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Ed Young - Practical Parenting

October 31, 2025 | 29:0

Ed Young - Practical Parenting
The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young is the international on-air and online teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young. The Winning Walk proclaims the proven truth of God’s Word to give men and women the world over a winning way to live life.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Practical Parenting | October 31, 2025
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  • Pastor ed: we hear a lot about colors.
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  • Red states, blue states, purple states, white, green,
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  • Black, orange.
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  • We hear a lot about colors, but there's one color that is a
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  • Very, very dangerous color.
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  • I don't think you could guess what it is.
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  • It is an angry color.
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  • It is a dangerous color.
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  • It is a color that breeds discord, and the color is gray.
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  • Gray is pigment without any colors.
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  • All the colors are absent.
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  • It's just sort of a bland gray.
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  • And gray is a very, very dangerous color.
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  • Somebody might say, "i thought we'd talk about parenting.
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  • What does that have to do with parenting?"
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  • I can tell you what it has to do with parenting.
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  • It has everything to do with parenting.
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  • You have a gray father who is passive.
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  • You can predict with almost unerring accuracy the plight of
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  • The sons of the daughters of a gray dad.
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  • You can find a mom who is gray and just going
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  • Through the motions.
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  • It's such a labor, it's such a problem.
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  • It's exhausting, and you can find children that will turn out
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  • Tragically like their mom.
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  • What does it mean to say someone is gray?
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  • Someone is gray comes out of a lot of our colleges and
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  • Universities because there are no absolutes.
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  • You have your truth.
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  • Oh, i have my truth.
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  • Whether something is right and wrong, depends upon
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  • The situation.
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  • There's nothing you can say that is the way it is.
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  • That is the way.
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  • Oh, no, no. everything has to be gray.
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  • Everything has to be negotiable.
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  • Everything has to be open.
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  • But i've got good news.
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  • ♪ the stars at night are big and bright, where? ♪
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  • Pitiful.
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  • ♪ the stars at night are big and bright, where? ♪♪
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  • Congregation: ♪ deep in the heart of texas. ♪
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  • Pastor ed: now, what does that mean?
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  • Why are the stars at night big and bright deep in the
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  • Heart of texas?
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  • I dare say there's only a handful of us here know where
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  • The heart of texas is located.
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  • Only a handful.
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  • It's located in brady, texas, ten miles out to the northeast.
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  • That's the very heart and central point in texas.
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  • And brady is a small town.
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  • It is noted for only one thing, dr. rudder, who was president of
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  • Texas a&m.
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  • He's the product of this wide spot in the road almost in the
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  • Very heart of texas.
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  • Now, why are the stars at night big and bright
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  • In the heart in brady, texas?
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  • Do you know why?
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  • It's because there's no ambient lights, there's nothing
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  • Competing with the darkness except you look up and the stars
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  • At night are big and bright.
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  • Decisiveness.
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  • Clarity.
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  • And when something is gray or someone is gray, there is no--
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  • Too many competing lights, too many competing
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  • Agendas, too much noise, too much racket.
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  • But when there is clarity and that's our problem with
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  • Parenting, ladies and gentlemen.
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  • You take any mom and dad and say here's a baby that
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  • You've been given.
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  • What is your goal for that child?
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  • Well, i want them to be upwardly mobile.
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  • I hope they're educated, and i hope they have more than i have,
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  • And i hope-- just some sort of general type of things.
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  • If you've ever been bird hunting and you think you shotgun, you
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  • Shoot up there without aiming, chances are you'll hit nothing.
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  • You'll hit nothing.
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  • And therefore, parents need to know what their goal is.
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  • What are you trying to develop?
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  • What would god have you to build into that son and that daughter?
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  • It has to be a clear thing, a clear definition, and that's
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  • Exactly what we're talking about, isn't it?
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  • We've been saying, "train up a child in the way he should go."
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  • Review here for most of us, you may have missed it.
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  • The way is one way.
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  • You could train up our children, i could train up my children in
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  • Many ways, but there's really one way to train up a
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  • Child, according to the bible.
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  • You can read all the psychologists, all the modern
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  • Books, but god has one way to do it.
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  • We talked about it in training, train them to love god with all
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  • They got, first commandment.
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  • Love god with everything, first and foremost.
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  • Secondly, train them to love people, love your neighbor, try
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  • To love-- that we can't as much as we love ourselves,
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  • But that's our goal.
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  • The third thing is bandura, the bandura principle.
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  • Most of you had a little psychology.
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  • You don't know who that is.
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  • Bandura said the way you best teach people is by example, is
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  • By saying, walk after me, do as i do, live as i live, follow
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  • Me, follow me.
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  • That's the principle, and that's the third thing.
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  • Teach our kids to love god with all they've got.
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  • Teach our kids how to love people, and you know how they
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  • Learn to do that, by looking at mom and dad, and we have to say,
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  • "that's the way i want to live: obeying those first two
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  • Commandments that jesus said has priority of all the other rules
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  • And regulations."
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  • Not going too fast for anybody am i?
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  • God doesn't make it exceedingly complex.
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  • It is relatively simple, and therefore i would do anything
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  • In the world for my kids.
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  • Model jesus christ in your life.
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  • Oh, because remember, they do pretty much what we require them
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  • To do until they become teenagers and they begin to do
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  • And live the way you and i live.
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  • The way you and i do things, the way you and i think.
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  • Train up a child.
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  • When we're doing that, we're not gray parents are we?
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  • We are decisive. we see what god's goal is.
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  • And then we looked at bringing up a child, remember?
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  • We looked at proverbs training, then we looked to ephesians in
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  • Chapter number 6, it says, "bring up a child in the
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  • Discipline," big word, "and instruction," oh, "of the lord."
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  • And we discovered that discipline primarily takes place
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  • Between, remember the ages 3 to 13.
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  • That's when mom and dad really has a role in the eyes and the
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  • Life of that son or daughter of god.
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  • That is when we bring them to submission.
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  • That is when we say this is the way it is, this is how
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  • Things operate.
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  • And therefore we take over the authority of our children
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  • Between 3 and 13.
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  • If you don't, oh-ho, that's when you have so many problems with
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  • Teenagers because they haven't learned that when you say yes,
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  • You mean yes, you say no, you say no.
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  • And if you don't do that from 3 to 13, you're in for a long,
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  • Long, tough ride, mom and dad.
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  • It can change, but it's much more difficult.
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  • So, discipline first.
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  • And then after that, there is instruction.
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  • This is when we talk with them, this is when we explain.
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  • In those years, 3 to 13, we say you do this, you don't do this.
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  • You stop, here, you go there, and they say, "well, why?"
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  • "because i said so," that's enough!
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  • That's what happens during those years.
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  • And then the years from 13 followed, it's so much easier
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  • Because they, you've established a sense of authority, then you
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  • Can explain.
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  • Then you can go in the other details
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  • That needs to take place.
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  • We've already been through this. some of you, you missed it.
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  • Foundational principles of not being a gray mom and dad:
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  • Clarity, distinctiveness, understanding the goal,
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  • Right there.
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  • And then we're still in proverbs.
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  • I wanna show you another little pregnant verse that's in the
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  • Same chapter that we find, "train up a child."
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  • It's in chapter number 22, verse number 15, "foolishness is bound
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  • Up in the heart of the child;" and the answer for that is, "the
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  • Rod of discipline will remove it far from him."
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  • Foolishness is bound up in the mind of a child.
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  • That's our challenge.
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  • Children are fools.
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  • "oh boy, oh, how my child is--"
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  • No, no, children are fools because they cannot determine
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  • That which is best for themselves.
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  • They have free will, but they do not have the ability to make
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  • Those wise choices, do they?
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  • No. a child is self centered.
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  • A child is all about me.
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  • A child is all about what i want, what i like, what gives me
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  • Pleasure, what i love to eat, that's children.
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  • And we can encourage that foolishness, illustration.
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  • Here's a five year old says to mama, "i want what--my friends
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  • Are having to spend the night party over at so and so's house
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  • And i wanna go."
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  • The mother says, "no, you cannot go," five years old.
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  • Man, there's a temper tantrum, "why?
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  • Everybody's going, i'm invited.
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  • They're going to have a good time."
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  • But mama knows what will happen at
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  • That little five year old overnight party.
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  • Mama knows the family, the home in which those children
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  • Will spend the night.
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  • And so mama, without any explanation, says no, and
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  • There's a temper tantrum.
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  • And then mama says, "well, maybe i made a mistake, you know,
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  • Maybe i acted too hasty.
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  • Maybe we need to consider," and then that mother starts to
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  • Negotiate with the child, a five year old, folks?
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  • That's the modern world.
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  • You have to cooperate with your children.
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  • Let me tell you something, if no doesn't work and you have to
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  • Bribe-- animals, you train by food and by punishment.
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  • Not humans, not children.
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  • It doesn't work that way, ladies and gentlemen.
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  • And if that mother begins to negotiate with that child, you
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  • Mark it down, wait till that child gets to be a teenager.
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  • You know, i don't know why my teenager's like this.
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  • It's because a father and a mother didn't establish clear,
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  • Without shouting, absolute authority between 3 and 13.
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  • A child has a foolish heart because they cannot determine
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  • With their own understanding, with their background, how to
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  • Really make wise choices, so fathers and mothers have to step
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  • In, and without argument, without debate, without
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  • Negotiation, without manipulation, without rewards,
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  • This is the way we do it.
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  • You do that from 3 to 13, the teenage years will be a blast.
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  • It won't be perfect, but it'll be infinite easier.
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  • Throw a temper tantrum, ho ho.
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  • So then train up a child the way they should go because the child
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  • Has a heart that is foolish.
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  • Anybody want to debate the foolish of a child's heart?
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  • No, we understand that.
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  • What is the answer for that?
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  • This will surprise you.
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  • It is the latter part of that 15th verse.
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  • Look at it.
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  • The rod, "the rod of discipline will remove it far from him."
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  • "the rod of discipline will remove it far from him."
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  • You know the verse, "spare the rod, spoil the child."
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  • Everybody remember that verse?
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  • Only one problem: it's not in the bible.
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  • Hello?
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  • "oh, i thought," no, no, no.
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  • "spare the rod, spoil the child," is not in the bible.
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  • Look for it. can't find it.
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  • All of us who raised our hand, woop, it's not there.
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  • But what is there?
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  • It's the instructions, the latter part of what we do about
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  • Foolishness in the heart of a child as parents.
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  • It says this is what we do.
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  • The rod, "the rod of discipline will move it far from him."
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  • You see the rod of discipline.
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  • Now, the rod there is in the definite article,
  • 00:14:22.308 --> 00:14:26.445
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:14:26.445 --> 00:14:27.780
  • It means that the rod, it is a specific procedure by which we
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  • Engage in as parents to get the foolish out of our children.
  • 00:14:35.854 --> 00:14:41.660
  • A rod, not the baseball player, a rod is an indefinite article.
  • 00:14:41.660 --> 00:14:47.900
  • Rod is used many times in the bible for many things.
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  • It's used for staff, it's used for what the shepherd
  • 00:14:51.170 --> 00:14:53.605
  • Has, it's used and that is a rod.
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  • You find it over there in exodus chapter number 21.
  • 00:14:56.208 --> 00:14:59.812
  • A rod can be harmful.
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  • It is a harm.
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  • It is a rod, it is a stick, it is a bar, it is a limb,
  • 00:15:02.948 --> 00:15:06.685
  • It is something they will harm.
  • 00:15:06.685 --> 00:15:08.020
  • But the rod--doesn't mean discipline can't be in there--
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  • But the rod says this is the program, the way god has planned
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  • For you to get foolishness out of your child.
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  • Do you get the difference?
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  • The rod is a definite article every time you
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  • See it in the bible.
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  • And it says this is god's program.
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  • This is the way god operates, it's the rod.
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  • It's the program, the agenda.
  • 00:15:37.616 --> 00:15:39.985
  • And you can look at--you can also, you can turn in your bible
  • 00:15:39.985 --> 00:15:43.122
  • To the very next chapter over to psalm--proverbs 23.
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  • It says, "apply your heart to discipline, and your ears to
  • 00:15:46.592 --> 00:15:50.095
  • Words of knowledge.
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  • Do not hold back discipline from the child.
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  • Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die."
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  • The rod is not a stick.
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  • That is a rod.
  • 00:16:00.606 --> 00:16:02.007
  • The rod is god's principles for getting foolishness out of your
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  • Sons and daughters.
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  • Do you get that? it's very important.
  • 00:16:07.679 --> 00:16:10.549
  • Well, you say, "you don't believe in spanking?"
  • 00:16:10.549 --> 00:16:14.019
  • Yes.
  • 00:16:14.019 --> 00:16:15.554
  • "you don't believe in corporal punishment?"
  • 00:16:15.554 --> 00:16:17.890
  • Yes, but we'll deal with that next time in more detail and
  • 00:16:17.890 --> 00:16:22.961
  • More practicality.
  • 00:16:22.961 --> 00:16:24.463
  • But in the meantime, this verse doesn't say every time your
  • 00:16:24.463 --> 00:16:27.199
  • Child steps out of line, bam.
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  • Some people think that.
  • 00:16:30.102 --> 00:16:31.537
  • Oh, he did this bam, slap.
  • 00:16:31.537 --> 00:16:34.339
  • But no, no, no.
  • 00:16:34.339 --> 00:16:35.808
  • It says that we understand god's program for
  • 00:16:35.808 --> 00:16:39.778
  • Bringing up children.
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  • And that is the rod.
  • 00:16:41.113 --> 00:16:44.183
  • That is a definite article.
  • 00:16:44.183 --> 00:16:47.019
  • A rod is a stick or a board as you see it in the bible.
  • 00:16:47.019 --> 00:16:51.990
  • My point, a child's heart is foolish, and we have to deal
  • 00:16:51.990 --> 00:16:59.198
  • With that foolishness, with diligence, with
  • 00:16:59.198 --> 00:17:04.203
  • Conscientiousness and knowing that our big goal, what we built
  • 00:17:04.203 --> 00:17:07.739
  • In for our children to be and our children to become.
  • 00:17:07.739 --> 00:17:12.544
  • And it says we drive it out by what?
  • 00:17:12.544 --> 00:17:17.149
  • What do we drive it out by?
  • 00:17:17.149 --> 00:17:19.151
  • Right here in the scripture.
  • 00:17:19.151 --> 00:17:20.853
  • Go back to our scripture.
  • 00:17:20.853 --> 00:17:22.321
  • It's very clearly.
  • 00:17:22.321 --> 00:17:23.689
  • It says the rod, the rod, remember the rod is the
  • 00:17:23.689 --> 00:17:28.227
  • Principles of god will remove foolishness from that child.
  • 00:17:28.227 --> 00:17:35.334
  • Now, let's be practical for a moment.
  • 00:17:35.334 --> 00:17:39.171
  • What is the modus operandi of parenting?
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  • Unconditional love.
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  • That's what works in all of this.
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  • That's how we're able to discipline, to instruct.
  • 00:17:48.247 --> 00:17:52.985
  • It's because they know our parents' modus operandi is love
  • 00:17:52.985 --> 00:17:59.191
  • And we want them to know a couple of things, to know that
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  • They are important and to know that they're safe.
  • 00:18:04.129 --> 00:18:09.234
  • Know that they're important and know that they're safe.
  • 00:18:09.234 --> 00:18:12.171
  • And they know that big time most of all by discipline.
  • 00:18:12.171 --> 00:18:17.476
  • They know they're loved because we care enough for them
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  • To go out of the way.
  • 00:18:20.345 --> 00:18:21.680
  • It's easier to bribe a child, to appease a child, to stop
  • 00:18:21.680 --> 00:18:25.551
  • The crying.
  • 00:18:25.551 --> 00:18:27.219
  • But how do we use this modus operandi, this unconditional
  • 00:18:27.219 --> 00:18:31.590
  • Love practically in the whole area of getting the foolishness
  • 00:18:31.590 --> 00:18:35.594
  • Out of our sons and daughters.
  • 00:18:35.594 --> 00:18:37.429
  • First of all, we have to control them with our eyes.
  • 00:18:37.429 --> 00:18:47.306
  • We have to control them with our eyes.
  • 00:18:47.306 --> 00:18:51.610
  • A baby is born.
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  • For about, for about three weeks to five weeks, their eyes
  • 00:18:54.546 --> 00:19:00.652
  • Are trying to focus, okay?
  • 00:19:00.652 --> 00:19:02.821
  • About five weeks to eight weeks, their eyes just flit around.
  • 00:19:02.821 --> 00:19:05.791
  • They're looking anywhere.
  • 00:19:05.791 --> 00:19:07.559
  • When they get about eight weeks up, their eyes begin to slow
  • 00:19:07.559 --> 00:19:10.262
  • Down and they're all looking for something.
  • 00:19:10.262 --> 00:19:13.065
  • What is it? they're looking for eyes.
  • 00:19:13.065 --> 00:19:17.169
  • They're looking for the eyes of that mother, the eyes
  • 00:19:17.169 --> 00:19:19.838
  • Of that person.
  • 00:19:19.838 --> 00:19:21.173
  • The eye is so important.
  • 00:19:21.173 --> 00:19:23.475
  • Parents need to understand.
  • 00:19:23.475 --> 00:19:25.577
  • Parents that sort of look at their children, glance at them
  • 00:19:25.577 --> 00:19:28.280
  • And look over here and they're talking over here, you instruct,
  • 00:19:28.280 --> 00:19:32.084
  • You communicate love or discipline with your eyes.
  • 00:19:32.084 --> 00:19:37.889
  • Going back to school, i had an english
  • 00:19:37.889 --> 00:19:39.224
  • Teacher named miss satterfield.
  • 00:19:39.224 --> 00:19:43.462
  • She was something, and the way she disciplined was that when
  • 00:19:43.462 --> 00:19:48.000
  • You're doing something wrong, she would say...
  • 00:19:48.000 --> 00:19:52.938
  • She wouldn't say a word, she'd just looked at you.
  • 00:19:52.938 --> 00:19:54.906
  • We call it the satterfield eye, and i'm telling you, if it were
  • 00:19:54.906 --> 00:19:59.444
  • On you, you straightened up.
  • 00:19:59.444 --> 00:20:02.147
  • I've used that for years, but it works.
  • 00:20:02.147 --> 00:20:05.350
  • So your eyes, we physically contact them with their eyes.
  • 00:20:05.350 --> 00:20:10.956
  • It is so important for parents.
  • 00:20:10.956 --> 00:20:13.358
  • Any personality, ever talk to somebody, they
  • 00:20:13.358 --> 00:20:15.427
  • Sort of talk to you like this.
  • 00:20:15.427 --> 00:20:16.762
  • Now, i don't mean you just stare them down to people, look
  • 00:20:16.762 --> 00:20:19.097
  • In your eyes.
  • 00:20:19.097 --> 00:20:20.432
  • No, you just confidently look at people with their eyes.
  • 00:20:20.432 --> 00:20:25.003
  • Parents, that's the way our children, our babies
  • 00:20:25.003 --> 00:20:28.907
  • Understand love.
  • 00:20:28.907 --> 00:20:30.275
  • Also, there is the physical contact, the eye contact,
  • 00:20:30.275 --> 00:20:34.346
  • The physical contact.
  • 00:20:34.346 --> 00:20:35.681
  • There needs to be hugs, there need to be kisses, they need to
  • 00:20:35.681 --> 00:20:38.417
  • Be touch.
  • 00:20:38.417 --> 00:20:39.885
  • Even--particularly a teenage girl used to be a teenager,
  • 00:20:39.885 --> 00:20:42.521
  • Her dad needs to hug her in the right way, hug her.
  • 00:20:42.521 --> 00:20:45.957
  • In fact, there's a study been done,
  • 00:20:45.957 --> 00:20:47.793
  • I don't know how accurate is, that everybody needs ten hugs
  • 00:20:47.793 --> 00:20:50.962
  • A day.
  • 00:20:50.962 --> 00:20:53.365
  • That just helps everything.
  • 00:20:53.365 --> 00:20:55.600
  • This has nothing to do with sensuality.
  • 00:20:55.600 --> 00:20:58.170
  • By the way, they have large professional huggers
  • 00:20:58.170 --> 00:21:01.873
  • All over america now.
  • 00:21:01.873 --> 00:21:03.208
  • It is not prostitution, it's not anything sensual.
  • 00:21:03.208 --> 00:21:06.278
  • They're just people who go around and they hug
  • 00:21:06.278 --> 00:21:09.414
  • People in rest homes.
  • 00:21:09.414 --> 00:21:10.749
  • After covid, they were really popular, and they just go and
  • 00:21:10.749 --> 00:21:14.019
  • Hug people and hug people.
  • 00:21:14.019 --> 00:21:15.954
  • One lady i read about made over $300,000 a year as a hugger, a
  • 00:21:15.954 --> 00:21:20.459
  • Professional hugger.
  • 00:21:20.459 --> 00:21:23.362
  • Why?
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  • By our eyes, we communicate, we care, we love by hugging and
  • 00:21:25.430 --> 00:21:30.202
  • Affection in the right way, we communicate that.
  • 00:21:30.202 --> 00:21:34.272
  • We all need about ten hugs a day.
  • 00:21:34.272 --> 00:21:37.609
  • This is what we have.
  • 00:21:37.609 --> 00:21:38.944
  • Also, there needs to be not only eye contact, physical contact,
  • 00:21:38.944 --> 00:21:44.549
  • There has to be emotional contact.
  • 00:21:44.549 --> 00:21:47.819
  • Study your baby, study your son, your daughter and get to know
  • 00:21:47.819 --> 00:21:51.490
  • Them and understand their heart and somehow bind your heart
  • 00:21:51.490 --> 00:21:56.094
  • Around their heart.
  • 00:21:56.094 --> 00:21:58.130
  • And then you begin really to be a successful parent in the
  • 00:21:58.130 --> 00:22:02.200
  • 21st century.
  • 00:22:02.200 --> 00:22:05.070
  • It starts way back during pregnancy.
  • 00:22:05.070 --> 00:22:08.673
  • Certainly when they're born.
  • 00:22:08.673 --> 00:22:11.009
  • These are biblical principles that are beautiful when
  • 00:22:11.009 --> 00:22:14.579
  • We practice them.
  • 00:22:14.579 --> 00:22:15.914
  • We see wonderful things coming through the life of your
  • 00:22:15.914 --> 00:22:19.551
  • Children and my children and my grandchildren.
  • 00:22:19.551 --> 00:22:23.722
  • This is how we do it.
  • 00:22:23.722 --> 00:22:28.226
  • Tommy edison was in the second grade.
  • 00:22:28.226 --> 00:22:34.533
  • He came home from school one day, and tommy gave his mother a
  • 00:22:34.533 --> 00:22:38.136
  • Note and said, "mother, this note is from the teacher, and
  • 00:22:38.136 --> 00:22:47.446
  • She told me to give it to you."
  • 00:22:47.446 --> 00:22:50.849
  • And the note read, "dear mrs. edison," and as the mother read
  • 00:22:50.849 --> 00:22:57.656
  • It to little tommy, he said, read it to me, and with tears in
  • 00:22:57.656 --> 00:23:01.526
  • Her eyes, that she's read,
  • 00:23:01.526 --> 00:23:03.295
  • "dear mrs. edison, your son tommy is brilliant.
  • 00:23:03.295 --> 00:23:09.334
  • He's a genius.
  • 00:23:09.334 --> 00:23:11.102
  • He's far beyond the ability of any teacher in this school to
  • 00:23:11.102 --> 00:23:14.272
  • Teach him.
  • 00:23:14.272 --> 00:23:15.607
  • You're going to have to teach him at home.
  • 00:23:15.607 --> 00:23:18.543
  • He's not welcome back here because he is far, far beyond
  • 00:23:18.543 --> 00:23:23.014
  • Anything we can do."
  • 00:23:23.014 --> 00:23:24.950
  • Mmm.
  • 00:23:24.950 --> 00:23:26.351
  • So, mrs. edison taught her son at home.
  • 00:23:26.351 --> 00:23:31.356
  • He became thomas edison, perhaps one of the most creative minds
  • 00:23:31.356 --> 00:23:37.462
  • Ever produced, not only in america, but in the world.
  • 00:23:37.462 --> 00:23:41.700
  • When his mother died, years later, he was looking through
  • 00:23:41.700 --> 00:23:46.171
  • Some things in a drawer.
  • 00:23:46.171 --> 00:23:48.874
  • And according to his memoir, he saw that little note that he'd
  • 00:23:48.874 --> 00:23:53.078
  • Carried home to his mother.
  • 00:23:53.078 --> 00:23:56.014
  • And he said, "you know, i want to read that note myself."
  • 00:23:56.014 --> 00:23:58.416
  • And the note didn't say what his mother said that it said, the
  • 00:23:58.416 --> 00:24:03.355
  • Note said, "your son is addled," that meant mentally ill in
  • 00:24:03.355 --> 00:24:07.926
  • That day.
  • 00:24:07.926 --> 00:24:09.794
  • "we won't let him come back to school here anymore.
  • 00:24:09.794 --> 00:24:14.666
  • You'll have to teach him."
  • 00:24:14.666 --> 00:24:17.736
  • Edison said when he read that, he cried and cried for hours.
  • 00:24:17.736 --> 00:24:24.543
  • And then he wrote in his memoir, these words, "thomas alva edison
  • 00:24:24.543 --> 00:24:31.049
  • Was an addled child that a hero mother became--became the genius
  • 00:24:31.049 --> 00:24:39.324
  • Of the century.
  • 00:24:39.324 --> 00:24:41.226
  • Mom and dad, everybody may give up on your son and daughter
  • 00:24:41.226 --> 00:24:44.663
  • Because they say, "oh, they're fools," but a mom and dad who
  • 00:24:44.663 --> 00:24:50.268
  • Brings a child up, teaching, loving with unconditional love.
  • 00:24:50.268 --> 00:24:59.010
  • You'll be amazed at what that son and daughter will become.
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  • Pastor ed: of all the responsibilities god has
  • 00:26:21.159 --> 00:26:23.128
  • Entrusted to me, i can't think of more thrilling or challenging
  • 00:26:23.128 --> 00:26:26.598
  • One than being a parent.
  • 00:26:26.598 --> 00:26:28.900
  • Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
  • 00:26:28.900 --> 00:26:31.536
  • We are to nurture them, to teach them, to build of them the right
  • 00:26:31.536 --> 00:26:35.073
  • Stuff as sons and daughters.
  • 00:26:35.073 --> 00:26:37.342
  • As you've probably figured out by now, parenting is truly a
  • 00:26:37.342 --> 00:26:41.146
  • Full-time job, and sometimes it could be an overwhelming task.
  • 00:26:41.146 --> 00:26:46.751
  • But thankfully, we do not have to do it alone.
  • 00:26:46.751 --> 00:26:49.921
  • You can begin today by admitting that you don't have all
  • 00:26:49.921 --> 00:26:53.124
  • The answers, i certainly don't.
  • 00:26:53.124 --> 00:26:55.326
  • And then we turn to the one who does, god.
  • 00:26:55.326 --> 00:26:59.731
  • God's word, the bible offers practical principles for
  • 00:26:59.731 --> 00:27:03.268
  • Parenting today and every single day.
  • 00:27:03.268 --> 00:27:06.504
  • So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills
  • 00:27:06.504 --> 00:27:10.475
  • And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
  • 00:27:10.475 --> 00:27:17.515
  • He invented the family.
  • 00:27:17.515 --> 00:27:19.751
  • Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
  • 00:27:19.751 --> 00:27:22.854
  • And i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
  • 00:27:22.854 --> 00:27:27.025
  • Can you?
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