Ed Young - Unconditional Love

October 30, 2025 | 27:29

In a sermon about parenting, Ed Young emphasizes the importance of biblical principles and unconditional love in raising children. He delves into the significance of marriage as the foundation for parenthood, highlighting the need for parents to model love and acceptance towards each other and their children. Drawing from biblical teachings and personal experiences, he underscores the critical role of discipline, instruction, and creating an appetite for God in shaping children's character. Overall, the message conveys the transformative power of following God's guidance in nurturing and raising children in a broken world.

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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Unconditional Love | October 30, 2025

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Ed young: we talk about parenting.
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We first of all spent several weeks talking about what it
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Means to have a marriage that's based on biblical principles.
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And i said, which i firmly believe and can affirm, that
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If the bible teaches us about marriage, if those principles
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Are not true, nothing else the bible teaches us also
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Can be true.
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Also, what the bible teaches us about parenting is true
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Or it negates the other teaching of the bible.
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And notice how this works together so beautifully.
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The bond of marriage is the god-given foundation
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For the bond and the calling to parenthood.
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Marriage.
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Parenthood.
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It's not that a single parent could not do it.
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Certainly, we have some beautiful illustration of that
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Going on in our church right now.
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But god's plan was for marriage, that foundation,
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And on that foundation, you would have parenthood.
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And the bottom line of all of this, god teaches us
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As husband/wife to love our mate unconditionally.
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And then the bible teaches us that we are to love our
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Children unconditionally.
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Where in the world does that unconditional love come from?
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Ideally, as the husband/wife love one another, the overflow
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Of their love to the children is where unconditional love
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Is manufactured.
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The perfect picture would be a couple who would be hugging one
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Another and a toddler would come in and unnoticed until
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The toddler begins to make his way between the father and
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The mother and this husband/wife and they bend down as they hug
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One another.
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The toddler is in the middle receiving that unconditional
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Love that came forth from the unconditional love of a man
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For his wife.
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Perfect biblical picture of how to parent.
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And our problem today is how do you parent in a broken world?
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In a broken culture?
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And the challenge is so high, but by the power of the
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Holy spirit and with the ministry of a church that loves
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Kids, it can be done and it will be done in this family of faith.
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For hundreds and thousands of years since the dawn of history,
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Children have been pushed aside.
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In many cultures, you could let the child live
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Or let the child die.
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If the child was like they wanted the child to be,
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The child would be retained.
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If not, the child would be given away, thrown away, done away
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With, put away, out of sight, out of mind.
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And generally speaking, that's the whole culture of the world
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With few exceptions, with few exceptions, until jesus.
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Jesus took the female and elevated her to equality,
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Male nor female, bond or free, equality with the male gender.
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Jesus did that, and jesus also took the child and put him on
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The center of the stage where the child is rarely, if ever,
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Found on the center of the stage.
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And we see it beautifully in many places but none clearer,
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I think, than we find in the book of mark.
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The disciples are in galilee, in capernaum, them to be precise,
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And they were debating with people about divorce.
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And finally, they were talking about, "when jesus brings in
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This kingdom, what position am i going to have?” asked andrew.
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"what position am i gonna have?"
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Asked thomas.
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What position will we have when the kingdom is established?
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And they're debating this, and jesus comes up to ‘em and said,
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"what are you guys talking about?"
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Silence.
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And then jesus looks out and sees a little boy,
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Perhaps a toddler, and this is what he does.
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Listen to the words: "taking a child, he set him before them,
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Taking him in his arms, and he said to his apostle-disciples,
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‘whoever receives one child like this in my name receives me;
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And whoever receives me does not receive me,
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But him who sent me.'"
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In other words, he took that child his arms.
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He said, "man, this child receives me and i receive
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This child.
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And the one who sent me, my heavenly father,
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Receives this child as well."
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The child was put in the center to show an example of what
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Leadership and what position in the kingdom of god is all about.
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But then they take off, and they start talking about
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Other theological, very important issues.
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And then finally, jesus looks at them in verse 42.
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Right after that, it says, "listen, whoever causes one of
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These little ones who believe to stumble, it would be better for
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Him if a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and he'd been
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Cast into the sea."
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Is that pretty serious?
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Does that sound over the top, even for jesus?
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If anyone messes around with, confuses, lies to, abuses,
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Any of these little ones, it would be the best thing for them
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If you tied a big rock or stone around their neck and threw them
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In the sea and they were drowned.
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Boy, that sounds pretty severe, doesn't it?
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That's the words of jesus.
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Now, you would think that those apostles would have understood
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The centrality of a child.
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No one's going to get in the kingdom unless they have the
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Humility of a child, the grace of a child, the understanding
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Of a child, not to be childish, but to be childlike.
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The secret of brightness.
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Now, they didn't get it.
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In the very next chapter, that's the ninth chapter, they left
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Galilee in the north, and they moved to judea in the south.
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And now a large crowd gathered around jesus, and there were
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Children in the crowd.
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There were children in the crowd, and the children looked
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At jesus.
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And he was a central figure as he was teaching and the children
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Were rushing to him.
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And the parents were perhaps taking the children wanting
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Jesus to place his hand on them and to set them aside and
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To honor them as we sought to do today in our own way.
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But the apostles, look what they were doing.
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Verse 13, chapter 10 to mark: "and they were bringing children
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To him so that he might touch them; but the disciples rebuked
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Them," they said, "hey, hey, we're doing big stuff."
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You know what they were talking about?
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Divorce and marriage.
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That's pretty important.
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The children were coming to jesus.
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I don't know how many, a large crowd, a lot of kids, toddlers,
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4-, 5-, 6-year-olds, come to jesus.
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And boy, the apostle says, "we're doing big stuff here.
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We've got important things going on.
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You parents take care of your children.
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Man, this is the messiah and we're pushing him away.”
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And then we see something that we see only three other times
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In the bible, verse 14: "but when jesus saw this,
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He was indignant."
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Tell you something.
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Jesus snapped.
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Bang!
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This only happened three times in the scripture:
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Mark 3 in the synagogue.
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He's gonna heal a man with a withered arm and all the
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Pharisees were looking and said, "well, is he gonna do this on
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The sabbath day?"
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And jesus snapped, righteous indignation toward their
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Attitude toward healing.
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And then, we know in the next chapter in our book here in
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Chapter 11, jesus, before he's crucified in that last week,
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Went to the temple and saw all of those in god's house taking
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Advantage of people in exchanging coins and
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Selling goods.
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It was like the marketplace, exploiting people even who come
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For far to worship on that high and holy day.
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And jesus snapped, and he got that whip.
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He went through that sacred temple and he cleaned out all
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Those con artists, all those phonies, all those hypocrites,
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Who were exploiting in the name of religion the people
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Who would come.
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And then, in our scripture today, jesus snapped when they
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Saw them pushing the children away: "and jesus said,
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‘permit the little children to come to me; do not hinder them;
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For the kingdom of god belongs to such as these.
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Truly, i say to you, whoever who does not receive the kingdom of
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God like a child will not enter it at all.'
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And jesus took them in his arms
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And began blessing them, laying hands on them."
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Jesus took children and put them at the center of his ministry.
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Let me ask you something.
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What has happened to the body of christ for 2,000 years?
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Basically, the church has said, "put the children over there.
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Get them out of the way."
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Let me tell you something about the second family right here
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In which we are a part of in this worship service.
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We love kids, and we can prove it because they are central in
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Everything we do in this church family.
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Now, in most churches, you'll have a time,
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"we need somebody to work with the junior high kids.
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Won't somebody volunteer?"
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Nobody will go and work with those, you know, those junior
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High--and in middle school-- man, we need people to go to
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The middle school.
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How desperately--well, high school--would you dare work
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With those high school kids?
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We don't do that here.
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We've never done that here.
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When somebody comes and says, "you know, maybe god has
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Equipped you to work with this age group or that age group or
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That age group," you are privileged because we don't beg
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We solicit and find those who are most gifted and loving kids
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And bringing them up along with mom and dad in the way god
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Has designed them.
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This is how we operate this church.
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Highest priority: our kids.
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And then, as parents, as parents, i've said many times,
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I'd like a redo.
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I'd like to say, "hey, let me do this thing over again with my
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Three sons," but somehow, with a great mama, they have done all
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Right in walking with the lord, and i thank god for that.
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But we'd all like to go back and do it a little more biblically
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Than we did.
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I would.
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You would.
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Well, what is the way you bring up kids biblically?
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The bible is full of that.
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You wanna know how to bring up a child in the 21st century
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God's way.
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That's what we're talking about.
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We've already talked about it.
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Back to--you remember in the book of proverbs?
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That will remind you sort of where we've been.
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Proverbs says clearly, proverbs 22, verse 6: "train up a child
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In the way he should go, even when he's old, he'll not depart
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From it."
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Remember, i told you that was not a promise.
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That was a principle.
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And then, we turn over to ephesians and paul elaborates.
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Ephesians chapter number 6, on that one way, very briefly,
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He says it, "fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,
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But bring them up in the discipline and instruction
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Of the lord," in the discipline and instruction of the lord.
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Remember the stages of bringing up kids?
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And the stage from 3 to 13.
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And, by the way, these ages are not dogmatized.
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They may be 14.
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They may be 12.
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They're not dogmatized.
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But in that period of time after the mother stops being a 24/7
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Servant of the child and begins to toilet train, begin to bring
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The child up to do some things for him or herself,
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Then you begin that critical period of 3 to 13.
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And that's when we have to discipline, that's the word,
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That's a part of the training.
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And then, we are to instruct.
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You have to discipline before you instruct.
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That's very important.
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What do i mean by that?
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I mean that when mom and dad says "yes" or "no" or "stop"
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Or "start," they obey virtually every time, if you do it right,
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When you say it the first time.
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I ask myself, "how in the world did--how were--how did my mom
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Discipline me?"
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And i look back on it and i can tell you, i thought from 3
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To 13, even after, i had the meanest mom in the world.
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I really did.
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She was tough.
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She didn't mess around.
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There was absolute here and absolute there.
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Until finally, and i remembered this hadn't thought about in
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Years, i must have been about 10 years old, and somehow,
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I got into a disagreement with my mother.
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And at that age, i began to try to explain to her how she was
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Wrong and i was right.
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She didn't agree and didn't bat an eye.
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So i said, "i'm going to leave home.
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I'm gonna run away."
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I remember it like yesterday.
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I can tell you right where i was standing in our house.
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And she said, "okay."
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I knew where i was going.
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See, i had an aunt and uncle had no children.
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They lived about a mile and a half from us, and when i went
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There, oh man, it was great.
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No problems.
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So i was heading for aunt gladys, uncle howard's house.
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I went out the front door.
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I know i turned left.
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The tomlinson's live next door.
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I turned left again to go through the park to go to
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Aunt gladys and uncle howard's house because i was out
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Of that place where they get-- caused me so much trouble.
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They kept saying no, no, no, no.
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And i got almost out of sight, and my mother said, "edwin."
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I turned around.
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She said you left a light on in your room.
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True story.
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I could not make it up.
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Listen, in my house, the unpardonable sin was
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To leave the light on.
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I mean, we cut--even today, people that work up here, if
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I go in the office and they're gone, a light is on,
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They hear from the pastor.
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I'm that picky about lights.
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I don't wanna pay those folks and take god's money and throw
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It away unless it needs to be.
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And my mother said, "you left the light on."
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She didn't tell me to come back.
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I knew i had to cut that light off.
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So i retraced my step, went to the corner, went by the
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Watkins's house, went back in front of the tomlinson's house,
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Turned up my thing, and went in there, and cut the light on.
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In the process, i decided, you know, this isn't a bad deal
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After all.
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I think i'll stay at home.
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Now, what is all of this childhood silliness about?
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Parents, don't miss the principles.
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In tho--that period of time you have to dominate, control,
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With ease, with determination, with repetitive teaching,
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So that your children will learn to respond.
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When they're running into the street, you can say,
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"stop," and they will stop.
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That's parenting, biblical parenting.
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You wanna make it a little fancier?
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We have in our brain 86 billion neurons.
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I counted them yesterday.
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Eighty-six billion neurons are in our brain, and they have
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Those little electrical and chemical impulses in which they
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Communicate with one another as to how we act and what we do
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And how all our habits are.
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Those chemical-electrical input called synapse--synapses.
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It's nothing but it's where they pass through.
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Now, to change a synapse in your brain or my brain, it takes
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About 400 repetitions to change, to change something that's
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In there, 400.
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Unless, in a child, you teach games, and through games and
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Play, a child can change in about ten plus repetitions.
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How does that work?
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Well, you'll teach your child to respond.
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You remember what simon says?
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If you didn't play simon says, i don't know if you're an adult.
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We played simon says.
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Simon said--and by the way, if you do what simon says,
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You're okay.
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If you do not do what simon says or simon doesn't say do it,
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You don't do it and you're out of the game.
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Remember?
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Simon says, "pat your head."
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Okay.
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Simon says, "touch your nose." simon says, "touch your chin.
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Touch your ear," and you touch your ear, but simon didn't say
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It so you're out.
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You see what you're teaching?
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You see what you're teaching?
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You're rewiring a part of their brain.
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We used to play i spy.
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You ever play i spy?
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You'd be in the room and say, "i spy, i spy something
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That is red."
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What, what is it?
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They'd look around and find that they'd name things.
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Oh, it was that flower?
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Yes.
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Teaching concentration.
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Teaching looking for colors.
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That's how we train up our children.
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That's part of the mechanism that we use.
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And that is a part how we teach them discipline.
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Come. go.
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Stop. lift.
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Here you are.
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And we do that from 3 to 13.
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And then, we begin in the latter part of that period and into
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The teenage period, you begin to do something else.
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You give instructions.
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Do this.
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Why?
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No reason.
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I said, "do it."
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And then if after they have done it they want information, then
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You tell them why, not before.
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Remember?
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That's where we mess up, parents.
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I messed up many times.
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And therefore, first, there is discipline, absolutes.
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We don't do this.
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We do this.
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And then, following that, there is instruction.
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And that's we begin to train, and we talked about it,
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The different ways that you instruct.
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What is our goal for our kids?
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That our sons and daughters would be that man, that woman
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God designed them to become.
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How do we reach that goal?
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Several ways.
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What is a part of this instruction?
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The first part you want to make them like jesus.
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Build in their life jesus principles.
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Jesus principles.
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There are books we can read.
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Remember our church showed me a super book i hadn't seen,
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The bible as jesus would write.
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We give books to parents to read to your children at night,
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The stories of the bible, the stories of jesus.
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And that's the way we begin to build an appetite,
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An appetite for jesus.
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How does this work?
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In the hebrew world, when a baby was going from milk to solid
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Food, they would take a date paste, which was sweet, and put
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It in the roof of their mouth and they would then begin
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To transition from milk to solid food.
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That was creating an appetite.
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So you create an appetite for your child for god.
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So you can see if you're training them up in the thoughts
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And the mannerism of jesus.
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And the next thing we do, you say, "i want my son or daughter
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To be like jesus and i want them to be like me."
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Can you stand up and say, "boy, i hope my son turns out like
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Their daddy?"
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"or, i hope my daughter turns out like their mother."
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Can you honestly say that?
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You see, that's the problem.
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Remember, i've said it many, many times.
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Children do what we require them to do until they get to be
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Teenagers or a little older.
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They begin to do what you do and what i do.
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Can you say, "i want my son to be like their father?"
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Well, i'd do anything for my son but that.
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To believe in god, to be faithful to his church,
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To read that bible everyday, that's our goal.
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Yeah.
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I'm bringing my child to do what?
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To be like jesus.
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Next thing, say, "i want my son and my daughter to be like me."
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And the third thing we could say, "we want them to be
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In the family, to know they're in the family of god."
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Let me tell you something.
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If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
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If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
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If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
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If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry
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For themselves.
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If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
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If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
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If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
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But if children live with encouragement,
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They learn confidence.
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If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
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If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
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If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
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If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
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If children live with recognition, they learn it is
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Good to have a goal.
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What are your children?
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What are your children living with?
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Male announcer: in the middle of life's darkest storm, there's
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Always the quiet promises of god that lie just beyond
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The turbulence.
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You can discover how to claim these promises in dr. young's
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Book "living under the rainbow."
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It's our gift to you with your support of the ministry
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This month.
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Ed: the rainbow is a comforting reminder of
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God's promises.
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Under the rainbow, our lives, families, and careers can become
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What god designed them to be.
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In my book "living under the rainbow," you will learn about
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The key promises god has made to us in his word, the bible, and
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We'll discover how we can claim them in our daily lives.
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Applying these promises leads not only to daily victory but
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Puts you and me on the path of a truly life with significance.
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Ed: of all the responsibilities god has
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Entrusted to me, i can't think of a more thrilling
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Or challenging one than being a parent.
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Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
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We are to nurture them, to teach them, to build of them the right
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Stuff as sons and daughters.
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As you've probably figured out by now, parenting is truly a
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Full-time job, and sometimes, it could be an overwhelming task.
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But thankfully, we do not have to do it alone.
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You can begin today by admitting that you don't have
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All the answers.
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I certainly don't.
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And then we turn to the one who does, god.
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God's word, the bible, offers practical principles
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For parenting today and every single day.
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So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills
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And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
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He invented the family.
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Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
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And i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
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Can you?
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Ed Young - Unconditional Love

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