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Ron Carpenter | Ron Carpenter - You vs. You | June 8, 2026
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- - hey, i wanna tell you that i'm so excited
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- That you are here with us
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- And you see behind me plastered all over this big wall,
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- "you vs. you."
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- We are well into this teaching series.
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- And you know what?
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- Sometime, the dreaded question
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- That you can ask yourself is, you know, who am i?
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- Who am i really?
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- You know what defines you?
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- What defines you are your beliefs.
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- What defines you are your convictions.
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- What defines you are your likes and dislike?
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- When i say your name,
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- What are those things that define who you are as a person?
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- And have you evaluated what those things are?
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- Have you done that internal search?
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- Are you still going around
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- Looking for validation in other groups
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- And becoming whatever environment you're in
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- Or do you know who you are?
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- Because when you know who you are,
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- You don't become an environment, you change it.
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- And so, i'm asking you now,
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- Are you ready to continue this journey
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- And finding out who did god really intended you to be?
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- I ask you the question, if that happened to happen,
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- What would life really be like
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- If you haven't have gone through that,
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- Where would you be right now?
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- If you hadn't have been seen with that trauma
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- Or gone through that experience,
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- What would things be like right now?
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- Well, it can be that because god
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- Can take the worst of things and restore them
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- And bring the greatest of things out of them.
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- Take this journey with me. discover you versus you.
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- "for a man indeed ought not to cover his head
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- Since he is the image and glory of god,
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- The woman is the glory of man.
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- For a man is not from a woman, but a woman from a man.
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- Nor was a man created for the woman,
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- But the woman for the man."
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- That's all i need.
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- That's enough preacher of my day right there.
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- The word glory means the place,
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- Which an opinion originates.
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- Stay with me.
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- Man is the glory of god.
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- Men, you are the first place
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- That your children's opinion of god originates.
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- - [congregation member] he-hoo.
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- - so according to you, is your god an abandoner?
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- - [congregation member] not.
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- - does your god not care?
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- Is your god disinterested?
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- Does your god not want conversation?
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- Because their first opinion of god does not come from god.
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- It comes from man.
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- Man is the glory of god.
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- In the household, the man
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- Is where the opinion of god originates.
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- Sometime when i say lift your hands
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- And worship your heavenly father,
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- You can see struggle in the congregation.
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- Because when you say father to a lot of people
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- That brings up all kinds of different thoughts
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- And they don't know what the real father is like
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- Because the opinion that originated in their house
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- Was not appropriate.
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- Then, it said, "the woman is the glory of the man."
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- So either way man, you get a double duty
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- Of what my wife called pressure.
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- You are aware the opinion of god originates.
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- And then, it said she is a direct reflection of you.
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- So, everybody's opinion of you will originate
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- Out of looking at your wife.
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- So if your wife is broken, their opinion of you is broken.
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- If she needs to be fixed,
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- That means there's something in you that needs to be fixed.
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- You ain't saying nothing.
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- If you understand the ephesians 5 says
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- That we don't bring our wives to god to be fixed.
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- It said, but we are like christ.
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- We wash her in the water of the word, sanctify her,
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- And present her to god without spot or wrinkles.
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- I don't send my wife to god to get fixed.
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- I turn around and become an agent of healing,
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- Then turn around and present her to god
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- As someone that's already been healed and put together
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- By the loving touch of her husband.
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- Somebody shout, even if you don't like what i'm saying.
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- (congregation cheering)
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- When i go to hear a preacher
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- And i've never been to their church,
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- Can i tell you what i do?
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- I watch his wife.
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- Tells me all i need to know
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- While he gets up and talks, i look at his wife.
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- That's all you need to know about that guy.
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- I can tell if he is at home
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- What he says he is up here by the look on her face
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- When he grabs a microphone.
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- If she's sitting on the front row rolling her eyes,
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- I say "uh-oh, i need to get outta here."
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- Yo-
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- (congregation chattering)
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- - so, we've got to take back the spiritual leadership.
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- Can i go a little further?
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- Man, i didn't do a good job of this one.
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- Wish i would've been a better listener.
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- I always wanted to talk.
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- Always had advice before they could finish
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- Telling me what was wrong.
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- Don't have many regrets. wish i could do that one over.
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- Listening is critical to understanding.
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- If you don't listen, you don't understand.
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- Do we listen?
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- Will you turn the game off
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- Or you just turn the volume down a little bit
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- And look at them like,
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- "hurry up, i'm watching my game."
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- Or do they get all of you and look you in the eye?
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- Go back to my dad.
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- My dad, i don't care if you just got outta prison,
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- Can't get a job, and got a entry level job
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- Scraping up bubblegum off a curve.
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- If you called my dad's name, he would stand still.
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- And in that moment, you had every bit of him.
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- And i marveled at how he was able to do it
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- 'cause i get so tired and you can tell i'm wanting to go
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- And i don't know how i did.
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- But you had all of him.
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- Look you right in your eyes
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- And make you feel like a king in royalty in his presence.
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- Tremendous listener.
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- Therefore, he always gave great information
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- 'cause he waited to understand your dilemma
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- Before he opened his mouth.
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- We have got to be better listeners.
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- Even faith can't come until you first listen.
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- Faith come if by hearing.
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- Some of us can't even have faith to believe god
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- 'cause we won't listen to a preacher talk.
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- (congregation cheering)
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- (congregation chattering)
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- You can't know what to do
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- Till you've become a great listener.
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- Let me put up there 1 john 5
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- Do you know that there are people
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- That are paying a hundred dollars an hour
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- To somebody to listen to them?
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- There are more psychologists and psychiatrists
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- Never in history and people will go pay not for information.
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- Pay a hundred dollars an hour for somebody to live.
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- Do you know how painful it is
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- To feel like you are not interesting?
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- You know how painful it is for a kid to walk in
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- With something and walk out
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- Knowing you are not interested whatsoever
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- In what you had to say?
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- Lemme tell you about your heavenly father.
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- "now this is the confidence,"
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- Confident, look at the words.
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- You got to look at words.
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- "now this is the confidence we have in him
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- That if we ask anything according to his will,
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- He hears us.
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- He hears us."
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- If you talk to your god, you've got all of him.
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- Hallelujah.
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- And we know that if he hears us, whatever we ask,
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- We know that we have the petitions
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- That we have asked of him.
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- Lemme tell you how your heavenly father responds
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- When you call on his name.
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- You've got all of him.
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- You've got all of his focus.
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- He is not distracted. he is not deterred.
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- He is not in a hurry.
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- He's not trying to hurry up and get out of the room.
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- He is not telling you to get on with it,
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- Because you are the most interesting person in the universe
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- When you call on his name.
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- And i love the fact that they say,
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- "this is the confidence i have.
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- When i talk to god, i know if nobody else is listening,
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- He listens to me and he hears what i got to say.
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- And not only that,
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- But if it's within his power to answer what i'm doing,
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- He's going to go to the ends of the earth
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- To make it happen."
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- Are we the kind of father that we listen
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- To what our kids say?
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- And if it's within our power to fix it,
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- We'll go to the ends of the earth
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- To make it better for our children.
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- Please, god.
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- Somebody say amen right here in this moment.
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- - [congregation] amen.
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- - [announcer] there is a you that god intended
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- And there is a you that is your reality.
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- The battle is always between the two.
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- - the first battle that comes to you
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- And your new decision to follow christ
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- Is you have to somehow outlive everybody's definition of you
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- By your activities up until that point.
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- - [announcer] eight messages, one life-changing word.
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- - that's the reason there's a lot of people
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- That aren't in your life there used to be.
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- Why?
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- Because you wanted them in the picture,
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- But god said they're not in the picture.
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- And god was not going to write another picture,
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- Because you want crazy people in your life.
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- God is gonna cut the crazy people out,
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- Because he is got somewhere that he's planned to take you.
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- - affirmation.
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- Jesus was 30 years old
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- And had recorded no miracle or anything.
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- Nothing. nothing great.
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- No trophies, no accolades, no followers.
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- No, nothing.
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- He worked in his natural father's business, carpenter.
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- One day, the heavens opened up when he was baptized
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- And his heavenly father made this declaration,
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- "this is my son."
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- He ain't done a thing.
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- "in whom i am well pleased."
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- See, most fathers today want you to do a miracle
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- And then, they'll say, "this is my son."
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- Jesus got the affirmation
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- And that released him to go do miracles.
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- - [congregation member] oh my god.
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- (congregation chattering)
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- - you don't tell your children you're pleased
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- After they brought you a string of successes.
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- You tell your children that you're pleased
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- And that releases them to go and be successful.
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- I am talking to somebody in here.
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- You have so many miracles locked up in your child
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- And they're just waiting for you to look at them and say,
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- "i'm good if you mess up.
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- I'm good if you get first place.
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- I love you if you make a. i love you if you make a f.
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- I love you if you messed up.
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- I love you if you did perfect.
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- It does not matter.
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- This is my son, this is my daughter
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- And whom i'm well please.
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- Now, go out with my affirmation and take over the world."
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- Oh, somebody shout hallelujah.
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- - [congregation] hallelujah
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- - whenever my kids come to me
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- And try to tell me something they don't do good,
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- I try my best to move it into something i know
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- They're greatly successful at.
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- Because we're not gonna sit there and concentrate
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- On what you don't do well.
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- None of my kids do well in math.
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- They got it honest.
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- (congregation laughing)
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- You don't get in trouble at my house
- 00:12:31.166 --> 00:12:33.034
- For not doing math well.
- 00:12:33.034 --> 00:12:36.371
- I still don't know one thing i learned in algebra
- 00:12:37.372 --> 00:12:40.341
- All four times that i took it.
- 00:12:40.975 --> 00:12:44.379
- But they can kill history.
- 00:12:44.946 --> 00:12:46.981
- They went through english with a breeze.
- 00:12:47.816 --> 00:12:50.585
- So, i move.
- 00:12:50.919 --> 00:12:54.122
- You know, "daddy, i'm not too good at this,"
- 00:12:55.056 --> 00:12:56.491
- But man, you sure can golf.
- 00:12:56.491 --> 00:12:58.393
- "well, i'm terrible at this."
- 00:12:59.027 --> 00:13:00.195
- "yeah, but you sing like a bird."
- 00:13:00.195 --> 00:13:02.197
- "well, i'm not great at basketball."
- 00:13:02.197 --> 00:13:03.364
- "yeah, but look at your body."
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- Move it.
- 00:13:07.502 --> 00:13:09.037
- Move it to something they do well
- 00:13:09.037 --> 00:13:12.407
- 'cause they're screaming for your affirmation.
- 00:13:12.407 --> 00:13:15.643
- Screaming for it.
- 00:13:16.077 --> 00:13:17.812
- Why do you think god takes so much time in the bible
- 00:13:17.812 --> 00:13:20.648
- Telling you what you're worth and how much he loves you
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- And what he wants to give you.
- 00:13:23.017 --> 00:13:24.219
- And why does he do that?
- 00:13:24.219 --> 00:13:25.887
- Because he's not gonna let you leave his present
- 00:13:25.887 --> 00:13:27.856
- Not feeling valued.
- 00:13:27.856 --> 00:13:29.691
- He just refuses 'cause he knows that's your biggest need.
- 00:13:30.825 --> 00:13:33.528
- And last of all, my dad's been gone
- 00:13:33.528 --> 00:13:37.832
- About four and a half years now.
- 00:13:37.832 --> 00:13:40.435
- And i was one of those guys, i did,
- 00:13:41.169 --> 00:13:45.874
- I thought my daddy walked on water.
- 00:13:45.874 --> 00:13:48.676
- If he had any problems, he hid 'em 'cause i never saw 'em.
- 00:13:49.844 --> 00:13:58.853
- My mom closed his eyes and i kissed him on the forehead.
- 00:13:59.988 --> 00:14:02.790
- And i mean as soon as i kissed him on the forehead,
- 00:14:02.790 --> 00:14:05.994
- Hope was holding my phone and phone started ringing.
- 00:14:05.994 --> 00:14:08.196
- I had made no announcement. i hadn't said anything.
- 00:14:08.196 --> 00:14:11.532
- Phone started ringing, said bishop jakes.
- 00:14:11.532 --> 00:14:15.336
- Hope said, "you might wanna take this."
- 00:14:16.204 --> 00:14:21.743
- And i went out in the front yard
- 00:14:22.377 --> 00:14:23.511
- And that man ministered to me so deeply.
- 00:14:23.511 --> 00:14:27.849
- That's why you hear me speak of him
- 00:14:27.849 --> 00:14:29.784
- With so much affection,
- 00:14:29.784 --> 00:14:31.986
- Because he came to me at such a tender time.
- 00:14:31.986 --> 00:14:34.122
- I don't even know how he knew.
- 00:14:34.122 --> 00:14:36.224
- It was like my dad breathed his last breath in,
- 00:14:36.224 --> 00:14:38.092
- Bishop jakes call.
- 00:14:38.092 --> 00:14:41.863
- And i went back to bishop jakes because he has stepped in
- 00:14:42.997 --> 00:14:45.934
- And been a real fatherly figure to me.
- 00:14:45.934 --> 00:14:49.537
- He's allowed me into his life.
- 00:14:49.537 --> 00:14:51.606
- And when my oldest son was struggling with drugs,
- 00:14:51.606 --> 00:14:54.542
- I wasn't familiar with drugs.
- 00:14:55.176 --> 00:14:56.744
- I wasn't familiar with drug culture
- 00:14:56.744 --> 00:14:58.212
- And i didn't know how to reach him.
- 00:14:58.212 --> 00:15:01.349
- And bishop jakes sat down and he said,
- 00:15:02.150 --> 00:15:05.153
- "ron, i'm gonna tell you something
- 00:15:05.153 --> 00:15:06.354
- That's gonna be very hard for you."
- 00:15:06.354 --> 00:15:08.356
- He said, "but you're not gonna reach your son
- 00:15:09.257 --> 00:15:11.025
- With your victories."
- 00:15:11.025 --> 00:15:15.096
- He said, "your son's driving up on that campus
- 00:15:16.064 --> 00:15:18.299
- Every day saying,
- 00:15:18.299 --> 00:15:19.567
- 'what in the world can i do to impress my dad?""
- 00:15:19.567 --> 00:15:23.304
- He said, "you're gonna have to win your son by getting real,
- 00:15:24.505 --> 00:15:28.476
- By getting raw, by telling him your sins,
- 00:15:28.476 --> 00:15:32.647
- By telling him your broken places,
- 00:15:32.647 --> 00:15:34.515
- By telling him your weaknesses,
- 00:15:34.515 --> 00:15:36.317
- By telling him your vulnerabilities."
- 00:15:36.317 --> 00:15:38.486
- Said, "he is not going to relate to your victories.
- 00:15:38.486 --> 00:15:42.957
- He's going to relate to the part of ron you hide
- 00:15:42.957 --> 00:15:45.960
- And don't want anybody to see."
- 00:15:45.960 --> 00:15:48.196
- (congregation chattering and clapping)
- 00:15:48.196 --> 00:15:56.037
- (upbeat music)
- 00:15:56.404 --> 00:16:26.734
- John 20 shows us a real important lesson, verse 24.
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- Throw it on the screen, please.
- 00:16:32.206 --> 00:16:34.275
- "we he had said this, he showed his hands and his side.
- 00:16:34.275 --> 00:16:39.580
- Then the disciples were glad when they saw the lord."
- 00:16:40.615 --> 00:16:43.117
- Play something for me if you would, brother brandon.
- 00:16:43.117 --> 00:16:46.154
- "now thomas, called the twin,
- 00:16:46.154 --> 00:16:47.722
- One of the 12, was not with them, when jesus came."
- 00:16:47.722 --> 00:16:51.392
- Verse 25, "the other disciples
- 00:16:51.392 --> 00:16:54.228
- Therefore said to him, 'we have seen the lord.'
- 00:16:54.228 --> 00:16:57.398
- So he said to them, 'unless i see his hands
- 00:16:57.398 --> 00:17:00.802
- The print of his nails, and put my finger
- 00:17:00.802 --> 00:17:02.970
- In the print of the nails, and put my hand in his side,
- 00:17:02.970 --> 00:17:06.507
- I will not believe.'"
- 00:17:06.507 --> 00:17:08.776
- Verse 26.
- 00:17:09.077 --> 00:17:10.478
- "after eight days his disciples were again inside
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- And thomas with them.
- 00:17:13.214 --> 00:17:14.148
- Jesus came the doors being shut
- 00:17:14.148 --> 00:17:15.817
- And stood in the midst and said, 'peace to you!'"
- 00:17:15.817 --> 00:17:17.718
- Verse 27.
- 00:17:17.718 --> 00:17:19.053
- "then he said to thomas, 'reach your finger here.
- 00:17:19.987 --> 00:17:26.594
- Look at my hands.
- 00:17:27.028 --> 00:17:31.032
- Reach your hand in here.
- 00:17:31.532 --> 00:17:34.068
- Put it in my side.
- 00:17:34.502 --> 00:17:37.171
- Do not be unbelieving, but be believing.'"
- 00:17:38.072 --> 00:17:42.910
- They were talking about resurrections
- 00:17:43.711 --> 00:17:45.446
- And powers and open tombs and glory,
- 00:17:45.446 --> 00:17:47.682
- And thomas said, "i don't relate to that."
- 00:17:47.682 --> 00:17:51.085
- Let him come show me his wounds.
- 00:17:51.719 --> 00:17:53.988
- (congregation chattering)
- 00:17:53.988 --> 00:17:59.060
- Let him come show me his scars.
- 00:17:59.694 --> 00:18:04.031
- Bring him down out of that heaven
- 00:18:04.765 --> 00:18:06.634
- And let me see he is a real man.
- 00:18:06.634 --> 00:18:10.138
- Give me something i can believe.
- 00:18:10.771 --> 00:18:12.573
- I can't believe walking on water and feeding 5,000
- 00:18:12.573 --> 00:18:15.810
- And bringing dead people, lazarus outta tombs.
- 00:18:15.810 --> 00:18:18.446
- I need somebody to show me scars
- 00:18:18.446 --> 00:18:23.151
- Because i can relate to scars,
- 00:18:23.784 --> 00:18:26.754
- I can relate to pain,
- 00:18:26.754 --> 00:18:28.956
- And i can relate to defeat.
- 00:18:29.557 --> 00:18:31.626
- See scars were not a symbol of resurrection.
- 00:18:31.626 --> 00:18:33.928
- It was a symbol of death.
- 00:18:33.928 --> 00:18:35.530
- It was not a symbol of victory, symbol of defeat.
- 00:18:36.531 --> 00:18:38.733
- Thomas said,
- 00:18:38.733 --> 00:18:40.535
- "i can't relate to all the resurrection stuff."
- 00:18:41.469 --> 00:18:44.605
- And jesus went straight to him.
- 00:18:44.605 --> 00:18:46.908
- And of all the things,
- 00:18:46.908 --> 00:18:48.142
- Jesus kept after he came back to life,
- 00:18:48.142 --> 00:18:50.378
- He kept his scars.
- 00:18:50.378 --> 00:18:53.881
- For all the people that cannot relate to life going well,
- 00:18:55.016 --> 00:18:59.420
- Jesus comes to you and says, "look at my hand."
- 00:18:59.420 --> 00:19:03.357
- Put your finger right here. look at my side right here.
- 00:19:04.492 --> 00:19:07.595
- Put your hand in this right here.
- 00:19:07.595 --> 00:19:09.430
- Oh, how a generation needs fathers
- 00:19:09.430 --> 00:19:12.433
- To let them know you ain't perfect either.
- 00:19:12.433 --> 00:19:15.436
- (congregation clapping)
- 00:19:15.436 --> 00:19:19.106
- You ain't got to be perfect. you just gotta be present.
- 00:19:20.208 --> 00:19:23.978
- (congregation cheering and clapping)
- 00:19:23.978 --> 00:19:28.716
- You cannot be absent.
- 00:19:29.217 --> 00:19:33.287
- I'm gonna call some men down that need prayer.
- 00:19:34.188 --> 00:19:40.228
- I don't know if 20 will come or 400.
- 00:19:40.995 --> 00:19:47.201
- Man, if you're in here
- 00:19:47.702 --> 00:19:49.670
- And your dad didn't give you these things,
- 00:19:50.571 --> 00:19:54.542
- I know this is a real vulnerable moment, but stay with me.
- 00:19:55.643 --> 00:20:01.349
- I want you to cut him some slack,
- 00:20:02.083 --> 00:20:03.751
- Because if he didn't give it to you,
- 00:20:03.751 --> 00:20:06.153
- That means he didn't have it.
- 00:20:06.153 --> 00:20:07.755
- - [congregation member] yes, sir.
- 00:20:07.755 --> 00:20:11.125
- - you gotta understand three generations, but...
- 00:20:11.125 --> 00:20:14.528
- (congregation cheering and clapping)
- 00:20:15.329 --> 00:20:34.548
- Come on down here, man. come on.
- 00:20:35.182 --> 00:20:39.287
- (congregation member crying)
- 00:20:39.887 --> 00:20:41.922
- (gentle music)
- 00:20:41.922 --> 00:20:48.896
- What i was saying was if your father
- 00:20:49.664 --> 00:20:51.365
- Didn't give it to you, it's because nobody gave it to him.
- 00:20:51.365 --> 00:20:54.602
- You can't give what you ain't got.
- 00:20:55.369 --> 00:20:58.272
- You can't give what you don't have.
- 00:20:59.073 --> 00:21:01.342
- I'd ask you to cut your dad some slack.
- 00:21:02.176 --> 00:21:04.211
- I'm gonna give you a little history
- 00:21:04.211 --> 00:21:05.746
- Because his dad, his generation came through the depression.
- 00:21:05.746 --> 00:21:09.116
- I'm gonna be honest with you.
- 00:21:09.116 --> 00:21:10.551
- They weren't thinking about throwing the football.
- 00:21:10.551 --> 00:21:11.652
- They was thinking about surviving.
- 00:21:11.652 --> 00:21:14.021
- Then they had to go fight a world war.
- 00:21:14.021 --> 00:21:18.059
- These men didn't have a lot to deposit.
- 00:21:18.926 --> 00:21:21.028
- In fact, when they came back in world war ii,
- 00:21:21.028 --> 00:21:23.297
- The ones that made it back,
- 00:21:23.297 --> 00:21:24.565
- They had to try to keep 'em going insane.
- 00:21:24.565 --> 00:21:29.870
- If your father didn't give it to you, he didn't have it
- 00:21:30.971 --> 00:21:33.974
- Because nobody gave it to him.
- 00:21:34.608 --> 00:21:36.377
- And it's easy to just say, you know, he was sorry,
- 00:21:37.411 --> 00:21:39.046
- He's a bag of this and a piece of that.
- 00:21:39.046 --> 00:21:42.817
- Cut him some slack, man.
- 00:21:43.317 --> 00:21:46.220
- Why have i called you up here?
- 00:21:46.854 --> 00:21:49.256
- 'cause you have been charged to give what you didn't get.
- 00:21:50.391 --> 00:21:55.262
- And that is a very, very, very difficult thing.
- 00:21:56.263 --> 00:22:01.769
- And i stand up here saying, "i don't know your position
- 00:22:02.903 --> 00:22:07.375
- 'cause i had a dad that to me floated into heavens
- 00:22:08.409 --> 00:22:11.712
- And walked on water.
- 00:22:11.712 --> 00:22:13.381
- So i'm telling you right up front,
- 00:22:14.148 --> 00:22:16.117
- I don't know what it's like
- 00:22:16.117 --> 00:22:17.418
- To be on that side of this aisle,
- 00:22:17.418 --> 00:22:19.754
- But my heart hurts that you get up every day
- 00:22:20.654 --> 00:22:24.325
- With the task of trying to be something
- 00:22:24.325 --> 00:22:27.027
- That nobody ever was to you.
- 00:22:27.027 --> 00:22:30.364
- I can't imagine the pressure
- 00:22:30.965 --> 00:22:34.034
- Of trying to serve up a dinner
- 00:22:34.668 --> 00:22:36.103
- That nobody ever cooked for you.
- 00:22:36.103 --> 00:22:39.540
- I'm so sorry for what your natural father didn't give you.
- 00:22:40.674 --> 00:22:44.278
- But i'm telling you, there's one that can the holes
- 00:22:44.278 --> 00:22:46.747
- In your bucket today.
- 00:22:46.747 --> 00:22:48.416
- The bible says psalm 107, "he heals the hungry heart."
- 00:22:49.483 --> 00:22:53.154
- The hungry heart, the heart that is longing for affirmation
- 00:22:53.154 --> 00:22:56.924
- And never got it.
- 00:22:56.924 --> 00:22:58.192
- Your god can reach into your broken place,
- 00:22:58.192 --> 00:23:01.095
- And then your deficiency, i'm telling you,
- 00:23:01.095 --> 00:23:02.997
- He can make the pain go away.
- 00:23:02.997 --> 00:23:05.666
- He can turn the scab to a scar.
- 00:23:06.300 --> 00:23:08.936
- Scars, remember, you're reminded of what happened,
- 00:23:09.970 --> 00:23:12.706
- But it don't hurt no more.
- 00:23:12.706 --> 00:23:14.141
- A scab, every time you scratch it, it still bleeds.
- 00:23:14.141 --> 00:23:16.811
- If it's still bleeding, you gotta let god heal it.
- 00:23:16.811 --> 00:23:21.015
- Don't wait on him to come back and apologize.
- 00:23:21.916 --> 00:23:24.685
- He may never come.
- 00:23:24.685 --> 00:23:26.287
- Let god give you the grace to forgive what you didn't get
- 00:23:27.455 --> 00:23:32.426
- So you can go on and become the man god intended you to be.
- 00:23:33.594 --> 00:23:35.796
- I need somebody back there to clap and help me.
- 00:23:35.796 --> 00:23:38.532
- This is courageous right here.
- 00:23:38.532 --> 00:23:40.801
- (congregation cheering and clapping)
- 00:23:40.801 --> 00:23:44.705
- (upbeat music)
- 00:23:44.705 --> 00:24:14.602
- I told you you would enjoy it,
- 00:24:15.236 --> 00:24:16.504
- Not because i was preaching it,
- 00:24:16.504 --> 00:24:18.272
- But because of the power of the truth
- 00:24:18.272 --> 00:24:19.874
- That can change your life.
- 00:24:19.874 --> 00:24:21.408
- I'm so grateful that we have this relationship with you.
- 00:24:21.408 --> 00:24:23.944
- So now in these closing comments,
- 00:24:23.944 --> 00:24:25.479
- I'd ask you not to turn me off,
- 00:24:25.479 --> 00:24:26.747
- But just let me tell you how much you mean to us.
- 00:24:26.747 --> 00:24:28.949
- Number one, i want to connect with you on a greater level.
- 00:24:28.949 --> 00:24:31.218
- You know we have social media out there
- 00:24:31.218 --> 00:24:33.454
- And for some of you who say, you know,
- 00:24:33.454 --> 00:24:34.588
- "i really don't do social media.
- 00:24:34.588 --> 00:24:36.724
- There's a lot of negative stuff on there."
- 00:24:36.724 --> 00:24:38.225
- But why don't you take it
- 00:24:38.225 --> 00:24:39.159
- And turn it into a positive.
- 00:24:39.159 --> 00:24:40.661
- We try to offer inspirationals every day.
- 00:24:40.661 --> 00:24:42.763
- We put video clips of messages on every day.
- 00:24:42.763 --> 00:24:45.332
- Sometime i just pray for people.
- 00:24:45.332 --> 00:24:47.067
- Sometime we let you know what's going on
- 00:24:47.067 --> 00:24:48.802
- Within ron carpenter ministries.
- 00:24:48.802 --> 00:24:50.371
- We want you to be abreast of everything
- 00:24:50.371 --> 00:24:53.274
- That is going on here
- 00:24:53.274 --> 00:24:54.808
- And we want to cultivate a deeper relationship with you.
- 00:24:54.808 --> 00:24:57.611
- Please remember, okay, that you can go on twitter,
- 00:24:57.611 --> 00:25:00.681
- You can go on facebook, you can go on instagram at any time
- 00:25:00.681 --> 00:25:04.318
- And pick up what god is saying through myself
- 00:25:04.318 --> 00:25:07.187
- And through this ministry.
- 00:25:07.187 --> 00:25:08.489
- I also wanna thank all of our covenant partners
- 00:25:08.489 --> 00:25:10.991
- And let you know how much we couldn't be here without you.
- 00:25:10.991 --> 00:25:13.227
- It is you who've let us do what we've done.
- 00:25:13.227 --> 00:25:15.963
- I've talked to you about expansion.
- 00:25:15.963 --> 00:25:17.631
- We need you to continue to give,
- 00:25:17.631 --> 00:25:19.867
- Need you to continue to support on a monthly basis.
- 00:25:19.867 --> 00:25:22.870
- We're expanding into other channels.
- 00:25:22.870 --> 00:25:24.872
- We're expanding right now.
- 00:25:24.872 --> 00:25:26.140
- Just made some decisions into other networks.
- 00:25:26.140 --> 00:25:28.609
- We are so excited about the possibility
- 00:25:28.609 --> 00:25:31.145
- Of reaching people we've never reached before.
- 00:25:31.145 --> 00:25:33.480
- But here's one thing that you're helping us do,
- 00:25:33.480 --> 00:25:35.716
- And i'm asking you to look forward
- 00:25:35.716 --> 00:25:37.351
- To this expansion offering
- 00:25:37.351 --> 00:25:38.619
- And give like you've never given before.
- 00:25:38.619 --> 00:25:41.322
- Because our next endeavor,
- 00:25:41.322 --> 00:25:43.023
- As we are already on tv all over the world,
- 00:25:43.023 --> 00:25:46.226
- But we're on tv all over the world in our known language.
- 00:25:46.226 --> 00:25:49.463
- Now, what we want to do is get simultaneous translations
- 00:25:49.463 --> 00:25:53.434
- Into the nation's language that we are communicating to.
- 00:25:53.434 --> 00:25:57.237
- We have just finished getting everything translated
- 00:25:57.237 --> 00:26:00.641
- Into spanish and we're about to go on 60 stations
- 00:26:00.641 --> 00:26:05.145
- With my messages translated into spanish.
- 00:26:05.145 --> 00:26:08.616
- You've helped us do it.
- 00:26:08.616 --> 00:26:09.550
- It has cost. it has sacrificed.
- 00:26:09.550 --> 00:26:11.685
- There's a lot involved,
- 00:26:11.685 --> 00:26:13.287
- But it's your gifts that help us do it.
- 00:26:13.287 --> 00:26:15.556
- So now we're not just going on all over the world,
- 00:26:15.556 --> 00:26:17.891
- But we're gonna speak to people in a language
- 00:26:17.891 --> 00:26:19.760
- They can hear and understand.
- 00:26:19.760 --> 00:26:21.562
- Thank you so much. we're going great places.
- 00:26:21.562 --> 00:26:24.031
- Would you go with us?
- 00:26:24.031 --> 00:26:25.532
- So for your first month's gift, if you've never given,
- 00:26:25.532 --> 00:26:28.736
- If whether it's a covenant partner
- 00:26:28.736 --> 00:26:30.237
- Or whether it's just this one time,
- 00:26:30.237 --> 00:26:31.839
- We always have this wonderful gift that we want to send
- 00:26:31.839 --> 00:26:34.708
- To you just to say thank you for everything that you do.
- 00:26:34.708 --> 00:26:37.711
- We are so grateful for our partnership together.
- 00:26:37.711 --> 00:26:40.648
- Together we can do a little a lot more
- 00:26:40.648 --> 00:26:42.149
- Than we can by ourself.
- 00:26:42.149 --> 00:26:43.484
- I hope this was a blessing.
- 00:26:43.484 --> 00:26:45.052
- I can't wait until next time.
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- Until then, god bless you.
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- And discover encouraging resources
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