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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Dance of Marriage | February 10, 2026
- She taught me
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- The unbelievable dance called the two step.
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- And i got it down so fast.
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- I said, you know, i'm a natural dancer.
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- I got this straight like this fred astaire.
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- Look out, here i come.
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- But i went to that dance, and i didn't have a good time.
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- They made you dance with everybody.
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- And i think i injured
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- A couple of little girls in the process.
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- I'm telling you, the rhythm.
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- I forgot the rhythm.
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- Part of the two step.
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- But marriage is something like a dance.
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- Ladies and gentlemen,
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- Hello, i'm ed young.
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- Strong marriages, healthy families.
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- Don't happen by accident.
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- They are built on faith, commitment and obedience
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- To god's word found in the bible.
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- The bible offers practical guidance
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- For loving one another, resolving conflicts,
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- And building homes that reflect christ.
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- As we study scripture today,
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- My prayer is that god will encourage you
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- And equip you to strengthen your marriage and family
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- Through his everlasting truth.
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- Worldly winning will, family
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- Biblical principles that we'll be looking at together
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- Will help your marriage to sing in a broken world.
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- You'll have wholeness and meaning.
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- And i can tell you some.
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- Every day we seek
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- To let the biblical principles operate in your marriage,
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- In my marriage and your life, and in my life.
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- I'll tell you, the winning world with jesus
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- Christ will come more real and more vibrant
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- And will have more fire to it
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- Than you can imagine.
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- Welcome to the winning walk family.
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- Today we're talking about marri
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- The foundation of marriage.
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- And i read in first corinthians chapter three
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- That paul is talking
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- About the foundation of the church at corinth.
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- And he says, i planted here
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- The words, paul planted the church.
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- He started the church.
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- He said, but i left.
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- And apollos came, and he watered the church.
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- He said, but god allowed the church to grow.
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- And so he was talking about
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- The church is like a garden.
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- Somebody plants, somebody waters, and it grows.
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- And there's a fruit, there's a productivity front.
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- There's always something to do with a garden.
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- Ladies and gentlemen, you have to tend to it
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- Almost every day or it gets out of hand.
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- It's not productive.
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- It doesn't work.
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- That's the way it is in marriage.
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- So i thought to
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- Myself, i would take
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- And i would compare marriage to a garden.
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- And it is a good comparison because we have to make sure
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- The seeds are planted, make sure there's water,
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- Make sure there's nourishment there for it
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- To grow and produce.
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- And this is a picture of marriage.
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- But i decided, no,
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- There's a better picture of marriage than that.
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- I decided the best picture
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- About marriage is a dance.
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- And this really fits perfectly.
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- The scripture we're going to look at.
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- Marriage is like a dance.
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- And i wish i could stand here and tell you
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- I know a lot about dancing, and i do not.
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- My first girlfriend was named.
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- What was her name?
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- Dolores overstreet.
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- She broke up with me mid-point of the second grade.
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- She never knew she
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- Was my girlfriend, so i kind of like.
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- We never dance.
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- But when i was, i guess, early junior high,
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- Somebody had a birthday party
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- And they had the ywca, and they said
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- We were going to dance.
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- I said, dance.
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- Why would anybody want to dance?
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- But i decided i'd better learn.
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- So i went across the street,
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- A girl there, my same age, carolyn touchstone.
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- I mean, she was a dancer.
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- I knew that all of her life.
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- She danced all the time.
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- I said, carolyn,
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- I'm going to this dance, teach me how to dance.
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- She said, oh, i can teach you in a minute.
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- And she taught me the most complex, confusing, multi-step.
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- I mean, it was a tough thing.
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- Today
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- She taught me the unbelievable dance called the two step.
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- And i got it down so fast.
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- I said, you know, i'm a natural dancer.
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- I got this straight like this fred astaire.
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- Look out, here i come.
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- But i went to that dance, and i didn't have a good time.
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- They made you dance with everybody.
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- And i think i injured
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- A couple of little girls in the process.
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- I'm telling you, the rhythm.
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- I forgot the rhythm.
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- Part of the two step.
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- But marriage is something like a dance.
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- Ladies and gentlemen, it's.
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- It's coordinated.
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- It is ready and dancing.
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- You have to have strength.
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- You have to have balance.
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- You have to have rhythm.
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- You have to have tenderness.
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- Dancing is a very, very
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- Tremendous thing.
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- It's a difficult thing when you get in
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- All the complexities of it.
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- I know that much about it.
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- I watch for joe beth most of the olympics.
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- We just got through the summer
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- Olympics and she sat there and tolerated with me.
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- I went from the 3 or 4 olympic channels
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- Trying to find the one i wanted to watch.
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- But what joe beth loves
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- Is the winter olympics,
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- And she loves more than anything else something called
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- Mixed paired ice skating.
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- You know,
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- A man and a woman, and they skate.
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- I can't stand it.
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- I mean, for years, i'd say,
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- Oh, haley.
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- Come on.
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- Oh, my goodness, what in the world are watching?
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- There may be a game on or something,
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- You know, something really poor, like cage fighting.
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- I'm gonna watching.
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- But, you know, i'm want to confess to you.
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- I'd be flipping through and she said, wait, wait,
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- I don't know.
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- And i probably didn't read go back.
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- But you know, through the years,
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- I have to confess, i've watched so much of that.
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- I've grown to appreciate it.
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- Like it. i really have.
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- And the choreographer puts everything out.
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- Every move they make, every step, every turn,
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- Every flick of the ice with their skates, every hand,
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- Everything is all choreographer.
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- So they're worked together in unity and in harmony.
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- But a lot of us don't even know that we have
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- A choreographer for marriage.
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- We're just getting married and lots of luck.
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- The reason it's
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- So important for us not to be unequally yoked.
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- A biblical king james term
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- Is that the man and the woman, the husband, the wife
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- Need to be on the same page.
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- How in the world can there be a dance
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- If one dancer isn't coordinated with the other dancer?
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- And they not according to the
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- The movement, the flow, the markings of the choreographer,
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- It can't happen.
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- They'll end up flat on their seats.
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- This happens in marriages.
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- So i want to bring everybody up to speed
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- As to what the choreographer would have us to do
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- As far as dancing together in a marriage.
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- That really seems that really grows,
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- That really continues to be alive,
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- Is found in the very familiar chapter of ephesians, chapter
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- Five, verse 15, therefore
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- Said paul, be careful how you walk,
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- Not as unwise men and women, but as wives.
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- Or we said, use good sense.
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- I'm not going to fast for anybody.
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- I'm.
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- So then do not be foolish fools,
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- But understand what the will of the lord is.
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- God's will. god's plan.
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- God's purpose is always a plus in any way you look at it.
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- Understand that he wants what's best for us.
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- And then he
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- Says, and do not get drunk with wine, for
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- That is dissipation, but be filled with the spirit.
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- Be filled with the holy spirit, and the word be filled.
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- There means, let the holy spirit control you.
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- Now you're going to discover in just a minute
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- That the holy spirit is the choreographer of your marriage.
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- But we can't get there too fast.
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- Okay,
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- So we are to be controlled by the holy spirit.
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- We're in christ.
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- The holy spirit controls us.
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- Then paul gives us for characteristic to see.
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- Am i controlled by the holy spirit?
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- Are you?
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- Christ is in me.
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- Crisis in you?
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- Is the holy spirit running my life?
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- Running your life?
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- Paul says you can tell there be speaking.
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- You speak to one another.
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- My good.
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- I see somebody and say hello for them to respond.
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- You think i've pulled three teeth, i mean hello? hey.
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- Okay. it's good to speak.
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- We're speaking.
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- We're gregarious.
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- We speak, we sing.
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- We may not sing orally, but we sing in our hearts.
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- We sing in our showers.
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- Man, i love to get in the mornings.
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- And this is the day.
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- This is the day that the lord.
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- I mean, it's all right to sing.
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- Folk make a joyful noise i don't sing.
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- Yes you do.
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- Everybody can sing something.
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- We speak, we sing.
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- There's a song within us.
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- We speak, we sang.
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- We're thankful. we, we're thankful. people.
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- What are the real marks? someone is a christian.
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- There's a spirit of thanksgiving.
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- Thanksgiving.
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- And then the third mark is submission.
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- And this 22nd verse is a key to everything that goes life.
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- Listen to this and be subject.
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- Submit to one another as in the fear of christ.
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- Be subject.
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- It says men be subject to women.
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- Women be subject to men.
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- It says in the marriage relationship, that's
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- How it operates.
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- And then the word here has who?
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- Paul tasso.
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- It means to position yourself under
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- And position yourself under in order of rank.
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- In other words, in marriage a man is to position himself
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- Under his wife.
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- In marriage,
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- The wife is to position yourself under the husband
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- And children.
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- Their children are to position himself under their parents,
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- And the parents are to position himself under their children.
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- In other words, he's talking about at something radical
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- And something that's brand new on the horizon in that day
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- And still misunderstood today.
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- The way to live a successful christian life is in a
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- Is in the position of being surrendered
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- And being and subject to and being under the authority of.
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- So it's mutual submission.
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- And then paul says, let me tell you,
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- If you want to have a magnificent marriage,
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- You've got to be under the instruction
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- Of a divine choreographer.
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- And that's the holy spirit.
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- And then he tells us how this divine choreographer
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- Has planned for the wife to conduct herself
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- Principles by which he is to live.
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- Why, if the marriage is to soar, if it is to sail,
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- If it is to be like a well
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- Look the instructions we have for the wife.
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- Oh, some of you women are going to be upset
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- For about five minutes.
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- Wives
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- Be subject.
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- Submit to your own husbands as to the lord,
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- For the husband is ahead of the wife.
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- Is christ also as head of the church,
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- He himself being the savior of the body,
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- But as a church is subject to christ, so also the wives
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- Automated their own husbands and everything.
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- What's he saying?
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- And by the way, go to the last verse of this section.
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- It says another word for the wives.
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- It says the wife must see to it
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- That she respects her husband.
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- So the divine choreographer,
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- The holy spirit says to wives, gives clear instruction,
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- Revolves around two basic words
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- Submit
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- And respect.
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- Wives are do submit to their husbands,
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- And they are to respect their husbands.
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- Wives, let me tell you, your role.
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- The divine choreographer choreographer has given you
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- A miracle role is you to play the role of jesus.
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- Any female herod, upset by being given
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- The assignment of being like jesus in your marriage?
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- Does that upset any wife here, any woman here?
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- It shouldn't.
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- And that's the assignment.
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- Did you listen carefully?
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- Scripture.
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- You've got god the father, god the son, god the holy spirit.
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- They're are co-equal.
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- One is not superior to the other.
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- One praises.
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- And this is that wonderful dance, that wonderful
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- Dance, the trinity.
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- And by the way,
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- You read in the last verse of this chapter, it says,
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- Marriage is a great mystery, and it certainly is, isn't it?
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- As is the relationship of christ to the church.
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- It is a mystery.
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- So you see, the divine dance there, father, son,
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- Holy spirit, now watch this.
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- When jesus was on this earth,
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- What was his relationship with the father?
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- It was one of submission
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- Because he had a ministry on this earth.
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- What did jesus seek?
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- The will of the father
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- And therefore it is the will of the father
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- And that particular manifestation
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- Of himself on earth that jesus carried out.
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- Jesus was so concerned about what being step
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- With his father, not my will, but thy will be done.
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- He was on a mission.
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- That was his role.
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- Does it mean that jesus was inferior to the father?
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- Absolutely not.
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- That was just his role.
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- Philippians two let this man be in you,
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- Which was also in christ jesus, who, being in the form of god
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- Made, should have no reputation,
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- Took upon him the form of a servant.
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- Humble himself
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- Was obedient under the cross, which was god's will.
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- Therefore, god has highly exalted him.
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- You see what i'm saying?
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- The wife in this
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- Divine manifestation of purpose in marriage,
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- In the dance of marriage, is to be jesus in the sense of
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- Being submissive to the husband who plays the role
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- Of the father, who has that responsible role there,
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- The leadership role there.
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- The greatest thing
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- America needs in the family is for the man
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- To become spiritual leaders in the home period.
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- Selah. now.
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- Let me do some meddling.
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- By asking
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- A few question about leadership in your family.
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- Who handles
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- The money in your home?
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- Does it mean who writes the checks?
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- But who makes the big financial decision?
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- Your home?
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- First question,
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- Same question.
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- The father and mother of present.
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- Both are there.
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- Who determines the children?
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- Hello.
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- Third question.
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- Who makes plans in advance
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- For the family and thinks ahead about what you could do?
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- A washer.
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- Who does that kind of advance planning in the home?
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- Who is that?
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- You've got a problem in the home in the marriage?
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- Who asked?
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- Those big bottom line questions
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- Who does that
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- Answer?
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- Those three four questions and you've found the person
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- Who is the leader in the home.
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- And the problem is,
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- So many husbands are passive.
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- Passive.
- 00:18:42.067 --> 00:18:43.035
- Being passive is a deadly thing to any family.
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- For a male to be involved in.
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- There's a book written years ago.
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- It's about hollywood couples, hollywood families.
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- It's it's a frightening book.
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- It's the title is passive fathers.
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- And while wives.
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- And the passive fathers
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- You have in hollywood,
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- So many of the producers and directors and the attorneys
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- And all the people involved in multi multimillion
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- Dollar businesses, and they work all day and all
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- Night when they come home,
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- They tell their wife, you take care of the kids,
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- You run everything, here's the money. you do it.
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- And they're they're absentee in their family
- 00:19:22.307 --> 00:19:24.710
- And it drives their wives crazy
- 00:19:24.710 --> 00:19:28.280
- Because there's not a man there who assumes any semblance
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- Of leadership, let alone responsibility,
- 00:19:32.017 --> 00:19:35.254
- Who messed up in the garden of eden.
- 00:19:36.021 --> 00:19:37.823
- By the way, do you remember that it was eve
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- Before she looked at that fruit?
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- It looks delicious. oh, god said i should need it.
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- Oh, the snake, said, boy, it's
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- The best thing you've ever put in. you have.
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- You haven't had that fruit. you haven't.
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- And you're you're really no life.
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- You eat that fruit.
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- And eve added to oh, it is delicious.
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- Adam, come and try this. you never had it.
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- Who mashed up eve?
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- Who gets to blame? adam?
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- Right.
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- You don't say boy. eve.
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- We know it's adam. why?
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- He had a responsibility in the home, and he abdicated
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- His position of leadership.
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- So lives submissive.
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- And the other word is to respect.
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- And then we see the divine choreographer
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- Gives us assignment for the man.
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- And look at the next verses.
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- He said, husbands, love your wives,
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- As just as christ also loved the church
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- And gave himself up for sacrifice,
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- So that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her
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- By the washing of water with the word,
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- That he might present himself to church in all her glory,
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- Having no spot, no wrinkle, or any such thing,
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- But that she would be holy and blameless.
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- So husbands are also to love their own lives,
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- As they love their own bodies,
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- Because who loves his own wife, loves himself.
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- It's important we understand that
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- Husbands, what is our role?
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- The wife revolves around two words mean what they were.
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- Have you forgotten?
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- Submit in the sense we're talking about a jesus
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- Submitted to the father and what about the husbands?
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- Submit in respect the wives.
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- The husband is to love and to sacrifice man.
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- How easy it is for
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- Somebody to someone who's laying down their life for you.
- 00:21:24.363 --> 00:21:28.333
- Incidentally, there's a secular survey i bumped into.
- 00:21:28.333 --> 00:21:32.504
- They surveyed 7000 couples who were having trouble
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- In their marriage, and they asked the wives,
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- What is it you want from your husband?
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- And the wives answer.
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- 83% of the 7000 is 83% of the wives answered.
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- I want my husband to love me
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- And ask her husband, what is it you want for your wife?
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- 61% i want my wife to respect me.
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- This is what the bible teaches.
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- Isn't it amazing
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- How the secular world catches up with us?
- 00:22:02.834 --> 00:22:04.803
- They think they found some great truth.
- 00:22:04.803 --> 00:22:06.772
- There it is.
- 00:22:06.772 --> 00:22:08.440
- Husbands, love your wives.
- 00:22:08.440 --> 00:22:10.142
- That's what they need.
- 00:22:10.142 --> 00:22:11.643
- Wives respect her husbands.
- 00:22:11.643 --> 00:22:13.478
- That's what they need.
- 00:22:13.478 --> 00:22:15.881
- And then we go on here and he says exactly
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- How the husband is to deal with the wife.
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- The role of the husband, the wife.
- 00:22:23.555 --> 00:22:25.157
- You know what it is?
- 00:22:25.157 --> 00:22:26.525
- It's the same role.
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- Read it
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- That christ has.
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- Remember, the church is the bride of christ.
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- We're all the bride of christ.
- 00:22:34.433 --> 00:22:36.601
- And it says he will come back and he will take his bride,
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- That you and me who are in christ,
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- He'll present us to the father, and he'll say,
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- Look at the church, look at the bride.
- 00:22:44.976 --> 00:22:47.913
- And he looks at us.
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- Hopefully we're clean and washed and alive
- 00:22:48.914 --> 00:22:52.083
- And moving and have a wholeness and a rhythm about our lives.
- 00:22:52.083 --> 00:22:55.921
- He said, look at our bride.
- 00:22:55.921 --> 00:22:57.923
- Jesus wants to show us off to the father
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- And that great day of coming.
- 00:23:01.426 --> 00:23:04.696
- This is what husbands do with their wives.
- 00:23:04.696 --> 00:23:07.466
- We want to encourage, build up, applaud, cheerlead,
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- Stand behind. not always be cutting
- 00:23:11.436 --> 00:23:14.005
- And barbequing and all of that thing.
- 00:23:14.005 --> 00:23:16.107
- Men get caught up in that guys.
- 00:23:16.107 --> 00:23:17.876
- It is a sad state of affairs.
- 00:23:17.876 --> 00:23:20.111
- I get caught up in it.
- 00:23:20.111 --> 00:23:21.613
- Applaud, build up praise and say this is my bride.
- 00:23:21.613 --> 00:23:26.251
- I want to present her
- 00:23:26.251 --> 00:23:27.686
- Just like christ wants to present us to the father.
- 00:23:27.686 --> 00:23:30.489
- And one day when we stand before god in that judgment
- 00:23:30.489 --> 00:23:33.592
- Seat, we'll look over there and say, there's my wife.
- 00:23:33.592 --> 00:23:36.928
- I didn't recognize her.
- 00:23:37.429 --> 00:23:39.531
- Oh, how magnificent, how, how beautiful, how radiant.
- 00:23:39.531 --> 00:23:43.802
- I knew that was there.
- 00:23:43.802 --> 00:23:45.370
- I just didn't imagine to know what you've come
- 00:23:45.370 --> 00:23:48.306
- Now in that resurrected body, in this eternal life.
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- Let me tell you what marriage is.
- 00:23:53.211 --> 00:23:56.381
- It's the reenactment of the good news.
- 00:23:56.381 --> 00:23:59.518
- You get that marriage is a reenactment of the good news.
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- What is the good news?
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- What god has done for us in jesus christ.
- 00:24:05.123 --> 00:24:07.993
- That is the good news and our marriage is
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- A reenactment of that.
- 00:24:10.462 --> 00:24:13.598
- It's an evangelistic thing.
- 00:24:14.199 --> 00:24:16.101
- It's a calling to other people to see what god is doing in
- 00:24:16.101 --> 00:24:20.071
- Frail human beings like us,
- 00:24:20.672 --> 00:24:23.742
- In this divine relationship we have together.
- 00:24:23.742 --> 00:24:27.245
- That's like a dance.
- 00:24:27.712 --> 00:24:30.181
- But even
- 00:24:30.181 --> 00:24:31.950
- The symbol of marriage is more than that.
- 00:24:31.950 --> 00:24:35.287
- Because when you see lives lived together
- 00:24:36.121 --> 00:24:39.691
- In some marriages,
- 00:24:39.691 --> 00:24:41.793
- Those who are lost and confused and empty and angry
- 00:24:41.793 --> 00:24:46.431
- At the whole world,
- 00:24:46.431 --> 00:24:47.599
- Especially at any thought of marriage
- 00:24:47.599 --> 00:24:50.001
- Or any thought of a home or a house,
- 00:24:50.001 --> 00:24:52.270
- They don't get it, but when they see
- 00:24:52.270 --> 00:24:56.274
- A couple
- 00:24:56.541 --> 00:24:58.810
- Dancing together in marriage,
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- Followed by the divine leadership
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- We have in the bible, you know what marriage is really for.
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- Listen very carefully.
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- The real purpose of marriage
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- Is for people to look at that marriage
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- And they say, oh,
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- It is so
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- Strong.
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- It is so beautiful, it is so magnificent.
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- It is so rare.
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- It is just what is the secret of your marriage?
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- And then their last.
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- Who is your choreographer?
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- I wrote standing on the promises
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- This little book, years ago, because life has a way
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- Of shaking us right to our very foundations.
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- We all face days when circumstances
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- Feel bigger than our faith, and the very ground
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- On which we stand seems to be shaking.
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- But over the years, i found there's
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- Something that never changes.
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- God keeps his promises.
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- This book is designed to help you hold on to that truth
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- Every single day, 24/7.
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- Standing on the promises is a 365 day
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- Devotional short, practical, rooted in scripture,
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- Created to meet you right where you are.
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- Whether you're starting your day or ending your day, or
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- Or just needing encouragement in the middle of your day,
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- Each reading reminds you
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- That god's word is reliable.
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- His presence is real.
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- His promises are working even when you can't
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- See the results yet,
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- And you don't know which promise to claim.
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- My prayer is that this book becomes a daily companion.
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- Strengthen your faith.
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- Restore your confidence, and helping you stand firm
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- No matter what comes your way.
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- I invite you to call the number on the screen and order
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- Standing on the promises today, and discover
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- The peace that surpasses all human understanding
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- That comes from building your life
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- On god's un.
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- Changing word.
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