Ed Young - An Unifying Marriage

December 11, 2025 | 29:0

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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - An Unifying Marriage | December 11, 2025

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Ed young: how many times people would come to me and they said,
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"i've fallen in love."
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Well, i asked, you know, how it happened, and so many times, i
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Saw her and i knew she was the one.
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Now, i grant you that sometimes, rarely, this work's out a-okay,
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But normally those who say, "lightning struck and i knew and
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I fell in love," normally we have some problems there.
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Because the very word, to fall, right?
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It means usually to fall down.
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I know you can fall upstairs and you can maybe fall up a cliff,
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But generally to fall means you fall down and you're tripped up,
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You didn't see what was there and you have fallen.
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And so when somebody says they have fallen in love, usually, so
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Many times, tragically that love bottoms out and they fall, in
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Their words, out of love.
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We're talking about marriage, we've been talking about
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Marriage, we're talking about singleness.
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We'll talk about a lot of relationships in the coming
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Weeks as we sort of take 1 corinthians 7, and just walk
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Through it, and take other passages and enhance what god is
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Trying to say to you and me, especially and particularly,
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About marriage.
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And we understand, brand new, that when someone comes and says
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Something like, "well, what difference does a little piece
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Of paper make?"
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You ever heard that?
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Let me tell you the difference it makes; all of a sudden law is
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Involved, all of a sudden the lord is involved, and there is
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Marriage involved, and usually someone who says, "well, i'm not
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Gonna love you any more with just a little piece of paper,"
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What they're really saying, "i don't trust you with my heart
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And my emotions.
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As long as i feel like i love you, oh, we're going to
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Stay together."
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But we've already looked at the word feeling, feeling, "i can't
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Help how i feel."
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Remember that?
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And we used it as an excuse for something we do.
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Feelings are not positive or negative, they're not good or
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Bad, remember?
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Feelings come as a result of our emotions, our heart, "i just
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Can't help how i feel."
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We can't help how we feel but we certainly can help how we
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Respond to feelings.
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Free will, thought, reason, goes into the response to feeling.
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Therefore, to give an excuse, "well, i can't help how i feel,"
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That's what happens to people who think a piece of paper
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Doesn't make any difference, that's what happens to people
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Who doesn't understand that marriage is a covenant.
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Not so much a contract, not so much a legal thing, it is a
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Covenant between that couple and almighty god.
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And by the way, do you remember that we say vows only to god?
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If you got married, you were standing there, a male and
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Female, and the pastor stood up and said, "well, you give
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Yourself to one another, and you are to stay together good or
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Bad, for better, for worse."
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And you repeat after him, "for better, for worse, for rich or
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For poor, in sickness as in health."
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Do you so promise?
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"i do."
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Who are you saying those vows to?
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To your mate to be?
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Your husband, your wife?
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No, you're saying those vows to god, vows are made only to god,
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That's what makes it a covenant.
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So therefore, when you make this promise to god, say these vows
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To god, not to your mate, it's god, totally-totally different.
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And therefore the same thing happens in our
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Conversion experience.
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Therefore, we see that marriage and a new birth of becoming a
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Christian are a wonderful metaphor, marriage is a metaphor
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For that experience.
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For example, when you say, "i believe that jesus, christmas,
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Word became flesh, dwelt among us.
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I believe calvary, he died on the cross for our sins.
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I believe in resurrection, god raised him from the dead.
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I believe the basic historical facts about the good news of
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What god has done for man in jesus christ."
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Do you so believe?
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And you answer, "i do," but you're not a christian.
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No-no-no, that's not the christian experience, to believe
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The facts and to say, "i do," to those facts, that does not make
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Anybody a christian.
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It's when the question comes, "do you receive jesus christ in
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Your life as your savior, to salvage you, to save you, and as
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Your lord, to run your life?"
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Then when you say, "i will," you become a christian.
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You see the parallel between the covenant we make with our bride
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And with the groom in marriage, "i do, i will," is a metaphor of
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The covenant we make with god when we receive him as jesus
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Christ, "i believe these facts and i will receive him into
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My life."
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So we're in the covenant, let's look at what a covenant looks
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Like, look at this little triangle up here, i love it.
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Marriage is god's gift.
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Where did marriage come from?
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God, in the beginning, and when a man and woman come together
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And they're married, and notice something very-very powerful.
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When the wife grows closer to jesus and when the husband goes
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Closer to jesus, notice that as they are growing closer to
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Jesus, they're getting closer to each other.
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See?
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Look at it.
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As they grow, as they grow and they meet in jesus christ, and
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Therefore we have a topsy-turvy understanding of salvation and
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Of marriage.
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We have the idea that we receive jesus christ and someday we're
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Going to heaven.
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We've got that backwards, ladies and gentlemen.
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Now, when a sperm and egg come together, bang,
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There's conception.
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When we receive jesus christ as lord and savior, bang, there's
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Conception, there's a new birth and we're already in heaven if
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You've done that.
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"yeah, i was crucified with christ," that sounds like death
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To me.
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"nevertheless, i live; yet not i, but christ lives in me."
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Therefore, we are already in heaven, we're already in the
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Throne room of god at the right hand of the lord, we're already
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There right now.
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Therefore, getting to heaven is not climbing, "i'm working to
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Get to heaven."
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Oh no, it is a realized fact today, we're in heaven.
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And now we're just in this life, as christians, discovering,
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Listen carefully, what we've already become, what we
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Already have.
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Whoa, we're discovering who we are in christ, what we already
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Have, that's our christian life, that's the excitement of it.
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The same way a metaphor in marriage.
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When do we become one?
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"two shall become one."
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We get that in genesis 2, don't we?
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Leave, cleave, one flesh, naked, no shame, one.
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We get the same thing from jesus.
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In matthew, he said two have become one...
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"let no man put asunder...
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What god has joined together," matthew.
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We get the same thing in ephesians, by paul, "two
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Become one."
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When does that happen?
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When you say, "i do," and, "i will," bang, you're married,
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Right then you become one.
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Now, in the process, we have to grow and develop in that
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Oneness, discovering afresh who we really are with this new
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Person that has come into being.
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Therefore, when a death takes place in marriage, that's
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Divorce, it's suicide.
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A new life that had been created when two became one, there's a
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New creation there, and when that marriage ends in divorce,
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That is a suicide.
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And we'll talk about this clearly, biblically, when we
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Start dealing with divorce and healing, etcetera.
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Don't get all tangled up, we're just gonna deal on
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Biblical truth.
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So therefore, we see two become one instantly with, "i do," and,
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"i will."
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And therefore, we have the wonderful privilege of marriage.
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I've already talked about the only three kind of marriages:
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There are bad marriages, there are okay marriages and there are
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Great marriages.
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Now, what kind would you like to have?
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God gives us principles to have great marriage.
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Are you and i willing to follow his principles and have a great
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Marriage or not?
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That's the question.
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And by the way, it always works.
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I've got two personal examples in my own life of what a great
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Marriage is all about and i can give plenty of proof and
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Validity to it.
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Do you wanna have a great marriage?
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Or just, "hang on, okay, you know, we've been married a while
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And i just," what kind of marriage do you want?
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What kind of marriage do you want?
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We have to understand marriage consist of two dimensions.
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First of all, there is the horizontal dimension, that's
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Everyday life, that's here and there, everyday life.
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And for this marriage to grow, and grow in more oneness, it's
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Already one, and a realization of that oneness and a
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Fulfillment of that oneness, what has to take place?
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There has to be weeds, you have to weed and you have to plant.
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Weed and plant, weed and plant, that's always the ministry and
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The work of marriage, you weed and you plant.
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We had a garden almost all of my life in our backyard, my dad
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Required that i worked in it.
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I hated it, i'm not a gardening kinda guy; some people are, more
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Power to you.
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But when you have a garden, you have to break up the soil and
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You plant and you weed, you weed, you weed.
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In life, you have to do some weeding.
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What are some of the weeds we have to pull up?
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I challenge you that when you get home with your wife, your
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Husband, in a quiet time, and both of you say, "look, whatever
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You say, i'm not going to have the lawyer in me operating."
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You know all of us have lawyers in us?
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In us there's that prosecuting lawyer, "let me tell you what's
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Wrong with you, honey," there's a prosecutor.
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In all of us there's a defense lawyer, where we
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Defend ourselves.
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If you're gonna do some effective weeding, get the
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Lawyer out of your life and ask your mate what could you do or
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What could you change to be a better husband and a
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Better wife.
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Now remember, the lawyer has been taken out of the question,
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You have to remember that, don't, "ooh, i didn't
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Know that."
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No-no-no, just listen, just listen and you will run into
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Some weeds because your wife, your husband knows more about
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You and more about me, and really, in marriage, if it works
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At all, there's no place to hide.
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You know, all the phoniness is there, all the pretense is
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There, reality is there, that's the way it is.
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Marriage is a mirror in which are forced to look at yourself
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All the time.
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It can be beneficial and helpful, but you wanna do
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Some weeding?
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Go ask your partner, "what would you like to change about me?
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Where am i not getting it?"
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And you may run into some weeds that have been there for a long
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Time that's keeping that marriage from singing.
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I like a marriage that sings, a marriage that when you get
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Together you are thrilled and when you're apart you can't wait
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To get back together again.
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I had a marriage like that for 58 years, i've got a marriage
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Like that two years now in december.
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Let me tell you something, folks.
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This isn't just preacher stuff, this is reality.
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So we gotta do some weeding, some have more weeding to do
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Than others, and if your mate doesn't tell you about those
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Weeds spend a little time with god and listen to him and he'll
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Tell you some things you need to pull up and kill and root out of
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Your life.
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You say, "it's too late."
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No, it's not, are you still breathing?
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Everybody breathing?
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Anybody stop breathing?
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Oh, we're all breathing, it's not too late, god works,
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God heals.
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So in marriage you gotta always be weeding and you got to always
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Be planting, you can't just clear out of space, you
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Gotta plant-plant-plant.
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And on that plant you have a little tripod there, what do
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You plant?
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I thought about sat scores.
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What is your sat score in marriage?
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Husband and wife.
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The s, i think, would stand for sensitivity.
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Are you sensitive to your marriage partner?
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Are you sensitive, tuned in, alert?
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Are you sensitive?
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That's the s. are you attentive?
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Hello?
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Are you attentive to him, attentive to her?
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If you're sensitive, the follow-through is be attentive.
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And then, are you trustworthy?
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Are you a man or woman that can be trusted all times,
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All places?
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See, that's the tripod upon which planting must be there.
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"well, i'm just not like that, i'm not geared like," yes,
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You are.
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God works miracles when we're born again, he works miracles
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When we die and we graduate finally into that which we
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Already have, and he'll work a miracle in your marriage if a
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Lot of people would wake up, look up.
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Marriages that are successful, exciting, creative in everything
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You can imagine, their marriage, where there is weeding and where
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There is planting.
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You weed and you plant and you weed and you plant, and you wake
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Up one day and say, "i am amazed what god is doing in my life."
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So marriage is horizontal but marriage also is vertical,
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It's vertical.
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Let me say something, listen carefully to what i'm saying.
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If you do not pray with your wife, your husband, that is as
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Serious if you decide not to sleep with your wife or
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Your husband.
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Did you hear what i said?
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If you do not pray with your wife or your husband, that is at
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Least as serious as if you decide, "i'm not going to sleep
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With my wife or my husband."
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Why is that?
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Because a little bit of prayer with god and listening to god
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Together, if you've been a jerk, if you've been greedy, if you
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Hold grudges, if you've brought back some old problem that
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Happened way back here, listen, you can't really pray.
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Remember when you get naked and not ashamed?
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When we pray, we get naked before god.
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If you don't, he knows anyway.
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So when you pray together, exciting things happen,
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Wonderful things happen, all the phoniness, all the masks go away
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When you really go to the lord god and say, "lord, i've got
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This and that and the other."
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Man, it is magnificent.
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So there's horizontal, we weed and we plant, we weed and we
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Plant, and there's vertical, that's when we go to him and
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We pray.
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And in the process what begins to happen to men and women
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In marriage?
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They begin to unconditionally love each other as god
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Unconditionally, god loves every one of us regardless of anything
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We've done or will do or have done.
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His love is permanent and it does not change, it does not
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Vary, he just, in every situation, loves us.
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We get to that point with our mate, we just love them, because
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We are honest with god and honest with one another and
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There's weeding and there's planting and there's
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Praying together.
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And wonderful things happen and we realize we're going up that
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Triangle, we're becoming more and more literally one, we are
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One, but we're discovering what that oneness is all about and
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How magnificent it is.
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Paul says, ephesians 5, that, "nobody hates a part of their
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Body," you don't hate your body.
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The second great commandment, "love the lord thy god with all
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Of our heart, soul, mind, body, love your neighbor."
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Who is your closest neighbor?
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It's your mate, it's your spouse, "love your neighbor as
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You love yourself."
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Paul says nobody hates themselves, and therefore we're
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To love them because they're a part of us, we are one.
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I ran into a word that i did not know a couple of weeks ago,
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Emulsion, emulsion, i didn't know the meaning of that word.
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Now be careful, how many know the meaning of that word?
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Would you lift your hand and hold it there?
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If you know what emulsion, i didn't know, maybe you do, lift
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Your hand, hold it there if you know what emulsion means.
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Little, timid hand, way, hold it way up, if you know what
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Emulsion means, lift your hand.
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Now, a lot of the wives know that it's sort of a cooking
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Word, i have discovered that, emulsion is a beautiful word.
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Emulsion, well, i'll give an illustration: if you have oil
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And you have vinegar, and you mix them together and you shake
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Them hard enough, there is emulsion there.
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But what happens when the shaking stops?
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It begins to separate again, doesn't it?
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You see, oil, primarily, is fat, doesn't have any taste.
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Vinegar is an acidity type solution and it has a strong,
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Sharp taste.
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But you mix them together, you have oil and vinegar, and man,
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That's a pretty good thing, emulsion takes place, but if
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Cold comes, immediately they divide; if hot comes, just
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Almost immediately they divide.
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What a beautiful picture of marriage, of oneness.
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We come together, there's emulsion, but let some conflict
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Come, a little heat come, we begin to step away.
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Let some coldness come, ooh, we begin to divide.
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So what keeps emulsion there?
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We know that these are molecules that are opposite ends of the
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Pole and what is it that takes those molecules, what are the
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Hands that are used to bring emulsion together so that the
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Oil and vinegar stay together?
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Because you go to the grocery store and there's oil and
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Vinegar and it's not divided.
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What happened?
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Why is it different when we mix oil and vinegar?
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What's happened?
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Emulsion, and why is that oil and vinegar staying together?
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It's because there is a stabilizer that's added.
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Ah, added stabilizer.
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And that stabilizer, it just brings those different molecules
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From different polls, polar opposites together like a man
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And a woman, and brings them together and that stabilizer
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Keeps them as one.
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If you don't know you'll never guess what that stabilizer
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Normally is.
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In marriage, it's the lord jesus christ, ladies and gentlemen, it
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Is the lord jesus christ that takes these two polar opposites,
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Male and female, and brings them together in his principles, and
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That vertical relationship, that horizontal relationship, that
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Oneness is sealed together by god in jesus christ.
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And we seek to live together according to his principles,
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Where there's plenty of forgiveness, there's plenty of
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Loving, there's plenty of opportunity to really celebrate
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The sacred gift of marriage.
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The stabilizer is jesus.
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What is the stabilizer with oil and vinegar?
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Honey.
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Honey, is that terrific?
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Remember i told you your marriage can just stay there and
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You can have a bad marriage?
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You know, the marriage that's okay, sometimes good, sometimes
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Bad, we're just hanging on.
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Or you can have a marriage that is a perpetual honeymoon.
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Jesus christ keeps that oneness, that emulsion there.
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In marriage, therefore, in a human sense, is the most
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Fulfilling, meaningful and exciting gift that god has given
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To humanity.
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Ed: we have so much to be thankful for.
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And i wanna thank you for your faithfulness, your generosity,
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Your prayers as part of the "winning walk" family.
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And we want to enter 2026 strong, ready to reach even more
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People with the life-changing good news of jesus christ.
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I'm reminded of a story of a young american soldier
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In world war ii.
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It was on the eve of when he was to ship out for what would later
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Become known as d-day.
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The british allies held a dance at the uso.
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The soldier was just 18 years old.
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He asked an english girl to dance, and when the music
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Stopped, he spontaneously kissed her.
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She drew back, shocked.
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She asked him what in the world was he doing.
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He answered honestly, "i ship out in the morning.
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And i don't know what lies ahead, i'll live or die,
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And i've never kissed a girl before, so i thought
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This was a time for boldness."
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We live in an embattled culture.
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Now is the time for boldness.
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I believe that together we can finish the year strong and be
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Ready to start in 2026 with strength and boldness
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In sharing the truth of jesus christ
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To a dark and hungry world.
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Thank you again for boldly giving and
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Standing with "the winning walk," with me through
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Your prayers and support.
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God bless you, and your end of the year gift will be used
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To maintain and expand god's family around the world.
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Ed Young - An Unifying Marriage

December 11, 2025 | 29:0

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