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Andy Stanley - Your Integrity, Our World (Part 2)

February 14, 2026 | 28:29

Andy Stanley - Your Integrity, Our World (Part 2)
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Your Move with Andy Stanley | Andy Stanley - Your Integrity, Our World (Part 2) | February 14, 2026
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  • Andy stanley: hi, everybody, welcome to "your move," where we
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  • Help you make better decisions and live with fewer regrets.
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  • I'm andy stanley, and i'll be your guide, and now here's
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  • Something that's true of all of us.
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  • We want the people we depend on to do what
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  • They ought to do, right?
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  • What they said they would do, but what about you?
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  • Are you willing to do what you ought to, even when it
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  • Costs you?
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  • If not, do you know what that makes you?
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  • So uncomfortable, right?
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  • So, let's all be uncomfortable together right here on
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  • "your move."
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Andy: so today, i want to begin with this question, and please
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  • Don't raise your hand, don't elbow anyone, and i already know
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  • The answer.
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  • The answer is yes, but it may take you a moment to remember
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  • Why the answer is yes, and i'll try to prompt your memory.
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  • Here's the question.
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  • Have you ever lied?
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  • That's not the question, that's not the whole question.
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  • We all know the answer to that, right?
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  • Have you ever lied in an attempt, in an attempt, to
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  • Assure someone that you can be trusted?
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  • Have you ever lied in order to assure someone, "oh, yeah, i can
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  • Be trusted?"
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  • Let me ask you the same question maybe another way, 'cause this
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  • Kinda goes to the heart of what we're talkin' about today.
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  • Have you ever compromised your integrity?
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  • It's the same idea.
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  • Have you ever compromised your integrity to protect your
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  • Reputation as someone who has integrity?
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  • Have you ever compromised your integrity, you didn't tell the
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  • Whole truth, you decided not to share that, you know, you just
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  • Flat out lied to protect your reputation as someone who can be
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  • Trusted or who has integrity?
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  • Now, we all, i think most of us, live with this pressure
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  • Somewhere in our lives, i do.
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  • I live with it with you, because i want you to trust me, and i
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  • Don't want to lose your respect.
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  • Because if i lose your respect, then you know, whatever i'm up
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  • Here talkin' about you're like, "well, he doesn't do that."
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  • So, if i really mess up, you know, in some way, or shape, or
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  • Form that would discredit me with you, of course i would be
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  • Tempted to lie, and i would be tempted to cover up, if that's
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  • What's required to maintain your respect for me.
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  • We just live with this pressure, and unfortunately, sometimes if
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  • We're honest, sometimes we're willing to be bad, if that's
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  • What it takes to look good, isn't that weird?
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  • So today, we're in part two of our series "your integrity,
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  • Our world."
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  • "your integrity our world."
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  • And the reason we're calling it this is because my personal
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  • Integrity impacts my world, my family, my community, and your
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  • Personal integrity, or lack of it, impacts the people around
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  • You as well.
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  • And i'm going to give you our official definition for
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  • Integrity next time, but in general, we know what
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  • Integrity is.
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  • Integrity is the will or the courage to do the right, noble
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  • Thing, just because it's the right, noble thing to do,
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  • Regardless of the consequences.
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  • In fact, especially if there are consequences.
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  • Especially if there was a less noble thing to do that would
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  • Keep us out of trouble, but we decided, you know what?
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  • I'm just gonna do the right thing, why?
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  • Well, it doesn't benefit me, i'm going to do the right thing just
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  • Because it's the right thing, even though it costs me.
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  • And as we said last time, we are all pretty quick to excuse our
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  • Personal lack of integrity, or a breech in our integrity, but we
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  • Are not quick to excuse it in other people, right?
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  • We expect it of our leaders, we expect it of our teachers, we
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  • Expect it of our employers, our employees, our friends, our
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  • Kids, our husbands, our wives, our fiancés, boyfriends,
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  • Girlfriends, we just wake up every day expecting them to be
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  • People of integrity, even when at times we're not.
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  • I mean, everybody expects it, it's a universal expectation.
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  • Even thieves and cheaters do not expect to be stolen from and
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  • Cheated on.
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  • And last time we said this brings us to kind of the big
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  • Idea, that's where we spent a lot of our time last time we
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  • Were together.
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  • This big idea, there's an overwhelming, an overarching
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  • Sense of ought to that stands outside of us.
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  • There's an ought to that we appeal to, that we hold others
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  • Accountable to.
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  • It stands outside of us.
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  • We didn't make it up, it stands outside of us.
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  • It judges us, it presses down on our consciences, and we know
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  • That we didn't create it, and we can't seem to shake it, and so
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  • We said last time it stands out over us, and again we appeal to
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  • It when we feel like we've been mistreated or someone we love is
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  • Mistreated, but we know it didn't originate with us.
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  • If it originated with us, we would just get rid of it,
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  • Because it gets in our way from time to time.
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  • And even though, you know, we may not look like we believe
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  • There's an ought to, because we don't always do what we ought
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  • To, our reactions when other people don't do what they ought
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  • To is a dead giveaway, that well, we think there's an ought
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  • To that you ought to live up to.
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  • Again, we didn't create it, we can't shake it.
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  • Last time, we saw the apostle paul came along and said well,
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  • Actually, what that is, that is the law of god written in
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  • Your hearts.
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  • That there is a divine element to this.
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  • That the law of god is written in your heart's.
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  • Not like the traffic laws, but there's something in your heart
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  • God put there that says you should probably obey the traffic
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  • Laws, because they are good for you and other people.
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  • It's that thing that informs our conscience, when our conscience
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  • Bumps up against something in our modern world, that we
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  • Struggle with it, it creates a tension around.
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  • Which means that integrity, and this is so important, especially
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  • If maybe you're not a religious person, or you used to be or
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  • You're, you know, you kinda dismissed all of that.
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  • The implication is simply this, that integrity, if it exists,
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  • Unless we just made this up, unless it's just a useful tool,
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  • We talked about that last time as well, that integrity is
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  • Actually anchored to something.
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  • That integrity is actually grounded in something.
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  • There's a foundation for integrity that goes beyond my
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  • Fluid opinions and your fluid opinions.
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  • It even goes beyond majority rule.
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  • Again, it stands over us, and it convicts us, and it judges us,
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  • And sometimes it condemns us.
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  • And even though we don't like it when it makes us feel bad about
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  • Us, we are quick to appeal to it when somebody mistreats us.
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  • In fact, we said the moment, this is such a powerful idea,
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  • The moment that we attempt to justify behavior in our minds,
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  • The moment, and before this day is out, we're gonna do
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  • This, right?
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  • The moment you find yourself wrestling with i shouldn't, but
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  • I will anyway, you know, i really shouldn't, but i think i
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  • Will anyway.
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  • I should, but i'm not goin' to.
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  • I should tell her, i'm not gonna tell her.
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  • I should tell them the rest of the story, i'm not gonna
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  • Tell 'em.
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  • The moment we find ourselves wrestling internally with an
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  • Ought to, we actually acknowledge the divine.
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  • The moment we attempt to justify a behavior in our minds, the
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  • Moment we find ourselves wrestling, we're essentially
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  • Acknowledging that there is an ought to that stands over you,
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  • That stands over us, that somehow we're accountable to,
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  • And we can't shake it, and we know we didn't create it.
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  • Because if we created it, we would just get rid of it.
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  • When you do, this is what's so powerful, when you do what you
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  • Ought to do, and it costs you, when you do what you ought to do
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  • And it costs you, you may not acknowledge this season of your
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  • Life, but you're actually acknowledging god's rule
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  • Over you.
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  • When you do what's best for someone else and it costs you,
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  • That's being like your father in heaven.
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  • You are intentionally, or unintentionally, acknowledging
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  • God's rule, his kingdom over you.
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  • But we said too, integrity is not just about us, because my
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  • Personal integrity, or our lack of personal integrity, always
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  • Impacts some other persons, doesn't it?
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  • In fact, your story growing up is the reason you kinda had to,
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  • You know, dig your way out of a hole, maybe because of the
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  • Family that you were raised in.
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  • It's because mom or dad, or maybe both, they just lacked
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  • Integrity, and you started off with a deficit.
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  • Their personal lack of integrity impacted some other persons,
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  • Specifically you.
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  • That our integrity always impacts other people.
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  • Again, it's your integrity, it's our world.
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  • It's my integrity, but it's my world.
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  • In fact, we could spend a lot of time on this, and we'll come
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  • Back to this toward the end of this series.
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  • Is that i don't think it's an overstatement to say that our
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  • Integrity, or integrity, determines the health and the
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  • Depth of our relationships, the health and the depth of
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  • Our relationships.
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  • Integrity is essential to relational contentment
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  • And fulfillment.
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  • Have you ever tried to have a relationship with somebody
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  • Who lacks integrity?
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  • Can even have a relationship?
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  • I mean, some of you, unfortunately, are in
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  • Relationships you can't get out of right now, and they just
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  • Lack integrity.
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  • They don't always tell the truth, or they cover, they
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  • Blame, they shame, they won't have difficult conversations.
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  • You're always off balance.
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  • So this topic, it's not even a religious or spiritual topic,
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  • It's human nature.
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  • It's every single day of our lives.
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  • But we're making the point the reason we can't escape it, the
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  • Reason we hold other people accountable to it, is because
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  • There is a divine element to it as well, and it impacts every
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  • Component and every facet of our lives.
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  • One more quick illustration or, you know, application.
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  • So, if you're single, and i mean, maybe high school,
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  • College, graduate school, post-grad, single, maybe single
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  • Again, if you're single, your looks, or your money may win him
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  • Or win her, you know, get him, get her, get the relationship
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  • Going, but you know this, it's your integrity that determines
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  • The health and the longevity of the relationship, right?
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  • I mean, falling in love is easy, and i'm gonna ask you to fill in
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  • The blank to see if you've been listening.
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  • Falling in love is easy, right?
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  • Falling in love requires, anybody know, a pulse, thank you
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  • Front row.
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  • Yeah, that's exactly right.
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  • We got two folks that have been listening.
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  • Falling in love is easy.
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  • Falling in love requires a pulse, but staying in love
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  • Requires other things, and one of the essential ingredients of
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  • Staying in love is integrity.
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  • I mean, raising, you know, having kids, that's biology,
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  • Raising them together, it requires integrity for both
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  • Parents, right?
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  • You know, landing that job, that requires a gpa, and you know,
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  • Good gpa and a resume.
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  • Keeping that job, excelling in that job, building a sense of
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  • Community at work, it requires integrity.
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  • So integrity, a lack of integrity, is gonna cost us
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  • Relationally, always.
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  • It could cost you professionally.
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  • It could cost you in the relationships that matter most
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  • To you.
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  • So, the questions we're tryin' to answer in this series, how do
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  • We get it?
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  • How do we guard it?
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  • How do we keep it?
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  • And maybe in your case, you know, how do you get it back?
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  • And that's again why we entitled this series, "your integrity,
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  • Our world."
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  • But here's the challenge, then we're gonna dive into our key
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  • Verse for this series.
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  • Here's the challenge.
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  • If you want to improve your looks, not that you need to, but
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  • I'm just saying, if you wanted to improve your looks, there are
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  • So many places you can go, so many things you could.
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  • If you want to improve your skin, there's so many things you
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  • Can do, so many places you can go.
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  • If you want to improve at work, if you want to improve your
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  • Financial situation, if you want to get stronger, if you want to
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  • Develop a new skill, if you want to get better at golf, or a
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  • Hobby, whatever you want to improve in, however you want to
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  • Advance in life, in our culture, there are dozens and dozens,
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  • Almost endless ways to get better at just about anything.
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  • But when it comes to integrity, which is far more important in
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  • Terms of the long run, long term relationships, and health, and
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  • Happiness, and satisfaction, and contentment, when it comes to
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  • Integrity, where do you go?
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  • Who's even offering to help?
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  • I mean, once we left home, it's kinda like you're on your own, i
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  • Hope we got it right, maybe we were a bad example, or a good
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  • Example, but we were an example of something, so good luck, you
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  • Know, get out there.
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  • Who's offering to help?
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  • Who's offering to help us?
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  • I mean, and to make it worse, or i should say to make it more
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  • Complicated, the external pressure, and you know this, the
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  • External pressure to compromise rather than preserve our
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  • Integrity is relentless, right?
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  • I mean, compromising your integrity in some fields or some
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  • Industries is kinda how you get ahead or stay ahead of
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  • The competition.
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  • It's almost a key to succeeding.
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  • Or maybe you feel like, hey, if i don't compromise a little bit,
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  • I'm not even gonna survive.
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  • But maybe even more disturbing, and this is kind of the focus of
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  • Our time, the internal, not just the external, the internal
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  • Pressure to compromise rather than preserve our integrity
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  • Is relentless.
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  • Because shame avoidance, failure avoidance, is strong in all
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  • Of us.
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  • None of us wanna look bad publicly.
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  • So, when it comes to maintaining our integrity, the deck is
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  • Stacked against us.
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  • There is nobody out there to help you, so good luck,
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  • God bless.
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  • It's just a mess, right?
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  • Now actually, there's a way forward, but to be honest, it's
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  • Kind of up to you, it's kinda up to me, 'cause nobody's gonna
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  • Help us with this except the people who are closest to us and
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  • Love us, but they're kind of wrestling with their own issues
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  • As well, right?
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  • There is a way to begin, and the way to begin, i'm confident, and
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  • We'll see this as we move along, is to embrace a big north star
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  • Idea, kind of an overarching big north star idea.
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  • It's found in several places in the bible, the one we're gonna
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  • Look at that i think is most direct is actually found in the
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  • Hebrew scriptures.
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  • It's found in the book, what's called the book of proverbs, and
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  • You're familiar with what a proverb is.
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  • A proverb is basically a pithy saying that points to a specific
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  • Truth, or maybe a piece of advice, you know, like a chain
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  • Is only as strong as its weakest link, that's a proverb.
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  • That's not in the bible, but it is true.
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  • And there are several contributors, there were several
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  • Contributors to what we call the book of proverbs in the hebrew
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  • Scripture, the most famous being king solomon.
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  • So, here's the proverb that we're gonna use as we continue
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  • To navigate this important, important topic.
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  • Proverbs 11:3, "integrity," there's our word, obviously,
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  • "the integrity of the upright guide them."
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  • In other words, integrity, for people with integrity, integrity
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  • Becomes the guide.
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  • It becomes the north star, it becomes the
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  • Decision-making filter.
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  • It highlights the best option and the options that are
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  • Off base.
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  • It informs their decisions.
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  • "the integrity of the upright will guide them."
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  • Now, we're gonna unpack the whole verse, but i just want to
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  • Go ahead and launch this uncomfortable question that you
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  • May not have an answer to, and that's okay for now, but we all
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  • Need an answer to this question, and that's this question, is
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  • What guides you?
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  • "the integrity of the upright guides them."
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  • In other words, the person of integrity, the way they make
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  • Decisions is the reason they're a person of integrity.
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  • It's because their integrity is what guides them.
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  • It's the filter through which they decide which options are
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  • Appropriate and which aren't, what to do, what not to do, how
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  • To respond, even if it makes them look bad.
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  • But what guides you?
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  • What's your north star?
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  • I mean, you know, pleasure, profit, lookin' good, financial
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  • Security, status, i mean, the list goes on, and on, and
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  • On, right?
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  • And i would guess that you hope that integrity guides you.
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  • That's what we're gonna talk about.
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  • But here's the challenge.
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  • Here's the challenge.
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  • We don't know.
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  • We don't know if integrity guides us until maintaining our
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  • Integrity costs us.
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  • We don't know if integrity actually guides us or it's just
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  • Kind of a good idea.
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  • Like, well, of course it does.
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  • We don't really know until maintaining our integrity
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  • Costs us.
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  • And we're gonna talk about this i think in week four, but let me
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  • Just throw this out there.
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  • This is why, and it sounds like a terrible thing for me to say,
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  • This is why i hope all of you, and some of you've been there,
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  • Done that, i would hope for all of us that at some point along
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  • The way, our integrity would be so tested, and it's not really a
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  • Test, it's more of a pop quiz.
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  • If it was a test, we can prepare, you know, but it's
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  • Usually like there it is in the moment.
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  • Do i tell the truth or not?
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  • Do i tell the whole thing?
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  • Do i, you know.
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  • I would hope that somewhere in your life in the near future
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  • That your integrity would be tested, and that you would pass
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  • That test, and that it would cost you, and maybe even cost
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  • You dearly.
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  • Because in that moment, you will know something about yourself
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  • You can't know any other way.
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  • That's when we discover what's really most important to us.
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  • And on the flip side, it's why we should be very careful before
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  • We judge other people whose shoes we've never walked in.
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  • I mean, you've thought this, or you've said this, i mean, i know
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  • I have, "well, i would never do that."
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  • I would never do that.
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  • You don't know that.
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  • And somewhere out there, there's a that that you think sitting
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  • Here, or listening today you think i would never do that, and
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  • Then suddenly there's a pop quiz, and if you don't do that,
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  • You're gonna lose something, you're gonna miss out on
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  • Something, they're not gonna call you back, or you're not
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  • Gonna--they're not going to say yes, or you're not gonna go to
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  • Your dream school, or whatever it might be.
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  • And in that moment, you discover it's the only way to know.
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  • You'll discover if integrity is actually your guide.
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  • So one more time, what guides you?
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  • Now, there's a fascinating word picture built into this verse,
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  • So i wanna point that out, then i'm gonna read the rest of
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  • The verse.
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  • Here's what it says.
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  • "the integrity of the upright will guide them."
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  • Now, the hebrew word for upright is a lot like the english word
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  • For upright, it just means to be upright, literally, it means to
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  • Stand up straight, to put your shoulders back and put your chin
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  • Up and to look forward.
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  • Versus, as we'll see the second part of the verse, versus living
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  • Your life like this.
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  • Because when you live your life like this, you are most aware of
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  • What and who is right in front of you, right?
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  • When you live your life like this, you're most aware of what,
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  • You know, what is right in front of you.
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  • You're most aware of what's right in front of you.
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  • And when you're just looking at what's right in front of you, it
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  • Limits your options and it limits your perspective.
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  • When you're living like this, it's immediate versus ultimate.
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  • It's now versus later.
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  • When you walk in integrity, and when integrity becomes our
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  • Guide, there's a posture.
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  • You stand up straight.
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  • You live standing up straight, and you take the long view, you
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  • Look up, and you look out.
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  • You take the long look, because you realize the person of
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  • Integrity realizes, you know what?
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  • Later is longer.
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  • Now and immediate is now and immediate, but later is longer.
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  • And when i look back on this decision and this decision of my
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  • Life, it goes back to the question we ask all the time.
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  • What story do i want to tell?
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  • And the person of integrity, they are upright.
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  • They are looking way out and they're making decisions based
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  • On later, not now.
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  • That they weigh their options with their future in mind, and
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  • The future of the people they love, and mine.
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  • So again, what's guiding you?
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  • And just to dig on this a little bit, if your trigger response
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  • When you're under pressure is to lie, if our trigger response
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  • When we're under pressure is to make excuses, and to blame, and
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  • To cover, and to point at other people, and to try to deflect,
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  • You know, it's not all my fault.
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  • If your trigger response and my trigger response is any of those
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  • Things, those are clues.
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  • Those are clues that perhaps integrity is not in fact
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  • Your guide.
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  • In fact, those are clues as to what really and truly
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  • Guides you.
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  • And at this point in the series, i'm not suggesting you make any
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  • Changes, i just think you should know.
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  • I'm just suggesting that we all face up to what's actually
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  • Guiding us, and then ask this terrible question.
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  • If i'm quick to abandon my integrity, if i'm quick to
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  • Abandon my standards i said i'll never and i'll always, and then
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  • I met him, then i met her, and suddenly it was like, yeah,
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  • Whatever, okay.
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  • If in the past i just had standards, i mean, i wanted to
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  • Live an upright, you know, long-view life, if you are quick
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  • Under certain circumstances or with certain people to abandon
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  • Your integrity, then you need to ask, and this isn't a religious
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  • Question, this is just to make you a better person question.
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  • What's really driving me?
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  • You should know the answer to that question.
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  • I should know the answer to that question.
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  • And discovering the answer to that question may motivate you,
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  • Or embarrass you, into doing something about it.
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  • And if you're like a lot of people, you may discover, and
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  • Please don't see me pointing my fingers, i think we all wrestle
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  • With this, i know i wrestle with this.
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  • You may discover that you're more concerned with looking good
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  • Than being good.
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  • Now, quick question and i promise we're gonna move on,
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  • 'cause this is terrible, i know.
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  • It's like, what about the happy part of, you know, heaven, talk
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  • About jesus, you know.
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  • I know, okay.
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  • Don't answer this out loud.
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  • What do you think about people like this?
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  • What do you think about people who just defend, and excuse, and
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  • Lie, and look around?
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  • I mean, what do you think about, you know people like this, you
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  • Work with people like this.
  • 00:20:51.301 --> 00:20:52.669
  • Unfortunately, you might live with somebody like this.
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  • What do you think of these people?
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  • You're not like, "oh, they're just so great.
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  • I wanna be more like you."
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  • No, it's almost impossible to have an actual relationship with
  • 00:21:00.344 --> 00:21:03.480
  • That kind of person, so don't be that kind of person.
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  • Discover what's really guiding you, face up to it,
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  • It's terrible.
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  • It's a necessary step to getting to where not only you need to
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  • Be, but probably you want to be.
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  • Well, you know, the flip side, what do you think about these
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  • Kind of people, the people that when they mess up, they own up,
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  • Clean up?
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  • I'm not gonna leave you dealing with my irresponsibility.
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  • I made an irresponsible decision, it left a mess, i'm
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  • Gonna clean up my own mess.
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  • You're not gonna have to worry about it.
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  • In fact, i'm gonna report back in to make sure you don't ever
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  • Have to deal with this again.
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  • I'm owning it.
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  • Now, this is so important, then i gotta move on.
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  • Please remember this, especially if you're a parent, grandparent,
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  • If you're married, if you're engaged, if you have somebody
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  • You just love and they love you back and you're hoping to spend
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  • Your life together, or if you have a team at work and you
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  • Know, you just love workin' with those people, this is so, so,
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  • So, so important.
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  • The health of your relationships, the health of
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  • Your relationships, and you know, dive into family, and even
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  • The respect of your children, is contingent upon your integrity,
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  • Not your infallibility.
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  • The respect of the people you want the respect, the respect of
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  • Your kids, your husband, your wife, the people close to you,
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  • Their respect hinges not on your infallibility.
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  • It is okay to make mistakes and it is okay to be wrong.
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  • It's not okay to cover and to lie about your mistakes.
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  • That the health of that relationship, the respect of the
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  • People closest to you, it is contingent not upon the fact
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  • That you're perfect and you get it right every time, you're not
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  • Gonna get it right every time.
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  • But your integrity, your integrity, being guided by your
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  • Integrity, that's what sets the standard for the people around
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  • You and the people looking up to you, and that's what maintains
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  • The relationship.
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  • My point is this.
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  • Look, your integrity is more important than your
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  • Infallibility, so own it, own it, own it.
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  • And when you find yourself wrestling, you've just
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  • Discovered something else may be your guide.
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  • So, here's the second part of the verse.
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  • "the integrity of the upright will guide them, but the
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  • Crookedness," here's the contrast, the crookedness, the
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  • Bent is what it really, literally means, "but the
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  • Crookedness of the treacherous," and this is a really interesting
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  • Hebrew word.
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  • The root of this word means to throw a blanket over something,
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  • To cover it so you can't see it, to act deceitfully.
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  • The people who lack integrity, it's like, don't look over
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  • There, cover that up, to operate in the dark.
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  • He said ultimately, "the crookedness of the treacherous
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  • Will destroy them."
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  • Literally, lay waste to a landscape.
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  • "the crookedness of the treacherous will destroy them."
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  • Eventually, it catches up, eventually.
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  • There's a price to pay, because they wouldn't straighten up,
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  • Because they wouldn't take the long look, because it was all
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  • About immediate, not ultimate.
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  • It was all about now instead of later.
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  • They refused to take into account the harm they would do
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  • To themselves and the people around them.
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  • So they did themselves harm, and they did harm to the people
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  • Around them.
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  • Now, i'm not going to insult your intelligence to say which
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  • Kind of person do you want to be, right?
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  • I mean, we all want to get this right for our sake of the people
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  • We love, so here's the verse.
  • 00:24:21.945 --> 00:24:24.281
  • "the integrity of the upright will guide them, but the
  • 00:24:24.281 --> 00:24:27.651
  • Crookedness of the treacherous will destroy them."
  • 00:24:27.651 --> 00:24:32.322
  • "the integrity of the upright will guide them, but the
  • 00:24:32.322 --> 00:24:36.459
  • Crookedness," right here, right now, what's right in front of
  • 00:24:36.459 --> 00:24:39.162
  • Me, will ultimately destroy them, and as we know, perhaps
  • 00:24:39.162 --> 00:24:44.534
  • Destroy the people around them as well.
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  • So, this is where we're going to leave it today.
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  • What guides you?
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  • What informs your decisions?
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  • Ought to, is it ought to, or is it want to, or is it protect
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  • You, or is it maybe a combination of the two?
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  • And again, i wanna circle back around as we close.
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  • I want to go back to those of you who are single, and by
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  • Single i mean from high school, college, grad school single,
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  • Maybe single again.
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  • This is so important, and i'm not tryin' to be facetious, so
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  • If you're not married, when you catch yourself thinking, or you
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  • Hear yourself saying, "well, once i get married," says all
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  • The married people, let me just share, this is pretty
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  • Brilliant insight.
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  • You know, i don't know how i come up with this stuff.
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  • But once you get married, the only thing different about you
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  • Is you're married.
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  • See, anybody write that down?
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  • Yeah, when you get married, nothing changes about you accept
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  • You're married.
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  • Okay, just to be specific, okay, this is not a magic ring,
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  • Frodo, okay?
  • 00:25:53.870 --> 00:25:56.673
  • It doesn't come with any superpowers, okay?
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  • Listen, it doesn't make you powerful, it just makes
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  • You accountable.
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  • Saying i do doesn't mean you can do, it only means that you
  • 00:26:05.982 --> 00:26:11.187
  • Intend to, and everybody intends to.
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  • So, here's my point.
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  • Integrity, i'm going to do the right thing even if it costs me.
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  • I'm going to do the noble thing, even if people don't understand.
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  • I'm gonna do the honorable thing, even if nobody even gives
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  • Me credit for doing the honorable thing, because it's
  • 00:26:26.036 --> 00:26:27.837
  • The honorable thing to do.
  • 00:26:27.837 --> 00:26:29.172
  • Integrity is a muscle, and the longer you exercise it, the
  • 00:26:29.172 --> 00:26:35.145
  • Stronger it gets.
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  • You should start now, because the folks who exercise their
  • 00:26:38.415 --> 00:26:44.521
  • Integrity muscle, they're the ones who don't just say i do,
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  • They're generally the ones who are ready to can do, because
  • 00:26:48.658 --> 00:26:53.296
  • They've been walking upright.
  • 00:26:53.296 --> 00:26:56.533
  • They've been opting for ought to over want to, later over now,
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  • Ultimate over immediate.
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  • So, wrapping up integrity, it's just the will and it's the
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  • Courage to do the right thing because it's the right thing.
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  • The honorable and noble thing because it's the honorable and
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  • It's the noble thing to do, even when it costs you.
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  • Especially when it cost you, because that's when you know
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  • What truly guides you.
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  • And we will pick it up right there next time.
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  • Part three of "your integrity, our world," where we're gonna
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  • Talk about the primary obstacles to integrity, and what to do
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  • About it, and this is so important.
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  • We're gonna talk about the primary obstacles to integrity
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  • And what you can do about them, beginning immediately.
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  • So don't miss part three.
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