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Ed Young - What Every Wife Wishes Her Husband Knew About Sex

July 12, 2026 | 27:29

Ed Young - What Every Wife Wishes Her Husband Knew About Sex
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The Winning Walk with Dr. Ed Young | Ed Young - What Every Wife Wishes Her Husband Knew About Sex | July 12, 2026
  • Women are crock
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  • Pots in love making
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  • Men are microwaves.
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  • All of us know that.
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  • Crock pot cooks all day.
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  • Microwave.
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  • Set the timer.
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  • Sex!
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  • I've always wanted just to shout
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  • That out.
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  • It's amazing how some people think
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  • That that subject should not be brought up in church.
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  • Today we're going to talk about,
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  • From a biblical perspective,
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  • What every wife would like
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  • For a husband to know about sex,
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  • What every wife wants her husband to know about sex.
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  • Now, because we are such egotistical,
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  • Narcissistic, masculine type of loons,
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  • We think we know everything guys,
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  • But we don't know what our wives
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  • Want us to know about this intimate part of marriage.
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  • We just don't know that.
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  • So listen.
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  • Please.
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  • I want every married man
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  • You're married right now
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  • To stand to your feet.
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  • Now, all of you guys.
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  • Most of you already mad at me.
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  • We don't like being called out.
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  • I don't like to go to some kind of public service,
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  • Particularly church.
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  • And they sort of spotlight me.
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  • And i have to do something.
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  • I just want to kind of be there.
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  • That's the way we're wired, men.
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  • But i'm standing with you, and i don't particularly
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  • Like it either.
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  • So i've called you out
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  • So you can listen to just
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  • One word of scripture,
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  • One clear word in first
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  • Peter, chapter three, verse number seven.
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  • You husbands, in the same way
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  • Live with your wives
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  • In an understanding way
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  • As with someone weaker since she is a woman,
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  • And show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of god,
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  • So that your prayers will not be hindered.
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  • Now, if
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  • You listen as that was being read,
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  • Perhaps most of you would come to the accurate conclusion
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  • That that scripture teaches
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  • The inspired hand of the apostle peter
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  • That says, husbands,
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  • Live with your wives and an understanding way.
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  • Did you
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  • Did you get that much?
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  • Did that just now?
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  • I'm going to assume that the men that are standing,
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  • That you want to live with your wife and understanding
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  • Way, that may be an overwhelming assumption,
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  • But i'm going to assume that,
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  • And therefore it applies to me
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  • Just like it does to you.
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  • I will live with my wife and understanding way.
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  • Now, if you'd like to join me in that witness,
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  • I want you to say that after me.
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  • Now, if you don't want to
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  • Join me, just stand there and be silent.
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  • But i want to live with my wife and understanding way.
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  • If you would like to join me in that commitment
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  • Right up front.
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  • Will you repeat those words after me?
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  • I want to live
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  • With my wife
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  • In an understanding way.
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  • Man, that was just overwhelming.
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  • Let's try it again.
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  • I want to live
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  • With my wife
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  • In an understanding way.
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  • You may be seated.
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  • You're going to love your wife and understanding way.
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  • Guys, this is the first thing you need to get.
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  • The first thing you need to understand.
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  • Your wife wants you to know she can't always respond.
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  • Did you get that?
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  • She can't always respond.
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  • Now, let me talk about the female
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  • Response in a dark area as to why some females can't respond.
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  • There is a dark area that is a very serious area.
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  • Then i'll move from the dark area
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  • While females can't respond into more of a practical way.
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  • Let's talk about the dark area.
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  • Some females have a background of widespread promiscuity,
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  • And therefore they feel like they've been hurt and abused
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  • And exploited by men,
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  • And they have a tough time responding to the entree
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  • And the initiation of their husband,
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  • Who is singing unchained melody all the time.
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  • There is a problem there many times.
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  • Also, there's a problem many times.
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  • When i read statistically that one third of all
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  • Females in america have been sexually abused.
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  • Now, i didn't believe those figures.
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  • I thought they were way too high,
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  • But i checked them more than once
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  • And they are reasonably accurate.
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  • One third of all females have been abused in
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  • Light of this many times, this inhibits the response.
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  • Also, we know that some females, for various reasons
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  • Have a very, very poor self-image.
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  • This inhibits their response.
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  • Also, some females have been brought up in a home,
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  • Or they have heard their mother or their grandmother
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  • Or some made friend say to them,
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  • Boys, sex is something you just have to endure.
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  • It's a terrible thing.
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  • Play the game acted out.
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  • It's it's the motions you had to go through in marriage.
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  • Don't tell your husband.
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  • Some of them brought in the idea
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  • Of some kind of twisted biblical logic
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  • That sex is under the curse.
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  • It's a result of the curse.
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  • I don't know how you can do any theological gymnastics
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  • To come up with that, but some have.
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  • So there are some very severe
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  • And dark reasons as to why some females do not respond.
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  • They've been abused. men have exploited them.
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  • They have hurt them.
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  • They have a poor self-image.
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  • And these are some things that would be dealt with
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  • Biblically by wise biblical counselors, by wise mentors,
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  • By people who understand and don't let the. past
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  • Wise determine the present the rest of your life.
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  • This can be healed and forgiven, and god's
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  • Grace works and you move on magnificently. but
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  • There are some reasons there they need to be dealt with.
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  • Now, practically, let's look on the other side.
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  • The truth is that some females
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  • Have trouble responding because,
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  • Let's get honest, they're just tired.
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  • They may work all day too, and they've got more family
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  • Responsibilities and more pressure on them
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  • And they are exhausted.
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  • Also, let me ask another question.
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  • Is it possible to have sex
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  • After children?
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  • That's humorous.
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  • Man, what a group.
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  • What am i saying?
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  • I'm saying until you have a child, you just don't.
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  • Extended date
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  • Right
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  • Now. those.
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  • You've never had children. you don't understand that.
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  • You think you understand it, but you will understand it.
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  • If you have children, you think it's an extended.
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  • Once a child is born.
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  • Things change with that female.
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  • Now she's getting the skin types.
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  • Touch the love that she needs with that baby.
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  • And there's so much emotion there.
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  • And she's so exhausted there.
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  • With a multiplicity of things that very few men
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  • Could handle for 24 hours, let alone day in and day out.
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  • So there's a different agenda there.
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  • So there's reasons, and your wife wants you
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  • To know, guys, there are some reasons
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  • That they can't always respond like we want them to respond.
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  • We've got to understand that if we are to live
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  • With our wives in an understanding way.
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  • The second thing, guys that your wife
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  • Want you to know about intimacy is
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  • She would say to you, i can't compartmentalize.
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  • Now, what does that mean?
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  • You see, a lot of people think that relationships is sex.
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  • The secular world thinks that relationship leads to sex.
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  • The truth is, sex is relationships.
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  • It is out of the right relationship.
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  • From a female perspective, there comes intimacy. men.
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  • We can compartmentalize things.
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  • You have an argument with your wife at breakfast.
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  • You disagree over kids, over
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  • Future, over planning, problem with finances, problem
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  • With what you said he said, she said.
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  • And you have sort of an argument at breakfast.
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  • You go home and you get through the day.
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  • You come home and eat dinner, watch a little tv at 10:00.
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  • You say, boy, now's the time.
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  • And she looks at you and she's still remembering
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  • The argument at breakfast.
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  • See, you put that in a compartment.
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  • Men can compartmentalize.
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  • We're going to have a problem here and a difficulty
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  • There and pressure over there and be upset there.
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  • We can have all these things put in compartment.
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  • Women aren't wired like that. guys
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  • With them.
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  • They're a right brain, left brain, body, soul, spirit.
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  • Everything goes into everything.
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  • They can't put it in a.
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  • The relationship is all important.
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  • How things are going between the two of you.
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  • Are you listening?
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  • Are you understanding?
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  • Are you on top of things?
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  • The third thing that every wife wants her husband to know
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  • Is simply, i can't ignore the atmosphere.
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  • Atmosphere is important to the female.
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  • I mean, maybe candles.
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  • I don't know what is going on,
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  • But the atmosphere is all important.
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  • And therefore when when there is a
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  • One of your children has a child over
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  • And there to another room and well,
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  • You don't have any problem there, the door is locked.
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  • And she says, oh, i'm there, they may need me,
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  • Or child is sick or you gotta get up the next
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  • Morning and, and and pack and go out of town and man.
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  • Amen.
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  • All of a sudden she can't ignore the atmosphere.
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  • Therefore, husband and wife need to work on something.
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  • It's what i call appetizer, intimacy,
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  • Main course intimacy
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  • And gourmet intimacy.
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  • Now, appetizer intimacy means the atmosphere is not right.
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  • The time is not right. man.
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  • This is a quick thing here.
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  • Let's move.
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  • That's appetizer intimacy.
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  • They need to work on this.
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  • Then there's main course intimacy.
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  • And that is well you know
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  • We're we're here and this is the routine.
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  • And things look all right.
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  • And we've got the relationship worked out
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  • And we're
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  • There's main course and then there's gourmet intimacy.
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  • And by the way, i'm not talking just about cohabitation.
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  • Nobody's understand me.
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  • This is far beyond that.
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  • GormĂ© intimacy is when you go off a night together.
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  • I don't care if you go to motel six
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  • And making a difference doesn't make difference.
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  • But two nights is like
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  • Another week compared to one night.
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  • Two nights at second night.
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  • Plan to do that just to walk around
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  • Together, to shop together, to hold hands together.
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  • And you will catch up on that 37 minutes a week
  • 00:12:44.486 --> 00:12:47.790
  • You spend talking to one another in a couple of nights.
  • 00:12:47.790 --> 00:12:51.594
  • That's a part
  • 00:12:51.961 --> 00:12:53.062
  • Of intimacy, that's a part of getting to know them.
  • 00:12:53.062 --> 00:12:55.497
  • And your wife just can't ignore the atmosphere.
  • 00:12:55.497 --> 00:13:00.202
  • The fourth thing is i
  • 00:13:00.703 --> 00:13:02.638
  • Can't be rushed.
  • 00:13:02.638 --> 00:13:05.507
  • Women are crock pots in love making
  • 00:13:05.507 --> 00:13:09.311
  • Men are microwaves.
  • 00:13:09.778 --> 00:13:11.347
  • All of us know that.
  • 00:13:11.347 --> 00:13:16.585
  • Crock pot cooks all day.
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  • Microwave.
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  • Set the timer.
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  • As we approach
  • 00:13:25.961 --> 00:13:26.896
  • Our fiscal year end on july the 31st.
  • 00:13:26.896 --> 00:13:30.466
  • We're also approaching a historic milestone.
  • 00:13:30.466 --> 00:13:33.836
  • Think about it.
  • 00:13:34.203 --> 00:13:35.104
  • America's 250th anniversary.
  • 00:13:35.104 --> 00:13:39.341
  • And as we reflect on what built this nation
  • 00:13:39.341 --> 00:13:42.678
  • Faith, family and freedom,
  • 00:13:42.678 --> 00:13:45.547
  • Fellowship, joy, meaning, significance, a family
  • 00:13:45.547 --> 00:13:49.818
  • Of god living together under the red, white and blue.
  • 00:13:49.818 --> 00:13:52.922
  • As we live under the banner of america,
  • 00:13:52.922 --> 00:13:56.225
  • We also recognize something deeply wrong.
  • 00:13:56.225 --> 00:14:00.095
  • Biblical truth is being challenged.
  • 00:14:00.095 --> 00:14:03.198
  • Families are under pressure and faith is no longer
  • 00:14:03.198 --> 00:14:06.602
  • At the center of our culture.
  • 00:14:06.602 --> 00:14:09.305
  • Now it's our turn.
  • 00:14:09.305 --> 00:14:11.307
  • Our turn to stand for what matters most.
  • 00:14:11.307 --> 00:14:14.443
  • Listen, when you request this much resource,
  • 00:14:14.443 --> 00:14:17.980
  • You're helping us proclaim the truth of god's word,
  • 00:14:17.980 --> 00:14:21.183
  • Strengthen families,
  • 00:14:21.183 --> 00:14:22.184
  • And advance faith across this great nation.
  • 00:14:22.184 --> 00:14:25.254
  • As i thank you, i would love to send you a signed
  • 00:14:25.254 --> 00:14:29.224
  • Copy of my book, healing broken america,
  • 00:14:29.224 --> 00:14:32.895
  • A book that i have written to help us understand
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  • And to navigate our way through all the challenges
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  • Of the 21st century in our land as we come to our fiscal
  • 00:14:39.768 --> 00:14:44.106
  • Year end.
  • 00:14:44.106 --> 00:14:45.174
  • I'm asking you to step forward in a meaningful way.
  • 00:14:45.174 --> 00:14:48.243
  • Consider a gift of $250,
  • 00:14:48.243 --> 00:14:52.181
  • Or really ten others, to give $25 a dollar
  • 00:14:52.181 --> 00:14:55.851
  • For every year of our nation's existence.
  • 00:14:55.851 --> 00:14:58.988
  • We give that to the winning walk so that it can continue
  • 00:14:58.988 --> 00:15:02.558
  • To be broadcast around the world.
  • 00:15:02.558 --> 00:15:05.828
  • Your support helps us bring biblical truth,
  • 00:15:05.828 --> 00:15:08.797
  • Encouragement, and meaning across america.
  • 00:15:08.797 --> 00:15:12.334
  • So let's stand together and believe god for renewal
  • 00:15:12.334 --> 00:15:15.371
  • And revival in our great nation.
  • 00:15:15.371 --> 00:15:19.108
  • For if america would catch far for christ,
  • 00:15:19.108 --> 00:15:21.744
  • It would touch the entire world.
  • 00:15:21.744 --> 00:15:24.279
  • Thank you.
  • 00:15:24.279 --> 00:15:25.948
  • Making this possible with your participation
  • 00:15:25.948 --> 00:15:28.984
  • In prayer and gifts to the winning walk.
  • 00:15:28.984 --> 00:15:39.661
  • When you understand
  • 00:15:40.129 --> 00:15:41.764
  • These things, male and female,
  • 00:15:41.764 --> 00:15:45.467
  • You've taken a giant step in seeing the big picture
  • 00:15:45.467 --> 00:15:50.739
  • Of god's gift of intimacy in marriage.
  • 00:15:50.739 --> 00:15:55.878
  • You see, most of us
  • 00:15:56.345 --> 00:15:57.546
  • Are not enjoying marriage the way god designed it
  • 00:15:57.546 --> 00:16:01.917
  • Because the guys are absolute
  • 00:16:01.917 --> 00:16:04.686
  • Knuckleheads.
  • 00:16:04.686 --> 00:16:07.823
  • Those are four things
  • 00:16:07.823 --> 00:16:10.759
  • That you need to know
  • 00:16:11.260 --> 00:16:13.462
  • About sex and remember about sex and intimacy.
  • 00:16:13.462 --> 00:16:17.166
  • Your wife wants you to know those four things.
  • 00:16:17.166 --> 00:16:19.935
  • We need to know those four things.
  • 00:16:19.935 --> 00:16:22.938
  • Now we look at a chapter five
  • 00:16:23.572 --> 00:16:27.443
  • And paul is summarizing everything about marriage.
  • 00:16:27.443 --> 00:16:31.547
  • And this is a very, very, very key verse.
  • 00:16:31.547 --> 00:16:35.017
  • Look at it with me.
  • 00:16:35.017 --> 00:16:35.818
  • Ephesians five, verse 33,
  • 00:16:35.818 --> 00:16:37.719
  • He summarizing the role of a husband,
  • 00:16:37.719 --> 00:16:39.855
  • The role of a wife, intimacy, etc.
  • 00:16:39.855 --> 00:16:41.957
  • Look what he says. nevertheless,
  • 00:16:41.957 --> 00:16:44.793
  • Each individual among you
  • 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:47.129
  • Also is to love his own wife, even as himself
  • 00:16:47.129 --> 00:16:51.567
  • And the wife must see to it that she respects
  • 00:16:51.567 --> 00:16:55.370
  • Her husband.
  • 00:16:55.370 --> 00:16:58.407
  • That's the summary, men.
  • 00:16:58.407 --> 00:17:01.076
  • We're to love our wives.
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  • When we love our wives, guess what?
  • 00:17:03.612 --> 00:17:06.181
  • They respect us.
  • 00:17:06.181 --> 00:17:09.685
  • Men, we need respect.
  • 00:17:10.185 --> 00:17:12.721
  • Wives need love.
  • 00:17:12.721 --> 00:17:15.224
  • Now, i've reminded you in every time we met.
  • 00:17:15.224 --> 00:17:18.427
  • I think every time we've looked at this, nowhere in the bible
  • 00:17:18.427 --> 00:17:23.098
  • Do you see a command for the wife to love her husband.
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  • Three times.
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  • You see a clear command for the husband.
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  • Love the wife.
  • 00:17:29.738 --> 00:17:30.839
  • I asked you why is that?
  • 00:17:30.839 --> 00:17:32.908
  • Is because god does not command something
  • 00:17:32.908 --> 00:17:37.279
  • That is innate, that is already taking place.
  • 00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:41.016
  • Women are natural lovers, guys.
  • 00:17:41.016 --> 00:17:44.653
  • They are built in lovers.
  • 00:17:45.220 --> 00:17:47.222
  • Unless that love
  • 00:17:47.222 --> 00:17:48.257
  • Has been so twisted or confused or pushed away.
  • 00:17:48.257 --> 00:17:51.894
  • Women are five beta kappa lovers.
  • 00:17:51.894 --> 00:17:55.130
  • So, you know, i had to command someone to somebody,
  • 00:17:55.130 --> 00:17:57.666
  • Do something
  • 00:17:57.666 --> 00:17:58.734
  • That they're naturally built and constructed to do.
  • 00:17:58.734 --> 00:18:01.937
  • But we have to be commanded to love.
  • 00:18:02.704 --> 00:18:05.774
  • You say, well, i want to love.
  • 00:18:05.774 --> 00:18:07.242
  • I don't know how to love. what does it mean to love?
  • 00:18:07.242 --> 00:18:09.678
  • I try to love guys.
  • 00:18:09.678 --> 00:18:12.181
  • You married the one who can teach you to love.
  • 00:18:12.181 --> 00:18:15.484
  • Watch how she loves jo.
  • 00:18:15.484 --> 00:18:17.452
  • Beth writes me a little notes.
  • 00:18:17.452 --> 00:18:19.621
  • She just touches me. she smiles.
  • 00:18:19.621 --> 00:18:21.757
  • She teases me.
  • 00:18:21.757 --> 00:18:22.724
  • She encourages me.
  • 00:18:22.724 --> 00:18:24.226
  • She embraces me.
  • 00:18:24.226 --> 00:18:25.827
  • She's teaching me how to love.
  • 00:18:25.827 --> 00:18:27.763
  • If i haven't learned from the best teacher in the world.
  • 00:18:27.763 --> 00:18:30.465
  • You've married the best teacher.
  • 00:18:30.465 --> 00:18:33.168
  • Lune.
  • 00:18:33.168 --> 00:18:36.104
  • I'm looking at myself.
  • 00:18:33.602 --> 00:18:38.707
  • That's how we learn how to love.
  • 00:18:38.707 --> 00:18:41.476
  • But it says the wife is to respect your husband.
  • 00:18:41.476 --> 00:18:44.346
  • Where does the wife learn to respect your husband?
  • 00:18:44.346 --> 00:18:46.481
  • You see a wife
  • 00:18:46.481 --> 00:18:48.884
  • Seeking to love her husband begins to correct
  • 00:18:48.884 --> 00:18:52.621
  • And point out flaws and inconsistencies,
  • 00:18:52.621 --> 00:18:55.824
  • And a wife begins to speak and lecture that husband.
  • 00:18:55.824 --> 00:18:59.261
  • The husband doesn't interpret that as the wife is loving me,
  • 00:18:59.261 --> 00:19:02.931
  • Trying to improve me.
  • 00:19:02.931 --> 00:19:04.399
  • The husband sees my wife is not respecting me.
  • 00:19:04.399 --> 00:19:09.404
  • See, that's how he hears that.
  • 00:19:10.005 --> 00:19:11.406
  • And we have to have respect.
  • 00:19:11.406 --> 00:19:14.409
  • That's our food.
  • 00:19:14.409 --> 00:19:15.444
  • That's our water that keeps us alive.
  • 00:19:15.444 --> 00:19:18.880
  • A wife has to have love.
  • 00:19:18.880 --> 00:19:20.482
  • That's her water that keeps her alive.
  • 00:19:20.482 --> 00:19:23.852
  • So where does a wife learn how to respect her husband?
  • 00:19:23.852 --> 00:19:28.557
  • Your husband respects certain people.
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  • You know it.
  • 00:19:31.093 --> 00:19:33.428
  • What does he do to show respect?
  • 00:19:33.428 --> 00:19:36.465
  • He knows somebody now. husbands.
  • 00:19:36.465 --> 00:19:38.734
  • If if if a man does not respect another man,
  • 00:19:38.734 --> 00:19:41.870
  • That person either becomes an enemy
  • 00:19:42.638 --> 00:19:44.606
  • Or that person you walk away from.
  • 00:19:44.606 --> 00:19:46.608
  • Are you getting a fistfight?
  • 00:19:46.608 --> 00:19:48.877
  • Right, guys, every man understands that.
  • 00:19:48.877 --> 00:19:51.446
  • You know, men respect men.
  • 00:19:51.446 --> 00:19:53.148
  • It's a part it's built in with us.
  • 00:19:53.148 --> 00:19:54.916
  • I respect you, you respect me.
  • 00:19:54.916 --> 00:19:56.852
  • I look around this place, i see me and i know and i respect.
  • 00:19:56.852 --> 00:20:01.023
  • That's the way we're built.
  • 00:20:01.023 --> 00:20:03.025
  • See, we're made like that.
  • 00:20:03.025 --> 00:20:05.527
  • Women can learn how to respect us by seeing how
  • 00:20:05.527 --> 00:20:08.730
  • We respect other men, how we respect other people.
  • 00:20:08.730 --> 00:20:12.901
  • Now, what happens in a relationship
  • 00:20:12.901 --> 00:20:17.572
  • When the
  • 00:20:17.839 --> 00:20:18.540
  • Husband does not love his wife?
  • 00:20:18.540 --> 00:20:22.210
  • She diminishes.
  • 00:20:22.577 --> 00:20:25.147
  • She gets smaller.
  • 00:20:25.147 --> 00:20:27.416
  • She needs love.
  • 00:20:27.416 --> 00:20:30.118
  • She has a capacity love.
  • 00:20:30.118 --> 00:20:31.687
  • She must be loved. if a husband doesn't
  • 00:20:31.687 --> 00:20:33.588
  • Love the wife, the wife is diminished.
  • 00:20:33.588 --> 00:20:36.658
  • And when the wife does not respect her
  • 00:20:37.426 --> 00:20:39.494
  • Husband, the husband is diminished.
  • 00:20:39.494 --> 00:20:42.264
  • The husband gets smaller.
  • 00:20:42.264 --> 00:20:43.465
  • And when you get in that cycle, he's not loving her
  • 00:20:43.465 --> 00:20:47.069
  • Because she doesn't respect him
  • 00:20:47.069 --> 00:20:48.704
  • And she doesn't respect him and he doesn't love her.
  • 00:20:48.704 --> 00:20:51.506
  • See, it works both ways.
  • 00:20:51.506 --> 00:20:53.408
  • She does not respect him.
  • 00:20:53.408 --> 00:20:54.943
  • He does not love her. he does not love her.
  • 00:20:54.943 --> 00:20:57.346
  • She does not respect him.
  • 00:20:57.346 --> 00:20:58.647
  • And it's a downward cycle that a lot of marriages
  • 00:20:58.647 --> 00:21:01.783
  • Get caught in.
  • 00:21:01.783 --> 00:21:02.984
  • And someday they wake up way down at the bottom of the area
  • 00:21:02.984 --> 00:21:06.288
  • And they're they're caught, they're captured,
  • 00:21:06.288 --> 00:21:09.925
  • And they don't know what to do.
  • 00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:14.162
  • Now we realize the need
  • 00:21:14.663 --> 00:21:20.569
  • That the men have for unconditional love.
  • 00:21:20.569 --> 00:21:22.904
  • Well, they failed and and he's having a tough time.
  • 00:21:22.904 --> 00:21:25.574
  • He didn't get the promotion and things are going bad.
  • 00:21:25.574 --> 00:21:28.243
  • Listen, wives,
  • 00:21:28.243 --> 00:21:29.378
  • You are called to be a cheerleader for your husband.
  • 00:21:29.378 --> 00:21:33.281
  • Cheerleaders.
  • 00:21:33.648 --> 00:21:34.850
  • They don't care if the team's really ahead
  • 00:21:34.850 --> 00:21:37.052
  • 20 points or 30 points.
  • 00:21:37.052 --> 00:21:38.387
  • I mean, they're going to cheer.
  • 00:21:38.387 --> 00:21:40.655
  • I mean, they cheer, they they
  • 00:21:40.655 --> 00:21:42.424
  • They cheer and cheer for the team.
  • 00:21:42.424 --> 00:21:45.961
  • And that's showing respect for the team.
  • 00:21:45.961 --> 00:21:48.296
  • Cheerleaders are built in individuals
  • 00:21:48.296 --> 00:21:51.533
  • Who respect the team, and they cheer for that team.
  • 00:21:51.533 --> 00:21:55.203
  • Fourth quarter getting beat 48 to nothing.
  • 00:21:55.203 --> 00:21:57.305
  • That's all right, man.
  • 00:21:57.305 --> 00:21:58.340
  • I'm cheering for my team.
  • 00:21:58.340 --> 00:22:00.876
  • Right.
  • 00:22:00.876 --> 00:22:01.877
  • Wives are to be cheerleaders.
  • 00:22:01.877 --> 00:22:04.179
  • Husbands are to be fans i love sports.
  • 00:22:04.179 --> 00:22:08.784
  • I can sit out in your backyard and watch your son or daughter
  • 00:22:08.784 --> 00:22:11.887
  • Play basketball for hours.
  • 00:22:11.887 --> 00:22:13.388
  • I'm just happy as i can be.
  • 00:22:13.388 --> 00:22:14.723
  • I'm a purist, i love sports, i like the game for
  • 00:22:14.723 --> 00:22:18.393
  • The game's sake.
  • 00:22:18.393 --> 00:22:20.362
  • And let me tell you
  • 00:22:20.829 --> 00:22:22.664
  • Guys, your wife is to be you, to be her greatest fan.
  • 00:22:22.664 --> 00:22:26.968
  • That's how you show love to her.
  • 00:22:26.968 --> 00:22:29.704
  • You just cheer for that guy.
  • 00:22:29.704 --> 00:22:31.373
  • Gals. you show respect, man.
  • 00:22:31.373 --> 00:22:34.276
  • You just are a fan of your wife.
  • 00:22:34.276 --> 00:22:36.311
  • Whatever the circumstances.
  • 00:22:36.311 --> 00:22:37.579
  • She knows in you. she's got a supporter.
  • 00:22:37.579 --> 00:22:40.015
  • She's got somebody who's with you,
  • 00:22:40.015 --> 00:22:41.616
  • Somebody who believes in you,
  • 00:22:41.616 --> 00:22:43.018
  • Somebody who knows that
  • 00:22:43.018 --> 00:22:44.085
  • You're the most
  • 00:22:44.085 --> 00:22:45.053
  • Beautiful person on the earth because you're
  • 00:22:45.053 --> 00:22:46.822
  • The rest of themselves.
  • 00:22:46.822 --> 00:22:48.590
  • You put it all together.
  • 00:22:48.590 --> 00:22:51.526
  • How we begin to know how this thing works.
  • 00:22:52.427 --> 00:22:58.266
  • And if you were true, guys, when you stood up
  • 00:22:58.266 --> 00:23:01.236
  • Again of the service and that terrible pastor
  • 00:23:01.236 --> 00:23:04.072
  • Put you on the spot and made you say,
  • 00:23:04.072 --> 00:23:07.676
  • You know, i want to, i will live with my wife
  • 00:23:07.676 --> 00:23:10.345
  • And understanding way, this is the way it's done.
  • 00:23:10.345 --> 00:23:15.183
  • This is it.
  • 00:23:15.517 --> 00:23:17.652
  • This is god's choreography for marriage.
  • 00:23:17.652 --> 00:23:22.757
  • It's god's plan.
  • 00:23:22.757 --> 00:23:24.125
  • It's god's music.
  • 00:23:24.125 --> 00:23:25.460
  • And don't miss out on what he has.
  • 00:23:25.460 --> 00:23:28.296
  • Don't just go
  • 00:23:28.296 --> 00:23:29.331
  • Part of the way or part partial part of the way.
  • 00:23:29.331 --> 00:23:32.234
  • Guys go all the way and say, i want my marriage to sizzle.
  • 00:23:32.234 --> 00:23:37.305
  • I want him to become everything god intends for it to become.
  • 00:23:37.305 --> 00:23:41.343
  • Right at this moment in my life,
  • 00:23:41.343 --> 00:23:43.011
  • I've been married 50 years.
  • 00:23:43.011 --> 00:23:44.846
  • I can tell you
  • 00:23:44.846 --> 00:23:46.314
  • There is more sizzle and excitement
  • 00:23:46.314 --> 00:23:48.316
  • And meaning and fun and creativity in my marriage
  • 00:23:48.316 --> 00:23:51.186
  • Than it's ever been, and it's just grown through the years.
  • 00:23:51.186 --> 00:23:55.457
  • Not that i'm the good husband.
  • 00:23:56.057 --> 00:23:58.793
  • I just married a terrific gal.
  • 00:23:58.793 --> 00:24:02.097
  • And i'll tell you one thing, i'm i'm her
  • 00:24:02.097 --> 00:24:05.133
  • Best fan in this world now.
  • 00:24:05.133 --> 00:24:10.038
  • Let me tell you what happens
  • 00:24:10.639 --> 00:24:11.706
  • When you get in this downward cycle here, guys.
  • 00:24:11.706 --> 00:24:15.410
  • What happens is some man stands up
  • 00:24:16.144 --> 00:24:18.647
  • And think you're supposed
  • 00:24:18.647 --> 00:24:20.048
  • To live with your wife as if you own the team,
  • 00:24:20.048 --> 00:24:23.618
  • Guys, you don't own the team.
  • 00:24:24.252 --> 00:24:26.755
  • And wives have the idea.
  • 00:24:26.755 --> 00:24:28.857
  • I'm the coach of this team.
  • 00:24:28.857 --> 00:24:30.759
  • You're not the coach of this team.
  • 00:24:30.759 --> 00:24:32.894
  • Females are cheerleaders and guys are fans.
  • 00:24:32.894 --> 00:24:36.464
  • And then when
  • 00:24:36.831 --> 00:24:39.901
  • The wife is being loved as
  • 00:24:39.901 --> 00:24:41.570
  • Christ loved the church,
  • 00:24:41.570 --> 00:24:44.806
  • Then the wife will not to respect the husband
  • 00:24:44.806 --> 00:24:48.276
  • The way that we need our ego, we need that respect,
  • 00:24:48.276 --> 00:24:51.713
  • And it's all unconditionally.
  • 00:24:51.713 --> 00:24:53.448
  • And suddenly there is a divine dance.
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  • There's a divine dance,
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  • And we have that strong.
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  • Call,
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  • Testosterone call comes to the
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  • Guy, but the guy understands.
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  • His wife is saying, i can't always respond.
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  • The guy understands.
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  • I can't compartmentalize,
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  • The guy understands. oh.
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  • I can't ignore the environment.
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  • The guy understands.
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  • I can't be rushed.
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  • But then all of a sudden, in the love
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  • And respect and respect and love that's taking place
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  • In that marriage, and the chemistry is there.
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  • There you have the great love song of god
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  • To become one.
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  • And there is a dance that is
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  • Out of this world.
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  • America the beautiful, our country
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  • After home sweet home.
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  • But our america is hurting.
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  • We see it in our fractured, divided communities
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  • And in our struggling families.
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  • God's answer for a broken nation has never been found
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  • In politics, power, or human effort alone.
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  • God says, if my people who are called by
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  • My name will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and
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  • Turn from their wicked ways, then i will hear from heaven,
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  • Forgive their sin, and heal their land.
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  • Healing begins when god's people return to him.
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  • Because when
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