Ed Young - Character and Commitment

August 17, 2025 | S25 E197 | 29:0

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Ed: hebrews chapter number 12,
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Verse number 11,
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"now no discipline seems to be joyful for the present,
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But painful; nevertheless, after it yields," that's discipline,
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"the peaceable fruit of righteousness
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To those who have been trained by it."
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And that "it" is discipline.
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God loves those he disciplines says the bible.
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Post-modern psychological parenting is a fraud.
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Dr. john rosemond, who i think has written the best material
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You'll ever find on how to be a biblical parent.
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He was a phd in psychology, but he realized that all the ideas
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Of postmodern psychology, what is that?
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Postmodern believes there's no absolutes.
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They believe everything is relative.
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They believe that a child is born and the child is pure
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And perfect, it is the parents because they're messed up.
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Parents messed up their children because they would have been
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Messed up by their parents, and their parents messed up them,
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And it's gone all the way down the line, even in dna, and
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Therefore to be saved in postmodernism, is to go to a
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Counselor, to go to a professional secular
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Psychologist, and let this secular psychologist walk you
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Through your life, freudian style and you'll begin to pick
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Up, well, this happened there and this happened over there,
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And my mother, my dad, and this, and that, and the other, trying
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To explain you and trying to explain me through
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Postmodern psychology.
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And it is an ongoing affair.
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You'll need counseling for the rest of your life to pick out
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All the things that made you like you are, and their basic
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Theory is determinism.
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You don't have free will.
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Everything is really determined by environment, by background,
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By parents, by other influences, other events in your life.
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That's postmodernism.
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Christianity says that a baby was born and is in the image of
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God, but that baby lives in a fallen world and that baby
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Therefore is a fool.
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We talked about that, if you were here last week.
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What is a fool?
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A fool is somebody that does not know what is best for them.
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Want to debate that?
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Sure, that's a fool.
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And therefore a lot of us are fools because we do things,
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Say things, have done things, have said things that was not
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The best for us, right?
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It's called rebellion.
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And therefore we are saved, not by ourselves.
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We know that we confess that we were born in sin, and that we
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Have sin, and we turn away from all of that in our life
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And ask jesus christ to make us brand new.
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We need the phrase, is be born again, a fresh new start.
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That's christianity, a totally different view.
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Therefore, if we're parenting our children this way,
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Postmodern parenting way, or we're parenting our children
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According to god's principles, god's way,
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As taught in his book.
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And i have looked at verse, after verse, after verse,
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After verse, and i've seen so many verses, so many lifestyle
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Situations that teach us through that book, how to be a mom
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And how to be a dad.
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Now, let me say something up front to make every parent mad.
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If you're not mad at this, you didn't hear this.
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And i'm going to end up here.
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If you have a problem with one of your children, the problem
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Is not with the child, it's with mom and dad.
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If your children are making you uptight, uneasy about something,
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You've got this thing mixed up.
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You see when problems come up in the disciplinary area
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Of children, the pain that the parents feel has to be
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Transferred to the child, and that's what discipline does,
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And we have to understand that if we're going to be
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Effective parents.
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And therefore there is a couple of types of parenting
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I wanted us to look at.
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First of all, there is that up close parenting.
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There is that nearsighted parenting.
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Mothers are very, very skilled at this.
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There's some nearsighted parents who just deal
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With that which is right now.
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Homework.
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Oh, i wanna make sure that billy, he is seven.
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He has to get all of his homework exactly right.
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And i'm gonna help him, and tutor him, and check it to make
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Sure he turned in, and you do that on, and on, and on again
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Because you want him to be a student, you want him
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To be a student.
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And so, you go on and on and never do you allow your child to
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Turn in a homework that is not accurate or is not checked, and
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When they get in trouble you're always there taking the place.
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You want your child to be happy, accepted, have as little pain as
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Possible, not go through the things you went through as
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A child, and so you are there micromanaging your child,
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Micromanaging your child.
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Every micro manager, whether it's in the business world
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Or the family world are always tense and uptight.
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Every little thing is catastrophic,
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Everything is catastrophic.
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Every single thing is an armageddon, and this is when
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A mom and even a dad can be so involved.
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Your children sometimes need to experience the pain, the results
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Of poor choices they make.
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Now we move from near-sighted parenting.
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We move there to what?
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Far-sighted parenting, you see the end, the goal that is
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Out there.
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I want to ask you a question.
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Thirty years from now, your son and your daughter, let's say you
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Have a son.
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That son finishes the university, makes good grades,
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Goes with the corporation.
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Rises to the top.
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Becomes a ceo.
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Oh, how proud i am of my boy.
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He's 30 and he's already ceo of this corporation.
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Oh, he's really got it.
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The only problem is, he's already divorced from his wife.
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He's sending money so she can bring up the kids.
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He's a womanizer.
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He thinks the whole world revolves around him,
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His success, his money, and it's all about me.
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That's your boy, 30 years, boy, upward success.
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Now you have a daughter.
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She knows god, she knew god had a plan for her life.
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She has a gift of teaching, and now she's been teaching
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In the school and boy, she is contagious to the kids.
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They love her.
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She speaks truth into them,
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Information and the word of christ.
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She's not worried about getting married.
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She may or may not, that's no big deal.
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She has a call of god to invest god and christ and information
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In the area of her discipline, her life
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In that son or daughter.
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Which one of those kids would you rather have,
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The boy or the girl?
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Easy answer, isn't it?
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But we are shooting for like the boy, and therefore we are trying
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To micromanage our kids, so they'll be on that road
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To human success.
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And i can tell you for every person who is fabulously,
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Humanly successful, once in a while,
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They stay and walk with god, but so many times they go
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The very opposite direction.
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They're caught up and bought by the world.
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Look at the long picture folks, for the goal out there,
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For the goal that's out there.
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That's g-o-a-l, goal.
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Now, let's just get real, real, real, real practical.
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In disciplinary matters, you say, well, you got a problem of
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Your kids when they come in from school, they take off their
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Shoes, throw them on the floor, throw their jacket over here,
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Go upstairs, undress, take all their school clothes off, throw
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Them on the floor everywhere and they get redressed and you tell
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Them, "go pick up your clothes."
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Well, they don't do it.
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Well, you say it loud.
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"go, go pick up your clothes." they don't do it.
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You say it loud and maybe they pick up part of it.
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What in the world are you gonna do?
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How are you going to discipline them?
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Tell you something, what you do, you go and pick up all their
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Clothes, and put everything where it belongs, shoes,
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Satchel, whatever.
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Then you take that son or daughter with you and say,
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I want you to go with me.
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This is where your shoes belong.
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You got it?
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Yeah. yeah.
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I put them there, right?
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Yeah, this is where your coat-- you saw everything.
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You go through and you walk around and show them firsthand
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As if they didn't know where everything belongs.
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Okay?
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And then you say, next time i say pick up your clothes,
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I want you to put all those clothes right back
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Where they belong, not part of them, some of them,
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All of them.
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If you do not, here's what's gonna happen.
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Saturday, you're gonna stay in your room, you're gonna stay
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Right here.
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I'm taking away all of your equipment, ipads, phone,
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Computers and by the way, you don't discipline
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Proportionate to that which they've done wrong.
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Now, follow me here.
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If a scale of 1 to 10, the worst thing is a 10.
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And let's say they do a three, you punish them on the basis
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As if they'd done a six.
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Well, boy, you're over-punishing me.
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All i did was, you know, steal $5 out of your pocket book.
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No, no, no, no, you punish much more than that, which was
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Rebuked and gone against, and that way, you see,
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You're beginning to train.
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You got me?
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Basic things.
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We had a couple in our church, they moved to another city.
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Great family, had three kids, tremendous christian couple.
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And they set a rule that when you have a birthday party as
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A young child, when you get all your presents, you can keep only
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Two of your presents that you get at a birthday.
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All the rest of them we're gonna give to goodwill.
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That's what they did.
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They'd have a birthday party, they'd pick out two, they'd give
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All the rest of the presents to goodwill.
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Now, also, there was a rule, and one night they told her to pick
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Up their toys, any toys they left out, they would give
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The goodwill.
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And one night, true story, i'm not making it up.
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One night, the little boy named mike was praying and they prayed
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Together at night, and he was praying for his mom, his dad,
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His sister and his brother.
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He was praying for his teachers.
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He was praying for everything and he prayed for goodwill.
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And he continued to pray.
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And he said, lord, i want to be a fine person like goodwill,
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So i don't have to keep giving him all my toys.
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You see parents, there's a lot of ways to discipline
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Your children with love and redemption.
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You say, "well, i want my children to be happy.
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Listen, when you discipline them, they won't always
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Be happy.
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You're not in the business of having a happy child.
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Your business of having a child grow up to be like god
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Designed them,
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And it's expensive to do that, and you want to always be
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Popular, and you wanna always be the best friend with
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Your daughter and with your son.
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You see a lot of people don't discipline, they just pay off
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The child, bribe the child, if you'll do this,
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I'll give you that.
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Or if we go over here.
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Listen, that is the most ignorant, foolish, non-biblical
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Way to bring up a child than you can imagine.
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Now, somebody might say, here's an eight year old.
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Man, he is sarcastic, he is mean, he is vicious,
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He pays no attention.
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We tried everything in the world.
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There's nothing in the world that we can do with him.
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He's eight years old and it's just, he's just a disaster.
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What can i do?
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Dr. rosemond said, a good idea was to be, take that young,
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Rebellious key out of the garden, and put him in the briar
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Patch, and the way you do that, you take everything that is
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Theirs, everything in that room that is theirs.
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Take it out of the room, every single thing and
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Store it somewhere.
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All they've got is their bed and the clothes they wear
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The next day.
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Everything else is removed.
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And say that will last for a month, son.
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Woo, hoo hoo.
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Pretty heavy.
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You will get one of your lesser possessions back every day
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For a month.
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And if as long as you are perfect in being obedient,
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And respectful, and honest within this family.
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But once you fail, bang, we go back down, it goes back
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Into the closet and we start a period over again.
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That's severe.
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Children by definition do not know what is best for them,
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And when you and i fall in fumble, we are being childish
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Because that means at that moment, we didn't know
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What was best for us.
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Operative principal parents.
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This is it.
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If you are having trouble with your child, you say, my child is
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Giving me trouble.
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The problem is not with the child, it is with you
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As a parent.
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You say, well, the psychologist said that this child has,
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And they have all kinds of chemical imbalances.
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They can treat only with heavy medication.
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There may be situations like that, but they are rare and
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Not as prominent as the secular psychologist
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Would have us believe.
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Parenting, parenting.
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Sometimes nearsighted parenting,
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Have to stay in there close.
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Most of the time, it is farsighted parenting
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With a goal in mind, and parents be willing to pay the price.
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It's easier to bribe.
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It's easy to give in.
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It's easier to say yes, than it is to get down in the trench
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And try to love that child all the way to god, and all the way
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To a life that is worthwhile, and beautiful, and fulfilling.
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I was eating in myrtle beach years ago in a restaurant named
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Aunt maude's seafood and country cooking restaurant.
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You can't get a better name for a restaurant than
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That in my book.
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And as i was waiting in line, and restaurants like that,
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You always wait in line incidentally.
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The owner came out, he was speaking to us,
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And i was sitting in a rocker and he came down
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And a rocker came available.
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He sat down and we began to talk.
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He said, i want to tell you a story.
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You may know about it a little bit.
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I was pastoring in columbia, south carolina then.
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And he told me this story, and i've never, never,
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Never forgotten it.
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He said it's about rusty welburn.
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Rusty welburn a year or so before, had gone on a crime
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Spree through the whole state of south carolina, burning,
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Destroying, attacking, being up until finally, he killed
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A beautiful, young 19 year old girl.
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He was prosecuted, death penalty.
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I don't think anybody who knew him or any member of the family
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Were there in the courtroom when he was being tried.
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And this owner said rusty was sentenced to death row and
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He was there for five years.
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But he said, i want to tell you what just happened
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And what happened in those five years he was there.
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Said he was hopeless, helpless.
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He said his story was a tragic story.
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Was brought up in west virginia in the poorest of the poorest
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Of family, numerous children.
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He didn't know who his daddy was.
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His mother had all kinds of diseases, and he just existed,
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Hated by almost everybody, a little bully.
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In junior high school, he had-- he wore for three years,
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One pair of pants and two shirts.
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The teachers didn't like him. he didn't like anybody.
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He fought all the time. he's rejected.
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Tragic story in west virginia.
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When he got in the ninth grade, rusty, dropped out of school.
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He lived under bridges and fields, public restrooms,
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Would steal what he needed to eat, would steal what he wanted,
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Would fight, drugs, alcohol, you name it.
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He went on this spree through south carolina,
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Killed this young girl and now he was in death row.
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At the same time, there was a man named bob mcallister.
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He was the associate chief of staff of the governor
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Of the state of south carolina.
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And the governor's office was close to the state prison.
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And bob was a christian.
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He said, i wanna do something at lunch and have a ministry
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In the prison.
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So he started going to the prison, which he could,
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Had permission because of his affair with the state.
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And he would go every day during lunch time, he would visit those
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On death row.
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He said the first time he went into rusty's cell, he was there
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By himself.
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He said he was lying in the corner in the fetal
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Position, unmoving.
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He said the cell was--stinks, and so, the only thing moving
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Were roaches that were crawling over rusty.
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And he said he didn't even notice to brush one of them off.
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Said he went over there to him and told he was a christian,
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There was hope for him.
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That paul had killed a lot of christians through
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His leadership and that god could forgive him.
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And he said, i read a little of the bible.
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Said rusty just opened his eyes and closed them.
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He never said a word.
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Bob said i went there week, after week, after week,
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And had no response.
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Found the same kind of person who was hopeless and helpless.
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He said, finally, one day i went in and he opened his eyes and
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I told him how god, though he'd committed this heinous crime,
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Could forgive him, and he could be a new person.
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And though he was on death row, he'd have some kind of purpose
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In his life.
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And he said, he listened and suddenly for the first time,
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He broke down and began to cry, he began to cry, conviction.
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And he said, when he got through crying, he prayed to receive
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Jesus in his life.
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He had no hope, no future.
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Nobody cared a hoot about him.
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Nobody even who had known him before you, probably
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He's in prison.
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And he said, bob left.
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He came back the next week.
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He said, in there was rusty sitting in a chair.
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He was a brand new person.
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He was smiling and said, i think god has really forgiven me.
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I feel like a new person.
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So bob mcallister in the next three or four years went there
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Twice a week, read the bible to him, discipled him.
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And he said, rusty felt so guilty.
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He was trying to figure out how he could make restitution
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For all the people he'd robbed, and hit, and beaten.
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And especially to the family of that little girl that
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He had killed.
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And he said of all things, that little girl's brother became
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A christian and he had so hated rusty, because this was the
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Young man who killed his sister.
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But he decided that he must forgive rusty.
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And so he wrote rusty a letter in prison.
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Rusty was thrilled.
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And he scribbled back a note and said, you know, i'm a christian
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And this brother said, i want to come and see you.
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So it was arranged. can you imagine?
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Here's a brother who had become a christian who so hated
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The person who killed his sister, rightly so.
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And now he was coming to see him with his wife.
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Bob mcallister set it up.
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He said i was there when we opened the cell.
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He said they rushed in each other's arm, just weeping,
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Weeping, weeping.
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And that brother said, i forgive you.
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At first, he said, i don't see how you can.
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Speed up the time a little bit.
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It was a day for rusty to be executed for his crime.
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He did not try to get out.
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He told mcallister he was looking forward to dying because
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For the first time he'd have a family, he'd have a family.
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So bob was with him.
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The execution was 1 a.m. in the morning.
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Bob went with him early in the evening.
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He said, rusty, what do you want to do?
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And he said, bob, i'm gonna lie on my cot here.
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Look forward to going to my family i've never had,
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Read the bible to me and pray, read to me about heaven.
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And bob said, he did it, line upon line, verse upon verse,
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Until he looked over there and rusty appeared to be asleep.
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He said, he stopped reading and praying and went over there
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And got a little blanket and covered him with a blanket.
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He called the jailer to open the door and he was going out and
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He said, he didn't know why.
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He said, i just turned around and kissed rusty on the forehead
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And the jailer let me out and i left.
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A couple of hours later, rusty was being carried away
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To his execution.
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And as he was going away, he talked to the person who was
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Going out and said, you know, it's a shame that a man has
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To live to be 23 years of age, that the last night he's on
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This earth, he was kissed and tucked in for the first time.
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Dads, when a mother is a christian, statistically,
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17% of the time the kids will become a christian.
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When the dad is a christian in the family, 93% of the time
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The kids become a christian.
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The shrinking father, kiss, tuck in your kids every night.
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And you'll be a parent who understands how to love and
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Discipline and keeps your eye as a farsighted parent on the goal
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That god has and you must have for that son and that daughter,
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And that is character and christ.
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Ed: there's never been a better time than right
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Now to make god a priority in your life.
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That's why we've created this 90 day devotional, "putting god
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First," number one.
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And when you and i do that, he is faithful to give the
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Direction and guidance you and i need every day to walk
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Through life.
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It is my prayer that this devotional will help you to
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Become all that god has designed you to become.
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Male announcer: call today or go online at winningwalk.org to get
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Your copy of dr. young's 90 day devotional "putting god first."
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Ed: of all the responsibilities god has
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Entrusted to me, i can't think of a more thrilling
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Or challenging one than being a parent.
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Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
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We are to nurture them, to teach them,
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To build in them the right stuff as sons and daughters.
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As you've probably figured out by now,
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Parenting is truly a full-time job, and sometimes,
00:26:28.209 --> 00:26:32.380
It could be an overwhelming task.
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But thankfully, we do not have to do it alone.
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You can begin today by admitting that you don't have
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All the answers.
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I certainly don't.
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And then we turn to the one who does, god.
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God's word, the bible, offers practical principles
00:26:48.930 --> 00:26:52.567
For parenting today and every single day.
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So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills
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And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
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He invented the family.
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Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
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And i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
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Can you?
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♪♪♪
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Ed Young - Character and Commitment

August 17, 2025 | S25 E197 | 29:0

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