Joel Osteen

Joel Osteen - Don't Rely On People

August 28, 2025 | S25 E240 | 30:0

Joel and Victoria Osteen's message of unconditional love and unending hope reaches everyone across the world.

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Joel Osteen | Joel Osteen - Don't Rely On People | August 28, 2025

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[music] >> joel osteen: well, god
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>> joel osteen: well, god bless you.
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Bless you. it's a joy to come into your
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It's a joy to come into your homes and if you're ever
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Homes and if you're ever in our area, please stop
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In our area, please stop by and be a part of one of
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By and be a part of one of our services.
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Our services. i promise you we'll make you
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I promise you we'll make you feel right at home.
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Feel right at home. i like to start with
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I like to start with something funny and i heard
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Something funny and i heard about these three sons that
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About these three sons that left home and went out and
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Left home and went out and prospered.
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Prospered. they got back together to
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They got back together to talk about the gifts they
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Talk about the gifts they bought their elderly mother.
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Bought their elderly mother. the first son said, "i built
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The first son said, "i built mom a big house."
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Mom a big house." the second one said, "i got
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The second one said, "i got her a fancy car."
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Her a fancy car." the third son said, "since
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The third son said, "since mom loves to read the bible
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Mom loves to read the bible but she can barely see
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But she can barely see anymore, i got her a
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Anymore, i got her a specially trained parrot that
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Specially trained parrot that can quote the entire bible."
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Can quote the entire bible." a few months later, they
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A few months later, they received a letter from their
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Received a letter from their mother.
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Mother. it said, "milton, the house
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It said, "milton, the house you built me is way too big.
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You built me is way too big. gerald, the car you bought me
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Gerald, the car you bought me is way too small. but my
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Is way too small. but my dearest donald, your
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Dearest donald, your simple gift is my favorite.
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Simple gift is my favorite. the chicken was delicious."
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The chicken was delicious." say it like you mean it.
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Say it like you mean it. "this is my bible. i am what
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"this is my bible. i am what it says i am. i have what it
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It says i am. i have what it says i have. i can do what
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Says i have. i can do what it says i can do. today i
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It says i can do. today i will be taught the word
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Will be taught the word of god. i boldly confess
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Of god. i boldly confess my mind is alert. my heart
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My mind is alert. my heart is receptive. i will never
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Is receptive. i will never be the same. in jesus'
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Be the same. in jesus' name."
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Name." god bless you.
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God bless you. i want to talk to you today
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I want to talk to you today about not relying on
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About not relying on people.
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People. it's great when people
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It's great when people believe in us, cheer us on
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Believe in us, cheer us on and make us feel valuable.
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And make us feel valuable. we love when our spouse
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We love when our spouse compliments us.
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Compliments us. a friend is there to give
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A friend is there to give encouragement.
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Encouragement. our co-worker stays late to
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Our co-worker stays late to help us on a project.
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Help us on a project. god uses people to help move
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God uses people to help move us toward our destiny.
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Us toward our destiny. but here is the key, you
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But here is the key, you can't become so dependent on
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Can't become so dependent on people that you're getting
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People that you're getting your worth and value out of
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Your worth and value out of how they treat you.
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How they treat you. it's easy to become addicted
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It's easy to become addicted to compliments.
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To compliments. addicted to encouragement.
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Addicted to encouragement. addicted to them cheering you
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Addicted to them cheering you on.
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On. now you rely on them to keep
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Now you rely on them to keep you feeling good about
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You feeling good about yourself.
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Yourself. to always be there to
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To always be there to validate you.
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Validate you. to make you feel approved.
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To make you feel approved. like a drug, if they don't
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Like a drug, if they don't keep you fixed, meet all your
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Keep you fixed, meet all your expectations, you get
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Expectations, you get discouraged, feel inferior,
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Discouraged, feel inferior, work overtime to try to win
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Work overtime to try to win their approval.
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Their approval. the problem is you're trying
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The problem is you're trying to get from people what only
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To get from people what only god can give.
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God can give. your worth, your value
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Your worth, your value doesn't come from another
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Doesn't come from another person.
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Person. it comes from your creator.
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It comes from your creator. if you rely on people, you'll
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If you rely on people, you'll be disappointed.
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Be disappointed. people will let you down.
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People will let you down. people will get busy and not
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People will get busy and not be there when you need it.
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Be there when you need it. sometimes people even turn on
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Sometimes people even turn on you.
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You. in the scripture, peter was
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In the scripture, peter was jesus' close friend.
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Jesus' close friend. they were with each other day
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They were with each other day and night.
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And night. but when jesus needed peter
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But when jesus needed peter the most.
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The most. when he was about to be
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When he was about to be crucified, peter denied that
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Crucified, peter denied that he even knew christ.
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He even knew christ. jesus could've been upset.
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Jesus could've been upset. "god, i don't understand it.
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"god, i don't understand it. why wasn't my friend there
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Why wasn't my friend there for me?"
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For me?" he would've missed his
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He would've missed his destiny.
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Destiny. quit relying on people.
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Quit relying on people. what they do or don't do,
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What they do or don't do, doesn't determine your worth.
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Doesn't determine your worth. what they give you or don't
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What they give you or don't give you cannot stop your
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Give you cannot stop your purpose.
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Purpose. god breathed his life into
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God breathed his life into you.
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You. he is crowned you with his
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He is crowned you with his favor.
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Favor. quit waiting for people to
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Quit waiting for people to approve you and start
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Approve you and start approving yourself.
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Approving yourself. people may not encourage you.
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People may not encourage you. you can encourage yourself.
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You can encourage yourself. people may not make you feel
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People may not make you feel special.
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Special. you can make yourself feel
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You can make yourself feel special.
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Special. "i'm a child of the most high
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"i'm a child of the most high god. i know i'm crowned with
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God. i know i'm crowned with favor. i'm one of a kind.
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Favor. i'm one of a kind. i'm a masterpiece."
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I'm a masterpiece." you'll have better
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You'll have better relationships if you start
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Relationships if you start validating yourself.
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Validating yourself. if your always depending on
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If your always depending on somebody else you'll become
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Somebody else you'll become needy, a burden, waiting for
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Needy, a burden, waiting for other people to keep you
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Other people to keep you fixed.
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Fixed. can i tell you your friends,
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Can i tell you your friends, family members, they have
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Family members, they have enough problems of their own.
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Enough problems of their own. they have enough issues that
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They have enough issues that they're dealing with to not
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They're dealing with to not come home and have to work on
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Come home and have to work on you for three hours.
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You for three hours. that's not only hurting you.
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That's not only hurting you. it's unfair to the people god
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It's unfair to the people god put in your life.
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Put in your life. they're not responsible for
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They're not responsible for your happiness.
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Your happiness. they're not responsible to
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They're not responsible to keep you cheered up.
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Keep you cheered up. don't put that extra pressure
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Don't put that extra pressure on them.
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On them. learn to receive your value,
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Learn to receive your value, your self-worth from your
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Your self-worth from your heavenly father.
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Heavenly father. if you're basing that off of
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If you're basing that off of what people give you, then if
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What people give you, then if they change their mind, if
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They change their mind, if they stop doing it, you'll
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They stop doing it, you'll feel devalued.
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Feel devalued. but when you go to god for
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But when you go to god for it, nobody can take it away.
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It, nobody can take it away. it's not dependent on how
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It's not dependent on how somebody treats you.
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Somebody treats you. how they make you feel.
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How they make you feel. how many compliments they
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How many compliments they give you.
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Give you. it's dependent on the fact
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It's dependent on the fact that you're a child of
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That you're a child of almighty god and you know he
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Almighty god and you know he has already approved you.
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Has already approved you. that's where you're getting
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That's where you're getting your value.
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Your value. "well joel, my parents didn't
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"well joel, my parents didn't raise me right. i didn't have
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Raise me right. i didn't have a good childhood or my spouse
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A good childhood or my spouse never compliments me. my boss
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Never compliments me. my boss didn't give me the credit
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Didn't give me the credit that i deserve."
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That i deserve." i say this respectfully, if
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I say this respectfully, if you didn't get it, you didn't
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You didn't get it, you didn't need it.
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Need it. they can't stop your destiny.
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They can't stop your destiny. what they say or do cannot
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What they say or do cannot override god's plan for
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Override god's plan for your life.
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Your life. shake off the negativity.
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Shake off the negativity. that person that walked away,
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That person that walked away, did you wrong, make hurtful
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Did you wrong, make hurtful comments, shake off the
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Comments, shake off the disrespect.
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Disrespect. don't believe the lies that
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Don't believe the lies that you're not talented enough,
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You're not talented enough, attractive enough, good
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Attractive enough, good enough.
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Enough. they don't determine your
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They don't determine your value.
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Value. jesus had all kinds of
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Jesus had all kinds of people come against him,
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People come against him, politicians, religious
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Politicians, religious leaders, haters, critics,
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Leaders, haters, critics, trying to discredit him.
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Trying to discredit him. make him feel inferior, calls
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Make him feel inferior, calls him to give up.
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Him to give up. he could've taking the bait.
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He could've taking the bait. thought, "i'm must not be too
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Thought, "i'm must not be too special. listen to what
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Special. listen to what they're saying. look at how
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They're saying. look at how they're treating me."
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They're treating me." but jesus understood this
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But jesus understood this principle.
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Principle. he knew his value didn't come
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He knew his value didn't come from people.
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From people. it came for his heavenly
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It came for his heavenly father.
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Father. he said to them in john
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He said to them in john chapter 5, "your approval or
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Chapter 5, "your approval or disapproval means nothing to
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Disapproval means nothing to me."
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Me." he was saying, "i don't need
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He was saying, "i don't need your approval to feel good
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Your approval to feel good about myself. i don't have to
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About myself. i don't have to have your encouragement, your
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Have your encouragement, your support to keep me moving
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Support to keep me moving forward."
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Forward." paul said it this way in
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Paul said it this way in philippians, "i am
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Philippians, "i am self-sufficient in christ's
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Self-sufficient in christ's sufficiency."
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Sufficiency." not in our own strength.
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Not in our own strength. but when we know the creator
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But when we know the creator of the universe lives in us.
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Of the universe lives in us. he's equipped us, empowered
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He's equipped us, empowered us, anointed us.
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Us, anointed us. we can put our shoulders
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We can put our shoulders back, hold our head up high
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Back, hold our head up high knowing that if god approves
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Knowing that if god approves us, we don't have to have
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Us, we don't have to have people's approvals.
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People's approvals. it's good when people
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It's good when people encourage us, when they cheer
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Encourage us, when they cheer us on.
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Us on. what i'm saying is don't
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What i'm saying is don't become dependent on that.
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Become dependent on that. if somebody is not giving you
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If somebody is not giving you what you expect, they're not
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What you expect, they're not validating you.
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Validating you. that's okay!
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That's okay! you can validate yourself.
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You can validate yourself. you can approve yourself.
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You can approve yourself. you are self-sufficient in
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You are self-sufficient in christ's sufficiency.
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Christ's sufficiency. you can feel good about who
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You can feel good about who you are.
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You are. knowing that god handpicked
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Knowing that god handpicked you.
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You. created you in his image.
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Created you in his image. put seeds of greatness on the
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Put seeds of greatness on the inside.
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Inside. what am i saying?
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What am i saying? you don't need somebody
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You don't need somebody else's praise.
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Else's praise. you don't have to have
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You don't have to have people's applause.
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People's applause. you have the applause from
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You have the applause from the one who matters most,
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The one who matters most, from the god who spoke
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From the god who spoke worlds into existence.
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Worlds into existence. i'd rather have his applause
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I'd rather have his applause than people's applause.
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"well, if i could convince
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"well, if i could convince this person to like me.
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This person to like me. they know a lot of people.
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They know a lot of people. then maybe some new doors
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Then maybe some new doors would open."
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Would open." the scripture says,
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The scripture says, "promotion doesn't come from
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"promotion doesn't come from people. it comes from
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People. it comes from the lord."
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The lord." god knows where all the
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God knows where all the opportunities are.
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Opportunities are. he can make things happen for
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He can make things happen for you without you having to
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You without you having to convince somebody to like
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Convince somebody to like you.
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You. you don't have to play up to
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You don't have to play up to people, try to win their
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People, try to win their favor.
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Favor. if they don't want to be your
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If they don't want to be your friend, it's their loss and not
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Friend, it's their loss and not yours.
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Yours. do yourself a favor and keep
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Do yourself a favor and keep moving forward.
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Moving forward. they're not a part of your
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They're not a part of your destiny.
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Destiny. god has divine connections.
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God has divine connections. people he's already lined up.
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People he's already lined up. they're already in your
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They're already in your future.
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Future. sometimes the reason people
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Sometimes the reason people don't give us what we need is
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Don't give us what we need is because they don't have it.
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Because they don't have it. nobody gave it to them.
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Nobody gave it to them. they didn't see a modeled
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They didn't see a modeled growing up.
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Growing up. if they weren't raise showing
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If they weren't raise showing affection, with people
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Affection, with people expressing feelings, being
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Expressing feelings, being good to each other.
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Good to each other. the problem is they don't
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The problem is they don't have it to give.
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Have it to give. if you're trying to get it
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If you're trying to get it from them, you're going to be
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From them, you're going to be frustrated.
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Frustrated. why don't you let them off
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Why don't you let them off the hook and go to god for
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The hook and go to god for what they can give you?
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What they can give you? here's the key god has it
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Here's the key god has it all.
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All. if you learn this principle
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If you learn this principle to not rely on people, but
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To not rely on people, but to go to him for your
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To go to him for your encouragement, for your
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Encouragement, for your approval, for your
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Approval, for your self-worth, then you
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Self-worth, then you won't live stressed out
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Won't live stressed out because somebody is not
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Because somebody is not giving you what you expect.
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Giving you what you expect. if nobody is complimenting
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If nobody is complimenting you, you can compliment
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You, you can compliment yourself.
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Yourself. get up in the morning.
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Get up in the morning. look at yourself in the
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Look at yourself in the mirror.
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Mirror. "good morning you
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"good morning you good-looking thing."
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Good-looking thing." call it by faith.
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Call it by faith. god calls you a masterpiece.
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God calls you a masterpiece. say what god says about you.
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Say what god says about you. i'm strong!
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I'm strong! i'm healthy!
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I'm healthy! i'm one of a kind!
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I'm one of a kind! i'm highly favored!
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I'm highly favored! you have to build yourself
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You have to build yourself up.
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Up. encourage yourself.
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Encourage yourself. compliment yourself.
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Compliment yourself. you cannot rely on your
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You cannot rely on your spouse, your parents, your
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Spouse, your parents, your coach, your teacher, your
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Coach, your teacher, your pastor.
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Pastor. they may mean well.
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They may mean well. they couldn't love you
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They couldn't love you any more.
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Any more. but no person can meet all of
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But no person can meet all of your needs.
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Your needs. only god can.
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Only god can. if you're just looking to
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If you're just looking to people eventually you're
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People eventually you're going to become resentful,
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Going to become resentful, bitter, start holding that
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Bitter, start holding that against them.
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Against them. it will sour the
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It will sour the relationship.
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Relationship. the truth is it's not their
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The truth is it's not their fault.
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Fault. maybe they have issues.
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Maybe they have issues. they could be doing better in
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They could be doing better in areas.
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Areas. but if you'll not rely on
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But if you'll not rely on people, instead go to god,
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People, instead go to god, then you won't be dependent
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Then you won't be dependent on what somebody does.
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On what somebody does. if they're not giving you
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If they're not giving you what you need and that was
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What you need and that was the only way to get it, they
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The only way to get it, they would control your destiny.
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Would control your destiny. god didn't design a plan for
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God didn't design a plan for your life and say, "okay, it's
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Your life and say, "okay, it's all dependent only if these
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All dependent only if these other people do what's right."
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Other people do what's right." if they encourage you.
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If they encourage you. if they cheer you on.
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If they cheer you on. if they never let you down.
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If they never let you down. god put everything you need
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God put everything you need within your power.
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Within your power. instead of us living needy,
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Instead of us living needy, "oh man, what they don't
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"oh man, what they don't compliment me? why won't they
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Compliment me? why won't they be my friends?"
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Be my friends?" the right attitude is,
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The right attitude is, "nobody owes me anything.
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"nobody owes me anything. i don't have to have people's
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I don't have to have people's credit, their applause, their
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Credit, their applause, their support, their compliments.
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Support, their compliments. i am self-sufficient! i know
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I am self-sufficient! i know where to go for everything
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Where to go for everything that i need."
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That i need." my father was raised very
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My father was raised very poor, on a cotton farm during
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Poor, on a cotton farm during the great depression.
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The great depression. he didn't have enough food,
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He didn't have enough food, hardly any clothes, a limited
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Hardly any clothes, a limited education.
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Education. it was a very rough
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It was a very rough childhood.
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Childhood. at the age of seventeen, my
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At the age of seventeen, my dad gave his life to christ
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Dad gave his life to christ and he left the farm and went
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And he left the farm and went out and started ministering.
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Out and started ministering. years later, when he was in
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Years later, when he was in his forties had become a
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His forties had become a successful minister.
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Successful minister. he started thinking about how
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He started thinking about how he was raised and all the
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He was raised and all the things he had to endure.
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Things he had to endure. he wondered why his parents
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He wondered why his parents didn't give them a better
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Didn't give them a better childhood.
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Childhood. why he had to go without
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Why he had to go without food, without a good
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Food, without a good education.
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Education. all these negative memories
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All these negative memories filled his mind and he
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Filled his mind and he started thinking, "ah, that
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Started thinking, "ah, that wasn't right. they should've
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Wasn't right. they should've done better. they didn't give
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Done better. they didn't give me what i need it."
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Me what i need it." he got so stirred up about
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He got so stirred up about it.
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It. he was about to travel back
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He was about to travel back to his parents' hometown and
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To his parents' hometown and confront his parents and tell
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Confront his parents and tell them what he thought.
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Them what he thought. just before he left, he heard
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Just before he left, he heard something on the inside
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Something on the inside saying, "they did you wrong.
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Saying, "they did you wrong. didn't they?"
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Didn't they?" he said, "yeah, they sure
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He said, "yeah, they sure did."
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Did." it said, "it wasn't fair, was
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It said, "it wasn't fair, was it? they didn't give you what
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It? they didn't give you what you needed it."
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You needed it." he answered, "no, it wasn't
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He answered, "no, it wasn't fair."
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Fair." "you go let them have it."
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"you go let them have it." "yeah, i'm gonna let them
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"yeah, i'm gonna let them have it."
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Have it." then the voice said, "how do
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Then the voice said, "how do you think you would've done
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You think you would've done if you would've been in their
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If you would've been in their shoes? with no income, with
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Shoes? with no income, with the banks closing, with
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The banks closing, with nobody to buy the cotton,
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Nobody to buy the cotton, with six children to raise,
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With six children to raise, no electricity, no washing
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No electricity, no washing machines, no modern day
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Machines, no modern day conveniences?"
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Conveniences?" that conversation changed my
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That conversation changed my father's perspective.
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Father's perspective. he realized his parents did
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He realized his parents did the best they could with
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The best they could with what they had.
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What they had. they couldn't give him what
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They couldn't give him what they didn't have.
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They didn't have. why don't you let the people
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Why don't you let the people in your life off the hook.
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In your life off the hook. maybe they did the best they
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Maybe they did the best they could.
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Could. they may have made decisions
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They may have made decisions that you don't understand.
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That you don't understand. feels like it puts you at a
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Feels like it puts you at a disadvantage.
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Disadvantage. but you didn't have to walk
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But you didn't have to walk in their shoes.
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In their shoes. maybe nobody gave them what
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Maybe nobody gave them what they needed to give to you.
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They needed to give to you. bottom line, nobody owes you
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Bottom line, nobody owes you anything.
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Anything. god is keeping all the
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God is keeping all the records.
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Records. he has seen everything
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He has seen everything that's happened in your
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That's happened in your life.
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Life. the injustice, the bad
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The injustice, the bad breaks, the person that did
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Breaks, the person that did you wrong.
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You wrong. those people cannot pay you
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Those people cannot pay you back.
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Back. they cannot make you whole.
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They cannot make you whole. only god can.
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Only god can. he said, "he would give you
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He said, "he would give you beauty for the ashes."
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Beauty for the ashes." he would pay you back double
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He would pay you back double for the unfair things that
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For the unfair things that have happened.
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Have happened. quit looking to people to
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Quit looking to people to make it up to you.
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Make it up to you. quit trying to get somebody
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Quit trying to get somebody to apologize, to admit they
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To apologize, to admit they were wrong, to give you what
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Were wrong, to give you what they don't have.
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They don't have. if you go to god, he'll bring
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If you go to god, he'll bring you out better.
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You out better. he'll make the rest of your
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He'll make the rest of your life more rewarding, more
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Life more rewarding, more fulfilling that it would've
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Fulfilling that it would've been if that hadn't happened
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Been if that hadn't happened in the first place.
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In the first place. that's what my father did.
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That's what my father did. he let it go.
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He let it go. he realized his parents
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He realized his parents couldn't give him what they
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Couldn't give him what they didn't have.
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Didn't have. daddy went on to live a
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Daddy went on to live a blessed, prosperous,
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Blessed, prosperous, successful life.
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Successful life. when you let people off the
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When you let people off the hook, quit trying to make
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Hook, quit trying to make them perform perfectly and
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Them perform perfectly and keep you fixed, not only
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Keep you fixed, not only will their life be better,
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Will their life be better, but your relationships will
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But your relationships will improve.
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Improve. no matter how good of a
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No matter how good of a person is they can't give you
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Person is they can't give you everything that you need.
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Everything that you need. i realize i can't meet every
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I realize i can't meet every one of victoria's needs.
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One of victoria's needs. i can do my best.
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I can do my best. i can compliment her,
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I can compliment her, encourage her, treat her with
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Encourage her, treat her with respect.
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Respect. but i'm human.
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But i'm human. i have flaws, shortcomings.
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I have flaws, shortcomings. if she just looks to me,
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If she just looks to me, she'll be disappointed.
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She'll be disappointed. but if you'll look to god,
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But if you'll look to god, you'll never be disappointed.
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You'll never be disappointed. no person has 100%
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I've heard it said, "in a
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I've heard it said, "in a relationship the most the
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Relationship the most the other person would have is
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Other person would have is 80% what you need.
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80% what you need. there will always be 20%
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There will always be 20% that they don't have to
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That they don't have to give you."
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Give you." the mistake we make is we
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The mistake we make is we leave the 80 to go find the
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Leave the 80 to go find the 20 in somebody else.
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20 in somebody else. the problem is that next
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The problem is that next person will be missing 20%
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Person will be missing 20% as well.
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As well. i know some of you're
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I know some of you're thinking, "joel, my wife is
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Thinking, "joel, my wife is missing a lot more than
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Missing a lot more than 20%."
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20%." think of it in this way.
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Think of it in this way. if she had more, she wouldn't
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If she had more, she wouldn't have married you.
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Have married you. i'm sticking with the
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I'm sticking with the ladies.
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Ladies. part of the 20% that i'm
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Part of the 20% that i'm missing, that victoria
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Missing, that victoria needs is, i don't like to
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Needs is, i don't like to talk a lot.
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Talk a lot. you see me up here and i
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You see me up here and i seem outgoing.
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Seem outgoing. but in private i'm more quiet
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But in private i'm more quiet and reserved.
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And reserved. small talk is not one of my
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Small talk is not one of my favorite things.
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Favorite things. and yes, at home we talk and
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And yes, at home we talk and laugh and have fun together.
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Laugh and have fun together. but victoria and her family,
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But victoria and her family, they can talk for hours.
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They can talk for hours. they enjoy each other.
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They enjoy each other. we were having lunch one time
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We were having lunch one time at our house with all of her
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At our house with all of her family and after about 30
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Family and after about 30 minutes when i'd finished
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Minutes when i'd finished eating, i asked to be excused
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Eating, i asked to be excused and i went to the back and
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And i went to the back and watched the football game.
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Watched the football game. three and a half hours later,
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Three and a half hours later, i came back and they were
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I came back and they were still seating at the table.
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Still seating at the table. nobody had moved.
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Nobody had moved. i was so amazed.
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I was so amazed. i asked them, "did you all go
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I asked them, "did you all go somewhere?"
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Somewhere?" victoria said, "no, we didn't
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Victoria said, "no, we didn't go anywhere."
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Go anywhere." i said, "what are you talking
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I said, "what are you talking about?"
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About?" victoria said, "nothing!"
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Victoria said, "nothing!" they talked about nothing
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They talked about nothing longer than anybody i know.
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Longer than anybody i know. but, the key to a good
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But, the key to a good relationship is to recognize
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Relationship is to recognize the other person's
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The other person's strengths and weaknesses.
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Strengths and weaknesses. then give them room to be who
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Then give them room to be who they are.
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They are. don't try to squeeze them
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Don't try to squeeze them into your mold.
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Into your mold. what i appreciated about
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What i appreciated about victoria is she didn't say,
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Victoria is she didn't say, "joel come in here and
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"joel come in here and visit with us for three and
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Visit with us for three and a half hours or i'll get
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A half hours or i'll get upset. i'll give you the cold
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Upset. i'll give you the cold shoulder."
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Shoulder." she recognizes that's a part
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She recognizes that's a part of the 20% that i don't have.
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Of the 20% that i don't have. i thank god every day that i
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I thank god every day that i didn't get it.
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Didn't get it. but victoria, she doesn't try
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But victoria, she doesn't try to squeeze me into her mold.
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To squeeze me into her mold. and even more importantly,
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And even more importantly, she doesn't try to get
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She doesn't try to get something from me that i
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Something from me that i don't have.
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Don't have. if you're relying on
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If you're relying on another person to meet
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Another person to meet all your needs and become
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All your needs and become everything in your life,
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Everything in your life, you're going to be
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You're going to be disappointed.
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Disappointed. you have to let them off the
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You have to let them off the hook.
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Hook. sometimes god would let us go
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Sometimes god would let us go through seasons where we're
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Through seasons where we're not getting what we expect
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Not getting what we expect from people.
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From people. on purpose, he'll have them
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On purpose, he'll have them withhold it to teach us to
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Withhold it to teach us to not rely on another person,
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Not rely on another person, but to give our
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But to give our encouragement, our value, our
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Encouragement, our value, our worth from him.
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Worth from him. when i first started
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When i first started ministering back in 1999, i
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Ministering back in 1999, i was very insecure, very
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Was very insecure, very unsure of myself.
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Unsure of myself. i'd never done it.
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I'd never done it. my dad had that heart attack
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My dad had that heart attack and went to be with the lord,
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And went to be with the lord, and i stepped up to pastor
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And i stepped up to pastor the church.
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The church. now, i was so concerned about
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Now, i was so concerned about what people thought.
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What people thought. was i doing it good enough?
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Was i doing it good enough? were they going to accept me?
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Were they going to accept me? after the services, when i
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After the services, when i talk with visitors and
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Talk with visitors and different people.
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Different people. i lived off of people's
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I lived off of people's compliments.
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Compliments. "joel, that was good today.
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"joel, that was good today. i really enjoyed it."
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I really enjoyed it." those comments were like
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Those comments were like water to a thirsty soul.
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Water to a thirsty soul. now, it's getting my approval,
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Now, it's getting my approval, my validation from people.
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My validation from people. you know god uses that to
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You know god uses that to keep us going and keep us
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Keep us going and keep us moving.
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Moving. but at some point, like a
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But at some point, like a mother weans a baby off a
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Mother weans a baby off a bottle so the child can grow
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Bottle so the child can grow up, god is going to wean you
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Up, god is going to wean you off having to have people's
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Off having to have people's compliments, people's
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Compliments, people's applause.
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Applause. doesn't mean is never going
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Doesn't mean is never going to happen?
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To happen? it means you're going to get
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It means you're going to get to a place when you're not
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To a place when you're not dependent on someone else
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Dependent on someone else cheering you on so you could
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Cheering you on so you could feel good about yourself.
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Feel good about yourself. you're not dependent on them
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You're not dependent on them complimenting you, keeping
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Complimenting you, keeping you encouraged.
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You encouraged. it's nice to hear, but you've
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It's nice to hear, but you've developed this
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Developed this self-sufficiency.
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Self-sufficiency. you don't rely on people for
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You don't rely on people for their approval.
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Their approval. you go to god for your
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You go to god for your approval.
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Approval. and here's the thing, you're
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And here's the thing, you're never going to keep everyone
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Never going to keep everyone happy.
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Happy. quit trying to please people.
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Quit trying to please people. when you come to the end of
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When you come to the end of your life, you're not going
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Your life, you're not going to stand before people and
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To stand before people and give them account.
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Give them account. you're going to stand before
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You're going to stand before god.
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God. he's not going to say, "did
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He's not going to say, "did you keep everyone happy?
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You keep everyone happy? did you please all your
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Did you please all your family? did you have the
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Family? did you have the support from your
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Support from your co-workers?"
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Co-workers?" he's going to ask, "did you
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He's going to ask, "did you fulfill my purpose for your
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Fulfill my purpose for your life? did you run your race?
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Life? did you run your race? did you finish your
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Did you finish your assignment?"
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Assignment?" maybe like with me, you're not
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Maybe like with me, you're not getting from people what you
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Getting from people what you used to, the compliments, the
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Used to, the compliments, the support, the encouragement.
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Support, the encouragement. instead of being frustrated,
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Instead of being frustrated, have a new perspective.
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Have a new perspective. god is growing you up.
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God is growing you up. he's getting you prepared for
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He's getting you prepared for the next level of your
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The next level of your destiny.
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Destiny. the less you depend on
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The less you depend on people, the stronger your
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People, the stronger your spiritual muscles are going
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Spiritual muscles are going to become and the higher
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To become and the higher you're going to go.
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You're going to go. in judges chapter 7 the
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In judges chapter 7 the midianites joined forces with
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Midianites joined forces with two other armies.
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Two other armies. they crossed the jordan river
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They crossed the jordan river and were about to attack the
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And were about to attack the israelites.
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Israelites. gideon put up a call to all
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Gideon put up a call to all of his men.
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Of his men. thirty two thousand israeli
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Thirty two thousand israeli warriors showed up ready to
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Warriors showed up ready to fight.
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Fight. gideon was feeling good.
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Gideon was feeling good. he had a large army to
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He had a large army to protect the people of israel.
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Protect the people of israel. they marched out toward those
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They marched out toward those enemies.
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Enemies. but god said to him in verse
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But god said to him in verse 2, "gideon you have too
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2, "gideon you have too many people with you.
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Many people with you. if you win the battle, you'll
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If you win the battle, you'll think you did it in your own
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Think you did it in your own strength."
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Strength." god instructed him to tell
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God instructed him to tell everyone that wanted to
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Everyone that wanted to leave, anyone that was
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Leave, anyone that was afraid, they could go back
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Afraid, they could go back home.
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Home. twenty two thousand men
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Twenty two thousand men turned around and left.
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Turned around and left. he lost two thirds of his
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He lost two thirds of his army.
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Army. i'm sure gideon gulped and
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I'm sure gideon gulped and said, "god did you see what
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Said, "god did you see what just happened?"
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Just happened?" god said, "yes i saw it.
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God said, "yes i saw it. but gideon, you still have
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But gideon, you still have too many people."
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Too many people." god told gideon to take those
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God told gideon to take those remaining 10,000 men
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Remaining 10,000 men down to get a drink.
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Down to get a drink. he was to divide them into
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He was to divide them into two groups.
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Two groups. every man that put his mouth
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Every man that put his mouth to the water and drank, that
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To the water and drank, that was one group.
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Was one group. the second group was the men
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The second group was the men who cupped their hands and
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Who cupped their hands and brought the water to their
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Brought the water to their mouths.
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Mouths. nine thousand seven hundred
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Nine thousand seven hundred men put their mouth to the
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Men put their mouth to the water.
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Water. that was the group that was
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That was the group that was to go home.
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To go home. only 300 men drank it the
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Only 300 men drank it the other way.
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Other way. his army went from 32,000 to
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His army went from 32,000 to 300.
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300. i could imagine gideon
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I could imagine gideon thought, "god, i was confident
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Thought, "god, i was confident with 32,000. i was a little
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With 32,000. i was a little worried with 10,000, but god,
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Worried with 10,000, but god, 300 men? this is impossible!"
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300 men? this is impossible!" god was saying, "gideon, you
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God was saying, "gideon, you don't need everyone that you
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Don't need everyone that you think you need. you're
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Think you need. you're depending on too many
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Depending on too many people."
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People." god is saying that to us.
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God is saying that to us. "you don't need all of your
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"you don't need all of your co-workers to support you.
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Co-workers to support you. you don't have to have all
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You don't have to have all your friends and family
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Your friends and family members cheering you on."
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Members cheering you on." here's the key, the less you
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Here's the key, the less you depend on people, the greater
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Depend on people, the greater the anointing in your life.
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The anointing in your life. when you're no depending on
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When you're no depending on someone else hoping that
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Someone else hoping that they'll help you, thinking
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They'll help you, thinking that they're the savior, then
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That they're the savior, then god will release his favor in
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God will release his favor in your life in a greater way.
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Your life in a greater way. gideon went out with those
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Gideon went out with those 300 men.
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300 men. one percent of what he
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One percent of what he started with.
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Started with. god supernaturally helped
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God supernaturally helped them to defeat those armies
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Them to defeat those armies that were much bigger and
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That were much bigger and much more equipped.
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Much more equipped. in the same way, god is going
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In the same way, god is going to give you victories where
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To give you victories where the odds were totally against
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The odds were totally against you.
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You. you know you could
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You know you could accomplish your goal if you
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Accomplish your goal if you had the support, the
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Had the support, the connections.
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Connections. you could overcome that
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You could overcome that obstacle if you had the
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Obstacle if you had the strongest players, the best
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Strongest players, the best people on your legal team.
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People on your legal team. god is saying, "don't worry
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God is saying, "don't worry about it. you don't have to
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About it. you don't have to have all those people."
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Have all those people." you and god are a majority.
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You and god are a majority. the forces that are for you
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The forces that are for you are greater than the forces
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Are greater than the forces that are against you.
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That are against you. now quit saying "oh, if
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Now quit saying "oh, if they'd just train me.
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They'd just train me. if they'd just get behind me."
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If they'd just get behind me." if you'll quit depending on
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If you'll quit depending on people, the anointing will
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People, the anointing will increase in your own life.
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Increase in your own life. you'll accomplish more with
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You'll accomplish more with less help, with less people
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Less help, with less people because of god's favor on
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Because of god's favor on your life.
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Your life. are you frustrated because
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Are you frustrated because you don't think you have
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You don't think you have enough support?
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Enough support? have this new perspective.
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Have this new perspective. the greatest force in the
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The greatest force in the universe is breathing in your
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Universe is breathing in your direction right now.
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Direction right now. are you discouraged because
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Are you discouraged because people are not giving you
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People are not giving you what they used to?
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What they used to? it's because god is growing
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It's because god is growing you up.
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You up. quit trying to get from
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Quit trying to get from people what only god can
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People what only god can give.
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Give. go to him for your value,
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Go to him for your value, your self-worth, for your
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Your self-worth, for your encouragement.
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Encouragement. if you'll start passing these
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If you'll start passing these tests, not relying on people,
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Tests, not relying on people, you'll not only live more
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You'll not only live more confident, more secure, but i
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Confident, more secure, but i believe and declare like
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Believe and declare like gideon, you're going to
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Gideon, you're going to overcome obstacles that
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Overcome obstacles that looked insurmountable,
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Looked insurmountable, accomplish dreams that seemed
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Accomplish dreams that seemed impossible and reach the
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Impossible and reach the fullness of your destiny.
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Fullness of your destiny. in jesus name.
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In jesus name. if you receive it, can you
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If you receive it, can you say amen today?
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Say amen today? we never like to close our
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We never like to close our broadcast without giving you
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Broadcast without giving you an opportunity to make jesus
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An opportunity to make jesus the lord of your life.
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The lord of your life. would you pray with me?
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Would you pray with me? just say, "lord jesus, i
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Repent of my sins, come into
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Repent of my sins, come into my heart. i make you my
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My heart. i make you my lord and savior."
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Lord and savior." friends, if you've prayed
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Friends, if you've prayed that simple prayer we believe
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That simple prayer we believe you've got born again.
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You've got born again. get in a good bible-based
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Get in a good bible-based church.
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Church. keep god first place.
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Keep god first place. he's going to take you places
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He's going to take you places that you've never dreamed.
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It's easy to get stuck
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It's easy to get stuck in life
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In life because of fear
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Because of fear and lack of confidence,
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And lack of confidence, or we've been
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Or we've been through disappointments.
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Through disappointments. but i'm excited
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But i'm excited about victoria's new book,
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About victoria's new book, graced to go.
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Graced to go. it'll help you move past
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It'll help you move past what's holding you back
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What's holding you back and step into new levels
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And step into new levels of your destiny.
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My heart for this book
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My heart for this book is that you will discover
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Is that you will discover the courage,
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The courage, the gifts, and the faith
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The gifts, and the faith that god has put in you
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That god has put in you so that you can see
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So that you can see your dreams come to pass.
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Your dreams come to pass. it's not too late.
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It's not too late. the obstacles are not too big.
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The obstacles are not too big. the grace of god equips
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The grace of god equips you to go beyond
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You to go beyond your comfort zone
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Your comfort zone and overcome
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And overcome what looks impossible.
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What looks impossible. you are stronger than you think.
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You are stronger than you think. you are not alone.
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You are not alone. you are graced to go.
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You are graced to go. as our way of saying
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As our way of saying thank you
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Thank you for your gift of any amount
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For your gift of any amount this month, we'll send you
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This month, we'll send you victoria osteen's
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Victoria osteen's brand new book,
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Brand new book, graced to go:
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Graced to go: step into the
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Step into the bigger, bolder life
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Bigger, bolder life that belongs to you.
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That belongs to you. this inspiring resource
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You break through fear, insecurity,
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Fear, insecurity, or regret
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Or regret and activate the faith
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And activate the faith to move forward.
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To move forward. each chapter will
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Each chapter will stir your spirit,
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Stir your spirit, renew your perspective,
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Renew your perspective, and empower you to live boldly.
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And empower you to live boldly. you don't have to wait
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You don't have to wait for perfect conditions.
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For perfect conditions. god's grace meets you
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God's grace meets you where you are
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Where you are and propels you into a future
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And propels you into a future full of purpose and peace.
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Full of purpose and peace. with an additional gift,
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With an additional gift, we'll send you the
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Graced to go bold bundle, featuring graced to go
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Featuring graced to go by victoria osteen,
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By victoria osteen, and pray bold
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And pray bold by joel osteen.
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By joel osteen. these two powerful books
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These two powerful books will stir your faith,
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Will stir your faith, break hesitation,
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Break hesitation, and help you believe big again.
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And help you believe big again. grace is power.
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Grace is power. when you receive it by faith,
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When you receive it by faith, it enables you
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It enables you to take the next step
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To take the next step so you can become
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So you can become all you were created to be.
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All you were created to be. victoria and i are so grateful
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Victoria and i are so grateful to spend this time with you.
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To spend this time with you. we pray for
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We pray for you and your family every day,
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You and your family every day, and thank you so much
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For your prayer and support. your generosity
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Your generosity is helping people
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Special thank you to our champion of hope partners
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Becoming one. remember,
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Joel Osteen - Don't Rely On People

August 28, 2025 | S25 E240 | 30:0

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