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Your Move with Andy Stanley

Andy Stanley - A Better Question (Part 1)

January 3, 2026 | 28:29

Andy Stanley - A Better Question (Part 1)
Your Move with Andy Stanley — to help people make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.
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Your Move with Andy Stanley | Andy Stanley - A Better Question (Part 1) | January 3, 2026
  • Andy stanley: hi everybody, welcome to "your move," where we
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  • Help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.
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  • I'm andy stanley and i'll be your guide.
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  • Now, you have probably noticed that people with power usually
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  • Leverage that power to keep it and to--well, to get more of it,
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  • Which is unfortunate because, well, imagine what our
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  • Communities, our families, our world would look like if we all
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  • Used our influence to benefit the people around us instead of,
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  • Well, instead of just the person in the mirror.
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  • Somebody's gotta go first.
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  • Why not you?
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  • Why not me?
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  • Stick around and we'll talk about what that might look like,
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  • Right here on "your move."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Andy: now, as we start a new year, this is typically, for
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  • Many of us, the season of self-improvement, which is good.
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  • And the reason this is good, and i don't have anybody in mind,
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  • But some of you, you need to improve yourself, okay?
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  • I'll just leave it at that, okay?
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  • So this is a good thing.
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  • This is where we become painfully aware because we're
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  • Reminded, painfully aware of where we are and where we're
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  • Not, what we need to start, what we need to stop doing.
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  • What we need to start eating and stop eating, eat more of and eat
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  • Less of.
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  • And in many of our cases, it's the same stuff that we decided a
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  • Year ago that we were going to do less of, and do more of, and
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  • Stop eating as much of.
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  • And i get that.
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  • I'm guilty of that as well.
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  • And in this season, we're really asking, without--i mean, you
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  • Didn't have this question before today, but basically the
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  • Question for most of us during the season is, what should i do
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  • About me?
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  • And this is an important question to ask.
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  • In fact, multiple times at our church, we talk about things
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  • That you need to work on for you, and i need to work on
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  • For me.
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  • What can i do to make myself, in this case, you know, smarter,
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  • What can i do to make myself slimmer or stronger, healthier,
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  • Wealthier, successful-er?
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  • Maybe you want, this year, to make yourself less lonelier.
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  • And as a pastor, i just want to say, go for it.
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  • I hope you accomplish all of those goals.
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  • I hope next year your goals are different, because you've been
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  • So successful this year.
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  • Stick with them, get that degree, you know, break
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  • That habit.
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  • For some of you, it's get out of debt.
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  • I hope you're massively successful and consistent.
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  • But i want to, in the next three times we're together, beginning
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  • Today, i want to add a question.
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  • I want to give you something to add.
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  • A second question that actually is gonna potentially help you.
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  • It may actually motivate you with your, "what should i do
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  • About me" goals, but it's a different question.
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  • It's not a religious question, so if you're not a religious
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  • Person or you're new to faith, or you've abandoned faith, or
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  • Somebody dragged you in here, you're spending the night with
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  • Family and they're making you watch this, sorry.
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  • This has nothing to do with religion.
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  • This is just a really important question that i think, and i
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  • Think you'll agree, that everybody should ask and answer.
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  • And everybody should ask this question in every season of
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  • Life, because the answer, or the answers, to this question change
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  • With each season of our life.
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  • In fact, if the question, and i'll tell you what it is in just
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  • A minute, if it sounds familiar, it's because i introduced this
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  • Back in 2015, and every once in a while, i kind of drop it into
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  • Something as a reminder.
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  • But in every season, we should all, i think, dust this off and
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  • Ask and answer this question.
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  • Now, a little heads up, a little warning, this question will mess
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  • With you.
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  • It will bother you.
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  • It may make you feel guilty.
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  • It may motivate you, if we allow it to do its work.
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  • This is the kind of question that can focus you and maybe
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  • Change you.
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  • I mean, as we're gonna discover, this question or similar
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  • Questions actually change some people's life.
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  • It has the potential to change--honestly, this isn't
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  • Preacher talk--it has the potential to change the
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  • Trajectory of your life.
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  • You may be surprised by a rush of emotion or maybe a rush
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  • Of guilt.
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  • I think, when we ask this question, some of us, if we're
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  • Honest, we're tempted to look away, because the answer
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  • Scares us.
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  • For some of you, when i ask the question, you're gonna know the
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  • Answer immediately.
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  • Others of you aren't going to have an answer, and that's okay.
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  • We're gonna talk about it for a while.
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  • This is just the beginning of the conversation, so there's
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  • No guilt.
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  • And if you don't have an answer, that's okay.
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  • But i would suggest you write it down and put the question
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  • Somewhere where you can look at it, because this is the kind of
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  • Question that will make your life better.
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  • Now, if you're a christian--again, this isn't a
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  • Religious question, but if you are a christian, especially if
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  • You've committed to being a jesus follower, this, i don't
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  • Know, this question is important for us for several reasons, and
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  • We're gonna talk about one specifically next time.
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  • But the reason we should all take this seriously, as
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  • Christians especially, is because this question or the
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  • Sentiment behind the question, the thing that fuels the
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  • Question, actually threads its way through the entire story and
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  • History of our faith.
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  • I'll give you a couple of examples.
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  • The sort of the, i don't know, the oxygen, the thing that fuels
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  • This question is the reason that moses, most of us don't know
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  • Enough about the story of moses, is the reason that moses
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  • Couldn't stand by and do nothing while his people labored and
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  • Suffered under the authority and the mistreatment of their
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  • Egyptian taskmasters.
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  • I mean, we know--most of us know the story about "let my
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  • People go."
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  • Moses just--and the thing about moses, he was a prince.
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  • He was actually part of pharaoh's household.
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  • But he was related to this nation of slaves.
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  • And it would have been so easy for him to just look the other
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  • Way and just, you know, kind of ride this out
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  • As a prince of egypt.
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  • And he just couldn't do it.
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  • It's why--and this isn't as familiar a story, but it's a
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  • Powerful story.
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  • It's why queen esther, in the 5th century, she was actually a
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  • Queen of persia.
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  • She was the wife of the most powerful person in the world.
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  • And if you know the story, it's why she couldn't stand by and do
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  • Nothing when she discovered that there was a plot to exterminate
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  • All the jews in persia.
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  • And she finds out about this, and she's the queen, but it's
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  • Not like we think, kings and queens, because, you know, the
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  • King had a harem.
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  • It was king xerxes.
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  • And as the story goes, he chose her as the queen because she was
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  • The most beautiful person in the empire that he could find.
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  • But he had, you know, other stuff going on.
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  • And so you didn't just walk into the presence and say, "honey,
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  • I've got a question."
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  • In fact, there was a law that you could not enter king
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  • Xerxes's presence without being invited, and if you did, it was
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  • The death penalty.
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  • And she discovers there's this plot, and the only person that
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  • Can stop her people from being exterminated is king xerxes.
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  • And he hasn't called--you should read the story.
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  • He hasn't called on her in over 30 days.
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  • And so she gathers some people together, she says, "you gotta
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  • Pray for me, you gotta fast, because i'm going in.
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  • And if he doesn't hold out his gold scepter, my life is over.
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  • But i've got to go in anyway."
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  • And then she makes this famous statement.
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  • Maybe you've heard this statement before and didn't know
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  • Who originally said it, and she said, "and"--i love this.
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  • "if i perish, i perish.
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  • But i can't stand around and do nothing."
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  • This question and the sentiment behind this question is really
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  • What fueled nehemiah, one of the greatest leadership stories in
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  • Ancient history, maybe ever.
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  • And one of the great things about the story of nehemiah,
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  • Maybe for us, is there's no miracles, you know, god doesn't
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  • Do anything unusual, it's just good old-fashioned leadership
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  • And work.
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  • Nehemiah was the cupbearer to king artaxerxes of
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  • Persia, again.
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  • And he's got it made.
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  • He's got like this cush job.
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  • He's just, i mean, he's living the dream in the most powerful
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  • Empire in the world.
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  • He's got a relationship with the most powerful man alive at
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  • That time.
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  • And he gets news that things are not going well in judea,
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  • Jerusalem, where he's from, because he's a judaean,
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  • Originally his family was.
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  • And he's got this tension on the inside.
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  • "things are bad there, but things are good here, but i
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  • Can't unhear what i've heard."
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  • And he goes to king artaxerxes and he asks for permission to
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  • Leave his service.
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  • Nobody does this.
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  • I mean, you spend your whole life getting to this place.
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  • He asks for permission to leave his service to go back to
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  • Jerusalem, to do something for the people.
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  • In fact, he actually says, "would you make me the governor
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  • Of jerusalem of judea, so i'll have the authority to go back
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  • And address the economy, to go back and address the fact that
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  • The gates have been burned down, the walls have been torn down,
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  • That things are--that people are depressed and distressed?"
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  • And the king says, "you have permission to go," and he goes,
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  • And it's an extraordinary, extraordinary story.
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  • But the thing that caused him to leave what was comfortable for
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  • What was uncomfortable, really is behind the question that
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  • We're gonna wrestle with for the next few times that
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  • We're together.
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  • In some way, you know, this is the reason that jesus left his
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  • Father's side in heaven, the best that we can understand
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  • That, and came to be one of us and to live among us and to
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  • Suffer as one of us.
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  • It is certainly, no exaggeration, it was certainly
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  • The reason that he left the safety of galilee, where it was
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  • His people, and traveled south to the lions' den of jerusalem,
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  • Knowing what awaited him there.
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  • And it's not just the ancient world that's been impacted by
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  • This question or a question like it.
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  • The modern world, in fact, the modern world has been shaped by
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  • Men and women who've refused to--this is so important--who've
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  • Refused to look the other way, who've refused to look the other
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  • Way when the answer to this question became apparent.
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  • It's why dr. king left the comfort and the safety of the
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  • North, to come to the uncomfortable, unsafe south, and
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  • He stayed here, because he could not unhear what he had heard, he
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  • Could not unread what he'd read, and he could not unsee what
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  • He'd seen.
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  • That's why my friends, and some of your friends as well, janine
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  • And ian maxwell.
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  • Janine ran one of the largest and most successful marketing
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  • Companies in canada some years ago.
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  • It's why ian and janine maxwell moved to a pretty much forgotten
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  • Kingdom in the middle of africa, 12 years ago.
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  • They had visited swaziland.
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  • The king later renamed it eswatini.
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  • It's kind of cool, if you're the king, you can say, "we're gonna
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  • Rename our country," and everybody just nods.
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  • So he renamed the country eswatini.
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  • But when they moved there, and when they first originally
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  • Visited there, it was the kingdom of swaziland.
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  • And when they got there, they saw children raising children,
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  • Because the aids pandemic had destroyed and killed off almost
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  • All the adults years ago.
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  • Sandra and i went and visited with them there, and we saw
  • 00:10:56.040 --> 00:10:58.876
  • This first-hand.
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  • And when you see it, you can't unsee it.
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  • And so they shut down their business and they moved to
  • 00:11:03.514 --> 00:11:06.650
  • Swaziland, now eswatini, and they just began rescuing babies.
  • 00:11:06.650 --> 00:11:11.355
  • When we were there, we went with them to rescue two babies.
  • 00:11:11.355 --> 00:11:14.892
  • And the first thing they do is have them tested to see if
  • 00:11:14.892 --> 00:11:17.461
  • They're hiv-positive, and oftentimes they are.
  • 00:11:17.461 --> 00:11:20.765
  • And they've been rescuing babies for 12 years.
  • 00:11:20.765 --> 00:11:23.334
  • And if you're wondering how many babies they've rescued, i had
  • 00:11:23.334 --> 00:11:27.104
  • Her send me this picture this week.
  • 00:11:27.104 --> 00:11:28.606
  • They've rescued this many babies, because that was 12
  • 00:11:28.606 --> 00:11:32.109
  • Years ago, and now they're 12 years old and 11 years old.
  • 00:11:32.109 --> 00:11:34.879
  • And this is janine.
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  • 401, this is number 401.
  • 00:11:36.247 --> 00:11:39.650
  • There's ian on the other side.
  • 00:11:39.650 --> 00:11:41.652
  • Because once they saw it, they couldn't unsee it.
  • 00:11:41.652 --> 00:11:45.389
  • And then she tricked me.
  • 00:11:45.389 --> 00:11:47.925
  • She named one of the babies andy.
  • 00:11:47.925 --> 00:11:51.228
  • And now i have to fund them for the rest of my life.
  • 00:11:51.228 --> 00:11:54.965
  • So little andrew, actually--i'm just kidding, anyway.
  • 00:11:54.965 --> 00:11:57.902
  • This question is why sandra and i became foster parents.
  • 00:11:57.902 --> 00:12:02.273
  • [sighs]
  • 00:12:02.273 --> 00:12:03.707
  • Sorry.
  • 00:12:03.707 --> 00:12:05.075
  • We had a friend and he told us his story.
  • 00:12:05.075 --> 00:12:06.644
  • He was a foster kid, grew up in foster homes.
  • 00:12:06.644 --> 00:12:09.446
  • And i listened to his story, we listened to his story and we
  • 00:12:09.446 --> 00:12:11.515
  • Were like, "i can't unhear that."
  • 00:12:11.515 --> 00:12:14.151
  • And suddenly i've become aware.
  • 00:12:14.151 --> 00:12:17.121
  • We wake up to a reality in our communities that we didn't know
  • 00:12:17.121 --> 00:12:20.324
  • About before, and once you know you can't unknow.
  • 00:12:20.324 --> 00:12:22.927
  • And we couldn't, you know, foster all the kids that needed
  • 00:12:22.927 --> 00:12:25.029
  • To be fostered, but we could foster some.
  • 00:12:25.029 --> 00:12:27.565
  • And so for 10 years, you know, kids are in and out of our home.
  • 00:12:27.565 --> 00:12:32.803
  • So all that to say this, when we address and when i give you the
  • 00:12:32.803 --> 00:12:38.108
  • Question, you may not have an answer.
  • 00:12:38.108 --> 00:12:41.145
  • And that's okay.
  • 00:12:41.145 --> 00:12:42.513
  • You may not have an answer yet.
  • 00:12:42.513 --> 00:12:43.848
  • But in the meantime, i want you to write this down.
  • 00:12:43.848 --> 00:12:46.150
  • And i want you to put it somewhere.
  • 00:12:46.150 --> 00:12:48.219
  • And i'm inviting you to allow this question to bother you,
  • 00:12:48.219 --> 00:12:53.424
  • Until you have some sort of answer.
  • 00:12:53.424 --> 00:12:58.195
  • On the other hand, as soon as i give you the question, some of
  • 00:12:58.195 --> 00:13:01.265
  • You are gonna know immediately what the answer is, and you're
  • 00:13:01.265 --> 00:13:03.367
  • Gonna be frustrated because you're like, "yeah, i think
  • 00:13:03.367 --> 00:13:05.703
  • About that all the time, andy, but i don't know what to do and
  • 00:13:05.703 --> 00:13:07.605
  • I don't think there's anything i can do, and thanks for reminding
  • 00:13:07.605 --> 00:13:10.140
  • Me, i'd rather not think about it.
  • 00:13:10.140 --> 00:13:11.542
  • The problem's too big, it's too complicated, and i can't
  • 00:13:11.542 --> 00:13:13.911
  • Do anything."
  • 00:13:13.911 --> 00:13:15.246
  • And i'm here to tell you, everybody can do something.
  • 00:13:15.246 --> 00:13:19.016
  • And then, you may be the opposite.
  • 00:13:19.016 --> 00:13:20.885
  • You may know the answer to the question, and you may know
  • 00:13:20.885 --> 00:13:23.254
  • Exactly what to do, but it scares you.
  • 00:13:23.254 --> 00:13:27.992
  • And it should, because it's gonna cost you.
  • 00:13:27.992 --> 00:13:29.793
  • It's gonna cost you some time and some money, some freedom,
  • 00:13:29.793 --> 00:13:32.796
  • It's gonna cost you some opportunities, and it may cost
  • 00:13:32.796 --> 00:13:35.199
  • You a reputation.
  • 00:13:35.199 --> 00:13:36.834
  • It may cost you a relationship, because you've got family
  • 00:13:36.834 --> 00:13:39.036
  • Members that are like, "you're gonna do what?"
  • 00:13:39.036 --> 00:13:41.238
  • But here's why that's okay.
  • 00:13:41.238 --> 00:13:43.474
  • And here's why it's worth it.
  • 00:13:43.474 --> 00:13:45.242
  • Here's something we all have in common.
  • 00:13:45.242 --> 00:13:49.046
  • The people that you admire the most, the people you admire the
  • 00:13:49.046 --> 00:13:54.385
  • Most are not the people who got in shape, got out of debt, and
  • 00:13:54.385 --> 00:13:57.154
  • Then just got on with their lives.
  • 00:13:57.154 --> 00:13:59.924
  • The people that inspire you are not the people who've devoted
  • 00:13:59.924 --> 00:14:05.729
  • Themselves to becoming the best version of themselves and then
  • 00:14:05.729 --> 00:14:08.265
  • Just went on to be a better version of themselves.
  • 00:14:08.265 --> 00:14:13.370
  • The folks who inspire and amaze you are the folks who, at some
  • 00:14:13.370 --> 00:14:19.777
  • Level, had the courage to ask, answer, and act on
  • 00:14:19.777 --> 00:14:27.217
  • This question.
  • 00:14:27.217 --> 00:14:29.019
  • And they are the people that made a little piece of the world
  • 00:14:29.019 --> 00:14:33.657
  • Better, and they certainly made somebody's world better.
  • 00:14:33.657 --> 00:14:39.096
  • So this is a question we should all ask, and we should all ask
  • 00:14:39.096 --> 00:14:42.499
  • It in every season of our lives.
  • 00:14:42.499 --> 00:14:45.202
  • And, i just wanna be fair, while it's absolutely appropriate,
  • 00:14:45.202 --> 00:14:49.473
  • While it's absolutely the right thing, in fact, it may be the
  • 00:14:49.473 --> 00:14:52.576
  • Urgent thing for you to ask the question, you know, "what should
  • 00:14:52.576 --> 00:14:55.813
  • I do about me?"
  • 00:14:55.813 --> 00:14:57.181
  • I mean, there may be some things that you really need to
  • 00:14:57.181 --> 00:14:59.383
  • Immediately address, what should you do about you, and i would
  • 00:14:59.383 --> 00:15:01.852
  • Encourage you to do that as you start the year, along with
  • 00:15:01.852 --> 00:15:05.522
  • This question.
  • 00:15:05.522 --> 00:15:06.991
  • I just wanna invite all of us to take a step away from
  • 00:15:06.991 --> 00:15:11.395
  • The mirror.
  • 00:15:11.395 --> 00:15:13.163
  • Step off the scales.
  • 00:15:13.163 --> 00:15:15.933
  • Put our phones down for just a moment.
  • 00:15:15.933 --> 00:15:18.702
  • And ask a better, a clarifying, i'll be honest, a terrifying
  • 00:15:18.702 --> 00:15:23.974
  • Question that will reveal something about you, but has the
  • 00:15:23.974 --> 00:15:30.381
  • Potential to catapult you beyond you in a way that maybe you
  • 00:15:30.381 --> 00:15:36.854
  • Never thought possible.
  • 00:15:36.854 --> 00:15:38.188
  • So here it is.
  • 00:15:38.188 --> 00:15:40.691
  • What breaks your heart?
  • 00:15:40.691 --> 00:15:44.762
  • What breaks your heart?
  • 00:15:47.798 --> 00:15:50.000
  • It's okay not to know.
  • 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:52.603
  • But it's the question we should all ask from time to time.
  • 00:15:52.603 --> 00:15:54.338
  • What breaks your heart?
  • 00:15:54.338 --> 00:15:55.706
  • And like me, just to be clear, like me, there are a lot of
  • 00:15:55.706 --> 00:15:57.975
  • Things that bother you, there are a lot of things that
  • 00:15:57.975 --> 00:16:00.210
  • Irritate you, there are things that offend you culturally,
  • 00:16:00.210 --> 00:16:04.448
  • There are things that bother you nationally, there may be some
  • 00:16:04.448 --> 00:16:07.384
  • Things that irritate you locally.
  • 00:16:07.384 --> 00:16:10.921
  • But is there one thing that surpasses all those
  • 00:16:10.921 --> 00:16:14.725
  • Other things?
  • 00:16:14.725 --> 00:16:16.093
  • Is there one thing, one category, one issue that, above
  • 00:16:16.093 --> 00:16:18.195
  • All the things, that just kind of bother you and irritate you
  • 00:16:18.195 --> 00:16:20.731
  • And make you mad and make you wanna throw something at
  • 00:16:20.731 --> 00:16:22.599
  • The television?
  • 00:16:22.599 --> 00:16:23.967
  • Is there one thing in particular that is above all those
  • 00:16:23.967 --> 00:16:27.137
  • Other things?
  • 00:16:27.137 --> 00:16:28.505
  • Is there one thing that just kinda stays with you?
  • 00:16:28.505 --> 00:16:30.574
  • You kinda wish you'd never read about it, you kinda wish you'd
  • 00:16:30.574 --> 00:16:32.943
  • Never heard about it, you wish you'd never seen it, you wish
  • 00:16:32.943 --> 00:16:35.779
  • You'd not visited it.
  • 00:16:35.779 --> 00:16:37.648
  • Because now you can't get it out of your head.
  • 00:16:37.648 --> 00:16:39.950
  • And it just sits there.
  • 00:16:39.950 --> 00:16:43.120
  • I'll tell you my personal, my initial foray into this tension
  • 00:16:43.120 --> 00:16:47.357
  • That this question raises.
  • 00:16:47.357 --> 00:16:48.725
  • I was in my twenties, and i never felt called to ministry.
  • 00:16:48.725 --> 00:16:53.030
  • I volunteered, i mean, i had friends that felt called and
  • 00:16:53.030 --> 00:16:55.332
  • They went forward and told my dad, but i never felt called.
  • 00:16:55.332 --> 00:16:57.801
  • I was kind of waiting for this lightning bolt or i woke up in
  • 00:16:57.801 --> 00:17:00.404
  • The middle of the night or the angel, or i would sometimes
  • 00:17:00.404 --> 00:17:03.507
  • Pray, "god, if you're going to call me, don't do it audibly
  • 00:17:03.507 --> 00:17:05.342
  • Because i will wet my pants," okay?
  • 00:17:05.342 --> 00:17:06.710
  • So just don't over-call me, just, you know, make it clear,
  • 00:17:06.710 --> 00:17:10.447
  • You know.
  • 00:17:10.447 --> 00:17:11.782
  • So i'm driving around with my dad one day and i said,
  • 00:17:11.782 --> 00:17:13.617
  • "dad, do you have to be called into ministry or can you
  • 00:17:13.617 --> 00:17:15.853
  • Just volunteer?"
  • 00:17:15.853 --> 00:17:17.454
  • That's what i asked him.
  • 00:17:17.454 --> 00:17:18.789
  • We're in our green grand safari station wagon, i remember right
  • 00:17:18.789 --> 00:17:20.858
  • Where we were in cobb county, you know.
  • 00:17:20.858 --> 00:17:22.726
  • I said, "can you just volunteer for ministry, because i'd
  • 00:17:22.726 --> 00:17:24.928
  • Like--" he said, "yeah."
  • 00:17:24.928 --> 00:17:26.430
  • I said, "well, i'd like to volunteer."
  • 00:17:26.430 --> 00:17:28.365
  • That's how i got into this.
  • 00:17:28.365 --> 00:17:29.733
  • And i'll tell you what drove me.
  • 00:17:29.733 --> 00:17:31.335
  • I was working just as a volunteer with some high school
  • 00:17:31.335 --> 00:17:33.370
  • Students, and i began working with college students and then
  • 00:17:33.370 --> 00:17:35.205
  • High school students again.
  • 00:17:35.205 --> 00:17:36.607
  • And the thing that broke my heart was watching students,
  • 00:17:36.607 --> 00:17:40.677
  • Watching, you know, back then we called them "young people,"
  • 00:17:40.677 --> 00:17:43.347
  • Watching young people, watching students, teenagers and, you
  • 00:17:43.347 --> 00:17:46.650
  • Know, college students, watching them make decisions that i knew
  • 00:17:46.650 --> 00:17:50.587
  • Would potentially undermine their future.
  • 00:17:50.587 --> 00:17:53.457
  • It just broke my heart.
  • 00:17:53.457 --> 00:17:54.825
  • I'm like, "no, no, no, why are you doing that?
  • 00:17:54.825 --> 00:17:56.693
  • Why are you going there?
  • 00:17:56.693 --> 00:17:58.061
  • Why are you're participating?
  • 00:17:58.061 --> 00:17:59.396
  • You don't understand, you think it's an event.
  • 00:17:59.396 --> 00:18:00.964
  • It's a pathway, this leads somewhere.
  • 00:18:00.964 --> 00:18:02.699
  • I mean, come on, life is hard enough.
  • 00:18:02.699 --> 00:18:04.535
  • Don't make your life harder by creating your own regret."
  • 00:18:04.535 --> 00:18:08.071
  • I mean, some regrets are unavoidable.
  • 00:18:08.071 --> 00:18:09.606
  • They deal with, you know, they have other people that do things
  • 00:18:09.606 --> 00:18:12.242
  • To us or create environments we can't escape.
  • 00:18:12.242 --> 00:18:14.144
  • But come on, don't make your life harder than it's already
  • 00:18:14.144 --> 00:18:16.713
  • Gonna be.
  • 00:18:16.713 --> 00:18:18.048
  • And that burden stayed with me, and that's what drove my
  • 00:18:18.048 --> 00:18:19.650
  • Communication then.
  • 00:18:19.650 --> 00:18:21.084
  • It's what drives my communication now.
  • 00:18:21.084 --> 00:18:22.786
  • It's why i try to be practical.
  • 00:18:22.786 --> 00:18:25.189
  • So, you know, sidebar, here's the mini sermon for today.
  • 00:18:25.189 --> 00:18:32.996
  • Don't make your life more complicated than it already is
  • 00:18:32.996 --> 00:18:35.699
  • With bad decisions.
  • 00:18:35.699 --> 00:18:37.301
  • That's it.
  • 00:18:37.301 --> 00:18:38.635
  • That's all i wanna say to you, week after week after week.
  • 00:18:38.635 --> 00:18:40.237
  • You know, follow jesus.
  • 00:18:40.237 --> 00:18:41.572
  • This is why we say following jesus makes your life better,
  • 00:18:41.572 --> 00:18:43.774
  • Makes you better at life.
  • 00:18:43.774 --> 00:18:45.108
  • So that's what really broke my heart in those days, that's why
  • 00:18:45.108 --> 00:18:47.411
  • I stayed for years and years.
  • 00:18:47.411 --> 00:18:48.745
  • I thought i would work with high school students my whole life.
  • 00:18:48.745 --> 00:18:50.948
  • I really did.
  • 00:18:50.948 --> 00:18:52.316
  • Because i'm like, if you, you know, if you can just get these
  • 00:18:52.316 --> 00:18:54.718
  • Years, these college years right, it just puts you on a
  • 00:18:54.718 --> 00:18:57.788
  • Trajectory that is gonna make your life better.
  • 00:18:57.788 --> 00:19:00.090
  • Now, okay, so that's enough about me.
  • 00:19:00.090 --> 00:19:01.425
  • So back to you.
  • 00:19:01.425 --> 00:19:02.759
  • What breaks your heart?
  • 00:19:02.759 --> 00:19:05.862
  • Years ago, we were in the kitchen and sandra and i were
  • 00:19:05.862 --> 00:19:08.298
  • Talking about this, and she had a different way of asking
  • 00:19:08.298 --> 00:19:11.568
  • This question.
  • 00:19:11.568 --> 00:19:12.903
  • So i'll give you her version, and maybe it's more clarifying
  • 00:19:12.903 --> 00:19:15.339
  • For you.
  • 00:19:15.339 --> 00:19:16.707
  • She said, "if it were up to you, if it were up to you and you
  • 00:19:16.707 --> 00:19:21.345
  • Could choose one thing, if it were up to you and you could
  • 00:19:21.345 --> 00:19:25.115
  • Choose one thing."
  • 00:19:25.115 --> 00:19:27.251
  • Here's the question.
  • 00:19:27.251 --> 00:19:28.585
  • "what would you like people to line up and thank you for at the
  • 00:19:28.585 --> 00:19:30.887
  • End of your life?"
  • 00:19:30.887 --> 00:19:32.222
  • That's a great question.
  • 00:19:32.222 --> 00:19:33.590
  • If you just pick one thing, and all your productive years are
  • 00:19:33.590 --> 00:19:35.892
  • Over, you know, you're sitting on the front porch somewhere and
  • 00:19:35.892 --> 00:19:38.328
  • They're gonna line up, people who've been in and out of your
  • 00:19:38.328 --> 00:19:40.764
  • Life, and you could choose what they would come
  • 00:19:40.764 --> 00:19:43.634
  • And thank you for.
  • 00:19:43.634 --> 00:19:44.968
  • In other words, the one thing that you would want to make a
  • 00:19:44.968 --> 00:19:46.937
  • Difference in the world or with a group of people, what would
  • 00:19:46.937 --> 00:19:49.539
  • You like for people to thank you for at the end of your life?
  • 00:19:49.539 --> 00:19:54.444
  • Here's another angle.
  • 00:19:54.444 --> 00:19:55.812
  • This is kind of the nuclear angle.
  • 00:19:55.812 --> 00:19:58.815
  • If you could push a button--that's why it's nuclear.
  • 00:19:58.815 --> 00:20:01.218
  • If you could push a button and change one thing in the world,
  • 00:20:01.218 --> 00:20:05.722
  • What would it be?
  • 00:20:05.722 --> 00:20:07.324
  • If you could suddenly--you had the power to change one thing in
  • 00:20:07.324 --> 00:20:10.761
  • The world.
  • 00:20:10.761 --> 00:20:12.629
  • What would it be?
  • 00:20:12.629 --> 00:20:14.097
  • Now, if you don't have an answer, don't force it.
  • 00:20:14.097 --> 00:20:17.501
  • It's not gonna be a quiz.
  • 00:20:17.501 --> 00:20:18.869
  • Nobody can read your mind.
  • 00:20:18.869 --> 00:20:20.203
  • You don't have to know today.
  • 00:20:20.203 --> 00:20:21.905
  • But if you don't know, if you don't have an answer, i want you
  • 00:20:21.905 --> 00:20:26.076
  • To think about it, because we're gonna continue to talk about it.
  • 00:20:26.076 --> 00:20:30.881
  • What breaks your heart?
  • 00:20:30.881 --> 00:20:33.550
  • Now here's the good news.
  • 00:20:33.550 --> 00:20:34.885
  • That was kind of the scare-you-away news.
  • 00:20:34.885 --> 00:20:36.453
  • Here's the great news, okay?
  • 00:20:36.453 --> 00:20:37.821
  • So i'm gonna bring you back.
  • 00:20:37.821 --> 00:20:39.756
  • Regardless of your answer, you're not gonna have to face
  • 00:20:39.756 --> 00:20:41.925
  • Down a pharaoh and deliver a nation from egypt, okay?
  • 00:20:41.925 --> 00:20:44.761
  • So you're not gonna have to do that, all right?
  • 00:20:44.761 --> 00:20:46.263
  • So you can take that, that's already been done.
  • 00:20:46.263 --> 00:20:48.532
  • You probably won't even have to quit your day job.
  • 00:20:48.532 --> 00:20:53.403
  • But you're probably gonna have to quit something.
  • 00:20:53.403 --> 00:21:00.177
  • Answer this question, honestly, you're not gonna have to give up
  • 00:21:00.177 --> 00:21:05.649
  • Everything, but you're gonna have to give up something.
  • 00:21:05.649 --> 00:21:08.518
  • You probably won't have to leave the country, you probably won't
  • 00:21:08.518 --> 00:21:10.954
  • Have to leave the city, you probably won't have to leave
  • 00:21:10.954 --> 00:21:13.056
  • Your house.
  • 00:21:13.056 --> 00:21:14.391
  • But you're gonna have to leave behind something.
  • 00:21:14.391 --> 00:21:17.928
  • You probably won't have to leave the country, but i'll tell you
  • 00:21:17.928 --> 00:21:19.830
  • What, you will have to leave.
  • 00:21:19.830 --> 00:21:21.932
  • You'll have to leave your comfort zone.
  • 00:21:21.932 --> 00:21:25.602
  • And you're like me, and i'm like you.
  • 00:21:25.602 --> 00:21:30.140
  • We kinda set our sights on the comfort zone.
  • 00:21:30.140 --> 00:21:32.843
  • But if you let this question get to your heart, you won't be able
  • 00:21:32.843 --> 00:21:37.714
  • To stay there all the time.
  • 00:21:37.714 --> 00:21:40.283
  • You're gonna be forced, you're gonna be called, you're gonna be
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  • Motivated to step out.
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  • Because whatever breaks your heart, you're not gonna be able
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  • To address it from the safety and the comfort of your
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  • Comfort zone.
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  • You're not gonna have to give up everything, but you're gonna
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  • Have to give up something.
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  • And here's the thing, that's okay.
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  • Let me make you a promise.
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  • Whatever you give up in order to address the thing that breaks
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  • Your heart, here's the promise.
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  • You won't miss it.
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  • But if you ignore the tug, if you decide,
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  • "i just can't look over there,
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  • I don't wanna hear about that."
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  • If you ignore the grief or the anger or the heartbreak, if you
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  • Keep telling yourself "there's nothing i can do," let me tell
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  • You what you will miss.
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  • You'll miss an opportunity.
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  • And here's the real tragedy.
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  • You won't know you missed it.
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  • It came and it went.
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  • And you were so locked in, and "i'm so locked in on my comfort
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  • Zone and my thing," and, you know, "somebody else can deal
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  • With that" and "it's too big," and you know, "what could i
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  • Do anyway?"
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  • You'll miss the--and you know what you might miss?
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  • You might miss the opportunity of a lifetime.
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  • You might miss the greatest opportunity of your lifetime, an
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  • Opportunity to make a difference in the world, but for sure to
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  • Make a difference in somebody's world.
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  • And missing that opportunity, please hear this.
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  • Missing that opportunity is what you should fear more than the
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  • Potential cost of facing and answering that question.
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  • And here's why you should fear that more than you should fear
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  • What you're gonna have to give up.
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  • And you know this, because i remind you all the time and will
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  • Continue to.
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  • At the end of your life, at the end of my life, you're gonna be
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  • Celebrated for the difference you made, not the dollars
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  • You made.
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  • We're gonna be remembered for what we gave, and not what we
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  • Saved, and i'm all for saving.
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  • In other words, i tell you this all the time.
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  • And anytime you go to a funeral, you're reminded of this.
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  • But after funerals, we have a tendency, unless it's a really,
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  • Really close relative, we have a tendency to kind of shake it off
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  • And get back to life and get back to what we're doing.
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  • And i understand this.
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  • But every time you attend a funeral, you're reminded of
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  • This, that in the end, the value of a life is always measured by
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  • How much of it was given away.
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  • And you know that, and i know that.
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  • And what breaks your heart is your opportunity to leverage
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  • That while you--we're gonna talk about this in part 3--while you
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  • Still have the opportunity to do so.
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  • And here's what's true of me and what's true of you.
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  • Every single day is another day that potentially that
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  • Opportunity slips away.
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  • So this question shouldn't scare us.
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  • It should inspire us.
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  • What breaks your heart?
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  • So here's what i want you to do.
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  • I just want you to pay attention this week.
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  • And this is equally as important.
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  • If nothing breaks your heart, you should pay attention to that
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  • As well, because that says something about you.
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  • And it may be an indicator that you have some work to do.
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  • And if you are a follower of jesus, as we're gonna talk about
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  • Next time, when we open the scripture and we dive deep into
  • 00:25:23.073 --> 00:25:25.809
  • One of jesus's most amazing teachings, it's a reminder that
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  • God wants to do some work in us.
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  • Because if it's all about me, no matter how much i weigh and how
  • 00:25:34.017 --> 00:25:37.554
  • Successful i am, and even how much generosity i--you know, how
  • 00:25:37.554 --> 00:25:41.024
  • Generous i am, if it's all about me and if it's all about you, we
  • 00:25:41.024 --> 00:25:46.763
  • Have work to do.
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  • And if you're not a christian, let me just be clear, if you're
  • 00:25:48.598 --> 00:25:50.433
  • Not a christian or a religious person, i have no right to tell
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  • You what to do, and i'm not trying to manipulate you.
  • 00:25:52.636 --> 00:25:56.306
  • I mean, your life is your life and you gotta figure out what or
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  • Who's gonna be the lord or the king of your life.
  • 00:25:59.943 --> 00:26:03.947
  • But if you call yourself a christian, and i call myself a
  • 00:26:03.947 --> 00:26:05.849
  • Christian, we have a lord.
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  • The lord has said even the son of man talking about himself did
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  • Not come to be served, but to serve and to give his life for
  • 00:26:13.790 --> 00:26:16.393
  • Those, and to give his life as a ransom for many, and those are
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  • Marching orders.
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  • And it's not to the exclusion of your physical health, or your
  • 00:26:21.464 --> 00:26:24.534
  • Financial health, or your success with your family.
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  • But if this isn't a part of it, if this isn't a piece of it, if
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  • This isn't a slice of your time and your opportunity and your
  • 00:26:31.608 --> 00:26:34.811
  • Talent, and your treasure, and your expertise, then maybe you
  • 00:26:34.811 --> 00:26:39.783
  • Have some work to do.
  • 00:26:39.783 --> 00:26:42.352
  • So, in the meantime, get in shape, diet, exercise, get that
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  • Degree, get out of debt.
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  • Keep working on you.
  • 00:26:50.960 --> 00:26:52.462
  • And here's why you should keep working on you, because you
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  • Should be the best version of you you can possibly be, in
  • 00:26:55.498 --> 00:26:59.703
  • Order to be a means to an end that is not you.
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  • And when you are willing to position yourself as a means to
  • 00:27:07.644 --> 00:27:11.848
  • An end that doesn't end with you, you experience life that is
  • 00:27:11.848 --> 00:27:18.254
  • Truly life.
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  • So, keep working on you because chances are there's something
  • 00:27:20.824 --> 00:27:23.560
  • Bigger than you, that involves you, that may be waiting on you.
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  • And i don't want you to miss it, because that would break
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  • My heart.
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  • And we will pick it up right there next time,
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  • In part 2 of "a better question."
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