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Ed Young - A Grace-Full Marriage

April 12, 2026 | 27:29

Ed Young - A Grace-Full Marriage
The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young is the international on-air and online teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young. The Winning Walk proclaims the proven truth of God’s Word to give men and women the world over a winning way to live life.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - A Grace-Full Marriage | April 12, 2026
  • Somebody said, you know,
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  • My marriage is killing me.
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  • That's exactly what it's supposed to do.
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  • It is to kill us.
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  • Anyone would come after me,
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  • Let him deny himself, take up his cross and die.
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  • What? daily
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  • Marriage is to kill the self.
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  • Remember that taking god so, so self.
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  • The self that's in you and the self that is within me.
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  • Well, how does this work?
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  • Strategic
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  • Word of scripture
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  • Found in psalm 127.
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  • It reads,
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  • Unless the lord builds the house,
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  • They labor in vain
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  • Who build it
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  • Say after me, unless the lord builds
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  • The house.
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  • They labor in vain.
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  • Who build it?
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  • Do you realize what a strong
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  • Dogmatic statement that is?
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  • It says, unless
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  • The lord builds the house,
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  • The family, the church, if there has to be a home
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  • And a house, the lord has to do it.
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  • You say, surely there's a plan b?
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  • No, surely there's some other ways
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  • You can build a family, a marriage other than this
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  • Exclusive way?
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  • No, you say god is like that
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  • All the way through the old testament.
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  • You can look at deuteronomy four.
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  • He says, i am alone. god.
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  • You can look in isaiah 45.
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  • He claims to be the exclusive, the one and only.
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  • You get the new testament.
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  • It is compounded.
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  • Jesus says in john 14,
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  • I am the way,
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  • The truth, the life,
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  • And nobody under any other conditions
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  • Can come to the father except through me.
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  • That's pretty limiting, isn't it?
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  • You see, we don't like that.
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  • As americans, we say we live in a pluralistic society.
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  • People can decide for themselves.
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  • There are many ways.
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  • There are many opportunities where, as luke says in acts,
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  • He said, there's only one name by which you might be saved.
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  • Just one name. that's the only name.
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  • Jesus.
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  • In the garden of gethsemane,
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  • He looked at the cross and saw that
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  • In the cup of death he was about to drink,
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  • All the filth would be poured into his life.
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  • And he says, lord, let this cup pass from me.
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  • He said, is there any other way?
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  • God says, no, there's
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  • Only this one way.
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  • So unless the lord builds the house,
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  • The family, parenting,
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  • There's no subsets.
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  • There's no fine print,
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  • There's no other design.
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  • Unless the lord builds the house.
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  • They that labor labor foolishly.
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  • There's only one way
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  • To get a home into a house.
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  • Now, the secularists,
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  • They really get upset at this.
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  • Even those of us who are christian say, you know,
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  • We don't want to be too dogmatic, too pious, but
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  • God knows and recognizes that this is a very
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  • Strong preemptive statement,
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  • A thesis with no other alternatives
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  • Unless the lord builds the house,
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  • There's no other way to do it.
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  • Look with me in matthew
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  • Chapter number seven.
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  • It's the end of the sermon on the mount.
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  • Remember matthew five
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  • Six and seven
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  • Contains the beatitudes and the basic fundamentals
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  • Of how the christian life operates.
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  • It's the most profound statement of ethics,
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  • Morals, how to live
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  • Ever written in the history of the written word.
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  • Matthew 567 and how in the world would you
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  • And the greatest teaching
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  • Ever pronounced in all of history?
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  • How would you in that?
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  • What would be the climax of it?
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  • And we read that in our scripture.
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  • It relates directly to our thesis abroad.
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  • Thesis.
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  • Unless the lord builds the house,
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  • Our labor is foolishness.
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  • It doesn't work unless the lord builds the house.
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  • But look how this fits in
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  • Verse 24.
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  • Matthew seven therefore,
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  • Therefore meaning everything that has gone before,
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  • Matthew 567, some of them out there for
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  • Everyone who hears these words of mine and acts on them,
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  • May be compared to a wise man who builds his house
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  • On the rock.
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  • And the rain fell, and the floods came,
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  • And the winds blew and slammed against the house.
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  • And yet it did not fall, for it had been founded on the rock.
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  • Everyone who hears these words of mine and does not act on
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  • Them, will be like a foolish
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  • Man who built his house on the sand.
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  • The rain fell, the floods came, the winds blew
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  • And slammed against the house, and its fall was great.
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  • Was was great was its fall.
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  • It fell.
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  • The fall was great.
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  • That's the end of the sermon.
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  • We know that story.
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  • Two builders,
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  • Two foundations.
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  • Two results.
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  • One catastrophic event.
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  • Same thing.
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  • Let's look at it.
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  • Build a house over here
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  • On sand.
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  • Build a house over here.
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  • Own rock.
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  • The house built on sand.
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  • My goodness.
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  • It starts to go up immediately.
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  • It begins to show the two befores.
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  • Two by age, two by sixes. it goes up.
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  • And before long you see the the forming of the roof.
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  • And the roof begins to put on.
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  • And what's the matter with this bunch over here?
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  • They haven't even come out of the ground.
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  • They're still digging.
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  • They're going down trying to find rock.
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  • And sometimes you had to go down over 30ft in israel
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  • To find any rock, though it's a very rocky land.
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  • And all of a sudden this house is moving on.
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  • It's in the dry, the roof is on, and they're still digging.
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  • This house is bigger.
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  • It's cheaper.
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  • It's going to be beautiful.
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  • Hey, it's going right up.
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  • My goodness, they're saying, what's the matter
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  • With these folks over here in your house?
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  • You hardly have anything coming out of the ground.
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  • You've been working the same times.
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  • They've been working.
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  • And finally, the two houses get built.
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  • Well, this one is bigger,
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  • Under budget.
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  • More beautiful than this house.
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  • Solid.
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  • It's up. it's nice.
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  • So you got
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  • Two different builders, two
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  • Different kinds of foundations,
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  • And then the same storm.
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  • Come read it. identical words.
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  • There's a house built on rock,
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  • Rain, flood,
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  • Winds lashed against the house.
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  • Sound familiar?
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  • Hurricane ike, we can name them.
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  • And the same thing happened to this beautiful,
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  • Spacious house.
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  • Larger house, cheaper house.
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  • Magnificent.
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  • Out they went up so rapidly lashed against that house.
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  • What happened?
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  • This house
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  • Flattened
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  • This house stood.
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  • Ladies and gentlemen, understand something?
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  • There is no pleasure
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  • That would compensate
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  • For a house that has been built.
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  • That when trouble and trials and tribulations
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  • Comes and the house collapse on your head,
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  • There's no way that you have
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  • Short chains taken half way steps
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  • That will compensate for the house
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  • Being flattened.
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  • And the truth is,
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  • All of us in life will face these catastrophic moments.
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  • Most of us can say, yes, i've been there.
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  • It was hell.
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  • It was in my marriage.
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  • It was in my kids.
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  • It was in my vocation.
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  • It was in relationships.
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  • It was in, on and on. and on.
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  • We could make a list, say where to go from here
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  • All the way to dallas.
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  • Of all the
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  • Tribulations we've gone through.
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  • So storms will come.
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  • The storms have come.
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  • Storms will come again.
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  • It's called life in a fallen world.
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  • Is it not?
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  • And the problem is so many of us.
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  • So we did not know it.
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  • We built our foundation of our homes,
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  • Of our life, our houses on sand.
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  • But when storms come.
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  • The sandy soil moves away.
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  • And many people get flattened, while others
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  • When the storms come.
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  • Many people stand up and stand tall
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  • And come out of the storms stronger than they were
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  • Prior to the hurricane.
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  • The hurricane in life.
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  • So how do we know
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  • If the lord builds a house?
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  • It stands.
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  • If a house is built on any other foundation
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  • Other than the foundation of the lord, it will not stand.
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  • It will not function.
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  • You see, in many of us, the
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  • Lord is a subcontractor.
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  • God insists on
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  • Being the general contractor, doesn't he?
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  • He has the blueprint.
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  • Here's the foundation.
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  • He is a general contractor and he will put a house
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  • That will stand on top of it.
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  • Now, what about your life?
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  • What about your house?
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  • What about your family?
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  • How do we know what that foundation is really?
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  • Our scripture tells us.
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  • Did you catch it?
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  • Jesus said, he who hears
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  • And acts on my word.
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  • Oh, we're good to hear.
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  • All of you seem to be here.
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  • And now i have 2 or 3.
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  • You've dozed off. that's all right.
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  • I just want you to start away.
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  • If i put you to sleep, it's okay.
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  • But we're good at hearing.
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  • But the
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  • Test is in the acting and the doing.
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  • So this foundation is all the teachings of jesus.
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  • It is jesus himself.
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  • And he says the foundation that he wants us to put
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  • In, that he will put in for us as our general contractor.
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  • We have to hear and we have to do.
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  • The rock is jesus.
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  • But it's more than just understanding on jesus.
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  • It's letting the holy spirit, as we are in christ,
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  • Put those principles and practice in your life,
  • 00:12:56.899 --> 00:12:59.935
  • In my life, in your house and in my house.
  • 00:12:59.935 --> 00:13:04.874
  • Everybody wants a happy home.
  • 00:13:05.507 --> 00:13:08.510
  • But let's be honest.
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  • A happy home doesn't just happen.
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  • It's built.
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  • It's shaped.
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  • Day by day by day.
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  • That's why i want to encourage you to read
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  • This little booklet, cardinal rules for a happy home.
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  • This 90 day devotional is from
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  • Decades of real life pastoring,
  • 00:13:26.061 --> 00:13:29.331
  • Counseling, and building my own home and family.
  • 00:13:29.331 --> 00:13:32.701
  • In the page of this
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  • Book each day you will find a simple rhythm
  • 00:13:34.169 --> 00:13:37.506
  • As of scripture,
  • 00:13:37.907 --> 00:13:39.742
  • Practical, down to earth navigation,
  • 00:13:39.742 --> 00:13:42.678
  • And a guided prayer to help you bring it all home.
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  • We're not talking about something complicated here.
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  • We're talking about just 15 minutes a day.
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  • 15 minutes.
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  • Did you can strengthen your marriage and refocus
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  • Your home on what matters the most in christ
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  • Centered, foundation, practical, down to earth.
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  • Your life.
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  • Because when christ is at the center, guess what?
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  • Everything else changes.
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  • Conversations change.
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  • Priorities change.
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  • Hearts begin to change.
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  • Take that first step today.
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  • Call the number or visit the website below
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  • And get cardinal rules for a happy home
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  • And begin your 90 day journey
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  • Right now.
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  • Unless the lord builds
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  • A house, any other way of building
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  • A house will not have a foundation.
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  • It will be a sandy foundation and not a rocky foundation.
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  • And jesus, as a general contractor comes
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  • And says, i am the foundation, but you have to hear
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  • And you have to act it out and you have to speak it out,
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  • And we speak the truth and love.
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  • And that leads us to grace.
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  • Grace.
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  • What we need is grace.
  • 00:15:09.631 --> 00:15:11.500
  • What is grace?
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  • Oh, there's so many wonderful definitions.
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  • Grace is something we need
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  • And do not deserve.
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  • Grace is god's love, acting in time and space
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  • In jesus to bring us into right relationship
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  • With our heavenly father.
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  • That's grace. it's amazing.
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  • It's hard to describe it's truth
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  • Plus love. it's
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  • Unmerited, overwhelming,
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  • Almost impossible to define.
  • 00:15:42.664 --> 00:15:45.501
  • We cannot measure it.
  • 00:15:45.501 --> 00:15:48.203
  • It is god acting in time
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  • And history and in your life and in my life.
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  • And we have to have truth
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  • And love and grace in that foundation.
  • 00:15:57.246 --> 00:16:01.183
  • That's how god builds a house,
  • 00:16:01.183 --> 00:16:06.221
  • And we see it so dramatically
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  • And grace full marriages.
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  • Is your marriage full of grace?
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  • Marriage is something.
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  • If you're not married, you don't know that.
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  • If you are married, you say it's early. is
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  • Marriage.
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  • You say we fall in love right?
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  • And then we are loved
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  • And we reciprocate with love.
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  • We're in love and we're with love.
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  • And then finally that comes moments that we have to do.
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  • Love somebody, say, well, i don't love her anymore.
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  • I don't have any feelings anymore.
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  • Somebody said, you know, my marriage is killing me.
  • 00:16:48.063 --> 00:16:51.400
  • That's exactly what it's supposed to do.
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  • It is to kill us.
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  • Anyone would come after me,
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  • Let him deny himself, take up his cross and die.
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  • What? daily
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  • Marriage is to kill the self.
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  • Remember that taking god so, so self.
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  • The self that's in you and the self that is within me.
  • 00:17:14.923 --> 00:17:19.027
  • Well, how does this work?
  • 00:17:19.027 --> 00:17:21.263
  • So. and kirkegaard tells a story
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  • About a costume ball.
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  • Everybody came with their mask on, all them,
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  • All their outfits on.
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  • And, and the first half, first half
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  • Part of the ball, nobody knew who anybody else was.
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  • They were masked, they had their costumes
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  • And they had a time.
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  • They danced, they ate, they moved around.
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  • But at 12:00, bang, the mask came off.
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  • And now everybody
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  • Recognized and knew who the other person was.
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  • And the whole atmosphere of the ball
  • 00:17:53.862 --> 00:17:58.000
  • Changed its character.
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  • You say, when does that happen?
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  • When does our mask come off?
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  • You say, sound like judgment day to me?
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  • No, no, no, it's called marriage.
  • 00:18:06.441 --> 00:18:09.311
  • That's when the mask comes off.
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  • If this were a bridge
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  • And this bridge looks pretty solid,
  • 00:18:15.884 --> 00:18:18.654
  • But it's been here a long, long time
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  • And has many cracks in it, many flaws in it.
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  • You wouldn't know it unless an 18 wheeler
  • 00:18:25.861 --> 00:18:29.198
  • Loaded with ball bearings drove over this bridge,
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  • And all of a sudden,
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  • All the issues, all the cracks will begin to appear
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  • And you would see them.
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  • Marriage is a 18 wheeler driving
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  • Right through your life, in my life.
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  • And suddenly
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  • That person we're closer to is than anybody else
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  • On the earth,
  • 00:18:46.815 --> 00:18:48.250
  • Closer than our parents,
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  • You know, 18 years or so and we move out
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  • Closer than our children
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  • 18 years or so, and they move out.
  • 00:18:57.626 --> 00:19:01.263
  • But in marriage, do you remember that part
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  • When somebody said,
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  • Till death do you part?
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  • There's an intimacy there. you.
  • 00:19:12.040 --> 00:19:16.878
  • And in that intimacy, your partner, your mate,
  • 00:19:17.846 --> 00:19:20.983
  • Your spouse sees all the cracks
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  • And the mask is taken off,
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  • And therefore you find then whether or not
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  • You have a grace full marriage.
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  • You could tell me
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  • That that's the ugliest tie
  • 00:19:41.036 --> 00:19:42.804
  • You've ever seen in your life.
  • 00:19:42.804 --> 00:19:45.641
  • Everybody who could vote.
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  • That is an ugly tie.
  • 00:19:47.843 --> 00:19:50.178
  • But jill beth told me this morning,
  • 00:19:50.178 --> 00:19:53.282
  • I like your tie,
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  • I don't care what are you saying?
  • 00:19:55.817 --> 00:19:58.620
  • Doesn't make a better difference.
  • 00:19:58.620 --> 00:20:00.989
  • You see, our mate defines us.
  • 00:20:01.623 --> 00:20:05.060
  • Everybody else can say you're dumb and you're
  • 00:20:05.927 --> 00:20:08.764
  • Making say, you know, you're sharp, i'm sharp.
  • 00:20:08.764 --> 00:20:13.101
  • See? you're marriage partner really reprograms
  • 00:20:13.101 --> 00:20:17.339
  • Your whole self image.
  • 00:20:17.339 --> 00:20:20.475
  • Because they see warts and all.
  • 00:20:21.109 --> 00:20:24.913
  • And if it is a graceful marriage,
  • 00:20:25.647 --> 00:20:29.551
  • The marriage kills us.
  • 00:20:30.018 --> 00:20:32.954
  • And we discover that marriage isn't all about me,
  • 00:20:32.954 --> 00:20:36.458
  • All about my needs, all about my happiness, all about my joy.
  • 00:20:36.458 --> 00:20:41.229
  • We discovered that marriage is about the partner
  • 00:20:41.229 --> 00:20:45.067
  • That we said i do, too.
  • 00:20:45.067 --> 00:20:46.835
  • And our highest priority is to see him
  • 00:20:46.835 --> 00:20:50.138
  • And her fulfilled and love and complete.
  • 00:20:50.138 --> 00:20:54.843
  • You say, well, that i do.
  • 00:20:55.410 --> 00:20:56.912
  • That just takes everything away from me.
  • 00:20:56.912 --> 00:20:58.780
  • I know, no, we don't lose our personalities, but we happen.
  • 00:20:58.780 --> 00:21:02.918
  • Our personalities, our character is we made
  • 00:21:02.918 --> 00:21:06.521
  • And we begin to discover how to speak the truth in love
  • 00:21:06.521 --> 00:21:11.293
  • And in grace.
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  • That's a graceful marriage.
  • 00:21:12.094 --> 00:21:14.262
  • In that marriage, the main
  • 00:21:14.262 --> 00:21:16.264
  • Operative word, and there are many, is the word forgiveness.
  • 00:21:16.264 --> 00:21:21.203
  • As god has
  • 00:21:21.503 --> 00:21:22.571
  • Given us where to be in the forgiveness business.
  • 00:21:22.571 --> 00:21:25.540
  • I bumped into an old, old story.
  • 00:21:26.274 --> 00:21:28.877
  • And i'd never seen forgiveness. and before david.
  • 00:21:28.877 --> 00:21:31.546
  • And by shiva rang a bell with everybody.
  • 00:21:31.546 --> 00:21:34.683
  • Say, i didn't read in the bible,
  • 00:21:35.417 --> 00:21:36.918
  • But i sure saw the movie
  • 00:21:36.918 --> 00:21:40.088
  • David and bathsheba.
  • 00:21:40.088 --> 00:21:41.256
  • It's a story.
  • 00:21:41.256 --> 00:21:42.624
  • It's a tragic story, but it's a story of forgiveness.
  • 00:21:42.624 --> 00:21:47.195
  • And perhaps we've only got to the tragic part.
  • 00:21:48.163 --> 00:21:51.500
  • David looked, saw the beautiful woman.
  • 00:21:51.500 --> 00:21:53.602
  • He was married. she was married.
  • 00:21:53.602 --> 00:21:55.437
  • She was miss universe taking a bath.
  • 00:21:55.437 --> 00:21:58.407
  • And there was lust.
  • 00:21:58.407 --> 00:21:59.775
  • There was adultery,
  • 00:21:59.775 --> 00:22:02.210
  • There was murder, and there was lying,
  • 00:22:02.210 --> 00:22:05.113
  • And there was an unwanted pregnancy.
  • 00:22:05.914 --> 00:22:08.784
  • Now, if you want to have a terrible way
  • 00:22:08.784 --> 00:22:11.453
  • To start a marriage, you just hardly can beat that.
  • 00:22:11.453 --> 00:22:15.290
  • That's what they had.
  • 00:22:15.791 --> 00:22:18.460
  • Lust, adultery,
  • 00:22:18.460 --> 00:22:21.263
  • Murder, lying wine, lying boy,
  • 00:22:21.263 --> 00:22:25.167
  • What could ever happen in that situation?
  • 00:22:25.167 --> 00:22:29.237
  • Years go by.
  • 00:22:29.571 --> 00:22:31.807
  • God does a work of grace
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  • In david as he has confessed and repented.
  • 00:22:33.809 --> 00:22:36.778
  • I'm sure bathsheba was a part of that. now.
  • 00:22:36.778 --> 00:22:39.481
  • They were husband and wife.
  • 00:22:39.481 --> 00:22:40.949
  • God does a work of grace, and when
  • 00:22:40.949 --> 00:22:44.586
  • God was looking
  • 00:22:44.953 --> 00:22:46.421
  • For someone in the messiah
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  • To bring in the davidic line
  • 00:22:49.958 --> 00:22:52.727
  • Of prophecy.
  • 00:22:52.727 --> 00:22:55.697
  • God selected joseph
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  • As a surrogate father to mary
  • 00:23:00.435 --> 00:23:03.638
  • To bring in that royal line of prophecy,
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  • And there for bathsheba now
  • 00:23:07.409 --> 00:23:10.111
  • Is the great great great great
  • 00:23:10.111 --> 00:23:14.549
  • Grandmother of jesus.
  • 00:23:14.549 --> 00:23:17.486
  • So how can this be?
  • 00:23:17.486 --> 00:23:20.088
  • Many scholars believe this same bathsheba
  • 00:23:20.088 --> 00:23:23.792
  • Wrote proverbs
  • 00:23:24.125 --> 00:23:25.961
  • 31, a worthy woman who can find,
  • 00:23:25.961 --> 00:23:28.697
  • Which is probably one of the most profound, beautiful
  • 00:23:28.697 --> 00:23:32.968
  • Proclamations of a feminine life that you can find
  • 00:23:32.968 --> 00:23:39.574
  • That is a
  • 00:23:39.875 --> 00:23:42.477
  • Graceful
  • 00:23:42.477 --> 00:23:45.013
  • Marriage
  • 00:23:45.013 --> 00:23:46.515
  • Doesn't mean, oh, it's good all this happened.
  • 00:23:46.515 --> 00:23:48.783
  • No, that wasn't god's plan.
  • 00:23:48.783 --> 00:23:50.685
  • But in the tragedy, in the storm that came out of
  • 00:23:50.685 --> 00:23:55.223
  • It came grace and forgiveness.
  • 00:23:55.223 --> 00:23:59.494
  • A couple was celebrating
  • 00:24:00.028 --> 00:24:01.563
  • Their 50th wedding anniversary.
  • 00:24:01.563 --> 00:24:04.332
  • All the kids came.
  • 00:24:04.766 --> 00:24:06.134
  • The grandkids came, and they sort of
  • 00:24:06.134 --> 00:24:09.704
  • Cornered grandmother and said,
  • 00:24:09.704 --> 00:24:12.140
  • What in the world did you and grandfather
  • 00:24:12.140 --> 00:24:14.910
  • Do these 50 years that you're so happy in love,
  • 00:24:14.910 --> 00:24:19.481
  • But you've had so much fun and and look at all of us.
  • 00:24:19.481 --> 00:24:23.151
  • What in the world did you do to make your marriage seem?
  • 00:24:23.151 --> 00:24:27.622
  • What did you do?
  • 00:24:28.023 --> 00:24:29.958
  • And the grandmother said, well, when i married
  • 00:24:29.958 --> 00:24:32.060
  • Your grandfather
  • 00:24:32.060 --> 00:24:34.863
  • Said, i made a list of ten things
  • 00:24:34.863 --> 00:24:38.066
  • I saw, ten flaws in his personality right up front.
  • 00:24:38.066 --> 00:24:42.637
  • And she
  • 00:24:42.871 --> 00:24:43.939
  • Said, i said, i'm taking this list of ten things.
  • 00:24:43.939 --> 00:24:46.808
  • And if he violates anything on that list,
  • 00:24:46.808 --> 00:24:51.746
  • I'll forgive him.
  • 00:24:52.180 --> 00:24:54.215
  • And she said, i've carried that list with me everywhere i go.
  • 00:24:54.215 --> 00:24:58.119
  • And a granddaughter said, boy, would you
  • 00:24:58.119 --> 00:25:00.956
  • Give us a copy of that list?
  • 00:25:00.956 --> 00:25:04.726
  • And she said,
  • 00:25:05.093 --> 00:25:06.161
  • With a twinkle in her eye, you know, the truth is,
  • 00:25:06.161 --> 00:25:09.130
  • I never did make a list.
  • 00:25:09.664 --> 00:25:12.867
  • But she said, every time your grandfather
  • 00:25:12.867 --> 00:25:16.004
  • Would make me hopping mad, i'd look at him and say,
  • 00:25:16.004 --> 00:25:19.941
  • I'm sure glad that's on that list.
  • 00:25:19.941 --> 00:25:25.847
  • Everybody wants a happy home.
  • 00:25:26.481 --> 00:25:29.484
  • But let's be honest.
  • 00:25:29.484 --> 00:25:30.986
  • A happy home doesn't just happen.
  • 00:25:30.986 --> 00:25:33.888
  • It's built.
  • 00:25:33.888 --> 00:25:35.156
  • It's shaped.
  • 00:25:35.156 --> 00:25:36.591
  • Day by day by day.
  • 00:25:36.591 --> 00:25:38.727
  • That's why i want to encourage you to read
  • 00:25:38.727 --> 00:25:41.296
  • This little booklet, cardinal rules for a happy home.
  • 00:25:41.296 --> 00:25:44.532
  • This 90 day devotional is from
  • 00:25:44.532 --> 00:25:47.035
  • Decades of real life pastoring,
  • 00:25:47.035 --> 00:25:50.305
  • Counseling, and building my own home and family.
  • 00:25:50.305 --> 00:25:53.675
  • In the page of this
  • 00:25:54.142 --> 00:25:55.143
  • Book each day you will find a simple rhythm
  • 00:25:55.143 --> 00:25:58.480
  • As of scripture,
  • 00:25:58.880 --> 00:26:00.715
  • Practical, down to earth navigation,
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  • And a guided prayer to help you bring it all home.
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  • We're not talking about something complicated here.
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  • We're talking about just 15 minutes a day.
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  • Did you can strengthen your marriage and refocus
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  • Your home on what matters the most in christ
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  • Centered, foundation, practical, down to earth.
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  • Your life.
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  • Because when christ is at the center, guess what?
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  • Everything else changes.
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  • Take that first step today.
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  • Call the number or visit the website below
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  • And get cardinal rules for a happy home
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  • And begin your 90 day journey
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  • Right now.
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  • Life is a journey of faith.
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  • One step at a time.
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  • There'll be moments of clarity and moments
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  • When you simply have to trust god for the next step.
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  • Keep your eyes on
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  • Him and keep moving forward in faith.
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  • This will give you a winning walk every single day.
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