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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Garden of Marriage | May 3, 2026
- You've heard.
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- You know, here's a bride and groom.
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- Come to the altar and they're down at the front.
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- And i see the man. look at the woman. woman.
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- Look at the man.
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- I know what the man's saying.
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- He's saying, boy,
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- She is going to meet all my needs
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- And you can just almost hear a sucking sound.
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- She's going to meet all my needs.
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- She's going to give me what i want.
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- She's going to complete me for that.
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- And she's going to give me happiness.
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- I want to be happy.
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- She'll make me happy.
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- And she looks at him and says the same thing.
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- He's going to make me happy.
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- He's going to complete my needs and and, you know,
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- Whatever i need there.
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- And what you have, you have two ticks and no dog.
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- Some of you know that this past summer, jobeth
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- And i celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary.
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- It was quite a moment. we.
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- We celebrated it
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- Like we did on our honeymoon 50 years ago.
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- Just the two of us.
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- And highly recommend that sometimes in celebrations
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- We get lost in all the family and friends and etc.
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- And we forget exactly what we're celebrating.
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- Now in our marriage, we have bumped into two verses
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- That i have used and she has used over and over again.
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- I recommend them highly.
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- When i marry someone, i usually mention
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- Both of these verses because they are strategic.
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- It is a chapter four, verse
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- 26 and ephesians chapter four, verse 32.
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- And the 32nd verse says, be kind
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- One to another, tenderhearted,
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- Forgiving one another, even as god, for christ's sake
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- Hath forgiven you.
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- Now take that verse in your marriage
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- And put into practice.
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- You don't have to worry about anything else.
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- Kindness,
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- Tender heartedness and forgiving.
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- Be forgiving.
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- That'll do it.
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- But before you get to the state of needing forgiveness,
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- You need to go back to 26 verse, which paul says,
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- Don't let the sun go down on your anger.
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- What does that mean?
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- It means that when you have a conflict with your mate,
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- You stay up late till your hearts get together.
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- You may always disagree, but you stay up late
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- Until your hearts get together.
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- And sometimes it means simply touching toes under the covers.
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- You know, just man.
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- Because what happens when our heart is bruised
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- And a conflict?
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- We sleep on it.
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- And the next morning we had a bruised start.
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- And we wake up with a cold heart.
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- You know how that works.
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- Thank you very much. yes,
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- The breakfast was okay.
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- I enjoyed it.
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- Hope you have a very nice day.
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- Overly nice.
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- Over the top, you know.
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- Consider it over the top kind,
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- But as phony as a $3 bill.
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- Most of you are smiling.
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- You know what i'm talking about?
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- Don't you? sure.
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- If you're married, you do.
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- So we went to bed with a bruised heart.
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- We didn't deal with it.
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- We wake up the next morning and we have a cold heart.
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- Now, you stay with that cold heart for 3 or 4 days or a week
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- Or a period of time.
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- And guess what happens?
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- You have a hard heart.
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- Metallic, straightforward,
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- No nonsense.
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- Feelings begin to disappear.
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- Bang bang bang.
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- Something has happened.
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- It's now
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- Got all kind of calluses around it. and.
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- And you've got a hard heart toward your mate.
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- Now, stay with that hard heart.
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- And the fourth state of the heart is the most tragic
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- Of all. it's the apathetic heart.
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- That's when you have the idea.
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- I don't care,
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- I have no emotions.
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- I have no feeling toward him or toward her.
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- I could care less when couples sit down and talk with me.
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- And i did it for years, i don't anymore.
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- Very little.
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- And they're still fighting.
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- Man, i'm telling you, i'm she she's i there's hope.
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- If there's still passion and anger.
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- There's hope for that marriage when they come in and say
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- It doesn't make any difference to me.
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- I'm out of here.
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- I'm out of here emotionally, physically, every other way.
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- I'm out of here. see, that's the apathetic heart.
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- What happened
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- Is you had a bruised heart
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- Came a cold heart became a hard heart.
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- And now there's an apathetic heart.
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- And that's when the marriage
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- Is in real, real trouble.
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- So let me begin by
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- Giving an overview of marriage.
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- What's it all about?
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- All right.
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- Open your bibles, if you would,
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- To first corinthians chapter number three,
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- Verse six through verse 11.
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- First corinthians three 6 to 11.
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- Paul is writing.
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- I planned, apollos watered,
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- But god was causing the growth.
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- So then neither the one who plans nor the one
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- Who waters is anything but god, who causes the growth.
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- Now he who plants and he waters are one, but each
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- Will receive his own reward according to his own labor.
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- For we are god's fellow workers.
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- You are god's field and god's building
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- According to the grace of god, which was given to me
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- Like a wise master builder, i laid a foundation
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- And another is building on it.
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- But each man must be careful how he builds on it.
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- For no man can lay a foundation other than the one
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- Which is laid, which is jesus christ.
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- In our
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- Scripture we know paul is talking about the church.
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- He said, the church, the body of christ,
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- Is like a garden.
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- Did you hear the image?
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- You know, i planted, apollos watered.
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- God gave you.
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- The body of christ is like a garden.
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- Also in the bible we're told that marriage
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- Is like the church all the way through and acts.
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- You read the church in your house,
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- The church in their house.
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- And so the church is like a
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- Garden and marriage is like a garden.
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- Now, what does it take to have a successful garden?
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- Let me tell you right up front.
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- It takes planning at the plan time, planning
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- What you're going to have, what you're going to grow.
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- What's the season? what do you need?
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- What's good? what do you expect?
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- Takes planning and it takes planting.
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- You got to plant the seed.
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- You got to plant the garden.
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- Then it takes fertilizing, right?
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- Then it takes watering, then it takes weeding,
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- Then it takes pruning, then it takes harvesting.
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- And then you can celebrate and you can eat that
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- Which is grown.
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- Now, some of you urbanites think that these vegetables
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- Just supernaturally appear in the supermarket.
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- Bang!
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- Look at all those beans.
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- Wonder where they came from.
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- They have been grown.
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- They are a part of the gardening process.
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- So plan your marriage.
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- What does that mean? to plan a marriage?
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- When you plan a garden, you plan on that
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- Which you want to eat, right?
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- You plant turnips because you like turnips.
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- You plant tomatoes because you want tomatoes.
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- You plant corn because you want corn.
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- So that is the purpose of the harvest.
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- I have those vegetables, right.
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- So what is the purpose of marriage?
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- Why do we get married?
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- Why are you married?
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- Why have you? how have you been married?
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- Why do you even ever want to think about marriage?
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- What is it about marriage?
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- What is it?
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- What's the purpose of marriage?
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- In the ancient world, the purpose was
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- Status and security.
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- None of this chemistry.
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- None of this love.
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- It's just if this young kids will be brought together
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- By the family, it would increase the status
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- And security your family.
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- Other words, if your son
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- Or daughter were married, someone that had more prestige
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- In the ancient world
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- Or had more stuff in the ancient world,
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- It increased your family's status and security.
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- They had strength.
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- They could protect you in the ancient world.
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- That's the basis upon which marriage was.
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- That was the purpose of marriage.
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- Increased status, increased security.
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- That's the ancient world.
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- In the modern world, if you date it
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- From the middle ages forward.
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- Why do we get married?
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- Happiness,
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- Man, i want, i want this girl.
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- I want this guy to make me happy.
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- I want to be fulfilled.
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- I think happiness will come.
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- And you've heard.
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- You know, here's a bride and groom.
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- Come to the altar and they're down at the front.
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- And i see the man. look at the woman. woman.
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- Look at the man.
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- I know what the man's saying.
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- He's saying, boy,
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- She is going to meet all my needs
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- And you can just almost hear a sucking sound.
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- She's going to meet all my needs.
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- She's going to give me what i want.
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- She's going to complete me for that.
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- And she's going to give me happiness.
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- I want to be happy.
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- She'll make me happy.
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- And she looks at him and says the same thing.
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- He's going to make me happy.
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- He's going to complete my needs and and, you know,
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- Whatever i need there.
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- And what you have, you have two ticks and no dog.
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- So in the modern world and
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- Most of us, we got married
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- To be happy.
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- Now guess what the biblical,
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- Biblical purpose of marriage is?
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- It's not happiness.
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- It's not status and security.
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- The biblical purpose of marriage is
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- That we are to reenact the gospel.
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- What in the planet is
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- That we are to marriage?
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- The biblical purpose is to reenact the good news.
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- Now, what is the good news?
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- It is that god saw my plight
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- And your plight and the status of mankind.
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- And he sent his son, jesus christ into the world.
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- And jesus christ laid down his life
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- For you and for me.
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- And we joined with him,
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- And we became one with christ, and he became one with us.
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- And that is the good news.
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- And the purpose of that relationship is that you
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- And i might become the glorified self
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- That god designed every person to become.
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- Let me say that again.
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- You and i would become the glorified self.
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- You and i would find the purpose
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- For which god gave us life in the first place.
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- That's the purpose of marriage.
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- And you see it clearly in the scripture.
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- Look again at ephesians chapter number five.
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- If you would
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- Look at verse 25, husbands,
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- Love your wives, just as christ also loved the church.
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- That's the gospel gave himself up for her
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- So that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her
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- By the washing of water with the word.
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- In other words, we get married
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- As we look at our mate and we say, i want to help
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- And be a part of that glorified self
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- Being built up in him or being built up in her.
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- When i was a boy,
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- There was a popular little song called mother.
- 00:13:29.365 --> 00:13:33.135
- Derived from the acrostic motif.
- 00:13:33.135 --> 00:13:37.439
- Though the lyrics are not christian.
- 00:13:38.207 --> 00:13:40.342
- They are certainly universal in their application
- 00:13:40.342 --> 00:13:43.646
- Of mothers everywhere as a child.
- 00:13:43.646 --> 00:13:46.982
- I had to
- 00:13:46.982 --> 00:13:48.083
- Sing this over a radio station in laurel, mississippi.
- 00:13:48.083 --> 00:13:51.420
- Would you believe that?
- 00:13:51.420 --> 00:13:52.688
- And so, as a heartfelt tribute to mothers and mother figures
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- Everywhere, i decided to have some fun
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- With this little acrostic for mother's day.
- 00:13:59.862 --> 00:14:03.265
- For mother's day only.
- 00:14:03.265 --> 00:14:05.401
- So i've created a one week devotional for moms.
- 00:14:05.401 --> 00:14:09.305
- Through these pages, i hope to honor our mothers,
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- Glorify god, and inspire both mothers and children
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- To pray for those whom god has carefully designed
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- To nurture and guide each and every new generation.
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- To get you a copy.
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- Call the number on the screen or visit the website below
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- And give someone who has been a mother figure to you,
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- Or give one to your mother.
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- And by the way, keep one for yourself.
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- Listen to these words.
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- Settle down.
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- Wives.
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- Verse 22.
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- Five be subject
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- To your own husband as to the lord.
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- For the husband is the head of the wife, as
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- Christ also is the head of the church,
- 00:15:01.390 --> 00:15:04.093
- He himself being the savior of the body.
- 00:15:04.093 --> 00:15:06.662
- But as a church is subject to christ also, wives
- 00:15:06.662 --> 00:15:10.265
- Ought to be to their husbands in everything.
- 00:15:10.265 --> 00:15:14.169
- Boy women bristle up i've had when i've read that verse.
- 00:15:14.169 --> 00:15:17.573
- I've had females get up and walk out,
- 00:15:17.573 --> 00:15:20.476
- And i wish they hadn't
- 00:15:20.943 --> 00:15:22.511
- Because they don't understand what it means.
- 00:15:22.511 --> 00:15:25.381
- The role of a wife is to be subject.
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- The role of a husband is the role of sacrifice.
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- Which role had you rather have?
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- A sacrificial role means that a husband is ready
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- To lay down his life for his wife.
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- 24 seven as jesus christ laid down his life for the church,
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- Why is the woman in our role is to be submissive?
- 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:53.776
- By the way, we'll talk about what that means.
- 00:15:53.776 --> 00:15:56.812
- It doesn't mean what we think.
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- For example, in genesis chapter one,
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- God created male and female, right?
- 00:16:03.318 --> 00:16:06.355
- He gave them assignment.
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- They were to have dominion.
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- They were to be stewards of the world.
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- Genesis chapter one.
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- Husband and wife are equal.
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- Genesis chapter two adam is mentioned first. who?
- 00:16:15.397 --> 00:16:20.736
- Then it says about eve she is to be adam's helper.
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- What happened to woman?
- 00:16:24.173 --> 00:16:25.808
- It just a chapter.
- 00:16:25.808 --> 00:16:27.576
- A woman is gone from being equal to the man.
- 00:16:27.576 --> 00:16:30.112
- And now she's all of a sudden adam's helper.
- 00:16:30.112 --> 00:16:33.816
- Now we have the idea.
- 00:16:34.316 --> 00:16:35.250
- That means that my wife's my assistant.
- 00:16:35.250 --> 00:16:38.287
- That's not what it means.
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- The bible says god is my helper.
- 00:16:40.622 --> 00:16:43.358
- Does that mean god is now your assistant? god?
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- I mean, you're.
- 00:16:45.427 --> 00:16:46.862
- Is that what that means?
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- It says the wife is to be a helper.
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- It doesn't mean it says, oh, no,
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- It means that the wife brings strength to adam.
- 00:16:53.302 --> 00:16:56.305
- That have adam absolutely does not have.
- 00:16:56.305 --> 00:16:59.308
- And adam brings strength to the wife
- 00:16:59.308 --> 00:17:03.479
- That the wife did not have.
- 00:17:03.479 --> 00:17:06.148
- So this is a part of the oneness
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- That is here in the sense that jesus,
- 00:17:08.550 --> 00:17:12.154
- Jesus took the role of god.
- 00:17:12.754 --> 00:17:16.058
- Let me,
- 00:17:16.058 --> 00:17:17.192
- Let me say something, give you a big word, ontological.
- 00:17:17.192 --> 00:17:20.195
- Hang in there.
- 00:17:20.529 --> 00:17:23.031
- Until logically,
- 00:17:23.031 --> 00:17:24.700
- The father and the son are equal, right?
- 00:17:24.700 --> 00:17:28.604
- They have equal status.
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- Ontological means
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- In eternity, in timelessness, in reality forever.
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- God the father, god the son are equal.
- 00:17:35.878 --> 00:17:39.081
- Now a theological word.
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- Economically, they say, i'd say cosmological in this life.
- 00:17:41.216 --> 00:17:45.554
- The son was submitted to the father.
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- The life of jesus. right?
- 00:17:47.890 --> 00:17:49.491
- You follow me until father
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- And son equal cosmological jesus.
- 00:17:53.128 --> 00:17:56.498
- Now jesus christ was submitted to the father, right?
- 00:17:56.498 --> 00:18:01.370
- Anything about the bible?
- 00:18:01.370 --> 00:18:02.738
- Now, what is that telling us?
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- If i'm to play the role of jesus?
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- In one sense, you play the role of jesus as a husband,
- 00:18:06.675 --> 00:18:11.380
- As a husband, and that role is one of sacrifice.
- 00:18:11.380 --> 00:18:17.219
- Now, now, the verse to put this together,
- 00:18:17.219 --> 00:18:19.154
- I think, is philippians chapter two, and it says,
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- Have this mind in you, which was also in christ jesus,
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- Who being in the form of god, jesus came to this world
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- As god. man, right?
- 00:18:29.698 --> 00:18:31.066
- Who is the being a form of god made him in self.
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- No reputation took unto him.
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- The form of a servant
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- Was obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
- 00:18:38.340 --> 00:18:41.677
- Wherefore god hath
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- Highly exalted him, and given him a name
- 00:18:43.078 --> 00:18:46.048
- Which is above every name, that name of jesus.
- 00:18:46.048 --> 00:18:48.250
- Every knee should bow, every tongue.
- 00:18:48.250 --> 00:18:49.918
- Could you fast follow me?
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- This who, being in the form of god,
- 00:18:51.186 --> 00:18:54.690
- Jesus became a servant,
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- Was submissive and died on the cross.
- 00:18:57.626 --> 00:19:00.329
- Did jesus belittle himself by being submissive?
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- Oh no, he was submissive.
- 00:19:06.368 --> 00:19:08.070
- So you and i might know salvation.
- 00:19:08.070 --> 00:19:10.973
- So we might be right with god and therefore the wife.
- 00:19:10.973 --> 00:19:14.776
- In her role of submission, she submits to the husband,
- 00:19:14.776 --> 00:19:19.214
- So that in her submission
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- The husband may honor her as his partner in marriage.
- 00:19:21.350 --> 00:19:25.320
- Nobody, a husband or wife owned 51% of the stock.
- 00:19:25.320 --> 00:19:29.825
- And the guys that say, well, you're folks are basic to me
- 00:19:29.825 --> 00:19:33.295
- Don't understand jack about the bible.
- 00:19:33.295 --> 00:19:38.533
- Let me tell you what that means.
- 00:19:39.234 --> 00:19:42.037
- It means as jesus had headship over the church,
- 00:19:42.037 --> 00:19:46.608
- What happened to jesus headship?
- 00:19:46.608 --> 00:19:48.510
- Does he come around and say, you remember my church?
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- I want you to, boy, if you don't do this, i'm
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- Going to send you that boy.
- 00:19:52.914 --> 00:19:54.416
- You're in my does jesus as the head of the church
- 00:19:54.416 --> 00:19:57.319
- As he does he operate like that as the head of the church?
- 00:19:57.319 --> 00:20:00.188
- What did he do?
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- He gave his life,
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- Died on the cross.
- 00:20:04.960 --> 00:20:06.628
- So you and i can be church so you and i could be
- 00:20:06.628 --> 00:20:09.097
- In the family.
- 00:20:09.097 --> 00:20:09.998
- That's the role of headship of a male.
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- We are to live sacrificially for our wives.
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- Why do we do that?
- 00:20:16.471 --> 00:20:17.572
- So we want them to
- 00:20:17.572 --> 00:20:18.674
- Be glorified, to experience that glorified self.
- 00:20:18.674 --> 00:20:22.344
- That's where every christian will end up.
- 00:20:22.344 --> 00:20:24.146
- We'll all have glorified bodies.
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- We'll be glorified selves.
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- The wife is to play
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- The role of jesus in the sense of submission.
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- The husband is to play
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- The role of jesus in the sense of sacrifice,
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- And therefore you have harmony and marriage
- 00:20:38.260 --> 00:20:41.163
- And harmony in their home, and therefore you have a garden
- 00:20:41.163 --> 00:20:45.367
- That is being cultivated, because, you know,
- 00:20:45.367 --> 00:20:48.637
- The purpose of marriage is to see that your wife,
- 00:20:48.637 --> 00:20:51.773
- Your husband is glorified, and you help build in advance
- 00:20:51.773 --> 00:20:55.477
- That glorified self.
- 00:20:55.477 --> 00:20:56.611
- You're helping that gal, that guy, to become
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- All that god had planned for them to become.
- 00:20:59.681 --> 00:21:03.251
- That's your role in marriage.
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- That's the role of jesus.
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- You're beginning to understand it.
- 00:21:08.357 --> 00:21:10.926
- You say, boy, this is sure hard and i don't.
- 00:21:10.926 --> 00:21:13.528
- It is exciting when we understand that.
- 00:21:13.528 --> 00:21:17.299
- But you have to ask the question, man.
- 00:21:18.133 --> 00:21:20.969
- We've gone through some dry times, man.
- 00:21:20.969 --> 00:21:24.673
- We've got so many weeds in our garden of marriage, i.
- 00:21:24.673 --> 00:21:28.410
- I'm just ready to surrender and to give up.
- 00:21:28.410 --> 00:21:31.413
- Say, what's the use?
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- I don't tell you something.
- 00:21:32.681 --> 00:21:35.217
- Stay in the garden,
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- You say. why?
- 00:21:39.020 --> 00:21:42.190
- I understand that biblical grounds.
- 00:21:42.190 --> 00:21:43.925
- We'll get to that.
- 00:21:43.925 --> 00:21:44.726
- Don't get paranoid on me.
- 00:21:44.726 --> 00:21:46.728
- I'll get ahead of the teaching, but stay in the garden. why?
- 00:21:46.728 --> 00:21:51.633
- Malachi 216 says it clearly.
- 00:21:52.234 --> 00:21:55.771
- God hates divorce.
- 00:21:56.204 --> 00:21:59.941
- That's one reason to stay in the marriage.
- 00:22:00.842 --> 00:22:03.879
- Why does god hate divorce?
- 00:22:03.879 --> 00:22:05.280
- Because it is the disruption
- 00:22:05.280 --> 00:22:07.682
- Of a holy covenant between a man and a woman,
- 00:22:07.682 --> 00:22:11.420
- And god and family and friends knelt before him.
- 00:22:11.420 --> 00:22:15.590
- It is a sacred covenant.
- 00:22:15.590 --> 00:22:17.492
- God sees these broken covenants leading into pain
- 00:22:17.492 --> 00:22:21.196
- And pain and pain for the rest of your life.
- 00:22:21.196 --> 00:22:24.232
- Second reads the state of the marriage
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- To stay in the garden is.
- 00:22:26.001 --> 00:22:29.171
- This may be your last chance to grow up
- 00:22:30.005 --> 00:22:34.443
- And say that again.
- 00:22:34.910 --> 00:22:37.612
- Stay in the marriage because it may be
- 00:22:37.612 --> 00:22:39.514
- Your last chance to grow up.
- 00:22:39.514 --> 00:22:44.219
- So stay in the garden.
- 00:22:44.686 --> 00:22:47.055
- God hates the lord.
- 00:22:47.055 --> 00:22:48.256
- Stay in the garden because it is a chance
- 00:22:48.256 --> 00:22:51.059
- That sometimes some way will get honest and stand
- 00:22:51.059 --> 00:22:53.929
- Before that full length mirror in the presence of god.
- 00:22:53.929 --> 00:22:57.232
- And let god say clearly those things
- 00:22:57.232 --> 00:23:00.635
- You need to radically change doesn't happen overnight,
- 00:23:00.635 --> 00:23:03.772
- But you need to deal with it
- 00:23:03.772 --> 00:23:05.073
- And work with it and move through it.
- 00:23:05.073 --> 00:23:07.909
- Now, what are you doing, a crisis.
- 00:23:07.909 --> 00:23:11.246
- There's a crisis in the garden.
- 00:23:11.880 --> 00:23:13.281
- A lot of people hear their crisis in your garden.
- 00:23:13.281 --> 00:23:15.250
- Different kinds different from what do you do?
- 00:23:15.250 --> 00:23:17.686
- A lot of times when you say, man,
- 00:23:17.686 --> 00:23:18.854
- I want to just tear my clothes.
- 00:23:18.854 --> 00:23:20.522
- I want to just rip out.
- 00:23:20.522 --> 00:23:22.123
- I just want to feel so guilty and so ashamed.
- 00:23:22.123 --> 00:23:26.394
- Now it's interesting.
- 00:23:26.895 --> 00:23:27.896
- In the bible you have people who are ashamed.
- 00:23:27.896 --> 00:23:30.565
- They go through sorrow. what do they do?
- 00:23:30.565 --> 00:23:32.200
- They tear their clothes, don't they?
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- In their garments. they.
- 00:23:34.135 --> 00:23:35.270
- They tear their robes all the way
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- Through the bible many times when they tear their robes
- 00:23:36.838 --> 00:23:40.408
- A time of shame and repentance,
- 00:23:40.408 --> 00:23:42.477
- God forgives them and god blesses them when the bottom
- 00:23:42.477 --> 00:23:45.580
- Falls out of our life.
- 00:23:45.580 --> 00:23:46.781
- A lot of us do like that. just want to tear my clothes.
- 00:23:46.781 --> 00:23:49.017
- I shame we fall before god.
- 00:23:49.017 --> 00:23:52.020
- But aaron,
- 00:23:52.320 --> 00:23:54.956
- Who was a high priest
- 00:23:54.956 --> 00:23:57.659
- When his sons were killed
- 00:23:57.659 --> 00:23:59.961
- As a result of their sin,
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- His two sons,
- 00:24:02.931 --> 00:24:04.533
- Aaron was broken hearted.
- 00:24:04.533 --> 00:24:07.402
- God said to aaron, aaron, if you tear your clothes,
- 00:24:07.402 --> 00:24:10.939
- If you tear your robe, i'm going to kill you.
- 00:24:10.939 --> 00:24:14.543
- Well that's strange.
- 00:24:15.010 --> 00:24:16.778
- All the way through the bible, men had torn their robes
- 00:24:16.778 --> 00:24:20.248
- And torn their clothes and ripped them
- 00:24:20.248 --> 00:24:22.284
- At times of sorrow and shame and sin, and god had forgiven.
- 00:24:22.284 --> 00:24:25.620
- And god has blessed us.
- 00:24:25.620 --> 00:24:26.688
- Why, aaron?
- 00:24:26.688 --> 00:24:29.658
- Why did god specifically tell him, don't tear your clothes.
- 00:24:29.658 --> 00:24:33.261
- Don't tear your robe. why?
- 00:24:33.261 --> 00:24:36.164
- Because aaron was a priest.
- 00:24:36.765 --> 00:24:40.268
- Aaron could have an entree into the very presence of god.
- 00:24:41.369 --> 00:24:46.174
- The other people did not have that entree.
- 00:24:46.174 --> 00:24:48.710
- The other people did not have the resources of god.
- 00:24:48.710 --> 00:24:51.246
- And god was saying to aaron, don't tear your clothes
- 00:24:51.246 --> 00:24:55.317
- Because you have all the power and you know the resources
- 00:24:55.317 --> 00:24:59.254
- Of god, that whatever the sorrow,
- 00:24:59.254 --> 00:25:01.323
- Whatever the situation, whatever the broken is,
- 00:25:01.323 --> 00:25:04.125
- Whatever the weeds that are growing,
- 00:25:04.125 --> 00:25:05.927
- Whatever the dry place is, you have the resources of god
- 00:25:05.927 --> 00:25:10.332
- To come and heal and restore and produce life again.
- 00:25:10.332 --> 00:25:15.170
- So don't tear your clothes, aaron.
- 00:25:15.170 --> 00:25:16.605
- Elder people can,
- 00:25:16.605 --> 00:25:17.839
- But you can't because you know the very power of god to heal
- 00:25:17.839 --> 00:25:22.010
- And to take that
- 00:25:22.410 --> 00:25:23.411
- Which was broken and put it back together again.
- 00:25:23.411 --> 00:25:27.515
- You see it.
- 00:25:27.849 --> 00:25:29.484
- So what's the bottom line?
- 00:25:30.051 --> 00:25:32.921
- Stay in the garden.
- 00:25:32.921 --> 00:25:38.560
- And you can be sure
- 00:25:35.757 --> 00:25:40.562
- That if we begin to plan,
- 00:25:40.562 --> 00:25:45.367
- Plant.
- 00:25:45.567 --> 00:25:48.570
- Fertilize, water,
- 00:25:49.004 --> 00:25:52.440
- Weed and prune,
- 00:25:52.807 --> 00:25:55.610
- There'll be a harvest
- 00:25:56.111 --> 00:25:58.313
- And there'll be celebration
- 00:25:58.313 --> 00:26:00.815
- In the garden and in your marriage.
- 00:26:00.815 --> 00:26:05.020
- When i was a boy,
- 00:26:05.453 --> 00:26:06.721
- There was a popular little song called mother.
- 00:26:06.721 --> 00:26:10.492
- Derived from the acrostic motif.
- 00:26:10.492 --> 00:26:14.796
- Though the lyrics are not christian.
- 00:26:15.563 --> 00:26:17.699
- They are certainly universal in their application
- 00:26:17.699 --> 00:26:21.002
- Of mothers everywhere as a child.
- 00:26:21.002 --> 00:26:24.339
- I had to
- 00:26:24.339 --> 00:26:25.440
- Sing this over a radio station in laurel, mississippi.
- 00:26:25.440 --> 00:26:28.777
- Would you believe that?
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- And so, as a heartfelt tribute to mothers and mother figures
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- Everywhere, i decided to have some fun
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- With this little acrostic for mother's day.
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- For mother's day only.
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- So i've created a one week devotional for moms.
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- Through these pages, i hope to honor our mothers,
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- Glorify god, and inspire both mothers and children
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- To pray for those whom god has carefully designed
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- To nurture and guide each and every new generation.
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- To get you a copy.
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- Call the number on the screen or visit the website below
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- And give someone who has been a mother figure to you,
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- Or give one to your mother.
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- And by the way, keep one for yourself.
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