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          Harvest with Pastor Greg Laurie | Greg Laurie - You've Got A Friend | May 22, 2025
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- Greg laurie: you hear a compliment,
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- "oh, thank you."
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- But that insult, woo, it stays with you.
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- "looking a little chunky in those jeans, aren't you?"
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- "what?"
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- 20 years later you still remember it.
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- Maybe something a teacher said to you,
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- Maybe something someone else said to you.
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- You carry it with you, that insult lingers,
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- That's why we wanna to build each other up.
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- ♪♪♪
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- ♪ this is the day, the day when life begins. ♪
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- ♪ this is the day, the day when life begins. ♪♪
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- Greg: i wanna just start by giving you a message
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- About friendship, friendship.
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- Because we all have friends in some way,
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- Shape or form.
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- And why do we need friendship?
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- Because there is an epidemic of loneliness
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- That is sweeping our nation.
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- Social media, it has not made us more sociable,
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- It's made us less sociable and more dysfunctional.
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- Seems like we don't even know how to have a conversation with
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- Each other anymore.
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- I read that millennials prefer texting over talking in person.
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- And i think we've forgotten how to interact with one another,
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- And research reveals that three out
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- Of every five americans feel lonely.
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- One source says, quote, "experts have long known that loneliness
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- And isolation have long ranging effects on the mind and the
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- Body, ranging from anxiety and depression,
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- To vulnerability to illness," end quote.
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- Yet they have found one or two friendships can dramatically
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- Decrease loneliness.
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- I read one article on the vox news site that headlined
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- "why friendships are different
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- Than any other relationship that we have."
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- And they stated "12% of americans have no close
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- Friendships compared with 3% in 1990."
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- They concluded, "we as a society have atomized."
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- In other words, we're working, shipping,
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- And socializing online.
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- And our phones have become the primary portal through which we
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- View the outside world.
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- Wow, that's not good.
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- Imagine if everyone behaved in real life
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- Like they behaved on twitter.
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- People would be yelling at each other on the street
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- For no good reason.
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- But this is the problem today, and we see that we're missing
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- Something because listen, we all need to have living,
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- Breathing friends, not anonymous people you play video games with
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- Across the planet.
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- Not people who comment on your posts,
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- We need human interaction.
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- God created you this way, you're not meant to do life alone.
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- That is why this social experiment of shutting
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- Everything down not only in our nation but around the world
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- Has been such a massive failure,
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- And it's created so many problems.
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- With our children missing so much of their school,
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- They shut down schools and parks and beaches and even churches.
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- None of this was necessary and it
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- Made an existing problem even worse.
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- We need each other, we need to talk together,
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- This is the way god made us.
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- A friendship is made up of two people committing themselves one
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- To another, it can only exist where there is a response,
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- It needs to be reciprocal.
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- And a true friend can open his heart to another friend and a
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- Classic example of friendship is found in the story
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- Of david and jonathan.
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- 1 samuel 18 verses 1 to 3 describes it.
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- "after david had finished talking with saul he met
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- Jonathan, the king's son.
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- There was an immediate bond between them for jonathan loved
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- David and jonathan made a solemn pact with david because he loved
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- Him as he loved himself."
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- Isn't that a great verse?
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- There's no closer friendship in the bible than that of david and
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- Jonathan and what a pair they were.
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- David, the unknown shepherd boy from the country,
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- Friends with jonathan, the son of king saul the prince.
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- So, royalty and a common man.
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- So if you're taking notes, here's point number one.
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- We need godly friendships. we need godly friendships.
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- In the first stage of your life,
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- You're shaped mostly by your family.
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- In the second stage, or the rest of your life,
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- You're shaped largely by your friends.
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- You become most like the people you spend time with,
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- "show me your friends and i'll show you your future."
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- Friends will influence you for better or for worse.
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- They'll either bring you up or they'll take you down.
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- Some people bring joy wherever they go,
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- Others bring joy whenever they go.
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- Which one are you?
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- Are you bobby buzzkill or debbie downer?
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- Are you the one that lights up a room or turns the lights off?
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- Are you the one that builds others up,
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- Or you're always dragging them down?
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- The bible says in proverbs 18:24,
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- "there are friends that destroy each other,
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- But a real friend sticks closer than a brother."
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- Proverbs 22:24 says, "don't befriend angry people or
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- Associate with hot tempered people."
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- That's why godly friendships are so important.
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- There's an old saying, quote,
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- "fear that man who fears not god."
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- It's also been said, "he is your friend that pushes you
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- Closer to god."
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- He is your friend that pushes you closer to god.
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- Let me turn that around.
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- He is not your friend that pulls you away from god.
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- In psalm 1 it says, "happy as the man that does not walk in
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- The council of the ungodly or stand in the way of sinners or
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- Sit in the seat of the scornful.
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- But his delight is in god's word and in it
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- He meditates day and night."
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- But notice, he doesn't let ungodly people influence him.
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- Now, having said that, you do need to have friendships
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- With non-believers.
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- I have some friends that are not christians,
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- And i've maintained these friendships with them over the
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- Years and my hope and goal is to move them toward christ,
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- And we want to influence them.
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- But your close friends, the ones you confide in,
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- The ones that you spend the most time with
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- Should be godly people.
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- Find a godly friend and be that godly friend for someone else.
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- But if your friend has no relationship with god and
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- They're dragging you down, it may be time to part company.
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- 1 corinthians 15:33 says, "don't be misled,
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- Bad company corrupts good character."
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- 2 timothy 2:22, paul says, "flee the evil desires of youth and
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- Pursue righteousness, faith, and love and peace along with those
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- That call on the lord out of a pure heart."
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- Run with godly people that will encourage you,
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- That will build you up because friends really matter.
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- Because we influence them and then they influence us.
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- David had a friend like that in jonathan.
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- 1 thessalonians 5:11 says, "encourage each other
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- And build each other up."
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- It really matters what we say to each other.
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- I read about a team of researchers in the netherlands
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- That did an intense study of people's brains.
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- And here's their conclusion.
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- Verbal insults hurt, they determined insults linger longer
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- Than praise or compliments do.
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- I have a two-part response, number one,
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- Duh, number two, i think researchers in the netherlands
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- Have too much time in their hands.
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- But i think we all know that, right?
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- You hear a compliment, "oh thank you," but that insult,
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- Woo, it stays with you.
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- "looking a little chunky in those jeans, aren't you?"
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- "what?"
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- 20 years later you still remember it.
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- Maybe something a teacher said to you,
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- Maybe something someone else said to you.
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- You carry it with you, that insult lingers.
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- That's why we wanna build each other up.
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- Number two, true friends support each other
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- Through thick and thin.
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- True friends support each other through thick and thin.
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- They're consistent.
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- Proverbs 17:17 says, "a friend loves at all times and a brother
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- Is born for a time of adversity."
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- A friend can help you through hard times.
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- Galatians 6:2 says, "bear one another's burdens and so fulfill
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- The law of christ."
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- You know, because a real friend will listen to you,
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- You can open your heart to them and they won't jump down your
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- Throat or start judging you.
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- They'll try to hear what you have to say,
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- And try to help you bear that burden.
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- James 1:10 says, hey, "be quick to listen,
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- Slow to speak and slow to get angry."
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- But sometimes we're the opposite,
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- We're slow to listen and quick to get angry.
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- And but two friends can share their burdens with one another.
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- Ecclesiastes 4:9 says, "two people are better off than one,
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- They can help each other succeed.
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- If one person falls, the other can reach out and help,
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- But someone who falls alone is in real trouble."
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- I titled this message "you've got a friend."
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- That's a title of a song written by carol king.
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- And in the lyric she sings, "you just call out my name,
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- And you know wherever i am, i'll come running to see you again.
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- Winter, spring, summer or fall, all you gotta do is call and
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- I'll be there.
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- Yes, i will, you've got a friend."
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- If you've got a friend like that,
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- That's gold man.
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- Treasure that person and try to be that friend for someone else,
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- Because a true friend can suffer with you.
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- The bible says "weep with those that weep."
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- And you know, after our son went to be with the lord,
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- I had friends that just spent time with me.
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- And honestly, i didn't need a sermon,
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- I didn't need someone to try to explain it to me,
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- There was no explanation, but i had friends that were just there
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- And just loved me and prayed for me and maybe brought me a meal.
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- And that mattered so much just to be there at a time of need.
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- So weep with those that weep.
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- And maybe you have a friend who calls you and says,
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- "oh man my boyfriend just broke up with me."
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- Or, "oh i just got fired from my job."
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- Or, you know, "i just got bad news from a doctor."
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- "oh man, i'm so sorry."
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- But the bible doesn't just say, "weep with those that weep."
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- It says, "rejoice with those that rejoice."
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- So the same friend calls you back the next day and they say,
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- "guess what?
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- I just won the lottery.
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- I have a hundred million dollars."
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- Or they say, "oh hey, i just found a new boyfriend.
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- As a matter of fact, it's your boyfriend."
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- So wait, what?
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- It says, "weep with those that weep."
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- Yeah, i got that.
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- Rejoice with those that rejoice, not so easy,
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- Not so easy, because we might think,
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- "well, that should have happened to me."
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- Well, back to david and jonathan.
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- They had this friendship where jonathan could honestly rejoice
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- Over the success of david.
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- It's amazing.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Greg: you know, if i get a text on my phone
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- That says "cathe--"
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- Cathe: hello.
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- Greg: "oh hi, how are you?" cathe: hi.
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- Greg: i'm talking to you and i'm recording the video for
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- People, so how are you.
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- Cathe: i'm fine.
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- Greg: why do you not answer when i call you sometimes?
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- Cathe: i was working on my podcast.
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- Greg: okay, thank you love you.
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- Cathe: okay, bye.
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- Greg: wait, she didn't say--
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- Okay, so that's a conversation with my wife.
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- Obviously, it was spontaneous, but when my wife calls me,
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- I see her name on the screen.
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- I answer clearly when she sees my name,
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- She doesn't always answer by her own admission,
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- Which you have now seen.
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- But that's because of relationship you see.
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- And when we come into a relationship with god,
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- Understand that you have access into his presence all day and
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- All night long, 24/7 as they say.
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- If my son calls, if a member of my family calls a grandkid says,
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- "hey papa, can you come get me or do this?"
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- I will make time in my schedule to do things with them,
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- It's relationship.
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- And prayer is the privilege of every follower of jesus christ.
- 00:13:15.437 --> 00:13:19.275
- With that in mind, why don't we pray more?
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- I don't know the answer, but we ought to, shouldn't we?
- 00:13:21.310 --> 00:13:25.014
- You know, how do you become a child of god?
- 00:13:25.014 --> 00:13:27.216
- Well, you're not born a christian.
- 00:13:27.216 --> 00:13:29.318
- You have to be born again.
- 00:13:29.318 --> 00:13:31.220
- Sometimes people say, "we're all god's children."
- 00:13:31.220 --> 00:13:33.856
- Nice sentiment, not actually true.
- 00:13:33.856 --> 00:13:36.759
- We're all created by god, we're all loved by god,
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- But the way you become a child of god
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- Is through belief in jesus.
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- The bible says, "for as many as received him,
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- He gave them the power to become sons of god."
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- So when you receive christ into your life as your savior and
- 00:13:52.107 --> 00:13:55.144
- Lord, you are now his child and you have access into his
- 00:13:55.144 --> 00:13:58.714
- Presence 24/7.
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- And he'll always answer your call.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Greg: number three, true friends tell
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- Each other the truth.
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- True friends tell each other the truth.
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- How do you know the difference between an acquaintance
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- And a friend?
- 00:14:16.765 --> 00:14:18.100
- Friends are the ones you call on the phone and tell them what
- 00:14:18.100 --> 00:14:20.970
- You're going through, you share a joy with them,
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- You share a burden with them, you let them into your life.
- 00:14:24.340 --> 00:14:29.044
- Proverbs 27:10 says, "the heartfelt council of a friend is
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- As sweet as perfume."
- 00:14:33.549 --> 00:14:36.619
- And a true friend will tell you, "what's up?"
- 00:14:36.619 --> 00:14:38.220
- You can bounce things off of them.
- 00:14:38.220 --> 00:14:40.356
- You have certain friends that always say,
- 00:14:40.356 --> 00:14:41.824
- "oh, it's great, it's great."
- 00:14:41.824 --> 00:14:43.158
- Then you have other friends that go,
- 00:14:43.158 --> 00:14:44.493
- "that's lame, don't do that."
- 00:14:44.493 --> 00:14:45.961
- Maybe you have a new outfit.
- 00:14:45.961 --> 00:14:47.296
- "this is my new outfit, i'm gonna wear it".
- 00:14:47.296 --> 00:14:49.064
- Your friend says, "no way, don't do it.
- 00:14:49.064 --> 00:14:51.600
- You look so stupid in it."
- 00:14:51.600 --> 00:14:53.202
- "oh, thank you, thank you for telling me that 'cause they're a
- 00:14:53.202 --> 00:14:57.273
- True friend."
- 00:14:57.273 --> 00:14:58.674
- They'll tell you the truth.
- 00:14:58.674 --> 00:15:00.142
- Proverbs 27:6 says, "faithful are the wounds of a friend,
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- But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
- 00:15:04.013 --> 00:15:06.949
- Open rebuke is better than secret love."
- 00:15:06.949 --> 00:15:10.686
- Think about this, faithful are the wounds of a friend.
- 00:15:10.686 --> 00:15:13.389
- It just means they tell you the truth.
- 00:15:13.389 --> 00:15:15.891
- As oscar wilde once said, "a true friend stabs you
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- In the front."
- 00:15:19.528 --> 00:15:21.130
- See, not in the back, in the front.
- 00:15:21.130 --> 00:15:23.766
- A true friend will tell you right to your face.
- 00:15:23.766 --> 00:15:27.002
- Because listen, sometimes friendships fracture,
- 00:15:27.002 --> 00:15:30.906
- Sometimes problems develop.
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- That brings me to point number four,
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- True friends resolve their conflicts
- 00:15:35.144 --> 00:15:38.380
- And i'm gonna update that point.
- 00:15:38.380 --> 00:15:40.249
- True friends attempt to resolve their conflicts 'cause some
- 00:15:40.249 --> 00:15:44.720
- Conflicts can't be resolved.
- 00:15:44.720 --> 00:15:47.756
- Some people cannot be reconciled with.
- 00:15:47.756 --> 00:15:50.125
- You understand what i'm saying?
- 00:15:50.125 --> 00:15:51.994
- This is why the bible says, "as much as it is possible,
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- Live at peace with all men."
- 00:15:55.764 --> 00:15:57.466
- Aren't you glad the bible says, "as much as it is possible."
- 00:15:57.466 --> 00:16:01.737
- I've had certain people that maybe we had a little fracture
- 00:16:01.737 --> 00:16:05.040
- In our friendship, i reach out to them,
- 00:16:05.040 --> 00:16:06.809
- No response, nothing, they just don't
- 00:16:06.809 --> 00:16:09.611
- Want to be reconciled with.
- 00:16:09.611 --> 00:16:11.347
- I don't know what to do with that person.
- 00:16:11.347 --> 00:16:13.048
- I pray for them.
- 00:16:13.048 --> 00:16:14.650
- Don't be that person, because sometimes we'll hear something
- 00:16:14.650 --> 00:16:18.354
- About someone, and we'll talk about them instead
- 00:16:18.354 --> 00:16:21.256
- Of talking to them.
- 00:16:21.256 --> 00:16:23.058
- See, this is the thing, when you have a conflict,
- 00:16:23.058 --> 00:16:25.661
- You don't talk about the person, you talk to the person and first
- 00:16:25.661 --> 00:16:30.065
- Of all, find out your information is right.
- 00:16:30.065 --> 00:16:33.469
- On so many occasions, i've heard things spread about people that
- 00:16:33.469 --> 00:16:37.906
- Are not true, so the entire argument is based on a false
- 00:16:37.906 --> 00:16:41.643
- Assumption and if they had merely gone to the person and
- 00:16:41.643 --> 00:16:45.314
- Asked them, they would've realized
- 00:16:45.314 --> 00:16:47.082
- It's not as they thought.
- 00:16:47.082 --> 00:16:49.518
- But they say, "well the bible says if someone's overtaken in a
- 00:16:49.518 --> 00:16:52.755
- Fault, you who are spiritual should kick them while they're
- 00:16:52.755 --> 00:16:55.724
- Down, spread it on social media."
- 00:16:55.724 --> 00:16:57.626
- No, it doesn't say that.
- 00:16:57.626 --> 00:17:00.062
- Says, "if a brother or a sister is overtaken in a fault,
- 00:17:00.062 --> 00:17:02.531
- You who are spiritual should seek to restore them."
- 00:17:02.531 --> 00:17:06.001
- Matthew 18:15, jesus says, "if another believer sins against
- 00:17:06.001 --> 00:17:09.338
- You," listen, "go privately and point out the offense.
- 00:17:09.338 --> 00:17:14.276
- If the other person listens and confesses,
- 00:17:14.276 --> 00:17:16.912
- You've won that person back."
- 00:17:16.912 --> 00:17:19.581
- And listen, you're gonna have conflict in marriage.
- 00:17:19.581 --> 00:17:21.717
- We'll get into this later.
- 00:17:21.717 --> 00:17:23.719
- You're gonna have arguments, i've told you before,
- 00:17:23.719 --> 00:17:26.555
- Don't tell me you have irreconcilable differences in
- 00:17:26.555 --> 00:17:29.358
- Your marriage.
- 00:17:29.358 --> 00:17:31.026
- "i've had irreconcilable differences with my wife for
- 00:17:31.026 --> 00:17:33.629
- Almost 50 years."
- 00:17:33.629 --> 00:17:37.666
- But are they really irreconcilable,
- 00:17:37.666 --> 00:17:39.201
- We're just different, right?
- 00:17:39.201 --> 00:17:41.470
- We have to work through these things.
- 00:17:41.470 --> 00:17:42.871
- I've had couples come up to me and say,
- 00:17:42.871 --> 00:17:45.474
- "we wanna get married, would you perform our wedding?
- 00:17:45.474 --> 00:17:48.444
- And i'll say, "well how long have you known each other?"
- 00:17:48.444 --> 00:17:50.045
- "oh, six months."
- 00:17:50.045 --> 00:17:51.380
- Then i'll ask, have you had an argument yet?
- 00:17:51.380 --> 00:17:53.082
- "oh no."
- 00:17:53.082 --> 00:17:54.750
- Then they look at each other, all lovey dovey.
- 00:17:54.750 --> 00:17:57.886
- "we don't ever argue."
- 00:17:57.886 --> 00:17:59.221
- I'll say, "get out, go away. go have a fight."
- 00:17:59.221 --> 00:18:03.158
- I don't mean a physical fight.
- 00:18:03.158 --> 00:18:05.727
- "go have a conflict and learn how to resolve it because if you
- 00:18:05.727 --> 00:18:09.531
- Don't, you're gonna have a tough time in your marriage," right?
- 00:18:09.531 --> 00:18:12.367
- Married people, am i right on this?
- 00:18:12.367 --> 00:18:14.470
- You know what i'm talking about.
- 00:18:14.470 --> 00:18:17.439
- So when you're having a conflict,
- 00:18:17.439 --> 00:18:18.874
- Learn to listen.
- 00:18:18.874 --> 00:18:21.143
- Proverbs 18:13 says, "only a fool answers a matter before
- 00:18:21.143 --> 00:18:25.347
- He's heard it."
- 00:18:25.347 --> 00:18:26.682
- Now i know you think your friend or your mate is wrong,
- 00:18:26.682 --> 00:18:30.886
- And maybe they are and maybe they aren't.
- 00:18:30.886 --> 00:18:34.590
- Or maybe they have a few good points and you have a few good
- 00:18:34.590 --> 00:18:36.959
- Points and it's not as black and white as you think it is.
- 00:18:36.959 --> 00:18:39.895
- So just for a moment, shut up and listen.
- 00:18:39.895 --> 00:18:44.967
- Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger.
- 00:18:44.967 --> 00:18:48.403
- Okay, let me just hear.
- 00:18:48.403 --> 00:18:49.738
- And don't interrupt them, don't talk over them,
- 00:18:49.738 --> 00:18:51.907
- Just listen.
- 00:18:51.907 --> 00:18:53.242
- Okay, tell me what the issue is, tell me what your concerns are
- 00:18:53.242 --> 00:18:56.845
- And then respond.
- 00:18:56.845 --> 00:18:59.615
- And don't use phrases like you know,
- 00:18:59.615 --> 00:19:00.983
- "you always," that's childish, you always.
- 00:19:00.983 --> 00:19:04.686
- And you start escalating it and the voices start getting louder.
- 00:19:04.686 --> 00:19:08.891
- You start insulting them, sometimes the best thing you can
- 00:19:08.891 --> 00:19:12.628
- Do when a conflict is starting is walk away for a little bit of
- 00:19:12.628 --> 00:19:16.064
- Time if you need to, but learn to resolve it if you can.
- 00:19:16.064 --> 00:19:20.335
- Try to find a resolution.
- 00:19:20.335 --> 00:19:22.371
- Ephesians 4:26 says, "don't let the sun go down on your anger."
- 00:19:22.371 --> 00:19:28.310
- So don't go to sleep mad at each other,
- 00:19:28.310 --> 00:19:30.379
- Listen to this, fight to resolve not to win.
- 00:19:30.379 --> 00:19:34.583
- Fight to resolve not to win.
- 00:19:34.583 --> 00:19:36.752
- If you go in it to win, you lose even if you win.
- 00:19:36.752 --> 00:19:41.023
- One last point, jesus is the perfect friend, right?
- 00:19:41.023 --> 00:19:46.495
- He is. jesus is the perfect friend.
- 00:19:46.495 --> 00:19:53.502
- John 15:15, jesus says, "i no longer call you slaves because a
- 00:19:53.502 --> 00:19:58.807
- Master doesn't confide in his slaves.
- 00:19:58.807 --> 00:20:02.144
- You are my friends because i've told you everything the father
- 00:20:02.144 --> 00:20:06.748
- Has told me."
- 00:20:06.748 --> 00:20:08.450
- Come on, what?
- 00:20:08.450 --> 00:20:10.886
- Jesus is my friend, jesus is your friend.
- 00:20:10.886 --> 00:20:15.057
- He reveals secrets.
- 00:20:15.057 --> 00:20:16.525
- See, that's what a friend can do,
- 00:20:16.525 --> 00:20:17.859
- I can tell you a secret and you'll keep my secret.
- 00:20:17.859 --> 00:20:21.964
- You can tell a secret to jesus.
- 00:20:21.964 --> 00:20:23.732
- By the way, he knows it already, so just tell him he knows it.
- 00:20:23.732 --> 00:20:27.569
- "but lord, this is something i wanna say to you,
- 00:20:27.569 --> 00:20:31.406
- This is something i struggle with.
- 00:20:31.406 --> 00:20:33.342
- This is something that's hard for me."
- 00:20:33.342 --> 00:20:34.843
- Call upon him.
- 00:20:34.843 --> 00:20:36.311
- Ah, but he'll reveal his secrets to you.
- 00:20:36.311 --> 00:20:39.715
- The bible says "the secret of the lord
- 00:20:39.715 --> 00:20:42.684
- Is with those that fear him."
- 00:20:42.684 --> 00:20:45.020
- He'll revealed things to you from his word
- 00:20:45.020 --> 00:20:48.056
- That other people don't know.
- 00:20:48.056 --> 00:20:49.658
- Non-believers who maybe are the most educated people you've ever
- 00:20:49.658 --> 00:20:52.894
- Met with degrees hanging on their wall,
- 00:20:52.894 --> 00:20:55.297
- They don't know what you know because you have a friendship
- 00:20:55.297 --> 00:20:58.834
- With god.
- 00:20:58.834 --> 00:21:00.535
- And god has revealed things to you because you are his child,
- 00:21:00.535 --> 00:21:04.773
- But you are also his friend.
- 00:21:04.773 --> 00:21:07.843
- But listen to this, there's a caveat here.
- 00:21:07.843 --> 00:21:10.312
- If we're gonna call jesus our friend,
- 00:21:10.312 --> 00:21:13.382
- There are some responsibilities that go with that relationship.
- 00:21:13.382 --> 00:21:17.819
- Jesus said in john 15:14, "you are my friends
- 00:21:17.819 --> 00:21:21.089
- If you do what i command."
- 00:21:21.089 --> 00:21:24.760
- You're my friends if you do what i command.
- 00:21:24.760 --> 00:21:27.162
- So if you're really a friend of god,
- 00:21:27.162 --> 00:21:28.930
- You'll obey him continually.
- 00:21:28.930 --> 00:21:31.099
- Now, that doesn't mean you're perfect.
- 00:21:31.099 --> 00:21:33.335
- 'cause you're gonna trip up, you're gonna fall,
- 00:21:33.335 --> 00:21:35.003
- You're gonna fail, okay and we know that.
- 00:21:35.003 --> 00:21:37.139
- But it means, well i fail, but i'm gonna get up and recommit
- 00:21:37.139 --> 00:21:40.075
- Myself to the lord again, it's sort of like getting married.
- 00:21:40.075 --> 00:21:43.345
- You say i do on your wedding day,
- 00:21:43.345 --> 00:21:46.315
- But then you say, i do for every day and week and month that
- 00:21:46.315 --> 00:21:50.752
- Follows again, and again, and again,
- 00:21:50.752 --> 00:21:53.088
- You honor that commitment.
- 00:21:53.088 --> 00:21:54.956
- And in the same way, you come to the lord each and every day and
- 00:21:54.956 --> 00:21:57.726
- Say, "lord, i fall short, i need your help.
- 00:21:57.726 --> 00:22:00.729
- Fill me with your holy spirit.
- 00:22:00.729 --> 00:22:03.131
- But i wanna be your friend and do what you command me."
- 00:22:03.131 --> 00:22:06.001
- "you are my friends."
- 00:22:06.001 --> 00:22:07.336
- Jesus says, "if you do whatever i command."
- 00:22:07.336 --> 00:22:09.938
- He did not say, "you are my friends,
- 00:22:09.938 --> 00:22:11.673
- If you do whatever you agree with."
- 00:22:11.673 --> 00:22:16.178
- Sometimes people say, "well, i don't agree
- 00:22:16.178 --> 00:22:17.512
- With this verse in the bible."
- 00:22:17.512 --> 00:22:19.214
- Oh, interesting, you're wrong, you are.
- 00:22:19.214 --> 00:22:24.086
- "well, i just don't know in this modern culture in which--"
- 00:22:24.086 --> 00:22:26.355
- Shut up, you're wrong.
- 00:22:26.355 --> 00:22:29.091
- Bible doesn't change.
- 00:22:29.091 --> 00:22:31.226
- We don't wanna adapt the bible to our culture,
- 00:22:31.226 --> 00:22:33.428
- We need to adapt our culture to the bible, see,
- 00:22:33.428 --> 00:22:35.831
- That's the problem.
- 00:22:35.831 --> 00:22:41.703
- "you are my friends, if you do whatsoever i command you."
- 00:22:41.703 --> 00:22:44.973
- Or he doesn't say, "you are my friends,
- 00:22:44.973 --> 00:22:47.342
- If you do whatever you find easy or whatever
- 00:22:47.342 --> 00:22:50.912
- You're comfortable with."
- 00:22:50.912 --> 00:22:52.247
- Look i'll be honest with you, there are things in the bible
- 00:22:52.247 --> 00:22:54.349
- I'm not comfortable with.
- 00:22:54.349 --> 00:22:56.852
- I'm not comfortable with loving enemies.
- 00:22:56.852 --> 00:23:00.088
- I'm not comfortable with turning the other cheek.
- 00:23:00.088 --> 00:23:03.658
- I'm not comfortable with some things god tells me to do,
- 00:23:03.658 --> 00:23:06.895
- But this is what the bible says, and that's a standard
- 00:23:06.895 --> 00:23:10.632
- We are to seek to live by.
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- You are my friend says jesus if you do whatever i command you.
- 00:23:12.868 --> 00:23:17.606
- Do you have this friendship with god?
- 00:23:17.606 --> 00:23:20.442
- God longs for this friendship with you.
- 00:23:20.442 --> 00:23:22.644
- He wants to be your friend, what an offer but as i said earlier,
- 00:23:22.644 --> 00:23:27.816
- There can only be a friendship when there's give and take,
- 00:23:27.816 --> 00:23:30.419
- When we reciprocate and say, "yes,
- 00:23:30.419 --> 00:23:32.587
- I want that friendship with you, lord.
- 00:23:32.587 --> 00:23:34.956
- I want to walk with you and know you in a personal way."
- 00:23:34.956 --> 00:23:40.262
- And that can happen for each and every one of us.
- 00:23:40.262 --> 00:23:43.365
- Jesus has proven this friendship because he said,
- 00:23:43.365 --> 00:23:47.335
- "greater love has no man than this and he laid down his life
- 00:23:47.335 --> 00:23:50.739
- For his friends."
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- ♪♪♪
- 00:23:52.841 --> 00:23:58.847
- Greg: maybe god has spoken to your heart and you have seen
- 00:23:58.847 --> 00:24:03.385
- Your need for jesus christ.
- 00:24:03.385 --> 00:24:05.620
- Jesus christ is the son of god who came
- 00:24:05.620 --> 00:24:08.890
- From heaven to this earth.
- 00:24:08.890 --> 00:24:10.892
- He was born in a manger, he died on a cross,
- 00:24:10.892 --> 00:24:14.429
- He rose again from the dead, why?
- 00:24:14.429 --> 00:24:16.598
- Because he loves you and he wants a relationship with you.
- 00:24:16.598 --> 00:24:20.001
- Listen, i'm not talking about religion,
- 00:24:20.001 --> 00:24:22.437
- I don't wanna be a religious person,
- 00:24:22.437 --> 00:24:24.239
- I don't think you wanna be one either.
- 00:24:24.239 --> 00:24:26.174
- I'm talking about relationship with god.
- 00:24:26.174 --> 00:24:29.811
- Jesus who died and rose again stands at the door of your life
- 00:24:29.811 --> 00:24:34.082
- And he knocks and he says, if you'll hear his voice and open
- 00:24:34.082 --> 00:24:37.519
- The door, he will come in.
- 00:24:37.519 --> 00:24:39.187
- Question, have you asked jesus christ to come
- 00:24:39.187 --> 00:24:41.857
- And live inside of you?
- 00:24:41.857 --> 00:24:43.558
- You might say, "well i think so, i'm not sure."
- 00:24:43.558 --> 00:24:45.660
- Hey, if someone moved into your house in the middle of the
- 00:24:45.660 --> 00:24:47.963
- Night, do you think you would be aware of it?
- 00:24:47.963 --> 00:24:50.599
- I'm sure you would.
- 00:24:50.599 --> 00:24:52.434
- And in the same way, if christ has come to live inside of you,
- 00:24:52.434 --> 00:24:55.403
- You will know.
- 00:24:55.403 --> 00:24:56.805
- And if you don't know, maybe he has not come in yet.
- 00:24:56.805 --> 00:25:00.208
- He's just a prayer away.
- 00:25:00.208 --> 00:25:02.077
- All you need to do is say, "jesus,
- 00:25:02.077 --> 00:25:04.145
- I want this relationship with you,
- 00:25:04.145 --> 00:25:06.147
- I want you to forgive me of my sin,
- 00:25:06.147 --> 00:25:08.350
- I wanna go to heaven when i die."
- 00:25:08.350 --> 00:25:10.285
- Would you like to do that?
- 00:25:10.285 --> 00:25:11.786
- Would you like christ to come into your life?
- 00:25:11.786 --> 00:25:14.389
- If so, why don't you just pray this simple prayer with me.
- 00:25:14.389 --> 00:25:17.492
- You can pray it out loud or you can pray it in the quietness of
- 00:25:17.492 --> 00:25:20.896
- Your heart.
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- But this is a prayer where you're asking jesus christ to be
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- Your savior and lord.
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- Pray this with me now.
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- "lord jesus, i know that i'm a sinner,
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- But i know that you're the savior,
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- Who died on the cross for my sin and rose again from the dead.
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- Now come into my life.
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- I choose to follow you from this moment forward.
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- Thank you for hearing this prayer and answering this
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- Prayer, in jesus's name, amen."
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- Did you just pray that prayer with me?
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- If so, i want you to know on the authority of scripture that
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- Christ himself has come to live inside of you,
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- And i would love to send to you at no charge
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- The new believers' bible.
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- It's a very friendly translation of the new testament you'll find
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- Very understandable, and it's filled with hundreds of notes
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- That i wrote that will encourage you in this commitment you've
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- Just made to follow jesus.
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- And let me be the first to say to you,
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- Congratulations and welcome to the family of god.
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- ♪♪♪
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- Greg: greg laurie here.
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- You know, at harvest ministries we're committing to reaching
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- Unexpected people in unexpected places with an
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- Unexpected message.
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- And thanks to your financial support, we've been able to
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- Touch people all over the world with the hope of jesus christ.
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- Your gifts today not only help reach millions across the
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- Country through this television program,
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- They also help us to bring hope to people in their biggest need.
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- Whether through our evangelistic events or our relief efforts,
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- Together we've been able to minister to so many people
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- Devastated by the fires in lahaina on the island of maui.
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- And also, your support has helped us partner to bring
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- Medical help in the ongoing conflict in israel.
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- So i'm asking you today to continue to support this
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- Ministry so we can do everything possible to fulfill the
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- Great commission.
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- Let's do this together, and let me say in advance,
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- Thank you and god bless you.
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