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Harvest with Pastor Greg Laurie | Greg Laurie - How To Get A New Husband | May 27, 2025
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- Greg laurie: see, when a husband feels disrespected,
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- He has a natural tendency to react in ways that seem unloving
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- To his wife, but when a wife feels unloved,
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- She has a natural tendency to react in ways
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- That seem disrespectful to her husband.
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- Here's what i'm saying.
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- Don't wait until you feel it, just start doing it.
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- Show a little respect.
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- ♪ this is the day ♪
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- ♪ the day when life begins ♪
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- ♪ this is the day ♪
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- ♪ the day when life begins ♪♪
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- Greg: 1 peter chapter 3.
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- How do you get a new husband?
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- I don't mean leaving him.
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- I don't mean trading him in for the new model.
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- I'm talking about what you can do as a woman
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- To help your guy become a new man.
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- It's so great when time has passed and you're able to look
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- Back at all those memories together.
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- Cathy and i like to reflect back in our marriage and all
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- The adventures we've had over the decades, and sometimes
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- We'll be out having a meal and someone might say,
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- "well, how long have you two been married?"
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- And we tell them, they--their jaw drops to the ground.
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- "fifty years? what?"
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- You know, they can't believe it.
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- It seems to be such an unusual thing,
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- But it doesn't have to be.
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- It's rare to see a long-term marriage in good condition
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- Because a woman marries a man expecting
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- He will change but he doesn't, a man marries a woman
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- Expecting she will never change, but she does.
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- So a word to singles out there, girls.
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- You see some guy, you say, "now, this guy, he's a mess,
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- He's trouble, but i'm going to fix him."
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- Newsflash, no, you aren't.
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- In fact, he might even get worse.
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- So if you can't love him as he is, maybe
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- You may want to go a different direction.
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- Some women work so hard to make good
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- Husbands they never manage to be good wives.
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- Let's see what the bible has to say to the
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- Woman about being the best wife you can be.
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- 1 peter chapter 3.
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- I'm reading verses 1 to 4 from the new living translation.
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- "wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, even those
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- Who refuse to accept the good news.
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- Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words.
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- They'll be won over by watching your pure, godly behavior.
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- Don't be concerned about the outward beauty that depends on
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- Fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes.
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- You should be known for the beauty that comes from within,
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- The unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,
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- Which is so precious to god."
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- So what do we learn here about how to get a new husband?
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- Number one, if you're taking notes,
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- Be the best version of you that you can be.
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- Be the best version of you that you can be.
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- This means you want to be a balanced woman.
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- You want to be a godly woman.
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- Every lady should read and carefully study
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- Proverbs 31, for there we find what is described
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- In the bible as a virtuous woman.
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- Now, we sometimes think that the word virtue is
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- A feminine term only applying to women, but actually
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- It's used of men and women in the bible.
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- It speaks of purity, strength, force, and value.
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- When we read about this woman of virtue
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- In proverbs 31, this is a hard-working woman.
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- She's a businesswoman.
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- She's a homemaker.
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- She's a great wife.
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- She's a mother.
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- She's a beauty inside and out.
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- And, you know, the focus of the culture today is almost
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- Exclusively on your appearance, isn't it?
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- You know, just to get women's magazines--
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- I subscribe to all of them, and--i don't.
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- But if you just look at the headlines on vogue
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- Or cosmopolitan or whatever, you just go, "wow."
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- They seem to only be focused on
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- The outward, never on the inward.
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- It's like, "here, find out your horoscope,"
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- Or for--you know, whatever it might be.
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- I just thought, "what if vogue--"
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- I came across this issue of vogue.
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- Look at this.
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- Look at it. read the things.
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- What if vogue came out with an issue,
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- "queen esther and doing what's right.
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- The value of virtue, how the daily study of scripture
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- Can help you grow spiritually in your journey.
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- Twenty scriptures on how to have a better
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- Marriage and be faithful to your spouse."
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- Can you imagine an issue of vogue looking like that?
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- You say, "greg, where did you get that?"
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- We made it up in the art department
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- Because it doesn't exist.
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- Because you'll never find a vogue that looks like this
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- Unless we have a spiritual awakening, and maybe you will.
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- But i may imagine that for a moment.
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- Imagine a woman's magazine or, for that matter, a man's
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- Magazine underscoring and supporting biblical
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- Values instead of undermining them.
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- Well, that's the focus of the culture, so much emphasis on how
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- You look, and that's been amplified a
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- Thousand times more by social media.
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- "you know, i want to look this way."
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- You know, plastic surgery is bigger than it's ever been.
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- Sixteen billion dollars is spent on plastic surgery every year.
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- That's in newport beach alone.
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- It's even more in beverly hills.
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- Now when you mention getting botox, no one even raises an
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- Eyebrow, right?
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- Because their eyebrows are already raised.
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- "did you get botox?" "no."
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- "furrow your brow right now." "i am."
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- Yeah.
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- Heard about a plastic surgery addict
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- Support group that meets weekly.
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- There's a lot of new faces in the group every week.
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- Now, i know all the cosmetic surgery people are hating me.
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- They're like, "i hate you."
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- But here's the thing.
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- I'm not making light of it.
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- Hey, you want to get plastic surgery, get it.
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- You know, botox, have at it, whatever.
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- That's not my point.
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- What i'm saying is the bible is not saying neglect the outward,
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- It's saying primarily focus on the inward.
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- Look at verse 3 of 1 peter 3.
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- "don't let your adornment be merely outward."
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- The word adornment is from the greek word cosmos.
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- Guess what word we get from that.
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- Cosmetic, of course.
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- So here's what he's saying.
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- Don't major on externals while ignoring the inside.
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- When he says putting on fine apparel, it means the frequent
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- Changing of clothes with a purpose of impressing people.
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- There's nothing wrong with
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- Having beautiful clothes, ladies.
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- There's nothing wrong with being an attractive woman, but don't
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- Be so obsessed with that you neglect the inward altogether.
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- That is the focus.
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- "well, should a christian woman wear makeup?"
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- Hey, if a house needs painting, paint it.
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- That's not the issue.
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- The issue is preoccupation.
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- See, if i'm preoccupied as a woman, and for that matter a
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- Man, with my appearance and i completely neglect the internal
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- And the spiritual, my life is out of balance.
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- 1 timothy 4:8 says, "physical training is of some value,
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- But godliness has value for all things holding promise
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- For this life and the life to come."
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- So--but it does say physical training has some value, right?
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- 'cause someone might be really out
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- Of shape and they've obviously taken no care
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- On their appearance, and you say, "hey, man.
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- You want to step up your game a little bit?"
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- "hey, man, physical appearance is of little value."
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- Yeah, well, whatever, it has some,
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- And you could use a lot of it.
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- So maybe you swung too far the other way.
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- Listen, in the name of spirituality, which isn't
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- Spirituality at all, "well, i'm not into those things."
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- Well, maybe you need to be into them a little more.
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- Take a little better care of your physical
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- Body and of the way that you look, but however
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- You can go too far the other way.
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- So it's finding the balance.
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- Not every girl is a beauty queen.
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- Not every man is a male model as i am.
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- No, i'm not.
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- I didn't even need to say, "no, i'm not."
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- Why did i even say that? no, i'm not.
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- "yeah, we knew, greg. we knew.
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- We got that that was a joke.
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- That's why we laugh.
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- Get a grip."
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- But here's what it's saying to girls.
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- Develop your mind and your heart as well as your appearance.
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- A godly woman is known for wisdom as well as beauty.
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- Proverbs 31 says, "when she speaks her words are wise, and
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- She gives instructions with kindness.
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- Charm is deceptive, beauty does not last, but a woman that fears
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- The lord will be greatly praised."
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- Again, 1 peter 3, the beauty that comes from within.
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- So just be the best you that you can be.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Greg: you know, if you want to be a happy person,
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- It's going to require that you stop doing
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- Some things and start doing other things.
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- Someone tells us about the happy man or the blessed man.
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- It says he doesn't walk in the counsel of the ungodly, or stand
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- In the way of sinners, or sit in the seat of the scornful.
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- That's what he doesn't do, but what he does do is he meditates
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- In the word of god day and night.
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- Here's the promise.
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- If you do this, you'll be like a tree
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- Planted by the rivers of water.
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- You'll bring forth fruit in your season.
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- Whatever you do will prosper.
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- Stop some things. start other things.
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- As one person put it, an old preacher from the 1700s,
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- It's the expulsive power of a new affection,
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- The expulsive power of a new affection.
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- When you love jesus with all of your heart, you will in turn
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- Not want to do those things that will keep you from him.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Greg: number two. this is the big one, girls.
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- Respect your man.
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- 1 peter 3 again, "wives, be submissive to your own husbands;
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- And even if some do not obey the word, without
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- A word they may be won," underline that.
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- "without a word they may be won by the conduct
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- Of their wives when they observe your chaste
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- And respectful conduct accompanied by fear."
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- R-e-s-p-e-c-t, that is what he needs from thee.
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- Now, we all know that song "respect"
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- Popularized by aretha franklin.
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- She didn't write it, by the way.
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- Might surprise you to know the song was written by a guy.
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- His name was otis redding.
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- He's also known for a song,
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- "sitting by the dock of the bay."
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- So think of this.
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- This song originally was written by a man from a male
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- Perspective, and in the original version
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- Of the song the lyrics are, "hey, little girl.
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- You're so sweeter than honey,
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- And i want to give you all my money."
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- Good start.
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- But then he says, "but i want you to give
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- It, give it, give it when i come home.
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- Respect when i want it. respect when i need it.
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- Respect got to have it. sock it to me.
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- Sock it to me. sock it to me.
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- Sock it to me." right?
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- That's it. here's what he's saying, girl.
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- "give me some respect when i come home."
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- He was onto something.
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- This is what the bible says. listen.
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- "wives, to win your husbands means you need to respect them."
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- Ephesians 5:33 says, "nevertheless, at every one
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- Of you in particular love his wife as himself,
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- And let the wife see that she respects her husband."
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- I want you to think about this for a moment.
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- The bible specifically says to husbands, love your wives,
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- And it specifically says to women respect, your husband.
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- That does not mean that wives don't need respect nor does it
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- Mean that husbands don't need love, but what it does mean
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- Is specific instructions are given to men and women.
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- So why don't you quit focusing on what he's supposed to do,
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- Girls, and focus on what you're supposed to do, and, guys,
- 00:13:10.289 --> 00:13:13.959
- Quit focusing on what she's supposed to do
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- And you make sure you're doing your part.
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- Respect your husband.
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- Dr. emerson eggerichs writes in his excellent
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- Book, "love and respect," these words.
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- Quote, "when a husband feels disrespected,
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- It's especially hard to love his wife.
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- When a wife feels unloved, it's especially
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- Hard to respect her husband," end quote.
- 00:13:37.616 --> 00:13:40.519
- That's really true.
- 00:13:40.519 --> 00:13:42.021
- See, when a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural
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- Tendency to react in ways that seem unloving to his wife,
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- But when a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency
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- To react in ways that seem disrespectful to her husband.
- 00:13:54.233 --> 00:13:59.071
- Here's what i'm saying.
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- Don't wait until you feel it, just start doing it.
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- Show a little respect.
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- Listen, girls.
- 00:14:06.178 --> 00:14:08.280
- Guys aren't that complex.
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- We really aren't.
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- Just a little respect.
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- You say, "i respect you."
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- Well, thank you.
- 00:14:15.621 --> 00:14:18.824
- "i'll give you all my money.
- 00:14:18.824 --> 00:14:22.061
- Honey, what can i do for you?"
- 00:14:22.061 --> 00:14:26.365
- Yes, clear biblical principle.
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- So number one, let your beauty be inward,
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- But don't forget the outward.
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- Number two, respect and honor your husband.
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- Number three, focus on actions over words
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- To influence your husband.
- 00:14:40.179 --> 00:14:42.281
- Focus on actions over words to influence your husband.
- 00:14:42.281 --> 00:14:46.252
- 1 peter 3:1, "likewise, wives be submissive to your husbands."
- 00:14:46.252 --> 00:14:49.788
- And by the way, this is speaking of a non-believing husband.
- 00:14:49.788 --> 00:14:52.958
- "that even if some do not obey the word, they without a word
- 00:14:52.958 --> 00:14:56.595
- Will be won by the conduct of their wives."
- 00:14:56.595 --> 00:14:59.865
- So maybe i'm talking to a lady here
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- That's married to a non-believing man.
- 00:15:02.234 --> 00:15:04.870
- I don't know how you got yourself into that situation.
- 00:15:04.870 --> 00:15:08.140
- Maybe when you married, neither one of you were believers, and
- 00:15:08.140 --> 00:15:10.676
- Then you became a christian, but he didn't,
- 00:15:10.676 --> 00:15:14.213
- And you want him to come to the lord.
- 00:15:14.213 --> 00:15:15.648
- You're thinking, "how can i convert my husband?
- 00:15:15.648 --> 00:15:17.516
- I know, i'll preach a sermon to him every single day."
- 00:15:17.516 --> 00:15:21.787
- That's not what the bible tells you to do.
- 00:15:21.787 --> 00:15:24.023
- Or you might say, "well, i'm going to dump him because the
- 00:15:24.023 --> 00:15:27.026
- Lord spoke to me the other day and said, 'oh, my daughter, dump
- 00:15:27.026 --> 00:15:31.130
- Your dog husband and marry that sensitive christian man you met
- 00:15:31.130 --> 00:15:35.668
- At church,'" no, god didn't say that.
- 00:15:35.668 --> 00:15:38.804
- Here's what god said, 1 peter 3.
- 00:15:38.804 --> 00:15:41.073
- If you're with a non-believing man, you can
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- Win him over by the way that you live.
- 00:15:42.675 --> 00:15:46.412
- Less criticism, more encouragement.
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- Less preaching, more praise.
- 00:15:49.748 --> 00:15:52.718
- Less talk, more walk.
- 00:15:52.718 --> 00:15:55.487
- Less sermons, more sandwiches.
- 00:15:55.487 --> 00:16:01.160
- I told you guys are not that complex.
- 00:16:01.160 --> 00:16:04.363
- You know, it's been said the way
- 00:16:04.363 --> 00:16:05.698
- To a man's heart is through his stomach.
- 00:16:05.698 --> 00:16:07.933
- Now, that's--you know, it can be overly simplistic, but you make
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- Him a great meal, you tell him you love and respect him.
- 00:16:10.936 --> 00:16:14.707
- Girl, listen, that will go a long ways
- 00:16:14.707 --> 00:16:17.543
- Further than you may think.
- 00:16:17.543 --> 00:16:19.478
- "oh, no, i'll preach to him.
- 00:16:19.478 --> 00:16:21.580
- I will nag him in to the kingdom of god."
- 00:16:21.580 --> 00:16:25.684
- No, you will not.
- 00:16:25.684 --> 00:16:27.519
- You'll drive him away.
- 00:16:27.519 --> 00:16:29.355
- That's what you'll do. this is what peter is saying.
- 00:16:29.355 --> 00:16:32.124
- A translation of what he says here, one is--translation is
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- The silent preaching of a lovely wife.
- 00:16:36.428 --> 00:16:39.832
- Peter's saying the key to reach a man is not through words
- 00:16:39.832 --> 00:16:43.168
- But deeds, not telling him but showing him
- 00:16:43.168 --> 00:16:47.406
- Because actions speak louder than words.
- 00:16:47.406 --> 00:16:51.210
- You live the godly life, and the lord will do the changing.
- 00:16:51.210 --> 00:16:54.246
- And i know christian wives who have been married
- 00:16:54.246 --> 00:16:56.849
- To non-believing guys, and they've applied this principle,
- 00:16:56.849 --> 00:17:00.386
- And it doesn't happen necessarily overnight.
- 00:17:00.386 --> 00:17:02.354
- In some cases it took a decade, maybe two decades and then one
- 00:17:02.354 --> 00:17:05.657
- Day, boom, the guy comes around, and now they have a wonderful,
- 00:17:05.657 --> 00:17:09.094
- Happy marriage, and they're so glad.
- 00:17:09.094 --> 00:17:11.630
- They live by what the scripture said.
- 00:17:11.630 --> 00:17:14.299
- Do it without a word.
- 00:17:14.299 --> 00:17:16.668
- I don't think i'm overstating it when i say
- 00:17:16.668 --> 00:17:19.204
- In general women are more verbal than men.
- 00:17:19.204 --> 00:17:21.940
- Would we agree on that?
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- I--studies have been done.
- 00:17:23.942 --> 00:17:25.677
- I don't know how they do it, but they said an average woman
- 00:17:25.677 --> 00:17:28.680
- Speaks 20,000 words a day, a man about 7,000.
- 00:17:28.680 --> 00:17:35.087
- That's not quite as many.
- 00:17:35.087 --> 00:17:36.722
- So women are more verbal in general, and a woman in general
- 00:17:36.722 --> 00:17:42.828
- Is more of a persuader through what she says.
- 00:17:42.828 --> 00:17:48.434
- Given over to god, this can be a powerful tool.
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- Think of queen esther persuading the king
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- To spare the lives of her people, the jews.
- 00:17:55.607 --> 00:17:58.410
- That's feminine persuasion at its best.
- 00:17:58.410 --> 00:18:02.114
- Think of eve with adam at the garden
- 00:18:02.114 --> 00:18:03.982
- Encouraging him to eat the forbidden fruit.
- 00:18:03.982 --> 00:18:06.985
- That's feminine persuasion at its worst.
- 00:18:06.985 --> 00:18:10.389
- Listen, ladies, say what you have to say.
- 00:18:10.389 --> 00:18:13.692
- Men, listen to what they say.
- 00:18:13.692 --> 00:18:17.029
- Proverbs 31:30 says, "when she speaks her words are wise,
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- And she gives instructions with kindness."
- 00:18:20.532 --> 00:18:23.502
- But now, ladies, avoid the temptation to nag.
- 00:18:23.502 --> 00:18:26.438
- It doesn't help.
- 00:18:26.438 --> 00:18:28.574
- It actually can make things worse.
- 00:18:28.574 --> 00:18:30.676
- Proverbs 20--19:13 says, "a nagging wife
- 00:18:30.676 --> 00:18:33.545
- Is like a constant dripping."
- 00:18:33.545 --> 00:18:37.616
- You ever have a faucet that drips in the night, and you get
- 00:18:37.616 --> 00:18:41.220
- Out of bed, "where--i got to turn that thing off," right?
- 00:18:41.220 --> 00:18:44.256
- That's what nagging is like.
- 00:18:44.256 --> 00:18:46.458
- Scolding, complaining that will drive him away.
- 00:18:46.458 --> 00:18:50.295
- Proverbs 21:19 says, "better to dwell on a housetop than with a
- 00:18:50.295 --> 00:18:54.233
- Brawling, quarreling, disagreeing, scolding woman."
- 00:18:54.233 --> 00:18:58.303
- This has been said, and i like it.
- 00:18:58.303 --> 00:18:59.838
- The wife who henpecks her husband is likely
- 00:18:59.838 --> 00:19:02.341
- To find him listening to some other chick.
- 00:19:02.341 --> 00:19:06.812
- Come on, that's good.
- 00:19:06.812 --> 00:19:08.881
- The wife who hen--see, get it?
- 00:19:08.881 --> 00:19:10.749
- Henpeck, chick, little play-on words, the birds--
- 00:19:10.749 --> 00:19:13.819
- If she henpecks her husband, she'll
- 00:19:13.819 --> 00:19:15.687
- Find him listening to another chick.
- 00:19:15.687 --> 00:19:17.556
- Whatever, you're hard to please, aren't you?
- 00:19:17.556 --> 00:19:20.959
- They liked it better in riverside.
- 00:19:20.959 --> 00:19:22.427
- I don't know what your problem is.
- 00:19:22.427 --> 00:19:24.630
- Maybe it's the botox. i'm kidding.
- 00:19:24.630 --> 00:19:28.800
- Now i've turned everyone against me, but i can't
- 00:19:28.800 --> 00:19:32.004
- Tell because your eyebrows are lifted.
- 00:19:32.004 --> 00:19:35.040
- You look happy, so i think i'm okay.
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- I don't know.
- 00:19:36.942 --> 00:19:40.279
- Here's point number four. submit.
- 00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:43.081
- This is all you're going to remember,
- 00:19:43.081 --> 00:19:44.416
- Are all these stupid jokes.
- 00:19:44.416 --> 00:19:47.819
- Submit to the leadership of your husband.
- 00:19:47.819 --> 00:19:50.055
- Now, this is where a lot of girls choke.
- 00:19:50.055 --> 00:19:52.491
- Submit to the leadership of your husband.
- 00:19:52.491 --> 00:19:55.027
- 1 peter 3. this is king james.
- 00:19:55.027 --> 00:19:57.663
- "likewise, wives, be submissive to your own husbands; that even
- 00:19:57.663 --> 00:20:01.133
- If some do not obey the word, they without a word will be won
- 00:20:01.133 --> 00:20:04.770
- By the conduct of their wives, whether they observe your chaste
- 00:20:04.770 --> 00:20:07.806
- And respectful conduct, accompanied by fear."
- 00:20:07.806 --> 00:20:12.177
- Some women bristle at this
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- Because they don't understand it.
- 00:20:14.179 --> 00:20:16.748
- They see it as sort of--well, really
- 00:20:16.748 --> 00:20:19.251
- Paul's sort of a chauvinist, okay?
- 00:20:19.251 --> 00:20:22.588
- Misogynistic.
- 00:20:22.588 --> 00:20:24.356
- And you're like, "i'm better than women,
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- And we're over women."
- 00:20:25.724 --> 00:20:27.059
- No, you're--you got it all wrong, okay?
- 00:20:27.059 --> 00:20:29.628
- If you knew anything about the culture paul
- 00:20:29.628 --> 00:20:31.396
- Was writing to, you would realize it's the opposite.
- 00:20:31.396 --> 00:20:34.733
- The bible and christianity elevated the woman.
- 00:20:34.733 --> 00:20:39.104
- Back in this culture, romans treated wives like objects.
- 00:20:39.104 --> 00:20:43.141
- You could discard them at will, divorce them for no real reason.
- 00:20:43.141 --> 00:20:47.279
- Even in some aspects of the jewish culture,
- 00:20:47.279 --> 00:20:49.915
- A woman could be divorced for any reason, okay?
- 00:20:49.915 --> 00:20:53.719
- So when paul says to men, "love your wife as christ
- 00:20:53.719 --> 00:20:57.889
- Loves the church," that's a game changer.
- 00:20:57.889 --> 00:21:01.426
- "put her needs above your needs, love her as jesus loves
- 00:21:01.426 --> 00:21:04.796
- The church, sacrifice for her, serve her."
- 00:21:04.796 --> 00:21:08.200
- Whoa.
- 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:09.534
- "wives, be submissive to your husbands."
- 00:21:09.534 --> 00:21:12.204
- Hold on.
- 00:21:12.204 --> 00:21:13.538
- Before he says wives should submit to their husbands
- 00:21:13.538 --> 00:21:16.642
- And husbands should love their wives, ephesians 5 says be
- 00:21:16.642 --> 00:21:19.911
- Submissive one to another in the reverence of god.
- 00:21:19.911 --> 00:21:23.415
- So we just start off there.
- 00:21:23.415 --> 00:21:24.750
- "i'm going to put your needs above my needs."
- 00:21:24.750 --> 00:21:27.152
- Again, back to selflessness instead of selfishness.
- 00:21:27.152 --> 00:21:31.923
- Listen, as far as a man and a woman go, they stand on equal
- 00:21:31.923 --> 00:21:35.861
- Ground before god because of the death of jesus on the cross.
- 00:21:35.861 --> 00:21:40.299
- Men are not better than women.
- 00:21:40.299 --> 00:21:42.934
- Women are not better than men.
- 00:21:42.934 --> 00:21:45.170
- We're not better than each other, but we're very different
- 00:21:45.170 --> 00:21:47.806
- From each other and galatians 3:28 says, "there's neither jew
- 00:21:47.806 --> 00:21:52.344
- Nor greek, slave nor free, male nor female.
- 00:21:52.344 --> 00:21:55.447
- We're all one in christ." but then i would point this out.
- 00:21:55.447 --> 00:21:59.017
- Though there is no difference between men and women in
- 00:21:59.017 --> 00:22:02.854
- The nature of their salvation or standing before god, the husband
- 00:22:02.854 --> 00:22:07.092
- Has the god-given responsibility to provide for, protect,
- 00:22:07.092 --> 00:22:11.363
- And lead just as the lord does the church and
- 00:22:11.363 --> 00:22:15.233
- The wife is to submit graciously to the servant
- 00:22:15.233 --> 00:22:18.370
- Leadership that the husband provides.
- 00:22:18.370 --> 00:22:21.273
- Just as the church submits willingly
- 00:22:21.273 --> 00:22:24.076
- To jesus, the wife does the same.
- 00:22:24.076 --> 00:22:26.912
- Now, what about if the husband asks the wife
- 00:22:26.912 --> 00:22:31.450
- To do something she doesn't want to do?
- 00:22:31.450 --> 00:22:33.051
- Well, let's try to figure out what that might be.
- 00:22:33.051 --> 00:22:36.855
- If it's maybe to make you a meal you don't want
- 00:22:36.855 --> 00:22:38.623
- To make or do something-- that's one thing.
- 00:22:38.623 --> 00:22:40.826
- But if it's unbiblical, or illegal, or immoral,
- 00:22:40.826 --> 00:22:44.229
- Certainly you're not required to submit to that.
- 00:22:44.229 --> 00:22:47.999
- Actually, colossians 3:18 says, "wives, be subject
- 00:22:47.999 --> 00:22:50.836
- To your husbands as it is fit in the lord."
- 00:22:50.836 --> 00:22:55.006
- So if the husband were to ask you to do something that's not
- 00:22:55.006 --> 00:22:58.477
- Fit in the lord, you're not required to submit to that.
- 00:22:58.477 --> 00:23:03.014
- For instance, we're told to submit to
- 00:23:03.014 --> 00:23:05.650
- The ordinance of man for the lord's sake and to the king
- 00:23:05.650 --> 00:23:08.954
- And to governors and those who are in authority.
- 00:23:08.954 --> 00:23:11.623
- So we submit to the government.
- 00:23:11.623 --> 00:23:13.291
- By that i mean if the officer pulls up behind us
- 00:23:13.291 --> 00:23:17.028
- And turns on the lights, we pull over.
- 00:23:17.028 --> 00:23:19.164
- We comply.
- 00:23:19.164 --> 00:23:20.532
- If it comes time to pay our taxes, though they're too high,
- 00:23:20.532 --> 00:23:25.537
- And so much of our money is wasted, we pay our taxes.
- 00:23:25.537 --> 00:23:28.673
- And by the way, if you don't like it, register and vote.
- 00:23:28.673 --> 00:23:32.144
- This is a big problem we have today.
- 00:23:32.144 --> 00:23:34.846
- We need to get out there and vote.
- 00:23:34.846 --> 00:23:38.717
- There's a lot of things i don't like about our government
- 00:23:38.717 --> 00:23:41.019
- Right now, a lot of things i don't like about
- 00:23:41.019 --> 00:23:43.622
- What's happening in the state of california, a lot
- 00:23:43.622 --> 00:23:46.158
- Of things i have very strong opinions on.
- 00:23:46.158 --> 00:23:48.927
- So the place where i can express that is at the ballot box.
- 00:23:48.927 --> 00:23:52.431
- But listen to this.
- 00:23:52.431 --> 00:23:54.032
- If the government suddenly passes a law that says
- 00:23:54.032 --> 00:23:56.635
- You can no longer pray, do i obey that law?
- 00:23:56.635 --> 00:24:00.906
- The answer is no.
- 00:24:00.906 --> 00:24:02.240
- If the government says you can no longer preach
- 00:24:02.240 --> 00:24:04.309
- The gospel, do i obey that law?
- 00:24:04.309 --> 00:24:07.412
- No, i'm going to do what god tells me to do.
- 00:24:07.412 --> 00:24:12.250
- Greg: maybe god has spoken to your heart
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- And you have seen your need for jesus christ.
- 00:24:19.424 --> 00:24:22.761
- Jesus christ is the son of god
- 00:24:22.761 --> 00:24:25.931
- Who came from heaven to this earth.
- 00:24:25.931 --> 00:24:28.099
- He was born in a manger.
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- He died in a cross.
- 00:24:30.335 --> 00:24:31.937
- He rose again from the dead. why?
- 00:24:31.937 --> 00:24:33.905
- Because he loves you and he wants a relationship with you.
- 00:24:33.905 --> 00:24:37.476
- Listen, i'm not talking about religion.
- 00:24:37.476 --> 00:24:39.711
- I don't want to be a religious person.
- 00:24:39.711 --> 00:24:41.513
- I don't think you want to be one either.
- 00:24:41.513 --> 00:24:43.548
- I'm talking about relationship with god.
- 00:24:43.548 --> 00:24:46.985
- Jesus, who died and rose again, stands at the door of your life
- 00:24:46.985 --> 00:24:51.590
- And he knocks, and he says if you'll hear his voice
- 00:24:51.590 --> 00:24:53.825
- And open the door he will come in.
- 00:24:53.825 --> 00:24:56.495
- Question, have you asked jesus christ
- 00:24:56.495 --> 00:24:58.864
- To come and live inside of you?
- 00:24:58.864 --> 00:25:00.832
- You might say, "well, i think so, i'm not sure."
- 00:25:00.832 --> 00:25:02.868
- Hey, if someone moved into your house in the middle
- 00:25:02.868 --> 00:25:05.136
- Of the night, do you think you would be aware of it?
- 00:25:05.136 --> 00:25:08.039
- I'm sure you would.
- 00:25:08.039 --> 00:25:09.608
- And in the same way if christ has come
- 00:25:09.608 --> 00:25:11.610
- To live inside of you, you will know, and if you don't
- 00:25:11.610 --> 00:25:14.613
- Know, maybe he has not come in yet.
- 00:25:14.613 --> 00:25:17.482
- He's just a prayer away.
- 00:25:17.482 --> 00:25:19.251
- All you need to do is say, "jesus,
- 00:25:19.251 --> 00:25:21.419
- I want this relationship with you.
- 00:25:21.419 --> 00:25:23.355
- I want you to forgive me of my sin.
- 00:25:23.355 --> 00:25:25.657
- I want to go to heaven when i die."
- 00:25:25.657 --> 00:25:27.726
- Would you like to do that?
- 00:25:27.726 --> 00:25:29.060
- Would you like christ to come into your life?
- 00:25:29.060 --> 00:25:31.596
- If so, why don't you just pray this simple prayer with me?
- 00:25:31.596 --> 00:25:34.799
- You could pray it out loud or you can pray it in the quietness
- 00:25:34.799 --> 00:25:38.169
- Of your heart, but this is a prayer where you're asking jesus
- 00:25:38.169 --> 00:25:41.306
- Christ to be your savior and lord.
- 00:25:41.306 --> 00:25:43.975
- Pray this with me now.
- 00:25:43.975 --> 00:25:45.310
- "lord jesus, i know that i'm a sinner,
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- But i know that you're the savior who died on the cross
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- For my sin and rose again from the dead.
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- Now come into my life.
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- I choose to follow you from this moment forward.
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- Thank you for hearing this prayer
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- And answering this prayer.
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- In jesus's name, amen."
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- Did you just pray that prayer with me?
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- If so i want you to know in the authority of scripture that
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- Christ himself has come to live inside of you, and i would love
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- To send to you at no charge the "new believer's bible."
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- It's a very friendly translation of the new testament you'll find
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- Very understandable and it's filled with hundreds of notes
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- That i wrote that will encourage you in this commitment you've
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- Just made to follow jesus, and let me be the first to say
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- To you congratulations and welcome to the family of god.
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- Greg: greg laurie here.
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- You know, at harvest ministries we're committing to reaching
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- Unexpected people in unexpected places with an
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- Unexpected message.
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- And thanks to your financial support, we've been able to
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- Touch people all over the world with the hope of jesus christ.
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- Together we've been able to minister to so many
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- People devastated by the fires in lahaina
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- On the island of maui.
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- And also, your support has helped us partner to bring
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- Medical help in the ongoing conflict in israel.
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- So i'm asking you today to continue to support this
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- Ministry so we can do everything possible to fulfill the
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- Great commission.
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- Let's do this together, and let me say in advance,
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- Thank you and god bless you.
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