Mike Novotny - Breaking Up With Busy

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Time Of Grace With Mike Novotny | Mike Novotny - Breaking Up With Busy | January 6, 2026

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>> a few years ago,
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>> a few years ago, i got to witness the kickoff,
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The very start,
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The very start, of a grade school
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Of a grade school cross country race.
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Cross country race. you ever seen one
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You ever seen one of these before?
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Of these before? picture a bunch of pre-teens
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Picture a bunch of pre-teens all packed together
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With that pre-race energy.
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With that pre-race energy. boys and girls super nervous
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Boys and girls super nervous for the first
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For the first kickoff of the race.
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Kickoff of the race. and then the kickoff began,
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And then the kickoff began, "on your marks,"
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"on your marks," the announcer said, "get set,"
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The announcer said, "get set," and, "go."
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And, "go." and i remember
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And i remember some of those little
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Some of those little boys went.
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Boys went. they did their best
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They did their best noah lyles impression
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Noah lyles impression from the paris olympics.
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From the paris olympics. they sprinted off
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They sprinted off the starting line,
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The starting line, and the first thing
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And the first thing i thought when
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I thought when i saw them was, "uh-oh."
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I saw them was, "uh-oh." and that's the thing i want to
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And that's the thing i want to talk to you about today, pace.
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Talk to you about today, pace. the race that you're running,
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The race that you're running, the life that you're living,
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The life that you're living, the responsibilities that
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The responsibilities that god has given you,
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God has given you, are you currently living
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Are you currently living at a sustainable pace?
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At a sustainable pace? the choices that you make,
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The choices that you make, the things you say, "yes," to,
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The things you say, "yes," to, the things you say,
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The things you say, "no, i'm sorry.
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"no, i'm sorry. i don't have time for that."
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I don't have time for that." the race that you're running as
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The race that you're running as you're thinking about family,
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You're thinking about family, and work, and school,
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And work, and school, and taking care of your body,
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And taking care of your body, and your relationships,
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And your relationships, and your marriage,
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And your marriage, and if you're raising kids,
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And if you're raising kids, think about your church life,
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Think about your church life, your faith life,
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Your faith life, the way that you're living
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The way that you're living right now could you
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Right now could you sustain that
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Sustain that for the next 20 years?
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For the next 20 years? or ten?
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Or ten? or five?
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Or five? or one?
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Or one? or one month?
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Or one month? i'm not sure where
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I'm not sure where the busyness level is
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The busyness level is at right now in your life,
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At right now in your life, but if you're taking notes,
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But if you're taking notes, here's something that i've
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Here's something that i've come to learn the hard way.
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Come to learn the hard way. i've learned that pace matters.
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I've learned that pace matters. how fast you push,
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How fast you push, how much stress you carry,
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How much stress you carry, it matters so, so, so much.
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It matters so, so, so much. i've learned from the good
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I've learned from the good seasons of my life
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Seasons of my life and the really tragic ones,
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And the really tragic ones, that few things can
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That few things can be great without
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Be great without great amounts of time.
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Great amounts of time. i wish there was some ai hack,
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I wish there was some ai hack, some button i could push,
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Some button i could push, to have a great marriage
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To have a great marriage in five seconds a day.
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In five seconds a day. doesn't exist.
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Doesn't exist. i really wish,
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I really wish, especially now
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Especially now that i'm in middle age,
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That i'm in middle age, that there was like three simple
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That there was like three simple steps to a super fit body.
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Steps to a super fit body. there's not.
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There's not. it takes time.
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It takes time. whether it's your career,
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Whether it's your career, whether it's your education,
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Whether it's your education, whether it's your
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Whether it's your relationship with your brother,
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Relationship with your brother, or with your son,
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Or with your son, for things to be great
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For things to be great they generally take
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They generally take great amounts of time.
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Great amounts of time. this is why your pace matters.
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This is why your pace matters. a season, by the very definition
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A season, by the very definition of the word is seasonal.
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Of the word is seasonal. so, my bigger question is,
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So, my bigger question is, how is it that so many
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How is it that so many of us haven't just been
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Of us haven't just been busy for a season,
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Busy for a season, you know,
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You know, while the kid was in diapers,
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While the kid was in diapers, while it was
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While it was the big push at work,
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The big push at work, how is it that for a lot
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How is it that for a lot of us it's not temporary
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Of us it's not temporary but constant busyness?
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But constant busyness? if you're taking notes
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If you're taking notes here or at home,
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Here or at home, i've come up with three reasons
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I've come up with three reasons that kind of explain
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That kind of explain how we end up here.
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How we end up here. i'd love for you
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I'd love for you to write these down.
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To write these down. some of you are constantly busy
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Some of you are constantly busy simply because of perfectionism.
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Simply because of perfectionism. you haven't used the phrase,
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You haven't used the phrase, "it's good enough,"
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"it's good enough," since 2004.
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Since 2004. you're the kind of kid
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You're the kind of kid that when you got a 97%
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That when you got a 97% on your test you would find
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On your test you would find out what you got wrong
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Out what you got wrong and stew about it
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And stew about it for the rest of the day.
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For the rest of the day. there are 97
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There are 97 things to celebrate.
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Things to celebrate. you found the three
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You found the three of 'em that were wrong.
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Of 'em that were wrong. if you're the kind
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If you're the kind of person that just,
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Of person that just, you can't deal with the a minus,
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You can't deal with the a minus, or the b plus,
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Or the b plus, or the so-so effort,
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Or the so-so effort, you can never, like,
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You can never, like, check it in for sa --
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Check it in for sa -- it just has to be great.
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It just has to be great. it has to be impressive.
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It has to be impressive. you're allergic to the red pen
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You're allergic to the red pen and the imperfection.
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And the imperfection. that will push you and push
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That will push you and push you like a treadmill.
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You like a treadmill. it never slows down,
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It never slows down, and so you're constantly
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And so you're constantly busy because
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Busy because something could always,
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Something could always, always be better.
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Always be better. you could always check
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You could always check your homework again.
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Your homework again. i could always practice
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I could always practice a sermon again.
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A sermon again. you could always return
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You could always return one more work email,
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One more work email, or connect with one more client,
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Or connect with one more client, or help one more person.
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Or help one more person. if it has to be perfect,
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If it has to be perfect, you'll hold yourself
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You'll hold yourself to a standard that
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To a standard that you'll never reach.
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You'll never reach. it's exhausting
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It's exhausting and it pushes you,
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And it pushes you, it pushes you,
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It pushes you, and pushes you,
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And pushes you, and never lets you sit,
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And never lets you sit, pause, or rest.
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Pause, or rest. maybe for some of you
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Maybe for some of you it's not perfectionism,
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It's not perfectionism, it's number two,
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It's number two, people-pleasing.
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People-pleasing. some of you haven't looked
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Some of you haven't looked someone in the eye and said,
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Someone in the eye and said, "no," in the last year.
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"no," in the last year. some of you like helping
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Some of you like helping and making people happy
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And making people happy so deeply that even
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So deeply that even though you're stressed,
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Though you're stressed, even though everyone
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Even though everyone knows that you're
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Knows that you're stressed because they
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Stressed because they see that you're stressed,
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See that you're stressed, as soon as someone asks,
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As soon as someone asks, like there is a reversal
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Like there is a reversal weight in your hand.
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Weight in your hand. it's like your hand doesn't
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It's like your hand doesn't abide by the laws of gravity.
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Abide by the laws of gravity. the pastor needs someone
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The pastor needs someone to volunteer and no one
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To volunteer and no one wrote their name on the sheet.
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Wrote their name on the sheet. "can you help with this?"
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"can you help with this?" someone asked, and before
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Someone asked, and before you could even think about it,
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You could even think about it, pray about it,
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Pray about it, or ask for advice about it,
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Or ask for advice about it, both hands are up.
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Both hands are up. you just can't -- ah.
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You just can't -- ah. it just feels wrong.
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It just feels wrong. it feels unchristian to you.
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It feels unchristian to you. it feels selfish,
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It feels selfish, it feels lazy.
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It feels lazy. you just have to make everyone
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You just have to make everyone happy in your life,
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Happy in your life, and so you end up,
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And so you end up, because a lot of people
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Because a lot of people who need a lot of things,
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Who need a lot of things, you end up incredibly
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You end up incredibly overextended and crazy busy.
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Overextended and crazy busy. or third, maybe for some of you
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Or third, maybe for some of you the problem is your god-complex.
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The problem is your god-complex. and i know and love some people
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And i know and love some people who struggle with this bad.
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Who struggle with this bad. like, they know they're busy,
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Like, they know they're busy, we know they're busy,
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We know they're busy, so why don't they step
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So why don't they step back and stop being busy?
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Back and stop being busy? because they think,
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Because they think, "if i didn't do this
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"if i didn't do this what would happen?
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What would happen? if i stepped away
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If i stepped away from volunteering this much
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From volunteering this much what would happen
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What would happen to this program,
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To this program, this cause, this nonprofit?
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This cause, this nonprofit? if i didn't skip every
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If i didn't skip every workout and go through
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Workout and go through the drive-through
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The drive-through for every single meal,
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For every single meal, if i didn't cut back
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If i didn't cut back on my own prayer life
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On my own prayer life to like keep this thing going,
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To like keep this thing going, how would the organization,
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How would the organization, the ministry,
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The ministry, the church,
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The church, the school,
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The school, the family tradition --
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The family tradition -- like, no one's stepping up to --
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Like, no one's stepping up to -- i would love to step back
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I would love to step back if someone would step up,
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If someone would step up, but no one's stepping up,
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But no one's stepping up, so i can't step back."
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So i can't step back." and that's why today
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And that's why today i want to grab this book
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I want to grab this book that our heavenly father
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That our heavenly father has given us,
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Has given us, the bible,
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The bible, and i want to turn to some
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And i want to turn to some ancient wisdom that god gave
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Ancient wisdom that god gave an ancient king named solomon.
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"there is a time for everything,
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"there is a time for everything, and a season for every
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And a season for every activity under the heavens:
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Activity under the heavens: a time to be born
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A time to be born and a time to die,
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And a time to die, a time to plant and a time
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A time to plant and a time to uproot,
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To uproot, a time to kill
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A time to kill and a time to heal,
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And a time to heal, a time to tear down
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A time to tear down and a time to build,
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And a time to build, a time to weep
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A time to weep and a time to laugh,
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And a time to laugh, a time to mourn
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A time to mourn and a time to dance,
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And a time to dance, a time to scatter stones
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A time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
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And a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time
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A time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing."
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To refrain from embracing." if you think your parents
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Hug you too much,
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Hug you too much, you can say,
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You can say, "dad, there is a time
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"dad, there is a time to refrain from embracing."
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To refrain from embracing." "there's a time to search
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"there's a time to search and a time to give," --
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And a time to give," -- except you can't say that, kid.
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Except you can't say that, kid. i love you too much.
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"there's a time to search
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"there's a time to search and a time to give up,
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And a time to give up, a time to keep
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A time to keep and a time to throw away,
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And a time to throw away, a time to tear
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A time to tear and a time to mend,
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And a time to mend, a time to be silent
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A time to be silent and a time to speak,
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And a time to speak, a time to love
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A time to love and a time to hate,
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And a time to hate, a time for war
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A time for war and a time for peace."
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Do you remember picking
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Do you remember picking the day in which you would
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The day in which you would be conceived?
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Be conceived? me neither.
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Me neither. did god give you the google doc
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Did god give you the google doc so you can, like, let him know
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So you can, like, let him know the day you're going to die?
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The day you're going to die? no.
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No. there's a time to be born,
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There's a time to be born, and that just kind of happens.
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And that just kind of happens. a time to die,
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A time to die, we don't get to choose it.
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We don't get to choose it. there are times in life
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There are times in life when we weep and mourn.
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When we weep and mourn. and we don't pick it,
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And we don't pick it, just sadness, and difficulty,
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Just sadness, and difficulty, and tragedy happens.
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And tragedy happens. and there's times when we laugh,
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And there's times when we laugh, and we dance, and celebrate,
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And we dance, and celebrate, and we don't get to pick
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And we don't get to pick those either.
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Those either. just kind of hap --
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Just kind of hap -- solomon is trying to teach
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Solomon is trying to teach us this really wise thing
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Us this really wise thing that there's some parts
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That there's some parts of life that are just
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Of life that are just out of your control.
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Out of your control. they are what they are.
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They are what they are. you accept the hand
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You accept the hand that god has dealt you.
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That god has dealt you. but did you notice that
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But did you notice that that isn't the only thing
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That isn't the only thing on solomon's list?
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On solomon's list? included in this list
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Included in this list of things that you
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Of things that you can't control are a whole
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Can't control are a whole bunch of things that you can.
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Bunch of things that you can. there's a time to search,"
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There's a time to search," he says.
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He says. but god has given you
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But god has given you the ability,
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The ability, and the self-control,
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And the self-control, and decision-making capacity
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And decision-making capacity to say,
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To say, "you know what?
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"you know what? done searching."
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Done searching." "there's a time to be silent."
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"there's a time to be silent." in a conversation
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In a conversation i can listen and listen,
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I can listen and listen, but then i can make
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But then i can make the choice to not be silent
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The choice to not be silent and start to speak.
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And start to speak. "there's a time to keep things
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"there's a time to keep things and a time to throw them away."
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And a time to throw them away." there's a time
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There's a time for home remodeling projects
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For home remodeling projects where we're tearing everything
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Where we're tearing everything down and we get to make
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Down and we get to make the choice when that stops,
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The choice when that stops, and we start to build
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And we start to build things back up again.
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Things back up again. solomon, this is so
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Solomon, this is so incredibly wise,
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Incredibly wise, has said life
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Has said life is a lot of things.
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Is a lot of things. and some of the things
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And some of the things are out of your control,
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Are out of your control, but some
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But some of the things are not.
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Of the things are not. so, i'd like for you
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So, i'd like for you to write this down.
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To write this down. i think it's solomon's
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I think it's solomon's big idea for today.
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Big idea for today. that wise people who
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That wise people who tap into solomon's wisdom
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Tap into solomon's wisdom accept the, "and."
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Accept the, "and." what i mean is that they
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What i mean is that they don't get so focused on this
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Don't get so focused on this one thing that they forget,
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One thing that they forget, "and," this other thing.
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"and," this other thing. they have a kind of wisdom
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They have a kind of wisdom to not get so,
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To not get so, like, infatuated
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Like, infatuated with this being perfect,
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With this being perfect, or this making everyone happy,
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Or this making everyone happy, or this happy that they
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Or this happy that they totally disregard,
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Totally disregard, dismissed or diminished,
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Dismissed or diminished, and the other thing that god
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And the other thing that god was thinking about, right?
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Was thinking about, right? so, say you're a kid in school.
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So, say you're a kid in school. perfectionism says,
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Perfectionism says, "i have to study this again.
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"i have to study this again. i have to work harder.
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I have to work harder. this project has to be perfect."
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This project has to be perfect." but wisdom says,
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But wisdom says, "but school isn't the only
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"but school isn't the only thing that i am.
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Thing that i am. god has blessed me
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God has blessed me with school and with friends,
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With school and with friends, with school and with family,
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With school and with family, with school and with relaxation.
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With school and with relaxation. i have to use the wisdom
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I have to use the wisdom to limit this despite
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To limit this despite its imperfection
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Its imperfection so i can and that."
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So i can and that." think about career.
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Think about career. work is an amazing
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Work is an amazing gift from god,
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Gift from god, but wise people don't get
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But wise people don't get so stuck on work that they
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So stuck on work that they forget about the other things
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Forget about the other things that god has given them.
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That god has given them. you could work, and work,
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You could work, and work, and work,
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And work, and work to make a client happy,
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And work to make a client happy, the boss happy,
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The boss happy, your employees happy,
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Your employees happy, but you have to remember
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But you have to remember that you are not just work,
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That you are not just work, you are work
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You are work and the body that god
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And the body that god gave you to take care of.
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Gave you to take care of. you are work and the soul that
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You are work and the soul that he has given you to be
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He has given you to be fed by his word.
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Fed by his word. wise people don't
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Wise people don't think just about a.
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Think just about a. they think about a and b.
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They think about a and b. parents, your kids are one
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Parents, your kids are one of the best things that
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Of the best things that god will ever give to you,
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God will ever give to you, but they're not the only
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But they're not the only thing that god gave to you.
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Thing that god gave to you. common parenting mistake
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Common parenting mistake that we think,
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That we think, "i'm going to pour everything
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"i'm going to pour everything into my children
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Into my children and my spouse will be fine."
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And my spouse will be fine." nope.
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Nope. there's times when
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There's times when i have to say,
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I have to say, "no," to the kids,
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"no," to the kids, when i have to say,
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When i have to say, "no," to constant time,
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"no," to constant time, when i have to say, "no"
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When i have to say, "no" to the thing they want to do,
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To the thing they want to do, because i and i have this other
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Because i and i have this other part of my life that god cares
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Part of my life that god cares so much about,
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So much about, my marriage to my spouse.
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My marriage to my spouse. there's a great time
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There's a great time with friends,
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With friends, but sometimes you have to
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But sometimes you have to go home from your friends
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Go home from your friends to take care of your kids,
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To take care of your kids, or to bless your spouse,
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Or to bless your spouse, or to work the --
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Or to work the -- wise people think really
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Wise people think really deeply that they don't get
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Deeply that they don't get so stuck on one thing that
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So stuck on one thing that they forget that there
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They forget that there is a time for everything.
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Is a time for everything. don't you hate this sermon?
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Don't you hate this sermon? don't you wish that, like,
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Don't you wish that, like, in the ancient hebrew
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In the ancient hebrew solomon had given us
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Solomon had given us the trick to do it all?
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The trick to do it all? he didn't, because there isn't,
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He didn't, because there isn't, which means you can't.
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Which means you can't. the earth will spin,
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The earth will spin, the clock will tick,
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The clock will tick, and you will have to decide
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And you will have to decide how to live your life.
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How to live your life. perfectionism,
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Perfectionism, and people-pleasing,
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And people-pleasing, and the god-complex
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And the god-complex will scream,
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Will scream, "you have to do more of a,"
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"you have to do more of a," but wisdom will whisper,
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But wisdom will whisper, "and, and."
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"and, and." and wise people obey
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And wise people obey and they limit a
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And they limit a so they can choose and b.
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So they can choose and b. all this kind of reminds me
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All this kind of reminds me of the day when i
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Of the day when i almost severely injured
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Almost severely injured my wife at the ymca.
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My wife at the ymca. kim and i got to work out
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Kim and i got to work out a couple saturdays ago
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A couple saturdays ago and we decided to do
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And we decided to do the squat rack together.
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The squat rack together. have you done this recently?
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Have you done this recently? so, you know, i put the weights
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So, you know, i put the weights on that i want to lift.
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On that i want to lift. i squat.
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I squat. i take the weights off.
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I take the weights off. we put her weights on,
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We put her weights on, she would squat,
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She would squat, and we'd kind
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And we'd kind of rotate in sets.
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Of rotate in sets. so, you know,
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So, you know, i started squatting.
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I started squatting. we take like the 450 off
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We take like the 450 off that i was lifting, and --
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[laughter]
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You didn't have to laugh
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You didn't have to laugh that fast at it.
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[laughing]
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I took off my weight
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I took off my weight and she says like,
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And she says like, "thirty-five,"
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"thirty-five," so i put a 35 plate
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So i put a 35 plate on her side,
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On her side, and i get behind her to squat.
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And i get behind her to squat. and she likes --
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And she likes -- before she even, like,
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Before she even, like, starts the first squat,
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Starts the first squat, i don't want to be mean
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I don't want to be mean about this,
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About this, but i'm thinking,
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But i'm thinking, "my wife is really bad
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"my wife is really bad at lifting weights."
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At lifting weights." her hands were, like, not even.
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Her hands were, like, not even. they were, like, shifted off
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They were, like, shifted off to the side like this.
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To the side like this. and when she started the squat,
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And when she started the squat, she didn't go straight
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She didn't go straight down like this.
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Down like this. she just kind of like
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She just kind of like wobble to the side.
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Wobble to the side. and like the bar, it was like,
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And like the bar, it was like, it wasn't parallel
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It wasn't parallel to the ground.
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To the ground. it was.
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It was. and she didn't ask me
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And she didn't ask me for my advice,
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For my advice, but as soon as she racked it,
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But as soon as she racked it, i had some unsolicited
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I had some unsolicited husband advice
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Husband advice to share with her.
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To share with her. but before i could,
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But before i could, kim racks the weight,
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Kim racks the weight, she looks to her left,
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She looks to her left, looks back at me and says,
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Looks back at me and says, "did you put on a 35?"
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"did you put on a 35?" husbands, has your wife ever
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Husbands, has your wife ever asked you a question that
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Asked you a question that wasn't really a question?
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[laughing]
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And she responded,
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And she responded, "i said 25."
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"i said 25." and i thought, "oops."
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And i thought, "oops." i learned something
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I learned something from that day.
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From that day. in fact, i learned two things.
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In fact, i learned two things. number one, i should be a better
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Number one, i should be a better listener as a husband.
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Listener as a husband. i'm going to work on that.
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I'm going to work on that. number two though,
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Number two though, it was just ten pounds.
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It was just ten pounds. i mean, my wife can
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I mean, my wife can lift 10 pounds.
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Lift 10 pounds. compared to the overall
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Compared to the overall weight she was lifting,
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Weight she was lifting, 10 pounds is a very small
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10 pounds is a very small percentage of what
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Percentage of what was on her shoulders.
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Was on her shoulders. but here's the thing i don't
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But here's the thing i don't want you to miss.
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Want you to miss. when you already have
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When you already have a lot on your shoulders,
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A lot on your shoulders, a little bit is a big deal.
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A little bit is a big deal. let me say that again because
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Let me say that again because some of you need to hear this.
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Some of you need to hear this. when you already have enough
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When you already have enough on your shoulders,
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On your shoulders, a little bit
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A little bit is a really big deal.
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Is a really big deal. some of you forget
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Some of you forget this constantly.
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This constantly. it's just one more thing.
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It's just one more thing. it's just one more signup
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It's just one more signup sheet on the volunteer.
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Sheet on the volunteer. it's just one more night.
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It's just one more night. it's just one more email.
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It's just one more email. it's just one more client.
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It's just one more client. it's just one more conference.
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It's just one more conference. it's just one more event.
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It's just one more event. it's just one more --
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It's just one more -- and and you're right.
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And and you're right. it is just one.
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It is just one. but it's not just one.
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But it's not just one. there's already enough
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There's already enough on your shoulders.
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On your shoulders. as soon as you add
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As soon as you add too much over here,
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Too much over here, everything in life,
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Everything in life, the way that life
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The way that life used to work gets
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Used to work gets all out of kilter.
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All out of kilter. what you didn't have to think
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What you didn't have to think about before now becomes
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About before now becomes messed up and dysfunctional.
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Messed up and dysfunctional. and that's why god in love is
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And that's why god in love is trying to teach us to be very,
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Trying to teach us to be very, very careful about
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Very careful about the pace that we push.
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The pace that we push. there is a time
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There is a time for everything he says.
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For everything he says. and we have to choose
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And we have to choose with the wisdom
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With the wisdom that he's given us balance,
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That he's given us balance, and self-control,
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And self-control, and restraint,
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And restraint, so that we can excel
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So that we can excel in all the areas of life
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In all the areas of life that he has given.
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That he has given. so, big question.
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So, big question. how do we do that?
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How do we do that? let me leave you today
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Let me leave you today with some biblical truths.
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With some biblical truths. if you're taking notes,
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If you're taking notes, i'd love for you
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I'd love for you to write these down.
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To write these down. what do you do, first of all,
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What do you do, first of all, if you struggle
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If you struggle with perfectionism?
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With perfectionism? if part of your heart just
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If part of your heart just wants it to be so great?
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Wants it to be so great? here's my biblical answer.
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Here's my biblical answer. grace.
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Grace. the grace of god,
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The grace of god, which is a fancy way
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Which is a fancy way of talking about
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Of talking about this amazing love of god,
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This amazing love of god, this undeserved, unconditional,
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This undeserved, unconditional, gifted to us at
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Gifted to us at the cross of jesus.
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The cross of jesus. do you know that the grace
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Do you know that the grace of god doesn't just give
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Of god doesn't just give you a spot in heaven
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You a spot in heaven and save you from
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And save you from the punishment of hell,
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The punishment of hell, it actually makes you perfect
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It actually makes you perfect in the eyes of god?
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It's amazing.
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It's amazing. the bible says things like,
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The bible says things like, jesus loved the church
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Jesus loved the church so much he gave up his life
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So much he gave up his life to make the church,
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To make the church, people who believe in jesus,
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People who believe in jesus, holy and blameless
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Holy and blameless in his sight.
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In his sight. there are promises
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There are promises in the bible that say because
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In the bible that say because of god's grace he doesn't
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Of god's grace he doesn't think about our sin.
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Think about our sin. he remembers them no more.
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He remembers them no more. instead, he looks at us
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Instead, he looks at us like he would look
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Like he would look at his perfect son,
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At his perfect son, jesus christ.
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Jesus christ. if there's something
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If there's something in your heart that just
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In your heart that just wants to be so good,
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Wants to be so good, so impressive, no flaws,
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So impressive, no flaws, no corrections to make,
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No corrections to make, there are two paths
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There are two paths you can take.
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There's either you being
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There's either you being perfect or there's jesus
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Perfect or there's jesus being perfect for you.
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Being perfect for you. and this is a treadmill,
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And this is a treadmill, a religious treadmill,
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A religious treadmill, that never slows
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That never slows down and never stops.
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Down and never stops. but jesus is so good that
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But jesus is so good that by his grace he will say,
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By his grace he will say, "come to me
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"come to me if you're exhausted,
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If you're exhausted, if you're tired, and weary,
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If you're tired, and weary, and heavy laden,
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And heavy laden, and i will give you rest."
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And i will give you rest." that desire in you to be
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That desire in you to be really good to be even
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Really good to be even perfect is from god,
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Perfect is from god, but there's only one way
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But there's only one way to quench that thirst
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To quench that thirst and it's by this unconditional
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And it's by this unconditional love poured out on the cross
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Love poured out on the cross in the name of jesus christ.
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In the name of jesus christ. turn to him today
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Turn to him today and you'll have everything
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And you'll have everything that your heart needs.
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That your heart needs. number two, for that people-
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Number two, for that people- pleasing part of you,
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Pleasing part of you, there is the gospel.
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There is the gospel. gospel is just another way
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Gospel is just another way to talk about the grace of god.
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To talk about the grace of god. it's the good news that
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It's the good news that god in his undeserved love
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God in his undeserved love sent his son,
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Sent his son, and that because of jesus
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And that because of jesus and what he did,
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And what he did, when he lived, and died,
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When he lived, and died, and rose for us,
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And rose for us, god doesn't just like let you
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God doesn't just like let you sneak in the back
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Sneak in the back door of heaven.
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Door of heaven. god is so pleased with you.
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God is so pleased with you. i think some of you
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I think some of you in your relationship with god,
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In your relationship with god, you kind of think of him
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You kind of think of him like the gruff ticket taker
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Like the gruff ticket taker at the local baseball stadium.
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At the local baseball stadium. he's guarding the gates.
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He's guarding the gates. you come up.
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You come up. "show me your ticket."
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"show me your ticket." you say,
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You say, "i believe in jesus."
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"i believe in jesus." "get in there."
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"get in there." but that's not
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But that's not what god is like.
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What god is like. oh man, i love this part
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Oh man, i love this part of the bible.
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Of the bible. the bible says that because we
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The bible says that because we have jesus that god
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Have jesus that god delights in us.
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Delights in us. just take two seconds
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Just take two seconds and think about that.
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And think about that. god, god doesn't put up with,
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God, god doesn't put up with, doesn't just accept.
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Doesn't just accept. he de -- what do you delight in?
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He de -- what do you delight in? god's like that,
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God's like that, times a thousand.
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Times a thousand. have you seen our new furniture
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Have you seen our new furniture for baptisms here at our church?
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For baptisms here at our church? the bowl we hold the water in,
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The bowl we hold the water in, on the top it has this quote
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On the top it has this quote from the bible,
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From the bible, "with you,"
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"with you," god says from heaven,
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God says from heaven, "i am well pleased.
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"i am well pleased. i'm -- i don't put up with you.
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I'm -- i don't put up with you. i'm pleased.
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I'm pleased. i'm well pleased with you."
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I'm well pleased with you." for some of you,
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For some of you, the best example of this
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The best example of this is when you come home
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Is when you come home from work and your dog has
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From work and your dog has been waiting all day.
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Been waiting all day. your dog's not just like
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Your dog's not just like sitting on the paws like,
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Sitting on the paws like, "well, i guess you're home."
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"well, i guess you're home." it's like,
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It's like, "my tail is going
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"my tail is going to hurt someone.
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To hurt someone. it's going to knock
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It's going to knock over furniture."
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Over furniture." like, god --
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Like, god -- god's no dog.
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God's no dog. but that's a glimpse
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But that's a glimpse of the kind of passion,
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Of the kind of passion, and love,
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And love, and excitement he has.
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And excitement he has. like, there's something
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Like, there's something in our heart that wants,
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In our heart that wants, like, someone to be
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Like, someone to be someone ple --
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Someone ple -- someone look at me and smile,
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Someone look at me and smile, and because jesus takes
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And because jesus takes our sins away,
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Our sins away, that's what god
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That's what god does every day.
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Does every day. profound to me.
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Profound to me. you might be impressed,
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You might be impressed, disappointed, or totally
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Disappointed, or totally uninterested in me, but god,
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Uninterested in me, but god, because the beautiful name
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Because the beautiful name of his son,
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Of his son, god, every single
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God, every single day delights in me.
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Day delights in me. and that's true for every
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And that's true for every christian who's here.
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Christian who's here. and if you're not a christian
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And if you're not a christian this could be your day.
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This could be your day. god -- it's profound.
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God -- it's profound. we love to end our services
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We love to end our services here at church with this
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Here at church with this ancient blessing,
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Ancient blessing, "the lord's face
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"the lord's face is shining upon you."
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Is shining upon you." i love thinking about it.
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I love thinking about it. it feels so good to step
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It feels so good to step into a room and have someone.
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Into a room and have someone. every minute of my christian
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Every minute of my christian life that's what god does.
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Life that's what god does. so if that part of your heart
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So if that part of your heart that just wants someone to smile
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That just wants someone to smile in your direction, man,
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In your direction, man, you got it in the gospel
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You got it in the gospel of jesus christ.
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Of jesus christ. third and finally,
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Third and finally, if you have a god-complex,
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If you have a god-complex, if you can't step away
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If you can't step away from your busyness,
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From your busyness, because what would happen?
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Because what would happen? how would people be blessed?
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How would people be blessed? do you know what the answer is?
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Do you know what the answer is? god.
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God. do you know who's really
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Do you know who's really amazing at being god?
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Amazing at being god? god.
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God. do you know who's really bad
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Do you know who's really bad at being the creator
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At being the creator and sustainer of all blessings?
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And sustainer of all blessings? you and me.
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You and me. i love that god,
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I love that god, who sees the past, present,
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Who sees the past, present, and future at the same time,
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And future at the same time, doesn't need us.
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Doesn't need us. we might not see how it's
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We might not see how it's going to work out,
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Going to work out, it might feel so bad,
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It might feel so bad, but god, listen,
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But god, listen, he can start ministries
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He can start ministries and he can end them.
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And he can end them. the churches we read about
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The churches we read about in the bible,
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In the bible, you don't visit where peter
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You don't visit where peter originally worshiped.
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Originally worshiped. those those churches open their
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Those those churches open their doors and then they close them.
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Doors and then they close them. and that happens all the time.
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And that happens all the time. god launches programs,
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God launches programs, ministries that bring
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Ministries that bring big blessing,
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Big blessing, but it's okay
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But it's okay if that season ends.
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If that season ends. you don't have to hold
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You don't have to hold on for da --
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On for da -- god can bless his people in
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God can bless his people in other ways and through
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Other ways and through other people.
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Other people. it doesn't have to be you.
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It doesn't have to be you. you don't have to kill yourself,
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You don't have to kill yourself, throwing more weight
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Throwing more weight on your shoulders.
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On your shoulders. god's good at being god.
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God's good at being god. there's a season for every
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There's a season for every activity under the sun.
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Activity under the sun. there are fruitful seasons
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There are fruitful seasons and seasons that aren't
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And seasons that aren't so fruitful.
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So fruitful. let god control the seasons.
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Let god control the seasons. let god be god.
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Let god be god. man, i love the bible.
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Man, i love the bible. most people live life at an
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Most people live life at an unsustainable mediocre pace,
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Unsustainable mediocre pace, but you don't have to.
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But you don't have to. if the grace of jesus christ
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If the grace of jesus christ has made you perfect,
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Has made you perfect, if the gospel of jesus christ
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If the gospel of jesus christ has made you pleasing to god,
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Has made you pleasing to god, if the sovereignty
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If the sovereignty and control of god's
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And control of god's love controls all things,
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Love controls all things, you can work and you can rest.
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You can work and you can rest. you can step up,
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You can step up, and you can step back.
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And you can step back. you can push the pace
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You can push the pace and you can jog, pause,
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And you can jog, pause, even sit and rest
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Even sit and rest in the arms of jesus.
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In the arms of jesus. that's what wisdom teaches us.
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That's what wisdom teaches us. that's what wise people do.
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That's what wise people do. will you?
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Will you? maybe you've heard
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Maybe you've heard the often-told story
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The often-told story of the young pastor trying
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Of the young pastor trying to learn from the old,
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To learn from the old, wise pastor.
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Wise pastor. he wanted to grow spiritually,
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He wanted to grow spiritually, to have a great ministry.
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To have a great ministry. so, the young pastor asked
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So, the young pastor asked the older pastor,
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The older pastor, "what do i have to do
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"what do i have to do to be like spiritually
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To be like spiritually vibrant and healthy?"
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Vibrant and healthy?" and the old man without
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And the old man without thinking says,
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Thinking says, "you must ruthlessly
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"you must ruthlessly eliminate hurry
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Eliminate hurry from your life."
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From your life." the young pastor thought
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The young pastor thought that was pretty good,
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That was pretty good, so he wrote it down,
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So he wrote it down, "ruthlessly eliminate hurry."
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"ruthlessly eliminate hurry." "and what else?"
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"and what else?" to which the old man said,
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To which the old man said, "there is nothing else."
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"there is nothing else." an exaggeration,
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An exaggeration, but not by much.
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But not by much. i pray, today,
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I pray, today, the kind offer of jesus
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The kind offer of jesus who's calling you to give up
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Who's calling you to give up your martha ways and sit at
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Your martha ways and sit at his gracious and forgiving feet.
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His gracious and forgiving feet. i pray that the grace
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I pray that the grace of our lord,
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Of our lord, that the gospel of his word,
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That the gospel of his word, that sovereignty of god empowers
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That sovereignty of god empowers you today to live
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You today to live your one and only life
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Your one and only life at a sustainable pace.
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At a sustainable pace. god may it be so.
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God may it be so. let's pray.
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Let's pray. oh, father,
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Oh, father, i have a hunch there are
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I have a hunch there are so many regrets right now.
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So many regrets right now. times when we were so focused
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Times when we were so focused on one thing that we forgot
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On one thing that we forgot about some really
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About some really important things,
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Important things, and that's why
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And that's why i'm so grateful for jesus.
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I'm so grateful for jesus. thank you, god,
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Thank you, god, that when our relationship
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That when our relationship suffered because we
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Suffered because we were so focused on work,
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Were so focused on work, or work suffered because
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Or work suffered because we were so focused on the --
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We were so focused on the -- god, when we lost sight
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God, when we lost sight of something that
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Of something that matters to you,
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Matters to you, we ask for your forgiveness,
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We ask for your forgiveness, and we believe that
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And we believe that we have it in jesus.
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We have it in jesus. thank you that we can leave
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Thank you that we can leave today without the burden
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Today without the burden of guilt, shame,
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Of guilt, shame, or believing that you need
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Or believing that you need to punish us for our sins.
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To punish us for our sins. we pray, today, god for wisdom.
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We pray, today, god for wisdom. man, it's easy to say that
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Man, it's easy to say that we should say, "no,"
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We should say, "no," when we're in church,
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When we're in church, but when someone looks us
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But when someone looks us in the eye
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In the eye and really wants
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And really wants us to say "yes,"
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Us to say "yes," it gets really messy.
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It gets really messy. so, please, let your holy spirit
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So, please, let your holy spirit just nudge us,
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Just nudge us, remind us in those moments
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Remind us in those moments of the bigger picture.
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Of the bigger picture. help us to satisfy our very
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Help us to satisfy our very hearts and souls
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Hearts and souls with the goodness of jesus
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With the goodness of jesus and the gospel so that
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And the gospel so that we're not thirsty for what
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We're not thirsty for what humans cannot give us.
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Humans cannot give us. and help us to step out
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And help us to step out and live as best we can
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And live as best we can these balanced lives.
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These balanced lives. you've given us many good
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You've given us many good works to do, some at home,
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Works to do, some at home, some at school,
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Some at school, some that involve just us,
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Some that involve just us, some that involve others,
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And we want to do that well.
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Give us wisdom,
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God, and good community
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To keep us accountable,
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That some of us would be nudged
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To work harder and more,
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And some of us would
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Be nudged to work less.
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God, i've tasted
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And seen how sweet
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It is to find that sweet spot,
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How joyful it is to work
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Hard and then step away
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From work into rest
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With the people i love the most.
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I've been blessed by
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Vibrant friendships, god.
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I feel like i've
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Learned so much.
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You've taught me so much
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And corrected the foolishness
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Of my youth.
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And i pray that all of us would
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Continue to grow in that wisdom,
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That we'd be blessed
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With the great gift of balance
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Which only comes
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From keeping our eyes
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Fixed on jesus.
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It's in his name that
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We pray and ask for your
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Help in the days to come.
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And all god's people said amen.
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>> thanks, pastor mike,
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>> thanks, pastor mike, for encouraging us
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For encouraging us to consider carefully
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To consider carefully the traps of perfectionism
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The traps of perfectionism and people-pleasing in light
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And people-pleasing in light of the gospel and god's grace
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Of the gospel and god's grace in order to avoid burnout.
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In order to avoid burnout. speaking of burnout,
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Speaking of burnout, this month we are
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This month we are offering beyond burnout,
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Offering beyond burnout, how to find rest
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How to find rest in a restless world by
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In a restless world by pastor mike with a bonus
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Pastor mike with a bonus bible study by
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Bible study by doctor bruce becker.
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Doctor bruce becker. this book helps us evaluate
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This book helps us evaluate our life and change our habits
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Our life and change our habits so we don't succumb to burnout,
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So we don't succumb to burnout, allowing us to align our habits
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Allowing us to align our habits with our creator's intent.
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With our creator's intent. request your copy with your
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>> you live in
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A culture perfectly designed
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To burn you out.
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Always online,
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Always on call,
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Always racing, always working.
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Christians often burn out
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The quickest.
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Always serving,
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Always striving,
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Always saying yes.
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Where's the rest
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Jesus promised?
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God designed you for
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A different rhythm of life.
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Beyond burnout:
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How to find rest
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In a restless world
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By mike novotny
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And bruce becker offers
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In-depth study questions
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And biblical guidance
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To help you find the rhythm
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That leads to deeper rest,
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More resilient peace,
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And yes, greater impact
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For god's kingdom.
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Beyond burnout is our way
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Of thanking you for your
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Financial support.
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By calling 800-661-3311,
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Or writing us at po box 301,
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Milwaukee, wi 53201.
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>> do you ever wonder
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>> do you ever wonder if you're saved?
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If you're saved? or what "saved" even means?
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Or what "saved" even means? or what god is like?
00:26:29.077 --> 00:26:30.378
Or what god is like? or what jesus did?
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Or what jesus did? some people are embarrassed
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Some people are embarrassed to ask these really basic
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To ask these really basic questions, but please
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Questions, but please don't be.
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Don't be. they're the most important
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They're the most important questions you could ever ask
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Questions you could ever ask and that's why i want to give
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And that's why i want to give you a brand-new copy of this
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You a brand-new copy of this little book i wrote called,
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Little book i wrote called, "the basics."
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Mike Novotny - Breaking Up With Busy

January 6, 2026 | 29:5

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