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Ed Young - Lies We Believe About Marriage

June 8, 2026 | 27:29

Ed Young - Lies We Believe About Marriage
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Lies We Believe About Marriage | June 8, 2026
  • First of all,
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  • Marriage, if it is a covenant marriage,
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  • It makes you and makes me
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  • Look at ourselves.
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  • How about that one?
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  • You have to look at yourself.
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  • I asked myself this question a long time ago.
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  • I challenge every husband wife to ask themselves this.
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  • When i ask myself this question honestly alone,
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  • I had to get out a legal pad.
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  • What is it like being married
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  • To me?
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  • I had a long list there and it wasn't any.
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  • It was woo!
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  • I challenge you to do it.
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  • So we come to marriage.
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  • We forgotten the purpose of marriage.
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  • If i ask you, what is the purpose of marriage?
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  • When you said, oh, yeah, i'll be happy to tell you.
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  • God tells us exactly what the purpose of marriage is.
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  • It is, first of all, for procreation
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  • That a man and his
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  • Wife procreate with god
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  • And brings life into being, and that life
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  • Is in the image of almighty god himself.
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  • Procreation.
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  • Marriage is for pleasure.
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  • Read song of solomon sometime in a modern translation
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  • And hold on.
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  • You have just read
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  • Some of the most erotic material that you'll find
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  • Anywhere on the planet.
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  • Just try it.
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  • Test it out. it is for pleasure.
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  • Also, marriage is
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  • For proclamation.
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  • Marriage is used by
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  • God when it is a covenant marriage to tell the truth
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  • About god, about life, and about life abundant
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  • And life full, and life meaningful and life alive.
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  • Marriage is given to us by god.
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  • He performed the first ceremony.
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  • Remember, leave.
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  • Cleave one flesh, no shame.
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  • And it is to glorify god.
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  • A covenant
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  • Marriage is a beautiful thing and it is an attractive thing.
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  • It tells us the truth of what anybody can have
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  • In their relationship with god through jesus christ.
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  • It is a new covenant.
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  • If it is a covenant marriage.
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  • So we see the high
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  • Holy place that god has put marriage
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  • From the very beginning.
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  • And today we look around our culture
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  • And all, well, what's happening?
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  • We can diagnose
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  • What's happening in a million different perspectives.
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  • But i can tell you the basic foundation of marriage
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  • Is being attacked in every single area.
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  • And that is the basic problem
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  • That we have a lot of problems move from that.
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  • But marriage is the base and marriage
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  • Is being destroyed, attacked, minimized, not practiced
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  • In the culture of the 21st century.
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  • But when it is,
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  • It's a powerful witness for god.
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  • So there's a lot of propaganda about marriage.
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  • There are a lot of things
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  • About marriage that we sort of accept
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  • That are simply lies.
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  • Let's just bump into a couple
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  • Of them.
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  • All you need is love.
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  • Heard that one.
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  • Oh, yeah.
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  • Oh, you need is love.
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  • And usually when it's defined in a human way,
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  • That means really, all you need is love in chemistry.
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  • Tell you something in marriage.
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  • You hear that?
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  • Well, you know we love each other.
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  • That's going to get through everything.
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  • Most of the time, love is not defined
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  • With biblical terminology, because the only way
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  • We can love one another properly
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  • And permanently and beautifully,
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  • And even apply the principles of first corinthians.
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  • Let me read it again and defined for everybody
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  • In case you might have missed it.
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  • Love.
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  • You say, i can't love like that.
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  • No you can't, but god in christ in a covenant marriage,
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  • You can and i can look at the definition of love.
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  • Love is patient.
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  • Love is kind.
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  • It does not envy.
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  • It does not boast.
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  • It is not proud.
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  • It does not dishonor others.
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  • It is not self-seeking.
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  • It is not easily angered.
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  • It keeps no record of wrongs.
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  • Love does not delight in evil, but rejoice in the truth.
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  • It always protects, always trusts, always hopes.
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  • Always preserve.
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  • Love never fails.
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  • You said i can't love like that.
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  • You can't.
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  • But god in christ in you gives us the ability
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  • To do it.
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  • Love.
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  • All you need is love.
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  • If you think that's true in marriage, i want to tell you
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  • That is a cultural lie.
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  • The next thing is the cultural lie about marriage
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  • Is, well, you know, you just have to accept me.
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  • You married me and i can't change.
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  • It's the way i am.
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  • Anybody ever said that?
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  • Don't worry. a show of hands.
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  • It's a lie.
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  • The only thing that can really change in
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  • This world is a human being.
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  • And god in christ has the power to do that.
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  • The idea.
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  • Well, you know, i'm just not very affectionate.
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  • I'd like to stand up
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  • And take some guys here who has said that and say,
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  • How dumb can a human being be
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  • And still live on this earth?
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  • Affection is available.
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  • It's there.
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  • We have the capacity to do it,
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  • To live it out, to fulfill it.
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  • It is a beautiful thing.
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  • It is needed in marriage and we can hide about the fact.
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  • Well, you know, i just i just can't change.
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  • Certainly
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  • We marry one another with warts and all,
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  • But with love and with a wife
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  • For filling her primary role primarily.
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  • To summarize it in practical terms.
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  • Wives, you are to be a cheerleader.
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  • Remember, for your husband.
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  • Cheerleader.
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  • Husband, you
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  • Are to be something else with your wife.
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  • You are to cherish her.
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  • Well, i'm not good at it.
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  • God will give you the ability.
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  • I'm not good at cheer.
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  • God will give you the ability.
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  • And we'll nail this down and clear
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  • Practical ways.
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  • So understand that god can change us.
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  • Marriage is a wonderful institution of change
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  • For all who engage in it in a biblical understanding.
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  • And the next thing there's a lot about merit is
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  • Our problem is incompatibility.
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  • He doesn't have enough income
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  • And i don't have enough ability.
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  • Let me tell you something.
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  • You're going to have all the income in the world.
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  • But if we had more, we'd be happy.
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  • You're going to have all the kids in the world more.
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  • If we had more, kids would be happy.
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  • Now, those are two vitally important ingredients.
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  • But that will not answer and make a marriage
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  • In the design that god intended for it to be.
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  • I can give you a lot
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  • Of illustrations
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  • And calls some names that you would even know,
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  • But i'm going to protect those names and protect the world
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  • To show you how.
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  • If you have all the chemistry and all the world can offer,
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  • And you could put modern names in here,
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  • Almost every one of us
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  • And some of us may have to put our name in here.
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  • Let me show you about solomon.
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  • Solomon had it all.
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  • Ecclesiastes chapter two.
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  • By the way, you remember the work of collegiality.
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  • It's the first book you ought to read in the bible,
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  • Because it asks all the questions
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  • That the rest of the bible answers.
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  • Remember that.
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  • And solomon and colleagues asked his writing.
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  • He said, i said to myself, come now,
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  • I will test you with pleasure to find out what is good.
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  • But that also proved to be meaningless.
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  • Laughter i said, it's madness.
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  • And what does pleasure accomplish?
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  • I tried cheering myself with wine and embracing
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  • Folly, my mind still guiding me with wisdom.
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  • I wanted to see what was good
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  • For people to do under the heavens.
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  • In the days of our lives,
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  • Solomon said, i took great projects.
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  • I built houses for myself, planted vineyards.
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  • I made gardens and parks and planted all kinds of fruit
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  • Trees in them.
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  • I made reservoirs to water grove, flourishing trees.
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  • I brought male and female slaves
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  • And other slaves who were born in my house.
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  • I also own more herds
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  • And flocks than anyone in jerusalem.
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  • Before me.
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  • I amassed silver and gold for myself
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  • And a treasure of kings and provinces.
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  • I acquired male and female singers, and i had a
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  • Whole harum just countless numbers of females,
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  • All to my exposure, the delights of a man's heart.
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  • He said i became greater by far than anyone in jerusalem
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  • Before me.
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  • In all of this, my wisdom stayed with me.
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  • He said i denied myself nothing.
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  • My eyes desire.
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  • I refused my heart no pleasure.
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  • My heart took delight in all labor.
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  • And this was a ward for all my toil.
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  • You talked somebody
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  • That had plenty of income and plenty ability.
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  • You can't get ahead of solomon.
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  • And then look what he says about it.
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  • Yet when i
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  • Surveyed all that my hands had done
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  • And what i had toiled to achieve,
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  • Everything was meaningless.
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  • Chasing after the wind.
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  • Nothing was gained under the sun.
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  • If god could nail that down in your life
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  • And in my life, there would be a great awakening.
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  • Marriage is one of god's greatest gifts.
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  • You might say, next to the gift of our salvation, christ.
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  • It's number one.
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  • But let's be honest, it also brings real challenges.
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  • Every couple of face disagreements, miscommunication
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  • Or financial pressure, family tensions, and seasons
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  • Of frustration in the whole area of marriage.
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  • You know, saying that if you're married, left unchecked,
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  • Those struggles can slowly erode into
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  • Even a marriage that should be great.
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  • Into a marriage, that's just okay.
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  • But that does not have to be your story.
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  • In the ten commandments of marriage,
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  • I share biblical truth, practical wisdom,
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  • And a little humor drawn from more than 50
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  • Years of ministry and marriage experience.
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  • These ten timeless principles are designed to help husbands
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  • And wives protect what matters most and strengthen
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  • That relationship, and build a marriage
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  • Based on love and joy, and a lasting commitment
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  • That's filled with laughter and pleasure and excitement.
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  • Listen, god never intended marriage to be.
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  • Let's just survive and hang on.
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  • He attended it to sing and to thrive.
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  • Listen, if you really want a healthier,
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  • Christ centered marriage that still has warmth, passion,
  • 00:12:43.608 --> 00:12:47.412
  • And purpose, these ten commandments of marriage
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  • Is just for you.
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  • Call them on your screen or visit the website below
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  • To regress your copy of the ten commandments of marriage.
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  • Do it today.
  • 00:12:59.724 --> 00:13:10.902
  • A lot of things we believe in
  • 00:13:11.536 --> 00:13:13.738
  • Our culture about marriage is simply not true.
  • 00:13:13.738 --> 00:13:18.376
  • Oh, if there was more income and more
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  • And my marriage would sing no.
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  • Oh well, i can tell you
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  • If if i let, let me just be the way i am.
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  • I can't help it. no.
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  • So all these lies accumulate in marriage.
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  • What is the secret?
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  • Ladies and gentlemen,
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  • Brothers and sisters of marriage,
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  • We go right back to the beginning.
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  • And that it is a covenant
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  • Of contract.
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  • Oh, it's a social contract by law.
  • 00:13:51.943 --> 00:13:54.045
  • But it is a covenant.
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  • A contract works something like this.
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  • You want something?
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  • You put earnest money up for it.
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  • Just in case you want to back out.
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  • You know that's all you would lose.
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  • And then in the process, it doesn't work out
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  • In negotiation with the buyer
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  • And the seller, it doesn't work out.
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  • And you can back up and not lose a lot.
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  • A covenant is
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  • Totally, totally, completely different.
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  • It is a legal contract, but it is.
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  • Remember a triangle?
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  • God, husband, wife and the top of the triangle is
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  • God, which makes it not a duet but a trio.
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  • And therefore when we you say i do
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  • And i will, in sickness, as in health,
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  • In poverty, as in wealth, in the bad
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  • May dark in your days,
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  • And the goods that may light your ways.
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  • Till death do you part.
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  • Do you so promise?
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  • And the answer is naively,
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  • Sometime i do.
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  • I will.
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  • Now, let me put a little cottage down here.
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  • I know the biblical grounds for divorce, adultery,
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  • Desertion, interpretation there.
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  • But basically we have to realize when we say
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  • I do, i will. that is for life.
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  • It's a covenant.
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  • And in a covenant marriage, fabulous things take place.
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  • A covenant marriage has a light coming from it.
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  • You know, you know, people that have a light coming from it.
  • 00:15:36.614 --> 00:15:39.684
  • It's just a a joy, a light.
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  • It is contagious.
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  • And if you don't have it, you're envious of it.
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  • And that light should never go out.
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  • It's you're brighter and brighter through the years.
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  • A covenant marriage, covenant marriage.
  • 00:15:51.696 --> 00:15:55.767
  • But also
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  • That, to be honest, there is much that is
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  • Good about marriage.
  • 00:16:01.606 --> 00:16:03.107
  • There's much that is beautiful about marriage,
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  • And we really don't understand that.
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  • What all marriage does for us,
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  • What's involved in marriage?
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  • Well, let's just see what marriage does.
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  • First of all, marriage, if it is a covenant marriage,
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  • It makes you and makes me look at ourselves.
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  • How about that one?
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  • You have to look at yourself.
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  • I asked myself this question a long time ago.
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  • I challenge every husband wife to ask themselves this.
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  • When i ask myself this question honestly alone,
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  • I had to get out a legal pad.
  • 00:16:41.646 --> 00:16:44.615
  • What is it like being married
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  • To me?
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  • I had a long list there and it wasn't any.
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  • It was woo!
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  • I challenge you to do it before god.
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  • Look in the mirror.
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  • Look at yourself.
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  • What is it like being married to me?
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  • Is it exciting?
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  • Is it boring?
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  • Is it uplifting? is it fun?
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  • Is it creative?
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  • Well, we've been married a long time.
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  • All the better.
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  • You've had more time to have a marriage
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  • That's on fire for god and fire for christ.
  • 00:17:19.417 --> 00:17:22.620
  • What is it like being married to me?
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  • Was it like being married to you?
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  • If a lot of husbands wives were.
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  • Just write down and take a time and ask god to lead them.
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  • If you have a covenant marriage to christians
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  • Coming together.
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  • You'd say, lord, i need to change some things.
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  • I need to wake up,
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  • Get with it, enjoy the fullness
  • 00:17:46.410 --> 00:17:49.780
  • And the beauty of a covenant marriage.
  • 00:17:49.780 --> 00:17:53.284
  • What's it like being married to me?
  • 00:17:53.284 --> 00:17:56.787
  • A marriage forces you and forces me to look in
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  • The mirror.
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  • And sometimes when we see ourselves,
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  • We are ashamed, i hope,
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  • And we are frightened.
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  • And something else.
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  • When you look at your wife, your husband,
  • 00:18:13.571 --> 00:18:16.507
  • They are a mirror.
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  • Oh, really?
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  • Yes, yes, your husband is a mirror, ladies.
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  • Your wife is a mirror gentleman.
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  • And we look in the mirror.
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  • We may be afraid.
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  • We may be fearful if you get honest.
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  • That's what that life and married to me.
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  • We may ashamed.
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  • That's all part of it.
  • 00:18:36.127 --> 00:18:37.295
  • But also we look into the mirror.
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  • As we see our wife.
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  • And my wife demonstrates the fruit of the spirit
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  • Love, joy, peace, gentleness. patients.
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  • Good man.
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  • Oh, gosh, i don't have all that i need that
  • 00:18:51.475 --> 00:18:55.546
  • This is the truth about marriage.
  • 00:18:56.280 --> 00:18:57.715
  • The second thing, and there's a whole lot
  • 00:18:57.715 --> 00:18:59.283
  • Of things it's true about marriage.
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  • Marriage will drive you to humility.
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  • Yeah,
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  • It'll drive you to humility.
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  • Somebody ask.
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  • A biblical mystic
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  • Said, what is the leading characteristic of jesus?
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  • And he said, humility.
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  • He said, oh, no, no, no, no.
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  • God is love. jesus love.
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  • The leading characteristic is love.
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  • Know jesus is love,
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  • A characteristic of love.
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  • And i think the primary characteristic of love
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  • Is humility.
  • 00:19:35.753 --> 00:19:39.223
  • You look at jesus life, and he had a way
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  • Of exposing all those narcissistic people.
  • 00:19:42.326 --> 00:19:46.163
  • Now, let's be honest,
  • 00:19:46.163 --> 00:19:47.431
  • All of us have enough narcissism in every one of us.
  • 00:19:47.431 --> 00:19:51.035
  • Don't get super pie.
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  • We all have it.
  • 00:19:52.403 --> 00:19:54.605
  • How did jesus deal with the narcissist?
  • 00:19:54.605 --> 00:19:57.375
  • There was a pharisees.
  • 00:19:57.842 --> 00:19:59.677
  • They kept all 600 laws of torah,
  • 00:19:59.677 --> 00:20:03.314
  • The mishnah, the talmud, and jesus
  • 00:20:03.314 --> 00:20:06.851
  • Just attacked them for their phoniness.
  • 00:20:06.851 --> 00:20:10.354
  • They had a lot on the outside, but their inside was corrupt
  • 00:20:10.354 --> 00:20:14.692
  • And jesus was around them, in
  • 00:20:15.326 --> 00:20:17.762
  • Which all they did was pick up stones.
  • 00:20:17.762 --> 00:20:21.666
  • Jesus healed the
  • 00:20:22.066 --> 00:20:23.467
  • Man with the withered hand.
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  • It was on the sabbath, and they didn't rejoice over
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  • The man with the withered hand now had a full hand.
  • 00:20:31.609 --> 00:20:35.212
  • They criticized jesus.
  • 00:20:35.680 --> 00:20:37.515
  • Oh, he healed on the sabbath,
  • 00:20:37.515 --> 00:20:41.085
  • You know,
  • 00:20:41.385 --> 00:20:43.421
  • Narcissistic people, legalistic people.
  • 00:20:43.421 --> 00:20:46.090
  • Though they were looked up,
  • 00:20:46.090 --> 00:20:48.125
  • They had
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  • Fewer people in the sanhedrin and any other single group,
  • 00:20:49.360 --> 00:20:51.429
  • But they were looked up to
  • 00:20:51.429 --> 00:20:52.730
  • Because they were so perfect and they radiated
  • 00:20:52.730 --> 00:20:56.600
  • Their perfection. they were picking up stones.
  • 00:20:56.600 --> 00:20:58.569
  • Jesus took the woman caught in the act of adultery.
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  • One rumor witnesses in the act of adultery.
  • 00:21:02.573 --> 00:21:07.345
  • They said, the law says to stone her.
  • 00:21:07.345 --> 00:21:10.181
  • And those pharisees started to pick up their stones.
  • 00:21:10.181 --> 00:21:13.751
  • Seeing these narcissistic people always picking up
  • 00:21:13.751 --> 00:21:17.421
  • Stones, have you noticed that jesus dealt with them?
  • 00:21:17.421 --> 00:21:20.691
  • Call them liars, hypocrites, dirty.
  • 00:21:20.691 --> 00:21:23.794
  • I mean, he just ripped them apart.
  • 00:21:23.794 --> 00:21:27.331
  • And therefore we have to understand
  • 00:21:28.132 --> 00:21:31.168
  • That we too, when exposed to the light of god, see, usually.
  • 00:21:31.168 --> 00:21:35.840
  • And i made a husband or wife my my, my.
  • 00:21:35.840 --> 00:21:39.944
  • It is a great moment of humility.
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  • If you're marriage hasn't driven you to humility, awaken.
  • 00:21:42.713 --> 00:21:48.119
  • Awaken a covenant marriage
  • 00:21:48.686 --> 00:21:51.822
  • That is always what will take place.
  • 00:21:51.822 --> 00:21:56.727
  • Do you see we have such a high privilege
  • 00:21:56.727 --> 00:22:00.131
  • In life that is just hard to believe.
  • 00:22:00.131 --> 00:22:04.435
  • It's hard to accept.
  • 00:22:04.435 --> 00:22:06.270
  • I want you to listen very, very, very carefully.
  • 00:22:06.270 --> 00:22:10.274
  • This is jesus.
  • 00:22:10.274 --> 00:22:12.643
  • John 17,
  • 00:22:12.643 --> 00:22:15.146
  • His high priestly prayer before he went to the cross.
  • 00:22:15.146 --> 00:22:19.250
  • In other words, his last will and testament,
  • 00:22:19.250 --> 00:22:23.187
  • Though under the cross.
  • 00:22:23.187 --> 00:22:24.822
  • And look what he said about relationships.
  • 00:22:24.822 --> 00:22:28.993
  • He said, my prayer is not for them alone.
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  • That's his apostles.
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  • I pray also for those who believe in me
  • 00:22:36.066 --> 00:22:40.037
  • Through their message.
  • 00:22:40.037 --> 00:22:42.072
  • That's all of us.
  • 00:22:42.072 --> 00:22:44.141
  • Jesus, before he died, prayed for you.
  • 00:22:44.141 --> 00:22:47.077
  • He prayed for me.
  • 00:22:47.077 --> 00:22:49.146
  • He said, i pray for all of those who believe
  • 00:22:49.146 --> 00:22:52.683
  • That they can know god, love god, receive
  • 00:22:52.683 --> 00:22:55.352
  • God, live for god, a joyous, abundant, full life.
  • 00:22:55.352 --> 00:22:59.023
  • And by the way, we're made
  • 00:22:59.023 --> 00:23:00.357
  • For pleasure and it always is pleasurable
  • 00:23:00.357 --> 00:23:03.194
  • When we're following god in christ.
  • 00:23:03.194 --> 00:23:05.830
  • He says, i pray for those who believe
  • 00:23:05.830 --> 00:23:09.333
  • In me, the through the through their message.
  • 00:23:09.333 --> 00:23:12.069
  • In other words, we have heard the message of truth,
  • 00:23:12.069 --> 00:23:15.072
  • Verse 21 john 17 that all of them may be one
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  • Follow me, father, just as you are in me,
  • 00:23:20.110 --> 00:23:23.547
  • Jesus saying, just as you are, and me god is in jesus.
  • 00:23:23.547 --> 00:23:27.785
  • Jesus says, i am in you,
  • 00:23:27.785 --> 00:23:30.521
  • And may they also be in us.
  • 00:23:30.521 --> 00:23:34.492
  • So the world may believe that you have sent me.
  • 00:23:34.492 --> 00:23:37.761
  • Did you get that?
  • 00:23:37.761 --> 00:23:39.763
  • This is a holy dance.
  • 00:23:39.763 --> 00:23:43.033
  • Let me show you.
  • 00:23:43.434 --> 00:23:44.502
  • Illustrate as best i can.
  • 00:23:44.502 --> 00:23:46.804
  • It's so hard to illustrate.
  • 00:23:46.804 --> 00:23:48.873
  • Here's god with me.
  • 00:23:48.873 --> 00:23:54.011
  • In god is jesus.
  • 00:23:54.411 --> 00:23:56.213
  • That's what we just read about, wasn't it?
  • 00:23:56.213 --> 00:23:58.048
  • God in god is jesus.
  • 00:23:58.048 --> 00:24:00.017
  • You're with me.
  • 00:24:00.017 --> 00:24:00.885
  • Not too fast.
  • 00:24:00.885 --> 00:24:02.052
  • Very beautiful, very important.
  • 00:24:02.052 --> 00:24:03.954
  • And in jesus is
  • 00:24:03.954 --> 00:24:07.124
  • But my name here.
  • 00:24:07.558 --> 00:24:08.492
  • Edwin.
  • 00:24:08.492 --> 00:24:09.159
  • Editor.
  • 00:24:09.159 --> 00:24:11.996
  • Here's god, jesus and god.
  • 00:24:11.996 --> 00:24:14.198
  • And i am in god and in jesus.
  • 00:24:14.198 --> 00:24:18.369
  • And so are you.
  • 00:24:18.369 --> 00:24:19.803
  • If you are in christ, you're part of that divine dance.
  • 00:24:19.803 --> 00:24:24.241
  • Now you say, well, what if you get out of step?
  • 00:24:25.209 --> 00:24:28.712
  • And we all do.
  • 00:24:28.712 --> 00:24:30.781
  • When we're dancing, we get out of step.
  • 00:24:30.781 --> 00:24:32.683
  • We mess up what keeps us in step.
  • 00:24:32.683 --> 00:24:35.452
  • Where's the
  • 00:24:35.452 --> 00:24:36.620
  • Music coming from in your life and in my life as we have
  • 00:24:36.620 --> 00:24:39.523
  • This divine dance.
  • 00:24:39.523 --> 00:24:40.824
  • It's coming from the holy spirit.
  • 00:24:40.824 --> 00:24:44.428
  • What a dance man.
  • 00:24:44.862 --> 00:24:47.398
  • What a dance.
  • 00:24:47.398 --> 00:24:48.832
  • God, jesus and god, jesus and you, jesus and me.
  • 00:24:48.832 --> 00:24:53.904
  • I'm in god, you're in god.
  • 00:24:53.904 --> 00:24:55.406
  • We're in jesus.
  • 00:24:55.406 --> 00:24:56.807
  • And then to keep us in step, we have the holy spirit
  • 00:24:56.807 --> 00:25:00.411
  • Who is the music and let's our lives
  • 00:25:00.411 --> 00:25:04.181
  • Function as god designed them to function.
  • 00:25:04.181 --> 00:25:06.884
  • Let me tell you something.
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  • If that's not the most exciting, amazing,
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  • Miraculous truth that you've ever heard,
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  • Find something better.
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  • That is the new covenant in jesus christ.
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  • Magnificent,
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  • Holy, special.
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  • And as we begin to live.
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  • Out the basic truths
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  • Of a covenant relationship
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  • With our life with our husband,
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  • It is, i think,
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  • The most beautiful,
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  • Glorious, supernatural,
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  • Magnificent, holy, happiest
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  • Relationship in the human realm
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  • That god has to offer all of us.
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  • Marriages today face more pressures than ever.
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  • Many couples live
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  • With stress, disappointment, distance and discouragement,
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  • Wondering if the joy they want shared can ever return.
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  • But god's design for marriage has not changed.
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  • In doctor young's the ten commandments of marriage,
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  • You'll find practical biblical principles that can help
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  • Transform your relationship from the inside out.
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  • Whether you've been married for months or decades,
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  • These truths can help you communicate better, grow closer
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  • Spiritually, resolve conflict in a healthy way,
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  • And to rediscover the love that first brought you together.
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  • A strong marriage doesn't happen by accident.
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  • It grows when a husband and wife choose
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  • To build their relationship god's way with christ.
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  • At the center of your home,
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  • There is always hope, healing, and a path forward.
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  • If you want to strengthen your marriage and build
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  • A relationship that honors god and blesses your family.
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  • The ten commandments of marriage is for you.
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  • Call the number on your screen or visit the website below to
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