In a world where marriage is seen as a sacred covenant between individuals and God, Ed Yong delves into the complexities and beauties of this union. Through the metaphor of oil and vinegar forming an emulsion, he emphasizes the role of Jesus Christ as the stabilizer that keeps a marriage together. With insights on weeding out negativity, planting love, and praying together, he paints a picture of how a strong, fulfilling marriage can be sustained through unconditional love and a vertical connection to God. Join him on a journey of discovery and transformation in the sacred gift of marriage.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Marriage: Falling In Love | February 2, 2026
- Paul says, ephesians five
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- That nobody hates a part of their body.
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- You don't hate your body.
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- The second great commandment love the lord thy god,
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- All the heart, soul, mind, body.
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- Love your neighbor. who's your closest neighbor?
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- If your mate is your spouse,
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- Love your neighbor as you love yourself.
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- Paul says nobody hates themselves,
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- And therefore we're to love them
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- Because they're a part of us.
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- We are one.
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- Welcome to the winning walk.
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- I'm ed yong.
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- Love is one of god's greatest gifts.
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- In fact, i think you could say it is god's greatest gift.
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- Yet is often misunderstood.
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- Biblical love is more than a feeling.
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- It's a commitment.
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- It's rooted in truth and grace and faithfulness.
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- God's word teaches us how to love well with patience,
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- Kindness, and humility
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- In a way that reflects his character.
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- We study the bible today.
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- My prayers
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- That god will deepen your understanding of his love
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- And how it transforms every area of life.
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- See. how many
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- Times people would come to me and they said,
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- I've fallen in love.
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- Well, i asked, you know how it happened.
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- And so many times i saw her
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- And i knew she was the one.
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- Now, i grant you
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- That sometimes, rarely.
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- This word sounds a okay,
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- But normally
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- Those and say lightning struck
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- And i knew and i fell in love.
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- Normally
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- We have some problems there
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- Because the very word to fall.
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- Right.
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- It means usually to fall down.
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- I know you can fall upstairs
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- And you can maybe fall up a cliff,
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- But generally, to fall
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- Means you fall down and you're tripped up.
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- You didn't see what was there and you have fallen.
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- And so when somebody says they have fallen in love,
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- Usually so many times, tragically,
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- That love bottoms out
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- And they fall in their words,
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- Out of love.
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- We're talking about marriage.
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- We've been talking about marriage.
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- We're talking about singleness.
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- We'll talk about a lot of relationships
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- In the coming weeks, as we sort of take
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- First corinthians seven and just walk through it
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- And take other passages and enhance
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- What god is trying to say to you and me especially,
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- And particularly about marriage.
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- And we understand brand new
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- That when someone comes and says something like,
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- Well, what difference does a little piece of paper make?
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- You ever heard that?
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- Let me tell you the difference it makes.
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- All of a sudden, love is involved.
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- All of a sudden the lord is involved
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- And there is marriage involved.
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- And usually someone who says,
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- Well, i'm not going to love you anymore
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- With just a little piece of paper.
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- What they're really saying,
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- I don't trust you with my heart and my emotions.
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- As long as i feel like i love you.
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- Oh, we're going to stay together.
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- But we've already looked
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- At the word, a feeling, feeling i.
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- I can't help how i feel.
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- Remember that.
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- And we use that as an excuse for something we do.
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- Feelings are not positive or negative.
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- They're not good or bad.
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- Remember,
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- Feelings come
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- As a result of our emotions, our heart and i.
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- I just can't help our feel.
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- We can't help how we feel, but we certainly can help
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- How we respond to feelings.
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- Free will
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- Thought.
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- Reason goes into the response to feeling, therefore
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- To give an excuse.
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- While i can't help how i feel.
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- That's what happens to people who take a piece of paper.
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- Doesn't make any difference.
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- That's what happens to people that does not understand
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- That marriage is a covenant.
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- Not so much
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- A contract, not so much a legal thing.
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- It is a covenant between that couple and almighty god.
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- And by the way, do you remember that
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- We say vows only to god?
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- If you got married,
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- You were standing there, a male and female,
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- And the pastor stood up
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- And said, well,
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- You give yourself to one another
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- And you are to stay together,
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- Good or bad,
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- For better or for worse.
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- And you repeat after him, for better or for worse,
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- For richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health.
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- Do you so promise i do.
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- Who are you saying those vows to?
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- To your mate.
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- To be your. your husband? your wife?
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- No. you're saying those vows to god.
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- Vows are made only to god.
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- That's what makes it a covenant.
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- So therefore, when you make this promise
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- To god, say these vows to god, not to your mate.
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- It's a god.
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- Totally, totally different.
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- And therefore the same thing
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- Happens in our conversion experience.
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- Therefore, we see that marriage and a new birth
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- Of becoming a christian are wonderful metaphors.
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- Marriage is a metaphor for that experience.
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- For example,
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- When you say i believe that
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- Jesus christmas
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- Word became flesh, dwelt among us,
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- I believe calvary.
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- He died on the cross for our sins.
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- I believe in resurrection.
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- God raised him from the dead.
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- I believe the basic historical facts about the good news
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- And what god has done for man and jesus christ.
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- Do you so believe?
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- And you answer, i do,
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- But you're not a christian.
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- No, no, no.
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- That's not the christian experience.
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- To believe the facts and to say i do to those facts.
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- That does not make anybody a christian.
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- It's when the question comes,
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- Do you receive
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- Jesus christ in your life
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- As your savior to salvage you, to save you,
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- And as your lord to run your life?
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- Then when you say, i will
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- You become a christian?
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- You see the parallels between the covenant
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- We make with our bride and with the groom in marriage
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- I do, i will is
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- A metaphor of the covenant we make
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- With god when we receive him as jesus christ.
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- I believe these facts and i will receive him into my life.
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- We have the idea that we receive jesus christ
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- And someday we're going to heaven.
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- We've got that backwards. ladies and gentlemen.
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- Now, when a sperm and egg come together, bang!
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- There is conception.
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- When we receive jesus christ as lord and savior.
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- Bang! there is conception.
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- There is a new birth.
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- And we're already in heaven.
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- If you've done that.
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- Yeah.
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- I was crucified with christ.
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- That sounds like death to me.
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- Nevertheless, i live yet
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- Not i, but christ lives in me.
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- Therefore, we are already in heaven.
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- We are already in the throne room of god
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- At the right hand of the lord.
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- We're already there right now.
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- Therefore, getting to heaven, not climbing.
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- I'm working to get to heaven.
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- Oh no!
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- It is a realized fact.
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- Today we're in heaven.
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- And now we're just in this life.
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- As christians discovering.
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- Listen carefully
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- What we've already become, what we already have.
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- Whoa!
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- We're discovering who we are in christ.
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- What we already have.
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- That's our christian life.
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- That's the excitement of it.
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- The same way a metaphor in marriage.
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- When do we become one?
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- Two shall become one.
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- We get that in genesis two.
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- Don't we leave?
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- Cleave one flesh naked.
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- No shame. one.
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- We get the same thing from jesus and matthew.
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- He said to have become one.
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- Let no man put us under what god has joined together.
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- Matthew.
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- We get the same thing in ephesians by paul
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- To become one.
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- When does that happen?
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- When you say, i do and i will bang you're married, right?
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- Then you become one.
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- Now in the process.
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- We have to grow and develop in that oneness,
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- Discovering afresh who we really are
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- With this new person that has come into being.
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- Therefore, when a death
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- Takes place
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- In marriage,
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- That's divorce.
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- It's suicide.
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- A new life that had been created when two became one.
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- There's a new creation there.
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- And with that, marriage ends in divorce.
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- That is a suicide.
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- And we'll talk about this clearly biblically
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- When we start dealing with divorce and healing, etc..
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- Don't get all tangled up.
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- We're just going to deal on biblical truth.
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- So therefore we see
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- Two become one instantly
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- With i do and i will.
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- And therefore we have the wonderful privilege
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- Of marriage.
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- I've already talked about the only three god,
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- The marriages, their bad marriages,
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- Their okay marriages,
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- And their great marriages.
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- Now, what can would you like to have?
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- Life doesn't always unfold the way we expect.
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- There are moments filled with uncertainty.
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- Challenges that test our strength.
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- And days
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- When encouragement feels hard to find in those moments.
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- We had a garden almost all of my life and our backyard.
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- My dad required that i worked in it.
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- I hated it.
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- I'm not a gardening kind of guy.
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- Some people are
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- More power to you, but when you have a garden,
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- You have to break up the soil and and you plant
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- And you weed, you weed, you weed.
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- In life you have to do some weeding.
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- But some of the weeds
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- We have to pull up.
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- I challenge you
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- That when you get home with your wife, your husband
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- And a quiet time
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- And both of you say, look,
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- Whatever you say, i'm
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- Not going to have a lawyer in me operating.
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- You know, all of us have lawyers in us
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- In the sense that prosecuting a lawyer.
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- Let me tell you what's wrong with you, honey.
- 00:13:20.477 --> 00:13:22.713
- There's a prosecutor in all of us.
- 00:13:22.713 --> 00:13:26.216
- There's a defense lawyer.
- 00:13:26.216 --> 00:13:27.684
- We defend ourselves.
- 00:13:27.684 --> 00:13:30.187
- If you're going to do some effective weeding,
- 00:13:30.187 --> 00:13:32.522
- Get the lawyer out.
- 00:13:32.522 --> 00:13:33.624
- Even life, and ask your mate.
- 00:13:33.624 --> 00:13:38.195
- What could you do?
- 00:13:38.629 --> 00:13:40.197
- Or what could you change to be a better husband
- 00:13:40.197 --> 00:13:43.901
- And a better wife?
- 00:13:44.334 --> 00:13:46.703
- Now remember,
- 00:13:46.703 --> 00:13:48.205
- The lawyer has been taken out of the question.
- 00:13:48.205 --> 00:13:50.540
- You had to remember that. don't dawdle.
- 00:13:50.540 --> 00:13:52.576
- I didn't no, no no no, just listen.
- 00:13:52.576 --> 00:13:55.445
- Just listen.
- 00:13:55.445 --> 00:13:56.647
- And you run into some weeds because your wife,
- 00:13:56.647 --> 00:14:01.451
- Your husband knows more about you and more about me.
- 00:14:01.451 --> 00:14:04.655
- And really, in marriage, if it works at all,
- 00:14:04.655 --> 00:14:07.591
- There's no place to hide.
- 00:14:07.591 --> 00:14:10.761
- You know, all the fun in this, is there?
- 00:14:10.761 --> 00:14:12.896
- All the pretense is there.
- 00:14:12.896 --> 00:14:14.564
- Reality is there.
- 00:14:14.564 --> 00:14:17.301
- That's the way it is.
- 00:14:17.301 --> 00:14:18.468
- Marriage is a mirror
- 00:14:18.468 --> 00:14:19.703
- In what you're forced to look at yourself all the time.
- 00:14:19.703 --> 00:14:22.673
- They can be beneficial and helpful, but
- 00:14:23.473 --> 00:14:26.109
- Your knee isn't waiting.
- 00:14:26.109 --> 00:14:27.110
- Go ask your partner.
- 00:14:27.110 --> 00:14:29.446
- What would you like to change about me?
- 00:14:29.446 --> 00:14:32.115
- Well, what?
- 00:14:32.115 --> 00:14:32.716
- Why am i not getting it?
- 00:14:32.716 --> 00:14:34.885
- And you may run into some weeds
- 00:14:35.519 --> 00:14:37.521
- That have been there for a long time.
- 00:14:37.521 --> 00:14:39.289
- That's keeping that marriage from seeing.
- 00:14:39.289 --> 00:14:42.392
- I like a marriage that's safe.
- 00:14:42.993 --> 00:14:46.229
- A marriage that when you get together, you are thrilled.
- 00:14:46.229 --> 00:14:49.900
- And when you're apart,
- 00:14:49.900 --> 00:14:50.901
- You can't wait to get back together again.
- 00:14:50.901 --> 00:14:53.737
- I had a marriage like that for 58 years.
- 00:14:53.737 --> 00:14:56.306
- I've got a marriage like that two years now in december.
- 00:14:56.306 --> 00:14:59.643
- Let me tell you something, folks.
- 00:14:59.643 --> 00:15:02.412
- This is just preacher stuff.
- 00:15:02.412 --> 00:15:04.581
- This is reality.
- 00:15:04.581 --> 00:15:07.617
- So we gotta do some weeding.
- 00:15:07.617 --> 00:15:10.354
- Some have more weeding to do than others.
- 00:15:10.354 --> 00:15:13.290
- And if your mate doesn't tell you about those,
- 00:15:14.257 --> 00:15:17.294
- We'd spend a little time with god and listen to him,
- 00:15:17.294 --> 00:15:20.831
- And he'll tell you some things you need to pull up
- 00:15:20.831 --> 00:15:23.633
- And kill and root out of your life.
- 00:15:23.633 --> 00:15:25.769
- You say it's too late. no it's not.
- 00:15:25.769 --> 00:15:27.637
- Are you still breathing?
- 00:15:27.637 --> 00:15:29.339
- Everybody breathing? no.
- 00:15:29.873 --> 00:15:31.174
- Anybody stop breathing!
- 00:15:31.174 --> 00:15:33.443
- Oh, we're all great.
- 00:15:33.443 --> 00:15:34.478
- It's not too late.
- 00:15:34.478 --> 00:15:36.213
- God works.
- 00:15:36.213 --> 00:15:37.114
- God heals.
- 00:15:37.114 --> 00:15:39.016
- So in marriage, you gotta always be waiting.
- 00:15:39.016 --> 00:15:42.452
- And you gotta always be planting.
- 00:15:42.452 --> 00:15:45.822
- You can't just clear out of space.
- 00:15:45.822 --> 00:15:47.424
- You gotta plant, plant, plant.
- 00:15:47.424 --> 00:15:50.360
- And on that plant, you have a little tripod there.
- 00:15:51.361 --> 00:15:54.765
- What do you plant?
- 00:15:54.765 --> 00:15:56.800
- I thought about s.a.t. scores.
- 00:15:56.800 --> 00:15:59.002
- What is your s.a.t.
- 00:15:59.002 --> 00:16:00.404
- Score in marriage?
- 00:16:00.404 --> 00:16:02.706
- Husband and wife.
- 00:16:02.706 --> 00:16:04.708
- This, i think, would stand for sensitivity.
- 00:16:04.708 --> 00:16:09.646
- Are you sensitive to your marriage?
- 00:16:10.447 --> 00:16:13.950
- Are you sensitive?
- 00:16:13.950 --> 00:16:15.652
- Tuned in.
- 00:16:15.652 --> 00:16:18.355
- Alert.
- 00:16:18.355 --> 00:16:21.458
- Are you sensitive?
- 00:16:21.892 --> 00:16:24.461
- That's the s.
- 00:16:24.461 --> 00:16:25.662
- Are you attentive?
- 00:16:25.662 --> 00:16:27.664
- Hello?
- 00:16:27.664 --> 00:16:29.666
- Are you attentive to him?
- 00:16:29.666 --> 00:16:32.169
- Attentive.
- 00:16:32.169 --> 00:16:33.236
- If you're sensitive, the follow through is.
- 00:16:33.236 --> 00:16:35.338
- Be attentive.
- 00:16:35.338 --> 00:16:37.841
- And then.
- 00:16:37.841 --> 00:16:38.542
- Are you trustworthy?
- 00:16:38.542 --> 00:16:41.678
- Are you a man or woman that can be trusted?
- 00:16:42.612 --> 00:16:45.816
- All times.
- 00:16:46.116 --> 00:16:47.017
- All places.
- 00:16:47.017 --> 00:16:48.585
- See, that's the tripod upon
- 00:16:48.585 --> 00:16:51.455
- Which planning must be there.
- 00:16:51.455 --> 00:16:54.291
- Well, i'm just not like that.
- 00:16:54.925 --> 00:16:56.526
- I'm not geared like.
- 00:16:56.526 --> 00:16:57.661
- Yes, you are.
- 00:16:57.661 --> 00:17:00.363
- God works miracles when we're born again.
- 00:17:00.363 --> 00:17:03.300
- He works miracles when we die. and.
- 00:17:03.300 --> 00:17:05.535
- And we graduate finally to that which we already have.
- 00:17:05.535 --> 00:17:09.272
- And he'll work a miracle in your marriage.
- 00:17:09.272 --> 00:17:11.741
- If a lot of people would wake up,
- 00:17:11.741 --> 00:17:15.412
- Look up
- 00:17:15.645 --> 00:17:18.281
- Marriages that are successful,
- 00:17:18.281 --> 00:17:20.917
- Exciting, creative, and everything you can imagine
- 00:17:20.917 --> 00:17:24.488
- Their marriage, where there is weeding
- 00:17:25.255 --> 00:17:27.891
- And where there is plenty you,
- 00:17:27.891 --> 00:17:30.427
- We and you plant and you weave and you plan
- 00:17:30.427 --> 00:17:34.965
- And you wake up one day and said,
- 00:17:34.965 --> 00:17:37.834
- I am amazed
- 00:17:38.168 --> 00:17:41.104
- What god is doing in my life.
- 00:17:41.738 --> 00:17:43.840
- So marriage is horizontal,
- 00:17:43.840 --> 00:17:46.576
- But marriage also is vertical.
- 00:17:46.576 --> 00:17:49.212
- It's vertical.
- 00:17:49.546 --> 00:17:50.480
- Let me say something.
- 00:17:50.480 --> 00:17:52.582
- Listen carefully to what i'm saying.
- 00:17:52.582 --> 00:17:57.554
- If you do not pray
- 00:17:57.988 --> 00:18:00.090
- With your wife, your husband.
- 00:18:00.090 --> 00:18:03.994
- That is as serious.
- 00:18:04.461 --> 00:18:06.429
- If you decide not to sleep with your wife or your husband.
- 00:18:06.429 --> 00:18:10.934
- Did you hear what i said?
- 00:18:11.501 --> 00:18:14.237
- If you do not pray with your wife,
- 00:18:14.971 --> 00:18:17.274
- Your husband, that is at least as serious as if you decide
- 00:18:17.274 --> 00:18:21.678
- I'm not going to sleep with my wife or my husband.
- 00:18:21.678 --> 00:18:24.948
- So why is that?
- 00:18:25.315 --> 00:18:27.617
- Because a little bit of prayer
- 00:18:27.617 --> 00:18:29.819
- With god and listening to god together.
- 00:18:29.819 --> 00:18:33.356
- If you've been a jerk,
- 00:18:33.823 --> 00:18:36.726
- If you've been greedy,
- 00:18:37.194 --> 00:18:38.395
- If you've hold grudges, if you've brought back
- 00:18:38.395 --> 00:18:40.997
- Some old problem that have happened
- 00:18:40.997 --> 00:18:42.832
- Way back, you know, listen, you can't really pray.
- 00:18:42.832 --> 00:18:47.003
- Remember, when you get naked, you know,
- 00:18:47.003 --> 00:18:49.339
- The shame we get when we pray, we get naked before god.
- 00:18:49.339 --> 00:18:52.242
- If you don't, he knows anyway.
- 00:18:52.242 --> 00:18:55.645
- So when you pray
- 00:18:56.046 --> 00:18:57.013
- Together, exciting things happen.
- 00:18:57.013 --> 00:19:00.016
- Wonderful things happen.
- 00:19:00.016 --> 00:19:02.152
- All the phoniness, all the masks go away.
- 00:19:02.152 --> 00:19:05.422
- When you really go to the lord god and say,
- 00:19:05.422 --> 00:19:07.891
- Lord, i've got this and that, and the other man
- 00:19:07.891 --> 00:19:10.727
- It is magnificent.
- 00:19:10.727 --> 00:19:13.763
- So there's horizontal.
- 00:19:13.763 --> 00:19:15.599
- We wait and we plant, we wait and we plant
- 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:18.335
- And there is vertical.
- 00:19:18.335 --> 00:19:20.103
- That's when we go to him and we pray.
- 00:19:20.103 --> 00:19:22.939
- And in the process, what begins to happen
- 00:19:22.939 --> 00:19:25.709
- To a man and women in marriage, they begin to unconditionally
- 00:19:25.709 --> 00:19:29.279
- Love each other
- 00:19:29.279 --> 00:19:32.115
- As god, unconditionally.
- 00:19:32.115 --> 00:19:33.416
- God loves every one of us, regardless
- 00:19:33.416 --> 00:19:36.786
- Of anything we've done or will do or have done.
- 00:19:36.786 --> 00:19:39.623
- His love is permanent.
- 00:19:39.623 --> 00:19:41.124
- It does not change.
- 00:19:41.124 --> 00:19:42.459
- It does not vary.
- 00:19:42.459 --> 00:19:43.960
- He just in every situation loves us.
- 00:19:43.960 --> 00:19:47.397
- We get to that point with our mate.
- 00:19:48.131 --> 00:19:50.000
- We just we just love them because we are honest
- 00:19:50.000 --> 00:19:53.770
- With god and honest with one another.
- 00:19:53.770 --> 00:19:56.973
- And there's weeding and there's planting
- 00:19:56.973 --> 00:19:59.309
- And there's praying together, and wonderful things happen
- 00:19:59.309 --> 00:20:02.479
- And we realize we're going up that triangle.
- 00:20:02.479 --> 00:20:05.682
- We're becoming more and more literally one.
- 00:20:05.682 --> 00:20:09.986
- We are one, but we're discovering
- 00:20:09.986 --> 00:20:12.255
- What that one is, is all about and how magnificent it is.
- 00:20:12.255 --> 00:20:17.127
- Paul says, ephesians five
- 00:20:17.694 --> 00:20:20.297
- That nobody hates a part of their body.
- 00:20:20.297 --> 00:20:22.399
- You don't hate your body.
- 00:20:22.399 --> 00:20:24.934
- The second great commandment love the lord thy god,
- 00:20:24.934 --> 00:20:27.304
- All the heart, soul, mind, body.
- 00:20:27.304 --> 00:20:28.972
- Love your neighbor. who's your closest neighbor?
- 00:20:28.972 --> 00:20:31.341
- If your mate is your spouse,
- 00:20:31.341 --> 00:20:34.010
- Love your neighbor as you love yourself.
- 00:20:34.010 --> 00:20:35.845
- Paul says nobody hates themselves,
- 00:20:35.845 --> 00:20:39.182
- And therefore we're to love them
- 00:20:39.916 --> 00:20:41.451
- Because they're a part of us.
- 00:20:41.451 --> 00:20:43.019
- We are one.
- 00:20:43.019 --> 00:20:45.989
- I ran into a word
- 00:20:45.989 --> 00:20:48.858
- That i did not know
- 00:20:48.858 --> 00:20:51.127
- A couple of weeks ago emulsion, emulsion.
- 00:20:51.127 --> 00:20:55.298
- I didn't know the meaning of that word.
- 00:20:56.166 --> 00:20:58.802
- Now be careful how many know the meaning of that word.
- 00:20:58.802 --> 00:21:02.572
- Would you lift your hand and hold it there?
- 00:21:02.572 --> 00:21:05.542
- If you know what?
- 00:21:05.542 --> 00:21:06.509
- I didn't know. maybe you do. lift your hand.
- 00:21:06.509 --> 00:21:08.745
- Hold it there.
- 00:21:08.745 --> 00:21:09.846
- You know what emulsion means.
- 00:21:09.846 --> 00:21:12.515
- Little timid hand weight.
- 00:21:12.515 --> 00:21:13.917
- Oh, well, if you know what emulsion means, lift your hand.
- 00:21:13.917 --> 00:21:17.320
- Now, one of the wives know that is sort of a cooking word.
- 00:21:18.455 --> 00:21:21.958
- I have discovered that
- 00:21:22.425 --> 00:21:24.894
- Emulsion is a beautiful word.
- 00:21:24.894 --> 00:21:29.032
- Emulsion.
- 00:21:29.332 --> 00:21:31.501
- Well, i'll give you an illustration.
- 00:21:31.501 --> 00:21:34.204
- If you have oil
- 00:21:34.204 --> 00:21:36.940
- And you have vinegar
- 00:21:37.407 --> 00:21:39.843
- And you mix them together
- 00:21:39.843 --> 00:21:41.244
- And you shake them hard enough, there is a baguette.
- 00:21:41.244 --> 00:21:44.581
- There is emulsion there.
- 00:21:44.581 --> 00:21:46.783
- But what happens when the shaking stops?
- 00:21:46.783 --> 00:21:49.819
- They beget, begins to separate again.
- 00:21:49.819 --> 00:21:52.889
- Does that you see, oil primarily is fat,
- 00:21:52.889 --> 00:21:56.760
- Doesn't have any taste.
- 00:21:57.260 --> 00:21:59.429
- Vinegar is an acidity type
- 00:21:59.429 --> 00:22:02.799
- Solution, and it has a strong, sharp taste.
- 00:22:02.799 --> 00:22:06.636
- But you mix them together, you have all in vinegar.
- 00:22:06.636 --> 00:22:09.639
- And, man, that's a pretty good thing.
- 00:22:09.639 --> 00:22:11.141
- Emulsion takes place.
- 00:22:11.141 --> 00:22:13.009
- But if coal comes
- 00:22:13.009 --> 00:22:17.180
- Immediately, they divide.
- 00:22:17.747 --> 00:22:19.883
- If hot comes
- 00:22:19.883 --> 00:22:21.751
- Just almost immediately, they divide.
- 00:22:21.751 --> 00:22:24.554
- What a beautiful picture of marriage.
- 00:22:24.554 --> 00:22:27.056
- One dish,
- 00:22:27.056 --> 00:22:28.825
- We come together.
- 00:22:28.825 --> 00:22:30.660
- There's emulsion,
- 00:22:30.660 --> 00:22:32.896
- But let some conflict come.
- 00:22:32.896 --> 00:22:34.664
- A little heat come.
- 00:22:34.664 --> 00:22:37.300
- We begin to step away.
- 00:22:37.300 --> 00:22:39.836
- Let some coldness come.
- 00:22:39.836 --> 00:22:42.105
- Oh, we begin to divide.
- 00:22:42.105 --> 00:22:45.208
- So what keeps emulsion there?
- 00:22:45.842 --> 00:22:50.280
- We know there.
- 00:22:50.613 --> 00:22:51.815
- These are molecules that are off to the ends of the pole.
- 00:22:51.815 --> 00:22:55.652
- And what is it that takes those molecules?
- 00:22:55.652 --> 00:22:58.922
- What is.
- 00:22:59.189 --> 00:23:00.423
- What are the hands that are used to bring emulsion together
- 00:23:00.423 --> 00:23:03.860
- So that the oil and vinegar stay together?
- 00:23:03.860 --> 00:23:06.696
- Because you go to the grocery store
- 00:23:06.696 --> 00:23:08.765
- And there's all in vinegar and it's not divided.
- 00:23:08.765 --> 00:23:11.835
- Well what happened?
- 00:23:11.835 --> 00:23:13.703
- Why is that different?
- 00:23:13.703 --> 00:23:14.571
- We mix all in there.
- 00:23:14.571 --> 00:23:15.772
- What happened? emulsion.
- 00:23:15.772 --> 00:23:18.508
- And what?
- 00:23:18.808 --> 00:23:19.309
- Why is that?
- 00:23:19.309 --> 00:23:20.543
- Oil and vinegar staying together?
- 00:23:20.543 --> 00:23:22.612
- It's because there is a stabilizer
- 00:23:22.612 --> 00:23:25.782
- Is added.
- 00:23:25.782 --> 00:23:28.551
- Added stabilizer.
- 00:23:28.551 --> 00:23:30.353
- And that stabilizer,
- 00:23:30.353 --> 00:23:32.922
- It just brings those different molecules
- 00:23:32.922 --> 00:23:36.693
- From different pole,
- 00:23:36.693 --> 00:23:37.660
- Polar opposite together like a man and a woman,
- 00:23:37.660 --> 00:23:40.563
- And brings them together.
- 00:23:40.563 --> 00:23:41.931
- And that stabilizer keeps them as one.
- 00:23:41.931 --> 00:23:50.240
- If you don't know,
- 00:23:50.673 --> 00:23:53.810
- You'll never guess
- 00:23:53.810 --> 00:23:56.779
- What that stabilizer normally is.
- 00:23:56.779 --> 00:24:01.518
- In marriage,
- 00:24:01.851 --> 00:24:04.320
- It's the lord jesus christ.
- 00:24:04.320 --> 00:24:06.489
- Ladies and gentlemen, it is the lord jesus christ
- 00:24:06.489 --> 00:24:10.293
- And takes these two polar opposites, male and female,
- 00:24:10.293 --> 00:24:13.763
- And brings them together in his principles.
- 00:24:13.763 --> 00:24:16.266
- And that vertical relationship, that horizontal relationship,
- 00:24:16.266 --> 00:24:19.702
- That one is sealed together by god and jesus christ.
- 00:24:19.702 --> 00:24:23.806
- And we seek to live together according to his principles.
- 00:24:23.806 --> 00:24:27.210
- For there's plenty of forgiveness.
- 00:24:27.210 --> 00:24:28.878
- There's plenty of loving.
- 00:24:28.878 --> 00:24:30.647
- There's plenty of opportunity to really celebrate
- 00:24:30.647 --> 00:24:34.050
- The sacred gift of marriage.
- 00:24:34.050 --> 00:24:35.752
- The stabilizer is jesus.
- 00:24:35.752 --> 00:24:38.521
- What is a stabilizer
- 00:24:38.521 --> 00:24:41.691
- With oil and vinegar?
- 00:24:41.691 --> 00:24:46.829
- Honey,
- 00:24:47.030 --> 00:24:49.198
- Honey,
- 00:24:49.198 --> 00:24:51.301
- Is that terrific?
- 00:24:51.301 --> 00:24:53.469
- Remember i told you
- 00:24:53.469 --> 00:24:55.471
- Your marriage can't just
- 00:24:55.471 --> 00:24:58.174
- Stay there and you never.
- 00:24:58.174 --> 00:24:59.208
- Bad marriage.
- 00:24:59.208 --> 00:25:01.144
- You never married.
- 00:25:01.144 --> 00:25:02.145
- That's, you know, okay.
- 00:25:02.145 --> 00:25:03.947
- Sometimes good, sometimes bad.
- 00:25:03.947 --> 00:25:06.649
- We're just hanging on
- 00:25:06.649 --> 00:25:09.118
- Or you can have
- 00:25:09.485 --> 00:25:12.355
- A marriage that is a perpetual
- 00:25:12.355 --> 00:25:16.125
- Honey
- 00:25:16.359 --> 00:25:18.561
- Moon.
- 00:25:18.561 --> 00:25:24.767
- Jesus christ
- 00:25:25.101 --> 00:25:27.804
- Keeps that one.
- 00:25:27.804 --> 00:25:29.005
- Is that emulsion there
- 00:25:29.005 --> 00:25:32.008
- In marriage?
- 00:25:32.008 --> 00:25:33.109
- Therefore, in a human sense, is the most fulfilling,
- 00:25:33.109 --> 00:25:37.380
- Meaningful, exciting gift
- 00:25:37.380 --> 00:25:41.684
- That god has given
- 00:25:42.118 --> 00:25:44.587
- To humanity.
- 00:25:44.587 --> 00:25:47.724
- I wrote standing on the promises
- 00:25:48.424 --> 00:25:50.426
- This little book, years ago, because life has a way
- 00:25:50.426 --> 00:25:53.997
- Of shaking us right to our very foundations.
- 00:25:53.997 --> 00:25:59.035
- We all face days when circumstances
- 00:25:59.035 --> 00:26:01.804
- Feel bigger than our faith, and the very ground
- 00:26:01.804 --> 00:26:04.941
- On which we stand seems to be shaking.
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- But over the years, i found there's
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- Something that never changes.
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- God keeps his promises.
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- This book is designed to help you hold on to that truth
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- Every single day, 24/7.
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- Standing on the promises is a 365 day
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- Devotional short, practical, rooted in scripture,
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- Created to meet you right where you are.
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- Whether you're starting your day or ending your day, or
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- Or just needing encouragement in the middle of your day,
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- Each reading reminds you
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- That god's word is reliable.
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- His presence is real.
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- His promises are working even when you can't
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- See the results yet,
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- And you don't know which promise to claim.
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- My prayer is that this book becomes a daily companion.
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- Strengthen your faith.
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- Restore your confidence, and helping you stand firm
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- No matter what comes your way.
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- I invite you to call the number on the screen and order
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- Standing on the promises today, and discover
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- The peace that surpasses all human understanding
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- That comes from building your life
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- On god's un.
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- Changing word.
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