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Ed Young - Unconditional Love

October 30, 2025 | 29:0

Ed Young - Unconditional Love
The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young is the international on-air and online teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young. The Winning Walk proclaims the proven truth of God’s Word to give men and women the world over a winning way to live life.
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Unconditional Love | October 30, 2025
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  • Ed young: we talk about parenting.
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  • We first of all spent several weeks talking about what it
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  • Means to have a marriage that's based on biblical principles.
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  • And i said, which i firmly believe and can affirm, that
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  • If the bible teaches us about marriage, if those principles
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  • Are not true, nothing else the bible teaches us also
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  • Can be true.
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  • Also, what the bible teaches us about parenting is true
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  • Or it negates the other teaching of the bible.
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  • And notice how this works together so beautifully.
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  • The bond of marriage is the god-given foundation
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  • For the bond and the calling to parenthood.
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  • Marriage.
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  • Parenthood.
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  • It's not that a single parent could not do it.
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  • Certainly, we have some beautiful illustration of that
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  • Going on in our church right now.
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  • But god's plan was for marriage, that foundation,
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  • And on that foundation, you would have parenthood.
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  • And the bottom line of all of this, god teaches us
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  • As husband/wife to love our mate unconditionally.
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  • And then the bible teaches us that we are to love our
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  • Children unconditionally.
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  • Where in the world does that unconditional love come from?
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  • Ideally, as the husband/wife love one another, the overflow
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  • Of their love to the children is where unconditional love
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  • Is manufactured.
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  • The perfect picture would be a couple who would be hugging one
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  • Another and a toddler would come in and unnoticed until
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  • The toddler begins to make his way between the father and
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  • The mother and this husband/wife and they bend down as they hug
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  • One another.
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  • The toddler is in the middle receiving that unconditional
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  • Love that came forth from the unconditional love of a man
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  • For his wife.
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  • Perfect biblical picture of how to parent.
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  • And our problem today is how do you parent in a broken world?
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  • In a broken culture?
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  • And the challenge is so high, but by the power of the
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  • Holy spirit and with the ministry of a church that loves
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  • Kids, it can be done and it will be done in this family of faith.
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  • For hundreds and thousands of years since the dawn of history,
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  • Children have been pushed aside.
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  • In many cultures, you could let the child live
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  • Or let the child die.
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  • If the child was like they wanted the child to be,
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  • The child would be retained.
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  • If not, the child would be given away, thrown away, done away
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  • With, put away, out of sight, out of mind.
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  • And generally speaking, that's the whole culture of the world
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  • With few exceptions, with few exceptions, until jesus.
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  • Jesus took the female and elevated her to equality,
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  • Male nor female, bond or free, equality with the male gender.
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  • Jesus did that, and jesus also took the child and put him on
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  • The center of the stage where the child is rarely, if ever,
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  • Found on the center of the stage.
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  • And we see it beautifully in many places but none clearer,
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  • I think, than we find in the book of mark.
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  • The disciples are in galilee, in capernaum, them to be precise,
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  • And they were debating with people about divorce.
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  • And finally, they were talking about, "when jesus brings in
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  • This kingdom, what position am i going to have?” asked andrew.
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  • "what position am i gonna have?"
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  • Asked thomas.
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  • What position will we have when the kingdom is established?
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  • And they're debating this, and jesus comes up to ‘em and said,
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  • "what are you guys talking about?"
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  • Silence.
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  • And then jesus looks out and sees a little boy,
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  • Perhaps a toddler, and this is what he does.
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  • Listen to the words: "taking a child, he set him before them,
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  • Taking him in his arms, and he said to his apostle-disciples,
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  • ‘whoever receives one child like this in my name receives me;
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  • And whoever receives me does not receive me,
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  • But him who sent me.'"
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  • In other words, he took that child his arms.
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  • He said, "man, this child receives me and i receive
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  • This child.
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  • And the one who sent me, my heavenly father,
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  • Receives this child as well."
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  • The child was put in the center to show an example of what
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  • Leadership and what position in the kingdom of god is all about.
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  • But then they take off, and they start talking about
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  • Other theological, very important issues.
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  • And then finally, jesus looks at them in verse 42.
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  • Right after that, it says, "listen, whoever causes one of
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  • These little ones who believe to stumble, it would be better for
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  • Him if a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and he'd been
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  • Cast into the sea."
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  • Is that pretty serious?
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  • Does that sound over the top, even for jesus?
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  • If anyone messes around with, confuses, lies to, abuses,
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  • Any of these little ones, it would be the best thing for them
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  • If you tied a big rock or stone around their neck and threw them
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  • In the sea and they were drowned.
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  • Boy, that sounds pretty severe, doesn't it?
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  • That's the words of jesus.
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  • Now, you would think that those apostles would have understood
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  • The centrality of a child.
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  • No one's going to get in the kingdom unless they have the
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  • Humility of a child, the grace of a child, the understanding
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  • Of a child, not to be childish, but to be childlike.
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  • The secret of brightness.
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  • Now, they didn't get it.
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  • In the very next chapter, that's the ninth chapter, they left
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  • Galilee in the north, and they moved to judea in the south.
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  • And now a large crowd gathered around jesus, and there were
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  • Children in the crowd.
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  • There were children in the crowd, and the children looked
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  • At jesus.
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  • And he was a central figure as he was teaching and the children
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  • Were rushing to him.
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  • And the parents were perhaps taking the children wanting
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  • Jesus to place his hand on them and to set them aside and
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  • To honor them as we sought to do today in our own way.
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  • But the apostles, look what they were doing.
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  • Verse 13, chapter 10 to mark: "and they were bringing children
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  • To him so that he might touch them; but the disciples rebuked
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  • Them," they said, "hey, hey, we're doing big stuff."
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  • You know what they were talking about?
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  • Divorce and marriage.
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  • That's pretty important.
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  • The children were coming to jesus.
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  • I don't know how many, a large crowd, a lot of kids, toddlers,
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  • 4-, 5-, 6-year-olds, come to jesus.
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  • And boy, the apostle says, "we're doing big stuff here.
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  • We've got important things going on.
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  • You parents take care of your children.
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  • Man, this is the messiah and we're pushing him away.”
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  • And then we see something that we see only three other times
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  • In the bible, verse 14: "but when jesus saw this,
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  • He was indignant."
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  • Tell you something.
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  • Jesus snapped.
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  • Bang!
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  • This only happened three times in the scripture:
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  • Mark 3 in the synagogue.
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  • He's gonna heal a man with a withered arm and all the
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  • Pharisees were looking and said, "well, is he gonna do this on
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  • The sabbath day?"
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  • And jesus snapped, righteous indignation toward their
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  • Attitude toward healing.
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  • And then, we know in the next chapter in our book here in
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  • Chapter 11, jesus, before he's crucified in that last week,
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  • Went to the temple and saw all of those in god's house taking
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  • Advantage of people in exchanging coins and
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  • Selling goods.
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  • It was like the marketplace, exploiting people even who come
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  • For far to worship on that high and holy day.
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  • And jesus snapped, and he got that whip.
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  • He went through that sacred temple and he cleaned out all
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  • Those con artists, all those phonies, all those hypocrites,
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  • Who were exploiting in the name of religion the people
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  • Who would come.
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  • And then, in our scripture today, jesus snapped when they
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  • Saw them pushing the children away: "and jesus said,
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  • ‘permit the little children to come to me; do not hinder them;
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  • For the kingdom of god belongs to such as these.
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  • Truly, i say to you, whoever who does not receive the kingdom of
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  • God like a child will not enter it at all.'
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  • And jesus took them in his arms
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  • And began blessing them, laying hands on them."
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  • Jesus took children and put them at the center of his ministry.
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  • Let me ask you something.
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  • What has happened to the body of christ for 2,000 years?
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  • Basically, the church has said, "put the children over there.
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  • Get them out of the way."
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  • Let me tell you something about the second family right here
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  • In which we are a part of in this worship service.
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  • We love kids, and we can prove it because they are central in
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  • Everything we do in this church family.
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  • Now, in most churches, you'll have a time,
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  • "we need somebody to work with the junior high kids.
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  • Won't somebody volunteer?"
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  • Nobody will go and work with those, you know, those junior
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  • High--and in middle school-- man, we need people to go to
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  • The middle school.
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  • How desperately--well, high school--would you dare work
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  • With those high school kids?
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  • We don't do that here.
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  • We've never done that here.
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  • When somebody comes and says, "you know, maybe god has
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  • Equipped you to work with this age group or that age group or
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  • That age group," you are privileged because we don't beg
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  • We solicit and find those who are most gifted and loving kids
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  • And bringing them up along with mom and dad in the way god
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  • Has designed them.
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  • This is how we operate this church.
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  • Highest priority: our kids.
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  • And then, as parents, as parents, i've said many times,
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  • I'd like a redo.
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  • I'd like to say, "hey, let me do this thing over again with my
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  • Three sons," but somehow, with a great mama, they have done all
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  • Right in walking with the lord, and i thank god for that.
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  • But we'd all like to go back and do it a little more biblically
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  • Than we did.
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  • I would.
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  • You would.
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  • Well, what is the way you bring up kids biblically?
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  • The bible is full of that.
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  • You wanna know how to bring up a child in the 21st century
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  • God's way.
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  • That's what we're talking about.
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  • We've already talked about it.
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  • Back to--you remember in the book of proverbs?
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  • That will remind you sort of where we've been.
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  • Proverbs says clearly, proverbs 22, verse 6: "train up a child
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  • In the way he should go, even when he's old, he'll not depart
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  • From it."
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  • Remember, i told you that was not a promise.
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  • That was a principle.
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  • And then, we turn over to ephesians and paul elaborates.
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  • Ephesians chapter number 6, on that one way, very briefly,
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  • He says it, "fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,
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  • But bring them up in the discipline and instruction
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  • Of the lord," in the discipline and instruction of the lord.
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  • Remember the stages of bringing up kids?
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  • And the stage from 3 to 13.
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  • And, by the way, these ages are not dogmatized.
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  • They may be 14.
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  • They may be 12.
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  • They're not dogmatized.
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  • But in that period of time after the mother stops being a 24/7
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  • Servant of the child and begins to toilet train, begin to bring
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  • The child up to do some things for him or herself,
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  • Then you begin that critical period of 3 to 13.
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  • And that's when we have to discipline, that's the word,
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  • That's a part of the training.
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  • And then, we are to instruct.
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  • You have to discipline before you instruct.
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  • That's very important.
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  • What do i mean by that?
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  • I mean that when mom and dad says "yes" or "no" or "stop"
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  • Or "start," they obey virtually every time, if you do it right,
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  • When you say it the first time.
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  • I ask myself, "how in the world did--how were--how did my mom
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  • Discipline me?"
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  • And i look back on it and i can tell you, i thought from 3
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  • To 13, even after, i had the meanest mom in the world.
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  • I really did.
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  • She was tough.
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  • She didn't mess around.
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  • There was absolute here and absolute there.
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  • Until finally, and i remembered this hadn't thought about in
  • 00:15:50.963 --> 00:15:54.433
  • Years, i must have been about 10 years old, and somehow,
  • 00:15:54.433 --> 00:15:59.138
  • I got into a disagreement with my mother.
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  • And at that age, i began to try to explain to her how she was
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  • Wrong and i was right.
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  • She didn't agree and didn't bat an eye.
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  • So i said, "i'm going to leave home.
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  • I'm gonna run away."
  • 00:16:17.756 --> 00:16:19.091
  • I remember it like yesterday.
  • 00:16:19.091 --> 00:16:21.060
  • I can tell you right where i was standing in our house.
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  • And she said, "okay."
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  • I knew where i was going.
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  • See, i had an aunt and uncle had no children.
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  • They lived about a mile and a half from us, and when i went
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  • There, oh man, it was great.
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  • No problems.
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  • So i was heading for aunt gladys, uncle howard's house.
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  • I went out the front door.
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  • I know i turned left.
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  • The tomlinson's live next door.
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  • I turned left again to go through the park to go to
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  • Aunt gladys and uncle howard's house because i was out
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  • Of that place where they get-- caused me so much trouble.
  • 00:16:50.189 --> 00:16:53.325
  • They kept saying no, no, no, no.
  • 00:16:53.325 --> 00:16:56.195
  • And i got almost out of sight, and my mother said, "edwin."
  • 00:16:56.195 --> 00:17:00.632
  • I turned around.
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  • She said you left a light on in your room.
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  • True story.
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  • I could not make it up.
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  • Listen, in my house, the unpardonable sin was
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  • To leave the light on.
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  • I mean, we cut--even today, people that work up here, if
  • 00:17:16.115 --> 00:17:20.686
  • I go in the office and they're gone, a light is on,
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  • They hear from the pastor.
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  • I'm that picky about lights.
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  • I don't wanna pay those folks and take god's money and throw
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  • It away unless it needs to be.
  • 00:17:29.995 --> 00:17:31.763
  • And my mother said, "you left the light on."
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  • She didn't tell me to come back.
  • 00:17:35.434 --> 00:17:38.203
  • I knew i had to cut that light off.
  • 00:17:38.203 --> 00:17:41.106
  • So i retraced my step, went to the corner, went by the
  • 00:17:41.106 --> 00:17:44.943
  • Watkins's house, went back in front of the tomlinson's house,
  • 00:17:44.943 --> 00:17:47.379
  • Turned up my thing, and went in there, and cut the light on.
  • 00:17:47.379 --> 00:17:50.415
  • In the process, i decided, you know, this isn't a bad deal
  • 00:17:50.415 --> 00:17:57.156
  • After all.
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  • I think i'll stay at home.
  • 00:17:58.490 --> 00:18:00.459
  • Now, what is all of this childhood silliness about?
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  • Parents, don't miss the principles.
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  • In tho--that period of time you have to dominate, control,
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  • With ease, with determination, with repetitive teaching,
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  • So that your children will learn to respond.
  • 00:18:22.814 --> 00:18:25.050
  • When they're running into the street, you can say,
  • 00:18:25.050 --> 00:18:27.352
  • "stop," and they will stop.
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  • That's parenting, biblical parenting.
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  • You wanna make it a little fancier?
  • 00:18:35.894 --> 00:18:38.263
  • We have in our brain 86 billion neurons.
  • 00:18:38.263 --> 00:18:44.203
  • I counted them yesterday.
  • 00:18:44.203 --> 00:18:46.805
  • Eighty-six billion neurons are in our brain, and they have
  • 00:18:46.805 --> 00:18:51.944
  • Those little electrical and chemical impulses in which they
  • 00:18:51.944 --> 00:18:56.715
  • Communicate with one another as to how we act and what we do
  • 00:18:56.715 --> 00:19:00.552
  • And how all our habits are.
  • 00:19:00.552 --> 00:19:01.887
  • Those chemical-electrical input called synapse--synapses.
  • 00:19:01.887 --> 00:19:07.159
  • It's nothing but it's where they pass through.
  • 00:19:07.159 --> 00:19:09.995
  • Now, to change a synapse in your brain or my brain, it takes
  • 00:19:09.995 --> 00:19:16.768
  • About 400 repetitions to change, to change something that's
  • 00:19:16.768 --> 00:19:23.775
  • In there, 400.
  • 00:19:23.775 --> 00:19:25.444
  • Unless, in a child, you teach games, and through games and
  • 00:19:25.444 --> 00:19:31.583
  • Play, a child can change in about ten plus repetitions.
  • 00:19:31.583 --> 00:19:39.458
  • How does that work?
  • 00:19:39.458 --> 00:19:41.760
  • Well, you'll teach your child to respond.
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  • You remember what simon says?
  • 00:19:46.131 --> 00:19:47.566
  • If you didn't play simon says, i don't know if you're an adult.
  • 00:19:47.566 --> 00:19:51.603
  • We played simon says.
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  • Simon said--and by the way, if you do what simon says,
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  • You're okay.
  • 00:19:55.841 --> 00:19:57.175
  • If you do not do what simon says or simon doesn't say do it,
  • 00:19:57.175 --> 00:20:01.213
  • You don't do it and you're out of the game.
  • 00:20:01.213 --> 00:20:02.714
  • Remember?
  • 00:20:02.714 --> 00:20:04.082
  • Simon says, "pat your head."
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  • Okay.
  • 00:20:05.817 --> 00:20:07.152
  • Simon says, "touch your nose." simon says, "touch your chin.
  • 00:20:07.152 --> 00:20:10.255
  • Touch your ear," and you touch your ear, but simon didn't say
  • 00:20:10.255 --> 00:20:13.191
  • It so you're out.
  • 00:20:13.191 --> 00:20:15.127
  • You see what you're teaching?
  • 00:20:15.127 --> 00:20:16.662
  • You see what you're teaching?
  • 00:20:17.529 --> 00:20:19.598
  • You're rewiring a part of their brain.
  • 00:20:19.598 --> 00:20:22.100
  • We used to play i spy.
  • 00:20:22.100 --> 00:20:23.902
  • You ever play i spy?
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  • You'd be in the room and say, "i spy, i spy something
  • 00:20:25.237 --> 00:20:27.806
  • That is red."
  • 00:20:27.806 --> 00:20:30.042
  • What, what is it?
  • 00:20:30.042 --> 00:20:31.376
  • They'd look around and find that they'd name things.
  • 00:20:31.376 --> 00:20:33.545
  • Oh, it was that flower?
  • 00:20:33.545 --> 00:20:34.880
  • Yes.
  • 00:20:34.880 --> 00:20:36.248
  • Teaching concentration.
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  • Teaching looking for colors.
  • 00:20:38.483 --> 00:20:40.452
  • That's how we train up our children.
  • 00:20:40.452 --> 00:20:42.821
  • That's part of the mechanism that we use.
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  • And that is a part how we teach them discipline.
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  • Come. go.
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  • Stop. lift.
  • 00:20:51.029 --> 00:20:53.598
  • Here you are.
  • 00:20:53.598 --> 00:20:54.933
  • And we do that from 3 to 13.
  • 00:20:54.933 --> 00:20:56.268
  • And then, we begin in the latter part of that period and into
  • 00:20:56.268 --> 00:20:59.338
  • The teenage period, you begin to do something else.
  • 00:20:59.338 --> 00:21:02.207
  • You give instructions.
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  • Do this.
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  • Why?
  • 00:21:07.279 --> 00:21:08.613
  • No reason.
  • 00:21:08.613 --> 00:21:09.948
  • I said, "do it."
  • 00:21:09.948 --> 00:21:11.283
  • And then if after they have done it they want information, then
  • 00:21:11.283 --> 00:21:14.186
  • You tell them why, not before.
  • 00:21:14.186 --> 00:21:16.455
  • Remember?
  • 00:21:16.455 --> 00:21:17.789
  • That's where we mess up, parents.
  • 00:21:17.789 --> 00:21:19.358
  • I messed up many times.
  • 00:21:19.358 --> 00:21:21.326
  • And therefore, first, there is discipline, absolutes.
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  • We don't do this.
  • 00:21:26.298 --> 00:21:27.632
  • We do this.
  • 00:21:27.632 --> 00:21:28.967
  • And then, following that, there is instruction.
  • 00:21:28.967 --> 00:21:32.070
  • And that's we begin to train, and we talked about it,
  • 00:21:32.070 --> 00:21:34.940
  • The different ways that you instruct.
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  • What is our goal for our kids?
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  • That our sons and daughters would be that man, that woman
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  • God designed them to become.
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  • How do we reach that goal?
  • 00:21:45.584 --> 00:21:47.519
  • Several ways.
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  • What is a part of this instruction?
  • 00:21:49.221 --> 00:21:52.891
  • The first part you want to make them like jesus.
  • 00:21:52.891 --> 00:21:57.863
  • Build in their life jesus principles.
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  • Jesus principles.
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  • There are books we can read.
  • 00:22:03.502 --> 00:22:05.137
  • Remember our church showed me a super book i hadn't seen,
  • 00:22:05.137 --> 00:22:08.740
  • The bible as jesus would write.
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  • We give books to parents to read to your children at night,
  • 00:22:10.942 --> 00:22:14.279
  • The stories of the bible, the stories of jesus.
  • 00:22:14.279 --> 00:22:17.382
  • And that's the way we begin to build an appetite,
  • 00:22:17.382 --> 00:22:22.721
  • An appetite for jesus.
  • 00:22:22.721 --> 00:22:25.290
  • How does this work?
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  • In the hebrew world, when a baby was going from milk to solid
  • 00:22:26.625 --> 00:22:31.463
  • Food, they would take a date paste, which was sweet, and put
  • 00:22:31.463 --> 00:22:35.200
  • It in the roof of their mouth and they would then begin
  • 00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:38.069
  • To transition from milk to solid food.
  • 00:22:38.069 --> 00:22:40.572
  • That was creating an appetite.
  • 00:22:40.572 --> 00:22:43.809
  • So you create an appetite for your child for god.
  • 00:22:43.809 --> 00:22:47.579
  • So you can see if you're training them up in the thoughts
  • 00:22:47.579 --> 00:22:51.716
  • And the mannerism of jesus.
  • 00:22:51.716 --> 00:22:54.753
  • And the next thing we do, you say, "i want my son or daughter
  • 00:22:54.753 --> 00:22:58.256
  • To be like jesus and i want them to be like me."
  • 00:22:58.256 --> 00:23:01.092
  • Can you stand up and say, "boy, i hope my son turns out like
  • 00:23:01.092 --> 00:23:04.029
  • Their daddy?"
  • 00:23:04.029 --> 00:23:06.097
  • "or, i hope my daughter turns out like their mother."
  • 00:23:06.097 --> 00:23:08.467
  • Can you honestly say that?
  • 00:23:08.467 --> 00:23:11.770
  • You see, that's the problem.
  • 00:23:11.770 --> 00:23:13.605
  • Remember, i've said it many, many times.
  • 00:23:13.605 --> 00:23:15.907
  • Children do what we require them to do until they get to be
  • 00:23:15.907 --> 00:23:19.311
  • Teenagers or a little older.
  • 00:23:19.311 --> 00:23:20.846
  • They begin to do what you do and what i do.
  • 00:23:20.846 --> 00:23:24.115
  • Can you say, "i want my son to be like their father?"
  • 00:23:24.115 --> 00:23:28.320
  • Well, i'd do anything for my son but that.
  • 00:23:28.320 --> 00:23:32.557
  • To believe in god, to be faithful to his church,
  • 00:23:32.557 --> 00:23:35.427
  • To read that bible everyday, that's our goal.
  • 00:23:35.427 --> 00:23:39.931
  • Yeah.
  • 00:23:39.931 --> 00:23:41.266
  • I'm bringing my child to do what?
  • 00:23:41.266 --> 00:23:42.601
  • To be like jesus.
  • 00:23:42.601 --> 00:23:44.536
  • Next thing, say, "i want my son and my daughter to be like me."
  • 00:23:44.536 --> 00:23:49.908
  • And the third thing we could say, "we want them to be
  • 00:23:49.908 --> 00:23:53.745
  • In the family, to know they're in the family of god."
  • 00:23:53.745 --> 00:23:57.849
  • Let me tell you something.
  • 00:23:57.849 --> 00:24:01.052
  • If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
  • 00:24:01.052 --> 00:24:07.058
  • If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
  • 00:24:07.058 --> 00:24:11.363
  • If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
  • 00:24:11.363 --> 00:24:15.934
  • If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry
  • 00:24:15.934 --> 00:24:19.504
  • For themselves.
  • 00:24:19.504 --> 00:24:20.872
  • If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
  • 00:24:20.872 --> 00:24:25.911
  • If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
  • 00:24:25.911 --> 00:24:29.981
  • If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
  • 00:24:29.981 --> 00:24:36.688
  • But if children live with encouragement,
  • 00:24:36.688 --> 00:24:40.358
  • They learn confidence.
  • 00:24:40.358 --> 00:24:41.893
  • If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
  • 00:24:41.893 --> 00:24:46.064
  • If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
  • 00:24:46.064 --> 00:24:50.235
  • If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
  • 00:24:50.235 --> 00:24:54.272
  • If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
  • 00:24:54.272 --> 00:24:59.878
  • If children live with recognition, they learn it is
  • 00:24:59.878 --> 00:25:03.748
  • Good to have a goal.
  • 00:25:03.748 --> 00:25:07.752
  • What are your children?
  • 00:25:07.752 --> 00:25:12.824
  • What are your children living with?
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  • Male announcer: in the middle of life's darkest storm, there's
  • 00:25:20.398 --> 00:25:22.300
  • Always the quiet promises of god that lie just beyond
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  • The turbulence.
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  • You can discover how to claim these promises in dr. young's
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  • Book "living under the rainbow."
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  • God's promises.
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  • Under the rainbow, our lives, families, and careers can become
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  • What god designed them to be.
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  • In my book "living under the rainbow," you will learn about
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  • The key promises god has made to us in his word, the bible, and
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  • We'll discover how we can claim them in our daily lives.
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  • Applying these promises leads not only to daily victory but
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  • Puts you and me on the path of a truly life with significance.
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  • Ed: of all the responsibilities god has
  • 00:26:20.158 --> 00:26:22.193
  • Entrusted to me, i can't think of a more thrilling
  • 00:26:22.193 --> 00:26:25.263
  • Or challenging one than being a parent.
  • 00:26:25.263 --> 00:26:27.899
  • Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
  • 00:26:27.899 --> 00:26:30.435
  • We are to nurture them, to teach them, to build of them the right
  • 00:26:30.435 --> 00:26:34.172
  • Stuff as sons and daughters.
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  • As you've probably figured out by now, parenting is truly a
  • 00:26:36.274 --> 00:26:40.845
  • Full-time job, and sometimes, it could be an overwhelming task.
  • 00:26:40.845 --> 00:26:45.717
  • But thankfully, we do not have to do it alone.
  • 00:26:45.717 --> 00:26:48.853
  • You can begin today by admitting that you don't have
  • 00:26:48.853 --> 00:26:52.190
  • All the answers.
  • 00:26:52.190 --> 00:26:53.525
  • I certainly don't.
  • 00:26:53.525 --> 00:26:54.859
  • And then we turn to the one who does, god.
  • 00:26:54.859 --> 00:26:58.563
  • God's word, the bible, offers practical principles
  • 00:26:58.563 --> 00:27:02.400
  • For parenting today and every single day.
  • 00:27:02.400 --> 00:27:05.603
  • So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills
  • 00:27:05.603 --> 00:27:09.708
  • And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
  • 00:27:09.708 --> 00:27:16.514
  • He invented the family.
  • 00:27:16.514 --> 00:27:18.616
  • Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
  • 00:27:18.616 --> 00:27:21.786
  • And i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
  • 00:27:21.786 --> 00:27:25.857
  • Can you?
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