Ed Young - Character and Commitment

February 18, 2026 | 27:29

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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Character and Commitment | February 18, 2026

Children,
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By definition do
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Not know what is best for them.
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And when you and i fall in fumble,
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We are being childish because that needs.
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At that moment we didn't know what was best for us.
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Operative principle
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Parents, this is it.
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If you are having trouble
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With your child, you say, my child is giving me trouble.
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The problem is not with the child.
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It is with you as a parent.
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Hebrews chapter number 12,
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Verse number 11.
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Now, no discipline seems to be joyful
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For the present, but painful
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Nevertheless after it
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Yields that discipline,
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The peaceable fruit of righteousness
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To those who have been trained by it,
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And that it.
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Is discipline.
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God loves those
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He disciplines,
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Says the bible.
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Post modern
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Psychological parenting is a fraud.
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Doctor john
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Redmond, who i think has written the best material
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You'll ever find on how to be a biblical parent.
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He was a
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Phd in psychology,
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But he realized that all the ideas of postmodern psychology.
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What is that?
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Postmodern believes there's no absolutes.
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They believe everything is relative.
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They believe that
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A child is born and the child is pure and perfect.
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It is the parents
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Because they're messed up.
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Parents mess up their children
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Because they
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Were been messed up by their parents,
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And their parents messed up them.
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And it's gone all the way down the line.
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Even in dna.
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And therefore to be saved in
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Postmodernism
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Is to go to a counselor,
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To go to a professional secular psychologist
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And let the secular psychologist
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Walk you through your life, freudian style,
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And you'll begin to pick up, will this happened there?
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And this happened over there,
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And my mother, my dad and this and that and the other tries
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To explain you and try to explain me
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Through postmodern psychology.
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And it is an on going affair.
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You'll need counseling for the rest of your life
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To pick out all the things that made you like you are.
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And their basic theory is determinism.
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You don't have free will.
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Everything is really determined
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By environment, by background, by parents,
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By other influences, other events in your life.
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That's postmodernism.
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Christianity says
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That a baby was born and is in the image of god,
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But that baby lives in a fallen world.
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And that baby, therefore, is a fool.
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We talked about that if you were here last week.
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What is a fool?
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A fool is somebody that does not know what is best for them
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Or debates.
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And sure, that's a fool.
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And therefore a lot of us are fools
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Because we do things, say things, have done things,
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Have said things that was not the best for us.
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Right?
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It's called rebellion,
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And therefore we are saved, not by ourselves.
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We know that we confess that we were born in sin
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And that we have sinned,
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And we turn away from all of that in our life
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And ask jesus christ to make us brand new.
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We need the phrases be born again, a fresh new start.
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That's christianity, a totally different view.
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And therefore there is
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A couple of types of parenting, i want us to look at.
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First of all, there is that up close parenting.
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There is that nearsighted parenting.
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Mothers are very, very skilled at this.
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There are some nearsighted parents
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Who just deal with that, which is right now homework.
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Oh, i want to make sure that billy.
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He is he's seven.
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He has to get all of his homework. exactly right.
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And i'm going to help him
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To trim and check it to make sure it's turned in.
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And you do that on and on and on again,
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Because you want him to be a student.
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You want him to be a student.
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And so you go on and on and never do
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You allow your child to turn in a homework
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That is not accurate or is not checked.
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And when they get in trouble, you're always there
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Taking the place.
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You want your child to be happy,
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Accepted, have as little pain as possible,
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Not go through the things you went through as a child.
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And so you are there micromanaging your child,
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Micromanaging your child.
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Every micromanager word that in the business world
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Of the family world are always tense and uptight.
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You're every little things is catastrophic.
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Everything is catastrophic.
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Every single thing is an armageddon.
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And this is when a mom and even
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A dad can be so involved.
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Your children sometimes need to experience the pain,
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The result of poor choices they make.
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Now we move from nearsighted parenting.
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We move there.
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To what far sighted person?
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You see the end.
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The goal that is out there.
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I want to ask you a question.
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30 years from now, your son, your daughter.
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Let's say you have a son.
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That son finishes the university, makes good grades,
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Goes with the corporation, rises to the top,
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Becomes a ceo.
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Oh, how proud i am of my boy.
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He's 30 and he's already ceo of this corporation.
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Oh, he's really got it.
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The only problem is he's already divorced from his wife.
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He's sending money so she can bring up the kids.
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He's a womanizer.
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He thinks the whole world revolves around him.
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His success, his money.
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And it's all about me.
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That your boy 30 years
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Boy. upward success!
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Now you have a daughter.
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She knows god.
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She knew god had a plan for life.
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She has a gift of teaching.
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And now she's been teaching in the school.
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And boy, she is contagious to the kids.
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They love her.
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She speaks truth into them.
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Information and the word of christ.
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She's not worried about getting married.
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She may or may not. that's no big deal.
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She has a call of god to invest god in christ
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And information in the area of her decision to life.
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That son or daughter?
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Which one of those kids would you rather have?
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The boy. the girl?
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Easy answer, isn't it?
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But we are shooting for
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Like the boy.
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And therefore
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We are trying to micromanage our kids
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So they'll be on that road to human success.
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And i can tell you, for every person who is fabulously
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Humanly successful.
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Once in a while they stay and walk with god,
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But so many times they go the very opposite direction.
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They're called up and bought by the world.
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Look at the long picture,
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Folks, for the goal out there,
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For the goal that's out there, that's gonna sell.
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Go now.
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Let's just get real, real,
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Real, real practical.
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In disciplinary matters.
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You say, well, you got a problem
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With your kids
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When they come in from school.
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They take off their shoes, some on the floor.
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Throw their jacket over here.
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Go upstairs, undress, take all their school clothes
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Off, throw them on the floor
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Everywhere, and they get redressed.
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And you tell them, go pick up your clothes.
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Well, they don't do it well.
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You say a loud go, go pick up your clothes.
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They don't do it.
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You say it loud and maybe they pick up.
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Pardon?
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What? the word are you going to do?
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How are you going to discipline
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Things on it?
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What do you do?
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You go and pick up all their clothes
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And put everything where it belongs.
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Shoes, satchel, whatever.
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Then you take that son or daughter with you and said.
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I want you to go with me.
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This is where your shoes belong.
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You got it?
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Yeah, yeah.
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I put them there. right? yeah.
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These were your coat.
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You saw everything you go through,
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And you walk around and show them first hand.
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As if they didn't know where everything belongs.
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Okay.
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And then you say, next time i say pick up your clothes.
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I want you to put all
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Those clothes right back where they belong, not part of.
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And some of them.
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If you do not,
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Here's what's going to happen
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Saturday.
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You going to stay in your room?
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You'll stay right here.
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I'm taking away all of your equipment,
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Ipads, phone,
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Computers.
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And by the way,
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You don't disciplined
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Proportionate to that which they've done wrong.
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Now follow me here.
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If a scale of 1 to 10, the worst thing is a ten.
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And let's say they do a three.
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You punish them on the basis as if they'd done a six.
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Well, boy, that you're over punishing me.
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All i did was, you know, steal
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$5 out of your pocket book.
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No no no, no.
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You punish much more than that
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Which was rebuke and guard against.
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And that way you see, you're beginning to train.
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You got me.
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I wrote standing on the promises
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This little book, years ago, because life has a way
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Of shaking us right to our very foundations.
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We all face days when circumstances
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Feel bigger than our faith, and the very ground
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On which we stand seems to be shaking.
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But over the years, i found there's
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Something that never changes.
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God keeps his promises.
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This book is designed to help you hold on to that truth
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Every single day, 24/7.
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Standing on the promises is a 365 day
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Devotional short, practical, rooted in scripture,
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Created to meet you right where you are.
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Whether you're starting your day or ending your day, or
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Or just needing encouragement in the middle of your day,
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Each reading reminds you
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That god's word is reliable.
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His presence is real.
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His promises are working even when you can't see
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The results yet, and you don't know which promise to claim.
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My prayer
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Is that this book becomes a daily companion.
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Strengthen your faith.
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Restore your confidence, and helping you stand firm
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No matter what comes your way.
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I invite you to call the number on the screen and order
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Standing on the promises today, and discover
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The peace that surpasses all human understanding
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That comes from building your life
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On god's un.
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Changing word.
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You see,
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Parents, there's a lot of ways
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To defend your children with love and redemption.
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Say, well, i want my children to be happy.
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Listen, when you discipline them,
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They won't always be happy.
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You're not in the business of having a happy job.
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You're business.
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And having a child grow up to be like god designed them.
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And it's expensive to do that.
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And you won't always be popular.
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And you won't always be the best friend
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With your daughter, with your son.
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You see, a lot of people don't different.
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They just pay off the child.
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Bribe the child.
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If you'll do this, i'll give you that.
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If we go over here.
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Listen, that is the most
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Ignorant,
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Foolish, non-biblical way to bring up a child.
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And you can imagine that somebody might say,
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Here's an eight year old man.
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He is sarcastic.
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He is mean.
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He is vicious.
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He paid no attention.
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We tried everything in the world.
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There's nothing in the world that we can do with him.
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He's eight years old and it's just he's just a disaster.
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What can i do?
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Doctor redmond said a good idea was to be
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Take that young, rebellious
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Ki out of the garden and put him in the brier patch.
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And the way you do that, you take everything that is theirs.
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Everything in that room that is theirs.
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Take it out of the room.
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Every single thing,
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And store it somewhere.
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All they've got is their bed and the clothes that wear.
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The next day everything else is removed
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And say that will last for a month, son.
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Whoo hoo hoo! pretty heavy.
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You will get one of your lesser possessions
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Back every day for a month.
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And if
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As long as you are perfect in being obedient
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And respectful and honest
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Within this family,
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The once you fail, bang!
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We go back down.
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It goes back into the closet,
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And we start a period over again that's severe.
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Children,
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By definition do not know what is best for them.
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And when you and i fall in fumble,
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We are being childish because that needs.
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At that moment we didn't know what was best for us.
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Operative principle
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Parents, this is it.
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If you are having trouble
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With your child, you say, my child is giving me trouble.
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The problem is not with the child.
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It is with you as a parent.
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You say, well,
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The psychologist said that this child has
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And they have all kinds of chemical imbalances.
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They can treat only with heavy medication.
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There may be situations like that,
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But they are rare and not as prominent
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As the secular
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Psychologist would have us believe.
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Parenting.
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Sometimes.
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Nearsighted parenting
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Had to stay in the closet most of the time.
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It is far sighted
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Parenting with a goal in mind.
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And parents, be willing
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To pay the price.
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It's easier to bribe.
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It's easier to give in.
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It's easier to say yes
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Than it is to get down in the trench
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And try to love that child
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All the way to god, and all the way to a life
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That is worthwhile and beautiful
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And fulfilling.
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I was eating in myrtle beach.
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Years ago in a restaurant
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Named eight modes
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Seafood and country, cooking restaurant.
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You can't get a better name for a restaurant
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Than that in my book.
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And as i was waiting in line
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And restaurants like that, you always wait in line.
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It's a deadly.
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The owner came out.
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He was speaking to us, and i was sitting in a rocker,
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And he came down and a rocco came over and he said, downing.
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We began to talk.
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He said, i want to tell you a story.
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You may know about it a little bit.
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I was passed in columbia, south carolina, then,
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And he told me this story.
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And i've never, never, never forgotten it.
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He said it's about rusty welborn,
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Rusty welborn
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A year or so before, had gone on a crime spree
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Through the whole state of south carolina,
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Burning, destroying, attacking, being up until finally
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He killed a beautiful young 19 year old girl.
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He was prosecuted.
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Death penalty.
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I don't think anybody who knew him,
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Or any member of the family,
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Were there in the courtroom when he was being tried.
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And this owner said, rusty
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Was sentenced to death row
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And he was there for five years.
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But he said, i want to tell you what just happened
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And what happened in those five years.
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He was there, said he was hopeless, helpless.
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He said his story was a tragic story
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Brought up in west virginia
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And the poorest of the poor and the family,
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Numerous children.
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He didn't know who his daddy was.
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His mother had all kind of diseases, and
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He he just existed,
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Hated by almost everybody.
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A little bully
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In junior high school, he had he wore for three years
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One pair of pants and two shirts.
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The teacher didn't like him.
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He didn't like anybody for all the time.
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He's rejected.
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Tragic story in west virginia.
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When he got in the ninth grade, rusty dropped out of school.
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He lived under bridges
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And fields, public restrooms, would steal what he needed
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To eat, would steal what he wanted, would fight
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Drugs, alcohol, you name it.
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He went on this spree through south carolina,
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Killed this young girl.
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Now, i was in death row.
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At the same time.
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There was a man named bob mcallister.
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He was the associate chief of staff
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For the governor of the state of south carolina.
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And the governor's office was close to the state prison.
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And bob was a christian.
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He said, i want to do something at lunch
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And have a minister in the prison there.
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So he started going to the prison,
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Which he could had permission
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Because he was a fan of the state,
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And he would go every day during lunch time.
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He would visit those on death row.
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He said the first time he went into
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Rusty's cell, he was there by himself.
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He said he was lying in the corner
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In the fetal position, unmoving.
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He said the cell was stationed to.
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The only thing moving were roaches
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That were crawling over rusty.
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And he said he didn't even notice the brush of them off.
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Said he went over there
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To him, told as a christian there was hope for him
00:20:24.236 --> 00:20:26.838
That paul had killed a lot of christians
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Through his leadership, and there god could forgive him.
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And he said, i read of the bible,
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Said rusty did open his eyes and closed them.
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Never said a word.
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Bob said.
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I went there week after week after week and had no response.
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Found the same kind of person who was hopeless and helpless.
00:20:43.121 --> 00:20:48.226
He said
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Finally, one day i went in and he opened his eyes and
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I told him how god, though he'd committed this
00:20:52.497 --> 00:20:55.667
Heinous crime, could forgive him
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And he could be a new person.
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And though he was on death row,
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He'd have some kind of purpose in his life.
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And he said he listen, he said to me
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For the first time, he broke down and began to cry.
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He began to cry.
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Conviction.
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And he said
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When he got through crying, he prayed to receive jesus
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In his life.
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He had no hope, no future.
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Nobody care to who? the body.
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Nobody even do it.
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No one who ever knew from his in prison.
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And he said, bob left.
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He came back the next week, he said.
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And there was rusty sitting in a chair.
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He was a brand new person.
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He was smiling and said, i think god
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Is really forgiving me.
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I feel like a new person.
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So bob mcalister, in the next 3 or 4 years, went there
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Twice a week, read the bible to him, discipled him,
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And he said, rusty, he felt so guilty.
00:21:51.957 --> 00:21:54.559
He was trying to figure out how he could make restitution
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For all the people he'd robbed and hit and beaten
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And especially to the family
00:22:00.065 --> 00:22:01.967
Of that little girl that he had killed.
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And he said, of all things,
00:22:04.936 --> 00:22:06.438
That little girl's brother became a christian.
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And he had so hated rusty
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Because this was the young man who killed his sister.
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But he decided that he must forgive rusty.
00:22:15.414 --> 00:22:19.017
And so he wrote rusty a letter in prison.
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Rusty was real,
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And he scribbled back a note and said, you know, i'm
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A christian.
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And this brother said, i want to come and see you.
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So it was arranged.
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Can you imagine?
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Here's a brother had become a christian
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Who so hated the person who killed his sister.
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Rightly so.
00:22:36.735 --> 00:22:38.170
And now he was coming to see him with his wife.
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Bob mcallister set it up.
00:22:41.706 --> 00:22:43.975
He said i was there when we opened the sale, he said.
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They rose in each other's arm, just
00:22:47.045 --> 00:22:49.514
Weeping, weeping, weeping.
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And that brother said, i forgive you.
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He first he said, i don't see how you can.
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Speed up the time a little bit.
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It was a day for rusty to be executed for his crime.
00:23:03.628 --> 00:23:08.066
He'd not tried to get out.
00:23:08.633 --> 00:23:09.935
He told mcallister he was looking forward to dying
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Because for the first time, he'd have a family.
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He have a family.
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So bob was with him.
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The execution was 1 a.m. in the morning.
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Bob went with him early in the evening.
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He said, rusty, what do you want to do?
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And he said, bob, i'm going to lie on my car here.
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Look forward to going to my family.
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I've never had
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Read the bible to me, pray, read to me about heaven.
00:23:34.059 --> 00:23:36.761
And bob said he did it
00:23:36.761 --> 00:23:38.396
Line up online
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Verse of one verse until he looked over there and
00:23:39.464 --> 00:23:42.167
Rusty appeared to be asleep.
00:23:42.167 --> 00:23:44.836
He said he stopped reading and praying and went over there
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And got a little blanket and covered with a blanket.
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He called for the jailer to open the door
00:23:50.909 --> 00:23:52.711
And he was going out, and he said he don't know why.
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He said, i just turned around and kiss rusty on the forehead,
00:23:56.815 --> 00:24:01.219
And the jailer let me out and i left.
00:24:02.053 --> 00:24:05.123
A couple of hours later,
00:24:05.657 --> 00:24:06.758
Rusty was being carried away to his execution,
00:24:06.758 --> 00:24:09.728
And as he was going away, he talked to the person
00:24:10.729 --> 00:24:14.132
Who was going out and said,
00:24:14.132 --> 00:24:16.968
You know, it's a shame.
00:24:16.968 --> 00:24:20.438
That a man has to live
00:24:20.906 --> 00:24:22.340
To be 23 years of age,
00:24:22.340 --> 00:24:26.111
That the last night he's on this earth,
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He was.
00:24:30.382 --> 00:24:31.283
Kidston tucked in for the first time.
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That's.
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When a
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Mother's a christian, statistically,
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17% of the time, the kids would come.
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A christian.
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When the dad was a christian
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In the family,
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93% of the time
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The kids become a christian.
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The shrinking father.
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Kiss.
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Tuck in your kids every night
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And you'll be a parent who understands
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How to love and discipline
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And keeps your eye as a far sighted parent.
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Oh, the gold that god has
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And you must have for that son and that daughter.
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And that is character
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And christ.
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Life doesn't always unfold the way we expect.
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There are moments filled with uncertainty.
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Challenges that test our strength.
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And days
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Give you a brand new heart and help
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Take a simple principle and say, i claim this
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Being with you again tomorrow as we take another step
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On the winning walk with jesus christ.
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Ed Young - Character and Commitment

February 18, 2026 | 27:29

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