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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Principles of Biblical Marriage | April 23, 2026
- I was married 50 plus years.
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- I've been married now, going on four years.
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- Marriage, in my experience.
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- Sinful.
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- Flawed that i am many, many ways.
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- Marriage is exciting for a feeling of blessing.
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- It is a joy
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- Because god's
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- Biblical principles work.
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- And if that is not happening with exciting creativity
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- In your marriage, you're not following god's principles
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- For this most important foundational relationship.
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- You got it.
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- That's true.
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- Psalm
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- 11 three said,
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- If the foundations
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- Are being destroyed,
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- What can the righteous do?
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- You know, we have that conversation all the time.
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- Do you realize that
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- We look around us and the foundations
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- Are being destroyed?
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- They're being burned up.
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- They're being put to one side.
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- And we always ask,
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- What in the world can we do?
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- If you're a christian.
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- How can we stand against this.
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- In all the opposition that is coming
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- And all the confusion we're part of?
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- Isn't that a part of almost our daily conversation?
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- If the foundations are being destroyed?
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- What in the world
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- Can the righteous do?
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- A big assumption is, assuming
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- That you and i are righteous.
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- Are the american flag.
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- The united states has foundations.
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- I think the fundamental statement would be
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- One nation
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- Under god.
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- Now, as we look around,
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- We discover we're not one nation.
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- We're divided into many facets
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- On the basis of many ideologies.
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- We're not one nation today,
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- And we're not under god.
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- By and large, we are under the state.
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- And the state, evidently
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- With great intentionality, is keeping us.
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- There's divided as possible.
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- What are these foundations?
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- Declaration of independence.
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- Constitution by laws.
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- Systematically, as anybody who's awake knows,
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- All of these foundational documents
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- Are being shredded and disregarded.
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- We hold these truths
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- To be self-evident.
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- Let's stop right there.
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- We hold these truths, fundamental foundational truths
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- To be self-evident.
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- That all men are created equal.
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- Now, it doesn't mean equal opportunity.
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- Background environment, etc.
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- But it does mean basically, though,
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- We're in a fallen world and there are some exceptions.
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- All of us and all the planet have an equality in the sense
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- That we were created in the image of god.
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- And that primarily means we have the ability to choose.
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- We're not determined by our instincts,
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- By our dna.
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- We are made in the image of god,
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- And therefore all men and women are created equal.
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- They are endowed,
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- Given by the creator god.
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- We're certain unalienable or inalienable rights, and
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- Those words are interchangeable in a lot of documents
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- To life.
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- In the united states of america.
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- We've already seen around 60 million lives
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- Murdered in their mother's womb.
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- What happened to life, you say?
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- Well, we were.
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- We've gone away with roe v wade.
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- No, we take it down to the states,
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- And i pray there will be less.
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- But we have no assurance of that.
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- It's an inalienable right
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- Given to us by god almighty.
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- Life, liberty,
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- Freedom.
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- Can you speak freely on any subject
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- And go anywhere and not have to?
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- Are you?
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- We better lower our voice because.
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- The government is listening.
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- Oh, yeah. oh, yeah.
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- That's what we are, folks.
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- Liberty.
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- Now, we
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- Stole those two words from.
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- England.
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- In their basic documents.
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- Life and liberty.
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- And they say property.
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- We said the pursuit of happiness.
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- That's our basic
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- Foundational documents under the flag.
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- What's the next basic foundation?
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- It is the family.
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- It is marriage.
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- Where did marriage come from?
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- Just a social.
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- Convenience that came through tradition and history.
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- No, it came from biblical truth.
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- In the beginning, god created
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- The heavens and the earth.
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- And then you have the days of creation.
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- And following each day, god looked back on his creation
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- And said it is good.
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- The second day it is good.
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- The third day he looked back and said, it is good.
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- The fourth day he looked back.
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- He said, it is good.
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- And then to the sixth day.
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- He looked
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- Back on all the creation.
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- He said, it is very good.
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- And then the seventh day he put in the sabbath,
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- And we are a part
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- Of the new sabbath, the first day of the week,
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- Because that was the day of resurrection.
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- In the sabbath we are to be engaged
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- In recreation.
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- That's worship.
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- By the way.
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- All the tv internet people, well, i worship better.
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- No, no,
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- The bible says we do not forsake the
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- Assembling of ourselves together.
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- We need the proximity of the family
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- In the body of christ.
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- If you can go anywhere, you can get up and go to church.
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- God's house on sunday morning.
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- If you can't tune.
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- In, tune in.
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- God, look back.
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- And what. he does in those.
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- Days, those six days, and now the sabbath on the.
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- Sabbath.
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- He said, it is very good.
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- And then you begin in chapter two.
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- Let me explain this to some people.
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- Chapter one tells
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- Us basically in broad terms, what god did.
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- Genesis chapter two.
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- Tells us some of what he did.
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- It is a commentary and a partial explanation
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- Of chapter one.
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- Some lunatics open the bible.
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- Well, you got two different creation.
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- Wake up and understand basic ways
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- To interpret god's word.
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- Number one. this is what he. did.
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- Number two and then we have the first.
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- It is not good in the bible.
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- Five.
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- Good. six.
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- Very good.
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- Now we have it is not good.
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- What is not good for man.
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- To be a long.
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- And then he had already instructed
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- Mankind man to have dominion.
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- To have dominion.
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- To be the steward of all.
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- Of these fabulous.
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- Fabulous things that god had brought out of nothing
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- We call creation.
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- And then he
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- Says, adam scott, job for you.
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- Name all the animals.
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- Name all the living creatures.
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- And so
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- They began walking in front of adam.
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- And god had already told adam, i've got somebody for you.
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- So can you imagine?
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- As the parade came by.
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- Adam was saying, where's the rest of me?
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- You know.
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- Well, i'm looking for that.
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- And he began to name them.
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- We have that word onomatopoeia.
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- Remember that.
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- That means a word that sounds like what it is.
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- Hippopotamus came by.
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- He said, you know, that thing looks like a hip
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- Kind of fish, doesn't it?
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- I don't know, man. to be a hippopotamus.
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- A wolf came by herding.
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- Well, what about how did he name a fly?
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- Well, he was moving through the air.
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- You know, we.
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- All the names begin to fit.
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- What a tremendous.
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- Assignment adam had.
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- God gave it to him,
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- And he's looking all the time for the rest of himself.
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- You're not supposed to have a.
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- God good for me to be alone.
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- Where? where does the other have?
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- And all the creation of the animals.
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- He look for something else that was created.
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- In the image of god.
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- Didn't find it.
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- Went to sleep.
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- And while he was sleeping.
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- God was that divine.
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- Anesthesia.
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- Went into his side.
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- Took out a rib.
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- Created eve.
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- So getting back up.
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- While he was sleeping.
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- And when he awakened.
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- Folks, we couldn't explain.
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- There's not enough adjectives.
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- There's not enough ability for anybody
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- To say what adam felt when.
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- He saw eve. in the garden.
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- He said, bone of my bone
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- And flesh of my flesh.
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- She was created not out of dirt, as was adam.
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- She was created out of mankind.
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- Part of himself.
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- And he said, eureka! i found it.
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- Can you imagine?
- 00:11:17.989 --> 00:11:20.425
- And then god performed
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- And gave us
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- Marriage.
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- Leave,
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- Cleave.
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- One flesh naked.
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- No shame.
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- God gave us.
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- Marriage.
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- And ladies and gentlemen, marriage
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- Is the primary foundation
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- Upon which we stand.
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- And judeo-christian tradition.
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- Everybody wants a happy home.
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- But let's be honest.
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- A happy home doesn't just happen.
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- It's built.
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- It's shaped.
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- Day by day by day.
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- That's why i want to encourage you to read
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- This little booklet, cardinal rules for a happy home.
- 00:12:10.675 --> 00:12:13.912
- This 90 day devotional is from
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- Decades of real life pastoring,
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- Counseling, and building my own home and family.
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- In the page of this book each day
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- You will find a simple rhythm
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- As of scripture,
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- Practical, down to earth navigation,
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- And a guided prayer to help you bring it all home.
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- We're not talking about something complicated here.
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- We're talking about just 15 minutes a day.
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- 15 minutes.
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- Did you can strengthen your marriage and refocus
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- Your home on what matters the most in christ
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- Centered, foundation, practical, down to earth.
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- Your life.
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- Because when christ is at the center, guess what?
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- Everything else changes.
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- Conversations change.
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- Priorities change.
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- Hearts begin to change.
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- Take that first step today.
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- Call the number or visit the website below
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- First and foremost in the
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- Sight of the evil one, the devil.
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- Marriage.
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- So we'd better wake up and
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- Understand marriage.
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- How does marriage take place?
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- Where does it begin?
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- And everybody here would. say.
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- The obvious answer.
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- When you fall in love, let me tell you.
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- If you fall, it's not a good thing.
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- Well, i fell in love.
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- It's not that.
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- Is that a good way to express it?
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- I talked to somebody this week
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- That southern girl
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- Who graduated from college went to california,
- 00:14:06.958 --> 00:14:11.029
- Got to know this guy over a period of weeks,
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- And they were sitting together once and and suddenly
- 00:14:13.298 --> 00:14:17.068
- He just reaches over and kisses her at.
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- The same time.
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- She felt all the earth shake
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- And she woke like this.
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- This must be what it is. and she backed up and said.
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- Did you feel that.
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- The all the earth shake when we kissed?
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- He he. why? she said, i didn't.
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- I didn't know it'd be like that.
- 00:14:34.786 --> 00:14:36.888
- He said, look, we have those little shakes
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- All the time here. you're just not used to it.
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- So how do you know when that's the one?
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- Bang! the earth shakes.
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- I fell in love.
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- Lot of times we've.
- 00:14:51.169 --> 00:14:52.103
- Fallen in love.
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- Have we not?
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- So let's talk about marriage.
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- It's based on love.
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- How do you know when you're in love?
- 00:15:04.782 --> 00:15:06.050
- First of all, wouldn't
- 00:15:06.050 --> 00:15:06.951
- It be a good idea if we defined a love?
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- Wouldn't that be a while?
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- No. marriage is based on love.
- 00:15:10.588 --> 00:15:13.358
- Well, that's. define love.
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- Whole lot of definition.
- 00:15:16.761 --> 00:15:17.962
- We use love an english language a lot of different ways.
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- I love football.
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- I love the texans.
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- I love, pecan pie with bluebell on top of it.
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- I love pecan pie.
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- Yeah.
- 00:15:32.443 --> 00:15:33.578
- I have all kinds of people that i have confidence in.
- 00:15:33.578 --> 00:15:37.115
- Friends that i will say sincerely, i love you.
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- They're all different areas of love.
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- And the greeks
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- Have at least four words for love.
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- Three of them, i think.
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- I think, particularly apply to marriage.
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- I want you to see the love triangle that we have up here.
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- The greek word is eros.
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- You know that erotic.
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- That's chemistry.
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- That's physical love.
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- You need that in marriage.
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- That's attractive.
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- Then there's the leo.
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- That is friendship. love.
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- Your wife.
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- Your husband. should be.
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- Must be. has to be.
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- If you're going to have an exciting marriage that
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- Sizzles biblical style, there has to be a friendship.
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- There.
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- And then there's a god.
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- That's a big, broad, god given love
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- That is sacrificial love that you want primarily for
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- Your partner to be number one and to have everything.
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- And you would literally give your life for him or for her.
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- See, this.
- 00:16:42.847 --> 00:16:43.548
- Is the large framework of love.
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- And we see it define what love is,
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- And you ought to read a clear definition.
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- Read one corinthians 13.
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- Boy, that is a big word for love.
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- I might better do that.
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- So you understand how serious this thing really is.
- 00:17:00.331 --> 00:17:06.070
- Though i speak for the tongues of men
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- And angels, but have not love, i become something
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- Sounding brass, a clanging cymbal.
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- And though i have the gift
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- Of all prophecy, understand all mysteries, all knowledge.
- 00:17:17.782 --> 00:17:21.319
- And though i have all faith, so that i can remove mountains,
- 00:17:21.319 --> 00:17:24.722
- But have not love, i'm zero.
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- And though i bestow all my goods to feed the poor.
- 00:17:28.593 --> 00:17:31.529
- And though i give my body to be burned.
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- But have not love, it profits me nothing.
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- Here's the definition.
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- Love suffers long.
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- Love is kind.
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- Love does not envy.
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- Love does not parade itself.
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- Is not puffed up.
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- Does not behave rudely.
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- Does not seek its own.
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- Is not easily provoked. thanks. no evil.
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- Does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in truth.
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- Bears all things, believes all things,
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- Hopes all things,
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- Endures all thing.
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- Love never fails.
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- Is it love?
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- Is it.
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- Infatuation?
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- We got a little test down here.
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- Look at the grid again.
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- Love our fascination test
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- Time.
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- It takes. time.
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- It takes.
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- Time.
- 00:18:31.255 --> 00:18:32.657
- Joe bets and i dated.
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- Six and a half years and remain pure.
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- It takes time. it takes knowledge.
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- You got to get to know one another.
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- It takes singularity.
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- There's a time in my life.
- 00:18:46.170 --> 00:18:47.872
- I was dating a girl in college.
- 00:18:47.872 --> 00:18:49.740
- There was a girl i dated in high school.
- 00:18:49.740 --> 00:18:51.809
- And i was trying to said.
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- Which one do i love?
- 00:18:53.177 --> 00:18:54.645
- We've all been there.
- 00:18:54.645 --> 00:18:55.780
- God told me this week one time
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- He thought i was in love with four different girls.
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- It takes singularity.
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- It takes compatibility.
- 00:19:04.789 --> 00:19:07.258
- Well, it attracts,
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- But you better have something in common.
- 00:19:08.693 --> 00:19:10.962
- If she gets sick driving around the block
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- And you're a big thing, you travel.
- 00:19:13.231 --> 00:19:14.865
- I'd think about that.
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- It takes.
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- Compatibility.
- 00:19:18.269 --> 00:19:19.904
- It takes. common sense.
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- You listen to friends.
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- You listen to people.
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- You listen to family before you fall.
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- Right?
- 00:19:28.813 --> 00:19:30.381
- These are the tests that we put up there.
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- It takes compassion.
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- You ought to be married to somebody who is not
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- Compassionate and forgiving and gentle.
- 00:19:39.056 --> 00:19:41.959
- You want to marry someone?
- 00:19:41.959 --> 00:19:42.860
- Spend the rest of life with them.
- 00:19:42.860 --> 00:19:45.763
- And it's a good idea that they're christian.
- 00:19:45.763 --> 00:19:47.665
- Well, you know, she believes in god.
- 00:19:47.665 --> 00:19:50.635
- And, you know,
- 00:19:50.635 --> 00:19:51.602
- She was brought up in the episcopal church,
- 00:19:51.602 --> 00:19:53.404
- The baptist church, the catholic church.
- 00:19:53.404 --> 00:19:55.506
- Nonsense. is this person
- 00:19:55.506 --> 00:19:58.242
- Genuinely seeking to walk with jesus christ?
- 00:19:58.242 --> 00:20:01.012
- And the biblical.
- 00:20:01.012 --> 00:20:02.113
- Truths are going to be
- 00:20:02.113 --> 00:20:03.447
- The foundation of that divine relationship.
- 00:20:03.447 --> 00:20:06.851
- Run through some test.
- 00:20:07.318 --> 00:20:10.288
- These not exhaustive. always.
- 00:20:10.921 --> 00:20:12.790
- My ear didn't mention.
- 00:20:12.790 --> 00:20:14.692
- Look how long you will stay here.
- 00:20:14.692 --> 00:20:18.129
- So it's not exhaustive any of this.
- 00:20:18.129 --> 00:20:21.565
- But these are the broad principles to determine.
- 00:20:21.565 --> 00:20:24.669
- Is it fascination?
- 00:20:25.102 --> 00:20:26.504
- Is it just chemistry or is it love?
- 00:20:26.504 --> 00:20:29.473
- And that takes a lot of these things to put in your grid.
- 00:20:29.473 --> 00:20:33.344
- As before, you say.
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- I do, and i will.
- 00:20:35.279 --> 00:20:39.617
- So what we're going to do
- 00:20:40.184 --> 00:20:41.652
- Is present biblical principles for falling in love,
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- For being in love, for staying in love.
- 00:20:46.390 --> 00:20:49.393
- How do you stay in love?
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- Learn the love language of your main man.
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- Learn the love language of your wife.
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- Wives, learn the love language of your husband.
- 00:20:58.636 --> 00:21:01.272
- And i'll walk you through that in days to come.
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- As we go through the first great, biblical marriage.
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- Okay.
- 00:21:07.611 --> 00:21:10.715
- So here we are.
- 00:21:11.082 --> 00:21:13.984
- Here we are. now,
- 00:21:13.984 --> 00:21:17.021
- Let's flip through to something
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- That's very, very important
- 00:21:21.158 --> 00:21:24.128
- In ephesians
- 00:21:24.462 --> 00:21:25.463
- Chapter five, verse 32,
- 00:21:25.463 --> 00:21:28.532
- Ephesians five, paul is talking about
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- This is how a husband conducts himself.
- 00:21:31.335 --> 00:21:33.838
- This is how wife conducts himself.
- 00:21:33.838 --> 00:21:36.374
- This is how the home functions biblically.
- 00:21:36.374 --> 00:21:39.744
- And finally paul ends up and he says,
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- Marriage.
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- Is a great mystery.
- 00:21:43.781 --> 00:21:45.649
- You remember that for you.
- 00:21:45.649 --> 00:21:47.385
- It is what the marriage of the great.
- 00:21:47.385 --> 00:21:49.754
- Mystery,
- 00:21:49.754 --> 00:21:51.655
- A great mystery.
- 00:21:51.655 --> 00:21:54.291
- What is that great mystery?
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- Okay.
- 00:21:57.595 --> 00:21:58.396
- What is this.
- 00:21:58.396 --> 00:22:00.197
- Mysterious secret
- 00:22:00.197 --> 00:22:02.066
- About marriage that some people miss
- 00:22:02.066 --> 00:22:04.802
- And therefore it, what is this great mystery?
- 00:22:04.802 --> 00:22:10.674
- Great mystery is.
- 00:22:11.108 --> 00:22:14.145
- Marriage is not a contract.
- 00:22:14.145 --> 00:22:17.248
- It's not an agreement.
- 00:22:17.715 --> 00:22:20.384
- It's not a settled own
- 00:22:20.384 --> 00:22:21.919
- Legal relationship.
- 00:22:21.919 --> 00:22:25.156
- It is a.
- 00:22:25.423 --> 00:22:26.824
- Covenant.
- 00:22:26.824 --> 00:22:29.393
- The secret mystery of
- 00:22:29.894 --> 00:22:31.595
- Marriage that a lot of people don't understand.
- 00:22:31.595 --> 00:22:34.532
- It is a covenant.
- 00:22:34.532 --> 00:22:36.133
- Marriage is not to do it.
- 00:22:36.133 --> 00:22:39.170
- It's a trio.
- 00:22:39.170 --> 00:22:40.704
- Look at the covenant triangle.
- 00:22:40.704 --> 00:22:42.373
- If you would.
- 00:22:42.373 --> 00:22:45.509
- Husband.
- 00:22:45.776 --> 00:22:46.911
- Notice the arrow as the husband draws closer to god.
- 00:22:46.911 --> 00:22:50.648
- As a wife draws closer to god.
- 00:22:51.248 --> 00:22:54.418
- Look, they're getting closer to one another.
- 00:22:54.418 --> 00:22:56.587
- Do you see it?
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- Yeah.
- 00:22:58.022 --> 00:22:58.856
- Oh, that sounds like biblical truth.
- 00:22:58.856 --> 00:23:00.391
- No, that's absolutely 100% accurate.
- 00:23:00.391 --> 00:23:03.127
- And it works.
- 00:23:03.127 --> 00:23:04.195
- Every single time the husband gets closer to god,
- 00:23:04.195 --> 00:23:07.598
- The wife is closer to god.
- 00:23:07.598 --> 00:23:09.366
- And in the covenant, they become not a duet,
- 00:23:09.366 --> 00:23:12.803
- But a trio.
- 00:23:12.803 --> 00:23:13.971
- Because god and his biblical principles.
- 00:23:13.971 --> 00:23:16.640
- Are in the heart of it.
- 00:23:16.640 --> 00:23:18.876
- Let me tell you something.
- 00:23:18.876 --> 00:23:19.577
- If you're married, you just,
- 00:23:19.577 --> 00:23:20.945
- This is one and one in the marriage.
- 00:23:20.945 --> 00:23:23.447
- I'm always right.
- 00:23:23.447 --> 00:23:25.182
- I'm speaking and always drawing hard lines in the sand.
- 00:23:25.182 --> 00:23:29.353
- There's all this debating going on.
- 00:23:29.353 --> 00:23:31.555
- Let me tell you something.
- 00:23:31.555 --> 00:23:33.224
- I was married 50 plus years.
- 00:23:33.224 --> 00:23:34.992
- I've been married now, going on four years.
- 00:23:34.992 --> 00:23:37.761
- Marriage, in my experience.
- 00:23:38.362 --> 00:23:41.799
- Sinful.
- 00:23:42.032 --> 00:23:42.867
- Flawed that i am many, many ways.
- 00:23:42.867 --> 00:23:46.604
- Marriage is exciting for a feeling of blessing.
- 00:23:46.604 --> 00:23:50.307
- It is a joy
- 00:23:50.307 --> 00:23:52.409
- Because god's
- 00:23:52.776 --> 00:23:54.512
- Biblical principles work.
- 00:23:54.512 --> 00:23:57.047
- And if that is not happening with exciting creativity
- 00:23:57.047 --> 00:24:01.151
- In your marriage, you're not following god's principles
- 00:24:01.151 --> 00:24:05.256
- For this most important foundational relationship.
- 00:24:05.256 --> 00:24:08.859
- You got it.
- 00:24:08.859 --> 00:24:09.660
- That's true.
- 00:24:09.660 --> 00:24:12.796
- Some of you look like.
- 00:24:12.796 --> 00:24:13.898
- Wow. oh, yeah.
- 00:24:13.898 --> 00:24:17.334
- See, marriage.
- 00:24:17.668 --> 00:24:18.569
- Is the.
- 00:24:18.569 --> 00:24:19.637
- Physical relationship.
- 00:24:19.637 --> 00:24:20.971
- That's a metaphor for the marriage.
- 00:24:20.971 --> 00:24:23.807
- You and i have with god. through jesus christ.
- 00:24:23.807 --> 00:24:26.143
- Our salvation.
- 00:24:26.143 --> 00:24:29.046
- So we're going back to the fundamentals.
- 00:24:29.046 --> 00:24:31.148
- And it is a covenant.
- 00:24:31.148 --> 00:24:34.285
- And when we realize.
- 00:24:34.285 --> 00:24:35.619
- That god, his principles.
- 00:24:35.619 --> 00:24:38.656
- Are at the heart and center
- 00:24:39.256 --> 00:24:41.825
- Of every one of our marriages,
- 00:24:41.825 --> 00:24:44.929
- That will change.
- 00:24:44.929 --> 00:24:47.197
- Everything.
- 00:24:47.197 --> 00:24:50.334
- If your marriage isn't sizzling.
- 00:24:50.334 --> 00:24:56.674
- Something is.
- 00:24:57.041 --> 00:24:57.975
- Wrong.
- 00:24:57.975 --> 00:25:00.244
- And you are not living out plain, clear,
- 00:25:00.244 --> 00:25:05.516
- Practical principles of a biblical marriage.
- 00:25:05.516 --> 00:25:12.056
- Everybody wants a happy home.
- 00:25:12.690 --> 00:25:15.693
- But let's be honest.
- 00:25:15.693 --> 00:25:17.194
- A happy home doesn't just happen.
- 00:25:17.194 --> 00:25:20.097
- It's built.
- 00:25:20.097 --> 00:25:21.365
- It's shaped.
- 00:25:21.365 --> 00:25:22.800
- Day by day by day.
- 00:25:22.800 --> 00:25:24.935
- That's why i want to encourage you to read
- 00:25:24.935 --> 00:25:27.504
- This little booklet, cardinal rules for a happy home.
- 00:25:27.504 --> 00:25:30.741
- This 90 day devotional is from
- 00:25:30.741 --> 00:25:33.243
- Decades of real life pastoring,
- 00:25:33.243 --> 00:25:36.513
- Counseling, and building my own home and family.
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- In the page of this
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- Book each day you will find a simple rhythm
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- As of scripture,
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- Practical, down to earth navigation,
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- And a guided prayer to help you bring it all home.
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- We're not talking about something complicated here.
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- We're talking about just 15 minutes a day.
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- 15 minutes.
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- Did you can strengthen your marriage and refocus
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- Your home on what matters the most in christ
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- Centered, foundation, practical, down to earth.
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- Your life.
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- Because when christ is at the center, guess what?
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- Everything else changes.
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- Conversations change.
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- Priorities change.
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- Hearts begin to change.
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- Take that first step today.
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- Call the number or visit the website below
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- And get cardinal rules for a happy home
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- And begin your 90 day journey
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- Right now.
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- Before we go, remember this.
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- A happy home begins with a heart
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- That's focused on the lord.
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- As you spend time in his word, the bible,
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- And apply his truth, even the simplest changes
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- Can lead to something beautiful.
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- It takes time.
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- But that's the way god's work.
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- So stay faithful to be encouraged.
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- And i look forward to seeing you next time
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- On the winning walk with the lord jesus christ.
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