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Rick Warren - How God Blesses Broken Hearts (Part 2)

May 10, 2026 | 27:29

Rick Warren - How God Blesses Broken Hearts (Part 2)
Pastor Rick shares biblical truth and practical tools for living the full life God desires for everyone.
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Rick Warren | Rick Warren - How God Blesses Broken Hearts (Part 2) | May 10, 2026
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  • Pastor rick warren: now, this weekend, what i want us to look
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  • At is "how god blesses broken hearts," because the second
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  • Beatitude, jesus says this, "god blesses those who mourn."
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  • Now, i want god to bless your life.
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  • I want god to bless your life in spite of all the bad things that
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  • Have happened, and in spite of all the bad things that are
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  • Gonna happen.
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  • And in order for god to bless your life, jesus says, "blessed
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  • Are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted."
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  • And how does god comfort us?
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  • Six ways, write these down.
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  • Number one, the first way god blesses a broken heart is god
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  • Draws us close to himself.
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  • He draws us in close to himself.
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  • Look at these verses, psalm 34:18, "the lord is close to the
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  • Brokenhearted, and he saves those whose spirits have
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  • Been crushed."
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  • When you are grieving, you often feel like god's a million miles
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  • Away, but he's not a million miles away.
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  • He's never been any closer.
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  • What you feel and what's real are not the same thing.
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  • Not everything you feel is real, and not everything that's real
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  • Do you feel.
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  • The bible says, "god is close to the brokenhearted."
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  • He's paying attention.
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  • He's not aloof, he's not distant.
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  • Hebrews 13:5, "i will never leave you," circle that, never.
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  • That means even in your worst pain.
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  • It means even in your most embarrassing disgrace.
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  • It means even in your most massive failure, even in the
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  • Thing you're most ashamed of in your life.
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  • "i will never leave you and i will never abandon you."
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  • In 2 corinthians 6:10, it says this, "our hearts ache, but at
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  • The same time we have the joy of the lord."
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  • What does that mean?
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  • That's the difference jesus makes.
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  • If you don't have jesus in your life, then god isn't close to
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  • You at that moment, and you're on your own.
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  • You don't have any other resources.
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  • You're there to handle the pain by yourself.
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  • God never intended for you to handle the pain by yourself.
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  • First, the bible says god draws us close to himself, and then
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  • Here's the second thing, write this down, god grieves with us.
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  • The bible tells us that god weeps when he sees inhumanity on
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  • Earth, he weeps.
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  • When god sees us sin, he weeps.
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  • When god sees wars destroying people, when god sees this
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  • Planet being destroyed, god weeps, god grieves.
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  • And we're made in god's image.
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  • And the bible says, "god weeps with us."
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  • In other words, he's--god is a suffering god, and god is a
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  • Sympathetic god.
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  • He's not aloof, he's not apathetic.
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  • He's standing--not standing on the sidelines, he suffers
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  • With us.
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  • Look at this verse up here on the screen.
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  • Isaiah 53:3 says this, "[jesus]
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  • Was a man of sorrows, acquainted with bitterest grief.
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  • He knew suffering first hand."
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  • So, when you come to jesus, it's not like jesus goes, "i have no
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  • Idea what you're talking about."
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  • When your heart is breaking and you're in pain, it's not like
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  • Jesus is going, "i don't understand it.
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  • I don't get that.
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  • Just buck up and put on a happy face."
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  • No, jesus was a man of sorrows.
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  • He was acquainted with grief, and he is feeling it with you.
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  • And there's a third thing that god does in blessing our broken
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  • Hearts, and that is this, god gives us a church family
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  • For support.
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  • God never meant for you to go through life on your own.
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  • 1 thessalonians 5:11 says, "comfort each other and give
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  • Each other strength."
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  • If you're not in major pain right now, you need to be
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  • Thinking, "how can i follow what jesus tells me to do and comfort
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  • The people in pain around me?"
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  • Well, first, you gotta be aware.
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  • And if you care, you'll be aware.
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  • There are people in pain sitting on your row, and you don't even
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  • Know what their pain is.
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  • If you care, you'll be aware.
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  • Let me give you two suggestions for comforting people when they
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  • Go through any kind of loss, financial loss, physical loss,
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  • Health loss, loss of a loved one, or anything.
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  • Let me just give you two.
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  • Write these down.
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  • Number one, never minimize another's pain, the pain
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  • Of others.
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  • Never minimize others' pain.
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  • Kay was talking the other day, we were in london, and she was
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  • Speaking and she said, "one of the words you can delete from
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  • Your vocabulary when you're talking to somebody in pain is
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  • The word at least."
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  • And she told me about a lady, a mother who had lost a child
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  • Through drowning.
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  • And a neighbor came over and in a meaningful attempt to comfort
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  • Said, "well, at least you're young enough to have
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  • Another child."
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  • Are you kidding me?
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  • I'm sure that mama said, "i'm not wanting another child, i
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  • Want my child back.
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  • I want my child back.
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  • Don't tell me, 'well, at least you've got three other kids.'"
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  • Are you kidding me?
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  • "well, at least you've got your--."
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  • Eliminate the phrase "at least" from your vocabulary when
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  • Talking to somebody in pain.
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  • It doesn't help.
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  • It's not--you're trying to minimize the pain by pointing
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  • Out something good.
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  • Just never minimize the pain of others.
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  • And i would say again, parents, stop trying to teach your kids
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  • To stuff it, "don't cry now."
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  • You know, the typical reaction when somebody's in pain, we try
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  • To fix it immediately.
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  • Don't be in a hurry to fix anything.
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  • You don't need to fix it.
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  • God will fix it in due time.
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  • What you need to do is just be there and be aware and care.
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  • So, never minimize.
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  • The other thing is never rush people.
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  • Never rush people.
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  • Pain and grief takes time, and nobody can figure out how long
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  • The grief's gonna take for any particular thing in your life,
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  • But you.
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  • I can't tell you what's the appropriate time to grieve for
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  • Anything in your life.
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  • You're just gonna have to figure that one out yourself, and it's
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  • Different for everybody else.
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  • You know, in marriages, the death of a child is often the
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  • Predictor of a divorce.
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  • In fact, marriages that have the death of a child don't have a
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  • Pretty good rate of staying together.
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  • Kay and i knew that statistic.
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  • And when matthew died, we determined that we were going to
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  • Let this draw us closer to each other rather than divide us.
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  • And it was all because of one thing, showing grace to each
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  • Other and realizing whatever you're feeling right now
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  • Is okay.
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  • And i don't try to talk kay out of her feelings, and she doesn't
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  • Try to talk me out of mine, and we just enter into each
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  • Other's pain.
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  • A feeling is neither right or wrong, it's just a feeling.
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  • Let me say that one again.
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  • A feeling is never right or wrong, it's just a feeling.
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  • So, husbands, quit trying to talk your wife out of feelings.
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  • And wives, quit trying to talk your husbands out of feelings.
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  • Feeling is neither right nor wrong, it's just a feeling.
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  • And so, you show grace to each other, and you never
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  • Rush people.
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  • Kay wrote a column--a little post in facebook a couple weeks
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  • Ago about how she was starting to feel people kinda rushing her
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  • And saying, "you know, when are you gonna go back to teaching?
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  • And, "you know, when are you're gonna be back on the stage?"
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  • And, you know, and kinda like, "aren't you over it yet?"
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  • And she--stop trying to push people to get over it.
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  • She wrote this little post.
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  • Did it hit a nerve?
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  • Over three million people reposted it.
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  • Why?
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  • Because that's the way anybody who's in deep pain feels.
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  • They understand.
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  • Don't tell me to get over it.
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  • You don't get over it, you get through it.
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  • You get through it.
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  • So, god gives us a family, and we're not to minimize, and we're
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  • Not to rush the people in our lives.
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  • There's a fourth way that god blesses broken hearts,
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  • All right?
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  • He gives us a church family, he gives us his own presence, he
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  • Grieves with us, number four, god uses grief to help us grow.
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  • God uses grief, god uses pain even to help us grow.
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  • And he does it in three ways.
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  • Here are three verses that illustrate three different ways.
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  • First, god uses pain to get our attention.
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  • C.s.
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  • Lewis wrote, "god whispers to us in our pleasure, but he shouts
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  • To us in our pain."
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  • Pain is god's megaphone.
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  • Pain is saying, "hello!"
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  • We rarely change when we see the light.
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  • We change when we feel the heat.
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  • Here's what the bible says, proverbs 20:30, "sometimes it
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  • Takes a painful experience to make us change our ways."
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  • That's in the today's english version.
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  • Anybody agree with that verse?
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  • Yeah, sometimes it takes a painful experience to make us
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  • Change our ways.
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  • So, god uses grief to help us grow by getting our attention.
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  • Second way, he brings good out of bad.
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  • One of the most famous verses in the bible is romans 8:28, "we
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  • Know," we know, not guess, not hope.
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  • "we know that in all things," not some, not just the good, "in
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  • All things god works--in all things god works for the good of
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  • Those who love him."
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  • It's an opportunity to grow in character.
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  • Every time you go through pain, you don't--you can't control the
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  • Pain you go through.
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  • You may have chronic pain, and that pain may be with you for
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  • Years and years and years.
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  • You can't always control that, but you can decide whether it's
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  • Gonna make you bitter or better.
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  • Whether it's gonna be a stepping stone, or it's gonna be a
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  • Stumbling block.
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  • Look at this next verse.
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  • 2 corinthians 4:17-18, "these troubles are getting us ready
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  • For an eternal glory that will make all our troubles seem
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  • Like nothing."
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  • Like nothing.
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  • "things that are seen don't last forever, the things that are not
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  • Seen are eternal.
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  • And that's why we keep focused on the things
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  • That can't be seen."
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  • God's more interested in your character development than
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  • In your comfort.
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  • Why?
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  • Because comfort's gonna be on for trillions and trillions and
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  • Trillions and trillions a year.
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  • They have it.
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  • This is the get ready stage.
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  • This is the learning stage.
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  • This is the warm up act.
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  • This is the school, it's a preschool.
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  • And god says these troubles are getting us ready for an
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  • Eternal glory.
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  • That's a comfort.
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  • You see, studies have shown that the people who were in the
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  • Concentration camps in world war ii, auschwitz, buchenwald,
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  • Dachau, all these countries that many died, but some survived.
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  • And those that survived found meaning and purpose in
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  • Their pain.
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  • That those who saw no meaning or purpose gave up.
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  • You see, you can handle an enormous amount of pain when you
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  • Can realize there's a good purpose in it, like labor in
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  • Having a baby.
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  • But when you don't see any purpose in the pain, then it's
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  • Easy to give up.
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  • When the pain is unceasing, when the pain never stops, when the
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  • Pain keeps going, you need to see god's purpose.
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  • And what is god doing?
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  • First, is he trying to get my attention?
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  • Second, is he trying to bring good out of bad?
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  • Third, is he preparing my character for heaven?
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  • Is he giving me an opportunity to grow in christlikeness?
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  • "things that are seen don't last forever, but things that are not
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  • Seen are eternal."
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  • Pastor rick: when the pain is unceasing, when the pain never
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  • Stops, when the pain keeps going, you need to see
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  • God's purpose.
  • 00:13:19.615 --> 00:13:20.950
  • And what is god doing?
  • 00:13:20.950 --> 00:13:22.318
  • First, is he trying to get my attention?
  • 00:13:22.318 --> 00:13:25.120
  • Second, is he trying to bring good out of bad?
  • 00:13:25.120 --> 00:13:28.190
  • Third, is he preparing my character for heaven?
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  • Is he giving me an opportunity to grow in christlikeness?
  • 00:13:31.727 --> 00:13:35.264
  • "things that are seen don't last forever, but things that are not
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  • Seen are eternal."
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  • Number five, the fifth way that god comforts us when we mourn is
  • 00:13:40.402 --> 00:13:46.208
  • That god gives us the hope of heaven.
  • 00:13:46.208 --> 00:13:49.245
  • And this one has been particularly beautiful and
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  • Meaningful to me this last year.
  • 00:13:54.450 --> 00:13:56.952
  • That this life is not all there is.
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  • That this is just the warm-up act, and that we're living for
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  • So much more.
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  • The amount of time you're gonna spend on earth is really
  • 00:14:04.927 --> 00:14:06.929
  • Quite small.
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  • You're only gonna get 80, 90 at the most, maybe 100 years.
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  • That's nothing, nothing.
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  • It's gonna be over before you realize it.
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  • It's nothing compared to millions and millions and
  • 00:14:16.906 --> 00:14:19.975
  • Millions and millions and millions and millions of years
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  • In heaven.
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  • The bible says we have the hope of heaven.
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  • If there were no hope of heaven, i would be in despair 'cause
  • 00:14:29.385 --> 00:14:34.056
  • There's just too much bad in the world.
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  • There are too many rapes, too many people getting molested,
  • 00:14:36.292 --> 00:14:39.662
  • Too many children being abused, too many wars, too many people
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  • Having--being tortured, too many people being burned up by
  • 00:14:43.065 --> 00:14:48.504
  • Chemicals and all kinds of things.
  • 00:14:48.504 --> 00:14:52.107
  • But the fact is, the bible says, 1 thessalonians 4:13, talking
  • 00:14:52.107 --> 00:14:56.412
  • About believers who die.
  • 00:14:56.412 --> 00:14:59.315
  • Paul says, "we don't want you to be ignorant about believers
  • 00:14:59.315 --> 00:15:03.519
  • Who've died.
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  • We don't want you to grieve like the people who have no hope."
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  • Circle, "the people who have no hope."
  • 00:15:09.925 --> 00:15:13.395
  • There's two kinds of grief.
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  • You can grieve with hope, or you can grieve without hope.
  • 00:15:15.264 --> 00:15:19.435
  • Let me tell you, you want the first one.
  • 00:15:19.435 --> 00:15:22.738
  • As a pastor, i have done, i don't know, hundreds and
  • 00:15:22.738 --> 00:15:25.841
  • Hundreds and hundreds--i don't know, maybe thousands.
  • 00:15:25.841 --> 00:15:28.210
  • I don't know how many funerals that i've done.
  • 00:15:28.210 --> 00:15:31.613
  • I don't know how many times i've stood at the bedside of somebody
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  • Taking their last breath.
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  • I have been at the funerals and looked in the faces of people
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  • Who had no hope when a loved one died.
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  • And i've seen the terror on their face and the despair on
  • 00:15:43.525 --> 00:15:48.263
  • Their face.
  • 00:15:48.263 --> 00:15:49.765
  • You see, the test of your faith, the test of your belief system,
  • 00:15:49.765 --> 00:15:53.936
  • The test of your worldview is not how you handle the parties
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  • Of life.
  • 00:15:57.072 --> 00:15:58.407
  • The test of your worldview is how you handle the failures and
  • 00:15:58.407 --> 00:16:02.177
  • How you handle the funerals, and how you handle the deaths
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  • Of life.
  • 00:16:08.250 --> 00:16:09.685
  • That's the acid test.
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  • The bible says, "we have a hope."
  • 00:16:11.854 --> 00:16:14.289
  • And so, we grieve, but we grieve with hope.
  • 00:16:14.289 --> 00:16:17.159
  • When a christian dies, why do we grieve?
  • 00:16:17.159 --> 00:16:23.465
  • I mean, there--that christian is going to heaven, they're going
  • 00:16:23.465 --> 00:16:26.902
  • Where they're made for, they're going where they're gonna spend
  • 00:16:26.902 --> 00:16:29.004
  • Eternity, and they're going where you're gonna go to if you
  • 00:16:29.004 --> 00:16:31.340
  • Know the lord.
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  • So why do we grieve?
  • 00:16:32.708 --> 00:16:34.043
  • We're not grieving them in the funeral, we're grieving us.
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  • We miss him.
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  • We're not grieving them.
  • 00:16:41.717 --> 00:16:44.586
  • My son matthew, for 27 years, was tortured by mental illness,
  • 00:16:44.586 --> 00:16:50.426
  • And it was agony.
  • 00:16:50.426 --> 00:16:53.028
  • And honestly, when he died, i grieved his extremely painful
  • 00:16:53.028 --> 00:16:59.701
  • Life more than i grieved his extremely painful death because
  • 00:16:59.701 --> 00:17:05.040
  • I know today he has no fear, he has no pain, he has
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  • No depression.
  • 00:17:09.611 --> 00:17:10.946
  • He has--he is--every one of his questions has been answered.
  • 00:17:10.946 --> 00:17:14.616
  • He has joy, he has the understanding, everything he's
  • 00:17:14.616 --> 00:17:18.821
  • Always wanted.
  • 00:17:18.821 --> 00:17:20.155
  • "why was i made like this?
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  • Why didn't i get well?"
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  • All those questions were answered.
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  • I'm not grieving the fact that he's in heaven, i grieve the
  • 00:17:25.894 --> 00:17:29.631
  • Fact that i miss him.
  • 00:17:29.631 --> 00:17:31.266
  • I want my son back.
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  • I miss him now.
  • 00:17:33.769 --> 00:17:35.637
  • And so, when a christian grieves, we grieve in a very,
  • 00:17:35.637 --> 00:17:39.241
  • Very different way than the rest of the world.
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  • We grieve with hope.
  • 00:17:41.810 --> 00:17:44.513
  • Non-believers grieve without any hope.
  • 00:17:44.513 --> 00:17:48.650
  • That's disastrous.
  • 00:17:48.650 --> 00:17:51.286
  • It's devastating, it's debilitating, it's despairing.
  • 00:17:51.286 --> 00:17:56.658
  • What is our hope?
  • 00:17:56.658 --> 00:17:58.026
  • Revelation 21:4 says this, "god will wipe every tear from
  • 00:17:58.026 --> 00:18:03.599
  • Their eyes.
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  • And there will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain,
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  • For the old order of things will have passed away."
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  • I am looking forward to that day so much.
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  • It's one of the things that allows me to go to places like
  • 00:18:21.617 --> 00:18:26.054
  • Africa and see people starving from poverty and allows me to go
  • 00:18:26.054 --> 00:18:31.260
  • To the inner city and see people being beat up and abused and
  • 00:18:31.260 --> 00:18:36.665
  • Misused, and allows me to see all the pain in the world, which
  • 00:18:36.665 --> 00:18:39.568
  • Could be debilitating in it's depressing nature.
  • 00:18:39.568 --> 00:18:43.939
  • If i didn't know that one day god is gonna settle the score,
  • 00:18:43.939 --> 00:18:47.342
  • He's gonna even the odds, he's gonna balance the accounts, and
  • 00:18:47.342 --> 00:18:51.180
  • One day in heaven, god's gonna wipe away every tear.
  • 00:18:51.180 --> 00:18:55.017
  • And there will be no more death, and there will be no more
  • 00:18:55.017 --> 00:18:57.920
  • Mourning, and there will be no more suffering, and no more
  • 00:18:57.920 --> 00:19:02.057
  • Crying, and no more pain for the old order will have passed away.
  • 00:19:02.057 --> 00:19:06.628
  • That is one of the six hopes that, "blessed are those who
  • 00:19:06.628 --> 00:19:10.632
  • Mourn, for they shall be comforted."
  • 00:19:10.632 --> 00:19:14.203
  • Finally, there's one more thing, and this is a big one.
  • 00:19:14.203 --> 00:19:18.774
  • God uses our pain to help others.
  • 00:19:18.774 --> 00:19:23.345
  • There's a purpose in your pain.
  • 00:19:23.345 --> 00:19:25.247
  • This is called redemptive pain.
  • 00:19:25.247 --> 00:19:27.382
  • This is the highest and best use of the pain you go through.
  • 00:19:27.382 --> 00:19:31.520
  • God does not want you to waste a hurt.
  • 00:19:31.520 --> 00:19:35.090
  • God never waste the hurt, but we often do, because we're not
  • 00:19:35.090 --> 00:19:38.393
  • Willing to use it to help other people.
  • 00:19:38.393 --> 00:19:41.296
  • God uses our pain to help others.
  • 00:19:41.296 --> 00:19:43.432
  • This is the highest and best use.
  • 00:19:43.432 --> 00:19:46.235
  • Who can better help the mother of a special needs child than
  • 00:19:46.235 --> 00:19:53.375
  • Another mother of a special needs child?
  • 00:19:53.375 --> 00:19:57.179
  • Who can better help somebody who's lost a son or daughter in
  • 00:19:57.179 --> 00:20:01.416
  • A war than somebody who lost a son or daughter in a war?
  • 00:20:01.416 --> 00:20:05.020
  • Who can better help somebody who lost a limb than somebody who's
  • 00:20:05.020 --> 00:20:10.325
  • Lost a limb?
  • 00:20:10.325 --> 00:20:12.261
  • Who could better help somebody who has gone through the pain of
  • 00:20:12.261 --> 00:20:15.964
  • An addiction or a marriage failure or molestation or any of
  • 00:20:15.964 --> 00:20:22.471
  • The other evils in the world than somebody who went
  • 00:20:22.471 --> 00:20:26.408
  • Through that?
  • 00:20:26.408 --> 00:20:28.510
  • God does not want you to waste your hurt.
  • 00:20:28.510 --> 00:20:31.680
  • This is redemptive hurt.
  • 00:20:31.680 --> 00:20:33.048
  • He wants you to redirect your focus.
  • 00:20:33.048 --> 00:20:35.284
  • 2 corinthians 1:4, "god comforts us in all our troubles so that
  • 00:20:35.284 --> 00:20:41.023
  • We can comfort others with the same comfort we receive
  • 00:20:41.023 --> 00:20:44.726
  • From god."
  • 00:20:44.726 --> 00:20:46.128
  • Now listen very closely.
  • 00:20:49.431 --> 00:20:51.199
  • Your greatest ministry will come out of your deepest hurt.
  • 00:20:51.199 --> 00:20:57.739
  • Your--my--you might write this down, "my greatest ministry will
  • 00:20:57.739 --> 00:21:01.476
  • Come out of my deepest hurt," because you can relate.
  • 00:21:01.476 --> 00:21:06.481
  • You could say, "been there, done that, went through it.
  • 00:21:06.481 --> 00:21:09.117
  • I had a mother who was abusive.
  • 00:21:09.117 --> 00:21:12.688
  • I had a dad who was distant and left the family.
  • 00:21:12.688 --> 00:21:16.391
  • I had a failure in this area or that area."
  • 00:21:16.391 --> 00:21:22.097
  • Your greatest ministry will come out of your deepest hurt.
  • 00:21:22.097 --> 00:21:26.401
  • You see, we think the world is impressed by how we handle
  • 00:21:26.401 --> 00:21:29.004
  • Prosperity, but the world is actually impressed by how we
  • 00:21:29.004 --> 00:21:32.941
  • Handle adversity.
  • 00:21:32.941 --> 00:21:35.010
  • We think that it is our success that gives us credibility to be
  • 00:21:35.010 --> 00:21:39.081
  • A witness, but god says, "no," it is our suffering that gives
  • 00:21:39.081 --> 00:21:43.452
  • Us credibility.
  • 00:21:43.452 --> 00:21:45.821
  • You would not believe the open doors that have happened in my
  • 00:21:45.821 --> 00:21:49.424
  • Life since matthew died.
  • 00:21:49.424 --> 00:21:53.028
  • And when i began to journal about it on social media, people
  • 00:21:53.028 --> 00:21:56.498
  • Began to come out of the woodwork, and some people you
  • 00:21:56.498 --> 00:21:59.468
  • Wouldn't believe, and said, "i've never told this to
  • 00:21:59.468 --> 00:22:02.671
  • Anybody else."
  • 00:22:02.671 --> 00:22:04.005
  • We think that fame earns respect, but actually it's
  • 00:22:04.005 --> 00:22:07.075
  • Faithfulness in tough times.
  • 00:22:07.075 --> 00:22:09.611
  • Now here's the bottom line.
  • 00:22:09.611 --> 00:22:11.012
  • I'll say it again.
  • 00:22:11.012 --> 00:22:12.347
  • We're in a broken world, and so every day, nothing
  • 00:22:12.347 --> 00:22:15.250
  • Works perfectly.
  • 00:22:15.250 --> 00:22:16.618
  • And that means every day, you need to be either--you either
  • 00:22:16.618 --> 00:22:20.522
  • Need comfort or you need to comfort others.
  • 00:22:20.522 --> 00:22:26.027
  • Right now, you're in one of two categories.
  • 00:22:26.027 --> 00:22:28.063
  • Put yourself on it.
  • 00:22:28.063 --> 00:22:29.398
  • Right now, you either need help 'cause you're in really bad
  • 00:22:29.398 --> 00:22:32.134
  • Pain, or you need to help others.
  • 00:22:32.134 --> 00:22:36.738
  • And maybe, just maybe, god wants to do both at the same time.
  • 00:22:36.738 --> 00:22:40.742
  • It's called being a wounded healer.
  • 00:22:40.742 --> 00:22:44.746
  • If you wait until you're completely healed to help other
  • 00:22:44.746 --> 00:22:47.282
  • People, guess what?
  • 00:22:47.282 --> 00:22:48.950
  • You're gonna wait a long time 'cause you're not gonna be fully
  • 00:22:48.950 --> 00:22:51.553
  • Healed of everything in your life until you get to heaven.
  • 00:22:51.553 --> 00:22:54.189
  • ♪♪♪
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  • Pastor rick: you know, no matter how bad things seem, you can
  • 00:23:05.367 --> 00:23:09.304
  • Always trust that god is active in your life, working things out
  • 00:23:09.304 --> 00:23:14.276
  • For the good.
  • 00:23:14.276 --> 00:23:15.644
  • While you are waiting, god is working.
  • 00:23:15.644 --> 00:23:18.914
  • God always has your best interest at heart.
  • 00:23:18.914 --> 00:23:21.116
  • He's a good god.
  • 00:23:21.116 --> 00:23:23.118
  • Today, i wanna give you an example from a note that i got
  • 00:23:23.118 --> 00:23:25.554
  • From a young man named tyler who has seen how god is always there
  • 00:23:25.554 --> 00:23:30.559
  • Even when circumstances seemed to be their worst, tyler wrote
  • 00:23:30.559 --> 00:23:33.495
  • Me and said, "you know, rick, i haven't had a close relationship
  • 00:23:33.495 --> 00:23:37.165
  • With christ.
  • 00:23:37.165 --> 00:23:38.533
  • But then several events occurred in my life all at once.
  • 00:23:38.533 --> 00:23:41.136
  • First, my girlfriend broke up with me, and that was the
  • 00:23:41.136 --> 00:23:44.039
  • Biggest heartache that i could imagine for both of us.
  • 00:23:44.039 --> 00:23:47.609
  • Then my friends left for college the same week.
  • 00:23:47.609 --> 00:23:51.546
  • And third, my dad left for california to start a new job,
  • 00:23:51.546 --> 00:23:55.083
  • Leaving me in ohio.
  • 00:23:55.083 --> 00:23:57.719
  • All of this hit me at once and i was a complete mess.
  • 00:23:57.719 --> 00:24:02.924
  • But with guidance from others and realizing this was a
  • 00:24:02.924 --> 00:24:06.895
  • Scheduled appointment from god himself, i found christ through
  • 00:24:06.895 --> 00:24:11.299
  • Your "daily hope" podcast.
  • 00:24:11.299 --> 00:24:13.335
  • And through prayer and then going to church, i finally found
  • 00:24:13.335 --> 00:24:16.972
  • The joy in my life again and i'm a changed person.
  • 00:24:16.972 --> 00:24:20.675
  • Every day now, i listen to you, rick, and i read my daily
  • 00:24:20.675 --> 00:24:23.912
  • Devotional, and i look at life with a whole new perspective.
  • 00:24:23.912 --> 00:24:29.484
  • You know, before i was living for me, i wasn't living for god.
  • 00:24:29.484 --> 00:24:34.656
  • But this journey has been so amazing.
  • 00:24:34.656 --> 00:24:36.191
  • God is so good.
  • 00:24:36.191 --> 00:24:37.526
  • And the best part is that i can wake up every day knowing that
  • 00:24:37.526 --> 00:24:40.061
  • He loves me and will listen to me, and that jesus christ will
  • 00:24:40.061 --> 00:24:44.032
  • Take my worries from me.
  • 00:24:44.032 --> 00:24:46.501
  • I'm so thankful, rick, that god woke me up and changed me into a
  • 00:24:46.501 --> 00:24:50.372
  • Better and healthier person that i am today.
  • 00:24:50.372 --> 00:24:53.074
  • And i'm thankful for my savior, jesus christ.
  • 00:24:53.074 --> 00:24:55.744
  • So, god bless you."
  • 00:24:55.744 --> 00:24:58.580
  • Well, thanks, tyler.
  • 00:24:58.580 --> 00:25:00.782
  • Thanks for writing that encouraging letter.
  • 00:25:00.782 --> 00:25:03.518
  • You have experienced firsthand how much god cares for you, even
  • 00:25:03.518 --> 00:25:07.222
  • In the smallest details of your life.
  • 00:25:07.222 --> 00:25:09.791
  • And through this, what was a very difficult season, he led
  • 00:25:09.791 --> 00:25:12.994
  • You to jesus, the greatest gift you could ever receive.
  • 00:25:12.994 --> 00:25:16.565
  • So, did you know that the bible says in luke 15, right now, all
  • 00:25:16.565 --> 00:25:19.634
  • Of heaven is rejoicing because you're a part of god's family?
  • 00:25:19.634 --> 00:25:24.005
  • The bible says they have a party in heaven every time one person
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  • Steps across the line.
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  • And what that means is that you and i are now brothers.
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  • Did you know that?
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  • We're brothers in christ and your church family are your
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  • Brothers and sisters here to walk alongside you.
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  • So, tyler, welcome to the family of god.
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  • And as you grow in your faith, staying connected with a strong
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  • Church community is so, so important.
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  • I want you to surround yourself with people who will encourage
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  • You in the lord, who will pray for you, who will help you stay
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  • Strong in your journey with jesus and just watch and see how
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  • God moves in your life as you faithfully follow him into
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  • Your future.
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  • By the way, you also mentioned that you listened to the "daily
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  • Hope" podcast.
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  • Now, friends, we're able to share "daily hope" with people
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  • Around the world because of your generosity, listeners just
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  • Like you.
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  • So, let me just say here, thanks.
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  • Thanks a lot.
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  • Thanks for being a part of this community.
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  • Thanks for your contributions to care for other people so that
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  • They could get the word of god and build the hope that they
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  • Need, and they can keep seeking god and he will guide them.
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  • God bless you.
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  • ♪♪♪
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