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Ed Young - Marriage: A Whole New World

February 1, 2026 | 27:29

Ed Young - Marriage: A Whole New World
A young married couple faces their first real fight, leading to emotional turmoil and misunderstandings. The wife seeks solace with her mother, but ultimately realizes the importance of communication and transparency in their marriage. Through biblical teachings and personal reflections, they learn to leave behind pride, come together as one, and embrace true love based on selflessness and faith. Together, they commit to praying, listening, and working on their relationship, finding strength and guidance in God's promises to rebuild their marriage stronger than ever.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Marriage: A Whole New World | February 1, 2026
  • She goes to the front door.
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  • She rings a bell.
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  • She rings a bell banging on the
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  • Mama, mama, mama and mother come to the door and pulls that littl
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  • You know, the little screens of little curtains back
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  • And looks at her and closes it and oh, let me in, mother at
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  • And she mother pulls it back, looks at her again, closes
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  • She's still hysterical on the po
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  • And the mother goes and
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  • Cracks the door and puts her foot in and says,
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  • You've had your first fight, haven't you?
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  • Oh yes, mother, she says, go home and make it ri
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  • Bang! close the door.
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  • That was it.
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  • Hello, i'm ed young.
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  • Welcome to the winning walk.
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  • Now this time of the year, we hear a great deal about love
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  • In sort of the valentine's spiri
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  • The bible reminds us that true
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  • Love doesn't begin with us.
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  • I'm able to love only as i have been loved.
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  • And as god has loved me.
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  • And god is love you.
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  • That gives us the capacity to lo
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  • The bible tells us that god is absolute agape
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  • Love, and his love is what faith
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  • Sacrificial, unchanging.
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  • And as we spend time together today, we'll turn to
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  • God's word and discover that
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  • Genuine love is this and will discover what it looks
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  • It's not a feeling, it's a reali and it shapes our relationships,
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  • Our choices, our daily walk with
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  • I'm glad you joined us and becom a part of the winning world fami
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  • Today.
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  • Let's open god's word together and just grow in our understandi
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  • Of his love and how much he love you and how much he loves me.
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  • See. god
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  • Has a plan
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  • For marriage.
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  • And i've discovered that
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  • Every time we follow god's plan,
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  • It always works
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  • There positively.
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  • No exceptions to that.
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  • And there are three kinds of marriages.
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  • They're bad marriages.
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  • They're okay.
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  • Marriage.
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  • Okay. marriages.
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  • And there are great marriages.
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  • If you're not married, what kind of marriage
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  • Would you like to have
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  • If you are married?
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  • What kind of marriage would you like to have?
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  • So we have to decide.
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  • And so god, in his clarity,
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  • People always say, i love the bi
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  • Don't understand. that's not your problem.
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  • The problem that you and i have, the bible is a part we do unders
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  • So it's very clear.
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  • God has given us a formula, a design, a dream, a way in whic
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  • A marriage, marriage
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  • Is, can be all that he desires
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  • For them to become.
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  • And so we look back and see
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  • The essential relationship.
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  • There's no other human relations
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  • That is greater than marriage.
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  • Certainly our relationship with in jesus christ would be first,
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  • But marriage is absolutely there
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  • Nobody here as humans will make a more profo
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  • Important decision in your life.
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  • By saying, i do and i will, i now pronounce
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  • That has preeminence over
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  • Everything else.
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  • So let's just look back
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  • And see the history a little bit
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  • Let's go to the book of genesis.
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  • Genesis chapter number one tells
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  • What god did
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  • In the beginning.
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  • God let there be, let there be, let there be.
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  • Let there be.
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  • And he had seven let there be.
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  • And he said, every time it is go
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  • And the seventh one he said, it is very good.
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  • And then we see
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  • The beautiful, beautiful story.
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  • And god said, it's not good for man to be alone.
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  • And adam says, i should get that
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  • Said, i will make a helper suitable for him.
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  • Now the females get upset at the word helper,
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  • But the word helper in the hebre means
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  • That something is missing.
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  • It's the rest of that which should be there.
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  • That's a better translation, not some subservient.
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  • It is.
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  • It is something that will be.
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  • There is something that that is missing.
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  • And then he said, i will make a helper.
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  • That part that is missing.
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  • Now the lord god had formed out of the ground of the wild animal
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  • And all the birds of the sea, an he brought them to the man to se
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  • He would name them.
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  • And whatever the man called the living creatures, that was the n
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  • And so the man gave the name to all the livestock and the bir
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  • And the sky, and the wild animal
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  • But adam
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  • No suitable helper.
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  • The rest of something was found.
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  • So the lord god called man
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  • To fall into a deep sleep, and he probably was sleeping.
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  • He took one of the man's ribs an then close up the place with fle
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  • Then the lord god made a woman from the rib.
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  • He had taken out a man, and he brought in a man.
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  • And adam said, notice god
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  • Brought that woman to man.
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  • Ladies, god
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  • Brought your husband to you.
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  • Man god brought your wife to you
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  • Same thing the man said.
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  • Eureka!
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  • That's the rest of me.
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  • This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.
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  • And she shall be called woman.
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  • By the way,
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  • What is the purpose of all this creation?
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  • All the universe?
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  • What?
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  • What is the purpose of all the animals?
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  • Well, what is the climax of all
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  • Magnificence that has come into
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  • Ex nihilo out of nothing?
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  • God's creative act.
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  • What is the purpose? here it is.
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  • Guess what?
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  • Marriage.
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  • We have to decide.
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  • Some people said, well, it's too late for me
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  • No, it's not.
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  • Not by god's grace and by god's power.
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  • So what is this formula?
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  • Let's look at it. it's right her
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  • She shall be taken out of man.
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  • And that is why a man leaves his father and his mother.
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  • The first thing we have to do,
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  • We have to leave.
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  • We have to leave.
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  • Your part, you see. leave. fathe
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  • Leave your mother.
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  • And what does that mean?
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  • It means in marriage there has t
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  • An exclusivity.
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  • It's an exclusive thing.
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  • It's a private thing. it's.
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  • It's you and me, baby.
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  • Exclusivity is a part of it.
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  • You leave. what does it mean to leave?
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  • You leave your parents.
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  • All other relationship you have your parents.
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  • You have other relationship.
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  • But the number one relationship.
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  • There's nothing challenging.
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  • So you have to leave the financi support you have for your parent
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  • Hello.
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  • Doesn't mean parents do not help
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  • But it means that parents back u
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  • And let those married children
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  • Begin to fend for themselves as early as possible.
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  • You back up and let them decide.
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  • Don't make that house payment.
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  • Don't buy that car.
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  • That be my recommendation.
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  • Back up.
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  • Let there be some struggle.
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  • Let there be some discipline.
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  • Financially.
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  • Don't overtake that.
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  • There is a conception here for a while.
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  • But that is what we must do as parents, as grandparents.
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  • Back up,
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  • Back up.
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  • You have to back up emotionally.
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  • I heard a marriage tape this wee
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  • I just flipped it in,
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  • And the story was told that this young couple got marri
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  • Boy, they were having a great ti
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  • It was perfect.
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  • It had barb and the bells ringin
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  • They had everything going for th
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  • And then they were married about six months
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  • And they had their first real fi
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  • Not physically, but the first real debate.
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  • And i'm telling you, it went from bad to worse.
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  • And she said, i didn't know you when i married
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  • And he said, i didn't realize you were like t
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  • And they call old things old grudges, old ideas.
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  • And it goes on and on.
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  • And she gets hysterical and she's crying.
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  • And females, i want you to know your tears are like
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  • A nuclear weapons at this time.
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  • And she's crying.
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  • She's hysterical.
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  • And they go on and on and it gets worse and worse.
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  • And i don't know how we can live together.
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  • We didn't make it. let's get out of here.
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  • It gets overwhelming until final he said, i'm out of here.
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  • And he gets up and goes out and close the door and starts
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  • Walking up the street and she's just outrageously upse
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  • And she goes and gets a puts on a robe over
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  • Her gown and gets on some shoes and gets in the car and backs
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  • Out of the car and takes off down the road
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  • And sees him walking and doesn't even look left or right.
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  • And she's going home though her mother and dad live
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  • About two hours from her, she's going home to mama.
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  • She takes off.
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  • She gets there about oh 4 a.m.
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  • In the morning knowing her mother gets up early
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  • She's still crying.
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  • She goes to the front door.
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  • She rings a bell.
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  • She rings a bell banging on the
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  • Mama, mama, mama and mother come to the door and pulls that littl
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  • You know, the little screens of little curtains back
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  • And looks at her and closes it and oh, let me in, mother at
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  • And she mother pulls it back, looks at her again, closes
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  • She's still hysterical on the po
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  • And the mother goes and
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  • Cracks the door and puts her foot in and says,
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  • You've had your first fight, haven't you?
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  • Oh yes, mother, she says, go home and make it ri
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  • Bang! close the door. that was i
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  • Life doesn't always unfold the w we expect.
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  • Number one, leave.
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  • There is an exclusivity there
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  • That we must honor first princip the next trust fund.
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  • Here.
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  • I want you to look at it very accurately here and there.
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  • Account.
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  • It says this is why a man leaves his fat
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  • And mother because of marriage.
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  • And he says and is united with his wife,
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  • And they become one flesh.
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  • That's singularity
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  • Who wants to become one.
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  • And when this happens,
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  • Here is the kingdom of self,
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  • Meaning the kingdom of self.
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  • Here's the kingdom of the male meeting the kingdom the female.
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  • And you mean they are to become
  • 00:13:29.096 --> 00:13:32.499
  • And so many times there is a kingdom battle
  • 00:13:32.499 --> 00:13:36.136
  • That goes on for a long,
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  • Long time not understanding that both king
  • 00:13:38.839 --> 00:13:43.710
  • Are to be dissolved and destroye
  • 00:13:43.710 --> 00:13:46.680
  • And now they're to have one king
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  • That is operating in marriage under the very kingdom of god.
  • 00:13:49.283 --> 00:13:55.455
  • You see two becoming one
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  • Is a tremendous challenge.
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  • But when it happens,
  • 00:14:03.864 --> 00:14:06.099
  • It is a magnificently beautiful to observe.
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  • Do you know the most powerful wi for christ
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  • That anybody here can make?
  • 00:14:14.107 --> 00:14:15.542
  • Myself included,
  • 00:14:15.542 --> 00:14:17.811
  • Is to see when two become one,
  • 00:14:17.811 --> 00:14:20.681
  • They become one flesh.
  • 00:14:20.681 --> 00:14:23.517
  • And that's where we would say go
  • 00:14:23.517 --> 00:14:26.053
  • Glue or super glue comes into be
  • 00:14:26.053 --> 00:14:29.189
  • And we're so intertwined with on another
  • 00:14:29.189 --> 00:14:32.025
  • In every way and every attitude and every situation.
  • 00:14:32.025 --> 00:14:36.129
  • And that marriage that is alive for god and christ
  • 00:14:36.129 --> 00:14:40.033
  • Is the most powerful witness we can give to the world.
  • 00:14:40.033 --> 00:14:43.503
  • There's nothing more powerful than that
  • 00:14:43.503 --> 00:14:46.039
  • To see a couple that's got it,
  • 00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:49.076
  • That's glowing.
  • 00:14:49.443 --> 00:14:52.312
  • It's a beautiful thing
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  • That intertwined.
  • 00:14:54.648 --> 00:14:55.816
  • You say there's no secret agenda
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  • There's there's nothing hidden t
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  • There's nothing that the other o doesn't know.
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  • And there's no areas you can't talk about.
  • 00:15:02.389 --> 00:15:04.391
  • Well, we can talk about everythi but sex and finances.
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  • All. no.
  • 00:15:07.394 --> 00:15:08.929
  • Two become one.
  • 00:15:09.296 --> 00:15:10.263
  • And the reason we have so many tragic divorces,
  • 00:15:10.263 --> 00:15:14.901
  • When people have been married for a long time
  • 00:15:14.901 --> 00:15:17.237
  • And there's that empty nest, is because they wake up and said
  • 00:15:17.237 --> 00:15:21.441
  • Who is this woman?
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  • Who is this man?
  • 00:15:24.711 --> 00:15:27.080
  • And the process of child
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  • Rearing and raising and bringing them up.
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  • They got where
  • 00:15:32.019 --> 00:15:33.286
  • They didn't know each other and they didn't give the highest pri
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  • To one another.
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  • It was a children. it was a job.
  • 00:15:38.191 --> 00:15:40.160
  • It was other people.
  • 00:15:40.160 --> 00:15:41.695
  • It was hobbies, it was activitie
  • 00:15:41.695 --> 00:15:43.597
  • And they wake up and therefore they say,
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  • I'm not going to live the rest of my life with him or
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  • Bang, they're out of here.
  • 00:15:48.535 --> 00:15:49.903
  • It happens all the time
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  • To become one.
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  • What a beautiful thing to become one operating
  • 00:15:57.477 --> 00:16:01.381
  • With the very principles of god and jesus christ.
  • 00:16:01.381 --> 00:16:05.519
  • It works every time.
  • 00:16:05.519 --> 00:16:07.054
  • It is a powerful witness to this world.
  • 00:16:07.054 --> 00:16:10.624
  • Let's say, what do they have that we don't
  • 00:16:10.624 --> 00:16:13.293
  • What do they see?
  • 00:16:13.293 --> 00:16:15.195
  • It's because there is an exclusi
  • 00:16:15.195 --> 00:16:17.864
  • There is because now there's a singularity.
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  • There.
  • 00:16:22.002 --> 00:16:23.036
  • And that is a magnificent thing,
  • 00:16:23.670 --> 00:16:27.274
  • And almost a rare thing in the culture
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  • In which we live, because some o who even are christians,
  • 00:16:30.544 --> 00:16:35.148
  • We use the bible as a hammer.
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  • Oh, yeah.
  • 00:16:37.984 --> 00:16:38.885
  • Oh, you don't know the bible like this.
  • 00:16:38.885 --> 00:16:41.054
  • And we we call out the word of g as if it's a sledgehammer
  • 00:16:41.054 --> 00:16:44.825
  • To win some kind of argument.
  • 00:16:44.825 --> 00:16:46.359
  • We try to some wives or husband try to out pious one another.
  • 00:16:46.359 --> 00:16:50.163
  • You know, a situation like that.
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  • Oh yeah, i do.
  • 00:16:52.232 --> 00:16:53.533
  • I've seen it many times.
  • 00:16:53.533 --> 00:16:55.635
  • There was a couple
  • 00:16:55.635 --> 00:16:57.471
  • Who got married, newlyweds.
  • 00:16:57.471 --> 00:16:59.806
  • Both of them were christians.
  • 00:16:59.806 --> 00:17:01.842
  • And so the bible teacher that the man had said
  • 00:17:01.842 --> 00:17:05.579
  • For many years, as this young gu
  • 00:17:05.579 --> 00:17:09.349
  • Just married, how are things going with your marriage?
  • 00:17:09.349 --> 00:17:13.520
  • He said, well,
  • 00:17:13.854 --> 00:17:15.522
  • She's having a tough time follow
  • 00:17:15.522 --> 00:17:20.227
  • My leadership.
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  • She's not really submissive
  • 00:17:23.730 --> 00:17:26.633
  • To my leadership.
  • 00:17:26.633 --> 00:17:29.436
  • And so the bible teacher said,
  • 00:17:29.436 --> 00:17:31.171
  • Well, show me that verse in the bible.
  • 00:17:31.171 --> 00:17:33.907
  • He said, my goodness, you mean you don't know that ver
  • 00:17:33.907 --> 00:17:36.409
  • You've been teaching me the bibl all these years.
  • 00:17:36.409 --> 00:17:38.712
  • You know that verse you said, no, show me the verse.
  • 00:17:38.712 --> 00:17:41.581
  • It says it.
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  • Your wife, it just submit your leadership.
  • 00:17:42.516 --> 00:17:44.651
  • He said, what is right here?
  • 00:17:44.651 --> 00:17:45.919
  • He got his bible out of his desk he said, i want to read it to yo
  • 00:17:45.919 --> 00:17:49.856
  • It's in ephesians. you know, it.
  • 00:17:49.856 --> 00:17:51.558
  • Chapter 22 it says, wives, submit that.
  • 00:17:51.558 --> 00:17:54.528
  • Wait a minute, wait a minute.
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  • What do you say?
  • 00:17:56.630 --> 00:17:58.231
  • It says, wives submit.
  • 00:17:58.231 --> 00:17:59.533
  • You don't know that verse is not for you.
  • 00:17:59.533 --> 00:18:01.201
  • Didn't you say begin with, why did you?
  • 00:18:01.201 --> 00:18:03.069
  • I said, oh, he said, he said, look at some of those verses
  • 00:18:03.069 --> 00:18:07.207
  • That are for you. you got the bi
  • 00:18:07.207 --> 00:18:08.508
  • He said, look here, husbands,
  • 00:18:08.508 --> 00:18:10.744
  • Love your wives, just as christ loved the church
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  • And gave himself up for her to make her holy,
  • 00:18:13.580 --> 00:18:16.550
  • Cleansing her by the washing of water to the w
  • 00:18:16.550 --> 00:18:19.619
  • So it it sounds like a husband should be willing to die
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  • And should be living a death
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  • Defying life and the presence of the wife, doesn't it?
  • 00:18:25.325 --> 00:18:28.228
  • It sure does.
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  • Christ died, but oh, that's how the husband's a live,
  • 00:18:29.763 --> 00:18:32.432
  • A sacrificial, a crucified life to please the w
  • 00:18:32.432 --> 00:18:36.136
  • Oh, so here's another verse.
  • 00:18:36.136 --> 00:18:38.405
  • If you look at verse 28, in this very same way,
  • 00:18:38.405 --> 00:18:42.108
  • Husbands ought to love their wiv as their own bodies.
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  • Oh, he loves his wife loves hims
  • 00:18:44.978 --> 00:18:48.114
  • After all, no one ever had his own body.
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  • But they feed and care for the b
  • 00:18:50.483 --> 00:18:52.552
  • Oh, that's for you.
  • 00:18:52.552 --> 00:18:55.155
  • And said, by the way, while you're talking about bibli
  • 00:18:55.155 --> 00:18:58.225
  • Principles of marriage, did you notice that all these jo
  • 00:18:58.225 --> 00:19:01.895
  • Assignments for the husband and the wife began with this ver
  • 00:19:01.895 --> 00:19:05.565
  • Look at this.
  • 00:19:05.565 --> 00:19:06.733
  • He read to him, verse 21,
  • 00:19:06.733 --> 00:19:09.903
  • Submit to one
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  • Another out of reverence for chr
  • 00:19:12.239 --> 00:19:16.409
  • It all begins with wives submitting to their husbands,
  • 00:19:16.409 --> 00:19:20.247
  • The husbands submitting to their wives.
  • 00:19:20.247 --> 00:19:22.682
  • That's the preamble.
  • 00:19:22.682 --> 00:19:24.718
  • Before you have the specific assignment given to the husband
  • 00:19:24.718 --> 00:19:28.855
  • So remember we talked about that we position ourself under
  • 00:19:28.855 --> 00:19:33.093
  • We position under the husband position himse
  • 00:19:33.093 --> 00:19:36.329
  • Under the wife, the wife positio slept under the husband.
  • 00:19:36.329 --> 00:19:40.400
  • You see what i'm talking about?
  • 00:19:41.034 --> 00:19:43.470
  • God's formula really works, folk
  • 00:19:43.470 --> 00:19:46.773
  • It culture of pride and ego.
  • 00:19:46.773 --> 00:19:49.409
  • It comes in called my desires, your desires
  • 00:19:49.409 --> 00:19:52.212
  • And the number one thing in life you don't want
  • 00:19:52.212 --> 00:19:54.748
  • The kingdom of self versus the kingdom of self.
  • 00:19:54.748 --> 00:19:57.784
  • You want the kingdom of selfless
  • 00:19:57.784 --> 00:20:00.487
  • Operating in that marriage,
  • 00:20:00.487 --> 00:20:03.857
  • In that home, in that relationsh
  • 00:20:03.857 --> 00:20:07.193
  • Did anybody ever have a marriage
  • 00:20:07.193 --> 00:20:10.163
  • Debate or dispute
  • 00:20:10.597 --> 00:20:13.166
  • On the basis of,
  • 00:20:13.166 --> 00:20:15.869
  • Well, you're not being treated fairly.
  • 00:20:15.869 --> 00:20:19.272
  • It was all the disputes come,
  • 00:20:19.906 --> 00:20:23.243
  • I'm not getting what i deserve.
  • 00:20:23.243 --> 00:20:24.844
  • I'm not getting what ought to be
  • 00:20:24.844 --> 00:20:27.614
  • Itself.
  • 00:20:27.614 --> 00:20:28.915
  • And when a marriage begins, increasingly increases become
  • 00:20:28.915 --> 00:20:32.252
  • Selflessness.
  • 00:20:32.252 --> 00:20:34.354
  • Powerful things take place.
  • 00:20:34.354 --> 00:20:37.490
  • This is not my idea.
  • 00:20:37.490 --> 00:20:39.693
  • Don't say, well, i don't agree with the preacher.
  • 00:20:39.693 --> 00:20:41.961
  • Had nothing to do with me. it's just god's word.
  • 00:20:41.961 --> 00:20:44.197
  • You can take and throw it out and not believe it.
  • 00:20:44.197 --> 00:20:46.232
  • Or you can put it into practice and fire will come at your marri
  • 00:20:46.232 --> 00:20:50.203
  • Guaranteed. every single time.
  • 00:20:50.203 --> 00:20:53.273
  • So we leave
  • 00:20:53.606 --> 00:20:56.376
  • Your marriage.
  • 00:20:56.710 --> 00:20:57.677
  • My marriage becomes a touch of exclusivity,
  • 00:20:57.677 --> 00:21:02.382
  • Is it?
  • 00:21:02.582 --> 00:21:03.883
  • We leave, we become one.
  • 00:21:03.883 --> 00:21:05.552
  • There's singularity.
  • 00:21:05.552 --> 00:21:08.154
  • No hidden agendas, nothing backw nothing back there.
  • 00:21:08.154 --> 00:21:11.124
  • We deal.
  • 00:21:11.124 --> 00:21:12.025
  • We talk about it all and we become one.
  • 00:21:12.025 --> 00:21:14.994
  • And then finally look at the last part.
  • 00:21:15.795 --> 00:21:18.598
  • And this has to do with transpar
  • 00:21:18.598 --> 00:21:24.304
  • Adam and eve were both naked
  • 00:21:24.904 --> 00:21:26.973
  • And they felt no shame
  • 00:21:26.973 --> 00:21:29.976
  • In that great transparent.
  • 00:21:30.543 --> 00:21:34.381
  • Here i am
  • 00:21:34.681 --> 00:21:36.783
  • Open,
  • 00:21:36.783 --> 00:21:38.718
  • Honest
  • 00:21:38.718 --> 00:21:40.653
  • With you on your team,
  • 00:21:40.653 --> 00:21:43.423
  • Cheering for you, cherishing you
  • 00:21:44.057 --> 00:21:47.627
  • Transparency.
  • 00:21:47.994 --> 00:21:49.396
  • What would it be like to live in a family
  • 00:21:49.396 --> 00:21:52.699
  • Where everybody always told the
  • 00:21:52.699 --> 00:21:56.836
  • In love?
  • 00:21:57.103 --> 00:21:58.738
  • What kind of friend would that b
  • 00:21:58.738 --> 00:22:00.907
  • Well, that's the way it's going to be in heaven.
  • 00:22:00.907 --> 00:22:03.143
  • We have the opportunity to have a little touch of heaven
  • 00:22:03.143 --> 00:22:05.812
  • Right now, folks, just tell the truth and love,
  • 00:22:05.812 --> 00:22:08.882
  • And your wife and your husband can reprog
  • 00:22:09.716 --> 00:22:12.852
  • How you see yourself and how others have ever seen yo
  • 00:22:12.852 --> 00:22:17.590
  • That there's a reprograming ther
  • 00:22:18.224 --> 00:22:21.327
  • If people have said, well, you know, he's not very smart,
  • 00:22:21.327 --> 00:22:25.565
  • But your wife says, hey man, i know you got a lot of stuff.
  • 00:22:25.565 --> 00:22:30.170
  • I think you're very bright.
  • 00:22:30.770 --> 00:22:32.772
  • It reprograms you.
  • 00:22:32.772 --> 00:22:34.841
  • Somebody says, well, you know, you're sort of,
  • 00:22:34.841 --> 00:22:38.244
  • Sort of slow and you don't really look too sh
  • 00:22:38.244 --> 00:22:41.714
  • Your wife says, man, you're the sharpest thing i've ever see
  • 00:22:41.714 --> 00:22:45.351
  • Same way with a husband.
  • 00:22:45.885 --> 00:22:47.287
  • We reprogram one another because there's that mirror
  • 00:22:47.287 --> 00:22:50.723
  • Right there in front and we can tear down.
  • 00:22:50.723 --> 00:22:53.760
  • We can build up,
  • 00:22:53.760 --> 00:22:55.862
  • We can speak the truth in love.
  • 00:22:55.862 --> 00:22:57.530
  • And there's a open and a candidn
  • 00:22:57.530 --> 00:23:00.500
  • All of a sudden things happen in marriage.
  • 00:23:01.367 --> 00:23:03.937
  • Wonderful things happen in marri
  • 00:23:04.571 --> 00:23:08.141
  • So we got the formula there.
  • 00:23:08.741 --> 00:23:12.111
  • Leave
  • 00:23:12.345 --> 00:23:14.280
  • Cleave.
  • 00:23:14.280 --> 00:23:16.583
  • No shame.
  • 00:23:16.583 --> 00:23:18.485
  • Transparency.
  • 00:23:18.485 --> 00:23:20.954
  • Well, how do we get there?
  • 00:23:20.954 --> 00:23:22.956
  • Remember i talked about you in marriage.
  • 00:23:22.956 --> 00:23:26.025
  • You talk, talk, talk.
  • 00:23:26.025 --> 00:23:28.695
  • You listen, listen, listen.
  • 00:23:28.695 --> 00:23:30.163
  • And you pray and pray and pray.
  • 00:23:30.163 --> 00:23:33.099
  • Marriage involves work
  • 00:23:33.099 --> 00:23:35.368
  • And worship, worship and work, work and worsh
  • 00:23:35.368 --> 00:23:39.272
  • And when a couple genuinely begi to pray together,
  • 00:23:39.272 --> 00:23:43.409
  • That marriage will soar every single time.
  • 00:23:44.277 --> 00:23:47.413
  • Because you can't fool god.
  • 00:23:47.413 --> 00:23:49.516
  • You may try to, but you can't.
  • 00:23:49.516 --> 00:23:52.552
  • There's somebody here
  • 00:23:53.052 --> 00:23:55.622
  • Or many here
  • 00:23:55.622 --> 00:23:57.924
  • Would say, man, it's just too late for
  • 00:23:57.924 --> 00:24:01.227
  • And my, my, my marriage is down in a pit.
  • 00:24:01.227 --> 00:24:05.565
  • It's down there 20ft deep.
  • 00:24:06.132 --> 00:24:10.003
  • I'm going to tell you something.
  • 00:24:10.637 --> 00:24:13.172
  • God has a rope
  • 00:24:13.172 --> 00:24:16.009
  • That's 21ft long,
  • 00:24:16.442 --> 00:24:19.879
  • And he'll
  • 00:24:20.179 --> 00:24:21.281
  • Put it down in that pit.
  • 00:24:21.814 --> 00:24:24.584
  • Say, well, mom, i hate this.
  • 00:24:25.184 --> 00:24:27.220
  • We're.
  • 00:24:27.220 --> 00:24:28.221
  • You don't know.
  • 00:24:28.221 --> 00:24:29.122
  • I'm. i'm with my marriage and my kids.
  • 00:24:29.122 --> 00:24:31.324
  • My wife.
  • 00:24:31.324 --> 00:24:31.958
  • I'm dying a bit 1000ft.
  • 00:24:31.958 --> 00:24:34.894
  • The day.
  • 00:24:34.894 --> 00:24:36.963
  • So god has a rope that's 1001ft,
  • 00:24:36.963 --> 00:24:42.569
  • And you put it down.
  • 00:24:43.036 --> 00:24:45.738
  • I'm going to tell you something more exciting than that.
  • 00:24:45.738 --> 00:24:48.274
  • He'll not only by his grace.
  • 00:24:48.274 --> 00:24:50.376
  • Put that rope down for you.
  • 00:24:50.376 --> 00:24:52.178
  • If you're down in that pit.
  • 00:24:52.178 --> 00:24:53.947
  • But jesus christ will go down th rope just like he did in bethleh
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  • And meet you and bring you back so you can have a marriage
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  • That begins to flourish and grow
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  • And sing in harmony like god.
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  • Intend for it to do.
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  • Choices.
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  • Just keep on doing it the same old way.
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  • My marriage is okay.
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  • I'm holding on.
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  • I'm here for the kids.
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  • Or for family or reputation or whatever.
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  • Or or
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  • You can begin by his grace
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  • And by his power.
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  • To do it.
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  • God's way.
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  • I wrote
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  • Standing on the promises this little book, years ago,
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  • Because life has a way of shakin
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  • Right to our very foundations.
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  • We all face days when circumstan feel bigger than our faith,
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  • And the very ground on which we seems to be shaking.
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  • But over the years, i found ther
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  • Something that never changes.
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  • God keeps his promises.
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  • This book is designed to help yo hold on to that truth
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  • Every single day, 24/7.
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  • Standing on the promises is a 365 day
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  • Devotional short, practical, rooted in scripture,
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  • Created to meet you right where you are.
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  • Whether you're starting your day or ending your day, or
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  • Or just needing encouragement in the middle of your day,
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  • Each reading reminds you
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  • That god's word is reliable.
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  • His presence is real.
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  • His promises are working even when you can't see
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  • The results yet, and you don't k which promise to claim.
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  • My prayer is that this book beco a daily companion.
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  • Strengthen your faith.
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  • Restore your confidence, and hel you stand firm
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  • No matter what comes your way.
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  • I invite you to call the number on the screen and order
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  • Standing on the promises today,
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  • And discover the peace that surp all human understanding
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  • That comes from building your li
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  • On god's un.
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  • Changing word.
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