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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - The Second Time Around | July 13, 2026
- Let me tell you something.
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- Ladies and gentlemen, when you get married,
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- You're giving a marriage box, but there's nothing in it.
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- Happiness is not in the marriage box.
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- Love is not in the marriage box.
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- Understanding is not in the marriage box.
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- Encouragement is not in the marriage box.
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- You know what's in the box?
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- Only what you and your mate put
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- In that box.
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- We're going to talk about
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- God's provision for marriage.
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- God's provisions for divorce
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- And god's provisions for remarriage.
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- Somebody already say that doesn't pertain to me.
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- Yes it does.
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- There's not a person here.
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- Even if you do not fall in these categories,
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- Who does not need to give wise
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- Biblical counsel
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- To family and friends,
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- Because the epidemic of divorce
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- Has touched every life
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- And tragically, in the church.
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- Historically, the church shoots its wounded.
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- We don't do that here.
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- That's not how god operates.
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- That's not how the body of christ operates.
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- But we need to give clear counsel about marriage.
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- We've been talking about marriage.
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- We've been through a to z with marriage.
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- If you've been around for the last few weeks.
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- But i want to say in the beginning that
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- Marriage is love, and love is a many splendored thing.
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- That's my first point.
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- That's that's the provision for marriage.
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- Love is the many splendored thing.
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- Some of us remember that wonderful song.
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- Love is a many splendored.
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- Never that one.
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- All right.
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- Some of you do.
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- And some of you don't.
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- It'll last longer than some of the popular songs
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- Out here today, let me tell you that.
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- But i told somebody,
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- My first point is love is the many splendored thing.
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- And the person misunderstood is that you're right.
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- Love is a many splintered thing, isn't it?
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- It really is.
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- And it's both.
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- It's splendid and it's splintered.
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- And so we think when we get married,
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- A lot of us, that we get the marriage box
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- And say, i'm married and there's a marriage box
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- I've been given in that box is happiness, in that box is fun.
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- In that box is encouragement.
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- In that box is relationship in that box for all
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- These wonderful, marvelous, good things.
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- And it's in the marriage box.
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- Let me tell you something.
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- Ladies and gentlemen, when you get married,
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- You're giving a marriage box, but there's nothing in it.
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- Happiness is not in the marriage box.
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- Love is not in the marriage box.
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- Understanding is not in the marriage box.
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- Encouragement is not in the marriage box.
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- You know what's in the box?
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- Only what you and your mate put in that box.
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- And when one person who is married
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- Puts everything in the box and the other person takes,
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- Takes, takes out of the box, the box gets empty in a hurry.
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- So understand that about marriage.
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- God designed marriage.
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- The bible says to be irrevocable,
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- To become one.
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- Supernatural math.
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- Don't spend your life if you're married.
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- Argue about which one you're going to become.
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- You know i will come.
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- Either one.
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- You become one together.
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- That's important.
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- We understand now what?
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- Everybody to hold up your left hand.
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- This is not too hard for most of us.
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- I saw somebody go.
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- Good.
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- Hope your left hand.
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- I want you to look at your left hand with me
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- And let left hand.
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- Let's say it represents you. here,
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- Here's your thumb is going to represent your parents.
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- Your pointing finger is going to represent
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- Your siblings, your brothers and sisters.
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- Your long finger is going to represent you.
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- You're the big finger in the middle. that's you.
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- And your ring finger is going to represent love.
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- That's that's the love. that's the marriage finger.
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- That's that's the
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- That's the thing
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- We where our rings on and your little finger
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- Is going to represent everybody else.
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- You know, all of the relationships. now,
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- My wedding ring
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- Several years ago
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- In one of our anniversaries, jobs said,
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- I want to borrow your ring and get it shined to something.
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- I took it off and
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- She gave it to a jeweler in our church,
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- And he took the old goal in that little bitty ring.
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- You know, when they like.
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- We married in 1802 and
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- And took that little bitty gold and he mix it
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- With some new gold and made a new wedding ring.
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- This is it.
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- So this ring is the original gold
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- Of the little ring she gave me when we got married.
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- And it represents new goal. that's with it.
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- I challenge anybody to take my wedding ring
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- And divide the old gold from the.
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- You gold?
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- You can't do it.
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- The old gold.
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- New gold have become one, right?
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- That's what marriage is to be one,
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- Not to one.
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- Now here we go.
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- Back to who i am and who you are.
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- Left hand again.
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- When you get married,
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- All of a sudden
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- That relationship is there
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- On the third finger of your left hand.
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- And this would represent
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- The man or the woman, and you come together.
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- This person brings all they are.
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- And i want you to take this long finger and bennett down.
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- I can hardly bend mine.
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- That's not arthritis.
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- I tried to stick it through basketballs
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- For too many years and been that long.
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- Finger down, and the long
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- For your other hand, and let them come together.
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- That represents your marriage,
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- And let all your other fingers come together.
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- It's a steeple.
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- Not too hard for some of you guys.
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- It stay with me.
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- You like this?
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- You got it. here you go.
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- Hold it right there.
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- Good, good.
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- Good, good. got it right there.
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- Somebody help!
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- Keith! joe! beth, help! keith!
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- There. he's an aggie.
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- We have to work through this thing.
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- Hold this right there or you're married, right?
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- To become one. you see it? you're married.
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- And then this one over here. your ring finger.
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- You're married.
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- Two individuals.
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- Now, this will shock some of you
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- That are not married.
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- Those are married. will understand this.
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- When you get married, you married the whole family.
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- Yeah.
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- Uncle charlie from las vegas.
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- You marry him?
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- Yeah. he.
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- Yeah.
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- You married the whole family.
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- When you get married now you married?
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- This meant the parents, right?
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- Both parents.
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- You married the brothers and sisters.
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- You marry all other relationships.
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- You're married.
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- Now, let me show you something.
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- Keep your hands together.
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- You can have a problem with the parents, his parents,
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- Her parents.
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- And you can sever that relationship, right?
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- Look at there.
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- You never problem with brothers and sisters.
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- You can sever that relationship.
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- You can know you have to be close to them.
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- You can have a problem with everybody else.
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- Your mate knows all the other.
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- You could sever it.
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- But as long as you're
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- Like that, try to move the ring fingers apart.
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- Can't do it, can you?
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- Don't.
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- Don't hurt yourself.
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- You can't do it.
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- This is marriage to become one.
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- And then there's a sacred covenant of love.
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- God, design that covenant to stay there
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- Until death do us part.
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- Got it?
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- Okay. now.
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- Untangled.
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- Keith! joe, help!
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- Get her hands!
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- All right,
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- Now, what happens when in this marriage,
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- All kind of trouble starts.
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- Well, what do you do?
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- A lot of people say, well, i'm
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- Going to see if i got grounds for divorce.
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- I've got grounds for what i believe.
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- I do have grounds for divorce.
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- We look for grounds.
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- Let me tell you something.
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- I am far looking for grounds when there's trouble.
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- But let me tell you
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- The kind of ground you look for
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- When your marriage is in difficulty.
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- First of all, you look for common ground.
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- Go back when you first met.
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- Go back when you first kissed.
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- Go back when you got married.
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- Go back.
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- Maybe with children.
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- Go back in those high, wonderful, fun filled
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- Moments of laughter when you did something stupid
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- And or oh, go back, go back to common ground
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- And remember and recall and celebrate.
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- That's the first thing you do when there's trouble
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- With a marriage.
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- Go back to common ground and then go to separate ground.
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- In other words, every guy like to do things
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- As wife doesn't like to do,
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- And every wife likes to do things.
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- The wife that the that the, the husband doesn't like to do.
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- I know a couple that was in serious trouble in our church,
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- And the problem was he wanted to go hunting all the time.
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- He was gone hunting. he hunted everything.
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- I'm surprised he hadn't killed everything in texas by now.
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- I was amazing.
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- Anything is still moving around,
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- But he was hunting all the time.
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- It really bothered his wife and had a big problem.
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- And so they they had to look for separate ground.
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- And he decided
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- She decided she would go over and go hunting with him.
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- Now all of a sudden she didn't become
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- A huntress or whatever a female hunter is.
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- She all of a sudden she had become
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- Someone who loved hunting.
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- But the fact she went and enjoyed it
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- And understood it a time or two, see,
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- She went over into separate ground in his domain.
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- That's important.
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- Now a guy can do this and say, you're going to
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- Look into all those antique things
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- So you can go over and at her domain, something
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- She might be interested in, whatever it might be,
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- Art or sewing you should see.
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- You go and look at separate ground
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- And then you go and look at new ground.
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- What am i mean,
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- Go find something that maybe both of you can pick up
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- Work in the yard or
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- Or some hobby or some activity or playing some trip.
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- Do something that's new ground.
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- And then when we find common ground, when there's
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- Trouble on the water and we find separate ground,
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- We reach out,
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- We build bridges to the interests of our partner.
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- Then we find new ground,
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- Something we again to enjoy and like to do together.
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- You may find your marriage back on holy ground.
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- That's where
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- God wants our marriage to be because it's a gift from him.
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- We didn't make it up.
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- It's a gift from the almighty.
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- It's to be celebrated on holy ground.
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- But sometime in spite of this,
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- Divorce takes place.
- 00:11:16.966 --> 00:11:18.901
- And i call that when the vow breaks.
- 00:11:18.901 --> 00:11:23.105
- And tragically, it does far too often in our culture.
- 00:11:23.105 --> 00:11:27.409
- And a lot of people here have been there,
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- Have gone through divorce and still carried degrees of guilt
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- Or regret or shame, or if only a lot of things there.
- 00:11:34.283 --> 00:11:38.287
- Let's look now at god's provision
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- For divorce.
- 00:11:41.524 --> 00:11:44.560
- And i want us to
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- Look at what moses says about divorce,
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- What jesus says about divorce, what paul says about divorce,
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- And finally, the overall picture of divorce
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- In the new testament.
- 00:11:58.007 --> 00:11:59.108
- And i'm going to do it in rapid fire order.
- 00:11:59.108 --> 00:12:02.011
- But let me, first of all, give you a disclaimer.
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- If you took a thousand of the top
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- Biblical scholars in the world, a thousand of them,
- 00:12:10.319 --> 00:12:14.156
- And they all believed in the authority of the bible,
- 00:12:14.156 --> 00:12:18.127
- The inerrancy of scripture, and you put them on
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- An ocean liner.
- 00:12:21.297 --> 00:12:22.865
- And a thousand
- 00:12:22.865 --> 00:12:24.333
- Biblical scholars traveled around the world
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- Together, and they talked about only one thing
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- What the bible teaches about divorce and remarriage.
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- When they would return from their trip,
- 00:12:36.245 --> 00:12:39.248
- However long it would take, they would not
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- All agree.
- 00:12:43.452 --> 00:12:46.722
- Now, if you want to see
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- A scholarly exegesis,
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- Read the book divorce and remarriage
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- For christian views, edited by wayne house,
- 00:12:54.196 --> 00:12:57.366
- And it has four dedicated christians who interpret
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- Four different views of divorce and remarriage.
- 00:13:01.737 --> 00:13:05.007
- So save your cards and letters.
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- I will not be exhaustive.
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- I will not answer every question, but i am going to
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- Put down some basic parameters of the scripture
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- Concerning divorce and of course, remarriage.
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- Let's begin with what moses said
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- About divorce, and we touched on this.
- 00:13:23.626 --> 00:13:25.461
- If you've been around for our previous study,
- 00:13:25.461 --> 00:13:27.963
- Open your book, if you would, the book of deuteronomy,
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- Chapter number 24.
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- Genesis.
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- Exodus, leviticus, you.
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- Chapter 24, verse one,
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- When a man takes a wife and marries her and happens
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- That she finds no favor in his eyes
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- Because he has found some indecency in her,
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- And he writes her a certificate of divorce
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- And puts it in her hand and sends her out from his house.
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- The key word there is indecency.
- 00:13:58.327 --> 00:14:01.931
- This is in moses day, the jews in the wilderness.
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- If you find some indecency in your mate.
- 00:14:07.102 --> 00:14:11.173
- Now, what is that? indecency?
- 00:14:11.173 --> 00:14:13.142
- Some people have said it's adultery.
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- Impossible.
- 00:14:15.244 --> 00:14:16.845
- Adultery was punished by stony.
- 00:14:16.845 --> 00:14:19.581
- So the indecency wasn't adultery.
- 00:14:19.581 --> 00:14:22.184
- So what was it?
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- We don't know.
- 00:14:23.218 --> 00:14:25.621
- As we approach our fiscal
- 00:14:25.621 --> 00:14:27.289
- Year end on july the 31st.
- 00:14:27.289 --> 00:14:30.125
- We're also approaching a historic milestone.
- 00:14:30.125 --> 00:14:33.495
- Think about it.
- 00:14:33.862 --> 00:14:34.763
- America's 250th anniversary.
- 00:14:34.763 --> 00:14:39.001
- And as we reflect on what built this nation
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- Faith, family and freedom,
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- Fellowship, joy, meaning, significance, a family
- 00:14:45.207 --> 00:14:49.478
- Of god living together under the red, white and blue.
- 00:14:49.478 --> 00:14:52.581
- As we live under the banner of america,
- 00:14:52.581 --> 00:14:55.884
- We also recognize something deeply wrong.
- 00:14:55.884 --> 00:14:59.755
- Biblical truth is being challenged.
- 00:14:59.755 --> 00:15:02.858
- Families are under pressure and faith is no longer
- 00:15:02.858 --> 00:15:06.261
- At the center of our culture.
- 00:15:06.261 --> 00:15:08.964
- Now it's our turn.
- 00:15:08.964 --> 00:15:10.966
- Our turn to stand for what matters most.
- 00:15:10.966 --> 00:15:14.103
- Listen, when you request this much resource,
- 00:15:14.103 --> 00:15:17.639
- You're helping us proclaim the truth of god's word,
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- Strengthen families,
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- And advance faith across this great nation.
- 00:15:21.844 --> 00:15:24.913
- As i thank you, i would love to send you a signed
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- Copy of my book, healing broken america,
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- A book that i have written to help us understand
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- And to navigate our way through all the challenges
- 00:15:35.624 --> 00:15:39.428
- Of the 21st century in our land as we come to our fiscal
- 00:15:39.428 --> 00:15:43.766
- Year end.
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- I'm asking you to step forward in a meaningful way.
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- Consider a gift of $250,
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- Or really ten others, to give $25 a dollar
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- For every year of our nation's existence.
- 00:15:55.511 --> 00:15:58.647
- We give that to the winning walk so that it can continue
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- To be broadcast around the world.
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- Your support helps us bring biblical truth,
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- Encouragement, and meaning across america.
- 00:16:08.457 --> 00:16:11.994
- So let's stand together and believe god for renewal
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- And revival in our great nation.
- 00:16:15.030 --> 00:16:18.767
- For if america would catch far for christ,
- 00:16:18.767 --> 00:16:21.403
- It would touch the entire world.
- 00:16:21.403 --> 00:16:23.939
- Thank you.
- 00:16:23.939 --> 00:16:25.607
- Making this possible with your participation
- 00:16:25.607 --> 00:16:28.644
- In prayer and gifts to the winning walk.
- 00:16:28.644 --> 00:16:39.388
- All right.
- 00:16:39.688 --> 00:16:40.355
- Now let's see what jesus says.
- 00:16:40.355 --> 00:16:41.623
- He he ups ups the ante quite a bit.
- 00:16:41.623 --> 00:16:44.393
- Look at what jesus says.
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- Look, if you would in matthew.
- 00:16:46.762 --> 00:16:48.330
- That's our scripture,
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- Chapter 19.
- 00:16:51.233 --> 00:16:52.301
- Let me review this verse,
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- Because if your heart is of heart,
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- Moses permitted you
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- To divorce your wise, but not from the beginning.
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- Has it been this way?
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- Hard heart, sinful living?
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- Not from the beginning. in creation
- 00:17:04.079 --> 00:17:06.615
- There was no divorce prior to the fall of man.
- 00:17:06.615 --> 00:17:09.418
- And i say to you, whoever divorces his wife
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- Except for immorality and mayors, another woman
- 00:17:12.821 --> 00:17:16.458
- Commits adultery.
- 00:17:16.458 --> 00:17:17.659
- The keyword there is immorality.
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- The key word before was indecency.
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- This word is immorality,
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- And that's the word we've already talked about.
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- It's that word pawnee again.
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- Purnia.
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- You know what the word what is pawnee?
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- It's.
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- It's a list of things i think jesus was saying.
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- When someone persists and sexual immorality,
- 00:17:35.777 --> 00:17:40.816
- They persist in this endeavor.
- 00:17:41.416 --> 00:17:43.685
- And by the way, all of these provisions
- 00:17:43.685 --> 00:17:47.122
- For divorce isn't a command to divorce.
- 00:17:47.122 --> 00:17:50.492
- You see,
- 00:17:50.759 --> 00:17:51.927
- We always try to find a way through and not a way out.
- 00:17:51.927 --> 00:17:55.397
- It's not a command, it's a provision.
- 00:17:55.397 --> 00:17:58.000
- So jesus talks about immorality, purnia,
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- And then we see what paul says about divorce.
- 00:18:01.937 --> 00:18:05.073
- Take your bibles, turn with me to first corinthians,
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- Chapter number seven, verse number 15.
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- Paul says, yet if the unbelieving one leaves,
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- Let him leave.
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- The brother of the sister is not under bondage
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- In such cases.
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- For god has called us to peace.
- 00:18:23.091 --> 00:18:25.661
- The key word there is leaves abandonment.
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- What are we talking about?
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- Broad interpretation there?
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- What does it mean to leave and i culture abandonment.
- 00:18:33.335 --> 00:18:37.406
- Leaving many times means addiction, right?
- 00:18:37.406 --> 00:18:42.578
- Many times it means abuse.
- 00:18:43.145 --> 00:18:46.381
- So you look at the bible, you give the permissive areas.
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- Here we talk about adultery.
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- We talk about abandonment, we talk about addiction.
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- We talk about abuse.
- 00:18:57.993 --> 00:18:59.561
- I call it the four big deadly a's that will break up
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- And destroy a union will destroy a marriage.
- 00:19:04.132 --> 00:19:07.436
- And the last two come
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- Under the broad category of abandonment.
- 00:19:09.137 --> 00:19:13.542
- So. so what does it mean to leave?
- 00:19:13.542 --> 00:19:17.179
- It means someone would initiate file for divorce, separate,
- 00:19:17.179 --> 00:19:21.416
- Initiate file for divorce,
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- And then it's out of that other individuals hand.
- 00:19:22.918 --> 00:19:26.455
- So paul gives this provision of leaving.
- 00:19:26.455 --> 00:19:30.559
- So you've got these three operative words.
- 00:19:30.559 --> 00:19:33.262
- And what's the major message the new testament has
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- About divorce.
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- It's this
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- First john one nine if we confess
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- Our sin, he is able and just to forgive our sin.
- 00:19:44.172 --> 00:19:47.175
- And to what cleanse us of what's that word?
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- All unrighteousness.
- 00:19:50.612 --> 00:19:54.716
- We have made many times a church divorce,
- 00:19:54.716 --> 00:19:57.819
- The only unpardonable sin.
- 00:19:57.819 --> 00:20:00.722
- And it's not.
- 00:20:00.722 --> 00:20:02.958
- Thank goodness for the grace of god that reigns,
- 00:20:02.958 --> 00:20:06.995
- And even the darkest moment of divorce and separation.
- 00:20:06.995 --> 00:20:10.999
- We're under his grace and under his forgiveness.
- 00:20:10.999 --> 00:20:14.970
- So we get an overall perspective of divorce.
- 00:20:14.970 --> 00:20:19.241
- We understand that divorce is a sin.
- 00:20:19.241 --> 00:20:22.611
- We can't deny that it's a sin.
- 00:20:23.211 --> 00:20:25.514
- You may say be 2% wrong.
- 00:20:25.514 --> 00:20:27.516
- The partner may be 98% wrong.
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- It's a sin.
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- What do we do with sin?
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- We confess it,
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- We repent, and we turn our lives over to christ.
- 00:20:32.888 --> 00:20:35.657
- And we say, from this day forward, i'm
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- Going to be married if that is god's will,
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- The way god plan for me to do it, isn't that it?
- 00:20:41.196 --> 00:20:45.567
- That's the thrust of the bible in this whole area.
- 00:20:45.567 --> 00:20:48.603
- Now we've got the question of
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- The second time around.
- 00:20:52.441 --> 00:20:55.010
- What about remarriage,
- 00:20:55.010 --> 00:20:58.046
- Where the bible gives permission for divorce?
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- The bible gives permission for remarriage.
- 00:21:01.917 --> 00:21:05.554
- Now always, you know, there must not be an unequal yoke.
- 00:21:05.554 --> 00:21:08.323
- I can't cover every detail.
- 00:21:08.323 --> 00:21:10.092
- It must be christians engaged in this on the same page.
- 00:21:10.092 --> 00:21:14.296
- I don't see how anybody stays married that long
- 00:21:14.296 --> 00:21:17.232
- Unless they are christians and follow this book.
- 00:21:17.232 --> 00:21:19.568
- I don't understand. it's amazing to me.
- 00:21:19.568 --> 00:21:21.970
- But then you see,
- 00:21:21.970 --> 00:21:23.372
- For remarriage we have grounds of divorce,
- 00:21:23.372 --> 00:21:25.574
- You have grounds for remarriage.
- 00:21:25.574 --> 00:21:27.075
- And i would say to those who are divorced,
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- Those who are single,
- 00:21:30.145 --> 00:21:31.780
- Those who've never married, for that matter,
- 00:21:31.780 --> 00:21:33.648
- Those who've gone through the loss of a loved one.
- 00:21:33.648 --> 00:21:35.817
- If you're thinking
- 00:21:35.817 --> 00:21:36.985
- About another relationship, let me tell you, take time
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- To kneel.
- 00:21:42.758 --> 00:21:45.494
- Take time to kneel, to worship.
- 00:21:45.494 --> 00:21:48.697
- In other words, something's wrong in your life.
- 00:21:48.697 --> 00:21:51.299
- If you've gone through a divorce,
- 00:21:51.299 --> 00:21:53.502
- Whatever area the super guilty one, the lesser guilty one.
- 00:21:53.502 --> 00:21:57.005
- Doesn't matter.
- 00:21:57.005 --> 00:21:58.240
- Take time to kneel before the lord and get right with him.
- 00:21:58.240 --> 00:22:02.010
- Confess any part in this and get that relationship
- 00:22:02.010 --> 00:22:05.213
- Between you and god in christ right.
- 00:22:05.213 --> 00:22:07.382
- Take time to kneel and then take time to heal.
- 00:22:07.382 --> 00:22:12.320
- I see so many people, you know, god got divorced yesterday
- 00:22:13.455 --> 00:22:16.558
- And well, they want to get married again next week.
- 00:22:16.558 --> 00:22:19.561
- It's like that girl who was divorced.
- 00:22:20.395 --> 00:22:22.297
- I heard her say.
- 00:22:22.297 --> 00:22:23.365
- She said, every man is egotistical and selfish.
- 00:22:23.365 --> 00:22:27.169
- Where can i find one?
- 00:22:27.169 --> 00:22:30.338
- Why do we repeat the same old mistakes?
- 00:22:31.139 --> 00:22:33.642
- I've got a friend that's been married three times.
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- He's married
- 00:22:35.811 --> 00:22:37.012
- Three different ladies, and they could have been triplets.
- 00:22:37.012 --> 00:22:40.348
- And i was talking with him recently
- 00:22:41.116 --> 00:22:43.185
- And i'd say, what are you coming from?
- 00:22:43.185 --> 00:22:46.488
- What are you doing?
- 00:22:46.488 --> 00:22:49.791
- So take time to heal.
- 00:22:50.292 --> 00:22:53.261
- Take time to kneel.
- 00:22:53.261 --> 00:22:54.596
- And then if you're thinking
- 00:22:54.596 --> 00:22:55.864
- About getting married again, take time to deal.
- 00:22:55.864 --> 00:22:59.534
- What does that mean?
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- I mean, deal with problems that may come up.
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- The first thing would be money
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- Going to marry somebody.
- 00:23:07.676 --> 00:23:09.144
- Talk about money.
- 00:23:09.144 --> 00:23:11.046
- You're going to have to
- 00:23:11.046 --> 00:23:12.147
- Someday do it before you say i do, and i will again.
- 00:23:12.147 --> 00:23:16.084
- That's a part of dealing work about the money problems.
- 00:23:16.084 --> 00:23:20.489
- Number two children, if their children valve
- 00:23:20.489 --> 00:23:24.493
- Talk about the children, my children,
- 00:23:24.493 --> 00:23:27.162
- Your children, our children walk through all of that.
- 00:23:27.162 --> 00:23:30.765
- Blended families have a more difficult
- 00:23:30.765 --> 00:23:33.502
- Time staying married than any of the category.
- 00:23:33.502 --> 00:23:36.538
- 80 plus percent in the divorce blended families.
- 00:23:36.538 --> 00:23:39.875
- So take time to deal and work through some of these things,
- 00:23:39.875 --> 00:23:43.411
- And then you have to take time to.
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- Wonder about how
- 00:23:48.383 --> 00:23:50.285
- In the world you can
- 00:23:50.285 --> 00:23:53.088
- Rectify
- 00:23:53.088 --> 00:23:54.923
- That which has gone on before, how in the world
- 00:23:54.923 --> 00:23:58.660
- You can work through that which is gone before.
- 00:23:58.660 --> 00:24:01.496
- And we do that by doing what
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- We seek forgiveness.
- 00:24:05.634 --> 00:24:08.503
- We need forgiveness.
- 00:24:08.503 --> 00:24:09.938
- Sure we do.
- 00:24:09.938 --> 00:24:11.540
- And we speak forgiveness.
- 00:24:11.540 --> 00:24:14.876
- See, if you going through a divorce,
- 00:24:14.876 --> 00:24:16.811
- You've got bitterness, anxiety,
- 00:24:16.811 --> 00:24:19.581
- Questions, guilt, shame.
- 00:24:19.581 --> 00:24:22.651
- All those things can come in on both sides of the party
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- In different degrees.
- 00:24:25.921 --> 00:24:27.222
- So you have to seek forgiveness.
- 00:24:27.222 --> 00:24:29.457
- That's a part of neely isn't.
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- And you have to speak forgiveness to others.
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- And here's what happened with so many individuals
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- Who are divorced and their children.
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- Valve the children are with the father on the weekend,
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- And the father says it was your mother
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- That calls all this problem that broke up our home.
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- And they switch back.
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- And the wife says, it was your father who calls
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- This problem.
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- And the children feel like ping pong balls.
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- Bang, bang, mother, father, let me tell you.
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- Speak forgiveness.
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- Seek forgiveness
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- And understand
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- A couple of things.
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- Sin always carries a cost.
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- Forgiveness
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- Always carries
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- A cross.
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- America the beautiful, our country
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- After home sweet home.
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- But our america is hurting.
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- We see it in our fractured, divided communities
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- And in our struggling families.
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- God's answer for a broken nation has never been found
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- In politics, power, or human effort alone.
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- God says, if my people who are called by
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- My name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and
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- Turn from their wicked ways, then i will hear from heaven,
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- Forgive their sin, and heal their land.
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- Healing begins when god's people return to him.
- 00:26:06.788 --> 00:26:10.291
- In his powerful book, healing broken america.
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- Doctor jung explores the spiritual path toward
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- Healing and restoration through faith, family,
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- And the values that have shaped generations of americans.
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- Because when
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- Hearts are transformed by god, lives are changed,
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- Families are restored, and the nation can begin to heal.
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- To get your copy of healing broken america.
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- Please call the number on your screen or visit
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- The website below.
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- And may god bless america.
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- Dear heavenly
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- Father, we all are broken.
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- But lord, we're so thankful that when we receive
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- Jesus christ, he begins to clean and purge
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- And to put together that which is broken.
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- Do a healing work.
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- Fill us with your joy, so that we may walk
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- Triumphantly and practically and simply, day by day
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- In your name we pray amen.
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