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Ed Young - Resolving Marital Conflict

May 11, 2026 | 27:29

Ed Young - Resolving Marital Conflict
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Resolving Marital Conflict | May 11, 2026
  • Baby, i'm sorry i shot you.
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  • I love you.
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  • And she says, baby, i'm sorry i shot you.
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  • I love you now, boy.
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  • There is a country western song
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  • In the making.
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  • I think it would go
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  • Something like, i shot you cause you didn't.
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  • Tick tock.
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  • And the female will say i shut you because.
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  • I love you a lot.
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  • This is our world.
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  • How many of you
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  • Have had some kind of conflict
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  • In your marriage within the last decade?
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  • That's ten years.
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  • Would you lift your hand and hold it up?
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  • Lift your hand if you're married,
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  • If you read a conflict, lift it up in the last decade.
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  • Hold it up, hold it up.
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  • Everybody
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  • In the last decade.
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  • All right. leave your hand up.
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  • If you've had a conflict in the last year.
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  • Keep your hand up.
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  • Those you load your hand.
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  • I'll deal with lying later.
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  • The bottom line is,
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  • There is conflict
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  • In relationships.
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  • There is trouble.
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  • There is.
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  • We call it sometimes fighting.
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  • 20th anniversary
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  • Coming up for this couple.
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  • And she thinks she'll hint to him
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  • What she'd like for her 20th anniversary.
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  • And she said, i want something shiny.
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  • That'll go from 0
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  • To 180 in three seconds.
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  • He thought about it and gave her
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  • Some bathroom scales.
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  • That's when the trouble started.
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  • Another couple.
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  • He went with her to her 10th
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  • High school reunion.
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  • They were seated, gather a table and close by
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  • Was another man.
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  • A table by himself, obviously drunk, obviously drinking.
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  • And the man said to his wife, you keep looking over at him.
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  • Do you know him?
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  • She said, oh, yes, that was my high school sweetheart.
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  • And she said, i am told that after we broke up.
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  • He has been drinking constantly ever since.
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  • And her husband said, my,
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  • It's unusual for someone to celebrate that long.
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  • That's when the trouble started.
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  • So we look back on marriage and there's conflicts there.
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  • There's fighting, there's there's agreement,
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  • There's tension, there's trouble.
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  • So we need to go back once again
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  • And look at the basic fundamental
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  • Definition of marriage.
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  • Genesis chapter two.
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  • We've been over it. listen again.
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  • God gave us marriage.
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  • He said we're to leave.
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  • Cleave one flesh.
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  • Naked.
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  • No shame.
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  • That's it.
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  • Basic fundamental picture.
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  • Description of marriage.
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  • The operative phrase in there
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  • Is one
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  • Flesh,
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  • But divine math.
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  • One plus one equals one.
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  • One flesh.
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  • And we go to the bible.
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  • We see this thing of oneness is found all the way through.
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  • In john chapter 17, jesus
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  • Just hours before the cross, he prays for all of us.
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  • Did you know there was a time in the bible
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  • God prayed for you and prayed for me.
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  • He prayed for us.
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  • And a part of this prayer is found in
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  • John 17 verse 21,
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  • That they that's all of us,
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  • Maybe one,
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  • Even as you, the father, are in me,
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  • And i in you, that they also may be in us,
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  • So that the world may believe that you sent me.
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  • In other words, jesus prayed as he is one with the father,
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  • And we are in christ, are one with him, that we may
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  • Be one with the father.
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  • The father may be one with us, and we may be one with jesus.
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  • It's all about three becoming one.
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  • It happens in the trinity.
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  • God the father, god the son, god the holy spirit
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  • Three become one is all about oneness.
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  • So our christian experience,
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  • Our salvation in christ, is parallel to marriage.
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  • It's the symbol.
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  • It's the illustration that is used for marriage
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  • That they might be one.
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  • We see paul expands on this
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  • In ephesians chapter number four.
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  • Tremendous expansion.
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  • He talks about oneness.
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  • Look how many times in ephesians four look at verse
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  • Two. it says showing tolerance for one
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  • Another in love, being diligent to preserve the unity.
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  • That's oneness of the spirit.
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  • In the bond of peace there is one body, one spirit.
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  • This is also.
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  • You were called in one hope of your calling.
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  • One lord, one faith, one baptism, one god.
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  • Look at verse seven.
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  • But in each one of us grace, he talks about unity.
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  • In verse three, he talks about in verse 12
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  • For the equipping of the saints for the work of service,
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  • To building up the body until we all attain the unity
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  • That is one this you have 12 different references
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  • And a handful of verses to 111111 flesh,
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  • One in god the father, god the holy spirit,
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  • One in the sense of all of our basic
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  • Understanding of theology and doctrine.
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  • 111 and then paul gives
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  • Us exactly what we need
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  • In life, but especially in
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  • The intimacy of marriage and the covenant there.
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  • Look at verse 15, but
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  • Speaking the truth in love.
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  • A lot of us are real good at speaking the truth.
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  • Well, i'm going to tell you the truth.
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  • Hold on.
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  • A lot of us are good at love.
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  • Oh, i wouldn't cross anybody upset.
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  • Anybody is just going to be so sweet.
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  • Everything.
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  • And we're good at love.
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  • But the genius of marriage and the genius of communication
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  • Is being able to speak the truth in love.
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  • That's that's the challenge we have, is it not?
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  • And jesus said there in john 14, i am the way.
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  • In his way is the way of love.
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  • I am the truth and i'm the life.
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  • So we have love
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  • Plus truth equals life.
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  • And we're talking about communication.
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  • And then in this very passage,
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  • Paul talks about how we live the christian life.
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  • He talks about this way and this truth and this life.
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  • And he has two interesting little phrases.
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  • He says, you've got to take off the old
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  • And you have to put on the new.
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  • And that's what we're about, folks.
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  • We're always taking off.
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  • The old person, the old self, the old ideas, the old agenda,
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  • The old prejudices, the old pride.
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  • And we're putting on all the new.
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  • And that's putting on christ.
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  • Take off the old, put on the new.
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  • And then he gives us, as we you'll see
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  • At the end of our study, two tremendous principles
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  • That are so vital and effective in marriage.
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  • So two can really become one.
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  • When joe, beth and i got married,
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  • I know two are going to become one.
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  • And i was excited about it, but i thought it would be like
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  • Ed, plus a little bit of j.
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  • She thought it
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  • Would become j o b e t
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  • With a little bit of yes.
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  • She did not consciously.
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  • We didn't figure it out, but that's how we think.
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  • But it has become instead j oed
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  • Say we've got an equal part of this thing.
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  • How to how do two things mold together?
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  • How does that happen?
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  • You can do it by freezing frozen, frozen, frozen.
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  • We come together.
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  • That's one way, isn't it?
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  • Well, it sure is cold.
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  • You can freeze things together.
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  • That's not marriage.
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  • You can take two personalities.
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  • You can melt them and they become one.
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  • And you can't tell one from the other.
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  • That's not to becoming one.
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  • That's not the way
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  • We're taught in marriage.
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  • You don't lose your identity, lose your personality
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  • To become one.
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  • What happens?
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  • Marriage is an amalgamation.
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  • No. that word, it means this one becomes this one.
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  • But this one keeps all the characteristics.
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  • And this one keeps all the character.
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  • In marriage.
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  • You need to have the feminine quality there.
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  • In marriage, you need to have the masculine quality there.
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  • That's amalgamation.
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  • That's god's plan to becoming one.
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  • But in the process today,
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  • Let me say that a lot of marriages here
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  • Are in
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  • What i call an sos situation.
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  • Save our ship.
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  • No, save our marriage.
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  • And you've come to the point in your marriage.
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  • You said, look, i can't go any longer.
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  • You're thinking about divorce and you're looking all
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  • The ramifications of divorce and you're in an sos situation.
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  • Some marriages start like that in a bizarre way,
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  • Just almost immediately after you get married.
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  • Did you hear about the guy who got a job?
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  • He was so thrilled to get this new job.
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  • He told his wife to set the alarm
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  • To make sure he'd get up early and be there
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  • Way ahead of time.
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  • First day at work, new job.
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  • But she forgot to set the alarm
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  • So they slept in an hour or two.
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  • After he was supposed to be there, he awakened.
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  • He went ballistic.
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  • You didn't set the alarm.
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  • And man, they get a knock down drag out in the process.
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  • They get so angry he reaches over
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  • And gets a pistol and shoots her in the arm.
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  • I couldn't make this up
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  • And he has walking out and she gets a shotgun
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  • And shoots him in the other arm.
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  • In his arm they call 911.
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  • The police come, the angels come.
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  • They take him
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  • To emerge the room and they're handcuffed together.
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  • Oh yeah.
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  • And one is working on his arm.
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  • One is working her arm and he says,
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  • Baby, i'm sorry i shot you.
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  • I love you.
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  • And she says, baby, i'm sorry i shot you.
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  • I love you now, boy.
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  • There is a country western song
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  • In the making.
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  • I think it would go
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  • Something like, i shot you cause you didn't.
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  • Tick tock.
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  • And the female will say i shut you because.
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  • I love you a lot.
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  • This is our world.
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  • And sometimes our marriage gets in an sos situation.
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  • Let me give you some wise,
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  • Godly counsel,
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  • Okay?
  • 00:13:08.744 --> 00:13:10.379
  • If you're marriage is an sos
  • 00:13:10.379 --> 00:13:12.648
  • Situation, whatever the reason, the shooting
  • 00:13:12.648 --> 00:13:15.451
  • Hadn't erupted yet.
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  • But you're there.
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  • Divorce.
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  • I want to ask you a question.
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  • Is your marriage worth
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  • 30 minutes a day for six days?
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  • Would you be willing to give 30 minutes
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  • A day for six days, hoping there's
  • 00:13:31.100 --> 00:13:33.102
  • Some way for your magic. would you do that?
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  • Is it worth that?
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  • Okay, if it is, let me give you
  • 00:13:36.372 --> 00:13:39.575
  • Some clear instructions.
  • 00:13:39.575 --> 00:13:42.945
  • When i was a boy, there
  • 00:13:43.445 --> 00:13:44.914
  • Was a popular little song called mother.
  • 00:13:44.914 --> 00:13:48.484
  • Derived from the acrostic motif.
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  • Though the lyrics are not christian.
  • 00:13:53.555 --> 00:13:55.691
  • They are certainly universal in their application
  • 00:13:55.691 --> 00:13:58.994
  • Of mothers everywhere as a child.
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  • I had to
  • 00:14:02.331 --> 00:14:03.432
  • Sing this over a radio station in laurel, mississippi.
  • 00:14:03.432 --> 00:14:06.769
  • Would you believe that?
  • 00:14:06.769 --> 00:14:08.037
  • And so, as a heartfelt tribute to mothers and mother figures
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  • Everywhere, i decided to have some fun
  • 00:14:12.708 --> 00:14:15.210
  • With this little acrostic for mother's day.
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  • For mother's day only.
  • 00:14:18.614 --> 00:14:20.749
  • So i've created a one week devotional for moms.
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  • Through these pages, i hope to honor our mothers,
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  • Glorify god, and inspire both mothers and children
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  • To pray for those whom god has carefully designed
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  • To nurture and guide each and every new generation.
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  • To get you a copy.
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  • Call the number on the screen or visit the website below
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  • And give someone who has been a mother figure to you,
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  • Or give one to your mother.
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  • And by the way, keep one for yourself.
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  • It wouldn't hurt to write it
  • 00:15:00.956 --> 00:15:02.124
  • Down, but i don't want to rush you.
  • 00:15:02.124 --> 00:15:05.127
  • Very practical instructions.
  • 00:15:05.728 --> 00:15:08.797
  • Get two chairs.
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  • Find a room that's quiet 30 minutes.
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  • Cut off everything else.
  • 00:15:15.337 --> 00:15:17.206
  • Face one another. get a clock
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  • That ticks, hopefully, where you can hear it.
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  • And each one of you have a bible in your hand.
  • 00:15:23.012 --> 00:15:26.982
  • Okay?
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  • You're going to spend 30 minutes
  • 00:15:28.517 --> 00:15:30.052
  • There face to face for six days.
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  • That's all.
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  • Divide that 30 minutes into
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  • Six segments.
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  • The first five minutes,
  • 00:15:39.395 --> 00:15:42.865
  • The husband and the wife thinks about what
  • 00:15:42.865 --> 00:15:46.101
  • It's going to be like without that person.
  • 00:15:46.101 --> 00:15:49.304
  • Now some of you say, say, well, it's going to be great,
  • 00:15:49.304 --> 00:15:52.741
  • But but think about
  • 00:15:53.208 --> 00:15:55.744
  • Relationships you've had with other couples
  • 00:15:55.744 --> 00:15:58.013
  • That will be severed.
  • 00:15:58.013 --> 00:15:59.314
  • You can bet on that.
  • 00:15:59.314 --> 00:16:01.583
  • Think about all the ramifications of that person
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  • Being totally, completely out of your life,
  • 00:16:05.120 --> 00:16:07.890
  • Which they will never will
  • 00:16:07.890 --> 00:16:09.124
  • Be, by the way, even though you're divorced.
  • 00:16:09.124 --> 00:16:10.926
  • But just think about that. okay?
  • 00:16:10.926 --> 00:16:13.395
  • Think about the future.
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  • Totally without that person.
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  • Five minutes.
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  • Nobody says a word.
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  • You're just faking each other.
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  • The second five minutes, you
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  • Look inside your life and see.
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  • Have i brought anything to this conflict
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  • That we've reached this point of extremity?
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  • Ask the question.
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  • This is a scariest question anybody can ask.
  • 00:16:35.884 --> 00:16:39.421
  • What is it like being married to me?
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  • Stay there for a while.
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  • Ladies and gentlemen,
  • 00:16:46.161 --> 00:16:47.996
  • Let the holy spirit meander around in your life
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  • For a while, and you'll begin to get some things that will
  • 00:16:51.300 --> 00:16:55.003
  • Maybe be shocking realizations you never thought about.
  • 00:16:55.003 --> 00:16:58.774
  • What's it like? look inside.
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  • Second.
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  • Five minutes.
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  • Third five minutes.
  • 00:17:06.582 --> 00:17:07.850
  • Think about the children and usually the divorce.
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  • You say?
  • 00:17:11.120 --> 00:17:12.254
  • Well, the children would be better off when you know
  • 00:17:12.254 --> 00:17:14.223
  • They're not so much fighting.
  • 00:17:14.223 --> 00:17:15.958
  • That may be true once in a while, but
  • 00:17:15.958 --> 00:17:18.460
  • Most of the time that is not true.
  • 00:17:18.460 --> 00:17:22.097
  • Think about those children,
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  • The pain, the situation
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  • For the rest of their life.
  • 00:17:27.803 --> 00:17:31.006
  • Then the last 15 minutes,
  • 00:17:31.006 --> 00:17:34.176
  • You begin to get active in this thing.
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  • First of all, you look down and let one of you remember
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  • You're going to do this for six days.
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  • Read out loud
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  • First corinthians
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  • Chapter 13 four through seven.
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  • Love is patient.
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  • Love is kind and is not jealous.
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  • Love does not brag and is not arrogant,
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  • Does not act unbecoming.
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  • It does not seek its own, is not provoked,
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  • Does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not
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  • Rejoice and unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth.
  • 00:18:12.915 --> 00:18:17.252
  • Fears most things.
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  • Bears most things.
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  • No bears all things.
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  • Believe some things.
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  • No. believes all things.
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  • Hopes, hope most of the things.
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  • No hopes, all things endures well, all know,
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  • Endures all things.
  • 00:18:36.438 --> 00:18:39.007
  • So you'll read that alternating
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  • For those six days allowed
  • 00:18:42.444 --> 00:18:46.114
  • Aloud.
  • 00:18:46.315 --> 00:18:47.416
  • And then you look at the past and the verses singly.
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  • Let the husband say some moments they had together
  • 00:18:52.754 --> 00:18:57.426
  • That was moments of great intimacy.
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  • Maybe walk on the beach, maybe when a child was born,
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  • Maybe, i don't know, just let one of them
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  • Share those intimate moments of great memories
  • 00:19:07.569 --> 00:19:10.606
  • And let the other one share in moments of great memories.
  • 00:19:10.606 --> 00:19:15.110
  • Just five minutes, five minutes.
  • 00:19:15.110 --> 00:19:18.347
  • And then we've looked at every direction but up.
  • 00:19:18.347 --> 00:19:22.551
  • And the last five minute segment.
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  • Look up and just pray to god.
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  • You say. well, i don't pray out loud.
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  • I know you guys just pray god, here
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  • I am that and just open your heart
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  • And you pray to god and let the wife pray to god.
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  • 30 minutes, six days.
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  • Divide up in six five minute sections
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  • And it's a matter of how you look.
  • 00:19:52.080 --> 00:19:54.883
  • Look ahead,
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  • Look within.
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  • Look at the children.
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  • Look down at the word of god.
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  • You look back on great moments
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  • And then you look up in prayer together.
  • 00:20:07.896 --> 00:20:11.433
  • Now, if after six days,
  • 00:20:11.933 --> 00:20:14.202
  • There is still a divide that you cannot get across.
  • 00:20:14.202 --> 00:20:19.074
  • Seek godly biblical counseling. it.
  • 00:20:19.074 --> 00:20:24.813
  • Let me give you a little wisdom from proverbs.
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  • If your marriage is so-so, look at it.
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  • Watch the path of your feet and all your ways will be
  • 00:20:30.686 --> 00:20:33.689
  • Established. proverbs 426.
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  • Oh, you gotta first of all decide where am i?
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  • You know, get location, understand yourself.
  • 00:20:39.995 --> 00:20:43.699
  • You can't change your mate.
  • 00:20:43.699 --> 00:20:45.267
  • You've tried that a long time.
  • 00:20:45.267 --> 00:20:46.601
  • It doesn't work, does it?
  • 00:20:46.601 --> 00:20:47.569
  • But you can see where you are.
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  • That's where you start looking.
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  • The next thing you find in proverbs a brother offended.
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  • It's harder to be one than a strong city.
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  • And contentions are like the bars of a citadel.
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  • When you have animosity between you and your mate,
  • 00:21:00.449 --> 00:21:03.518
  • Or remember your family, particularly
  • 00:21:03.518 --> 00:21:05.587
  • How hard it is to reestablish that.
  • 00:21:05.587 --> 00:21:08.657
  • It's like trying to get into a city
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  • That's fortified with high walls.
  • 00:21:10.959 --> 00:21:13.895
  • It is so, so difficult.
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  • We have to understand that.
  • 00:21:17.599 --> 00:21:18.967
  • Look at the next word from proverbs.
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  • It's very, very clear for us.
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  • He who troubles his own house will inherit the wind,
  • 00:21:23.905 --> 00:21:28.243
  • And the foolish will be the servant to the wise hearted.
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  • He who troubles his own house when he heard the wind.
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  • Listen, who should you spend more time with?
  • 00:21:35.083 --> 00:21:38.820
  • More patience with?
  • 00:21:38.820 --> 00:21:40.222
  • Who should you love more?
  • 00:21:40.222 --> 00:21:42.124
  • Give more leeway.
  • 00:21:42.124 --> 00:21:43.925
  • Who should you encourage more?
  • 00:21:43.925 --> 00:21:45.694
  • Who should you be a fan of?
  • 00:21:45.694 --> 00:21:47.362
  • Who should you cheer for?
  • 00:21:47.362 --> 00:21:48.964
  • Who should you try to build everything in that life
  • 00:21:48.964 --> 00:21:51.533
  • More than any other person or planet?
  • 00:21:51.533 --> 00:21:53.201
  • And some people give all of this to others,
  • 00:21:53.201 --> 00:21:56.204
  • But never to the husband or to the wife.
  • 00:21:56.204 --> 00:21:59.908
  • What we've done, ladies and gentlemen,
  • 00:22:00.742 --> 00:22:02.644
  • In marriage we have cultivated the tree of marriage
  • 00:22:02.644 --> 00:22:05.981
  • And we fertilize it.
  • 00:22:05.981 --> 00:22:07.416
  • It is grown and the tree begins to be fruitful.
  • 00:22:07.416 --> 00:22:10.318
  • Then in a rash moment, we take an ax and
  • 00:22:10.318 --> 00:22:13.355
  • Cut down our own tree.
  • 00:22:13.355 --> 00:22:17.759
  • And this proverb says,
  • 00:22:18.226 --> 00:22:20.595
  • We will inherit the wind.
  • 00:22:20.595 --> 00:22:24.533
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:22:25.000 --> 00:22:27.002
  • What is when?
  • 00:22:27.002 --> 00:22:29.070
  • Nothing.
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  • Cut down your old tree
  • 00:22:31.940 --> 00:22:33.708
  • Inheriting wind.
  • 00:22:33.708 --> 00:22:36.578
  • Let me tell you the secret of all of this quickly.
  • 00:22:36.578 --> 00:22:38.780
  • It's very important.
  • 00:22:38.780 --> 00:22:40.248
  • It's found there in ephesians four.
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  • It says, don't let the sun go down on your anger.
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  • Own your wrath.
  • 00:22:45.654 --> 00:22:46.822
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:22:46.822 --> 00:22:48.623
  • It means you stay up late a lot of nights
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  • Until you get your hearts together with your mate.
  • 00:22:51.793 --> 00:22:54.596
  • Doesn't mean you may agree on things.
  • 00:22:54.596 --> 00:22:56.998
  • There's some things, joe, whether or not will never agree
  • 00:22:56.998 --> 00:22:59.434
  • On. but we stayed up late a lot of times
  • 00:22:59.434 --> 00:23:01.870
  • Until we got our hearts together.
  • 00:23:01.870 --> 00:23:04.706
  • Don't let the sun go down your wrath
  • 00:23:05.474 --> 00:23:07.142
  • Because it festers and a hurt heart becomes a bruise.
  • 00:23:07.142 --> 00:23:11.179
  • Start a cold heart,
  • 00:23:11.179 --> 00:23:12.447
  • A hard heart and can't end up being an apathetic heart.
  • 00:23:12.447 --> 00:23:16.351
  • And that's a deadly picture of all.
  • 00:23:16.351 --> 00:23:18.653
  • When the husband of the wife says, i just don't care.
  • 00:23:18.653 --> 00:23:21.523
  • I'm through, i don't care.
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  • Don't let the sun go down your wrath.
  • 00:23:24.392 --> 00:23:26.094
  • The last verse here is so important.
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  • It says be kind.
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  • I want marriage one to another,
  • 00:23:33.535 --> 00:23:36.538
  • Tenderhearted
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  • One to another.
  • 00:23:39.174 --> 00:23:40.509
  • Be kind.
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  • Be attentive, forgiving one another, even as god,
  • 00:23:41.610 --> 00:23:46.781
  • For christ's sake hath
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  • Forgiven you
  • 00:23:49.417 --> 00:23:52.454
  • In some way.
  • 00:23:52.787 --> 00:23:54.222
  • Let me give you the operative word
  • 00:23:54.222 --> 00:23:57.259
  • For communication and for a successful marriage.
  • 00:23:57.259 --> 00:24:00.896
  • And it is a word humility.
  • 00:24:00.896 --> 00:24:06.201
  • James four six says,
  • 00:24:06.668 --> 00:24:08.904
  • God opposes the proud.
  • 00:24:08.904 --> 00:24:13.775
  • How about that?
  • 00:24:14.142 --> 00:24:15.410
  • If i'm prideful in my marriage, i won't go and humble myself.
  • 00:24:15.410 --> 00:24:19.180
  • God opposes me.
  • 00:24:19.180 --> 00:24:21.049
  • Anybody think you're going to beat god?
  • 00:24:21.049 --> 00:24:23.885
  • If god is for you, who can be against you?
  • 00:24:24.753 --> 00:24:27.422
  • If god is against you, who can be for you?
  • 00:24:27.422 --> 00:24:30.058
  • Would you tell me that god opposes the proud?
  • 00:24:30.058 --> 00:24:34.195
  • But look, he gives grace to the humble.
  • 00:24:34.195 --> 00:24:39.200
  • Let me tell you, husband wives,
  • 00:24:39.834 --> 00:24:42.103
  • Let me give you two words that i guarantee
  • 00:24:42.103 --> 00:24:47.208
  • You will revolutionize your marriage.
  • 00:24:47.208 --> 00:24:51.379
  • Guaranteed.
  • 00:24:51.379 --> 00:24:55.450
  • Here they are.
  • 00:24:55.784 --> 00:24:57.819
  • I was wrong,
  • 00:24:57.819 --> 00:25:00.789
  • But everybody say that with me.
  • 00:25:00.789 --> 00:25:06.127
  • Some lady back here,
  • 00:25:06.595 --> 00:25:08.063
  • She couldn't do that.
  • 00:25:08.063 --> 00:25:10.932
  • Let's all all say that again.
  • 00:25:10.932 --> 00:25:15.437
  • I was wrong.
  • 00:25:15.437 --> 00:25:18.573
  • Okay. important part.
  • 00:25:18.573 --> 00:25:20.942
  • If we're going to communicate and have humility.
  • 00:25:20.942 --> 00:25:24.112
  • Next phrase i am sorry.
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  • You have to be really sorry.
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  • Number three, please forgive me.
  • 00:25:33.622 --> 00:25:39.194
  • Let me try that again.
  • 00:25:39.661 --> 00:25:40.662
  • Maybe i'm going to fast for some.
  • 00:25:40.662 --> 00:25:42.897
  • Please forgive me.
  • 00:25:42.897 --> 00:25:47.168
  • I love you.
  • 00:25:47.502 --> 00:25:51.172
  • And i use
  • 00:25:51.473 --> 00:25:52.807
  • Those 12 words many times in marriages.
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  • But i've added three more.
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  • I need you.
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  • Would you say that?
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  • When i was a boy,
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  • There was a popular little song called mother.
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  • Derived from the acrostic motif.
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  • Though the lyrics are not christian.
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  • They are certainly universal in their application
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  • Of mothers everywhere as a child.
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  • I had to
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  • Sing this over a radio station in laurel, mississippi.
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  • Would you believe that?
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  • And so, as a heartfelt tribute to mothers and mother figures
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  • Everywhere, i decided to have some fun
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  • With this little acrostic for mother's day.
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  • For mother's day only.
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  • So i've created a one week devotional for moms.
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  • Through these pages, i hope to honor our mothers,
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  • Glorify god, and inspire both mothers and children
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  • To pray for those whom god has carefully designed
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  • To nurture and guide each and every new generation.
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  • To get you a copy.
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  • Call the number on the screen or visit the website below
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  • And give someone who has been a mother figure to you,
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  • Or give one to your mother.
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  • And by the way, keep one for yourself.
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