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Ed Young - The Husband Challenged

June 10, 2026 | 27:29

Ed Young - The Husband Challenged
The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young is the international on-air and online teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young. The Winning Walk proclaims the proven truth of God’s Word to give men and women the world over a winning way to live life.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Husband Challenged | June 10, 2026
  • Hold her hand.
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  • Keep on holding her hand.
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  • Understand your wife.
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  • Get a phd on your wife.
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  • Honor your wife in every way so that you become
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  • Somebody who can really pray and be clean before god.
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  • As you're open and clean before your wife and everything.
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  • What a difference that would make.
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  • Answered prayer.
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  • Here is a feller air with you
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  • On the grace of life.
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  • Today i'm going to say clearly
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  • What the role of a husband is in marriage.
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  • In a biblical marriage,
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  • This is what how i'm supposed to live
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  • If i'm in christ, is how every man here is supposed to live
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  • If they're in christ.
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  • If you're not married now and you marry somebody else.
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  • Gentlemen, someday, this is how you are to live.
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  • I didn't say your wife.
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  • This is how the husband is to live.
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  • And the number one
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  • We have today in the marriage
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  • Arena is that men have forgot their role.
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  • And they forgot to be men and masculine in their relationship
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  • With the world, and particularly
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  • Their relationship with their wife.
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  • If men.
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  • You guys right here.
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  • If we would stand up
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  • And live according to biblical principles.
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  • Well, i can't do that.
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  • If you're in christ,
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  • The holy spirit is in your life,
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  • And the holy spirit will empower you and empower me
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  • To live according to those principles.
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  • Very clear,
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  • Very plain.
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  • So what are those principles?
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  • Well, you look at ephesians chapter five.
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  • It's a classic, classic chapter on marriage.
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  • And to summarize the role of the husband.
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  • And we'll go back and pick this up later on.
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  • A husband is to be a leader
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  • And a lover in the home.
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  • I married people in so many times a bride will say,
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  • You don't have that thing about submission in these vows.
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  • Do you?
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  • That's the god of the bride doesn't understand.
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  • And the men do not understand
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  • What it means to be a leader in the home.
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  • The male is to be a loving leader in the home.
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  • The male does not own 51% of the stock.
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  • The male is not a staff sergeant saying, do this.
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  • Don't do this.
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  • You follow me
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  • If you believe biblical truth, lord, cause i'm in charge.
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  • That is a million miles from what we understand
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  • And need to interpret what that verse means.
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  • Those verses mean to be a leader
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  • And to be a lover man.
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  • You like the idea of being a leader?
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  • I don't,
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  • Because if a marriage fails or a marriage does not sizzle,
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  • The primary responsibility for that falls upon the male.
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  • Yes, we will have to answer for
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  • God like somebody teaches the bible.
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  • People have the gift of teaching.
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  • They're afraid of that
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  • Because many times their lives, or because they'll take
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  • Time and preparation and some degree of sacrifice,
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  • Because those to teach the bible
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  • Have an unusual accountability to god, to rightly
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  • Divide the word of truth and in marriage.
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  • Gentlemen, we have to answer to god whether our marriage
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  • Sizzles and sings and grows and is fun and exciting.
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  • You'll have to answer,
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  • God, i'll have to answer to god about that, not the wife.
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  • Well, that's
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  • A different kind of leadership, isn't it?
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  • It's you lead through love.
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  • Selfless love. not about you.
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  • Not about me. my pleasure. my happiness.
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  • What i think this ought to be. that ought to be.
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  • You're to lead to selfless love
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  • Through giving love
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  • Through a love that is called agape
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  • In the bible, which is a christ like love.
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  • Your primary goal in marriage
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  • Is to make your wife feel special, proud.
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  • In charge.
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  • Beautiful. glorious.
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  • That's our role.
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  • And if that's not taking place in your marriage,
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  • Look in the mirror.
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  • Because the problem is the male
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  • To be a leader, a loving leader,
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  • A loving leader, a leader is not about you
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  • Or me or my pleasure, what i desire.
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  • It's about that gal that god has given to me.
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  • So that's the first thing we need to understand.
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  • That is what biblical leadership and marriage
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  • Is all about.
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  • It is giving. it is sacrificial.
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  • It's all about that
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  • Wonderful female that god has brought into your life,
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  • And you're committed to forever
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  • And forever and forever.
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  • So let's be clear, biblically clear,
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  • Plain, simple, and understand some basic things
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  • About the role of a husband in marriage.
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  • Gentlemen, awake.
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  • Over to your bible.
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  • Your wife will help.
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  • Have to help.
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  • Most of you find first peter.
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  • It's towards the end.
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  • First peter, chapter three
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  • Seven verses
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  • Deal clearly with marriage.
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  • Six of them speak to the role of the wife.
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  • One verse
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  • Speaks of the role of the husband.
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  • Let's look just as one verse.
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  • We've already summarized
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  • Leader and lover in ephesians as paul gave it to us.
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  • And now let's look in one verse here.
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  • Seventh verse we have six
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  • Others deal with wives roles.
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  • We'll get to that and let's see what husbands are to do.
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  • You husbands in the same way.
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  • In the same way.
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  • He's given the wife assignment for marriage.
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  • Live with your wives in an understanding way.
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  • As with someone, weaker doesn't mean what you think.
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  • Guys,
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  • Since she is a
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  • Woman and show her honor
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  • As a fellow heir of the grace of life.
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  • So that your prayers will not be hindered
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  • So that your prayers will be answered.
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  • So the first operative word we have for
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  • Male is do you see it there?
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  • We live with our wife, with understanding.
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  • We are called
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  • To understand our wife.
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  • Let me tell you something, guys.
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  • Your female is different from you.
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  • Your female is wired different than you.
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  • The female
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  • Primarily is the right brain with creativity and joy.
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  • And we males are mostly left brain sort of line
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  • Upon line cpa types.
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  • Yeah.
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  • So it is the wife that has the joy.
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  • The creativity brings light into the home
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  • Much more than us boring, dull husbands who haven't yet
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  • Learned to live on the basis of biblical principles.
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  • You see, gentlemen, when you got married,
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  • God gave you a woman, and she was gift wrapped.
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  • Every wife here was gift wrapped.
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  • Some were tightly wrapped.
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  • Some were loosely wrapped.
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  • Some had been abused in different ways.
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  • But, gentlemen, the joy
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  • Being married is that you begin to unwrap her,
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  • Unwrap her all the way through your marriage,
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  • And as you unwrap her, there are nuances there.
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  • There's insights there.
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  • There's teaching principles there that you never
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  • Would ever have discovered our dreamed of.
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  • If you could figure out rapidly and you understood over
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  • And thinking you're marriage would be boring.
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  • But it is not because you married guys a female.
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  • And that's a fabulous thing, because you're never be boring
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  • And you'll never get her totally unwrapped.
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  • Yeti guys.
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  • All right.
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  • First principle.
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  • Understanding.
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  • I'm so amazed how so many men we get to party.
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  • Sometime they'll have a game and they'll say, well, does
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  • Your wife like this? does your wife know this?
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  • And most men are absolutely brain dumb.
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  • What's your wife's favorite color?
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  • Well, i don't know. what does she like to go?
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  • I don't know. what's the most played with?
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  • I don't know, and we flunked that time and time again.
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  • If you wanted to be an authority on american history,
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  • You wanted to understand american history.
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  • I wonder, guys, how you would do that.
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  • Is that that confusing?
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  • If you would study history, american history, you'd read.
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  • You talk to people.
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  • God tells us that you and i are to understand our wives.
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  • And that's the thrill of the unwrapping
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  • Of the getting to know them.
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  • So it's a lifetime
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  • Intellectual, emotional endeavor,
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  • And it is thrilling and revealing.
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  • And the more you unwrap,
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  • The more exciting your marriage will become.
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  • I know, i know, this works
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  • From personal lifetime experience
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  • In marriage.
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  • Let me say again,
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  • If god's principle for marriage does not work,
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  • Then the principles of christianity
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  • And everything else does not work either,
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  • Because it is the basic foundation of life.
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  • All right, what else does this scripture say?
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  • The first word is understanding.
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  • The next operative word is sort of introduced
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  • With a phrase it says,
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  • As with someone weaker,
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  • She is woman.
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  • Show her honor.
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  • This means that,
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  • Generally speaking
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  • Wise, are not as strong
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  • Physically as men.
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  • Did i confuse anybody?
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  • And also it means that
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  • Wives are weaker in the sense
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  • They are more vulnerable
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  • To the world.
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  • And all that it teaches then, are men.
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  • Marriage is one of god's greatest gifts.
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  • You might say, next to the gift of our salvation, christ.
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  • It's number one.
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  • But let's be honest, it also brings real challenges.
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  • Every couple of face disagreements, miscommunication
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  • Or financial pressure, family tensions, and seasons
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  • Of frustration in the whole area of marriage.
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  • You know, saying that if you're married, left unchecked,
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  • Those struggles can slowly erode into
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  • Even a marriage that should be great.
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  • Into a marriage, that's just okay.
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  • But that does not have to be your story.
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  • In the ten commandments of marriage,
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  • I share biblical truth, practical wisdom,
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  • And a little humor drawn from more than 50
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  • Years of ministry and marriage experience.
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  • These ten timeless principles are designed to help husbands
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  • And wives protect what matters most and strengthen
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  • That relationship, and build a marriage
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  • Based on love and joy, and a lasting commitment
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  • That's filled with laughter and pleasure and excitement.
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  • Listen, god never intended marriage to be.
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  • Let's just survive and hang on.
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  • He attended it to sing and to thrive.
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  • Listen, if you really want a healthier,
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  • Christ centered marriage that still has warmth, passion,
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  • And purpose, these ten commandments of marriage
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  • Is just for you.
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  • Call them on your screen or visit the website below
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  • To regress your copy of the ten commandments of marriage.
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  • Do it today.
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  • The difference is radical.
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  • Let me.
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  • Let's just say you took ten women
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  • And put them in a room for two hours.
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  • Okay?
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  • Two hours in that two hours,
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  • Out of those ten minutes, some women, as they share,
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  • They would be some tears, they'd be some laughter.
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  • They'd be a lot of changing, of recipes and ideas.
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  • And they would talk.
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  • They would communicate
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  • Those ten women in that room for two hours.
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  • They'd get to know each other.
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  • They'd plan to do this. they'd plan.
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  • Women are communicators.
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  • They generally speak
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  • Three times where the man would speak in a day.
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  • They told they communicate.
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  • That's how they're wired.
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  • And ten women
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  • In a room for two hours, they would communicate.
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  • Put ten men
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  • In a room together for two hours,
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  • And two
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  • Of them would get into fistfight.
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  • Three of them would go to sleep.
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  • Five of them would spend the time arguing about
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  • Sports and politics.
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  • Do you see any difference there in the female and the male?
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  • Is that overwhelming or i can't believe.
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  • Doesn't that sound?
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  • What's the difference?
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  • Females are communicators.
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  • Males are not communicators.
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  • Males primarily keep it all inside,
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  • And it's hard to get one of us to open up
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  • Because in most of us there is some shame.
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  • And some were great.
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  • And so many times, man, it's in this sexual area.
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  • Let's be very candid and honest.
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  • But women open up and talk.
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  • And therefore the strength of a female in communicating
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  • The other side of that is a weakness.
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  • Gossip,
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  • False stories, carrying things.
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  • The strength of a male is a
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  • Strong person who does not communicate,
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  • Keeps everything inside, and therefore
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  • You never really get to know who they really are.
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  • You see where there is my strength.
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  • On the other side there is a weakness.
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  • Where there is a female strength,
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  • On the other side there is a weakness.
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  • This is a part of the gluing together of one another.
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  • Because where your wife is weak, you are strong.
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  • And where you are strong, they.
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  • Maybe we.
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  • It's it's a complementary situation
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  • In a truly biblical growing marriage.
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  • And by the way, he'd ask yourself, ask your wife,
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  • Gentlemen.
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  • What do you enjoy most about when we're together?
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  • Did you get that?
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  • What do you enjoy most when we're together?
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  • I ask myself that
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  • I can tell you exactly what i enjoy.
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  • Being totally candid,
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  • Open with anything past, present, or future.
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  • To have a lifetime partner you can trust and love
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  • With everything about yourself.
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  • That's what i love.
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  • If you have a christian marriage, that's what you have.
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  • Don't worry about offending.
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  • Don't worry about me.
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  • Understanding.
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  • Don't worry about being judged.
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  • This is someone you totally, completely trust.
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  • We're talking about a christian marriage,
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  • A christian marriage.
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  • There has to be understanding and has to be honor.
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  • That's the next word
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  • To to honor and to cherish.
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  • Sort of the same words
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  • In the sermon on the mount.
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  • It says where your treasure is.
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  • That's where your heart is.
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  • If i give you $1 million in gold bullion,
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  • Let me tell you, that betrays you.
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  • Wouldn't it?
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  • That's where your heart would be.
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  • The most
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  • Treasured thing in the world, gentlemen, is your wife.
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  • That's where your heart, your time, your passion,
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  • Your love must be.
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  • That's the most valuable thing you'll ever have in this life.
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  • Is your wife.
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  • She is your treasure.
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  • Do you treat her
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  • As she is?
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  • Your primary treasure
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  • That's honoring her.
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  • That will change everything.
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  • Put her up on a pedestal.
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  • You can't put her up high enough.
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  • Gentlemen, this is your role.
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  • You want a marriage that just sort of exists?
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  • Are you on a marriage that is on fire for god
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  • And makes a difference? it's radiant.
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  • That will change our culture
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  • More than any other single thing.
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  • Now. the women
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  • Would hold their applause.
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  • I'm teasing.
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  • All right.
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  • And then the next thing is
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  • Honor her as a fellow heir of the grace of life.
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  • In other words.
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  • In other words, you gentlemen and your wife
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  • Are experiencing the grace of life,
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  • The gift of life, to go through life
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  • And not realize that blessings we have is the grace of god.
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  • And you have someone to experience that with.
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  • The saddest thing
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  • About thanksgiving to me, to those who do not know
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  • God and had nobody to say thank you to
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  • Share your fellow air
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  • With your wife, with your husband, to the grace
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  • Of god he's given in your life and in my life.
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  • What a fabulous thing
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  • That we have in marriage.
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  • That's the third operative word.
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  • Look at the last operative word.
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  • It says simply, she is a woman.
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  • Show her honor as a fellow.
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  • Air the grace of life
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  • So that your prayers will not be hindered.
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  • If you do not pray regularly with your wife,
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  • You're missing on one of the fabulous experiences of life.
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  • My wife and i pray every night on our knees
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  • Before we get in bed.
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  • Brief prayer.
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  • We wake up. we pray on our knees.
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  • We pray every time we eat food anywhere, anytime, anyplace.
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  • We don't make a big show out of it.
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  • You see, if you know who god is, you can't be a phony
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  • Before god. some people try.
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  • Some people try.
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  • I remember the only time i remember
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  • Somebody said, don't pray for me.
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  • I was doing christmas shopping.
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  • I met a guy and i was leaving.
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  • I said, let me pray for he said, don't pray for me.
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  • I said, okay, i won't.
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  • He said, i've been away from god a long time.
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  • I don't want him to know where i am,
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  • How stupid.
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  • Guys, when we go to the lord in prayer,
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  • He knows at all.
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  • Does everybody get that?
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  • No question about it.
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  • And if we go to the lord and there are things not right
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  • With our wife, things aren't going on with our wife.
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  • You you're wasting your time praying about anything
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  • And everything.
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  • You go back and honor her and love her and cherish her
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  • And get on the same wavelength with her.
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  • Then the lord will listen.
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  • Then you'll be a prayer in which
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  • Your prayers are and two aspects of prayer.
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  • What is talking to god
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  • And meditation is listening to god
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  • Talking and listening.
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  • Well, i don't know what god will say to me.
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  • Oh yes you do.
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  • I've had a lot of people come down
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  • To the front of the church. lord i'm here.
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  • I don't know why i said yes. and it.
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  • They get it every single time.
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  • Go to the lord with verbiage.
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  • Doesn't have to be fancy or big.
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  • Go to the lord and listen.
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  • And he will speak.
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  • Clarity into your life. and no matter.
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  • Gentlemen, the assignment.
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  • I can't do that. yes you can.
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  • Oh, don't do it then.
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  • Just keep on being bored to death and have a marriage.
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  • That's sort of ho hum.
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  • Well, i'm too prideful.
  • 00:22:34.109 --> 00:22:35.510
  • You see, marriage is iron sharpening and iron.
  • 00:22:35.510 --> 00:22:39.347
  • And what it does, it simply takes all the ego
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  • Out of a man.
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  • All the phoniness, all the pretense, all the ego.
  • 00:22:47.088 --> 00:22:51.393
  • Because maybe you don't know it.
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  • Your wife really knows
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  • Your heart and your mind and your motives.
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  • You can fool everybody.
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  • Gentlemen, i guarantee you, you can't
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  • Fool the love of your life.
  • 00:23:08.176 --> 00:23:14.416
  • An otter,
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  • An otter
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  • And otter is the most romantic
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  • Creature.
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  • Maybe on the earth.
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  • An otter.
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  • When they go to sleep,
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  • They float on their back.
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  • Yeah, really?
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  • That's how they sleep.
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  • In the ocean, the water.
  • 00:23:37.706 --> 00:23:39.674
  • And then if they are married and they're married
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  • To the same mate.
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  • Forever.
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  • If they're married, the male you to the darker of the otter
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  • Will reach over and hold the hand of the female.
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  • And she sleeps on her back, so they're not drift apart.
  • 00:23:56.391 --> 00:24:01.830
  • And that's something.
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  • Gentlemen, i'm going to ask you to do something.
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  • This is really frightening.
  • 00:24:08.203 --> 00:24:10.372
  • It's going to be hard for some of you guys,
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  • But if you're with your wife, would you reach over and hold
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  • Your hand?
  • 00:24:16.278 --> 00:24:18.346
  • Would you do that?
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  • Oh, i saw somebody back there. is painful.
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  • It's going to be alright.
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  • Hold her hand.
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  • Keep on holding her hand.
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  • It's that kind of
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  • Overt love, overt humility,
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  • Overt seeking to understand your wife.
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  • Get a phd on your wife.
  • 00:24:41.269 --> 00:24:44.105
  • Honor your wife in every way
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  • So that you become somebody
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  • Who can really pray and be clean before god.
  • 00:24:50.512 --> 00:24:53.949
  • As you're open and clean before your wife and everything.
  • 00:24:53.949 --> 00:24:59.254
  • What a difference
  • 00:24:59.688 --> 00:25:01.356
  • That would make.
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  • Answered prayer.
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  • Here is a feller air
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  • With you on the grace of life.
  • 00:25:08.930 --> 00:25:17.072
  • You say that is a tough assignment.
  • 00:25:17.839 --> 00:25:19.908
  • No it's not.
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  • Not if you want your marriage
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  • To sing and grow and flourish.
  • 00:25:24.813 --> 00:25:30.318
  • Marriages today face more pressures than ever.
  • 00:25:31.219 --> 00:25:34.356
  • Many couples live
  • 00:25:34.356 --> 00:25:35.824
  • With stress, disappointment, distance and discouragement,
  • 00:25:35.824 --> 00:25:39.661
  • Wondering if the joy they want shared can ever return.
  • 00:25:39.661 --> 00:25:43.598
  • But god's design for marriage has not changed.
  • 00:25:43.598 --> 00:25:47.202
  • In doctor young's the ten commandments of marriage,
  • 00:25:47.202 --> 00:25:50.772
  • You'll find practical biblical principles that can help
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  • Transform your relationship from the inside out.
  • 00:25:53.842 --> 00:25:57.679
  • Whether you've been married for months or decades,
  • 00:25:57.679 --> 00:26:01.049
  • These truths can help you communicate better, grow closer
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  • Spiritually, resolve conflict in a healthy way,
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  • And to rediscover the love that first brought you together.
  • 00:26:08.123 --> 00:26:12.627
  • A strong marriage doesn't happen by accident.
  • 00:26:12.627 --> 00:26:15.664
  • It grows when a husband and wife choose
  • 00:26:15.664 --> 00:26:18.700
  • To build their relationship god's way with christ.
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  • At the center of your home,
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  • There is always hope, healing, and a path forward.
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  • If you want to strengthen your marriage and build
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  • A relationship that honors god and blesses your family.
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  • The ten commandments of marriage is for you.
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  • Call the number on your screen or visit the website below to
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  • Request your copy today.
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  • As we close.
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  • Let me remind you.
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  • God's design for husbands and wives isn't about competition.
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  • It's about completion.
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  • When we walk in his purpose for our roles,
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  • We reflect his love in a powerful, powerful way.
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  • So today, take one step.
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  • Just one to serve, to love.
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  • To honor your mate, your spouse.
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  • It can make all the difference.
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  • And we'll see you tomorrow right here on the winning walk.
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