Ed Young - Unconditional Love

August 3, 2025 | S25 E185 | 29:0

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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - Unconditional Love | August 3, 2025

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Ed: we talk about parenting.
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We first of all spent several weeks talking about what it
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Means to have a marriage that's based on biblical principles.
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And i said, which i firmly believe and can affirm, that
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If the bible teaches us about marriage, if those principles
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Are not true, nothing else the bible teaches us also
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Can be true.
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Also, what the bible teaches us about parenting is true
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Or it negates the other teaching of the bible.
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And notice how this works together so beautifully.
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The bond of marriage is the god-given foundation
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For the bond and the calling to parenthood.
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Marriage.
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Parenthood.
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It's not that a single parent could not do it.
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Certainly, we have some beautiful illustration of that
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Going on in our church right now.
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But god's plan was for marriage, that foundation,
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And on that foundation, you would have parenthood.
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And the bottom line of all of this, god teaches us
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As husband/wife to love our mate unconditionally.
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And then the bible teaches us that we are to love our
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Children unconditionally.
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Where in the world does that unconditional love come from?
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Ideally, as the husband/wife love one another, the overflow
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Of their love to the children is where unconditional love
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Is manufactured.
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The perfect picture would be a couple who would be hugging one
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Another and a toddler would come in and unnoticed until
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The toddler begins to make his way between the father and
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The mother and this husband/wife and they bend down as they hug
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One another.
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The toddler is in the middle receiving that unconditional
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Love that came forth from the unconditional love of a man
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For his wife.
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Perfect biblical picture of how to parent.
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And our problem today is how do you parent in a broken world?
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In a broken culture?
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And the challenge is so high, but by the power of the
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Holy spirit and with the ministry of a church that loves
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Kids, it can be done and it will be done in this family of faith.
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For hundreds and thousands of years since the dawn of history,
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Children have been pushed aside.
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In many cultures, you could let the child live
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Or let the child die.
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If the child was like they wanted the child to be,
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The child would be retained.
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If not, the child would be given away, thrown away, done away
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With, put away, out of sight, out of mind.
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And generally speaking, that's the whole culture of the world
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With few exceptions, with few exceptions, until jesus.
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Jesus took the female and elevated her to equality,
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Male nor female, bond or free, equality with the male gender.
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Jesus did that, and jesus also took the child and put him on
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The center of the stage where the child is rarely, if ever,
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Found on the center of the stage.
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And we see it beautifully in many places but none clearer,
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I think, than we find in the book of mark.
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The disciples are in galilee, in capernaum, them to be precise,
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And they were debating with people about divorce.
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And finally, they were talking about, "when jesus brings in
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This kingdom, what position am i going to have?” asked andrew.
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"what position am i gonna have?"
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Asked thomas.
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What position will we have when the kingdom is established?
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And they're debating this, and jesus comes up to ‘em and said,
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"what are you guys talking about?"
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Silence.
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And then jesus looks out and sees a little boy,
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Perhaps a toddler, and this is what he does.
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Listen to the words: "taking a child, he set him before them,
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Taking him in his arms, and he said to his apostle-disciples,
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‘whoever receives one child like this in my name receives me;
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And whoever receives me does not receive me,
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But him who sent me.'"
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In other words, he took that child his arms.
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He said, "man, this child receives me and i receive
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This child.
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And the one who sent me, my heavenly father,
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Receives this child as well."
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The child was put in the center to show an example of what
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Leadership and what position in the kingdom of god is all about.
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But then they take off, and they start talking about
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Other theological, very important issues.
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And then finally, jesus looks at them in verse 42.
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Right after that, it says, "listen, whoever causes one of
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These little ones who believe to stumble, it would be better for
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Him if a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and he'd been
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Cast into the sea."
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Is that pretty serious?
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Does that sound over the top, even for jesus?
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If anyone messes around with, confuses, lies to, abuses,
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Any of these little ones, it would be the best thing for them
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If you tied a big rock or stone around their neck and threw them
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In the sea and they were drowned.
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Boy, that sounds pretty severe, doesn't it?
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That's the words of jesus.
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Now, you would think that those apostles would have understood
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The centrality of a child.
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No one's going to get in the kingdom unless they have the
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Humility of a child, the grace of a child, the understanding
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Of a child, not to be childish, but to be childlike.
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The secret of brightness.
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Now, they didn't get it.
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In the very next chapter, that's the ninth chapter, they left
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Galilee in the north, and they moved to judea in the south.
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And now a large crowd gathered around jesus, and there were
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Children in the crowd.
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There were children in the crowd, and the children looked
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At jesus.
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And he was a central figure as he was teaching and the children
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Were rushing to him.
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And the parents were perhaps taking the children wanting
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Jesus to place his hand on them and to set them aside and
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To honor them as we sought to do today in our own way.
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But the apostles, look what they were doing.
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Verse 13, chapter 10 to mark: "and they were bringing children
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To him so that he might touch them; but the disciples rebuked
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Them," they said, "hey, hey, we're doing big stuff."
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You know what they were talking about?
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Divorce and marriage.
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That's pretty important.
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The children were coming to jesus.
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I don't know how many, a large crowd, a lot of kids, toddlers,
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4-, 5-, 6-year-olds, come to jesus.
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And boy, the apostle says, "we're doing big stuff here.
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We've got important things going on.
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You parents take care of your children.
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Man, this is the messiah and we're pushing him away.”
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And then we see something that we see only three other times
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In the bible, verse 14: "but when jesus saw this,
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He was indignant."
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Tell you something.
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Jesus snapped.
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Bang!
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This only happened three times in the scripture:
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Mark 3 in the synagogue.
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He's gonna heal a man with a withered arm and all the
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Pharisees were looking and said, "well, is he gonna do this on
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The sabbath day?"
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And jesus snapped, righteous indignation toward their
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Attitude toward healing.
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And then, we know in the next chapter in our book here in
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Chapter 11, jesus, before he's crucified in that last week,
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Went to the temple and saw all of those in god's house taking
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Advantage of people in exchanging coins and
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Selling goods.
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It was like the marketplace, exploiting people even who come
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For far to worship on that high and holy day.
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And jesus snapped, and he got that whip.
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He went through that sacred temple and he cleaned out all
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Those con artists, all those phonies, all those hypocrites,
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Who were exploiting in the name of religion the people
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Who would come.
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And then, in our scripture today, jesus snapped when they
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Saw them pushing the children away: "and jesus said,
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‘permit the little children to come to me; do not hinder them;
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For the kingdom of god belongs to such as these.
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Truly, i say to you, whoever who does not receive the kingdom of
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God like a child will not enter it at all.'
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And jesus took them in his arms
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And began blessing them, laying hands on them."
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Jesus took children and put them at the center of his ministry.
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Let me ask you something.
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What has happened to the body of christ for 2,000 years?
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Basically, the church has said, "put the children over there.
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Get them out of the way."
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Let me tell you something about the second family right here
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In which we are a part of in this worship service.
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We love kids, and we can prove it because they are central in
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Everything we do in this church family.
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Now, in most churches, you'll have a time,
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"we need somebody to work with the junior high kids.
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Won't somebody volunteer?"
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Nobody will go and work with those, you know, those junior
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High--and in middle school-- man, we need people to go to
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The middle school.
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How desperately--well, high school--would you dare work
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With those high school kids?
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We don't do that here.
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We've never done that here.
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When somebody comes and says, "you know, maybe god has
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Equipped you to work with this age group or that age group or
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That age group," you are privileged because we don't beg
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We solicit and find those who are most gifted and loving kids
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And bringing them up along with mom and dad in the way god
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Has designed them.
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This is how we operate this church.
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Highest priority: our kids.
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And then, as parents, as parents, i've said many times,
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I'd like a redo.
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I'd like to say, "hey, let me do this thing over again with my
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Three sons," but somehow, with a great mama, they have done all
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Right in walking with the lord, and i thank god for that.
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But we'd all like to go back and do it a little more biblically
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Than we did.
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I would.
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You would.
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Well, what is the way you bring up kids biblically?
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The bible is full of that.
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You wanna know how to bring up a child in the 21st century
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God's way.
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That's what we're talking about.
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We've already talked about it.
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Back to--you remember in the book of proverbs?
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That will remind you sort of where we've been.
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Proverbs says clearly, proverbs 22, verse 6: "train up a child
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In the way he should go, even when he's old, he'll not depart
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From it."
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Remember, i told you that was not a promise.
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That was a principle.
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And then, we turn over to ephesians and paul elaborates.
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Ephesians chapter number 6, on that one way, very briefly,
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He says it, "fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,
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But bring them up in the discipline and instruction
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Of the lord," in the discipline and instruction of the lord.
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Remember the stages of bringing up kids?
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And the stage from 3 to 13.
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And, by the way, these ages are not dogmatized.
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They may be 14.
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They may be 12.
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They're not dogmatized.
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But in that period of time after the mother stops being a 24/7
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Servant of the child and begins to toilet train, begin to bring
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The child up to do some things for him or herself,
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Then you begin that critical period of 3 to 13.
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And that's when we have to discipline, that's the word,
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That's a part of the training.
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And then, we are to instruct.
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You have to discipline before you instruct.
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That's very important.
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What do i mean by that?
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I mean that when mom and dad says "yes" or "no" or "stop"
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Or "start," they obey virtually every time, if you do it right,
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When you say it the first time.
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I ask myself, "how in the world did--how were--how did my mom
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Discipline me?"
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And i look back on it and i can tell you, i thought from 3
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To 13, even after, i had the meanest mom in the world.
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I really did.
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She was tough.
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She didn't mess around.
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There was absolute here and absolute there.
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Until finally, and i remembered this hadn't thought about in
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Years, i must have been about 10 years old, and somehow,
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I got into a disagreement with my mother.
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And at that age, i began to try to explain to her how she was
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Wrong and i was right.
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She didn't agree and didn't bat an eye.
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So i said, "i'm going to leave home.
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I'm gonna run away."
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I remember it like yesterday.
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I can tell you right where i was standing in our house.
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And she said, "okay."
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I knew where i was going.
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See, i had an aunt and uncle had no children.
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They lived about a mile and a half from us, and when i went
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There, oh man, it was great.
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No problems.
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So i was heading for aunt gladys, uncle howard's house.
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I went out the front door.
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I know i turned left.
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The tomlinson's live next door.
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I turned left again to go through the park to go to
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Aunt gladys and uncle howard's house because i was out
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Of that place where they get-- caused me so much trouble.
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They kept saying no, no, no, no.
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And i got almost out of sight, and my mother said, "edwin."
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I turned around.
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She said you left a light on in your room.
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True story.
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I could not make it up.
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Listen, in my house, the unpardonable sin was
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To leave the light on.
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I mean, we cut--even today, people that work up here, if
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I go in the office and they're gone, a light is on,
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They hear from the pastor.
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I'm that picky about lights.
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I don't wanna pay those folks and take god's money and throw
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It away unless it needs to be.
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And my mother said, "you left the light on."
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She didn't tell me to come back.
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I knew i had to cut that light off.
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So i retraced my step, went to the corner, went by the
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Watkins's house, went back in front of the tomlinson's house,
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Turned up my thing, and went in there, and cut the light on.
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In the process, i decided, you know, this isn't a bad deal
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After all.
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I think i'll stay at home.
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Now, what is all of this childhood silliness about?
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Parents, don't miss the principles.
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In tho--that period of time you have to dominate, control,
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With ease, with determination, with repetitive teaching,
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So that your children will learn to respond.
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When they're running into the street, you can say,
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"stop," and they will stop.
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That's parenting, biblical parenting.
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You wanna make it a little fancier?
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We have in our brain 86 billion neurons.
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I counted them yesterday.
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Eighty-six billion neurons are in our brain, and they have
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Those little electrical and chemical impulses in which they
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Communicate with one another as to how we act and what we do
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And how all our habits are.
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Those chemical-electrical input called synapse--synapses.
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It's nothing but it's where they pass through.
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Now, to change a synapse in your brain or my brain, it takes
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About 400 repetitions to change, to change something that's
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In there, 400.
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Unless, in a child, you teach games, and through games and
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Play, a child can change in about ten plus repetitions.
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How does that work?
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Well, you'll teach your child to respond.
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You remember what simon says?
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If you didn't play simon says, i don't know if you're an adult.
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We played simon says.
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Simon said--and by the way, if you do what simon says,
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You're okay.
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If you do not do what simon says or simon doesn't say do it,
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You don't do it and you're out of the game.
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Remember?
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Simon says, "pat your head."
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Okay.
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Simon says, "touch your nose." simon says, "touch your chin.
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Touch your ear," and you touch your ear, but simon didn't say
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It so you're out.
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You see what you're teaching?
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You see what you're teaching?
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You're rewiring a part of their brain.
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We used to play i spy.
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You ever play i spy?
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You'd be in the room and say, "i spy, i spy something
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That is red."
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What, what is it?
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They'd look around and find that they'd name things.
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Oh, it was that flower?
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Yes.
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Teaching concentration.
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Teaching looking for colors.
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That's how we train up our children.
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That's part of the mechanism that we use.
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And that is a part how we teach them discipline.
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Come. go.
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Stop. lift.
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Here you are.
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And we do that from 3 to 13.
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And then, we begin in the latter part of that period and into
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The teenage period, you begin to do something else.
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You give instructions.
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Do this.
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Why?
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No reason.
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I said, "do it."
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And then if after they have done it they want information, then
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You tell them why, not before.
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Remember?
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That's where we mess up, parents.
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I messed up many times.
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And therefore, first, there is discipline, absolutes.
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We don't do this.
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We do this.
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And then, following that, there is instruction.
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And that's we begin to train, and we talked about it,
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The different ways that you instruct.
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What is our goal for our kids?
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That our sons and daughters would be that man, that woman
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God designed them to become.
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How do we reach that goal?
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Several ways.
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What is a part of this instruction?
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The first part you want to make them like jesus.
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Build in their life jesus principles.
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Jesus principles.
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There are books we can read.
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Remember our church showed me a super book i hadn't seen,
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The the bible as jesus would write.
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We give books to parents to read to your children at night,
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The stories of the bible, the stories of jesus.
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And that's the way we begin to build an appetite,
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An appetite for jesus.
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How does this work?
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In the hebrew world, when a baby was going from milk to solid
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Food, they would take a date paste, which was sweet, and put
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It in the roof of their mouth and they would then begin
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To transition from milk to solid food.
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That was creating an appetite.
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So you create an appetite for your child for god.
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So you can see if you're training them up in the thoughts
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And the mannerism of jesus.
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And the next thing we do, you say, "i want my son or daughter
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To be like jesus and i want them to be like me."
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Can you stand up and say, "boy, i hope my son turns out like
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Their daddy?"
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"or, i hope my daughter turns out like their mother."
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Can you honestly say that?
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You see, that's the problem.
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Remember, i've said it many, many times.
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Children do what we require them to do until they get to be
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Teenagers or a little older.
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They begin to do what you do and what i do.
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Can you say, "i want my son to be like their father?"
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Well, i'd do anything for my son but that.
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To believe in god, to be faithful to his church,
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To read that bible everyday, that's our goal.
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Yeah.
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I'm bringing my child to do what?
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To be like jesus.
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Next thing, say, "i want my son and my daughter to be like me."
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And the third thing we could say, "we want them to be
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In the family, to know they're in the family of god."
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Let me tell you something.
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If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
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If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
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If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
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If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry
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For themselves.
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If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
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If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
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If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
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But if children live with encouragement,
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They learn confidence.
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If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
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If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
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If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
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If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
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If children live with recognition, they learn it is
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Good to have a goal.
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What are your children?
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What are your children living with?
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Ed: there's never been a better time than right
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Now to make god a priority in your life.
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That's why we've created this 90 day devotional, "putting god
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First," number one.
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And when you and i do that, he is faithful to give the
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Direction and guidance you and i need every day to walk
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Through life.
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It is my prayer that this devotional will help you to
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Become all that god has designed you to become.
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Male announcer: call today or go online at winningwalk.org to get
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Your copy of dr. young's 90 day devotional "putting god first."
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Ed: of all the responsibilities god has
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Entrusted to me, i can't think of a more thrilling
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Or challenging one than being a parent.
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Our kids are a gift from the almighty.
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We are to nurture them, to teach them, to build of them the right
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Stuff as sons and daughters.
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As you've probably figured out by now, parenting is truly a
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Full-time job, and sometimes, it could be an overwhelming task.
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But thankfully, we do not have to do it alone.
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You can begin today by admitting that you don't have
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All the answers.
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I certainly don't.
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And then we turn to the one who does, god.
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God's word, the bible, offers practical principles
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For parenting today and every single day.
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So stop relying on yourself and your own knowledge and skills
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And instead start depending on god and his divine wisdom.
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He invented the family.
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Invite jesus to be the leader in your home.
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And i can't think of anyone more qualified than jesus.
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Can you?
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Ed Young - Unconditional Love

August 3, 2025 | S25 E185 | 29:0

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