Mike Novotny - Still Need To Speak Up

August 12, 2025 | 29:5

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Time Of Grace With Mike Novotny | Mike Novotny - Still Need To Speak Up | August 12, 2025

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>> so, a few months ago,
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>> so, a few months ago, i had a chance to reach out
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I had a chance to reach out to the pastors on our staff
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To the pastors on our staff and the christian
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And the christian school teachers on our staff,
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School teachers on our staff, and all the members of our
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And all the members of our staff with this question.
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If you had to give yourself
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If you had to give yourself a letter grade when it
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A letter grade when it comes to confrontation,
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Comes to confrontation, when it comes to saying
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When it comes to saying something when something
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Something when something needs to be said,
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Needs to be said, but saying it
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But saying it in a christian way,
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In a christian way, a loving way, a jesus way,
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A loving way, a jesus way, if you had to grade
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If you had to grade yourself on that,
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Yourself on that, what grade do you
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What grade do you think you'd get?
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Think you'd get? and i was curious when
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And i was curious when these people who are far
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These people who are far from being brand new
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From being brand new in their christian faith,
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In their christian faith, people who in many
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People who in many of their cases have read
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Of their cases have read the bible from cover to cover,
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The bible from cover to cover, had been following jesus
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Had been following jesus not for months or years,
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Not for months or years, many of them decades,
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Many of them decades, what they would say.
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What they would say. and here's what they said, "c+."
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And here's what they said, "c+." one member of our staff said
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One member of our staff said explaining how her heart
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Explaining how her heart just wasn't wired
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Just wasn't wired for confrontation.
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For confrontation. she loves it when people get
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She loves it when people get along and she just cringes when
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Along and she just cringes when there's tension in the room.
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There's tension in the room. c+ was her grade,
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C+ was her grade, which was better than d+.
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Which was better than d+. "i run from confrontation."
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"i run from confrontation." this person left
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This person left the caps lock on when
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The caps lock on when they typed the word "run."
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They typed the word "run." "d+," another guy agreed.
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"d+," another guy agreed. he said he's pretty good
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He said he's pretty good at speaking the truth,
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At speaking the truth, but i think he said,
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But i think he said, "i speak it from my soap box,
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"i speak it from my soap box, from a super
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From a super judgmental position."
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Judgmental position." i think the best grade
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I think the best grade i saw was a b,
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I saw was a b, an experienced christian woman
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An experienced christian woman who said, "with more practice
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Who said, "with more practice and a few tools
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And a few tools it does get easier.
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It does get easier. and i've also found that when
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And i've also found that when confrontation is done well,
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Confrontation is done well, the end result is peace
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The end result is peace and improved relationships
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And improved relationships for everyone involved."
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For everyone involved." the pastors of our church,
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The pastors of our church, the teachers of our school,
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The teachers of our school, christian staff members,
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Christian staff members, the average grade did not
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The average grade did not make them the valedictorians
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Make them the valedictorians of confrontation university.
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Of confrontation university. they missed the honor roll
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They missed the honor roll and they knew it.
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And they knew it. how about you?
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How about you? if you had to grade yourself
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If you had to grade yourself on having hard conversations
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On having hard conversations with people that you care about,
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With people that you care about, speaking up when you
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Speaking up when you need to speak up,
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Need to speak up, but speaking it in a jesus,
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But speaking it in a jesus, uniquely christian way
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Uniquely christian way that's humble, and approachable,
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That's humble, and approachable, and gentle, and kind,
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And gentle, and kind, and full of compassion,
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And full of compassion, if you had to grade yourself
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If you had to grade yourself on that, what grade do you
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On that, what grade do you think you'd get?
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Think you'd get? yeah, i'm not sure
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Yeah, i'm not sure when i say the phrase,
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When i say the phrase, "confronting someone who
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"confronting someone who needs to be confronted,"
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Needs to be confronted," if a certain situation
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If a certain situation pops into your head.
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Pops into your head. maybe that person in your family
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Maybe that person in your family who is just so short fused,
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Who is just so short fused, right, blows up about
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Right, blows up about every little thing.
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Every little thing. traffic starts a fight,
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Traffic starts a fight, politicians start a fight.
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Politicians start a fight. every little thing
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Every little thing just blows up,
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Just blows up, just a pattern of behavior.
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Just a pattern of behavior. he's not apologizing for it.
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He's not apologizing for it. he's not owning it.
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He's not owning it. if there's someone
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If there's someone like that in your life,
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Like that in your life, have you said something?
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Have you said something? or your granddaughter,
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Or your granddaughter, who was raised in the church,
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Who was raised in the church, who was raised with jesus,
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Who was raised with jesus, who still says that
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Who still says that she's a follower of jesus,
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She's a follower of jesus, and yet you see her
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And yet you see her social media and it just
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Social media and it just makes you wonder,
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Makes you wonder, "if she loves jesus,
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"if she loves jesus, why does she keep liking
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Why does she keep liking the things that jesus does not
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The things that jesus does not like and that he definitely
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Like and that he definitely does not love?"
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Does not love?" if you have someone
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If you have someone like that in your family,
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Like that in your family, have you said something?
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Have you said something? i have a hunch that
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I have a hunch that you're a lot like us,
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You're a lot like us, an almost honest christian.
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An almost honest christian. not a pathological liar,
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Not a pathological liar, but someone who doesn't
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But someone who doesn't tell the whole truth when
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Tell the whole truth when it gets uncomfortable.
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It gets uncomfortable. if you're taking notes
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If you're taking notes at home or here live,
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At home or here live, i'd love for you to grab a pen
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I'd love for you to grab a pen and write this down.
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And write this down. i have a hunch
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I have a hunch that for lots of us,
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That for lots of us, there is a sinner that
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There is a sinner that you are not confronting.
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You are not confronting. it's like last week,
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It's like last week, we said there's probably a sin
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We said there's probably a sin so scary to speak out loud
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So scary to speak out loud you're not confessing.
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You're not confessing. i bet there is a sinner
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I bet there is a sinner and you're so scared
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And you're so scared of that conversation that
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Of that conversation that you're not confronting.
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You're not confronting. here's maybe a shortcut
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Here's maybe a shortcut to know if that's you.
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To know if that's you. if there is someone
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If there is someone in your life,
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In your life, or at our church,
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Or at our church, or in your family,
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Or in your family, or at your work that
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Or at your work that you talk about but you
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You talk about but you haven't talked to, right?
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Haven't talked to, right? if there's someone,
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If there's someone, "ah, i can't believe
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"ah, i can't believe they did it again,"
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They did it again," and your girlfriend
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And your girlfriend knows all about it,
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Knows all about it, and your best friend
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And your best friend knows all about it,
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Knows all about it, and your husband has heard
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And your husband has heard all about it a hundred times.
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All about it a hundred times. you've spoken about that person
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You've spoken about that person but never actually spoken
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But never actually spoken to that person.
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To that person. well, you are
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Well, you are an almost honest christian.
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An almost honest christian. if everyone in the room
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If everyone in the room knows about him or her
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Knows about him or her and what they do,
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And what they do, but the person themselves
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But the person themselves would be shocked that everyone
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Would be shocked that everyone in the room knows
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In the room knows or has been talking,
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Or has been talking, you are an almost
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You are an almost honest christian.
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Honest christian. and you don't have to explain
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And you don't have to explain to me why, right?
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To me why, right? people are people.
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People are people. there are no guarantees
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There are no guarantees that when you point out
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That when you point out someone's flaws or what
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Someone's flaws or what they need to change,
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They need to change, they're going
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They're going to love you for it.
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To love you for it. jesus did that
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Jesus did that with the pharisees,
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With the pharisees, do you know what they did?
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Do you know what they did? they murdered him.
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They murdered him. the prophet jeremiah did that
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The prophet jeremiah did that with the old testament
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With the old testament people of israel.
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People of israel. do you know what they did?
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Do you know what they did? they threw him in a well
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They threw him in a well to starve him.
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To starve him. the prophet isaiah in
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The prophet isaiah in the old testament did that with
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The old testament did that with an ancient king of judah,
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An ancient king of judah, do you know what he did?
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Do you know what he did? he sawed his body
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He sawed his body into two pieces.
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Into two pieces. john the baptist confronted
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John the baptist confronted an ancient king of his day
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An ancient king of his day that he could not commit
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That he could not commit an adulterous relationship.
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An adulterous relationship. do you know how the king
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Do you know how the king thanked him for his kindness?
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Thanked him for his kindness? he chopped off his head.
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He chopped off his head. so, if you're scared to have
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So, if you're scared to have a hard conversation,
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A hard conversation, i think you have some
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I think you have some valid reasons.
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Valid reasons. why?
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Why? sometimes people last out.
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Sometimes people last out. sometimes they turn
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Sometimes they turn the tables on you.
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The tables on you. sometimes they burn bridges
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Sometimes they burn bridges and run in the other direction.
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And run in the other direction. not everyone thanks you
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Not everyone thanks you for loving them enough
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For loving them enough to speak the truth,
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To speak the truth, and i think that's why
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And i think that's why a lot of us don't.
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A lot of us don't. instead, we talk
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Instead, we talk about that person,
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About that person, maybe we even pray
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Maybe we even pray about that person.
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About that person. we hope that someone, somehow,
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We hope that someone, somehow, in some miraculous way
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In some miraculous way the light bulb will go on,
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The light bulb will go on, they'll change their behavior.
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They'll change their behavior. they'll see the destructive path
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They'll see the destructive path they're on away from jesus.
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They're on away from jesus. we hope, but we don't speak.
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We hope, but we don't speak. so, today i want to give you
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So, today i want to give you a biblical crash course
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A biblical crash course on how to confront people
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On how to confront people the way that jesus
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The way that jesus would confront people.
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Would confront people. i want to try to teach you
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I want to try to teach you what the old testament prophets,
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What the old testament prophets, and the new testament apostles,
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And the new testament apostles, and jesus christ
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And jesus christ himself embraced.
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Himself embraced. and to do that, i'm going
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And to do that, i'm going to cover three things.
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To cover three things. i'm not going to have
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I'm not going to have enough time to do it,
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Enough time to do it, but i'll give you my best crack.
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But i'll give you my best crack. i want to talk about who should
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I want to talk about who should be the one to confront.
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Be the one to confront. hint, not everyone.
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Hint, not everyone. whom are the people that
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Whom are the people that we should confront?
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We should confront? hint, not everyone.
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Hint, not everyone. and finally, how should you
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And finally, how should you confront people?
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Confront people? hint, very carefully.
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Hint, very carefully. right?
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Right? biblical confrontation,
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Biblical confrontation, who, whom, and how.
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Who, whom, and how. aren't you glad you came
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Aren't you glad you came to church today?
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To church today? alright.
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Alright. question number one,
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Question number one, who should confront?
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Who should confront? according to jesus,
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According to jesus, in maybe one of the most
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In maybe one of the most misunderstood sections
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Misunderstood sections of his entire teaching,
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Of his entire teaching, his answer to that
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His answer to that question was this,
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Question was this, "repentant christians," right?
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"repentant christians," right? some people make
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Some people make the mistake of thinking
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The mistake of thinking what tupac shakur thought.
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What tupac shakur thought. i was in high school
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I was in high school in the '90's as a hip hop fan,
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In the '90's as a hip hop fan, so i --
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So i -- you tell me a tupac song
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You tell me a tupac song in the lobby i could probably
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In the lobby i could probably rap it to you, but i won't.
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Rap it to you, but i won't. tupac, well, he had to --
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Tupac, well, he had to -- i'm trying to remember
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I'm trying to remember where the tattoo was.
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Where the tattoo was. was it here or on his back?
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Was it here or on his back? that said, "only god can judge."
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That said, "only god can judge." which kind of makes sense,
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Which kind of makes sense, right?
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Right? only god's perfect.
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Only god's perfect. only god knows the whole story.
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Only god knows the whole story. only god should judge.
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Only god should judge. i mean, who are you and who am i
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I mean, who are you and who am i with all of our flaws and all
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With all of our flaws and all of our failures to look at
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Of our failures to look at another human being
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Another human being and criticize their flaws
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And criticize their flaws and failures?
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And failures? that's why a lot of people
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That's why a lot of people maybe the only bible passage
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Maybe the only bible passage they know is when jesus said,
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They know is when jesus said, "do not judge," matthew 7.
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"do not judge," matthew 7. but that's not exactly
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But that's not exactly what jesus said.
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So, matthew 7, starting with
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So, matthew 7, starting with verse 3 jesus taught this,
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Verse 3 jesus taught this, "why do you look at the speck
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"why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye
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Of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention
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And pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"
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To the plank in your own eye?" verse 4, "how can you say
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Verse 4, "how can you say to your brother,
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To your brother, 'let me take the speck
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'let me take the speck out of your eye,'
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Out of your eye,' when all the time there is
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When all the time there is a plank in your own eye?'
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A plank in your own eye?' you hypocrite, first take
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You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye,
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The plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly
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And then you will see clearly to remove the speck from
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To remove the speck from your brother's eye."
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If you're not willing
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If you're not willing to deal with your own sin,
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To deal with your own sin, then don't say a word.
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Then don't say a word. but if you take
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But if you take this book seriously,
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This book seriously, then you absolutely have
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Then you absolutely have the right, which is logical.
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The right, which is logical. i mean, if you think
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I mean, if you think only god can judge,
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Only god can judge, only god can say anything
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Only god can say anything about anyone's behavior,
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About anyone's behavior, just think that out
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Just think that out for a second.
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For a second. parents, if you're raising,
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Parents, if you're raising, like, two sons, one son,
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Like, two sons, one son, bam, smacks the other one
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Bam, smacks the other one in the face if you said,
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In the face if you said, "well, who am i
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"well, who am i to say something?
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To say something? i mean, i'm not a perfect man."
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I mean, i'm not a perfect man." right?
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Right? if you're the police officer
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If you're the police officer and someone's like smoking meth
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And someone's like smoking meth behind the wheel while texting
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Behind the wheel while texting on two separate phones, you say,
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On two separate phones, you say, "hey, i have issues too."
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"hey, i have issues too." no.
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No. we know, right,
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We know, right, some behavior has to be
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Some behavior has to be addressed even
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Addressed even by imperfect people,
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By imperfect people, and jesus taught
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And jesus taught that spiritually too.
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That spiritually too. if you take your sin seriously,
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If you take your sin seriously, then you can take
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Then you can take their sin seriously too.
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Their sin seriously too. if you have repented
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If you have repented for your wrongs,
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For your wrongs, then you have every right
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Then you have every right to grab the same book that
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To grab the same book that brought you to repentance
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Brought you to repentance and apply it to them.
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And apply it to them. it's actually really helpful.
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It's actually really helpful. let's say you have
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Let's say you have a hard conversation and someone
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A hard conversation and someone throws it back in your face.
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Throws it back in your face. "oh, like you should talk.
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"oh, like you should talk. oh, like you're so perfect."
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Oh, like you're so perfect." here's the perfect answer.
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Here's the perfect answer. "you're right.
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"you're right. i'm not perfect,
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I'm not perfect, but i am repentant.
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But i am repentant. and you,
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And you, you're absolutely right.
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You're absolutely right. i did the exact
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I did the exact same thing that you're doing,
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Same thing that you're doing, but by the grace of god,
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But by the grace of god, do you know what i did next?
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Do you know what i did next? i repented.
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I repented. will you?"
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Will you?" you're right.
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You're right. this sin is part
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This sin is part of my story too,
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Of my story too, but i'm trying with god's help
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But i'm trying with god's help to never do it again.
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To never do it again. and you?
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And you? you and i have imitated,
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You and i have imitated, copied each other's sin,
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Copied each other's sin, now will you copy my repentance?
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Now will you copy my repentance? who has the right to confront?
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Who has the right to confront? everyone in this room
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Everyone in this room who takes this book seriously
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Who takes this book seriously and repents of their sin.
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And repents of their sin. which brings us
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Which brings us to question number two.
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To question number two. whom should you confront?
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Whom should you confront? well, the fact is,
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Well, the fact is, people sin every day, right?
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People sin every day, right? if you had to literally confront
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If you had to literally confront everyone who wasn't prioritizing
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Everyone who wasn't prioritizing god in their schedule,
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God in their schedule, their life, and their budget,
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Their life, and their budget, if you had to confront everyone
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If you had to confront everyone who used the name god, or jesus,
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Who used the name god, or jesus, or christ in an unbiblical way,
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Or christ in an unbiblical way, if you had to confront
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If you had to confront everyone you know who is out
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Everyone you know who is out of the habit of going to church
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Of the habit of going to church or who dishonors
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Or who dishonors the governing authorities,
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The governing authorities, who doesn't embrace
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Who doesn't embrace the bible's sexual ethic
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The bible's sexual ethic or isn't content with the money
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Or isn't content with the money that god has given them,
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That god has given them, who laughs at things
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Who laughs at things they shouldn't laugh at,
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They shouldn't laugh at, and gossips behind
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And gossips behind people's backs,
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People's backs, and isn't content that
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And isn't content that god has blessed them
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God has blessed them salvation in jesus.
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Salvation in jesus. if you had to confront everyone
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If you had to confront everyone in that situation,
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In that situation, you would need
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You would need to clone yourself first,
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To clone yourself first, quit your job, and never sleep.
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Quit your job, and never sleep. and maybe that's why the bible
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And maybe that's why the bible says that isn't your job.
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Says that isn't your job. now, who should --
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Now, who should -- whom should you confront?
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Whom should you confront? write down the answer
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Write down the answer to that question.
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To that question. according to the scriptures,
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According to the scriptures, you should confront christians
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You should confront christians who don't seem repentant.
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Who don't seem repentant. right?
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Right? both those parts
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Both those parts are really important.
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Are really important. god does not call you
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God does not call you to confront non-christians
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To confront non-christians for not behaving
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For not behaving like christians.
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Like christians. of course.
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Of course. right?
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Right? your job is to confront
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Your job is to confront people who claim to be
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People who claim to be followers of jesus,
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Followers of jesus, who claim to love
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Who claim to love the god of the bible,
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The god of the bible, and yet as best
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And yet as best as you can tell, they don't seem
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As you can tell, they don't seem to repent of the things
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To repent of the things that they do.
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That they do. i'm not talking about
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I'm not talking about a non-christian,
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A non-christian, nor am i talking about
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Nor am i talking about a christian who messes up
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A christian who messes up and apologizes,
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And apologizes, who sins and owns it.
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Who sins and owns it. obviously, god's doing
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Obviously, god's doing a work in their heart.
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A work in their heart. the people you should be most
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The people you should be most concerned about are those who
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Concerned about are those who claim to follow jesus and yet
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Claim to follow jesus and yet you look at their life
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You look at their life and it seems like they have
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And it seems like they have no desire to follow jesus.
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No desire to follow jesus. they confess, "i'm a christian,"
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They confess, "i'm a christian," and yet when you
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And yet when you look at their life,
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Look at their life, they don't seem
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They don't seem to love the things
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To love the things that jesus christ loved.
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That jesus christ loved. those are the people
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Those are the people you should confront.
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You should confront. jesus himself
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Jesus himself said it matthew 18.
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It's a long, great section
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It's a long, great section on biblical confrontation.
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On biblical confrontation. he says, "if your brother
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He says, "if your brother or sister sins,
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Or sister sins, go and point out their fault."
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Go and point out their fault." there it is, huh?
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There it is, huh? you go.
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You go. don't leave it to god.
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And if who sins?
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And if who sins? your brother or your sister.
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Your brother or your sister. that's not
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That's not your biological family.
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Your biological family. he's talking about your brother
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He's talking about your brother or sister in the family of god.
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Or sister in the family of god. if someone calls god
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If someone calls god their father but is living in
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Their father but is living in rebellion to the father's rules,
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Rebellion to the father's rules, your job is to go
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Your job is to go and point out their sin.
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And point out their sin. jesus -- did you catch it?
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Jesus -- did you catch it? said the same thing
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Said the same thing in matthew 7.
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In matthew 7. he said,
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He said, "faith take the plank out
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"faith take the plank out of your eye and then you will
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Of your eye and then you will see clearly to remove the speck
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See clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."
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From your brother's eye." right?
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Right? there are times
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There are times when we have to speak out
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When we have to speak out about the injustice in
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About the injustice in this world or confront someone
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This world or confront someone who is hurting another person
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Who is hurting another person no matter what they
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No matter what they believe about jesus.
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Believe about jesus. but in general,
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But in general, the biblical teaching is that
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The biblical teaching is that the world's going to do what
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The world's going to do what the world's going to do,
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The world's going to do, but christians should
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But christians should focus their attention inward.
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Focus their attention inward. do you think american christians
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Do you think american christians need to hear this right now?
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Need to hear this right now? i do.
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I do. can you believe the grammys,
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Can you believe the grammys, what the world is embracing?
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What the world is embracing? these are the end times!
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These are the end times! come on, just non-christians
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Come on, just non-christians being non-christians.
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Being non-christians. why would someone follow
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Why would someone follow the bible if they don't
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The bible if they don't believe the bible?
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Believe the bible? "can you believe
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"can you believe he talks like that?
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He talks like that? i'd appreciate if you didn't use
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I'd appreciate if you didn't use the name of my savior like --"
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The name of my savior like --" well, if you don't believe
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Well, if you don't believe is your jesus is your savior,
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Is your jesus is your savior, why would you love his name?
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Why would you love his name? right?
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Right? our concern is not
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Our concern is not with non-christians acting
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With non-christians acting like they actually are.
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Like they actually are. instead, our concern is for
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Instead, our concern is for a brother or sister who doesn't
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A brother or sister who doesn't seem to be all that concerned.
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Seem to be all that concerned. now, there's little bit
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Now, there's little bit of an art and not
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Of an art and not a science to this.
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A science to this. you might notice i had you
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You might notice i had you write down christians
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Write down christians who don't seem repentant.
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Who don't seem repentant. your problem is you don't have a
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Your problem is you don't have a pair of jesus glasses that let
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Pair of jesus glasses that let you see into someone's heart.
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You see into someone's heart. are they sorry or not?
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Are they sorry or not? so, maybe here's a bit
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So, maybe here's a bit of advice, not in the bible.
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Of advice, not in the bible. i made it up, so if you don't
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I made it up, so if you don't like it, that's fine.
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Like it, that's fine. here's my advice.
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Here's my advice. three strikes and then
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Three strikes and then you're called out, right?
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You're called out, right? if i see you doing something,
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If i see you doing something, if you see me doing something,
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If you see me doing something, let's say the way i talk about
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Let's say the way i talk about my wife, kim, just doesn't --
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My wife, kim, just doesn't -- it's not loving or good
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It's not loving or good and you notice,
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And you notice, but you give me
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But you give me a little bit of time.
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A little bit of time. you don't, like,
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You don't, like, put me on blast.
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Put me on blast. give me some time to say,
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Give me some time to say, "hey, you know what
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"hey, you know what i said wasn't cool."
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I said wasn't cool." but i don't say that.
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But i don't say that. strike one.
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Strike one. and some time later,
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And some time later, you notice me doing
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You notice me doing the same thing, like,
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The same thing, like, "ooh, is this a pattern
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"ooh, is this a pattern of behavior for him?"
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Of behavior for him?" you give me a little bit
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You give me a little bit of space to own it,
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Of space to own it, to apologize, to repent,
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To apologize, to repent, but i don't.
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But i don't. strike two.
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Strike two. if that third time comes,
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If that third time comes, you've probably seen someone
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You've probably seen someone who doesn't see the seriousness
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Who doesn't see the seriousness of their own sin.
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Of their own sin. three strikes and it's time
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Three strikes and it's time to get called out.
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To get called out. so, i'm going to approach them
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So, i'm going to approach them with plenty of evidence
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With plenty of evidence now and say,
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Now and say, "hey, i remember when you said,
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"hey, i remember when you said, and then you said it again,
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And then you said it again, and then you said it again,
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And then you said it again, and i can't see your heart,
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And i can't see your heart, but it doesn't seem like
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But it doesn't seem like that's a big deal to you,
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That's a big deal to you, is it?"
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Is it?" if they repent,
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If they repent, you get to give them
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You get to give them forgiveness in jesus,
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Forgiveness in jesus, and if they don't,
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And if they don't, you get to take their sin
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You get to take their sin as seriously as they should.
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As seriously as they should. so, what have you
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So, what have you learned so far?
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Learned so far? who should confront people?
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Who should confront people? repentant christians.
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Repentant christians. whom should repentant
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Whom should repentant christians confront?
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Christians confront? they should confront those
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They should confront those who don't seem repentant.
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Who don't seem repentant. which brings us
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Which brings us to question number three.
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To question number three. i want to do those first
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I want to do those first two kind of quickly because
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Two kind of quickly because this really is your question.
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This really is your question. isn't -- how do you do it?
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Isn't -- how do you do it? okay, jesus.
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Okay, jesus. yep, yep, yep.
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Yep, yep, yep. i see what you're saying.
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I see what you're saying. it is my job.
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It is my job. and i can think of someone
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And i can think of someone who says they're a christian,
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Who says they're a christian, but they're just not following
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But they're just not following the path of jesus.
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The path of jesus. but how do i do this?
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But how do i do this? i know a family from
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I know a family from our church that said,
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Our church that said, "pastor, how do we --
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"pastor, how do we -- how do we confront
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How do we confront this member of our family
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This member of our family and still see our grandkids
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And still see our grandkids at the end of the day?"
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At the end of the day?" "we've been friends
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"we've been friends for a long time.
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For a long time. man, if i say something,
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Man, if i say something, is the friendship going to be --
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Is the friendship going to be -- how do i do this in a way
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How do i do this in a way that the relationship
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That the relationship is going to make it
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Is going to make it and hopefully be stronger after
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And hopefully be stronger after the conversation is over?"
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The conversation is over?" well, can i be more than
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Well, can i be more than almost honest with you?
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Almost honest with you? that's not your business.
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That's not your business. someone's reaction to the truth
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Someone's reaction to the truth is not your business.
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Is not your business. if you're only going to say
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If you're only going to say the right thing if people
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The right thing if people respond in the right way,
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Respond in the right way, i honestly don't know how
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I honestly don't know how you can follow jesus.
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You can follow jesus. if you know the bible,
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If you know the bible, do you think jesus got up
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Do you think jesus got up to preach and looked around
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To preach and looked around at the people and said,
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At the people and said, "now, jesus, just remember,
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"now, jesus, just remember, they have to like you."
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They have to like you." no, he spoke what was from god.
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No, he spoke what was from god. he spoke what was true.
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He spoke what was true. and like him or hate him,
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And like him or hate him, applaud him or put him
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Applaud him or put him on a cross, he would
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On a cross, he would speak what was in their
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Speak what was in their spiritual best interest.
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Spiritual best interest. and that's so important for you.
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And that's so important for you. some of you live in the fear
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Some of you live in the fear of people's reactions,
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Of people's reactions, and that is the idol
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And that is the idol of people pleasing.
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Of people pleasing. you've taken a good thing
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You've taken a good thing like your friendship,
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Like your friendship, or your relationship with
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Or your relationship with that person and you've made it,
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That person and you've made it, like, the ultimate thing,
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Like, the ultimate thing, the god thing
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The god thing that you can't lose,
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That you can't lose, and that's a bad thing.
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And that's a bad thing. there are times
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There are times people will hate it.
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People will hate it. they're living in the dark
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They're living in the dark and you're going
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And you're going to turn on the lights.
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To turn on the lights. they're going to try
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They're going to try to push you out of the room.
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To push you out of the room. that's still the privilege you
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That's still the privilege you have to try to save their soul.
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Have to try to save their soul. if you went to your doctor
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If you went to your doctor and she --
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And she -- and she said,
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And she said, "well, i'm not
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"well, i'm not going to tell her this.
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Going to tell her this. she's not going to like it.
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She's not going to like it. the screen says it's cancer,
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The screen says it's cancer, but you're doing great."
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But you're doing great." no.
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No. we know that it is in
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We know that it is in a person's best interest
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A person's best interest to hear the truth.
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To hear the truth. and so, their reaction,
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And so, their reaction, if they want to be hard hearted,
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If they want to be hard hearted, and stiff-necked, and stubborn,
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And stiff-necked, and stubborn, if they want to double down
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If they want to double down on their hatred for
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On their hatred for the ways of god,
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The ways of god, that's not your business.
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That's not your business. that's their business.
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That's their business. i pray they react
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I pray they react with humility, and grace,
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With humility, and grace, and respond to the truth of god.
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And respond to the truth of god. if they don't, that's on them.
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If they don't, that's on them. it's not on you.
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It's not on you. don't let the blood be on your
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Don't let the blood be on your hands by biting your lip and not
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Hands by biting your lip and not saying what you need to say.
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Saying what you need to say. speak the truth.
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Speak the truth. speak it in love.
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Speak it in love. here's the best way to do that.
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Here's the best way to do that. i call it "the golden rule
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I call it "the golden rule of confrontation."
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Of confrontation." write that down.
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Write that down. that's super helpful for me.
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That's super helpful for me. the golden rule of confrontation
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The golden rule of confrontation is how you confront
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Is how you confront a fellow christian.
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A fellow christian. jesus said in matthew 7,
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Jesus said in matthew 7, what is this?
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What is this? five or six verses after what
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We just read about judgement.
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We just read about judgement. he said, "in everything,
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He said, "in everything, do to others what you would
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Do to others what you would have them do to you."
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Have them do to you." in everything.
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Friends, there's going
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Friends, there's going to be a time when you have
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To be a time when you have to come with an open bible,
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To come with an open bible, when you have to send the email
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When you have to send the email if they don't want to meet
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If they don't want to meet with you face to face,
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With you face to face, where you're going to have
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Where you're going to have to copy and paste the passage,
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To copy and paste the passage, when truth is going to have
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When truth is going to have to be front and center.
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To be front and center. "i'm concerned for you,
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"i'm concerned for you, and here's why."
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And here's why." but when you do, drip love.
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But when you do, drip love. don't balance truth and love.
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Don't balance truth and love. people need to hear so much love
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People need to hear so much love to be able to swallow the truth.
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To be able to swallow the truth. a call to repentance is like
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A call to repentance is like a bitter powder, stick
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A bitter powder, stick in the smooth pill of love
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In the smooth pill of love and compassion for that person.
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And compassion for that person. do everything you can before,
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Do everything you can before, during, and after
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During, and after the conversation to let
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The conversation to let them know, "i love you.
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Them know, "i love you. i love god.
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I love god. i love you.
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I love you. i was scared to speak to you.
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I was scared to speak to you. i'm talking to you
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I'm talking to you because i love you.
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Because i love you. it would have been easier
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It would have been easier to just turn a blind eye,
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To just turn a blind eye, but i love you."
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But i love you." say it, and say it, and say it.
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Say it, and say it, and say it. so, when the devil tries
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So, when the devil tries to lead them into temptation
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To lead them into temptation that you're some
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That you're some judgmental church person,
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Judgmental church person, that can't be true.
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That can't be true. i love you
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I love you and there's so much proof.
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And there's so much proof. and i pray that when they
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And i pray that when they hear that truth,
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Hear that truth, when they see that love,
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When they see that love, they confess.
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They confess. and then, you get to say
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And then, you get to say the most beautiful words
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The most beautiful words in the world.
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In the world. you know god loves you, right?
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You know god loves you, right? yep.
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Yep. you did it once.
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You did it once. you did it twice.
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You did it twice. you did it three times.
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You did it three times. you've been doing it
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You've been doing it for three years.
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For three years. you know,
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You know, jesus died for you, right?
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Jesus died for you, right? sometimes you gotta hit
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People hard with the law,
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Shatter that hard heart,
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But you get to stitch them up.
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Put them back together
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With the gospel
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Of god's forgiveness.
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Even for stubborn people,
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Even for proud people,
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Even for totally lost people,
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You get to remind them that
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Just like you find your hope
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In the forgiveness of jesus,
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They can too.
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So, put all this together
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So, put all this together and what do you got?
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And what do you got? who should confront?
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Who should confront? every repentant christian.
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Every repentant christian. whom should be confronted?
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Whom should be confronted? people who claim to be christian
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People who claim to be christian but don't seem to be repentant.
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But don't seem to be repentant. how would you confront them?
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How would you confront them? you're not led by people
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You're not led by people pleasing but the golden rule
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Pleasing but the golden rule of speaking the truth
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Of speaking the truth and speaking in love.
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And speaking in love. maybe during this whole sermon
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Maybe during this whole sermon you've been thinking about
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You've been thinking about what could go wrong.
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What could go wrong. i want to ask you today,
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I want to ask you today, what could go right?
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What could go right? could someone who
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Could someone who has been replacing god
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Has been replacing god with their favorite sin,
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With their favorite sin, could you be the one
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Could you be the one to open to eyes and help them
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To open to eyes and help them see even if the road
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See even if the road is long and the struggle
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Is long and the struggle is hard that they can be
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Is hard that they can be on the right track,
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On the right track, the track that leads
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The track that leads to eternal life in
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To eternal life in the presence of jesus?
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The presence of jesus? love it or hate it.
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Love it or hate it. make you squirm, make you smile.
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Make you squirm, make you smile. almost honesty is never
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Almost honesty is never a christian's best policy.
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A christian's best policy. so, may you follow jesus,
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So, may you follow jesus, who is the way,
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Who is the way, and the truth, and the life.
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And the truth, and the life. and may his truth bring life
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And may his truth bring life to you and those you love.
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To you and those you love. let's pray.
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Let's pray. heavenly father, help.
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Heavenly father, help. we get nervous
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We get nervous just thinking about it.
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Just thinking about it. and maybe that person is not
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And maybe that person is not in the room right now
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In the room right now and we don't know where,
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And we don't know where, or when, or how,
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Or when, or how, or what we'd say,
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Or what we'd say, or what we'd say next,
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Or what we'd say next, but you're a god who knows
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But you're a god who knows the future and you are the god
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The future and you are the god who can do all things.
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Who can do all things. and so, we're praying now
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And so, we're praying now for courage.
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For courage. sometimes, we need
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Sometimes, we need strength to resist
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Strength to resist our own temptation, god.
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Our own temptation, god. but there's a different
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But there's a different temptation here and we need
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Temptation here and we need your strength too,
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Your strength too, to actually believe that
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To actually believe that the truth is always
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The truth is always best for people.
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Best for people. that letting people take
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That letting people take a path that gives them
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A path that gives them short-term pleasure
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Short-term pleasure but leads to long-term pain
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But leads to long-term pain apart from you,
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Apart from you, that is never good
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That is never good because that is not love.
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Because that is not love. god, help us to finally speak.
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God, help us to finally speak. and when that moment comes, god,
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And when that moment comes, god, when all those fears,
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When all those fears, and worries,
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And worries, and anxiety swell up,
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And anxiety swell up, help us to sense your spirit,
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Help us to sense your spirit, who is speaking through us
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Who is speaking through us as we open the word of god.
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As we open the word of god. father, we can all
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Father, we can all can look back on churches,
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Can look back on churches, even that turned a blind eye
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Even that turned a blind eye to sin, on women,
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To sin, on women, and especially men who had
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And especially men who had positions of leadership
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And authority who hurt people
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And hid behind the church.
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Oh, god, that is not what we
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Want for this place.
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Lord, we don't want to be
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A place with great music
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And nice coffee
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But where people get hurt
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And no one does a thing.
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So, god, give us courage.
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If it's me, if it's a pastor,
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If it's the president
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Of the congregation,
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If it's the biggest
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Giver and donor, god,
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Let sin be sin and let it
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Be expelled from among us.
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We want to be a place that is
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Not just full of biblical truth,
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But a place that is bursting
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With biblical love.
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We can't do it without you,
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But with you all things
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Are possible.
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So, we pray for your help today
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As we pray it all
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In jesus' name.
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Amen.
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♪ ♪
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>> such important encouragement
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>> such important encouragement from pastor mike today
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From pastor mike today to gently and lovingly confront
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To gently and lovingly confront our christian brothers
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Our christian brothers and sisters who are
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And sisters who are stuck in sin.
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We want to continue
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We want to continue encouraging tough conversations,
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Mike Novotny - Still Need To Speak Up

August 12, 2025 | 29:5

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