38:27.795 --> 00:38:29.730
Set aside your desires, and follow me.
00:38:29.730 --> 00:38:33.367
Instead of doing what feels good.
00:38:33.367 --> 00:38:35.002
Instead of doing the way i fit my appetites.
00:38:35.002 --> 00:38:37.738
You know, because, uh, somebody
00:38:37.738 --> 00:38:40.274
Hits me, i want to hit them back.
00:38:40.274 --> 00:38:42.176
If somebody-- can we at least think it?
00:38:42.176 --> 00:38:44.278
Oh, absolutely.
00:38:44.278 --> 00:38:46.380
Because it doesn't say-- it
00:38:46.380 --> 00:38:47.715
Doesn't say don't have thoughts.
00:38:47.715 --> 00:38:49.383
It says, take every thought--
00:38:49.383 --> 00:38:51.118
Captive. captive.
00:38:51.118 --> 00:38:52.520
You can't control your thoughts.
00:38:52.520 --> 00:38:54.021
You can control what you do. okay.
00:38:54.021 --> 00:38:56.924
Which ones you dwell on.
00:38:56.924 --> 00:38:58.192
A little bit of a reset here, tim dunn.
00:38:58.192 --> 00:39:00.694
Uh, he's a west texas guy, and we're in dallas. west texas
00:39:00.694 --> 00:39:05.966
People don't come to dallas that much.
00:39:05.966 --> 00:39:07.868
But anyway, um-- welcome.
00:39:07.868 --> 00:39:10.004
I'm holding, uh, the yellow balloons, uh, devotional.
00:39:10.004 --> 00:39:14.475
I get this, it's free.
00:39:14.475 --> 00:39:16.877
It comes to your email box when you sign up.
00:39:16.877 --> 00:39:21.449
Atyellowballoons.net
00:39:21.449 --> 00:39:22.883
That's all on the screen.
00:39:22.883 --> 00:39:25.853
That's all being done for us.
00:39:25.853 --> 00:39:27.521
Okay.
00:39:27.521 --> 00:39:28.355
And so basically, um, tell me now,
00:39:28.355 --> 00:39:33.994
Now that you have the color hair you have and mine's
00:39:33.994 --> 00:39:36.997
Right behind you.
00:39:36.997 --> 00:39:38.165
Yours is a little bit whiter
00:39:38.165 --> 00:39:39.533
Than mine, but i'm right behind you.
00:39:39.533 --> 00:39:41.502
It's biblical.
00:39:41.502 --> 00:39:42.603
It's when the almond tree blossoms. it's biblical.
00:39:42.603 --> 00:39:45.439
Exactly.
00:39:45.439 --> 00:39:46.707
So i'm going to assume, tim, that you do a really good job
00:39:46.707 --> 00:39:52.446
At this, that your natural reaction is to dig deep,
00:39:52.446 --> 00:39:58.719
Reframe, and do the right thing. before you got really good at
00:39:58.719 --> 00:40:03.891
It and before you could step back and when you weren't
00:40:03.891 --> 00:40:08.295
As good at it,
00:40:08.295 --> 00:40:10.030
Tell me something that you were really doing wrong for a while
00:40:10.030 --> 00:40:16.036
That gives us an example of this idea that, yeah, the past,
00:40:16.036 --> 00:40:24.845
You can't control it with regret.
00:40:24.845 --> 00:40:26.947
You can't control the present with anger.
00:40:26.947 --> 00:40:29.316
And you can't control the future with anxiety.
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You just-- that's not the right choice.
00:40:32.920 --> 00:40:36.423
When you're when you're born,
00:40:36.423 --> 00:40:38.058
You look like your mama and daddy.
00:40:38.058 --> 00:40:39.660
When you're older, you look like your choices.
00:40:39.660 --> 00:40:43.430
You're doing them right now.
00:40:43.430 --> 00:40:44.865
But when you were not doing it
00:40:44.865 --> 00:40:47.167
As well, what did you struggle with?
00:40:47.167 --> 00:40:48.869
And give us an example of that.
00:40:48.869 --> 00:40:50.771
Well, i would not say i used to not
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Do it well and now i do it well.
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I would, i would--
00:40:56.310 --> 00:40:57.378
Because you're going to reframe that question.
00:40:57.378 --> 00:40:58.879
Going to reframe your question here.
00:40:58.879 --> 00:41:00.781
So since we're talking about framing, i'll be overt about it.
00:41:00.781 --> 00:41:04.351
Yeah. um, i would say that my flesh-- what i've learned is
00:41:04.351 --> 00:41:10.391
My flesh never gets any better.
00:41:10.391 --> 00:41:12.626
It's always the same.
00:41:12.626 --> 00:41:13.928
I think it actually gets worse over time because it's looking
00:41:13.928 --> 00:41:16.764
For new ways to trip you up.
00:41:16.764 --> 00:41:19.466
Okay. and so it's growing just like you're growing.
00:41:19.466 --> 00:41:23.470
So i would say the battle is always the same.
00:41:23.470 --> 00:41:26.540
Uh, the only thing that changes
00:41:26.540 --> 00:41:28.509
For me is the time it takes to reset.
00:41:28.509 --> 00:41:32.279
I think over time,
00:41:32.279 --> 00:41:33.480
I can do it quicker.
00:41:33.480 --> 00:41:34.481
And i'll give you an example.
00:41:34.481 --> 00:41:36.216
Um, criticism.
00:41:36.216 --> 00:41:37.918
I don't particularly like it.
00:41:37.918 --> 00:41:41.956
And, uh, and so, uh.
00:41:41.956 --> 00:41:45.526
Did it irritate when i send you these things when you're
00:41:45.526 --> 00:41:48.329
On the cover of something--
00:41:48.329 --> 00:41:50.130
And why would you say that?
00:41:50.130 --> 00:41:51.966
Well, so a lot of people do that.
00:41:51.966 --> 00:41:54.602
Okay.
00:41:54.602 --> 00:41:55.736
Uh, but generally, generally when i get criticized,
00:41:55.736 --> 00:41:59.106
Okay. um, at first, at first i
00:41:59.106 --> 00:42:03.177
Was like, i need to answer back. yeah.
00:42:03.177 --> 00:42:05.379
Okay. so that would be an example of before i learned
00:42:05.379 --> 00:42:08.983
This power framing. yeah. okay.
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I need to answer back.
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Need to defend myself. yeah.
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Well, what i learned is-- and this is actually the,
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The practical consequence of turning the other cheek.
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Mhm.
00:42:22.062 --> 00:42:23.230
Okay. what i actually learned is if you react you're
00:42:23.230 --> 00:42:27.034
Elevating that criticism.
00:42:27.034 --> 00:42:28.836
Wow. you're actually hurting yourself.
00:42:28.836 --> 00:42:31.005
Wow.
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Okay. so uh so what i learned so what i learned to redo
00:42:32.239 --> 00:42:38.145
And now-- and it would take me like a whole day at first.
00:42:38.145 --> 00:42:42.683
And then gradually it, you know, the time it takes to do
00:42:42.683 --> 00:42:46.654
It is i have a little speech that i give to myself.
00:42:46.654 --> 00:42:50.224
I do want to hear that someday.
00:42:50.224 --> 00:42:52.059
Uh, well, i'll tell you what it is.
00:42:52.059 --> 00:42:55.062
Basically, it's like, okay,
00:42:55.062 --> 00:42:58.232
Nobody's looking at me.
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Yeah.
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They're not thinking about me.
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They're thinking about themselves.
00:43:02.903 --> 00:43:04.872
They're worried about their kids, their problems, their
00:43:04.872 --> 00:43:07.975
Life, their lives, their issues.
00:43:07.975 --> 00:43:09.643
They're not dwelling on me.
00:43:09.643 --> 00:43:11.278
I'm the only one dwelling on me.
00:43:11.278 --> 00:43:14.748
If i took a poll, nobody would know who i am.
00:43:14.748 --> 00:43:20.521
The people that watch this show will forget.
00:43:20.521 --> 00:43:23.924
Within weeks, there was this guy.
00:43:23.924 --> 00:43:26.260
I can't remember his name.
00:43:26.260 --> 00:43:27.194
He had white hair.
00:43:27.194 --> 00:43:28.128
Yeah, he was from west texas.
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Really good though.
00:43:29.463 --> 00:43:30.464
You might remember a few things to take away,
00:43:30.464 --> 00:43:33.200
Then becomes part of you.
00:43:33.200 --> 00:43:35.135
Yeah, that's what this is for.
00:43:35.135 --> 00:43:36.670
That's fantastic.
00:43:36.670 --> 00:43:37.538
That's what we want to have happen.
00:43:37.538 --> 00:43:40.007
But a lot of times i'll ask people like,
00:43:40.007 --> 00:43:43.410
Who won the super bowl last year?
00:43:43.410 --> 00:43:45.012
Yeah. they're like, oh...
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Well, you know, 100 million people watched us.
00:43:46.313 --> 00:43:49.783
Name three players on the philadelphia eagles.
00:43:49.783 --> 00:43:52.953
Uh... you know, you just don't remember stuff, right?
00:43:52.953 --> 00:43:56.323
It takes millions of dollars
00:43:56.323 --> 00:43:59.159
And constant effort to be famous.
00:43:59.159 --> 00:44:01.762
Wow.
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And so just nobody's paying attention.
00:44:02.696 --> 00:44:05.466
I'm the only person that's focused on me.
00:44:05.466 --> 00:44:08.102
Wow.
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Okay, so just get over it.
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Yeah.
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And so it would take me about a day at first, and now it's just
00:44:12.573 --> 00:44:16.276
Like nobody cares. so good.
00:44:16.276 --> 00:44:20.814
So laurie's more like you.
00:44:20.814 --> 00:44:23.984
I have a tendency to not care
00:44:23.984 --> 00:44:26.520
Pretty early on is just a tendency.
00:44:26.520 --> 00:44:29.923
Uh, but i'm getting better.
00:44:29.923 --> 00:44:32.292
I'll ask you another question that i don't think you'll be
00:44:32.292 --> 00:44:34.561
Able to reframe.
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Don't you want to just be better, tim?
00:44:35.829 --> 00:44:37.898
Do you want to be better tomorrow than you are today?
00:44:37.898 --> 00:44:40.300
Yes. okay.
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See? i got a yes out of him.
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You got one.
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That is literally the only time he's ever answered.
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I said, hey, tim, why don't we
00:44:45.939 --> 00:44:47.407
Go on praise and talk about theology?
00:44:47.407 --> 00:44:49.476
He goes, well, i said, well, i don't
00:44:49.476 --> 00:44:52.412
Really like to use the term theology.
00:44:52.412 --> 00:44:55.415
It tends to it tends to put everything in a box.
00:44:55.415 --> 00:44:58.952
And we don't live in a box.
00:44:58.952 --> 00:45:00.087
God doesn't live in a box.
00:45:00.087 --> 00:45:01.488
I prefer to talk about what works in life.
00:45:01.488 --> 00:45:04.725
I love it.
00:45:04.725 --> 00:45:06.727
He reframes everything and--
00:45:06.727 --> 00:45:09.596
And that's a good point.
00:45:09.596 --> 00:45:10.831
I'm always trying to do what i saw in that jesus looking
00:45:10.831 --> 00:45:14.067
Through what's being said.
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If i look at a newspaper article, i don't
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Look at the article.
00:45:19.173 --> 00:45:20.440
I look through the article to see what the framing is.
00:45:20.440 --> 00:45:23.343
There it is. so good.
00:45:23.343 --> 00:45:24.278
And i love that.
00:45:24.278 --> 00:45:25.546
And there is a lot of that kind of--
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Teaching? teaching. that's perfect.
00:45:32.486 --> 00:45:35.556
There's a lot of that kind of teaching in this.
00:45:35.556 --> 00:45:38.926
Tim, uh, did a lot of the framing on this, and joey
00:45:38.926 --> 00:45:43.263
Willis did a lot of the writing.
00:45:43.263 --> 00:45:45.032
You did a lot of the editing.
00:45:45.032 --> 00:45:46.300
And so, uh, both of you, uh, have done something that
00:45:46.300 --> 00:45:52.206
Is-- this matters, tim.
00:45:52.206 --> 00:45:54.141
And the other thing is, you know, with all due respect,
00:45:54.141 --> 00:45:58.045
There's a lot of people that come on with a book and they
00:45:58.045 --> 00:46:01.081
Really would prefer that you buy their book.
00:46:01.081 --> 00:46:04.852
This one is free.
00:46:04.852 --> 00:46:06.486
Okay.
00:46:06.486 --> 00:46:07.221
And so the devotional is free.
00:46:07.221 --> 00:46:09.523
The yellow balloons book is free.
00:46:09.523 --> 00:46:11.625
Yeah.
00:46:11.625 --> 00:46:12.292
And he isn't really trying
00:46:12.292 --> 00:46:14.862
To get a mailing list together to--
00:46:14.862 --> 00:46:16.697
Just wants a better world.
00:46:16.697 --> 00:46:17.698
And to then send and ask you for a donation.
00:46:17.698 --> 00:46:19.633
I assure you that's not true.
00:46:19.633 --> 00:46:21.168
That's not coming.
00:46:21.168 --> 00:46:22.669
That's true.
00:46:22.669 --> 00:46:23.904
So it feels like this, um, is something that we wanted
00:46:23.904 --> 00:46:27.808
To jump on.
00:46:27.808 --> 00:46:29.009
It's in my email box, and i
00:46:29.009 --> 00:46:32.379
Read it, you know, almost every day.
00:46:32.379 --> 00:46:34.281
So i'm not going to say i read it every day.
00:46:34.281 --> 00:46:35.716
Break this down.
00:46:35.716 --> 00:46:36.650
So break it down like in marriage.
00:46:36.650 --> 00:46:40.454
Break what down?
00:46:40.454 --> 00:46:41.188
Break the reframing of-- oh.
00:46:41.188 --> 00:46:45.259
Of difficulty in your marriage, let's say.
00:46:45.259 --> 00:46:49.196
Well-- or arguments or --
00:46:49.196 --> 00:46:52.466
One of my favorite uh, this is i'm going to use servant
00:46:52.466 --> 00:46:55.002
Leadership tool now.
00:46:55.002 --> 00:46:56.103
Okay.
00:46:56.103 --> 00:46:57.104
So because all these things are connected,
00:46:57.104 --> 00:46:58.572
Right. but um, your mind automatically turns everything
00:46:58.572 --> 00:47:02.776
You see into a story,
00:47:02.776 --> 00:47:05.579
And the story has a plot in it, and the hero
00:47:05.579 --> 00:47:09.249
Is always?
00:47:09.249 --> 00:47:10.884
You. me.
00:47:10.884 --> 00:47:11.885
Yeah, right. that's right.
00:47:11.885 --> 00:47:15.689
Or should be.
00:47:15.689 --> 00:47:16.723
So when when the when emotions start to rise,
00:47:16.723 --> 00:47:19.793
Any at all,
00:47:19.793 --> 00:47:20.494
Your mind will automatically
00:47:20.494 --> 00:47:21.995
Tell you a story about what's happening,
00:47:21.995 --> 00:47:25.499
Cast yourself as the hero, and whoever's causing the emotion
00:47:25.499 --> 00:47:29.369
As the villain. yes.
00:47:29.369 --> 00:47:30.804
It's automatic.
00:47:30.804 --> 00:47:31.872
You can't stop it.
00:47:31.872 --> 00:47:33.040
Wow. that's human nature.
00:47:33.040 --> 00:47:35.075
It's just the way it is.
00:47:35.075 --> 00:47:36.510
Okay. but you can know that.
00:47:36.510 --> 00:47:38.812
Yeah.
00:47:38.812 --> 00:47:39.713
And no, it's never true.
00:47:39.713 --> 00:47:42.282
Right.
00:47:42.282 --> 00:47:43.183
Okay. so what you can do as a couple,
00:47:43.183 --> 00:47:46.119
And this is super powerful.
00:47:46.119 --> 00:47:47.654
We use it in business all the time.
00:47:47.654 --> 00:47:49.022
We call it the moment of truth.
00:47:49.022 --> 00:47:50.991
Okay.
00:47:50.991 --> 00:47:52.993
What's making my-- what's driving my story is my facts.
00:47:52.993 --> 00:47:57.464
Mm. what's driving your story is your facts.
00:47:57.464 --> 00:48:00.200
And if when it's my story versus your story,
00:48:00.200 --> 00:48:03.070
We can't ever have--
00:48:03.070 --> 00:48:04.972
We can't ever come to agreement
00:48:04.972 --> 00:48:06.139
Because i've already got a hero, right?
00:48:06.139 --> 00:48:09.609
So what we have to do is set that story aside and say, why
00:48:09.609 --> 00:48:13.146
Don't we come up with shared facts?
00:48:13.146 --> 00:48:15.615
What did you see?
00:48:15.615 --> 00:48:17.317
Let me listen to-- let me listen to where you're coming from.
00:48:17.317 --> 00:48:20.988
So in marriage, i think it all starts with listening.
00:48:20.988 --> 00:48:24.791
And listening, we say, is not
00:48:24.791 --> 00:48:26.793
Hearing what someone else is saying.
00:48:26.793 --> 00:48:29.262
It's seeing what they see.
00:48:29.262 --> 00:48:31.164
Mhm.
00:48:31.164 --> 00:48:32.366
Let me step in your shoes.
00:48:32.366 --> 00:48:34.101
So let me understand your facts.
00:48:34.101 --> 00:48:36.636
Once i understand your facts.
00:48:36.636 --> 00:48:38.605
Now let me, let me put it together with my facts,
00:48:38.605 --> 00:48:41.875
And shared facts. makes a shared story.
00:48:41.875 --> 00:48:44.611
A new story. mhm.
00:48:44.611 --> 00:48:46.179
And now it's us as the hero.
00:48:46.179 --> 00:48:48.548
Yeah.
00:48:48.548 --> 00:48:49.850
And you can, you can do this by saying things like, hey, we're
00:48:49.850 --> 00:48:52.719
On the same team here, right.
00:48:52.719 --> 00:48:54.821
It's not me versus you, it's us trying to figure out
00:48:54.821 --> 00:48:57.657
How to become one.
00:48:57.657 --> 00:48:59.059
Yeah. that's our there.
00:48:59.059 --> 00:49:00.927
And our here is we have
00:49:00.927 --> 00:49:02.429
Something that we got to figure out.
00:49:02.429 --> 00:49:04.131
Let's get on the same page with shared facts.
00:49:04.131 --> 00:49:06.666
Love that.
00:49:06.666 --> 00:49:07.601
Now there's a reason not to like that.
00:49:07.601 --> 00:49:09.036
And that's if you want to manipulate
00:49:09.036 --> 00:49:11.838
And suck somebody into your story.
00:49:11.838 --> 00:49:15.075
But that is-- that's just not it's not productive living.
00:49:15.075 --> 00:49:18.478
Are you going to say i'm a story sucker?
00:49:18.478 --> 00:49:20.514
I think there's going to be the framing.
00:49:20.514 --> 00:49:24.317
Body language says it all.
00:49:24.317 --> 00:49:26.119
Yeah, i'm the story sucker.
00:49:26.119 --> 00:49:28.588
Never the villain.
00:49:28.588 --> 00:49:31.091
So, um, we're kind of, uh, we're kind of out of time.
00:49:31.091 --> 00:49:35.695
We're going to-- thank you for sitting here and talking
00:49:35.695 --> 00:49:38.331
Theology with me, tim.
00:49:38.331 --> 00:49:40.067
I really enjoyed that.
00:49:40.067 --> 00:49:41.535
When we talked about
00:49:41.535 --> 00:49:42.502
Theology as a word about god, i embrace it.
00:49:42.502 --> 00:49:44.538
Okay. love that.
00:49:44.538 --> 00:49:46.173
And what i'd love for you to do, um, is look into your
00:49:46.173 --> 00:49:50.911
Camera there and admonish the folks and a little bit of a
00:49:50.911 --> 00:49:54.014
Prayer kind of to close this out.
00:49:54.014 --> 00:49:56.383
Uh, we're talking about, uh, all of this new stuff that--
00:49:56.383 --> 00:50:01.288
So let me just say to you, if
00:50:01.288 --> 00:50:03.356
You are struggling with circumstances,
00:50:03.356 --> 00:50:08.628
It's most likely that most of those circumstances are things
00:50:08.628 --> 00:50:11.565
You can't control.
00:50:11.565 --> 00:50:13.900
Something else is happening.
00:50:13.900 --> 00:50:15.402
But you know what?
00:50:15.402 --> 00:50:16.203
You can control who you trust.
00:50:16.203 --> 00:50:18.839
And god is always faithful.
00:50:18.839 --> 00:50:21.575
You know what you can control? your perspective.
00:50:21.575 --> 00:50:24.778
And you can pray, and you can seek god, and you can read the
00:50:24.778 --> 00:50:28.515
Word and you can find a perspective that's true.
00:50:28.515 --> 00:50:32.953
And when we believe god and when we choose a perspective
00:50:32.953 --> 00:50:38.425
That's true, we are taking every thought captive to the
00:50:38.425 --> 00:50:41.328
Obedience of christ.
00:50:41.328 --> 00:50:43.163
And then when we put those things into action, we're
00:50:43.163 --> 00:50:46.533
Taking up our cross and following jesus because we're
00:50:46.533 --> 00:50:49.603
Doing what he asked us to do.
00:50:49.603 --> 00:50:52.239
And nobody can stop you.
00:50:52.239 --> 00:50:54.774
Nobody can stop you from choosing to believe what's true
00:50:54.774 --> 00:50:59.946
And choosing a perspective that's true and acting on
00:50:59.946 --> 00:51:05.018
Those beliefs. nobody can stop you.
00:51:05.018 --> 00:51:07.287
And if you do those things, the bible promises that you are
00:51:07.287 --> 00:51:12.659
Winning at life.
00:51:12.659 --> 00:51:14.294
You are racing for the crown, and that is constructive life.
00:51:14.294 --> 00:51:21.434
And nobody can take that away from you.
00:51:21.434 --> 00:51:23.670
And all those circumstances that are pressing in
00:51:23.670 --> 00:51:26.640
Are what they are.
00:51:26.640 --> 00:51:28.408
That's the wave you're surfing on.
00:51:28.408 --> 00:51:30.443
You can't, you can't change those things unless you're
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Doing it to yourself.
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And then you can stop, right?
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But, um, assuming that you're not creating your own problems,
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Uh, you can you can take any circumstances and take them
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And, and do do your best with those things by trusting god,
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Choosing a true perspective and, and, uh, acting on those.
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So let me just pray for you that you would, that you would
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Follow, that you would follow
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In these admonitions that god has given us to believe him.
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Thank you, lord.
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He is faithful and
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He's the same yesterday, today, and forever.
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And he is true.
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And what he tells us is true.
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And if we will seek to listen to him, not to look for things
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To put into our framing, but to look and see what is his
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Framing and what is his truth, what perspective is true about
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Me and about where i'm living and and seek that, uh,
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We will find.
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He says he's not far from us.
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If we'll grope, we can find him.
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And he's waiting for you, and he's,
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He's there for you.
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And so i just pray that you would have a more
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Robust and more, uh, constructive life by
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Making good choices.
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In jesus' name
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Because the truth sets us free.
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And the truth sets us free.
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So good.
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Uh, tim dunn yellow balloons.
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It is a devotional available, um, for free.
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And all of that is on the screen.
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All the information.
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Get it.
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And tim dunn, will you will you come back and talk
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Theology with me? sure.
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Okay. as long as i don't have to put it
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In a box. do you want to be better?
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He's going to reframe it for you.
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Will you be better when i see you next time?
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We'll see. we'll see.
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You want to be better? i want to be better.
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Okay. we'll see you next time.
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Thank you. bye bye.
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♪♪
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Tim Dunn: Hope That Carries You Through | Praise

November 12, 2025 | 55:28

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