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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Marriage: Is Living With Love | February 3, 2026
- Ladies and
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- Gentlemen, i've got a newsflash
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- For some people.
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- You know what it is.
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- Feelings.
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- Do not determine our action.
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- Our actions come from our free
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- Will and our reason.
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- We don't just live on the basis of our heart.
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- There is the mind and the reason
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- That superintend and controls our feelings.
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- You got it.
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- Hello, i'm ed young.
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- Strong marriages, healthy families.
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- Don't happen by accident.
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- They are built on faith, commitment and obedience
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- To god's word found in the bible.
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- The bible offers practical guidance
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- For loving one another, resolving conflicts,
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- And building homes that reflect christ.
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- As we study scripture today,
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- My prayer is that god will encourage you
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- And equip you to strengthen your marriage and family
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- Through his everlasting truth.
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- Worldly winning will, family
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- Biblical principles that we'll be looking at together
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- Will help your marriage to sing in a broken world.
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- You'll have wholeness and meaning.
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- And i can tell you some.
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- Every day we seek
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- To let the biblical principles operate in your marriage,
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- In my marriage and your life, and in my life.
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- I'll tell you, the winning world with jesus
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- Christ will come more real and more vibrant
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- And will have more fire to it
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- Than you can imagine.
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- Welcome to the winning world family.
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- Marriage.
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- Marriage.
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- From the beginning
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- Of the bible in genesis,
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- The first real miracle
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- That took place
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- Was when god
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- Gave us marriage.
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- The vows of their leave cleave naked.
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- One flesh, no shame.
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- So the bible begins
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- With marriage.
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- The bible ends in revelation
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- With marriage.
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- We graduate and go to heaven and be with the lord.
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- There is the marriage feast of the lamb, a banquet
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- That takes place because the church, you and i, all of us,
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- Are the bride of christ, and he is the bridegroom.
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- And therefore there will be a marriage celebration.
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- When we graduate and go to be with the lord.
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- So the bible has a parentheses of marriage
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- On both sides of it,
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- And right in the middle.
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- Jesus performed the first miracle win
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- Marriage feast cana of galilee.
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- And all the way through the scripture
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- We have marriage used as the best metaphor
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- Of what it is to know god through jesus christ.
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- In this relationship we have vertically.
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- This is the best illustration we have for what happens
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- Horizontally is marriage.
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- Marriage
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- Is the most important and vital and significant
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- Human relationship.
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- Period. no debate.
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- Bottom line.
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- Marriage.
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- You say?
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- Well, what about singles?
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- Singles need to understand
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- The beauty and the miracle of marriage.
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- If you're widowed, if you're divorced.
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- If you never married.
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- How important it is when this is the figure
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- That is used to help us understand
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- The relationship we have with god.
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- The best physical understanding is marriage.
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- It is a sacred,
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- Holy gift. now
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- Let me confess something.
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- When i first uttered
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- Those marriage vows,
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- I'll tell you something i didn't really
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- Follow through.
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- I didn't really comprehend.
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- I didn't know the depth of those vows.
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- Somehow i had forgotten or did not know
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- That a vow is different
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- From a promise.
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- Vow is something we make to god,
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- Not in any other reverence.
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- A vow is to god and a promise or a contract,
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- Or our resolution is different than a vow.
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- And therefore, when you and i, if you've ever been married
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- Or you are married, when you uttered those vows,
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- They were to god as well as to your wife or your husband.
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- Whoa!
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- Now, when i got married, i knew i was legally married.
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- I entered into a contract of the state,
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- But i had no idea
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- That that emotion
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- That i felt of love
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- And that chemistry that i felt, which
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- I could not separate from that emotion.
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- Do you understand.
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- What i'm saying?
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- Did you listen? yeah.
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- But vow
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- A vow.
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- And then, as i studied these vows with a new depth
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- Of understanding that i prayed god would give to you and me,
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- I said, where did they come from?
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- They began in the garden.
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- They've evolved through time.
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- And finally, the archbishop of canterbury
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- Had had put down
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- Those classical vows you found in the common book of prayer.
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- And they've evolved.
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- And some people get married, they write their own vows.
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- But there are a basic
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- Overlook of vows.
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- Now, also, to my surprise,
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- As i studied these vows with new eyes,
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- I realized that of all people,
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- Elvis presley
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- And elvis presley
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- In the song,
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- That was the theme of his life.
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- Really
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- Encompass these.
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- Vows that are expressed biblically
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- And have been very treated by people through the years,
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- And i would never have dreamed of this.
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- You remember tlc was that elvis gave out.
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- He gave out rings and bracelets and had on one of his many
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- Outfits that he wore.
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- Tlc tender loving care.
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- But in the. classic song.
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- That he sang over and over again.
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- Believe it or not, it.
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- Encompasses.
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- The biblical view of marriage and the vows
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- That are taken in marriage.
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- Love me tender.
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- Love me true.
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- Never let me go.
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- You have made.
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- My life complete.
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- And i love you so.
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- Love me tender.
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- You see it's all there.
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- For example.
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- You take the word tender.
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- And it can easily be the word cherish.
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- Oh, big word.
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- And love is there
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- And truth is there.
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- So when you think about the biblical
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- Context in which our vows are built,
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- It's all there in a secular song.
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- So the secular world comes down and defines it.
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- The biblical world defines it.
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- And we repeat those vows when we get married.
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- So we're going to see that when we get married.
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- First of all, there is a vow to truth.
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- And then we'll see.
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- There is a vow to love.
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- And there is a vow to cherish.
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- Remember now, to have means to possess,
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- To hold means to endure.
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- So what happens?
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- We when we get married, we are actually fulfilling what
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- The apostle paul in first corinthians seven chapter four,
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- Which he says,
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- Hey, wives, you don't own yourselves.
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- You don't own your body.
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- Husbands, guess what?
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- You don't own your body.
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- When you get married, the other person owns you.
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- Whoa.
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- That's a big thing.
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- There's been a lot of trust there, doesn't it?
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- A lot of trust.
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- And then he says to have.
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- And the whole
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- Have means to totally own, to totally opposite.
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- You and not.
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- Wait a minute. yep. that's it.
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- And to hold.
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- You can hold someone up.
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- You can hold and push them down.
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- You can lead them out.
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- You can pull them back
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- And that is all in the hands of the wife
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- And the hands of the husband.
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- Well, i don't know.
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- Oh, yes.
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- This is biblical marriage.
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- Ladies and gentlemen,
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- To have and to hold.
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- And therefore
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- This is the very foundation of marriage, because that is
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- A total reliability and a dependance on that person
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- That you said i do, and i will too, as well as almighty god,
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- Who has built in those vows
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- To have and to whole from this day forward.
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- That sounds like forever to me.
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- I don't know about you,
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- And that is the foundation of truth.
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- Truth
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- Is all in and through marriage.
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- Truth comes out
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- And we discover that when we're married,
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- We wake up.
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- Sometime and say, oh,
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- I didn't know he was so prideful.
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- I didn't see that.
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- Oh, i didn't know she was so vengeful.
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- I didn't see that.
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- I didn't know that he was so unforgiving.
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- I didn't know that she pouted.
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- And and all of this and all in between
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- The little many things that we saw
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- When we were dating or talking about getting married.
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- Now they're put on steroids.
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- Those little things become gigantic.
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- Things.
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- And you wake up and say,
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- I married a stranger.
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- And the morning you look over there
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- And there's gorilla breath.
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- And the hair
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- Looks like you put your finger in a socket or something.
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- And he gets up and puts
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- On those old dirty sweats, and he goes to the bathroom.
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- And and makes noises.
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- You never heard before.
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- You see.
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- There's no place to hide in marriage.
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- The truth comes out.
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- It is seen in this most intimate relationship.
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- It is all there.
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- And it's startling to some people.
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- Man, you mean i've given myself to having to hold to to her.
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- To him.
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- But it's based on truth.
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- It reveals who we are.
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- There's an openness.
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- There's a there's a revelation of truth.
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- Marriage based
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- On truth.
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- So we make a vow to truth.
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- And all of a sudden,
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- That person knows more about you than your mom or dad,
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- Your brother, your sister, your best friend.
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- It's all there.
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- Life doesn't always unfold the way we expect.
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- There are moments filled with uncertainty.
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- Challenges that test our strength.
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- And days
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- When encouragement feels hard to find in those moments.
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- In marriage, you have
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- To talk, talk, talk.
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- Listen, listen, listen
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- And pray, pray, pray.
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- Otherwise, you're going to stay there.
- 00:13:59.016 --> 00:14:00.651
- Well, our marriage is okay.
- 00:14:00.651 --> 00:14:02.319
- There's a lot of okay marriages,
- 00:14:02.319 --> 00:14:04.154
- And that is a tremendous tragedy.
- 00:14:04.154 --> 00:14:06.456
- Ladies and gentlemen.
- 00:14:06.456 --> 00:14:07.324
- Death. well, we're okay.
- 00:14:07.324 --> 00:14:09.326
- We're doing all right.
- 00:14:09.326 --> 00:14:11.728
- You know, she sort of does her thing.
- 00:14:11.728 --> 00:14:13.530
- This is a terrible, terrible thing.
- 00:14:13.530 --> 00:14:16.700
- And really, it's a marriage in form
- 00:14:16.700 --> 00:14:19.436
- And not in magnificent reality.
- 00:14:19.436 --> 00:14:24.041
- Talk talk
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- Talk listen, listen, listen.
- 00:14:25.242 --> 00:14:28.378
- And let me say a word to the guys.
- 00:14:28.378 --> 00:14:31.715
- I've said this many, many times,
- 00:14:31.715 --> 00:14:33.350
- But somehow i forget it.
- 00:14:33.350 --> 00:14:36.019
- Gentlemen, we're not good listeners.
- 00:14:36.019 --> 00:14:39.423
- And when your wife comes to you with a problem.
- 00:14:39.423 --> 00:14:41.858
- Listen, listen, listen.
- 00:14:41.858 --> 00:14:44.461
- But do not try to solve the problem.
- 00:14:44.461 --> 00:14:47.531
- That's something men don't understand.
- 00:14:47.531 --> 00:14:50.133
- They come with a problem.
- 00:14:50.701 --> 00:14:51.802
- Well, let me tell you.
- 00:14:51.802 --> 00:14:52.936
- You need to do this and stop doing this and go there.
- 00:14:52.936 --> 00:14:55.706
- Oh, no no no no no!
- 00:14:55.706 --> 00:14:57.708
- God, listen to me.
- 00:14:57.708 --> 00:14:59.343
- When they come to their problem, merely restate the.
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- Problem to them.
- 00:15:03.080 --> 00:15:05.148
- Well, you say you're having a.
- 00:15:05.148 --> 00:15:07.250
- Problem with that friend who sort of betrayed you.
- 00:15:07.250 --> 00:15:10.220
- You know, restate the problem.
- 00:15:10.821 --> 00:15:13.590
- Don't try to solve it.
- 00:15:13.590 --> 00:15:15.726
- Gentlemen, trust me,
- 00:15:15.726 --> 00:15:17.761
- You try to solve it.
- 00:15:17.761 --> 00:15:18.762
- All of a sudden, you're in the middle of it.
- 00:15:18.762 --> 00:15:21.932
- So in marriage, you listen.
- 00:15:21.932 --> 00:15:24.601
- Listen, listen.
- 00:15:24.601 --> 00:15:26.103
- You talk, talk, talk.
- 00:15:26.103 --> 00:15:27.571
- And you pray, pray, pray and all of a sudden,
- 00:15:27.571 --> 00:15:30.273
- The marriage that just. okay.
- 00:15:30.273 --> 00:15:33.143
- And a lot of marriages just.
- 00:15:33.744 --> 00:15:35.178
- Okay.
- 00:15:35.178 --> 00:15:36.380
- I've read a lot of surveys about marriage.
- 00:15:36.380 --> 00:15:39.483
- And the one that seems to be overwhelmingly
- 00:15:39.483 --> 00:15:42.519
- True is that about 60
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- To 63% of married people say in confidence,
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- If i had to do over, i would marry him or her again
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- By 60%.
- 00:15:53.330 --> 00:15:55.098
- And only about, you know,
- 00:15:55.098 --> 00:15:57.000
- 5 to 8% in marriages say
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- Our marriage is fabulous.
- 00:16:00.871 --> 00:16:03.974
- Only about 5 or 8%.
- 00:16:04.441 --> 00:16:07.310
- So something's wrong with all of this.
- 00:16:07.310 --> 00:16:09.212
- I think it's the fact we don't understand the vows.
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- We don't understand the sacredness of it.
- 00:16:13.683 --> 00:16:16.653
- And first of all, there is a veil
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- To truth.
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- To truth.
- 00:16:23.326 --> 00:16:24.795
- And the next part of our vows, there is a vow to love.
- 00:16:24.795 --> 00:16:29.366
- We're going to be dealing with love in weeks and weeks
- 00:16:30.467 --> 00:16:32.836
- And weeks to come.
- 00:16:32.836 --> 00:16:33.904
- And i will not exhaust that most
- 00:16:33.904 --> 00:16:36.873
- Vital, pregnant, meaningful word.
- 00:16:36.873 --> 00:16:40.043
- But we're going to deal with it.
- 00:16:40.043 --> 00:16:41.878
- But i'm going to sort of touch on love.
- 00:16:41.878 --> 00:16:44.981
- First of all, you read in the scripture
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- A very clear word in first
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- John 416 that god is love.
- 00:16:52.055 --> 00:16:57.394
- Now, well, i knew that.
- 00:16:57.894 --> 00:16:58.895
- Well, think about it.
- 00:16:58.895 --> 00:17:00.163
- God, god's essence,
- 00:17:00.163 --> 00:17:03.033
- God's totality, with all these other attributes
- 00:17:03.033 --> 00:17:06.870
- Is totally complete.
- 00:17:07.337 --> 00:17:09.172
- Pure love.
- 00:17:09.172 --> 00:17:11.675
- And that scripture in first john says,
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- If we love god,
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- Therefore god loves us.
- 00:17:16.880 --> 00:17:20.117
- And there's that love relationship between you and i
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- To god.
- 00:17:23.553 --> 00:17:24.421
- And god's love is
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- Unending.
- 00:17:27.090 --> 00:17:28.992
- You can't do anything, say anything to get away
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- From the totality of god, because god's essence is love.
- 00:17:32.863 --> 00:17:36.933
- You and i.
- 00:17:37.234 --> 00:17:38.301
- As we abide in god, that means
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- Take up residence in godly understanding.
- 00:17:41.071 --> 00:17:44.641
- Then we have the capacity to love.
- 00:17:44.641 --> 00:17:46.843
- Some people have a tough time loving sacrificially
- 00:17:46.843 --> 00:17:50.046
- And with that big pregnant, agape type of love
- 00:17:50.046 --> 00:17:53.383
- Because we don't realize that god loves us unconditionally
- 00:17:53.383 --> 00:17:57.521
- And therefore we have not experienced
- 00:17:58.321 --> 00:18:00.190
- Sometimes love in our family, love and relationships.
- 00:18:00.190 --> 00:18:03.860
- And therefore we do not.
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- We're not able to powerfully to give of love.
- 00:18:05.795 --> 00:18:09.533
- You see, because i have been loved,
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- And the proportion
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- By which i understand god has love me,
- 00:18:12.736 --> 00:18:15.272
- And i have been loved by others.
- 00:18:15.272 --> 00:18:17.107
- Then i have love in me, and i can give of love
- 00:18:17.107 --> 00:18:21.211
- And love.
- 00:18:21.511 --> 00:18:23.747
- Is not a feeling
- 00:18:23.747 --> 00:18:26.316
- To god.
- 00:18:26.316 --> 00:18:27.150
- Love is a noun.
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- He is love.
- 00:18:29.219 --> 00:18:30.887
- But to you and i love is a verb.
- 00:18:30.887 --> 00:18:35.292
- It's. i mean, as a man.
- 00:18:35.792 --> 00:18:36.860
- Well, i fell in love and i can fall out of love.
- 00:18:36.860 --> 00:18:39.663
- Non sense.
- 00:18:39.963 --> 00:18:42.933
- You are a sinner and you married a sinner.
- 00:18:42.933 --> 00:18:45.769
- And there will be sin in the relationship.
- 00:18:45.769 --> 00:18:48.405
- And we can't escape it.
- 00:18:48.405 --> 00:18:49.673
- We can be forgiven from it.
- 00:18:49.673 --> 00:18:52.475
- We fell in love in a fallen world
- 00:18:52.475 --> 00:18:55.245
- That it has already fallen.
- 00:18:55.245 --> 00:18:58.481
- So we're talking about this
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- Fabulous relationship,
- 00:19:02.118 --> 00:19:04.321
- And we take a vow to love.
- 00:19:04.321 --> 00:19:07.390
- Have you ever said,
- 00:19:07.857 --> 00:19:10.594
- Well, i can't help how i feel?
- 00:19:10.594 --> 00:19:14.297
- Let me give you a little wake up call about feelings.
- 00:19:14.297 --> 00:19:17.801
- Feelings are not good, and they're not bad.
- 00:19:17.801 --> 00:19:22.272
- Feelings are not moral.
- 00:19:22.772 --> 00:19:25.041
- Our feelings are not immoral.
- 00:19:25.041 --> 00:19:27.844
- It is true that we can help how we feel.
- 00:19:27.844 --> 00:19:31.514
- But a lot of people use feelings
- 00:19:32.249 --> 00:19:35.518
- As a excuse for lust,
- 00:19:36.019 --> 00:19:39.089
- As an excuse for how we relate to somebody.
- 00:19:39.089 --> 00:19:42.459
- You know how i can't help how i feel.
- 00:19:42.459 --> 00:19:45.228
- And that brings you into two big
- 00:19:45.929 --> 00:19:47.964
- Old, broad philosophical areas.
- 00:19:47.964 --> 00:19:50.667
- Don't get lost in it.
- 00:19:50.667 --> 00:19:53.136
- You say, i can't help how i feel.
- 00:19:53.136 --> 00:19:55.005
- In one sense, you can't.
- 00:19:55.005 --> 00:19:56.373
- But feelings cannot be determinative of what we do.
- 00:19:56.373 --> 00:20:01.344
- It doesn't work like that.
- 00:20:01.911 --> 00:20:04.514
- And there there's a whole school of
- 00:20:04.514 --> 00:20:06.416
- Thought called stoicism.
- 00:20:06.416 --> 00:20:08.685
- They didn't know that word.
- 00:20:08.685 --> 00:20:09.653
- It means i don't recognize feelings.
- 00:20:09.653 --> 00:20:12.055
- I try to stomp down any emotions i have.
- 00:20:12.055 --> 00:20:14.958
- I don't want to live on the basis of emotion.
- 00:20:14.958 --> 00:20:17.360
- I'm just going to be sterile and static
- 00:20:17.360 --> 00:20:20.530
- And cold and not recognize any feelings.
- 00:20:20.530 --> 00:20:23.633
- Just deny them.
- 00:20:23.633 --> 00:20:27.203
- That's immanuel kant.
- 00:20:27.704 --> 00:20:28.938
- If you are a philosopher, stamp out feeling.
- 00:20:28.938 --> 00:20:31.908
- Stamp out emotion.
- 00:20:31.908 --> 00:20:33.043
- Don't let the heart rule.
- 00:20:33.043 --> 00:20:35.245
- Don't deal with that.
- 00:20:35.245 --> 00:20:36.479
- That's one extreme, the other extreme.
- 00:20:36.479 --> 00:20:39.783
- I can't help how i feel, therefore
- 00:20:39.783 --> 00:20:42.252
- I act on the basis of how i feel.
- 00:20:42.252 --> 00:20:45.455
- And that is rousseau.
- 00:20:45.455 --> 00:20:46.489
- That is as stupid as trying to kill feelings.
- 00:20:46.489 --> 00:20:50.060
- As i say, i'm going to respond because how i feel.
- 00:20:50.060 --> 00:20:53.363
- Ladies and gentlemen, i've got a newsflash
- 00:20:54.264 --> 00:20:58.268
- For some people.
- 00:20:58.268 --> 00:21:01.705
- You know what it is.
- 00:21:02.172 --> 00:21:04.541
- Feelings.
- 00:21:04.541 --> 00:21:07.777
- Do not determine our action.
- 00:21:07.777 --> 00:21:10.547
- Our actions come from our free
- 00:21:10.547 --> 00:21:13.183
- Will and our reason.
- 00:21:13.183 --> 00:21:16.286
- We don't just live on the basis of our heart.
- 00:21:16.286 --> 00:21:19.255
- There is the mind and the reason
- 00:21:19.255 --> 00:21:23.159
- That superintend and controls our feelings.
- 00:21:23.159 --> 00:21:26.830
- You got it.
- 00:21:26.830 --> 00:21:28.898
- The little whiny thing.
- 00:21:28.898 --> 00:21:30.633
- I can't help how i feel.
- 00:21:30.633 --> 00:21:32.335
- Being is not moral. they're not immoral.
- 00:21:32.335 --> 00:21:34.637
- They're not right.
- 00:21:34.637 --> 00:21:35.438
- They're not wrong
- 00:21:35.438 --> 00:21:36.406
- That we do something that is right and good.
- 00:21:36.406 --> 00:21:39.409
- We have good feelings and it follows with happiness.
- 00:21:39.409 --> 00:21:42.278
- It would do something that is wrong and unseemly.
- 00:21:42.278 --> 00:21:45.048
- We have guilt that it comes which lead to unhappiness.
- 00:21:45.048 --> 00:21:48.251
- But feelings do not control.
- 00:21:48.251 --> 00:21:49.919
- We cannot help how they feel, but how we respond
- 00:21:49.919 --> 00:21:53.490
- Comes to our free will and our reason.
- 00:21:53.490 --> 00:21:55.892
- So you have to have the heart and the head.
- 00:21:55.892 --> 00:21:57.961
- Yes, they're both not easy or hard.
- 00:21:57.961 --> 00:22:00.363
- Both in.
- 00:22:00.363 --> 00:22:02.198
- So don't
- 00:22:02.465 --> 00:22:03.433
- Say to anybody, oh, i can't help how i feel.
- 00:22:03.433 --> 00:22:07.103
- I act on the basis of how i feel.
- 00:22:07.103 --> 00:22:09.672
- I've heard that so much in marriage conflict.
- 00:22:09.672 --> 00:22:13.877
- God loved abraham, right?
- 00:22:14.444 --> 00:22:16.312
- No. you might.
- 00:22:16.312 --> 00:22:18.481
- And he said, abraham, i'm going to make out of you
- 00:22:18.481 --> 00:22:20.517
- A great nation.
- 00:22:20.517 --> 00:22:23.520
- Couldn't god have loved a lot more people shot
- 00:22:23.520 --> 00:22:25.822
- Abraham, though.
- 00:22:25.822 --> 00:22:26.856
- He just started over the old abraham.
- 00:22:26.856 --> 00:22:29.559
- And out of abraham he made a nation.
- 00:22:29.559 --> 00:22:31.961
- But he was a small.
- 00:22:31.961 --> 00:22:33.663
- Insignificant.
- 00:22:33.663 --> 00:22:34.898
- Nation of israelites, of jews in the backside of nowhere.
- 00:22:34.898 --> 00:22:39.402
- As far as the world is concerned.
- 00:22:39.402 --> 00:22:41.538
- But god took that small nation and loved it uniquely,
- 00:22:41.538 --> 00:22:45.809
- Trying to build into them through progressive revelation
- 00:22:45.809 --> 00:22:49.879
- What life is all about and the meaning of life.
- 00:22:49.879 --> 00:22:52.549
- He loved that little small nation,
- 00:22:52.549 --> 00:22:55.318
- And then he sent his son.
- 00:22:55.885 --> 00:22:57.487
- Into the world, fulfilling prophecy in that small nation.
- 00:22:57.487 --> 00:23:01.958
- And jesus
- 00:23:01.958 --> 00:23:03.193
- Primarily poured himself into just a little group of guys.
- 00:23:03.193 --> 00:23:06.629
- Then he couldn't involve more people,
- 00:23:06.629 --> 00:23:10.300
- Could he?
- 00:23:10.600 --> 00:23:11.134
- Had other plans? no.
- 00:23:11.134 --> 00:23:12.435
- He just poured himself into those men.
- 00:23:12.435 --> 00:23:15.972
- And what happened?
- 00:23:16.406 --> 00:23:18.308
- Those men in their lives, their love explained
- 00:23:18.308 --> 00:23:22.779
- Who jesus was to the world, blew up
- 00:23:22.779 --> 00:23:25.782
- The whole world.
- 00:23:25.782 --> 00:23:28.785
- See, the most important thing
- 00:23:28.785 --> 00:23:30.053
- We can do right now probably,
- 00:23:30.053 --> 00:23:33.189
- Probably the most important thing we can do personally,
- 00:23:33.189 --> 00:23:35.825
- Individually is to love our mate,
- 00:23:35.825 --> 00:23:39.128
- To love our wife and our husband as god
- 00:23:39.128 --> 00:23:41.965
- In christ, as love us.
- 00:23:41.965 --> 00:23:44.968
- Well, that seems so small.
- 00:23:44.968 --> 00:23:47.604
- It's not really small.
- 00:23:47.604 --> 00:23:49.706
- Love is not a river
- 00:23:49.706 --> 00:23:51.774
- That's surrounded by banks.
- 00:23:51.774 --> 00:23:53.943
- When a man loves a woman and a woman loves a man
- 00:23:53.943 --> 00:23:57.814
- As christ loved the church and gave himself for it,
- 00:23:57.814 --> 00:24:00.984
- In that intimacy of married love,
- 00:24:00.984 --> 00:24:04.721
- That love flows outside the banks.
- 00:24:05.455 --> 00:24:09.192
- And that love begins to flood and grow.
- 00:24:09.192 --> 00:24:13.029
- And therefore,
- 00:24:13.029 --> 00:24:13.897
- Because in our marriage relationship,
- 00:24:13.897 --> 00:24:15.965
- We have such a love relationship
- 00:24:15.965 --> 00:24:18.568
- With god in christ and with our wife or husband.
- 00:24:18.568 --> 00:24:21.771
- Now, everywhere we go in the world,
- 00:24:21.771 --> 00:24:24.440
- We have the capacity to love.
- 00:24:24.440 --> 00:24:27.277
- Love is small,
- 00:24:27.610 --> 00:24:28.545
- Intimate and then it becomes a forest fire.
- 00:24:28.545 --> 00:24:31.414
- Then it begins to spread everywhere.
- 00:24:31.414 --> 00:24:33.249
- And we can only be effective in your job, in your vocation,
- 00:24:33.249 --> 00:24:36.753
- In relationships, as we have loved our wife.
- 00:24:36.753 --> 00:24:39.756
- Now we have an explosive love.
- 00:24:39.756 --> 00:24:43.126
- You see how god works.
- 00:24:43.593 --> 00:24:46.396
- So we have a vow to truth.
- 00:24:46.963 --> 00:24:51.501
- Marriage.
- 00:24:51.801 --> 00:24:53.036
- We have a vow to love
- 00:24:53.036 --> 00:24:56.105
- Marriage.
- 00:24:56.406 --> 00:24:58.107
- And we have.
- 00:24:58.107 --> 00:24:58.808
- A vow to something else.
- 00:24:58.808 --> 00:25:03.012
- Tlc and that, see, is cherish.
- 00:25:03.613 --> 00:25:09.752
- You have to cherish that person.
- 00:25:10.486 --> 00:25:13.056
- What does it mean to cherish?
- 00:25:13.056 --> 00:25:14.424
- It's to give high value.
- 00:25:14.424 --> 00:25:17.560
- To cherish someone means that you support
- 00:25:17.560 --> 00:25:21.130
- You, encourage you, cheer you.
- 00:25:21.130 --> 00:25:24.167
- You let them know that they are of a highest importance.
- 00:25:24.167 --> 00:25:29.405
- In your human life.
- 00:25:29.872 --> 00:25:31.741
- They're way up there
- 00:25:31.741 --> 00:25:34.110
- And they can do nothing or say nothing.
- 00:25:34.110 --> 00:25:36.613
- That will. violate the fact.
- 00:25:36.613 --> 00:25:38.781
- That you have made a vow to truth,
- 00:25:38.781 --> 00:25:41.951
- And to love and to cherish and honor them.
- 00:25:41.951 --> 00:25:47.724
- I wrote standing on the promises
- 00:25:48.424 --> 00:25:50.426
- This little book, years ago, because life has a way
- 00:25:50.426 --> 00:25:53.997
- Of shaking us right to our very foundations.
- 00:25:53.997 --> 00:25:59.035
- We all face days when circumstances
- 00:25:59.035 --> 00:26:01.804
- Feel bigger than our faith, and the very ground
- 00:26:01.804 --> 00:26:04.941
- On which we stand seems to be shaking.
- 00:26:04.941 --> 00:26:07.777
- But over the years, i found there's
- 00:26:08.544 --> 00:26:10.613
- Something that never changes.
- 00:26:10.613 --> 00:26:13.750
- God keeps his promises.
- 00:26:13.750 --> 00:26:16.052
- This book is designed to help you hold on to that truth
- 00:26:16.052 --> 00:26:20.356
- Every single day, 24/7.
- 00:26:20.356 --> 00:26:23.026
- Standing on the promises is a 365 day
- 00:26:23.026 --> 00:26:26.863
- Devotional short, practical, rooted in scripture,
- 00:26:26.863 --> 00:26:31.467
- Created to meet you right where you are.
- 00:26:31.467 --> 00:26:35.004
- Whether you're starting your day or ending your day, or
- 00:26:35.004 --> 00:26:37.940
- Or just needing encouragement in the middle of your day,
- 00:26:37.940 --> 00:26:41.244
- Each reading reminds you
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- That god's word is reliable.
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- His presence is real.
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- His promises are working even when you can't see
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- The results yet, and you don't know which promise to claim.
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- My prayer
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- Is that this book becomes a daily companion.
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- Strengthen your faith.
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- Restore your confidence, and helping you stand firm
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- No matter what comes your way.
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- I invite you to call the number on the screen and order
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- Standing on the promises today, and discover
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- The peace that surpasses all human understanding
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- That comes from building your life
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- On god's un.
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- Changing word.
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