Debra Fileta - Life-Giving Rhythms

July 23, 2025 | S25 E190 | 29:15

The author of “Soul Care” offers a path to peace, true health, and rest, so you can live in God’s fullness.

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Life Today with James Robison | Debra Fileta - Life-Giving Rhythms | July 23, 2025

Coming up on this wellness wednesday episode of life today!
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Debra fileta helps us maintain soul care
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By letting jesus's life rhythms
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Guide you to peace.
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>> this is why we really have to take inventory.
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Why am i always burnt out?
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Why am i always saying yes
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When i really should be saying no?
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Why am i always spread too thin and overcommitted?
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This isn't just a personality thing.
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This is something we really have to get to the root of.
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Tammy: hi, everybody!
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Tammy: hi, everybody! welcome to life today.
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Tammy: hi, everybody! welcome to life today. i'm tammy trent.
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Welcome to life today. i'm tammy trent. i'm so glad you're here for
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I'm tammy trent. i'm so glad you're here for another day, another episode
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I'm so glad you're here for another day, another episode of wellness wednesday s.
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Another day, another episode of wellness wednesday s. they're so good for the soul.
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So come on in.
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So come on in. grab a cup of coffee,
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So come on in. grab a cup of coffee, cup of tea,
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Grab a cup of coffee, cup of tea, whatever you need;
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Cup of tea, whatever you need; maybe even a piece of paper
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Whatever you need; maybe even a piece of paper and a pen because
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Maybe even a piece of paper and a pen because you might want to write
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And a pen because you might want to write some things down
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You might want to write some things down on a day like today.
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Some things down on a day like today. it's so, so good!
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On a day like today. it's so, so good! i want to introduce you
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It's so, so good! i want to introduce you to our guest host,
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I want to introduce you to our guest host, blynda lane.
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To our guest host, blynda lane. i'm so glad you're here.
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Blynda lane. i'm so glad you're here. you're so amazing.
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I'm so glad you're here. you're so amazing. you have so much insight.
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You're so amazing. you have so much insight. you actually, the depth,
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You have so much insight. you actually, the depth, your walk with jesus,
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You actually, the depth, your walk with jesus, like, i feel it,
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Your walk with jesus, like, i feel it, it exudes.
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Like, i feel it, it exudes. and you know scripture
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It exudes. and you know scripture so good!
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And you know scripture so good! i love it.
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So good! i love it. blynda: you're so sweet.
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I love it. blynda: you're so sweet. it has been so fun
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Blynda: you're so sweet. it has been so fun to be here with you.
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It has been so fun to be here with you. i mean, you're just --
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To be here with you. i mean, you're just -- what a gift tammy is.
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I mean, you're just -- what a gift tammy is. i mean, truly, what a gift!
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What a gift tammy is. i mean, truly, what a gift! because she is so full
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I mean, truly, what a gift! because she is so full of energy.
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Because she is so full of energy. you're so entertaining.
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Of energy. you're so entertaining. but you are so --
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You're so entertaining. but you are so -- like you see through people.
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But you are so -- like you see through people. you see them.
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Like you see through people. you see them. you actually really see them
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You see them. you actually really see them and i love that so much.
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You actually really see them and i love that so much. it's been really fun
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And i love that so much. it's been really fun to co-host with you.
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It's been really fun to co-host with you. tammy: thank you!
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To co-host with you. tammy: thank you! will you say this tomorrow?
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Tammy: thank you! will you say this tomorrow? blynda: yeah, absolutely.
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Will you say this tomorrow? blynda: yeah, absolutely. but also, i want to say
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Blynda: yeah, absolutely. but also, i want to say thank you to james and betty.
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But also, i want to say thank you to james and betty. i've loved them
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Thank you to james and betty. i've loved them for so many years;
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I've loved them for so many years; have gone to church with them.
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For so many years; have gone to church with them. in fact, funny story,
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Have gone to church with them. in fact, funny story, just a quick little story.
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In fact, funny story, just a quick little story. james was the first person,
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Just a quick little story. james was the first person, one of the first people
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James was the first person, one of the first people to ever speak into my life,
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One of the first people to ever speak into my life, that there was a gifting on me
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To ever speak into my life, that there was a gifting on me to be in television.
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That there was a gifting on me to be in television. tammy: and now you're here!
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To be in television. tammy: and now you're here! blynda: decades --
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Tammy: and now you're here! blynda: decades -- it was 20 years ago.
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Blynda: decades -- it was 20 years ago. i'm really, really grateful.
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It was 20 years ago. i'm really, really grateful. full circle movement.
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I'm really, really grateful. full circle movement. tammy: full circle!
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Full circle movement. tammy: full circle! speaking of full circle,
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Tammy: full circle! speaking of full circle, this has nothing to do with
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Speaking of full circle, this has nothing to do with full circle where i'm going.
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This has nothing to do with full circle where i'm going. blynda: but that's okay
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Full circle where i'm going. blynda: but that's okay because most of the show
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Blynda: but that's okay because most of the show we know where we're going.
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Because most of the show we know where we're going. tammy: yes!
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We know where we're going. tammy: yes! but i do want to say,
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Tammy: yes! but i do want to say, i think there are so many --
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But i do want to say, i think there are so many -- today is important because
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I think there are so many -- today is important because there are so many people
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Today is important because there are so many people that deal with --
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There are so many people that deal with -- let's just talk about
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That deal with -- let's just talk about a couple of things,
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Let's just talk about a couple of things, major burnout,
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A couple of things, major burnout, totally burned out.
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Major burnout, totally burned out. they are exhausted.
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Totally burned out. they are exhausted. chronic fatigue.
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They are exhausted. chronic fatigue. i don't know where
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Chronic fatigue. i don't know where you're at in your life,
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I don't know where you're at in your life, but i feel exhausted
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You're at in your life, but i feel exhausted right at this exact moment.
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But i feel exhausted right at this exact moment. i'm here. i'm committed.
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Right at this exact moment. i'm here. i'm committed. i'm showing up.
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I'm here. i'm committed. i'm showing up. i'm fighting through it,
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I'm showing up. i'm fighting through it, but do we always have
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I'm fighting through it, but do we always have to fight through it?
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But do we always have to fight through it? is there a time when we hit
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To fight through it? is there a time when we hit a wall, and just like,
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Is there a time when we hit a wall, and just like, is it dangerous to wait
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A wall, and just like, is it dangerous to wait to that point?
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Is it dangerous to wait to that point? do we have to find the signs
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To that point? do we have to find the signs and see them right now?
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Do we have to find the signs and see them right now? blynda: it's such
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And see them right now? blynda: it's such a real question, especially
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Blynda: it's such a real question, especially for women, i feel like.
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A real question, especially for women, i feel like. there are a lot of changes
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For women, i feel like. there are a lot of changes hormonally we go through.
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There are a lot of changes hormonally we go through. i think it's such a real thing
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Hormonally we go through. i think it's such a real thing to talk about the burnout
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I think it's such a real thing to talk about the burnout and to talk about how
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To talk about the burnout and to talk about how nothing feels normal
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And to talk about how nothing feels normal or the same anymore.
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Nothing feels normal or the same anymore. at a certain point,
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Or the same anymore. at a certain point, it's like, who am i?
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At a certain point, it's like, who am i? i don't feel the same way.
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It's like, who am i? i don't feel the same way. tammy: yeah, i totally agree.
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I don't feel the same way. tammy: yeah, i totally agree. that's why today is going
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Tammy: yeah, i totally agree. that's why today is going to be a great day for you.
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That's why today is going to be a great day for you. are you ready?
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To be a great day for you. are you ready? we're going to jump right in.
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Are you ready? we're going to jump right in. i'm going to introduce you to
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We're going to jump right in. i'm going to introduce you to -- she's been here a few times
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I'm going to introduce you to -- she's been here a few times and you have loved her
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-- she's been here a few times and you have loved her just as we love her,
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And you have loved her just as we love her, debra fileta.
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Just as we love her, debra fileta. did i get your name right?
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Debra fileta. did i get your name right? debra: you did!
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Did i get your name right? debra: you did! tammy: i'm glad you're here.
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Debra: you did! tammy: i'm glad you're here. debra: it's so good
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Tammy: i'm glad you're here. debra: it's so good to be here.
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Debra: it's so good to be here. tammy: a bestselling author,
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To be here. tammy: a bestselling author, speaker, you've got a
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Tammy: a bestselling author, speaker, you've got a new book out, soul care ,
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Speaker, you've got a new book out, soul care , which is so good.
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New book out, soul care , which is so good. thank you for this gift.
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Which is so good. thank you for this gift. let's jump on in.
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Thank you for this gift. let's jump on in. can we start at the top,
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Let's jump on in. can we start at the top, of burnout?
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Can we start at the top, of burnout? why are so many people
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Of burnout? why are so many people struggling with so much
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Debra: it's true.
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Debra: it's true. i think many people would say
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I think many people would say that they're feeling empty.
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That they're feeling empty. and i think many christians
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And i think many christians would say that
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Would say that they're feeling empty.
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The bible calls us
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The bible calls us to be filled.
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The bible calls us to be filled. scripture talks about
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To be filled. scripture talks about knowing god's love so deeply
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Scripture talks about knowing god's love so deeply so that we may be filled.
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Knowing god's love so deeply so that we may be filled. when the holy spirit
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So that we may be filled. when the holy spirit came upon the disciples
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When the holy spirit came upon the disciples at pentecost, they were
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Came upon the disciples at pentecost, they were filled with the spirit.
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At pentecost, they were filled with the spirit. john 10:10 tells us that
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Filled with the spirit. john 10:10 tells us that jesus came to give us life
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John 10:10 tells us that jesus came to give us life in all of its fullness.
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Jesus came to give us life in all of its fullness. so why is it that so many
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In all of its fullness. so why is it that so many of us are feeling empty?
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So why is it that so many of us are feeling empty? i really believe that
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Of us are feeling empty? i really believe that it's god's will for us
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I really believe that it's god's will for us to be filled, but many of us
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It's god's will for us to be filled, but many of us haven't learned
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To be filled, but many of us haven't learned what that looks like.
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Haven't learned what that looks like. mot only that, many of us
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What that looks like. mot only that, many of us have been taught theology
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Mot only that, many of us have been taught theology that almost enables us
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Have been taught theology that almost enables us to stay empty rather than
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That almost enables us to stay empty rather than take a look at where we are,
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To stay empty rather than take a look at where we are, how we're doing,
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Take a look at where we are, how we're doing, and how filled
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How we're doing, and how filled we feel standing alone.
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And how filled we feel standing alone. blynda: you're probably
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We feel standing alone. blynda: you're probably sitting in rooms of people
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Blynda: you're probably sitting in rooms of people all the time, and they're
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Sitting in rooms of people all the time, and they're bringing their traumas and
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All the time, and they're bringing their traumas and they're bringing their pain
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Their doubts about god
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Their doubts about god and why things are happening
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And why things are happening in their life,
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In their life, and they're just done.
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And they're just done. they're just done.
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Some tools for them.
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Some tools for them. can you tell me about this?
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Some tools for them. can you tell me about this? debra: yeah, absolutely.
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Can you tell me about this? debra: yeah, absolutely. as a licensed counselor,
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Debra: yeah, absolutely. as a licensed counselor, i'm working with people
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As a licensed counselor, i'm working with people on all levels.
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I'm working with people on all levels. i'm working with
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On all levels. i'm working with high-capacity people.
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I'm working with high-capacity people. i'm working with pastors
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High-capacity people. i'm working with pastors and leaders that you would
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I'm working with pastors and leaders that you would know their names.
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And leaders that you would know their names. but so many people are
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Know their names. but so many people are struggling with burnout.
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But so many people are struggling with burnout. and so, as a counselor,
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Struggling with burnout. and so, as a counselor, the first thing you want
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And so, as a counselor, the first thing you want is to help people get
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The first thing you want is to help people get to the root of the why?
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Is to help people get to the root of the why? because i can give you
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To the root of the why? because i can give you these rhythms that
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Because i can give you these rhythms that we're about to talk about.
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Some of these rhythms
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Some of these rhythms here in a minute,
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Here in a minute, and i could start
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And i could start with the rhythms, but
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With the rhythms, but if i don't get to the root
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If i don't get to the root of the why,
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Of the why, why are you burnt out?
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Why are you burnt out? why do you keep repeating
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You're just going to do it
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You're just going to do it all over again.
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You're just going to do it all over again. in my studies, i found that
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All over again. in my studies, i found that there are three types
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In my studies, i found that there are three types of people who tend
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There are three types of people who tend to put their needs
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Of people who tend to put their needs on the back burner,
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To put their needs on the back burner, who tend to ignore
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On the back burner, who tend to ignore their needs, who tend
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Who tend to ignore their needs, who tend to ignore their feelings,
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Their needs, who tend to ignore their feelings, and just push through,
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To ignore their feelings, and just push through, focus on everybody else.
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And just push through, focus on everybody else. the first type
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Focus on everybody else. the first type is the firstborns.
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The first type is the firstborns. firstborns tend to be
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Is the firstborns. firstborns tend to be over-responsible.
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Firstborns tend to be over-responsible. they tend to fill in the gaps
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Over-responsible. they tend to fill in the gaps for everybody else.
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They tend to fill in the gaps for everybody else. they tend to be
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For everybody else. they tend to be parent pleasers who
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They tend to be parent pleasers who eventually become
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Parent pleasers who eventually become people pleasers.
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Eventually become people pleasers. they have a tendency to put
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People pleasers. they have a tendency to put the needs of others first
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They have a tendency to put the needs of others first because they want to please.
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The needs of others first because they want to please. then there's another group
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Because they want to please. then there's another group of people who tend to neglect
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Then there's another group of people who tend to neglect their own needs,
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Of people who tend to neglect their own needs, and that tends to be people
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Their own needs, and that tends to be people who come from a family
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And that tends to be people who come from a family where someone else
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Who come from a family where someone else in the family
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Where someone else in the family had higher needs.
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In the family had higher needs. so maybe it was a sibling
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Had higher needs. so maybe it was a sibling with a disability
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So maybe it was a sibling with a disability or a mental health struggle,
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With a disability or a mental health struggle, or an addiction.
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Or a mental health struggle, or an addiction. or maybe someone in the family
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Or an addiction. or maybe someone in the family was rebellious,
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Or maybe someone in the family was rebellious, or maybe there was conflict,
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Was rebellious, or maybe there was conflict, or something in the family,
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Or maybe there was conflict, or something in the family, or someone else
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Or something in the family, or someone else had higher needs.
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Or someone else had higher needs. so, what do you do
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Had higher needs. so, what do you do with your needs?
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So, what do you do with your needs? there's no room here
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With your needs? there's no room here for my needs.
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There's no room here for my needs. so i'm just going to
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For my needs. so i'm just going to focus in on others.
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So i'm just going to focus in on others. i'm going to ignore my needs.
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Focus in on others. i'm going to ignore my needs. and the third group was people
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I'm going to ignore my needs. and the third group was people who came from families
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And the third group was people who came from families where either mom or dad
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Who came from families where either mom or dad or both were emotionally
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Where either mom or dad or both were emotionally unavailable.
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Or both were emotionally unavailable. so maybe dad was a workaholic,
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Maybe mom was stressed out,
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Maybe mom was stressed out, checked out.
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Checked out. and so you have these needs
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And so you have these needs as a child, you go to dad,
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As a child, you go to dad, he's not available.
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He's not available. you go to mom,
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Not interested, not able,
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Not interested, not able, and so you learn
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Not interested, not able, and so you learn to suppress your needs.
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And so you learn to suppress your needs. i'm sure some people who are
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To suppress your needs. i'm sure some people who are listening today are thinking,
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I'm sure some people who are listening today are thinking, i have all three of those --
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Listening today are thinking, i have all three of those -- all three of those traits.
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I have all three of those -- all three of those traits. whether you have just one
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All three of those traits. whether you have just one or three, you get really good
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Whether you have just one or three, you get really good at neglecting yourself
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Or three, you get really good at neglecting yourself to the point of feeling empty.
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At neglecting yourself to the point of feeling empty. so we have to start with,
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To the point of feeling empty. so we have to start with, where did these patterns
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So we have to start with, where did these patterns come from?
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Where did these patterns come from? what are the narratives
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Come from? what are the narratives that i believe?
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What are the narratives that i believe? what is the family of origin
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That i believe? what is the family of origin that i've experienced that
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What is the family of origin that i've experienced that has shaped me to be this way?
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That i've experienced that has shaped me to be this way? because god wants
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Has shaped me to be this way? because god wants to break those patterns.
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Because god wants to break those patterns. god doesn't want to just
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To break those patterns. god doesn't want to just heal us in our present.
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God doesn't want to just heal us in our present. he wants to heal us
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Heal us in our present. he wants to heal us from our past as well.
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He wants to heal us from our past as well. that's why i think --
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From our past as well. that's why i think -- i know i'm a counselor
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That's why i think -- i know i'm a counselor and i love talking about
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I know i'm a counselor and i love talking about this stuff,
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It's a spiritual significance
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It's a spiritual significance to allow jesus to come in
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To allow jesus to come in and heal our past
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And heal our past so that he can heal
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So that he can heal our present as well.
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The rhythms come in.
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The rhythms come in. blynda: is that partly
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The rhythms come in. blynda: is that partly because -- is it true that
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Blynda: is that partly because -- is it true that if you've lived that way for
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Because -- is it true that if you've lived that way for a long time, it will
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If you've lived that way for a long time, it will at some point show itself?
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A long time, it will at some point show itself? you can't just...
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At some point show itself? you can't just... debra: snap your fingers
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You can't just... debra: snap your fingers and make it go away.
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Debra: snap your fingers and make it go away. blynda: so, you're going
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And make it go away. blynda: so, you're going to have to deal with it.
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Blynda: so, you're going to have to deal with it. debra: the same roles
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To have to deal with it. debra: the same roles that served you
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Debra: the same roles that served you in one season of life,
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That served you in one season of life, if left unchecked
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In one season of life, if left unchecked and unaddressed
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If left unchecked and unaddressed and unaligned to god's truth,
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And unaddressed and unaligned to god's truth, will sabotage you
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And unaligned to god's truth, will sabotage you in another season of life.
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Will sabotage you in another season of life. so this is why we really
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In another season of life. so this is why we really have to take inventory.
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So this is why we really have to take inventory. why am i always burnt out?
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Have to take inventory. why am i always burnt out? why am i always saying yes
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Why am i always burnt out? why am i always saying yes when i really should
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Why am i always saying yes when i really should be saying no?
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When i really should be saying no? why am i always spread
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Be saying no? why am i always spread too thin and overcommitted?
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Why am i always spread too thin and overcommitted? this isn't just
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Too thin and overcommitted? this isn't just a personality thing.
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This isn't just a personality thing. this is something that
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A personality thing. this is something that we really have to get
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This is something that we really have to get to the root of.
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We really have to get to the root of. tammy: when do we also have
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To get to the root of,
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To get to the root of, die to self?
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To get to the root of, die to self? put yourself last.
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Die to self? put yourself last. you're here to serve,
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Put yourself last. you're here to serve, not to be served.
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You're here to serve, not to be served. so that whole idea
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Not to be served. so that whole idea of soul care
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And self-care.
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And self-care. so many of us have been taught
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And self-care. so many of us have been taught that's selfish thinking.
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So many of us have been taught that's selfish thinking. so, then we neglect all of
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That's selfish thinking. so, then we neglect all of our needs, all the things
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So, then we neglect all of our needs, all the things we're going through
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Our needs, all the things we're going through as believers,
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We're going through as believers, and taught that that's
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As believers, and taught that that's just your burden to carry.
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And taught that that's just your burden to carry. debra: we do it
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Just your burden to carry. debra: we do it in the name of scripture,
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Debra: we do it in the name of scripture, in the name of theology.
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In the name of scripture, in the name of theology. but that's not what
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In the name of theology. but that's not what god calls us to do.
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But that's not what god calls us to do. that's not what jesus
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God calls us to do. that's not what jesus calls us to do.
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That's not what jesus calls us to do. that's not how jesus
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Calls us to do. that's not how jesus lived his life.
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That's not how jesus lived his life. in fact, the bible tells us
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Lived his life. in fact, the bible tells us that we are to love others
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In fact, the bible tells us that we are to love others as we love ourselves.
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That we are to love others as we love ourselves. it's coming from a place
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As we love ourselves. it's coming from a place where we're speaking to
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It's coming from a place where we're speaking to the israelites,
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Where we're speaking to the israelites, god's chosen people
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The israelites, god's chosen people who are set apart,
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God's chosen people who are set apart, anointed, special.
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Who are set apart, anointed, special. they know that
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Anointed, special. they know that they're special.
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They know that they're special. out of that,
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They're special. out of that, they are to love others.
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Out of that, they are to love others. the problem is, we don't see
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They are to love others. the problem is, we don't see ourselves in that same way.
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The problem is, we don't see ourselves in that same way. and why i think this is
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Ourselves in that same way. and why i think this is biblical, not only because of
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And why i think this is biblical, not only because of the different bible passages
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Biblical, not only because of the different bible passages that we already referenced,
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The different bible passages that we already referenced, but because i saw it
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That we already referenced, but because i saw it in the life of jesus.
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But because i saw it in the life of jesus. as i was writing soul care,
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In the life of jesus. as i was writing soul care, i'm studying the gospels,
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As i was writing soul care, i'm studying the gospels, and i'm seeing the fact
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I'm studying the gospels, and i'm seeing the fact that jesus himself,
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And i'm seeing the fact that jesus himself, who is fully god
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That jesus himself, who is fully god yet fully man,
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Who is fully god yet fully man, honored his human capacity.
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Yet fully man, honored his human capacity. he practiced these rhythms
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Honored his human capacity. he practiced these rhythms to stay healthy
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Because high levels
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Because high levels of pouring out require
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Of pouring out require high levels of filling.
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High levels of filling. so jesus did this.
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So jesus did this. if jesus practiced these,
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Do we as fully human beings
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Do we as fully human beings need to practice these rhythms
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Do we as fully human beings need to practice these rhythms to care for ourselves as well?
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Need to practice these rhythms to care for ourselves as well? blynda: i love it.
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To care for ourselves as well? blynda: i love it. i remember even reading
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Blynda: i love it. i remember even reading that you said, actually,
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I remember even reading that you said, actually, living at 100% is really
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That you said, actually, living at 100% is really living at 85%.
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Living at 100% is really living at 85%. that we should all just be --
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Living at 85%. that we should all just be -- explain that, even.
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That we should all just be -- explain that, even. living at the 85%.
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Explain that, even. living at the 85%. debra: one of the rhythms
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Living at the 85%. debra: one of the rhythms i talk about in soul care
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Debra: one of the rhythms i talk about in soul care is the rhythm of rest.
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I talk about in soul care is the rhythm of rest. it's not just about resting
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Is the rhythm of rest. it's not just about resting at night, although we talk
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It's not just about resting at night, although we talk about the science
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At night, although we talk about the science and psychology of sleep, but
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About the science and psychology of sleep, but it's also about living life
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And psychology of sleep, but it's also about living life with a slower pace,
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It's also about living life with a slower pace, an intentional pace.
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With a slower pace, an intentional pace. i talk about living at 85%
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An intentional pace. i talk about living at 85% because when you look at
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I talk about living at 85% because when you look at how jesus lived, there was
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Because when you look at how jesus lived, there was room for interruptions.
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How jesus lived, there was room for interruptions. he wasn't rushed.
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Room for interruptions. he wasn't rushed. he was intentional
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If i give you a check,
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If i give you a check, a paycheck, and you spent 100%
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A paycheck, and you spent 100% of it every time, you would
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Of it every time, you would eventually find yourself
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Eventually find yourself struggling and in debt.
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Struggling and in debt. why do we do that with
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And think it's good?
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And think it's good? why do we live at 100%
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And think it's good? why do we live at 100% and assume nothing's going
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Why do we live at 100% and assume nothing's going to break and we're not going
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And assume nothing's going to break and we're not going to be in debt emotionally?
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To break and we're not going to be in debt emotionally? we will burn out
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To be in debt emotionally? we will burn out if we're constantly living
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We will burn out if we're constantly living at max capacity.
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If we're constantly living at max capacity. so what does it look like
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At max capacity. so what does it look like for us to pull back and allow
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So what does it look like for us to pull back and allow god to do what he can do?
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For us to pull back and allow god to do what he can do? i mean, jesus took naps.
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God to do what he can do? i mean, jesus took naps. we should be more like jesus.
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I mean, jesus took naps. we should be more like jesus. he rested.
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We should be more like jesus. he rested. he paced himself.
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He rested. he paced himself. so the rhythm of rest
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He paced himself. so the rhythm of rest is a really important rhythm,
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So the rhythm of rest is a really important rhythm, and we see it practiced
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Is a really important rhythm, and we see it practiced in the life of jesus.
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And we see it practiced in the life of jesus. blynda: but practically,
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In the life of jesus. blynda: but practically, i know you're saying that,
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Blynda: but practically, i know you're saying that, but then i'm listening to
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I know you're saying that, but then i'm listening to the mom who's on the soccer
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But then i'm listening to the mom who's on the soccer field right now,
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The mom who's on the soccer field right now, then go to bible study, and
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Field right now, then go to bible study, and come home and cook dinner.
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Then go to bible study, and come home and cook dinner. i mean, there's just a lot.
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Come home and cook dinner. i mean, there's just a lot. you carry a lot.
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I mean, there's just a lot. you carry a lot. you have four kids, and
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That you run.
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That you run. i mean, we can say living
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I mean, we can say living at 85% and looking at jesus
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At 85% and looking at jesus and following how
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And following how he had margin, but
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To do that?
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To do that? debra: well, i would say
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To do that? debra: well, i would say let's move into the rhythm
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Debra: well, i would say let's move into the rhythm of protect.
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Let's move into the rhythm of protect. the rhythm of protect
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Of protect. the rhythm of protect is about setting healthy
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The rhythm of protect is about setting healthy boundaries, learning
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Is about setting healthy boundaries, learning to say no, and not yet.
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Boundaries, learning to say no, and not yet. sometimes, as christians,
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To say no, and not yet. sometimes, as christians, we think it's wrong to say no
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Sometimes, as christians, we think it's wrong to say no to good things.
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We think it's wrong to say no to good things. let's say it's a ministry
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To good things. let's say it's a ministry opportunity,
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Let's say it's a ministry opportunity, or i have to volunteer.
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Opportunity, or i have to volunteer. just because you can
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Or i have to volunteer. just because you can do something doesn't mean
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Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.
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Do something doesn't mean you should. and when you look at the life
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You should. and when you look at the life of christ, he said no, and
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And when you look at the life of christ, he said no, and not yet on a regular basis.
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Of christ, he said no, and not yet on a regular basis. why?
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Not yet on a regular basis. why? because he wanted to protect
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Why? because he wanted to protect his relationship
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Because he wanted to protect his relationship with the father.
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His relationship with the father. he wanted to protect
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With the father. he wanted to protect his heart.
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He wanted to protect his heart. he wanted to protect
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His heart. he wanted to protect his calling.
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He wanted to protect his calling. sometimes, we say yes
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His calling. sometimes, we say yes to so many things that
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Sometimes, we say yes to so many things that we end up watering down
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To so many things that we end up watering down the very things that
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We end up watering down the very things that god has called us to do
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The very things that god has called us to do because we're doing too much.
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God has called us to do because we're doing too much. and so, the rhythm of protect
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Because we're doing too much. and so, the rhythm of protect is taking a good, hard look
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And so, the rhythm of protect is taking a good, hard look at our yeses and our no's,
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Is taking a good, hard look at our yeses and our no's, what we've committed to,
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At our yeses and our no's, what we've committed to, and making sure we're aligned
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What we've committed to, and making sure we're aligned to the holy spirit.
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And making sure we're aligned to the holy spirit. jesus wasn't motivated
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To the holy spirit. jesus wasn't motivated by the obligation of man.
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Jesus wasn't motivated by the obligation of man. the bible says he didn't care
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By the obligation of man. the bible says he didn't care much about the opinion of man.
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The bible says he didn't care much about the opinion of man. i don't think that means
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Much about the opinion of man. i don't think that means he didn't care about people.
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He cared more about what
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He cared more about what god thought, and he was
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God thought, and he was so in-tune to god's calling
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So in-tune to god's calling that it was easy for him
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That it was easy for him to say, no, i'm not
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Oh, you want me
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Oh, you want me to go to that town next?
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Oh, you want me to go to that town next? no, actually, i'm going
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To go to that town next? no, actually, i'm going to go to this town next.
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No, actually, i'm going to go to this town next. no, it's not my time yet.
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To go to this town next. no, it's not my time yet. he was really good
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No, it's not my time yet. he was really good at setting boundaries.
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He was really good at setting boundaries. the disciples hardly ever
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At setting boundaries. the disciples hardly ever knew where he was.
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The disciples hardly ever knew where he was. it made me laugh sometimes
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Knew where he was. it made me laugh sometimes in scripture.
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It made me laugh sometimes in scripture. it's like, where did jesus go?
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In scripture. it's like, where did jesus go? he protected his time
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It's like, where did jesus go? he protected his time with the father.
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He protected his time with the father. he knew!
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With the father. he knew! there were so many demands,
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He knew! there were so many demands, such a high pouring out,
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There were so many demands, such a high pouring out, that he had to get filled up
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Such a high pouring out, that he had to get filled up with the father.
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That he had to get filled up with the father. he prioritized that time.
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With the father. he prioritized that time. he protected.
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He prioritized that time. he protected. he would go to the garden
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He protected. he would go to the garden and pray.
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He would go to the garden and pray. we don't take it seriously
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And pray. we don't take it seriously enough, the importance
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We don't take it seriously enough, the importance of protecting what
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Enough, the importance of protecting what god has called us to.
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Of protecting what god has called us to. and so, the rhythm of protect
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God has called us to. and so, the rhythm of protect calls us to kind of face
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And so, the rhythm of protect calls us to kind of face some of these boundaries
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Calls us to kind of face some of these boundaries that we have and
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Some of these boundaries that we have and begin to do it differently.
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That we have and begin to do it differently. blynda: and i think some
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Begin to do it differently. blynda: and i think some of it is because we just
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Blynda: and i think some of it is because we just tell ourselves it just has
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Of it is because we just tell ourselves it just has to get done right,
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Tell ourselves it just has to get done right, it's what we have to do.
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To get done right, it's what we have to do. we don't immediately have
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It's what we have to do. we don't immediately have a consequence to a decision.
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We don't immediately have a consequence to a decision. the consequence isn't until
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A consequence to a decision. the consequence isn't until down the road, and then
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The consequence isn't until down the road, and then it's too late at that point.
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Down the road, and then it's too late at that point. debra: when something
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It's too late at that point. debra: when something breaks down,
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Debra: when something breaks down, when we break down,
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Breaks down, when we break down, and we're not able to do
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When we break down, and we're not able to do what god has called us to do.
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And we're not able to do what god has called us to do. tammy: what are
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What god has called us to do. tammy: what are the six rhythms
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Tammy: what are the six rhythms that prevent burnout?
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The six rhythms that prevent burnout? we've covered a few there.
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Protect your calling, rest,
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Protect your calling, rest, connect, savor, and tune in.
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Connect, savor, and tune in. let's talk about savor.
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Let's talk about savor. debra: savor was my favorite
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Debra: savor was my favorite because i think it was
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Because i think it was the one that spoke to me
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But it's also one that
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But it's also one that i don't think
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But it's also one that i don't think we talk about enough.
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I don't think we talk about enough. the rhythm of savor is about
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We talk about enough. the rhythm of savor is about slowing down to enjoy life,
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The rhythm of savor is about slowing down to enjoy life, to be present in the moment.
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Slowing down to enjoy life, to be present in the moment. right here, right now.
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To be present in the moment. right here, right now. i'm a checklist girl.
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Right here, right now. i'm a checklist girl. i like to get things done.
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I'm a checklist girl. i like to get things done. when you ask me what's next,
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I like to get things done. when you ask me what's next, i'm ready to answer that.
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When you ask me what's next, i'm ready to answer that. and i felt as i was writing
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I'm ready to answer that. and i felt as i was writing this chapter, this section
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And i felt as i was writing this chapter, this section of the book, that god said
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This chapter, this section of the book, that god said to me, i don't want you
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Of the book, that god said to me, i don't want you to think about what's next.
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To me, i don't want you to think about what's next. i want you to embrace
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To think about what's next. i want you to embrace what's now what is
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We get so distracted by
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We get so distracted by the worries of the future,
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The worries of the future, the regrets from the past,
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The regrets from the past, the phone in our pocket,
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The phone in our pocket, that's constantly in our face
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That's constantly in our face that we're missing the moment.
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At being present.
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At being present. my favorite verse --
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At being present. my favorite verse -- you know, as i was writing
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My favorite verse -- you know, as i was writing soul care, some verses
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You know, as i was writing soul care, some verses stuck out at me that
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Soul care, some verses stuck out at me that i'd never seen before.
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Stuck out at me that i'd never seen before. i've read the gospel
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I'd never seen before. i've read the gospel so many times.
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I've read the gospel so many times. matthew 13, verse one,
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So many times. matthew 13, verse one, "jesus left the house and went
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Matthew 13, verse one, "jesus left the house and went and sat by the lake."
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"jesus left the house and went and sat by the lake." period.
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And sat by the lake." period. tammy: what verse is that?
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Period. tammy: what verse is that? debra: matthew 13:1.
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Tammy: what verse is that? debra: matthew 13:1. tammy: it's my new favorite.
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Debra: matthew 13:1. tammy: it's my new favorite. debra: and of course,
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Tammy: it's my new favorite. debra: and of course, people found him,
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Debra: and of course, people found him, and eventually, a crowd
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People found him, and eventually, a crowd gathered around him.
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And eventually, a crowd gathered around him. but the idea was that
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Gathered around him. but the idea was that he went to leave the house.
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But the idea was that he went to leave the house. he left the crowd and went --
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He went to leave the house. he left the crowd and went -- i love the ocean.
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He left the crowd and went -- i love the ocean. i love being by the water,
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I love the ocean. i love being by the water, and just to imagine him
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I love being by the water, and just to imagine him savoring that moment.
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And just to imagine him savoring that moment. not only that, but jesus
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Savoring that moment. not only that, but jesus savored life during suffering.
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Not only that, but jesus savored life during suffering. right before he went to
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Savored life during suffering. right before he went to the cross, the last supper,
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Right before he went to the cross, the last supper, he was present
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The cross, the last supper, he was present with his disciples.
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He was present with his disciples. he was right there
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With his disciples. he was right there in the moment,
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He was right there in the moment, in this moment, right here.
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In the moment, in this moment, right here. this is all we're guaranteed.
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In this moment, right here. this is all we're guaranteed. we don't want to miss it!
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This is all we're guaranteed. we don't want to miss it! the enemy wants us
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We don't want to miss it! the enemy wants us to miss the moment.
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The enemy wants us to miss the moment. but god is in the moment.
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To miss the moment. but god is in the moment. learning to savor the moment
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But god is in the moment. learning to savor the moment means we're learning
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Learning to savor the moment means we're learning to savor him.
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Means we're learning to savor him. we're learning to be with him.
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To savor him. we're learning to be with him. blynda: and it's heightening
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We're learning to be with him. blynda: and it's heightening our senses.
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Blynda: and it's heightening our senses. it's listening and touching,
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Our senses. it's listening and touching, and feeling the moment --
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It's listening and touching, and feeling the moment -- the present moment.
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And feeling the moment -- the present moment. debra: and god in it.
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The present moment. debra: and god in it. tammy: can i read something
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To you that i read online
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To you that i read online relating to your book?
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To you that i read online relating to your book? somebody said this,
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Relating to your book? somebody said this, and i can't help but think
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Somebody said this, and i can't help but think that there are probably
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And i can't help but think that there are probably many people watching right now
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Who feel the same way.
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Who feel the same way. this is what i wrote down.
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Who feel the same way. this is what i wrote down. what they said.
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This is what i wrote down. what they said. "when you are so depleted,
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What they said. "when you are so depleted, you may not even have
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"when you are so depleted, you may not even have the capacity to be thinking
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You may not even have the capacity to be thinking about how you can
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The capacity to be thinking about how you can fill yourself up
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About how you can fill yourself up so you can serve more.
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Fill yourself up so you can serve more. it's entirely possible
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So you can serve more. it's entirely possible that you could be so depleted
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It's entirely possible that you could be so depleted at points that you can't
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Or anyone."
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Or anyone." debra: and that's the truth
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Debra: and that's the truth because when we self-neglect,
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Because when we self-neglect, which is funny.
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Which is funny. the reason we self-neglect
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To be selfish, right?
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To be selfish, right? i don't want to be selfish,
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To be selfish, right? i don't want to be selfish, so i don't want
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I don't want to be selfish, so i don't want to focus on myself.
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So i don't want to focus on myself. but if you take
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To focus on myself. but if you take that down the path,
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But if you take that down the path, what ends up happening?
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That down the path, what ends up happening? you self-neglect.
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What ends up happening? you self-neglect. you become completely empty.
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You self-neglect. you become completely empty. and guess who you think about
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You become completely empty. and guess who you think about when you're completely empty?
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And guess who you think about when you're completely empty? no one but yourself.
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When you're completely empty? no one but yourself. so, what ends up --
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No one but yourself. so, what ends up -- self-neglect ends up leading
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So, what ends up -- self-neglect ends up leading to selfishness
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Self-neglect ends up leading to selfishness because we're so depleted
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To selfishness because we're so depleted and so burnt out.
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Because we're so depleted and so burnt out. and so, for someone like that,
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And so burnt out. and so, for someone like that, my encouragement to them
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And so, for someone like that, my encouragement to them would be to start
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My encouragement to them would be to start where you're the weakest.
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Would be to start where you're the weakest. read through these rhythms.
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Where you're the weakest. read through these rhythms. start where
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Read through these rhythms. start where you're the weakest.
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Start where you're the weakest. you don't want to start
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You're the weakest. you don't want to start doing them all at once because
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You don't want to start doing them all at once because i don't want you to burn out
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Doing them all at once because i don't want you to burn out trying not to burn out.
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I don't want you to burn out trying not to burn out. so where you're the weakest,
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Trying not to burn out. so where you're the weakest, because that's what will
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So where you're the weakest, because that's what will fill you up the most
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Because that's what will fill you up the most and have the most impact
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Fill you up the most and have the most impact right away.
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And have the most impact right away. tammy: it's so good, debra.
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Right away. tammy: it's so good, debra. i want to make sure to get
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Tammy: it's so good, debra. i want to make sure to get this book in your hands.
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I want to make sure to get this book in your hands. it's so, so good.
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This book in your hands. it's so, so good. let me just ask you, i could
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It's so, so good. let me just ask you, i could tell you all kinds of things
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Let me just ask you, i could tell you all kinds of things about what i've read, but
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Tell you all kinds of things about what i've read, but in just five, ten seconds,
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About what i've read, but in just five, ten seconds, what do you hope that a reader
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In just five, ten seconds, what do you hope that a reader gets when they get
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What do you hope that a reader gets when they get to the last page?
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Gets when they get to the last page? debra: i hope they will be
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To the last page? debra: i hope they will be challenged to take seriously,
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Debra: i hope they will be challenged to take seriously, the call.
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Challenged to take seriously, the call. the spiritual discipline
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The call. the spiritual discipline of filling up so that
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The spiritual discipline of filling up so that they can live life fully
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Of filling up so that they can live life fully and do all that god
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They can live life fully and do all that god has called them to do.
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And do all that god has called them to do. tammy: praise god,
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Has called them to do. tammy: praise god, there's the message.
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Tammy: praise god, there's the message. do you know what?
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There's the message. do you know what? there are some people
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Do you know what? there are some people right now around the world
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Who really, literally need
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Filling up, but they need
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Fresh, clean water.
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They are desperate for
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An answer to their prayers.
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They're desperate
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For somebody to show up.
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And we have an opportunity
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To do that together today.
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Loss, suffering,
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It's heavy.
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These people are carrying it
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Every single day.
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When i see those precious
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Little babies walking,
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I just want to scoop them up
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And say, it's going
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To be okay.
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It's going to get better.
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But it's not going
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To get better unless
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We do something about it.
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And by "we," i mean
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God's people.
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He presents the need.
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It's in front of us.
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Then he presents a solution
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And says, i need you
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To come alongside me.
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Together, we can make
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A difference in the lives
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Of so many people
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Because we come
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In the name of jesus.
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We give them water for life
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-- the water of life!
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I am so privileged.
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Truly! you must know that.
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It's such a privilege for me
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All of these years, 16 years
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To be traveling
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With life outreach,
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Going all over the world,
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Sharing god's great,
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Great good news and
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Sharing the water of life.
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If you've never had a chance
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To give to this incredible
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Outreach, today's the day
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To do it.
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We are trying to build,
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Drill i should say,
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350 water wells in 20 nations.
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Let me tell you what
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That would look like, because
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We can all get involved.
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Blynda, every single person
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Can do something today.
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$48 will provide water
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For ten people for
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The rest of their lives.
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$144 will provide 30 people
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With water for the rest
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Of their lives.
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And for $4,800, we could go in
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And drill a complete well
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For an entire village
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Of about 1000 people
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For the rest of their lives.
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I can't think
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Of a better place
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Than this to put $4,800.
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Go online,
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Give the best gift you can.
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Do whatever
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You can give today.
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It matters today because
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They might not have tomorrow,
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But they have today.
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So, let's act today.
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Right now.
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Every day, thousands of lives are lost
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To waterborne disease,
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And nearly half of those are children
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Under the age of five.
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Through mission: water for life
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You can give mothers hope and children a future
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As we provide clean, life-giving water
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For thousands of children and their families
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Before it's too late.
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With your gift today, you can help drill
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And establish 350 water wells this year.
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Your gift of $24
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Will help provide clean water for five children.
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A gift of $48 will help provide for ten.
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And $144 will help provide
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Life-giving water for 30 people
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For a lifetime.
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Tammy: i hope
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Tammy: i hope you're going online
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Tammy: i hope you're going online and giving the best gift
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You're going online and giving the best gift that you can give today.
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And giving the best gift that you can give today. please know that it will
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That you can give today. please know that it will make an eternal impact
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Please know that it will make an eternal impact and difference in the lives
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Make an eternal impact and difference in the lives of so many around the world.
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And difference in the lives of so many around the world. when you do, i'm going
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Of so many around the world. when you do, i'm going to send you debra's new book,
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When you do, i'm going to send you debra's new book, soul care .
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To send you debra's new book, soul care . you're going to love it.
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Soul care . you're going to love it. so request it when you call.
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You're going to love it. so request it when you call. for any amount you're able
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So request it when you call. for any amount you're able to give today,
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For any amount you're able to give today, i'll get you this book.
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To give today, i'll get you this book. so, debra, thank you
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I'll get you this book. so, debra, thank you for being here.
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So, debra, thank you for being here. you're really a gift
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For being here. you're really a gift to the body of christ.
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You're really a gift to the body of christ. i want to give you
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To the body of christ. i want to give you an opportunity to just
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I want to give you an opportunity to just leave us with something.
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An opportunity to just leave us with something. debra: i know there are
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Leave us with something. debra: i know there are so many of you out there
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Debra: i know there are so many of you out there who are listening, and you're
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So many of you out there who are listening, and you're feeling empty and depleted.
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Who are listening, and you're feeling empty and depleted. so, number one, i want
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Feeling empty and depleted. so, number one, i want to pray for a supernatural
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So, number one, i want to pray for a supernatural filling over you because
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To pray for a supernatural filling over you because we serve a god who can
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Filling over you because we serve a god who can fill us up.
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We serve a god who can fill us up. he's the only one who can.
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Fill us up. he's the only one who can. but there are some of you
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He's the only one who can. but there are some of you out there who also need
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But there are some of you out there who also need to partner with him
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Out there who also need to partner with him on the journey of filling up.
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To partner with him on the journey of filling up. he wants to help walk
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On the journey of filling up. he wants to help walk by your side and help you
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He wants to help walk by your side and help you practice some of these rhythms
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By your side and help you practice some of these rhythms so that it's not just
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Practice some of these rhythms so that it's not just a one-time filling,
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So that it's not just a one-time filling, but that you can continue
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A one-time filling, but that you can continue to remain filled.
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But that you can continue to remain filled. so we're praying for
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To remain filled. so we're praying for your filling supernaturally,
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So we're praying for your filling supernaturally, and in partnership,
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Your filling supernaturally, and in partnership, in jesus's name.
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And in partnership, in jesus's name. tammy: in jesus's name.
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In jesus's name. tammy: in jesus's name. if you need prayer today,
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Tammy: in jesus's name. if you need prayer today, there's a number
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If you need prayer today, there's a number on your screen.
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There's a number on your screen. go now, pick up the phone.
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On your screen. go now, pick up the phone. don't hesitate. don't wait.
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Go now, pick up the phone. don't hesitate. don't wait. there are people waiting --
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Don't hesitate. don't wait. there are people waiting -- waiting to pray with you
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There are people waiting -- waiting to pray with you right now
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Waiting to pray with you right now and come alongside you.
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Right now and come alongside you. we love you!
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And come alongside you. we love you! debra, we love you.
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We love you! debra, we love you. blynda, love you, too.
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Debra, we love you. blynda, love you, too. i'm so glad you're here.
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Blynda, love you, too. i'm so glad you're here. blynda: love you!
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I'm so glad you're here. blynda: love you! tammy: yes, i have loved it.
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Blynda: love you! tammy: yes, i have loved it. god bless you guys.
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Tammy: yes, i have loved it. god bless you guys. we'll see you next time
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God bless you guys. we'll see you next time on life today .
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Andy: hi! i'm andy andrews.
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Andy: hi! i'm andy andrews. i wonder, are you going
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I wonder, are you going through the worst time
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Through the worst time in your life?
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In your life? or could you possibly know
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Or could you possibly know somebody who right now
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The worst time in their life?
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The worst time in their life? one of the things that
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The worst time in their life? one of the things that i have found is
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One of the things that i have found is we're all either in a crisis,
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I have found is we're all either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis,
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We're all either in a crisis, coming out of a crisis, or headed for a crisis.
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Coming out of a crisis, or headed for a crisis. that is part of being with us
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Or headed for a crisis. that is part of being with us on this planet.
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That is part of being with us on this planet. and we all have a worst time
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On this planet. and we all have a worst time in our life.
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And we all have a worst time in our life. if you look at the beginning,
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In our life. if you look at the beginning, look at the end,
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If you look at the beginning, look at the end, somewhere in the middle
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Look at the end, somewhere in the middle you can spot the worst time.
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Somewhere in the middle you can spot the worst time. but i can offer you today
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You can spot the worst time. but i can offer you today god's proof of hope;
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But i can offer you today god's proof of hope; not just encouragement
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God's proof of hope; not just encouragement but proof!
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Not just encouragement but proof! i think proof is better,
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But proof! i think proof is better, don't you?
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I think proof is better, don't you? so here we go.
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Don't you? so here we go. even in the worst time
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So here we go. even in the worst time of your life here's proof
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Even in the worst time of your life here's proof that things will improve.
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Of your life here's proof that things will improve. simply...
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That things will improve. simply... you're still breathing.
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Simply... you're still breathing. if you're still breathing
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If you're still here
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If you're still here that means you haven't
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That means you haven't accomplished what you were
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Accomplished what you were put here to accomplish.
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Put here to accomplish. if you haven't accomplished
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If you haven't accomplished what you were put here
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What you were put here to accomplish that means the
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Life is still ahead of you,
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Life is still ahead of you, your very purpose has
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Life is still ahead of you, your very purpose has not yet been fulfilled.
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Your very purpose has not yet been fulfilled. what you were put on earth
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Not yet been fulfilled. what you were put on earth to do has not yet been done.
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What you were put on earth to do has not yet been done. so in effect it doesn't matter
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To do has not yet been done. so in effect it doesn't matter how old you are,
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So in effect it doesn't matter how old you are, how sick you are,
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How old you are, how sick you are, how depressed you might feel
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How sick you are, how depressed you might feel or how broke you might be,
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How depressed you might feel or how broke you might be, by the virtue of the fact
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Or how broke you might be, by the virtue of the fact that you sit here and breathe
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By the virtue of the fact that you sit here and breathe there is more.
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That you sit here and breathe there is more. there is more laughter
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There is more. there is more laughter to enjoy,
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There is more laughter to enjoy, there's more success to earn,
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To enjoy, there's more success to earn, more children to teach,
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There's more success to earn, more children to teach, more friends to influence...
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More children to teach, more friends to influence... there is more!
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More friends to influence... there is more! this is a proof of hope,
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There is more! this is a proof of hope, from god to you.
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For over 60 years, life outreach international
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Has shared the transforming truth of god's love
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In both word and deed.
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We are forever grateful to everyone who has joined us
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In our mission of providing water to the thirsty,
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Food to the hungry, shelter to the orphan,
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And meeting the various needs of those who are struggling.
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Our ministry to the lost and hurting
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Is only made possible because of the prayers
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And generous gifts of our friends and partners
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Who provide consistent, faithful support.
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Become a friend for life partner
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With your recurring financial gifts.
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We'll send you our monthly newsletter,
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Along with encouraging spiritual resources
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To uplift and inspire you in your daily christian walk.
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Best of all, you will be blessed to know
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That your ongoing gift is helping make possible
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The outreaches of life.
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Your monthly support will help us continue
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To bring god's love, hope, and healing
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To a world in need
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One life at a time.
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You can chart a purposeful path
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Creating a legacy of love and hope
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For future generations.
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Visit life planning services today!
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>> and it was through that period of time i began to discover
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That we are really living in the anxious generation.
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Next week on life today!
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Life today is made possible by the supporters of life outreach international.
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Your gift will be used exclusively for the exempt purposes of life.
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The ministry features specific outreaches
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As examples of the programs it supports and conducts.
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Gifts are considered to be without restriction
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As to use unless explicitly stipulated by the donor.
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The ministry is a member of the ecfa.
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Debra Fileta - Life-Giving Rhythms

July 23, 2025 | S25 E190 | 29:15

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